Let’s Find Out If Your Exes Rebound Relationship Will Fail

I have written about rebound relationships exactly one time on this website.

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I wrote that post on July 27th of 2013.

Now, as you can tell it has been a long time since then and we are getting questions about rebound relationships on an almost daily basis. Except here’s the difference. With the article above I mainly focused on how to know if your ex is in a rebound relationship and how long it will last.

But I have been noticed that a lot of the questions I am getting about rebound relationships lately have been geared towards knowing if their exes rebound relationship will fail.

Usually it goes a little something like this,

Chris, my ex is in a rebound relationship. But I really think that it’s going to fail. How would I know?

After about the tenth question I got like this and even having my wife send me an email to write something like this,

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I decided to break down, put in the time and create a resource to teach people on how to know if their exes rebound relationship is destined to fail.

But before we start to do that I think it’s important to determine if your ex is even in a rebound relationship.

How Do I Know If My Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship?

Well, the long answer is to read this article.

But if I know people (and I know people) you guys probably aren’t interested in the long answer. Nope, you are probably interested in the short answer.

So, here it is.

Rebound Relationship- This is a romantic relationship that your ex enters into pretty quickly after your breakup.

In some cases your ex will start to date someone who they actually met while they were dating you.

Ouch, right?

So, that’s pretty much the short answer.

But here’s the crazy thing.

Society has stigmas that actually surround rebound relationships.

Stigmas like,

They are bad…

 

You should never get in one…

 

You get the picture…

But do these stigmas hold true?

Well, let’s find out.

 

Tackling The Stigmas

In 2014 two psychologists by the name of Claudia C. Brumbaugh and Chris Fraley released a paper called “Too Fast, Too Soon.” The goal of this paper was to actually do research on rebound relationships because little research had been done.

The results they found in their investigation actually went against most of the negative stigmas we have of rebound relationships today.

For example, they concluded that people in new relationships were more confident in their desirability and had more resolution over their ex-partner.

In other words, rebound relationships can actually be one of the most healthy things you can do after a breakup to get over your ex.

Now for those of you who just had a panic attack upon hearing this research,

panic-attack

Please calm down.

This is important information that you are going to be able to use to your benefit if you want to get your ex boyfriend back and I will talk about this later.

First though, let’s tackle the next question you are probably wondering in your head.

Will this rebound relationship your ex is in last?

What Are The Odds Of My Exes Rebound Relationship Lasting?

I am not going to lie to you.

I looked everywhere.

And I mean everywhere for concrete data on how long rebound relationships last for but I couldn’t find anything.

Therefore, I am going to have to lean on my own experience for you here.

In my humble opinion, most rebound relationships won’t stand the test of time. Usually the two people break up. I mean, think about that research I cited above.

Studies have found that men and women in rebound relationships feel more desirable and have more power of their ex. Nowhere in that research does it say,

And they lived happily ever after

Relationships where one party uses the other to get over an ex will rarely work and that’s essentially what is happening with rebounds.

Now, we are dealing with a very complex subject here so it would be presumptuous of me to sit here and tell you that I knew exactly when your exes rebound relationship would end.

However, I will say that there are three big data points that you can use to determine this yourself.

  1. The Seriousness Of Your Relationship
  2. How Quickly Your Ex Moved On
  3. How Long Your Ex Has Been Dating The Rebound

Let me expand a bit on each of these points

The Seriousness Of Your Relationship

We already know that your ex moving on and entering a rebound relationship is a step in the right direction for getting over you. Now, it’s going to be pretty darn easy to get over you by entering a rebound relationship if he only dated you for a month as opposed to a year.

Generally the more serious the relationship with you the harder it is to get over the relationship.

How Quickly Your Ex Moved On To The Rebound

I find this data point really fascinating because the quicker your ex moves on to a new relationship after the breakup the more it’s like he is saying that your relationship meant a lot to him and he needs to find a way to cure his pain.

Of course, the flip side of that coin is that the longer it takes him to move on the more he may actually be considering this new girl a worthy girl.

How Long Your Ex Has Been Dating The Rebound

I’ll use the KISS method here.

K – Keep

I – It

S – Short

S – Simple

So, here I go.

The shorter your ex is dating his rebound the more it means that it isn’t a serious relationship. The longer your ex dates the rebound the more serious it becomes.

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Ok…. But How Will I Know If His Rebound Relationship Is Imploding?

Ah, and now we get to the meat of this article.

Now, before I start to give you the signs you need to watch out for there is something important we need to discuss first.

It’s something I like to call,

Staying Present In His Mind

Look, as much as I would love to tell you that this is going to be an easy process it’s not. In fact, it’s made even more difficult when researchers come out with proof that moving on and entering a rebound relationship will actually speed up your exes process of getting over you.

Do you remember when I said not to have a panic attack about this and that we can actually use this to our advantage?

Well, it’s time for me to pay up on that promise.

The research I cited above didn’t take into account the strategies that I teach.

Imagine that there are two versions of you.

Version one takes the approach that most people take,

version-1

What’s the result of this approach?

Well, it’s probably going to end up with him moving on from you and from the rebound. Obviously that’s not what we want. I mean, sure, we want him to move on from his rebound but we want him to move on from his rebound to YOU!

So, let’s say that version two of you opts to take this approach,

version-1

It’s funny, yesterday I was telling my wife about the research I stumbled across that claimed moving on to a rebound was actually one of the smartest things you can do to get over your ex and she had a very interesting take.

I think that is true because if you are dating someone else your focus isn’t so much on your ex. It’s on that person or how dating that person makes you feel.

And she’s kind of right.

The reason that a rebound works to get over your ex is probably due to the fact that you aren’t focusing on your ex.

Of course, the opposite is also true.

If you get your ex to think too much about you during the rebound they aren’t going to necessarily be able to get over you which is kind of what you want.

So, one of the best things you can do is to do subtle things like staying present in your exes mind.

Now, I can already hear the chorus of people saying,

Ok Chris, but how do I do that?

Well, I spoil you guys enough with free content so I am going to save this strategy for my book,

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Let’s move on and start talking about signs that your exes rebound relationship is about to implode.

Here’s What Will Happen If Your Exes Rebound Relationship Is Starting To Fail

Now, before I start pointing out specific signs I first need to tell you that we are actually going to operate under a specific assumption.

Going forward we are going to assume that you are doing the things I talk about in PRO to stay present in your exes mind during his rebound relationship.

