Today we’re going to be talking about how to steal your ex from another woman.

But before we debate the morality of attempting to steal your ex from “the other woman” I’d like to point you to our “Ex Recovery Chances Quiz.”

I want to do this for one singular reason. I don’t want you doing anything in the “morally grey area” if you have zero chance of getting your ex back.

You’ll just look like a fool.

So, here’s what I’ve done. I have put a simple two minute quiz together for you. My intent is to help you understand what your chances are of getting your ex back.

Once you’ve given us some basic background information we’ll basically run your answers through an advanced algorithm that will spit out a number and tell you what kind of chance you have of getting your ex back.

Perhaps more importantly is you’ll get an idea on if this is worth your time.

How To Steal Your Ex From “The Other Woman”

One of the most terrifying situations to be in is if you’re trying to get an ex back and they’ve moved on to someone else.

When I first started out and someone would come to me with a situation like this, the gif below pretty much summed up my feelings,

But now when someone comes to me with a situation where their ex has moved on this is me,

But why?

Why is it that I’ve done such a complete 180º on this situation?

Well it’s actually because I’ve learned an epic strategy. Granted, it’s a little bit in the grey area morally but it works.

Today I’m going to teach it to you. So, let’s talk about the strategy that has been revolutionizing the way my clients have been getting their exes back if their ex is with someone else.

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Warning – This Strategy Might Not Fit With Your Morals

Today we’re going to be talking about how to steal your ex from the “other woman” but before I begin I do want to warn you that this strategy might not fit with your morals.

I firmly believe that it’s my job to show you what I’ve found that works and doesn’t work.

I’m going to leave it up to you to choose whether or not you want to employ this strategy. However, before I begin I do want to warn you that this strategy that I’m about to unveil to you might not fit with your morals and if that’s the case, it’s ok.

Don’t feel that I’m painting you into a corner and making you choose to implement a strategy you aren’t comfortable with.

With that being said I feel this is an important strategy for you to fully grasp before you start judging it.

You can determine the morality of what I’m about to show you after you learn what I have to teach you.

Sound fair?

Let’s begin!

The Key To Stealing Your Ex Back

The key to “stealing your ex back” is to not steal them back at all.

Rather it’s to present them with a situation or put them in a position where they choose to come back to you.

Now, you may be reading those words and think that, that’s impossible to achieve.

However, I’m not just basing this strategy on conjecture. No, what I’m about to show you has actually been proven by psychologists and I’m going to show you proof to back up that claim.

So what is this elusive strategy that is kind of in this gray area morally?

The “Being There Method”

Well, what I’d like you to do is that if you find yourself in this situation and you want your ex back from the new person he’s with is to utilize something called being there method.

And it’s actually pretty easy to grasp.

However, just because “the being there method” is easy to understand doesn’t mean it’s easy to implement.

Here’s how it works,

When your ex moves on to someone else you need to become a constant presence in their relationship

To clarify, constant doesn’t mean sexual.

On the contrary, you just need to be a friendly presence not even trying to steal him back but a constant one nonetheless.

Eventually that constant presence will indirectly intimidate the other woman to the point where she will issue him an ultimatum and it will ultimately lead to their demise.

Why Becoming A Constant Presence Is So Important

Becoming a constant presence actually does a couple of things,

  • What woman is ok with her boyfriend talking to his ex?
  • It creates a natural competition
  • You can compete for his time with the other woman
  • Ultimately the other woman will grow so insecure she will issue him an ultimatum

The most brilliant thing about “being there” is technically you’re not doing anything wrong.

You are NOT going to be trying to sleep with him or get him to cheat with you.

Instead, you are just becoming his friend. Essentially you are going to be friend zoning yourself on purpose hoping that, that simple act will intimidate the other woman.

The Being There Method Is Backed By Research

What if I told you that researchers have actually shown data proving that the being there method is effective.

Sounds too good to be true, doesn’t it?

It’s not.

Earlier this year psychologists released a paper where they actually started studying the effect that keeping in touch with a past partner has on your current relationship.

Here’s a quote directly taken from the Psychology Today article,

What implications does this have for people’s current relationships. In general those who stayed in touch with an ex tended to be less committed to their current partner than those who did not. But contact with an ex wasn’t associated with how satisfying they found their current relationship.

Now let’s pause there.

I find that really interesting. In the first study they did actually did find that those who stayed in touch with their exes tended to be less committed to their partners than those who did not.

