This is the ultimate guide on what to do if your ex boyfriend blocks you.

And I want to be crystal clear about one thing. This is NOT one of those lame guides that is going to be 100 words of fluff.

Instead you can expect this guide to take an in-depth look on exactly how to handle a situation where you’ve been blocked in all forms of communication including (but not limited to,)

  • Texting
  • Calling
  • Facebook
  • WhatsApp
  • SnapChat
  • Skype
  • Email
  • Etc.

Let’s dive right in!

(Side Note: If you get through this guide and find yourself thinking, “I need more information about this,” then I highly recommend you check out my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

Understanding Why You Were Blocked

Ziad K. Abdelnour (author of Economic Welfare) once said,

“If someone is going out of his way to ignore you, he is not ignoring you, he is obsessed by you.”

I love that quote because everything about it is true. Think about it for a moment. Every time a woman comes to this site and decides to implement the no contact rule she is technically obsessed with her ex boyfriend. He is on her mind the second she wakes up for the day, the second she gets in her car to go to work and the second she closes her eyes to go to sleep.

So, when an ex boyfriend blocks you does it mean that he is obsessed with you?

I would say that he is.

However, the issue that you are running into is that he is obsessed with you for the wrong reasons.

Obsessed For The Wrong Reasons?

Ahh… here is where things begin to get a little tricky. Lets take the examples I gave above :

(A woman going into no contact VS. An ex boyfriend blocking that woman)

Ok, a woman who visits this site and reads about the no contact rule will probably want her ex boyfriend back. That means when she thinks about him she is probably filled with good feelings. Sure, maybe there were some really bad fights and the relationship wasn’t as strong as she thought but if she is willing to try the no contact rule then deep down she really wants things to work and probably still loves her boyfriend.

I would consider this to be “obsessed” but for the right reasons (being obsessed usually isn’t a good thing though as I will point out shortly but bear with me here.)

Lets turn our attention to an ex boyfriend who has decided to block his ex girlfriend. First off, being blocked by an ex is never a good thing. Lets not beat around the bush here. If you have been blocked this is really bad.

However, I did mention above that if an ex blocks you it probably means that a part of him is obsessed with you.

Unfortunately, he is obsessed with you for the wrong reasons. There is only one way I can think of to describe this phenomenon. You are annoying to your ex boyfriend. Every time he thinks about you he is not filled with good feelings he is filled with annoyance. While he thinks about you often the feelings he gets aren’t good.

The challenge that you are going to faced with is to determine if he is worth the effort required to turn his bad feelings into good feelings but more on that later.

For now I would like to dive a little deeper into the mindset of a man who has blocked you.

Why He Blocked You

I am about to give you the biggest advantage ever.

I am a man who has blocked women before. Some of the women I blocked were exes and some of them were just friends that pushed me to the point where I couldn’t deal with them anymore. I am going to let you in on exactly what caused me to block these women. In addition to that I have literally seen hundreds of women be blocked by their exes so I know all the main reasons for a “block” to happen.

My point here is that what I talk about on this page may be hard to hear but it is going to prepare you and maybe get some light bulbs to go off. Lets start with one of the most interesting reasons a man could potentially block you.

It Hurts Too Much To Talk To You

This is something that I have experienced first hand which is why I know it exists. In fact, this is something that I have to explain to my one on one coaching clients a lot.

I guess if there was ever going to be a positive reason for an ex boyfriend to block you this would be it.

Essentially how this works is that every time your ex talks to you on the phone or through text messaging it hurts him.

Not the kind of hurt where you fall down and skin your knee. No, I am talking about a deep hurt. The type of hurt that stays with you all day long and is impossible to get rid of.

If you are wondering about my particular situation I wasn’t actually officially dating the girl I blocked. In fact, this was years ago and I was starting to develop some feelings for her. Feelings that weren’t reciprocated. As a guy let me tell you it is a very humbling feeling when one moment you are on top of the world because you think a pretty girl is falling for you and then BAM!!

chuck norris punch

Like a Chuck Norris punch you learn the truth that your feelings are one sided.

Now, I am the type of guy that is very calm and classy in situations that don’t go my way (and believe me I have had a lot in my life.) Nevertheless, knowing that someone doesn’t feel “that way” about you can be very upsetting and it takes a toll on your mental health.

I made the decision to block this particular girl not because I was trying to be hurtful or “get back” at her (which I will talk about in a moment) but because it hurt to talk to her when I knew my feelings weren’t reciprocated (kind of held it against her.)

“But Chris, maybe if you waited around she would have woken up and realized that the perfect guy was right there in front of her.”

I am sorry but my time is valuable and I am not one to be strung along. Besides, for me the perfect girl will know right away and won’t need time to “sort out” her feelings.

Here is the main point I am trying to make about your ex boyfriend blocking you in this instance. Maybe he looks back on your time very fondly. Maybe he is obsessed with you for the right reasons but it simply hurts too much to talk to you.

It hurts because every time he does his feelings for you surface and maybe your relationship was very painful to him. So painful that he doesn’t want to remember it right now so he chooses to block you out of his life.

I want you to remember that any time an ex blocks you it is never a good sign. So, while this is probably the best outlook for being blocked it is still never a good thing.

(Don’t worry though I am going to be giving you a game plan for how to approach being blocked a little later.)

He Knows Blocking You Will Hurt You

No matter what there are always going to be those ex boyfriends out there that will hold things against you and look for revenge.

How do I know this?

Well, because I have actually been one these types of ex boyfriends. I know that is an absolutely horrible thing for me to say but I am actually not ashamed about it. Look, the thing you have to understand about men is that it is rare for us to be mature about our first few relationships.

As for me, I was a bit immature about my first relationship.

I look back now and just shake my head at how dumb I was. Nevertheless, being the immature idiot that I once was, was important because it taught me how to evolve into a more mature man. I looked back and was disappointed with how I acted and I actively worked to make sure I didn’t repeat those mistakes ever again in my future relationships. In other words, being immature at first was essential for me to evolve into a more mature and classy human being.

Now, you may be sitting there wondering,

“What if this only applies to you? What if it is different for other men?”

That is actually a really good point.

I would say that there is a 50/50 split on how men use their previous relationships to impact their future relationships (which we are hoping is you again 😉 .) Some men are like me and will learn from their mistakes and vow to never let them happen again. They will remain classy and mature in just about any situation.

However, the other type of men are the reason that this section was written. They won’t learn anything and they will refuse to change. In fact, rather than looking to “repair” your relationship they will look for revenge and they know for a fact that blocking you is the perfect way to do that. Again, this is another concept that I talk about a lot in my coaching sessions with clients.

