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2,741 thoughts on “How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Back”

  1. Haleemah

    October 31, 2017 at 9:24 am

    Hi am haleemah my boy friend broke up with me early this month he saw some messages o my phone chatting with other guts , have been neging him to please giveme a second chance but he wouldn’t listen ,I mesg he several times but he said he is no more interested but the truth is I love him and I didn’t cheat on him intentionally ,I only did it because of my ex but he didn’t believe me.pls I never your advice

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 1, 2017 at 8:01 pm

  2. Maren

    October 10, 2017 at 9:16 am

    Hi! So I have been snapchating with my ex for some time now. The problem is that if I send him a snap he might respond with some emojies or sometimes a comment, but we never actually get a conversation out of it. Should I text him instead of sending him a snap even though we usually only snap? Or should I respond to any of his comments and start a conversation from there? Thanks!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 10, 2017 at 3:28 pm

      Hi Maren,

      Sorry, I’m not familiar with snapchat, but can’t you send a message there? Is it only emojis and stickers?

  3. Suzan

    September 12, 2017 at 1:29 pm

    I had a boyfriend during high n we splinted up after realizing that he was cheating on me, and I dumped him though it was hurting me, after one year he came back to me n still he dumped me for no reason, I still love him, what should I do.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 14, 2017 at 8:50 pm

      Hi Suzan,

      Why did he break up with you?

  4. Liz

    September 8, 2017 at 4:58 am

    My ex broke up with me almost a month ago. We went about 18 days with no contact whatsoever. I’ve reached out to him via text, and am trying to keep the conversations neutral as possible (it’s still pretty hard for me to talk to him without getting emotional, so texting is the best way I can communicate right now, so he couldn’t hear me over the phone, etc.), and the texting is at the point where I’m not overbearing (we’ve had small exchanges every couple of days). I’ve initiated them all, however. Now I’m wondering if I should go back to a no-contact period. He’s never been the one to initiate much conversation with anyone, including those outside of me. Help?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 12, 2017 at 10:00 pm

      Hi Liz,

      how much did you improve and how active were you in posting during and now after nc?

  5. Nicola

    August 26, 2017 at 10:15 am


    I’ve been with my ex for 4 years. My first love and vice versa, and we intently spoke about marriage. We broke up a year and a half ago because I was too stubborn to listen to him. He told me I needed to open up more, to communicate better but being an introvert this was extremely difficult for me…so he left. I’ve been trying really hard since and got better at it.

    I’ve messaged him very often for a year but he didn’t reply, and when he did I would lash out at him. Haven’t contacted him in 6 months.

    So here’s the thing. He has moved on. I thought it was a rebound since they got together 3 weeks after we broke up and she is complete opposite to me, but they are still together.

    What should I do? Do I still have a chance? Or should I just be happy for him and forget about him? Which is difficult since my feelings for him is stronger than ever.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 26, 2017 at 1:01 pm

      HI Nicola,

      how much did you improve yourself and how active were you in posting? Check this one:
      How To Win Back An Ex Who Is With Someone Else

  6. Jaamine

    August 26, 2017 at 5:28 am

    Hey I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years n things went down hill it’s been 2 weeks since I’ve had contact with I really miss him n wants him back what should I do should I continue the NC rule for 2 more weeks n what should I text him after that

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 26, 2017 at 12:57 pm

      HI Jasmine,

      how active are you in improving yourself and in posting? Check this one too:
      How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact

  7. Jennifer

    August 19, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    My ex and I broke up in January but we kept hanging out until May and then recently he came over to get some things and the feelings were overwhelming for both of us. He told me that no one compared to me and that he still loves me but I recently found out that he is hanging out with this girl. He told me if he wasn’t talking to her he would’ve jumped back into the relationship with me. And he is just very confused on what he wants. I told him that for this to work it would have to be a commitment to me and me only. He told me that part if him wants it to work out and part of him is unsure about us and I think it’s because of this girl. I don’t know what to do in this case. Where do I go fron here? Thank you

    1. Jennifer

      August 25, 2017 at 2:14 pm

      You’re right I’m going to try. What do I tell him next time he tries to call me? I don’t want to just ignore him out of no where.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 26, 2017 at 12:38 pm

      tell him the current situation is not workable for you.. and then start the count of no contact after that.

    3. Jennifer

      August 23, 2017 at 7:59 am

      That wasn’t my plan but I guess thats what I have left. Is that the only thing I can do?

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 24, 2017 at 10:07 pm

      It’s the better choice to do, rather than chasing nor staying friends right after the break up.

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 22, 2017 at 6:42 pm

      are you going to do the no contact rule?

  8. EBR Team Member: Amor

    August 13, 2017 at 7:37 pm

    what do you mean that it’s hard in snapchat? Is it because of the app or because you don’t have topics? If you want, rest from initiating for a week.