Get it?

Got it?

Good!

The way I see it is that your ex is in a relationship with someone else.

Yes, it may be a rebound relationship but as far as the signs go that, that relationship is about to fail there isn’t too much revolutionary things that I can point to towards you.

Nevertheless, I have identified four distinct changes that you will begin to notice if his relationship is about to end with this new girl.

Are you ready?

Sign #1: Your Ex Starts Talking To You A Lot

Can I get personal with you for a moment?

I am going to tell you a rather embarrassing story.

It’s the story of my very first breakup.

Ok, so I believe I was 18 at the time and a senior in high school.

(Geez… that was almost ten years ago)

Anyways, I remember being so happy when I got my first girlfriend. I would pretty much bend over backwards to please her and for the most part things were going great.

However, that all changed around month two of the relationship when I saw she was texting on her phone to someone.

I casually asked her,

“Hey, who are you texting?”

To which she replied,

“Oh, it’s just Wilson”

She then went on to tell me that before she met me she had this major crush on a guy named Wilson but he had never reciprocated her feelings. Of course, now that she had met me she was head over heels in love with me blah blah blah.

All I heard of her explanation was this,

wilson

Now, I wasn’t exactly calm when I expressed that I was upset that she was texting this guy so she had promised that she wouldn’t do it anymore if it upset me that much.

And for the most part I didn’t hear too much about Wilson from that moment on.

Well, at least until right before our breakup.

A few weeks before we officially broke up I caught her multiple times texting this Wilson fellow. It’s almost as if she was setting up her next boyfriend in preparation for our breakup.

And essentially that’s exactly what happened.

After we broke up guess who she ended up dating?

WILSON!

So, what’s the point of me telling you this story.

Well, it’s the fact that if you notice your ex boyfriend pick up the pace when it comes to texting you then that could be a good sign that his relationship is almost at an end.

I mean, think about it.

What woman is going to be ok with her man constantly texting his ex?

I haven’t met many.

Sign #2: You Send A “Test Flirt” Text And He Takes The Bait

I think I am pretty clear throughout Ex Boyfriend Recovery with my stance on cheating.

My Stance = Cheating is bad and you shouldn’t ever engage in it.

I feel a need to re-iterate this stance because what I am about to recommend here is kind of in a grey area. It’s a bit risky because there is a temptation to throw caution to the wind and engage in cheating.

Look, you want your ex boyfriend back and that means you are at a high risk of doing something illogical.

The goal here isn’t to impose on his current relationship. It’s to simply test and see how serious he is about it. One of the worst things you can do on this earth is waste your time on someone who isn’t interested in you.

I am simply recommending a “test flirt text” to prevent that from happening.

So, what is this “test flirt text?”

The Test Flirt Text = You are going to send your ex a flirty text to see how he responds.

The goal here is to get information on how to approach things going forward.

I’ll give you an example.

Imagine that you were to send your ex boyfriend a text like this,

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And he were to respond like this,

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That might be a pretty good indication that he is currently happy in his relationship and is not willing to leave his rebound. Of course, if you were to send this text and he were to respond this way,

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This would be an indication that things might not be perfect in his relationship.

Look, here is my thinking.

A man who is truly happy in his relationship wouldn’t engage in flirting with any girls no matter what. How do I know that?

Well, I am a guy who is absolutely happy in my relationship and I haven’t flirted with a girl in over three years.

Now, is this the “be all, end all” litmus test of whether or not your ex boyfriends rebound is on the decline?

No…

But that’s why we have the other signs I am about to talk about.

Sign #3: There Is A Pattern

I am not going to lie to you.

I really debated on whether or not I should even tell you about this one.

Have you ever heard that phrase,

Ignorance is bliss?

Well, the gist of the phrase is that sometimes it’s better not to know the truth as opposed to knowing it. That might be the case here. However, I have taken a sworn oath to be truthful to you so I am going to let you in on this fact.

If you notice that your ex boyfriend has a pattern of jumping from relationship to relationship without any breaks in between then it’s highly likely that his new fling is just that, a fling.

Of course, this is a double edged sword in the fact that if you notice your ex has a pattern you could be a part of that pattern.

I’ll give you a real life example to illustrate my point.

We have already established that a rebound relationship is a type of relationship that your ex enters into pretty quickly after your breakup. Now, what I am putting forth here is that there is a type of man out there who simply jumps from rebound to rebound and never catches his breath in between.

Why would he do that?

Well, it’s how he has learned to cope with the pain of a breakup.

Rather than dealing with it head on he uses another relationship to bury it.

Now, let’s compare that type of a man to me.

After my very first breakup I didn’t enter a relationship again for five years.

Now, I suppose some of you may say that I was scared to enter a relationship again and I am going to be honest with you. A part of me was. However, it’s not due to the fact that I was scared to get hurt again.

Quite the opposite, in fact.

I wanted to take my time to know exactly what I wanted out of a relationship. I wanted to make sure so that my next relationship was successful.

Do you see the difference?

I took the pain on and tried to use it productively.

Sign #4: They Talk About You

This sign sounds relatively simple, right?

I mean, all your ex boyfriend has to do is talk about you.

But I think it’s important to note that when I say “they talk about you” I am really referring to three things.

  1. Who they are talking to when they talk about you
  2. Where they are talking about you
  3. What they say when they talk about you

By looking at these three things we can get a gauge on whether or not he is still hung up on you. And I don’t think it takes a genius to realize that if he is still hung up on you then that means trouble for his current rebound relationship.

So, let’s look at our three things a little more in-depth.

Who Is He Talking To When He Talks About You?

Generally what you are hoping for is a close friend of his.

Now, why do you think you are hoping for a close friend of his as opposed to a close friend of yours?

Well, let’s assume that your ex boyfriend isn’t dumb and he has a brain. He probably understands that if he starts talking to a close friend of yours that it’s eventually going to get back to you. Now, compare that to a close trusted friend of his (which he doesn’t think will get back to you) and it’s that much more powerful.

Where He Is Talking About You?

Is he talking to someone about you on Facebook?

Did he make some bold claim about an ex lover on his wall?

Is he talking to someone about you in person?

This all matters.

Generally, I would say that having him talk to someone about you in person is a bit more powerful because there are things like facial expressions, tone and all that good stuff that you can pick up on to determine the validity of what he is saying.

But honestly these two signs pail in comparison to the big kahuna that is…

What Is He Saying About You?

I want to tell you a story about my ex.