However, it didn’t mean they were less satisfied with their relationship. Now I have a problem with that because my own research using my own data says the opposite.

People who keep in contact with their exes tend to be less satisfied with their relationships.

But that’s why I have this second part actually quotes below because the Psychology Today article said researchers actually conducted a second study.

The researchers further explored how contact with exes relates to the quality of the current relationship by examining people’s reasons for staying in touch with exes. They survived. Excuse me they surveyed 169 undergraduate students and relationships who said they communicated with an ex at least once every couple of months. This time the team found a link between contact with exes and the quality of the current relationship. The more frequent the contact with an ex the less satisfied participants were with their current relationships.

There you have it.

The being there method is essentially backed by psychologists and this was an actual scientific paper released earlier this year.

Final Thoughts

Let’s talk about the debate between the morality of if you should do that being there method or not.

Here’s my stance,

It’s not my job to debate morality with you. My job is to simply give you options to use as you attempt to try to get your ex back.

I know for a fact that the being there method works extremely well to get an ex back.

I have psychologists backing it up as well as a lot of different success stories.

It’s your responsibility to determine if this is within your morals

28 thoughts on “How To Steal Your Ex From The Other Woman”

  1. Lea

    December 7, 2018 at 6:50 am

    Hi chris, so I’ve been broken up with my ex since Jan and reconnected again in august after a second NC in july. we have been in frequent contact since then and have become gym buddies. i discovered in late August that he has been seeing this one woman rather regularly and now it seems as if they have become exclusive. he occasionally tries to talk about her mainly about his issues with her in the relationship and I’ve been either dodging the topic, acting bored or telling him i can’t help him in this issue. he even told me once that he has asked her several times to leave him ( which in my mind why don’t you leave then?) i have also been trying to do the friendzone flirt friendzone technique where i would reciprocate to his flirting then back off either by briefly talking about dates ( only if he asks). Lately i feel we are in this very grey area..where he brings up old memories of experiences we have shared (sexual and non sexual) or things I’ve told him before which i am surprised he remembers.

    my question is am i on the right path? do i keep doing what im doing? is it working based on your experience?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      December 8, 2018 at 3:43 am

      I think the path is showing some promise. Every situation is highly unique, but continue with what you are doing and adapt as necessary.

  2. Helen

    October 22, 2018 at 1:56 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I am taking this time to heal and sort out my life. My disadvantage is that I don’t have him on any social media so I can’t use that to show him how well I’m doing (that’s worked well in the past). But I think that if I message him now I risk pushing him away. Any other tips?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 24, 2018 at 3:38 am

      Hi Helen!

      Maybe how you are doing can be conveyed informally through your friends network.

  3. Helen

    October 20, 2018 at 2:25 am

    I met a guy on holiday in April and he came to visit from england in September. He acted a bit odd and distant and wouldn’t sleep with me, and admitted he’d had a fling with another girl back home. After he left I discovered he had actually gone to see this girl in the US and they were still together. Also he had blocked me on instagram. I called him out and he admitted everything- lying to me, cheating, how he struggled with anxiety. He sent me proof that he told his GF everything and they’re still together, even though they’re doing long distance and he previously told me he didn’t like long distance and that’s why he tried to not get attached to me. I reached out after 2 weeks and he said that he’s not ready to speak with me yet and that talking to me causes anxiety right now. How do I deal with this? He hasn’t whatsapp blocked me, but I want him back, at least as a friend, and right now he won’t speak to me. Do I just wait it out?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 22, 2018 at 4:16 am

      Hi Helen!

      Probably best to give him some space and you take that space and time as well so you can focus on dealing with whatever healing and recovery you require. It may take some time to process all of this and get more fully in touch with all your feelings about what you want from him.

  4. Ceri

    October 14, 2018 at 7:28 am

    Hi Chris,

    So things recently changed in my break up, -after only 6 months of breaking up but stil talking and occasionally feeling like we could get back together as he said he liked me and was obsessed with me, my ex told me last week that he was dating someone new. Right now I feel like I can’t talk to him as this was something that had caused me a lot of worry and anxiety that he’d find someone better even during the relationship, and I don’t actually know if I want to try and get him back or not anymore. But what actually works better in this situation more non-contact or to be a constant presence? Short periods of non contact always seemed to bring him back to talking to me however constantly talking and kid of flirting definitely felt more comfortable and helped too.

