This is the ultimate guide on what to do if your ex boyfriend blocks you.

And I want to be crystal clear about one thing. This is NOT one of those lame guides that is going to be 100 words of fluff.

Instead you can expect this guide to take an in-depth look on exactly how to handle a situation where you’ve been blocked in all forms of communication including (but not limited to,)

  • Texting
  • Calling
  • Facebook
  • WhatsApp
  • SnapChat
  • Skype
  • Email
  • Etc.

Let’s dive right in!

(Side Note: If you get through this guide and find yourself thinking, “I need more information about this,” then I highly recommend you check out my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

Understanding Why You Were Blocked

Ziad K. Abdelnour (author of Economic Welfare) once said,

“If someone is going out of his way to ignore you, he is not ignoring you, he is obsessed by you.”

I love that quote because everything about it is true. Think about it for a moment. Every time a woman comes to this site and decides to implement the no contact rule she is technically obsessed with her ex boyfriend. He is on her mind the second she wakes up for the day, the second she gets in her car to go to work and the second she closes her eyes to go to sleep.

So, when an ex boyfriend blocks you does it mean that he is obsessed with you?

I would say that he is.

However, the issue that you are running into is that he is obsessed with you for the wrong reasons.

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Obsessed For The Wrong Reasons?

Ahh… here is where things begin to get a little tricky. Lets take the examples I gave above :

(A woman going into no contact VS. An ex boyfriend blocking that woman)

Ok, a woman who visits this site and reads about the no contact rule will probably want her ex boyfriend back. That means when she thinks about him she is probably filled with good feelings. Sure, maybe there were some really bad fights and the relationship wasn’t as strong as she thought but if she is willing to try the no contact rule then deep down she really wants things to work and probably still loves her boyfriend.

I would consider this to be “obsessed” but for the right reasons (being obsessed usually isn’t a good thing though as I will point out shortly but bear with me here.)

Lets turn our attention to an ex boyfriend who has decided to block his ex girlfriend. First off, being blocked by an ex is never a good thing. Lets not beat around the bush here. If you have been blocked this is really bad.

However, I did mention above that if an ex blocks you it probably means that a part of him is obsessed with you.

Unfortunately, he is obsessed with you for the wrong reasons. There is only one way I can think of to describe this phenomenon. You are annoying to your ex boyfriend. Every time he thinks about you he is not filled with good feelings he is filled with annoyance. While he thinks about you often the feelings he gets aren’t good.

The challenge that you are going to faced with is to determine if he is worth the effort required to turn his bad feelings into good feelings but more on that later.

For now I would like to dive a little deeper into the mindset of a man who has blocked you.

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Why He Blocked You

I am about to give you the biggest advantage ever.

I am a man who has blocked women before. Some of the women I blocked were exes and some of them were just friends that pushed me to the point where I couldn’t deal with them anymore. I am going to let you in on exactly what caused me to block these women. In addition to that I have literally seen hundreds of women be blocked by their exes so I know all the main reasons for a “block” to happen.

My point here is that what I talk about on this page may be hard to hear but it is going to prepare you and maybe get some light bulbs to go off. Lets start with one of the most interesting reasons a man could potentially block you.

It Hurts Too Much To Talk To You

This is something that I have experienced first hand which is why I know it exists. In fact, this is something that I have to explain to my one on one coaching clients a lot.

I guess if there was ever going to be a positive reason for an ex boyfriend to block you this would be it.

Essentially how this works is that every time your ex talks to you on the phone or through text messaging it hurts him.

Not the kind of hurt where you fall down and skin your knee. No, I am talking about a deep hurt. The type of hurt that stays with you all day long and is impossible to get rid of.

If you are wondering about my particular situation I wasn’t actually officially dating the girl I blocked. In fact, this was years ago and I was starting to develop some feelings for her. Feelings that weren’t reciprocated. As a guy let me tell you it is a very humbling feeling when one moment you are on top of the world because you think a pretty girl is falling for you and then BAM!!

chuck norris punch

Like a Chuck Norris punch you learn the truth that your feelings are one sided.

Now, I am the type of guy that is very calm and classy in situations that don’t go my way (and believe me I have had a lot in my life.) Nevertheless, knowing that someone doesn’t feel “that way” about you can be very upsetting and it takes a toll on your mental health.

I made the decision to block this particular girl not because I was trying to be hurtful or “get back” at her (which I will talk about in a moment) but because it hurt to talk to her when I knew my feelings weren’t reciprocated (kind of held it against her.)

“But Chris, maybe if you waited around she would have woken up and realized that the perfect guy was right there in front of her.”

I am sorry but my time is valuable and I am not one to be strung along. Besides, for me the perfect girl will know right away and won’t need time to “sort out” her feelings.

Here is the main point I am trying to make about your ex boyfriend blocking you in this instance. Maybe he looks back on your time very fondly. Maybe he is obsessed with you for the right reasons but it simply hurts too much to talk to you.

It hurts because every time he does his feelings for you surface and maybe your relationship was very painful to him. So painful that he doesn’t want to remember it right now so he chooses to block you out of his life.

I want you to remember that any time an ex blocks you it is never a good sign. So, while this is probably the best outlook for being blocked it is still never a good thing.

(Don’t worry though I am going to be giving you a game plan for how to approach being blocked a little later.)

He Knows Blocking You Will Hurt You

No matter what there are always going to be those ex boyfriends out there that will hold things against you and look for revenge.

How do I know this?

Well, because I have actually been one these types of ex boyfriends. I know that is an absolutely horrible thing for me to say but I am actually not ashamed about it. Look, the thing you have to understand about men is that it is rare for us to be mature about our first few relationships.

As for me, I was a bit immature about my first relationship.

I look back now and just shake my head at how dumb I was. Nevertheless, being the immature idiot that I once was, was important because it taught me how to evolve into a more mature man. I looked back and was disappointed with how I acted and I actively worked to make sure I didn’t repeat those mistakes ever again in my future relationships. In other words, being immature at first was essential for me to evolve into a more mature and classy human being.

Now, you may be sitting there wondering,

“What if this only applies to you? What if it is different for other men?”

That is actually a really good point.

I would say that there is a 50/50 split on how men use their previous relationships to impact their future relationships (which we are hoping is you again 😉 .) Some men are like me and will learn from their mistakes and vow to never let them happen again. They will remain classy and mature in just about any situation.

However, the other type of men are the reason that this section was written. They won’t learn anything and they will refuse to change. In fact, rather than looking to “repair” your relationship they will look for revenge and they know for a fact that blocking you is the perfect way to do that. Again, this is another concept that I talk about a lot in my coaching sessions with clients.

So, I’ll break it down for you like I break it down for them.

One thing that we already know is that a man who blocks you to get back at you or to hurt you is not being mature about the situation. Like I said above, at one point in my life I went through a phase where I would have had no problem doing this.

Here is the exact thoughts I would have had,

“If I block her I know it will hurt her and maybe teach her a lesson..”

Pretty bad I know but I am telling you that is exactly what would run through my head. So, what factors do you think forced me into this type of thinking?

