How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Interested In You

I want you to close your eyes and imagine something.

I know it sounds super goofy but just bear with me for a moment.

…..

Me: Do you have them closed?

You: Yes Chris…

Ok, close your eyes and imagine a perfect version of yourself.

A version of yourself that not just interests your ex boyfriend (which is what this entire article/video is about) but captivates him. Every word you mutter gives him meaning.

Every glance you cast his way sends shivers down his spine.

Hell, every time he closes his eyes the only woman he sees is you.

Does this sound too good to be true?

Well, that’s probably because for most women it is.

But you’re not most women.

No, you are special because you are a member of this site and one thing that has been proven consistently over time is that members of this site are given the tools to captivate their ex boyfriends.

And that’s what I am going to do for you.

I am going to give you four tools that you can use, right here, right now to make your ex boyfriend interested in you.

My Four Step Method For Making An Ex Boyfriend Interested In You

So, What Exactly Are These Four Steps?

Oh! Hello There!

So, you want to learn how to make your ex boyfriend interested in you.

Well, you came to the right place.

Hey there! Chris Seiter here from Ex Boyfriend Recovery and today I’m going to teach you my simple four step method for fascinating your ex boyfriend and making him interested in you so you can rebuild the attraction that you need to rebuild in order to get him back.

Now, I realized some of you maybe sitting there thinking:

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“Yeah, Chris we already know like everything we need to know about like rebuilding attraction and everything like that.”

Well, if that’s truly the case then why are you here? The truth is I’m going to give you a really simple four step game plan that can work on not just your ex boyfriend but any man out there.

The four steps are as follows:

Step 1: Preparation

Now, I’m not going to lie to you. Preparation is key not only in getting your ex boyfriend back but in learning how to re-attract him.

Mark Twain once said,

twain speech

“It usually takes me a good three weeks for a good impromptu speech.”

Preparation is key in order to re-attract or interest your ex boyfriend. One of the biggest mistakes that I see women continually make on Ex Boyfriend Recovery is not having  a plan. And what’s worse is the women who do have a plan, don’t stick to it.

So, make sure that if you want to re-attract your ex, that you have a solid game plan in place.

Luckily for you, that’s what this video/article is for.

Step 2: Slight of hand

Now, I can see how it would be easy to confuse this with the simple card trick or something like that but that doesn’t have anything to do with what I’m about to teach you. Politicians often use slight of hand when they’re asked very difficult questions that get them off topic.

For example, let’s pretend that good old Mark Twain asks me a very difficult question.

Mean Twain

 

Mark Twain: “So, my dear old chap. What’s the square root of 55 hahaha?!”

 

Me: “You know Mark, that is an excellent question. It reminded me of this crazy story I heard the other day where this clown was walking down the street and…”

Now, do you see what I did there?

I took the really bad Mark Twain impersonator’s question and deflected it into something that I wanted to talk about.

This is conversational slight of hand.

In other words, I take a question that has nothing to do with what I want to talk about and flip it over to talk about what I want to talk about.

I basically answered the question I wished I was asked.

Now, you maybe sitting there wondering,

“Well, how does that even apply to rebuilding attraction or keeping my ex boyfriend interested in me?”

Well, it will make sense later but first we have to cover the next two steps of the “fascinate” game plan.

Step 3: Aikido

aikido

Aikido is a Japanese martial arts that really revolves around three factors.

Factor 1: Decide your own mood. You can always be in a good mood when you are talking to your ex.
Factor 2: Redirect anything negative to become positive. It sounds a lot like step 2 which was the conversational slight of hand.
Factor 3: Remain calm at all times.

So, what I’ve done now is given you three very confusing steps.

Be prepared, master conversational slight of hand and Aikido but what do these have to do with getting your ex back or re-attracting him?

Well, that’s where step four comes into play.

Step 4: Logic and Rhetoric

You see, the ancient Greek philosophers really had it right.

They determined that expert communication really revolves around two things: logic and rhetoric.

But what is logic and rhetoric?

Well, logic is essentially getting the facts right.

Saying something and getting it right but rhetoric goes into so much more detail. It’s essentially telling the facts in such a convincing manner that it has a maximum impact.

Take a movie like the Titanic for example. Can you imagine if I just walked up on stage and said this?

titanic

“Uhm, so, uh, yeah The Titanic. Uh, ship went out to sea. Hit an ice berg and people died.”

