If You Haven’t Talked To Your Ex Boyfriend In A Long Time Here’s What You Do…

As I was brainstorming on how I wanted to approach this article I happened to stumble across an amazing quote,

“The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing.”- Joshua Harris

This quote encompasses a large portion of my views on “ex recovery.”

I’ll give you an example, whenever I am lucky enough to get a success story from a visitor of this website I look into why that person succeeded and it really boils down to one thing, timing.

I mean, think about it.

If you go through a breakup your friends and family are often quick to point out that, that particular guy wasn’t right for you.

But often, I have found that, that isn’t necessarily true.

That guy could have been the “right person” who just found themselves attracted to you at the wrong time in their life.

The truth of the matter is that successful relationships usually boil down to timing.

The timing in his life…

The timing in your life…

Now, at this point you are probably sitting there thinking,

“What the hell does this have to do with not talking to your ex in a long time?”

Well, this idea of “timing” can also be applied to getting an ex back.

If you aren’t familiar with my teachings in Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO then allow me to give you a quick crash course.

I basically teach people a “value chain” for getting their ex back.

This one to be exact,

the-value-chain

Now, if this graphic is confusing to you then I wouldn’t be surprised.

All I really want you to grasp right now is that the only way that this process works is if the timing is right and that’s essentially what this graphic is laying out for you.

It’s helping you to time things right.

My designer Taylor once told me this great quote when talking about Ex Boyfriend Recovery,

You don’t ask someone to marry you on the first date

How true is that?

And the same can be said about getting an ex back.

You can’t just ask an ex boyfriend to get back together with you immediately after the breakup.

The timing isn’t right for that.

Instead, there is a process that you have to follow to make the timing right and even then there are no guarantees.

And that leads me to my ultimate point.

WHEN you talk to an ex is just as important as HOW you talk to an ex.

And that’s what we are going to talk about today.

I am going to dissect one of the most difficult situations that a woman can find herself in if she wants her ex back, what to do if she hasn’t talked to him in a long time.

The Rule Of Timing And Talking

There is a general rule of thumb that we abide by here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery when it comes to your chances of success.

The further removed you are from a breakup the lower your chances of success are.

Let me give you an extreme example to hammer my point home.

Imagine you have a pair of couples.

  • Couple One: 3 Months Removed From A Breakup
  • Couple Two: 3 Years Removed From A Breakup

Which of these couples do you think has a better chance of getting back together?

Well, our own research has proven that couple one would have a better shot because the breakup is a little fresher on the mind for them.

Whereas with couple two the breakup is three years removed.

Now, I don’t want you to forget the fact that usually some time has to pass for a couple to be ready to try again.

This point was proven in my most recent interview with Neil Sattin,

You see, Neil is currently engaged to his ex.

And they did something really unique for their breakup. Something that I hadn’t heard of before. Essentially what they did was agree that they wouldn’t date anyone else for “X” amount of days.

This gave them time to be alone and contemplate if being together was right for them.

What an idea, right?

If only all breakups could be that civil.

But I think this is an important lesson in timing because after six months apart both of them realized that they wanted to be together. In other words, the timing was right.

And with that “segue” I’d like to introduce you to a harsh truth (that you may not want to hear.)

Generally speaking the further removed you are from your last real conversation with your ex the harder it is to actually get them back

Let’s dissect this “rule.”

I think the first thing that we have to do is define what a “real conversation” is.

Take this text message as an example,

fake-conversation

This is not a real conversation to me.

Nothing of importance or interest is being conveyed when both parties just say “hey.”

Now, compare that text message string to this one,

real-conversation

This is the beginning of what looks like a great conversation.

When I refer to a “real conversation” this is what I am talking about.

So, let’s imagine that the last time you had a conversation like this with your ex was a year ago. Since then, you haven’t had any real communication back and forth. Well, according to the rule above you are going to be facing some headwind when it comes to getting him back.

Now, compare that to a situation where the last time you had a real conversation with your ex was a month ago. Chances are you are going to have a much easier time rebuilding rapport and attraction.

Of course, this leads me to my ultimate point.

This article is going to be focusing on the worst case scenario and what to do if you find yourself in it.

What Is The Worst Case Scenario?

Imagine that you and your ex had a horrible breakup.

And when I say horrible… I MEAN HORRIBLE.

He was yelling…

You were yelling…

It was a yellfest!

And then the two of you went your separate ways.

You don’t talk for YEARS!

But throughout those passing years there has been this little voice in the back of your head saying,

You know what, I may have made a mistake by letting him go.

Initially it starts off small but it quickly gains enough traction to make you want to take action.

So, what do you do?

Well, before we get to that the first thing I want to say to you is that what I just laid out for you is what I consider to be “the worst case scenario.”

Essentially it’s a scenario where you haven’t talked to your ex in a very long time and there doesn’t seem to be any chance of success.

Questions are swimming around in your head like,

  • What do I do?
  • What do I say?
  • How do I approach him?

But there’s something about me that you don’t know.

I love challenges!

In fact, that greater the challenge the more intriguing the situation becomes for me. I mean, all you have to do is read Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO to get a sense of that.

So, here’s what I am going to do for you.

I am going to come up with a clear game plan for you to follow if you haven’t talked to your ex in a long time.

I am going to teach you,

  • What to do
  • What to say
  • How to approach him

Hmm… why does that sound so familiar?

Oh wait, I just literally said the same stuff above!

But first things first, let’s explore if you have any hope if you do find yourself in a situation where you haven’t talked to your ex in a long time?

Is There Any Hope?

Every Monday I talk to Ashley, our head of content development here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery.

You may be familiar with her work here, here and here.

Usually we talk about the articles she is working on for the week and we start brainstorming the articles she is going to work on for the next week. Anyways, this Monday when I talked to her I happened to mention the fact that I was working on this article and she told me a pretty shocking story.

So shocking in fact that I asked her to send it to me over text so you can see it for yourself,

phone-conversation

So, let’s break this down for a moment.

Ashley, and her ex boyfriend went through a breakup in college where he completely cut her out of his life as he moved overseas. Despite that she eventually got back on talking terms with him and they remained friends for years to come.

One day, years after the breakup had passed he called her up and asked her to move overseas to live with him JUST SO THEY COULD DATE!

Now, you may be asking yourself,

Why would he even feature that story from Ashley?

A couple of reasons!

First off, I want to show you that even when a situation seems impossible there is still hope.

Others have succeeded at what you are trying to do.

Secondly, I think we can learn something from Ashley’s approach.

But before I start diving into that I think we need to define our goal.

What Are You Trying To Accomplish?

This may be the most important question that you ask as you commit yourself to this process.

Why?

Because it’s going to dictate the way you go about things.

  • Are you trying to get him back?
  • Are you just trying to get back on speaking terms with him?
  • Are you just trying to rekindle a friendship?

For the purposes of this article we are going to approach things like you are trying to get him back (since I think most of the women who read this are going to find themselves in that exact situation.)

BUT I find that I always explain things better when I have specific situation to work with.

I mean, there is a big “X” factor in play here still.

The “X” Factor: How long has it been since you had a real conversation with your ex

Let’s go ahead and assume that it’s been 4 months since the last conversation you had with your ex.

So, going forward I am going to try to tailor advice to this situation,

You want to get your ex boyfriend back after not talking to him once in a total of four months.

The big question jumbling around in your mind at this point probably is,

What the hell do I do to succeed in a situation like that?

Well, Here’s What You Do

This is going to sound really weird and make me sound like I am an old man but I have been doing this for half a decade!

And when you spend that much time focused on breakups you start picking up on the patterns that work versus the patterns that don’t work. That simple fact makes what I am about to say that much more powerful.

There’s just something about self improvement that is sexy to an ex.

It sounds counter productive, right?

I mean, I am sure that expert after expert has peddled “magic bullets” and “guarantees” in front of you in your search for answers and the thing about those “magic bullet guarantees” is that they usually revolve around a specific way to act in front of your ex.

But I am going to tell you a secret.

There is no magic bullet when it comes to getting an ex back

Yes, I will agree that there is an optimum way to act in “ex recovery” but oftentimes that pails in comparison to someone who has actually gone out and made something of themselves during their time apart.

Again, I hate to sound like a broken record but this point was hammered home by relationship expert, Neil Sattin in my most recent interview with him here (insert link).

He credited the fact that he had time apart with his ex as the reason for why they eventually ended up together.

Now, I know what you are thinking,

Ok, I kind of get what you are talking about Chris BUT your thoughts are a little scattered. Is there a way you can really explain what you mean by “self improvement.”

Sure!

Let’s just start another section.

