Welcome to Episode 34 of the Ex Boyfriend Recovery Podcast.

Wow, 34 episodes.

I am super proud that we have reached this point in the pod-cast’s lifespan.

Recently I have decided to kind of get away from the one episode per day format and go to a one episode per week format. My theory is that you guys get more out of a really high quality, in-depth podcast episode.

After all, one of the things that sets me apart is the fact that I go into much more detail than my counterparts.

Well, today we are going to turn our attention to rebound relationships.

We are going to hear from “Anonymous” who believes,

  • That she was the rebound
  • She dated her ex for 5 months
  • When he broke up with her he went back to his ex of 3-5 years
  • Wonders what kind of chance she has

Lets take a look at what was covered in this episode,

What I Talked About In This Episode

  • The three main factors I look at to determine a rebound relationship
  • The Grass Is Greener Syndrome (GIGS)
  • The two choices anonymous has
  • How to get him back if she chooses to do so
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Important Links Mentioned In This Episode

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What You Have Going In Your Favor If YOU Are A Rebound

Below I have compiled a quick list of what you have working in your favor if you determine that you were a rebound to your ex boyfriend.

Oh, and there really isn’t a game plan in this particular episode so I am doing this instead.

Sorry if you wanted a game plan the next episode will probably have one.

He Broke Up With His Ex For A Reason

Anonymous’ ex went back to his ex.

Well, the two of them broke up for a reason and history does like to repeat itself.

Besides…

Most People Don’t Have The Right Mindset Going Into A Relationship With Their Ex

The statement above pretty much says it all.

When most exes get back together they expect things to be better but the problems of the past are still there and both members of the relationship have to find a way to navigate them.

Speaking of past problems…

Past Resentment

Lets say that anonymous’ ex was cheated on by his ex.

Well, if he gets back with his ex then that resentment is still going to be there.

This can cause problems in their relationship.

Podcast Transcript

Welcome to Episode 34 of the Ex-Boyfriend Recovery Podcast. It’s been a little while since I’ve done one of these. I may have bitten off more than I could chew with my initial plans to do three of these a week. I’ve downgraded it to one a week. But I’ve decided that every single episode is going to be longer and more in depth. The person whose question I answer will get the attention that they deserve.

On that note, my wife and I have been throwing this idea around for a little while. We are pretty keen of the idea of doing some coaching on the website. We want to take on something like 15 to 30 clients where the clients pay a monthly fee for our services. We would create a tailor made game plan for their situation. We guarantee email response every 24 hours to any question they have. We answer every question they could have in depth.

In addition to that, we’re also thinking about bundling all of the ebook offerings. One of the reasons I’m so busy lately is that I’m starting to create more products for the Ex-Boyfriend Recovery brand. I just finished a product on the un-gettable girl, and how to become the un-gettable girl. It’s about how to become more attractive to any man in just two weeks.

It’s a two-week training course through email. Every day, the training advances. You start off with the simplest parts of the training. As time goes on, things get more and more advanced. I just finished that up. I’m going to be offering it for $7. It’s very affordable. I’m hoping a lot of people jump on the opportunity to buy that. I will give you more information when that comes out.

There is still more to come in the pipeline. I also have plans to create what I’m going to call a texting bible. Imagine that you are trying to get your ex-boyfriend back and you’re in the middle of texting him. You are in the texting phase of the re-attraction process. You’re really struggling on what to send.

This is probably one of the most asked about questions that I get on the website. Women will ask, “Chris, what should I send in this specific situation? What can I say? How should I end the conversation?” I’ve decided to put a lot of time and effort into creating a texting bible. It’s a reference guide that you can turn to.

You can say, “In a situation where I’m trying to build attraction to an ex, these are the perfect text messages for that. In the event that he gives me some push back, these are the text messages for that.”

Any kind of texting situation you can think of, I’m trying to create a book to guide you on how to deal with all of those. It should have something like 300 to 500 text messages in there. It will be in depth and explained. It’s going to be quite a challenging process but I think I’m going to start doing that.

There is a lot of stuff going on. I’m in the middle of redoing the Sarah versus Kai case study. I’m making it more in depth and helpful for you. I want the free case study to be highly valued. That’s information that you usually have to pay for.

On the cusp of all of that, I think I’m going to be doing this coaching idea, where I take on a specific number of clients and tailor make a game plan for them. I give them the coaching that they deserve for a monthly fee. I’m not going to say that it will be the cheapest fee in the world because my time is very valuable. It will not be something like $500 a month.

I have an idea of my time value. I think a lot of people are going to jump on this opportunity so I’m a little bit frightened to do it. I’m afraid that there won’t be enough spots and I won’t have enough time to do it. I’m capping it around 15 to 30. That’s what’s been in the pipeline for Ex-Boyfriend Recovery. If you’re an avid fan or listener of this podcast, be excited.

This year is a really huge year for growth. We released a podcast this year, redid the ebook, redid the website and we’re creating more products. We have plans to increase our social presence across the world. There’s a lot changing with the Ex-Boyfriend Recovery brand.

In addition to that, I’m still trying to create content and be the same old me, the same guy who writes these 7,000 to 8,000 word guides on how to get your ex back in this or that situation. I’m really busting my butt to try and help you out. I do want to apologize for not recording these podcasts as much as I should but that’s my lame excuse.

Let’s get to today’s question. The person who asked today’s question didn’t give a name. We’re going to call her Anonymous. Her question is rather short but I’m going to expand a lot on it because it deals with an interesting topic. That topic is rebound relationships.

Let’s hear from Anonymous now:

“What if I was the rebound girl? What if you find out later that you dated for five months, he breaks up with you and gets back with his girlfriend that he dated for three to four years? I never asked him how long it’s been since they had dated. I just assumed it was a length of time. What if I’m the rebound girl?”

First, let’s recap. She’s asking about rebound relationships. She wondering, what if she was the rebound? She dated her ex-boyfriend for five months. We’ll round up to half a year. She says that he got back with his ex of three to five years. On the one hand, we have Anonymous who dated her ex-boyfriend for five months. On the other hand, her ex-boyfriend dated this other girl for three to five years. It seems like Anonymous doesn’t quite know the time frame of his relationship. Let’s split the difference and say that they dated for four years.

