5,813 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup”

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    Barbara

    January 28, 2019 at 11:06 pm

    Someone broke up with me because of the situation not because of me. The issues were children, future, family and church. They said they need time to heal and that they love me and didn’t want to do this. I’ve been told “I don’t know if things will ever work out (marriage) and that it would have to be a long time from now.

    1. He really wants his won kids and a lot of them. I told him I didn’t want to make a decision until I talked to a geneticist. He was hurt that I didn’t make a appointment. My family has some health problems. He told me he didn’t want me to become a baby factory for him

    2. He said I didn’t want to have a future with him. That’s not true the only reason I didn’t say that I did is because my family isn’t fond of him especially my mother. He tried to get along with my mom but eventually gave up. He’s moving to California not this summer but next summer and he wanted me to go with him. He said he was thinking about getting engaged but that these problems bothered him. He didn’t want me to choose my family over him.

    3. I’m a non denominational Christian and he’s Catholic. He said he didn’t care about what denomination I was and he would never make me convert. I told him that I thought it was important that our children be raised in a one denomination household.

    Resolutions

    1. I’m seeing a doctor soon and then it will take 6 months to see a geneticist.
    2. I told him that I do want to have a future with him.
    3. We go to a Lutheran church or we go to separate church’s and the children will probably be raised catholic.

    He’s told me over the years that he has been so happy with me and how much he loves me. Someone told me to beg for him afterwards so I sent a email and he responded. Then in 2 weeks someone told me to call him and tell him some stuff so I did. He told me that “I don’t know if we can ever be married, it would have to be a long time from now and that he didn’t want me to wait too long for him and that he needs time to heal” I told him that I can date other people but that I can’t give up on him so I sounded pretty desperate. He sounded miserable on the phone and was crying and choking up. He said he doesn’t know how to be happy with himself and that he doesn’t have that many friends so he basically lost his best friend.

    I do NOT need him in my life but I WANT him in my life. I’m a very easygoing person and he is stuck in his ways and stubborn. I will not beg for him anymore. I am not his doormat. I will not let my life revolve around him. I’m introverted so I enjoy spending time by myself. He will have trouble finding someone as easy going as me.

    I’ve been trying to grow by reading my bible, exercising, spending time with friends, going to school and doing my internship. I’ve been watching your videos and have been developing a plan on how to try to get him back. I’m doing no contact right now. I don’t think I can be friends with him because I’ll always want more than friendship. He is not above me I will be treated as his equal or he will never see me again. We have been together for almost 4 years and are emotionally attached. We’ve talked about marriage for a long time.

    Relationships aren’t all about one person and what they want. They need to be compromise. Love is not self seeking.

    Do you have any advice? Thank you!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      January 28, 2019 at 11:24 pm

      Hi Barbara….so you should be proud of some of the personal recovery activities you have gotten involved in. Yes, I do think the NC principle is the right medicine so long as you implement it in the way I teach it in my Program. And a big yes to couples learning the importance of compromise and seeking to fulfill each other’s needs.

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    jeane

    January 22, 2019 at 7:29 pm

    Hi Chris,
    I have a situation! i broke up with my ex bf because we had been arguing at least once a month for a whole year and i had had enough! it was getting worse everytime, getting more toxic and unhealthy and going out of our way to be horrible to each other! so i firstly distanced myself without saying anything then when he text saying i cant believe you are doing this at the hardest time of year (christmas) i said i had enough of arguing and i was DONE, i asked him to delete my number and leave me alone, and so he replied saying i will delete your number as requested and that was on the 13th December, we have had NO CONTACT since but exactly a month later (14th Jan) he put my things i had left at his house on my door step, we are both very stubborn and im not sure if he is leaving signs of wanting me to reach out? I have deactivated my facebook account, but he still has my mum as a friend which he has liked her status (its a first as he never had before) can you advice on what to do next or keep my radio silence abit longer?

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    San

    December 9, 2018 at 2:59 pm

    Hi Chris, so I disrespect my boyfriend of which I know is bad and he started ignoring me so I will nag when ever he doesn’t reply me and it’s been 3 months since he hasn’t texted me. So today I went and apologized again and he posted on his status “ Don’t waste your words on people who deserve your silence, sometimes the best thing to say is nothing “ and I replied to his status with” okay understood, wish you the best sir” and he hasn’t replied. I don’t know what to do anymore. Should I text him or what

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      December 10, 2018 at 1:04 am

      Sounds like it may be best to employ No Contact. Swing by my home page to learn more about some of the resources and tools available.

