If you want your ex boyfriend to miss you (after your breakup) then you definitely came to the right place. You will find that my site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery is a lot different than the rest of my peers. I don’t write missing my ex articles for the sake of writing articles. In fact, I would say that I don’t write articles at all.

In this case, I am going to be writing a manifesto (if you will!), that is aimed at helping you figure out ways to make your ex boyfriend miss you in the most wonderful of ways.  I mean really, don’t you want your ex boyfriend thinking about you and all the things the two of you did together, hungering for a return to those times?  Don’t you want him to miss the way you look and smell and taste?

You see, this whole business of creating a longing in your ex boyfriend mind and body is largely about using clever tactics and employing psychological techniques.  To make your ex boyfriend to miss and value you more, you have to do a number of things and stick with your plan, adapting as you go along.

So as you can imagine, to succeed you need a comprehensive Make Him Miss You Guide!  That is what I specialize in.

Can I Really Do Something To Make My Ex Boyfriend Miss Me As Badly As I Am Missing Him?

Yes you can.

You can set into motion a series of events that cause your ex boyfriend to yearn to be with you again.  It’s learning those things you should and shouldn’t do that helps you get him in that mindset where he has to have you back.

You want your ex boyfriend to miss you like crazy, right?  And you want him to start missing you from the day he breaks up with you, right?  Literally, right after the break up.

You want him to to miss you so much more than he could ever imagine.

We are talking re-creating memories about all the places he and you use to frequent. You want him to think about those times and to dwell on them.  Wouldn’t you love to have your ex boyfriend dream of you constantly, fantasizing about hooking up with you?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could see visible evidence of how much your ex boyfriend misses you on Facebook as judged by his posts and his reactions to yours?

Don’t you want him to be overwhelmed with feelings for you that he cannot quiet down?  Wouldn’t you want him to fear that he is losing you and may not see you or that you are getting along just fine without him.

Shouldn’t your ex boyfriend miss kissing you, stroking your hair, holding your hand, and making love to you.

How will you pull all this off?

Because after all, you will want to create a mosaic of emotions that causes your ex boyfriend to get all worked inside, yearning to be with you.

Perhaps he is not even close to acting or thinking that way.

I mean, how do you go from a guy who says he wants nothing to do with you – that he doesn’t care if he never sees you again – to an ex boyfriend who is miserable and can’t seems to function at all because he regrets letting you go?

It can’t be easy or can it?

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Making Your Ex Boyfriend Realize Missing You Is The Worst Feeling He Has Ever Experienced

Some men are just downright stubborn.  It’s like, no matter what you do they don’t seem to notice you.  Of course, this Guide is all about the things you can do to turn your ex boyfriend’s stubbornness around and realize he misses you more than he could ever imagine.  But you need to have a plan to bring him to this reality.

This is why I write in-depth guides that will help you accomplish  specific goals.

In this case, you need to learn how to make your ex boyfriend crave to be in your presence.  You want your ex bf to realize and notice that the loss of you is tearing up his world.  You need to learn to make your ex bf realize that the absence of you in his day to day routines is almost unbearable.

As his ex girlfriend, you want your guy to realize you are a stunning catch and he made a huge error in letting you go.  You want your ex to miss you so much, that he regrets his big blunder and mistake of breaking up with you or doing those stupid things that caused you to walk away from him.

How I Can Help You With Making Your Ex Boyfriend Desperate to See You Again?

Bringing about an environment in which your ex boyfriend desperately wants you back such that his every day is filled with thoughts about you is what I specialize in!   Getting to a place where your ex bf desires you again and appreciates the value you bring to his life requires a comprehensive strategic plan.

Getting him to a place where he is miserable without you takes some effort if he initiated the break up.  But if you dumped him, half the battle is won in one sense.   But be careful about being too ambitious and unrealistic.  Be careful about asking for too much too soon.

One of my clients the other day told me,  “I want my ex to miss me and call me and  want to do everything that we use to do together.  I want my boyfriend to drive by places that remind him of us and I want it to hurt, so he remembers I am special to him. Then  I want him to get serious and commit and  learn that if he ever cheats on me again, he will never have me and will miss me forever.”

This is why I do individual coaching and write ebook.  Sometimes it take a personal touch to remove the emotions that can get in the way of our aims.  Wanting something to much and letting our emotion get in our way is almost always a losing strategy.  Sometimes it takes a lengthy book to help someone put it all together because getting back together after a  break up is really hard.

In addition to my ebooks and providing coaching services, I am extremely involved on this site.

Me and my team respond to every comment personally.  So, as long as your comment relates to the topic of making your boyfriend long for you…missing you so much that he can barely contain himself,  then you should get a response within a day.

Now, I know that’s a bit of a tall order to make good on all of that especially when you consider the state of the “get your back niche” these days. I mean, just the other day I was doing research on a forum and I saw hundreds of women NOT getting answered. But I really feel that’s what makes Ex Boyfriend Recovery different from the rest.

But Chris, My Ex Boyfriend Will Never Miss Me – He Has a New Girlfriend!

Now you may be wondering, will this help me if he already has a girlfriend?  You might be wondering if it’s a lost cause if your ex has gone out and found himself a new woman.  You are probably worrying there is no way my ex boyfriend will miss and be thinking about me.   You may think,  “He is with her now.  I am in his past and am just an old, forgotten memory.”

Well, I am hear to tell you there are a lot of ways to make your ex boyfriend miss you if he has a new girlfriend.

You might also be wondering, “will my ex boyfriend start missing all of our times together if I just ignore him?  The short answer is that even in circumstances in which you do little or nothing, guys are wired to revisit that which they no longer have.

But there are many ways you can turn the screw to make him obsess over you more than he could ever imagine.  Yes, you may feel somewhat miserable these days.  But if you and your ex are like most couples, your boyfriend is likely to be mirroring your emotions and missing you far more than you realize.

Are You Ready To Make Your Ex Realize He Needs You and  Should Appreciate What He Has Lost!

So we are going to give you a game plan.  And it starts with 15 ideas on how to make your ex boyfriend realize what he has lost in giving you up.  The plan here, going forward, is to help your ex boyfriend realize and understand that he needs you.

The idea is to do a number of things to help your guy realize your real worth and value.  When it is all said and done, you want your ex to appreciate so much more about you and realize he misses you dearly and loves you.

That is what it is going to take.  To help make this happen, you need to be devoted to following a Plan of Action that will not just create these feelings in your ex boyfriend, but you also will need to be devoted to your own self recovery needs.

Self-Healing and looking at things realistically and pragmatically is important.  This plan may work.  Then again, it might not and you have to be focused on your future paths.  Either way, you can be happy.

15 Ways To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You Instantly So It Hurts!

OK, I know some of you out there are looking for quick answers.  You are moving fast (I really want you to slow down!) through all these emotions of the break up and all you can think of is I want my boyfriend to regret he left me.  You may be thinking,  “he was so crazy to let me go and I want him to miss me so much he will never want to let me go again.”

For those of you who are thinking this way, please read this whole Guide!  It will do you wonders.  But if you have absolutely have to have my Top 15 ways to make that boyfriend come to his senses and realize he is blowing it, then dig right in because you are going to find some excellent ideas on how to proceed.

1. Don’t Think Your Ex Boyfriend Will Miss You Instantly

For whatever reasons, you and your boyfriend split up and there is going to be a lot of emotions flying around like tears, anger, resentment, jealousy, disgust, confusion, etc.  You and your ex are wading into the deep waters of break up chaos.  So if you have an expectation that he is going to regret everything he had done and come running back to you, think again.  It takes time for those feelings of longing and wanting and needing you to take form.  And it seldom takes full form unless you are doing something to move it along.

2.  Have You Heard of Radio Silence (or No Contact)? It Will Help You Set The Terms of the Break Up and Lead Him Back To You

When the relationship dissolves away, you can’t be waiting around doing nothing hoping and thinking, “I wish my ex boyfriend would want me again”.  You have to move forward and part of this process is called the Radio Silence Principle.  Others call it implementing No Contact To Make Him Miss You.  But in reality, stopping communications is much more than just ending contact.  It’s about finding a way back for yourself. It’s getting over your own pain and standing on your own two feet so you will be stronger for tomorrow and all the days to follow.  That is the front end of the process.  On the back end is the part which you set certain things in motion to make your ex boyfriend miss these little memories of you and he.  It’s about making your ex bf learn that what he thinks he wants, is far from what he will ultimately want.

3.  Your Ex Boyfriend’s Mind Will Wander Back To Those Times He Was With You Because of Psychological Reactance.

That’s right!  He will be drawn to you and come to desire you because while your are practicing the No Contact (Radio Silence) Rule, your ex’s mind will conspire against him.  Why?   Because psychologically, men (and women too), when confronted with losing something, will seek to get it back.  He will be almost mysteriously drawn to you after awhile, not just because he is missing you, but because through the No Contact Rule that you are practicing, you are in effective depriving your ex boyfriend of something that he thinks was his and could always have.  But now the routines have changed and you are not there and readily available as before.  But the deep drive within him, which has been conditioned through many months or  years of experience with you, will, like an invisible hand, pull him to toward you, wanting to be with you.

4.  Make Your Ex Boyfriend Go a Little Nuts With Some Well Timed Jealousy Ploys!

I know.  I shouldn’t be telling you this and it seems a little manipulative, but it works or it can work provided you don’t go overboard trying to make your ex boyfriend jealous out of his mind!  A little bit of jealousy can go a long ways.