It had been a few months after we had broken up and she had been dating a guy almost immediately after we broke up.

That’s when something very important happened.

My best friend in the world, Wes, got a phone call from her.

Interesting, huh?

Wes, was always one of those guys who women felt they could open up to and my ex, since she obviously dated me wanted to open up to Wes about something,

My new boyfriend… He just doesn’t pay attention to me. It’s not like when I dated Chris. Chris always paid attention to me and even though we fought a lot he was always there for me.

Now, since Wes was my best bud he obviously told me everything.

She was still thinking about me and she was about to end things with her current boyfriend.

Why do you think I told you this story?

Well, I told it to you because generally what someone says about you behind your back is what they truly think about you. So, in my case, if I wanted my ex back, this would have been a great thing to hear. But let’s imagine my ex had nothing but bad things to say about me.

Well, in that case then that’s probably not a good thing.

Sign #5: Social Media Presence Declines

We live in a digital age where Facebook and Twitter rule over almost all.

This is especially true when it comes to relationships.

But let’s switch gears for a moment.

You are aware of this idea of a honeymoon period, right?

Honeymoon Period: A period of time that occurs immediately after you start dating someone where your partner can do no wrong.

Chances are that when your ex first starts dating their rebound partner they are going through a rebound partner.

Breakups rarely occur when everything is all flowers and angels in the relationship.

Instead, they occur after the honeymoon period has ended.

And one of the best indicators that you can use to determine if things are calming down with regards to the honeymoon period is social media.

Now, I am going to admit that I don’t have research backing this claim up so take it with a grain of salt. However, what I am about to say has certainly held true throughout my life.

It’s clear that when you enter a relationship you are constantly tagging, posting picture and liking statuses on social media websites like Facebook.

And why wouldn’t you?

You have just started dating someone new and you are excited to let the world know.

However, no one can keep that up forever.

Eventually we all grow complacent in our relationships and we no longer do those cute things that we used to do.

Keep an eye on your exes profile and see if you start noticing a significant decline in his public communication with his current girlfriend. It could be a sign that the honeymoon period is starting to fade and that’s when a breakup could potentially occur.

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Question: No Contact + Rebound?? Hello! I’d really appreciate your help on this: Boyfriend and I were involved for 3 years in a very serious committed relationship. We discussed marriage, moving in and were very serious about it, he even bought me a promise ring. (We would have been in a relationship 3 years in two weeks). I broke up with him in August because we were butting heads too much for the last 9 months (little did I know it was because he was depressed) He begged me to come back. We started dating again in October but I… Read more »
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Question: No Contact + Rebound?? Hello! I’d really appreciate your help on this: Boyfriend and I were involved for 3 years in a very serious committed relationship. We discussed marriage, moving in and were very serious about it, he even bought me a promise ring. (We would have been in a relationship 3 years in two weeks). I broke up with him in August because we were butting heads too much for the last 9 months (little did I know it was because he was depressed) He begged me to come back. We started dating again in October but I… Read more »
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My ex and I broke up in November. About a month before we almost broke up because we’d become distant due to long distance and weren’t making the effort to talk to each other. We had a massive talk and he was crying telling me he would always love me and didn’t want to lose me. For the next month everything was fine but then suddenly one day we just didn’t speak and then the next day we broke up. He told me I felt more like a friend to him and that he didn’t feel like he loved me… Read more »
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Frankly, there’s a possibility that he has or that he is in the honeymoon phase with the rebound.

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My ex and I broke up in November. About a month before we almost broke up because we’d become distant due to long distance and weren’t making the effort to talk to each other. We had a massive talk and he was crying telling me he would always love me and didn’t want to lose me. For the next month everything was fine but then suddenly one day we just didn’t speak and then the next day we broke up. He told me I felt more like a friend to him and that he didn’t feel like he loved me… Read more »
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My ex and I broke up in November. About a month before we almost broke up because we’d become distant due to long distance and weren’t making the effort to talk to each other. We had a massive talk and he was crying telling me he would always love me and didn’t want to lose me. For the next month everything was fine but then suddenly one day we just didn’t speak and then the next day we broke up. He told me I felt more like a friend to him and that he didn’t feel like he loved me… Read more »
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Frankly, there’s a possibility that he has or that he is in the honeymoon phase with the rebound.

Imo
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My ex and I broke up in November. About a month before we almost broke up because we’d become distant due to long distance and weren’t making the effort to talk to each other. We had a massive talk and he was crying telling me he would always love me and didn’t want to lose me. For the next month everything was fine but then suddenly one day we just didn’t speak and then the next day we broke up. He told me I felt more like a friend to him and that he didn’t feel like he loved me… Read more »
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So my boyfriend and I split up back in September. We were together for 4 years (on and off for 4 years before that as well) We split because we were at different stages in our lives, he wanted to settle and commit…I just wasn’t quite there yet – slowly heading in that direction but it wasn’t soon enough for him. We would argue and almost split up multiple times but neither of us could end the relationship. The weekend before we split up he went to Berlin with friends where he met this American girl who had moved to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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Emma
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So my boyfriend and I split up back in September. We were together for 4 years (on and off for 4 years before that as well) We split because we were at different stages in our lives, he wanted to settle and commit…I just wasn’t quite there yet – slowly heading in that direction but it wasn’t soon enough for him. We would argue and almost split up multiple times but neither of us could end the relationship. The weekend before we split up he went to Berlin with friends where he met this American girl who had moved to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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Amy
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My bf and I have known each other for 24yrs. He pursued me when we were young, we dated for a few years but I broke up after he got a DUI. We remained friends, and got back together 4.5yrs ago, he moved in after just 6mon. Everyone always thought we eventually would get back together all those years, and thought we would just be together forever. After 3yrs, I took on a 2nd job (in a field I was passionate about), but over the next year and a half I lost friendships (they moved), 16 people to death, and… Read more »
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Hi Amy,

It’s to to talk to him about exchanging stuff, as long it’s only about and that’s right to focus in improving yourself first.. But ypu should be active in posting, that’s your indirect way of showing your improvements

Amy
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My bf and I have known each other for 24yrs. He pursued me when we were young, we dated for a few years but I broke up after he got a DUI. We remained friends, and got back together 4.5yrs ago, he moved in after just 6mon. Everyone always thought we eventually would get back together all those years, and thought we would just be together forever. After 3yrs, I took on a 2nd job (in a field I was passionate about), but over the next year and a half I lost friendships (they moved), 16 people to death, and… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Amy,

