Today we are going to be talking about signals from your ex that proves he misses you after the breakup.
Sounds like a pretty basic article, right?
Actually it isn’t.
Because I did something I’ve never done before for this article and used myself as a Guiana pig.
Well, perhaps that’s not entirely accurate.
I basically thought back to my very first breakup and considered all of the emotions and actions I took when I actually missed that person.
In other words, I’m getting personal and I think you’ll find some of the signals unique and fascinating.
5 Signs That Your Ex Misses You After The Breakup
After my very first breakup I did five things that were indications that I missed my ex.
In short, they were,
- Texting, Calling Or Showing Up In Person (Particularly Late At Night)
- Not Giving All Of Your Items Back
- Getting Angry During Conversations When Things Don’t Go Your Way
- Calling Your Best Friend To Talk About You
- Suddenly Blocking You And Then Unblocking You A Few Weeks Later
I personally believe that I’m in the unique position to talk to you in this article for a few reasons.
Firstly, I am a man.
Secondly, I was actually the one who broke up with my ex after nine months.
Thirdly, there was a period of time where I missed her and I engaged in each of those five signs above.
Allow me to explain.
Sign #1: Texting, Calling Or Showing Up In Person
So, this sign is kind of a combination of everything I’ve seen over the years as well as something I did after the breakup.
Care to guess what it was that I did?
Ok fine, I actually showed up to my ex girlfriends school one morning.
Here’s the background of what was going through my head.
My very first breakup happened when I was 18 years old.
I was a senior in high school and she was a junior.
We broke up during the summer that I went off to college and she became a senior. Now, I know what you’re thinking.
Oh, you just broke up with her to be free for college…
That’s actually not true.
Our relationship was plagued with so many problems that every week felt like an apocalypse was about to begin.
Anyways, throughout our relationship we had established a certain pattern.
Every morning I would meet her at school before classes would begin so we would get some extra time together.
One day I decided that I was going to do this again and surprise her.
I must have been broken up with her for something like 2 months at that point.
But What Went Through My Mind To Cause Me Show Up At Her School Like That?
So, here’s the timeline of events that caused me to show up at her school.
Ultimately the big tipping point is I ended up going out on a date with a new girl.
In hindsight, I don’t regret going on the date with that girl but it made me realize that I still wasn’t fully over my ex.
I mean, it’s a problem when you go on a date with someone and all you can think about is how things were better with your ex.
Anyways, after this date with this girl I get the brilliant idea to surprise my ex out of the blue at her school (my former school.)
I remember going to bed that night nervous and excited at what the next day would bring.
It makes me cringe to think about because until that point I had maybe spoken to my ex once or twice total.
Anyways, I didn’t sleep very well because I was so nervous which meant that I woke up very early and I went on my way.
The school hadn’t changed much.
I arrived around 6 in the morning and had about an hour before my ex would typically arrive.
I thought about what I was going to say.
I thought about how she would react.
In my mind I thought she would come over and hug me, hold me.
We would have this grand reconnection and talk about how the time apart had done us good.
In the midst, of this daydream a voice I recognized called my name.
My old teacher was shocked to see me.
A student, who had graduated come back.
I chatted with her for a bit and that’s when it suddenly dawned on me how ridiculous my plan was.
I looked like a creep stalking someone in high school
It caused me to get in my car and leave.
I never did reconnect with my ex and to the best of my knowledge she never knew I was there waiting for her that day.
I told you this story to show you what missing an ex can cause someone to do.
Look at all the actions I took.
- I woke up early in the morning.
- I showed up to my old high school.
- I waited for a good 45 minutes to see my ex.
If she had come in 20 minutes earlier than normal I definitely would have run into her and the story might have a different ending.
I’d probably experience the most embarrassing moment of my life because I later learned that she had already moved on to someone else.
Sign #2: Not Giving All Of Your Items Back
I know this article is supposed to be about my experience but I’m going to cheat for this one because I’ve never done this personally but I have seen plenty of exes pull it.
Here’s how it works,
Basically your ex has a singular thought after the breakup.
Wait, if I hold onto a few of her things it’ll guarantee an instant date.
Everyone knows that one of the customary breakup protocols occurs when you exchange items.
You left things at his place.
He left things at your place.
You need to exchange these items.
However, it’s possible to hold onto those things so you’ll have another excuse to see your ex. I mean, look how easy it is to just say something like,
Hey, I forgot to give you your favorite shirt. Want to come get it?
I see exes pulling this all the time.
Especially if they miss you.
Sign #3: Getting Angry When Conversations Don’t Go Your Way
Probably the best analogy I can give you when it comes to my experience of going through my breakup is that my emotions were like a pendulum swinging back and forth,
One moment I would be wanting to talk to my ex more than anything.
