Today I’m going to take you through the seven signs that your ex will come back after a breakup.

Now, I want you to know that all these signs are taken from real-life success stories. Our success stories noticed these behaviors right before their ex asked for them back so you should keep an eye out for these too.

  1. You are getting consistent meaningful responses
  2. You learn that your ex is pretending to be over you
  3. You learn they aren’t coming back because they are scared
  4. Your ex grows jealous
  5. They begin to exhibit unconscious signs of interest
  6. They use pet names from the past
  7. You are at a place emotionally where you let them go

Allow me to dive in and dissect for you.

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Seven Signs That Your Ex Will Probably Come Back To You

As stated above, today we are going to be talking about the most important signs that your ex will probably come back after a breakup. If you stick around and read this article in its entirety then you will learn:

Enough chit chat!

Let’s go.

Sign #1: You Are Getting Consistent MEANINGFUL Responses

Let’s fast forward to the texting phase after a breakup – generally speaking, there are a few things that can happen when you get into a text conversation with your ex.

Your ex can respond or not respond. If they do respond, their response can be long or short and usually fall between negative, neutral, or positive categories. It’s time to really analyze your conversations with your ex and ask yourself where it’s going.

Are you having meaningful conversations?

After all, there’s a difference between an ex sending unengaged one-word replies like “cool” or “awesome” and them actually being engaged in a conversation with you.

One-word responses aren’t exactly indicative of a meaningful conversation so you need to see both the word count and actual context of your ex’s responses to see if they’re meaningful.

In a meaningful conversation, your ex will truly listen to what you have to say and then build off that and hit the ball back to you.

It should be this seamless ping-pong game where you both match each other’s energies and the conversations get deeper and more meaningful.

So, if you’re consistently having meaningful conversations with your ex, it’s a great sign that you are connecting with them on the level that you need to for them to come back.

Sign #2: You Learn That Your Ex Is Actually Only Pretending to Be Over You

In this case, your ex still wants you back but they’re a little too afraid to acknowledge that fact in public. Here a few things that might indicate that you’re in this situation:

Your ex refuses to do an item exchange

It’s pretty common to leave stuff over at each other’s place (or even share a living space) if you’re in a relationship so when you break up you will need your things back. Usually, that conversation and meeting go by pretty quickly and your ex will let you take everything that’s yours.

However, if your ex keeps avoiding the conversation and refuses to set a date for exchanging items, there’s a high chance they are not ready for the closure that follows that meeting yet. They are still literally holding onto parts of you and want to continue to see you.

Your ex tries to rile you up on social media

Let’s say your ex deletes all of your pictures from their social media except one. Why would they do that? If they were so over you, why bother? It’s because they know you’ll be paying attention to their social media so they try to get a rise out of you. They obviously still care enough to hold onto a picture and they are just putting up an act to make it seem like they won the breakup.

Sign #3: You Learn the Only Reason They Haven’t Come Back to You Is That They’re Scared

In this situation, your ex wants to get you back but they’re scared to breach that invisible wall and fully recommit to you. Here are a few signs your ex might still want you but is too scared to directly say that:

Your ex mentions they’ve never had a connection like the two of you have

If your ex says things like “I’ve never told anyone this before” or “no one understands me like you do”, there’s a high chance they want you back but are just too scared of that leap of crossing the psychological barrier and being back in an exclusive relationship.

Your ex starts seeing someone new, but still talks to you more

If your ex has “moved on” to someone new but is still talking to you more than they talk to their new partner it’s a great indicator that they are unsatisfied with their current relationship.

Why would they seek emotional support from you if their new relationship was better?

They’ve now realized that they had the “grass is greener syndrome” and thought they could do better than you but they were wrong.

Now they can’t form that bond with anyone else and probably want you back but are too scared to say.

Sign #4: Your Ex Grows Jealous

One of our favorite success stories comes from a woman named Sarah Michelle. Sarah’s story is unique because I interviewed her twice as she technically got her ex back twice.

The first time was pretty standard where her ex gave her the whole “I don’t love you anymore, we’re never getting back together again” spiel…and then got back with her.

In fact, he didn’t just get back in a relationship with her but also proposed to her, only to break up again.

Sarah decided to go through our process again to see if it would work twice… it did, but not how she expected.

The second time around our process helped her realize she didn’t want her ex back anymore and she moved on to someone else.

Her ex returned immediately after she started dating a new guy because he was too jealous to see her with someone else. He literally could not stop thinking about her.

