Using Text Messages To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Using text messages to get your ex boyfriend back can be one of the most effective “recovery” tactics that one can employ. In fact, if done correctly, a text message can bring up reminiscent feelings that can set you on the right path to getting your ex back. However, there seems to be a huge misunderstanding among the women out there on how to actually use text messaging effectively. I am not going to lie to you, sending a text message is a huge risk, if done incorrectly you will decimate any chance you have of that happy reunion you keep daydreaming about. In order for this to work the landscape has to be set up in a certain way. Allow me to explain.

Why Most Women FAIL When Texting

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Since you are all beautiful women ;) I am sure you have had your fair share of suitors. Now, out of those suitors, throughout your years in the dating realm there has had to be one guy that didn’t pick up the hints. He texted you, you ignored, he texted you again, you ignored again and so on and so forth. It usually looks a little something like this:

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Essentially, this person turned into a text terrorist. The text receiver was clearly ignoring the sender but they refused to accept that fact so they kept texting until they they could get a response. Most women fail at texting their exes for the simple fact that they commit this texting sin and quite honestly it’s not even their fault. Right after a break up everyone involved is out of whack emotionally and are prone to do some really stupid things. I have heard plenty of stories where women, in the heat of the moment, texted their exes multiple times, even after getting no response.

In essence, texting an ex boyfriend after a breakup is usually not a good idea. The better idea is to wait until the opportune moment where can maximize the power of the text message. First though, before we can do that, we are going to have to figure out how to create that opportune moment.

Creating An Opportune Moment

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This is going to sound really weird but for the next month I don’t want you to talk to your ex boyfriend.

WHAT???

Yup, I know it sounds ridiculous but trust me, doing this will stack the odds in your favor in a very unique way. Did you know that after a breakup 95% of men still think about their girlfriends too much? Since I am a guy I can definitely say that this is a very true statement. The experts call this “freeze out” the no contact rule. Essentially for 30 days you are not going to talk, text, email or write to your ex. Oh, and in case you are wondering it is not going to be easy. Since you are on my site I am assuming that you are interested in somehow trying to get your boyfriend back. No matter how hard it is or how much you want to talk to him DO NOT DO IT, even if he responds you have to ignore it.

More About The No Contact Rule

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Here is how the psychology behind the no contact rule is supposed to work. As a guy, I will admit we have a warped way of looking at things. For example, after a breakup a guy will think something like…

“Just wait, she will text me begging to come back.”

Now, that is wrong on so many levels but you are going to use this type of thinking to your advantage. By completely taking 30 days to yourself without texting him or talking to him at all you are slowly taking control of the situation. Instead of thinking

“Just wait, she will text me begging to come back.”

He is going to be thinking..

“Why hasn’t she texted me yet? Has she moved on already?”

Do you see the power of the no contact rule now? It is basically the ultimate way to get him checking his phone every five minutes to see if today is the day that YOU will text HIM. That is how you create your opportune time to text him!

Texting Strategies

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If you have advanced far enough to have created that “opportune moment” there is still a lot that has to be covered when it comes to texting. There is a subtle art to texting. You can’t go zero to sixty in a second when it comes to this. In fact, you have to slowly lead up to the moment where he or you will hopefully go out on a date again. Allow me to explain this strategy a little more in depth.

The First Text

Have you ever heard that first impressions are everything? Well, that statement certainly rings true in this case. After basically blowing off your ex for a month straight your first text to them better have some substance to it. I always like to say that you should make your first contact text so interesting that they have no choice but to respond.

Example:

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Remembering The Good Ole Days

One of the most interesting things about text messaging is the fact that every holds their texts as sacred. Very rarely will anyone ever willingly show someone their text messages. It is like their phone is their own personal sanctuary holding all their secrets and feelings about things. You are going to use this fact to your advantage.

IMPORTANT - You cannot move on to this text message until you successfully complete the first text message above.

The key with this type of text is to get your ex to remember the good parts of your relationship. The way you accomplish this is by going into great detail on one of the most positive experience that you had together as a couple. If you do this correctly you will bring up his most positive feelings about the relationship and get him thinking about you in a different more positive light. Now, while it is important that you get him to think positively about you it is also extremely important that you remain as positive as well. That means you can’t get angry if things don’t go according to plan. Handle every single text and interaction you have with your ex with as much grace as possible.

So, now that you have an idea of how to approach this type of a text lets look at a good example:

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Is There A Place For A Jealousy Text?

This section is a little controversial, I am not going to lie. Some people have called this tactic manipulation but my job isn’t to give my personal opinion on this matter it’s just to give you the tactics that others have had success with. Jealousy can be a powerful motivator for a man. I remember once that one of my married friends told me something very interesting about the male psyche. He said that a man is a pretty simple creature. If he gets too used to a woman his eyes will tend to stray. However, if the woman he is dating/married to starts going to a bar and flirting with other guys he will come back down to earth and do everything that you want a good boyfriend or married man to do.

IMPORTANT - You cannot move on to this text message until you successfully complete the first text message above.

So, how does a jealous text work. Well the idea behind it is pretty simple, send a text message to your ex that could potentially get him jealous and bring up some of the lovey dovey feelings that he felt during your relationship. As a guy I can tell you that nothing makes you want a girl more than when you see her talking with another guy that is even moderately attractive. Here is how a jealousy text message would go:

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Confused?

If you haven’t already realized this, getting your ex back can be a very complicated process. In fact, I wouldn’t be shocked if this entire page confused you. Don’t worry, I got your back and I want to help you understand the best way you can get him back. There is a lot more to this process and quite frankly this page doesn’t do a great job of describing exactly what you do step by step. So, if you are intrigued by this method but very confused I urge you to visit get my 100 page guide, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. It may take you a while to read through the entire thing but it will break every step of the ex recovery process down for you, in-depth. It will also go into extreme detail about how you can use text messages to get your ex boyfriend back.

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1,107 Responses to Using Text Messages To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
  1. R!ley
    April 16, 2014 | 3:32 am

    Okay so my boyfriend is 1 year younger than me and EVERYONE makes fun of us. You know how middle school is… yeah everyone knows his weakness, lies. So they make up lies and rumors. And he NEVER belives them cuz he knows that they are just rumors.Well he belived one and when i kept telling him over and over that it wasnt true, he ignored me, and called me a liar!He broke up with me :( How do i convince him that the rumors were a lie, and i want him back and still love him?

