How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup

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If you want your ex boyfriend to miss you (after your breakup) then you definitely came to the right place. You will find that my site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery is a lot different than the rest of my peers. I don’t write articles for the sake of writing articles. In fact, I would say that I don’t write articles at all. I write in-depth guides that will help you accomplish a goal. In addition to that, I am extremely involved on this site. I respond to every comment personally and as long as your comment relates to the topic that my “in-depth guide” covers you should get a response within a day (unless it’s the weekend.)

Since you are inquiring about how you can make your ex miss you this page is going to be focused solely on that. So, without further ado, I give you the method in which you should employ to make your ex miss you.

How To Make Him Miss You (The Complete Steps!)

As I am sure you are already aware, making your ex boyfriend miss you (and potentially want you back) can be a tricky thing to do. It will take discipline, strategy and hard work (and even then you aren’t guaranteed to succeed.) However, I feel I have come up with an awesome way to not only make him miss you but to actually get him chasing you.

There is just one problem, the tactics I talk about are actually a little complicated and very detailed. So, while this page can help you make your ex boyfriend miss you it won’t do it as well as my E-Book does. So, when you get a chance (if you feel like it.) I recommend that you check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO:

My E-Book!

Everyone’s Advantage

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Before you even start using any “missing” tactics you have a pretty big advantage already. Did you know that 71% of people claim that they think about their ex too much? Oh, but it gets even better, 60% of people who are married or dating say that their ex is on their mind too much. Oh, and in case you are wondering where I got these statistics, the Yahoo Dating section!

The Advantage Of YOU Initiating The Breakup

This one is just pretty much common sense. As you know, there are usually three outcomes to a breakup.

  1. You can both agree on the breakup and do it mutually.
  2. He can break up with you.
  3. You can break up with him.

I highlighted the “you can break up with him” choice because you will have a small advantage in making your ex miss you if you initiated the breakup. We have already established above that you have an advantage in the fact that most people say that they still think about their ex too much but when you add in the fact that you initiated the breakup your advantage is going to be a little more distinct. Of course, there is one case where this might work as well.

The ONE case where you might not have this advantage.

  • If you broke up with your ex because he cheated on you.

The ONE case where this will work EXTREMELY well.

  • If you broke up with him and he didn’t want you to.

No Contact = “I Miss You”

(For more in-depth information on the No Contact Rule and how to PROPERLY put it into practice please visit Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

no eye contactThroughout this site you will find that the No Contact Rule is a pretty big theme. The NC Rule (No Contact Rule) is a rule that states the following:

 You are not allowed to call, text, email, Facebook or Google your ex for one full month. If during that month you are contacted by your ex you are not allowed to respond.

Sounds pretty simple huh? Actually, I would say that this is the toughest part to trying to get your ex back. However, if you do it successfully not only will you improve your chances of potentially putting yourself in a position to get him back but you will make huge strides in making him miss you.

You see, men at their core (I should know because I am one) have some pretty strange thoughts after a breakup but I would say that most guys eventually get back to one core thought “she is going to be the first to contact me.” How do I know this? Because, that is exactly what I thought after a break up I went through. Sure enough, after 3 days of not talking to my ex she contacted me.

Using my example, have you ever stopped and wonder what would have happened if my ex hadn’t contacted me? Let me tell you. My confident claim of “she is going to be the first to contact me” would have turned into “why the &^*% hasn’t she contacted me?” Interesting flip of the switch huh? Soon, that anger of “why hasn’t she contacted me yet?” would cause me to realize just how much I miss having her in my life.

Specific Things You Can Do To Make Him Miss You

(For more information on the different things you can do to make him miss you please check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

In this section we are going to look at a number of things that you can specifically do to make him miss you. I absolutely love this because these are things that are in your control. When it comes to getting your ex boyfriend back you have to accept the fact that there are a certain amount of factors that are completely out of your control. However, when it comes to making him miss you there are a lot of things you can do that will improve your chances. Buckle up because this may get long.

Tactic 1- Get In Shape

shape

There is nothing that can catch a mans eye like a woman who has taken care of her body. Now, I am not saying you are fat or out of shape. I am saying that this tactic (getting in shape) will be beneficial to you in not only making your ex boyfriend miss you but it will be beneficial in helping you with future relationships (if you have them.) How effective is this tactic? Let me tell you a story. There was a girl who had a crush on me in college. Like a fool, I didn’t do anything about it because like a typical guy I wanted the girls that I couldn’t get. Anyways, this girl had a very pretty face but I am not afraid to say that she was a little… chubby and for me it took away from her looks.