5. Draw In Your Ex Boyfriend By Using Social Media Tactics

It’s not too difficult to figure out what to do here.  Or perhaps it is.  For example, some of my clients inform me they have blocked or shut down all access to their exes, preventing them to know a thing about their lives.  They tell me, “he will no longer be able to see or follow me on Facebook“.  No more texts or phone calls, they will brag. That will teach them, they tell me.  I almost always advise them to do the opposite.  Keep those communication channels wide open and flowing because you can use them in hundreds of ways to leave them little reminders about how amazing and wonderful you are.  So if you want your ex boyfriend to miss you like never before, then learn the art of leveraging your Social Media accounts to help shape your ex boyfriend’s emotions and image of you.  Social media is an enabler and will help you drive home the points you want him to see and hear.

6. Get Your Ex Boyfriend To Notice You With Someting Naughty and Suggestive

So if you are thinking that I want you to send him some nude images or show up at your ex boyfriend’s door half naked, think again!  I believe in the notion that “less is more”.  So I would advocate you do some little things that you know from your personal experiences with your ex is something he will sorely miss.  It could be a certain way your wear your hair or a certain outfit that he loves you in. It could be the sound of your voice or the manner in which you smile during certain special moments. These things are what turns him on and makes your ex boyfriend think wistfully about certain sexual or romantic experiences the two of you had together.  Whatever it is, I want you to think of it in terms of images, words, video, and sounds (audio).  Then give these things to him in as many ways as you can think of so that he sees you, hear you, or read about your story, causing these memories and feeling to come flooding back.

7.  Consider Starting a Little Whisper Rumor That Will Make Your Ex Boyfriend Ache For You.

So what you want to do here is start up a little rumor that you know will get back to your ex.  You want him to hear about it and it should involve you. It could be something about you dating.  It could be about you possibly moving away.  It could be about you going somewhere exotic.  Maybe you are going on a thrilling hot air balloon ride.  But the idea here is he will hear that you are going off on some kind of exciting adventure, the kind of thing the two of you use to do together, but now he is left out.  Chances are that some part of  your ex boyfriend will be craving to be with you and he will have all kinds of regrets he is not part of this experience you are about to have.

8. Pull On Your Ex Boyfriend’s Heartstrings By Taking a Picture of Yourself At a Place Where You Both Shared Something Special

This is a simple, but clever way to have your ex associate a positive experience he and you had in the past, with what you are doing now.  This tactic is almost guaranteed to get your guy’s head spinning with a desire to relive it with you.

9. Play the “I Just Happen To Be Here Game” With Your Ex

You know how this works.  It always works.  Even when your ex knows you are showing up on purpose to cross paths with him.  Of course, the idea is to not make it look obvious, but actually create this moment where your ex boyfriend and you are in the same space.  You will have the advantage because you would have planned it and therefor will know what you want to do and what you will be wearing.  By the way, you will be looking fabulous and you will make sure your ex boyfriend notices it all.

10. Try Playing The Ex Back Game of the “Accidental Call”

Now in this case, the butt call or whatever excuse you use to explain why he is getting this accidental call will be so well planned that he will actually fall for it.  And unlike most novices who play this game, you will be super nice, apologize for the unintended interruption, then hang up, all in less than 5 seconds.  Yep.  You gotta keep it short to sell it.  What you are trying to do here is simply leave your ex a little breadcrumb.  A little piece of the wonderful you, for him to think about all the rest of the day.

11. Turn Yourself Into the Ungettable Girl With a Whole New Makeover

In this case, you want to make yourself look almost entirely different in the most beautiful way.  Then you want to post pics and work toward running into him or whatever it is you can accomplish so he notices the new “you”.  Your ex boyfriend will probably have secret fantasies of being with this new “you” and making love with this entirely new girl, that is you.  Of course, none of those things are going to happen, at least not for some time, but you are leaving him another breadcrumb that leads right to his weakness….unfulfilled desire.

12. Accept a Date With a Guy, Preferably Somebody Your Ex Boyfriend Knows

If you want to make him a little crazy with jealousy, then go on a date and make sure he knows about it and sees a pic.  Keep it all very tasteful and classy, but the image of you with another guy is sure to get the fires going inside your ex.

13. Remember to End Your Conversation With Your Ex Bf When It Reaches Its Peak

At some stage, you and your ex bf are going to start talking again.  Whether that be text messages or phone calls (or both), you need to read up in my ebook (Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro) how you should end your conversation with him when it reaches its peak.  Leave your ex boyfriend wanting more of you.

14. Go With a Friend To a Far Away Place

Not only will this help you with your own healing and recovery, but make sure your ex knows that you are embarking on a trip.  He might be a tad jealous that he is not going with you.  Let’s say you are going on a River Cruise somewhere.  Talk about it on Social Media.  Make sure he gets the news.  Let it all sink in into his mind.  Part of him is likely to wish he was with you.  Be so bold to even reach out to him a few days before you leave, wishing that he could come along because he is “so good” at this or that (compliment him).  Buttering up your ex boyfriend like this leaves him little room to be resentful toward you and opens the door for him to miss you like crazy while you are on this grand adventure.

15. Speak To Your Ex Boyfriend Through Videos – But Not Really

So the idea here is you want to be able to convey things about you and how your are getting along without your ex, so he can see visual reminders and proof that all these wonderful qualities about you are still there and he can’t enjoy them in person.  He will miss you terribly because he can’t touch you or talk to you, but there you are in the video.  This is probably best accomplished on your favorite Social Media page.

Before We Proceed Deeper Into This “Make My Ex Bf Miss Me” Guide – Time to Meet My Team!

So let me first tell you about my system. We have a whole team dedicated to upholding our “motto,” if you will.

What’s our motto?

That everyone who comes to the site to read, watch, or comment should be helped and attended to.

Oh… how rude of me.

Perhaps I should introduce you to “The Ex Recovery Team.”

team members

Now, throughout this article you may notice that a few of our team members chime in and offer little tidbits of advice on top of the advice that I am dishing out. Don’t be alarmed by that.

You are still learning from me, Chris Seiter, it’s just that I always think five heads are better than one.

But perhaps I shouldn’t get too touchy feely here. You are here for a reason after all and that reason is to make your ex boyfriend miss you.

So, since you are inquiring about how you can make your ex miss you this page is going to be focused solely on that. So, without further ado, I give you the method in which you should employ to make your ex miss you.

17 Lessons On Making An Ex Boyfriend Miss You – Unraveling The Break Up Puzzle!

You are here to learn more details about how to make an ex boyfriend miss you, right?

Indeed, over the course of the rest of this Guide, I am going to walk your through 17 Lessons on how you can optimize your chances.

If you are here, then I am going to assume that you want your ex boyfriend back. After all, why else would you want to make him miss you?

(Well, I suppose getting revenge on him is an answer here but lets just assume that, that isn’t the reason you want to make him miss you.)

The thinking goes a little like this,

“If I make him miss me then eventually he will realize that he wants to be back in a relationship with me.”

So, lets do a little role playing here and assume that you end up taking the advice I teach on this page to heart and successfully make your ex boyfriend miss you.

Do you think he will come back?

Do you think making him miss you alone will be enough?

Unfortunately no…

Don’t get me wrong, you will absolutely have to make your ex miss you if you want any chance of winning him back but it isn’t going to be enough alone.

Think of it like a puzzle.

In order to get your ex boyfriend back, desiring to be with you, hungering to be in you presence, you need to put the entire puzzle together.

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However, simply getting your ex boyfriend to miss you is essentially like trying to put a puzzle together with just one piece.

It’s impossible.

But that’s why you need a reference guide to teach you to put all the pieces together. So, The Ex Recovery Team and I have put together an entire book for doing just that.

It’s called,

Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO

Think of it like the ultimate step by step game plan for getting your ex back. It takes you through the process from start to finish. It gives you all the puzzle pieces and covers just about every situation you can think of.

Seriously…

Take a look at the situations we cover in PRO,

  • You Cheated
  • They Cheated
  • You Cheated On Each Other
  • Long Distance
  • Being Blocked
  • He/She Has A New Girlfriend/Boyfriend
  • If You Slept With Them
  • Engagement
  • If They Are In The Army
  • If You Have A Child Together
  • If You Have Been Friend Zoned
  • How To Get Them Back After A Long Time Apart (1 Yr +)
  • They Broke Up With You
  • You Broke Up With Them
  • If You Work With Them
  • If Your Ex Just Got Divorced
  • If You Just Got Divorced
  • Getting Your Husband/Wife Back
  • If You Think You Were The Rebound
  • If They Were On The Rebound
  • What To Do If They Are Married
  • What If There Is An Age Gap
  • If You Are Pregnant (Women Only)
  • What If Your Girlfriend Is Pregnant (Men Only)
  • On Again/Off Again

But you are probably getting bored of hearing me talk about Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO aren’t you? After all, you did come here to make your ex boyfriend back, right?

Well, then lets get right to it.

I give you the Ultimate Guide For Making An Ex Boyfriend Miss You.  It consists of 17 Lessons and it’s time for you to study up.

Please enjoy it! Oh, and one thing we are really good about here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery is answering people’s questions. So, if you have any type of question about the process I am about to teach you feel free to ask us in the comments section of this article.

Lets dive in!

Lesson 1: You Have A “Missing” Advantage Already Over Your Ex Boyfriend!

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One of the things that I have always found fascinating when it comes to researching breakups is the scientific data that I come across. You see, I am one of those people who is low on faith.