    • admin
      April 16, 2014 | 4:21 pm

      Middle school?

      Seriously?

      1 year younger thats nothing.

  2. caia
    April 16, 2014 | 2:12 am

    Hey! So my boyfriend broke up with me 2 months back for no specific reason! I did the NC for 30 days. He contacted me during my NC and asked me if I was okay. I responded. It was his birthday a week later! So I wished him. We had a lil convo and it ended. 2 or 3 days later I tried doing the “good old days” thingy by calling him! I asked abt a place. Where he took me and he told me that and after that I haven’t heard from him. I think he started dating someone. Its been 16 days since I last spoke to him. What should I do now?

    • admin
      April 16, 2014 | 4:21 pm

      Why haven’t you tried advancing things?

      • caia
        April 16, 2014 | 5:21 pm

        I really can’t think of anything! I want to text him again but I really don’t know what to say!

  3. Texting Games
    April 16, 2014 | 1:46 am

    So, I am talking to this guy, right? Have been since middle of February. At first, the honeymoon stage was great (as expected). Then it got to the point where he wouldn’t text me as often. So I would text and then still make him chase me after I read the chasing article on this website. It just kept dwindling and I grew worried. He would go from sending me 3-5 texts back to back to just one work responses, and it still is going on. He jokingly says “you’re really quiet.” and I have told him I don’t mean to be, which I don’t, but I want him to continue to chase me because I want to see if he really is interested in me. Well, last time we talked he brought up, yet again, that I have been quiet, to which I responded that he has been pretty quiet as well. He goes on to say that I can text him whenever I want, even though I have explained I don’t want to be a bother, especially while he is at work. Pish Posh he says.

    Is this his way of saying talk to me more? Is he growing tired of chasing me & wants me to put in the work? I mean, I know the answers to this, but then again do I really? Even if I do talk to him a lot more, he still doesn’t reply as much as he used to before. So what’s the point of me texting him a lot more?

  4. lilly
    April 15, 2014 | 1:03 am

    PLEASE HELP ME!

    So i go to an all girls prepschool where just about every relationship ends in three weeks with a guy cheating on his girlfriend. to be frank most of the guys here are ass hats. i was “Talking” (aka flirting sexting etc.) with this one guy from the all boys school for about a month. we had even skyped a few times and he dropped some major hints about us dating. then, his ex (who is also a friend) broke up with her boyfriend. We were supposed to see each other that weekend at a dance, but he had been blowing me off all week. saturday came along and i was on the bus sitting next to his ex, when she gets a text saying from him saying that he isn’t going to the dance. I texting him about it and just asked him to be honest and if he wanted to keep talking to me. he said that he wasn’t sure, so i told him to think about it and text me when he knew. I was careful not to hook up with anyone that night, even though i had plenty of opportunities. the next day he texts me and says that he just wants to stay friends and i accept this graciously. no screaming or angry texting, or anything. then exactly three days later his friend starts messaging me on Facebook and flirting with me. i go along with it to make him a little jealous but not too much. then a week later he texts me hey, but i had lost my phone so i didn’t respond until today (about a week later). three days ago another one of my friends got a text from him that asked what was going on with me and his friend, and she said that we were just talking. during this week i figured that i should stop talking to the friend because it had gotten the desired result. so i told his friend that i thought that i should just stay friends with him because i had been talking to a lot of guys and i didn’t want to get a reputation. the friend said he didn’t understand and so i said that i had gotten the vibe that all he wanted was a hook up buddy, he denied this. then i thought to myself, why am i blowing this guy off for someone who didn’t really treat me that well in the first place? so i kept talking to the friend and now we are ‘talking talking’. i texted the guy that i was into back saying sorry i lost my phone, whats up? and he has not responded all day. what do you think i should do? i still really like my old guy but i don’t know if he still likes me, and i don’t want to mess up an opportunity with a new guy who treats me well (even though he went around saying that i was “DTF” which pissed me off and i think he might give me a bad rep if i hook up with him). do you think the my old guy was jealous and trying to get back into my life or was he just trying to be friendly? and what should i do if i want him back?

  5. Wanthimback365
    April 14, 2014 | 9:21 am

    I’ve been in contact with my ex since we broke up just over three weeks ago, spoken nearly everyday, and when we didn’t speak for two days, he asked mr to meet him while his girlfriend was at work. We aren’t in constant contact (like I want) but I’ve given up messaging him first, I did break my promise to myself yesterday and got upset and sent multiple messages, but I’ve stopped again now…

    Am I doing the right thing? Waiting for him to message me? If it gets to a month, I’ll message first. He says he wants to be friends, but doesn’t like me in a relationship way, but do you think it’s still possible to get him back? We were together 17 months

  6. Linds
    April 14, 2014 | 2:40 am

    Hi,
    So I was with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half and we were each other’s first loves. He broke up with me a couple weeks ago saying he basically fell out of love and that he feels that he needs to be on his own to figure out his life and what he wants to do(career wise).We we kept in touch a little.He said he wasn’t sure if he made the right choice and kept saying he missed me. After a week and a half I told him I wanted him to tell me he is sure about his decision so I could move on.Well he had me come over and still held my hand and hugged me as we watched a movie. We had a great time. I called him out and he apologized saying he was being inappropriate.He insists that he doesn’t want to be with me and that he thinks he should be on his own to get his life together.He did say though that he loves me always and forever and misses me…So while he did not blame me straight up for being a hinderance Im sure he just got fed up with the fact that i don’t have a job.Throughout our relationship he paid for almost everything.I think if his feelings for me faded at all its because he saw me as too dependent and focused on him rather than motivated to make my own money.I’m in college so its not that I’m lazy.I just have a lot of anxiety when it comes to new situations and people.I still miss and love him very much and want to be with him.My thought process is if I can get a job as well as work out and improve my self during our no contact period, he will realize that i can be independent and not in the way of him trying to accomplish things.I feel like if I’m still the person he fell in love with but even better than before he may fall for me again.Am I crazy for thinking this?Do you think it’s a good possibility I can get him back?I’d really appreciate your thoughts!

    • admin
      April 14, 2014 | 5:34 pm

      I think your great for thinking that.

      • Linds
        April 15, 2014 | 4:37 am

        so you think it’s a good possibility?or what?

  7. kuulei
    April 13, 2014 | 4:45 am

    What if he doesn’t text? He’s never really gotten into the texting thing. He’ll reply to email and phone calls and is very friendly and open.