Well, about a year and a half later I happened to run into her. Actually, I walked right past her because I didn’t recognize her. She had lost about 35lbs and looked amazing. In my absence this mediocre looking girl had turned into a beautiful goddess. I wanted her immediately. I did everything I could to try to go on a date with her.

Tactic 2- Repeat After Me: I Do Not Care About Him

I dont care

This tactic is more of a mindset that you need to have. During your no contact period make sure you don’t focus on your ex too much. Just focus on the most important thing, you. Trust me when I say that the “missing thing” will fall into place if you do this. It is important to remember that the two of you broke up and while you may want him back you need to understand that rome was not built in a day and you won’t get him back in a day. So, sit back and chill for a while.

Tactic 3- Social Life

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You have two choices when it comes to breaking up with your ex. You can either

A. Let the breakup own you.

or

B. Own the breakup.

I am a guy and let me tell you that I do not find it attractive when someone, who after a breakup, sits on the couch all day and eats ice cream. In fact, that is what I expect pretty much every girl to do after a breakup. About five years ago when I broke up with my girlfriend at the time the exact thought I had was “I bet she is sitting on the couch right now crying and eating ice cream.” Here is the kicker though, a few days later when I logged on Facebook I found that she wasn’t quite as devastated as I thought. She had posted pictures of her having fun with friends and basically having a really fun social life. While I didn’t immediately think “man, I miss her” it set me up for thinking it. Her active social life made me realize what I was missing out on and made me a little jealous and angry that she wasn’t as devastated.

Tactic 4- Hitting His Emotional Hot Buttons

hot buttons

Look, eventually the no contact rule end is going to end and a time is going to come where you are going to have to communicate with your ex. When you do contact him make sure you do it via a text message. Texting is viewed as non threatening and it will give you the ability to slowly push is emotional hot buttons. I recommend that you check out this guide on how to correctly text message your ex.

Tactic 5- Jealousy Can Be Effective IF Used Correctly

jealousy

A lot of experts will tell you to not try to make your ex jealous. I will admit that I don’t necessarily agree with them on that. If you have a chance to bring up some deep inner feelings within him then I say go for it. Of course, if you are going to use jealousy on your ex boyfriend it has to be done a specific way. It probably won’t go over too well if he checks on your Facebook profile and sees you making out with three different guys. No, using jealousy is an art. It has to be done subtly but at the same time be obvious enough for him to pick up on it. Here are a few examples of how to properly use jealousy.

Example 1- Movie With A Male Friend

In this example I am going to show you a specific text message that is meant to make your ex a little jealous. Notice how in the example below you didn’t specify if your movie date was with a male or a female. You basically leave it up to your ex to assume if you went to see a romantic movie with a guy or a girl.

romantic movie text

Example 2- Did I See You?

This one is a little riskier but you are almost guaranteed to make your ex a little jealous which will hopefully contribute to him missing you. In this text message you are basically saying that you mistook him for a “hot guy” at a bar (or any other place you can think of.) Again, this one is risky but the reward is definitely higher.

jealousy (did I see you at)

Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Misses You

I actually wrote a guide on how to tell if your ex boyfriend is still in love with you already but I thought I would give a quick recap here. After all, it might be important to figure out the signs that your ex misses you so you can determine if what you are doing is working. Below I am just going to give you a bullet point list so you can quickly reference the signs.

  • If he texts you
  • If he calls you
  • If he shows up at places you frequent in a non stalker way (if it is stalker like then that is just creepy)
  • If he has positive reactions when you see him in person.
  • If he keeps in touch with your family.

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2,443 Responses to How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup
  1. Frustrated
    October 10, 2014 | 4:17 am

    Please don’t forget to respond to me… You asked a question and I responded to your question above… I need your help please. (Please see above)

    • admin
      October 13, 2014 | 3:35 pm

      I lost your question. I am so sorry. Can you repeat it for me?

      • Frustrated
        October 14, 2014 | 6:02 am

        Reply
        admin
        October 9, 2014 | 1:34 pm
        Did you ever talk to him about why things were so different when you got back together?

        Reply
        Frustrated
        October 9, 2014 | 3:00 pm
        Yes, we spoke about it. He said said it was because he had told me that basketball season (he play professionally) would take a lot of his time, but I failed to understand (that is a lie, because he started distancing himself before basketball season already. I was not wen invited to a single game. His family ene wondered why I wasn’t invited to games cos his exes were always invited… Well, because he only came back after basketball season, there was nothing I could do about it but just accept his apology. I do suspect that there was someone in the picture that wa invited to the games other than myself. He also did mention that there was someone in the picture during our breakup. When I asked why he came back to me and left her… He said because to him it was just abou the sex…

        I have a feeling he’s a player, and I was used just for sex too. What’s your advice?

