Has He Moved On? How To Get Him Back If He Has A Girlfriend

It can really hurt when an ex boyfriend (who you still have feelings for) seemingly moves on to another girl. For many women out there they lose all hope of getting their ex back. Others will get angry and immediately look to start or cause a fight. Rarely will you ever come across one that does the smartest thing, stack the odds in her favor! That is really what this page is all about, how to get your ex boyfriend back if he has a new girlfriend by stacking the odds in your favor.

If you haven’t already read my epic article on how to get your ex boyfriend back I suggest you drop everything for the next 30 minutes (yes 30 minutes) and go read it.

What You Really Want..

When I first created this site I wanted to create the best online resource for getting your ex back. So far, I feel I have done a decent job of that. However, as I started interacting with you I began to notice that what I was writing wasn’t enough, you wanted more. This was especially true for those heartbroken women whose ex boyfriends have moved on to a new girlfriend. I understand how you particularly feel because I have interacted with so many of you. So, I decided to do something I have never done before.

I began writing a “super guide” on how to get your ex boyfriend back. I am talking about everything I could possibly think of. Eventually after 100 pages of writing I finished Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. Think of it like the ultimate step by step guide to getting an ex boyfriend back. It will teach you everything you will need to know. So, if you feel you want some more in depth instructions on how to get an ex boyfriend back then please click the link below:

Learn More About Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO

Remember The Most Important Thing

Before you take any major steps to getting your ex boyfriend back it is important that you implement the No Contact Rule. Now, I am not going to go too deeply into that. In fact, I wrote an entire page just covering the no contact rule and what to do during it. You can visit that page here: No Contact Rule Guide.

If you don’t have the patience to read that entire page let me sum up some of the most important points for you.

No Contact Rule Main Points

  • No contact what-so-ever for 30 days (1 full month.)
  • This means no texting, calling, emailing, letters, facebook stalking or Googling.
  • During your 30 day freeze out make sure you improve yourself both mentally and physically.

You may be wondering why learning about the NCR (No Contact Rule) is so important. After all, this page is about a very unique situation, trying to get an ex boyfriend back who has a new girlfriend. Well, the importance of NOT CONTACTING YOUR EX is crucial in this particular situation. The fact that your old boyfriend has a new girlfriend can be heart crushing and you are going to want to contact your ex very badly (and you are definitely not going to have many good things to say.)

How Did He Get His New Girlfriend?

New Girlfriend

(Disclaimer: I promised myself that I was going to use this page to legitimately help people. So, I feel that this section is important. While this may not be a section about how to get him back it is a section that is something I added in to prevent you from making a big mistake, going after a guy that will only hurt you very deeply again.)

Believe it or not but how your ex boyfriend got his new girlfriend matters in a very big way. I am going to outline three situations for you, two of these situations are going to focus on guys that you should be trying to get back and one of the situations is going to be focusing on guys that you should not be trying to get back. Let’s begin.

Situation 1- You broke up with your ex, realized you wanted him back but found out that he got a new girlfriend after the breakup. If you are in this situation then you are free to go ahead and try to get your ex boyfriend back.

Situation 2- He broke up with you and later got a new girlfriend. Again, this is a really common situation and you are free to go ahead and try to get him back.

Situation 3- He left you for another girl. He was either cheating or was in love with someone else. Ladies, I am going to be completely honest here, this guy is not someone that you should want to get back with. Sure, you can try to get him back but he needs to prove to you that he is trustworthy.

4 Truths To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back With A New Girlfriend

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This section will explore some of the most important steps to getting back with an ex who has a new girlfriend. Admittedly you are at a bit of a disadvantage since he has moved on, or has he? Let’s explore!

Truth 1: Not contacting your ex is a must. Not only should you have implemented the No Contact Rule but you need to stay strong. Getting mad, breaking down and texting your ex a hateful message about his new girlfriend isn’t going to help your ultimate goal is it? Instead, be cool and don’t worry, every dog has it’s day.

Truth 2: It’s not always easy dating someone new. Especially if you came out of a relatively serious relationship. It may be entirely possible that your ex is uncomfortable in his new relationship. It happens all the time. This is one of the symptoms of what everyone likes to call a rebound relationship. This leads us to our next step..

Truth 3: Rebound relationships are relationships that usually form right after a breakup. Lucky for you rebound relationships don’t last forever. In fact, statistics show that 90% of rebound relationships are bound to fail. So, the odds are in your favor just make sure you keep your cool while he is dating his new girlfriend. Remember, if you freak out you are going to make a lot of mistakes and mistakes aren’t going to help get you two back together.

Truth 4: It is entirely possible that the further away from a breakup that your ex boyfriend gets the more nostalgic he will become about your relationship. Basically, instead of remembering all the bad things (like fights, disagreements or whatever caused your breakup) he will remember all the good things. This can definitely work in your favor.

How To Cope

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It is not always easy to want someone back so badly and see them in another relationship with someone else. I put this section together to give you some advice on how to handle what you are feeling. Remember, just because he is dating someone new doesn’t mean your chances are gone completely. Sometimes men need to go out with someone new to realize just how good they had it with you.

Keep The Focus On You- Try your best not to obsess over his situation. You can’t control what he does but you can control what you do. Go out and have fun. Make new friends. Basically, just ramp up your social life so you can focus on the most important thing, yourself.

It’s Not Your Fault- Sometimes women have a tendency to believe that their ex started dating someone new because of something that they did or something that they could not provide. Dating isn’t always black and white like that. Whatever happens, make sure you don’t let an ex boyfriends actions affect how you feel.

Accept That There Will Be Pain- You are not a robot. You can’t just turn off your feelings. It’s ok to feel pain over the situation but once that pain starts creeping into your everyday life and effecting how you live then you have problems.

Beware Of The “I Want What I Can’t Have” Syndrome- This particular piece of advice probably should have gone higher on this page. Sometimes a select group of women will want their ex boyfriend back once they see him with someone new. If you find that you are in this situation be very careful about proceeding to get him back. You may need to go back and do some serious searching on whether or not you want him back for a legitimate reason.

Resist Any Comparisons- It is only human nature to want to compare yourself to the new (hopefully temporary) girlfriend. Are you better looking? Do you have a better personality? Comparing yourself to the new girl is not productive. You only hurt yourself in the process and that is not going to help your cause at all.

Are There Any Actions You Can Take To Help Your Cause?

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So far this page has really been about personal things that you can do to get your ex back if he has a new squeeze. Now, I want you to realize that I laid this page out that way on purpose. The fact of the matter is that a certain amount of this is out of your control. I mean, if you have found a way to mind control someone please let me know because I could put that skill to good use. However, in this section I am briefly going to discuss certain actions you can take to drastically improve your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back.

(Remember, these actions should only be taken after you have completed the 30 Day No Contact Rule.)