Pretty boring right? Well with the rehetoric, we essentially take those same facts but tell them in a much more convincing manner like this:

rhetoric

“Oh my god! Jack save me! I’m drowning!”

 

“Hmm.. you know what? After second thought, I think I’ll pass on saving you Rose. If I save you, I might die an icy death at the bottom of the ocean. So, see ya!”

Wait, that’s not how that movie went…

Now, do you see how much more powerful it is to combine redirect and logic as opposed to just relying on logic?

Of course there is still one problem. We really haven’t combined all 4 steps yet.

I mean what the heck is going on? Why would you need to prepare when essentially all you really need to understand is logic and redirect? Or in other words how to be really good at rhetoric?

Combining The Four Steps

Well, here’s what I want you to do.

Take out a pen and paper right now.

We’re going to start with step one. I want you to prepare as much as possible.

Prepare a story and figure out the facts you want to tell with the story and then figure out how to get the most out of those facts from maximum value. In other words, tell a story that combines logic and rhetoric.

Prepare it before hand.

Of course, that’s where step two comes in.

Nothing ever goes according to plan. Especially when you prepare ahead of time. You have to understand that you have to have contingency plans. And that’s where conversational slight of hand can come into play. There’s no guarantee that you’re going to get the perfect segway into talking about the story that you want to talk about but with conversational slight of hand or basically answering the question that you wished you were asked, you can have that perfect segway to tell this amazing story that combines logic and redirect.

But then how does step three come into play? -Aikido.

Well, the task is daunting enough.

You’ve prepared.

You understand that nothing will go according to plan a 100% of the time and you have your contingency for that–the conversational slight of hand.

Well, now it’s time to become zen. To become one with yourself, to remain calm and understand that you are going to turn any negative thing that happens into a positive thing.

Once you combine all four of these things: preparation, aikido, logic, rhetoric and finally conversational slight of hand, you’re not only going to have the tools to fascinate your ex boyfriend. You’re going to have the tool to fascinate any man in the world.

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What’s up? I’m Chris Seiter’s dark side or “suave” side, I guess you could say.

Anyways, he asked me to come out here to plug his dumb website www.exboyfriendrecovery.com.

Apparently he’s got some quiz he wants you to take there. It can like tell you your chance of getting your ex back.

Anyways, yeah, so check that out when you get a chance and peace out!

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Lucy
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Hi Amor, i was dating a guy for less than two months and he went on holiday for just over two weeks. During that time our conversations were great and we were able to sustain the attraction for each other. But during the last week or so of his holiday, things started to become a bit messy. we organised to meet two days after he arrived back from his holiday but on the day before we were meant to meet, he didnt text me at all and kept quiet. then on the day of the date he messaged me. but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi lucy,

Give it a week.. If he doesn’t initiate contact after that week, start the count of at least two weeks nc

Lucy
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Hi Amor, i was dating a guy for less than two months and he went on holiday for just over two weeks. During that time our conversations were great and we were able to sustain the attraction for each other. But during the last week or so of his holiday, things started to become a bit messy. we organised to meet two days after he arrived back from his holiday but on the day before we were meant to meet, he didnt text me at all and kept quiet. then on the day of the date he messaged me. but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi lucy,

Give it a week.. If he doesn’t initiate contact after that week, start the count of at least two weeks nc

Miss troubled
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So I caved and didn’t last the whole no contact. Actually I only lasted 12 days. I contacted my ex and did get a positive reply and now I’m wondering what now? Have I messed it up because I caved and stopped NC. I’m really struggling being apart from him and having no contact with him whatsoever.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

How are you now? Are you still talking?

Miss troubled
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So I caved and didn’t last the whole no contact. Actually I only lasted 12 days. I contacted my ex and did get a positive reply and now I’m wondering what now? Have I messed it up because I caved and stopped NC. I’m really struggling being apart from him and having no contact with him whatsoever.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

How are you now? Are you still talking?

Annee
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Hi Chris, Am a regular reader of ur site and i have great faith in whatever you say.. so the situation am facing right now is a little problematic… see..i applied no contact or my ex boyfriend… and i think am really doing good..but recently he posted a picture with a girl i used to hate .(23rd day of no contact),,.he knows very well i dont like her..and the next he blocked me on whatsapp…but not on other social sites…i dnt understand why he did so ? …is he doing so because he wants a reaction from me or what…..am… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Annee,

yup, dont react..just let him be..