Why Do Men “Want Revenge,” “To Teach You A Lesson,” “Get Back At You?”

payback time

If an ex boyfriend blocks you to get revenge or to hurt you then one thing you already know right off the bat is that he is being very immature about the breakup. However, what I would like to do is give you some insight into what factors caused him to have these feelings of vengeance.

This first thing I want you to get through your mind is that USUALLY not all of the blame goes on him for wanting revenge. Sure, there are cases where your ex boyfriend is just a psycho and will want revenge because he is crazy. However, most ex boyfriends can point to something that YOU did wrong in the relationship. So, lets not pretend that you are entirely innocent here. We are all human beings after all and the thing about human beings is that none of us are perfect.

So, lets start there, the fact that you aren’t innocent.

It is every mans dream to date a woman that looks like a model. I guarantee you that if you walked up to a random guy on the street and gave him the choice to date an average looking girl versus a girl who looks like a model he will choose the model 100% of the time (even without knowing her personality.)

Of course, most men are dumb and they fail to realize that they aren’t the only ones with eyes. A woman who looks like a model is going to get a lot of attention from other men. That is just the way it is.

Hmm… perhaps I should be role playing here because this may be a little complicated to explain without the proper context.

Ok, you and I are dating.

Since you put professional models to shame you get a lot of attention from other men. While you don’t shout it out to the world you kind of like the attention from the other guys (even though you are dating me.) Realistically, I think if the roles were reversed and I got a lot of attention from women I would like it too so I can’t really blame you. However, I am playing the role of an idiot boyfriend here so I don’t look at it that way.

As you get attention from other men you begin to flirt with them a little. That is just the way you are. You like to flirt. You are a flirty, bubbly and upbeat person. Unfortunately, I am insecure and I get angry about the flirting.

Let’s fast forward to our breakup.

The two of us have broken up and I am angry. I decide that I want to block you to “get back at you” for the breakup. There are two things that will go through my mind when I decide to make the decision to block for this specific reason.

The first “reasoning” that I would have is tied to my understanding of how you are. I know for a fact that you are the type of person that likes to be social. You like creating and maintaining friendships. Even during our breakup you fed me the famous,

let’s still be friends” line.

While most women may not mean it when they say it, I know you well enough to know that you are serious about it.

So, if I block you and take the “friends” option off the table I know that it is going to cause you pain and I kind of like that fact because deep down I am hurt and I want you to feel as bad as I do.

(It’s so messed up, I know..)

The second thought that I will have relates to what I was talking about above (with you being pretty, liking the attention and flirting with other guys.) You see, all throughout our relationship I hated that you flirted with other guys. You know that I hated it too because a lot of fights were caused between us because of it.

Your flirty nature is going to be a prime reason for me wanting revenge.

Every time I think to myself,

“Wait, why did I block her?”

I am probably going to say,

“Oh, she was all over those guys that one time.”

That’s the thing about exes that block for revenge. They will latch on to everything you did wrong in the relationship as a reason for revenge. EVEN IF IT WASN’T THAT BAD AT ALL.

Truthfully though, the overall outlook isn’t as bad as it seems. There are a few silver linings that I think are important to understand if an ex blocks you in this instance.

Two Silver Linings

If your ex boyfriend blocks you and you suspect it’s to “teach you a lesson,” “get back at you,” or “get revenge.” There are a few silver linings that I want you to remember before you go into code RED panic mode.

As I have stated multiple times throughout this section, I have been in a place where I have wanted to “teach an ex a lesson,” “get back at her,” and “get revenge.” While on the outside it may have appeared that I disliked my ex on the inside I can tell you with 100% certainty that I still had feelings for her.

This is one of those very rare occasions where actions don’t match up with the truth of how a man would be feeling about the situation. While blocking an ex girlfriend is a bold action stating (GO AWAY) the ultimate truth could be that the man is just doing it so he can feel wanted by you… WAIT, WHAT?

Think about this for a moment.

If your ex boyfriend were to block your phone number and you went crazy on Facebook trying to contact him the fact that you want to be in touch with him so badly will feel good to him because it means you want him. Never underestimate the fact that all men love to feel wanted by women (even me.)

The second silver lining we have already kind of discussed.

Remember above when I was talking about how I was actually glad that I was immature in my first relationship because it forced me to evolve and become a more mature human being and I could bring more to the table in the future?

Well, it could be entirely possible that your ex boyfriend hasn’t gone through this evolution yet. He may look back and be completely ashamed of how he blocked you and will want to get back in touch down the road (This is covered extensively later in the guide.)

For now, lets get through the rest of the reasons for why he may have blocked you.

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He Blocked You Because He Never Wants To Talk To You Again

are you still here

So far we have talked about two vastly different reasons for an ex boyfriend to block you.

  1. He blocks you because it hurts too much to talk to you.
  2. He blocks you because he knows it will hurt you.

Well, I am about to add another entirely different reason into the mix here,

Him never wanting anything to do with you ever again….

Where him blocking you because it hurts to talk to you has a lot to do with the emotions he has towards you and him blocking you to cause you pain is done from a place of anger, him blocking you because he never wants anything to do with you again is done from a place where you have pushed him to the point of no return.

In other words, him blocking you because he never wants to talk to you again is the worst case scenario for pretty much everyone reading this page.

So, I am going to give this the attention it deserves.

Does He Really Mean It?

didnt mean it

Whats that old phrase?

When emotions run high logic runs low.

Speaking from personal experience there have been times where I have become so angry that I threw logic out of the window completely. Let me give you a real example from one of my previous relationships.

About four years ago I was dating a girl and we got into a fight (like couples tend to do.) It was four years ago so there are a few things that you need to understand. At that time I was still very much in the “maturing” phase of my life. Also, I was a little selfish so I didn’t really treat her as well as I could have.

Well, once the fight had commenced I made the biggest mistake ever. I allowed my emotions to control me. Instead of approaching the fight with this mindset,

“Ok, calm down Chris. Lets communicate with her and become better from this.”

I approached the fight with this mindset,

“I don’t care what she thinks. What are the most hurtful things that I can say to her?”

To my great shame…. I did just that (said the most hurtful things possible.) I thought of every hurtful subject I could to twist the knife a little deeper.

Her parents…

Her insecurities…

Her friends…

Logic was out the window and the lovely emotion of anger was in control. This brings me to the big point I am trying to make here.

Do you think I really meant any of the things I said to her?

Of course not.

Look, while I may have thought those horrible things in my head if you were to go deep inside my mind at the time I really didn’t mean any of them. The only reason I verbalized any of those thoughts was because I got angry and was looking for a way to hurt my girlfriend.

(Again, this is a completely immature way to handle the situation but anger has a way of throwing maturity out of the window.)

Ok, everything I just talked about I want you to remember because the “emotions run high logic runs low” theory is going to apply to my next few comments.

In the example I gave above I was in the middle of a relationship with a girl. What do you think would have happened if I had broken up with this girl?

No matter how you slice it a breakup is a highly emotional situation and it is almost a guarantee that things are going to be said (from both sides) that neither person means. One of those things may be something like,

“I never want to talk to you again.”

So, lets say that your ex boyfriend said this to you after your breakup and a day or two down the road you realized that your number has been blocked on his phone. Your immediate reaction is to panic and run around like a crazy person screaming, “THE APOCALYPSE IS HERE!!!!”

But I want to let you in on a little secret.

