It’s an interesting question, “is my ex in a rebound relationship?” In fact, it is probably one of the most asked questions I get from women whose exes have moved on. On this page I am going to be writing a one of a kind, in-depth guide on rebound relationships. I am going to dissect every single aspect of a rebound that I can think of and come up with an educated guess on how long you can expect your exes new relationship to last. Now, I do think it is important to point out that this isn’t an exact science. Just because I will be predicting things on this page doesn’t mean they will happen.
While I may know most men and can predict their behaviors in the end we are dealing with a real life human being here and if there is one thing that I have learned from my experience running this website it is that human beings can be unpredictable by nature. With that in mind, lets dive right in!
What Is This Page About?
Well, it’s about rebound relationships of course! Ok, perhaps it might be more accurate to say that it is about understanding rebound relationships and how to tell if your ex boyfriend is in one. As always I am going to give you a complete rundown of what you can expect on this page.
- We will be defining what a rebound relationship is.
- The nitty gritty details of rebound relationships that matter.
- How to tell if he is in one.
- The warning signs of rebound relationships.
- And I put together an infographic at the end that will tell you how likely it is that your ex is in a rebound relationship.
One last thing. I realize right now you are going through a pretty tough time emotionally. You may not even know if you want your ex back, seeing him with another girl may have killed any feelings you have for him. However, if you are very serious about getting him back I would like to point out that I have put together a special training for you to undergo,
Rebound Relationships – What Are They?
Here is a scary fact, USUALLY all relationships before marriage end. Think about that for a second, every single relationship you will have before you get married is going to end. Sure, maybe you “reconnect” with someone from your past after marriage but still in the strictest sense you aren’t technically dating. Lets pan out a little bit further now and look at the institution of marriage. A lot of people often quote the “50 percent of marriages end in divorce” statistic but I am not going to do that. I just want to look at things in a big picture sense. I think there is one thing that we can all agree on, a lot of people break up, before and after marriage. So, if you are going to take that view then aren’t almost all relationships a “rebound?”
Rebound relationships are very specific to a certain situation. Lets hit the pause button now and define what a rebound relationship is.
Rebound Relationships- A type of relationship that is formed very quickly after a painful breakup with someone who you had an emotional and intense relationship. Rebounds are often used as crutches to soften the blow of the emotional heartache you could be feeling.
So, a few key points we should highlight here. Rebounds often occur very quickly after your ex has broken up with you (or you broke up with him.) The question now becomes, how long would you say quickly is? Well, you are here because most likely because your ex boyfriend is in a new relationship and you are trying to figure out if that new relationship is a rebound. So, the true thing we are trying to figure out is how quickly he moved on to a new relationship after he dated you.
The thing about men is that they tend to move on quicker from relationships. Now, there are exceptions to every rule, me personally, I can’t jump from girl to girl because I am just not built that way emotionally. However, I am the exception to that rule. I can tell you that most guys are able to move on much quicker from a relationship than women can. Now, here is the interesting thing about guys moving on. Just because they moved on to a new relationship doesn’t mean they are entirely over you. In fact, most guys who do move on aren’t over you at all.
Most experts will cite the coveted “if he moved on to a new relationship before a six month period then it is a rebound” rule. However, I am not entirely sure that it is that black and white. There are a lot of factors in play here. Factors like:
- How long your relationship with him lasted.
- How quickly he moved on to someone new.
- Does he have good memories from your relationship?
Lets hit the pause button again and take a look at how each of the things I listed above can work together to tell if your ex is indeed in a rebound relationship.
How Long Your Relationship With Him Lasted
I started with a biggie first! If you and your boyfriend dated for at least a year than that is a really good thing. You see, I think it is impossible for a guy to just forget someone, who he spent a year of his life with, while he moves on to someone new. That year that you spent with him will always be in the back of his mind when he is with his new girl. Remember, the definition of a “rebound relationship” is if your ex is basically using someone so he doesn’t have to face the heartache of getting over you.
So, in the simplest terms…..
The longer you dated your ex = More likely he is in a rebound relationship.
How Quickly He Moved On To Someone New
Another important factor to consider is how quickly he moved on to someone new. I talked about this in the lead up above and have put off giving a direct answer on this until now. I would say that if he moved on to a new relationship within three months after his breakup with you then it is highly likely his new relationship is a rebound.
Now, this factor works directly with the factor above, how long your relationship with him lasted. You see, if you only dated like a month and he moved on to someone new after three months then I am not entirely sure that would qualify as a rebound relationship. You see, a couple who has dated at least a year has had time to develop their feelings towards each other and create reminiscent memories. Of course, there are always exceptions to every rule which leads us to our next factor.
Does He Have Good Memories From Your Relationship?
There are a couple of things I would like to point out here. Remember above when I said that it is unlikely that if you dated your ex for a month and he moved on within three months that the new girl is a rebound. Well, here is your out. In that month if he had incredibly good memories with you there may be a slight chance that the new girl is a rebound.
Now, the opposite can be true as well. Lets use a different example for this explanation. Lets say a girls boyfriend has moved on to a new relationship within the three month time frame we set above. The ex couple had dated for two years. However, the girl and her now ex boyfriends relationship was filled with nothing but bad memories. Well, while I still think that in this imaginary case the guy moved on too quickly there is always a possibility that his new girlfriend is not a rebound because the girls previous relationship with him is filled with nothing but bad memories.