    • admin
      April 13, 2014 | 4:59 pm

      Email will have to work then.

  8. desired woman
    April 12, 2014 | 5:32 pm

    I broke up with my ex last january. I havent got any contact. I cought him cheating but instead of talking to me, he never talk to me at all even a single sorry. I want her back but hes with other girl. I send sms to him once but i told him its wrong send. Then one time i got txt from him saying to call him and when I ask why he said its wrong send. What will i do? I really want him back.

    • admin
      April 13, 2014 | 4:35 pm

      If he cheated on you what are your reasons for wanting him back?

  9. depressed
    April 12, 2014 | 2:18 pm

    Hi,
    My boyfriend recently broke up with me.He was being abusive and i compared him to my ex.This is the reason of breaking up.I tried covering up for that.It was his b.day the next day after we fought.I took a cake at his place arranged a surprise with all his friends.But instead he started behaving bad with me.Even his friends were stunned with his behaviour.
    I tried to call him but he has blocked me with some stupid blocking app.I texted him.But he replied using slangs.Today i went and dropped all the gifts he had given me.He removed me from Facebook.
    I still want him back.I miss him.And i want to know what he is doing.I love him alot.A minute without him seems like years without him.please tell me what to do.please.

    • depressed
      April 13, 2014 | 1:29 am

      Everything felt beautiful with him.Once I was talking to him about the fact that we should not fight anymore and breakup every time like a 12 year old.i remember him saying “hey!i love you and don’t worry even if its after a month I will come back to you eventually”
      Well the thing is that I feel a lack in communication brings a distance between two people.Im scared of letting him go.We had a lot together and everytime we were out together,or talking or in bed I knew he loved me.Please I really really need your help so that i can bring him back as soon as possible.I love him.And he is all i want.

  10. Brenda
    April 11, 2014 | 7:58 pm

    So I’m 17 days down no contact from my ex boyfriend but I was wondering if this included Facebook. Obviously I’m not sending him messages or posts directly, but I’m posting positive things about going out and things I’ve been doing on my own wall of which he can see because we’re still Facebook friends. Is this ok? Or should I go silent on Facebook too?

    • admin
      April 12, 2014 | 4:15 pm

      Its PERFECT! keep it up.

  11. Please Help
    April 11, 2014 | 6:46 am

    My boyfriend and I were together 5 yrs and have a 3 yr old daughter together. We broke up after i made him chose between a breakup and marriage and well here we are. He has been dating his new girlfriend for 2 months now. He had picked up with her where he and I left off and even now makes comments about her that he use to make about me. I am trying to get him back and save my family but he has introduced this new woman to our child and I am unsure how to take that. Im really beginning to freak out and am in need of your guidance.

    • admin
      April 12, 2014 | 3:45 pm

      Ultimatums are a bad idea. Though he should have probably stepped up.

      Can I ask you what his reasons were for not committing?

      • Please Help
        April 13, 2014 | 9:05 am

        He wanted a women who cooks and cleans however because I work 40+ hours a week I was unable to do this so I hired a housekeeper. He took a housekeeper as a sign that im unable to upkeep our home myself.

  12. ig
    April 11, 2014 | 1:16 am

    When i met my boyfriend everything was wonderful. We live 3hrs away, distance was an issue w/ him. I told him we could take turns driving to see each other. We text an talked for hours. He told me he felt like we were soulmates. He wanted to share everything and the greatest part of life withe me. Everything was so magical, he cried on the phone saying he wanted me there with him. then he thought i was checking up on him oneday, which i was not. He stopped talking to me, wont answer my calls or text. Four days later i found out through a mutual friend what he thought and why he stopped talking to me, now he says I’m not for him. I don’t understand everything felt so real. Don’t understand what happened to him. I know he is not seeing anyone. I have never cried so much.

  13. mimi
    April 9, 2014 | 9:47 pm

    so I was recently dating a guy that seemed so perfect until I noticed him being funny when he’s phone would ring around me. I was suspicious got the number and managed to stalk the caller on a social network and turned out to be a girl. She had pictures with him all over her page so I confronted him. I was made to look like the silly girlfriend with trust issues until he finally accepted it was his ex and she couldn’t let go. Unfortunately it was a lie because some pictures were recent and he couldn’t explain in detail so I dumped him. its been a month now tried to be strong but I never git answers and I miss him, which is quite stupid. to make it worse I drunk dialed him a couple of times. what can I do? please help

  14. Qua
    April 9, 2014 | 11:13 am

    I am finish my Nc. He contacted me during the Nc I send a text but he has not respond

  15. Simone....Believer....THANK YOU CHRIS (I need your opinion)
    April 8, 2014 | 1:56 am

    I was mortified and filled with anxiety to the point that it was affecting my life. First of all this guy and I were not a couple but intimately involved. We had a bad ending where honestly he was in the wrong. During the argument, I hung up on him and that for him was unforgivable. I attempted to contact him about three months after and it went very wrong, he was cold and dismissive, down right cruel even though I really needed his help…I couldn’t believe it but still I apologized and let him know that the door was opened, he never entered. Recently I started to experience extreme anxiety again, something just felt unresolved and unsettled. I found your page and it really caught my attention because it made sense…still I was scared because of the initial rejection a few months ago. Ironically I remembered his birthday so this is what happened:
    Me:Hey,I realised your birthday just passed, just wanted to wish you happy birthday. I hope your life is going well. Be good.

    Him:Who is this? Thank you for the greeting (he didnt have my number in his phone)

    Me:(told him it was me) just wishing you a happy birthday.

    Me:I remembered some old stuff that made me chuckle. I’m sorry about the bad ending and wish we could take it back. Take care of yourself.

    Him: That’s ok,I have no bad blood. I saw you in the mall one day.

    Me: I’m happy you feel that way. Perhaps we can catch up so if you ever see me again don’t forget to say hey..

    THE END (He didnt reply but that’s ok)
    I feel much better because I have better closure
    because life is too short to hate. How did I do and what’s going through is head now?

    • admin
      April 8, 2014 | 5:48 pm

      I think you did fine!

      Seriously, you were classy and you did great.

