One of my biggest pet peeves is when a woman in the middle of No Contact comes up to me and asks,

“Chris, my exes birthday is tomorrow. Am I allowed to break the no contact rule to wish him one?”

Now, the important part to grasp right away is that wishing your ex a happy birthday isn’t so much the issue here.

It’s the fact that women will use it as excuse to talk to their ex when they are in the midst of a no contact rule.

Oh, and in case you didn’t know what the no contact rule is here is a quick refresher,

The No Contact Rule = A Period of time where you don’t talk to your ex on purpose. 

Now, the no contact rule is kind of a big deal here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery because it is essentially the foundation upon which every “ex recovery” campaign is built.

It doesn’t matter if you want to get him back or simply get over him, the no contact rule is going to be present.

Lets talk numbers for a second.

Did you know that in my own independent research looking at all the success stories here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery over 70% of women who have gotten their ex back have utilized a no contact rule in some way shape or form.

That is insane.

But lets take it a step further.

Did you know that every single woman who has gotten her ex back in our Private Support Group has utilized no contact.

(That’s 100% if you can’t count 🙂 .)

But what does any of this have to do with wishing your ex a happy birthday?

The No Contact Rule And Happy Birthdays

I have made my case for why the no contact rule is essential for getting an ex back (if that is what you want.)

But do you want to know what destroys a no contact rule faster than anything.

Breaking it and then having to start over again from scratch.

Not a lot of people know this because they mostly take my advice at face value and just assume that things will remain the same throughout but the no contact rule can actually lose effectiveness every time you start it and then stop it.

Think of it like seeing a movie for the first time.

The experience of watching a movie for the first time is going to be the best. It’s going to lose a bit of it’s punch the next time you watch it and then the next time and so on and so forth.

Well, the same type of logic is going to apply with the no contact rule.

The most effective that it is ever going to be on your ex is when you try it on them for the very first time.

But lets say that you break it for some inexplicable reason and decide to start over again.

While the no contact rule can still be effective it won’t be as effective as the very first time you tried it.

Get it?

So, where do happy birthdays come into play here.

Well, society has this rule that it’s very important for you to wish someone a happy birthday. I mean, looking at my own Facebook profile the vast majority of people who wished me a happy birthday are people who I haven’t talked to in YEARS!

Therefore, it makes a lot of sense that a lot of men and women are quick to break the no contact rule just to wish their ex a happy birthday.

However, I still haven’t gone into one of the major problems that we have here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery with the no contact rule.

The Major Problem We Have With The No Contact Rule

You see, getting people to try the no contact rule isn’t our problem here at EBR.

On the contrary, after I explain the benefits to most people they are ready to sign up.

The problems lies in the fact that the vast majority of the people who try it simply cannot stay in it.

They break it.

And after you look at the science of it, it makes a lot of sense.

Not a lot of people know this but after you go through a breakup the part of the brain that lights up and becomes active is the exact same part of the brain that lights up and becomes active in a drug addict.

If you have ever wondered why people going through heartbreak exhibit many of the classic signs of “withdrawal” well, that’s why!

Now, the no contact rule takes someone in that state of mind and forces them to create a new habit where they aren’t engaging in their addiction, their ex.

Rather, they are flat out ignoring them.

Of course, this also explains why so many men and women have trouble with it.

How many drug addicts are able to quit cold turkey?

The Answer = Not A Lot

I have found that most of the clients I work with who actually try implementing the no contact rule will fight every step of the way to look for an excuse to break it.

Do you see where I am going with this?

And that is where birthdays come into play.

What Happens When You Break The No Contact Rule To Wish Your Ex A Happy Birthday

Lets switch gears for a bit and talk about the most likely outcome that will occur by breaking the no contact rule to wish your ex a happy birthday.

One thing that I am really big on when it comes to talking to your ex is mapping out his or her potential responses to your text messages.

I find it’s often helpful to do this fun exercise so you can make the most of your interactions with your ex and believe me that really matters because in the grand scheme of things you only have a small amount of chances to really rebuild attraction.

So, lets do this fun exercise with a happy birthday text.

Here is the scenario.

You have been in the midst of a no contact period for 12 days and it just so happens that your exes birthday is on day 13. You debate back and forth on whether you should wish them a happy birthday and ultimately decide on the fact that you should do it.