It’s to to talk to him about exchanging stuff, as long it’s only about and that’s right to focus in improving yourself first.. But ypu should be active in posting, that’s your indirect way of showing your improvements

Imogen
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Hi, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me at the end of November with distance being an issue in our relationship. He was never ok with being long distance and always hated when we were apart, so I knew after living together for a year, being apart suddenly would be very difficult for us to cope with. When we met to break up he was absolutely devastated and crying and kept saying how he wanted me in his life and wanted to be friends with me and he sent me a text afterwards saying he’d always care a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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Hi Imogen,

she could be a rebound but check this one:
EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend

Imogen
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Hi, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me at the end of November with distance being an issue in our relationship. He was never ok with being long distance and always hated when we were apart, so I knew after living together for a year, being apart suddenly would be very difficult for us to cope with. When we met to break up he was absolutely devastated and crying and kept saying how he wanted me in his life and wanted to be friends with me and he sent me a text afterwards saying he’d always care a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Imogen,

she could be a rebound but check this one:
EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend

Imogen
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Hi, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me at the end of November, with distance being an issue in our relationship. He was never ok with being long distance and used to miss me as soon as I walked out of a room, so I knew after living together for a year, being apart suddenly would be very difficult for us to cope with. Whilst we were together he was always so much more in love with me and needy in the relationship that I was. I’m not very open about my feelings and would only really say… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Imogen,

she could be a rebound but check this one:
EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend

Imogen
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Hi, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me at the end of November, with distance being an issue in our relationship. He was never ok with being long distance and used to miss me as soon as I walked out of a room, so I knew after living together for a year, being apart suddenly would be very difficult for us to cope with. Whilst we were together he was always so much more in love with me and needy in the relationship that I was. I’m not very open about my feelings and would only really say… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Imogen,

she could be a rebound but check this one:
EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend

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My ex and I dated for 3 years, I thought we were great for each other (we had the same outlooks, values, humor, even talked about a future together). Everything started to change when I got this new job that I hated with all my guts, I didn’t feel like myself anymore, it was like I was angry all the time. I think that’s what made him fall out of love with me, he said he “will always love me but the spark is gone and he’s ready to let me go”… It’s been 3 1/2 months since we broke… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

It will depend on you.. We’re just here to assist and help increase your chances. And frankly, yes, it can be love because the longer their relationship goes the deeper it becomes..

anon
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My ex and I dated for 3 years, I thought we were great for each other (we had the same outlooks, values, humor, even talked about a future together). Everything started to change when I got this new job that I hated with all my guts, I didn’t feel like myself anymore, it was like I was angry all the time. I think that’s what made him fall out of love with me, he said he “will always love me but the spark is gone and he’s ready to let me go”… It’s been 3 1/2 months since we broke… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

It will depend on you.. We’re just here to assist and help increase your chances. And frankly, yes, it can be love because the longer their relationship goes the deeper it becomes..

jen
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hi. me and my ex were together just over a year and my sons dad played a rather big part in our relationship ending he would just not show up to see my son and then me and my ex had to cancel plans alot plus other things that just added alot of stress to me and i ended up being really negative and stressed which meant our relationship ended. i think he is now seeing someone who lives over 2hours away that he met 3weeks after we broke up. it was hard enough for us to see each other… Read more »
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EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s good that you’re talking again but avoid doing it the whole day. Always be the one to end the conversation at high point. Don’t rush.. especially if it’s like that, that he’s not wanting a relationship but will jump at the opportunity of sex, you will end up being friends with benefits if you rush things. You have to build more interest in him.. let him chase. let him be the one to wonder if he can get you back.. keep having your own life while you’re slowly building rapport with him.

jen
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hi. me and my ex were together just over a year and my sons dad played a rather big part in our relationship ending he would just not show up to see my son and then me and my ex had to cancel plans alot plus other things that just added alot of stress to me and i ended up being really negative and stressed which meant our relationship ended. i think he is now seeing someone who lives over 2hours away that he met 3weeks after we broke up. it was hard enough for us to see each other… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s good that you’re talking again but avoid doing it the whole day. Always be the one to end the conversation at high point. Don’t rush.. especially if it’s like that, that he’s not wanting a relationship but will jump at the opportunity of sex, you will end up being friends with benefits if you rush things. You have to build more interest in him.. let him chase. let him be the one to wonder if he can get you back.. keep having your own life while you’re slowly building rapport with him.

Nana
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I and my ex broke up on end of November last year. and never contacted each other. But He is still following my posts and sometimes “like” it. I found out that he started to dating new girlfriend almost same period with we just broke up ( in November) . He didn’t know that I knew it until today. Somehow My FB showed ( people you might know….that was her (his new girl) page, I noticed that because her profile pic showed they were sitting together under the beautiful view…so .I left a comment there said “beautiful couple and great… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

it’s hard to say what he really is thinking about but if you want to try, then you have to start talking with him again.

Nana
Guest
Thank you Amor. I sent a text to him ,told him that I am doing good.then,he responded me and told me he is actually living with her together now because she is pregnant . And he told me he still remembers good memories with me, and he is still thinking I’m a wonderful person. He doesn’t want to me mad…. ….kind like that My question is, does he still want to get me back? Or just trying be nice to me? She got pregnant after one month we broke up, so I guess my ex rebounded to her and made… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

let’s he does miss you but with his situation, it’s going to be complicated.. you should move on…if he wants you, he has to make things right first.

Nana
Guest
I and my ex broke up on end of November last year. and never contacted each other. But He is still following my posts and sometimes “like” it. I found out that he started to dating new girlfriend almost same period with we just broke up ( in November) . He didn’t know that I knew it until today. Somehow My FB showed ( people you might know….that was her (his new girl) page, I noticed that because her profile pic showed they were sitting together under the beautiful view…so .I left a comment there said “beautiful couple and great… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it’s hard to say what he really is thinking about but if you want to try, then you have to start talking with him again.

Nana
Guest
Thank you Amor. I sent a text to him ,told him that I am doing good.then,he responded me and told me he is actually living with her together now because she is pregnant . And he told me he still remembers good memories with me, and he is still thinking I’m a wonderful person. He doesn’t want to me mad…. ….kind like that My question is, does he still want to get me back? Or just trying be nice to me? She got pregnant after one month we broke up, so I guess my ex rebounded to her and made… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

let’s he does miss you but with his situation, it’s going to be complicated.. you should move on…if he wants you, he has to make things right first.