  16. sara
    April 7, 2014 | 3:43 pm

    Okay so me and my ex were in a long distance relationship. Everything was great and we fell in love with eachother. We text eachother all the time and talking to him everyday and every minute. Here’s the thing he’s all the way in England and I’m In America. So after awhile I started to feel as if he didnt want to speak to me and I asked him about it. I said is there something up or am I being stupid. He got so mad. And he’s like you always think somethings up this and that.so we didnt talk. Then one morning I text him and he said he fingered his ex last night. That literally broke me. At that second I said its over. And he was all fine by me I don’t care. I said he cheated on me and he’s like no that’s not cheating. So we talked about it and I said I acted on anger but I don’t want this to be over but he eventually made a decison and said I can’t take the long distance anymore. I don’t know what to do what he did is just horrible and his ex cheated on him before so its like really her??? But I love him so much. I can’t stop thinking about him. Everything is about him. I messages him Saturday morning saying good mornig and he never responded. Please help me someone I’m a wreck right now.

    • sara
      April 7, 2014 | 3:49 pm

      He also said he has no feelings for his ex and he wanted to do that to hurt me but he said he didn’t know it would hurt me this much. He apologized for it. But all I see is him cheating on me. He said they didn’t even talk while he fingered her and that more could’ve happened but he thought of me. And he says I’m a lad my hormones?? Cause we aren’t intimate given the long distance? He said he still wants me but he’s not sure about us. He says he still Cates for me. I love him so much I just want him back in my life

  17. Confused.
    April 6, 2014 | 8:05 pm

    My boyfriend and I dated for 13 months and broke up last December 2nd. Right after we broke up I called him several times asking him the reason for why he broke up with me (he broke up with me over skype) and if he wanted to meet me in London (we were doing long distance). He told me he couldn’t see me because he would “cave” in and we would be back in square one. I know he was under a lot of stress during the time. I drunk called him 30 days after he broke up with me, saying that “i’d always love him…” he then blocked my number afterwards. It’s now been over four months and I really want to become his friend. I don’t want him back because of the way he treated me, but I need to see him to get closure and I feel like he owes me an explanation. He has unblocked my number, should I text or call him just asking how he is? I don’t want him to get the wrong idea.

  18. Elise
    April 4, 2014 | 6:33 pm

    I have been dating my boyfriend (now ex) for 6 years on and off. I am 21 and he is 23. We don’t fight too much, mostly bicker but we have fallen into a bad habit of spending too much time together. We see each other most thursdays-sundays. He out of the blue has broken it off with me (as he did last december when we took a break for 9 months). I stupidly begged for him back (humiliating) but I just feel if I don’t try, it won’t happen. He also told me he is forcing himself to leave me because he is afraid our fighting will never stop. I have come up with changes we can make (like seeing each other less and having more time for ourselves). He has told me several times in the past few days since he left me that he is going to block my number but still hasn’t. I realize I should ignore him in order to make him miss me, but part of me feels if I ignore him and stop talking to him, he will go away for ever..HELP

    • admin
      April 6, 2014 | 4:46 pm

      He won’t go away forever. Besides, if he did then that just proves he isn’t willing to fight for you.

  19. ashley
    April 4, 2014 | 6:30 am

    ive written an email i need your help iam so confused its not even funny your a guy so i need your opinion about my ex there is more detail but i didnt want to put it all in this comment

  20. Tylen
    March 30, 2014 | 7:27 pm

    So it’s been almost a year since we were together. We have been on and off for about 4 years a few months ago I found out he was dating someone he was friends with from hs they wounded up going to the same community college. I left the state, I want to know if it’s too late to get h back I think about him everyday and I cry like there is no tomorrow I don’t want my happiness to be at the expense of someone else’s lost but I love him always have. After we initially broke up I started dating someone else he came back and was kinda upset with me for doing so and I decided to tl date both of them they knew if and I told him it was he ause he was shaky. How ever he decided to end it again and since then I have texted him and have been ignored every day. About month ago he hit me with the I have a gf I can’t talk to you anymore line and I haven’t even attempted to reply since . I can’t , I really don’t know what to do . I need help. I feel as though she and her friends kinda played off if what was going on in order to get him in that situation but you never know. I just think if was an outlet and I want to communicate with him about it. I miss him much please help.

  21. MC
    March 30, 2014 | 6:10 pm

    I really need your help. A few months ago, i kissed a guy who wasnt my boyfriend. I read the mistake scale and determined it was 4 points. I was able to keep what happened to myself, but eventually my boyfriend figured out i was hiding something and i confessed what i did. He was really angry, but he said he would give me another chance. As of now, we’re still together but i’m not sure what i should do to gain back his trust. He’s made a few requests, very similar to some of your advice that i’ve read. But i cant accomplish the NC period because we’re still together and i also see him everyday at school. I dont want to lose him.

    • AdviceGirl92
      April 6, 2014 | 12:26 am

      Hi MC,

      I read your post and I think I can help.

      Your boyfriend gave you a golden opportunity to win his trust back. It’s by giving you a the second chance and to be together. You both obviously care about each other but Actions speak louder than words and only time will show him how committed you are. Tell him that you are committed and then show him you are!

      I’m quite curious to these “requests” he is making. What kind of requests?
      As for the No Contact Rule, I don’t see why you would have to enact the NC Rule. This is the crucial time to make things right!

      It’s seems like you can let go or accept the mistake that you made & it was a mistake. We are all human and make them. But if the cross is too heavy to bear, maybe you need to have a conversation with your guy to really clear the air.

      I hope I helped.

      All the best,
      AdviceGirl92

  22. AA
    March 27, 2014 | 10:53 pm

    we didnt break up because we were friends with benefits. But when i told him i wanted more, he said he didnt see me as the one, when i talked as if we will not see each other again. ( we live in separate countries )He had tears in his eyes, and he said we will.

    Next day i texted him asking him if he felt any attachment at all, he didnt reply so i called him. But he made a joke about why i say its the last time i am talking to him. I put the phone down on him. So can i still apply the no contact rule??