Her question was general about being the rebound girl. I’m going to answer the best I can. I don’t know the goal she is trying to accomplish. Let’s make a goal for her here. What should she do? Should she try to get him back or move on? That’s the goal.

Let’s start first by talking about rebound relationships. Rebound relationships are an interesting thing. A lot of people have different theories on them. I subscribe to the theory that there are three things you need to look at to determine if your ex-boyfriend is in a rebound relationship or if you were a rebound to your ex-boyfriend.

The first thing is how long you dated your ex-boyfriend. Right now, we’re focusing on Anonymous’ situation. We’re trying to figure out if she was rebound. She said she dated her ex-boyfriend for five months. That’s a decent amount of time. But it is not sufficient enough to not be a rebound.

I would say anything over a year or close to a year is bordering on not being a rebound. Five or six months is usually in that section where a rebound relationship is still possible. A lot of times, when men date women who are rebounds, they don’t necessarily want to just break up with them right away. There are some advantages that they get when having a rebound woman.

It’s an interesting dynamic. Deep down, women understand or know subconsciously that they are a rebound to this guy. The way they usually figure that out is the way they are being treated by him. One of the things that I’m always talking about on Ex-Boyfriend Recovery is the importance of making a man chase you. It also works for women, too. If a man is not getting you attention and you’re wondering why, wondering why you’re not being treated the way that you think you can be treated, what does the normal woman do?

The normal woman is going to start chasing her boyfriend to get that attention. This creates a dynamic where, instead of him chasing her, she’s chasing him and always wanting his affection. Men, being the way they are, love attention. They love affection. They love feeling like they are the greatest thing walking God’s green earth.

A rebound gives that to him. A rebound prevents him from thinking about his past relationship. He thinks he’s awesome due to his current girlfriend, even though he’s potentially using his current girlfriend on an emotional level.

Let’s get to the physical benefits of a man being in a rebound relationship. Often, women who don’t feel this intense need from the men try to overcome by having sex with the guy. They think in their minds, “If I sleep with the guy, he’s bound to have feelings.” Women attach a certain stigma to sex.

They attach a certain emotional connection to it. That’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s just that, a guy who is in a rebound relationship probably isn’t going to attach that same emotional stigma to it. He’s probably going to enjoy it very much but it’s not necessarily going to be enough for him to commit.

The first thing that you need to look at to figure out if you are in a rebound relationship, Anonymous, is how long you dated. Based on what you said with five to six months, I think you are in that territory where you are potentially a rebound relationship.

Let’s move on to the second thing. The second thing that you want to look at to figure out if you are in a rebound relationship is how fast he moved on. It seems like Anonymous doesn’t know this. I’m just going to tell you. Generally speaking, men do not get over relationships as fast as you think. I’m trying to think back to my very first relationship. I probably wasn’t over it for a few months. Still, I was pretty resentful. I think anytime that anyone’s resentful, they’re not truly over it. I dated the girl for nine months. It took me about three months to get over it, to where I didn’t care anymore.

Since you do not know how long it took him to move on, Anonymous, let’s go through some general guidelines about the time it takes him to move on. If he just broke up with his girlfriend and, a week later meets and starts dating you, you are definitely in that rebound territory. If he broke up with his girlfriend, and a year later meets you, then you are not in rebound territory. A year should be more than enough for a four-year relationship. A year should be enough for him to move on, be alone and gain hold of his feelings to a certain extent.

There is one asterisk I have to put by this. Let’s say he was married for 25 years. He’s probably not going to get over that in a year. After being married that long, he probably wants some freedom, too. It would probably take him a longer time. I think there is a correlation to how long he has been to his ex-girlfriend and how long it takes him to fully get over the relationship. However long it takes him to get over his relationship usually plays a factor in the rebound issue.

The longer that he’s in a relationship with a girl, the longer it will take him to get over the girl. In order for you not to be a rebound, he has to be fully over that woman. Some men are different. Some men jump from relationship to relationship and never have a really long-term relationship. I guess that’s another issue entirely.

The second factor that we’re looking at here is how fast he moved on. Unfortunately, Anonymous, you do not know that.

Let’s move onto the third factor. The third factor is how long he dated her. I talked a little bit about this just a second ago. It is important how long he dated his ex. The longer he dates his ex, the longer it will take him to get over the relationship. That’s just the way it works.

Ideally, in a perfect world, he only dated his ex for two months and you dated him for six months. Then you are probably not a rebound. But if he dated his ex for six years and he dated you for six months, then you probably are a rebound.

When we look at all these factors, Anonymous, based on everything that you said, even though one of the factors is missing completely, I will say that you are definitely at risk of being a rebound relationship. That’s definitely possible. It seems like, after you two broke up, he immediately ran back to his ex-girlfriend. That tells me that he was thinking about his ex-girlfriend while in your relationship or that he trusted her enough to help with the pain.

I’d like to switch gears here and talk about the grass is greener syndrome. The grass is greener syndrome and the rebound relationship goes hand in hand. This is how the grass is greener syndrome works. A guy starts dating a girl. He compares this new girl to his old girlfriend. If the old girlfriend was better, that’s going to make her more attractive.

He’ll be more likely to come back. If the new girlfriend is better, he’s going to be more un-attracted to his old girlfriend and be more likely to stay. The grass is greener on the other side. Sometimes it is and sometimes it isn’t. It seems like, in this case Anonymous, you struck out here. When I usually talk about the grass is greener syndrome, I talk about women using it to their advantage.

Leverage your old relationship with him to your advantage. But it seems like you’re on the opposite end of the spectrum here. It seems like he was with you and potentially got the grass is greener syndrome about his ex-girlfriend. He wanted to go back. I would not say that you need to be depressed over this.

What I’d like to talk to you about now is the error of his ways. Right now, you’re faced with an opportunity. You’re faced with a crossroads. There are two things you can do. You can either try to get him back or move on. Let’s talk about getting him back since I know that’s probably what you’re more interested in. Then I’ll talk about moving on after that.

In order to get him back, he needs to break up with his ex-girlfriend. The one positive that you can take out of this situation, Anonymous, is that, in my experience, the work doesn’t stop just trying to get an ex back. It also has to go into maintaining the relationship. I am more qualified than probably a lot of people to tell you this. A lot of times, when people get back together, they end up breaking up again.

