Today I’m going to take you through the seven signs that your ex will come back after a breakup.
Now, I want you to know that all these signs are taken from real-life success stories. Our success stories noticed these behaviors right before their ex asked for them back so you should keep an eye out for these too.
- You are getting consistent meaningful responses
- You learn that your ex is pretending to be over you
- You learn they aren’t coming back because they are scared
- Your ex grows jealous
- They begin to exhibit unconscious signs of interest
- They use pet names from the past
- You are at a place emotionally where you let them go
Allow me to dive in and dissect for you.
Seven Signs That Your Ex Will Probably Come Back To You
As stated above, today we are going to be talking about the most important signs that your ex will probably come back after a breakup. If you stick around and read this article in its entirety then you will learn:
- The signs an ex is still in love with you and interested in you again
- The signs that your breakup is not permanent and may be temporary
- Understanding regret within your ex
- Exactly what to do if you notice your ex is exhibiting these signs
- If they’ll change their mind.
Enough chit chat!
Sign #1: You Are Getting Consistent MEANINGFUL Responses
Let’s fast forward to the texting phase after a breakup – generally speaking, there are a few things that can happen when you get into a text conversation with your ex.
Your ex can respond or not respond. If they do respond, their response can be long or short and usually fall between negative, neutral, or positive categories. It’s time to really analyze your conversations with your ex and ask yourself where it’s going.
Are you having meaningful conversations?
After all, there’s a difference between an ex sending unengaged one-word replies like “cool” or “awesome” and them actually being engaged in a conversation with you.
One-word responses aren’t exactly indicative of a meaningful conversation so you need to see both the word count and actual context of your ex’s responses to see if they’re meaningful.
In a meaningful conversation, your ex will truly listen to what you have to say and then build off that and hit the ball back to you.
It should be this seamless ping-pong game where you both match each other’s energies and the conversations get deeper and more meaningful.
So, if you’re consistently having meaningful conversations with your ex, it’s a great sign that you are connecting with them on the level that you need to for them to come back.
Sign #2: You Learn That Your Ex Is Actually Only Pretending to Be Over You
In this case, your ex still wants you back but they’re a little too afraid to acknowledge that fact in public. Here a few things that might indicate that you’re in this situation:
Your ex refuses to do an item exchange
It’s pretty common to leave stuff over at each other’s place (or even share a living space) if you’re in a relationship so when you break up you will need your things back. Usually, that conversation and meeting go by pretty quickly and your ex will let you take everything that’s yours.
However, if your ex keeps avoiding the conversation and refuses to set a date for exchanging items, there’s a high chance they are not ready for the closure that follows that meeting yet. They are still literally holding onto parts of you and want to continue to see you.
Your ex tries to rile you up on social media
Let’s say your ex deletes all of your pictures from their social media except one. Why would they do that? If they were so over you, why bother? It’s because they know you’ll be paying attention to their social media so they try to get a rise out of you. They obviously still care enough to hold onto a picture and they are just putting up an act to make it seem like they won the breakup.
Sign #3: You Learn the Only Reason They Haven’t Come Back to You Is That They’re Scared
In this situation, your ex wants to get you back but they’re scared to breach that invisible wall and fully recommit to you. Here are a few signs your ex might still want you but is too scared to directly say that:
Your ex mentions they’ve never had a connection like the two of you have
If your ex says things like “I’ve never told anyone this before” or “no one understands me like you do”, there’s a high chance they want you back but are just too scared of that leap of crossing the psychological barrier and being back in an exclusive relationship.
Your ex starts seeing someone new, but still talks to you more
If your ex has “moved on” to someone new but is still talking to you more than they talk to their new partner it’s a great indicator that they are unsatisfied with their current relationship.
Why would they seek emotional support from you if their new relationship was better?
They’ve now realized that they had the “grass is greener syndrome” and thought they could do better than you but they were wrong.
Now they can’t form that bond with anyone else and probably want you back but are too scared to say.
Sign #4: Your Ex Grows Jealous
One of our favorite success stories comes from a woman named Sarah Michelle. Sarah’s story is unique because I interviewed her twice as she technically got her ex back twice.
The first time was pretty standard where her ex gave her the whole “I don’t love you anymore, we’re never getting back together again” spiel…and then got back with her.
In fact, he didn’t just get back in a relationship with her but also proposed to her, only to break up again.
Sarah decided to go through our process again to see if it would work twice… it did, but not how she expected.
The second time around our process helped her realize she didn’t want her ex back anymore and she moved on to someone else.
Her ex returned immediately after she started dating a new guy because he was too jealous to see her with someone else. He literally could not stop thinking about her.
So, if you go out on dates and see your ex getting jealous, he’s probably still into you and there’s a good chance he’ll come back.
Sign #5: They Repeatedly Exhibit One of The Following Unconscious Signs of Interest
This is where we get deep and notice the slightest unconscious signs your ex exhibits when they’re getting close to committing to you again. Here are those unconscious signs that your ex is interested in you:
- If your ex leans towards you, they’re attracted to you. Inversely, leaning away from someone shows repulsion.
- If your ex blushes a lot when you talk about them or stories of the past.
- Mirroring – when your ex mirrors your body language and behaviors.
- If your ex is constantly smiling when you’re out on a date
Having them reach out to you without you doing any extra work
Sign #6: Your Ex Slips and Uses Pet Names from The Past
When you’re in a relationship with someone, you probably don’t call them by their first name. Instead, you might use some pet names or terms of endearment like “babe”, “baby”, “love”, “honey” or whatever else floats your boat.
Pet names are basically synonymous with relationships and they show a level of shared trust and love.
If your ex accidentally slips up and calls you by the pet name they used before the breakup, it’s a great sign that they’re starting to see you as their partner again.
Sign #7: You Get to A Place Emotionally Where You Let Go of Them
I would argue this is the most important thing for you to do if you want to get your ex back and it is completely beyond what everyone else recommends. Most people come at the approach of getting an ex back from strategic or tactical standpoints, e.g.
Do this thing and it will raise your chances of success. We recommend different strategies too but we’ve found that none of that matters if you don’t have the correct mindset.
According to our success stories, the biggest mental prerequisite to getting an ex back is getting to a point emotionally where you don’t care whether your ex comes back.
Now, this doesn’t mean you can’t still want your ex back, it just means that you’ve accepted they may not come back and that’s okay. There is great strength in embracing this and once you get to this mindset you’ll subconsciously send out signs on social media and in-person that raise alarms for your ex.
Your ex will quickly realize you’re not desperate to get them back anymore and they might lose you if they don’t commit ASAP. Usually, that’s enough to make them act and cross that psychological barrier of asking for a commitment.
So if you want a great sign that you are close to getting your ex back look inwards toward yourself to see if you are okay with losing them.
Here is a quick recap of the 7 signs that your ex will come back, as proven by real-life success stories:
- You are getting consistent MEANINGFUL responses
- You learn that your ex is only pretending to be over you
- You learn that the only reason your ex hasn’t come back is that they’re scared
- They grow jealous if you date other people
- They exhibit unconscious signs of interest
- They slip and use pet names from the past
- You get to a place emotionally where you let go of them