Annee
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Hi Chris, Am a regular reader of ur site and i have great faith in whatever you say.. so the situation am facing right now is a little problematic… see..i applied no contact or my ex boyfriend… and i think am really doing good..but recently he posted a picture with a girl i used to hate .(23rd day of no contact),,.he knows very well i dont like her..and the next he blocked me on whatsapp…but not on other social sites…i dnt understand why he did so ? …is he doing so because he wants a reaction from me or what…..am… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Annee,

yup, dont react..just let him be..

Gwen
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Hi Amor, (Something happened to my comment and the way I see the site so I don’t know if I submited it or not. Sorry if I’m commenting the same thing twice…) I’ve been using the advices here for months and it all really worked really well for me. I got him to talk to me again, to chase me and finally to tell me he still was feeling something for me. It’s a complicated situation because we are long distance and we can’t see each other very often and in another comment I made some time ago you told… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gwen,

just be less available, less initiating. Try the advice above and if he comes, then have fun

Gwen
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Ok i’ll try it
thank you Amor

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

you’re welcome

Gwen
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Hi Amor, (Something happened to my comment and the way I see the site so I don’t know if I submited it or not. Sorry if I’m commenting the same thing twice…) I’ve been using the advices here for months and it all really worked really well for me. I got him to talk to me again, to chase me and finally to tell me he still was feeling something for me. It’s a complicated situation because we are long distance and we can’t see each other very often and in another comment I made some time ago you told… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gwen,

just be less available, less initiating. Try the advice above and if he comes, then have fun

Gwen
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Ok i’ll try it
thank you Amor

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

you’re welcome

Steph
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Hi, my ex and I were together for almost 4 years and I was his first serious relationship. He’s a strong believer in cutting off all ties after break up but I’ve recently reconnected with him via texts after 1.5 years of NC. At first he was really against continuing the conversation, but after I persisted for 5 months, he now seems much more open to keeping our conversations ongoing via texting. However he’s rejecting the idea of phone calls or meet ups. I casually suggested that we could get some coffee once and he said he didn’t want to,… Read more »
Steph
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I thought I might also add that we didn’t have a bad break up. It was fairly mutual, I wanted to settle down and he wasn’t ready.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Steph,

you’ve been texting for 5 months already? It’s time to move on, because by this time he should have been more comfortable with you but it looks like he knows what you want to happen

Steph
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Hi, my ex and I were together for almost 4 years and I was his first serious relationship. He’s a strong believer in cutting off all ties after break up but I’ve recently reconnected with him via texts after 1.5 years of NC. At first he was really against continuing the conversation, but after I persisted for 5 months, he now seems much more open to keeping our conversations ongoing via texting. However he’s rejecting the idea of phone calls or meet ups. I casually suggested that we could get some coffee once and he said he didn’t want to,… Read more »
Steph
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I thought I might also add that we didn’t have a bad break up. It was fairly mutual, I wanted to settle down and he wasn’t ready.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Steph,

you’ve been texting for 5 months already? It’s time to move on, because by this time he should have been more comfortable with you but it looks like he knows what you want to happen

maria
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Hello, I’m 33 years old and here is my story from which I really want to figure out what is that I’m doing wrong that makes all men leave. I dated this guy for a month. We’ve known each other for years now and would meet only in group gatherings. I always kinda liked him, but we were always in and out of relationships with other people. This summer I met him at my friend’s house and we talked for hours, it was super fun. I went home and forgot about it. Month later he contacted me and asked me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Maria,

I just want ask to make it clear, did you mean you went to his place on the first date and stayed there for two days?

maria
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I went there and stayed overnight and the next day we’ve spent together. After that I went home and we met again the day after that and spent the whole day together. Sorry I didn’t explain well. 🙂

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

ah.. You asked what might have went wrong..I’m not sure what exactly went wrong in the relationship, but staying overnight and then seeing each other again for a whole day after a first date means you invest too much too soon. It was too fast and too much.. Yeah, he might have liked it too but it has an effect on how he sees you.

maria
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Hello, I’m 33 years old and here is my story from which I really want to figure out what is that I’m doing wrong that makes all men leave. I dated this guy for a month. We’ve known each other for years now and would meet only in group gatherings. I always kinda liked him, but we were always in and out of relationships with other people. This summer I met him at my friend’s house and we talked for hours, it was super fun. I went home and forgot about it. Month later he contacted me and asked me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Maria,

