This is the ultimate guide on what to do if your ex boyfriend blocks you.

And I want to be crystal clear about one thing. This is NOT one of those lame guides that is going to be 100 words of fluff.

Instead you can expect this guide to take an in-depth look on exactly how to handle a situation where you’ve been blocked in all forms of communication including (but not limited to,)

  • Texting
  • Calling
  • Facebook
  • WhatsApp
  • SnapChat
  • Skype
  • Email
  • Etc.

Let’s dive right in!

(Side Note: If you get through this guide and find yourself thinking, “I need more information about this,” then I highly recommend you check out my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

Understanding Why You Were Blocked

Ziad K. Abdelnour (author of Economic Welfare) once said,

“If someone is going out of his way to ignore you, he is not ignoring you, he is obsessed by you.”

I love that quote because everything about it is true. Think about it for a moment. Every time a woman comes to this site and decides to implement the no contact rule she is technically obsessed with her ex boyfriend. He is on her mind the second she wakes up for the day, the second she gets in her car to go to work and the second she closes her eyes to go to sleep.

So, when an ex boyfriend blocks you does it mean that he is obsessed with you?

I would say that he is.

However, the issue that you are running into is that he is obsessed with you for the wrong reasons.

Obsessed For The Wrong Reasons?

Ahh… here is where things begin to get a little tricky. Lets take the examples I gave above :

(A woman going into no contact VS. An ex boyfriend blocking that woman)

Ok, a woman who visits this site and reads about the no contact rule will probably want her ex boyfriend back. That means when she thinks about him she is probably filled with good feelings. Sure, maybe there were some really bad fights and the relationship wasn’t as strong as she thought but if she is willing to try the no contact rule then deep down she really wants things to work and probably still loves her boyfriend.

I would consider this to be “obsessed” but for the right reasons (being obsessed usually isn’t a good thing though as I will point out shortly but bear with me here.)

Lets turn our attention to an ex boyfriend who has decided to block his ex girlfriend. First off, being blocked by an ex is never a good thing. Lets not beat around the bush here. If you have been blocked this is really bad.

However, I did mention above that if an ex blocks you it probably means that a part of him is obsessed with you.

Unfortunately, he is obsessed with you for the wrong reasons. There is only one way I can think of to describe this phenomenon. You are annoying to your ex boyfriend. Every time he thinks about you he is not filled with good feelings he is filled with annoyance. While he thinks about you often the feelings he gets aren’t good.

The challenge that you are going to faced with is to determine if he is worth the effort required to turn his bad feelings into good feelings but more on that later.

For now I would like to dive a little deeper into the mindset of a man who has blocked you.

Why He Blocked You

I am about to give you the biggest advantage ever.

I am a man who has blocked women before. Some of the women I blocked were exes and some of them were just friends that pushed me to the point where I couldn’t deal with them anymore. I am going to let you in on exactly what caused me to block these women. In addition to that I have literally seen hundreds of women be blocked by their exes so I know all the main reasons for a “block” to happen.

My point here is that what I talk about on this page may be hard to hear but it is going to prepare you and maybe get some light bulbs to go off. Lets start with one of the most interesting reasons a man could potentially block you.

It Hurts Too Much To Talk To You

This is something that I have experienced first hand which is why I know it exists. In fact, this is something that I have to explain to my one on one coaching clients a lot.

I guess if there was ever going to be a positive reason for an ex boyfriend to block you this would be it.

Essentially how this works is that every time your ex talks to you on the phone or through text messaging it hurts him.

Not the kind of hurt where you fall down and skin your knee. No, I am talking about a deep hurt. The type of hurt that stays with you all day long and is impossible to get rid of.

If you are wondering about my particular situation I wasn’t actually officially dating the girl I blocked. In fact, this was years ago and I was starting to develop some feelings for her. Feelings that weren’t reciprocated. As a guy let me tell you it is a very humbling feeling when one moment you are on top of the world because you think a pretty girl is falling for you and then BAM!!

chuck norris punch

Like a Chuck Norris punch you learn the truth that your feelings are one sided.

Now, I am the type of guy that is very calm and classy in situations that don’t go my way (and believe me I have had a lot in my life.) Nevertheless, knowing that someone doesn’t feel “that way” about you can be very upsetting and it takes a toll on your mental health.

I made the decision to block this particular girl not because I was trying to be hurtful or “get back” at her (which I will talk about in a moment) but because it hurt to talk to her when I knew my feelings weren’t reciprocated (kind of held it against her.)

“But Chris, maybe if you waited around she would have woken up and realized that the perfect guy was right there in front of her.”

I am sorry but my time is valuable and I am not one to be strung along. Besides, for me the perfect girl will know right away and won’t need time to “sort out” her feelings.

Here is the main point I am trying to make about your ex boyfriend blocking you in this instance. Maybe he looks back on your time very fondly. Maybe he is obsessed with you for the right reasons but it simply hurts too much to talk to you.

It hurts because every time he does his feelings for you surface and maybe your relationship was very painful to him. So painful that he doesn’t want to remember it right now so he chooses to block you out of his life.

I want you to remember that any time an ex blocks you it is never a good sign. So, while this is probably the best outlook for being blocked it is still never a good thing.

(Don’t worry though I am going to be giving you a game plan for how to approach being blocked a little later.)

He Knows Blocking You Will Hurt You

No matter what there are always going to be those ex boyfriends out there that will hold things against you and look for revenge.

How do I know this?

Well, because I have actually been one these types of ex boyfriends. I know that is an absolutely horrible thing for me to say but I am actually not ashamed about it. Look, the thing you have to understand about men is that it is rare for us to be mature about our first few relationships.

As for me, I was a bit immature about my first relationship.

I look back now and just shake my head at how dumb I was. Nevertheless, being the immature idiot that I once was, was important because it taught me how to evolve into a more mature man. I looked back and was disappointed with how I acted and I actively worked to make sure I didn’t repeat those mistakes ever again in my future relationships. In other words, being immature at first was essential for me to evolve into a more mature and classy human being.

Now, you may be sitting there wondering,

“What if this only applies to you? What if it is different for other men?”

That is actually a really good point.

I would say that there is a 50/50 split on how men use their previous relationships to impact their future relationships (which we are hoping is you again 😉 .) Some men are like me and will learn from their mistakes and vow to never let them happen again. They will remain classy and mature in just about any situation.