  9. celin

    August 8, 2017 at 3:38 am

    i successfully completed my no contact rule.after that i sent my first text.he was so excited to respond and he was responding like crazy.i tried to end up the conversation many times bt he was keeping on texting.atlast i managed to say goodnight by saying i was sleepy.as chris told i decided to put a gap for 3 days after first text.bt the very next day of first text itself he texted me asking something.should i reply or do i have to wait for the completion of third day?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 9, 2017 at 3:07 pm

      HI Celin,

      what was the question? Is it important? if not, wait after 3 days.

  10. Maria

    August 7, 2017 at 4:29 am

    Hi, my boyfriend and I were technically on a break when I started no contact. It was not a long distance relationship, but I am currently home from university, and I will not be back until early September.
    His last text to me (before NC) was him apologising for being cold towards me and that we’ll remain friends at the least at the end of our break, and even made a joke about how I’ll have to cook for him in return once I return to uni. I only responded telling him “it’s ok”.

    That happened on Wednesday night and I haven’t spoken to him since then. On Sunday (yesterday), he contacted me telling me he’s made his decision that we aren’t getting back together because he’s happier on his own, and even said that we can’t be friends anymore.

    Do you think the no contact rule will work here? I have not responded to his breakup message.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 9, 2017 at 2:37 pm

      It’s not a guarantee that it will work on any situation. It just helps increase your chances

  11. Cecilia

    July 19, 2017 at 6:10 am

    I broke up with my boyfriend around 1 month ago. We have been in a long distance as we come from different countries, and he’s currently on working holiday. We’ve been together for almost 9 months, including 4 months together in both Taiwan and New Zealand. We are both around 25. He said he doesn’t know what he wants, we’re in a long distance relationship, and even if he comes to Taiwan again, he will keep traveling, he will meet new people, thus he decided to break up with me as he felt he’s not ready for a long-term relationship, even if he cried and it was a hard decision for him as well. He said we could still be good friends even if at that time I didn’t think so.
    I did the no contact for around half a month after we broke up, I tried to focus on myself and improve myself during the period. After that, I started to contact him. He calls me and texts me when he has free time, and he admitted that he still loves me as he thinks I love him. He doesn’t want me to see other guys as he gets jealous. However, when I asked if he regrets making the decision to break up with me, he said he doesn’t. He said even if we’re back together again, the problem is still there…that we’re still in a long distance relationship, but he said he would like to see me again aside from all the future stuff he’s worried about. Is that just an excuse? I thought I’m able to re-attract him again, but I’m not sure if it’s possible to be together again before we meet each other again. Or is it even possible by using the method you provide? Please help…I really appreciate it. Thank you.


    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 19, 2017 at 12:44 pm

  12. Welllington

    July 11, 2017 at 7:27 am


    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 14, 2017 at 12:14 pm

      Hello Wellington!

  13. Nylla

    June 29, 2017 at 11:50 pm

    Hey amor,

    Ok my ex and i still live together he says its him(he gets depressed and thinks no one loves him). We were together 6 months. I felt like i can be myself around him and he said the same. We still both love each other but id love to start over with him but im not sure how to because we live together. We also work together and our boss knows whats going on(he said that wasnt a stress on us). Some things have gotten easier. He is also my best friend but doesn’t like to answer questions about is at all. He is very back and fourth! What should i do? I am at a loss

  14. Ann

    June 29, 2017 at 7:23 am

    In a LDR we just broke up a few weeks ago and had the break up talk in person when he was back in town for work for a few days. It wasn’t angry he just decided LDR is not realistic. I texted him the day after he left saying I he got home safe & thanks for the talk and he replied telling me not to contact him for a while unless I have more questions about why he ended things & followed up with “it’s over ok?” Just wondering if no contact will be as effective since he basically already asked for NC “for a while” unless I’m really struggling. I didn’t respond and am now in NC. How long would you recommend NC in this case?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 30, 2017 at 1:37 pm

      Yeah coz he doesn’t know you’re going to not contact him

  15. Shannon

    June 28, 2017 at 4:46 pm

    Hello, I am in the texting phase of the exboyfriend recovery pro. I am on day 4, when I text him he will respond but with short responses. What does this mean? Do I need to do the NC again?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 28, 2017 at 5:53 pm

      Restart nc and do at least 30 days…

  16. Anne

    June 13, 2017 at 7:42 pm

    I had a pretty bad break up. After a long fight I asked my boyfriend to block me and and not recieve my calls, he did that immediately. After almost 10 days I realised that I love him and want him in my life. He is a egoistic person and doesn’t text or call first, but after almost 45 days he unblocked me on WhatsApp and keeps changing his do(which for him is unusual). I’m tempted to text him, but I’m not sure if I should.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 14, 2017 at 4:11 pm

      why not? have you improved yourself?