So, day 13 rolls around and you send the fairly basic “happy birthday text” looking something like this,

Now, the way I see it is that there are three ways that your ex can respond to this.

The Basic Response

Thanks…

This is the most basic response you will get (and probably the most likely outcome.)

People are hardwired to say “thanks, “thank you” or some variation to being told happy birthday and therein lies the problem. Why would you subject yourself to lessening your position for a “thanks.”

This is the best outcome you can hope for and that in and of itself is depressing.

The Negative Response

If you get this response then it is pretty clear that you shouldn’t have broken the no contact rule.

Why?

Because if your ex is literally sitting there and asking you,

“Hey, why are we talking?”

It clearly means that they are still holding some serious resentment towards you.

So, essentially what you will have done here is ended a no contact rule which has an added benefit of calming them down to have your ex tell you to f*ck off basically.

The No Response

For some reason I feel like I would fall into this category personally.

Some breakups cause people to use their own silence against you.

So, by wishing your ex a happy birthday and having them not respond to you it is their subtle way of letting you know,

“Hey, I saw your text but you are so beneath me I am not going to even give you the most basic response.

Ok, here is the point I am trying to drive home for you.

Breaking the no contact rule to wish your ex a happy birthday will do nothing to advance your position.

In fact, all it will end up doing is worsening it.

Nevertheless, I feel it would be short sighted of me to not take a look at the other argument.

The Final Conclusion: Should You Wish Your Ex A Happy Birthday

Here is a sad truth.

The “get your ex back” niche is full of shady characters.

They won’t give away any of their “tricks” for free (not that their tricks are anything revolutionary) and I feel like half of them are just scam artists.

Nevertheless, that doesn’t mean I haven’t made a few friends over the years.

On the contrary, I would say that probably one of the best friends I have made in this space is a fellow by the name of Brad Browning. Now, Brad is really interesting in the fact that he is one of the very few “breakup coaches” willing to put his face on camera which you will find is extremely rare in this day and age.

Anyways, a few months ago Brad came to me with this really interesting idea.

Hey man, how would you like to do a Brad Vs. Chris video where we take questions from our audience and give our perspective?

Needless to say, I was in!

So, we filmed this beauty together,

Now, what a lot of people don’t know about this is that we didn’t know how the other was going to answer the questions that were chosen at random and we found that we disagreed on one thing in particular.

Happy Birthdays!

No seriously, scroll to 16 minutes and 07 seconds into the video and you can hear me making my argument for the fact that you shouldn’t break no contact to wish an ex a happy birthday and you can hear Brad making his that you should.

Honestly, I think it is the most comprehensive talk that has maybe ever been done on the subject.

So, who is right?

Well, I am….

No, ultimately who is right is up to you (but I’m right 😉 .)

Let me just end by reiterating what I was saying in the video versus Brad.

I think it is a huge mistake to break the no contact rule to wish your ex a happy birthday.

Of all the things that you can say to your ex to get them to want you back “happy birthday” isn’t going to be it.

Instead, all breaking the no contact rule to wish your ex a happy birthday will accomplish is ruining any progress you have already made.

You will essentially be giving into your addiction of talking to your ex and lower the no contact rule’s effectiveness.

Just sayin!

61 thoughts on ““Can I Text My Ex On His Birthday?” Let’s End This Discussion Right Now”

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    MB

    June 19, 2019 at 3:18 pm

    I kind of regret saying Happy Birthday. We were friends after a break up, then 3 years long distance and then 2 months living together and it was terrible. He threatened to leave 3 times after arguing and the third threat I threw my hands up in the air and he left. I did the usual crying and pleading. He didn’t seem that interested in me, but made a little effort and ultimately moved back in two weeks later. I was shocked after he moved back in lock, stock, and barrel and paid hardly any attention to me, and said he was only going to stay with me for three day weekends (Fri Sat Sun). I thought it was very rude not to discuss that before moving in, but I tried to distract myself and give it some thought. When he said he was going back to his place a day early on Sunday, I confronted him and ultimately broke up with him. I told him why, that I wasn’t mad, that it wasn’t his fault and that I was sorry. I knew it hurt him even though he lost his attraction for me and I had every reason to get myself out of the situation. Well, on the 14th day of no contact he showed up at my door unexpectedly to get his mail that he didn’t need. I think he was surprised that I was being nice and unemotional and not talking about “us”. He left the truck running, so to signal that it would be a very short visit, and it was short, but not bad. So I had no intention of wishing him Happy Birthday on day 17, but I was torn because of the “visit” and such a short time since breaking up. Was it more cruel to do or not not do? I debated and then put myself out there with no expectations. Afterward (it’s only been an 48 minutes), no response. I was mostly afraid he had changed his number, but it seems the text went through. I will be hurt if he doesn’t say thanks, but I knew this lol. If he doesn’t respond, that is a response! And yes it has set me back for a minute.