    I hope you can help.

    Thanks, Ceri

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 14, 2018 at 9:25 pm

      Hi Ceri!

      Probably NC would be best. You have my eBook right? It will help you with all aspects of the post breakup. Also, go to my home page and take a look at the Private Facebook Support Group I offer.

    2. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 14, 2018 at 9:25 pm

      Hi Ceri!

      Probably NC would be best. You have my eBook right? It will help you with all aspects of the post breakup. Also, go to my home page and take a look at the Private Facebook Support Group I offer.

  5. Alice

    September 15, 2018 at 3:03 am

    I was with my ex for almost three years. We broke up twice during the relationship, for maybe 2-3 months combined. We were also long distance (we met at the end of the year in law school) until this past December, when I went to Europe for New Years and then he moved back to the states to start grad school, and we moved in together.

    During the last break in our relationship, when he’d gone back to Europe after not being re-admitted to law school and I was still in the states working on my JD, he went on a few dates with an ex-girlfriend of his, with whom he was still casual friends. He later told me that those dates, and how crazy she was driving him, made him realize how much he missed me and how much he actually wanted to be with me. We slowly resumed our long-distance relationship. He helped her move into a new house, but rejected her advances when she tried to sleep with him. She was pretty pissed at him about this and intentionally got back into an unhealthy relationship with a different ex of hers, someone she knew he would be unhappy about (because he cares about people’s wellbeing, not necessarily because of jealousy). At the time, he was disgusted by her behavior and her pettiness and cut all contact with her.

    In February of this year, he learned from mutual friends that his ex was having significant difficulties. In March, he went home over spring break and ran into her in person. They’ve been talking on and off for the past couple months, but I felt secure in my relationship and I still know he would never cheat on me or anything like that. After his summer semester ended, he went back to Europe again to visit friends and family and his ex had some health problem that necessitated a trip to the hospital; he drove her because she was away from her family. About three weeks later, when my ex came home, he broke up with me.

    I can’t afford to move out yet, though I hope to be moving into my own place sometime next month, so I still live with my ex, and he volunteers all sorts of information even though I’m trying to do the limited contact. He’s one of my best friends, and one of my strongest sources of support, so I am a little afraid of trying to go completely NC. (Over the summer, I recognized and began extricating myself from an incredibly abusive family situation; I have cut contact with my parents and severely limited contact with my siblings, so they are not available as sources of emotional support. After law school graduation, most of my close friends have scattered across the country. My ex is the one who has helped me deal with some mental health issues and I rely heavily on him for this. Which he knows.) Because he’s my primary support, I’ve broken even limited contact on a number of occasions when I really needed support/a friend. Anyways, because we’re living together still and because he still volunteers information without prodding, often without expecting a response from me, I know that he has been working to get back with his ex.

    When we broke up, my ex told me it was just because he wasn’t happy (which was entirely fair). He also told me he wasn’t entirely comfortable with the idea of being “DONE” with dating. We had talked on several occasions about our future and marriage, and though we’re both in our twenties, I’m a few years older than him and more ready to settle down. Honestly, I see the problems that existed in our relationship. Since realizing my mother was abusive towards both me and my father, I can recognize some of the unhealthier relationship behaviors I’ve been guilty of and I’m working on addressing the lingering effects. Ironically, almost as soon as we’d broken up, my ex and I somewhat “reverted” to our personalities from earlier on in our relationship. Partly because of this, I strongly believe that my ex and I can overcome those problems and have a healthy, lasting relationship. I’ve never had chemistry like ours with anyone else and I honestly believe we make each other stronger, better people.

    Even though he is the one who broke up with me, and even though he is clearly attempting to pursue things with his ex, he has repeatedly stated that he hopes he didn’t make a mistake. He’s talked about waiting five years, or even one year, to allow ourselves to grow more independently of each other and then giving it another shot. He’s told me that he needs time to figure things out for himself, but that he hopes he didn’t “blow things” entirely with me when he does. But at the same time, he told me he thinks that his ex “might be the love of [his] life” and that he feels like the universe just keeps pushing them back together.