Raine
Guest
I don’t think my comment posted so I’m posting one again. My ex boyfriend and I were together for a little under 4 years. We have been broken up for at least 1 1/2 years now. Had has been courting this girl recently (a classmate of his) for about 4 months now and he already loves her. He told me that he still has feelings for me Christmas 2016 but then he was already courting this girl. He told me that the girl was there when he was down in the dumps and she sort of saved him and he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

approach it like she’s a grass is greener.. follow the advice in this one:
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)

Raine
Guest

Hey Amor,

Thanks for the advice. The being there strategy is genius.

Raine
Guest

Hey Amor,

Just a quick question. Is the grass is greener and being there approach still applicable even if my ex rates our relationship or me as a girlfriend low (maybe a 2-3)? This is because he is basing the rating on the ending of the relationship and not the relationship as a whole. Is that hurting my chances, especially since he is creating new and better memories with his new girl.
Thanks for the help.

Raine
Guest

Hey Amor,
Im not sure if my comment posted again.
I just had another question. Is the Grass is Greener and Being There approach still applicable even if my ex thinks so lowly of our relationship because he is basing his rating of our relationship on the ending and not the whole 4 year relationsyearwe had. Thanks for getting back to me.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s actually the reason why you should use the being there approach, so you can change how he sees you and that’s also why you should massively improve yourself.

Raine
Guest

Thanks Amor, I see where you’re coming from. Thanks for the insight.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome!

Raine
Guest
Hi Amor, My ex boyfriend and I were together for a little under 4 years. We have been broke up for about a year and a half and he is now courting a girl for about 4 months now and he says its serious and that he loves her. He says that he loves her because the girl saved him in a time where he was really down in the dumps and eventually came to love her. He himself said that it was like a Prince Charming effect. He says that his feelings for me havent really gone away, that… Read more »
Raine
Guest
I don’t think my comment posted so I’m posting one again. My ex boyfriend and I were together for a little under 4 years. We have been broken up for at least 1 1/2 years now. Had has been courting this girl recently (a classmate of his) for about 4 months now and he already loves her. He told me that he still has feelings for me Christmas 2016 but then he was already courting this girl. He told me that the girl was there when he was down in the dumps and she sort of saved him and he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

approach it like she’s a grass is greener.. follow the advice in this one:
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)

Raine
Guest

Hey Amor,

Thanks for the advice. The being there strategy is genius.

Raine
Guest

Hey Amor,

Just a quick question. Is the grass is greener and being there approach still applicable even if my ex rates our relationship or me as a girlfriend low (maybe a 2-3)? This is because he is basing the rating on the ending of the relationship and not the relationship as a whole. Is that hurting my chances, especially since he is creating new and better memories with his new girl.
Thanks for the help.

Raine
Guest

Hey Amor,
Im not sure if my comment posted again.
I just had another question. Is the Grass is Greener and Being There approach still applicable even if my ex thinks so lowly of our relationship because he is basing his rating of our relationship on the ending and not the whole 4 year relationsyearwe had. Thanks for getting back to me.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s actually the reason why you should use the being there approach, so you can change how he sees you and that’s also why you should massively improve yourself.

Raine
Guest

Thanks Amor, I see where you’re coming from. Thanks for the insight.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome!

Raine
Guest
Hi Amor, My ex boyfriend and I were together for a little under 4 years. We have been broke up for about a year and a half and he is now courting a girl for about 4 months now and he says its serious and that he loves her. He says that he loves her because the girl saved him in a time where he was really down in the dumps and eventually came to love her. He himself said that it was like a Prince Charming effect. He says that his feelings for me havent really gone away, that… Read more »
Gail
Guest
I’m not sure if my last comment posted, so I’m trying again. My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and it has been a yeah and a half since we have broken up (November 2015). During the breakup he had been casually asking to get back together but I refused because he did not show much effort. He recently told me that up until October 2016 he was still open to us getting back together, but (maybe) due to peer pressure he moved on because his friends told him he had been wallowing for too long. The following… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gail,

yes, she’s probably a rebound.. And do at least 30 days of nc.. be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media even if you’re blocked..

Gail
Guest

Hi Amor,

Thanks for the advice. I will continue the NC and see what happens. Thank you again.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome!

Gail
Guest
Hey Amor, A mutual friend of my ex and I told me that I should just move on and that trying to get back together now is just too late because he has someone new in his life. This friend of ours told me that he was serious courting the new girl and that he is really happy with her. In fact, this friend told me that keeping in contact with me makes my ex feel guilty and it was stressful for my ex to hide that we were still in contact to other people. According to our friend my… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

stop talking to the mutual friend about your ex.. because whatever you say to that friend will reach him.. I think you need to restart the count of nc..

Gail
Guest

Hi Amor,

Thanks for getting back to me. I will stop talking to our mutual friend. And I think I need to restart the count for NC. Thanks for the advice.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

ok, restart nc.. you’re welcome!

Gail
Guest
I’m not sure if my last comment posted, so I’m trying again. My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and it has been a yeah and a half since we have broken up (November 2015). During the breakup he had been casually asking to get back together but I refused because he did not show much effort. He recently told me that up until October 2016 he was still open to us getting back together, but (maybe) due to peer pressure he moved on because his friends told him he had been wallowing for too long. The following… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gail,

yes, she’s probably a rebound.. And do at least 30 days of nc.. be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media even if you’re blocked..

Gail
Guest

Hi Amor,

Thanks for the advice. I will continue the NC and see what happens. Thank you again.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome!

Gail
Guest
Hey Amor, A mutual friend of my ex and I told me that I should just move on and that trying to get back together now is just too late because he has someone new in his life. This friend of ours told me that he was serious courting the new girl and that he is really happy with her. In fact, this friend told me that keeping in contact with me makes my ex feel guilty and it was stressful for my ex to hide that we were still in contact to other people. According to our friend my… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

stop talking to the mutual friend about your ex.. because whatever you say to that friend will reach him.. I think you need to restart the count of nc..

Gail
Guest

Hi Amor,

Thanks for getting back to me. I will stop talking to our mutual friend. And I think I need to restart the count for NC. Thanks for the advice.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

ok, restart nc.. you’re welcome!