More Warning Signs Of Rebound Relationships
Rebound relationships are distractions. Nothing more, nothing less. This distraction is meant to prevent a man from feeling what he is supposed to feel after a breakup in order to heal properly. Now, whether or not RR (rebound relationships) work in the healing process is not what we are here to explore. My goal with this page is to strictly educate you on RR, help you figure out if your ex boyfriend is in one, and give you a time table on how long you can expect his new relationship to last. By now, if you have read what I have said above you should be quite knowledgeable about rebounds. However, there are a lot of other rebound “warning signs” that can occur during a rebound that could be staring you in the face.
I wanted to add this section to make sure I have all my bases covered. Lets dive right in!
Did You Know That It Is Possible For Rebounds To Start Before He Has Even Broken Up With You?
Kind of scary huh? He could already have met his targeted rebound girl while he was still in a relationship with you. Now, I think it is important to point out that if he cheated on you with this girl than I would not classify that as having anything to do with this. In fact, there are an entirely different set of questions that have to be addressed in that case.
Anyways, here is how this usually works. Your ex is unhappy in his relationship with you, he is already planning on breaking up with you, or if he isn’t planning it yet, he is at least thinking about it. Enter a new girl into the picture. Usually, he meets her at work, begins flirting with her and you take notice. Essentially, he is lining up his rebound. Think of it like a batter on deck at a baseball game. After he/you ends the relationship he moves on to his new girl who he had lined up way ahead of time. It is a cruel practice but it is also common.
Your Ex Goes Out Actively Seeking A New Relationship (Within A Three Month Time Period.)
Out of all the warning signs I am listing in this section I will admit that this one is probably the hardest one to be on the watch out for. You see, it requires you to know your ex extremely well. To the point where you can read his mind and since I highly doubt you are professor X from X-Men then this one you probably won’t be able to look for. Nevertheless, I want you to know how the male mind does work after a rough breakup.
There are usually two types of guys after a breakup. The first type of guy is like me. He will take some time after the relationship to heal a little bit. The second type is like a buddy of mine. He will go out on the prowl looking for chicks. Usually, the second type of guy, like my buddy, will not create a meaningful relationship with any of the chicks he ends up “picking up.” However, in the case that he does. He won’t be able to give her what she wants, a true emotional connection. Hence, he is using her as a crutch to get over the breakup.
Family And Friends Are Surprised He Is Dating Again
This one is a pretty common warning sign. In fact, out of all the signs I am discussing here in this section this is the one that resonates with me the most. Why you ask? Simple, I am very connected to the audience here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery. I go out of my way to respond to every comment, email or inquiry that I get on a daily basis. I have heard just about every single relationship breakup story in the book and out of all the women who have asked me if their ex is in a rebound relationship they cite this warning sign as their reasoning for thinking that he is and they are right to think that.
Your family and friends are supposedly the ones that are closest to you. I hope the same is true for you ex. If they are alarmed at how quickly he is dating again then something definitely isn’t right with him. I wouldn’t count my chickens yet but it could be a contributing sign to a rebound relationship.
How Long Do Rebound Relationships Last? Lets Put The Debate To Rest!
Disclaimer: This section is ONLY meant for women who know that their ex is in a rebound.
I have good news for you. The odds are definitely in your favor! Most likely, your exes new relationship is going to end. But that isn’t the debate everyone seems to have. We are here to figure out how long exactly his new relationship will last, a few weeks, a few months, a few years? It’s a fascinating question. Lets take a step back though and talk a little about why his new relationship is doomed to fail.
Why Your Exes Rebound Relationship Will Fail
What do we know about rebounds so far? Well, they are crutches that your ex will use to attempt to get over you. We know that the new girl is basically a distraction to take his mind off the pain but we haven’t really discussed why his new relationship is doomed to fail. Lets take a quick moment and do that now!
- It is not uncommon for someone who has just left a serious relationship to be incapable of being able to form a long lasting emotional connection with someone new.
- The new girlfriend isn’t as dumb as you may initially believe. She may feel she is being used by him and break it off.
- Eventually he will hit a point where the new relationship he has formed with the new girlfriend isn’t giving him what he needs and he will break it off.
- He may just use her for physical reasons and discard her.
Putting A Timeframe On Your Exes New Relationship
How are you supposed to know how long your exes new relationship will last? Maybe you can cast a spell and find out. Funny story actually, I get a lot of comments for this site every single day and about three days ago I got one of those spammy spell caster comments. I probably get five of those a day just from people trying to take advantage and make a quick buck off of you. Anyways, this spell caster promised to have the ultimate secret for knowing how long your exes new relationship would last. The whole thing was quite ridiculous but it gave me an idea. What if I came up with something like an in-depth guide on actually figuring that out? Well, two days later this post was born and I feel confident that the method I employed above to figure out if your exes new relationship is a rebound is a solid one. However, I wanted to do something that really set this apart from the rest of the crowd.
But what could I do?
Then I came up with the idea of going above and beyond by putting a timeframe on your exes new relationship to ensure that you aren’t wasting your time. Here is the thing. This website at it’s core is about helping you get back with your ex boyfriend. However, I have learned more about the process of ex recovery by talking with all of you. After hearing many of your stories I have a pretty interesting perspective on the whole process of using strategies to get your ex back. One common concern I have found that is universal in all the women whose exes are in a rebound relationship is that they don’t want to get the feeling that they are wasting their time. So, I want to introduce you to…. The Rebound Relationship Timeline!
The Rebound Relationship Timeline