So, I’ll break it down for you like I break it down for them.

One thing that we already know is that a man who blocks you to get back at you or to hurt you is not being mature about the situation. Like I said above, at one point in my life I went through a phase where I would have had no problem doing this.

Here is the exact thoughts I would have had,

“If I block her I know it will hurt her and maybe teach her a lesson..”

Pretty bad I know but I am telling you that is exactly what would run through my head. So, what factors do you think forced me into this type of thinking?

Why Do Men “Want Revenge,” “To Teach You A Lesson,” “Get Back At You?”

payback time

If an ex boyfriend blocks you to get revenge or to hurt you then one thing you already know right off the bat is that he is being very immature about the breakup. However, what I would like to do is give you some insight into what factors caused him to have these feelings of vengeance.

This first thing I want you to get through your mind is that USUALLY not all of the blame goes on him for wanting revenge. Sure, there are cases where your ex boyfriend is just a psycho and will want revenge because he is crazy. However, most ex boyfriends can point to something that YOU did wrong in the relationship. So, lets not pretend that you are entirely innocent here. We are all human beings after all and the thing about human beings is that none of us are perfect.

So, lets start there, the fact that you aren’t innocent.

It is every mans dream to date a woman that looks like a model. I guarantee you that if you walked up to a random guy on the street and gave him the choice to date an average looking girl versus a girl who looks like a model he will choose the model 100% of the time (even without knowing her personality.)

Of course, most men are dumb and they fail to realize that they aren’t the only ones with eyes. A woman who looks like a model is going to get a lot of attention from other men. That is just the way it is.

Hmm… perhaps I should be role playing here because this may be a little complicated to explain without the proper context.

Ok, you and I are dating.

Since you put professional models to shame you get a lot of attention from other men. While you don’t shout it out to the world you kind of like the attention from the other guys (even though you are dating me.) Realistically, I think if the roles were reversed and I got a lot of attention from women I would like it too so I can’t really blame you. However, I am playing the role of an idiot boyfriend here so I don’t look at it that way.

As you get attention from other men you begin to flirt with them a little. That is just the way you are. You like to flirt. You are a flirty, bubbly and upbeat person. Unfortunately, I am insecure and I get angry about the flirting.

Let’s fast forward to our breakup.

The two of us have broken up and I am angry. I decide that I want to block you to “get back at you” for the breakup. There are two things that will go through my mind when I decide to make the decision to block for this specific reason.

The first “reasoning” that I would have is tied to my understanding of how you are. I know for a fact that you are the type of person that likes to be social. You like creating and maintaining friendships. Even during our breakup you fed me the famous,

let’s still be friends” line.

While most women may not mean it when they say it, I know you well enough to know that you are serious about it.

So, if I block you and take the “friends” option off the table I know that it is going to cause you pain and I kind of like that fact because deep down I am hurt and I want you to feel as bad as I do.

(It’s so messed up, I know..)

The second thought that I will have relates to what I was talking about above (with you being pretty, liking the attention and flirting with other guys.) You see, all throughout our relationship I hated that you flirted with other guys. You know that I hated it too because a lot of fights were caused between us because of it.

Your flirty nature is going to be a prime reason for me wanting revenge.

Every time I think to myself,

“Wait, why did I block her?”

I am probably going to say,

“Oh, she was all over those guys that one time.”

That’s the thing about exes that block for revenge. They will latch on to everything you did wrong in the relationship as a reason for revenge. EVEN IF IT WASN’T THAT BAD AT ALL.

Truthfully though, the overall outlook isn’t as bad as it seems. There are a few silver linings that I think are important to understand if an ex blocks you in this instance.

Two Silver Linings

If your ex boyfriend blocks you and you suspect it’s to “teach you a lesson,” “get back at you,” or “get revenge.” There are a few silver linings that I want you to remember before you go into code RED panic mode.

As I have stated multiple times throughout this section, I have been in a place where I have wanted to “teach an ex a lesson,” “get back at her,” and “get revenge.” While on the outside it may have appeared that I disliked my ex on the inside I can tell you with 100% certainty that I still had feelings for her.

This is one of those very rare occasions where actions don’t match up with the truth of how a man would be feeling about the situation. While blocking an ex girlfriend is a bold action stating (GO AWAY) the ultimate truth could be that the man is just doing it so he can feel wanted by you… WAIT, WHAT?

Think about this for a moment.

If your ex boyfriend were to block your phone number and you went crazy on Facebook trying to contact him the fact that you want to be in touch with him so badly will feel good to him because it means you want him. Never underestimate the fact that all men love to feel wanted by women (even me.)

The second silver lining we have already kind of discussed.

Remember above when I was talking about how I was actually glad that I was immature in my first relationship because it forced me to evolve and become a more mature human being and I could bring more to the table in the future?

Well, it could be entirely possible that your ex boyfriend hasn’t gone through this evolution yet. He may look back and be completely ashamed of how he blocked you and will want to get back in touch down the road (This is covered extensively later in the guide.)

For now, lets get through the rest of the reasons for why he may have blocked you.

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He Blocked You Because He Never Wants To Talk To You Again

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So far we have talked about two vastly different reasons for an ex boyfriend to block you.

  1. He blocks you because it hurts too much to talk to you.
  2. He blocks you because he knows it will hurt you.

Well, I am about to add another entirely different reason into the mix here,

Him never wanting anything to do with you ever again….

Where him blocking you because it hurts to talk to you has a lot to do with the emotions he has towards you and him blocking you to cause you pain is done from a place of anger, him blocking you because he never wants anything to do with you again is done from a place where you have pushed him to the point of no return.

In other words, him blocking you because he never wants to talk to you again is the worst case scenario for pretty much everyone reading this page.

So, I am going to give this the attention it deserves.

Does He Really Mean It?

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Whats that old phrase?

When emotions run high logic runs low.

Speaking from personal experience there have been times where I have become so angry that I threw logic out of the window completely. Let me give you a real example from one of my previous relationships.

About four years ago I was dating a girl and we got into a fight (like couples tend to do.) It was four years ago so there are a few things that you need to understand. At that time I was still very much in the “maturing” phase of my life. Also, I was a little selfish so I didn’t really treat her as well as I could have.

Well, once the fight had commenced I made the biggest mistake ever. I allowed my emotions to control me. Instead of approaching the fight with this mindset,

“Ok, calm down Chris. Lets communicate with her and become better from this.”

I approached the fight with this mindset,

“I don’t care what she thinks. What are the most hurtful things that I can say to her?”

To my great shame…. I did just that (said the most hurtful things possible.) I thought of every hurtful subject I could to twist the knife a little deeper.

