By Rachel

Have you ever heard the Frank Sinatra quote,

“The best revenge is massive success”?

It’s true. There is nothing that you can do that will get under your ex’s skin and make him miss you more than taking your life by the horns and making the most out of it that you possibly can.

When uses properly, the EBR process can effect your ex boyfriend in such a way that he will obsess over you, miss you, and even want you back.

I know that it’s hard to imagine getting over the obstacle that is your breakup and all the pain that resulted from it, but you have a choice here. You can let this breakup define you and your life, consuming your each and every day, OR you can choose to let the experience and pain of the breakup make you stronger, and make you a better person going forward in your life.

I don’t know about you, but I know which of the two options I’d pick.

“From now on, every girl in the world who might be a slayer…will be a slayer. Every girl who could have the power…will have the power…can stand up, will stand up. …every one of us. Make your choice. Are you ready to be strong? – Buffy, “Chosen”

Ooooh, we’re getting the Buffy quote in early!

This quote is from the final episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and it is a powerful moment, because the entire gang has been beaten down and they feel like the final battle ahead literally is doomed to fail. They all expect to die. But then Buffy makes this speech, reminding them that giving up is absolutely not an option and that the time has come to make a choice to either give up, or stand up.

So it’s time for you to make your choice: are YOU ready to be strong?

What Makes A Man Miss An Ex Like Crazy

Now that I have, hopefully, inspired you, I am going to assume that you’ve realized that using your breakup to create positive change in your life is the way to go. So, let’s get back to your ex. You’ve made the commitment to change and be better for yourself, above all else. So now, let’s get back to your ex.

What is it that makes a man miss an ex girlfriend like crazy? What makes him get fixated and obsses

Really, it’s about what makes a man like or miss any woman like crazy – dating or not.

If you’ve spent any chunk of time on this site, you’ll know that becoming an Ungettable Girl is a huge cornerstone of the Ex Boyfriend Recovery process.

Let’s recap: What is an Ungettable Girl? An Ungettable Girl is the girl in the bar that all the women want to be, and all the men want to take home.

She is:

  • Beautiful
  • Poised
  • Funny
  • Charming
  • The Full Package

An Ungettable Girl doesn’t particularly care what people think about her, though. She just lives her life the best way she knows how – 100% for herself.

A guy wants an Ungettable Girl, partially because she is so ungettable. We all want what is seemingly unattainable. A guy doesn’t want a girl who will put her life aside for him. He wants a girl who has her own passions, friends, hobbies. No man wants to be the center of a woman’s world. That’s a lot of pressure, and everyone wants a partner who is accomplished and challenges them.

So what makes a man want or miss a woman if she is Ungettable?

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So How Does A Girl Become Ungettable?

Honestly, it begins with putting yourself first.

That is the point of the No Contact period. You focus on becoming a better version of yourself.

It may feel unnatural to do this. As women, we have a tendency to put the other people in our lives first, instead of making ourselves a priority. To counter this, I recommend making a list for yourself – it will give you a clear set of goals to always be aiming for.

The Holy Trinity is another cornerstone of the Ex Boyfriend Recovery program. And women who focus on the Holy Trinity are Ungettable. So I recommend making a list and checking in on it once a week to see how you are moving towards your goals.

Your list should look something like this:

Health:

  1. Work out 4 times per week
  2. Meal Prep for the week every Sunday
  3. Eat more healthy fruits and vegetables
  4. Go to therapy once a week
  5. Find a new skincare regiment

Wealth:

  1. Ask for a raise at work
  2. If one is not given, start working on resume and applying to new jobs
  3. Start trying to play a couple gigs a month
  4. Reach out to potential connections in my field
  5. Think ahead to what I want my career to look like 10 years from now

Relationships:

  1. Spend more time with friends and family
  2. Spend more time indulging in self care activities (playing guitar, reading, playing with dog)
  3. Work on loving self first and foremost
  4. Do not obsess/check in/online stalk ex boyfriend
  5. Reach out to potential new friends and set up coffee dates to get to know them

Do you see the trend here?