        Do you think he’ll come back?

  2. Destiny
    October 10, 2014 | 2:48 am

    My ex bf and I dated for 2 years and 3 months. We recently broke up and for about two or so days I didn’t talk to him. I then later started texting, when I first texted him, he texted back. I said I miss you and he replied good. I asked him if he missed me and he said no. I asked really? And he said really. Then I said wow okay then and he didn’t respond so I text later saying I got a phone today. He said cool I don’t care. Now leave me alone please. I said no I love you and you like it. He never texted back. I texted him the next day, no reply. I finally called him and he answered. Deep deep now inside of me I do believe he wants to be with me. He broke up with me. He got mad cause I had a snapchat then he began to say I don’t wanna be with you anymore. I don’t wanna be in a relationship anymore it’s not going anywhere. You don’t wanna marry me and other things. I know I’ve bugged him I just know inside he wants to be with me. I think the main reason is he wants to hang out with his friends and I never stopped him. I just don’t want to lose him. What should I do? He answers some of my calls but none of my texts.

    • admin
      October 13, 2014 | 3:32 pm

      You are acting WAAAAYYY too desperate.

      What do desperate people do?

      They ask if you miss them.

  3. Anonymous
    October 9, 2014 | 9:49 pm

    Hi,
    I’m currently doing the N/C thing after what seems a little while coming. To keep things short il just say a childhood sweetheart came back into my life after years of not speaking not due to any kind of bad feeling aimy because life took us in different directions.. Well one random day I got aessage from him via Facebook of him sayin how beautiful I have grown up to be.. We began speaking again, texts, phone calls etc. He then took me on a date after a month of just rekindling our friendship & building chemistry .. We were dating for 6 months. This is where it now becomes clouded..
    A date we planned to go on didn’t happen due to a miss communication on my part.. He was upset and contacted me that evening sYing how he feels like a fool because after the date he had booked us a hotel and brought me earrings as a surprise after what I thought wS just a casual trip to the cinimae.
    We had a argument that night I left it and have him space then contacted him to try resolve the misunderstanding nake plans to get things back on track.
    I askd if we could do it for a day we planned sumit together futher on In the week.. He said due to us not speaking he made other plans but would try change them so we could spend time together. I then went out d my way n made effort n tryd to surprise him back. The day comes a massive argument happens and that wAs when it ended.
    We spoke occasionally after for a short time befor I then asked if we could make plans just to have a face to face catch up as I missed him.. His funny behaviour continues he is being vage saying yes but not giving days to when he’s free. My frustration builds, I say something we fall out again. We’ve fallen into a rutine of going in circles now and I’m beyond fed up but still wanting us to just be us again :(
    We go a while again without speaking and I won tickets to c some football thing, totally not my cup of tea so I askd him if he wanted them. I got the friendly eager to talk to me response not really asking about the tickets but more asking me what I’m doing can he see me etc?
    I ayes it cool and didn’t reply till the morning.. That got his back up and he was annoyed and again he pulls back. While we are on good terms I ask him why he is showin no intrest in bein a friend” he replies he will always be my friend regardless and he does care n have feelings for me”
    I leave it as that and were getin on fine.
    I then go up to London for the day and that is where he lives so I text just asking if we could meet up for a hour while I’m here. He starts again being vaige”il let you know bub” I didn’t hear from him. Obviously I was upset because all it feels like is since that whole mis understanding and argents he’s pulling back more and more and I’m chasing which is frustrating me. Basicly from there I have left it as to say you say you have feelings and u care yet u can’take time. Slight contradictory behaviour but to think I’m here trying cause like a fool Iv fallen for u or something to that effect basicly telin him Iv fallen for him n he’s just taking the mickey playing games now n he won’t be hearing from me again. I get the hint.
    I hAvnt heard from him since not even a reply to that. None of this makes sense to me because befor the whole me not showing up misunderstanding his behaviour was never ever like this ino he has feelins for me. I’m feelin so confused and bad. Can you just shed some light on all this from a guys point of view cz I do t understand how it’s all flipped so fast I get Iv hurt him and pissed him of he but I’m tryin well did try to fix it and obvs Iv given up now because I’m feeling more and more let down and took for granted.

    • admin
      October 13, 2014 | 3:17 pm

      He seems to overreacted about the missed date in my opinion.