That’s due to a number of reasons, which I’m about to list. The first one is that they did break up for a reason. He and his ex-girlfriend did break up for a reason. History often repeats itself. I don’t know if you know this, but the part of your brain that is triggered when you go through a breakup is the part of the brain that’s active in a cocaine addict. Essentially, when you break up, you’re going through a withdrawal period where you want your ex back. Men have the same brains as women. They’re going to get the same type of cocaine-type experience after a breakup.

Let’s hypothetically say that, after his breakup with his ex, he started getting these withdrawal symptoms. He dated you but this withdrawal symptom did not go away. Eventually, after he broke up with you, he went back to his ex. The part of the brain that is triggered is also the part of the brain that is triggered in cocaine addicts.

When he gets back with his ex, eventually, his brain is going to mellow out. He’s going to default to his normal setting. How he felt initially in the relationship with his ex is eventually what he’s probably going to arrive at again. It sounds weird, I know I’m talking about cocaine.

The cocaine part of his brain is going to deactivate a little bit. He’s going to mellow out. Once he mellows out, he’s going to default back to that original setting he had and the original problem that caused the breakup in the first place. It’s entirely likely that he could get back with his ex and then history is going to repeat itself again.

The underlying issue behind their breakup is not going to go away. That’s one of the things you have in your favor for them to potentially break up. He could potentially run back to you.

Many people don’t have the right mindset going in. When people get back with their ex, they expect that they’re just going to pick up right where they left off. They want things to be like they were before. There is a flaw there. A breakup is one of the most emotionally troubling experiences that you can go through as a human being. You don’t just forgive and forget that. A lot of people think that when they get back together, they’ll pick up where they left off, but it never is.

The most successful people at holding relationships together when they get back with their exes are the people who come in with this mindset of, “I’m going to create a new and better relationship.” They don’t try to pick up where they left off. Part of the problem with picking up where you left off in a past relationship is the fact that the past relationship failed. Why would you want to pick up where you left off in a failing relationship? No. Something needs to change. Albert Einstein once said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result every time. It is insane to think that you’re going to get back with your ex, do the same things, and it’s going to be all good. No. It’s insane to think that.

You need to change something up. When a lot of people get back together, they don’t have the right mindset. It takes two to tango in a relationship. Both of you have to be in agreement on this mindset. You have to really work hard on this relationship. Something tells me that he’s not going to do that.

The other thing you have going in your favor here is the past resistance of his relationship. Obviously past problems in a relationship don’t go away. Cheating comes to mind here. If he was cheated on by his ex-girlfriend and he dated you and then comes back to her, it’s not like his resentment for that cheating will magically disappear. The sins of the past are still probably following him around. He’s holding on to these resentments. I think that could also work against him and his ex.

When it comes to getting him back, Anonymous, if this is the path you want to go down, time is your best asset here. Move on without moving on. With that, I want to switch gears here and talk about moving on. Like I said, you are at a crossroads. You have two decisions. You can either try to get him back or you can move on. It’s really simple.

What I like to do is propose a theory that merges the two. Obviously you want him back. But if you really want to get him back, sometimes the best way to do that is to move on. Like I said, for all the reasons I listed, they broke up for a reason and history repeats itself. Most people don’t have the right mindset going in. There is the past resentment of the sins of the past.

All of these reasons are headwinds that he and his ex-girlfriend have to overcome. There is a lot of history there. The fact that there’s a lot of history and it didn’t work out doesn’t bode well for them. It takes a special person to really hold things together. Something has to change this time around for them.

When you look at it like that, sitting on the sidelines and watching the demise is probably all you have to do. Then after some time after their breakup, you can try to approach him. That’s my advice if you were to try to get him back, especially since it’s most likely that you were a rebound. My advice would be to lay back and let the thing fail on its own. The odds are against them. I’m a percentage person. I’m very logical in my thinking. When I look at situations like this, I try to look at the percentages. It’s a high percentage that they end up breakup up again for one or all of the reasons that I just listed. Sometimes all you have to do is wait.

I don’t want you to just sit on your hands and wait for them to break up, and then strike. That’s not healthy. I can’t tell you how many times I tell women this, but your time is extremely valuable. Do not waste it. This is the premise of moving on without moving on. Their relationship is probably destined to fail.

But don’t just wait around and expect it to fail. That’s not smart. That’s not a high percentage game. You want to move on. This is weird, because I know deep down, you don’t want to move on. But by moving on, you become more attractive to him. His relationship will start to fail. Then he’ll start comparing his current relationship to you and thinking, “Maybe I didn’t have it so bad with her.”

Also, you’re going to give yourself more options. I think that’s really important for you. It really works in your advantage. If you move on and you find out four or five months later that they’ve broken up, and you’re still not over him, then you just go after him. In the meantime, work on moving on. I know there is a lot of hesitation from women about this, especially more mature women in their 30s who are looking to settle down.

They’re not just looking to party, have fun with their girlfriends, play the field a little bit with guys or go on a bunch of dates. I find that women who want to settle down are almost scared to go out of their way and start over. They don’t want to start with someone new.

It’s almost like a video game. Let’s say, in a video game, you advance to level 10. The last thing you want to do is start over from level one and then work your way back up to level 10. No. You want to move from level 10 to level 11. It’s kind of like that. A lot of women are hesitant to move on because they think if they have to start over with someone new that it’s like starting over from level one.

There is all this time and effort they have to put into the relationship to get to level 10. Then they’re expecting a deeper commitment. It just feels helpless at times. I’m here to tell you, don’t be afraid to start over. Your time is valuable. This is probably the smartest game plan that anyone can come up with for you. Move on without moving on.

Look, I know you want the guy back. I know it’s important to you, but since you’re a rebound, you need to find a way to assert your value. You need to find a way to make him understand that you are a high-value woman. The best way to do that is to move on.

I’m going to link to an article for you about how to get over your ex. In there, I teach you how to move on. I don’t necessarily want you to cut him out of your life entirely. I think just for a few months is probably a solid idea. If you decide that, after you’re trying to move on, you still have feelings for him then that’s great. You’re just buying yourself time.