However, the other type of men are the reason that this section was written. They won’t learn anything and they will refuse to change. In fact, rather than looking to “repair” your relationship they will look for revenge and they know for a fact that blocking you is the perfect way to do that. Again, this is another concept that I talk about a lot in my coaching sessions with clients.

So, I’ll break it down for you like I break it down for them.

One thing that we already know is that a man who blocks you to get back at you or to hurt you is not being mature about the situation. Like I said above, at one point in my life I went through a phase where I would have had no problem doing this.

Here is the exact thoughts I would have had,

“If I block her I know it will hurt her and maybe teach her a lesson..”

Pretty bad I know but I am telling you that is exactly what would run through my head. So, what factors do you think forced me into this type of thinking?

Why Do Men “Want Revenge,” “To Teach You A Lesson,” “Get Back At You?”

payback time

If an ex boyfriend blocks you to get revenge or to hurt you then one thing you already know right off the bat is that he is being very immature about the breakup. However, what I would like to do is give you some insight into what factors caused him to have these feelings of vengeance.

This first thing I want you to get through your mind is that USUALLY not all of the blame goes on him for wanting revenge. Sure, there are cases where your ex boyfriend is just a psycho and will want revenge because he is crazy. However, most ex boyfriends can point to something that YOU did wrong in the relationship. So, lets not pretend that you are entirely innocent here. We are all human beings after all and the thing about human beings is that none of us are perfect.

So, lets start there, the fact that you aren’t innocent.

It is every mans dream to date a woman that looks like a model. I guarantee you that if you walked up to a random guy on the street and gave him the choice to date an average looking girl versus a girl who looks like a model he will choose the model 100% of the time (even without knowing her personality.)

Of course, most men are dumb and they fail to realize that they aren’t the only ones with eyes. A woman who looks like a model is going to get a lot of attention from other men. That is just the way it is.

Hmm… perhaps I should be role playing here because this may be a little complicated to explain without the proper context.

Ok, you and I are dating.

Since you put professional models to shame you get a lot of attention from other men. While you don’t shout it out to the world you kind of like the attention from the other guys (even though you are dating me.) Realistically, I think if the roles were reversed and I got a lot of attention from women I would like it too so I can’t really blame you. However, I am playing the role of an idiot boyfriend here so I don’t look at it that way.

As you get attention from other men you begin to flirt with them a little. That is just the way you are. You like to flirt. You are a flirty, bubbly and upbeat person. Unfortunately, I am insecure and I get angry about the flirting.

Let’s fast forward to our breakup.

The two of us have broken up and I am angry. I decide that I want to block you to “get back at you” for the breakup. There are two things that will go through my mind when I decide to make the decision to block for this specific reason.

The first “reasoning” that I would have is tied to my understanding of how you are. I know for a fact that you are the type of person that likes to be social. You like creating and maintaining friendships. Even during our breakup you fed me the famous,

let’s still be friends” line.

While most women may not mean it when they say it, I know you well enough to know that you are serious about it.

So, if I block you and take the “friends” option off the table I know that it is going to cause you pain and I kind of like that fact because deep down I am hurt and I want you to feel as bad as I do.

(It’s so messed up, I know..)

The second thought that I will have relates to what I was talking about above (with you being pretty, liking the attention and flirting with other guys.) You see, all throughout our relationship I hated that you flirted with other guys. You know that I hated it too because a lot of fights were caused between us because of it.

Your flirty nature is going to be a prime reason for me wanting revenge.

Every time I think to myself,

“Wait, why did I block her?”

I am probably going to say,

“Oh, she was all over those guys that one time.”

That’s the thing about exes that block for revenge. They will latch on to everything you did wrong in the relationship as a reason for revenge. EVEN IF IT WASN’T THAT BAD AT ALL.

Truthfully though, the overall outlook isn’t as bad as it seems. There are a few silver linings that I think are important to understand if an ex blocks you in this instance.

Two Silver Linings

If your ex boyfriend blocks you and you suspect it’s to “teach you a lesson,” “get back at you,” or “get revenge.” There are a few silver linings that I want you to remember before you go into code RED panic mode.

As I have stated multiple times throughout this section, I have been in a place where I have wanted to “teach an ex a lesson,” “get back at her,” and “get revenge.” While on the outside it may have appeared that I disliked my ex on the inside I can tell you with 100% certainty that I still had feelings for her.

This is one of those very rare occasions where actions don’t match up with the truth of how a man would be feeling about the situation. While blocking an ex girlfriend is a bold action stating (GO AWAY) the ultimate truth could be that the man is just doing it so he can feel wanted by you… WAIT, WHAT?

Think about this for a moment.

If your ex boyfriend were to block your phone number and you went crazy on Facebook trying to contact him the fact that you want to be in touch with him so badly will feel good to him because it means you want him. Never underestimate the fact that all men love to feel wanted by women (even me.)

The second silver lining we have already kind of discussed.

Remember above when I was talking about how I was actually glad that I was immature in my first relationship because it forced me to evolve and become a more mature human being and I could bring more to the table in the future?

Well, it could be entirely possible that your ex boyfriend hasn’t gone through this evolution yet. He may look back and be completely ashamed of how he blocked you and will want to get back in touch down the road (This is covered extensively later in the guide.)

For now, lets get through the rest of the reasons for why he may have blocked you.

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He Blocked You Because He Never Wants To Talk To You Again

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So far we have talked about two vastly different reasons for an ex boyfriend to block you.

  1. He blocks you because it hurts too much to talk to you.
  2. He blocks you because he knows it will hurt you.

Well, I am about to add another entirely different reason into the mix here,

Him never wanting anything to do with you ever again….

Where him blocking you because it hurts to talk to you has a lot to do with the emotions he has towards you and him blocking you to cause you pain is done from a place of anger, him blocking you because he never wants anything to do with you again is done from a place where you have pushed him to the point of no return.

In other words, him blocking you because he never wants to talk to you again is the worst case scenario for pretty much everyone reading this page.

So, I am going to give this the attention it deserves.

Does He Really Mean It?

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Whats that old phrase?

When emotions run high logic runs low.

Speaking from personal experience there have been times where I have become so angry that I threw logic out of the window completely. Let me give you a real example from one of my previous relationships.

About four years ago I was dating a girl and we got into a fight (like couples tend to do.) It was four years ago so there are a few things that you need to understand. At that time I was still very much in the “maturing” phase of my life. Also, I was a little selfish so I didn’t really treat her as well as I could have.