Faith = Believing in something without seeing it.

And perhaps that’s a little strange for the profession that I have chosen since a lot of getting an ex back is all about believing in an outcome that hasn’t occurred yet.

Nevertheless, I think it would be wrong of me to try to teach you something without having proof it works which is why I find the scientific research done on breakups so fascinating.

So many insights can be derived from them.

Take The Brain Study As An Example…

Did you know that science has proven that after a breakup you experience the same type of feeling that a drug addict would feel if he/she was going through a withdrawal period?

In 2005, psychologist Art Aron, neurologist Lucy Brown, and anthropologist Helen Fisher all teamed up to do an interesting study on individuals who had just recently gone through a breakup.

They decided to have the individuals put a brain imaging tool on and then showed them pictures of their ex.

The scientists were trying to determine what was happening in the brain of the people who just went through the breakup.

The results were shocking.

The part of the brain that lit up was the same part of the brain that is commonly present in drug addicts who are going through withdrawal.

So, I guess it’s true what they say.

Love is a drug!

But one simple study probably isn’t enough to sway your opinion, huh?

Ok, lets dive in a little deeper and look at the interesting world of “Facebook Creeping”

Lesson 2: The Facebook Creeper Statistic – A Sign Your Ex Can Be Irresistibly Drawn To You!

GUILTY!

I have done this.

Hell, I think everyone does this after a breakup. It’s human nature to be curious about what your ex is up to post breakup. I remember in my circumstance with my most recent ex I would think to myself,

Screen Shot 2016-02-17 at 2.36.41 PM“I wonder if she is depressed… I bet she is. Let me look and find out.”

And ever since Facebook was invented it has become the ultimate tool for spying on on ex. Just ask Veronika Lukacs who conducted the study as part of her Media Studies Masters thesis, in which she looked at how many people have admitted to “Facebook Creeping” on an ex.

Now, if you don’t know what “Facebook Creeping” is it’s actually quite simple.

Facebook Creeping = Spying on an exes Facebook profile after a breakup to see what they are up to.

You won’t believe how many people admitted to creeping on their exes Facebook.

Nearly 90%!

(Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/28/nearly-90-percent-of-people-creep-facebook_n_1687424.html)

That’s incredible.

You realize what that means, right?

Well, it means that there is a nearly 90% chance that your ex boyfriend is going to come strolling by your Facebook profile assuming you are still friends there.

That’s amazing.

But again, I still feel this incredible need to provide you with overwhelming statistics before I specifically talk about the advantage you have.

Lesson 3: The Overwhelming Statistics Are In Your Favor

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Did you know that 71% of people claim that they think about their ex too much?

Now, does that necessarily mean that if your ex falls into the 71% category that he is going to be missing you?

No, remember, this statistic is basically just saying that 71% of people think about their exes too much. It doesn’t dive too deep into what he is thinking when he is missing you.

He could be thinking negative things…

He could be thinking positive things…

We just don’t know.

Nevertheless, thinking about an ex too much certainly is a start towards missing that ex.

But it gets even better, 60% of people who are married or dating say that their ex is on their mind too much. So, this basically tells us that even if you are married you may still think about your ex too much.

What are my thoughts on this statistic?

Well, I think the important distinction that has to be made is if they are thinking about their ex TOO MUCH or just a little bit. I think it’s human nature to have your mind wander to the past and think about an ex.

Hell, I am sure even my own wife has had this happen from time to time but it’s not like she can turn her mind off.

No one can.

But there is a definite difference between having your mind take a small trip down memory lane and thinking about an ex all day every day.

I would be curious to hear what people defined as thinking “too much”

Oh, and in case you are wondering where I got these statistics, the Yahoo Dating section!

Now I want to talk about your “Big Advantage”

Lesson 4: The Big Advantage That You Have Over Your Ex Boyfriend Is You Are Learning About Break ups!

I got pretty darn boring just now and threw out a bunch of statistics for you. The statistics were meant to prove one thing.

What The Statistics Prove = That even after a breakup, without you doing anything, your ex is thinking about you way too much

So, if your ex is thinking about you too much then you can ultimately use that to your advantage, right?

That’s your big advantage when it comes to making a man miss you. As a default, he is already thinking about you too much. So, that puts you in a pretty good place because many of you will find that it’s not going to take too much to get him to miss you.

Now, does that mean that it’s easy to make a man miss you?

Absolutely not.

There are a lot of factors involved.

But here is my vision.

Right now your ex bf, as a default, is thinking about you too much,

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Now, imagine if you took an ex who was thinking about you too much and coupled it with a professional’s strategies,

My strategies

Making him miss you should be a piece of cake, right?

Well, there is still one more thing that I think we need to cover before I can give you the strategy you should implement and this is something that is going to be important for you to understand because it’s going to directly affect your chances for making him miss you.

Lesson 5: The Number One Factor That Determines Whether He Misses You Or Not

Let’s role play.

Lets pretend that in your entire life you have only dated two men.

Man One – Was the great love of your life. He treated you like a queen, made you feel butterflies and as you were dating him you would often think to yourself, “I think he may be “The One.””

Man Two- You also loved Man Two but he did not treat you so well. Your entire relationship, while electric was full of fights. Man Two had a bad habit of putting you down and making you feel bad about yourself.

So, lets assume that you have broken up with both of these men.

Screen Shot 2016-02-17 at 2.42.07 PMWhich one do you think you are more likely to miss?

Man One, right?

Why?

Because he treated you like a queen and your overall relationship with him was better.

And that brings me to my ultimate point.

Without a doubt the number one factor that determines whether a man will miss you or not is always going to be your past relationship with him.

Now, I am not like those other relationship experts out there that will tell you what you want to hear 100% of the time.

If you had a horrible relationship with your ex your chances of having him miss you is going to be lower. That’s just the way it is. Of course, if you had a great relationship with him your chances will be higher.

So, it works both ways.

Lesson 6: The Secret Advantage Of YOU Initiating The Breakup

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Ok, one more thing to talk about before we can start getting down to the actual strategy of making an ex boyfriend miss you.

Did you know that you have a “secret advantage” if you were actually the one to initiate the breakup with your ex?

This one is just pretty much common sense. As you know, there are usually three outcomes to a breakup.

1. He Can Break Up With You- Where your ex boyfriend actually is the one to initiate the break up.

2. You Can Break Up With Him- Where YOU actually are the one to initiate the break up with him.

3. You Both Mutually Agree To Break Up- This one is where you both break up mutually. No side strikes first.

I highlighted the “you can break up with him” choice because you will have a small advantage in making your ex miss you if you initiated the breakup.

We have already established above that you have an advantage in the fact that most people say that they still think about their ex too much but when you add in the fact that you initiated the breakup your advantage is going to be a little more distinct.

When I get to talking about the no contact rule (really soon) I am going to talk about psychological reactance.

But I suppose I can give you an early taste here since it is definitely going to apply.

Psychological reactance theory basically states that when you take away someones options to do something their attraction to gain their freedom to get that option back increases.

Think of it like this.

Lets say you are walking in the store with a toddler named Ricky (no idea why I picked that name but bear with me here.) Ricky tugs on your pants and points to a toy saying,

“I want that toy!”

You immediately say,

“No, you can’t have that toy.”

Well, now that, Ricky’s freedom to have that toy has been taken away what does he want more than anything?

The toy!

This is psychological reactance in a nutshell.

So, by breaking up with your ex you actually increase the chances that he will miss you because his freedom to have you has been taken away.

Pretty interesting, right?

Of course, there is one case where this might not work as well.

Lesson 7: The ONE Case Where You Might Not Have This Advantage

If you broke up with your ex because he cheated on you.

Cheating is one of those topics that is difficult for everyone involved (including me an impartial third party.)

“Wait, why is it hard for you?”

Easy, it’s hard because I am the one that has to come up with the game plan for putting a “cheating couple” back together. Thus, I have to do a lot of research on the topic to determine the best way to proceed.

So, like I said above, you probably aren’t going to have this secret advantage if you broke up with your ex if he cheated on you.

Why?

Because clearly something went wrong with your relationship.

Generally speaking people don’t cheat on a whim.

It’s not like a guy wakes up one day and goes,

“ALRIGHTY! Today is the day I cheat on my girlfriend.”

It’s usually a slow process that takes place over months. And for a man to cheat on you generally means that the wasn’t fully satisfied with the relationship.

Now, does that mean that he never loved you if he cheated on you?

No, Esther Perel, has dedicated pretty much her whole life to studying infidelity and she has found that oftentimes men and women who cheat are still in love with their partner. They just want more excitement in their sex lives.

Now, take that whatever way you want.

I am going to take it as if there is a fundamental problem with your relationship because in my mind a man who is fully satisfied with his relationship will be excited and engaged in his sex life with his partner.

Nevertheless, if you broke up with your ex because he cheated then you aren’t going to have this small little advantage that I am talking about.

Now lets look at the other side of the coin.

Lesson 8: The ONE Case Where You Will Absolutely Have The Secret Advantage

If you broke up with him and he didn’t want you to.

Above I established that the the secret advantage that I keep talking about heavily revolves around this idea of “psychological reactance.”

And to be honest I can’t think of situation that screams “taking a mans freedom to have you away” more than this one.

If you broke up with your ex boyfriend when he didn’t want you to break up with him then you have definitely left him with the impression that you are a very rare commodity.

It’s a bit of that law of scarcity.

You will find that the more scarce you are the more attractive you will be to men in general.