Like I said, for all the reasons I listed, I think that their relationship is probably destined to fail. Once he’s single again, that’s when you can strike. For now, just move on. Try to play the field a little bit. Try to go on some dates. Try to start over at level one. I know it’s a scary thing. It takes a lot of energy and effort to move from level to level. Just try it out.

A lot of times, I find that it’s usually when women go through their darkest periods that something really good is just around the corner. I’m a glass half full kind of guy. I choose to believe that. Anonymous, I wish you the best. If you have any questions, please ask a question in the comments section.

Anyone listening to this, if you have any questions about rebound relationships or the premise of moving on without moving on, please ask questions in the comments section of the show notes here. You can find them at www.ExBoyfriendRecovery.com/episode34.

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92 thoughts on “EBR 034: Are YOU The Rebound For Your Ex Boyfriend?”

  1. Michelle

    September 11, 2018 at 6:04 am

    Hi Chris,

    My situation seems unusual but I just really need some insight into what to do with my relationship. I was actually in a nine year relationship and was engaged. This ended about a year ago because my ex was cheating on me. I met someone new at the beginning of May at a local restaurant. He actually lived in Australia for 4 years and came back to live at home just a few weeks prior to us meeting. He was in a 3.5 year relationship with a girl there and I assumed they ended things mutually because she couldn’t leave her family to live in the US and he was missing his family back home. I at first was hesitant to start anything because I was talking to someone else at the time. I finally gave him a chance and we really hit it off. After about 2 weeks he told me he loved me and wanted me to be his girlfriend. Things were perfect for the next couple of months and we were talking about planning our lives together (marriage, living together). He would always look through my phone which I didn’t really care about but all of a sudden he would get super protective of his phone. He would say things like how can I cheat on you i’m always with you, which was true. I had his location so that’s not what I was worried about. I just kept having a gut feeling about his ex. Fast forward to last week when I actually caught him sexting his ex on whatsapp. He had it hidden. I am not sure if he never stopped talking to her or if it happened after we started talking. He apologized and admitted what he did was wrong. I later found out they have a house together in Australia that is being fixed up to sell. He initially said he was keeping nice with her to get money from the house and because he’s afraid she will hurt herself. I want to be with him, I do love him but I don’t know what to do. We’ve been talking for over 4 months, me sleeping at his parent’s house every night. We literally spend every second together. He says hes more attracted to me and that I am perfect for him. Over the past week since finding out about his sexting he’s been so hot and cold saying that he’s probably better off single. Then I found out today that the ex wants to come here and try to maybe live here and reconcile their relationship. This is why he’s been so hot and cold because he doesn’t know what to do. He says she’s a nice girl and they have a lot of history together. I mean I literally went through something similar last year. Just because you have history together doesn’t mean you’re right for each other. If that was the case I would still be with my ex. I got over my ex because I stopped contacting him, but my bf now keeps talking to her. I feel as though he has to cut all contact with her so that she will be able to move on but I can’t tell him to do that. I feel like sharing this house is baiting him in. Every time I bring the girl up he gets so stubborn, but I feel like this is really important to talk about. I’m just confused that he’s keeping me at the side until she comes here. I really do not know. I understand that the house they are fixing up together is important and that needs to be settled. He is the one that pursed me. We could have just been hooking up but he wanted the relationship with me. He says that his ex is depressed, but I feel like that is so selfish not letting your ex move on. You shouldn’t be relying on a person to make you happy. Realistically it’s either he chooses her or he has to end things with her because he will never be able to start any new relationship if the ex is still in the picture. I did not think that I was a rebound in the beginning, but now i’m not too sure. Please provide me insight into what to do because I really feel strongly about him, if I didn’t I would have just given up by now. Thank you!

  2. Val

    April 13, 2018 at 5:46 pm

    Hi,
    so a couple of weeks ago I met a great guy..we went on a couple of dates which were absolutely amazing. During the weeks we were dating HE was the one pushing it towards a serious relationship, he would make plans for the future, introduce me to his mother and friends.. Although I had my suspicions that the break-up from his last girlfriend had not been long ago, I started trusting him because he was treating like I was everything he had been looking for.
    Then a week ago he suddenly changed his mind..He came to my place and told me he was sorry but wasn’t ready to commit to a new relationship and although I am an amazing woman he just couldn’t feel what he was supposed to feel..I was completely in shock and didn’t say much. The day before that everything was going more than fine!

    My suspicion is that his ex must have contacted him the night before and made him realize he still isn’t over her..

    Last weekend I sent him two long text messages, telling him that I believe he made a mistake but also that I won’t contact him again..he didn’t reply.
    So far I was able to stay strong and haven’t contacted him.

    But I am so heartbroken and want nothing more than to get him back, although it sounds pathetic..We just clicked and I have never met anyone like that before..

    Do you believe there’s any chance he might reconsider his decision?
    And is there anything I can do to get him back eventually?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      April 14, 2018 at 3:27 am

      HI Val! Thanks for dropping by. Yes, that could have happened and/or he got spooked. Time is always an arbitrator in these matters. So use is wisely. Employ No Contact in the most strategic way you can. Just go to my website Menu and click on Products….and you will see various resources (ebooks, etc) that is intended to offer people a comprehensive blueprint on how to maximize your chances. Best of luck to you Val and let me know how things proceed.

  3. barbie

    March 24, 2018 at 6:06 pm

    hi
    my ex and I dated for a year after him being single for eight months… he had been with his ex for four years. .. I saw he had contact with his ex and seemed to be pursuing her so I ended things but we had an amazing bond and I now miss that and would like to be with him

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      April 3, 2018 at 12:55 am

      Ok, so the basic starter question I ask just about everyone. Have you attempted any sort of no contact rule?

      Also, I know it’s been some time since you made this comment. How are you doing now?