So, if you go out on dates and see your ex getting jealous, he’s probably still into you and there’s a good chance he’ll come back.

Sign #5: They Repeatedly Exhibit One of The Following Unconscious Signs of Interest

This is where we get deep and notice the slightest unconscious signs your ex exhibits when they’re getting close to committing to you again. Here are those unconscious signs that your ex is interested in you:

  • If your ex leans towards you, they’re attracted to you. Inversely, leaning away from someone shows repulsion.
  • If your ex blushes a lot when you talk about them or stories of the past.
  • Mirroring – when your ex mirrors your body language and behaviors.
  • If your ex is constantly smiling when you’re out on a date

Having them reach out to you without you doing any extra work

Sign #6: Your Ex Slips and Uses Pet Names from The Past

When you’re in a relationship with someone, you probably don’t call them by their first name. Instead, you might use some pet names or terms of endearment like “babe”, “baby”, “love”, “honey” or whatever else floats your boat.

Pet names are basically synonymous with relationships and they show a level of shared trust and love.

If your ex accidentally slips up and calls you by the pet name they used before the breakup, it’s a great sign that they’re starting to see you as their partner again.

Sign #7: You Get to A Place Emotionally Where You Let Go of Them

I would argue this is the most important thing for you to do if you want to get your ex back and it is completely beyond what everyone else recommends. Most people come at the approach of getting an ex back from strategic or tactical standpoints, e.g.

Do this thing and it will raise your chances of success. We recommend different strategies too but we’ve found that none of that matters if you don’t have the correct mindset.

According to our success stories, the biggest mental prerequisite to getting an ex back is getting to a point emotionally where you don’t care whether your ex comes back.

Now, this doesn’t mean you can’t still want your ex back, it just means that you’ve accepted they may not come back and that’s okay. There is great strength in embracing this and once you get to this mindset you’ll subconsciously send out signs on social media and in-person that raise alarms for your ex.

Your ex will quickly realize you’re not desperate to get them back anymore and they might lose you if they don’t commit ASAP. Usually, that’s enough to make them act and cross that psychological barrier of asking for a commitment.

So if you want a great sign that you are close to getting your ex back look inwards toward yourself to see if you are okay with losing them.


Here is a quick recap of the 7 signs that your ex will come back, as proven by real-life success stories:

  1. You are getting consistent MEANINGFUL responses
  2. You learn that your ex is only pretending to be over you
  3. You learn that the only reason your ex hasn’t come back is that they’re scared
  4. They grow jealous if you date other people
  5. They exhibit unconscious signs of interest
  6. They slip and use pet names from the past
  7. You get to a place emotionally where you let go of them

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463 thoughts on “7 Signs He Will Come Back After A Breakup”

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    March 12, 2021 at 10:05 am

    Hey, i brokeup with my ex after 1.5 year of relationship. The reason was as per he said he got frustrated by our fights and he said that i don’t trust him enough (i had my reasons for that) we had a fight again because he started playing video games and started being more with his friends he wasn’t giving me enough time or putting efforts i felt lonely even while being with him. Before he used to be crazy about me and he did so much just to make me say “yes” but i didn’t used care much gradually when i started caring for the relationship and did everything for him he stopped putting efforts. After the fight he told me to forget him and said that i would get someone better and he wants to be alone i begged him to say and he finally blocked me from everywhere. It’s been 2 and half weeks we haven’t spoken. It just hurts as hell..could you please help me with this?i want to know if he would come back because I’m still hoping since he was very upset when we broke up he said that he learnt what love is from me and it’s an equally hard for him to forget me

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 13, 2021 at 2:01 pm

      Hi Nimesha, so yes the program can help you, but the most important thing is that you work on yourself and your self esteem, as you say you didnt trust him because he was spending time with his friends and playing computer games – there is no reason not to trust him for these actions he does not need to be with out all the time. If you don’t already, use that time to spend with your friends and loved ones, learn to love being in your own company too so that loneliness is something that is rarely around as you are happy in your own company.