These are all things that are meant to improve YOUR quality of life, and none of it has to do with your ex, except maybe the goal of NOT paying attention to your ex.

So how do you make your ex miss you? You don’t give a shit about your ex. It’s difficult to achieve, but the best way to approach it is to organize yourself and set goals that will make you more likely to be disciplined.

And of course, you should also be documenting all of these activities on social media for your ex and his circle of influence to see. Be careful, though, and don’t go overboard. An Ungettable Girl is also mysterious. Keep him wondering, sometimes.

But What if You Can’t Talk to Him Directly?

There are some potential circumstances that you could be in, or that could arise, that could keep you from talking to your ex directly and showing him those major Ungettable Girl changes you’ve been making. They include:

  1. Maybe you are still in your No Contact period
  2. Maybe you are blocked (your number and/or on social media)
  3. Maybe he has another woman and refuses to talk to you
  4. Maybe you were long distance
  5. Maybe he never really had a social media presence.

If you’re in your No Contact period, don’t fear. You have plenty of time to reach out after it is over and make him see the changes you are making. Your job right now is to focus on yourself.

The good news is, there are other ways to get word to him. This really boils down to the two that I touched on earlier – Refining your social media presence, and working your ex’s sphere or influence.

Social Media

This can be used if you are in No Contact, and if you are not blocked on social media. Maybe he blocked your number, but the two of you are still friends on Facebook. It is also important to note, though, that even if he has unfriended you, he will still continue to check your social media profiles, which is why it is essential that your profiles are public. Anyway, if you still have a social media connection, this is the route to use.

As I mentioned before, don’t overdo it. You should take a look at what your social media presence was before the breakup, and try to mirror that. You don’t want the difference in posting frequencies to be obvious, and you want to remain somewhat a mystery. But if you went on a vacation – post that! If you are at a party with a friend and are looking particularly fine – go for it! And of course, there is the infamous date picture to invoke jealousy (picture of food, with a guy’s hands/arms clearly in the background, only comment on the food, not the company).

You also can contact marketing companies who will assist in making sure that you are getting lots of likes on social media, which can make you look very popular and in demand, and make your ex realize that you are well liked, and your life is going on without him.

Sphere of Influence

If you are blocked on social media, though, you have to tread carefully. You don’t want to get into a position of your ex trying to take legal action against you, so please don’t do anything crazy like contacting them all the time, showing up at their home/place of work, or talking about them to friends you have in common.

What you CAN do, however, is to make the changes you are making (that will make him miss you) clear to the people he holds close. This is easy to do if you have friends in common, or if his family remains in contact with you (though to successfully complete No Contact, that means no contact with his family as well for that designated period of time).

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You have to be careful about this. You can’t ask questions about your ex – you shouldn’t even bring him up. If his family or friends bring him up, act nonchalant – “I’m glad to hear he’s doing well” and change the subject. If they ask how you’re dealing with the breakup, say something along the lines of “I’m doing well! It’s been nice to just focus fully on myself” and then change the subject.
What needs to come across to the Sphere of Influence is two things: 1. You are doing just fine without your ex and are not moping around, desperate for him to come back; and 2. Not only are you doing just fine, but you are actually making positive changes in your life that are making you happier and more desirable.

If your ex is close to these people, it will almost certainly get back to him, so it is essential that you remain in control in these interactions. Do not lose your cool, and be sure that you are bringing your best self to the table. Don’t bring him up, and let the changes you are making speak for themself.

If you successfully completed No Contact, are taking the correct steps to make change, and are making those changes known through your ex through indirect ways, I’d say you’re on track to him missing you, if he hasn’t started to already.

Putting the Pieces Together

As counter intuitive as it may seem, focusing on yourself to become an Ungettable Girl needs to be your first priority if you want to make your ex miss you. And you may actually find that over the course of crossing off items on your holy trinity list to become that Ungettable Girl, that you stop focusing on your ex and begin to enjoy the process of focusing on yourself. After all, you spent your entire relationship taking another person’s needs into account. Freedom from your ex may taste better than you thought it would, once you allow yourself to focus on you.