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      Chris Seiter

      December 10, 2018 at 12:57 am

      Sounds like NC is in order

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    Laura

    December 6, 2018 at 3:30 pm

    Hi Chris, could you please give an advice on how to deal with a love-avoidant? What is the best solution in this case, keeping no contact as long as possible or initiating encounters and being his friend? I have been in no contact for almost 2 months with my ex (he requested it after a wonderful one-year relationship, and I’m ashamed to admit I panicked and acted too clingy), then I contacted him on his birthday a few days ago… he accepted meeting up, it all went well but I feel he is distant, keeping away from me both physically and emotionally. He agreed for us to remain friends, but it scares me.. I know he won’t reach out first and it also hurts to see him treating me like a mere friend. I don’t know what to do from now on, pls help with an advice. Thanks a lot!

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    Victoria

    December 4, 2018 at 10:10 pm

    I’m so torn about no contact because when I don’t reply he says Im worrying him and texts my phone saying that he can’t take not talking to me and implies that I’m breaking up with him. Should I still continue no contact even if he G.N.A.T me?

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    Victoria

    December 4, 2018 at 10:09 pm

    My ex boyfriend says we’re on a break. He fluctuates the time frame between 2-5 months often, he is only 23 years old and says he wants to have personal growth before we essentially get serious and that when he comes back he will know for sure that he wants to marry me. During the break he still wants to talk and possibly see each other often. He freaks out when I don’t respond to his messages. He says he misses me but that he needs this time. Another big part is that he’s had trauma in his life as well as he deals with anxiety and depression. He says he doesn’t know the exact time it will take him to face his demons and he asks me to bare with him. I told him 2 months is my maximum wait time, he doesn’t say much when I mention that. Am I pressuring him? Am I being fair?
    I’m so torn about no contact because when I don’t reply he says Im worrying him and texts my phone saying that he can’t take not talking to me and implies that I’m breaking up with him. Should I still continue no contact even if he G.N.A.T me?

    Ps he often says he loves me, shows me love, and says the love is still real

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    Jasmine

    December 1, 2018 at 7:19 pm

    My ex broke up with me because he found me messaging guys in an innapproptiate way, we dated for 2 years (literally broke up on our 2 years) and the messages he found were from when we were 3 months, but i also messaged other guys (just normal) that he found, everytime we talk then he is just pointing out more things ive been doing such as following guys and liking guys pictures, i always accused him and was jealous so he says that is what makes it worse, but today he finally told me he is happier now and could never come back.. idk if hes just saying that because he is hurt or if i should give up

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    Alexis

    November 29, 2018 at 11:23 pm

    My boyfriend broke up with me after a year because he said he did not want to do long distance anymore. He said he still loved me but he needed to do this for himself since he missed me too much when I was gone. I left for school and then decided to text him that I wished we had not been together over the summer when he knew he did not want to continue the relationship and he responded rudely. I then did not talk to him for 20 days and then he messaged me saying he missed me and wanted to be friends. Should I accept the apology and be friends? or is this a trap and could keep me in the friend zone forever. He has made it very clear that he does not want to do long distance but I will be gone for the next 2 and a half years at school

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    Kris

    November 20, 2018 at 5:20 pm

    After 10 months together, My ex broke up with me over a fight that I started via text that he didn’t even want to talk about. I was having a bad day and it was about the time he spent with me. If anything I just wanted to talk about it even though I went about it the wrong way. I was shocked when the next day he said he was selfish and shouldn’t be in a relationship. Up until then I thought we were happy. I think he got scared but idk. I also now think he has avoidant tendencies. We are both in our 40s. He’s been married before and I haven’t. Anyway,
    I met him through volunteering at an animal shelter. Ironically I started there to build my own life aside from being with a man. Then I met him and we fell for each other. He works there. Every weekend I did at least one event with him. I loved being with him and the animals. After he broke up with me I was and am heart broken. It’s been 2 1/2 months now. At first he responded to my texts but I just kept begging him to take me back. Then I did N.C. for a month and now I tried texting him and he doesn’t respond. I’m basically a secure person until something like this happens. I have become an insecure obsessive mess. I just can’t understand it all. I thought he cared about me.
    Anyway, I haven’t had the heart to go back to the shelter even when he’s not there. I’m embarrassed and my heart sinks at the thought of being somewhere that he goes every day. And where I had so much fun with him at. Not that it was all about him, but the 2 are now tied together for me. So I don’t even have my happy place. My question is, am doing the wrong thing by not showing my face back there(when he’s not there)? Is it making me look even weaker? Or should I be staying away?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      November 20, 2018 at 9:56 pm