    I don’t know how to compete with his exgirlfriend and from what I’ve seen of their interactions over the past several months, I don’t like her. I want to try the “Being There” method, but I honestly and sincerely believe that this girl is manipulative and generally bad news. She self-sabatoges to try to make him feel bad (see the unhealthy relationship when he didn’t want to sleep with her), she takes advantage of his legitimate concerns over her health (she’ll message something like “I’m on my way to the emergency room” and then disappear for days at a time), and she just generally seems like a “Not Good” person. As a friend, I don’t know how I can sit back and be supportive of him getting into a relationship, rebound or not, with this girl.

    I don’t feel like I can go no contact because he is an integral part of my support system and I’m dealing with a few other major stressers in my life right now (like job insecurity, my recent familial realizations, and other things completely unrelated to my relationship with my ex). I want to try the “Being There Method,” and I’m happy to act as his friend, but I honestly think this ex-girlfriend is bad for him, and I don’t think it sounds like honest, unbiased concern because we broke up so recently. I love him with all my heart and I am willing to take the time necessary to get him back. Is there anything that I can start doing now, before I move out, to make myself more desirable than my ex’s ex?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 17, 2018 at 9:42 pm

      Hi Alice…you may be right…his girlfriend may be bad from him and I agree, “the Being There Method” is a prudent step to take. Just tap into my resources here on the site or in my books as there are all kinds of ways you can reinforce your value.

  6. Kyleigh

    September 11, 2018 at 3:34 am

    What do I do if the his ex is trying to use this method? I’ve already lost and broke up with him meanwhile she’s texting him and getting the best of him.

  7. Help

    September 3, 2018 at 2:44 pm

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    Here’s my story . I met a guy 11 months ago . He was head over heels for me . since the day we met he wanted to be together he introduced me to his friends and family , posted about me on his social media . But it was all to much for me I had just gotten out of a 2 1/2 year toxic relationship. So I pushed him away and I can honestly say I was kind of mean to him. So finally after about 4 months of him chasing me I decided I wanted to be with him . And he instantly said NO . And said that basically I pushed him away , but I could tell he still liked me because he would always come into my job to see me and we would still hang out

    But then I would ask him about “us” he would avoid it or be rude about it . So I became kind of obsessive because I was hurt and confused . I would argue with him and sometimes block him for like a week at a time in social media . I was a mess . One time I even blew his phone up in the middle of the night while drunk .

    Fast forward to a month ago right before NC , he invited me over I said no. Then a week later he posted a pic of a girl . I was so upset and I asked was it his Girlfriend and he said yes. The next day posted her again . was so hurt like how could he get a girl friend so fast. Everyone was saying it was to just make me jealous because after that day he never posted her again ,

    I started the NC , I officially finished it and I did it the right way . Went 30 days without contacting him , I always posted on social media , he always looked at it and it ended it two days ago and I reached out to him , just with a simple message saying “hi” and he responded “hi how are you” I was happy to hear that . The conversation went on for two days , and then my last response was simple and he didn’t reply which I expected .

    So now I’m confused, I don’t know if he has a girlfriend anymore . But he doesn’t come around my normal hangout spots anymore .
    How would I find out ? & even tho he’s the one who ended that conversation should I reach out again ? Help…..

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 3, 2018 at 7:56 pm

      Hi there Help!

      Yes, I can see you are a model student of the ex recovery program except you first “reach out” message and those that should follow could use some sharpening. I provide a lot of examples in my Program materials about how to handle those text communications. I know its not easy to find the right words and tone and timing. You should consider some of these resources because there are a lot of twist and turns to come. And yes, wait a few days and try another text but please use on of the examples I talk about in my eBooks or on my site!

  8. Betsy

    August 31, 2018 at 7:13 pm

    I was a seeing a man for 2 years. He starts not calling and seeing me as much so I asked if we were seeing other people he said no of course he was and I stopped contact with Jim for 4 months. We started up again and he told me that she wasn’t around anymore 6 weeks later I find that he was still with her. I blew up and called her telling her I was with him and what he said about her. Hence she took him back again no contact from me for over 30days. I had a bad sitting happen and needed him to talk to. He called me and called every day for a week like before we r just friends. He calls me like once a week He is still with the other woman
    I am dating other men. Just no one yet that excites me. Should I stay the course and see what happens I miss a lot of his calls lol

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 1, 2018 at 1:10 am

      Hi Betsy….if that is what you want to do. Maybe he will step up and tell you he is ending it with the other woman

  9. Cee

    August 26, 2018 at 2:13 am

    Hi Chris,

    I dated my ex for 3 years and after I broke up with him we stayed really close as friends. This was a couple of ago. I thought we stayed close because there were still feelings there. Recently I’ve been wanting to get back together but didnt know how to bring it up. He recently told me he’s seeing someone and I’m just a friend and I’ve misread the friendship. What do I do? Thanks.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 27, 2018 at 4:05 am

      Hi Cee!