You probably won’t be blocked forever.

“Wait… what do you mean?”

You remember that whole “when emotions run high, logic runs low” speech I gave you at the beginning of this section right?

Well, the thing about emotions running high and logic running low is that eventually logic does return to run the show. Emotions reign is only temporary and logic is usually left to clean up the mess that emotion made.

(Yes, I am totally referring to emotion and logic like they are people, DEAL WITH IT!)

I have literally witnessed hundreds of women get blocked by their exes. Want to know something pretty shocking?

About 60% of those women end up back in touch with their exes in some way, shape or form. Here is what the thought process of an ex boyfriend who blocks you will typically look like:


The infographic above is actually kind of cool because you can see the progression from anger back to logic. Remember, the way this usually works is that your ex boyfriend will start off thinking with logic. However, when something painful happens (like a breakup) the logic switch gets turned off and the emotion/anger switch gets turned on. Of course, the emotion/anger switch doesn’t stay on forever. Slowly but surely logic is going to take the reigns back.

The picture above kind of shows you what will happen in your exes mind if he decides to unblock you (which as I said above is actually pretty likely.)

What I am going to do now is go through the entire progression in the picture so you can understand exactly what is happening in his mind.

“I am angry at her.”

This one is pretty self explanatory. He is angry at you. This anger signifies when the logic switch is turned off and when the emotion switch is turned on. Remember, emotion = anger in this case.

“I think I will block her.”

This is your exes first big action under the guise of emotion. He knows that blocking you will probably cause you pain.

“Blocking her didn’t feel as good as I thought it would.”

The truth of the situation sets in. Emotion steered him wrong as he is beginning to regret his decision. Hurting you doesn’t feel too good to him. This signifies the time where emotion is starting to lose its grasp on him. Logic is starting to set back in.

“God… I kind of miss her.”

This is kind of interesting. So far, the emotion of anger has been running the show. While logic is slowly retaking the battlefield some of the good emotions are starting to kick in. You know, emotions that make a guy go,

“I miss her.”


“I still have feelings for her.”

That is what is happening here. His anger is being replaced by the emotions that made him fall for you in the first place.

“I think I am going to unblock her.”

Welcome our good friend logic back to the party. That’s really the best way I can put it.

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He Really Means It And Never Wants To Talk To You Again

never talk again

I said that in about 60% of the cases an ex boyfriend will end up getting back in touch with you after he blocks you. While that percentage number is pretty high the truth is that it isn’t 100%. In fact, it means that 40% of exes could be serious about blocking you and may never want to talk to you again.

For every women reading this page having this happen is the worst possible outcome that they can think of.


Because it basically means that your chances of getting your ex back are 0%.

It is at this point that I would like to admit that I have actually blocked people from my life that I was serious about never talking to again and to this day I haven’t ever talked to them. Actually, there were only two people that I have ever done this with.

Both of them were women. One of them was an ex girlfriend and another was a friend that had a serious crush on me.

So, what did they do to cause me to “blacklist” them?

Lets start with the ex girlfriend first since I am sure that she is the one that you really want to hear about.

The thing you have to understand about this girl was the fact that the two of us just weren’t a good match for each other. We fought constantly, we didn’t agree on a lot of serious issues and by the end the relationship was so toxic that I literally went to bed at night dreading the next day.

After we broke up I made a decision to block her so I wouldn’t even be tempted to get back into that situation ever again.

Maybe me blocking her was done from a mindset of emotion as opposed to logic but in all honesty I am glad I did it because there was no way that I could have been happy with her.

So, basically I decided to block my ex because I determined that there was no way that she could improve my life. I knew I still had some feelings for her at the time and I knew that if I didn’t block her I would have been sucked back in and I didn’t want that for myself.

My second story of blocking someone was completely different but just as important because it can give you some important insight into how men think.

I had a friend who definitely had feelings for me (she told me she did.) Unfortunately for her, I didn’t like her in that way. Now, prior to this point I had only ever blocked one person in my entire life (that ex girlfriend I talked about above.) So, blocking someone from my life is very rare for me.

However, this friend who had feelings for me pushed me to that point very quickly when she started harassing me.

Every time I wouldn’t text her back immediately I would get harassed.

Every time I would tell her in a very nice way that I think she should move on she would harass me.

The main point is that she would say some really mean things and question my character. Apparently, I was “leading her on” even though I told her to move on. The harassment finally got to the point where it was starting to make me a little angry.

So, I gave her a warning,

“Look, if you keep acting this way we can’t be friends anymore.”

Once I told her this she settled down for a little while until I didn’t text her back immediately and then the harassment resumed. She had pushed me to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore so I blocked her from everything and never talked to her again.

She simply wasn’t adding anything positive into my life, just negative.

The Different Degrees Of Blocking

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blocked me

Now that you have a better understanding of why an ex boyfriend may block you I would like to turn your attention to HOW an ex can block you.

I entitled this section “The Different Degrees Of Blocking” because some forms of blocking are much worse that others. Don’t worry, I will explain that in a minute. First though, lets take a look at all the ways that an ex boyfriend can block you from his life.

(I know that this is a hard topic to read about but bear with me here.)

I have determined that there are really five ways that an ex boyfriend can block you.

  1. On the phone.
  2. On Facebook.
  3. Through applications
  4. Through email.
  5. The full block out.

As always, I am going to go in great detail into each of these methods so you can fully understand the situation you have found yourself in.

On The Phone

Have you ever noticed how our cell phones or smartphones are sacred to us all?

Personally speaking, the people that matter most to me all have my phone number. To me, my phone is sacred. It is like a little sanctuary where only a select number of important people are invited. I don’t just hand my number out unless I want you in my life. It is as simple as that.

I have found that most people are like that. They are very protective of their phones. Most people don’t just hand out their numbers and they sure as heck put some thought into who they are blocking from their phones.

This brings us to you and your ex.

I would say that an ex blocking you from his phone is the most common thing that I hear about when I talk to women on this site. Fortunately, it is easy to unblock someone from your phone. As I said above, around 60% of exes do end up getting back in touch after they block their significant other.

So, how bad is it if you get blocked from your exes phone?

Well, getting blocked is never a good thing but I will tell you that if you get blocked from his phone don’t think the world is over. It is actually the most common form of blocking.

On Facebook

Next to Google, Facebook is one of the biggest websites in the world.

In fact, I have always found it amusing that in the day and age that we live in a relationship isn’t ever “official” until Facebook says it is. Heck, two people can meet through Facebook and fall in love. Funny anecdote, my best friend actually met his girlfriend of five years through Facebook.

(They are still dating if you are wondering.)

Now, I don’t know your situation specifically but what I do know is that if your ex blocks you through Facebook it is not a good thing.

Why do I say that?

When you block someone from your phone (at least on the iPhone) it isn’t really that hard to unblock them. However, if you block someone on Facebook it is actually quite hard to unblock them. Nevertheless, I have found that most men don’t block their exes on Facebook.


Well, they want to spy on them to see how bad they are hurting.