Well, once the fight had commenced I made the biggest mistake ever. I allowed my emotions to control me. Instead of approaching the fight with this mindset,

“Ok, calm down Chris. Lets communicate with her and become better from this.”

I approached the fight with this mindset,

“I don’t care what she thinks. What are the most hurtful things that I can say to her?”

To my great shame…. I did just that (said the most hurtful things possible.) I thought of every hurtful subject I could to twist the knife a little deeper.

Her parents…

Her insecurities…

Her friends…

Logic was out the window and the lovely emotion of anger was in control. This brings me to the big point I am trying to make here.

Do you think I really meant any of the things I said to her?

Of course not.

Look, while I may have thought those horrible things in my head if you were to go deep inside my mind at the time I really didn’t mean any of them. The only reason I verbalized any of those thoughts was because I got angry and was looking for a way to hurt my girlfriend.

(Again, this is a completely immature way to handle the situation but anger has a way of throwing maturity out of the window.)

Ok, everything I just talked about I want you to remember because the “emotions run high logic runs low” theory is going to apply to my next few comments.

In the example I gave above I was in the middle of a relationship with a girl. What do you think would have happened if I had broken up with this girl?

No matter how you slice it a breakup is a highly emotional situation and it is almost a guarantee that things are going to be said (from both sides) that neither person means. One of those things may be something like,

“I never want to talk to you again.”

So, lets say that your ex boyfriend said this to you after your breakup and a day or two down the road you realized that your number has been blocked on his phone. Your immediate reaction is to panic and run around like a crazy person screaming, “THE APOCALYPSE IS HERE!!!!”

But I want to let you in on a little secret.

You probably won’t be blocked forever.

“Wait… what do you mean?”

You remember that whole “when emotions run high, logic runs low” speech I gave you at the beginning of this section right?

Well, the thing about emotions running high and logic running low is that eventually logic does return to run the show. Emotions reign is only temporary and logic is usually left to clean up the mess that emotion made.

(Yes, I am totally referring to emotion and logic like they are people, DEAL WITH IT!)

I have literally witnessed hundreds of women get blocked by their exes. Want to know something pretty shocking?

About 60% of those women end up back in touch with their exes in some way, shape or form. Here is what the thought process of an ex boyfriend who blocks you will typically look like:

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The infographic above is actually kind of cool because you can see the progression from anger back to logic. Remember, the way this usually works is that your ex boyfriend will start off thinking with logic. However, when something painful happens (like a breakup) the logic switch gets turned off and the emotion/anger switch gets turned on. Of course, the emotion/anger switch doesn’t stay on forever. Slowly but surely logic is going to take the reigns back.

The picture above kind of shows you what will happen in your exes mind if he decides to unblock you (which as I said above is actually pretty likely.)

What I am going to do now is go through the entire progression in the picture so you can understand exactly what is happening in his mind.

“I am angry at her.”

This one is pretty self explanatory. He is angry at you. This anger signifies when the logic switch is turned off and when the emotion switch is turned on. Remember, emotion = anger in this case.

“I think I will block her.”

This is your exes first big action under the guise of emotion. He knows that blocking you will probably cause you pain.

“Blocking her didn’t feel as good as I thought it would.”

The truth of the situation sets in. Emotion steered him wrong as he is beginning to regret his decision. Hurting you doesn’t feel too good to him. This signifies the time where emotion is starting to lose its grasp on him. Logic is starting to set back in.

“God… I kind of miss her.”

This is kind of interesting. So far, the emotion of anger has been running the show. While logic is slowly retaking the battlefield some of the good emotions are starting to kick in. You know, emotions that make a guy go,

“I miss her.”

or

“I still have feelings for her.”

That is what is happening here. His anger is being replaced by the emotions that made him fall for you in the first place.

“I think I am going to unblock her.”

Welcome our good friend logic back to the party. That’s really the best way I can put it.

He Really Means It And Never Wants To Talk To You Again

never talk again

I said that in about 60% of the cases an ex boyfriend will end up getting back in touch with you after he blocks you. While that percentage number is pretty high the truth is that it isn’t 100%. In fact, it means that 40% of exes could be serious about blocking you and may never want to talk to you again.

For every women reading this page having this happen is the worst possible outcome that they can think of.

Why?

Because it basically means that your chances of getting your ex back are 0%.

It is at this point that I would like to admit that I have actually blocked people from my life that I was serious about never talking to again and to this day I haven’t ever talked to them. Actually, there were only two people that I have ever done this with.

Both of them were women. One of them was an ex girlfriend and another was a friend that had a serious crush on me.

So, what did they do to cause me to “blacklist” them?

Lets start with the ex girlfriend first since I am sure that she is the one that you really want to hear about.

The thing you have to understand about this girl was the fact that the two of us just weren’t a good match for each other. We fought constantly, we didn’t agree on a lot of serious issues and by the end the relationship was so toxic that I literally went to bed at night dreading the next day.

After we broke up I made a decision to block her so I wouldn’t even be tempted to get back into that situation ever again.

Maybe me blocking her was done from a mindset of emotion as opposed to logic but in all honesty I am glad I did it because there was no way that I could have been happy with her.

So, basically I decided to block my ex because I determined that there was no way that she could improve my life. I knew I still had some feelings for her at the time and I knew that if I didn’t block her I would have been sucked back in and I didn’t want that for myself.

My second story of blocking someone was completely different but just as important because it can give you some important insight into how men think.

I had a friend who definitely had feelings for me (she told me she did.) Unfortunately for her, I didn’t like her in that way. Now, prior to this point I had only ever blocked one person in my entire life (that ex girlfriend I talked about above.) So, blocking someone from my life is very rare for me.

However, this friend who had feelings for me pushed me to that point very quickly when she started harassing me.

Every time I wouldn’t text her back immediately I would get harassed.

Every time I would tell her in a very nice way that I think she should move on she would harass me.

The main point is that she would say some really mean things and question my character. Apparently, I was “leading her on” even though I told her to move on. The harassment finally got to the point where it was starting to make me a little angry.

So, I gave her a warning,

“Look, if you keep acting this way we can’t be friends anymore.”

Once I told her this she settled down for a little while until I didn’t text her back immediately and then the harassment resumed. She had pushed me to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore so I blocked her from everything and never talked to her again.

She simply wasn’t adding anything positive into my life, just negative.

The Different Degrees Of Blocking

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Now that you have a better understanding of why an ex boyfriend may block you I would like to turn your attention to HOW an ex can block you.