Her parents…

Her insecurities…

Her friends…

Logic was out the window and the lovely emotion of anger was in control. This brings me to the big point I am trying to make here.

Do you think I really meant any of the things I said to her?

Of course not.

Look, while I may have thought those horrible things in my head if you were to go deep inside my mind at the time I really didn’t mean any of them. The only reason I verbalized any of those thoughts was because I got angry and was looking for a way to hurt my girlfriend.

(Again, this is a completely immature way to handle the situation but anger has a way of throwing maturity out of the window.)

Ok, everything I just talked about I want you to remember because the “emotions run high logic runs low” theory is going to apply to my next few comments.

In the example I gave above I was in the middle of a relationship with a girl. What do you think would have happened if I had broken up with this girl?

No matter how you slice it a breakup is a highly emotional situation and it is almost a guarantee that things are going to be said (from both sides) that neither person means. One of those things may be something like,

“I never want to talk to you again.”

So, lets say that your ex boyfriend said this to you after your breakup and a day or two down the road you realized that your number has been blocked on his phone. Your immediate reaction is to panic and run around like a crazy person screaming, “THE APOCALYPSE IS HERE!!!!”

But I want to let you in on a little secret.

You probably won’t be blocked forever.

“Wait… what do you mean?”

You remember that whole “when emotions run high, logic runs low” speech I gave you at the beginning of this section right?

Well, the thing about emotions running high and logic running low is that eventually logic does return to run the show. Emotions reign is only temporary and logic is usually left to clean up the mess that emotion made.

(Yes, I am totally referring to emotion and logic like they are people, DEAL WITH IT!)

I have literally witnessed hundreds of women get blocked by their exes. Want to know something pretty shocking?

About 60% of those women end up back in touch with their exes in some way, shape or form. Here is what the thought process of an ex boyfriend who blocks you will typically look like:

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The infographic above is actually kind of cool because you can see the progression from anger back to logic. Remember, the way this usually works is that your ex boyfriend will start off thinking with logic. However, when something painful happens (like a breakup) the logic switch gets turned off and the emotion/anger switch gets turned on. Of course, the emotion/anger switch doesn’t stay on forever. Slowly but surely logic is going to take the reigns back.

The picture above kind of shows you what will happen in your exes mind if he decides to unblock you (which as I said above is actually pretty likely.)

What I am going to do now is go through the entire progression in the picture so you can understand exactly what is happening in his mind.

“I am angry at her.”

This one is pretty self explanatory. He is angry at you. This anger signifies when the logic switch is turned off and when the emotion switch is turned on. Remember, emotion = anger in this case.

“I think I will block her.”

This is your exes first big action under the guise of emotion. He knows that blocking you will probably cause you pain.

“Blocking her didn’t feel as good as I thought it would.”

The truth of the situation sets in. Emotion steered him wrong as he is beginning to regret his decision. Hurting you doesn’t feel too good to him. This signifies the time where emotion is starting to lose its grasp on him. Logic is starting to set back in.

“God… I kind of miss her.”

This is kind of interesting. So far, the emotion of anger has been running the show. While logic is slowly retaking the battlefield some of the good emotions are starting to kick in. You know, emotions that make a guy go,

“I miss her.”

or

“I still have feelings for her.”

That is what is happening here. His anger is being replaced by the emotions that made him fall for you in the first place.

“I think I am going to unblock her.”

Welcome our good friend logic back to the party. That’s really the best way I can put it.

He Really Means It And Never Wants To Talk To You Again

never talk again

I said that in about 60% of the cases an ex boyfriend will end up getting back in touch with you after he blocks you. While that percentage number is pretty high the truth is that it isn’t 100%. In fact, it means that 40% of exes could be serious about blocking you and may never want to talk to you again.

For every women reading this page having this happen is the worst possible outcome that they can think of.

Why?

Because it basically means that your chances of getting your ex back are 0%.

It is at this point that I would like to admit that I have actually blocked people from my life that I was serious about never talking to again and to this day I haven’t ever talked to them. Actually, there were only two people that I have ever done this with.

Both of them were women. One of them was an ex girlfriend and another was a friend that had a serious crush on me.

So, what did they do to cause me to “blacklist” them?

Lets start with the ex girlfriend first since I am sure that she is the one that you really want to hear about.

The thing you have to understand about this girl was the fact that the two of us just weren’t a good match for each other. We fought constantly, we didn’t agree on a lot of serious issues and by the end the relationship was so toxic that I literally went to bed at night dreading the next day.

After we broke up I made a decision to block her so I wouldn’t even be tempted to get back into that situation ever again.

Maybe me blocking her was done from a mindset of emotion as opposed to logic but in all honesty I am glad I did it because there was no way that I could have been happy with her.

So, basically I decided to block my ex because I determined that there was no way that she could improve my life. I knew I still had some feelings for her at the time and I knew that if I didn’t block her I would have been sucked back in and I didn’t want that for myself.

My second story of blocking someone was completely different but just as important because it can give you some important insight into how men think.

I had a friend who definitely had feelings for me (she told me she did.) Unfortunately for her, I didn’t like her in that way. Now, prior to this point I had only ever blocked one person in my entire life (that ex girlfriend I talked about above.) So, blocking someone from my life is very rare for me.

However, this friend who had feelings for me pushed me to that point very quickly when she started harassing me.

Every time I wouldn’t text her back immediately I would get harassed.

Every time I would tell her in a very nice way that I think she should move on she would harass me.

The main point is that she would say some really mean things and question my character. Apparently, I was “leading her on” even though I told her to move on. The harassment finally got to the point where it was starting to make me a little angry.

So, I gave her a warning,

“Look, if you keep acting this way we can’t be friends anymore.”

Once I told her this she settled down for a little while until I didn’t text her back immediately and then the harassment resumed. She had pushed me to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore so I blocked her from everything and never talked to her again.

She simply wasn’t adding anything positive into my life, just negative.

The Different Degrees Of Blocking

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Now that you have a better understanding of why an ex boyfriend may block you I would like to turn your attention to HOW an ex can block you.

I entitled this section “The Different Degrees Of Blocking” because some forms of blocking are much worse that others. Don’t worry, I will explain that in a minute. First though, lets take a look at all the ways that an ex boyfriend can block you from his life.

(I know that this is a hard topic to read about but bear with me here.)

I have determined that there are really five ways that an ex boyfriend can block you.

  1. On the phone.
  2. On Facebook.
  3. Through applications
  4. Through email.
  5. The full block out.

As always, I am going to go in great detail into each of these methods so you can fully understand the situation you have found yourself in.

On The Phone

Have you ever noticed how our cell phones or smartphones are sacred to us all?