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How To Improve During Your Time Apart

The first thing I want to explain to you is the fact that most women in your situation make a massive mistake when they come to the realization that they want to get their exes back after a long time apart.

The mistake?

They contact him without having made any significant strides in their own personal development.

Hmmm.. how can I put this?

Ok, imagine that there are two versions of you,

two-versions

Each of these versions have dated your ex and each of them is in the same exact circumstance that we are covering in this article, they want him back after not having talked to him for a significant amount of time.

The only difference between these two versions of you is what they have done with that “significant” amount of time.

two-versions

Version one hasn’t done anything with her time apart from her ex.

Version two has done a lot. She’s gotten a new job. Lost a lot of weight. Dated a few new people. Made a lot of friends.

Hell, she feels like an entirely new/better person.

So, let’s switch gears for a moment and look at the situation from your exes perspective.

After, let’s say four months, version one of you reaches out to your ex and tries to get him back. Ultimately he isn’t receptive to version one because he feels like that chapter in his life is over and he doesn’t want another messy breakup.

I mean, version one has nothing new to bring to the table.

Version two, on the other hand, does!

In fact, version two is almost like a completely different person and that brings a sense of newness and excitement to the relationship and I think we all know my thoughts on “newness.”

Now, I realized I have talked a lot but I haven’t really given you anything actionable for self improvement.

Well, I am actually going to give you my two best tips.

  1. The “Date Yourself” Philosophy
  2. The Holy Trinity

What Is The “Date Yourself” Philosophy?

About a week ago I conducted an interview with a pretty interesting woman.

Her name is Veronica Grant and she is a dating coach.

You can watch the interview here,

Now, the thing that really caught my eye when it came to Veronica was the fact that she is a big proponent of “dating yourself.” Now, I am someone who considers myself to be pretty “well read” but I hadn’t ever heard of “dating yourself.”

So, that was an obvious question that I brought to her attention and she had maybe one of the best answers I had ever heard before,

Dating yourself is kind of what it sounds like. Doing things for yourself that you would either want or expect your significant other to do for you. So, it can be things like buying yourself flowers, writing yourself a love note, taking like a hot bubble bath, taking yourself out for a drink or for a nice dinner but really the deeper essence of it is making yourself feel how you want to feel on your relationship.

What an idea!

By treating yourself like you want to be treated in a relationship you are essentially putting yourself in a happier frame of mind and you are opening yourself up to positive experiences.

Not only is it a way to reshape your philosophy of how you should be treated by a man you date but it is also a way to self heal.

It’s ingenious and I have to give Veronica all the credit in the world on this one.

You can check her out here.

So, that’s kind of my first BIG tip for you.

Take a few weeks and “date yourself.”

However, I want you to simultaneously do something else.

Take Advantage Of The Holy Trinity

Life can be divided up into three important aspects,

  1. Health
  2. Wealth
  3. Relationships

These three aspects make up what I like to call “the holy trinity.”

I’ve talked about this a lot on this website before so it’s not like I am revolutionizing anything here.

The idea here is to take each one of these aspects of the holy trinity and improve your life significantly. This way by the time you do end up contacting your ex after this extended period it’s going to seem like you are an even better version of yourself that he is used to.

Besides, I think it really plays into this idea of “dating yourself.” By focusing on the holy trinity you are focusing on yourself and doing things that are going to ultimately make you feel good about yourself.

Now, I don’t want to get too much into how to improve each aspect of “the holy trinity” especially when it’s something that I cover in great detail in my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. What I will say though is that even though it seems like improving each aspect of “the holy trinity” seems like an easy thing to do, it’s not.

As a human being you only have a certain amount of time that you can dedicate into each aspect and finding the perfect balance of time for each aspect is very difficult.

So, don’t think that this is going to be a walk in the park because it’s not.

What To Say To Your Ex After Not Talking To Him In A Long Time

A funny thing happened a few weeks ago when I was fielding questions for my podcast. You see, if you aren’t already aware I run a pretty diverse podcast where I allow visitors to call in and ask me questions using this page.

Anyways, I happened to get a really funny question and it stuck with me enough to write about it here.

Basically, a woman who you could tell really wanted her ex back completely botched what I like to call “the first contact” text message.

First Contact Text Message: The first time you talk to your ex after an extended period of time (like the no contact rule.)

I have to admit that this is an area where a lot of women struggle and it’s not hard to see why.

There are so many questions floating around in their heads,

  • What do I say?
  • Will he respond?
  • What if he says something mean back to me?
  • Will this even work?

These questions are very relevant because you are probably having these same exact questions.

However, there is one question that I know for a fact consumes most women,

Won’t it be weird to just “all of a sudden” show up in my exes life after not talking to him for a long time?

The answer to this question is,

“Yes it will be weird.”

And this is something that we have to overcome together.

So, how can we overcome this “weirdness?”

Well, really it boils down to what you say. As long as you word things in the right way and convey something interesting that initial weird feeling won’t matter so much.

It’s often said that,

“Words have a magical power. They can bring either the greatest happiness or deepest despair; they can transfer knowledge from teacher to student; words enable the orator to sway his audience and dictate its decisions. Words are capable of arousing the strongest emotions and prompting all men’s actions.” -Sigmund Freud

And that’s how you are going to overcome this weirdness, with words.

The real question is,

What Words Shall You Use?

Hmm…

That is a great question!

A few months ago I did a podcast episode deconstructing the perfect first contact text message.

In that episode I mentioned that there are generally four factors that you need to look at to create a perfect message.

  1. Knowledge
  2. Story
  3. Action Phrases
  4. The Tie In

So, here’s what I am going to do for you. I am going to go through each of these factors and give you examples of how you are going to incorporate them into your first contact text message.

Sound like a plan?

Let’s begin,

Knowledge

The first thing you are going to want to do is leverage what you already know to be true about your ex.

What are his likes?

His dislikes?

What is the one topic that he always lit up on when you would talk to him about it?

I’ll give you an example, it probably wouldn’t be a good idea to talk to him about “french fries” in your first contact text message if you know for a fact that he despises them. Essentially what you are doing is you are leveraging what you know about him to pick a topic or theme of your text message. You want this topic or theme to be positive in nature.

I’ll tell you what.

I’ll use my ex as an example so I can jump down to your level.

When I look back on my relationship with my ex there is one singular thought that jumps to mind, sky diving.

For some reason my ex was obsessed with skydiving and wanting nothing more to do it. Of course, I didn’t want to sky dive or do anything like that at all. But she had some strange obsession with it.

This is important knowledge for me to understand because it’s going to be the theme of my text message. In other words, my entire text message to my ex would be about sky diving.

So, now that we have the theme of the message picked out let’s move on to the next component of the first contact text message, stories.

Story

Here’s a little known fact.

If you want to become a master at re-attracting your ex the first thing you need to do is become a master storyteller.

But how?

How do you become a master storyteller?

Well, you are going to use logic and rhetoric.

Both are equally important to master and both must be used in your first contact text message.

For the record,

  • Logic- Stating the facts in a story
  • Rhetoric- Telling a story in a way so that it has the most impact on an audience

I did a great little skit explaining this in detail in the video below,

So, here’s what we know so far about the perfect first contact text message.

  • You need to pick a theme around the text message utilizing the knowledge you have of your ex
  • Once you have your theme picked you need to work it into a story utilizing logic and rhetoric

Lets move on to the next component.

Action Phrases

I want you to imagine something for me for a moment.

Imagine that you are walking around at a function and you see a group of your friends huddled together talking amongst themselves.

You walk up to this group and you try to get their attention by simply saying,

“Hey”

Of course, they are talking amongst themselves and don’t hear the “hey.”

Simply talking to them won’t do the trick.

What you really need to do is something drastic to get their attention.

So you decide to “SNAP” really loud,

snap

This works as immediately everyone stops what they are doing and turns their attention to you.

The same principle is going to apply to your first contact text message.

You need to do something that grabs your exes attention away from whatever it is he is doing and focus his attention on you.

That’s where “action phrases” come into play.

An action phrase is something that you can say to your ex to snap him into place and grab his attention.

I’ll give you an example,

action-phrases

These are all examples of action phrases. I mean, imagine how you would react if someone who you were interested in had texted one of these things to you.

Do you think you’d respond?

I’m betting that you would!

So, the question now becomes,

What do you do with your action phrase?

Well, it’s how I want you to start the conversation with your ex. I want you to snap his attention to you and then you can get into telling your story.

Let’s move on to the final component of the first contact text message.

The Tie In

I’m going to admit that there is some risk with this and for that reason I am going to say that this particular component is optional.

Here’s how the tie in works.

At the end of your first contact text message you are going to say a phrase similar to this,

“It was the first time I thought about you in a while.”