The next I would feel like a weight was lifted of my chest.
One of the constant sources of stress in our relationship was her parents.
I think at heart they were nice people but her dad was a little odd.
He was very over protective and did things that really freaked me out.
For example, when I took my ex to prom back when we were dating he answered the door with an AK-47,
I was already nervous enough but seeing that made me nerves multiply tenfold.
Anyways, after my ex and I broke up and after the “showing up at the school” incident we hardly talked.
I was stubborn and she was stubborn right back.
I don’t remember how we eventually got back in touch but we did and I remember for around 45 minutes we had a conversation that went pretty well.
I told her what I had been up to and she told me what she had been up to.
I had already heard through the grape vine that she was dating someone new.
I found it interesting that she left that piece of information out.
We agreed that we would talk again around the same time the next day.
In the lead up to that conversation an idea entered my head.
She’s dating someone new, right?
I bet you she still has feelings for me even though she is dating that new guy.
I bet if I get her to agree to see me in person it will make her realize that she prefers me over the new guy.
So, our second conversation begins and I wait until we are about 30 minutes into it and I drop the hint that we should get a cup of coffee some time.
Literally all I hear is silence.
Then she proceeds to tell me that her father, the crazy AK-47 man, has told her that he doesn’t think she should be dating anyone.
It’s a lie.
I know it’s a lie.
She knows it’s a lie and I just erupt in anger.
We have a fight and don’t talk again for months.
Ultimately, looking back I got angry because the conversation didn’t go my way.
I was young and didn’t keep calm.
I wanted so badly to prove I was better than the guy she was with that when it didn’t happen I just flew off the handle.
Sometimes anger can be a sign that your ex misses you, remember that.
Sign #4: Calling Your Best Friend To Talk About You
Did I ever tell you how I broke up with my ex?
Looking back if I were to chart our relationship it would look something like this,
My satisfaction with it peaked around month two.
The turning point occurred when she told me that she was sleeping over at her friends house and during that night they went to a guys house and spent a good portion there.
It freaked me out because why would you do that?
It always made me a little skeptical.
Anyways, from that point on our relationship was full of fights.
I was extremely insecure and that pretty much took root.
By the end we were fighting every other day.
And I’m not kidding about that.
Anyways, I broke up with her when I went on a road trip with my best friend.
He was driving and I was texting her.
We were having a fight through text and I ended up saying something like,
Now, I was talking about the conversation.
I just sent that text message and turned off my phone.
I couldn’t take fighting anymore.
My phone stayed off for the next six hours but the fight just gnawed at me and I ended up turning my phone back on expecting to have hundreds of text messages from her.
I didn’t have one.
This angered me.
So, I reached out to her with a simple one word message like,
The response comes within seconds,
At this point I’m presented with an opportunity.
I can clear up the fact that I meant that I was finished with the conversation and not the relationship or say nothing and just let it be.
I said nothing.
This was my first relationship so I didn’t know what to feel after the breakup.
I had always read these stories about how horrible it was but I can honestly say the first 24 hours I just felt numb.
It wasn’t until a few months go by that I realized just how torn up I was.
At one point throughout the “torn up” part I started texting her best friend.
I’m not an idiot and I knew that if I texted her best friend it’ll be a great way to kind of relay information to her.
I always got along great with her best friend so one night I just called her up and ended up having a three hour conversation.
We talked about all kinds of things.
But mostly she would ask me questions about my ex and how I felt.
I knew that my answers would get back around to my ex and I was ok with it for some reason.
Here’s my point.
If you notice your ex calling your best friend.
It’s probably a sign they are thinking a lot about you.
Sign #5: Suddenly Blocking You And Then Unblocking You
After my breakup with my ex I hated going to Facebook.
I hated seeing her post pictures happy.
I wanted her to cry.
I’m not ashamed to admit that.
I wanted her to be as upset and angry as I was.
She didn’t ever appear that way in public on Facebook though.
She was always taking pictures with her friends and they looked like they were having the time of their lives.
One day I realized that I was like a drug addict.
Every time I would log onto my computer I would literally go to Facebook and go to her profile.
I recognized how unhealthy it was and in an effort to create a better behavior within myself I decided to block her on Facebook. I just couldn’t look at her profile anymore.
It became unhealthy.
It was a great decision because it really helped me get my mind onto healthier things.
But that doesn’t mean that I didn’t think about her.
That I didn’t wonder what she was up to.
A few months later after blocking her I unblocked her just to take a peek and see what she was up to.
I want you to remember this story if you find yourself blocked by your ex.
It doesn’t mean that he’s not thinking about you.
More likely, he’s thinking about you too much.