I entitled this section “The Different Degrees Of Blocking” because some forms of blocking are much worse that others. Don’t worry, I will explain that in a minute. First though, lets take a look at all the ways that an ex boyfriend can block you from his life.

(I know that this is a hard topic to read about but bear with me here.)

I have determined that there are really five ways that an ex boyfriend can block you.

  1. On the phone.
  2. On Facebook.
  3. Through applications
  4. Through email.
  5. The full block out.

As always, I am going to go in great detail into each of these methods so you can fully understand the situation you have found yourself in.

On The Phone

Have you ever noticed how our cell phones or smartphones are sacred to us all?

Personally speaking, the people that matter most to me all have my phone number. To me, my phone is sacred. It is like a little sanctuary where only a select number of important people are invited. I don’t just hand my number out unless I want you in my life. It is as simple as that.

I have found that most people are like that. They are very protective of their phones. Most people don’t just hand out their numbers and they sure as heck put some thought into who they are blocking from their phones.

This brings us to you and your ex.

I would say that an ex blocking you from his phone is the most common thing that I hear about when I talk to women on this site. Fortunately, it is easy to unblock someone from your phone. As I said above, around 60% of exes do end up getting back in touch after they block their significant other.

So, how bad is it if you get blocked from your exes phone?

Well, getting blocked is never a good thing but I will tell you that if you get blocked from his phone don’t think the world is over. It is actually the most common form of blocking.

On Facebook

Next to Google, Facebook is one of the biggest websites in the world.

In fact, I have always found it amusing that in the day and age that we live in a relationship isn’t ever “official” until Facebook says it is. Heck, two people can meet through Facebook and fall in love. Funny anecdote, my best friend actually met his girlfriend of five years through Facebook.

(They are still dating if you are wondering.)

Now, I don’t know your situation specifically but what I do know is that if your ex blocks you through Facebook it is not a good thing.

Why do I say that?

When you block someone from your phone (at least on the iPhone) it isn’t really that hard to unblock them. However, if you block someone on Facebook it is actually quite hard to unblock them. Nevertheless, I have found that most men don’t block their exes on Facebook.

Why?

Well, they want to spy on them to see how bad they are hurting.

Through Applications

Some people don’t really use text messaging on their phones. Instead they opt to go through messaging applications like:

  • WhatsApp
  • Kik Messanger
  • Snapchat

In my view these are all the same as text messaging (with the exception of Snapchat.) What you need to keep an eye out for is if you are being blocked from his regular phone and from these little applications. If he does block you through both the applications and the big phone it is not a good sign. While there is still a 60% chance that he will unblock you down the road he may be more serious about the blocking if he takes the time to block you on all these little applications as well.

Still though, an ex boyfriend who blocks a girl is usually doing so through a highly emotional state. Give it some time and you will be surprised at what happens.

Through Emails

Did you know that it is possible to block someone on email?

Well, it is.

I want to make this as simple as possible. If he is blocking you on email it is a very bad sign. It means he is probably much more serious about not talking to you. Of course, I am all about turning negatives into positives so the thing that you have to understand is that very rarely do men communicate with their girlfriends through email.

Usually they communicate through talking on the phone, through Facebook or other social media outlets.

So, keep those spirits high because it isn’t the end of the world yet.

A Full Block Out

Lets talk about a nightmare scenario.

Lets say that your ex boyfriend is extremely angry with you after the breakup. So, he decides to institute a full block out.

What is a full block out?

Full Block Out– When an ex boyfriend blocks you in every way imaginable. Where there is no possible way you can get in touch with him.

Essentially, this is where your ex boyfriend blocks you from his phone, through Facebook, through applications and through his email. I have even heard some cases where he can block your mutual friends for a while so he doesn’t have to see you in person.

What type of women are at risk for a full block out?

Generally what I have seen is the women who have cheated on their ex boyfriends. Cheating has a way of making people angry, who knew?

(That was sarcasm by the way.)

Look, I am not saying that only cheaters get the full block out treatment as there have been cases where an ex does a full block out “just because.” What I am saying is that cheaters have a higher risk of it happening to them. So, keep that in mind.

What You Need To Do If An Ex Boyfriend Blocks You

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Now we are really getting to the good stuff.

So far all I have talked about is the psychology that goes behind someone blocking an ex. I haven’t really talked about what to do if it happens to you (which is what a lot of you are probably wondering.) Well, now that I feel I have properly explained everything that needs to be explained when someone blocks you we can move on and focus on exactly what steps you need to take if you do get blocked.

For this section I have outlined the steps that I want you to take if you do get blocked in the graphic below,

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Lets start at the very beginning with determining the extent of the block.

Determine The Extent of The Block

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(I couldn’t resist… I had to put a superman meme up.)

If you skipped over the “different degrees of blocking” section above it might be a good idea to go back and read it because what is talked about there is essential for what is going to be talked about here.

It doesn’t take a genius to realize that some forms of blocking are worse than others.

Once you learn that you have been blocked by your ex boyfriend it is your job to figure out in how many ways you have been blocked. Why is this important?

Well, look at it this way. If your ex boyfriend blocks you from his smartphone but he doesn’t block you from Facebook then technically you can still get back in touch with him through Facebook when you want. Knowing what options you have is important because those options are going to determine how you play the game.

Of course, I still haven’t told you what to do if you are faced with the worse case scenario of a full out blockage. In other words, what do you do if your ex boyfriend blocks you in every form imaginable?

I am going to say something that I have been putting off for a while now because it is going to be very hard for you to hear and you will probably hate me for it but it needs to be said. If you are faced with a situation where you are blocked by your ex in every way then your options are very limited.

The truth is that in that situation there is only one person who can help you and he isn’t too fond of you right now (remember, he blocked you.)

In other words, you are in the worst possible position because you are at his mercy completely. While there are a few things you can do to influence his decision there isn’t really anything you can say to change his mind. Why? Well, because you are blocked, remember?

“But what if I confront him in person?”

So, let me get this straight. Your ex blocks you (a strong statement from him saying that he doesn’t want to talk to you) and you decide that, that means you should try harder and confront him in person?

Look, I am going to tell you exactly what he will think if you do this.

“Wow, she really is psycho.”

Don’t be the psycho ex girlfriend. Be the confident ungettable one.

Patience = No Contact

patient bear

So, what is the genius plan to deal with being blocked by an ex?

Well, your first instincts when you find out that you are blocked are going to scream,

“TRY HARDER!!”