It’s the same way that diamonds are so attractive to women.

It’s the fact that they look pretty AND they are very rare.

I mean, something tells me that you wouldn’t find a diamond so attractive if you go buy it for a dollar at the dollar store.

Anyways, lets move on to the meat of this guide.

How to make a man miss you after a breakup!

Lesson 9: The “Make Him Miss You” Strategy – What Your Ex Boyfriend Doesn’t Know!

I want you to take a look at the graphic below,

strategy

Pretty straightforward, right?

“Umm Chris… no it’s not.”

Well, don’t worry. It will be because I am going to break it down for you.

The “BIG” strategy for making your ex boyfriend miss you is divided up into four different parts,

1. The No Contact Rule
2. Social Media Game
3. The “Frank Sinatra Effect”
4. Jealousy Tactics

Lets start from the top!

Lesson 10: The No Contact Rule Can Make Your Ex Bf A Little Mad With Desire!

talk to me

Throughout this site you will find that the No Contact Rule is a pretty big theme.

Hell, I even wrote an entire book about it (The No Contact Rule Book.)

But why is it such a big theme?

Why do I talk about it so much?

Screen Shot 2016-02-17 at 2.49.58 PMWell that’s easy to answer. The no contact rule is without a doubt one of the most successful strategies for getting an ex back. A few weeks ago I compiled all of my recorded success stories to try to determine any correlations that I could find between what the people who had actually won their exes back were doing that the people who were failing weren’t.

Turns out the no contact rule was present in 74% of the successes.

But to be honest I think that number is actually a lot higher than that.

Why?

Because a portion of the success stories that I had recorded didn’t give me much information.

They just said something like,

“Thanks, I got my ex back.”

Not really deep enough for me to determine what that particular person did to succeed in getting their ex back, huh?

Don’t believe me?

Ok, here is a sample of one of the “thin” success stories that I got,

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So, if you were to ask my opinion on how many of the successes used the no contact rule I would put the number closer to 90%. Whatever the case, one thing is very clear.

The no contact rule is essential if you want to get your ex boyfriend back.

But how does it make him miss you?

Good question.

In order to answer that I think we first need to define the no contact rule.

The NC Rule (No Contact Rule) is a rule that states the following:

You are not allowed to call, text, email, Facebook or Google your ex for a specific period of time. If during that “period of time” you are contacted by your ex you are not allowed to respond. The no contact rule serves three main purposes. It gives both of you a “cool off period” to calm down from the breakup, it gives you the opportunity to improve yourself during the “cool off period” and it raises the chances that he will miss you.

Sounds simple, right?

WRONG!

The no contact rule is without a doubt the hardest strategy to complete on this site.

Hell, all you have to do is visit one of my “no contact rule” pages to see just how many women are struggling with it.

But you don’t care about that do you?

No, you care about the psychology behind why the no contact rule can make an ex boyfriend miss you, right?

Ok, lets tackle that right now.

Lesson 11: Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder

I want you to ask me a question.

The question = Chris, what is the number one mistake you see people making after a breakup.

WOW, thanks for asking that amazing question 😉 .

Screen Shot 2016-02-17 at 3.18.52 PMThe number one mistake that I see people making after a breakup is begging. They beg for their exes back. The become GNATS and just stick around.

I mean, put yourself in your ex boyfriends shoes for a second assuming that you were bugging the hell out of him after a breakup with you.

Would you find it attractive if someone you didn’t have feelings for anymore was bugging you every five seconds trying to convince you to do something you didn’t want to do?

Something tells me you wouldn’t.

Now, how does this play into making an ex miss you?

Easy, a man cannot miss that which he sees every day.

One of my favorite movies of all time is “The Count of Monte Cristo.”

I know it’s kind of a weird choice when there are way more epic movies out there but for some reason “The Count of Monte Cristo.”

What can I say… I dig revenge stories.

Truthfully, I watch the movie at least once a year and you know what causes me to watch it?

Something reminds me of it and then I think to myself,

“Man, that movie was so good I miss the feeling that it gave me. Maybe I should watch it.”

But I only have that thought because I haven’t seen it in a long time. Lets say that I watched it every day for a year. I can tell you right now that at that point it wouldn’t be my favorite movie anymore. No, it would probably end up being my most hated movie. It would become stale and I would grow sick of it.

By not giving your ex a chance to miss you, via the no contact rule, you are shooting yourself in the foot.

Remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Lesson 12: The No Contact Rule Makes You More Attractive (I Can Prove It)

Have you ever heard of the notion that “people want what they can’t have?”

People want “that” which they feel should belong to them. By taking something away from them (e.g. you make yourself unavailable by not communicating), the person will be motivated to pursue.

In the world of psychology, it’s called “Psychological Reactance”. This concept emerged from the work of the American psychologist, Jack Brehm in 1966.
“Brehm argues that individuals have a set of “free behaviors” that they believe they can engage in at present or some time in the future. Behavioral freedoms vary in importance, with some being highly important because they deal with critical survival. Stephen Worchel (2004) suggested that these freedoms help define the individual’s self-identity. A threat or elimination of freedom results in an increase of attractiveness of the forbidden act and the motivation to engage in that behavior.” http://www.encyclopedia.com/doc/1G2-3045302191.html In really simple terms, when you implement the No Contact Strategy, it’s like you are secretly saying, “You can’t have me. You can’t talk to me. I am depriving you of your freedom to be with me”.

With psychological reactance in play, your Ex is secretly thinking, “I want what you say I can’t have. It should belong to me and is part of me, so I will pursue it”

Ah, and that leads the way to another little hypothesis that I have.

According to psychological reactance your ex is going to want what he can’t have. We have already established that. But lets take a trip to fantasy land (your favorite place in the world) and say that you successfully get your ex back.

I have this theory that the harder you make it for him to get you back the more he will appreciate you when he has you.

My buddies first car is an example.

I had a friend who wanted a car more than anything when he was 16 years old. So, he spent an entire summer mowing peoples yards to get money to buy this beat up chevy truck that kind of looked like this,

old beat up chevy truck

Pretty crappy, right?

Here’s the thing.

He treated that car so good and he loved it more than anything. Hell, even now he reminisces about it. But I doubt he would have treated it so well if it had just been gifted to him.

In fact, there was one time that I asked him flat out,

“Why do you like this truck so much?”

His response was simple…

“Because I had to work so hard to get it. Dude, you have no idea how hard it was to scrounge up the money to buy this thing.”

So, here is my theory when it comes to you and your ex.

The harder you make it for him to get you back the more he is going to appreciate you once he gets you back. After all, I doubt you are in this to get your ex back and break up again, right? No, you want a relationship that is going to last.

And the no contact rule can provide that difficulty for him to succeed in getting you back.

Lesson 13: Social Media Game Impact On Your Ex Boyfriend’s Psychological Mindset

(For more in-depth information on how to use social media to get your ex back check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

And now we move on to our second part of the strategy, social media,

strategy social media

Now, if you are confused as to what this is let me give you a quick history of social media.

Since the internet started… (No just kidding. I wouldn’t bore you to death with that.)

Look, here’s the deal.

Social media is an excellent way to make your ex miss you.

How?

Well, above I established that close to 90% of exes “creep” on Facebook. In other words, the probability that your ex boyfriend is going to peek at your profile at some point post breakup is high.

So, why not prepare for that moment?

Why not pimp out your profile to be everything that he finds attractive in a woman.

How To Make Your Social Media Profile Perfect

I want to tell you a funny story that happened to my wife yesterday.

So, if you don’t know my wife she is in charge of our YouTube channel and our marketing experts. In other words, if we want to get featured anywhere popular she is in charge of making that happen.

Well, one day she decided that we should be featured on “Ted Talks” so she started trying to network with some of the people over at “Ted Talks” and she managed to locate one of the person’s Facebook profiles.

So, rather than asking me to reach out directly she decided that since this person was a man it would be better if she reached out since she knows she is a very beautiful woman.

There was just one problem.

This was her Facebook profile picture,

profile picture

Now, I don’t know about you but that’s not going to make any man fall over himself. Well, except maybe me (that’s my daughter.) My wife, of course, knew this so she decided to change the picture to something really sexy like this,

ellas grove

That’s my wife in a model shoot for some clothing company named Ella’s Grove.

Anyways, what do you think happened to her after she changed her profile picture on Facebook from our child to a sexy looking picture of her.

All the men went wild (myself included.)

She was getting comments like,

comment 1

comment 2

comment 3

Ok, first off… what the fu*k?

Looks like I have to beat some people up.

COME SEBASTIAN!

We have some work to do!

sebastion

No I am just kidding…

Please don’t take that seriously.

Screen Shot 2016-02-17 at 2.57.49 PMThe point of telling you this story was to show you how powerful a picture can be. You can potentially make your ex boyfriend one of those men and show him what he is missing out on by posting strategic pictures on your social media profiles.

So, here is what I am going to do.

I am going to teach you my two best methods for catching a mans attention via social media.

1. The Profile Picture Change
2. The “Fun” Picture

Lets start with the profile picture change.

The Profile Picture Change

This is what my wife did and indirectly got all that attention from men.

Now, I am going to pick on myself a bit here.

Before I met my wife I heavily relied on good looks to attract attention. In other words, any picture I posted to Facebook looked like this,

not a good picture

Now, even though this picture isn’t bad it isn’t earth shatteringly amazing which is what I should be going for.

And then I met my wife….

The woman who forced me to get professional pictures done.