      The pragmatic thing to do is stay a part of his life and evaluate over time if he is serious about this other person. I call it the “Being There” approach. Keep things positive, but don’t crowd him. Do things to showcase your value….sometimes a little subtle jealousy can help with the right kind of guy.

  10. Jojo

    August 25, 2018 at 1:27 am

    Hi Chris,
    I’m at a loss at this point. My bf of three years broke up with me in march of 2017. He was going through a tough time and didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. for two of those years, we were also long distance because of my job.
    I gave him distance, but didn’t know about the NC rule, so any time he would contact me, I would return his calls or texts. After I moved back to the city, every now and then, wed meet up and hang out, and sometimes it’d lead to sex. But he still would say that he didn’t want anything serious again, even though he cared about me and thought I was amazing. Around December, I finally had enough of his wishy washy behavior, and cut him off for the whole month, during which he was trying to contact me nonstop. When I finally did reach out, he said he was afraid I blocked him and that he wanted to meet up for ice cream when I came back from my parents after the holidays. So I thought he was turning around. he even drunk called me like he used too when we were together a few time. This is what he does when he cares about someone. He would continually tell me how amazing he thought I was and that he was sorry he broke my heart.
    Well, I get back in January, and he keeps putting off meeting up. We don’t actually meet up until march 16th. During which, I invite him to go to the museum of ice cream with me in April. He agreed and said it sounded like fun. Our convo was fun, and normal, and he was even flirty with me.
    Fast forward to the week before the museum, I had not heard from him since the last time we saw each other, so I call him and ask him whats up. He finally admits hes been dating, and one of the girls was upset he was still talking to me. He then tells me he wants me to move on, that he doesn’t see us getting back together, that im more attractive than this other girl, but it’s not enough. He said he still doesn’t want a relationship and feels like hes going to waste my time as the years go by if we stayed together. I didn’t get mad or scream, but I did beg a little bit for him to give me a second chance. I told him the LDR part of our relationship made it difficult for us to really have a “normal” relationship, so now that I’m back, he should give it a chance. He kept refusing and said that I’d find someone else in no time. And then he said the other girl didn’t want him going to the museum with me.
    We had one last convo a few days later where I called to see if the chick changed her mind and he said no she hadn’t and he still couldn’t go, but that he didn’t want us to drift apart.
    So as of April 2018 I have not spoken with him. I’ve learned so many tricks I wish I knew for right after we broke up because even though we’ve been in NC since April, I doubt it will have little effect now, assuming hes still with this other girl. he tried to call and text once at the end of April, but I ignored it. So stupidly, yesturday I thought enough time went by to contact him. So I called him and was going to tell him a quick funny story about something that remind me of him, and then end the convo. But he didn’t answer 🙁 Now I feel stupid. Maybe I should have left a voicemail because now im concerned that he thinks I was calling to beg again. He may have been busy working, and ive been too afraid to check my phone to see if he returned my call. I’m also afraid he was with her and thats why he didn’t answer. I have no idea what to do. I’d also love to buy your system, but I dont know if it can help my situation. Your advice would be greatly appreciated. I didn’t go to work today because I was super depressed about it.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 26, 2018 at 1:46 am

      Hi JoJo!

      Look, JoJo, you are trying to do all the right things…so don’t worry about what has worked or hasn’t. Some things you can’t predict or control. Remember, its important to focus on your own recovery and arrive at a place where no matter what happens, you will be fine. Watch some of the podcasts on my site to help you with recovery and working toward being the best version of yourself…not for him…but for you and your happiness.