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    March 10, 2021 at 6:00 pm

    Me and my ex were together for 3 years , we lived together we had the perfect relationship until his daughter chose to live with her mom . It tore both of us up but I didn’t think we couldn’t get through it. His depression grew and then he needed space but would say we would get back he just needed alone time. I respected his wishes and went to stay with my mom . That was 2 months ago. This last weekend I asked him what was our relationship and he said he needs to be alone he even said he was talking to others but not seeing anyone . In a rage I got all my stuff out he cried asking to be friends saying he was sorry.
    I have cut all contact. He is the love of my life and I feel I was his too. Will he come back after the NC?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 9, 2021 at 9:08 pm

      Hi Raya, it takes more than NC to get your ex back, this is why it is so important that you read a number of articles here. Your STEP 1 is no contact, and in that time you work on yourself. Then Step 2 is the texting phase, but it means you need to read and watch Chris’ videos

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    March 8, 2021 at 12:30 pm

    This has been so helpful and insightful. I was dating this guy for about 6 months and it broke my heart when we realised we wanted different things. He was going through a lot of personal issues at the time, and I completely understood that he wasn’t ready for a relationship. We ended it mutually, and it was just bad timing. It’s been a few months now that I’ve last spoken to him, I’ve applied the “No-Contact Rule”. He and I agreed that we’ll cross paths again in the future, but I know I cannot wait forever & I am still working towards the best version of myself. The “No-Contact Rule” is really essential to grow and slowly overcome the breakup. There were many times I wanted to break it, but I always reminded myself that I did not want to stoop down to a level that showed I was “too available”. I know that “they will always come back” because I’ve seen it happen to my friends, my family but I truly believe that when I cross paths with him again – I will understand clearly why it couldn’t have worked out the first time.

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    February 9, 2021 at 12:35 pm

    My bf broke with me after a year of dating. We’ve never been so good since we started due to his busy schedule. He broke up n came back several times but this time, he said I easily get angry so he’s afraid of the future. I still love him and wish to spend the rest of my life with him. Will he ever come back

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 9, 2021 at 6:09 pm

      Hi Lina, spend some time working on yourself and reading the artciles about being Ungettable Girl

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    Elma Swanepoel

    January 12, 2021 at 1:45 pm

    8 weeks since he blocked me for the 2nd time after our break-up in Aug. First time he blocked me for 1.5 months before making a brief come-back of 4 days, displaying all these signs. Really strange… He is 54, and me 51, attractive, fit and trim, and looking 10 years younger. So, we are not kids anymore, but it may have been a rebound situation for him after his divorce and a trauma-bonding on mine. He also had / has huge problems at work and said after first break-up he needs to work through i, and sort out his life on his own.

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    January 1, 2021 at 10:24 am

    I am my ex had been dating for 1 1/2 all of sudden when we were dating he acted strange and wasn’t coming online and was keeping hiself busy,when I confronted him,he said that he was losing feelings and thinks that this relationship won’t work out in the future.
    And was saying some reasons that doesn’t make sense at all. I really love him and I don’t really know will he come back to me as he said he already lost feelings towards me for past a month

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    November 7, 2020 at 4:00 am

    Our story is that we had been hanging out and talking since January, finally started dating in August, but then he broke up with me a few weeks ago. Things were going so well it seemed like, but he told me he no longer saw a future with me and that our relationship was starting to feel like a task to him. He also said he needs time and space to think things through and that this wasn’t our time to be together anymore. Seems like mixed signals to me and not sure which one is true. This breakup seemed random to me because things were going so well. I’m not sure how long he thought about it, but he never talked about it with me. He just made a decision and left.
    I am still in college and he is right out of college with a new job. He is very focused on his career and himself right now. I know how it is for a fresh out of college guy to be focused on his life. Him and I live an hour and a half away from each other. He said that it won’t be for a couple years til I get out of school and he feels that with our distance and age, it won’t work out anymore. I feel like he could change his mind though, if things get easier for him.
    Him and I are in no contact right now, we have not spoken since the day we broke up which was about 3 weeks ago. I will not contact him because he said he wanted space. I have been pretty sad and anxious ever since, but I have been trying to distract myself with working on school and my career.
    My next move is just to focus on myself with school and work. With COVID, I know it will be more difficult to move on, but with time I know it will get better. I do want him back because I was falling in love with him and he made me super happy. I felt we had a real connection and got along great together. I know if it’s meant to be then he will come back, but it is just like I feel like I shouldn’t let him go because he seems like he could potentially be the one for me.
    I just need help on what to do.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 9, 2020 at 5:48 pm

      Hi Taylor, so if you want to try and get your ex back then you need to start reading and following the advice given in the articles

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    November 3, 2020 at 10:26 pm