I just want ask to make it clear, did you mean you went to his place on the first date and stayed there for two days?

maria
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I went there and stayed overnight and the next day we’ve spent together. After that I went home and we met again the day after that and spent the whole day together. Sorry I didn’t explain well. 🙂

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

ah.. You asked what might have went wrong..I’m not sure what exactly went wrong in the relationship, but staying overnight and then seeing each other again for a whole day after a first date means you invest too much too soon. It was too fast and too much.. Yeah, he might have liked it too but it has an effect on how he sees you.

Amy
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Hi, There was no need for me to initiate contact because after no contact, HE was the one who re contacted me. He makes effort to talk to me every day which (i guess) is positive.. However, I do know he’s playing games with me. For example, being in a conversation then reading and ignoring my message for long periods of time.. i can see he’s online but just ignoring me. I find it difficult to end conversations first, because the last few days he’s been the one to do so. He also seems to make less effort to talk… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Amy,

well, you really have to be the one to end the conversation at high point if you want to be more in control.. He basically is doing what you should be doing..

Amy
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Yes, I thought he was! Is there anything else I can do as well?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

don’t forget yourself. Don’t forget improving, going out and being with other people..

Amy
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Hi, There was no need for me to initiate contact because after no contact, HE was the one who re contacted me. He makes effort to talk to me every day which (i guess) is positive.. However, I do know he’s playing games with me. For example, being in a conversation then reading and ignoring my message for long periods of time.. i can see he’s online but just ignoring me. I find it difficult to end conversations first, because the last few days he’s been the one to do so. He also seems to make less effort to talk… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Amy,

well, you really have to be the one to end the conversation at high point if you want to be more in control.. He basically is doing what you should be doing..

Amy
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Yes, I thought he was! Is there anything else I can do as well?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

don’t forget yourself. Don’t forget improving, going out and being with other people..

Meg
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My boyfriend and I broke up about a little over a month ago. He was my first love and I was his. We were so great together and then I got really depressed and brought him down. It really hurt him to see me sad but he said he had to make a decision for himself. I am a lot better and got the help that I needed and have been so happy and really doing well. I really want him back in my life but he is afraid things would end up the way they used to. How do… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Meg,

by stopping on trying to convince him and just being different. Stop chasing and start living your own life.. That way, if he sees you’re independent, there’s a higher chance that he will think you have changed.

Meg
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My boyfriend and I broke up about a little over a month ago. He was my first love and I was his. We were so great together and then I got really depressed and brought him down. It really hurt him to see me sad but he said he had to make a decision for himself. I am a lot better and got the help that I needed and have been so happy and really doing well. I really want him back in my life but he is afraid things would end up the way they used to. How do… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Meg,

by stopping on trying to convince him and just being different. Stop chasing and start living your own life.. That way, if he sees you’re independent, there’s a higher chance that he will think you have changed.

becky
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hi! about a month ago my boyfriend broke up with me… now we had a great relationship, i mean amazing we were each others best friends, we were passionate and we were both in love, we never fought because we communicated so well and I never thought id meet anyone like him. My boyfriend, however was middle way through his second last year of a masters degree in engineering, and constantly studying, like would sleep at his uni studying! that combined with his sports, friends and job all became a bit too much for him as he was someone who… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Becky,

Uh, I don’t understand Becky.. You’re not sure doing no contact because you’re already friendzoned, so there’s a thought in you that staying friends would make him regret losing you?

becky
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hi! about a month ago my boyfriend broke up with me… now we had a great relationship, i mean amazing we were each others best friends, we were passionate and we were both in love, we never fought because we communicated so well and I never thought id meet anyone like him. My boyfriend, however was middle way through his second last year of a masters degree in engineering, and constantly studying, like would sleep at his uni studying! that combined with his sports, friends and job all became a bit too much for him as he was someone who… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Becky,

Uh, I don’t understand Becky.. You’re not sure doing no contact because you’re already friendzoned, so there’s a thought in you that staying friends would make him regret losing you?