The purpose of saying this is that you want to accomplish two things,

  1. Establish that you aren’t thinking too much about your ex
  2. Make him wonder, “Why hasn’t she thought of me in the X amount of time we haven’t talked?”

Honestly, that’s all there is to this component.

Remember, it’s optional and can be a bit risky.

Putting It All Together

Ok, let’s put all of this stuff together so you can get a full grasp of how a perfect first contact text should work and since I kind of already got one started centered around my ex let’s just take that and run with it.

So, if you’ll recall there are four main components to a perfect first contact text message

  1. Knowledge
  2. Story
  3. Action Phrase
  4. Tie In

What I’d like to do now is go down the list and start constructing my text based on these four items.

Let’s start with knowledge,

KNOWLEDGE

If you remember my teaching on knowledge above you’d remember that the theme I chose for a hypothetical first contact text message to my own ex would revolve around sky diving.

Why?

Because I know it’s something that she was obsessed about and would be responsive to.

Therefore, this first contact text message is going to revolve around skydiving.

STORY

This is where you have to get a bit creative. My job here is to create a compelling story that my ex is going to want to hook into or respond to. Now, this may sound crazy but here’s the idea I came up with.

My ex was obsessed with sky diving because it’s something that she always wanted to do but never had the guts to.

Some would say that it’s a dream of hers.

Well, what if I went sky diving?

Then I would have one hell of a story to tell, wouldn’t I?

Now, am I recommending that you should go sky diving and text your ex about it? Absolutely not. I am just trying to show you how powerful this method can be if you really commit to it.

So, the story I tell my ex will probably look like this,

skydiving-story

This text paints a vivid picture of me being “so nervous that I am shaking.” Something that I feel a lot of people can relate to when they think of skydiving.

It’s a perfect story too because it’s something my ex always wanted to do so I am close to certain that she can hook into the story and respond to the text.

Of course, simply telling this story isn’t enough. Remember, there are a few extra steps.

ACTION PHRASE

One can argue that this is the most important part of the first contact text message because this is the phrase that is supposed to capture an exes attention and make them pay attention.

And since we already have our theme and our story all we really need at this point is to say something to call my exes attention to it and I have just the thing!

Six simple words,

action-phrase

Ideally, my ex will get this text and immediately be curious as to where I am in.

Thus, she will answer the text with,

response

And this is how you can segue into your story.

This leads us to our final component.

TIE IN

Finally I think it might be a nice touch for me to add in,

screen-shot-2016-09-21-at-12-16-09-pm

This ties directly into my exes feelings and it’s kind of a sweet thing to say.

So, when you put everything together here’s what it looks like,

first-contact

What Do I Do Next?

So, let’s assume that you sent a first contact text message to your ex boyfriend after not seeing or talking to each other in a very long time.

What do you do next?

Well, do you have five hours to talk with me?

Seriously, explaining everything you have to do would take me that long.

I’ll give you an example.

This Friday I am going to be conducting a live coaching call and posting it on my podcast (In fact, after it goes live I may pop back on this page and update this section so you can see it.)

Anyways, I have been prepping for this thing for a good week now and have a pretty good idea on what I want to tackle with the person being featured.

There’s just one problem.

We only have an hour to chat on the phone and an hour isn’t anywhere near what it takes to explain everything that needs to happen in order to get an ex back.

And that leaves us at a bit of a fork in the road.

The way I see it is you have two choices.

Choice #1: Take what little you’ve learned in this article and hope it’s enough to win your ex back.

Choice #2: Obtain a resource that has everything laid out for you step by step so you know exactly what to do.

Which choice do you prefer?

Probably choice two, right?

Well, I’d like to introduce you to the resource that I am talking about in choice two.

It’s called, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO and without a doubt I am confident in saying that it’s the most comprehensive resource out there for you to lean on when it comes to getting your ex boyfriend back.

Oh, and one of the things you’ll learn about in PRO is the fact that you need to constantly leave your ex wanting more.

Which is kind of what I am doing right now 😉 .

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Genevieve
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Also, i forgot to mention that this girl was a brief fling before he met me. They were both on the school rowing team, and he used to say she was not his type at all. But because he was still a young sophomore in college, and she kept making advances on him, he reciprocated the flirtations and such for a few weeks but ended it when she “became annoying and clingy.” She is the last person any of his friends and I would expect to go out with, and his best friend told me he was genuinely shocked about… Read more »
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Genevieve,

Just approach slowly building rapport like normal because you’re not suppose to know he’s seeing other people.. That would make him think you’re asking other people about him..

Genevieve
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My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. We still talked for a month because he wanted to figure things out, then I decided to do NC after he decided he didn’t want to get back together. He texted me once in late January, sending me a random article about my college, but I didn’t answer because I was still heartbroken and confused on this random message. Now, 2 months later since he sent that random message, Im feeling much better and have done lots of things (dates, running, learning to snowboard). But his best friend texted me the… Read more »
Genevieve Salvatierra
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Genevieve Salvatierra
My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. We still talked for a month because he wanted to figure things out, then I decided to do NC after he decided he didn’t want to get back together. He texted me once in late January, sending me a random article about my college, but I didn’t answer cause I was still heartbroken and confused on this random message. Now, 2 months later since he sent that random message, Im feeling much better and have done lots of things (dates, running, learning to snowboard). But his best friend texted me the… Read more »
Genevieve
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Also, i forgot to mention that this girl was a brief fling before he met me. They were both on the school rowing team, and he used to say she was not his type at all. But because he was still a young sophomore in college, and she kept making advances on him, he reciprocated the flirtations and such for a few weeks but ended it when she “became annoying and clingy.” She is the last person any of his friends and I would expect to go out with, and his best friend told me he was genuinely shocked about… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Genevieve,

Just approach slowly building rapport like normal because you’re not suppose to know he’s seeing other people.. That would make him think you’re asking other people about him..

Genevieve
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My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. We still talked for a month because he wanted to figure things out, then I decided to do NC after he decided he didn’t want to get back together. He texted me once in late January, sending me a random article about my college, but I didn’t answer because I was still heartbroken and confused on this random message. Now, 2 months later since he sent that random message, Im feeling much better and have done lots of things (dates, running, learning to snowboard). But his best friend texted me the… Read more »
Genevieve Salvatierra
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Genevieve Salvatierra
My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. We still talked for a month because he wanted to figure things out, then I decided to do NC after he decided he didn’t want to get back together. He texted me once in late January, sending me a random article about my college, but I didn’t answer cause I was still heartbroken and confused on this random message. Now, 2 months later since he sent that random message, Im feeling much better and have done lots of things (dates, running, learning to snowboard). But his best friend texted me the… Read more »
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Ex broke up with me 6 months ago. I told him i still loved him over a month ago and he said he doesmt have time for a relationship because he wants to focus 100% on school (we both in college) so after that conversation i didnt text him and neither did her. Should i just give up and move on and should i keep trying to use the antics here on this site?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ntokoxo,

If you’ve used nc a lot, then yes, it’s time to move on..

Ntokozo
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Ex broke up with me 6 months ago. I told him i still loved him over a month ago and he said he doesmt have time for a relationship because he wants to focus 100% on school (we both in college) so after that conversation i didnt text him and neither did her. Should i just give up and move on and should i keep trying to use the antics here on this site?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ntokoxo,

If you’ve used nc a lot, then yes, it’s time to move on..

V
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Hi Amor! This is the exact day 30 of my NC. I’ve been practicing my driving skill and about to sign up for a boxing class, remembering how he loves independent girls who know how to drive and used to encourage me to take driving lessons. Personally, this is quite a good excuse to initiate a conversation. But I don’t know because I feel like I’m not ready yet and since he’s been flirting this other girl, he might be too busy “feeling happy” with her and forget about me. Thus, the more I think of sharing this happiness, the… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

what do you mean that he blamed you? did he really say that or is that your thoughts only? dont focus in the past and what he might be thinking, that’s not going to help you..if you improved yourself and were active in posting, initiate texting and slowly build rapport and attraction while continuing to improve yourself..

V
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Hey, thanks for your reply, Amor! He said “I don’t want us to argue so often. I wanted a long-term relationship, but IT IS YOU who made me rethink my decision.” (english isn’t our native language so that’s the best meaning I could deliver) and more of that coming. And you’re absolutely right about me keep focusing on the past. Overthinking is my bad practice, I was so afraid of what displayed in the past and the present that could affect whatever influenced his action in the future. There are days when I felt alright, happy and all that I… Read more »
V
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quick update, I used FB to initiate first contact with him just a few hours ago (this is usually our main source of communication bc we never cross paths even though living in the same city), my heart pounded as I took like 5 minutes to decide whether to hit Enter. Here’s the details: 7:55pm “Hey, I got something I want to share. Thinking you should know. *a happy emoji*” 9:14pm: “What is it” “I just got home from class” (yes you took a night class, I still remember that) 9:50pm: “kay, i’m about to hit the sheet so just… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s good..it ended at high point..