You are going to want to get in touch with him as soon as possible in any way you can possibly think of. I have even seen some women compose long letters and mail them to their exes. Look, I am a fan of letters but the only time that they ever mean something to me is when I am dating someone. If I were to get one from an ex I would be a little creeped out.

Right now, your best bet when you find out that you are blocked is to exercise patience. I am sure you have heard that phrase,

Patience is a virtue

Well, in this case it really is. This brings me to my next point. How are you supposed to exercise patience?

Through the no contact rule of course.

I am not going to take the time explain what the no contact rule is since I talk about it so much on this site. However, what I can do for you is give you a link to a new guide I wrote that really goes in-depth on my new view of the no contact rule. I highly recommend that you read that page.

Why do you think the no contact rule is a good idea in this case?

Throughout this entire page I have thrown around a pretty interesting statistic relating to women who have been blocked. Do you remember what that statistic was?

I have found, when talking to the women who have been blocked, that in 60% of cases their exes end up getting back in touch with them. These women didn’t have to do anything for their ex to get in touch it just happened all on its own.

The no contact rule will force you to be patient and it will also prevent you from being tagged as that psycho ex girlfriend I talked about above.

Facebook/Other Social Media

facebook

The beautiful thing about the no contact rule is that on top of making an ex boyfriend think about you more,

“Why hasn’t she tried to contact me?”

It also forces you to put a lot of focus on yourself. I am going to be honest with all of the women reading this. Most of you won’t get your ex boyfriend back because you can’t get out of your own way.

What do I mean by that?

Right now you are conditioned to think about your ex boyfriend as opposed to thinking of yourself. Many of you probably think that you can’t live without him. I have heard just about every sob story in the book. Nothing really shocks me anymore. You know what I would like? For once I would like to open up the comments on this site and read something like,

“I don’t care if I get him back or not but I am going to become so incredible that when he is on his deathbed and looking back at his life he will say to himself, I made a mistake letting her go.”

You see, that is interesting to me. That tells me that your world doesn’t revolve around a guy and it also says that you have a lot of self confidence. I want you to remember this attitude because it is going to be extremely important for you to have for what I say next.

Your ex has blocked you but that doesn’t mean that he isn’t checking up on you on Facebook or other social media outlets. So, rather than sit in your room and cry about your situation I say you be proactive with the knowledge that he will be keeping an eye on you through Facebook.

Lets go back to that attitude that I wanted you to have. You know, the “I will become so incredible he will regret his decision” attitude.

Make the necessary changes in your life to become incredible and make sure you let the world know about it on social media. Update your Facebook profile with things like,

  • Incredible pictures of your life.
  • Incredible things that happen to you.
  • Fun pictures of you and your friends having a good time.
  • Pictures of you and some guy friends (spark some jealousy.)
  • Anything that can be viewed as a positive thing.

This may be an embarrassing thing for me to admit but for years after I broke up with my ex girlfriend I would check up on her Facebook profile. The two of us weren’t Facebook friends but her wall was semi public to where I could see the major events of her life.

Here is the interesting thing though, two years after the breakup occurred between us I didn’t have any feelings for her at all. However, I would still check up on her because I was curious.

Your in a better position than I was because the breakup between you and your ex boyfriend is probably still fresh which means both of you probably still have feelings for each other. Curiosity is a powerful motivator and he will probably come snooping around in the near future to see how you are.

So, do you want him to see a depressed version of you or a happy version?

I don’t have to answer that do I?

Mutual Friends

friends

An avid reader of Ex Boyfriend Recovery had an interesting idea.

Her ex boyfriend had blocked her (a full block out) and she didn’t know what to do. So, what she decided to do was use her ex boyfriend and her’s mutual friends to pass a long letter to him. Of course, the letter idea didn’t work out for her as he didn’t unblock her but I think she may have been on to something with those mutual friends.

You see, her mind was in the right place with the mutual friends but she didn’t really use the mutual friends in the right way. Using them to pass letters or messages back and forth usually never works.

What she should have done was used the mutual friends as a way to get her exes attention. Allow me to explain.

Have you ever noticed how humans have this tendency to spread information like wildfire. Well, this is especially true when it comes to relationships. Perhaps it is best if I give a fake example to illustrate my point.

Your ex boyfriend has blocked you from his phone and has unfriended you on Facebook. Right now you are pretty much down in the dumps. Of course, the world isn’t over so you decide to hang out with a few mutual friends that you and your ex boyfriend have. These mutual friends aren’t bad people but how much do you want to bet that the second your little play date with them is over they won’t send something like this to your ex,

wildfire message

If you are betting against a message being sent like this then I think you owe me some money 😉 .

I would actually say that you want this message to be sent because it is going to force your ex to think about you. Once you are in his head curiosity will take hold and he may start spying on your Facebook profile or grilling your mutual friends on how you are doing.

This brings me to my next point.

Should you talk to your mutual friends about your ex?

Well, at some point of your hangout with them I am betting you will get a question like,

“So, how are you after the breakup?”

If you are faced with a situation like this here is how you should play it.

Things not to say:

  • DON’T say that the breakup was the greatest thing that ever happened to you. (we don’t want that getting around to your ex)
  • DON’T say that you are devastated by the breakup.

Things to say:

  • DO say your life is going great.
  • DO smile a lot.
  • DO talk about anything great that has recently happened to you.
  • DO ask about your ex.

I want to talk about that last “DO.”

Why do you think I want you to ask about your ex boyfriend?

Well, I want you to seem interested but not too interested. It’s ok if you are asking about your ex boyfriend. We are trying to get his attention so he could potentially unblock you. What you do want to avoid is asking about him too much.

In fact, I would say only ask about him once and then move on to talking about something else.

Here is how the conversation should go:

Mutual Friend: So, how are you holding up after the breakup?

You: I am doing fine! I have been focusing a lot on me and it has been great.

Mutual Friend: Do you still think about him?

You: From time to time. Why? Did he ask about me or something?

Mutual Friend: He may have been asking 😉 .

You: Well, tell him I say hi.

(End conversation there.)

Contact Your Ex After NC (If Possible)

Lets say your no contact period is completed and your ex still hasn’t unblocked you. However, you are still able to contact him via Facebook.

Well, after the no contact rule is complete would be a great time to initiate a conversation. Enough time should have passed for him to calm down a little bit so if you play your cards right you could get a response.

Ah, but what do you say?

Well, I have created multiple guides that cover that:

Well, it was fun writing this guide. I hope you got a lot out of it. As always I will be happy to answer any questions. Feel free to ask me anything in the comments.