    Hi, my ex and I have been dating since 2013. We had 7 years together on 10/13/2020. He’s 29 and I’m 27. He recently broke up with me on Sunday Nov 1. He told me he loved me but he didn’t see us working out in the end. Its funny because on our anniversary he went all out and we had a wonderful weekend in Santa Barbara and we were even making plans to move out in the next 2 years. We had decided that we needed 2 more years to save up because he wanted to pay off his school Loans by then. When he broke up with me he was unsure of everything. He kept saying that 49% of him wanted to make it work but 51% of him said we needed to break it off. He kept saying that he doesn’t want to hurt me and feels this is the best for both us. And he rather do it now than later. At the end of our talk I told him that I wasn’t okay with his decision but that I wasn’t going to force him to be with me if he was unhappy. He had nothing to say. I told him he was weak for giving up. He started to tear and told me that regardless he will always be there for me. I was doing so well not crying and then I cried and he hugged me and told me sorry babe. I got in my car and left crying and then the next day he texts me telling me if Wednesday would be good to pick up my stuff from his house. We didn’t live together but I had a lot of my stuff at his house (mom’s house). I don’t know how to feel. I feel confused. I don’t know if he wants me back. Idk he is just done. Idk why he made a decision so rash out of no where and Idk why he bottles his feelings up till he hits a point of no return. I just don’t know anything right now

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    October 31, 2020 at 11:17 pm

    Hi So my ex and dated like back in 2017 and we were like so In love but he got mad n broke up with me. and 2 days after the break up he posted a pic with a girl calling her he’s main chick and kinda turned cold but he kept texting me after a couple of months ‘Hi ‘ mind you he did that while still being a don’t care on social media. Everytime he’d text me I would text back and end of story he would completely ignore one day I got fed up n told him not to play mind games with me and never text me again. but he did. And that was back in mid 2018 He texted once and I ignored him but now in 2020 he texted me a couple of months ago and I replied and he went silent and didn’t text back And then after like a month he texts again Please tell me WTF does he want because I’m getting fed up but again I don’t want to be rude

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 1, 2020 at 10:49 am

      Hi Ash, I think your ex is reaching out to be able to speak with you, but it does not mean he wants to reconcile. If you want nothing to do with him, then just keep ignoring the messages.

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    October 31, 2020 at 12:29 pm

    Hi! My ex and I were in a relationship for 5 months during this summer. Everything was great and we both felt we wanted the same thing at the same speed, it all went very naturally. Towards the end he initiated even more get togethers, got loads of gifts, he texted me goodmorning and goodnight every single day and I felt a real deeper love coming from him. I would like to point out that I followed his pace, I didn’t chase after him the whole time, had my own amazing life and encouraged him to do all the things he wanted to, but still let him know I appreciated him and loved spending time together
    After spending an amazing weekend together I got a text on Monday night saying that he has been thinking about it a lot and had to make an end to our relationship. Out of the blue! He wasn’t sure he wanted to stay in Holland long term because of work and he didn’t want to lead me on. I responded with why didn’t you say something when we were together yesterday. He said he wanted to but needed more time to think.
    In the same text I sent him I told him I respect his decision, that I was sad about it and that it caught me off guard. He replied two times to say sorry and tell me I’m an amazing woman. I didn’t respond and went NC immediately. This has been 28 days ago, haven’t heard of him. He still follows my social media and is more online the last weeks than he ever used to be. I still miss him and want him back. I have a book of his and was thinking of sending it by mail to him with a small note saying thank you for borrowing it. Is this a good idea to get in touch again or should I count my losses and give up hope?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 31, 2020 at 10:16 pm

      Hi Noor, sadly only you can decide if you want to move on or try to get your ex back. The only thing I can do is advise you with whichever direction you choose. The first step is always a no contact for at least 30 days where you focus on you and your own happiness, however you have done 28 days so far and you still seem unsure so you could always go to 45 and re assess how you feel by then.

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    October 28, 2020 at 4:53 pm

    My ex and I had been together a year, we had both been cheated on in our previous relationships. Everything was great, no arguing we were actually amazing, he had just started working away from home I had started Uni but we FaceTimed and text everyday, all day. He had just put a loving comment on my fb when a girl text me telling me she had been talking to him on a dating website. Shortly after another girl did the same he had arranged to meet her.
    I asked him and he denied it at first. Then he said he was just lonely, he thought I would cheat that was his only excuse. He promised to delete it, make it up to me and said he loved me, he text me the next day then didn’t contact me for 4 days, he said he missed me, he had made the worst mistake of his life he would make it up to me but in the meantime deleted our pictures and his status off his social media, he apologised constantly for a few days, said he didn’t realise hoe much he would missed me. He wanted to know where I had been and with whom. I made polite conversation but he knew I would never trust him.
    I did ask him if he loved me he would want to make things right. He just said yeah I know.
    Since then he’s only messaged once and he was very blunt, no kisses and quite nasty.
    Will he contact me or will he just forget about me?
    Thank you

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 28, 2020 at 8:59 pm

      Hi Lynn, I think you need to take a step back and realise this guy was willing to cheat on you, and his excuse… because he thought you would cheat too. This is not acceptable and you need to realise you are worth more than this! I would also question, why you want to hear from him if he is going to treat you this way! Work on yourself, realise your worth and see that you deserve much better than what you are getting right now!