  4. Roxi

    March 17, 2018 at 11:46 am

    Hello
    After 1month of his break up we met
    In first step he told me he likes me. He is a boxer
    1_he told me after first game I’ll spend my time with you .but after his competition he uploaded a photo of himself with a girl in a party and didn’t come. after one week he told me that was just a old photo and said sorry
    2_after first date he pulled away, he told me that you entered in my life at the wrong time. I have to practice and prepare myself for the tournament. I must be in the national team.he always ignored my texts and calls.
    3_at second month I wrote a comment at his Instagram account and called him my boyfriend, he immediately deleted it and then we didn’t connect to each other .after one month‌ i sent him a message ,then he asked me about sex he : I don’t have time for relationship with you even though I haven’t time for sex .
    I just want sex becuse you are sexy .
    me : sex without any emotions is it possible?
    He said : it’s not without emotions . me:so do you have any emotions about me ? But he changed the subject
    4_we were together for about 6 month without sex.he was ready for helping any women. he had time for them but not me.
    5_the financial problems came to him and he told me about his issues .I borrowed money from my friend for him but he said: you’re very kind but I can’t accept it after 2 weeks he suddenly deleted my number without saying anything when I said hi, he blocked me on WhatsApp then I sent him this massage:I didn’t know you hate me , sorry for bothering you with my love , good luck and take care. After that no contact.
    .its about 1 month . I guess he is in love with a woman in his past .

  5. Roxi

    March 12, 2018 at 6:24 pm

    He deleted my number then blocked me on social Media. I was his rebound for about 6 month , he broke up with me about 3 weeks now. Why he told I love you , trust me , I’ll never let you down .but suddenly he ignored me and didn’t care about me but l love him.he isn’t with his ex but he is madly in love with his beloved .there’s any chance to me that he noticed I’m the right one for him ?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2018 at 8:44 am

      Hi Roxi

      When was the last time you talked to him or initiated contact?

    2. Roxi

      April 3, 2018 at 10:38 am

      After 1month of his break up we met
      In first step he told me he likes me. He is a boxer
      1_he told me after first game I’ll spend my time with you .but after his competition he uploaded a photo of himself with a girl in a party and didn’t come. after one week he told me that was just a old photo and said sorry
      2_after first date he pulled away, he told me that you entered in my life at the wrong time. I have to practice and prepare myself for the tournament. I must be in the national team.he always ignored my texts and calls.
      3_at second month I wrote a comment at his Instagram account and called him my boyfriend, he immediately deleted it and then we didn’t connect to each other .after one month‌ i sent him a message ,then he asked me about sex he : I don’t have time for relationship with you even though I haven’t time for sex .
      I just want sex becuse you are sexy .
      me : sex without any emotions is it possible?
      He said : it’s not without emotions . me:so do you have any emotions about me ? But he changed the subject
      4_we were together for about 6 month without sex.he was ready for helping any women. he had time for them but not me.
      5_the financial problems came to him and he told me about his issues .I borrowed money from my friend for him but he said: you’re very kind but I can’t accept it after 2 weeks he suddenly deleted my number without saying anything when I said hi, he blocked me on WhatsApp then I sent him this massage:I didn’t know you hate me , sorry for bothering you with my love , good luck and take care. After that no contact.
      .its about 2 month . I guess he is in love with a woman in his past .

  6. Anonymous

    December 7, 2017 at 1:33 pm

    Hi Chris,
    Me and my ex-boyfriend were best friends for 2 years before our relationship. Recently he broke up with his ex-girlfriend. I had feelings for him even when he was in relationship with her. But after 2 years of an on-off they broke up and I thought that this is a chance for me to confess my feelings towards him( as he was single). He said he also liked me even when he was with her and then after a month of their breakup we both got together. The relationship sadly lasted for only a week and the reason for breakup was no reason at all( as stated by him). Now we are just friends but the friendship bonding is not as it was before. I know I was a rebound but I really love him. He is dating girls after our break up. Is this to make me jealous? What should I do? Can I get him back? Please help.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 11, 2017 at 8:39 am

      Hi Anonymous,

      When was all this? Honestly,I don’t think he’s dating other girls to make you jealous.. Are you going to do the advice above?

  7. Sarah

    December 4, 2017 at 4:43 am

    I was LD dating him (not in the relationship yet) for 6 months. His last relationship was 2 years and ended 4 months before we met. I think I’m kind of like the rebound. Well, he always said he’s hopeful and trying to make us click.
    Just few days before we “broke up”, he mentioned that his ex reached out to him asking if he could marry her. Seems he rejected her.
    Is a rebound like me have high chance of getting him back after NC?
    Thanks!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 5, 2017 at 2:08 am

      Hi Sarah,

      it depends.. how active are you in improving yourself right now and in posting?

  8. Laura

    November 21, 2017 at 2:56 am

    Hi Chris,

    So I have a similar situation as this but my ex is dating someone new. He broke up with his ex of 6 years we got together 6months after that. We dated for about about 5-6months before out of what seemed like no where he broke it off. Shocking not only me but all of our mutual friends. He insisted that it wasn’t me it was him and that he really likes me but he needs time and is confused about what he wants. It has not been about 2-3months since we’ve officially been over and about 3-4weeks since the last time we hooked up. He is now dating someone new. Was I just someone to pass time with? Or is this new girl a rebound relationship as well?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 23, 2017 at 1:13 am

      Hi Laura,

      Looks like you are both his rebound

  9. Help ...

    November 8, 2017 at 2:55 pm

    My and ex known each other for 2 1/2 years the first year and a half we just hung out , hooked up .. I guess you can say FWB but we were both fine with it . He has just gotten out of a four year relationship with a girl he planned on marrying and I wasn’t looking for anything serious but after a year and a half of spending time together we got serious and fell in love and got toghter for a year . It was drama and a headache on both of our ends . Finally this last month he started acting weird .. I begin to be a text gnat he said he needed space I wouldn’t give it to him .. he become hit and cold one day calling me and the me t not answering.. one day I blew up his phone he told me he had gotten back with his ex .. I left him alone 7 days later I called him and his number was changed I called his work phone and he told me he was serious about being back with his ex and asked me not to call him …
    Looking back on it I think he was stuck between us , and by me constantly calling him cussing at him and insulting .. ruined my chances ..
    At times I do miss him and our realtionship but I know it’s for the best & I can find someone better.

    But I often think of him and think was I just a rebound ? Did he really just use me for a whole year ? Or was the love real ? I guess I want closure .
    Not really sure what to do next and move on without thinking of him ..
    he was my first love/relationship

    it’s been two weeks since we last spoke.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 8, 2017 at 10:18 pm

      He probably did love you at some point but moving on means doing the right thing, the activities that help you grow no matter what you feel. That’s normal to think that way, your mind is trying to make sense of the hurt, so it’s generalizing all men.. but the more you do what you love, the more you will meet the people who have the same advocacy and hopefully, you’ll meet the right guy there too with the same interest as you..