Gail
Guest
My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and it has been a yeah and a half since we have broken up (November 2015). During the breakup he had been casually asking to get back together but I refused because he did not show much effort. He recently told me that up until October 2016 he was still open to us getting back together, but (maybe) due to peer pressure he moved on because his friends told him he had been wallowing for too long. The following month he has started going out with a new girl. We had… Read more »
Gail
Guest
Update: My ex-boyfriend is the type of guy to take relationships seriously thats why it is hard for me to decioher whether the new girl is a rebound or not. But the way he has been acting, saying he is already in-love and that he still is very much bitrer and angry at me for what happened between us shows that he has not completely moved on. And that maybe he is just letting his anger takeover and that being stubborn (he really is head-strong) to listen to his emotional side and at one point he told me that he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gail,

yes, she’s probably a rebound.. And do at least 30 days of nc.. be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media even if you’re blocked..

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gail,

yes, she’s probably a rebound.. And do at least 30 days of nc.. be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media even if you’re blocked..

Gail
Guest
My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and it has been a yeah and a half since we have broken up (November 2015). During the breakup he had been casually asking to get back together but I refused because he did not show much effort. He recently told me that up until October 2016 he was still open to us getting back together, but (maybe) due to peer pressure he moved on because his friends told him he had been wallowing for too long. The following month he has started going out with a new girl. We had… Read more »
Gail
Guest
Update: My ex-boyfriend is the type of guy to take relationships seriously thats why it is hard for me to decioher whether the new girl is a rebound or not. But the way he has been acting, saying he is already in-love and that he still is very much bitrer and angry at me for what happened between us shows that he has not completely moved on. And that maybe he is just letting his anger takeover and that being stubborn (he really is head-strong) to listen to his emotional side and at one point he told me that he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gail,

yes, she’s probably a rebound.. And do at least 30 days of nc.. be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media even if you’re blocked..

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gail,

yes, she’s probably a rebound.. And do at least 30 days of nc.. be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media even if you’re blocked..

Casey
Guest
I was with my ex for the last six years, we broke up two and half years ago after I found out he cheated. I packed up all my stuff and moved 7 hours away. I didn’t contact him for a month he begged me back. I was in love with him and missed him so much. The next year was great this past year has been terrible. I have trust issues and insecurities and being in a long distance relationship was hard. I found out he was on. Craigslist and match texts from bartenders and lies. I completely became… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Casey,

you mean you got back together after breaking up two years ago right? You actually said what you need to do.. Start nc and be very active in improving yourself. Be active in posting in social media but dont social media stalk them..

Casey
Guest
I was with my ex for the last six years, we broke up two and half years ago after I found out he cheated. I packed up all my stuff and moved 7 hours away. I didn’t contact him for a month he begged me back. I was in love with him and missed him so much. The next year was great this past year has been terrible. I have trust issues and insecurities and being in a long distance relationship was hard. I found out he was on. Craigslist and match texts from bartenders and lies. I completely became… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Casey,

you mean you got back together after breaking up two years ago right? You actually said what you need to do.. Start nc and be very active in improving yourself. Be active in posting in social media but dont social media stalk them..

Chambers
Guest
I’m a male in my thirties and was with my partner for 5 years. We were long distance with me returning to NYC from SF next month. In September, he met someone who lives in Canada but was visiting NYC for business and my partner basically fell for him and told me that it made him have doubts about us. After a month of me flying out there to talk things out with my partner, we decided to “go on break” so he could finish grad school and find a job, etc. We decided 2 months, no contact. We spoke… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chambers,
The thing is he thinks you’re chasing him. I think if you want to meet, meet. But just to establish that you’re ok. Don’t say you want to be friends, just be friendly. After that, try the no contact rule but the difference is you have to unblock him and be very active in improving yourself and in posting in social media, to help establish that you are moving on before slowly rebuilding rapport.

Chambers
Guest
I’m a male in my thirties and was with my partner for 5 years. We were long distance with me returning to NYC from SF next month. In September, he met someone who lives in Canada but was visiting NYC for business and my partner basically fell for him and told me that it made him have doubts about us. After a month of me flying out there to talk things out with my partner, we decided to “go on break” so he could finish grad school and find a job, etc. We decided 2 months, no contact. We spoke… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chambers,
The thing is he thinks you’re chasing him. I think if you want to meet, meet. But just to establish that you’re ok. Don’t say you want to be friends, just be friendly. After that, try the no contact rule but the difference is you have to unblock him and be very active in improving yourself and in posting in social media, to help establish that you are moving on before slowly rebuilding rapport.

Nic
Guest
I’m not sure if my last comment posted, so I’m trying again. I was wondering if someone that you previously dated could be a rebound relationship. My ex-boyfriend of about a month seems to have reconnected with a girl that he was previously sort of dating prior to he and I meeting. When I say sort of dating, I mean she repeatedly used him to cheat on her what looks like now ex-boyfriend. She always chose the boyfriend over him, and I know this hurt him quite a bit, although he downplayed it when he told me about it. I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nic,

either he’s just using her because he know she’s using him or he really loves her.. because those are the only two reasons that I could think of on why you would repeatedly go back to somebody who hurt you badly. Right now, focus in improving yourself. If after nc they’re still together, for me you should move on. But if you want, you can still try to rebuild rapport..

Nic
Guest
I’m not sure if my last comment posted, so I’m trying again. I was wondering if someone that you previously dated could be a rebound relationship. My ex-boyfriend of about a month seems to have reconnected with a girl that he was previously sort of dating prior to he and I meeting. When I say sort of dating, I mean she repeatedly used him to cheat on her what looks like now ex-boyfriend. She always chose the boyfriend over him, and I know this hurt him quite a bit, although he downplayed it when he told me about it. I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nic,

either he’s just using her because he know she’s using him or he really loves her.. because those are the only two reasons that I could think of on why you would repeatedly go back to somebody who hurt you badly. Right now, focus in improving yourself. If after nc they’re still together, for me you should move on. But if you want, you can still try to rebuild rapport..

Nic
Guest
My question is, can a guy get into a rebound relationship with someone he previously dated? My ex dumped me a month ago, and deactivated his social media accounts. I see as of a few days ago he’s reactivated and back to following this girl that he dated prior to me. He had deleted her because she was making me uncomfortable – liking every single picture that didn’t have me in it. The back story on this is this girl used him when they were dating. She was cheating on her long term boyfriend with him, even though she lives… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nic,

either he’s just using her because he know she’s using him or he really loves her.. because those are the only two reasons that I could think of on why you would repeatedly go back to somebody who hurt you badly. Right now, focus in improving yourself. If after nc they’re still together, for me you should move on. But if you want, you can still try to rebuild rapport..