      Hi Kris!

      Yes, I understand. There are various attachment styles and the “Avoidant” type has difficult attaching at times. You are going to come thru this. Keep focusing on your own healing. If he doesn’t come around, its his loss. IF you don’t want to go there…then don’t. Its not a sign of weakness, rather its just your preference and what makes sense from a pragmatic and personal perspective.

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    Jennifer

    November 16, 2018 at 7:19 am

    My boyfriend and I broke up not more than 4 weeks ago, it was his birthday. He broke up with me. I honestly didn’t see it coming but after the break up I looked back and realized that he wasn’t trying anymore. I was in a long distance relationship by the way. Days before that dreadful day, we were cold to each other or should I say it was just me and he was sort of did what I did to him. I told him why I was acting that way and all he could say is sorry, never ending sorrys but nothing’s really changed. So I didn’t greet him on his birthday and then he told me that he waited until 12 midnight to see if I was going to greet him just like how I used to before. Honestly, I had this letter for him that I was supposed to post on Facebook for his birthday. I messaged all of our common friends to send him a private message and greet him on his birthday because I wanted him to wake up with loads of birthday greetings. I remember how he said that he wants his friends to remember his birthday without Facebook reminding them so he set his birthday to Private settings. I knew that he just wanted to feel recognized and appreciated but you see, my ex now boyfriend has a huge ego. I always tell him to reach out to our friends but he would always say “they’re busy”. Anyway to make the long story short, I didn’t greet him nor did I post the letter I made for him. I actually deactivated my Facebook days before we broke up. So on his birthday, I nagged him for ignoring me, my sentiments and I guess that was it. He got tired. Through text he said, “this is not working out…” I knew it then that he was going to break up with me. So I called him (video call), see we made this promise to each other that if ever we’re going to break up we’ll say it face-to-face. But I did call not because I want to break up but I was hoping that he’ll change his mind. But he didn’t I think even before THAT CALL he was so ready to break up with me. I begged and pleaded, cried my hear tout hoping that he’ll pity me but he just closed his eyes.