  10. Help ...

    November 8, 2017 at 2:54 pm

    My and ex known each other for 2 1/2 years the first year and a half we just hung out , hooked up .. I guess you can say FWB but we were both fine with it . He has just gotten out of a four year relationship with a girl he planned on marrying and I wasn’t looking for anything serious but after a year and a half of spending time together we got serious and fell in love and got toghter for a year . It was drama and a headache on both of our ends . Finally this last month he started acting weird .. I begin to be a text gnat he said he needed space I wouldn’t give it to him ..he would be hot and cold one day calling and the next not answering . one day I blew up his phone he told me he had gotten back with his ex .. I left him alone 7 days later I called him and his number was changed I called his work phone and he told me he was serious about being back with his ex and asked me not to call him …
    Looking back on it I think he was stuck between us , and by me constantly calling him cussing at him and insulting .. ruined my chances ..
    At times I do miss him and our realtionship but I know it’s for the best & I can find someone better.

    But I often think of him and think was I just a rebound ? Did he really just use me for a whole year ? Or was the love real ? I guess I want closure .
    Not really sure what to do next and move on without thinking of him .. I don’t want to turn into a bitter girl who thinks all guys are bad .. but that’s kind of were my head is right now .
    Because he was my first love/relationship.
    it’s been two weeks since we last spoke.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 8, 2017 at 10:18 pm

      He probably did love you at some point but moving on means doing the right thing, the activities that help you grow no matter what you feel. That’s normal to think that way, your mind is trying to make sense of the hurt, so it’s generalizing all men.. but the more you do what you love, the more you will meet the people who have the same advocacy and hopefully, you’ll meet the right guy there too with the same interest as you..

  11. Dena

    October 22, 2017 at 12:46 pm

    I was the rebound. We had a wonderful time together for the month we dated but he went back to his ex. I broke the nc rule after 2 wks. He responded to me positively and expressed that he still likes me but is talking to her but that could change for the right woman. I didnt argue with him but expressed to him that I still think hes fine and will see him again sometime. Then he said he’s still open and that I need to just steal him. I didnt respond to that then he texted back saying “please.” I didnt respond after that. What does he mean? That he’s available but he is still hanging out with her. I looked on her profile of fb and she had pics of them last night where she tags him. But he doesnt show any of that on his fb page, in fact it still shows his status as single. What should I do? Just lean back and let things work itself out? Im not really comfortable trying to intervene into their relationship start any drama. Im not sure if he really wants to be with her or he wants me, hes giving me mixed signals. I think I should just move on without moving on and maybe he will eventually reach out to me when that relationship with her ends.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 24, 2017 at 4:34 pm

  12. danny

    September 27, 2017 at 7:29 am

    I’m doing fine I guess, I have very suportive friends which invite me to do lot of stuff, I’m planning doing some trips abroad in the next months..the only way I can show him my improvements is telling him directly, he doesn’t have any social media account..last time we texted (4 days ago), I gave him a hint about is frequent contact with his ex, which he replied “believe me, time will bring the answers, better than anything I can say right now.” I then changed the subject and when he had to embark to the airplane (he returned home) he said we would continue the conversation later. What is he doing? he’s still not texting/calling first or wanting to meet, am I being put on hold, what should I do now? Is she winning me over?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 28, 2017 at 11:13 pm

      he doesn’t have to have a social media account, if he gets curious, he can ask or use a friends’ to check yours..it looks like they’re still seeing each other

  13. danny

    September 20, 2017 at 10:01 pm

    I’m in a similar situation as Anonymous girl, me the rebound (6 month relationship) against his ex girlfriend (6 years), with slight diferences: we were good friends before and had feelings for each other, although never acted upon them of course; she is younger than both of us. As soon his ex broke up to be with someone else, he looked for me and we eventually started dating. His ex found out and started calling and gnatting him, threathening, insulting us and became needy and desperate to get him back. Even so, he supported her in her difficult times, she is an anxiety-driven person. As we were being affected with all of this and his confusion was growing, he broke up with me to clear his head and to “save” our relationship (his words). After doing No Contact for a month, sadly one night I ran into them going out for coffee together. I tried to stay cool, anyway she was kind of arguing with him later when they left. I texted him positively 3 times so far (within another month period) which he was always responsive, even said that still cared about me. Currently he is working abroad for a short time and I know they talk/text everyday in the chat app (don’t know who starts), like we used to do when we were together and he was abroad…he just responds when I take the initiative. I want him back and to be his priority, but I don’t want to act foolish. He isn’t on social media so it’s hard to show him my improvements (he his like Chris, logical and introverted kind of person). Also, I need to know if they are dating again, should I just simply ask? If so, should I keep contacting him occasionally or disappear for good?
    Thanks in advance for analyzing my situation..

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 26, 2017 at 7:15 pm

      Hi Danny,

      Ask, if they are, move on.. If not, how much did you improve during your nc and are you still improving yourself now? You still need to be active in posting so that when he gets curious, he will see it..

  14. Sarah

    August 22, 2017 at 7:54 pm

    Hi Chris and gang.

    I started seeing my ex after met him online. He is going through a divorce from his ex that he was with for 13 years. She cheated on him when he’d had a motorbike accident. They split up 17 months ago and they are currently divorcing where she is buying him out of the house. He left his job and moved city 7 months ago, leaving all their friends behind and started a new life ( he says he doesn’t speak to his ex only through solicitor for dealing with divorce as believes that he could never trust anyone that cheated on anyone). He said he felt he was ready to move on but after 2 months, he admitted to me he was still suffering from his ongoing divorce and was depressed which he hid from me and has been to a Dr and been put on medication as he was suffering not long after leaving me that weekend. He came off his motorbike again after leaving me and felt it was Karma and that . From the moment we started talking to meeting up, we had everything in common, same values and ethics, we connected instantly and both said that it felt natural and he often said he couldn’t believe how much we have in common and how easy it was, he said he didn’t feel like he was having to compromise like he’d previously done and that they even argued over what to eat and that he’d never met anyone like me. He joined me on holiday and we spent every weekend together. When he broke it off he said that he really really cared for me but he wasn’t over his ongoing divorce (we had discussed it and he said that he had hoped it would be over with so he can put it behind him but every time his solicitor got in touch with more things to do his heart sunk that it wasn’t over with). He did say he knew I would be upset but knowing how much he was hurting me is just as bad and that he knows I would get over him but his suffering is ongoing and it’s made him irrational and stupid. I tried immediately to try to fix it but he said it was over. I sent him one last message stating that I understood that he didn’t intentionally mean to hurt me and thought that if we had met after he had properly divorced and was fully over that relationship then it would have worked out but I also understood he was not ready for this at this time. I ended it with that I hope he manages to sort everything out and get to a point where he is fully ready for a committed relationship before he goes looking again and to take care. It has been 11 days NC and he has blocked me from Whatsapp and Facebook. Was I just a rebound? do I do the NC and try to make contact? Any comments will be helpful at this stage.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 22, 2017 at 10:08 pm