Personally speaking, the people that matter most to me all have my phone number. To me, my phone is sacred. It is like a little sanctuary where only a select number of important people are invited. I don’t just hand my number out unless I want you in my life. It is as simple as that.

I have found that most people are like that. They are very protective of their phones. Most people don’t just hand out their numbers and they sure as heck put some thought into who they are blocking from their phones.

This brings us to you and your ex.

I would say that an ex blocking you from his phone is the most common thing that I hear about when I talk to women on this site. Fortunately, it is easy to unblock someone from your phone. As I said above, around 60% of exes do end up getting back in touch after they block their significant other.

So, how bad is it if you get blocked from your exes phone?

Well, getting blocked is never a good thing but I will tell you that if you get blocked from his phone don’t think the world is over. It is actually the most common form of blocking.

On Facebook

Next to Google, Facebook is one of the biggest websites in the world.

In fact, I have always found it amusing that in the day and age that we live in a relationship isn’t ever “official” until Facebook says it is. Heck, two people can meet through Facebook and fall in love. Funny anecdote, my best friend actually met his girlfriend of five years through Facebook.

(They are still dating if you are wondering.)

Now, I don’t know your situation specifically but what I do know is that if your ex blocks you through Facebook it is not a good thing.

Why do I say that?

When you block someone from your phone (at least on the iPhone) it isn’t really that hard to unblock them. However, if you block someone on Facebook it is actually quite hard to unblock them. Nevertheless, I have found that most men don’t block their exes on Facebook.

Why?

Well, they want to spy on them to see how bad they are hurting.

Through Applications

Some people don’t really use text messaging on their phones. Instead they opt to go through messaging applications like:

  • WhatsApp
  • Kik Messanger
  • Snapchat

In my view these are all the same as text messaging (with the exception of Snapchat.) What you need to keep an eye out for is if you are being blocked from his regular phone and from these little applications. If he does block you through both the applications and the big phone it is not a good sign. While there is still a 60% chance that he will unblock you down the road he may be more serious about the blocking if he takes the time to block you on all these little applications as well.

Still though, an ex boyfriend who blocks a girl is usually doing so through a highly emotional state. Give it some time and you will be surprised at what happens.

Through Emails

Did you know that it is possible to block someone on email?

Well, it is.

I want to make this as simple as possible. If he is blocking you on email it is a very bad sign. It means he is probably much more serious about not talking to you. Of course, I am all about turning negatives into positives so the thing that you have to understand is that very rarely do men communicate with their girlfriends through email.

Usually they communicate through talking on the phone, through Facebook or other social media outlets.

So, keep those spirits high because it isn’t the end of the world yet.

A Full Block Out

Lets talk about a nightmare scenario.

Lets say that your ex boyfriend is extremely angry with you after the breakup. So, he decides to institute a full block out.

What is a full block out?

Full Block Out– When an ex boyfriend blocks you in every way imaginable. Where there is no possible way you can get in touch with him.

Essentially, this is where your ex boyfriend blocks you from his phone, through Facebook, through applications and through his email. I have even heard some cases where he can block your mutual friends for a while so he doesn’t have to see you in person.

What type of women are at risk for a full block out?

Generally what I have seen is the women who have cheated on their ex boyfriends. Cheating has a way of making people angry, who knew?

(That was sarcasm by the way.)

Look, I am not saying that only cheaters get the full block out treatment as there have been cases where an ex does a full block out “just because.” What I am saying is that cheaters have a higher risk of it happening to them. So, keep that in mind.

What You Need To Do If An Ex Boyfriend Blocks You

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Now we are really getting to the good stuff.

So far all I have talked about is the psychology that goes behind someone blocking an ex. I haven’t really talked about what to do if it happens to you (which is what a lot of you are probably wondering.) Well, now that I feel I have properly explained everything that needs to be explained when someone blocks you we can move on and focus on exactly what steps you need to take if you do get blocked.

For this section I have outlined the steps that I want you to take if you do get blocked in the graphic below,

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Lets start at the very beginning with determining the extent of the block.

Determine The Extent of The Block

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(I couldn’t resist… I had to put a superman meme up.)

If you skipped over the “different degrees of blocking” section above it might be a good idea to go back and read it because what is talked about there is essential for what is going to be talked about here.

It doesn’t take a genius to realize that some forms of blocking are worse than others.

Once you learn that you have been blocked by your ex boyfriend it is your job to figure out in how many ways you have been blocked. Why is this important?

Well, look at it this way. If your ex boyfriend blocks you from his smartphone but he doesn’t block you from Facebook then technically you can still get back in touch with him through Facebook when you want. Knowing what options you have is important because those options are going to determine how you play the game.

Of course, I still haven’t told you what to do if you are faced with the worse case scenario of a full out blockage. In other words, what do you do if your ex boyfriend blocks you in every form imaginable?

I am going to say something that I have been putting off for a while now because it is going to be very hard for you to hear and you will probably hate me for it but it needs to be said. If you are faced with a situation where you are blocked by your ex in every way then your options are very limited.

The truth is that in that situation there is only one person who can help you and he isn’t too fond of you right now (remember, he blocked you.)

In other words, you are in the worst possible position because you are at his mercy completely. While there are a few things you can do to influence his decision there isn’t really anything you can say to change his mind. Why? Well, because you are blocked, remember?

“But what if I confront him in person?”

So, let me get this straight. Your ex blocks you (a strong statement from him saying that he doesn’t want to talk to you) and you decide that, that means you should try harder and confront him in person?

Look, I am going to tell you exactly what he will think if you do this.

“Wow, she really is psycho.”

Don’t be the psycho ex girlfriend. Be the confident ungettable one.

Patience = No Contact

patient bear

So, what is the genius plan to deal with being blocked by an ex?

Well, your first instincts when you find out that you are blocked are going to scream,

“TRY HARDER!!”

You are going to want to get in touch with him as soon as possible in any way you can possibly think of. I have even seen some women compose long letters and mail them to their exes. Look, I am a fan of letters but the only time that they ever mean something to me is when I am dating someone. If I were to get one from an ex I would be a little creeped out.

Right now, your best bet when you find out that you are blocked is to exercise patience. I am sure you have heard that phrase,

Patience is a virtue

Well, in this case it really is. This brings me to my next point. How are you supposed to exercise patience?

Through the no contact rule of course.

I am not going to take the time explain what the no contact rule is since I talk about it so much on this site. However, what I can do for you is give you a link to a new guide I wrote that really goes in-depth on my new view of the no contact rule. I highly recommend that you read that page.

Why do you think the no contact rule is a good idea in this case?

