How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup

If you want your ex boyfriend to miss you (after your breakup) then you definitely came to the right place. You will find that my site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery is a lot different than the rest of my peers. I don’t write articles for the sake of writing articles. In fact, I would say that I don’t write articles at all. I write in-depth guides that will help you accomplish a goal. In addition to that, I am extremely involved on this site. I respond to every comment personally and as long as your comment relates to the topic that my “in-depth guide” covers you should get a response within a day (unless it’s the weekend.)

Since you are inquiring about how you can make your ex miss you this page is going to be focused solely on that. So, without further ado, I give you the method in which you should employ to make your ex miss you.

How To Make Him Miss You (The Complete Steps!)

As I am sure you are already aware, making your ex boyfriend miss you (and potentially want you back) can be a tricky thing to do. It will take discipline, strategy and hard work (and even then you aren’t guaranteed to succeed.) However, I feel I have come up with an awesome way to not only make him miss you but to actually get him chasing you.

There is just one problem, the tactics I talk about are actually a little complicated and very detailed. So, while this page can help you make your ex boyfriend miss you it won’t do it as well as my E-Book does. So, when you get a chance (if you feel like it.) I recommend that you check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO:

My E-Book!

Everyone’s Advantage

roger federer

Before you even start using any “missing” tactics you have a pretty big advantage already. Did you know that 71% of people claim that they think about their ex too much? Oh, but it gets even better, 60% of people who are married or dating say that their ex is on their mind too much. Oh, and in case you are wondering where I got these statistics, the Yahoo Dating section!

The Advantage Of YOU Initiating The Breakup

This one is just pretty much common sense. As you know, there are usually three outcomes to a breakup.

  1. You can both agree on the breakup and do it mutually.
  2. He can break up with you.
  3. You can break up with him.

I highlighted the “you can break up with him” choice because you will have a small advantage in making your ex miss you if you initiated the breakup. We have already established above that you have an advantage in the fact that most people say that they still think about their ex too much but when you add in the fact that you initiated the breakup your advantage is going to be a little more distinct. Of course, there is one case where this might work as well.

The ONE case where you might not have this advantage.

  • If you broke up with your ex because he cheated on you.

The ONE case where this will work EXTREMELY well.

  • If you broke up with him and he didn’t want you to.

No Contact = “I Miss You”

(For more in-depth information on the No Contact Rule and how to PROPERLY put it into practice please visit Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

no eye contactThroughout this site you will find that the No Contact Rule is a pretty big theme. The NC Rule (No Contact Rule) is a rule that states the following:

 You are not allowed to call, text, email, Facebook or Google your ex for one full month. If during that month you are contacted by your ex you are not allowed to respond.

Sounds pretty simple huh? Actually, I would say that this is the toughest part to trying to get your ex back. However, if you do it successfully not only will you improve your chances of potentially putting yourself in a position to get him back but you will make huge strides in making him miss you.

You see, men at their core (I should know because I am one) have some pretty strange thoughts after a breakup but I would say that most guys eventually get back to one core thought “she is going to be the first to contact me.” How do I know this? Because, that is exactly what I thought after a break up I went through. Sure enough, after 3 days of not talking to my ex she contacted me.

Using my example, have you ever stopped and wonder what would have happened if my ex hadn’t contacted me? Let me tell you. My confident claim of “she is going to be the first to contact me” would have turned into “why the &^*% hasn’t she contacted me?” Interesting flip of the switch huh? Soon, that anger of “why hasn’t she contacted me yet?” would cause me to realize just how much I miss having her in my life.

Specific Things You Can Do To Make Him Miss You

(For more information on the different things you can do to make him miss you please check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.)

In this section we are going to look at a number of things that you can specifically do to make him miss you. I absolutely love this because these are things that are in your control. When it comes to getting your ex boyfriend back you have to accept the fact that there are a certain amount of factors that are completely out of your control. However, when it comes to making him miss you there are a lot of things you can do that will improve your chances. Buckle up because this may get long.