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    Sia

    April 23, 2019 at 6:22 am

    Hi, my ex boyfriend broke up with me in February and I reached out in March. But haven’t reached out since. Thursday is his birthday but I feel like he would get upset. Do I still wish him a happy birthday from the kindness of my heart or just stop texting completely

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    Afrah

    April 15, 2019 at 10:31 am

    I was in a relationship for 3 years. We had a lot of fights but we always made up eventually. Things were good the past few months but all of a sudden out of the blue he wanted to break up and said that he wants to focus on his career. Later I got to know he went through some rejection. I am trying to give him space but it’s his birthday tomorrow. Do you think I should leave a voice message just to stir up his emotions? He even unfriended me from every social media.

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    Lee

    April 4, 2019 at 5:04 am

    I was in a long distance relationship for 15 months. He has been very unresponsive to my messages and calls durng the last month. After me spamming him on whatsapp asking him to tell me whats going on he responded that he cant do it this anymore. He just has no time and that he is working a lot. That was 2 days ago.
    We didnt end on end terms.
    His birthday is next week. I guess i should just ignore him, right?

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    Maria

    March 17, 2019 at 11:27 pm

    Today is my ex boyfriends birthday. We were in a long distance relationship and unfortunately his parents werent agreeing with the idea of us to be together. They wanted him to date someone there but he was all like people are fake and that he wanted me only. But now things got changed after that, he started to act defensive, he was hiding some things, didnt call me as much as I wanted to, telling me he was busy and that he would love to call me, acted different, started to think negative about our “future”. I even sent him something via post, in real life like a drawing and some cute stuff ,but it wasnt for his birthday, and he loved it a lot. But the distance was it and he faded away and started to agree with his parents that we cant be together. He knew I was sweet and a very caring person and he still thinks I am. He said he couldn’t live without me but I in the end he accepts the idea of not being with me anymore and that he cant do anything about it.
    Also he started highschool, his 12th year and he is a lot stressed. Weve broken up for like 2 months ago
    Idk should I apply the rule? I feel like I should but I am still very unsure about that.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      March 18, 2019 at 10:19 pm

      Hi Maria…It might be the best course of action given all the things you have tried before. Almost always best to change strategies if what you are doing is not getting any traction. Pick up my Program’s “EBR Guide Pro” so you can come up to speed on how all this works.

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    Mimi

    October 3, 2018 at 3:27 pm

    Hi EBR Team,

    I’m in a very long distance relationship (continents away). We met overseas and wanted to work after 4 days of interacting. On and off for 2 years (first year he chased me for months on two different occasions because he’d messed up). And officially together for 9 months since January and we’ve met each other’s families.

    I felt he was growing distant or perhaps just really stressed from starting school and a new job. I called 11 days ago to check up on him and ask if everything was okay and the conversation took a turn when I asked directly if we still had the same goals of being together permanently in a few years (He has been to see me 3 times since January and I just came back from meeting his family last month where he lives). I wasn’t satisfied with the response and so I tearfully wished him well and ended things. We both said we still loved each other.

    Two days afterwards he texted “How are you doing today?” and we had a very short and bland conversation where he mentioned school was great but work wasn’t. Three days after that (5 days post break up) he texts me his usual morning greeting, a very affectionate/loving good morning. I take longer than I usually would to respond and reply that he can call if he wants to talk to me and that my heart is not a toy essentially. He calls me later that day and initially pretends everything is normal and then gets upset and explains that he hadn’t wanted the relationship to end but we wouldn’t work out because someone’s always upset among other reasons. He calls me a few hours later to continue the conversation, again pretends like everything is normal between us and mentions how stressful work is. After we both clarify a few points on how we feel he says he’s stressed/needs to relax, that he never wanted to stop talking to me, that he’ll always care about me. Says he felt I was too good for him and will always be having to catch up with me (hence his being 23 and just now starting school and my being 25 and looking to complete a masters). We both wind up crying and saying goodbye. I let him know that I just needed time and it was painful to interact at the moment. He said he would be a stranger until I stopped being one. That conversation was 6 days ago and I’ve done NC ever since. His birthday is in 9 days. Wondering whether in my situation it’s best to reach out since he’s always done most of the chasing or continue with no contact for a month.