Like this,

professional pictures

Do you see the difference.

This is the kind of picture that I want you to be posting to your social media profile as your profile picture. Here is my general rule of thumb, any picture that makes you look like you belong in a magazine is definitely the one you should have as your profile picture.

So, I guess what I am saying is that you should hire a professional photographer to take your picture. Now, for those of you who don’t want to step outside the comfort zone and hire a photographer I have one piece of advice to you.

Often times it’s the things that make us step outside our comfort zone that yield the best results.

The “Fun” Picture

I have a question for you.

What do you think your ex boyfriend expecting you to do after the breakup?

He’s expecting you to mope around and be depressed.

Don’t believe me?

I remember an early breakup of mine where this is exactly what I thought.

“God I hope she is suffering.”

Pretty mean, right?

But when I would spy on her Facebook profile and see that she wasn’t depressed it would drive me nuts. I want this exact thing to unfold for you when your ex boyfriend snoops around your profile.

So, how can you accomplish this?

Easy, post pictures of yourself out having fun.

Here is a great example. Look at the picture below,

These girls like they are having fun. This is the kind of picture you want to post.

Because here is what he is going to think when he sees it,

“Wait, why is she out having fun? Why isn’t she sitting at home eating ice cream like I thought?”

Once you get him thinking that this thought is right around the corner,

“I’m kind of jealous…”

And as I am going to establish later in this guide jealousy can lead to a man missing you.

Lesson 14: The Frank Sinatra Effect

(For more in-depth information on The Frank Sinatra Effect check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

frank sinatra

One of my favorite quotes of all time comes from a man by the name of Frank Sinatra.

“The best revenge in life is massive success.”

Now, what does that have to do with making an ex boyfriend miss you?

Good question.

In order for me to answer it I first need to tell you a story. To me, teaching people to get back with their exes is my passion and in order for me to give people advice I need to understand the trends.

What works and what doesn’t work.

So, that’s why I am always keeping an eye on your comments and questions to me. But the one thing that warms my heart more than anything are the success stories!

Not just because I helped people get back together but I can learn so much from them.

Anyways, one trend that I began to notice with a lot of my success stories was the fact that the women who ended up succeeding were actually completely moved on from the break up and living successful lives.

It’s sort of like it was at this point that their ex finally woke up and saw their worth.

Hell, I even did an entire podcast about this phenomenon here.

Anyways, I kept seeing this phenomenon pop up again and again so when I did an audit of my success stories last month I learned that a lot of women who had actually completely moved on from their exes were able to get him back.

It sounds counter intuitive, right?

But maybe not.

Lets turn our attention back to psychological reactance.

By moving on from an ex boyfriend completely you are indirectly saying to him,

“You cannot have me. You have lost the freedom to have me.”

Which of course as you know, will only make him want you more.

And that’s where the Frank Sinatra effect comes into play.

I want you to “move on” without moving on if that makes any sense. I want you to live an incredible life outside of your relationship with your ex.

Here are a few of my best tips for doing this.

Lesson 15: Specific Things You Can Do To Make Him Miss You During The Frank Sinatra Effect

In this section we are going to look at a number of things that you can specifically do to make him miss you while in the midst of the Frank Sinatra Effect. I absolutely love this because these are things that are in your control.

When it comes to getting your ex boyfriend back you have to accept the fact that there are a certain amount of factors that are completely out of your control. However, when it comes to making him miss you there are a lot of things you can do that will improve your chances. Buckle up because this may get long.

Tactic 1- Get In Shape

There is nothing that can catch a mans eye like a woman who has taken care of her body. Now, I am not saying that you are fat or out of shape. I am saying that this tactic (getting in shape) will be beneficial to you in not only making your ex boyfriend miss you but it will be beneficial in helping you with future relationships (if you have them.) How effective is this tactic? Let me tell you a story. There was a girl who had a crush on me in college. Like a fool, I didn’t do anything about it because like a typical guy I wanted the girls that I couldn’t get. Anyways, this girl had a very pretty face but I am not afraid to say that she was a little… chubby and for me it took away from her looks.

Pretty shallow I know…

Well, about a year and a half later I happened to run into her. Actually, I walked right past her because I didn’t recognize her. She had lost about 35lbs and looked amazing. In my absence this mediocre looking girl had turned into a beautiful goddess. Anyways, I was walking with my buddy when she yelled my name and we started talking. After we were done talking we went our separate ways and I remember my buddy going,

“Dude she is sooo HOT why did you let that one slip through your fingers?”

I explained that she didn’t look like that back when I knew her but now that I saw this new and improved version I wanted her immediately.

So, I did everything I could to try to go on a date with her which was relatively easy because she liked me (or so I thought.)

Anyways, we set up a relatively simple date to go on at a restaurant. The plan was that we were going to meet there and we would probably go for a walk after that. There was just one problem.

She never showed up.

During the day of the date I had reached out to her to ask if we were still on (BIG MISTAKE) and got no response…. the hours inched closer to kickoff and I still hadn’t heard from her. I was starting to get worried so like an insecure guy I reached out to her again,

“Hey, are we on for tonight?”

No response..

It was starting to become clear that I was going to get stood up if I went to the restaurant but I figured I would give it one more try.

“Are you there?”

Again no response…

She didn’t want to go on a date with me.

Ironic, huh?

Karma I guess!

Tactic 2- Repeat After Me: I Do Not Care About Him

This tactic is more of a mindset that you need to have. During your no contact period (which is when you should probably be in the Frank Sinatra mindset) make sure you don’t focus on your ex too much.

Just focus on the most important thing, you.

If you were to ask me what I thought one of the biggest mistakes that I see women engaging in are I would definitely have to say that becoming to obsessed with their ex is at the top of the list.

In order to truly “move on, without moving on” you can’t be too worried about what your ex is doing. You need to be worrying about what you are doing.

I haven’t talked a lot about this yet because maybe I am trying to save something for my book. but maybe I think it’s too good to leave out.

If you really want to make the most of the Frank Sinatra effect I am going to teach you an amazing strategy. Well, perhaps strategy isn’t the right word to explain this. No, I would say this is more of a philosophy.

I like to call it…

“The Holy Trinity”

(Oh, and this is not biblical at all I promise.)

You can divide the most important aspects of your life into three categories,

HWR

  1. Health
  2. Wealth
  3. Relationships

I don’t have to explain what is comprised of the categories, do I?

Well, I will tell you what, I am just going to leave my book for that.

Basically if you want to utilize the Frank Sinatra effect to the fullest I recommend that you try to maximize these three areas of your life.

You will notice that in the graphic above there is an intersection of the three.

The intersection where all three meet.

Hmm…

Perhaps it’s better if I pointed to it for you,

HWR copy

What you are trying to do here is find a perfect balance between your health, wealth and relationships. By doing so you will jump up in attractiveness to your ex.

Trust me when I say that the “missing thing” will fall into place if you do this. It is important to remember that the two of you broke up and while you may want him back you need to understand that rome was not built in a day and you won’t get him back in a day. So, sit back and work on the holy trinity for a while.

Tactic 3- Social Life

You have two choices when it comes to breaking up with your ex. You can either

A. Let the breakup own you.

or

B. Own the breakup.

I am a guy and let me tell you that I do not find it attractive when someone, who after a breakup, sits on the couch all day and eats ice cream. In fact, that is what I expect pretty much every girl to do after a breakup. About five years ago when I broke up with my girlfriend at the time the exact thought I had was “I bet she is sitting on the couch right now crying and eating ice cream.”

Here is the kicker though, a few days later when I logged on Facebook I found that she wasn’t quite as devastated as I thought. She had posted pictures of her having fun with friends and basically having a really fun social life. While I didn’t immediately think “man, I miss her” it set me up for thinking it. Her active social life made me realize what I was missing out on and made me a little jealous and angry that she wasn’t as devastated.

Lesson 16: Jealousy Tactics Can Draw Your Ex Boyfriend To You

(For more in-depth information on how to use jealousy to get your ex boyfriend back check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

jealousy

A lot of experts will tell you to not try to make your ex jealous. I will admit that I don’t necessarily agree with them on that. If you have a chance to bring up some deep inner feelings within him then I say go for it. Of course, if you are going to use jealousy on your ex boyfriend it has to be done a specific way.

It probably won’t go over too well if he checks on your Facebook profile and sees you making out with three different guys. No, using jealousy is an art. It has to be done subtly but at the same time be obvious enough for him to pick up on it. Here are a few examples of how to properly use jealousy.

Example 1- Movie With A Male Friend

In this example I am going to show you a specific text message that is meant to make your ex a little jealous. Notice how in the example below you didn’t specify if your movie date was with a male or a female. You basically leave it up to your ex to assume if you went to see a romantic movie with a guy or a girl.

romantic movie text

Example 2- Did I See You?

This one is a little riskier but you are almost guaranteed to make your ex a little jealous which will hopefully contribute to him missing you. In this text message you are basically saying that you mistook him for a “hot guy” at a bar (or any other place you can think of.) Again, this one is risky but the reward is definitely higher.

jealousy (did I see you at)

If you want to learn more about what you can text your ex boyfriend I recommend checking out “The Texting Bible.

Lesson 17: Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Misses You Every Single Day!

I actually wrote a guide on how to tell if your ex boyfriend is still in love with you already but I thought I would give a quick recap here. After all, it might be important to figure out the signs that your ex misses you so you can determine if what you are doing is working. Below I am just going to give you a bullet point list so you can quickly reference the signs that your ex boyfriend is starting to really warm up to you.