      However, I think maybe some type of NC can help you a lot.

  4. LouLou
    October 9, 2014 | 8:24 pm

    So, my ex boyfriend & I split about 2 months ago – his ex missus only lived round the corner from him and they have a child together, she also has other kids by different dads, who he seems very much attached to. He broke it off with me because he said he couldn’t open up to me emotionally, yet every week since our split, I hear from him. Within 48 hours of our split, he shared a bed with his ex, knowing how I felt about her.
    He says he loves talking to me, that he hasn’t been dealing very well since our break up and has been acting irrationally, and that when he is due to go into hospital, he wants it to be me there with him and no one else. The last time we spoke, I told him I needed no contact for a while, and yet this week I hear from him again. I was just starting to feel good without him in my life, and everytime he talks to me, my emotions go into turmoil. Some advice please?

    • admin
      October 13, 2014 | 3:12 pm

      Seems like he is still hung up on the ex a bit.

  5. Sharon
    October 9, 2014 | 2:42 am

    My bf just told me today that he doesnt want to talk anymore,that he can’t handle it right now. I am going nc but his birthday is in 2 weeks. I don’t know if I should do or say anything for his bday… He has a lot of stress right now and I hope we can get back. He lost his job. I’m not sure what to do we were together 2 months and he lost his job the 2nd week, we are in our 40’s.

    • admin
      October 9, 2014 | 1:48 pm

      Dont break NC for wishin him a happy birthday.

  6. Allison
    October 9, 2014 | 1:24 am

    Hey.
    My boyfriend and I just recently broke up and we have a child together this time. When I met him 2 1/2 years ago, I thought he was a complete a**. But over the time of knowing him and with him coming over to my house(oh, he was my ex’s best friend at first), I got to know him and he seemed like a nice guy. We started dating not too long after that, and after 8 months of being together, he broke it off with me. He couldn’t stand the constant nagging about stuff he didn’t do. I was too heartbroken and suffered a lot from it. Finally after 2 months of us being broken up, I got over him, moved out on my own, I was feeling good. About 3 weeks after that, he started to miss me and came crawling back and apologized deeply for everything that went down when we first broke up. We got back together and within 2 months of that, we got pregnant. Almost done my pregnancy, an issue comes up and I decided to end it because of how bad the situation got(long story short, he lied about being with another woman while we were separated the first time and got her pregnant). We broke up for 2 months. Again, he lied about something else, but we agreed to get back together because we loved one another, and NOT make it work for the baby, because that isn’t a good thing. Everything was going great, we got a house, and a dog, we were a family. But then again, my constant nagging got in the way and he got fed up with it and ended it. Both of us never changed, because of the way we were both acting towards another. I made it my official goal to him that I would change, but he would have to as well. He accuses me of being a crazy b***h, and that is his reasoning for breaking up. He’s done this to me before, same outcome, different situation. He says that he doesn’t hate me, and he’s willing to help me out with finding another place and helping me move, and that he still really cares for me, but he can’t be in a relationship. In your opinion, what is going on with his head. He’s giving up on a family because I’m a crazy b***h, that’s his only reason.

    • admin
      October 9, 2014 | 1:47 pm

      What have you done that makes him think that about you.

  7. Frustrated
    October 8, 2014 | 4:04 pm

    My story is a bit dramatic… Hope you can help… My bf and I dated for 2 months (it was the best experience I ever had in terms of romance). Then he started becoming a bit distant. I complained about the distance, but it didn’t change. We then broke up, then I read your guide. I implemented a 30 day nc rule… On the 37th day he contacted me by email… I was excited to see the email (I responded the following day). We had a catual chat over a few days, then he apologised and asked that we reconcile… We got back together… It was never te same again (he didn’t tell me he loved me and he didn’t address me by pet names, etc) – I actually suspected that he was back for sex… We were together for a month, then he just stopped taking my calls… Trust me, I still love him o bits and I miss him a lot… I’ve started another nc rule and am on day 10… A few days after my last attempt to call him, I put up great videos of myself at gym (Facebook), a few more days later, I put up pics of a grey weekend I ha with my friends at a biker rally, then lastly I put up pics of myself at a late dinner date (I made sure that he could see that there was two plates of good on the table in the pic)… Then the following day he unfriended me and blocke me on fb… Do you think I’m waist ing my time??? Or is there a chance that he misses me and will come back?

    • admin
      October 9, 2014 | 1:34 pm

      Did you ever talk to him about why things were so different when you got back together?