Tactic 1- Get In Shape


There is nothing that can catch a mans eye like a woman who has taken care of her body. Now, I am not saying you are fat or out of shape. I am saying that this tactic (getting in shape) will be beneficial to you in not only making your ex boyfriend miss you but it will be beneficial in helping you with future relationships (if you have them.) How effective is this tactic? Let me tell you a story. There was a girl who had a crush on me in college. Like a fool, I didn’t do anything about it because like a typical guy I wanted the girls that I couldn’t get. Anyways, this girl had a very pretty face but I am not afraid to say that she was a little… chubby and for me it took away from her looks.

Well, about a year and a half later I happened to run into her. Actually, I walked right past her because I didn’t recognize her. She had lost about 35lbs and looked amazing. In my absence this mediocre looking girl had turned into a beautiful goddess. I wanted her immediately. I did everything I could to try to go on a date with her.

Tactic 2- Repeat After Me: I Do Not Care About Him

I dont care

This tactic is more of a mindset that you need to have. During your no contact period make sure you don’t focus on your ex too much. Just focus on the most important thing, you. Trust me when I say that the “missing thing” will fall into place if you do this. It is important to remember that the two of you broke up and while you may want him back you need to understand that rome was not built in a day and you won’t get him back in a day. So, sit back and chill for a while.

Tactic 3- Social Life


You have two choices when it comes to breaking up with your ex. You can either

A. Let the breakup own you.


B. Own the breakup.

I am a guy and let me tell you that I do not find it attractive when someone, who after a breakup, sits on the couch all day and eats ice cream. In fact, that is what I expect pretty much every girl to do after a breakup. About five years ago when I broke up with my girlfriend at the time the exact thought I had was “I bet she is sitting on the couch right now crying and eating ice cream.” Here is the kicker though, a few days later when I logged on Facebook I found that she wasn’t quite as devastated as I thought. She had posted pictures of her having fun with friends and basically having a really fun social life. While I didn’t immediately think “man, I miss her” it set me up for thinking it. Her active social life made me realize what I was missing out on and made me a little jealous and angry that she wasn’t as devastated.

Tactic 4- Hitting His Emotional Hot Buttons

hot buttons

Look, eventually the no contact rule end is going to end and a time is going to come where you are going to have to communicate with your ex. When you do contact him make sure you do it via a text message. Texting is viewed as non threatening and it will give you the ability to slowly push is emotional hot buttons. I recommend that you check out this guide on how to correctly text message your ex.

Tactic 5- Jealousy Can Be Effective IF Used Correctly


A lot of experts will tell you to not try to make your ex jealous. I will admit that I don’t necessarily agree with them on that. If you have a chance to bring up some deep inner feelings within him then I say go for it. Of course, if you are going to use jealousy on your ex boyfriend it has to be done a specific way. It probably won’t go over too well if he checks on your Facebook profile and sees you making out with three different guys. No, using jealousy is an art. It has to be done subtly but at the same time be obvious enough for him to pick up on it. Here are a few examples of how to properly use jealousy.

Example 1- Movie With A Male Friend

In this example I am going to show you a specific text message that is meant to make your ex a little jealous. Notice how in the example below you didn’t specify if your movie date was with a male or a female. You basically leave it up to your ex to assume if you went to see a romantic movie with a guy or a girl.

romantic movie text

Example 2- Did I See You?

This one is a little riskier but you are almost guaranteed to make your ex a little jealous which will hopefully contribute to him missing you. In this text message you are basically saying that you mistook him for a “hot guy” at a bar (or any other place you can think of.) Again, this one is risky but the reward is definitely higher.

jealousy (did I see you at)

Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Misses You

I actually wrote a guide on how to tell if your ex boyfriend is still in love with you already but I thought I would give a quick recap here. After all, it might be important to figure out the signs that your ex misses you so you can determine if what you are doing is working. Below I am just going to give you a bullet point list so you can quickly reference the signs.

  • If he texts you
  • If he calls you
  • If he shows up at places you frequent in a non stalker way (if it is stalker like then that is just creepy)
  • If he has positive reactions when you see him in person.
  • If he keeps in touch with your family.