Throughout this entire page I have thrown around a pretty interesting statistic relating to women who have been blocked. Do you remember what that statistic was?

I have found, when talking to the women who have been blocked, that in 60% of cases their exes end up getting back in touch with them. These women didn’t have to do anything for their ex to get in touch it just happened all on its own.

The no contact rule will force you to be patient and it will also prevent you from being tagged as that psycho ex girlfriend I talked about above.

Facebook/Other Social Media

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The beautiful thing about the no contact rule is that on top of making an ex boyfriend think about you more,

“Why hasn’t she tried to contact me?”

It also forces you to put a lot of focus on yourself. I am going to be honest with all of the women reading this. Most of you won’t get your ex boyfriend back because you can’t get out of your own way.

What do I mean by that?

Right now you are conditioned to think about your ex boyfriend as opposed to thinking of yourself. Many of you probably think that you can’t live without him. I have heard just about every sob story in the book. Nothing really shocks me anymore. You know what I would like? For once I would like to open up the comments on this site and read something like,

“I don’t care if I get him back or not but I am going to become so incredible that when he is on his deathbed and looking back at his life he will say to himself, I made a mistake letting her go.”

You see, that is interesting to me. That tells me that your world doesn’t revolve around a guy and it also says that you have a lot of self confidence. I want you to remember this attitude because it is going to be extremely important for you to have for what I say next.

Your ex has blocked you but that doesn’t mean that he isn’t checking up on you on Facebook or other social media outlets. So, rather than sit in your room and cry about your situation I say you be proactive with the knowledge that he will be keeping an eye on you through Facebook.

Lets go back to that attitude that I wanted you to have. You know, the “I will become so incredible he will regret his decision” attitude.

Make the necessary changes in your life to become incredible and make sure you let the world know about it on social media. Update your Facebook profile with things like,

  • Incredible pictures of your life.
  • Incredible things that happen to you.
  • Fun pictures of you and your friends having a good time.
  • Pictures of you and some guy friends (spark some jealousy.)
  • Anything that can be viewed as a positive thing.

This may be an embarrassing thing for me to admit but for years after I broke up with my ex girlfriend I would check up on her Facebook profile. The two of us weren’t Facebook friends but her wall was semi public to where I could see the major events of her life.

Here is the interesting thing though, two years after the breakup occurred between us I didn’t have any feelings for her at all. However, I would still check up on her because I was curious.

Your in a better position than I was because the breakup between you and your ex boyfriend is probably still fresh which means both of you probably still have feelings for each other. Curiosity is a powerful motivator and he will probably come snooping around in the near future to see how you are.

So, do you want him to see a depressed version of you or a happy version?

I don’t have to answer that do I?

Mutual Friends

friends

An avid reader of Ex Boyfriend Recovery had an interesting idea.

Her ex boyfriend had blocked her (a full block out) and she didn’t know what to do. So, what she decided to do was use her ex boyfriend and her’s mutual friends to pass a long letter to him. Of course, the letter idea didn’t work out for her as he didn’t unblock her but I think she may have been on to something with those mutual friends.

You see, her mind was in the right place with the mutual friends but she didn’t really use the mutual friends in the right way. Using them to pass letters or messages back and forth usually never works.

What she should have done was used the mutual friends as a way to get her exes attention. Allow me to explain.

Have you ever noticed how humans have this tendency to spread information like wildfire. Well, this is especially true when it comes to relationships. Perhaps it is best if I give a fake example to illustrate my point.

Your ex boyfriend has blocked you from his phone and has unfriended you on Facebook. Right now you are pretty much down in the dumps. Of course, the world isn’t over so you decide to hang out with a few mutual friends that you and your ex boyfriend have. These mutual friends aren’t bad people but how much do you want to bet that the second your little play date with them is over they won’t send something like this to your ex,

wildfire message

If you are betting against a message being sent like this then I think you owe me some money 😉 .

I would actually say that you want this message to be sent because it is going to force your ex to think about you. Once you are in his head curiosity will take hold and he may start spying on your Facebook profile or grilling your mutual friends on how you are doing.

This brings me to my next point.

Should you talk to your mutual friends about your ex?

Well, at some point of your hangout with them I am betting you will get a question like,

“So, how are you after the breakup?”

If you are faced with a situation like this here is how you should play it.

Things not to say:

  • DON’T say that the breakup was the greatest thing that ever happened to you. (we don’t want that getting around to your ex)
  • DON’T say that you are devastated by the breakup.

Things to say:

  • DO say your life is going great.
  • DO smile a lot.
  • DO talk about anything great that has recently happened to you.
  • DO ask about your ex.

I want to talk about that last “DO.”

Why do you think I want you to ask about your ex boyfriend?

Well, I want you to seem interested but not too interested. It’s ok if you are asking about your ex boyfriend. We are trying to get his attention so he could potentially unblock you. What you do want to avoid is asking about him too much.

In fact, I would say only ask about him once and then move on to talking about something else.

Here is how the conversation should go:

Mutual Friend: So, how are you holding up after the breakup?

You: I am doing fine! I have been focusing a lot on me and it has been great.

Mutual Friend: Do you still think about him?

You: From time to time. Why? Did he ask about me or something?

Mutual Friend: He may have been asking 😉 .

You: Well, tell him I say hi.

(End conversation there.)

Contact Your Ex After NC (If Possible)

Lets say your no contact period is completed and your ex still hasn’t unblocked you. However, you are still able to contact him via Facebook.

Well, after the no contact rule is complete would be a great time to initiate a conversation. Enough time should have passed for him to calm down a little bit so if you play your cards right you could get a response.

Ah, but what do you say?

Well, I have created multiple guides that cover that:

Well, it was fun writing this guide. I hope you got a lot out of it. As always I will be happy to answer any questions. Feel free to ask me anything in the comments.

2,250 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

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    Marcia

    July 17, 2019 at 9:32 pm

    Dear Chris,

    I quess I am stuck with my ex boyfriend, ex blocker. His unblocking, finally meant nothing… He never reached out to me, never read my messages since, and never had the common courtesy to reply. But he had no problem sharing a bed with me for 2 years. It seems that as soon as I cut the sex, he cut all contact with me. I can only understand it, if he was a wolf in a sheep’s skin 🙂

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    Marcia

    July 8, 2019 at 11:19 pm

    Dear Chris,

    Just to share my results: my (silly own) idea to block back my ex, didn’t work. I blocked him for 2 weeks, and still there was no reaction from him. So, I unblocked him and sent a cool message, just asking ”how are you, you disappeared, but I hope you are in good health” mentioning nothing about the relationship, or the message ignoring. He hasn’t posted at all on Instagram for 2 months, so I don’t know why. I guess he is either too sad to speak, or he is too happy marrying someone else. This message I just sent, is too ignored. Maybe he will keep me in his ignore list for ever 🙂

    I then posted a cute photo of my activities, and in a few days I will post a potential dynamite (!) one photo with a cute and handsome man… for whom I am thinking whether to show interest, in case it leads to dating, if I decide that I want a boyfriend for summer. Because I am so busy with my carreer, that I can’t have the luxury of space/time/energy for a boyfriend for the rest of the year, so not sure it is worth the trouble of getting one…

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    kathleen

    July 2, 2019 at 10:59 pm

    He ended things with me so I blocked him on social media, he then blocked my number & now his mates keep adding me on social media. What the hell is going on he was the one that ended it with me?