      • Frustrated
        October 9, 2014 | 3:00 pm

        Yes, we spoke about it. He said said it was because he had told me that basketball season (he play professionally) would take a lot of his time, but I failed to understand (that is a lie, because he started distancing himself before basketball season already. I was not wen invited to a single game. His family ene wondered why I wasn’t invited to games cos his exes were always invited… Well, because he only came back after basketball season, there was nothing I could do about it but just accept his apology. I do suspect that there was someone in the picture that wa invited to the games other than myself. He also did mention that there was someone in the picture during our breakup. When I asked why he came back to me and left her… He said because to him it was just abou the sex…

        I have a feeling he’s a player, and I was used just for sex too. What’s your advice?

      • Frustrated
        October 9, 2014 | 3:00 pm

        Yes, we spoke about it. He said said it was because he had told me that basketball season (he play professionally) would take a lot of his time, but I failed to understand (that is a lie, because he started distancing himself before basketball season already. I was not wen invited to a single game. His family ene wondered why I wasn’t invited to games cos his exes were always invited… Well, because he only came back after basketball season, there was nothing I could do about it but just accept his apology. I do suspect that there was someone in the picture that wa invited to the games other than myself. He also did mention that there was someone in the picture during our breakup. When I asked why he came back to me and left her… He said because to him it was just abou the sex…

        I have a feeling he’s a player, and I was used just for sex too. What’s your advice?

  8. Joe
    October 8, 2014 | 3:57 pm

    Hi,

    I was in relationship with a guy for three 3 months, we ended up a break
    Up 6 month ago as i did crying like shit infornt of him
    Because of my ex, he then left my country and told
    Me he does not promise to be back as our relationship
    Is not strong enough, however if when he’s back and if we both are avaible, we may together again!we stil then keep talking some time via phone, i guess i made him mad sometimes as well as i got hurt after a break up! The most recent chat in July he told he has no feeling with me anymore! And even get annoyed when i told him i just bought him a t-shirt! However, we still chat sometimes and he did share with me his family pic as well as the bad news of his family in August, in beging of sept he travel
    To an other country, we still chat sometimes but mostly he ends up
    Silent if my talk is too personal! In the midle of sept I
    Was bad to ask to much about his time there that finally he told me of course he will on dates whenever appropariate, he is single! I then discontact with him! But start Oct14 he is back to my country as his project here, he promise to let me know when he arrive but he did not do that untill
    I asked him if he is here ! He just passed by my place on last sunday night to take the t-shirt i bought for him and some
    Stuff he left at my place! We had a good communication mostly about his job and place for living here! I asked if i can see him again he told
    We can have dinner sometimes, he then left we chated when he got home, but i make a mistake next day and a day after when keep
    Chating with him he told me he cannt keep
    Up with daily chat as it takes his eneger and time
    And he does not have them at the moment! I was panic so as keep talking a lot and even asked him if i can have dinner with him on friday! He said
    No…! I was crazy!! I know i should make it slowly but i already
    blow everything up:( !
    Is there anyway to save this!? I still have feeling for him even 6 moths already from day he left! Especially he is now here so as i dont want to miss this chance, he told me he can leave after a month or depends so
    as i really under the pressure! :( i really want to
    Have him back!

    • admin
      October 9, 2014 | 1:31 pm

      6 months later and you are still in love with him?

      • Joe
        October 10, 2014 | 5:06 pm

        Yes! I guess! I still feel full emotional when i huged him last sunday and i know how i feel when i looked at him! But thins
        Ga seems harder for me now! I just sms today asking if i can pass by and give him a cake, he said “no”, i then felt totally panic and sending several messages ! We end up that he told me i stop
        Harassing him and dont want to receive those kind of sms anymore! I felt so awful and ask if i can see him to say sorry and i dont want to text as seems create a lot of misunderstanding(i was crazy) he told me he dont want! :( i cannt save anything right!? I miss him a lot and really dont want he leave my country in next month again! Is there any hope!?

  9. dee
    October 8, 2014 | 1:16 pm

    My bf and I were going on 6 months next week. I admit we broke up almost two weeks ago because I was jealous of his girl that’s a friend and him talking so much and hanging out at the fair. But we started to work things out and all of the sudden he says he’s done and can’t handle it cuz my guy friend that he doesn’t like took a picture with my son. My son isn’t my bfs kid. I’m scared the no contact will make him move on. What’s the most affective way to make him miss me? And how long would no contact have to be?

    • admin
      October 9, 2014 | 1:15 pm

      They hung out one on one? Him and this girl?

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