V
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I just replied to his yesterday’s question with a “just guess”. I know he only online in his free time so I have no problem with late replies. He guessed a few & added “your body have always been easy to get bruises”. I also anticipate having to text more than 2 texts in day 2 if he asks more, meaning to break Chris’s texting routine a little >.< is it okay to do so? since there's still plenty of time for the day and he may know I try to play the leaving-you-waiting card since he did that to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

It’s ok..follow your gut just don’t over do and always end at high note..you’re welcome!

V
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Hi Amor, So I was right about having to message him much more than planned. But boy, I was wrong about the content. He was out of control. After I replied he started talking about his past few days. How he didn’t take care of himself. Staying at school from 6AM to 9PM studying even when no class, neglecting his looks (he usually very neat), risking his study by submitting assignments late and getting to class late (not like him at all, his study is very important to him), efurbishing his motorbike over and over. His mom told him that… Read more »
V
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Hi Amor! This is the exact day 30 of my NC. I’ve been practicing my driving skill and about to sign up for a boxing class, remembering how he loves independent girls who know how to drive and used to encourage me to take driving lessons. Personally, this is quite a good excuse to initiate a conversation. But I don’t know because I feel like I’m not ready yet and since he’s been flirting this other girl, he might be too busy “feeling happy” with her and forget about me. Thus, the more I think of sharing this happiness, the… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

what do you mean that he blamed you? did he really say that or is that your thoughts only? dont focus in the past and what he might be thinking, that’s not going to help you..if you improved yourself and were active in posting, initiate texting and slowly build rapport and attraction while continuing to improve yourself..

V
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Hey, thanks for your reply, Amor! He said “I don’t want us to argue so often. I wanted a long-term relationship, but IT IS YOU who made me rethink my decision.” (english isn’t our native language so that’s the best meaning I could deliver) and more of that coming. And you’re absolutely right about me keep focusing on the past. Overthinking is my bad practice, I was so afraid of what displayed in the past and the present that could affect whatever influenced his action in the future. There are days when I felt alright, happy and all that I… Read more »
V
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quick update, I used FB to initiate first contact with him just a few hours ago (this is usually our main source of communication bc we never cross paths even though living in the same city), my heart pounded as I took like 5 minutes to decide whether to hit Enter. Here’s the details: 7:55pm “Hey, I got something I want to share. Thinking you should know. *a happy emoji*” 9:14pm: “What is it” “I just got home from class” (yes you took a night class, I still remember that) 9:50pm: “kay, i’m about to hit the sheet so just… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s good..it ended at high point..

V
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I just replied to his yesterday’s question with a “just guess”. I know he only online in his free time so I have no problem with late replies. He guessed a few & added “your body have always been easy to get bruises”. I also anticipate having to text more than 2 texts in day 2 if he asks more, meaning to break Chris’s texting routine a little >.< is it okay to do so? since there&#039s still plenty of time for the day and he may know I try to play the leaving-you-waiting card since he did that to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

It’s ok..follow your gut just don’t over do and always end at high note..you’re welcome!

V
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Hi Amor, So I was right about having to message him much more than planned. But boy, I was wrong about the content. He was out of control. After I replied he started talking about his past few days. How he didn’t take care of himself. Staying at school from 6AM to 9PM studying even when no class, neglecting his looks (he usually very neat), risking his study by submitting assignments late and getting to class late (not like him at all, his study is very important to him), efurbishing his motorbike over and over. His mom told him that… Read more »
Michi
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Hi so after you told me to build a rapport I started messaging him here and there and always got either a positive response or a neutral one. Last weekend I was babysitting a mutual friends dog for the weekend and she happens to live close to him so I decided since things were going well to see if he wanted to catch up. I sent him a message telling him that I was free that weekend if he wanted to catch a movie or something, a couple of hours later I got a response from him saying “can’t this… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mitchi

there’s a high chance that it is his gf that made him do that out of jealousy. His anger can be a good sign because that means he’s still jealous but that can also mean he’s just being possesive and he still sees the old you, that’s why he still doesn’t want to try again, aside from the fact that there is another girl in his life.. At this point, the best you can do is to keep improving yourself

Michi
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Hi so after you told me to build a rapport I started messaging him here and there and always got either a positive response or a neutral one. Last weekend I was babysitting a mutual friends dog for the weekend and she happens to live close to him so I decided since things were going well to see if he wanted to catch up. I sent him a message telling him that I was free that weekend if he wanted to catch a movie or something, a couple of hours later I got a response from him saying “can’t this… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mitchi

there’s a high chance that it is his gf that made him do that out of jealousy. His anger can be a good sign because that means he’s still jealous but that can also mean he’s just being possesive and he still sees the old you, that’s why he still doesn’t want to try again, aside from the fact that there is another girl in his life.. At this point, the best you can do is to keep improving yourself

Michi
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Hi, My ex and I broke up about 3-4 months ago. We were very serious, he wanted me to move in with him, we would talk about getting married and having children. It seemed like all of a sudden everything took a 180 degree turn and he flipped out saying that he wasn’t sure he wanted to have kids and that he felt as though I was emotionally abusing him (this was all during the time he got promoted so I think it had a lot to do with stress) during our last conversation he told me that he still… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Michi,

how much did you improve since you broke up?

Michi
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I believe I improved… I started working out and eating healthier, I also have been hanging out my friends more and going out and I found a new job and will be starting that soon … It has gotten easier and I don’t want to cry whenever I think about us but I still love him so much and I do look him up on Facebook/Instagram once in a while even though we aren’t friends, we have mutual friends and I can see if he comments or likes their pictures/ posts…. I just want to know if the fact that… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

let’s say he missed you and remembered you.. if you’re going to initiate contact, slowly build rapport first

Michi
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Hi, My ex and I broke up about 3-4 months ago. We were very serious, he wanted me to move in with him, we would talk about getting married and having children. It seemed like all of a sudden everything took a 180 degree turn and he flipped out saying that he wasn’t sure he wanted to have kids and that he felt as though I was emotionally abusing him (this was all during the time he got promoted so I think it had a lot to do with stress) during our last conversation he told me that he still… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Michi,

how much did you improve since you broke up?

Michi
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I believe I improved… I started working out and eating healthier, I also have been hanging out my friends more and going out and I found a new job and will be starting that soon … It has gotten easier and I don’t want to cry whenever I think about us but I still love him so much and I do look him up on Facebook/Instagram once in a while even though we aren’t friends, we have mutual friends and I can see if he comments or likes their pictures/ posts…. I just want to know if the fact that… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

let’s say he missed you and remembered you.. if you’re going to initiate contact, slowly build rapport first

Cara
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Thank you EBR team for this page. It gives me some hope even though many people have told me that’ it’s been too long and the chances are low. I still think anything is possible. I’ve heard of stories of people successfully getting back together after 2, 3, and even 5 years.

Cara
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Thank you EBR team for this page. It gives me some hope even though many people have told me that’ it’s been too long and the chances are low. I still think anything is possible. I’ve heard of stories of people successfully getting back together after 2, 3, and even 5 years.

Christina H.
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Hi, I have been on and off with my bf for about 4 years. We have been though a lot but I have always believed he has cared for me. I had to put my cat down a few weeks ago (this may sound silly, but it was devastating) and my bf could not have been more supportive and loving. I was so impressed! Then, a week ago, he lied about going out and drinking and we had plans the following day. I found out he lied and cancelled plans.. then I didn’t hear from him all day so I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Christina,

I understand. It’s not silly. I have pets too. But I think he understood how you loved your cat, so he was comforting. But that doesn’t have anything to do with why he lied. Is he a constant lier? We’re you always having problems about him going out?

Christina
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He did lie about going out because he knew I would get upset… It’s been three weeks and NOT ONE SINGLE WORD. I cannot believe he would hurt me like this. How could he not know ignoring me and blocking me would be incredibly painful? He obviously does not care. Mind you, this is the same guy that a few months ago was taking about moving in, marriage, wanting to take trips with me, etc. I am beyond hurt and angry.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

What’s your plan? Even though you havent spoken for weeks, it’s not considered a no contact rule if you werent focused in healing and improving yourself.. And if he lied because he knew you wouldnt approve, I think that’s one of the things that need to change if you ever get back together

Christina H.
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Hi, I have been on and off with my bf for about 4 years. We have been though a lot but I have always believed he has cared for me. I had to put my cat down a few weeks ago (this may sound silly, but it was devastating) and my bf could not have been more supportive and loving. I was so impressed! Then, a week ago, he lied about going out and drinking and we had plans the following day. I found out he lied and cancelled plans.. then I didn’t hear from him all day so I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Christina,

I understand. It’s not silly. I have pets too. But I think he understood how you loved your cat, so he was comforting. But that doesn’t have anything to do with why he lied. Is he a constant lier? We’re you always having problems about him going out?