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2,808 Responses to How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup
  1. J
    February 28, 2015 | 10:21 pm

    So I was casually dating this guy for about 6 months. In January, he blew me off for the entire month (friends staying with him, etc) but still remained in contact with me (which was confusing because I thought he was too busy!). I saw him once again and at the beginning of Feb, I broke it off with him via text. I told him the last couple of months have been fun but I’m not looking for something casual, but looking for a relationship. Said goodbye and take care. Also, while we were dating, he kept saying that he wants to move back to his Europe to be with his family. First he thought it was in Jan. But now I think it’s May. But it all depends on his job really. Anyway, he didn’t respond to my text for twelve days! And all he sent was an alligator emoji (I had sent him an animal emoji at the end of my text). I didn’t respond. it will be a month next week I broke up with him. I really wanted him to change and fight for me. What do you think his text meant? Is it over? I hope not!

  2. Jessy
    February 28, 2015 | 12:07 pm

    Hey Chris I’m wracking my brains here. I’ve been seeing this guy for 8 months. We both came out of painful long term relationships shortly before we got together. We never told each other that we loved one another. There was a lot of attraction affection and chemistry between us. And we had lots of fun. Towards the end someone close to me passed away and I was very upset and cold towards him which I regret now. He told me he wasn’t sure about our relationship, if he would ever be over the ex girlfriend that hurt him. And that he just wanted to be friends. I agreed I said I may not be completely over my ex boyfriend too, and if that’s what he wanted then I’m afraid we couldn’t be friends. Now he’s gone it’s only been 4 days of no contact. I have realised how much I really do love and care for him. Do u think there is any way he could want me back even though he said he still has feelings towards his ex? Thanks

  3. j
    February 28, 2015 | 8:51 am

    I was in a relationship for almost 3 years andd all of a sudden my boyfriend decided he had had enough. We had been arguing alot in the past few months but we had actually just been going through an amazing stage and litrally a week before this he had told me he always wanted me in his life and that he would never leave me. But here we are a week on and I needed comphorting over a situation which probably wouldn’t seem like a big deal but I was very upset over it. However he thought I was being silly and we ending up having a massive talk where he said he still loves me so much and always will but he doesn’t want to be in a relationshiP. I failed at this point and broke down crying begging him to stay stay, I know awful decision but I physically coukdnt stop myself. Anyway long story short I have managed to convince him to think about it over the weekend and we will talk on Monday. I have already made the delicion to not contact him at all this weekend but is there anything else I can do to maximise my chances of making him want to stay with me when we talk about it again on Monday?

  4. Samantha
    February 28, 2015 | 7:05 am

    I was dating a guy for 3 months. when we first dated he said he was sharing a house with a female flat mate. I felt like something happened with the flat mate, I confronted him and he said when he moved in the house 2 years ago he had something with the flat mate for 7 weeks. Then he realised it was a mistake with the flat mate then he broke it off. He still stayed in the house after 2 years. few times I have been in the house she has been there, it was hard for me to deal with that. I spoke to my boyfriend but he never understood it was hard for me. He just says I should be alright to be friends with her. I feel she boss him around and tells him what to do. Last Saturday I went to his place for dinner, she was there and he asked me if he could wear his shorts but she answered, I felt she was interfering in our relationship. I was upset I told him but he said he was doing it deliberately to engage both of us in the conversation. But i am his girlfriend so her opinion shouldn’t matter. When I got home I texted him saying it’s over that I was not the person he should go out with but to date his flat mate. He didn’t respond but Tuesday I called him but we argued again the conversation ended better, since then I have never heard from him. I never wanted to break up with him but I was upset and said all the things to him

  5. catherine
    February 27, 2015 | 8:17 pm

    My boyfriend has recently broken up with me, and he said that he just doesn’t feel the way he used to. And I still love him and want to be with him but if it’s not going to work out it don’t want to waste my time anymore. We’ve broken up once before and after that happened he had a new girl and was telling people he didn’t like me and was really rude to me, but we eventually got back together the next week. It’s happened again and he’s been telling people he doesn’t like me and I think he’s got a new girl (I’ve heard that’s usually a rebound but I’m not sure). I’ve been using the no contact rule for a week now. I just need to know if you think we have a legitimate chance of getting back together.