    Days before that break up conversation, we were okay. He even asked me if I want to have a baby because he was planning to come home next year and spend a month in our house. I am a single-mom by the way. He loves my daughter soooo much. He even said that he misses OUR daughter…that’s how he calls her. He would often show our picture to his friends saying that we are his family here in the Philippines. Days before the breakup he said that he wants to see and hug our daughter. We’ve been planning for the future and getting married. I think devastated and heartbroken are not enough to describe how I felt that time. I told him why does he have to say those things if he already planned to break up with me..he only said sorry.
    After the break up, I tried to beg again by sending him messages on Messenger but he stood by his decision. He was firm. I pleaded and begged for 2 days. But then I felt like, it’s not working out. Then we had this conversation thru messenger that we’ll just remain friends just like how we started. We went back to calling each other “Twin” because that what we were, we were inseparable at work, we think alike and we ate together. But on my part, I did it because I was still hoping but I know that on his part, we were really over. I tried that No Contact Rule upon reading these websites about how to win your ex back but just like any other girls I failed to complete the NC rule. I sent him a friendly message because I really missed him that it’s almost killing me..only to realize that we couldn’t really go back to how we were before even as “twins”. During that time that I didn’t contact him, he still talks to my daughter through IG. He always checks her IG stories, even video calls her. But he said it was my daughter who was trying to reach out to him first. My daughter is sort of mad at him because she saw how broken I was, how I tired myself from crying until I fall asleep. She never really wanted to reply to his messages but I asked my daughter to answer him. But then, I read these articles about the NC rule and its benefits so I implemented it. It’s been more than a week now since I last messaged him which by the way, I didn’t get any reply. he stopped messaging my daughter too but he still views my daughter’s IG story. And I reactivated my Facebook. I told him before that I will only reactivate my Facebook account when I am ready. I was too scared to see what he’s going to post online. I was right he tagged some random girl on his posts two I think, and of course just like any other girls I stalked that girls account. I found out that she has 2 FB account. One account has her pictures of her boyfriend and the OTHER which my ex boyfriend tagged in his posts where she appeared to be single. When I checked my ex boyfriends posts, I felt in my heart that he’s also in pain because of our break up. My ex boyfriend expresses his feeling through songs. And he’s been posting songs about his feelings and lyrics clearly said that he’s hurting. He shared a post about how tall men and short women make the happiest couple. My ex is 6 feet tall and I’m only 4 feet and 11 inches. I sent him that very same post only I took screenshot of it and sent it to him. He knew that I didn’t like our height difference but he finds it cute. He shared another post about this fastfood restaurant that he knows I love so much, it even has the caption of our endearment. Then he would post some quotes about moving on, about how well he’s dealing with the breakup. He posted pictures of him at the gym day after our breakup. Then he would post songs again about how hurt he is. His behavior online is really confusing me. We always had arguments about me posting quotes on facebook whenever we’re having a fight. He said that I was just seeking attention and he doesn’t like the idea that our friends would know that we’re not ok. But after the breakup it was him who’s been very active on Facebook. He knows me very well. He knows that I would react on every single post that he’ll share on his wall just like how I did when we were together. But I didn’t. I didn’t react. I just cried to myself seeing all those posts. and I noticed that after I reactivated my account he untagged himself to my posts in the past. He even deleted his comments on my posts. He also deleted his posts about moving on his changed his profile picture to an excerpt from a song. Song literally meant that if we don’t end up together then I’ll keep myself from loving you. And after all that drama on Facebook, he just decided to deactivate his account keeping his messenger active and he still didn’t block me. I’m really confused right now. I don’t know whether or not I should move on and forget about him or keep hoping…

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    Elyse

    November 15, 2018 at 8:17 pm

    I’m totally confused. We dated for 2 years and I was def in love with him. Towards the end we got into a couple of arguments. He dumped me and then like a week later I found out that he has a new girlfriend. I confronted him about it, we argued and I completely stopped contacting him. I had originally blocked him when we initially broke up and I found out that he was in a new relationship. I have since unblocked him but still not contacting him. About a month after unblocking him I realized through mutual friends on social media that he has now blocked me. I never reached out or blew up his phone, creeped on his FB or anything. Why now after a month would he go back and block me?

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    Fifi

    November 8, 2018 at 9:18 pm

    Hi Chris,

    My situation is a bit different. I started hooking up with this guy and it wasn’t supposed to involve feelings but I fell for him. And then I found out that he has a girlfriend, and now I’m heartbroken. He blocked me on text (WhatsApp) and we work together, but hardly see each other. I know he doesn’t qualify as an ex as we never dated but can you help me? I really want him back in my life.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      November 8, 2018 at 11:35 pm

      Hi FiFi!

      Well…you didn’t know, but he did, so he was wrong. Consider my eBook, “The No Contact Rule Book” as it will help you with your healing and taking some valuable time to find an emotional balance

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    Su

    October 31, 2018 at 11:06 pm

    We were together for 1.5 years (we were engaged and living together) and now it has been 4 months since he broke up with me.

    It was the worst break up ever I was really clingy and begged him a lot.

    He didn’t block me on social media so I can see his posts but I am sure he doesn’t see my posts as he doesn’t follow me.

    I tried the no contact rule.I didn’t try to contact him for almost a month.Today I broke it and sent him a picture of me then deleted it (like it was sent to wrong person) He probably saw it but didn’t reply.

    It was not long distance but now we are living in diffirent cities and don’t have any mutual friends.

    My situation seems really hopeless.But still is there something I can do for get in contact with him ?
    I know there is no way he will want me back all of sudden.Still I want to keep my contact with him even as just friends for now.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      November 1, 2018 at 2:47 am

      Hi Su!

      You may feel helpless, but it need not be that way. Its starts with an solid ex recovery plan. Are you using my program blueprint?