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    October 26, 2020 at 12:23 pm

    Me and my bf were together for 7 years having a lot of ups and downs. We had a breakup few months ago because he felt I was cheating on him emotionally but I don’t consider it as a cheating he was deeply hurt, after a month or so we got back together . Things were going fine until he started being busy for his exams but I sticked to him understanding his situation. We used to talk over call every 2-3 days. Eventually it stopped and I was upset with it and one day out of anger I confronted him, I was expecting him to console me and try to make it up to me but things were different. He wanted to talk to me, and he said that he doesn’t feel the same excitement and bond that we used to have anymore and that’s why he didn’t feel like talking to me. And ever since we got back together ,initially things were fine,he used to be excited about talking to me maybe because he was talking to me after so many days of breakup but later it stopped . And he thought that maybe everything will be fine with time. But that day he told me that he loves me, he’ll always love me but he just needs some time to be clear with me. He said that he is sorry for causing me pain and he is even scared to loose me but he needs to be clear with it as he is not able to be a good boyfriend. He even asked me if I’ll wait for him or not but later he said that he is scared to loose me but at the same time he doesn’t want me to keep waiting for nothing because what if he never comes back. This is all very confusing for me. I’ve started my no contact already. It’s been 10 days. I am preparing myself for the worst case scenario but I just have an instinct that we’ll be back together and I personally feel that he just needs some time but at the same time I am a bit scared to loose him.

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    October 20, 2020 at 9:27 pm

    Me and my boyfriend of almost three years broke up about three weeks ago. We called each other family. We were in a very serious relationship. We had our first big fight and I said some things out of anger and spite that I am not very proud of. He set a date to break up with me or else he wouldn’t of done it he says. He still loved me when he did so. He said that there could be a chance of him coming back and that he won’t tell his family the details of our fight because they will have me back in their lives for a third time. Yes, a third time. Me and him dated the first time back when we were really young. He said he wanted space to process everything and told me a second time that he wants us to stay separate. We exchanged our clothes and such and I made a list of what I wanted to ask him since I had questions and everything I’ve ever wanted to tell him so it was all laid out on the table. He still has feelings for me, the answer as to why we’re broken up changes every time I ask, he says that he’s still processing everything and that he needs to forgive me first. He says that he can promise forgiving me but can’t promise a second chance. He wants space. I am giving him space and I told him I’m going to work on myself to become more patient and understanding. I’ve been going out with friends and using social media to show that. He says he will miss me. He knows how much love I feel for him. We cry each time we have talked about it to each other. I told him that I will give him space because of how much I love and respect him. I hope giving him space doesn’t make him lose feelings. I’m just so confused on why he would give up something like this over our first big fight.

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    October 20, 2020 at 2:18 pm

    My bf and I were together for about 8 months. 6 months in we had a talk about this situation and he told me some things he can’t do with his life and it made me realize how much id have to give up to be with him. Although I loved him so I didn’t want to lose that. I stayed with him but after that we started getting into arguments about everything, mostly my fault because I was picking at every thing he did wrong after that. I guess I was unhappy but after the last month of fighting and talking things through I thought we were in a better place. But two days ago he snipped at me over the smallest thing I did and then didn’t talk to me the rest of the night and the next morning woke up and basically told me it was done. He was so cold and distant and basically told me things had run its course and he didn’t think our personalities matched and that we didn’t have a good future together. There was nothing I could say. he had his mind made up and honestly it didn’t even seem like he was that upset about losing me, which I think is what hurts the most right now. Although I do think he’s right about some of it I still didn’t want to just give up and walk away. I thought if we worked on it and communicated we could work through our issues. But he didn’t think so. I asked if he even still loved me he said I guess not and I asked if he thought there was someone better for him and he said yea I guess so. I know this is stupid to ask but do you think he’ll ever regret breaking up with me? Or want me back? I know I was the one of the best gf he ever had, and before the fighting started we were great together. I don’t know if there’s anything I can do to make him remember the good times either.
    I would just like an honest unbiased opinion

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 28, 2020 at 1:45 am

      Hi Charolette, it sounds as if what ever it was that he told you, he could not do. Caused a rift between you and this is something you should consider before trying to get back with him as it sounds as if you were not too happy about that. As for him regretting breaking up with you, it is likely he will when he has calmed down and had a chance to think over the relationship as a whole. Following a no contact, the important thing is that you work on yourself, Chris has many articles here about how to focus on yourself.