Amanda
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Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend around 10 months ago. We did the NC rule at first but after a couple of months he texts me to come over and ended up sleeping together. Now for the next few months we wouldn’t be in touch for a few weeks but then he’d text again and we would hang out for a day or two and end up sleeping with each other again. This happens every month. Last week after another 3 weeks of no contact we went to Vegas together that we’ve planned a few months prior. I have… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Hi Amanda, I’m going to assume that’s he’s not really a sociopath and that’s just your figure of your speech.. You have to remove yourself from the image of being his booty call. You have to have your own life. Never sleep with him again unless you’re really together. Don’t sleep with him when he comes running to you when they have relationship problems. Do not lower your value. Read this one: How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back If You Slept With Him and this one too: What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New… Read more »
Amanda
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Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend around 10 months ago. We did the NC rule at first but after a couple of months he texts me to come over and ended up sleeping together. Now for the next few months we wouldn’t be in touch for a few weeks but then he’d text again and we would hang out for a day or two and end up sleeping with each other again. This happens every month. Last week after another 3 weeks of no contact we went to Vegas together that we’ve planned a few months prior. I have… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Hi Amanda, I’m going to assume that’s he’s not really a sociopath and that’s just your figure of your speech.. You have to remove yourself from the image of being his booty call. You have to have your own life. Never sleep with him again unless you’re really together. Don’t sleep with him when he comes running to you when they have relationship problems. Do not lower your value. Read this one: How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back If You Slept With Him and this one too: What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New… Read more »
June
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Amor… I dunno how I should feel now. First after the nc we got back into talking terms. It was great, I mean it feels great cause we both have sorta a balance portion of conversations. But these few days he’s been starting to be quite distant to me. Whenever he thinks he’s not gonna see me, out of no where he will drop a few Facebook tags and snapchats me. I didn’t want to be always the conversation starter. But starting two days ago, everything stops. His friend told me he’s been tinder-ing girls, and plans to meet them… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Maybe he feels guilty talking to while he’s tindering other girls. I think he’s at that cross roads that he’s moving on, he wants to move on but he still has feelings for you and because of that he can’t have a restart. If I were in your shoes, the best I can do is to just give him space and that when he initiates, make the conversations fun so that you always leave good impressions on him

June
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Yea I can tell he’s trying to move on… He’s been posting photos with girls, posting selfies of himself and gain a lot of attention… Idk, these seems to me like he wants to move on entirely, so what if he moves on completely and I lose my chance completely even if I’ve been improving myself? How can I make him notice me? If he doesn’t want to 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

if he moves on completely that means you have to take it as a restart.. Starting over as friends and not as improved version from the previous relationship to continue the previous relationship

June
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Amor… I dunno how I should feel now. First after the nc we got back into talking terms. It was great, I mean it feels great cause we both have sorta a balance portion of conversations. But these few days he’s been starting to be quite distant to me. Whenever he thinks he’s not gonna see me, out of no where he will drop a few Facebook tags and snapchats me. I didn’t want to be always the conversation starter. But starting two days ago, everything stops. His friend told me he’s been tinder-ing girls, and plans to meet them… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Maybe he feels guilty talking to while he’s tindering other girls. I think he’s at that cross roads that he’s moving on, he wants to move on but he still has feelings for you and because of that he can’t have a restart. If I were in your shoes, the best I can do is to just give him space and that when he initiates, make the conversations fun so that you always leave good impressions on him

June
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Yea I can tell he’s trying to move on… He’s been posting photos with girls, posting selfies of himself and gain a lot of attention… Idk, these seems to me like he wants to move on entirely, so what if he moves on completely and I lose my chance completely even if I’ve been improving myself? How can I make him notice me? If he doesn’t want to 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

if he moves on completely that means you have to take it as a restart.. Starting over as friends and not as improved version from the previous relationship to continue the previous relationship

Wum
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My ex called it quits with me in April, and after the initial pleading I decided to go the NC way. We work together so it’s actually hard. I know he still loves me but he doesn’t want to get into a relationship with me. We used to have intense fight and tons of drama which caused d break up. He would say he still loves me but needs to stick to his decision. But yet he would always want to hug me at work for any little work successes. He would always want to steal a kiss. Tricked me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Wum,

so, he’s not recommitting because he’s afraid the relationship would go back to the way it was before? He’s still attracted but he doesn’t want the fighting anymore. And now, that you have slept many times, he likes that more. Benefits without the dramatic stuff. So, first, stick to not having sex until you’re back together. Second let things flow slowly. Build your friendship with again. Be friends first again but don’t be too available. When he approaches to talk, have a good talk and then do your own thing.