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    z

    October 21, 2018 at 4:32 am

    My boyfriend and I were going out for a very short while, about 2 months. He suddenly texted me one day saying that we rushed into the relationship and he doesn’t know me that well, and says he just wants to be friends. It’s only been a few days since we split up. He also said he felt forced in the relationship, like spending time with me was a chore. But I don’t want to be friends. Short our relationship may be, but I am confident my feelings for him are very strong. I think he fell out of love, but he must’ve loved me at some point because he chased me first and was desperate in making our relationship happen. I’m thinking of starting NC. However, I will definitely see him in school. Will that affect NC period? Do you think I have a chance of making him love me again?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 22, 2018 at 4:02 am

      Hi Z!

      I think NC will help improve your chances and do many other positive things for you, but its important to understand how it all works. So pick up one of my eBooks or visit my home page and tap into my resources!

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    Birtukan

    October 16, 2018 at 4:48 pm

    Hello. Me and my ex bf broke up a year ago. Since then, there were time when he contacted me and there were one time only when I contacted him first.
    He texted my name, actually by my nickname, twice but I never replied. And another time was he gave me info about school and I thanked him him for that.
    What I wanted to ask you about is what happened recently.
    It was summer and I turned off my phone because I just did not want him to text me or call me. But after two months on new year eve, he called my friend to ask her about me and he said he was worried, told her to tell me that. So why would he do that if he didn’t loved me?
    He was the one to initiate the break up saying he still love his first love and he wanted to be friends. So I said no.
    Why is he doing this? I thought you would know better because you are a guy.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 17, 2018 at 1:00 am

      Hi Birtukan!

      Not sure why he is come back to explore things. My advice is take things very slow until you can gain a better sense of his intentions and even then, its all about little steps.

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    Ash

    October 2, 2018 at 10:55 am

    Hi, what if u were the last one to text saying don’t contact me again and they don’t contact you again lol? I haven’t heard a word in 2 weeks and I haven’t contacted him either the relationship ended over a big argument and it was a mess a 5 year relationship came to an end with no explanation really. 24 hours before we broke up he was saying he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me the. He ended it because he was unhappy and making me unhappy which to me is an excuse for the argument we had!

    Should I contact him and just get closure clear the air and show him I’m over it and not bitter? I have no closure at all it was all so sudden and if we never had that argument we would still be together now. He thinks this is for the best and that was it.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 3, 2018 at 1:27 am

      Hi Ash!

      Closure is overrated. Often guys won’t give you all the reasons. Sometimes they don’t even know themselves the real reason. Probably best to stay in no contact but practice it the way I teach in my program.

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    zonarosa

    September 14, 2018 at 12:54 pm

    I have the difficult situation that he doesn’t use social media and it is highly unlikely that we will bump into each other, is direct contact then my only course of action? I really don’t want to bombard him with messages… any tips would be helpful, thanks.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 17, 2018 at 9:45 pm

      what about indirect contact thru other people….message in the bottle (I am serious!)

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    TONIA

    September 10, 2018 at 7:36 am

    I enjoy visiting this site and reading the articles but I think my ex is part of the 10% who is unaffected by these tactics. He is notoriously stubborn and it’s like it’s a game of who can care the least. I’m not built that way. Feels like he will always have the advantage because of his stubbornness and unyielding temperament. He wanted to stay friends after the break up. I said no and he’s been punishing me every since. He’s dismissive of me and just downright mean. He never wanted to be in a relationship after being a bachelor for so long. I thought he’d be happy not being friends anymore. I feel like I never really knew him.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 11, 2018 at 3:25 am

      Hi Tonia!

      Well shame on him for punishing you for not wanting to be friends after he instigated the breakup. So I do think NC will work. It will help you and just about every guy eventually comes around to some extent. And if he doesn’t and continues to be belligerent, then consider it a blessing that you are finding how he behaves when there are major disagreements.

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    Jo

    August 29, 2018 at 7:49 pm

    I have a question Chris,

    So how are you meant to make your ex boyfriend miss you, want you back if;

    1. He isn’t and never was on your Facebook. (Messenger that’s all)
    2. You never see him or would ever bump into him.
    3. He’s so stubborn, like unbelievabley stubborn. His mind is made up there seems no changing it, even though he’s told me he still cares. He believes once it’s broken that’s it (even though he messed it up)
    4. You don’t socialise with his friends or ever bump into them.