  23. sarah bolton
    March 27, 2014 | 9:41 pm

    hey i need some help. my boyfriend texted me today and said the we should go on a walk, we were walking and everything was going okay and then he said we needed to talk. i knew where that was going he said that he dose not feel like he can trust me and that our relationship is nothing and that we should break up, he went on to explain why and he begain to cry. i was really upset and emotional as well and pushed him away i didnt understand and i felt like he had been using me the entire relationship, i walked away and he called after me and tried to grab my hand i told him not to talk to me and to leave me alone he proceded to try and talk to me and say he was sorry and that we can work things out, he called out to me that we need to talk tomorrow morning about it and see what we think over the night i told him okay and im willing to talk to him tomorrow about it. i love him and i dont want to loose him weve been together for 9 months. i would like some help with coming up with things to say to him , i have two ideas one being that we can work things out as a couple and work on some things or to take a one month break and to focus on ourselves and try to work things out when we are able to. i dont want to loose him please help

  24. Tshidi
    March 27, 2014 | 8:47 pm

    Hi its Tshidi here,2 years and 6 months since I broke up with my ex boyfriend!He called me a year after our break up apologizing for hurting me and asked if we could be friends,but everytime I try and get closer he pushes me away,but its ok for us to communicate when he feels like it.This year on feb I gathered strength and called him up and asked if we could meet up.He wasted no time,asked me to meet him up 2 days later!I went to his house and I told him that I still love him and want him back!I even asked what were the chances of us getting back together and he said 50/50!He was so happy to see me though,he was even glowing. He was dancing for me and staff and he started reminding me of the 1st time we made love and things I said to him,I couldn’t even remember those things but he did,he reminded me of the things I had forgotten.

    I slept over at his place and yes we had sex,the following day he didn’t want me to go home,but I left anyhow.He took me home,dropped me off and kissed me saying that he’ll call me later and he did call me before he went to sleep!I didn’t hear from him for a week. So I was around his neighborhood late in the afternoon,I called him to come pick me up and take me home and he did that,but now its been a month since we last spoke. Today I sent him this sms (D day God helps me 2 stop loving u I’ll b d happiest woman alive n I swear I’ll neva luv anada man d way I luv u,unless dy vow 2 spent d rest of their lives wit me n marry me!!Loving u hurts cos I knw dat u dnt luv me bt u jst dnt wanna say it n missing u hurts evn more cos I knw ur nt thinking of me.I’ve tried so hard 2 stop loving u,2 4get u n gt ova u by ol means,bt its nt working,only God cn intervene n help me on dis1.)and he hasn’t responded. I find myself so confused by his actions,because one minute he acts like he’s coming back to me and the next its like I’m chasing the wind and he’s not interested!

    I am really confused help,what am I missing here?

  25. Jen
    March 27, 2014 | 2:16 am

    dated 1 1/2 years, i was pushing for a commitment and more definitiveness for the future.. things got heated and it ended fairly quick with little to no emotion during the breakup. “i dont know what i want” was the response when the pressure started to be pushed on him for the past couple months. ex started texting 4 days after breakup.. even threw in a i miss you. i didn’t buy into it and never begged or questioned the breakup. had lc for 3 days, then i cut him off and told him NC due to me having to move on (ugh regret that comment). jumped the gun (ugh again) on the old memory text after only one week.. response was receptive and pretty much mimicked exacty what i said. i didn’t follow up with another text. now what? leave the seed planted and do 30 days?

  26. Sarah
    March 26, 2014 | 6:23 pm

    He texted me yesterday after 3-4 months of absolutely no contact at all. He said “You crossed my mind and I’ve been wondering how you’re doing. I hope all is well.” We were very hostile to each other the last time we talked so I believe this was very intentional of him to text me. I replied after a few hours, “Hey, ____, I’m doing really well, [casual but happy comment about the weather]! How are you?”

    However now it has been 24 hours and he hasn’t responded. I’m a little afraid that maybe he has my number blocked and never got my text? but I do not want to text a second time and appear too eager I guess. Help??

    • admin
      March 27, 2014 | 11:03 pm

      He is probably just ignoring you but if he did block you then don’t woryy b/c I just wrote something on what to do if that happens to you.

  27. Ashley Hawkins
    March 26, 2014 | 5:12 pm

    Hi. My boyfriend and I were together for a year and 5 months. I was the longest relationship he’s ever been in and we were like best friends. I cheated on him 8 months before we broke up with an ex and I admitted that to him. He was really hurt and broke up with me. I miss him so much and it’s been 3 months now since the break up. I can’t go a day without thinking about him. I really want him back. What should I do?

    • admin
      March 27, 2014 | 11:03 pm

      Why did you cheat on him? What was your reasoning?

  28. Fiona
    March 22, 2014 | 8:26 pm

    Its been 6 months since my bf broke up with me. We had been meeting up until 3 weeks ago he wanted to do no contact but now I really miss him. He says hes moved on but I know he hasn’t with the way he wont look at me and when he does I can see it in his eyes. Is it too late to try this?

    • admin
      March 23, 2014 | 4:51 pm

      No not too late but try reading the entirety of this site before you do anything.

  29. Alyssa
    March 20, 2014 | 8:48 pm

    My boyfriend and I were together for about 9 months. We broke up a couple of days ago. We were really in love… I still am but he told me that I need to move on and we shouldn’t talk.
    He broke up with me. What happened was, he moved across the country for me, and he is about 5 years older than I am (I’m 21, he just turned 26). Also he comes from a different culture than I do so sometimes this made things difficult because all of my family is American, and his is middle eastern, and he is used to being with foregin girls, who have different morals that I do. I have lied to him and broken his trust over and over, about stupid things and he told me I’m disloyal and he doesn’t want to be with me anymore and he thinks I’m not who he thought I was. Our fighting was really bad, and he has issues with anger which caused him to scream at me and call me horrible names. But I know he only did it because I hurt him and he loved me so much. He threw away his life for me and I didn’t appreciate him or change or grow up as much as I should have.
    I was wondering if there is any way to salvage this or any hope of getting back together. We tried to talk it out right when we broke up, but we just ended up fighting and he told me he can’t trust me and there is nothing I can do and to move on. But he also told me he will always love me and that if I could have been mature enough to handle our relationship we would have gotten married.
    I know that he isn’t going to go running to someone else because he isn’t that type of person. And I also know that he still loves me, I just have hurt him so much and we have put each other through a lot.
    What should I do? He’s the only person I want.

    • admin
      March 21, 2014 | 4:57 pm

      The culture thing hurt you. But he needs to be more understanding that you are not some foreign girl…

      There is a way it can work but you know what. Getting past his cultural beliefs is something that may be very challenging.

  30. Lizzy
    March 18, 2014 | 7:52 pm

    My ex unexpectedly texted me yesterday after over 3 months of NC. It was to just tell me that he was changing the cell plan next month. We had a shared plan that he continued to pay for even after the contract ended. I asked him why he put off changing it for so long and he said he just didn’t want to take that out from underneath me. I waited to respond for a few hours, thinking about what to say, not making it seem like I was so available, and knowing I needed to end the conversation. So I responded with telling him I would have been fine and would have accepted the decision either way. That he didn’t have to keep me on it but appreciated it. Thanked him for letting me know, ended the conversation and wished him a good evening. He immediately responded with a ‘you too.’ This surprised me because I wasn’t expecting such a quick response.