Watch For Trouble Signs- No one is perfect and this is especially true of relationships. Each one has it’s ups and downs. Your job is to keep an eye out for his troubles with his new girl and be there to provide support and remind him how good he had it with you.

Initiate Contact Via Text Message- Test the waters with your ex boyfriend via text messaging. There are a whole set of rules and regulations that go with texting an ex. I am not going to go into those here but if you want to know them then please visit this page.

Be Very Nice To Him And His New Girlfriend- If you are on good terms with your ex or you have tested the waters via text messages and gotten a positive response be very wary about trashing his new girlfriend. It may be tempting but however strong that temptation is you are going to have to avoid it.

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2,459 Responses to Has He Moved On? How To Get Him Back If He Has A Girlfriend
  1. betty
    March 2, 2015 | 9:35 am

    hi,i dated this guy for four months.i loved him and still do though i found out the mother to his late son is back and he never told me about it.he was so supportive,responsible and caring.what do i do coz i dont want to loose him completely.i went to his house to find out if the other woman is thea and he got so furious that he is not talking to me.what do i do?

    • admin
      March 2, 2015 | 10:07 pm

      Was he cheating on you?

      Or did he have the other woman there after the breakup?

  2. AI
    March 2, 2015 | 7:01 am

    Hi I was with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half. We kinda split up in July and that’s when he met the girl he’s with now. We got back together in August and he left me the end of January. And now he’s moved in with this new girl. It kills me because he’s been wanting to move in with me but I refused because he would go on disappearing acts. I also got really sick this past November. I was put on medication which made me gain weight and swell up. All this happened at once. I’m still going through my sickness and I feel like he kicked me while I was down. I did call and text him and beg him back and I know I made myself look like a fool. I’m so depressed I really miss him. The new girl he’s with is real trash. Got her kid taken away from cps and is on drugs has no job and is just a real waste. What should I do? I Know he’s a jerk but I really love him. I wish I could make him come back.

    • admin
      March 2, 2015 | 10:00 pm

      That new girl hes with… If she really is that bad it will blow up in his face.

      Just sit back and wait.

      But one thing. If he is willing to date that trashy girl then are you sure you want him back?

  3. Lynnie
    March 1, 2015 | 6:34 pm

    My ex and I were together for 3 and a half years. She had always been in a relationship, never single for more than a month. We split up because I was learning self love and realized that I deserved more from the relationship. I had taught her that being single is strength and constantly looking for someone to fill that void just shows that she is unhappy with herself that she needs another person to validate her self worth. I cut all contact for 1 month in hopes that she would work on her independence and deserve what I have to offer. After that month, I found out she is seeing someone new. She always defends this girl and their relationship… ITS BEEN A MONTH!!! But she claims to still be single. Just already hopelessly devoted. Does this mean she truly has moved on? I have broken down and cried to her, told her true love is wanting the best for her. I went through being angry and insulting this new relationship. I want her, but a brand new relationship with freedom and without control. I know that what I say to her truly touches her but what can I say? How can she treat me as less than a girl whom she barely knows? Could she be forcing the relationship because she simply doesn’t want to be with me?

    • admin
      March 2, 2015 | 9:15 pm

      Question, are you a guy trying to get a girl back?

  4. Lisa
    February 28, 2015 | 8:26 pm

    Hi, thanks for helping us!
    My bf broke up with me on this valentines,14 days now. A friend of mine, told me he saw him with a girl in a party the day before ( I couldn’t go because I had to work ), so I text him telling him that. He got crazy and end the relationship just like that, with a whatsapp message to me. ‘DONT TALK TO ME ANYMORE, ITS OVER” I am heart broken because I think he was seeing this girl from a long time, he said to me that he didn’t have to give me any explanation , so I guess they are having an affair. The only think I need to know is why he didn’t even say sorry. we were fine and I never suspect he was cheating. He always said that he loves me and I just don’t understand why he was saying to me that very same day” I love you, happy Valentine” and in the afternoon after my coment he broke up with me. why he was lying to me in that way….. I just don’t get it.
    He always say to me that I was important and a big partner, that we were so good together, and now this…. I don’t get it, he doesn’t want to talk to me. and I sent him a message asking why and he said. ” don’t try to contact me again, otherwise I will block you from my whatsapp. He took me out of FB too…
    I am sad and I don’t know what to do.
    Please help me.
    Ps. my friend has seem him with her a few times now. I haven’t ask anymore. but I think I deserve an explanation after 2 years.
    Thanks

  5. ariana
    February 27, 2015 | 9:47 pm

    me and my ex have been dating for 5 years then a mouth after valentines day we broke up cuz he had cheated on me even though five days later he said he still had loved me i toke him back 1 year later he cheated again we stayed friends then after 1 mouths we became fwb (friends with benefits) then i started home schooled 2 mouths later i came back and we started talking again and became friends but……. now he has a girlfriend and I’ve been crushing on him ever seance i came back

  6. alexis
    February 27, 2015 | 10:35 am

    I been seeing a person for 3 years off and on. I love this man we been through a lot ups and downs like some couples. But recently last week I was in the hosptial I’ll couldn’t contact him nor did he even call me I called a few days later to see how he was I said ur not talking to me now? He like I’m talking to u know so before I could say I was in the hospital he rushed me off the phone I called at 8:30 am. So I texted him I was upset he couldn’t give me 5 or 10 mins. We I had to call a friend to pick me up I couldn’t drive. So me and my kids went his and his wife’s home I feel asleep well I didn’t know what had happened til a few days later the friend of mine doesn’t like the man I was seeing so he took it upon himself to respond to my text msgs telling my bf ” your dead to me don’t call or text me your out my life. ”
    I have no clue so I’m texting and calling and get no response I had to block my number just to get him still no answer so
    I had to go to work it was snowing my van isn’t drivable so my friend wife let me drive hers I lost control now I’m back in the hospital I contacted him so on so. He finally picked up after using her cell we had bad words he was cold didn’t answer my questions. I asked him well if I died tomorrow would u care he said yes but it didn’t seem real finally he said don’t call me or text I still don’t know why he would not say he knows I have deep feelings for him all he kept a saying is I’m dead to u remember delete my number I moved on ect like what are u talking about the 3 years we been together I have never said that I have never turned my back on him all the things he put me through I been there noatter what. No he’s blocked me turned his phone completely off. I talked to his best friend after I told him what happens he like so u didn’t send the msgs I said no why would I do that I love him but it seems hopeless I don’t want to loose him but he walked away from me when I did nothing to him he doesn’t want to be friends at all. Three years is hard to let go for me its the longest relationship I been in.
    phasis #confused.