Through Applications

Some people don’t really use text messaging on their phones. Instead they opt to go through messaging applications like:

  • WhatsApp
  • Kik Messanger
  • Snapchat

In my view these are all the same as text messaging (with the exception of Snapchat.) What you need to keep an eye out for is if you are being blocked from his regular phone and from these little applications. If he does block you through both the applications and the big phone it is not a good sign. While there is still a 60% chance that he will unblock you down the road he may be more serious about the blocking if he takes the time to block you on all these little applications as well.

Still though, an ex boyfriend who blocks a girl is usually doing so through a highly emotional state. Give it some time and you will be surprised at what happens.

Through Emails

Did you know that it is possible to block someone on email?

Well, it is.

I want to make this as simple as possible. If he is blocking you on email it is a very bad sign. It means he is probably much more serious about not talking to you. Of course, I am all about turning negatives into positives so the thing that you have to understand is that very rarely do men communicate with their girlfriends through email.

Usually they communicate through talking on the phone, through Facebook or other social media outlets.

So, keep those spirits high because it isn’t the end of the world yet.

A Full Block Out

Lets talk about a nightmare scenario.

Lets say that your ex boyfriend is extremely angry with you after the breakup. So, he decides to institute a full block out.

What is a full block out?

Full Block Out– When an ex boyfriend blocks you in every way imaginable. Where there is no possible way you can get in touch with him.

Essentially, this is where your ex boyfriend blocks you from his phone, through Facebook, through applications and through his email. I have even heard some cases where he can block your mutual friends for a while so he doesn’t have to see you in person.

What type of women are at risk for a full block out?

Generally what I have seen is the women who have cheated on their ex boyfriends. Cheating has a way of making people angry, who knew?

(That was sarcasm by the way.)

Look, I am not saying that only cheaters get the full block out treatment as there have been cases where an ex does a full block out “just because.” What I am saying is that cheaters have a higher risk of it happening to them. So, keep that in mind.

What You Need To Do If An Ex Boyfriend Blocks You

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Now we are really getting to the good stuff.

So far all I have talked about is the psychology that goes behind someone blocking an ex. I haven’t really talked about what to do if it happens to you (which is what a lot of you are probably wondering.) Well, now that I feel I have properly explained everything that needs to be explained when someone blocks you we can move on and focus on exactly what steps you need to take if you do get blocked.

For this section I have outlined the steps that I want you to take if you do get blocked in the graphic below,


Lets start at the very beginning with determining the extent of the block.

Determine The Extent of The Block


(I couldn’t resist… I had to put a superman meme up.)

If you skipped over the “different degrees of blocking” section above it might be a good idea to go back and read it because what is talked about there is essential for what is going to be talked about here.

It doesn’t take a genius to realize that some forms of blocking are worse than others.

Once you learn that you have been blocked by your ex boyfriend it is your job to figure out in how many ways you have been blocked. Why is this important?

Well, look at it this way. If your ex boyfriend blocks you from his smartphone but he doesn’t block you from Facebook then technically you can still get back in touch with him through Facebook when you want. Knowing what options you have is important because those options are going to determine how you play the game.

Of course, I still haven’t told you what to do if you are faced with the worse case scenario of a full out blockage. In other words, what do you do if your ex boyfriend blocks you in every form imaginable?

I am going to say something that I have been putting off for a while now because it is going to be very hard for you to hear and you will probably hate me for it but it needs to be said. If you are faced with a situation where you are blocked by your ex in every way then your options are very limited.

The truth is that in that situation there is only one person who can help you and he isn’t too fond of you right now (remember, he blocked you.)

In other words, you are in the worst possible position because you are at his mercy completely. While there are a few things you can do to influence his decision there isn’t really anything you can say to change his mind. Why? Well, because you are blocked, remember?

“But what if I confront him in person?”

So, let me get this straight. Your ex blocks you (a strong statement from him saying that he doesn’t want to talk to you) and you decide that, that means you should try harder and confront him in person?

Look, I am going to tell you exactly what he will think if you do this.

“Wow, she really is psycho.”

Don’t be the psycho ex girlfriend. Be the confident ungettable one.

Patience = No Contact

patient bear

So, what is the genius plan to deal with being blocked by an ex?

Well, your first instincts when you find out that you are blocked are going to scream,


You are going to want to get in touch with him as soon as possible in any way you can possibly think of. I have even seen some women compose long letters and mail them to their exes. Look, I am a fan of letters but the only time that they ever mean something to me is when I am dating someone. If I were to get one from an ex I would be a little creeped out.

Right now, your best bet when you find out that you are blocked is to exercise patience. I am sure you have heard that phrase,

Patience is a virtue

Well, in this case it really is. This brings me to my next point. How are you supposed to exercise patience?

Through the no contact rule of course.

I am not going to take the time explain what the no contact rule is since I talk about it so much on this site. However, what I can do for you is give you a link to a new guide I wrote that really goes in-depth on my new view of the no contact rule. I highly recommend that you read that page.

Why do you think the no contact rule is a good idea in this case?

Throughout this entire page I have thrown around a pretty interesting statistic relating to women who have been blocked. Do you remember what that statistic was?

I have found, when talking to the women who have been blocked, that in 60% of cases their exes end up getting back in touch with them. These women didn’t have to do anything for their ex to get in touch it just happened all on its own.

The no contact rule will force you to be patient and it will also prevent you from being tagged as that psycho ex girlfriend I talked about above.

Facebook/Other Social Media


The beautiful thing about the no contact rule is that on top of making an ex boyfriend think about you more,

“Why hasn’t she tried to contact me?”

It also forces you to put a lot of focus on yourself. I am going to be honest with all of the women reading this. Most of you won’t get your ex boyfriend back because you can’t get out of your own way.

What do I mean by that?

Right now you are conditioned to think about your ex boyfriend as opposed to thinking of yourself. Many of you probably think that you can’t live without him. I have heard just about every sob story in the book. Nothing really shocks me anymore. You know what I would like? For once I would like to open up the comments on this site and read something like,

“I don’t care if I get him back or not but I am going to become so incredible that when he is on his deathbed and looking back at his life he will say to himself, I made a mistake letting her go.”

You see, that is interesting to me. That tells me that your world doesn’t revolve around a guy and it also says that you have a lot of self confidence. I want you to remember this attitude because it is going to be extremely important for you to have for what I say next.

Your ex has blocked you but that doesn’t mean that he isn’t checking up on you on Facebook or other social media outlets. So, rather than sit in your room and cry about your situation I say you be proactive with the knowledge that he will be keeping an eye on you through Facebook.

Lets go back to that attitude that I wanted you to have. You know, the “I will become so incredible he will regret his decision” attitude.

Make the necessary changes in your life to become incredible and make sure you let the world know about it on social media. Update your Facebook profile with things like,

  • Incredible pictures of your life.
  • Incredible things that happen to you.
  • Fun pictures of you and your friends having a good time.
  • Pictures of you and some guy friends (spark some jealousy.)
  • Anything that can be viewed as a positive thing.

This may be an embarrassing thing for me to admit but for years after I broke up with my ex girlfriend I would check up on her Facebook profile. The two of us weren’t Facebook friends but her wall was semi public to where I could see the major events of her life.

Here is the interesting thing though, two years after the breakup occurred between us I didn’t have any feelings for her at all. However, I would still check up on her because I was curious.