  17. Alexis

    June 12, 2017 at 8:13 am

    Hi. So I did the no contact and after 30 days sent him a message saying “omg. You won’t believe what just happened to me” he replied with “what?” And then “are you okay?” Following “??” And then “??hello?” Within 20 minutes of me sending. He also called twice and I didn’t pick up. He loves cars and I couldn’t drive. So I told him I was taking driving lessons and that the wind was so strong I had to really take control over the car, which was true that day lol. He was really happy to speak to me and asked how it was going and how I’m doing and said I seem lighter and different. And that’s he’s happy I’m growing. Then he asked me how come I texted him lol. I said “I thought I’d do it, but have a nice evening and stay cool” not making him think that we gonna taleave some more. He said okay cool you too. I sent 7 messages. Which I know was wrong. But then waited 3 days to text again. He loves smoking weed and weed in general and me too. So I’ve been growing this tree and I decided to take a picture of it and sent to him with a little writing with it. That was yesterday and he still hasn’t replied. What should I do now?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 14, 2017 at 10:24 am

      hi alexis,

      Has he replied now?

  18. Patricia

    June 2, 2017 at 9:25 pm

    Hello! On another article on the thought process the guy goes through in NC, I commented that he can’t possibly be thinking of me, because you don’t think of things you throw away. My opinion changed: Thursday night, day 20 of NC he wrote me “Hey” I saw it in my notifications and decided not to write back, because the no contact rule is 30 days and I was also extremely scared. I thought for example that maybe he just wanted his books back (I still haven’t given them back), but then I thought, if that was the case, he would have written that already to avoid conversation. I talked to my mum and she said I should write back, because she believed, if I didn’t write back he would never try to contact me again. The next day I still hadn’t written back yet and I waited until after a three hour exam. I then talked to a mutual friend of mine and my ex and she said I should write him to see what he wants and she also said, I should write as if I were pissed off with him (I obviously didn’t, I have bad experiences of doing such with former crushes) and I wrote back “Hey”. He asked how I was and I asked him bla bla bla and he wasn’t feeling well. He vented his frustration about his problems with his parents (he has a very bad father-son relationship with his dad) and then he thanked me for trying to cheer me up (I actually only said my opinion) and I asked him how I should answer that. Of course he didn’t know, but after some time he apologised for “bothering me with his problems” and I made the mistake saying, he can talk to me if he has a problem. In that same message he also said that he had been thinking about me a lot recently and he needed someone to talk to. I was proven wrong about the not thinking about trash you threw away thing. I guess I’m not trash?? Jokes aside, should I do the no contact rule from the start again? Have I ruined my chances of getting him back, because it’s only been 3 weeks? Please tell me, this is urgent… thanks

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 3, 2017 at 3:39 pm

      I think you should just slowly start building rapport now..

  19. Grace

    April 22, 2017 at 8:06 pm

    Hi, we were dating for 6 weeks, lots of txting a few really amazing dates, massive mutual attraction, I was falling hard, and then I was becoming stressed over some things in my personal life, which he didn’t know about. In the last 2 weeks he wasn’t txting as frequently, which because i was stressed about other things I questioned him why, he kept telling me everything was fine and to relax. I continued to over text and then he stopped responding altogether… I txted 2 days ago and told him that I’m going through some things and that I’ll try txting him back in a few weeks and said that I hope he responds.. and now I’m so upset all I want to do is call him.. what should I do???

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 28, 2017 at 6:03 pm

      You basically told him the no contact rule which makes it less effective for you.. You need to make it seem you’re moving on through your posts

  20. Drew

    April 15, 2017 at 10:42 pm

    Does this strategy work with short term relationships? I met this guy online, we dated for about 2 months, he told me repeatedly how I “checked all his boxes”, how much he liked me, how pretty and amazing and funny I was…we were intimate. And then out of nowhere his level of attention changed, he became disillusioned with the distance between us (we live an hour apart) and the lack of time we had to spend together. He started saying things like “I don’t deserve you”, “I can’t give you what you deserve”, which I’ve always known to be code for “I’m just not that into you anymore”. He tried to end it nicely, I kept holding on for about a day, and then probably thinking he had no other choice – he picked an issue with something I said and basically cut off all contact with me. Made it clear there was no more to discuss. It’s been 3 days and he’s already back on the dating site where we met. I am devastated. I really liked this guy…but apparently he’s already moving on looking for someone new and I’m still here bawling my eyes out. Does any of this work if the guy doesn’t have feelings for you anymore?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 16, 2017 at 2:20 pm

      it’s not a guarantee..it just helps increase your chances

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