  • If he texts you
  • If he calls you
  • If he shows up at places you frequent in a non stalker way (if it is stalker like then that is just creepy)
  • If he has multiple positive reactions when you see him in person.
  • If he keeps in touch with your family.

If something on this page or website confuses you, do not be afraid to comment in the section below. Remember, your comment, as long as it is legitimate, will be made live and I will respond to you personally as quickly as my schedule allows!

5,732 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

  1. Birtukan

    October 16, 2018 at 4:48 pm

    Hello. Me and my ex bf broke up a year ago. Since then, there were time when he contacted me and there were one time only when I contacted him first.
    He texted my name, actually by my nickname, twice but I never replied. And another time was he gave me info about school and I thanked him him for that.
    What I wanted to ask you about is what happened recently.
    It was summer and I turned off my phone because I just did not want him to text me or call me. But after two months on new year eve, he called my friend to ask her about me and he said he was worried, told her to tell me that. So why would he do that if he didn’t loved me?
    He was the one to initiate the break up saying he still love his first love and he wanted to be friends. So I said no.
    Why is he doing this? I thought you would know better because you are a guy.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 17, 2018 at 1:00 am

      Hi Birtukan!

      Not sure why he is come back to explore things. My advice is take things very slow until you can gain a better sense of his intentions and even then, its all about little steps.

  2. Ash

    October 2, 2018 at 10:55 am

    Hi, what if u were the last one to text saying don’t contact me again and they don’t contact you again lol? I haven’t heard a word in 2 weeks and I haven’t contacted him either the relationship ended over a big argument and it was a mess a 5 year relationship came to an end with no explanation really. 24 hours before we broke up he was saying he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me the. He ended it because he was unhappy and making me unhappy which to me is an excuse for the argument we had!

    Should I contact him and just get closure clear the air and show him I’m over it and not bitter? I have no closure at all it was all so sudden and if we never had that argument we would still be together now. He thinks this is for the best and that was it.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 3, 2018 at 1:27 am

      Hi Ash!

      Closure is overrated. Often guys won’t give you all the reasons. Sometimes they don’t even know themselves the real reason. Probably best to stay in no contact but practice it the way I teach in my program.

  3. zonarosa

    September 14, 2018 at 12:54 pm

    I have the difficult situation that he doesn’t use social media and it is highly unlikely that we will bump into each other, is direct contact then my only course of action? I really don’t want to bombard him with messages… any tips would be helpful, thanks.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 17, 2018 at 9:45 pm

      what about indirect contact thru other people….message in the bottle (I am serious!)

  4. TONIA

    September 10, 2018 at 7:36 am

    I enjoy visiting this site and reading the articles but I think my ex is part of the 10% who is unaffected by these tactics. He is notoriously stubborn and it’s like it’s a game of who can care the least. I’m not built that way. Feels like he will always have the advantage because of his stubbornness and unyielding temperament. He wanted to stay friends after the break up. I said no and he’s been punishing me every since. He’s dismissive of me and just downright mean. He never wanted to be in a relationship after being a bachelor for so long. I thought he’d be happy not being friends anymore. I feel like I never really knew him.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 11, 2018 at 3:25 am

      Hi Tonia!

      Well shame on him for punishing you for not wanting to be friends after he instigated the breakup. So I do think NC will work. It will help you and just about every guy eventually comes around to some extent. And if he doesn’t and continues to be belligerent, then consider it a blessing that you are finding how he behaves when there are major disagreements.

  5. Jo

    August 29, 2018 at 7:49 pm

    I have a question Chris,

    So how are you meant to make your ex boyfriend miss you, want you back if;

    1. He isn’t and never was on your Facebook. (Messenger that’s all)
    2. You never see him or would ever bump into him.
    3. He’s so stubborn, like unbelievabley stubborn. His mind is made up there seems no changing it, even though he’s told me he still cares. He believes once it’s broken that’s it (even though he messed it up)
    4. You don’t socialise with his friends or ever bump into them.

    How then can you implement any of this? I am struggling to see how getting your ex back will work at all when their mind is made up. I don’t believe he will miss me or think about me at all. It’s been 4 weeks. We’ve been in touch, went a 3 hr trip with him 5 days ago where he was acting like he wanted me back. Only for the next day to say he will never come back.! I’ve been in no contact since, so 3 days. I don’t believe he would miss me as he’s so stubborn and set in his ways. I go to the gym 3-4 times a week already, I’ve started a new high flying job and I’ve been out every weekend. I’m not sitting around crying or eating ice cream even though that’s all I want to do! It’s been a month and he’s not changing his mind.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 30, 2018 at 1:26 am

      HI Jo….yes that is challenging. I am glad you are doing things for yourself. Stick with your NC and reach out to him in the way I discuss in my program. Perhaps just the sheer number of days of NC will give him a wakeup call that he can’t continue to be stubborn to a fault.

  6. Amanda

    August 28, 2018 at 9:59 pm

    My boyfriend and I met in 2015 on a dating app and didn’t actually begin dating as a couple until a year and a half later. When we initially began seeing each other we eventually had a talk where he didn’t want anything serious and I did so I walked away (completely amicable split). He ended up reaching out to me a week or so later countless times over a month (which I responded to each time) to chat or get together, but I would hold my ground on what I wanted and eventually he claimed he didn’t want to lose me so we started hanging out again and that’s how we started our relationship. At first, he was absolutely smitten with me – introduced me to his family, asked me to move in, told me he never felt this way with anyone before and wanted to marry me and start a family; I’ll admit, this was very flattering and the feelings were mutual. I had been burned pretty bad in the past and I did a lot of work on myself getting over that relationship so as not to bring any baggage forward but I think (reflecting back) I was guarded. Long story short – things on my end got crazy: new job, back to school, another job, moving in with him, new city, my car got totalled, health issues, etc. A lot happened and my patience wore thin and I hate to admit, I took it out on him – granted, he was busy too and very absent in the time I needed him most so the neglect only fueled the fire. Eventually, he lost interest in this person I became in the months this went on, and he became a person I no longer cared for either. We lived together but we were constantly forcing change within each other to be the people we truly are and once were. We broke up after a fight, a week before all of the stress was about to drop (school for me, school for him – we are in our late 20s) but also two weeks before a trip we had planned to meet his entire family out of province – A couple days later I asked for a second chance, after a couple days he asked me to come on the trip, the trip went really well, we came home, broke up three days later. In my eyes, nothing major happened, it just seemed like bad timing and poor communication. The trip went well but when we came back we didn’t have an action plan of how to get out of our rut. He claims his feelings have changed and he no longer sees a future with me. We moved in so quickly and we jumped the gun building a solid foundation to get us through the crap we went through. We still live together as I’m trying to get my things in order to make a move but in the past couple days he has completely come around. Texting me, asking me to do things with him, cuddling with me. It’s all very confusing. He spends so much time with me and all the time spent is exactly what we both were missing when things were hectic. I don’t know why he’s acting this way but there are so many rational signs that points toward him regretting his decision. Anyhow, I’m moving out soon and once I do I’ll begin NC. Our split will be amicable (maybe to ease his guilt for leaving me, who knows) but I worry about ignoring him when he reaches out to me. I 100% understand that distance makes the heart grow fonder, and I have no problem keeping distance myself, but I know that if he reaches out, and I don’t reply, he won’t reach out again, he’ll take it as a sign that I don’t want to talk and he’ll move on. I think he likes the idea of winning me over, so I worry about ignoring him and then popping back into his life when he’s the one who ended it. If he reaches out to me in a couple weeks I just don’t know how to read into it, or if I should.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 30, 2018 at 3:32 am

      Hi Amanda!

      I think you made the right decision to begin NC. NC is adaptable. Give him a heads up that you are taking some time for yourself to heal and focus on being a better “you”. Pick up my 247 page eBook, “The No Contact Rule Book” (visit home page) as it walks you thru every angle of NC and exceptions and modifications according to your situation.

  7. Shunika Buckles

    August 21, 2018 at 10:08 pm

    My boyfriend decided we needed some “space”. I’m only on week 2 out of my relationship and I am trying so hard to abide by the NO CONTACT rule (I had to restart once so far). How do I make this work if we both have belongings at each other’s house. I don’t necessarily need my stuff but eventually he’s gonna need his from my house. It’s his work equipment.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 21, 2018 at 10:21 pm

      Take some time before trying to do the personal belonging swap. You can eventually coordinate with him to pick up his equipment and schedule it so you are not present. As far as staying with your No Contact, consider picking up my ebook, “The No Contact Rule Book” and it will help you immensely with the overall strategy of your personal recovery and the ex back strategy. Feel free to go to my home page to learn more about the tools and resources available to you.

  8. Candy McCall

    August 17, 2018 at 8:35 pm

    I was dating a guy for 2 months, long distance and everything was going great until he told me he needs to finalize his divorce and that he’s not ready for a commitment. I’ve been divorced for a year and a half and know the pain but he’s been married 23 years and separated one year. I think me pushing him to finalize the divorce put too much pressure on him. She cheated and wants him back. I think he’s confused. He did really like me but he needs to get things squared away. He asked me to give him some space to un*uck some things in his life. I’m going on day 5 of NC. think I should continue this or move on? I really care about him and would even move to his state to be with him, which is my home state. I’m so crushed by this one. We got so close since we had to communicate via phone and text. We even went on a weeks vacation together. Help!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 17, 2018 at 9:03 pm

      Hi Candy….it does sound like he is confused and is sorting thru his feelings. I do think you continue on with NC and feel free to tap into any of the resources I offer here in the form of ebooks, videos, podcasts, etc….all found on my home page!