      Yup, it looks like you’re a rebound.. For me you should move on for now..

  15. Sarah

    August 21, 2017 at 11:39 pm

    Hi guys. I met my ex online and we hit it off straight away, we had the same values, liked/disliked the same things, got on so well to the point we both commented how easy and natural we felt around each other like we’d known each other for ages not weeks. We spent most weekends together and he came on holiday with me spending a fantastic 5 days with each other where he said he was besotted with me and I was so calming and we started making plans for the future. I fell head over heels for him. We dated for 7 weeks before he broke it off stating he wasn’t over his ongoing divorce and had realised he was depressed and had to see a Dr and get put on medication as he was so low after leaving me the weekend before. He said it wasn’t fair on me and I would move on and he was deeply sorry for hurting me but he really really cared deeply for me. He had told me that he had been married for 13 years and that she had cheated on him when he was in hospital after a motorbike accident and so they agreed it wasn’t going to work. He split from her 17 months ago and moved to a different city leaving the house and all their friends to start again and had been on his own for 7 months before meeting me. He was still dealing with his solicitor re the divorce and said that they only communicated through solicitors as she was buying him out of the house and that each time he got an email from his solicitor that it was taking even longer he felt like his stomach dropped. I do believe he isn’t wanting to get back with her and I told him that I really believe that had we met after his divorce and when he was completely over his ex relationship it would have worked and that he needs to make sure he’s fully ready for a committed relationship before he goes looking for someone again. It’s been 10 days since we broke up and had no contact, he blocked me on WhatsApp and Facebook (which is better for me to help me deal with it). I know think was I just a rebound and should I reach out to him and if so how long do I leave him for? Thanks

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 22, 2017 at 10:08 pm

      Yup, it looks like you’re a rebound.. For me you should move on for now..

  16. TOTGA1113

    August 2, 2017 at 2:59 am

    Hi Chris and the members of the team!

    Your website saved me from insanity during my post-break up period with my boyfriend (now ex). Here’s what happened. We met when I was single and he just got out of a long term relationship. He said he doesn’t love her anymore. When we were together, his ex wanted him back when she found out about me. I discovered that they were still in contact and they’re always together. I broke up with him when i found out. He tried to win her back after our break-up. I followed everything you said in your articles. I followed the no contact rule and moved on without moving on. Few months after the no contact period he started contacting me and said he missed me. He wanted to meet but i always turn him down. He said he wanted closure and he wants to meet me for the last time. I agreed. When we met, we kissed and one thing led to another. He said he’s unsure but he wants me back but he keeps seeing his ex and me. I got angry and told his ex what he’s been telling me. He got angry and blocked me on social media. Please enlighten me on what to do.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 4, 2017 at 5:08 pm

  17. Carol

    June 16, 2017 at 7:42 am

    I had been dating someone I met through my cousin for about 6 months or so. We had met a few times before over the years and I had always been interested and let him know in person and aon social media but nothing came out of it. When we started dating, it was a bit casual at first and then got really intense really quickly, like I met his family and he took me to his brother’s wedding after a few months! He broke up with me about two months or so after the wedding out of the blue, and I later found out that he had had a very very serious girlfriend right before me for a year and a half, that he used to call her the ‘love of his life’ and they broke up a few weeks before our first date. We’ve been broken up for a few months but I heard recently that he and his ex have been talking pretty consistently since then. Does this mean I was the rebound?!?!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 17, 2017 at 7:45 pm

      yes, you were..

  18. Ari

    May 3, 2017 at 5:47 am

    Hi Chris,
    I dated a man for 5 months. While dating, I found out that he left her to be with me. I thought they were broken up when he initially started pursuit. We had an intense 5 months full of many beautiful highs. However, we also had some arguments revolving around questionable contact with other women and him comparing me to his ex-gf. (And the usual new conflict and developing a mutual communication style) I found out he ran into her at the store when he called to tell me he wanted to take a break, and that he felt guilty for how things ended with her. He assured me that he didn’t want to pursue her and that their relationship was irreparable. They dated off and on for 4.5 years. He cheated on her and opted to online date instead of be with her. Though, he said the only reason they didn’t work was because he wanted to move to the west coast and work in tech. (Yet, he dated other people for the year he still lived near her.) When he broke up with me, he assured me that it was just so he could work out his career goals and some family dysfunction, that he was overwhelmed. He also said he still saw a future with me and loved me. We texted and chatted for a few weeks, but he started getting distant. He’d contact me and then wouldn’t respond when I texted back. When I asked him about it, he said that he was pursuing a relationship with his ex-gf. He said he never loved me, that we couldn’t be friends (even though I told him that before), and acted as if I was clingy even though I was following his request to text him. He completely gaslit in order to garner favor with her. The ex-gf contacted me on social media and called me an “ugly psycho,” which makes me believe he’s been telling her lies about the future he’s been selling me. I’m now on day 25 of no contact and have been working out daily, improving myself, etc. You recommend “moving on without moving on” but what’s the timeline for that? Does the normal 30-45 days and then text apply or do I have to wait 3 months or wait until he contacts me? Do I even have a chance given how they’ve broken up 3+ times, and I may have been in rebound territory? She said the only way she’d be with him again is if he married her; so, them getting back together could be serious. She also seems really insecure (since he broke up with her for other women so often) and unstable — given that she’s contacted me multiple times on social media insulting me. Even when we were dating, she feigned pregnancy in order to get his attention, banged on his door late night threatening self harm, broke into his place and found my information to then contact me, etc. The thing is, I think she followed your advice to attract him back because her social media has a very staged display of photos and she played the friend card when he was overwhelmed and pushed me away. What do you suggest I do? Thanks.