Christina
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He did lie about going out because he knew I would get upset… It’s been three weeks and NOT ONE SINGLE WORD. I cannot believe he would hurt me like this. How could he not know ignoring me and blocking me would be incredibly painful? He obviously does not care. Mind you, this is the same guy that a few months ago was taking about moving in, marriage, wanting to take trips with me, etc. I am beyond hurt and angry.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

What’s your plan? Even though you havent spoken for weeks, it’s not considered a no contact rule if you werent focused in healing and improving yourself.. And if he lied because he knew you wouldnt approve, I think that’s one of the things that need to change if you ever get back together

Emily
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Hi, I am back in contact with my ex after almost a year, I am still in the first contact stages really, doing some good memory messages but taking it slow. Whilst I am back in contact should I be still doing jealousy in terms of pictures with other guys? like in no contact? or will this push him away? Many Thanks!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Emily,
hold back for now and focus in building rapport..

Emily
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Hi Amor,
Great thank you! So glad I asked before I acted. So great that your team have written this article, seems to be getting a lot of comments. Thanks for everything you guys do!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Thank you too Emily!

Evelyn
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What does this mean When me and my ex don’t talk or call or text anymore, but stills feels jealous or offended when seen pictures with random guys or girls? After 7 months of breakup??

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

More likely, it’s that sense of ownership and ego.. you were once his, so being human, there would really be jealousy when you’ve got someone new

Evelyn
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Suppose me and my ex haven’t texted or talked for 7 long months butjust spy each other on WhatsApp,Instagram and facebook. What does this mean? When we don’t talk or call or text anymore, but stills feels jealous or offended when seen pictures with random guys or girls?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

More likely, it’s that sense of ownership and ego.. you were once his, so being human, there would really be jealousy when you’ve got someone new

Emily
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Hi, I am back in contact with my ex after almost a year, I am still in the first contact stages really, doing some good memory messages but taking it slow. Whilst I am back in contact should I be still doing jealousy in terms of pictures with other guys? like in no contact? or will this push him away? Many Thanks!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Emily,
hold back for now and focus in building rapport..

Emily
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Hi Amor,
Great thank you! So glad I asked before I acted. So great that your team have written this article, seems to be getting a lot of comments. Thanks for everything you guys do!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Thank you too Emily!

Evelyn
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What does this mean When me and my ex don’t talk or call or text anymore, but stills feels jealous or offended when seen pictures with random guys or girls? After 7 months of breakup??

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

More likely, it’s that sense of ownership and ego.. you were once his, so being human, there would really be jealousy when you’ve got someone new

Evelyn
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Suppose me and my ex haven’t texted or talked for 7 long months butjust spy each other on WhatsApp,Instagram and facebook. What does this mean? When we don’t talk or call or text anymore, but stills feels jealous or offended when seen pictures with random guys or girls?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

More likely, it’s that sense of ownership and ego.. you were once his, so being human, there would really be jealousy when you’ve got someone new

Evelyn
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Hi my ex broke up with me 3 months ago. I tried the NC rule for 1 month and it worked. But after 1 week he again broke up with me. He says that i dont care or love him much and that he has to concentrate on his projects and im distracting him. We both are in different schools and barely meet but we do call each other every single day. I tried NC again but its going beyond 90 days. Has he really forgotten about me?? He has blocked me on fb at first month . At that… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Evelyn

it’s been too long.. in a way, at this time, both if you should have moved o from the negative emotions.. You can initiate, but if you really dont want to, set a limit on until when you would wait before totally moving on

Evelyn
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Hi my ex broke up with me 3 months ago. I tried the NC rule for 1 month and it worked. But after 1 week he again broke up with me. He says that i dont care or love him much and that he has to concentrate on his projects and im distracting him. We both are in different schools and barely meet but we do call each other every single day. I tried NC again but its going beyond 90 days. Has he really forgotten about me?? He has blocked me on fb at first month . At that… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Evelyn

it’s been too long.. in a way, at this time, both if you should have moved o from the negative emotions.. You can initiate, but if you really dont want to, set a limit on until when you would wait before totally moving on

Surprised
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Hello, So I just found out me ex and girlfriend just broke up. We haven’t talked for months since we broke up. I tried contacting him after the no contact period and it didn’t work. He snapchatted me a couple weeks ago and I snap chatted him back. He lives a couple hours away from and the picture was of him somewhere in the city near me. It was in his story so I know he sent it to a bunch of other people. No response after I snapchatted him back. . I understood because he was with the girl… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Surprised,

he may think it’s not as awkward to start with, but tread carefully. It’s ok to reconnect, but it’s not ok to be a rebound.

Surprised
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Hello, So I just found out me ex and girlfriend just broke up. We haven’t talked for months since we broke up. I tried contacting him after the no contact period and it didn’t work. He snapchatted me a couple weeks ago and I snap chatted him back. He lives a couple hours away from and the picture was of him somewhere in the city near me. It was in his story so I know he sent it to a bunch of other people. No response after I snapchatted him back. . I understood because he was with the girl… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Surprised,

he may think it’s not as awkward to start with, but tread carefully. It’s ok to reconnect, but it’s not ok to be a rebound.

Gianna
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My name is Gianna and its been 4 months since the brekup. My ex left me for a girl that he has been friends with for years. We dated for 2 years. How can I get him back? Should I wait longer?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Gianna,

They’re still together now? And I’m assuming you haven’t talked to him for 4 months too. To be honest, there’s no guarantee that you will get him back, especially if the’re going strong. And during this 4 months, did you improve yourself?

Gianna
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My name is Gianna and its been 4 months since the brekup. My ex left me for a girl that he has been friends with for years. We dated for 2 years. How can I get him back? Should I wait longer?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Gianna,

They’re still together now? And I’m assuming you haven’t talked to him for 4 months too. To be honest, there’s no guarantee that you will get him back, especially if the’re going strong. And during this 4 months, did you improve yourself?

Margaret
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I am contemplating contacting an ex after 3 years of no contact because he was in a new relationship. They ended up getting married and I thought he was happy and off the market for good. I found out this week that he has been unhappy for sometime and is going through a divorce now. I just found out a few days ago from a common friend. I can’t stop thinking about him and how I should approach the situation. It is likely that he will suspect I know about the divorce because if the friend he reached out to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Margaret

for me, now is not the right time.. let him heal and go through the divorce independently, because if you come in his life right now, you might end up being a rebound

Margaret
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I am contemplating contacting an ex after 3 years of no contact because he was in a new relationship. They ended up getting married and I thought he was happy and off the market for good. I found out this week that he has been unhappy for sometime and is going through a divorce now. I just found out a few days ago from a common friend. I can’t stop thinking about him and how I should approach the situation. It is likely that he will suspect I know about the divorce because if the friend he reached out to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Margaret

for me, now is not the right time.. let him heal and go through the divorce independently, because if you come in his life right now, you might end up being a rebound

A
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Hi I posted on this about 5 months ago when my ex and I broke up then he was vying for my attention. And it’s been 5 months we hadn’t spoken honestly I thought I was better off. I had a massive break down on Monday basically from bottling up all my emotions so I let him have at it. I came down on him pretty hard because I had been trying to be the sane ungettable girl and being coy but I was ready to move on now but I couldn’t do it without nuking that last relationship into… Read more »
A
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Oh yeah I really needed help with this part like how is it possible after waiting for this person for 5 months … I find out there was someone else in between and I don’t want them anymore? What do normal people do? do they just make a decision – accept it and move on? I keep saying I need contingency. I need him to give up something for this to be worth my while. I mean I could just sleep with someone but I’m not sure that would make me happy or forgive this. I mean while I was… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi A,

your improvements basically helped you move on.. so, the question is, do you want to give him a chance or not? Well, for me, his actions were out of being sad.. Yes, it was a mistake but I think his actions now prove that he’s more attracted to you than the other girl and that he still has feelings for you..

A
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Yeah, I’ve decided to give him another chance and it’s so weird. Get this. He watched a movie with her on this blue couch at his house. I of course was like wtf. I want you to burn that couch! I’m not going anywhere near it. Except the couch belongs to his room mates so he didn’t have any say in getting rid of it. This morning when I went over to his house his room mates happened to be throwing out the couch – just out of pure coincidence. Is it just me or is everything falling into place… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

fuheva chasing? lol! Well, the most important is, you don’t lose yourself in a relationship.. Even when you get married. It doesn’t mean you have to let him chase forever but it does mean, both of you know that if you don’t take time for each other, or take time alone, and if you don’t take care of the relationship, you would lose it..

