I can’t tell you how many clients I work with who literally tell me their ex has blocked them on everything.

If you find yourself in this situation then rest assured that you have come to the right place.

Today I am going to pull back the curtains and show you how to get your ex to unblock you. I am going to do this by showing you success stories of women who’ve been unblocked by their exes.

Also, if you read this article in it’s entirety I am going to tell you the story of what one of my clients had to do to get unblocked by her ex.

What she did was so brilliant that I’ve started recommending it to anyone within earshot.

Let’s begin!

Help! My Ex Blocked Me On Everything

There are really three things that I’d like to cover in this article.

  1. Understanding the difference between a partial block and a full out block.
  2. What success stories can teach us about getting an ex to unblock you
  3. What one of my clients had to do to get her ex to unblock her

Seems pretty straightforward, right?

It’s not.

These three topics will give us a lot to unpack.

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Tip #1: The Partial Block Vs. The Full Out Block

Believe it or not but there are two types of categories that being blocked can be divided into.

  1. The Partial Block
  2. The Full Out Block

It always shocks me how many people fail to understand which of these categories they fall into.

Here’s a quick rundown of what each of these mean.

The Partial Block = A situation where your ex has blocked you ALMOST everywhere.

To date, these are the most common ways people communicate with their exes.

  • Texting
  • Phone Calls
  • Facebook Messanger
  • Instagram
  • Snapchat
  • WhatsApp
  • Twitter
  • Tinder
  • Email

And I’m probably forgetting a big “social media platform” but I think you get the picture.

“The partial block” assumes that your ex has blocked you on almost every single platform but they’ve left one small way of getting in contact.

I’d estimate that close to 80% of the clients I work with fall into the category.

The second category is a little more difficult to deal with.

The Full Out Block: Takes a situation where your ex has blocked you EVERYWHERE

Scary, right?

But perhaps nothing is as frightening as what I’d like to talk to you about next.

False Positives With Partial Blocks

If you didn’t already know, all of the clients I work with get access to a special private support group.

(They get extra goodies essentially. )

To date, there are a little over 2,000 members in the group.

Each has gone through a breakup and are there to support you throughout your journey.

Anyways, a few weeks ago I stumbled across this really interesting comment from one of my members,

Essentially what she was saying is that she was curious how the iPhone handled “blocked messages.”

So, she had a friend block her and then she proceeded to send a message to her friend to see how the message behaved.

Predictably, her friend didn’t receive the message.

Unpredictably, her iPhone considered the message “delivered.”

You might be familiar with this language here when you send successful messages.

Turns out you can’t rely on this 100% of the time.

So, how are you supposed to determine if your ex has blocked you via text message.

Honestly, my best piece of advice here is to combine two concepts.

  1. Time
  2. Responsiveness

If a lot of time goes by with your ex not being responsive at all then it is probably a clear indicator that you are blocked.

What is a good time frame to go on?

Honestly, it depends on a lot of factors.

I’d say trust your gut.

Tip #2: What Successes Teach Us About Getting Unblocked

Above I mentioned that I have this special support group for my clients.

Perhaps one of the biggest assets of having a group like that is I get to communicate with people using my program all at once.

I also get to see a lot of success stories.

So, in preparation for this article I decided to look through the group in the last year for success stories when it came to getting unblocked.

My only goal was to determine if I could find any kind of consistency or through line I could use to teach you.

In all, I was able to find seven unblocking success stories.

Unblocking Success Story #1

Lesson Learned = Her ex admitted to unblocking her from time to time to check on her. This might indicate that exes seem to put up a “cool” front so that they look fine on the outside when they aren’t on the inside.

Unblocking Success Story #2: 

Lesson Learned= Be patient apparently.

Unblocking Success Story #3:

Lesson Learned= This particular person has something really interesting to say. Her ex blocked her on Facebook but that didn’t stop her from going out and having a good time. Upon our advice she posted the pictures on Facebook and a week later she gets unblocked.

This would seem to indicate that even if you are blocked your ex still pays attention to your photos.

Unblocking Success Story #4: 

Lesson Learned: This person did something interesting. She determined that she was blocked pretty much everywhere except email. So, if you were paying attention above you’d notice that she would be categorized as a “partial block”

After a few months of communicating through email unblocking became natural.

Unblocking Success Story #5: 

Lesson Learned: This one was inconclusive because she didn’t provide enough data.

Unblocking Success Story #6: 

Lesson Learned: Again, this one isn’t conclusive from an “unblocking” standpoint but she did have something interesting to say from her historical experience when it came to dating.

In her experience exes tend to block you because they are “lashing out.”

She also seems to imply that getting an ex to unblock you is simply a matter of riding it out.

Unblocking Success Story #7: 

Lesson Learned: This woman seems to come down on the side of patience. She states that it is usually only a matter of time before you are unblocked.

Recap Of Lessons Learned

If you are anything like me then you are probably a fiend for connivence and want all of what I just jotted down in one simple place for you to glance at.

Consider this to be your “unblocking” cheat sheet.

  • Exes have admitted to “unblocking” you temporarily to see what you are up to
  • They will pay attention to you on Facebook even when they have you blocked
  • Posting pictures of you going out and having a good time is a good idea
  • If you are in a “partial block” make sure you use your other means of communication
  • One of the primary reasons exes will block you is because they are “lashing out”
  • Patience seemed to be important
  • If you want long enough without doing anything “crazy” your ex can unblock you

Tip #3: The Brilliant Tactic One Of My Clients Used To Get Unblocked

I can’t take credit for this particular tactic even though I’d like to.