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    Ananomous

    June 27, 2019 at 11:39 am

    Hi Chris,
    I’ve been blocked by by ex-boyfriend every where he deleted my number on his phone. He is currently dating someone else in the mean time. He started dating as soon as we broke up just like 2 days after our breakup.
    I miss him terribly. Please help!

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    Marcia

    June 26, 2019 at 10:34 pm

    Dear Chris,

    Finally I pressed “ignore” my ex too, so now he can’t message me on fb. Which is exactly what he did to me for 3 months. So I will “give him a taste of his own medecine”. I wonder what effect this tactic has on men! Even if he has decided to move on! It worked perfectly whenever he applied it on me, so l hope it works vice versa 🙂

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    Kathleen

    June 24, 2019 at 6:04 pm

    I was dating a guy
    And he then all of a sudden went abit depressed & down
    I tried to cheer him up with things like I’ll be there for you stuff like that. On his birthday I surprised him with a gift weekend away I allowed a few days till I asked if he received a gift at all from me and he blanked me for 2 days. I said that was rather rude and uncalled for and that his acting a dick when all I wanted to do was help bring him up again. And he said to me were over your behaviour is ridiculous. Was like what! He wouldn’t speak to me face to face or on the phone. And he then blocked my number then unblocked my number. I left it 2 days – I asked if he was all ok and how come he unblocked my number did you wanna talk. He then blocked my number again. :-/ not really sure what to do from here.
    Shale I just leave him?
    I don’t wanna message him on Instagram or anything incase it pushes him away further. Shale I leave him alone and see what happens? Is that the best option. Advice would be appreciated. Thank you

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    Marcia

    June 22, 2019 at 9:14 pm

    Dear Chris,

    finally after NC I messaged my ex. I thought, he unblocked me a month ago, so let’s test the waters, on level 1, small talk. I was playing with my sister’s baby at that moment, so I sent him a cute photo of the baby’s toys! Tiny bears and cats! Not sexy, I know, but I am original 🙂 Here is to my surprise:

    Photo sent yesterday but still not delivered, although he is online. That means I am on “ignore messages”, just like I was before he blocked me, and then unblocked me!

    Why would an ex unblock me on messenger but pressed ” ignore messages”? To tempt me to message him and then humiliate me further?

    Would a man bother to use such game playing for a girl he wasn’t even in love with?! My mind feels paralyzed after this experience.

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    sarah

    June 17, 2019 at 6:02 am

    i’d say my situation is different than most, we have been broken up for about 9 months and dated other people. recently we had a very nice conversation in which he apologized for how he treated me post breakup and asked how I was doing. about a week later I find out he is dating one of my close friends. this was some serious betrayal (for the most part by her as she knew how I felt about the situation and him but he also could’ve been respected and looked elsewhere besides one of my friends). well come to realize the mutual friends this girl and I have tell me the two of them met by him badmouthing me at a party to them. both of these situations clearly hurt me as it’s been a long time since the breakup so i’m not sure why he would go up to my friends and start bad mouthing me (he left me and i’ve been doing much better than him). but also because immediately after that he starts dating one of my friends. and this whole story sounds as bad as it can get already but no. just the other night while i’m out with my friends at the club a girl grabs me, starts asking me very personal questions about myself and him. it’s his ex girlfriend. the one he dated after me. she starts looking through my phone and sees that I had a conversation with him in which he said he was glad they broke up because she was by his words “mean and petty”. of course I felt bad for this girl because for all I know she could be wonderful and he’s just bitter. but then she calls him, she starts screaming at him and texting him profusely. my friends and I leave the situation and try to forget about it. but by the next day i’m over the top anxious by everything he seems to be causing in my life and I text him. along the lines of I don’t know what to do anymore your decisions keep making my life worse you talk shit about me then date my friend and now i’m being forcefully interrogated by one of your exes. it may have been harsh but I said that I shouldn’t be relevant in any of this and I shouldn’t be dragged through this crap when i’ve done nothing for the last 9 months but just living my life without him. he apologized for her behaviour and said it wasn’t right of her to do. I said that I understand you’re not directly doing anything but you’ve caused a drama filled situation in my friend group (all of my mutual friends with this girl hate her for dating my ex, which I did not ask them to they just don’t think it’s okay) and now I feel targeted by a girl i’ve never met before who is somehow angry at me for dating you before her. I respectfully said i’m not trying to attack you in anyway I am just very tired of being put through this stuff and I don’t know what to do anymore. did he read the last part? i’m not sure and now i’m blocked by him. honestly it doesn’t really make a difference I didn’t follow him in the first place and I certainly do not want to be with someone who would have such little respect for me.
    ps. my (now ex) friend’s last boyfriend started hitting on me after they broke up and I ignored it because I could never do that to a friend knowing what they went through. and my ex’s best friend also started hitting on me after our breakup and I politely declined since he was my ex’s friend.

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    Marcia

    June 15, 2019 at 10:34 pm

    Dear Chris,

    it’s now 5 weeks since I was unblocked by my ex (oh yeah) and I haven’t reached out to him. Neither did him. So I did well with my NC 🙂 Also I want to congratulate you, as you are the only mentor whose theory caught and worked from the root, for me!

    I am thinking to initiate now and see if I may build up just friendly contact with him. I decided I don’t want a boyfriend in my life, but would be rather happy with a pen pal. At this stage I won’t mind even to hear about his current dates etc. That’s what buddies do, right? I won’t play with his heart.

    Is it a good idea to try to build just friendly contact with an ex? Or will I look like a time-waster, in a man’s eyes? And if he wants more, I will explain to him that I am happier to be just email friends. There is fun in that too. Do you believe in keeping an ex as a pen pal friend? Life is weird! 🙂

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      June 15, 2019 at 10:46 pm

      Sometimes what seems like a good idea in the mind, doesn’t always play so well in practice. My concern is you will get hurt if you are his pen pal and he is telling you about his dates. Not sure that is the path you want to take.