Just enjoy every moment with him, and when you’re not, enjoy that moment for yourself. Don’t stop growing.

We would love your progress pics 🙂 You can send it to [email protected] Thank you!

A
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I will shoot them through! Also, I’ve spent a bit more time with my ex. He keeps saying I’m a bad person – like I’m not a good person. I think he’s bringing me down. It’s like when parents keep telling you that you’re ugly, or that you have “bad character” or whatever like none of that shit is very helpful because they made you – you’re actually a reflection of them. So when they keep saying it – you become it. My ex keeps telling me I’m a bad person “like him”. I spent the last 5 months working… Read more »
A
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Hi I posted on this about 5 months ago when my ex and I broke up then he was vying for my attention. And it’s been 5 months we hadn’t spoken honestly I thought I was better off. I had a massive break down on Monday basically from bottling up all my emotions so I let him have at it. I came down on him pretty hard because I had been trying to be the sane ungettable girl and being coy but I was ready to move on now but I couldn’t do it without nuking that last relationship into… Read more »
A
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Oh yeah I really needed help with this part like how is it possible after waiting for this person for 5 months … I find out there was someone else in between and I don’t want them anymore? What do normal people do? do they just make a decision – accept it and move on? I keep saying I need contingency. I need him to give up something for this to be worth my while. I mean I could just sleep with someone but I’m not sure that would make me happy or forgive this. I mean while I was… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi A,

your improvements basically helped you move on.. so, the question is, do you want to give him a chance or not? Well, for me, his actions were out of being sad.. Yes, it was a mistake but I think his actions now prove that he’s more attracted to you than the other girl and that he still has feelings for you..

A
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Yeah, I’ve decided to give him another chance and it’s so weird. Get this. He watched a movie with her on this blue couch at his house. I of course was like wtf. I want you to burn that couch! I’m not going anywhere near it. Except the couch belongs to his room mates so he didn’t have any say in getting rid of it. This morning when I went over to his house his room mates happened to be throwing out the couch – just out of pure coincidence. Is it just me or is everything falling into place… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

fuheva chasing? lol! Well, the most important is, you don’t lose yourself in a relationship.. Even when you get married. It doesn’t mean you have to let him chase forever but it does mean, both of you know that if you don’t take time for each other, or take time alone, and if you don’t take care of the relationship, you would lose it..

Just enjoy every moment with him, and when you’re not, enjoy that moment for yourself. Don’t stop growing.

We would love your progress pics 🙂 You can send it to [email protected] Thank you!

A
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I will shoot them through! Also, I’ve spent a bit more time with my ex. He keeps saying I’m a bad person – like I’m not a good person. I think he’s bringing me down. It’s like when parents keep telling you that you’re ugly, or that you have “bad character” or whatever like none of that shit is very helpful because they made you – you’re actually a reflection of them. So when they keep saying it – you become it. My ex keeps telling me I’m a bad person “like him”. I spent the last 5 months working… Read more »
Donna
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Hi Amor,

I’ve gone a little over 30 days of no contact so far, and I received a “like” on a tweet from my ex on Twitter via his secret account (the jury is still out whether or not it’s really him, but my friend assures me that it is him).

I’m thinking about repling to him in a private message, but I’m a bit scared to make the first move. He still has me blocked on his main account, and I really want to gain a good rapport with him. I really need some guidance and help here!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

You mean reply in the private account? Nope, don’t do that.. First, you’re not sure if it’s really him. Second if it’s him, he might use it as a test for you.

Donna
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Yes, in the private account. So should I go another 30 days? If he is testing me, I wonder for how long he is expecting me to go along with this test and stay quiet. 30 days? 90 days? I feel like I’m treading on thin ice with him any time I wrote him a message in the past. Thankfully, I found out that reason why he blocked me was not entirely my fault (I won’t go into the dirty details, but it’s amazing the amount of damage a jealous woman can do). I just really hope that eventually, some… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

dont interact in that account because of it’s a test to see if you’re going to flirt somebody you dont know, then he might use that against you.. if you are going to talk to him, talk to him in his real account..

Donna
Guest
Well, that private account is actually a role playing account, and a few of our mutual friends have told me that it really is him hiding behind a “character.” I have never flirted with the private account and I don’t plan to. Besides that, how am I supposed to interact with him solely on his real account if he has me blocked? Do I just stay silent using the no contact rule for an infinite amount of time until he unblocks me? It’s been over 30 days so far of no contact, and I think I’ve been doing pretty good… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s good that you didn’t.. if you’re still blocked now, extend for another week, and then use any other form aside from the role playing account. If there is really no other way, then be candid in asking him through that role account..

Like, “I don’t know, if this you (name) but it would really be nice if this is you. Just want to say(and then insert the first contact message.)

Donna
Guest

Ok, I’ll try that Amor. Any other form of contact would have to be in a public comment/tweet, and I don’t think a first contact message was meant to be in public, but private. I feel comfortable enough to ask him in the role play account in a private message. So I will wait another week when I will have reached 45 days. In the mean time, I’ll take another look at Chris’s articles about the perfect first message.

Donna
Guest
Hi Amor, Update here: I did find his Facebook page. He isn’t allowing anyone to friend him, but he did friend his gf and he still has his status as “divorced” from his previous marriage. I snooped around and he is still friends with his exfiance’s family. So I’m thinking my suspecions are right that this gf is a rebound. That said, I might still have a chance here. I’m just afraid that if I sent him a private message that he might just block me on Facbook as well. But we were never friends on Facebook before and as… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Right 🙂 Go for it! Just don’t send a first text about your feelings, relationships, nor about his facebook

Donna
Guest

Hi Amor,

I’ve gone a little over 30 days of no contact so far, and I received a “like” on a tweet from my ex on Twitter via his secret account (the jury is still out whether or not it’s really him, but my friend assures me that it is him).

I’m thinking about repling to him in a private message, but I’m a bit scared to make the first move. He still has me blocked on his main account, and I really want to gain a good rapport with him. I really need some guidance and help here!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You mean reply in the private account? Nope, don’t do that.. First, you’re not sure if it’s really him. Second if it’s him, he might use it as a test for you.

Donna
Guest
Yes, in the private account. So should I go another 30 days? If he is testing me, I wonder for how long he is expecting me to go along with this test and stay quiet. 30 days? 90 days? I feel like I’m treading on thin ice with him any time I wrote him a message in the past. Thankfully, I found out that reason why he blocked me was not entirely my fault (I won’t go into the dirty details, but it’s amazing the amount of damage a jealous woman can do). I just really hope that eventually, some… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

dont interact in that account because of it’s a test to see if you’re going to flirt somebody you dont know, then he might use that against you.. if you are going to talk to him, talk to him in his real account..

Donna
Guest
Well, that private account is actually a role playing account, and a few of our mutual friends have told me that it really is him hiding behind a “character.” I have never flirted with the private account and I don’t plan to. Besides that, how am I supposed to interact with him solely on his real account if he has me blocked? Do I just stay silent using the no contact rule for an infinite amount of time until he unblocks me? It’s been over 30 days so far of no contact, and I think I’ve been doing pretty good… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s good that you didn’t.. if you’re still blocked now, extend for another week, and then use any other form aside from the role playing account. If there is really no other way, then be candid in asking him through that role account..

Like, “I don’t know, if this you (name) but it would really be nice if this is you. Just want to say(and then insert the first contact message.)

Donna
Guest

Ok, I’ll try that Amor. Any other form of contact would have to be in a public comment/tweet, and I don’t think a first contact message was meant to be in public, but private. I feel comfortable enough to ask him in the role play account in a private message. So I will wait another week when I will have reached 45 days. In the mean time, I’ll take another look at Chris’s articles about the perfect first message.

Donna
Guest
Hi Amor, Update here: I did find his Facebook page. He isn’t allowing anyone to friend him, but he did friend his gf and he still has his status as “divorced” from his previous marriage. I snooped around and he is still friends with his exfiance’s family. So I’m thinking my suspecions are right that this gf is a rebound. That said, I might still have a chance here. I’m just afraid that if I sent him a private message that he might just block me on Facbook as well. But we were never friends on Facebook before and as… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Right 🙂 Go for it! Just don’t send a first text about your feelings, relationships, nor about his facebook

Samantha
Guest
Hi! My ex and I broke up 3 months ago. We dated around 2 years, we were really close, but somehow the last few months of our relationship were full of silly (but big) fights. In one of these fights, I told him I was overwhelmed by all the arguing, that I wanted to be alone. A week after, I called him to fix things, but he was different and told me he didn’t wanted to be with me anymore. We met a few days later to give each other our stuff and we ended up in great terms. He… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Samantha,
you said you broke up 3 months ago, I don’t think he moved on that quickly if he broke up with you 3 months ago. If he sees you now, would he think you have moved on? Will he be comfortable enough to be friends with you again? Would he be attracted to you?