Your in a better position than I was because the breakup between you and your ex boyfriend is probably still fresh which means both of you probably still have feelings for each other. Curiosity is a powerful motivator and he will probably come snooping around in the near future to see how you are.

So, do you want him to see a depressed version of you or a happy version?

I don’t have to answer that do I?

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Mutual Friends


An avid reader of Ex Boyfriend Recovery had an interesting idea.

Her ex boyfriend had blocked her (a full block out) and she didn’t know what to do. So, what she decided to do was use her ex boyfriend and her’s mutual friends to pass a long letter to him. Of course, the letter idea didn’t work out for her as he didn’t unblock her but I think she may have been on to something with those mutual friends.

You see, her mind was in the right place with the mutual friends but she didn’t really use the mutual friends in the right way. Using them to pass letters or messages back and forth usually never works.

What she should have done was used the mutual friends as a way to get her exes attention. Allow me to explain.

Have you ever noticed how humans have this tendency to spread information like wildfire. Well, this is especially true when it comes to relationships. Perhaps it is best if I give a fake example to illustrate my point.

Your ex boyfriend has blocked you from his phone and has unfriended you on Facebook. Right now you are pretty much down in the dumps. Of course, the world isn’t over so you decide to hang out with a few mutual friends that you and your ex boyfriend have. These mutual friends aren’t bad people but how much do you want to bet that the second your little play date with them is over they won’t send something like this to your ex,

wildfire message

If you are betting against a message being sent like this then I think you owe me some money 😉 .

I would actually say that you want this message to be sent because it is going to force your ex to think about you. Once you are in his head curiosity will take hold and he may start spying on your Facebook profile or grilling your mutual friends on how you are doing.

This brings me to my next point.

Should you talk to your mutual friends about your ex?

Well, at some point of your hangout with them I am betting you will get a question like,

“So, how are you after the breakup?”

If you are faced with a situation like this here is how you should play it.

Things not to say:

  • DON’T say that the breakup was the greatest thing that ever happened to you. (we don’t want that getting around to your ex)
  • DON’T say that you are devastated by the breakup.

Things to say:

  • DO say your life is going great.
  • DO smile a lot.
  • DO talk about anything great that has recently happened to you.
  • DO ask about your ex.

I want to talk about that last “DO.”

Why do you think I want you to ask about your ex boyfriend?

Well, I want you to seem interested but not too interested. It’s ok if you are asking about your ex boyfriend. We are trying to get his attention so he could potentially unblock you. What you do want to avoid is asking about him too much.

In fact, I would say only ask about him once and then move on to talking about something else.

Here is how the conversation should go:

Mutual Friend: So, how are you holding up after the breakup?

You: I am doing fine! I have been focusing a lot on me and it has been great.

Mutual Friend: Do you still think about him?

You: From time to time. Why? Did he ask about me or something?

Mutual Friend: He may have been asking 😉 .

You: Well, tell him I say hi.

(End conversation there.)

Contact Your Ex After NC (If Possible)

Lets say your no contact period is completed and your ex still hasn’t unblocked you. However, you are still able to contact him via Facebook.

Well, after the no contact rule is complete would be a great time to initiate a conversation. Enough time should have passed for him to calm down a little bit so if you play your cards right you could get a response.

Ah, but what do you say?

Well, I have created multiple guides that cover that:

Well, it was fun writing this guide. I hope you got a lot out of it. As always I will be happy to answer any questions. Feel free to ask me anything in the comments.

2,112 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

  1. Vanessa

    September 17, 2018 at 4:07 am

    hi chris,

    i broke up with my ex bf, i initiated it and regretted it after, tried to take it back afterwards but he said he can’t forgive me right away, i’ve been in no contact for a month already and was about to chat him when i found out that he blocked me on facebook and unfriended my brother, what does it mean ? he didn’t block me on whatsApp though

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 17, 2018 at 9:26 pm

      Hi Vanessa!

      Usually, the one who initiates the breakup is in the seat of power. Though sometimes an ex can have a lot of resentment. Be sure you are deploying NC correctly. I have a lot of resources on this site that can show you the way.

  2. B Gohil

    September 14, 2018 at 6:52 pm

    Hi, so basically I’ve been talking to this guy and he was saying things to make me believe he wanted us to become serious. We met at work and I had to leave because I’m moving but he is staying there. On my last day, he wasn’t there but he messaged me to tell me he think we should stop, saying things like he is not a good person and it’s too difficult. He said that he hopes we could have something in the future. Right after that conversation he blocked me. I didn’t want to stop talking to him even though I’m moving away and was will to make a go of it. I’m trying really hard to get over him but I don’t want to and I think that’s what’s making it more difficult. Any advice would be appreciated. 🙂

  3. ria

    September 8, 2018 at 10:29 pm

    hey my name is ria …i was in relationship with my bf since 10 months before that we r college frends..everything was going fine…but i m.having a bad habit to fight as i was very much possesive about him that y didnt he called me 5 times a day or why he didnt recieved my call ..i used to fight with hime every week or more …so one day he told me that he want to do breakuo as his father is saying dont talk to me ..i was so depressed i started crying n i told him to block me ..n he blocked me 🙁 but in the morning only he called me and he was crying saying sorry for the night n told me that he will not leave me ..then everything was fine …then he told me that he is doing job so he cant give me much time he used to call me only once in a day ..i asked him to meet me but he refused that he is not getting time ..he was saying truth i knw he was doing full day job…n one day we again do fight n i told him to block me then he blocked me …after three days i said sorry for fightinf with hime he unvlocked me and everything was going fine …but now he is nt giving me time so i said to finish everythinf n he said ok ..then i said can we become frends so he said yes only frends …but i didnt contact him since 10 days no call no msg ..but 5 days back he automatically unblocked me from whatsapp ( he blocked me three months back) and i didnt messaged or called him n yesterday he again blocked me ..i dont knw what he wants ..he himself unblocked me now again blocked me…is he is obssesed with me or he is not able to handle my ignorance ….??help me i want him back

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 9, 2018 at 5:08 am

      HI Ria..I know it can be hard…but you are going to get thru this. The after breakup period is always full of crazy emotions and your ex is probably having a hard time letting go. what you want to do is focus on healing and having your own ex recovery plan.

  4. Alexandra

    August 29, 2018 at 3:44 pm


    Thank you for the advice. I enjoyed the read. I met my fiance about 5 years ago through an app called Tango. Since he was Muslim and I come from a Christian family, I took 1 month to get to know him without agreeing to do a temporary marriage contract. Then, I realized I wasnt ready for that and our connection got terminated. We didnt talk for 5 years, even though I kept him on my LinkedIn. After 5 years, we communicated again. I decided to try the relationship through a temporary marriage contract. He visited me up north and I went to Texas. I left my fiance/husband of almost 1 year. We had a long distance relationship with two different states (RI and TX). Once, I sent him a break up text. His response was “is that right.” Then, he blocked me on his calls and texts. But not on snapchat nor other social media. I am enjoying my life, but deep down I know I love him. And I feel like he loves me too. Its only been 4 days since we separated. Any advice? Thank you for your time.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 30, 2018 at 1:29 am

      Hi Alexandra….so glad you are finding peace and enjoying life. I think NC is a good strategy for you. Feel free to tap into my program resources by going to my home page to learn more about having an ex recovery plan around some sensible tactics.