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    Annette

    June 11, 2019 at 11:51 pm

    I appreciate your honesty. It seems you are growing and maturing. Not there yet, but promising. The article helped me to see things from a better perspective. Thank you

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    Marcia

    June 7, 2019 at 10:12 pm

    Dear Chris, Marcia here, to make your day, just like you make our days (of all your readers and followers) happier! I’ve watched your video, where you and Jennifer both talk, and you are indeed such a cute and charming couple! Actually I can tell that you are so suited to each other and still in love with each other! How amazing and bravo!! 🙂

    By taking the test “how likely am I to get my ex back” I got slightly above average. So that’s hopeful, but after being ignored, then blocked, then unblocked, I no longer care about my ex.

    If however I do implement your powerful strategies, I am sure I will get him back, to begin with. If I do that as an experiment, and not out of genuinely being interested in him, is that a sin? Would it count as game playing? Because I am thinking to get him back, then drop him, just to teach him a lesson and help him form a better attitude to women. Just wondering 🙂

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      June 8, 2019 at 1:48 am

      I would not advice getting him back just to drop him. You will end up hurting yourself in the long run.

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    Paige117

    June 6, 2019 at 8:51 pm

    Hey Chris! I love all the information you’ve given! It’s helped me understand a lot. However I do have a few questions. My ex and I have been on and off for 4 years. We both love each other a lot and would do anything. We decided we both needed to work on ourselves in order to have a happy functioning relationship. We both wanted to one day end back up together. But for now to only be friends. He’s dealt with PTSD and I have as well. We were two broken people trying to make it work. He’s blocked me before but that was because I freaked out and ttexted him that his new girlfriend looked like jimmy nutrons dad! (Old cartoon I watched as a kid) which she indeed did resemble him! But I was so furious because at this time we were in between the on and off stages. We were friends but friends with benifits and trying to make it work. So long story short he blocked me. They broke up, and he started talking to me again. Well this time he blocked me completely. I moved to Florida to take care of my grandmother and we decided this was the perfect time to finally focus on ourselves and become the person we’d wanna date. We’ll be dropped me off at the airport. Anxiety and tension was high on both ends. I was known for never being on time and he was freaking out saying if I were responsible I’d of made my flight. I missed it but he said he wasn’t coming back because he had plans and I’d have to figure it out. We’re we’re fine after that day. Talked and texted quite frequently. Then about 2 or 3 months in I was completely blocked in alll aspects. I went into panic mode. I’ve tried contacting him numerous of times. And still find myself wanting to reach out. I’ve become so fixated on him not wanting me because he’s always loved and wanted me. We both had our share of our wrongs. More so me. I know I messed up and was given more chances then I should have been. But he’s never stopped loving me. And I’m so scared that he’s gone forever. I’m moved back. 2 more months and it’ll be a year since he dropped me off at the airport and kissed me goodbye. I haven’t been with anyone. Believe me I’ve tried. I’ve went on 1 date. Hated every minute of it. I haven’t been intimate with anyone but him. I’ve tried tinder but delete it more then I find myself using it. I just wanna forget about him, I try and he’s there in the back of my mind. Every. Damn. Day. My heart aches for his presence. For a call. Anything. I just wanna know why or what I did for him to completely vanish on the earth as I know it. I mean here I am reaching out to a total stranger to try and find some closure to this madness. Whether we become lovers again or just friends I’d be happy either way. He’s made a huge impact on my life. In a good way. Taught me a lot about myself and life. Things my parents should have but never did. Early on in our relationship I resented him for this. And now all I wanna do is thank him and give him back the love he’s given me. I don’t wanna trick him into loving me again or play any game to try to get him back. I want him to comeback because he wants me in his life. I’ve been focusing on myself and bettering myself the best I can while dealing with this. I’m just so scared I pushed him so far away that come my 85th birthday I’ll blow out my candles still wishing for him. I want to know if he’s gone for good. I want to just ask him why. Thank you for your time reading this longgggg sad comment. If you have any advice for me I’d appreciate it!

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    texasgirl123

    June 3, 2019 at 3:41 am

    Hey Chris,
    I’m not sure how many of these you are able to get to, but I hope you can offer me some insight. I was with my ex for 4 years. We were high school sweethearts and continued our relationship into college. Now, we will both be graduating college next year. Our relationship became rocky when we had to go long distance. I was beginning nursing school in a different town and he was pursuing his degree at another university. During our first semester apart, it was quite difficult. Both our workloads were extremely heavy and the rigor of both programs was so stressful. Time passes, and on my finals week he comes to me and ends our relationship. His reason being, he needs to be on his own and make his own decisions and that I was too controlling. As you can imagine, I was extremely hurt. A month has passed now since we have been broken up. We were still texting, however it was more so me pleading to fix things. We even met up a few times and I explained how much I love him and how willing I am to work on our issues because I truly believe that things could be better. In my mind, after being with someone 4 years there is a level of respect and I thought at least giving it a chance would be realistic. He constantly kept saying “move on”, “don’t wait for me”, “I’ll always love and care for you but I don’t think I’m in love with you anymore” Anyways, my pleading has pushed him away. He has blocked me via phone. I reached out through his brother because I understand that blocking me was needed in order to give us both an emotional break, but I did not want to leave it on a negative note. He responded to me through his brothers phone and said that he felt that blocking me was necessary for us both to heal and feel better and that he will unblock me when he feels the time is right. I guess what I am asking you is, do you think I’m stupid for having hope that we can fix our relationship? Or am I better off moving on and not even considering that as a possibility? I do love him with all my heart and I can’t blame him for wanting to be alone but I just am not sure what to do from here. Thank you for your great articles, they give me a lot of insight.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      June 3, 2019 at 3:25 pm

      Hi Texas Girl….so sometimes the best medicine is No Contact. It can help in many ways…help you with your healing and recovery and also help create the space that is needed for him to perhaps see things differently and come to better appreciate your value. That is what my Program is about (EBR PRO).

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    Belle

    June 2, 2019 at 4:55 pm

    Hi Chris, I’ve been waiting for your reply before I make a do something stupid like text this guy that I miss him,

    But it’s almost been 2 month since I asked you what I should do. But I’ll tell you how everything started.

    This perfect guy came out of the blue and he was too good to be true, he was just like me but, a male version kinda. Then it got little annoying when he texted and starred to ask a lot. I took some break from him but he came back. And I was still little annoyed by him. Cuz he cared to much about me. And then I became mean to him for no reason, I don’t really know why or how I could be so rude. So I blocked him for few weeks. And then started to give other guys some chance cuz I feel like I never give guys much chance to talk to me. After around 3 weeks I unblocked him and he to added me right away. And I felt so bad it was like he have been waiting for me to unblock him, like everyday, cause the moment I unblocked him, he added me.