Samantha
Guest
Hi! My ex and I broke up 3 months ago. We dated around 2 years, we were really close, but somehow the last few months of our relationship were full of silly (but big) fights. In one of these fights, I told him I was overwhelmed by all the arguing, that I wanted to be alone. A week after, I called him to fix things, but he was different and told me he didn’t wanted to be with me anymore. We met a few days later to give each other our stuff and we ended up in great terms. He… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Samantha,
you said you broke up 3 months ago, I don’t think he moved on that quickly if he broke up with you 3 months ago. If he sees you now, would he think you have moved on? Will he be comfortable enough to be friends with you again? Would he be attracted to you?

Hopefull
Guest
Hi, I’ve spoken to you before about my situation but I’m just going to summarize some points again. My ex and I, have been dating for almost 4 years, and spent last year living together. We had our ups and downs, but last 2 months of us living together were very good. We finally got hold of the whole living together thing. Due to circumstances we decided to move apart for some time but planned on seeing each-other just as we were before. He moved out, all was good and 2 weeks after, he came back and broke up with… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hopeful,

if you got a neutral response, wait a week before trying again.. if he still ignores you, wait two weeks before trying again..if he still ignores you after that then it’s better to move on..

the topic should be something he loves talking about.. not about your life. something that he’s interested in

Hopefull
Guest
Hi, I’ve spoken to you before about my situation but I’m just going to summarize some points again. My ex and I, have been dating for almost 4 years, and spent last year living together. We had our ups and downs, but last 2 months of us living together were very good. We finally got hold of the whole living together thing. Due to circumstances we decided to move apart for some time but planned on seeing each-other just as we were before. He moved out, all was good and 2 weeks after, he came back and broke up with… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hopeful,

if you got a neutral response, wait a week before trying again.. if he still ignores you, wait two weeks before trying again..if he still ignores you after that then it’s better to move on..

the topic should be something he loves talking about.. not about your life. something that he’s interested in

Nana
Guest
hi there, I dated a guy (the love of my life) for about year+.. 5 years ago.. (yeah long time ago I know).. he was studying abroad.. I texted him five months ago.. congratulating him on finishing his studies and passing the entrance exam.. he responded in a VERY positive way.. and kept asking me what I was up to.. and for the following month he used to initiate the conversations (messages).. sometimes he was wishing me the best.. and wishing me luck finding the suitable guy for me.. but then again he would start flirting and complementing me.. saying… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nana,

I think it’s a smart move of being present in that way because you’re still distant.. Try to guage on when you can start initiating texting again. When he talks more to you when you’re there then continue the conversations in text.

Nana
Guest
hi there, I dated a guy (the love of my life) for about year+.. 5 years ago.. (yeah long time ago I know).. he was studying abroad.. I texted him five months ago.. congratulating him on finishing his studies and passing the entrance exam.. he responded in a VERY positive way.. and kept asking me what I was up to.. and for the following month he used to initiate the conversations (messages).. sometimes he was wishing me the best.. and wishing me luck finding the suitable guy for me.. but then again he would start flirting and complementing me.. saying… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nana,

I think it’s a smart move of being present in that way because you’re still distant.. Try to guage on when you can start initiating texting again. When he talks more to you when you’re there then continue the conversations in text.

Amy
Guest
I’ve been hanging out with my ex nine months after break up, having friends with benefits situation but we also were always saying goodbye to each other and never succeed in that. I know he loves me, I know he was thinking of giving us one more chance (he said that and he was crying once and said that would be a mistake so we didn’t reconciliate back then) but it didn’t happen, he is so stubborn and convinced that we are not good match. My question is- is it too late for NC? Are my chances bad after all… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Amy,

to be honest, being friends with benefits is damaged your chances. It’s not possible in the near future because he just wants to be friends now and he knows how much you like him so every move you’ll make, he might think it’s one of your ways of getting him back.. So, yes, it’s better to move on now..

Amy
Guest

So, what should I do if I want him back? NC for how long? Or you are telling me that it’s over for good and I don’t have a chance at all and should stop trying?
Chris wrote about friends with benefits and he didn’t sound like it’s impossible to get him back from that situation…

Amy
Guest
Btw, I know for sure that all this time he had feelings for me, maybe not like before, but he had. He was jealous when I was dating this one guy, he admitted that he thought of geting back with me during those nine months but it isn’t important… and he helped me with some major things in my life so I know I am not just a fuck buddy to him. I know that some guys will tell everything and treat women like garbage because of sex, but he is not like that. But he is strongly conviced that… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
yes, it’s not impossible but honestly, for you, I think it’s not possible in the near future.. I didn’t say never.. You just have to have a restart. I understand that you will keep trying. There’s no guarantee that the no contact rule will work but as a last step, do 45 days.. Keep in mind, take this as a restart.. Move on from the previous relationship. So, when you reconnect after 45 days, you have to take it slow, don’t sleep with him again and you have to keep the routine you started during no contact. He may not… Read more »
Amy
Guest
Thank you, Amor. I blocked him on Facebook tonight. I know that Chris says that it’s not good but earlier when I had him on Facebook and trying to do NC, I was aware that he is looking my profile and I was kind of doing everything knowing that he is watching, doing things because of him and I don’t want that. Having him on Facebook makes me miss him more and he is still part of my life that way, so I decided to block him. Will that damage my chances? I have a lot of work to do,… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yeah, I understand. I think it would be better if you just block him for you to fully heal. Commonly, in this situations, it takes 6 months to a year..

Amy
Guest
I’ve been hanging out with my ex nine months after break up, having friends with benefits situation but we also were always saying goodbye to each other and never succeed in that. I know he loves me, I know he was thinking of giving us one more chance (he said that and he was crying once and said that would be a mistake so we didn’t reconciliate back then) but it didn’t happen, he is so stubborn and convinced that we are not good match. My question is- is it too late for NC? Are my chances bad after all… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Amy,

to be honest, being friends with benefits is damaged your chances. It’s not possible in the near future because he just wants to be friends now and he knows how much you like him so every move you’ll make, he might think it’s one of your ways of getting him back.. So, yes, it’s better to move on now..

Amy
Guest

So, what should I do if I want him back? NC for how long? Or you are telling me that it’s over for good and I don’t have a chance at all and should stop trying?
Chris wrote about friends with benefits and he didn’t sound like it’s impossible to get him back from that situation…

Amy
Guest
Btw, I know for sure that all this time he had feelings for me, maybe not like before, but he had. He was jealous when I was dating this one guy, he admitted that he thought of geting back with me during those nine months but it isn’t important… and he helped me with some major things in my life so I know I am not just a fuck buddy to him. I know that some guys will tell everything and treat women like garbage because of sex, but he is not like that. But he is strongly conviced that… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
yes, it’s not impossible but honestly, for you, I think it’s not possible in the near future.. I didn’t say never.. You just have to have a restart. I understand that you will keep trying. There’s no guarantee that the no contact rule will work but as a last step, do 45 days.. Keep in mind, take this as a restart.. Move on from the previous relationship. So, when you reconnect after 45 days, you have to take it slow, don’t sleep with him again and you have to keep the routine you started during no contact. He may not… Read more »
Amy
Guest
Thank you, Amor. I blocked him on Facebook tonight. I know that Chris says that it’s not good but earlier when I had him on Facebook and trying to do NC, I was aware that he is looking my profile and I was kind of doing everything knowing that he is watching, doing things because of him and I don’t want that. Having him on Facebook makes me miss him more and he is still part of my life that way, so I decided to block him. Will that damage my chances? I have a lot of work to do,… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yeah, I understand. I think it would be better if you just block him for you to fully heal. Commonly, in this situations, it takes 6 months to a year..

Lily
Guest
Hi there, My ex boyfriend and I broke up 4 months ago. I dont really get the reason because he gave too many reasons. But I think he was bored. We had a happy 5 year relationship before the break up happened. I tried the 30 day NC rule and improvised myself a lot after the break up. At first it was good. He called me and texted me. He even invited me out for dinner. I brought up interesting topics and we were texting for a while. But then I gave up after a month because he always replied… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Actually it seems like you rushed it. See, he’s missing you because you’re being distant. You’re improving and moving on which makes him think that may be you are serious about moving on and he’s asking and investigating if you are really moving on. I think you should just keep doing what you’re doing. The only thing I can add is to make every conversation with him fun. If he talks to you, leave that fun impression and then go do your own thing again.
He has to think if he doesn’t act, he will lose you.