    Should I take this opportunity to text him again soon? Is this the door opening to communication again? It’s surely a curious situation..

  31. R
    March 18, 2014 | 5:43 am

    Hi Chris,

    I was dating a guy for 5 months and while we didn’t see each other every single week he kept in contact with me on a very regular basis. We got along well but I at times felt he was holding quite a bit back and keeping me at an arms length.

    I thought we had started to make some progress as the when he asked me to stay over one weekend. As soon as it seemed we had gotten to a fork in the road where the nature of the relationship was likely to get serious he did a complete backflip and broke up with me a few days later saying he had thought about it extensively and had doubts about ‘us’ and didn’t see a future.

    I was shocked and hurt but managed to keep my composure and accepted his decision and ended the phone conversation. Obviously my first reaction was to cut contact, delete all texts and communication. Exactly a week later he texts me to ask how I am and what my work address is because he wanted to send me something. Today I get chocolate in the mail that we had spoke about previously, with a post-it note saying ‘this is what I was talking about, hope you enjoy it’.

    I’m so confused….is he feeling guilty and trying to make himself feel better? Is it stupid to send him a text saying thanks that I received it and wish him well? Is he expecting us to stay friends.

  32. rachel
    March 17, 2014 | 12:11 pm

    my ex boyfriend he left me because the other girl and he is not txting me..i want him back ilove him very much pls help me..

  33. Lisa
    March 15, 2014 | 9:27 pm

    So I followed the no contact rule and after 30 days I sent him a text, he texted me back and was into the Convo. He was actually texting more then I was… At the end of the text he said out of no where “I would like to be friends with you, if that’s okay with you, and maybe see eachother sometime” I said ya maybe… And that was it. What does that even mean?

    • Lisa
      March 16, 2014 | 3:00 pm

      Afterwards he kept texting me seeing what I was up to but I left my phone at home when I went out… So I wasn’t texting back… He said I miss you… Then he asked to meet up soon… I said ya maybe. Then he kept texting me asking me how my day was…

    • Amber
      March 19, 2014 | 1:00 pm

      now all of a sudden he went out on 1 date and all of a sudden he is in a relationship with this 35 year old looking stripper who has a 9 year old kid that the DSS took away because all this girl did was party… now they’re saying I love you to eachother and its only been 3 days… is this a rebound relationship? what is this chris please help!

      • lisa
        March 19, 2014 | 1:01 pm

        i have no idea why the first comment says lisa then this one says amber… thats weird.

  34. Ana
    March 12, 2014 | 11:34 pm

    Hi Chris, I have adamantly been reading your website since my breakup and successfully completed my 30 day no contact period. Today, I texted my ex using a “good memory” suggestion from your article. He has yet to text me back, and he did not contact me during the 30 day no contact period. How many days should I wait before texting him again? By the way, thank you for this website. It has been extremely helpful.

  35. Sarah
    March 12, 2014 | 5:34 am

    My bf and I of about 10 months broke up recently (his idea). He is 20 and has worked since high school and has only invest money in cars, and I am 23 masters graduate and have traveled overseas and want to continue, we both felt the strain of being at different stages of our lives. Ive texted him twice about

    a.( Day 2 of break up) asking why he blocked me on facebook (his reply is that he feels we dont need to be fb friends- ..I assume he doesnt want friendship and needs space)
    b. (Day 3 of break up) I had a dream where he died and I text him in he morning asking if he was okay and I had a bad dream about his family. He replied just before he started work saying “everything is okay, thanks for caring, try and get some sleep and have a good day”

    I want to apply the no contact rule from now on as I honestly have no reason to contact him. Although it is my birthday within the next two weeks and he was previously invited to it. Would this rule still apply or is it okay to text him to see if he will attend? I understand if he wanted to come and see me..he would remember and text me about coming or not….. We otherwise have unfinished business (we have purchased some tickets to a couple events in the future including a party cruise and some dance classes, and I have some items at his house including a pair of heels and some clothes.)

    I don’t want a relationship with him as I agree to why we broke up; we dont have a solid future together. The break up was no surprise, but I do care about him and would like some communication/friendship with him.

    Im not heart broken but I am sad about loosing a good person in my life….

  36. HELP!
    March 9, 2014 | 10:43 pm

    Ok so my first contact text after NC was the “I have a confession to make”. He replied and I did what u suggested, to wait an hour before I responded. Except I didnt because he actually called me! I was NOT prepared for that. But it wasnt all bad as he ended up telling me he was happy to hear from me and that it felt good to hear my voice, after a small chat we hung up. The next day I sent him a memory text and he responded very positively, I engaged in a small convo and it was very good and positive so I decided to end the convo first and told him I had to go cus I was going out with a friend. He texted me a while after asking me who I went out with and when I told him a new guy friend he acted a little aloof but immediately after went on a rampage saying how I could do that so soon after our break up and that it felt like I had betrayed him. Long story short, he had never sent me so many long messages before. The next day he was still mad at me and admited it was for that same reason and decided we should not talk anymore and to leave him be for a while saying he was very disappointed in me. What do I make of this? I feel like im back to step one. How long should I NC him before I try again?

    • Janet
      March 13, 2014 | 9:55 pm

      Hey, when you told him “I have a confession to make” what was the confession you ended up giving? I want to you this line with my ex .. I just don’t have a confession besides missing him

      • HELP!
        March 17, 2014 | 11:53 pm

        I wasnt very prepared lol so I told him I had thought about him for the first time in a while and it had made me smile.

    • HELP!
      March 19, 2014 | 4:22 pm

      Hi Chris! Would reallt appreciate it if you give me insight. I dont think a week of NC after this would be enough as I already did that and he insists he doesnt want to talk. How badly did I mess up?