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    October 12, 2020 at 7:54 pm

    My fiance just up and left me, packed all his things and moved to a town about an hour away. He gets upset when I cry, gets upset when I text/call him, but then also gets upset when I don’t reach out. He is all over the place with his reasons as to why he left me, but says that he didn’t feel loved and appreciated by me. He has reached out to many different family members and says he wants to come home but that he can’t. It has completely flipped my life upside down. He is so hot and cold with everything and last weekend he wanted to get intimate with me so I did because I thought it would help. I have tried it all but am currently on day 3 of no contact, he asked me for space on a facetime call that he initiated and said he would put in more effort to talk to me but also said some very confusing things as well during the conversation so I sent him a text after the call saying I hope he is able to put himself first, be happy and that I do not want him to worry about calling/texting me (I said this because it just seems like such a burden for him). He has friends that he is living with that do not like me because I do not approve of their friendship given the types of things his friends do and what he has done with them in the past. He is getting a lot of encouragement from those people to not give me another chance, as mentioned he really is hot and cold with how he responds to me when we talk on the phone-he refuses to text me at all. I want more than anything for him to come back but I dont know if no contact will even work for him to miss me and realize he made a mistake.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 15, 2020 at 5:34 pm

      Hi Chelsea, there is no way to tell if it is going to work or not without giving it a try. So I would suggest that you do at least 30, possibly 45 days no contact and work on yourself in that time. With having people in his ear about not being with you, you need to prove those people wrong and use sphere of influence to show you are a good happy person who is doing positive things with her life. And then after 30/45 days you can reach out with a text that Chris suggests in his articles to re build your connection

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    October 11, 2020 at 10:25 am


    So me and my ex bf broken up for a month or so now but at the time we couldn’t really be separated because we lived together but now I am back at my own home and the break up is getting more real. Deep down we both knew that this was the end or its simply that he wanted so but not for me. I wanted to carry on but not him. However said, towards the end, I could sense that he is kind of regretting the decision and I also know for a fact that he still loves and misses me. But it isn’t enough for us to get back together. He has told me that at time he feels like he has made a wrong decision and that the break up really hits him when he knew I could’ve been there with him. I do love him so much and I want us to get back together but I am not sure how to instigate the right emotions.

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    October 8, 2020 at 5:22 am

    There was a guy who was one year younger we were friends until he said he had hella feelings for me and I was so confused but later that we met I just found out I wanted him too later on I trusted him and talked bout my hard past and the experience of rape and he just accepted that but when the time went by he said he’s afraid and he started to make excuses… then he said I wanted sex and he loves me and he didn’t want me to get hurt I texted him and told him I love you and he said I’m afraid I’m weak I can’t decide . He told me not to text him again . He told me not to talk about my past again with anyone . And after that I blocked him and he blocked me the day I think he found another person I dreamed bout him every night help me pretty

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    October 7, 2020 at 12:49 am

    My fiance suddenly got engaged to another woman without my knowledge and I found out later. We had a long distance relationship and were so in love, yet he did that. He since has stopped all communications with me and cant even tell me why or even sorry. He tells my friends he is scared to call me to even say sorry and even is so ashamed of his actions. I don’t know if he will ever change his mind and come back. I did support him with so many set backs in his life and I feel I have wasted my time and resources.

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    Mariana Westerby

    October 6, 2020 at 11:47 am

    Hi I’m really desperate I’ve been with this boy for 7 months 2 weeks he left me he said I was to good for him now he’s in a relationship I want him back I don’t know what to do I’m hurt

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 6, 2020 at 7:48 pm

      Hi Mariana, so you need to complete a 45 day no contact work on yourself, and then start following the being there method. The most important thing is that you work on yourself during this time so that you get over the hurt from the break up

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    October 5, 2020 at 12:51 pm

    So me and my boyfriend broke up due to life circumstances (a mutual break up) and he said he loves and always will and he was so upset and hurt that we’d let each other go, we agreed on going no contact and just go on our separate ways and see what the future will hold for us. Part of me knows he will be back but on the other I’m kinda hurt and cry sometimes.

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