  7. Barbara
    February 26, 2015 | 3:02 pm

    Hi Chris, I was dating a guy at work for 6 mths and he ended it saying the old line “it’s not you its me” . Emotionally he wasn’t ready and didn’t know what he wanted and in my opion was scared. We’ve been split up now for 6 mths. About 3 or 3 mths after the split he is now seeing someone else and says that he is ready now which hurts as I was the one that opened his heart up. I only found this out a couple of months ago which broke my heart all over again and managed to tell him how I really felt about him which I couldn’t before because I was afraid he would run away…I know maybe a little too late. He did tell me then that he did love me but he never told me that when we were seeing each other. The other thing was that I could never say that he was my boyfriend as nothing was ever talked that we were official, even though we were seeing each other exclusively. We still have regular contact daily over the phone and by email as we work together for the same company but I don’t see him often as he only comes into the office only once or twice a month so the no contact rule is hard. Some people tell me I need to move on but how do you do that when deep in your heart you know you are perfect together, and the one he is with can’t give him what he deserves and what I can give him. Is there any hope on trying to win him back and make him realise I’m the one for him. Your advice would be appreciated.

  8. Britney (again, less emotional this time)
    February 25, 2015 | 12:06 am

    My ex and I dated for three months, shortly after his divorce from his wife of two years. Both of us are in our early thirties, both divorced from people we began dating in college (he had been divorced three months at that point; me, one year) I had trepidations, because I did not want to be his “rebound”, but we really hit it off and quickly grew very close. He was hesitant to use the “L” word, but would say he loved everything about me, and that I was a beautiful, wonderful girl. I met his two best friends, he told his family about me, and on nights we did not see each other, talked for hours on the phone. Things were going great, until one night, a few hours before a date, my ex-husband called to tell me he was getting married and he had just announced it on social media.I began receiving texts and calls from concerned friends, but I ignored them, instead turning to alcohol. He arrived to find me a sloppy mess, unwilling to tell him what was wrong. We postponed our date, but the next night, when we went out, I drank too much and long story short, wound up wetting his bed. I woke up embarrassed and suggested we cut our weekend short. He agreed and I went home. The next week, he went on a business trip and called me three different nights while there. He acted as if nothing was wrong. However, when he got home, he said that seeing each other, “right now” was a bad idea. I was crushed, apologizing, etc. Everything you shouldn’t do. I then did not talk to him for a week, then tried texting him. After ignoring two of my texts on two separate days, he began texting again. Christmas was coming soon, so I made a little “care package” of things all very pertinent to him and his likes, including special dog biscuits for his dog. I almost chickened out sending it, until one night, he text, asking if I was busy. I said no, and we had a long text conversation. The subject of poetry came up, and he sent: “I think of you with fond regret, we who burned brightly, now dying embers. Cannot these embers be rekindled to burn once more?” I wasn’t sure if he meant getting back together for sure or not, so I sent him an excerpt from Whitman, about waiting, being there if he’d say the word, more or less. The next day, I sent the package. He got it and called me. I asked what he had been doing. He said work was going well, he’d been out with a co-worker but not to worry, “she’s fat and ugly,” and laughed. I said I wasn’t worried, it’s good to spend time with friends. He then told me my gift was the most thoughtful gift he had received and it was going to for sure be his best Christmas gift and he “loved me for it.” I was excited, but played it cool and said I was so glad, I wanted him to have something nice for Christmas. The subject of friends came up again, and I told him something a guy friend of mine (who he always suspected of having a crush on me) had said recently. He said, “This friend of yours sure sounds like quite the guy…” I laughed and said, “Believe me, we have been friends since high school and will always be just friends.” Something came up about exes, and I said I was glad to be away from my mean, video game addicted ex and non-existent sex life. He said, “You know, I don’t get that. This may be inappropriate to say, but when you and I were together, it was . I had never felt the way I felt with you. Just .” I said it was wonderful, so intense sometimes I was a little scared *nervous laugh on my part*. I thought this might be my “cue” so I said, “Well, don’t think that something that was couldn’t be is, again.” He said, “What?” I said, “Don’t think that something that could not be again.” He paused, then said, “Yeah, I guess that is true.” (Damn, missed it). I told him I was glad that he liked his gift, he gushed over it a little more, which was sweet, then I hung up. On Christmas morning, a few days later, I woke up to a “Merry Christmas” text and a pic of him and some of his family. I said Merry Christmas in return and sent a pic of me and my puppy. For the next month, we texted on and off, and I called on New Years day. He told me how he was doing so much better, had moved on from his divorce, things were really good. We kept it light and happy and hung up after two hours. At this point, I decided maybe I should give up. I went on a date with a guy who was OK, but couldn’t get my mind off my ex. The guy posted a picture of us on social media which I quickly removed. My ex and I still text off and on until two weeks ago. On Friday night, I asked how his night was going. He said, “Good. Relaxing, hanging out with friends at a bar.” The next day, a picture of him and a girl was on his Facebook wall. She had posted it, and tagged him. Turns out, he was out with her and her friends for her birthday. I couldn’t believe it. I had sent him two cards and some homemade cookies in the last month. How could he not tell me had had a girlfriend?! I texted him and said, “Saw the pic of you and your gf on Facebook. Cute!” He responded, “Haha, thanks.” I asked, “How long have you been dating?” He says, “a couple of weeks, I guess.” I said, “Good for you! Glad you are happy.” He then goes, “How are you? How is law school? I saw your latest modeling pics on FB” I said “fine.” He said, “Good for you.” I did not respond, and started NC at that moment. I posted a picture from my cooking class last week on Facebook and a friend from school posted pics from a dinner I was tagged in (I was in a pretty dress and had a new, wavy hairstyle- following your guide!) but that has been it. Here are my questions:
    Q1: Did I miss an opportunity to get back with him somewhere in there?
    Q2: Did he friend-zone me and use me as a confidence booster to ask out this girl he works with (she is not as pretty as me and he always said he would never date a co-worker. A lie, apparently)
    Q3: Why would he keep in contact with me after he started dating her? Was he afraid of upsetting me? Did he want me around as backup?

    I hope this post is more clear than the last. I would really appreciate your help!

    • admin
      February 25, 2015 | 9:28 pm

      Less emotional this time haha!

      1. Yes, but it won’t be the only opprotunity you get I bet.
      2. Sounds like he has low confidence from the get go if he is using you like that.
      3. perhaps the grass is greener syndrome is creeping up.

      • Britney (again, less emotional this time)
        February 26, 2015 | 7:22 pm

        Just to be sure, by “grass is greener syndrome” do you mean he was trying to stay in contact in case things didn’t work with the “new girl”? I am on day 20 of no contact, and it has certainly helped me, so I hope it gives him time to think things through. I have taken all of your advice (nice, new pics on FB, and I have started taking a cooking class!) His birthday is a week after the 30 day mark. Would that be a way to initiate contact? He isn’t really the type to respond to something like, ” I saw a cat that looks like you!”

        • Britney (again, less emotional this time)
          February 28, 2015 | 3:59 pm

          Also, would sending a card that just says “Happy birthday” and (maybe) a small gift be too much? I know you say gifts are usually a bad idea. I don’t want to appear weird.