  37. Angie
    March 9, 2014 | 2:32 am

    Hi chris i wonder why mi boyfriend toll me hi love me ,hi cry and after brokeup with me,hi toll me if you call me i promese i answer you call ,but i call him but hi ignore my call ,we been togheder for 8 years .thank chris

  38. Louis
    March 6, 2014 | 5:17 pm

    Hi Chris,

    This is the first article I’ve read that’s written by you and I’m loving it so far. Here’s my story: I’ve been with this guy for 4 years 2 months, we were happy, we just got back from a Paris getaway last January before he had to leave back to our home country… Everything was fine and we were madly in love. At the airport, a few days after we came back from Paris before he departed, he cried as much as I did, making me promise that I wouldn’t replace him and I wouldn’t find another guy while I’m still in the UK. Last month in February on the 9th, that was the day he last texted me saying “I love you, I really do”. And then he disappeared. He stopped contacting me, he blocked my number so I can’t text or call him. So I’ve been in touch with his mum asking her what’s going on and she’s been helpful because she really loves me… She told me that she has asked him several times if we were still together but he isn’t giving her any straight answers. On the 4th of March, which was 2 days ago on my birthday, he deleted all our pictures from his Instagram and unfollowed me as well as block me on Whatsapp so I won’t be able to reach him there. Today, the 6th of March, he blocked my number on his mum’s phone (I know because her last seen stamp on my Whatsapp disappeared so I used my best friend’s phone and saved her number and her last seen appeared) so I won’t be able to contact her anymore… However, he did unblock me on Whatsapp though. Also today, he blocked my Instagram. I’m so heart broken and I’m shattered into pieces. I’ve loved this guy like I’ve never loved anyone before. We had plans to get married, so I’ve built my hopes around him. We have common goals, we had the same vision for our future… I didn’t know what was going on so I texted his brother today as well asking him if he was done with me and he said said its obvious that he is. I’m writing to you now to ask if you think I have a shot at getting him back (after the 30 day no contact period) considering he completely blocked me out of his life?

    • admin
      March 7, 2014 | 6:44 am

      Really?

      To be honest I don’t like this article very much. I think it’s one of my worst.

      Do yourself a favor and invest in all the other articles on this site. Every question, fear, etc, etc you have will be answered. I promise.

  39. Phana
    March 6, 2014 | 8:30 am

    Hi i find it really hard doing the no contact thing as i work with him. How will this help me ? what startegiesdo you have in this instance?

    • admin
      March 7, 2014 | 6:35 am

      Limited contact is what you are going to have to do since you work with him.

  40. Jennifer
    February 28, 2014 | 12:43 pm

    Hi,

    Thanks for your amazing tips. I’m in a predicament. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and things were going pretty well. He lives about 5 hours away. In the last 2 months, he took a step back because he has been studying for the bar exam…so I gave him that space and I let him initiate all contact with me. However, in the last few weeks, things were going so well. He came down to visit me and stayed for 4 days, went back home, and then 2 days later he came down again to surprise me for Valentines Day. A few days after that, though, I caught him lieing to me about where he was going. To make a long story short, he had once given me his password for his Apple ID on his iPhone, and I was able to use it to login to the Find My iPhone App to check his location one day when I was worried sick that he wasn’t replying to my calls/texts all day. When he called me 6 hours later, he told me he had been home studying all day and his phone was in the other room. However, the iphone app showed he was in a different location. This caused a red flag in my mind and so I continued to check his location and realized that for an entire week, he was lieing to me about being at home and studying for the bar exam, when he was really out and about (with who I assume are his guy buddies that he sees regularly). The last straw was when I called him from work one night during that week at midnight needing something, and he didn’t pick up, so when I logged in to the app, it showed he was at a buddy’s house. He came home later and left me a voicemail at 2:30 AM acting like he just ‘woke up from sleep and had fallen asleep on the couch.’ I was pissed that he would lie about small things and go as far as to fabricate a story to me! The next day I called him out on his b.s. over the phone and I basically made it clear to him that I knew his exact whereabouts. I never told him how I knew, so after I hung up the phone, he never contacted me that day at all until he must have figured out that I was logging in with his password into the Find My Iphone App. That night, I went on a last minute trip to Las Vegas with my girlfriends for my friend’s birthday. He called me the next day and I picked up only to tell him that I couldn’t speak right now bc I was in Vegas with my girlfriends. He was really taken aback and told me to have fun, and I wished him luck on his studying. I never heard from him again. I know that his bar exam just ended today. Should I expect to hear from him soon? And if so, should I continue the No Contact Rule that I’ve been enforcing ever since the last time we spoke?

  41. Danata
    February 28, 2014 | 1:21 am

    Hi, guess I really want to talk to you. So about 7 months ago me and my ex broke up because I cheated and told him I did it because I needed a reason for him to dump me. We have slightly talked throughout the 7 months BUT recently he has be coming to see me. Turns out he’s seeing someone and wanted to see me because he wants “something familiar”. Basically he said he has had a hard time moving on. I told him I refuse to have any sexual relations with him if he is with someone, his response “I made him like this”. It’s hard to continue everyday wanting him but I do it… It’s even harder because when I see him he throws himself at me and in the back of my mind I get desperate and think hey I’ll be the side chic … But honestly we’re perfect together and I need all of him. He’s kinda seeing someone he says…WHAT DO I DO? I have been taking it beyond slow hence the 7months. HOW DO I COMPETE! I have done everything in your blog except be social… I’ll try this maybe that’s just what I’m missing huh?
    Ps. I use to be really bitchy and impatient…. I’ve worked on these things since we split … Help I Love him he’s a great guy. I just use to really suck. How do I prove I have grown.
    Ps. We were together for 3 years

    • admin
      February 28, 2014 | 10:46 pm

      Have you read my latest guide?

  42. Ccs
    February 25, 2014 | 10:10 am

    Hi Chris,
    My boyfriend told me last week he fell out of love… We had been together for 3 years and a half. He didn’t change at all or anything, so for me it was all a big surprise, unfortunately.
    I haven’t messages him at all, even though as you said, I want to text and call him all the time.
    What should I do? I am heartbroken, and I really would like some more advice ..
    Regards