2,300 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

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    Kara

    November 14, 2019 at 3:54 pm

    My ex blocked me on all social media, but still continues to text me and we’ve even hooked up a couple of times. But I’m still blocked. He just recently blocked me on twitter as well. We weren’t fighting or didn’t have a disagreement we actually just hooked up the night before. When I’ve asked In the past he said it’s because he doesn’t want to get in his feelings if I go out or if I post I’m with somebody else. That’s confusing if he just wants to be friends right?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 14, 2019 at 11:26 pm

      Hi Kara, so if you want your ex back as a boyfriend you need to stop hooking up with him. As for him blocking you on social media even though you are not arguing or fighting right now he may be trying to hide his actions. So you need to do another NC if you havent already done one. Sticking to ignoring him until you have no spoken in a month and work on yourself in that time to make you UG

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    JC

    November 13, 2019 at 2:37 pm

    Hi,

    So my boyfriend of 5 years recently broke up with me nearly 2 months ago now. throughout our relationship we had our pitty arguments like everyone else has. We was currently saving to buy a house in the new year and to start a family. Which we bothered talked about and he especially was looking forward to this as well. One mornings he basically said he had enough, he didn’t want to fight for our relationship because he thought we had tried and tried in the past for (me) to ‘change’ which by that he just says my attitude. However no one is prefect. Throughout our whole relationship even to the very end he used to tell me every day he loves me kisses me cuddled me just like a normal relationship. From day 1 of the break up I tried to ring and get him to speak to me to sort things out I even tried going round face to face to see him wrote him a letter, however he blocked me but I kept finding my way to speak to him as I needed answers as to way he said all the things he wanted for our future to now doesn’t want anymore. This is what is has been like for the past 6weeks and each time I speak to him hes just horrible and tell me to ‘move on’ and that he doesn’t want to see or speak to me. however, I have asked him over the phone if he still loves me and he says yes and ask him how he can get over it so quickly but he says he isn’t. but I can’t get my head around if he still loves me and isn’t over me why doesn’t he want to speak to me does it mean he doesn’t miss me and not bothered. How he can throw 5 years away like that. Throughout his time I have heard of someone of our mutual friends that he felt pressured which I think he meant about the house next year. I just don’t know what to do I miss and love him I just want to be able to talk to him and sort things out but he won’t.

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    Stephanie

    November 10, 2019 at 4:28 pm

    I made the mistake of txting my ex yesterday. It’s been 2 weeks since our last interaction in which he told me he was moving forward with his life. Which I would assume he’s dating the girl he was cheating on me with. I txted him something nice, “I was going through my phone and deleting some old things and saw this video of you and it made me laugh and think of you” he then blocked me on Instagram and also blocked my number. Don’t you think that’s extreme and cruel??? What would be the rationale behind that? I know I’ve been working on trying to move on from it but why do I still feel this attachment to him that I can’t shake. Is there any hope?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 10, 2019 at 8:52 pm

      Hi Steph so the reaction is because youve done this too soon, ( you should have been in a 45 day NC first) and then knowing he was with someone else now hes probably been shouted at by his new girl for having your number still. If you want to get him back you need to do a proper 45 day NC and read about the being there method. Do the quiz on this site and read some articles that are valid to your situation, and make sure you do some Ungettable girl work too

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    Bri

    November 9, 2019 at 12:03 am

    Hi,
    So this might be lengthy but I am so lost as to what to do. My ex and I went no contact after I took a few months of sending long paragraphs of crap. Long story short, after using no contact and messaging, we were finally getting back to good terms. He then told me that he was in a relationship, so I went no contact again. After a week, he messaged me saying he missed me and we started talking again. However, he would wait until I messaged him, or would only message when he was drunk about all the things that reminded him of me.
    I know that the relationship we had was the best he has ever had and vice versa. Over the last two weeks, I was getting frustrated as I had followed him back on social media but he did not bother to. And was following girls back but not me. So I knew this was a spiteful act on his part since I had taken him off everything to begin with.
    I ended up acting up spontaneously and lashed out because he would take forever to respond to my messages and I know he would check whatsapp to see if I had changed my pictures (he only used whatsapp for me). I know that people get busy and before we ended and started talking again, this sort of waiting time on conversations was never a problem. However, for some odd reason this time it really bothered me that he was almost playing a game with me. He had also just started using endearing names with me which I was sure he was still invested in me. But I also feel like he needed to stop these games cause we had never started off with a problem like this.
    So he responded aggressively stating that he didn’t owe me anything and I agree, he didn’t. So, on spontaneity, I too responded with a lot more harsher words stating that I was travelling to meet up with someone and spitefully sent him pictures of a guy I was talking to.
    We went back and forth and he insulted me as Chris described in this article on something very personal. However, I did not react to it until… well until a few days after. He sent me a message stating that he did not want to hear from me ever again and I sent him one last long message the day after.
    To get back at him for the personal insult about me, while I was on vacation – I sent him a picture of me dressed up and looking really hot and commented on the insult he had given me in retaliation. He opened it right away within the second. However, he then decided to block my number off whatsapp at 2:30 in the morning after that message (I am sure this decision was made at that hour with a lot of alcohol in his system as well).
    Well, now and for the past week, I have been blocked on whatsapp but not any social media.
    I also know that he is checking whatsapp as I have asked a couple of friends to add the number to see if he goes online every now and then. I know that when someone blocks you they are still able to check up on your pictures and changes made but I can’t do anything because he has blocked me.
    So at this point, I have stepped away and going to go with the no contact rule. But, how long does this blocking persist until? It is driving me insane. I know that I made a mistake but so did he with the insult.