  9. Cassie

    August 8, 2018 at 2:23 am

    Do these work even if you’ve already done literally everything you’re not supposed to? We broke up a month ago, I didn’t do the no contact rule. (Longest I went was about 11 days) and when he came around and said he didn’t want to even try again, I went nuts and blew up how phone calling and texting and begging and pleading for him. To the point that he blocked my number. I messaged him on Facebook a week later and he again just kept shutting me down saying he has no feelings for me and had lost all attraction.. is my situation hopeless?

  10. Louise

    August 5, 2018 at 9:36 am

    Your advice is fantastic however with My ex he has done nothing but act like he hates me! We have a child together and I am happy with the no contact rule however he only txts regarding our son and makes it super clear I’m not worth anything to him anymore. Might I add I am currently pregnant with our baby and very unwell so making a better me just now is a super tricky task! Any advice?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 5, 2018 at 6:41 pm

      Hi again!….sorry your ex is being so mean spirited. The time around a breakup can be hard on everyone and words and actions can get inflated. Hopefully,time and space will help settle down the emotions. But right now, your focus should be on your health, both emotional and psychical and of course your child and child to come. Be sure to draw in any needed support from family and friends to help you

  11. Jordan

    May 9, 2018 at 3:03 am

    Hey Chris! So it’s been 8 days of no contact (incredibly hard) but I have done good. I have truly been happy, meeting old friends, seeing family (even getting a pedicure with my exes sister because we are close). Well I Snapchat everything, only every few days, and lately he’s been viewing them all… well today I did a Snapchat story and he viewed them, then I friended me from Snapchat… it really hurt, but, could this mean he is missing me and seeing me enjoying life’s is difficult for him? I read some other sites that said removing an ex from social media puts things into perspective for them ( they wanted a breakup so they’re getting one)…. well I decided to delete him off Facebook; 1) because I was constantly checking it 2) because I want him to truly feel my loss… do you think he is missing me?? How long does it even take for a man to regret his decision? Also, did I do the right thing by removing him from my social media? THANK YOU!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 9, 2018 at 3:53 am

      Great job Jordan! Yes, he should miss you and your value should increase in his eyes. There are different philosophies about removing people form social media. I think its better not to, but you were experiencing hardship by not being able to not check on him. After some time has elapsed, one of your “reach out” tactics can be adding him back. Think of it as a little breadcrumb leading back to you.

  12. Tien

    May 5, 2018 at 7:26 am

    Hi Chris, I also have a question, I have a 3 year relationship with a boy and now we Have no contact with each other for 1 week , last week we had some argument about my characteristic like i usually keep control on him, he have not send message or contact with me at present, what should I do?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 5, 2018 at 11:47 pm

      Hi Tien….thanks for your question. First off…you have my ebook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro”, right? If not, go take a look at it (click on my website Menu/Products link) as it will help you a great deal in all the steps you should take to optimize your chances. Being with a boyfriend for 3 years is advantageous as it creates some traction, which serves to draw the two of our back to each other. My ebook talks in great detail about the NC process and how you should go about initiating contact if it comes to that. One week apart may seem like an eternity, but it usually takes longer for people to experience healing. Perhaps your situation will take less time, but I strong recommend you read up on the process I teach!

  13. Jordan

    May 4, 2018 at 10:47 pm

    Hey Chris! I actually have a question… my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me about a week ago. However, he left all his stuff (PlayStation, video games, his cat and even our dog). He continues to pay for dog food and told me I could use his PlayStation PLUS account and even his HULU and Netflix (I didn’t ask)… am I reading too much into this as a chance he will want to come back to me? It seems strange for him to leave so much. Should I give everything back?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 5, 2018 at 4:22 am

      Hi Jordan! I think he is keeping the line of communication and connection open. 3 years is a long time and a lot of roots established. So yes, the chance is there. Best to have a game plan as discussed in my ebooks (see my website menu/products link for more details!)

  14. Anon

    April 30, 2018 at 1:52 pm

    The most weird thing happened… We were in the same class. After 3 months of no contact i left the class because i couldn’t take it anymore. In those three months nothing affected him. I tried all the tactics. A week after i leave, he unfriended me on facebook. Why suddenly? Now it’s been a month since i left classes but he hasn’t contacted me.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      April 30, 2018 at 2:22 pm

      Hard to say what is going on in his mind. Maybe some pent-up resentment.

  15. Sylvia

    April 29, 2018 at 4:16 am

    Can these tactics work even if my ex and I live long distance, No contact for 5 mos, and he has a gf?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      April 29, 2018 at 4:40 am

      I think so Sylvia. I met and married my wife as part of a Long Distance Relationship. But your situation is admittedly more challenging. But you need a plan and an extensive guide that deals with the steps and psychology of a break up can optimize your chances. Just go take a look at my ebooks (at my website Menu/products link) and decide for yourself if any of my resources and services can help you out!

  16. Felicia

    March 22, 2018 at 3:49 pm

    My boyfriend is a self centred guy. So he wants things to be done his own way and it’s a long distance relationship . I found out that he’s been cheating on me , I didn’t say anything because we hardly see each other and he’s guy he got needs. But then we just decided to break up. This strategy will help me

  17. Carrie

    March 12, 2018 at 8:22 am

    Totally confused. What if you’ve gone through no contact twice and then after things seemed to be on the right track you get into an argument. The first time I went through no contact with my ex we didn’t speak for a year we dated other people and all. He moved out of state and we reconnected, upon reconnecting I vacationed in his city twice and we would casually hangout and when he would come home he went out of his way to see me, which led to him casually asking me to practically begging me to come visit him solo. Over the past summer I finally did so we spent 4 days together. On the 4th day I felt a negative shift in his energy towards me I tried to talk to him about it he said nothing was wrong. After him making sure I landed safely I didn’t really hear from him too much until 2 weeks later his cousin who’s marrying into my family informed me randomly that he had moved back home temporarily living with his parents. He hadn’t informed me and moved here 2 weeks after I visited. Then my dad ran into him the same day I found out at the gas station and he told him he moved but didn’t inform him I didn’t know. I felt like he ghosted me and I had quite the breakdown which he still doesn’t know about. We ended up speaking hear and their but never really talked about him not telling me he moved back. I eventually invited him to go to the movies with me which we had planned to do anyway when he came to visit next (before I knew he was moving) and he declined saying I have a full day already but thanks for the invite. I left it alone a month later he reached out we started texting and chatting on the phone and ended up hanging out which resulted in him staying over and we talked and I confronted him about how I feel about him not telling me he relocated we ended up cuddling all night and slept together the next morning. I didn’t hear from him again for awhile and when I finally did I was so hurt I decided to go no contact again to sort out my feelings. I went no contact for a few months and during the last month instead of reaching out sporadically he went full speed ahead texting calling dm’s on social media and I responded to none of it up until I was ready to reach out after the process. I reached on his birthday got no response I was hurt once again a week later he went full speed ahead a even asking if my cousin and his who are engaged said anything about bachelorette or bachelor parties past midnight. After a few weeks I felt ok to reach out again so I did. I sent him a snap of food that’s one of our bonds he text me we text periodically for about a week. Then a week of silence ended up over his parents house helping with wedding stuff ( his parents raised his cousin) as she’s a close friend, his mom didn’t mention he had a shift change and got off earlier instead of midnight he comes home I’m their it felt awkward a bit until we finished wedding stuff and I went downstairs and we ended up alone for a few minutes he automatically started messing with like a school boy has a crush on a Lil girl then when our cousins joined we talked about my brothers recent baby shower and he offered to buy him a babygift, mind you he hadn’t seen him in months than joked about going to the house with my cousin and drinking with my dad etc. As the night played on we all left and him and I discretely mad plans to hangout instead of coming right over he insisted on getting out of work clothes and showering. He over dressed unusually nice in a casual way nice jeans nice shirt. I currently temporarily live at home again also and withheld the information from him that due to my mild breakdown and his ghosting my dad wasn’t too fond of him until he arrived at my place. I didn’t tell him why I just had him wait outside until I made sure we wouldn’t be disturbed because my father wasn’t to fond of him at the moment. He looked puzzled but still came in and hung out we had a few beers and watched a few shows and a movie and talked and he tried to inquire about why my dad was upset. My best friend was texting me and not knowing who I was texting he tried to guess and made a snarky comment about another man texting me and appeared to be jealous. We eventually ended up playfully flirting and I kept rejecting it but he wasn’t taking me serious, he made a joke and it upset me ( but really I over reacted) so then he got upset and wanted to leave and said I should know better than to take it serious and that he hasn’t and will never disrespect me in the midst of it blamed me for us sleeping together we hung out last and that I have ulterior motives when we hang out which is total bs. So I asked him if that’s the case why was he here and he said it was because I’m a decent person and not hanging out with me when we mutually agreed would be a f*** you to me and I said I wouldn’t have taken it that way and he said he knows because I don’t think like that. After all that he still didn’t leave we watched a comedy special and he put his phone to the side saying he didn’t need it and anybody texting or messaging him at this hour isn’t important hes not gonna respond etc and made a comment about me being on my phone versus him putting his down and one of his exes after me who lived in his previous state fb messaged him and he kept assuring me she wasn’t important without me asking showing me all her messages or any others when his phone went off. He kept saying he was going to go but it took him 2 hrs he only left because I pretty much kicked him out I was tired. I walked him out and everything was fine until he asked why my dad didn’t like him again. I told him not to worry about it he wouldn’t let it go so I basically explained that my father felt that he disappeared on me and saw I was hurt. It became world war 3 he instantly got defensive and said he didn’t disappear he can’t help his work schedule etc and that my dad was wrong but I have to have his back even if he is wrong and then he had an outburst and said that’s just like when you stop dating a girl and his family is trying to suggest things to fix it but it’s not working and instead of them having his back because their his family they have hers…I asked him if that’s how he really felt he says it was just a scenario…he was talking about me for sure I failed to mention that his family and I our close his mother literally refers to me as her daughter in law and without me realizing it most times they do have my back but they totally have his as well. His parents would love to see us back together. But have respected other relationships we both were involved in after each other in the past . We’ve kept our reconcilings quiet only his parents and mine really knew exactly what goes on but not completely somethings are best left private. After he said that I asked if we could talk another time he said we had nothing to talk about went on another rant then said if I text or called wanting to talk he wouldn’t ignore me. I’m Anemic so in the midst of this convo he kept telling me to go inside so I won’t freeze towards the bed he got really upset and told me to more aggressively like a concerned parent. A few days later I reached out to meet up it took him a day to respond saying he was out of town. I never responded that was almost a month ago. Yesterday I reached out to him because we’re both foodies and my meal made me think about him so I sent him a picture he read it within 2 minutes but never responded. I’ve known him for a long while know and I really do love and care about him and I feel like eventually he’s supposed to be my husband but on the other hand I’m not so sure and have no idea what to do. We’ve been through a lot together and neither one of us is perfect and I know he cares for me too but is it enough my well is running dry I’m tapped out I don’t know what do anymore, please help me.