    1. Ari

      May 4, 2017 at 5:36 pm

      Should I even be the first to make contact (text) since he said he can’t talk to me while he’s pursuing her? Also, given that he was so dishonest, shouldn’t he be the one to pursue remorse with me? He hasn’t contacted me during NC. If I contact him, would it send the wrong message that his dishonest behavior was acceptable?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 5, 2017 at 4:12 pm

      it’s ok to not initiate..just set a limit on until when you would wait for him initiate..

    3. Ari

      May 4, 2017 at 12:58 am

      By posting, do you mean social media? We aren’t friends on social media. I blocked him after he started the gaslighting nonsense with her. Do you mean better than who I was or than the ex-gf to whom he returned? Chris mentions waiting a few months because it’s likely they’ll break up. Does that mean the usual 30-45 days doesn’t apply? Thanks.

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 4, 2017 at 3:19 pm

      Yes, in social media. Unblock him but don’t send a friend request. if you can’t, just make your posts public.. Better than yourself..He means it’ll take a few months of building rapport,after your set no contact period

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 3, 2017 at 7:40 pm

      well, if you did nc were you also active in posting? would he see you better than the person he knew?

  19. Kitty

    February 7, 2017 at 6:08 pm

    Since me and my ex broke up three months ago I have come to realise I was definitely the rebound girl. He dated his ex for three years on and off, got with me two months after and we dated seriously for five months. Looking back the red flags were there, but until I read about rebounds after we broke up I didn’t even know there were obvious signs! I can probably now pinpoint the day his ex got back in touch with him. He told me she’d contacted him and actively assured me he loved me etc etc. He had a couple of major things happening in his life that were very stressful, but at the time I didn’t realise his confused feelings for me and her were adding to that. Under normal circumstances the way he was in the final couple of weeks of our relationship I would have ended it myself, but I didn’t want to be seen abandoning him at such a terrible time.
    He broke up with me via text message (cowardly if you ask me) and since then (11 weeks) I’ve had two texts, the first one breaking it off and saying he doesn’t love me and a second telling me he is back with his ex and that I could never have replaced her. The truth is I couldn’t replace her because we are two complete opposites. They had a very toxic, physical and verbally abusive relationship and she has a very different lifestyle to me. I have worked hard, have a good career etc. I’m not blaming her, he chose to go back, i’m just struggling to understand why he would return to a toxic relationship. I’m told this has to do with his self esteem and self worth. After they got back together she sent me abusive Facebook messages and I had to block her. We are two very different people in a lot of ways, and the sensible part of me says why would you want him back, but I’m really struggling to get over him. I’m moving on in terms of hobbies, work, socialising and holidays, bettering myself etc, But if I was to hear they had broken up I don’t know if I would want to peruse getting back with him. He is not on any social media and he had blocked me on his phone, I presume I still am. I still occasionally speak to his sister but other than that we have no mutual friends. I’ve been NC for about three weeks (I emailed him to ask about his kids and he did reply briefly). Any advice would be appreciated.

    1. Kitty

      February 8, 2017 at 9:08 am

      I think if I’m honest with myself I’m using it to move on without moving on at the moment, there’s still that little part of me that hopes he gets back in touch.
      But the sensible part of my brain is saying just move on, he has, he’s not bothered about you. I think ultimately I need to move on for my own wellbeing and sanity! 🙂

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 8, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      ok.. that’s good.. take your time..dont rush moving on..it’s a process

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 7, 2017 at 11:37 pm

      Hi Kitty,

      are you doing nc to move on?

  20. Kristine

    January 11, 2017 at 11:20 pm

    Very insightful article and blog. Wouldn’t find or read content like this elsewhere. I’m a big fan of your talent and cause. “Move on without moving on”.. I’m all for that. Just a question though, how much time should I go NC? My situation is a bit different, and dare I say, less complicated as my ex didn’t run back to HIS ex after he broke up with me (he’s blocked her on social media when we started dating). He just has a lot of hang ups from his ex. So.. obviously, it’s a different scenario than a regular break up. Should I go NC much longer? I’m more than a month in after the break up and started to actively reach out to him with positive results/reactions. But I’m just wondering and a bit worried if I should have gone NC a bit longer and waited til he’s actually ready and willing to make the first move himself. Can I go NC again after initiating contact and pull away a bit? Will really appreciate your input.

    1. Kristine

      January 13, 2017 at 10:23 pm

      Thanks, yes, I’ve become quite independent and emotionally stable after my NC, I’m so glad I stumbled upon this blog, it can really change lives.. While I’m ok, I’m just wondering if he still needs time to sort things out in his head, if I should have just waited for him to actually decide to want to work it out and get back together rather than me making moves to reestablish contact. Thoughts? And do you think pulling away a bit is a good idea?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 14, 2017 at 3:11 pm

      sometimes, it can work if the nc is longer because the relationship can have a restart and if you’re continuosly improving yourself then it raises your chances..if you feel in your gut to do another nc, do so.

    3. Kristine

      January 13, 2017 at 2:51 pm

      Thanks for your reply! Well, throughout our relationship, he would often complain about how bad his ex treated him, how negative, childish and clingy she was, and how he actually developed anxious feelings when they were together. They would fight a lot, and she would either verbally abuse him or give him the silent treatment. It didn’t sound like a pleasant relationship and he would describe them as “two very different people”. But, as we now all know, he doesn’t have to be still in love with his ex for me to assume that I was a rebound, because mere lingering feelings of frustration towards her and their failed relationship also counts. So, there.. Would really love to know the answers to my previous “no contact rule” questions..

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 13, 2017 at 4:57 pm

      ah.. hmm..it depends more on how much you changed and improved.. If you did, just continue that now while rebuilding rapport.. if you are going to restart, it has to be a full nc..that means nit replying to him at all again in your set timeline..

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 13, 2017 at 12:04 pm

      Hi Kristine,

      what do you mean by hang ups? What were the hang ups?

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