Wum
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My ex called it quits with me in April, and after the initial pleading I decided to go the NC way. We work together so it’s actually hard. I know he still loves me but he doesn’t want to get into a relationship with me. We used to have intense fight and tons of drama which caused d break up. He would say he still loves me but needs to stick to his decision. But yet he would always want to hug me at work for any little work successes. He would always want to steal a kiss. Tricked me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Wum,

so, he’s not recommitting because he’s afraid the relationship would go back to the way it was before? He’s still attracted but he doesn’t want the fighting anymore. And now, that you have slept many times, he likes that more. Benefits without the dramatic stuff. So, first, stick to not having sex until you’re back together. Second let things flow slowly. Build your friendship with again. Be friends first again but don’t be too available. When he approaches to talk, have a good talk and then do your own thing.

Sarah
Guest
Hi 🙂 I broke up with my ex 9 months ago. We were each others first love, and i was his first girlfriend, and we were together for 4 years. I did NC and we saw each other a few times afterwards, but things didn’t work out. Now 3 months after i decided to move on with my life, he recently got back in touch with me saying that he wasn’t over me. I thought i had moved on, so i agreed to meet to see if we could be friends. He showed me his new place, the new area… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sarah,

Correct me if I’m wrong.. You’re not inlove with him anymore and you dont want to be friends with benefits and he’s not saying you should get back together.. so that means all he wants is to be friends with benefits?

And you want to try a relationship even if you’re not inlove with him because you dont want to hurt him?

but he’s not saying he wants to commit right?

Sarah
Guest
Hi Amor, You’re right. He’s not said that he wants to commit to me, but with all of his past messages and the way he’s said he wished we had never broken up I’m left feeling confused. He keeps bringing up our past and saying that he’s missed being a couple. That i should know what he wants, but I’m being difficult by asking where we go from here. I’m not sure how I feel about him. I know i care more for him than i would as a friend, and there’s still an attraction there. I just can’t open… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

honestly I dont know what to say because you said you dont want to hurt him but he’s not even asking you back, so it’s not like you’re going to hurt him if you dont get back wih him because he doesnt even want to get back with you.. 😐

Sarah
Guest
Hi 🙂 I broke up with my ex 9 months ago. We were each others first love, and i was his first girlfriend, and we were together for 4 years. I did NC and we saw each other a few times afterwards, but things didn’t work out. Now 3 months after i decided to move on with my life, he recently got back in touch with me saying that he wasn’t over me. I thought i had moved on, so i agreed to meet to see if we could be friends. He showed me his new place, the new area… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sarah,

Correct me if I’m wrong.. You’re not inlove with him anymore and you dont want to be friends with benefits and he’s not saying you should get back together.. so that means all he wants is to be friends with benefits?

And you want to try a relationship even if you’re not inlove with him because you dont want to hurt him?

but he’s not saying he wants to commit right?

Sarah
Guest
Hi Amor, You’re right. He’s not said that he wants to commit to me, but with all of his past messages and the way he’s said he wished we had never broken up I’m left feeling confused. He keeps bringing up our past and saying that he’s missed being a couple. That i should know what he wants, but I’m being difficult by asking where we go from here. I’m not sure how I feel about him. I know i care more for him than i would as a friend, and there’s still an attraction there. I just can’t open… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

honestly I dont know what to say because you said you dont want to hurt him but he’s not even asking you back, so it’s not like you’re going to hurt him if you dont get back wih him because he doesnt even want to get back with you.. 😐

Emma
Guest
Hi Amor, I broke up about 6 months ago. Did NC and reinitiated contact etc. My ex attempted to have a FwB situation. I said I won’t sleep with him or anyone casually. He then tried to friend zone me and said a relationship won’t work out as we are too different. So I reverse friend zoned him as Chris suggested. Asked him for dating advice, makeup advice etc. While asking for dating advice I asked him about this one guy who is interested in something serious with me and sees marriage and kids down the line but I told… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Emma,

that’s a big progress.. Continue seeing him but don’t be too be available. Don’t let go of the activities you started during nc.. The moment he feels you’re still hung up on him, he will get comfortable. Go out with friends, and then rest from texting him for a day.. Continue having fun and being great apart from him. Make the dates fun always, better if you leave at high point. Leave him wanting more..