  18. Carrie

    March 12, 2018 at 8:16 am

    What if you’ve gone through no contact twice and then after things seemed to be on the right track you get into an argument. The first time I went through no contact with my ex we didn’t speak for a year we dated other people and all. He moved out of state and we reconnected, upon reconnecting I vacationed in his city twice and we would casually hangout and when he would come home he went out of his way to see me, which led to him casually asking me to practically begging me to come visit him solo. Over the past summer I finally did so we spent 4 days together. On the 4th day I felt a negative shift in his energy towards me I tried to talk to him about it he said nothing was wrong. After him making sure I landed safely I didn’t really hear from him too much until 2 weeks later his cousin who’s marrying into my family informed me randomly that he had moved back home temporarily living with his parents. He hadn’t informed me and moved here 2 weeks after I visited. Then my dad ran into him the same day I found out at the gas station and he told him he moved but didn’t inform him I didn’t know. I felt like he ghosted me and I had quite the breakdown which he still doesn’t know about. We ended up speaking hear and their but never really talked about him not telling me he moved back. I eventually invited him to go to the movies with me which we had planned to do anyway when he came to visit next (before I knew he was moving) and he declined saying I have a full day already but thanks for the invite. I left it alone a month later he reached out we started texting and chatting on the phone and ended up hanging out which resulted in him staying over and we talked and I confronted him about how I feel about him not telling me he relocated we ended up cuddling all night and slept together the next morning. I didn’t hear from him again for awhile and when I finally did I was so hurt I decided to go no contact again to sort out my feelings. I went no contact for a few months and during the last month instead of reaching out sporadically he went full speed ahead texting calling dm’s on social media and I responded to none of it up until I was ready to reach out after the process. I reached on his birthday got no response I was hurt once again a week later he went full speed ahead a even asking if my cousin and his who are engaged said anything about bachelorette or bachelor parties past midnight. After a few weeks I felt ok to reach out again so I did. I sent him a snap of food that’s one of our bonds he text me we text periodically for about a week. Then a week of silence ended up over his parents house helping with wedding stuff ( his parents raised his cousin) as she’s a close friend, his mom didn’t mention he had a shift change and got off earlier instead of midnight he comes home I’m their it felt awkward a bit until we finished wedding stuff and I went downstairs and we ended up alone for a few minutes he automatically started messing with like a school boy has a crush on a Lil girl then when our cousins joined we talked about my brothers recent baby shower and he offered to buy him a babygift, mind you he hadn’t seen him in months than joked about going to the house with my cousin and drinking with my dad etc. As the night played on we all left and him and I discretely mad plans to hangout instead of coming right over he insisted on getting out of work clothes and showering. He over dressed unusually nice in a casual way nice jeans nice shirt. I currently temporarily live at home again also and withheld the information from him that due to my mild breakdown and his ghosting my dad wasn’t too fond of him until he arrived at my place. I didn’t tell him why I just had him wait outside until I made sure we wouldn’t be disturbed because my father wasn’t to fond of him at the moment. He looked puzzled but still came in and hung out we had a few beers and watched a few shows and a movie and talked and he tried to inquire about why my dad was upset. My best friend was texting me and not knowing who I was texting he tried to guess and made a snarky comment about another man texting me and appeared to be jealous. We eventually ended up playfully flirting and I kept rejecting it but he wasn’t taking me serious, he made a joke and it upset me ( but really I over reacted) so then he got upset and wanted to leave and said I should know better than to take it serious and that he hasn’t and will never disrespect me in the midst of it blamed me for us sleeping together we hung out last and that I have ulterior motives when we hang out which is total bs. So I asked him if that’s the case why was he here and he said it was because I’m a decent person and not hanging out with me when we mutually agreed would be a f*** you to me and I said I wouldn’t have taken it that way and he said he knows because I don’t think like that. After all that he still didn’t leave we watched a comedy special and he put his phone to the side saying he didn’t need it and anybody texting or messaging him at this hour isn’t important hes not gonna respond etc and made a comment about me being on my phone versus him putting his down and one of his exes after me who lived in his previous state fb messaged him and he kept assuring me she wasn’t important without me asking showing me all her messages or any others when his phone went off. He kept saying he was going to go but it took him 2 hrs he only left because I pretty much kicked him out I was tired. I walked him out and everything was fine until he asked why my dad didn’t like him again. I told him not to worry about it he wouldn’t let it go so I basically explained that my father felt that he disappeared on me and saw I was hurt. It became world war 3 he instantly got defensive and said he didn’t disappear he can’t help his work schedule etc and that my dad was wrong but I have to have his back even if he is wrong and then he had an outburst and said that’s just like when you stop dating a girl and his family is trying to suggest things to fix it but it’s not working and instead of them having his back because their his family they have hers…I asked him if that’s how he really felt he says it was just a scenario…he was talking about me for sure I failed to mention that his family and I our close his mother literally refers to me as her daughter in law and without me realizing it most times they do have my back but they totally have his as well. His parents would love to see us back together. But have respected other relationships we both were involved in after each other in the past . We’ve kept our reconcilings quiet only his parents and mine really knew exactly what goes on but not completely somethings are best left private. After he said that I asked if we could talk another time he said we had nothing to talk about went on another rant then said if I text or called wanting to talk he wouldn’t ignore me. I’m Anemic so in the midst of this convo he kept telling me to go inside so I won’t freeze towards the bed he got really upset and told me to more aggressively like a concerned parent. A few days later I reached out to meet up it took him a day to respond saying he was out of town. I never responded that was almost a month ago. Yesterday I reached out to him because we’re both foodies and my meal made me think about him so I sent him a picture he read it within 2 minutes but never responded. I’ve known him for a long while know and I really do love and care about him and I feel like eventually he’s supposed to be my husband but on the other hand I’m not so sure and have no idea what to do. We’ve been through a lot together and neither one of us is perfect and I know he cares for me too but is it enough my well is running dry I’m tapped out I don’t know what do anymore, please help me.

  19. Vincencia

    March 11, 2018 at 6:14 pm

    This was the wonderful,in which it really touches me when reading though. My bf and I had a long lasting relationship, since 2012..when I am in standard 8 and he was my first person i came to know as love in my intimacy relationship. With all that trusts that I have on him, somewhat the situations turns to be so hard for me. It happens when I left him to take my studies abroad, in 2017,,and received a text from him that, he decides to break up with me. Without my last saying, we both just break up.leaving me in broken because of distance and time factors. I cant help myself,so what i did was, though am down i decided not to response to his messages and calls till now, and i did it…nc rule,,,,,and even in social media….i use to show myself that i am always happy,just to make sure he misses me,,even i always apply the jealousy tactics… I want to say that everything was said here, i did involved them without realizing it…And i am happy for myself..My question is, how is there any possibilities for him to get back to me???? Because all i did was,i just want him to miss me. Till i am still using those Techniques..

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 14, 2018 at 1:08 pm

      Hi Vicencia,

      How long have you been doing nc?

  20. Lauren

    March 1, 2018 at 3:57 pm

    So I have a question. My Bf just broke up with me a few days ago because he saw me more as a friend. We’ve been together a year and we were both happy. He just said there wasn’t that spark. He also said when he missed me previously he realised he missed me like a mate. Not a gf. What if he does miss me in the no contact period but will always put it down to thinking it’s just missing a mate? Or could it be obvious enough to him in time that he misses me for other reasons? Another thing is that today is the first day of no contact but the past couple of days I had messaged and seen him. Will that affect the no contact period?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 4, 2018 at 4:56 pm

      Hi Lauren,

      That’s not a nc period if you kept contacting or replying or commenting back to his comments for you..check this one:
      The Friend Zone: What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Just Wants To Be Friends

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