    Thanks for reading!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 5, 2018 at 2:32 am

      Hi Mimi!

      15 days of NC is short. I would follow thru with the plan. I hope you have my eBook as it will help you immensely!

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    Mary

    May 1, 2018 at 9:10 pm

    I have been in an on again and off again relationship for 3 years. The last few months have been NC but in the last week or so we met up, had a big highly emotional discussion in which I felt he still very much wanted to be friends. We were drinking and the next day he called and asked if everything was ok but also said he didn’t remember much of the previous night and asked me what happened. So I tried explaining and sent him an email and then we talked again. He said he was ambivalent about being friends, a bit take it or leave it. I felt he was not being completely honest with me, not giving me answers to direct questions about things that had happened that I wanted clarified. I sent him an email saying if we are to be friends that I needed honesty from him. He emailed and said don’t contact me, but then we talked again. The last contact we had was amicable. He had a big presentation. I fb messaged him after he gave it and asked him how it went, saying he should be proud of his work and hoped it went well. No reply, but in the past he hasn’t always replied to fb messages even when we were together. So I have no idea what that means or how he took it. It’s his birthday on the weekend and I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to be with this guy, he is completely hot and cold on me, but I do want to be friends. If it was me I’d be hurt if he didn’t wish me happy birthday but maybe it’s better if I leave him alone. Please help?!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 1, 2018 at 9:37 pm

      Hi Mary..thanks for dropping by. My first suggestion is you should consider joining my Private Facebook Support Group Community. Right now we have around 1500 people in it (mostly women) and all these folks have been through some kind of breakup experience. There is a lot of synergy and information sharing and I show up weekly to do live webcasts. Just go to my website Menu/Products link to learn more. I think it will benefit you as you work through what, if anything, you want from this relationship. I agree his behavior has been hot/cold and that contributes mightily to one’s emotional confusion as to what it all means. My gut tells me to give him wide berth….lots of space and to focus on your own recovery for now. In time, your feelings will get more centered and you will know what you want from this and whether friendship is worth the emotional aggravation/disappointment derived from his behavior. Let me know how things go for you Mary!

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      Mary

      May 2, 2018 at 6:00 am

      Many thanks. Just to clarify we were on and off over 3 years but we lived together during that time. When you say I should give him space, do you think it should be 45 days, 90 days, a year or forever? At the moment I would like to take steps to repair the friendship. Even though there weren’t any major issues like cheating, trust and respect are pretty low right now.

    3. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 3, 2018 at 1:46 am

      As I discuss in my ebook, “The No Contact Rule Book” you should look at something between 21 to 45 days. Everybody’s situation is unique. But remember, what counts is what you do for yourself during this period.

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    Birthday Girl

    April 18, 2018 at 8:36 pm

    Hi EBR,
    My ex and I have been broken up for almost 5 months now after a 4 year relationship. After no contact, he reached out to me and we started casually talking before my birthday. He then wished me a “Happy early birthday” the day before, and a couple days later we got into another massive argument which landed us back in no contact, which has just ended. He reached out to me again, I responded with a short, positive response and left it at that. Now his birthday is in a few days and I am wondering if I should message him a happy birthday, if I should send him the same low effort “happy early birthday” he sent me, if I should wait til it has passed and message him “happy belated” asking how it was, or if I just shouldn’t message him at all.
    I have done a lot of work to feel better about myself since our break-up, especially because he has been quite nasty over the course of the few months. Would not messaging him make it seem like I’ve moved on and freak him out, or should I try to connect with him by being nice?
    Thanks in advance!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      April 18, 2018 at 9:55 pm

      Hi there Birthday Girl. I love your moniker! 4 years is a good amount of time as it gives some roots to the relationship. Yes, I think a little birthday wish would be OK. The aim here is to keep communications positive and move forward slowly, repairing the damage…almost like you are dating for the first time. Good job on working on “You”! That is important. If you need a comprehensive game plan, that consider any of my core ebooks (Menu/Products link). There are some other resources there as well! Its a good thing to have a blueprint of what to do, when, how, etc. And trust me, my books are lengthy! Let me know how things turn out.