    But I though I’m gonna be nice to him from now on cuz I missed him little. But then he ignores me and he blocks me for three days. I tried to ad him back cuz I though this behavior is so ridiculous and maybe we can be friends , but he didn’t add me back I don’t know if he was it or something so I deleted him after few hours, But I really like him cause he was such a good guy, I just didn’t saw it then, and I feel so bad. I’ve been crying my heart out since then. I don’t know why I act like this.

    I have never been in love or even liked some one this much.. I don’t know if I should let it go or try to talk to him? Cuz everything was my fault in the beginning. I mean I got so much attention from other guys I just though this guy is nothing. I was so mean to him.

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    Jojo

    June 1, 2019 at 1:56 am

    Hi Chris! Love your website. So I was together with my ex since last Christmas. And these past 6 months has been amazing for us and I knew he always cared and took care of me always. We’ve been to so many trips together and all. But the issue was that we’re always fighting. Mainly it was my fault cause I had depression and tend to push him away when I’m sad or hurt cause I didn’t want to burden him. We met just 3 weeks ago and everything was lovey dovey and suddenly we had this fight again and as days passed by I pushed him away more and I feel he’s been distancing from me. My close friends tried contacting him to ask what was wrong and he told them that he was hurt that I kept pushing him away and he said he needed time to “fix himself”. So I gave him space for about a week and we met up again. But this time he looked different and I started crying n begging him to come back but he said he couldn’t and I was so so hurt. He kept insisting to be “friends” cause he think we could understand each other better that way. And I asked him what’s the possibility of getting back together if we were to stay friends? He said “90%”. So I agreed to be his friend but few days later I found out from his colleague that he’s been starting to see someone from his work. I don’t understand? Just after 2 weeks of being all lovey dovey, he found someone else?!! So of course I spiralled and for one whole week I been begging him to give me a chance. And yesterday when I asked if I could meet him next week, he blocked me on WhatsApp. I was so so upset. That same night I found out he blocked me on Instagram too. I wasn’t sure if his new gf was there that time and told him to do so. But thankfully he did not block me on Facebook yet. So I really don’t understand:
    1) how could he just break up with me so fast ?
    2) how can he find someone new just after a week of break up? Does he really love her?
    3) why did he block me on Instagram? Now how am I gonna show him that I can be happy? Is he gonna unblock me back soon?

    I really miss him and want him back but I’m not sure how and what’s going in his mind right now. Sigh. But the best part is that I’m going to see him in July as we booked our holiday tickets with our group of friends. (Which is exactly 1 month from now and it’s best to try the NC Rule) but when we meet, should I start pouring out my feelings to him and confront him ? I just want to win him back!!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      June 1, 2019 at 3:57 am

      Thanks Jo Jo! I am glad you are enjoying the site! So it seems NC would be the right medicine. Sometimes guys will go chasing after foolish notions. Time and space can be a teacher in many ways for you both.

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    Marcia

    May 31, 2019 at 10:34 pm

    Dear Chris,

    20 days after being unblocked, and he still hasn’t contacted me 🙁

    I am being strong, posting about my career projects on fb but without my picture, as I want to shock him suddenly, having lost 6 kgr! But now I have a sad feeling he will never contact me. Although he had blocked and unblocked me again in the past and was always flakey. Maybe he never felt emotional attraction for me… I thought men fall in love gradually, and that’s why I kept it going on for 2 years, but maybe I am wrong. If he had indeed felt any connection, he would have run back to me by now. He seemed a sensitive soul before, but now he looks so cruel. I don’t understand it…

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    Maya

    May 29, 2019 at 4:32 am

    Hi Chris! I’m Maya from Philippines. Me and my ex been together for almost 6 yrs. Our relationship was great. We even have a same tattoo. We always talk about our future. I am very insecure person. My ex didn’t post anything about us. Thou his family knows me. I usually stayed in their house every weekend. One day. I don’t know but I texted him I think he has another girl. He got really angry at me. I tried to talked to him but he doesnt want too. He blocked me on everything. As In everything. It’s always 3 weeks now since the breakup. But I went to their house last week. But he is soo angry and doesn’t want to see me anymore. What would I do. I love him. Should I fight for him or give up??pls help me

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    Latisha

    May 28, 2019 at 4:13 pm

    Hi Chris,

    this was a good read hopefully you can give me some advice. my ex and i broke up well be blocked me on EVERYTHING but whatsapp. I went into panic mode and messaged him crazy on the first day and he was really cold and was like you should know what you’ve done wrong and its not my place to tell you (hes nearly 30) by the end of the day i told him i’d give him his space and will contact him in a couple of days once hes calmed down (think 10 days). but before this all happened i spent the morning with him at a football game and within 22 minutes i was blocked from what i understand i 2 missed a calls. he said i disrespected him and he doesn’t deal with disrespect but ive missed many calls in the past we both work full time jobs and have hobbies so naturally i cant be available 100% is there any saving this

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    Ellie

    May 23, 2019 at 11:16 am

    Hi my name is Ellie from the uk I’m new to this and I just need some help with the ex boyfriend situation it all started out fine we were getting along okay having a laugh and then a come Christmas time last year it started to go abit wrong he started to act funny and not wanted to meet he would always say I’m busy or what ever to me I felt like he was advoiding me and then all of sudden he goes and blokes me with out a reason he never told me why he just went and block me he did this on WhatsApp and Facebook, Instagram not to mention my actual phone number see all I wanted to do was find out why he block me I mean no man should not block you with a reason it silly and the fact that i can’t talk to him it hurts me because he left me in this mess to clear up so all I’m saying is how can I tell my ex to talk me about it his situation and why he did it.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 23, 2019 at 11:55 pm

      Hi Ellie form UK! So blocking is sort of a childish reaction, though sometimes people will block to protect themselves. What matters going forward is that you have a sensible ex recovery plan. I can help with that. Feel free to check out my Program (EBR Pro Bundle)!

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    Marcia

    May 19, 2019 at 10:33 pm

    Dear Chris,

    As you so wisely predicted, I am now unblocked, a full week has past and weirdly, no message from him.

    I am puzzled. Why would an ex unblock you on messenger, if he doesn’t plan to message you! Another big mystery for me 🙂

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 19, 2019 at 11:17 pm

      Hey Marcia….so guys can do things for tactical reasons to thaw things out. Maybe he is inching up to a time where he will entertain some communications.

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