  5. Kiana

    August 23, 2018 at 1:55 pm

    So my ex boyfriend blocked me off of everything you can think of. It’s been 3 months and during the 3 months process, the only way i could get in contact with him was from calling from a block number. At one point of time he used to answer my calls from me calling from a private number, but every time I called.. it wasn’t a good conversation. It will be him telling me to leave him alone and hung up. We don’t have any mutual friends on any social sites. I recently told myself to stop contacting him and just give him some space. I was thinking of doing 30 days of no contact. I called him on Monday and left a voicemail telling him, I’m giving myself time to heal because I’m damaged and hopefully later down the line that we both can rekindle. I miss him and think about him everyday but I feel that the feelings isn’t mutual. Idk what to do at this point. Everyone is telling me to leave him alone and move on but I don’t want too. I believe he moved on already because it’s no way in hell how we were soo close then all of a sudden you blocked me from everything so I can’t contact you. BTW he said he’s not the type of person to get back with an ex but I’m just trying to show him different. Please help me out.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 23, 2018 at 10:48 pm

      Hi Kiana!

      I do think you made the right choice with going into No Contact. I wrote a 247 page book, called, “The No Contact Rule Book” that gets into the whole process and how you can use it to heal and focus on your needs and yet also reinforce your value. I have a lot of tools and resources which you can reach from my home page on this site, so just dig in and enjoy!

    2. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 23, 2018 at 10:48 pm

      Hi Kiana!

      I do think you made the right choice with going into No Contact. I wrote a 247 page book, called, “The No Contact Rule Book” that gets into the whole process and how you can use it to heal and focus on your needs and yet also reinforce your value. I have a lot of tools and resources which you can reach from my home page on this site, so just dig in and enjoy!

  6. Rosy

    August 20, 2018 at 1:40 am

    Hi, my ex broke up with me in Oct 2015. The last thing my ex said was “the friendship your looking for, your not going to find it here. You need to heal.” I found out a month later that he had been texting some other girl since August 2015. He sent me a text 5 months later simply telling me that I was in his prayers but I never responded. In 2016 I never from him than 2017 comes and he starts calling and texting only through WhatsApp. He FaceTime me once on Valentines Day. I never answered or responded. All his texts were “hi, hey hey and hey there” like nothing had happened and forgot what he said to me. The longest text I received from him was when he called through WhatsApp and then he messaged me saying “hi, I called I was hoping to reach you. And all this time he is still with the same girl he was texting when he was still with me. Then he stopped reaching out in March and reached out the last time in January 2018 still being with the same girl. I obviously never responded. Now I just recently found out last month that he blocked me through WhatsApp. I feel offended because I never bothered him or called him. He was clear when he broke up with me. Why would he block me when I haven’t bothered him? There was no need to speak to each other because he told me to move on and he is in a relationship with someone else. He looks happy with her in pictures.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 20, 2018 at 8:22 pm

      Hi Rosy…. Its unclear why he would do so. Maybe he is afraid his girlfriend is jealous type and wanted to clear his tracks. Best to put this in your rear view mirror.

  7. Aurorua

    August 14, 2018 at 8:31 pm

    So..after a conversation about continue paying for cell phones I was purchasing. Where I told him I thought his actions about not being involved in our child’s life was horrible and sad to see .Wished him well..wished him success and luck with the new girlfriend..told him to give his daughter a hug for me..i would continue to pay for the phones..etc..
    He responded back saying I was refusing to pay for the phones.. how he’d been nothing but civil up to now but after me texting him toda( which I didn’t- he texted me..I simply responded in a civil polite non friends way) and how I spoke to him that was at a end..was filling the phone as stolen with the carrier and going to the police and filing a report ..delete and blocked…lol
    Not any scenario you have listed above…
    How bad is this one…

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 17, 2018 at 2:54 pm

      Hi Aurorua!

      Yes…a bit unique…but also not uncommon. Fussy feelings will rise up after a breakup….and disagreements…..and anger…and etc. He is acting out.

  8. MJ

    August 6, 2018 at 10:53 am

    But why do you think I got blocked on messenger but not Facebook? I didn’t even try to contact him…

  9. MJ

    August 6, 2018 at 3:22 am

    Good read.
    But I’m still perplexed. I broke up with my bf of one year 5 weeks ago. A week afyer that,he sent me a Facebook friend request at am but swiftly deleted it, but put my favorite pic of him as a profile pic. When i texted to ask why, i got no reply.
    Three weeks ago, after two weeks of NC, I got drunk and went to his place to get him back. We spoke for an hour, going from calling me babe, holding my hand. Said he didn’t want to get back together though, cause he doesn’t want the same things to keep happening. I asked him several time if he still loved me. He ended up saying no. When I asked if that was true, he said he is not a guy for me. When I refused that theory, he said I’m not a woman for him then.
    I left.
    Not a peep from me since.
    But today, I went on messenger to look for a pic of me he shared there in the past and noticed he blocked me. This probably happened recently, up to two weeks ago maybe. He didn’t block me from Facebook though (we’re not friends there).
    No idea if he phone and email blocked me too. But why messenger and not Facebook?
    I’m ashamed to say we are both in our late 30s…

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 6, 2018 at 4:29 am

      No shame….love visits all ages.

    2. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 6, 2018 at 4:29 am

      No shame….love visits all ages.

  10. Lauren

    August 4, 2018 at 4:05 pm

    Hello, My ex and I were together for 1 year and I broke up with him just over 2 weeks ago due to arguments. For the first week I was completely fine because we have broken up a couple of times before and always got back together a couple of days later, and I expected him to get back in touch. then in the second week I noticed he had blocked me from snapchat and twitter, this made me instantly upset because i realised he has probably starting to move on (he had never blocked me after a breakup before). So I decided to ask him why on Facebook, to which I got blocked there as well. I left it alone for 2 days and decided to text him and ask him to talk, he didn’t reply after a few hours so I messaged him on Instagram to ask him to respond to my text. He then blocked my number AND Instagram account. So at this point I have been blocked on every single form of contact. I realised I still followed him on my old Instagram account, so I wrote very long message stating that I miss him, love him and that I want him to come back. And of course, he blocked me after he saw the message. At this point I’m completely heartbroken because I saw he had been following girls on Instagram and liking their photos, probably trying to get their attention. I feel like he’s moved on and I’m broken. I can’t get in touch with him because he has blocked me on everything, and I can’t move on because I haven’t had any closure from him (I was never given a reason as to why I was blocked!!) and I really want him back, but I just don’t think it’s possible. please help :(!!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 5, 2018 at 2:27 am

      Hi Lauren!

      I sorry you feel broken, but you will get thru this and with a plan for both personal recovery and ex recovery, you give yourself a better chance. One grows from the other. I encourage you to go to my home page and check out all the tools and resources I have there that can help you.

  11. SavageJ

    August 3, 2018 at 12:30 pm


    I had an ex boyfriend that I met through an online game. We dated for 3 weeks and then he broke up with saying he just wanna focus/prioritize his family, which I told him I understand. He then told me to “Lets stay friends please.” It’s been 3 months since we broke up but I still have feelings for him. So, we stayed friends even though he knows that I still love him.
    Then, all of a sudden he blocked me on fb and unfriended me on his other fb accounts.
    I thought I was okay, but I don’t understand why he blocked me after deiciding to be friends with me.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 4, 2018 at 3:00 am

      Hi there!