  9. Eva
    February 24, 2015 | 3:35 pm

    We had been living toggether the last 6 years.I asked him to move because i want a family a baby and he didn’t so I thought that a break up was the only option I had at the time.I did many mistakes he did as well a lot.about a month ago he met a girl a nice one, one day they had coffee the next she moved with him.I know he loved me and I do love him is there a chance to get him back and have the family I want with him?I have implemented the NC for a month…any idea what to do next?

  10. Moni Staye
    February 24, 2015 | 1:32 am

    Hi my name is Mo. My ex and i broke up about Mid nov of 2014. He went back to his kid mother who has hes son plus another kid who was just born same month oct. He claim i pressured him to leave by making him pick her or me he chose her out pf pride as he said. I sat down with them both we all 3talked like adults and he stayed with her. O moved on with my life. Asked him toss any old things of my thru message. He replied he had already DONE so. We never talked again until the 16 of feb this month. I texed him saying i miss him just thinking about him its v.day. he replied back a few days later asking how am i and my kidalso he miss and love me as well” weve been talking on the phone. Alot. And messaging one another but only on our intragram. He has my number i have his but he doesnt wont mw to tex his phone. He says come see him. Tells me how hes relationship is rocky. How beautiful i am. Ect. I do the same’ Im always ending the convos and in comtrol WHAT DO I DO FROM HERE CAUSE IM SURE SINCE WE JUST GOT OFF THE PHONE HE WILL BE CALLING BACK IN A FEW DAYS AS WELL AS MESSAGE ME. ALTHOUGH I WONT TO SEE HIM. I SAY NO AND MAKE IT CLEAR IM A WOMEN AND WOULD NEVER WONT ANOTHER WOMEN TO DO SUCH THING TO ME. WE LIVE IN DIFFERENT CITIES and im always in his town

    • admin
      February 24, 2015 | 9:29 pm

      Seems to me like he has a bit of the grass is greener syndrome and he has learned that the grass isn’t so green on the other side.

  11. sarah
    February 22, 2015 | 9:35 pm

    my boyfriend left for another town and till then he has never contacted me, its after four months now and he is back, I found out recently that he has a new girlfriend…I confronted him and asked him but then I felt bad…I just don’t know what to do, he just left me here and all of a sudden he is back with a new girlfriend
    SOS

    • admin
      February 23, 2015 | 9:28 pm

      How long did you date him?

      Was it a short lived relationship or were you in a relationship for years?

      • sarah
        February 24, 2015 | 3:12 am

        we just started dating I can say 3 months

  12. Britney
    February 22, 2015 | 2:22 pm

    TWO QUESTIONS

    My ex and I met and dated two months after he divorced his wife of two years (they were together,eight) and while I didn’t feel like a rebound, he said and did everything BUT say I love you. I also had to play his therapist. After a way too drunken night where I was out of it and wet the bed, I suggested I just leave, and he agreed. He continued calling and texting, but didn’t think another date was a good idea. I didn’t talk to him for a week, then he messaged me a love poem. I found it cryptic, and responded with a love poem of my own. He didn’t respond for two days. So, I sent him this well-thought out Christmas care package. OK, here is where things get interesting:
    Gift Arrival: he calls and gushes how it is the most thoughtful thing anyone has ever done, and he loved me for it. I asked how work was going; he had gone out for drinks th co-worker. “Oh, who is she?” He laughed and said, “Don’t worry, she’s fat and ugly.” I told him I wasn’t worried, just making conversation. Later in the conversation, one of my guy friends since high school giving me advice on something came up. He goes, “Oh, him. He seems like quite the guy.” I assured him, I would never date my friend (truth. He makes a weird boyfriend). Then, he starts talking about how amazing our *ahem* intimate life was. He said he hoped it wasn’t inappropriate to say, but “it was amaaaaaazing. (hetil never had those feelings.” Unsure, I said, “Well,don’t think what once WAS could not be IS again.” We talked a bit more, hung up. On Christmas Day, I get well-wishes and pictures of him and his family (who I never met

    Call 2: After New Year’s. He tells me how he has gotten so much better, is truly over his ex (I am divorced, I know how it is). I tell him I’m proud of him

    Weeks of texts, me sending gourmet cookies, dog biscuits for his pup, and, well, going on one date with a guy who posted to Facebook (oh, great). We continue to text, I am relieved he does not mention the pic on FB (I took it down. It was ONE date and really dull). We text on and off like usual. Now, here is THE KICKER

    Friday Night (late)
    Me: what’s up
    Him: just hanging out with friends at a bar, they’ve got decent music.
    Me: cool, I just got home from a birthday dinner. Have fun.

    Saturday:
    A pic of him and a girl who works with him who sorta resembles me (sort of) who he works with has been tagged to his wall (not the same girl from the phone call. Different name). He said he was always completely against dating nurses (he is a medical resident) but she is an RN at his hospital. Turns out, the “friends” were her and all her friends out for. her. birthday. I text
    Me:Hey, saw the pic of you and your girlfriend on Facebook. So cute!
    Him: haha, thanks.
    Me: How long have you been dating?
    Him: A couple of weeks, I guess
    Me: Good for you! Glad you are happy :)
    Him: How’s law school going? Still modeling part-time? Saw your bikini ad posted on FB
    Me: Things are good.
    Him: Good for you

    End. I began NC promptly. It’s been 14 days. He will not say he is in a relationship on Facebook and untagged almost all pics of them.

    Questions:
    1) Did I miss some opportunity to get back together back there? Was I too aloof on the phone?
    2) Why did he keep texting after they began dating and did not tell me he had a gf?

    • Britney
      February 23, 2015 | 11:07 pm

      Chris, you skipped my questions. Are you confused, too, or do you have a possible answer?

      • admin
        February 24, 2015 | 9:18 pm

        No I think the word I would use is overwhelmed. Haha

        If ou want my advice for making things easier for me make sure you put your questions in bullet point form so I can just find an easy reference point.

        • Britney
          February 24, 2015 | 11:11 pm

          OK, I will just re-do my post.

  13. Lily
    February 21, 2015 | 7:28 pm

    My Ex and I broke up in the summer, but i love him so much!I stopped talking to him about 2 months ago.But now he has a new gf, that he seems to like a lot.What do i do? And the bad thing is he HATES me! HATES ME! I don’t know what to do? He wont even talk to me anymore and he said i really hurt him. We broke up because i broke up with him to date him bestfriend

    • admin
      February 22, 2015 | 5:13 pm

      Have you read version 2.0 of this article?

      • Britney
        February 23, 2015 | 5:16 pm

        Yes, I have, and I still need answers. We haven’t seen each other since October, but talked and text until now 15 days ago.