And if you can’t speak to your ex directly, there are methods you can use to make sure that your ex is seeing the differences you are making in your life. And as discussed, an Ungettable Girl is what men want and miss in a woman. You can use social media and/or the sphere of influence to indirectly get your ex to miss you. If your ex hears you are doing well, that will automatically make them wonder why you don’t seem to be missing them more, and once they hear about all the new and exciting things you are doing and accomplishing, the missing you may begin to settle in. And if you can get his family and friends to sing your praises, I’d say you are well on your way to getting him back.

Don’t be afraid to take the time to focus on you and make some changes. It’s either that, or let the pain of the breakup define you, and as we’ve already established, that’s not the healthy choice. So be strong, stand up, and take control of the one area of your life you have power over – yourself.

Alright, now that you are filled in on what it takes to make an ex miss you. I am gonna load you up with some other handy tools you might need.

First of all… I’m going to give you the link to the full EBR Pro 4 System, of course.

But there are PLENTY of other things that EBR has to offer.

Like this video that is also on how to get your ex to miss you…

7 Reasons It’s Okay to Miss Your Ex

Why Do Men Always Come Back After You Ignore Them?

I Miss My Ex Like Crazy; How Do I Get Him Back?

Okay, before you dive headfirst into all that EBR has to offer… and it’s a lot…

Let’s talk about you situation specifically.

I want to know:

  1. The details surrounding your breakup
  2. What you’ve done since the breakup
  3. What you think your next step should be after reading this article

Our experts will help you determine what the best next step should be.

Well.. C’mon! No time to lose!

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193 thoughts on “How to Make Your Ex Miss You Without Talking To Him”

  1. Claire

    March 30, 2018 at 5:59 am

    Hi,
    I was wondering how to get my boyfriend back if we broke up as a combination of 2 factors: his parents don’t allow him to see me and they convinced him that we are incompatible due to too many differences (ex. I’m too reckless, chaotic). He used to not think that but as a result of too much fighting, he now does. He still wants to be good friends, however he doesn’t want me to think that we could ever date again, as he doesn’t think so. However, we used to plan our marriage, family, etc. Initially when we broke up, he said he still wanted these things but couldn’t because of his parents. Now, he says he’s not so sure. If his parents allowed us to see each other, he said he would give us another chance in spite of our personality differences…

    How do I get him back considering this complicated circumstance? Is there something I can do to win over his mom and prove to them both that I’m not too reckless? And is it bad that he told my friend that he’s already starting to get over me due to the “out of sight out of mind principle,” even if it’s only been 3 weeks? Thank you.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 30, 2018 at 7:08 am

  2. Maya

    March 30, 2018 at 5:59 am

    How do I get an LDR ex to miss me after a fight regarding a lack of communication if I gnatted him a few times after the fight and he just says he wants to left alone? It was a 5 month relationship and I’m on day 12 of NC. Also, should I do 30 or 45 days NC?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 30, 2018 at 8:11 am

  3. Maya

    March 30, 2018 at 5:14 am

    How do I get an LDR ex back after a fight regarding a lack of communication if I gnatted him a few times after the fight and he just says he wants to left alone? It was a 5 month relationship and I’m on day 12 of NC. Should I do 30 or 45 days?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 30, 2018 at 8:01 am

  4. Chrissy

    March 30, 2018 at 5:14 am

    Hello EBR Team,I have some question for you.Hope you will help me 🙂

    I miss my ex boyfriend but he misses someone else right now.
    I think he doesen`t even care about me.So what should I do in this situation when he has someone else on his mind?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 30, 2018 at 8:01 am

      Hi Chrissy,

      When did you broke up? Have you done nc? If yes, how active were you in improving yourself and posting from then til now?