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    daisy

    February 16, 2018 at 6:48 pm

    So what if you’re supposed to go on a trip – we broke up but agreed to still go on the trip. He says he doesn’t love me anymore but he wants to leave me some good memories of him and our relationship. It was a trip for our birthdays because they’re only days apart. It’s his birthday today and I have this video we took earlier this year that I said I would send on his birthday. Would it bring him a happy memory? He knows I want to go on the trip so I’m assuming he knows I still have feelings. Should I not go on the trip? But I feel like if I don”t I’ll never see him or talk to him because he doesn’t believe in opposite sex friendships.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 19, 2018 at 12:52 pm

      Hi Daisy,

      When is the trip?

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    jennifer

    January 4, 2018 at 11:42 am

    hey!
    My bf of 4 months was distant then ok again then he whats app texted “i decided to freeze our relationship and spend time apart. I am not in a good place right now, my work and programme is too much to handle and I cant have a relationship with you at the moment. Take care, let me know if you need anything”. I simply said “I understand however I would prefer if you had said that to my face. Take care have fun kisses”. Immediately I started nc and vanished from social medias. Day 11 of nc he texted (whats app) saying happy nameday i ddnt respond, texted again via text this time day 14 saying happy name day again i send you three days ago wishes via w.a. kisses, ddnt reply either. There are stil 10 day to complete the 30 day nc. What should I do?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 5, 2018 at 11:07 pm

      Hi Jennifer,

      be active in posting in social media.. Do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours and are you actively improving yourself?

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    Luna

    January 2, 2018 at 7:21 pm

    Hi Amor

    You are right – but when he wished me saying happy new year and then asked how kids are.

    I usually don’t reply for a while but I feel when he asks about kids in general I don’t like to ignore him.

    I was actually so busy with holiday activities that I only replied a day later so I said ‘To you too and kids are well’.

    I didn’t actually want to say happy new year to you because to be honest I don’t want to be wishing him happy new year coz I feel so hurt but I simply sort of said it back to him without saying so actually as you can see in my wording.

    I have been posting but there are two issues – he doesn’t have Instagram and on Facebook while we are still friends I have noticed I definitely can’t see his past posts which I could before – now I can only see my posts to his wall i made in the past. Which means he has restricted me from seeing any of his future posts but I don’t know if by limiting me that means Facebook automatically does the same thing back (maybe he can’t follow me either)?

    I was upset it’s clear he changed his relationship status too I felt he didn’t have to be public about it but I can’t tell him to restrict that status either as hell know I have noticed and it bothers me 🙁

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 5, 2018 at 6:48 pm

      that’s ok, jut make your posts public because there’s a high chance he will check your accounts.

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    Lily

    January 2, 2018 at 11:33 am

    We were in a long distance relationship for 6 years and all of a sudden one fine day he sent me a text message saying day he is breaking up wid me n he didn’t have a reason why n I begged of him to keep giving me a reason n so he told me dat he’s found somebody else which I think he is lying..n in d heat of the moment I started gnatting begging him to take me back..he broke up wid me in aug n for September n Oct I maintained NC..at d end of Oct I initiated a conversation n he told me at his 4th send going on n any campus interviews after day see was no msg from him..den on Nov 15 I broke down again n startd gnattin by he said things were over between us..on Nov 27 I wished him for his exams n he said thx after dat see was no reply..was thinking of wishing him 4 Xmas by few days but 25th he blocked me on WhatsApp..Duno y so I dint text him neither did I for new yr..it’s his best on 3rd Jan..should I wish him??? I was thinking of sending him a nostalgic mail reminiscing all our memories

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 5, 2018 at 6:32 pm

      Hi Lily,

      nope,, he already blocked you.. that would be chasing.