Lily
Guest

Thanks for the advice Amor 🙂 After a week of no contact, my ex just texted me today inviting me out for a movie. I was busy today so he said maybe we can go out tomorrow or the day after. I said that’s a good idea. Our conversation stopped there. Few days ago I posted a picture of mine on Facebook which attracted lots of attention from my male friends and colleagues. Should I go out with him? What should I do if I go out with him? (staying friendly and talkative or acting cool?)

Lily
Guest
So I went on a date with him yesterday. We watched a movie and had dinner together. I am not sure if it went well. maybe because we havent seen each other for a while (3 months I guess). He grabbed my hand for a few seconds then let go. I was a bit surprised. But I tried not to be too close or excited. He booked a couple seat where there is no barrier in the middle. I initially put my handbag there and only remove it after about 30 minutes (I was thinking he should think that I’m… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry for the late reply.. I think it was good and bad at the same time.. good because he asked you out, bad because it was too long for “first” date again.. It became awkward because you’re right, you haven’t seen each other for a long time, and it was too intimate for a first date again.. Just rest texting for a few days and then initiate again.. rest for 3 days to a week..

Lily
Guest
Hi Amor, Thank you for your reply. I didn’t initiate any contact with him yet. And 2 days ago he called me to ask which Pandora charm I’d like for my birthday. I think I told you that my birthday is this month and he said he would give me a present. I told him it was up to him, just buy it if he thinks it’s nice. Then he said maybe we better go check it out together when we have time. I said it’s a good idea. (My birthday is end of this month. He will be taking… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it can have an effect. It can make him think, so the safe choice would be to go in a group date with your admirers at first. Invite the guy with your friend when you go out.

lily
Guest
Hi again. I hope your team including yourself are doing great over there 🙂 I guess it’s time that I need your advice again. or at least just someone who I can share these secrets to. So he greeted me on my birthday which was about one and a half month ago. we haven’t talked since then. I was surprised a bit as his birthday wish was kinda sweet as he called me “babe” even though we didn’t talk much ever since our break up. he was away to another country during my bday so he said he would buy… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

did he message you again in any other form of communication after that message?

lily
Guest

no he didn’t. and he seldom goes online too.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that means he really wants you to move on.. greeting him will look like you didn’t read it, and it may make him reiterate to you that you have to move on.. It would be better if you don’t greet him and start being active in improving yourself..show you accept his decision and moving on.. Make him regret through your improvements

Lily
Guest
Hi there, My ex boyfriend and I broke up 4 months ago. I dont really get the reason because he gave too many reasons. But I think he was bored. We had a happy 5 year relationship before the break up happened. I tried the 30 day NC rule and improvised myself a lot after the break up. At first it was good. He called me and texted me. He even invited me out for dinner. I brought up interesting topics and we were texting for a while. But then I gave up after a month because he always replied… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Actually it seems like you rushed it. See, he’s missing you because you’re being distant. You’re improving and moving on which makes him think that may be you are serious about moving on and he’s asking and investigating if you are really moving on. I think you should just keep doing what you’re doing. The only thing I can add is to make every conversation with him fun. If he talks to you, leave that fun impression and then go do your own thing again.
He has to think if he doesn’t act, he will lose you.

Lily
Guest

Thanks for the advice Amor 🙂 After a week of no contact, my ex just texted me today inviting me out for a movie. I was busy today so he said maybe we can go out tomorrow or the day after. I said that’s a good idea. Our conversation stopped there. Few days ago I posted a picture of mine on Facebook which attracted lots of attention from my male friends and colleagues. Should I go out with him? What should I do if I go out with him? (staying friendly and talkative or acting cool?)

Lily
Guest
So I went on a date with him yesterday. We watched a movie and had dinner together. I am not sure if it went well. maybe because we havent seen each other for a while (3 months I guess). He grabbed my hand for a few seconds then let go. I was a bit surprised. But I tried not to be too close or excited. He booked a couple seat where there is no barrier in the middle. I initially put my handbag there and only remove it after about 30 minutes (I was thinking he should think that I’m… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry for the late reply.. I think it was good and bad at the same time.. good because he asked you out, bad because it was too long for “first” date again.. It became awkward because you’re right, you haven’t seen each other for a long time, and it was too intimate for a first date again.. Just rest texting for a few days and then initiate again.. rest for 3 days to a week..

Lily
Guest
Hi Amor, Thank you for your reply. I didn’t initiate any contact with him yet. And 2 days ago he called me to ask which Pandora charm I’d like for my birthday. I think I told you that my birthday is this month and he said he would give me a present. I told him it was up to him, just buy it if he thinks it’s nice. Then he said maybe we better go check it out together when we have time. I said it’s a good idea. (My birthday is end of this month. He will be taking… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it can have an effect. It can make him think, so the safe choice would be to go in a group date with your admirers at first. Invite the guy with your friend when you go out.

lily
Guest
Hi again. I hope your team including yourself are doing great over there 🙂 I guess it’s time that I need your advice again. or at least just someone who I can share these secrets to. So he greeted me on my birthday which was about one and a half month ago. we haven’t talked since then. I was surprised a bit as his birthday wish was kinda sweet as he called me “babe” even though we didn’t talk much ever since our break up. he was away to another country during my bday so he said he would buy… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

did he message you again in any other form of communication after that message?

lily
Guest

no he didn’t. and he seldom goes online too.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that means he really wants you to move on.. greeting him will look like you didn’t read it, and it may make him reiterate to you that you have to move on.. It would be better if you don’t greet him and start being active in improving yourself..show you accept his decision and moving on.. Make him regret through your improvements

Jessica
Guest
Hello! It’s been almost 3 years since me and my ex broke up. We used to go to the same gym until it closed in November 2015. So, for two years it was hard seeing him everyday at the gym because I was, in still am, in love with him. When the gym closed, we went to different gyms and it was the last time I saw him (so almost a year ago). His birthday is coming up in October and I don’t know if it would be okay just to send him a short message. He didn’t say anything… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jessica,

It depends on what you say but he will probably have that in the back of his mind. You have to check this one:
The Guide To Getting Him Back After A Year (Or More) Apart

Jessica
Guest
Hello! It’s been almost 3 years since me and my ex broke up. We used to go to the same gym until it closed in November 2015. So, for two years it was hard seeing him everyday at the gym because I was, in still am, in love with him. When the gym closed, we went to different gyms and it was the last time I saw him (so almost a year ago). His birthday is coming up in October and I don’t know if it would be okay just to send him a short message. He didn’t say anything… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jessica,

It depends on what you say but he will probably have that in the back of his mind. You have to check this one:
The Guide To Getting Him Back After A Year (Or More) Apart

Donna
Guest

Hi Amor! I just wanted to let you know that I emailed Chris just a few moments ago. Since my story was a bit long, I knew I couldn’t fit it all within a 60 second voice mail and I didn’t want to risk forgetting any important details. So I hope an email will suffice and he can answer me back soon or at least eventually.
Thank you for your help 🙂

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Ok Donna! I’ll remind him too and I’ll send him this comment to check. 🙂 Thank you too!

Donna
Guest
Thanks Amor! I guess I should also add in that I wrote in the comments in one of Chris’s videos on You Tube, so I pretty much covered the bases lol! Also, I don’t think I mentioned this before, but a couple months ago I moved with my family 1,000 miles away from my home town. It’s been a bit of a traumatic experience and year for me. But I have some good news, I just had a job interview this morning. If I get this job, it will definitely help me with getting through the no contact rule. Watching… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s good Donna! Thank you too! And have fun in your new job!

Donna
Guest

Hi Amor! I just wanted to let you know that I emailed Chris just a few moments ago. Since my story was a bit long, I knew I couldn’t fit it all within a 60 second voice mail and I didn’t want to risk forgetting any important details. So I hope an email will suffice and he can answer me back soon or at least eventually.
Thank you for your help 🙂

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Ok Donna! I’ll remind him too and I’ll send him this comment to check. 🙂 Thank you too!

Donna
Guest
Thanks Amor! I guess I should also add in that I wrote in the comments in one of Chris’s videos on You Tube, so I pretty much covered the bases lol! Also, I don’t think I mentioned this before, but a couple months ago I moved with my family 1,000 miles away from my home town. It’s been a bit of a traumatic experience and year for me. But I have some good news, I just had a job interview this morning. If I get this job, it will definitely help me with getting through the no contact rule. Watching… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s good Donna! Thank you too! And have fun in your new job!