  14. Mary
    February 20, 2015 | 6:24 am

    Hi,
    So me and my ex boyfriend broke up about two months ago. We have dated for 9 months but toward the end of the relationship we were always constantly fighting. I’ve also noticed that he had changed a lot since when we first had started dating. When we first started dating he was open about everything and there was absolutely no secrets between us. However, he slowly started changing his passwords to his phone and was more secretive about what he had been doing or who he had been messaging. Basically, I found out that he was seeing someone else while we were on a break which was the reason why we completely broke up. But being me, I begged him after this break up to give us another chance again and I went full on crazy mode and he finally just ignored me. This led to us not talking for basically a month but when we got back to school we became close friends again. But our situation is so complicated because we have hooked up three or more times. If that’s not enough I think he might be together with this girl who I am actually really close with. If they are dating I really wish he would just tell me about it but instead he insists that they are not even when they call each other honey when they are texting or are on the phone. I can’t stop thinking about this and the curiosity I feel is making it twice as hard to get over him. I don’t know whether I should be honest with this girl (who may or may not be my ex’s girlfriend) about the fact that I’ve hooked up with him while they were together (if they are that is). I do find myself missing him at times even after everything that has happened between us but I know that I shouldn’t feel this way and I should work on moving on just as everyone says. I basically don’t know what to do.

  15. Gigi
    February 19, 2015 | 1:28 pm

    Hi Chris,

    Long story short my ex who I see a lot at work broke it off with me a couple weeks before our one year Anni. We broke up because of certain differences.. I remember he said he didnt want to be in a relationship for a long time. A month and a half later I find out he’s dating a new girl who is also from my work. I see them a lot at work and it can be tough at times. I’m nice to the new girlfriend because she talks to me sometimes (probably to keep tabs on me) but I ignore my ex or act like he doesn’t matter to me anymore (I used to smile and say hi) because he was cold shouldering me and avoiding to cross paths or look at me. When he’s far away, I sometimes catch him staring at me. It has been 4 and a half months and my goal is to be remembered-to get him to think about me. What do you suggest? Should I continue acting this way? Thank youuu!!

    • Gigi
      February 19, 2015 | 1:30 pm

      Oh and I haven’t contacted him in 2 months or more… I don’t plan on doing so anyways.

    • admin
      February 20, 2015 | 11:23 pm

      Right now I would say yes keep acting that way but eventually you probably will want to contact him.

      • Gigi
        February 21, 2015 | 3:10 am

        Yea you’re right, I’m starting to miss him again out of nowhere and want to contact him but I won’t. There’s no point when he has a new gf right? I was thinking I should start smiling at him at work?? Yes or no?

  16. Alexis
    February 19, 2015 | 12:31 am

    My ex and I have been broken up for 3 months. We’ve been in constant contact with each other. We’d call everyday before and after work. We also talked about what we can change in our relationship and ourselves. I said something about our anniversary coming up because it fell right on Valentine’s day. I kind of told him it was his fault we broke up. We dated for four years I think I forgot to add that. Anyways, after the arugment I asked him if he felt like I was putting pressure on him and he said yes so I gave him space for the day and called the next and all weekend: he never answered then on Tuesday he blocked me on vine, unfollowed me on Instagram and blocked my number. But he follows me on Facebook still I still hope that he and I can work it out. Is there any advice you can give me? I’m going to give him space and hopefully he’ll come around but anything else can I do. I feel bad about putting pressure on him.

    • Alexis
      February 19, 2015 | 8:42 am

      He also been talking to this girl on IG and he bought her stuff the day after our anniversary was suppose to be.

      • admin
        February 20, 2015 | 11:17 pm

        Ouch… That must have hurt.

    • admin
      February 20, 2015 | 11:03 pm

      Well, how long has he been dating this new girl?

      You commented in the new girlfriend section…

      • Alexis
        February 22, 2015 | 1:41 pm

        I know I didn’t mean to. I was reading all your articles. He’s not dating her right now but, he’s just talking to her. We dated for four years is there anyway I can reverse it and let him come back to me again? I’m trying no contact. I was pretty naggy and clingy. I had it the gasp of my hand. There was a whole weekend where I wasnt blocked and I could have just did no contact but I freaked out. I mean you don’t forget a four year relationship just with a snap.
        He told our mutural friend that he was trying to move on but he’s tried before and he comes back. Also, he also that He told me he still had feelings for me just a little over a week ago. I think he’d to block me because he knows when we talk the feeling will bounce back again. What should i do? I’m pretty hurt over the Valentine’s Day thing but when we do talk I don’t want to talk about it.

  17. Mercy
    February 18, 2015 | 3:51 pm

    Hi my names is mercy

    I dated my bf for over 1 year, he gave me some trust issues so I will accuse him of things that now I notice he was doing anything when I accused him. But one month ago I told him I wanted to break up with him because I focused on the negative in the most horrible way. But I didn’t because I realized I loved him. A week later he tells me his going to visit his friend in Orlando and that he wants some time but doesn’t want to break up with me but he isn’t feeling the same. So I broke up with him because I wanted him to figure it out. He then tells me to meet him the next day and we got back together n he told me his stupid. Two days later I accused him again of something really stupid.. Later that week he left and he was already acting different. Well he was gone he ignored me and barley called me. I found out his friend introduced him to a new girl that’s his really interested in. I broke up with him…it’s been three weeks and on Valentin’s he drove all the way to disney(4hrs) to take her to dinner…and he sent her flowers…. He talked to be before he went there how he wants me but his unsure….will get jealous if I talked to a guy…. But he stopped after he went to visit her….. I also had sex with him twice since we broke up…. Is there any hope that I could win him back!!!! And if the is help!!!!!!!!!!!!!! His told me that me falsely accusing him made his mind up for him.. Me and him have been throug so much!! And his always tried until he starting talking to his friend and then meeti this girl

    • admin
      February 18, 2015 | 10:03 pm

      Is that really your name?

      If he is gettin gjealous over you talking to another guy then he definitely has the I want what I can’t have syndrome.

  18. Lindzi
    February 17, 2015 | 1:46 pm

    Hello Chris,
    I broke up with my boyfriend. (duh) I did this because a bunch of people told me he was kissing and dating other girls. One of these girls told me that he hated me and a bunch of other rude things. I broke up with him, but after a couple of weeks I realized I was only happy when I was around him. That girl told me he got a new girlfriend around five days after I broke up with him, even though he said quote in quote ” I don’t think I can ever love again ” and ” I love you, but it would be akward if I asked” over social media. I felt really broken as he moved on so quickly and this new girlfriend acted like I was shit. I still talk to him frequently. I can’t stop thinking about him.

    • admin
      February 18, 2015 | 9:15 pm

      Have you attempted NC?

      Also, what is it about him that still draws you in?

  19. Gloria
    February 16, 2015 | 1:39 pm

    Hi Chris,
    I dated this guy for almost six years and we work in the same office. I was married before now but still separated and have not finalized my divorce. He has always had issues with my marriage status because of the stigma of him dating a married woman. This January he called off the relationship claiming he can no longer handle it and this happened when I found out that he has been talking to another girl on the phone for hours since the new year.