Nic
Guest
My question is, can a guy get into a rebound relationship with someone he previously dated? My ex dumped me a month ago, and deactivated his social media accounts. I see as of a few days ago he’s reactivated and back to following this girl that he dated prior to me. He had deleted her because she was making me uncomfortable – liking every single picture that didn’t have me in it. The back story on this is this girl used him when they were dating. She was cheating on her long term boyfriend with him, even though she lives… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nic,

either he’s just using her because he know she’s using him or he really loves her.. because those are the only two reasons that I could think of on why you would repeatedly go back to somebody who hurt you badly. Right now, focus in improving yourself. If after nc they’re still together, for me you should move on. But if you want, you can still try to rebuild rapport..

Sirena
Guest
hi amor, last summer i met this guy unexpectedly and we really hit it off, we started talking about soul mate stuff. I had the feeling he was falling face first for me – the things he would say and the way he would talk about our future both terrified and excited me. he said this was the best and most healthy relationship he has been in for a long time. then suddenly at the start of December and holiday time he stopped seeing me and went back to his toxic ex! I was devastated, I couldn’t believe it but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sirena,

yeah, the new girl can be a rebound but what I don’t get is, if he’s using a rebound, why wouldn’t he reply ro you? I’m not saying he should use you, what I’m saying is wouldn’t you be an easier rebound because you’ve already talked before? Or maybe he’s not sure because he knows he had hurt you

Sirena
Guest
Amor, Exactly why I don’t know what to do. It’s been less than a month since things got broken off with the toxic ex. So, while I’m very aware of the ‘rebound factor’ and Don’t want to be that… it still hurts and confuses me to see that he is very likely already jumped into seeing someone else. He is a very captive audience and has been watching all of my stories, I know that has to be somewhat intentional, because he made a point to NOT look at anything when he went back to the toxic ex. I think… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Yeah, continue improving yourself even while you’re trying to build rapport. Hmm.. what I meant is that, the new girl can be a rebound, but she more like isn’t because he’s not replying to you. More likely she’s a grass is greener case. Check the links below:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends
Let’s Find Out If Your Exes Rebound Relationship Will Fail

Sirena
Guest
hi amor, last summer i met this guy unexpectedly and we really hit it off, we started talking about soul mate stuff. I had the feeling he was falling face first for me – the things he would say and the way he would talk about our future both terrified and excited me. he said this was the best and most healthy relationship he has been in for a long time. then suddenly at the start of December and holiday time he stopped seeing me and went back to his toxic ex! I was devastated, I couldn’t believe it but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sirena,

yeah, the new girl can be a rebound but what I don’t get is, if he’s using a rebound, why wouldn’t he reply ro you? I’m not saying he should use you, what I’m saying is wouldn’t you be an easier rebound because you’ve already talked before? Or maybe he’s not sure because he knows he had hurt you

Sirena
Guest
Amor, Exactly why I don’t know what to do. It’s been less than a month since things got broken off with the toxic ex. So, while I’m very aware of the ‘rebound factor’ and Don’t want to be that… it still hurts and confuses me to see that he is very likely already jumped into seeing someone else. He is a very captive audience and has been watching all of my stories, I know that has to be somewhat intentional, because he made a point to NOT look at anything when he went back to the toxic ex. I think… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Yeah, continue improving yourself even while you’re trying to build rapport. Hmm.. what I meant is that, the new girl can be a rebound, but she more like isn’t because he’s not replying to you. More likely she’s a grass is greener case. Check the links below:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends
Let’s Find Out If Your Exes Rebound Relationship Will Fail

amanda
Guest
my story starts in November 2015 when I met him we got in a relation very fast he was madly in love with me and was so serious about this relation and he met my mother and I met his parents and everyone could see how he was crazy about me but I had lots of trust issues and I kept breaking up with him many times because silly things he did but I had trust issues and treated him badly but everytime it only lasts for 2 weeks max and then he calls me and we get back again… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Amanda,

I think it’s a grass is greener. Check this one:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

amanda
Guest

I read it, but still don’t know what to do. should I move on because we fought a lot so The Grass is Greener and he is not in a rebound or he is on a rebound and I should still be friend with him? and why he still contacts me and jokes and flirt with me and sometimes mentions old things from our relation in a humor way. am i overthinking and should just move on?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

nope..she’s not a rebound..she’s a grass is greener for him.. he still talks to you because that’s what he’s used to do.. try doing the no contact rule for at least 30 days and then focus in improving yourself

amanda
Guest

okay his birthday is tomorrow should i text him as you we are supposed to be friends i’ve been in the nc for week also what should i do after the nc and when i see him at work

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Nope you should greet him.. Check the link below on why you shouldn’t. Just be civil with him at work.. There’s another link for that too. You can initiate contact after nc.. And be very active in improving yourself during and after nc.
EBR 057: Birthdays And The No Contact Rule
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

amanda
Guest
so it is been a while now i don’t know if you remember me but me and my ex are now friends we talk from time to time and hang out with our common friend what is new is that his new girl friend asked him for a break and now they are in a break she doesn’t even like his posts or text him a lot what should i do now ? be friendly and go out with him i see him in work but we don’t get in touch what is the best thing i can do and… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
amanda
Guest
okay so i don’t know if you remember me but my ex was in the grass is greener and now he and his new gf are in a break and he is so sad and he told me that they have problems but he didn’t tell me details w still talk from time to time about work and see each others there he is feeling so bad for her and i feel sad for him and for seeing him like that but i knew from some of his friends that she is treating him very bad btw i did the… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
amanda
Guest
my story starts in November 2015 when I met him we got in a relation very fast he was madly in love with me and was so serious about this relation and he met my mother and I met his parents and everyone could see how he was crazy about me but I had lots of trust issues and I kept breaking up with him many times because silly things he did but I had trust issues and treated him badly but everytime it only lasts for 2 weeks max and then he calls me and we get back again… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Amanda,