  6. Shae
    February 27, 2015 | 8:31 am

    I am confused on the jealousy text. How does “thinking” that you saw him make him jealous? Also…what the heck do you follow it up with if he just says “no”?

  7. Michelle
    February 27, 2015 | 8:11 am

    Hi, my bf and I have been together for almost 3 years. We hit our first rough patch in the later part of January and initially we agreed on a time out for 1 month. However, after 3 days, I thought it’s all about how much we wanted to make our relationship work and that waiting for a month to pass might be too late to salvage our relationship. I went down to his place and asked him to reconsider giving us another shot, he told me he would call me that night and let me know his decision.
    That night, he called to break up with me. I was devastated, i begged him for 2 weeks as he kept talking to me everyday since.
    He wouldn’t change his mind, he kept saying “I’m sick of you”, “I’m sick of quarrelling”, “You forced me to break up with you”, “I don’t want commitment”, “You are good enough for me but I need a change”. What should I do now? I really want him to give us a second chance but he claims that the glass bottle is broken and no amount of glue will fix it back.
    He stills texts me everyday, saying “I know I will regret later”, “I watched a video and it made me think a bit of us”. He even proposed a friends with benefits options but I declined because I want his commitment, whereas he wants to be able to date other girls.
    Is he confused or is he keeping his options open while keeping me close? What should I do not? Please advise, thank you.

  8. Diyah
    February 27, 2015 | 5:45 am

    I been living with my boyfriend for 1 year recently he moved out with the reason that his parents came from oversea but i found out lately that it was a girl from his country who came.he beging me don’t talk anything in front of the girl because she is his cousin that his family want them to get marrige By the way he is muslim. I was so angry and feel shocked like all this time he been using me only i help him to look for new place ,buy things for the house and moved then he just did all of that for her. I told her Everything about us but i know nothing would change and he asked me in front of her that what will i get now? Then i said nothing and i dont want him.i said. now i am feeling so down as i am also pregnant. and he will come to talk to me today but i said if you will keep lying or blaming for what happened and dont feel sorry then dont come. what do i have to react when i see him?

  9. Amanda
    February 27, 2015 | 3:03 am

    So I broke up with my boyfriend just over two weeks ago, and unknowingly was doing the “no contact’ rule…he had facebook messaged a few times over ten days, just random things like, ïm not angry, just disappointed – hope you’re ok’and others like your friends said to say hi'(I had not responded to them but he had seen that I “saw them”), then his daughter messaged me asking us if we wanted to hang out with them (I did answer the daughter)
    then yesterday he turned up at my house! of course I answered the door not expecting it to be him and asked him politely what he wanted, he said he came for his spare key to which I replied I dropped it back in your ‘spare key’spot over a week ago while you were at work. we then had coffee together and talked and talked and im very ashamed to admit this but we ended up sleeping together. he then said hopefully we could talk some more on Saturday and I replied with ‘whatever you want,. if I see you I do, if not, that’s cool.

    help! ive done the wrong thing, haven’t I? ive stuffed it up completely..? I was going so well and then BAM!
    how can I rectify this?? btw, I want to be with this man!!! :(

    • Amanda
      February 27, 2015 | 3:05 am

      oh! when I answered the daughter I said ‘sorry we cant, we’re out but your dad could drop you off to play with kids if you’d like’
      thought I better specify I didn’t give in to him wanting to see us..