    Right now I have started the no contact rule for abt 10 days and I don’t talk to him when I see him at work. Which he regards as malice…. Right now the other girl has become so flighty in the office and easily excited over nothing. It is painful and sometimes I feel like screaming my head off when I notice that they are chatting on what’sapp but what can I do. He has added her on fb, Twitter and Instagram but to my amazement he keeps talking abt his past relationship on Twitter……

    What do you think?

  20. Alison
    February 15, 2015 | 9:32 am

    My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago now after 3 years (the longest relationship he has had) at first he didn’t speak to me at all but then he started talking and we were getting on ok. He had been seeing someone else in this time but when I saw him last week he said he wasn’t seeing anyone and was talking about getting a house and living together. We agreed to meet at the weekend and talk,even though he was calling me 10 times in one day asking me to help him sort some stuff out to do with his work the night before we were meeting he called and was saying he missed me and wanted to cuddle me and see me and he would see me the next day, however… the next day came and my friend called she said have you seen his Facebook? I said no he is blocked while I figured this out, she said he had just changed his profile picture to him and the girl who he was seeing when we broke up! I asked him about this and he said yes they are together they broke up and got back together… in a month? He kept apologising but I didn’t want to hear it he was saying all these things just the night before. I love him with all my heart and soul is there any chance I can get him back?

  21. Cee
    February 15, 2015 | 5:23 am

    My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 4 years when we broke up. We broke up because he was trying to turn his life around after going down a slippery slope and he needed to focus on himself. 1 year after we broke up he started dating a new girl, and he would occasionally tell me their problems but now they seem happy. At the time I was still upset with him over his turn for the worst. But now I’m in a better place and have realized I still love him and that we really had something special. Him and his girlfriend are coming up on their one year. Should I give up any hope?

  22. analyn mandac
    February 14, 2015 | 6:02 am

    please tell me what to do,we are mit married we have been together for almost 10 years,we have a son he is 8 years old..just this week i discovered that he is having an affair with a girl who happens to be my friend and his co worker..he told me that he is not in love with me and he doesnt want me in his life anymore..im asking him to give our relationship another chance but he really doesnt want me anymore..please help me what to do..i still want him back..

  23. Kim
    February 13, 2015 | 7:27 am

    Hi Chris, hope you can help by offering some clarity and guidance.
    Was with my bf on/off for 2yrs and we have been great friends for 10yrs.
    Towards the end of last year, he was dealing with some stresses and trying to figure out what to do with his life – fork in the road type stuff – unsettled and frustrated with the day to day and considering a bit of time out from the norm to recharge and explore different paths (he was considering a road trip around the country or trip overseas to help some family). I did encourage him to follow his gut and if it meant going on a bit of an adventure into the unknown, so be it – even though it would be hard to see him go. Anyways, I guess that’s the things.. We have always had a supportive/encouraging relationship. It wasn’t perfect by any means though, we both sucked at expressing our deeper feelings toward eachother verbally, but this was displayed in other caring ways. I had my fair share of freak out moments, but usually in response to his distancing when things got too intense or ‘cosy’. So…. That was end of last year. Things were a little off between us but I gave him space to think of what he wanted to do in the new year. He went away with friends for a week over New Years and came back a little clearer… Or so we both thought. He started hanging out with friends that he had put on the back burner and even with a younger group. He was acting aloof. A few weeks later he shut me out completely – obvious avoidance and getting angry/defensive when I asked what was wrong. The anger was a very unusual reaction. A couple of days later, he broke it off. Explanation: he met someone whilst on vacation. Developed feelings for her. Things have escalated quickly. She is from a different state, but will be moving in with him in a few weeks time. Apparently I misread the situation and feelings(really?) he seemed distressed when telling me I saw a few tears but I did not acknowledge them at the time as I was hurting just the same. I didn’t lose control or respond aggressively, was probably a little too calm actually. (I did cry like a mad woman once I got home though!!) NC immediately invoked. It has been 2wks. Longest period of time over 10yrs of not being in contact :-(
    The guy is a classic commitment phobe (not just me, but close guy friends say this too and have said so for many years), enjoys his independence and very guarded. I respected all of these traits and was ok with the pace – I have my own fears to overcome – we found a balance that worked. Am sure he did the same for me.
    I don’t quite get how he would all of a sudden do a 360! It’s so out of character. He has been gloating about the new gf moving in to close mutual friends, and their reactions have been the same as mine… What?!! This guy has gone bonkers!
    I am hurt but slowly getting there. I would love to have him back in my life but I have way too many questions and feelings to work through. Mostly disappointment in his cagey behaviour. It’s just not him!
    Could this be a type of rebound or escapist relationship given his state of mind in the lead up? I find it hard to believe he met someone and formed such a strong bond in a week. Infatuation, maybe. But the guy is like a steel safe. It has taken years to crack the walls.
    Do you think he could come back or am I too much of a threat since I know him so well (like a archilles heel?) thanks.

    • admin
      February 16, 2015 | 10:42 pm

      I think he could come back of course!

  24. Fhiona
    February 12, 2015 | 10:26 am

    Hi, me and my ex were together for 5 years he broke up with me because he was bored if life didnt want s relationship etc and wanted space it all came out of the blue, ive not found out hes got skmething with a girl
    In his work who he has inly know for anout 4 months, but we broke up 7 weeks ago this sunday he has toy changed and went a bit off the rails, he has got a new number which i dont have and jas blocked me on facebook.. Im so heartbroken we were so happy together couldnt of got a better match, everyone was so shocked that we broke up especially me i met him every sunday after the break uo to collect things as we lived together, i have now moved nack i to my dads. He was fine and so cuddly etc on all occassiom apart from the last meet up. I will admit i thought i was giving him space but i now see i wasnt, i was needy and clingy and so worried that he will fall in love with this new girl who by the way is completely different from me she is very chavy etc, i dont know if i have messed up or anything or i have ruined chances to reconcile.. I collected all my final stuff from the flat sunday there and have been in no contact with him then, i only spoke to him on the phone when i was getting ny stuff .. He called me just to make sure that id got everything and had left and i said i wanted to end on good terms .. Then he rushed off the phone as soon ad i said that. Im so worried being in nc will make it fall more in love with this new girl.. And hate me.. I dont know what to do i have his number his new one although he doesnt knkw i have it .. (He left it lying out and i seek it when i was collecting my stuff) i dont know what to do.. Will he realise the grass isn’t greener? Have i ruined all my chances.. Can i ever get him back.. Im in day 4 of nc today but had one a couple brief (like 30 second) convos with him in in the past week before i got my stuff .. Im so lost and dont know what to do :( i feel
    So broken lonely and such a failure!! I just want ti do everything to give the best chance kf us getting back together.. Ive made myseld very ill but been to the doctors to help me.. I just dont know what to do can someone please help?