Emma
Guest
Hi Amor, I broke up about 6 months ago. Did NC and reinitiated contact etc. My ex attempted to have a FwB situation. I said I won’t sleep with him or anyone casually. He then tried to friend zone me and said a relationship won’t work out as we are too different. So I reverse friend zoned him as Chris suggested. Asked him for dating advice, makeup advice etc. While asking for dating advice I asked him about this one guy who is interested in something serious with me and sees marriage and kids down the line but I told… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Emma,

that’s a big progress.. Continue seeing him but don’t be too be available. Don’t let go of the activities you started during nc.. The moment he feels you’re still hung up on him, he will get comfortable. Go out with friends, and then rest from texting him for a day.. Continue having fun and being great apart from him. Make the dates fun always, better if you leave at high point. Leave him wanting more..

ester
Guest

Hi,

I just know him recently and only go with him for few dates. He told me he like me and so do I.
but because of few situation, He feel that I and Him not match together, because both of us is stubborn.

He ignore me and doesnt want to reply my message.

I did no contact, and after one month, I text him, and he now reply my text.
but he just reply with short and polite message, like.. thank you.. or hahaha..
he not initiate any conversation.

what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Ester,

how long were you dating before? ANd how much did you improve during the last month? Are you still continuing to do that?

ester
Guest

Hi,

I just know him recently and only go with him for few dates. He told me he like me and so do I.
but because of few situation, He feel that I and Him not match together, because both of us is stubborn.

He ignore me and doesnt want to reply my message.

I did no contact, and after one month, I text him, and he now reply my text.
but he just reply with short and polite message, like.. thank you.. or hahaha..
he not initiate any conversation.

what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Ester,

how long were you dating before? ANd how much did you improve during the last month? Are you still continuing to do that?

Sara
Guest
Hi! We broke up about 2 months ago. I did no contact. I know that it was to fast, but I met with my ex. We was really resentful, I think that he found out that I wanted to show my better version. In meantime I blocked him on facebook, because i had a big need to check his profile constantly. A few days ago I unblock him, just to see what’s happening on his wall. Yesterday he wrote me and asked me why I did it. I told him that it was better for me but right now I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sara,

restart the count and then just focus in improving yourself.. Be active in posting in social media even if you blocked him.

kim
Guest

This article was really helpful for me because I I’m not really good at having a conversation. I was wondering though if you could write an article about getting your ex boyfriends (who you met on vacation btw) back after 2 or 3 years being apart. Especially because in 2 or 3 years a lot of things can change (not a LDR anymore, more experience, othrr boy- and girlfriends, …). However after 3 years you are a stranger to him….so it seems more diffcult to me.
Just consider my suggestion if you don’t know what to write about 😉

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
EBR Team Member: Ashley
Member
EBR Team Member: Ashley

Kim,
Thank you SO MUCH for the suggestion! It may not cover the exact situation you’ve laid out; there were a LOT of factors in there. But I’ll keep this in mind when I’m coming up with new and exciting content for you all.

Thanks again!

Sara
Guest
Hi! We broke up about 2 months ago. I did no contact. I know that it was to fast, but I met with my ex. We was really resentful, I think that he found out that I wanted to show my better version. In meantime I blocked him on facebook, because i had a big need to check his profile constantly. A few days ago I unblock him, just to see what’s happening on his wall. Yesterday he wrote me and asked me why I did it. I told him that it was better for me but right now I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sara,

restart the count and then just focus in improving yourself.. Be active in posting in social media even if you blocked him.

kim
Guest

This article was really helpful for me because I I’m not really good at having a conversation. I was wondering though if you could write an article about getting your ex boyfriends (who you met on vacation btw) back after 2 or 3 years being apart. Especially because in 2 or 3 years a lot of things can change (not a LDR anymore, more experience, othrr boy- and girlfriends, …). However after 3 years you are a stranger to him….so it seems more diffcult to me.
Just consider my suggestion if you don’t know what to write about 😉

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
EBR Team Member: Ashley
Guest
EBR Team Member: Ashley

Kim,
Thank you SO MUCH for the suggestion! It may not cover the exact situation you’ve laid out; there were a LOT of factors in there. But I’ll keep this in mind when I’m coming up with new and exciting content for you all.

Thanks again!