  10. Chantel
    February 27, 2015 | 12:45 am

    It’s been almost a month since our break up. Things ended pretty badly between us, and I’m not sure if what we had can be recovered. We were together for two years and lived together for one out of those two years. Somewhere along the way we lost the ability to communicate with eeach other which caused a lot of stress and emotional abuse. The kicker is, we had gotten a puppy together who is now 9 months and since the break up I have persuaded him to sell me the dog, as I have a more stable living environment. He agreed and honestly didn’t put up much of a fight. Which was VERY surprising. I am picking her up this coming Monday, and as part of the agreement is that all contact between us stops after I get the dog. Wanting her has nothing to do with an underlying desire to hurt him. After Monday I plan on committing to the no contact rule for one to two months. Problem is I am moving away. I have no idea if reaching out eventually will work, or if there is even a point. I think of him everyday and miss him more than I thought could be possible. Despite how chaotic things were between us, I fantasize about him finding me again one day once he’s figured out his shit. I’ve never experienced such a soul crushing break up. When our gut tell us something is meant to be, is it naive to want to believe it ? I really do want him back. I’m so confused

  11. ashley
    February 26, 2015 | 3:20 pm

    So I was in a non-relationship with this guy, we were supposed to be talking and getting to know one another after meeting and hooking up the first time we met. Long story shorty, we’ve not got to the getting to know one another part and he was lying about seeing another girl…and was trying to hide it until the infamous friends caught it. Haha, anyhow….I have no desire to be with him or any sort of relationship….never had…but I want a benefit relationship and on my terms. He just recently ignored me for 3 days in a row and I finally said I’m done, it was nice knowing you and have a great life. But now he’s texted me saying he wasn’t trying to ignore just been busy and “so how’s life and thangs” what the hell is he playing??? We have no connections other then sexual….is he trying to see what he can get away with and if I really meant what I said??

    • admin
      March 1, 2015 | 6:22 pm

      What do you mean no connections other than sexual?

      Were you just FWB?

  12. asoum
    February 26, 2015 | 12:47 pm

    I v a problem with my boyfriend he complains about me all the time and he told me he loves this is our first we still have problem for more than week, he told me that my friend is better than me, what makes me cry and feel not confident about my self and feel jalous, he is always comparing me with other girls, but he told me that he loves me and can not live without me.this is what i can not understand. I told him that he is
    pretending that he loves in front of my
    family and friends but in fact u r not you are
    zero he got angry he want to break up with me im so sad i know that he loves me bul he s insulted, 4 days after our fight he called me back and talked to me so cold.these days i tried to speak to him and discuss about it but he gives me no chance.yesterday i texted him twice but he didn’t respond, i called him 15 times but he didn’t answer. I don’t know what to do.he is the one who insulted problem is i forgive easily .i want him to miss me and chase me to forgive.

    • admin
      March 1, 2015 | 6:17 pm

      Ok, first things first 15 times is a little… much.

      Might need to go into NC.

  13. jek
    February 25, 2015 | 8:32 pm

    My bf and i had a huge fight and i dont know if its over between us.i told him my side why i did something to make him so mad at me and doesnt even want to talk to me or even send mesg to him. I tried NC for 2 days but i sent a mesg for him to know the real reason why i did that for him to understand my situation.he listened but i dont know whats going on his mind now.i told him to give our relationship a chance coz i love him and he knows how much i love him and given him everything.i told him to look into the good and happy times we were together not only the mistake i did. (This is the first mistake i made) He just replied to me.. “i dont know” i didnt mesg him the whole day but still hoping he will.. i know hes still mad at me and and also afraid to use the NC coz if our communication is lost i will totally lose him too.. please advice..thanks.

  14. cat
    February 25, 2015 | 7:20 pm

    me and my boyfriend were dating for almost 6 months. the past two months or so I have been picking fights with him and basically pushing him away. 2 nights ago we sat down and he said he just wants to focus on school, and his wrestling career right now and doesn’t want a girlfriend anymore. he said he’s not in love with me because of all the fighting. is he just saying that to make the break up sound easier? we were honestly perfect together and we’re best friends. I love him still and I’m not over him. I want him back so badly it kills me. we’ve had a few conversations and I’m just hurting and hurting more and more. I don’t know how to get him back. I know he’s going to realize he misses me. he said he’s been crying and has been a mess but it doesn’t change anything. what does that mean? do you think he still wants me?

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