      Not sure either. Maybe he is not stable. Perhaps it is best, but give it more time to see if he behaves better.

  12. Lorna kichael

    July 31, 2018 at 11:50 pm


    I work bore you with details but I had the most perfect relationship with someone but due to extensive reasons I kept having to hide truths from him and his biggest pet peeve is people who lie. He found out and basically decided he couldn’t trust me. We only dated for 5 months but in that time we spoke of marriage this year and I met his entire family. At first I did all the chasing and apologising then I went silent for three weeks then chased again until he sent me a message to basically move on and so I said okay I respect your decision, all the best. I haven’t reached out since and it has been 2 months. Today he blocked me on instagram which makes no sense as I wasn’t following him and his profile is private so I don’t see the point? Is he attention seeking? There are also other things he has been doing that I could’ve easily repsonded by texting him to ask why but I resisted and I think he’s now kind of itching for me to chase again, I dunno. Am I reading too much into it? It just makes no sense to randomly block someone 3 months after a break up when I haven’t tried to reach out at all. I’m definitely not responding to it but I’d love some expert insight

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 1, 2018 at 3:54 am

      Hi Lorna!

      Sounds like he could have some hidden resentment which might explain the blocking on IG, but I suspect you are right about his attention getting behavior. You might want consider joining my Private Facebook Support Group to tap into some of the opinions you will get there. You have already tried NC and made efforts to connect which he has pushed back on. Maybe he needs more time and might respond to another effort to re-establish communications, but if you go that route follow the guidelines covered in my ebook and/or on this site as to the type of initial text message you might want to send to further tickle his attention.

  13. Blocked

    July 29, 2018 at 9:47 am

    Theres one place where my ex hasnt blocked me cuz i spammed him so much chasing him and annoying him. Only one and its snapchat . Im going to try the NC rule but should i tell him on snapchat that im going to let him go and stop the begging? Cuz i dont want him thinking that the only reason i stopped begging was cuz i was forced to, since i was blocked, and not cuz i want to. I feel like the NC rule wont work if he thinks im only not hitting him up cuz I possibly cant.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      July 29, 2018 at 3:59 pm

      Yes, I think NC is the right move. You can give him a heads up about what your doing and why. Explain you need time and space to heal and work on “you”. Then you should go to my Home Page here on this site and check out my ex recovery products and select one that fits your needs because it is important you have a smart game plan available to you.

  14. Kayci

    July 27, 2018 at 11:47 pm


    I need a lot of help. Me and my bf were together for about 2 months. I know it doesn’t sound like a lot of time, but it was an instant and intense connection. He told me he never connected with anyone this fast before.

    A week ago we got into a fight via text because I was jealous that he kept adding girls on Instagram. He was really drunk and said some not so nice things. A day later he texts an apology and says he’s been in a bad place lately and didn’t want to drag me down with him. I have noticed that he had been sleeping a LOT lately and still feeling tired and drinking more than usual. There were signs that he was becoming depressed. I tried to be supportive and tell him that I was here for him if he needs anything and I gave him his space. He said it wasn’t a breakup but just needed time. This convo happened on Sunday.

    Fast forward to Tuesday. I was really stressed out and decided to get a couple of drinks at my favorite local bar after work. I was hanging out with some friends and was already several drinks in having a good time, and out of nowhere he shows up. He didn’t know I was going to be there, but he was already drunk when he showed up. Later that night he threw up in the patio outside The end result of us running into each other was we got into a HORRIBLE drunk fight. There was crying, shouting, I grabbed his phone and blocked the girl that we argued over a week ago. It was just bad.

    At 6am the next morning (I’m assuming he’s still drunk), he sent a bunch of angry texts saying I damaged his glasses, he hated me, and he never wanted me to talk to him again. There were a lot of exclamation points and caps. I had no recollection of damaging his glasses and he posted later on social media and his glasses looked completely fine. He just woke up drunk and starting yelling and accusing me of things that he assumed I did but didn’t. I was already sobering up and tried to tell him I was sorry and was willing to pay for any damages I supposedly caused. He just kept texting me angrily all day. I didn’t reply because I was confused and worried about saying the wrong thing. He texted the next day asking if I deleted anything from his phone. I didn’t answer because all my friends said to wait for him to calm down in a few days and that there was no way he actually hated me.

    So I followed my friends’ advice, but I think it only made the situation worse. On Thursday night he was all over IG posting photos of him smoking and drinking and he posted some depressing quote/rant about losing people and moving on. On Friday, I see he blocked me on IG. I completely freaked out and sent him an apology saying I wasn’t replying because I didn’t know what to say. I haven’t heard anything so far.

    I’m considering trying the No Contact plan, but I’m not sure there’s much hope. I can’t show off all of my improvements and how well I’m supposedly doing on social media if he can’t see it. We both only use IG so there’s no other platform I can use. I’m worried about running into him in person again too. I’m just worried about a lot of things and I’m wondering if there’s any hope for me. I really do think he hates me.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      July 28, 2018 at 4:48 am

      Hi Kayci…I do think you should give NC and try. You can learn more about it in any of my core ebooks found on the Home page or you can explore the site for info as well. What is important though is to have an ex recovery plan guided by a common sense approach, so do look into some of the resources I talk about on my home page elsewhere!

  15. mcglee

    May 11, 2018 at 6:22 am


    me and my boyfriend broke up 13 Jan 2018… we have been talking and i spend some long weekends with him after the breakup….

    but after the second visit with him he started acting weird towards me over the phone.. he delayed his replies(where he always replied instantly) and we had a little fight because he was being a jerk towards me so i became a jerk with him as well.

    yesterday he blocked me on Facebook and on whatsapp , what should i do and what does it mean?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 11, 2018 at 3:07 pm

      Hi Mcglee…well it looks like you need an Action plan going forward. It not unusual for their to be false starts after a breakup as people wind thru their emotions and pent up resentments. Restarting the relationship on better footing sometimes requires a break away from each other. You are probably looking for actionable solutions, right? Well, the good news is that I created an ebook to help folks like yourself. Just go to my website’s Menu Section and click on “Products” link. You will learn there are lots a ways to better your situation! You don’t have to do this on this by your lonesome!

    2. Mcglee

      May 14, 2018 at 5:43 am

      hi he also said that he still has feelings for me and that he misses me and when i was visiting him for the long weekends we kissed etc so im in a bit of a hole here because it feels like mixed signals like does he want me back or is this the end of the road for us – MCGLEE

    3. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 14, 2018 at 3:21 pm

      Hi again! Just follow the plan I lay out in my ebook!

  16. Marriam

    May 5, 2018 at 12:30 pm

    Hey there! My bf blocked me today and he’s been acting so weird since the past few days and blocks me over the pettiest things. He says he’s left all the girls for me. And yesterday I kept wanting to talk to him at night but his number wa busy and then he slept without talking to me. But today I called him and he didn’t pick my call and just blocked me. I got really mad and told him to have the guts and block me from WhatsApp as well. So he did. And I said now you’ll never hear my voice. Is this a breakup, or will he contact me? The no contact rule is too long in my case.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 5, 2018 at 11:34 pm

      Well Marriam…it sounds like the two of you need some separate space. If he is pushing you away,then some kind of No Contact period should benefit your both before you make other efforts to communicate. Take a look at picking up any of my ebooks and they will teach you more about the NC process and what you should do if this matter gets worse.