  11. Jessica

    August 23, 2018 at 1:22 am

    Hi Chris,

    Its been rollercoaster ride. On April of this year, i kicked my bf out of our apartment. I kicked him out because he was still acting as if he was still single, not prioritizing me, i just didnt feel respected. The 1st two months he was ver cold, mean & rude to me. Yet, he would still come around and we would go out. I was still trying to work things out. The following two months he started to open up more and show more affection towards me. He would tell me he loved me, missed me, how he wanted to come back to me. I was still confused because there were times where he would be distant as if he was confused of what he wanted. I had finally decided that I had to think for myself now. It was July, I went NC for 2 weeks I was so heartbroken yet I tried to move on I was focusing on myself finally going out with guy and girl friends. After 2 weeks, my ex comes to my house furious because he knew I was going out due to my facebook pictures. He starts questioning me if I was talking to guys, etc. We talk things through. The next morning, we go have breakfast we hang out for the following 2 weeks. I just thought things were going to be worked out and be together again. So, then he offers to help me move out and I accept his offer. I am driving his car with boxes on the passenger and back seats. After I park, I am about to grab a box from the passengers seat when I notice a lipstick on the floor. I confronted him and he didnt have anything to say. I just feel like he should’ve told me he was dating or talking to someone before me finding out. Now, things i feel make sense that probably that is the reason why he seemed confused. Yet, why would he tell me he missed me or loved me? Was he just messing with my feelings? Was he just making an effort to move on and to forget bout me by talking yo someone. A lot of things have been going through my mind Chris. Ive been in NC for 3 weeks now i blocked him right after I confronted him. I feel like we are done completely. What are your thoughts? What advice do you give me?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 23, 2018 at 11:08 pm

      Hi Jessica!

      I know…breakups can be wild roller coaster rides. I am not so sure if this relationship is over. Some guys can think and act out of both sides of their brain. He probably does feel drawn to you and connected to you. And yet jealousies and resentment can get into the mix of things. I suggest you remain in NC, but unblock him. I tend to think its better to keep lines of communication open so you can gauge things. You do have my Ebook, right? If not, go get so you are guided by master plan.

  12. Jai

    August 17, 2018 at 6:33 pm

    Thank you for your answer Chris. No, I’ not sure of being understanding you, can you explain it to me? Thank you a lot

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 17, 2018 at 9:07 pm

      Probably best to just go back to my latest post (How To Steal Your Ex From The Ohter Woman) and re-read as the principles of how to navigate this issue is covered well in the video and on the podcast.

  13. Jai

    August 16, 2018 at 10:47 pm

    Hi Chris
    My NC ended today (30 days NC) but I don’t feel like texting him. He even left my last text unread for four weeks (and it was an anwser to his question) after that conversation I told here about before (he wanted to set a day for facetime and before, a video of me for seeing me, last thing he said was that he was happy and the next day, before anything happened he has changed his mind and wanted to wait. I initiated NC before that last unresponded and unread text I mentioned).
    I feel rejected. Invisible. Insignificant.
    Could I extend my NC period until he texts if he does? Or set a limit where I text him if he doesn’t but not soon. I need to be him initiating. Maybe there are something I can do to increase my chances of him “chasing” me. But I don’t feel like texting now and I doubt I feel better. He had never left my text unread for four weeks weeks (ten days top and he had stopped doing it long time ago, it hurts that he did it again, even when I was just answering to his question and we were talking in good terms).
    Still, I don’t know if he is dating another girl (I am very afraid of that I have no evidences to think that, but…) or just acting weird in general, but I don’t feel comfortable.
    What do you think? Can I extend my NC and just try something to increase my chances of him initiating?

    Thank you a lot!!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 16, 2018 at 11:56 pm

      So, the really underrated thing I see happening a lot is actually people who prime during the no contact. That yields responses a lot of times.

      Are you familiar with this terminology or do you need a crash course?

  14. Jessica

    August 16, 2018 at 5:08 pm

    This. As someone who started dating someone who was on friendly terms with his ex 2 months after their 2 year relationship ended, while I don’t think she was trying to get him back, I couldn’t help but feel insecure that he wanted to be with her. He was crazy about me, he worshiped the ground I walked on, there was literally nothing wrong in our relationship, except these little pangs of jealousy I would get anytime I saw they had been in touch in any way. Our first fight was about her. Our second fight was about her. Our break up was about her. He said he was tired of me being insecure, jealous and dramatic. If she had been trying to break us up it would have worked. We tried to be friends after the break up, we almost succeeded, but then we had one last big fight, it got ugly, and now he’s blocked me. Guess who he has never blocked and will still be friends with even though she broke up with him…

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 16, 2018 at 11:55 pm

      Like I said, it’s one of those morally grey area type things. It’s just something I’ve noticed works. Very controversial though.

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