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    Confused.and.Unsure

    November 1, 2019 at 10:11 pm

    Hi,
    So my ex and I were together for about 8 months, we broke up at the beginning of October. So we broke up, and I had moved in so I had gone to see him the day after we broke up to try and talk about it. (We had broke up while he was at work the night before and I had gone to stay at my mom’s). So we had talked the night I had finished moving my stuff and had agreed to co parent our cat. I left her under the pretense we could co parent her and I would still see her and I didn’t want to uproot her so quickly from the place she’d been calling home. And I knew I would need to get settled. So the night that I finished moving out, he told me that he still loved me but he needed to work on himself. A few days after the break up, I contacted him about visiting or picking up the cat so I could spend sometime with her before I went out of town. And then he messaged me saying that he couldn’t talk to me yet as it was too painful and then blocked me (Phone and fb). I went into NC after, trying to get my life back in order. I still haven’t heard from him and I’m still blocked, it’s been about 3 weeks. Is there any chance in him unblocking me? Do you think we still have a chance?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 2, 2019 at 9:21 pm

      Hey so following the program yes there is a chance but you need to put in the work during your NC to become the Ungettable girl while you are blocked

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    Ki

    October 31, 2019 at 7:54 pm

    Hi, so I’ve been reading your articles and they have been keeping me kinda sane and together. My ex boyfriend and I broke up around 7/8 months of being together. We had moved in, gotten a cat together and were planning our lives. So since then after the third day I got in contact with him about visiting our cat that we had agreed to coparent. He blocked me. I was hurt (still am or I guess I wouldn’t be commenting on here) but still I’ve been getting on with my life, business as usual, friends and everything else. Working on me and even have put the no contact rule into effect for myself (badly at first but then more effectively). But this was after I had seen him and yes, I admit I cried and begged but then realized it wasn’t helping either of us. I’m trying to figure out why he blocked me when all I had asked was about seeing my cat? And if there’s even a chance he’d unblock me. I’m not fully blocked but he has blocked me from fb and my phone number. I’m about 2 weeks into effective no contact and nothing has changed. Last time we spoke before he blocked me, he had said he still loved and wanted to be with me but then he blocked me. I’m hurt and confused even though I’m working on myself I’m still looking for answers to calm my mind.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 2, 2019 at 9:58 pm

      It sounds like he is confused about his feelings himself so complete a NC and work on yourself in that time so that you are happy with your life again then reach out as a friend to just have a short positive conversation

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    That.hidden.heart

    October 31, 2019 at 8:04 am

    A case of total block out. Point of never return! He blocked me from everywhere. It’s been 10months complete. I moved on. I am enjoying my life a lot. Life is better ofcourse.
    But deep down, I still feel crushed. I want him to know what he lost. I want him to see me atleast. I am in touch with his friends and they see me on social media. But this feeling is too strong to hurt him. Because the damage he caused was destructive and vast. What should I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 31, 2019 at 10:46 pm

      When you feel this and you havent had the closure you wanted, write it all in a letter and when youre done writing it all down – dispose of the letter somewhere no one else will find it, I’d suggest burning it if you can do so safely…. its a way to get the feelings and anger out on paper and releasing them from your mind so you dont carry that weight around any more. Social media and mutual friends – you can show how youre living your best life now and not phased about him. Or post some photos of possible new guys in your life too. That will get back to him through friends too.

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    Hannah

    October 27, 2019 at 4:19 pm

    Hello guys, does NC works also for those who weren’t in relationships only on dates? And got into fight? Should I apologise after NC or write something more optimistic/fun? Help me out.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 27, 2019 at 7:55 pm

      Hi Hannah, if the dating was more than 3 months then yes – dont apologise after a NC unless you cheated. You would reach out with a positive text instead

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    Happy

    October 17, 2019 at 10:01 am

    Hi!

    What if I ended up hurting him due to my mental illness and forgot that he is also suffering. I don’t want to see him suffer because of me and I said things that I do not meant. I ended up saying that I will set him free. Then he accepts it. Then suddenly kicks me that I have should not said that and I started to beg him to stay? He thought I was acting up and playing with his feelings but no. He ended up saying a favor and he is willing to wait for me and talk after I have done his favor? After our conversation, He already blocked me. Is it ok that my ex blocked me?
    He also said that he can’t trust me for now.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 20, 2019 at 9:37 pm

      Hi Happy so you need to do a NC and then approach him as a friend to regain the trust and attraction

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    Anon

    October 15, 2019 at 11:38 pm

    Thank you Shaunna, I will post UG stuff on my social media even though he probably won’t see it. I think it’s about time I start to focus on me, because he’s been doing it this whole time while I’ve been busy trying to understand him and why he broke up with me out of nowhere. I guess I was just confused on why HE reached out to me after we finally stopped talking, but then blocked me. I love your advice and I hope to see some progress within myself in these coming months. I doubt that he will come back because he’s emotionless and stubborn, but I’ll use social media to my advantage!

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    Ann

    October 15, 2019 at 1:54 am

    What if he doesn’t have social media and I’m blocked on the phone and I’m pretty sure email?? Would a letter help? He’s very artsy and a poet.

    I’ve been working on myself and am in the middle of no contact. My anxiety and ADHD was left uncontrolled and I never mentioned it to him. I believe it could’ve been a reason. And feel that if i work on this it could make our relationship come back stronger.

    We’ve broken up and got back together before

    We had plans, he canceled, blocked me randomly and ghosted me. (He never done this before-the ghosting) I blew up his phone because I found out I was blocked. But haven’t contacted him since 10/1/19. He’s said before he blocked me that he likes me a lot and ticks the boxes for what he looks for. We were together for 9 months going on 10.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 15, 2019 at 6:45 pm

      Hi Ann the best thing you can do is complete a NC and then i would try to reach out via text. Letter is something you’d consider doing when youve tried EVERYTHING ELSE first.

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    Anon

    October 13, 2019 at 1:33 pm

    Hi Shaunna, I’ve been reading all of Chris’s articles about hot and cold exes and the inside voice. I should mention that the Snapchats were not sexual, but we did talk about a funny memory from the past, which may have been emotional I guess. During our time together, we hardly ever got to hang out more than twice a month because of our schedules, so I think he’s content with our distance because we’re used to it. We are both each other’s first real relationship and I don’t think either of us knew how to deal with the breakup, but it’s truly unlike him to block anybody, let alone block me. He’s making it seem like he’s so over it and he doesn’t need me in his life, like he’s better off without me. Should I do the same?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 15, 2019 at 8:38 pm

      Hi Anon so if he is hot and cold then it shows he isnt fully convinced of his decision so when he blows cold just take it like hes having a “off day” and you focus on you post some positive things to your SM showing how great you are and your life. Do things hes interested in. And then when hes coming to you you need to not get ahead of yourself and over do it. Always end conversations first and make sure you flirt/friendzone/flirt just to get him wondering if he can still have you back

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    Anon

    October 12, 2019 at 8:17 pm

    Hi! My ex boyfriend (3 years LDR) broke up with me on Monday. I begged him not to leave me and eventually I ended up on “seen”. After this, I went no contact. He blocked me today. Not everywhere yet. When he broke up, he said that he will never be with me again, because I will never make him happy (we used to fight a lot) and he also said that he doesn’t have any feelings left for me anymore. We also broke up one year ago because of the same reasons but eventually we got back together after 3 months (at that time, he didn’t block me, we stayed friends). What should I do? Should I try to contact him after “no contact” or not?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 12, 2019 at 10:52 pm