  5. Marie

    January 20, 2018 at 10:12 pm

    Hi 🙂

    I recently went to the “contact” page and left a message, but I’m note sure if it went through. Are responses to those messages sent to the email we listed? Thanks!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 21, 2018 at 10:57 am

      Hi Marie,
      I don’t see your email in any other post than this..
      Do you have any qurstions that I can answer here?

  6. Marie

    March 30, 2018 at 5:03 am

    Hi 🙂

    I recently went to the “contact” page and left a message, but I’m note sure if it went through. Are responses to those messages sent to the email we listed? Thanks!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 30, 2018 at 8:01 am

      Hi Marie,
      I don’t see your email in any other post than this..
      Do you have any qurstions that I can answer here?

  7. Sylvia

    January 20, 2018 at 4:33 pm

    Hey Rachel,
    he and i were only together for a month. Broke up Jan2017. We live in different countries at the moment. We were on good talking terms and flirty for a few months after the breakup.

    He’s now been dating someone since last year in May. He said she’s obsessed with him, tracks everything he does online and his phone. She overshares the relationship online WAY more than he posts. It seems more like insecurity and a need to show that “he’s hers” and for validation. He doesnt look happy in pics with her, doesnt lean in to her sometimes even pissed off or upset, but she looks too happy.

    He and I havent communicated in 2 months. Last time we did he said “he cant msg me much because his gf doesnt like when he chats with other girls.” He still likes stuff I post online. I think he still has feelings for me but is hiding them because of his gf, i think he is with her because shes there, only because shes convenient and available. I dont think hes in love with her truly.

    I never chased or text gnatted him.
    I havent contacted or reached out to him in 2 months. Same from him. Would doing a further No Contact period be effective in this case?
    I guess the only thing I havent done during the period is posting on my social media, but Ive never really been a heavy user of social media.

    Also, he has no negativity towards me personally. It was the distance thats the issue.

    I really want to give us another shot, Be it now, or in the future. What would be the best strategy to inplement in my situation?
    -Long distance
    -Broken up over a year
    -Had positive contact for months
    -Has a gf For 8 months: obsessive, dramatic
    -No contact at all for past 2 months
    – a few weeks before we stopped contact he told me and mentioned this also to one of his friends that he was feeling nostalgic about the time he spent with me

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 21, 2018 at 6:35 am

  8. Carolyn

    January 20, 2018 at 4:24 pm

    Hi,
    I have a problem with my ex, cause I don’t understand his actions. 3 months ago I refused to go on a weekend with him (it was a casual fight about something unimportant that led me to cancell our plans). He was hurt, we were fighting for a few days and we broke up. He blocked me on social media, I didn’t react and after a month he unblocked me and started contacting me. He wasn’t straightforward about his motives, just testing the waters and trying to put all the blame on me or acting jealous asking me about other guys. I tried not to fight back, I was answearing him but rather in a neutral and aloof manner. But now he tells me I am still important to him, he is not begging me but letting me know that he is open to try once again. I didn’t give him any answear because here is a tricky part. I checked his social media and he is flirting with some random girls or he is listening to songs that are realeted to his previous ex. So i don’t know what to think. Is he playing me? Or is he true? I’m totally confused.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 21, 2018 at 6:52 am

      Hi Carolyn,

      It looks like he’s playing safe.. You handled the past months well but if he’s really serious, he has to make more effort..

  9. Sylvia

    March 30, 2018 at 5:03 am

    Hey Rachel,
    he and i were only together for a month. Broke up Jan2017. We live in different countries at the moment. We were on good talking terms and flirty for a few months after the breakup.

    He’s now been dating someone since last year in May. He said she’s obsessed with him, tracks everything he does online and his phone. She overshares the relationship online WAY more than he posts. It seems more like insecurity and a need to show that “he’s hers” and for validation. He doesnt look happy in pics with her, doesnt lean in to her sometimes even pissed off or upset, but she looks too happy.

    He and I havent communicated in 2 months. Last time we did he said “he cant msg me much because his gf doesnt like when he chats with other girls.” He still likes stuff I post online. I think he still has feelings for me but is hiding them because of his gf, i think he is with her because shes there, only because shes convenient and available. I dont think hes in love with her truly.