    • Fhiona
      February 12, 2015 | 10:30 am

      I wish i had someway off mailing you the entire story so you understand better :(

    • admin
      February 16, 2015 | 10:18 pm

      Have you read my article on the grass is greener syndrome?

      I think if you read that then you will get an idea if he will end up thinking the grass isn’t greener.

      • Fhiona
        February 17, 2015 | 9:04 am

        Thanks for your reply.. Yeah i have read it, and many other articles on it and the symptoms are spot on. I can see this new girl isnt right for him she is completely opposite from me.. Something must of worked if we were so happy for 5 years.. Everyone was so so shocked and couldnt believe when we separated, there was no reason. i think thats what the case is, im really struggling on where to go from here.. All i want is to get him back more than anything its very rare you get a special connection like we had, and im so scared hes to stubborn to speak to me .. Hes blocked me on fb, and got a new number so i dont have any form of contact to him apart from through family or friends.. I just dont know where to go from here, on how to get him back.. Is there any hope?

        • Fhiona
          February 18, 2015 | 7:36 pm

          Im just so scared to loose him forever and dont knkw what to do in the meantime to make my chances as good as i can or have i messed up too much already, im desperate for any advice :(

  25. Mei
    February 11, 2015 | 9:42 pm

    Hi Chris,
    My ex has been seeing someone new for about a month and the problem is — he will answer/return my phone calls but will not text me. I think this is probably in fear of having proof that I have been talking to him, but I find it quite odd. How can I build enough friendly vibes over phone calls to build back a texting relationship and sway his feelings towards me?

    • admin
      February 16, 2015 | 9:51 pm

      I would say you are right.

      Though he could just delete the texts if he had to.

      How long do your phone calls typically last with him?

  26. Dajah
    February 7, 2015 | 5:33 pm

    Hi. My ex and i broke up 10 years ago. He has a girl who hes been with for 8 years. We just found out that we live in the same city and weve been messing around behind her back. He cant be that happy where he is if hes sleeping with me, right? What does this mean?

    • admin
      February 9, 2015 | 4:07 pm

      No… BUT you are setting yourself up to be the other woman…

      • Dee Dee
        February 11, 2015 | 12:56 am

        Do I quit sleeping with him? He wants to go out on a date(his idea).Does that mean its not just about our strong sexual attraction? Hes initiating all the contact. Texts, phone calls, etc…. But he still has a girlfriend! He even opens up to me about his problems with her. He speaks fondly of our past relationship. Am I just a neutral sounding board or are there some feelings still there? Should I go on the date to the restaurant or start operation No Contact? Or go on the date, show him a great time and then start operation NC? We broke up 10 years ago and just found out we live in the same city. Weve been sleeping together for about 3 years all while hes has the girlfriend. The funny thing is that immediately after we broke up, I went to his apartment to try to patch things up and he wouldn’t even sit next to me. Now, 8 years later, he cant help but touch me? Whats with the huge shift? Trouble in paradise? First he was all faithful, now we have sex every week. He says hes torn? What the hell is that? Hes asking me not to kick him to the curb just yet… It seems like he wants to make sure that things wont get better where he is, before he moves on… Also, shes got kids hes been raising for 8 years. That throws a big wrench in it. Hes already moved out on her 3 times, so I know he can, but for good?

        • Dee Dee
          February 11, 2015 | 1:00 am

          How do I tip the scales in my favor?

        • admin
          February 11, 2015 | 2:06 pm

          YES!!!! You shouldn’t be sleeping with him. You are just enabling him.

  27. Charlotte Williams
    February 6, 2015 | 9:43 am

    Me and my boyfriend broke up about 2 months ago and in the same week, he started what seems to be a rebound relationship. The seriousness and intimacy has jumped up what we have really quickly. We were arguing the other night and he told me I was never really good enough and he loved her a week after he met her. I`m not sure whether he is doing this intentionally to hurt me or whether he is being serious. He is trying to make me jealous I swear because when I went out with another boy, he followed me with his new girlfriend. Yesterday, he said “I love you” and we looked at each other and then he went on about his new girlfriend. He has made the effort to message me since I implemented the nc rule but they have been mean messages. What can I do? He keeps asking me whether I have any feelings for him left at all.

  28. Kaesha
    February 4, 2015 | 7:01 pm

    Me and my ex boyfriend Steve were together about 9 months we got into one time and he said he wanted to take a break and focus on him and I got upset and went about it the wrong way. so he said he wanted to breakup I did the no contact for about two weeks then apologized to him and he forgave me and we were back on. he started back acting the way he use to and things were going good. I made the mistake of being back clingy with him and always calling and texting him. he seemed to be acting back distant towards me and I asked him whats wrong and he just went into a shell again and wouldn’t talk to me so I left him alone for a week I go on facebook and some girl tagged him in a post saying they were in a relationship 2 days ago im extremely heartbroken and I do want him back ive been calling him a lot trying to talk but he keeps ignoring me what should I do I really want him back

    • admin
      February 5, 2015 | 3:19 pm

      Ok, it looks bad you calling him after their relationship goes public. You do see that, right?

      • Kaesha
        February 5, 2015 | 6:29 pm

        Yes I agree it was wrong i was upset and didnt have the self control at the time im jus lost right now and dont know what to do

  29. GIGIBYOUT
    February 4, 2015 | 12:07 am

    Love this site!
    So we’ve been flirting a lot when we see each other, and he finally initiated a talk that he wanted to have with me. He said he’s considering us getting back together more than he was before which to me means progress, because before he was saying he didn’t and wouldn’t want to be with me even if he wasn’t dating his new gf (before the 30 days NC). He also said he REALLY Loves me, I’m his best friend, he wants more babies with me; and since it’s only been 36 days, he did mention us taking more time to see if my improvements are permanent. Also, so we can work on things…Like I said he wasn’t talking like this before. So I plan to go into this making his emotional attraction to me stronger. He already has a hard time keeping his eyes and hands and that other secret part to himself, but he knows I will say no since we are not together. He gave me a few things to work on as well, that he felt would sew things up. I do plan to work on those things asap… I’m in love with this guy, so naturally being distant and doing 30 days of NC was hard but ended up making me less clingy and overall a better person. I’m in love with myself and my new found look, positive energy, happiness, and new career path. I like that I’m no longer bitter or angry and all that dark stuff that comes with break ups. Our kids too are happier even though they miss their father being at home… I just have to find what it is that will make me very irresistible to him and make him want/need to come back and make things work for us and our kids. He likes that I’m out going, outspoken, a joker/humorous, loving, caring, beautiful inside and out…etc But I’m picking up now that since we aren’t arguing or throwing low blows at each other, and I’m calm, and closer to his family more than ever; he’s thinking about me MORE because like I said HE was the one who wanted to talk about “US”. Before the NC it was me who initiated those talks. The conversation went very well and he even told his mom we had a really good talk, which is rare. His mom does still tell me to continue to focus on myself and our kids because a man will notice when you aren’t available for their every want and need and then want to come around. Plus he’s still with the new gf and I shouldn’t be focusing on that… He will be coming to see our kids Sunday for a couple of hours, any suggestions??? I thought about asking him to dinner in a few weeks and/or to take our kids to the science center?? I feel so close and yet so far from having him back in me and our kids lives…. However, I can sense that he wants to come back to me but he just wont for whatever reason. I’m going to stay calm though, but I would like to know if what I plan to do next is a good idea. Which is attracting him emotionally and also inviting him to do something…. Thanks in advance!