      Hi A – so need to complete the NC and work on yourself. Its up to you if you want to reach out and try to get him back after your NC

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    Anon

    October 12, 2019 at 2:02 am

    So my last time reaching out to my ex was about 2 weeks ago (we broke up 3 months ago) and we basically talked about how we’re both focusing on ourselves, and he told me he doesn’t see a future with me and doesn’t care for me in that way anymore. I fully intended to keep no contact going, but he sent me a Snapchat two days ago and we talked for a bit, the conversation was smooth and casual, just talking about work and school. I woke up the next morning and we talked more, but when I went to reply to what he sent, I found myself blocked. I sent him a text asking why he suddenly blocked me on Snapchat and he hasn’t replied yet. Why would he block me so long after the breakup, after we both made our peace with it? I thought we were getting back on good terms and we’d be good to start building a New bond one day. I’m upset because I broke my no contact thinking he was reaching out to be friendly, but he just straight up blocked me and won’t tell me why. Any advice?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 12, 2019 at 7:29 am

      Hi, so him blocking you out of the blue (giving that the snap was emotional or sexual) He could have got himself conflicted. “The Inside Voice” that Chris talks about in the videos and articles about guys pulling away. Read up on the Hot vs Cold situations through the website.

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    Brandi

    October 3, 2019 at 11:31 am

    So he hasn’t completely blocked me but has set his FB & Snapchat to where we are still “friends” but I can’t see anything he is posting or saying….

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 3, 2019 at 9:59 pm

      Hi Brandi, this means he can see what you are posting so make sure that you post Ungettable Girl things

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    Phoenix

    October 1, 2019 at 5:33 am

    Dear Chris. Loved reading every article, you really put some great effort in figuring this out. Ive had a close friendship for 1,5 year with someone 2500km away. Last summer we eventually met and the bond in real life was there too. He has high control over emotions (or thats what he wants people to think), but he was the one starting the “being together” picture. I opened up to that idea but felt his actions and words didnt match. Thats why i became like your negative blocked friend and kept lashing out cause i felt he was lying, he also gave me the warning he was done with negativity, but he still insisted he has feelings. In the end i summed up what he said and that it didnt make sense and then he confessed he lied about ever having feelings at all. I was angry, disappointed and ofc wrote him a emo message. He blocked me (had that coming), so i texted him that i only want to say i valued and enjoyed our friendship and that i wish him well. He replied that he is not mad but it just hurts. So, any thoughts on this subject?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 1, 2019 at 8:26 pm

      Hey Phoenix, so what you’re going to have to do is take a slight step back and consider your emotional control here. Where I agree actions speak louder than words when you have a LDR words need to be taken into consideration because there is not much he can physically do with that distance. Once you’ve given him some space you can reach out with a positive and interesting (to him) text and see how it goes from there

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    Blockity

    September 29, 2019 at 12:42 pm

    Hi
    I’ve been blocked on messenger. I don’t know the reason. Not an ex but someone I was building a friendship with. We were always happy to great when we pass each other. There were always smiles and eye contact. After sending a giff of a frog running away by accident. I was blocked. I’m not sure why. I’m really confused by this as I don’t even know what Ive done wrong. Only friends. I am married and he is separated but still married too. It’s a very inocent friendship

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 29, 2019 at 7:27 pm

      Hi Julie, so you need to take some time to do a No Contact, and work on getting over what he did – like you said you’re still angry. I wouldn’t go to where hes playing music so soon as this is going to make you look desperate and obviously trying to get him back. You need to show your independence and that you are not chasing him anymore. He needs to think you are happy in your life without him and do interesting and exciting new things with your life with friends. Read up on the being there method because it is almost what you’re going to have to do after you’ve completed the No Contact

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    Humboldt Artist Guy

    September 11, 2019 at 3:10 am

    Today I found myself blocking my ex girlfriend after she randomly accuses me of harassing and stalking her and that she would get a restraining order. (I haven’t seen or reached out to her in 2 months). I text back asking what is she talking about and that it must’ve been a mistake. No response. I’m guessing she saw my car or someone like me and assumed I was stalking her. I admit to being a little needy after the relationship ended 9 months ago, but NEVER have I acted immature as to act like a creep. She had previously blocked me for several months until recently then unblocked me when she saw I wasn’t reaching out…and then I get this threatening text from her out of nowhere today. Before she could block me again, I beat her to it. Was I acting immature or did I do the right thing?

    1. Shaunna

      Shaunna

      September 12, 2019 at 8:29 pm

      Hey Humboldt Artist Guy, the angry and accusation messages you are receiving are not good, so it is defusing the situation so yeah blocking may be your only option, I would keep my distance if she is accusing you of harassment and stalking.

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    Jodi Snyder

    September 9, 2019 at 1:12 am

    I’ve been with my ex now for7yrs we have a 6yr old son beautiful..he heard icheated on him &i honestly never did he blocked me after isent him afew nasty messages iwas angry because he wasnt answering my calls or responding he was just seem sending me short texts saying admit to chuck and will talk…and wouldnt recieve my calls ..iwas calling for my son also though..blocking and doing a nocontact with a child in the midfle i think is horrible..its hurting our son more then me..reason is im not getting answers he said we can Coparent responding through a friends phone because im still blocked..im hurt angry frustrated and dont know what to do.my family is broken and iwant him back but icant even get answers because there is a block on the phone..its confusing because ill text him from a friends cell phone and he gives me all different responses if any but last response was will coparent but im still blocked…what do i do?and is there any chance of getting him back or is he really done?what do i do?there is a child involvef…

    1. Shaunna

      Shaunna

      September 12, 2019 at 9:32 pm

      Hi Jodi, there is always a chance. You’re following this program will give you, your best chance. Look up Limited No Contact and then focus on becoming Ungettable.

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    Jessica

    September 3, 2019 at 10:59 pm

    Hi
    My ex and I broke up two weeks ago over a really bad fight. He moved an hour away and moved houses and blocked me on alll social media and I think he blocked me on email now … sigh
    He wanted to work it out but I was just not ready and needed time to normalize myself .. I have been pleading to have a phone call but no use he keeps saying please don’t contact me again it’s done:( he emailed me this

    What do i do?

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