    I never chased or text gnatted him.
    I havent contacted or reached out to him in 2 months. Same from him. Would doing a further No Contact period be effective in this case?
    I guess the only thing I havent done during the period is posting on my social media, but Ive never really been a heavy user of social media.

    Also, he has no negativity towards me personally. It was the distance thats the issue.

    I really want to give us another shot, Be it now, or in the future. What would be the best strategy to inplement in my situation?
    -Long distance
    -Broken up over a year
    -Had positive contact for months
    -Has a gf For 8 months: obsessive, dramatic
    -No contact at all for past 2 months
    – a few weeks before we stopped contact he told me and mentioned this also to one of his friends that he was feeling nostalgic about the time he spent with me

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 30, 2018 at 8:01 am

  10. Carolyn

    March 30, 2018 at 5:14 am

    Hi,
    I have a problem with my ex, cause I don’t understand his actions. 3 months ago I refused to go on a weekend with him (it was a casual fight about something unimportant that led me to cancell our plans). He was hurt, we were fighting for a few days and we broke up. He blocked me on social media, I didn’t react and after a month he unblocked me and started contacting me. He wasn’t straightforward about his motives, just testing the waters and trying to put all the blame on me or acting jealous asking me about other guys. I tried not to fight back, I was answearing him but rather in a neutral and aloof manner. But now he tells me I am still important to him, he is not begging me but letting me know that he is open to try once again. I didn’t give him any answear because here is a tricky part. I checked his social media and he is flirting with some random girls or he is listening to songs that are realeted to his previous ex. So i don’t know what to think. Is he playing me? Or is he true? I’m totally confused.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 30, 2018 at 8:01 am

      Hi Carolyn,

      It looks like he’s playing safe.. You handled the past months well but if he’s really serious, he has to make more effort..

  11. Sylvia

    January 20, 2018 at 11:10 am

    I left a post on here but i cant find it! Hope it hasnt been deleted.

  12. Sylvia

    January 20, 2018 at 11:01 am

    Hey Rachel,
    he and i were only together for a month. Broke up Jan2017. We live in different countries at the moment. We were on good talking terms and flirty for a few months after the breakup.

    He’s now been dating someone since last year in May. He said she’s obsessed with him, tracks everything he does online and his phone. She overshares the relationship online WAY more than he posts. It seems more like insecurity and a need to show that “he’s hers” and for validation. He doesnt look happy in pics with her, doesnt lean in to her sometimes even pissed off or upset, but she looks too happy.

    He and I havent communicated in 2 months. Last time we did he said “he cant msg me much because his gf doesnt like when he chats with other girls.” He still likes stuff I post online. I think he still has feelings for me but is hiding them because of his gf, i think he is with her because shes there, only because shes convenient and available. I dont think hes in love with her truly.

    I never chased or text gnatted him.
    I havent contacted or reached out to him in 2 months. Same from him. Would doing a further No Contact period be effective in this case?
    I guess the only thing I havent done during the period is posting on my social media, but Ive never really been a heavy user of social media.

    Also, he has no negativity towards me personally. It was the distance thats the issue.

    I really want to give us another shot, Be it now, or in the future. What would be the best strategy to inplement in my situation?
    -Long distance
    -Broken up over a year
    -Had positive contact for months
    -Has a gf For 8 months: obsessive, dramatic
    -No contact at all for past 2 months
    – a few weeks before we stopped contact he told me and mentioned this also to one of his friends that he was feeling nostalgic about the time he spent with me

  13. Hannah

    January 20, 2018 at 10:22 am

    Hi, so my ex of 2 and a half years broke up with me 3 months ago. I went into NC and he reached out to me telling me he missed me. He said we might be able to get back together but told me he didn’t love me. We started talking for a few weeks and last night he invited me over. I know I shouldn’t have but I slept with him. I told him I loved him and he couldn’t say it back. He said he didn’t know what he wanted with anything and that he’s no good for anyone and that he needs to sort himself out (he’s quite depressed) he was really nice and told me how proud of me he was and that I deserve better. We both decided to give each other some space. I don’t know what to do now, have I blown my chance?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 21, 2018 at 6:17 am

  14. Sylvia

    March 30, 2018 at 5:03 am

    I left a post on here but i cant find it! Hope it hasnt been deleted.