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    Lily

    January 2, 2018 at 11:30 am

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    ‌We were in a long distance relationship for 6 years and all of a sudden one fine day he sent me a text message saying day he is breaking up wid me n he didn’t have a reason why n I begged of him to keep giving me a reason n so he told me dat he’s found somebody else which I think he is lying..n in d heat of the moment I started gnatting begging him to take me back..he broke up wid me in aug n for September n Oct I maintained NC..at d end of Oct I initiated a conversation n he told me at his 4th send going on n any campus interviews after day see was no msg from him..den on Nov 15 I broke down again n startd gnattin by he said things were over between us..on Nov 27 I wished him for his exams n he said thx after dat see was no reply..was thinking of wishing him 4 Xmas by few days but 25th he blocked me on WhatsApp..Duno y so I dint text him neither did I for new yr..it’s his best on 3rd Jan..should I wish him??? I was thinking of sending him a nostalgic mail reminiscing all our memories

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    Luna

    January 1, 2018 at 6:31 am

    Hi Amor

    No i did not greet him – but what if he greets me? Do I still ignore it? It’s so hard I hate ignoring people or giving people impression I am ignoring them – it just doesn’t feel right 🙁

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 2, 2018 at 6:43 pm

      And yet he doesn’t feel wrong by spending the holidays away from his kids.. That’s was an opportunity for you to post pictures of you and the kids and the meals and your activities and then ignoring his messages.. Once he sees the pics, he’ll realize that you were busy making the holiday fun for the family while he chose not be a part of it..

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    Lola

    December 30, 2017 at 5:50 pm

    I broke up with my boyfriend about 4 months ago. After not talking at all for a couple months, we met for ice cream and to catch up. I have a feeling he was trying to see if there was a chance to get back together, but I am not interested in him in that way anymore at all. I have been happily dating someone else. We haven’t spoken since we hung out 2 months ago, but his birthday is in a few days. I honestly don’t see us ever becoming friends, but I would hate it if I hurt his feelings by not wishing him a happy birthday. Do you think I should text him on his birthday, or just let it be? He’s one of those people whose birthday is a big deal to them. I don’t want him to think I don’t care about him at all anymore, but I also don’t want him to think there’s a chance we’d get back together and wishing him a happy birthday after dead silence for a couple months kinda seems like I’m fishing. What do you suggest I do?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 31, 2017 at 10:41 pm

      Hi Lola,

      Nope.. Let him move on..

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    Luna

    December 29, 2017 at 8:28 pm

    Hi Amor

    Thanks I guess i kind of know the principles but hard to apply :(. Also does same go for New Year’s Eve? I don’t want to send him a happy new year because he put me through emotional turmoil all year instituting our separation and pending divorce – I don’t want to wish him – but I don’t know if by being indifferent and not wishing him will make him think I’m being all immature and avoiding him? But I guess you will tell me that he won’t because if he’s being indifferent towards me he’s expecting the same of me?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 31, 2017 at 9:17 pm

      Yup, I hope you didn’t greet him.

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    Luna

    December 24, 2017 at 7:22 pm

    Thanks Amor

    And I’m with kids on holiday and I’m so heart sore he’s taking a holiday on his own to some exotic beach place 🙁 and to a place we have been 3x before we had kids because it was his favorite ;(

    So he will call to greet me and kids before he goes – I guess I shouldn’t even act all so envious he’s going ? Or that we will miss him coz we also on holiday on our own in a nice place should I not even say that because saying that will give him the idea I want to make him feel guilty and am not moving on? Am I right here?

    Sometimes I think saying such things will make him realize he still has a woman who loves him and is devoted to him but I guess an ex only sees it as clingy?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 26, 2017 at 8:04 pm

      That’s right..just be indifferent

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    Luna

    December 14, 2017 at 11:51 am

    Can you please also post the link for how to get your ex Husband back post ? I am struggling to find it and would like to read the article again?

    Thanks

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 15, 2017 at 4:27 pm

      yup, it also applies with anniversaries.. here it is:
      The Definitive Guide On Getting Your Ex Husband Back

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    Luna

    December 14, 2017 at 11:50 am

    Hi Chris

    I guess even if we are in limited NC with ex the same would apply to wishing happy anniversary right? Coz if you ex is your ex Husband and it’s the date for your first anniversary apart there’s a lot of pain and hurt I’m guessing I should just ignore the date, feel sad he’s left me and just don’t think too much of the day ? I suppose he won’t even be thinking about our special wedding day either 🙁

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    Dianna

    December 1, 2017 at 8:15 am

    It’s been 4 months since me and my ex broke up and we never talked ever since. He broke up with me because he wants me to take chances again with my ex husband (we have kids) since the ex husband won’t stop threatening us for some reasons he can’t move on with me.

    Now, his birthday is nearing, should I still greet him? Though I am not expecting a reply, I really wish him to have a happy birthday and that he’s okay always.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 4, 2017 at 6:01 am

      Hi Dianna,

      Did you go to the police?

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