  43. Gwen
    February 24, 2014 | 7:39 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I have been reading mostly everything on here ( even all the comments) and i already did the NC rule for more than 30 days now. Well to get to the situation first… me and my bf were dating for 6 months and we had a long distance relationship (we saw eachother 2 weeks every month). We always got along really well, had the same mindset and even when we had little fights, we always were like it never happened a few hours later. After 5 months when i last visited him and everything was still fine, he still told me he loves me and showed me that he loves me, when i left and went back home he started ignoring me all of a sudden….after around 2-3 weeks i made a terrible mistake, just to see if he cares, i told him a lie ( i said some dude whos in love with me since 2 years was with me at a party , when he wasnt there) because i wanted to find out if he still cares….of course he got really mad at me after he found out and ignored me for about 3 days and then came back to me saying he would forgive me this once….after that it got into an up and down. At one day hed ignore me on other days we would talk like nothing ever happened. At one point when i felt really frustrated i asked him if we could talk and without even letting me say anything he said – i cant take it anymore, the feelings are gone- im a really emotionl person so i cried and begged for him back (i know i shouldnt have done that now) he said he still cares though and he still wants to be friends and for us to talk casually like friends do. Two days later he offered me to be his sex friend. I declined telling him if he wants to have sex he has to take the whoe package not just my body. After that he stopped talking to me. And i heard of the no contact rule so i didnt message him either or anything.At first he still send me a few links of funny things without saying anything to it. But after awhile he stopped messaging me completly.3 days ago I send him a casual message like you said to do after the NC rule. He replied with a one word answer and again never texted me or anything…

    Im not sure what i should do now…The NC rule was so hard to pull off and now it doesnt seem to work at all…it breaks my heart over and over again seeing him online or have our friends we both share talk about him. I still act happy and if i wouldnt care at all. Not letting them know i still miss him like crazy and would do anything to get him back and be able to spend more time with him and feel that lovely feeling he used to gave me. My hopes are fading away and i am not sure if its even possible for me to get him back at all.

    So i hoped mabe you could give me some advice on what to do.

    • admin
      February 25, 2014 | 6:39 pm

      Have you read my latest guide too?>

      • Gwen
        February 25, 2014 | 9:16 pm

        You mean version 2.0? yes i read it and i also read the LDR guide.

  44. Bellai
    February 24, 2014 | 1:32 pm

    Hi Chris,it actually was the one who kind of let go of things between me and my guy because he was going to be busy with his full time job and starting college. Told me he’d see me less like twice every once or two weeks. So I made a decision and told him its better we stopped it as much as I love you I want you to completely focus on job and especially school…he then asked again and said he’d still be Able to see me 1 or twice and I told him the same thing though its hard for me but I wanted what’s best for him.Anyhow we did contact for a week, so I basically the first to text him after a week. The thing is he did not reply,since last night,I am not sure why..he probably doesn’t want to do anything with me anymore? Please tell me what I did wrong. Thanks Chris

    Reply

  45. Bellai
    February 24, 2014 | 1:30 pm

    Hi Chris,it actually was the one who kind of let go of things between me and my guy because he was going to be busy with his full time job and starting college. Told me he’d see me less like twice every once or two weeks. So I made a decision and told him its better we stopped it as much as I love you I want you to completely focus on job and especially school…he then asked again and said he’d still be Able to see me 1 or twice and I told him the same thing though its hard for me but I wanted what’s best for him.Anyhow we did contact for a week, so I basically the first to text him after a week. The thing is he did not reply,since last night,I am not sure why..he probably doesn’t want to do anything with me anymore? Please tell me what I did wrong. Thanks Chris

  46. Thalya
    February 24, 2014 | 3:35 am

    Hi Chris,

    So I have done the NC rule for a little more than 30 days now. Hasn’t been easy of course but he never contact me during. Just yesterday my grandmother passed away and I posted it on my FB. I still have him as a friend so he saw it and texted me how sorry he was for my loss and if theres anything I need, to let him know. I texted him back saying thank you and just to keep her in prayers, thats all I ask (since I don’t want to sound too out there) and he texted me back saying he will. I texted him back saying my family and I appreciated his words and he texted back. Don’t want to make this long for you Chris…so we texted like 2 or three more till he stop texting me. I haven’t heard since then. I’ve been tempted to contact him but I don’t want to mess it up or him ignoring me. I know it doesn’t hurt to try but I am scared. I see he has been snapchatting a certain girl he works with and makes me think if he has moved on…what should I do Chris? I’ve read enough of your blogs but now am questioning myself.

    • admin
      February 24, 2014 | 6:44 pm

      Am I the only one who hates snapchat?

      I seriously hate that thing.

      Don’t worry about him snapchatting some girl. She could just be a friend.

  47. melly
    February 24, 2014 | 1:50 am

    Hi Chris, just wondering how long should we text our ex from 1 text to another (from first text to good old times’ text)?

    • melly
      February 26, 2014 | 11:03 am

      I’ve got another question as well beside the length between each text (my first comment); what if there’s no romantic movie coming up in the cinema? any other choice for movie type?

  48. Heartbroken
    February 23, 2014 | 2:02 am

    Me and my boyfriend were together for 15 months. We have been through so much together and had always stayed together through every single obstacle we encountered and stayed together through every crazy fight because we were so inseparable and unbreakable. We would never even go 3 hours without talking and talked every second of the day for the 15 months we were together. The day the “breakup” started, we got in a fight, and he ignored me for the whole entire day until the very next day, although I was crying so much and was depressed and skipped school and couldn’t eat and cut myself, he still did not care. When he finally texted me back he told me he was just not the relationship type of guy anymore, and that his feelings for me weren’t the same anymore. That day I stayed home from school and waited for him to pass my house when biking home from school, and my mom saw him and made him come in. He was very mad at me and told me to move on and I was crying my heart out. He knew I was so hurt and that night we talked things out finally after me begging for another chance. The next day things went back to normal and he biked to my school afterschool like usual(we go to different schools now because he got expelled) Things were going good I guess and we had lunch and then he started getting silent for a very long time, I knew what he was thinking, when we were walking home, I finally cried and said “You don’t love me anymore huh you don’t feel the same anymore” and he had to be honest with me and said that he didn’t feel the same anymore and was thinking about it all day and didn’t want to hurt me so he pretended to want me again but he said he couldn’t pretend anymore. Ever since that we still talked but not as much and I was so depressed and couldn’t even eat and skipped school and that continued for 2 more days and then I just stopped texting him hoping he would miss me. And he still never said a word and it’s been a whole day. That’s crazy because we never go 3 hours without talking so it’s very hard for me. He broke up with me. He said he doesn’t want to be in anymore relationships until he is out of highschool, he doesn’t seem sad and is enjoying his single life being free. He’s been adding girls on facebook and instagram while I’m suffering missing him so much. Do you think we will get back together? He said he still wanted to be friends but when I stopped texting him he stopped texting me too. If i do the no contact rule will he miss me and want me back? Its so hard to not text him

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