I think it’s a grass is greener. Check this one:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

amanda
Guest

I read it, but still don’t know what to do. should I move on because we fought a lot so The Grass is Greener and he is not in a rebound or he is on a rebound and I should still be friend with him? and why he still contacts me and jokes and flirt with me and sometimes mentions old things from our relation in a humor way. am i overthinking and should just move on?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

nope..she’s not a rebound..she’s a grass is greener for him.. he still talks to you because that’s what he’s used to do.. try doing the no contact rule for at least 30 days and then focus in improving yourself

amanda
Guest

okay his birthday is tomorrow should i text him as you we are supposed to be friends i’ve been in the nc for week also what should i do after the nc and when i see him at work

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Nope you should greet him.. Check the link below on why you shouldn’t. Just be civil with him at work.. There’s another link for that too. You can initiate contact after nc.. And be very active in improving yourself during and after nc.
EBR 057: Birthdays And The No Contact Rule
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

amanda
Guest
so it is been a while now i don’t know if you remember me but me and my ex are now friends we talk from time to time and hang out with our common friend what is new is that his new girl friend asked him for a break and now they are in a break she doesn’t even like his posts or text him a lot what should i do now ? be friendly and go out with him i see him in work but we don’t get in touch what is the best thing i can do and… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
amanda
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okay so i don’t know if you remember me but my ex was in the grass is greener and now he and his new gf are in a break and he is so sad and he told me that they have problems but he didn’t tell me details w still talk from time to time about work and see each others there he is feeling so bad for her and i feel sad for him and for seeing him like that but i knew from some of his friends that she is treating him very bad btw i did the… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
C
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Hi, I was dating my ex for 7 months. Things were good, then ok, then slowly fell apart. It tried everything to get him to stay, but last we spoke was in Oct, after i suspected he may be doing stuff behind my back. I said nasty things to him, he even blocked me on FB. I did NC and didnt speak to him. Found out he started dating this other girl, the one i suspected. Its been over 60 days and i found out he was engaged to this girl after like 3 months. I wanted to contact but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

You should move on..

C
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Hi, I was dating my ex for 7 months. Things were good, then ok, then slowly fell apart. It tried everything to get him to stay, but last we spoke was in Oct, after i suspected he may be doing stuff behind my back. I said nasty things to him, he even blocked me on FB. I did NC and didnt speak to him. Found out he started dating this other girl, the one i suspected. Its been over 60 days and i found out he was engaged to this girl after like 3 months. I wanted to contact but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

You should move on..

Jane
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Hey amor, Idk if you remember me. I have commented on here few times about my ex of four years that is a on and off relationship that he always broke up with me and came back. and last month he went to another state to see this girl. Well she came here last week and spent the weekend here and I saw her post a photo with him.. I was worried that he is serious with her if she visited him now. But then I realiZed she actually graduated with him 13 years ago and used to live in… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jane,

yup I remember! That’s too much of a coincidence, maybe he remembered it, and if you’re still active in posting, maybe he checks that too but if you’re blocked, it can mean he’s not yet ready to talk.. and yes, he might be exploring dating by seeing a lot of women or maybe it didn’t work out with the other girl..

Jane
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Hey amor, Idk if you remember me. I have commented on here few times about my ex of four years that is a on and off relationship that he always broke up with me and came back. and last month he went to another state to see this girl. Well she came here last week and spent the weekend here and I saw her post a photo with him.. I was worried that he is serious with her if she visited him now. But then I realiZed she actually graduated with him 13 years ago and used to live in… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jane,

yup I remember! That’s too much of a coincidence, maybe he remembered it, and if you’re still active in posting, maybe he checks that too but if you’re blocked, it can mean he’s not yet ready to talk.. and yes, he might be exploring dating by seeing a lot of women or maybe it didn’t work out with the other girl..

Emma-Louise
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Okay so this gets awfully complicated but it all ties in together.. I was with my ex for 2.5 years and we were so happy we split in the April over a petty thing really and it just went from there. We agreed to stay friends because it would be a waste to just throw away 2 years of memories. I didn’t want to stay friends because I knew exs don’t become friends but I agreed because I didn’t want to lose him completely. We met up every now and then and talked about things exchanged stuff and spent a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Emma,

I dont know if yoy saw my reply to your previous post but I’ll just paste it here.. if you have further questions, don’t hesitate to ask..

Hi Emma,

if you want him back, then you’re so close now.. Just continue being friendly.. Dont say anything negative about the other girl

Céleste Vermaelen
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Hi, I just found out that my ex is together with the girl who we had a huge fight about. This girl has a crush on my ex and since we broke up he started talking to her. He said to me that he doesn’t wants to see me because he has still feelings for me. He also said to me that he thought I was not happy with him which is not true! I love him so much, I really think he is my soulmate and I know he thinks the same way about me. He doesn’t trusts me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Celeste,

So, do you plan on keeping in contact with him?

Emma-Louise
Guest
Okay so this gets awfully complicated but it all ties in together.. I was with my ex for 2.5 years and we were so happy we split in the April over a petty thing really and it just went from there. We agreed to stay friends because it would be a waste to just throw away 2 years of memories. I didn’t want to stay friends because I knew exs don’t become friends but I agreed because I didn’t want to lose him completely. We met up every now and then and talked about things exchanged stuff and spent a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Emma,

I dont know if yoy saw my reply to your previous post but I’ll just paste it here.. if you have further questions, don’t hesitate to ask..

Hi Emma,

if you want him back, then you’re so close now.. Just continue being friendly.. Dont say anything negative about the other girl

Céleste Vermaelen
Guest
Hi, I just found out that my ex is together with the girl who we had a huge fight about. This girl has a crush on my ex and since we broke up he started talking to her. He said to me that he doesn’t wants to see me because he has still feelings for me. He also said to me that he thought I was not happy with him which is not true! I love him so much, I really think he is my soulmate and I know he thinks the same way about me. He doesn’t trusts me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Celeste,

So, do you plan on keeping in contact with him?

cammi
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cammi again,

and wow today I saw that she went to dinner with his family… and met his parents when I never got the chance to! and she told her ex… and her ex told me! why would she need to tell he ex “oh i met my new boyfriends family” to rub it in because he never did… and they’ve only known been together for 3 weeks. wow such a fast rebound…

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Cammi,

She’s probably using your ex to make her ex jealous. How did you act in dinner?

cammi
Guest

cammi again,

and wow today I saw that she went to dinner with his family… and met his parents when I never got the chance to! and she told her ex… and her ex told me! why would she need to tell he ex “oh i met my new boyfriends family” to rub it in because he never did… and they’ve only known been together for 3 weeks. wow such a fast rebound…

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Cammi,

She’s probably using your ex to make her ex jealous. How did you act in dinner?