    • admin
      February 4, 2015 | 2:15 pm

      Glad you love it!

      I like your plan!

      • GIGIBYOUT
        February 4, 2015 | 6:29 pm

        Great, thank you!

  30. Swetha
    February 3, 2015 | 12:46 am

    I have a ex bf who loved me four years. we are in four years of relationships. I mistaken him and broke up with him cause he had new gf. but the thing was not true. I accidentally trust my friends word and I did fight with ex. and then he tried to talk with me he add me in fb and find my number. but I didn’t reply him as usual and I lied him that I had bf. he trust my words and now he have another gf. I found it after one year brake up. I really wanted him back. he still texted me even he had gf. he still keep my pictures. I really angry and finally asked him you have gf so why you still texting me. I ask him to love me back and forget all. he refused and he said he had new gf already. how can I make my ex to love me again

    • admin
      February 3, 2015 | 1:31 pm

      Well, begging for him to isnt the way to go.

      You need to attack this from a position of strength.

  31. Valaina
    February 1, 2015 | 7:25 pm

    Hey :) can you please help me?
    My ex boyfriend and I were in a 7 year on/off relationship. He broke up with me three month ago and said, he really wanted to marry me because I am the love of his life but we are too diffrent for example: religion, culture.
    After two months he went to visit his family and met a girl there. He is posting pictures of her everywhere and telling his friends she is the one. She is perfect for me etc. When I asked him if that was true, he kept lying and he said he dosent have a girlfriend (but his best friend told me he is lying, he just dosent want to hurt my feelings). I was so hurt, that after five days he is saying she is the one (she has the same religion, culture etc.) that I told him i don’t wanna have contact with him anymore. he came ove to give me my stuff and kept telling me he loves me and i am the love of his live (but still lying about the new woman) he even kissed me and slept with me and kept telling me all night long, that i am the love of his live and he is so sad its over and that it didnt work out. Now that i told him I dont wanna have concat with him, is there any chance to still get him back? I know he messed up by lying to me but I love him so much. Pls help me!!!

    (sorry for my english, I’m from Vienna)

    • Valaina
      February 1, 2015 | 7:30 pm

      I fotgot to say that she is his sisters best friend and she is a model :/ and they are all telling him to marry her. In theyre culture if you meet a girl and she meets yout family than you have/should (to) marry her. I don’t think she is a rebound, because his familiyis involved. his sister was the one that intraduced them and everyone is calling him brother in law etc. (but he is still lying and saying she is just a friend but posting pictures of her in his facebook)

      • admin
        February 2, 2015 | 2:25 pm

        Thats a strange culture…

        I guess I am too americanized haha.

    • admin
      February 2, 2015 | 2:26 pm

      Your english is fine!

      There is still a chance but you have to be willing to do the NC rule.

  32. Natalia
    February 1, 2015 | 3:05 pm

    Hi Chris, I really need your help. Me and my ex had been dating for moreless a year. We broke up in September. The reason was simple: I was his 1st love so he probably wanted to experience more before he settle down. He said he didn’t feel like at the beginning of our relationship. I was so sad, the relationship we had was srsly amazing, we had just small fights, we had the same taste in music, food, we had common friends, we knew each other’s parents, the love we shared was passionate and strong. But then suddently this happened and we broke up. After some time I met a guy and we started dating.I really wanted to move on since my ex hurt me a lot. unfortunately, the more I was with him, the more I realized I still liked my ex. When my ex found out I was not single, he went totally mad. He unfriend me on FB and texted my friends if it was really true and stuff. That was in November. In December, we met on the New Year’s Eve. He didn’t even talk to me, he was freezing outside the house until I left.. However, at 5am he texted me, drunk. When I replied the other day, he was kinda cold. 2 days later he texted my again, on his bday. He said that for his bday he wished us to keep in touch normally. He said that he wanted to stay friends, that he didn’t want to make things worse. 3 weeks later we met on the ball. He invited me for a drink and we talked for more than hour. By this time I was not with that guy I dated anymore and on this ball I decided to tell my ex at least a bit of the truth. He cleared some things up and we explained each other some things. It was really nice.. Then he finally add me on FB and texted me. Unfortunately, I found out he his kinda seeing someone. That girl is from his class, they’ve known each other for over 3 years! He always told me things about her that were not much nice, like no insults but still. He always considered her as a friend, he even told me many times she is not attractive. They are not official, they didn’t even tell anyone, like if it was a secret. Our common friend find out by accident and she doesn’t understand this either. She said he was definitely not it love with her because she is sure he still likes me.. That girl is completely different than he is- and Im not saying it as an ex girlfriend that still likes his ex- but as someone who knows him perfectly. I hope she is just a rebound because I just know he doesn’t love her, they are in the same class everyday, they are not official and they are just so so different..I wonder what shall I do to finally make him realize we should give it another try..It’s shame how it ended- which he said aswell, as well as that I’m simply special to him…What should I do? Is there still a chance?

  33. Lise
    February 1, 2015 | 3:26 am

    First of all, thank you for helping us out. my story is i broke up with my bf as we used to fight a lot, he ws the jealous type n cudnt accept wen even i was trying to be friendly wid a guy tat i hd rejected. Our fights got real bad tat eventually i got fed up n broke up wid him. At dat tym smeone else came to my life n supported me to face all probs i was hving in life n we started dating shortly after. My ex bf (didnt kno abt my new relationship) was devastated abt the break up n tried a lot to convince me to get bck bt i didnt giv in didnt kept any contact. After much time, i heard dat he got a new gf n has moved, dis has shattered me completely n all the pain he went thru, im nw going thru dat. i seemd to hv forgot all the reasons y iv dumped him n cud only remember the good times we hd together. All this time i was fine until i heard abt dat new girl. Am i hving the ‘i want wat i cant hv’ syndrome? Is my new bf a rebound relationship? Pls help me since i cnt stop thinking abt my ex despite being wid my new bf nw

    • admin
      February 2, 2015 | 2:00 pm

      Is your new boyfriend a rebound?

      You should know that better than me haha.

      Generally speaking if you are asking if your new bf is a rebound its not good… I will just add that in.

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