  15. Sylvia

    March 30, 2018 at 5:59 am

    Hey Rachel,
    he and i were only together for a month. Broke up Jan2017. We live in different countries at the moment. We were on good talking terms and flirty for a few months after the breakup.

    He’s now been dating someone since last year in May. He said she’s obsessed with him, tracks everything he does online and his phone. She overshares the relationship online WAY more than he posts. It seems more like insecurity and a need to show that “he’s hers” and for validation. He doesnt look happy in pics with her, doesnt lean in to her sometimes even pissed off or upset, but she looks too happy.

    He and I havent communicated in 2 months. Last time we did he said “he cant msg me much because his gf doesnt like when he chats with other girls.” He still likes stuff I post online. I think he still has feelings for me but is hiding them because of his gf, i think he is with her because shes there, only because shes convenient and available. I dont think hes in love with her truly.

    I never chased or text gnatted him.
    I havent contacted or reached out to him in 2 months. Same from him. Would doing a further No Contact period be effective in this case?
    I guess the only thing I havent done during the period is posting on my social media, but Ive never really been a heavy user of social media.

    Also, he has no negativity towards me personally. It was the distance thats the issue.

    I really want to give us another shot, Be it now, or in the future. What would be the best strategy to inplement in my situation?
    -Long distance
    -Broken up over a year
    -Had positive contact for months
    -Has a gf For 8 months: obsessive, dramatic
    -No contact at all for past 2 months
    – a few weeks before we stopped contact he told me and mentioned this also to one of his friends that he was feeling nostalgic about the time he spent with me

  16. Hannah

    March 30, 2018 at 5:03 am

    Hi, so my ex of 2 and a half years broke up with me 3 months ago. I went into NC and he reached out to me telling me he missed me. He said we might be able to get back together but told me he didn’t love me. We started talking for a few weeks and last night he invited me over. I know I shouldn’t have but I slept with him. I told him I loved him and he couldn’t say it back. He said he didn’t know what he wanted with anything and that he’s no good for anyone and that he needs to sort himself out (he’s quite depressed) he was really nice and told me how proud of me he was and that I deserve better. We both decided to give each other some space. I don’t know what to do now, have I blown my chance?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 30, 2018 at 8:11 am

  17. Candice

    January 20, 2018 at 1:53 am

    Hey. So as you said we broke up because he simply wasn’t attracted to me before. I know how he behaves when he’s attracted to someone and I’ve experienced that at the beginning of our relationship. I’ve made the grave mistake of possibly letting myself go and jot having my own life. As a result he left me for another girl and my fear is that as the days go by he’s becoming more taken with her. By the way he cheated on me with her. After we broke up I begged and cried and showed up by his house but he keeps asking me to leave. He doesn’t want me there because he wants to show everyone that he’s made space for his new girl. To be honest I just want him crawling back. I am on 10 days no contact of a total of 45 days. I do feel like it will take more than 45 days to get him back. By that time also he’ll be very invested in this new girl. I’m considering hiring a photographer to take some pictures of me to go on my Facebook. Besides that and working and a new dance class and gym, what can I do to ensure he feels strangely about leaving me…?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 21, 2018 at 5:12 am

      Hi Candice,

      Keep in mind that the nc process is not just during nc.. It’s just the to help you start a new routine.. You have to maintain that routine after nc while slowly building rapport whether you get hin back or not..