    How then can you implement any of this? I am struggling to see how getting your ex back will work at all when their mind is made up. I don’t believe he will miss me or think about me at all. It’s been 4 weeks. We’ve been in touch, went a 3 hr trip with him 5 days ago where he was acting like he wanted me back. Only for the next day to say he will never come back.! I’ve been in no contact since, so 3 days. I don’t believe he would miss me as he’s so stubborn and set in his ways. I go to the gym 3-4 times a week already, I’ve started a new high flying job and I’ve been out every weekend. I’m not sitting around crying or eating ice cream even though that’s all I want to do! It’s been a month and he’s not changing his mind.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 30, 2018 at 1:26 am

      HI Jo….yes that is challenging. I am glad you are doing things for yourself. Stick with your NC and reach out to him in the way I discuss in my program. Perhaps just the sheer number of days of NC will give him a wakeup call that he can’t continue to be stubborn to a fault.

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    Amanda

    August 28, 2018 at 9:59 pm

    My boyfriend and I met in 2015 on a dating app and didn’t actually begin dating as a couple until a year and a half later. When we initially began seeing each other we eventually had a talk where he didn’t want anything serious and I did so I walked away (completely amicable split). He ended up reaching out to me a week or so later countless times over a month (which I responded to each time) to chat or get together, but I would hold my ground on what I wanted and eventually he claimed he didn’t want to lose me so we started hanging out again and that’s how we started our relationship. At first, he was absolutely smitten with me – introduced me to his family, asked me to move in, told me he never felt this way with anyone before and wanted to marry me and start a family; I’ll admit, this was very flattering and the feelings were mutual. I had been burned pretty bad in the past and I did a lot of work on myself getting over that relationship so as not to bring any baggage forward but I think (reflecting back) I was guarded. Long story short – things on my end got crazy: new job, back to school, another job, moving in with him, new city, my car got totalled, health issues, etc. A lot happened and my patience wore thin and I hate to admit, I took it out on him – granted, he was busy too and very absent in the time I needed him most so the neglect only fueled the fire. Eventually, he lost interest in this person I became in the months this went on, and he became a person I no longer cared for either. We lived together but we were constantly forcing change within each other to be the people we truly are and once were. We broke up after a fight, a week before all of the stress was about to drop (school for me, school for him – we are in our late 20s) but also two weeks before a trip we had planned to meet his entire family out of province – A couple days later I asked for a second chance, after a couple days he asked me to come on the trip, the trip went really well, we came home, broke up three days later. In my eyes, nothing major happened, it just seemed like bad timing and poor communication. The trip went well but when we came back we didn’t have an action plan of how to get out of our rut. He claims his feelings have changed and he no longer sees a future with me. We moved in so quickly and we jumped the gun building a solid foundation to get us through the crap we went through. We still live together as I’m trying to get my things in order to make a move but in the past couple days he has completely come around. Texting me, asking me to do things with him, cuddling with me. It’s all very confusing. He spends so much time with me and all the time spent is exactly what we both were missing when things were hectic. I don’t know why he’s acting this way but there are so many rational signs that points toward him regretting his decision. Anyhow, I’m moving out soon and once I do I’ll begin NC. Our split will be amicable (maybe to ease his guilt for leaving me, who knows) but I worry about ignoring him when he reaches out to me. I 100% understand that distance makes the heart grow fonder, and I have no problem keeping distance myself, but I know that if he reaches out, and I don’t reply, he won’t reach out again, he’ll take it as a sign that I don’t want to talk and he’ll move on. I think he likes the idea of winning me over, so I worry about ignoring him and then popping back into his life when he’s the one who ended it. If he reaches out to me in a couple weeks I just don’t know how to read into it, or if I should.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      August 30, 2018 at 3:32 am

      Hi Amanda!

      I think you made the right decision to begin NC. NC is adaptable. Give him a heads up that you are taking some time for yourself to heal and focus on being a better “you”. Pick up my 247 page eBook, “The No Contact Rule Book” (visit home page) as it walks you thru every angle of NC and exceptions and modifications according to your situation.

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