  17. Thuli M

    May 3, 2018 at 3:21 pm

    hi chris, with my situation i thought everything was going well between my ex and i , on Saturday i went to his place and bought him goodies to make him feel better as he hurt his leg. on the Sunday, i saw a picture of his on my whatsapp story and i just asked him if he was at a girls house, since his always accusing me of cheating which i am not doing. he said he wasn’t, then straight after i received 5 messages from him saying “i cant do this whole thing anymore”,”why do you have to exaggerate everything”, “why cant you just let it go and let it be”, “something just clicked” and then he blocked me off whatsapp and his call/texts and unfollowed me on Instagram before i could even reply.
    ive been blocked for 5 days now, and its taking everything in me not to call and ask what happened, when i check his Instagram he seems like he is having the time of his life and he is not phased. Will he ever unblock me? i didn’t do anything wrong to upset him that badly. WHAT DO I DO (cries tears)

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 3, 2018 at 9:48 pm

      Hi Thuli….I am so sorry for your pain. I know it seems so unfair. It seems his guilt drove him into a little rage. You already picked up a copy of my ebook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro”, right? If not, just go to my website Menu/Products section and you will find info about it there. It is like a huge Companion Guide that helps you through the whole process. I think a brief NC is order here, so be sure to come up to speed on how all that works. Let me know how it goes Thuli!

  18. Tanvi Pandya

    May 2, 2018 at 4:58 am

    Hello Chris, It’s me again. One thing my ex never ever did was block me. I have been blocked for past 21 days… I pushed him so far away. When he bought his new car 20 days ago, he unblocked me, sent me pictures and then blocked me again, which I think is so much work. But I have been blocked ever since. I went on NC as you said and today marks 21 days. he is in town, he knows I’m leaving the country for 3 months on may 22,. Today one of our mutual friends called him and she was talking to him casually and all and then she asked him “have you talked to tanvi yet” he replied “what’s left to talk about anymore” he’s in town with his new car, hes here for the summer, he met with one of our close friend when he came here (us three are superrrr close.. or were I guess) they went on dinner to our regular restaurent but no one menioned me (the place is 80 km from where I live) his birthday is also coming, should I do somehing. I am blocked from WhatsApp and phone call. I don’t know what to do.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 3, 2018 at 1:48 am

      He seems to be acting out his anger with the blocking. With his behavior to date, I would not advise you do anything for his birthday.

    2. Tanvi Pandya

      May 3, 2018 at 4:43 am

      Not even wish him?

    3. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 3, 2018 at 2:23 pm

      Its your call! My sense is if he is actively blocking you, then he may not appreciate your good wishes.

  19. byron

    May 1, 2018 at 6:26 pm

    Hey chris

    Im kind of an odd fish out. I was checking for content on girlfriends and came across your post and simply put my exgf in the place of the bf. But i had a troubled relationship for 2.5+ years. Cheating was definetly a problem on my end and I’m paying for it dearly. The signs were there and I ignored the. She has me in a full block out. Ive reached out a couple of times buy pulled back because I started to feel needy. She reactivated her fb for a night with it still saying in a relationship with our pics. I posted some comments and the next day it was deactivated again. Then she done the same thing with snapchat the week after by unblocking me. I added her say hey then she blocked me again. Im not sure if this is a sign that shes checking to see if im still around until after her dnc period or not. Lastly we had an agreement prior to the breakup that she wouldnt take any pics for the sports bar she works for. After maintaining silence I checked the bar fb and there she was holding a beer; I believed it was a test to bait me to act ironic or to see if i was still watching. I didnt respond. Can you give me some assistance. Im beyond lost over here. Thanks


    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 1, 2018 at 9:53 pm

      Hi Byron….why don’t you go over to my sister site, It might serve you better, though I agree the underlying principles are the same. One of the first things you want to do is get educated on all things “breakups”. So pick up my ebook. The one sold here, is the same as what is available at the other site. I do agree she is testing you and that is normal. You need an action plan to execute that can optimize your chances and that is what the ebooks are for!

    2. byron

      May 2, 2018 at 2:08 am

      Ok im on the other site. Just curious as to why testing me is normal? Also Im interested in speaking with you via skype or phone call. Im aware of the pricing. Is this possible? Thanks

    3. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 3, 2018 at 2:01 am

      Hey there Byron…If you go to this site’s Menu/Products link you will see information about my Coaching Services. My schedule is pretty darn booked for a good spell. My wife does coaching and she is great. Then we have Anna, which I am embarrassed to say is our most popular Coach based on reviews. So go take a look at all that and decide what is best for you. My take is that women (and men too) will test their ex (and themselves) with little outreaches and hence, conflicting signals come into play. This is very common and what often drives this behavior is the influence of a cocktail of chemicals in our brains. We are kinda like addicts suffering withdrawal pains and certain stress hormones kick in and from all of this we get a messy post breakup period.

    4. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 3, 2018 at 2:01 am

      Hey there Byron…If you go to this site’s Menu/Products link you will see information about my Coaching Services. My schedule is pretty darn booked for a good spell. My wife does coaching and she is great. Then we have Anna, which I am embarrassed to say is our most popular Coach based on reviews. So go take a look at all that and decide what is best for you. My take is that women (and men too) will test their ex (and themselves) with little outreaches and hence, conflicting signals come into play. This is very common and what often drives this behavior is the influence of a cocktail of chemicals in our brains. We are kinda like addicts suffering withdrawal pains and certain stress hormones kick in and from all of this we get a messy post breakup period.

  20. Kelsey

    May 1, 2018 at 9:24 am

    Hi again. So my ex boyfriend tried sending me a snap saying friends? I just opened it and didn’t reply. I’m not sure if i can be his friend because he is just taking advantage that I’m always going to be available for him. He is being immature and isn’t ready to give another chance. Im not sure what I should do. We’ve been broken up for 9 months now. I seriously want him back. However he still has me blocked off WhatsApp. Please help. I want the love of my life back. Ive been so patient and it feels whatever i do is not enough to bring him back. I really need your advice. I’m desperate now for some advice.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 1, 2018 at 4:55 pm

      Hi Kelsey…remind me, did you pick up my ebook? Because it can cover off on so much more than I can here. It seems like he is testing the waters. Your response largely depends on how long you have been in No Contact and other factors. If you have not communicated with him in 9 months, then yes, I would reply and proceed slowly

    2. Kelsey

      May 2, 2018 at 1:06 pm

      No we have contacted in these 9 months. But he is only trying to contact me to be friends and I don’t want that because it hasn’t worked out being friends thus far. I’m not sure what he is up to.

    3. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 3, 2018 at 1:09 am

      Well Kelsey…its been 9 months, so what do you really have to lose. Why not just reach out test the waters. You could be a little bold and say something slightly humorous, but revealing like “What are you really up too my friend!”)

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