  18. Candice

    March 30, 2018 at 5:59 am

    Hey. So as you said we broke up because he simply wasn’t attracted to me before. I know how he behaves when he’s attracted to someone and I’ve experienced that at the beginning of our relationship. I’ve made the grave mistake of possibly letting myself go and jot having my own life. As a result he left me for another girl and my fear is that as the days go by he’s becoming more taken with her. By the way he cheated on me with her. After we broke up I begged and cried and showed up by his house but he keeps asking me to leave. He doesn’t want me there because he wants to show everyone that he’s made space for his new girl. To be honest I just want him crawling back. I am on 10 days no contact of a total of 45 days. I do feel like it will take more than 45 days to get him back. By that time also he’ll be very invested in this new girl. I’m considering hiring a photographer to take some pictures of me to go on my Facebook. Besides that and working and a new dance class and gym, what can I do to ensure he feels strangely about leaving me…?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 30, 2018 at 8:01 am

      Hi Candice,

      Keep in mind that the nc process is not just during nc.. It’s just the to help you start a new routine.. You have to maintain that routine after nc while slowly building rapport whether you get hin back or not..

  19. Sarah

    January 19, 2018 at 1:20 am

    Hi Rachel,

    I previously left a comment on another page but it disappeared so i hope this is not a repeat…

    I dated my ex boyfriend for about 6 months and we broke up because he was caught up with and unforeseen family matter and work. So he basically told me he did not have the emotional space for a relationship and used the its me not you reason as well.

    I did no contact for 30 days and reached out with an initial contact text which he responded pretty fast and positively. He has even initiated a text once and also mentioned casually that we should go check out this restaurant together sometime. He also started on instagram recently and followed me and liked my photo. My profile is public so he could have seen my photos without following me. Why would he do so? I am thinking is he just trying to appear that he is ready to be just friends?

    Generally when i initiate a text, he replies rather positively and i try to keep it interesting and end on a high point as i have read on the texting bible.

    However, now i am afraid he might just be treating me like a friend and i have been friend zoned. I understand for the texting bible that it is ok to initiate texts as long as i keep it interesting and leave on a high note. But should i be initiating more texts? I am afraid now that he might see this as an indication that i have moved on and am ready to just be friends. He did mention when we broke up to continue just being friends… and he is also friends with his ex girlfriend before me (they work in the same company).

    So far i have not initiated any more messages in the past few days… as I do not know what should be my next step. Should i initiate another text or should i wait for him to initiate? I do not want to be friend-zoned 🙁

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 20, 2018 at 2:03 am

      Hi Sarah,

      It’s too early to say you’re friendzoned.. You’re really supposed to start like that and just continue building rapport and attraction.. Don’t be too available so you can avoid being friendzoned.

  20. Sarah

    March 30, 2018 at 3:48 am

    Hi Rachel,

    I previously left a comment on another page but it disappeared so i hope this is not a repeat…

    I dated my ex boyfriend for about 6 months and we broke up because he was caught up with and unforeseen family matter and work. So he basically told me he did not have the emotional space for a relationship and used the its me not you reason as well.

    I did no contact for 30 days and reached out with an initial contact text which he responded pretty fast and positively. He has even initiated a text once and also mentioned casually that we should go check out this restaurant together sometime. He also started on instagram recently and followed me and liked my photo. My profile is public so he could have seen my photos without following me. Why would he do so? I am thinking is he just trying to appear that he is ready to be just friends?

    Generally when i initiate a text, he replies rather positively and i try to keep it interesting and end on a high point as i have read on the texting bible.

    However, now i am afraid he might just be treating me like a friend and i have been friend zoned. I understand for the texting bible that it is ok to initiate texts as long as i keep it interesting and leave on a high note. But should i be initiating more texts? I am afraid now that he might see this as an indication that i have moved on and am ready to just be friends. He did mention when we broke up to continue just being friends… and he is also friends with his ex girlfriend before me (they work in the same company).

    So far i have not initiated any more messages in the past few days… as I do not know what should be my next step. Should i initiate another text or should i wait for him to initiate? I do not want to be friend-zoned 🙁

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 30, 2018 at 4:50 am

      Hi Sarah,

      It’s too early to say you’re friendzoned.. You’re really supposed to start like that and just continue building rapport and attraction.. Don’t be too available so you can avoid being friendzoned.

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