For this one I’ll have to nod to my client and thank her for letting me recommend it to you.

Here’s the background.

My client was in a situation where she was in a “partial block.”

She was able to communicate with her ex via text messages but she was blocked completely on Facebook.

Unsure of how to start a conversation with him on how to get him to “unblock her” she decided to do something brilliant.

Her ex was a big fan of the Miami Dolphins.

For those of you overseas that is a football team.

Anyways, Let’s consider her ex a Miami Dolphins super fan.

She happened to be at one of the games and took a bunch of pictures with friends.

Naturally she posted the photos on Facebook and was sure that he’d love to see them. She was literally about to send the pictures manually over text message when she got an idea.

She sent him this text,

This subtly confronted the “blocking” issue and since he was such a super fan he was forced to unblock her to see the pictures.

You see, the brilliant part of this strategy doesn’t lie in the execution but the carrot.

The only reason this worked for her was because she tempted her ex with something she knew he was passionate about.

This wouldn’t have worked if she tried to entice him with ballerina pictures.

The greater the carrot the greater the chances of being unblocked become.

4 thoughts on “My Ex Blocked Me On Everything”

  1. Han (Ann)

    December 4, 2018 at 2:54 pm

    Hi Chris!
    I’m Han (Ann) from Vietnam, I once told you about my relationship with a Swiss man on your article “Should you ever apologize to your ex boyfriend?” (When, How and If you should apologize your ex boyfriend). I did no contact right after when I sent him an apology text: ”Hi (his name), it’s me , Han from Vietnam. How are you going? I want to be sorry for improper things I said to you during the time you were in Philippines”, straight more than 1 month, no text, no call, but I had to use facebook because of my job’s requirement so basically I think he still saw me online. Since when I quit the job last month, I’ve rarely used facebook and been online. But at the end of November, I sent him a text (the “Feeler Text”) to feel it out and see how he would respond: “Hi, I know we haven’t talked in a while but I was thinking about you recently, and was wondering how you’re doing”, Facebook messenger indicated that he had seen the message but he kept silent, I don’t know if he saw it and ignored it, or he absolutely blocked me on Messenger (I’m not really good at Facebook savvy anyway), but since it’s just a feeler text, so it’s okay to me if he ignored it. As your advice on the article “What to do when the no contact rule doesn’t work”, I stopped texting him and waited for 1 week, and sent him a Memory Text: “Hey, I just got a nightmare and can’t sleep now. Suddenly remember when we talked at first, I got a nightmare and you were with me, felt much much better and thank you a lot. Just let you know. Hope you’re doing okay”. I sent him this message right when I actually got up after a nightmare, I saw him online and decided to reach out to him by the message. Again, Facebook messenger indicated that he had seen it and he kept silent. I read the most recent article on your blog about Partial Block and Full Out Block, I don’t know if I got blocked by him, I use an app named “Who deleted me?” to see if he unfriends or blocks me on Facebook (we comunicated only via Facebook), I see that we’re still friends, so I hope that he just ignores my text simply. I’m applying no contact for next 2 weeks, but I don’t know I should do it or anything else next. In fact, I read some articles on this Blog of yours and see that one of the good things about taking an ex back is posting good photos or sharing good things on social media (Facebook, etc) to show him/her that you’re moving on very well, but… I’m kind of quiet girl so I rarely share anything on social media… So, can you please give me some hints for my problem? Could I continue reach out to him step by step? Or do I have to stop? Please help me.
    Thank you.


    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      December 5, 2018 at 12:26 am

      Hi Han! My advice is to dig deep into my 485 page Guide, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” as it can help you so much more on tactics and step by step actions than I can here given my time constraints!

  2. Ally

    December 3, 2018 at 7:51 pm

    My ex broke up with me about 6-7 weeks ago. He’s super indecisive and is diagnosed with bipolar. I’m his first relationship (he’s almost 30), because he was never able to commit to anyone before. He said he didn’t want to be with someone he couldn’t introduce to his parents and see himself marrying. He handles conflict badly. Once we fought before and he broke up with me. I started to leave and he got on his knees and apologized and begged me to stay. We were together for about 8 months, and in the last month started fighting more. He said that he wasn’t sure it was right or if the level of fighting was normal since I was his first relationship, and he felt like he needed to go have other relationships to know if it was right. I told him I understood and that was ok. He then started crying and said he couldn’t bear to lose me. The next day, I met his mother (it had already been scheduled), and the day after, we bought tickets for an international vacation. Two or three days later, we got into another fight and he broke up with me. We talked a little after and he agreed with me that our last month of fighting wasn’t representative of our relationship, but he still didn’t think it would work. I then did No Contact. After, we texted a little, mostly to coordinate on getting my things. Otherwise, I haven’t reached out. He forgot to give me back 1 item, so we were supposed to meet this week. However, he contacted me today and said he was sorry but he just wasn’t ready. I feel like it’s not a bad sign, but I’m upset because I wanted to see him. I’m not sure what to do or what it means to not be ready?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      December 3, 2018 at 9:21 pm

      Hi Ally….not so sure if its a really bad sign…there will be twists and turns

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