Today we are going to be looking at five signs that your ex may still be in love with you.
I do want to say before I start diving in to this article that we are going to be operating under a certain assumption.
The assumption is that you have a working knowledge of my process and how it works.
Why is this so important?
Because often your ex will show you nothing but disdain unless you follow a proven game plan to “get things to calm down” so to speak.
There is one other cool thing that I’d like to mention before we start. This isn’t going to be like the average article you can find online. Instead, what I have done is taken my success stories and looked for specific signs that exes in those circumstances engaged in.
These are my findings.
5 Signs Your Ex Still Loves You (Based On Success Stories)
What do you think I mean by saying “success stories?”
Well, I’m actually referring to someone who got their ex back using our process and looking at what their ex did to show interest. I looked for commonalities across thousands of successes and I found five clear patterns.
- They Make An Effort To Keep The Conversation Going When It Starts To Die Out
- They Can’t Help But Touch You
- They Respond To Your Messages Promptly
- Proximity To You (Physically And Electronically)
- Willing To Try Things You Like
Let’s take a moment and dissect these five things so you have a full understanding of what to expect.
Sign #1: They Make An Effort To Keep The Conversation Going When It Starts To Die Out
Conversations never have one clear trajectory.
Sometimes they’ll look like this,
While others can look like this,
The satisfaction level we have during conversations depend on a lot of different factors that I really don’t want to get into right now.
Here’s the one thing you have to remember.
Time is undefeated.
In other words, the longer the conversation is the more likely it is for the satisfaction level of the conversation to drop.
There is a point where you run out of things to talk about on the phone after three hours.
True story by the way!
Anyways, one of the most telling signs that someone is starting to fall in love with you is if they actively try to keep the conversation going when it is starting to wane.
When I met my wife and we weren’t officially an item I had many moments like this.
I couldn’t stand any kind of awkward silences so I’d just ask her a bunch of questions until I could get the conversation satisfaction up to a level that would keep her hooked in.
Sign #2: They Can’t Help But Touch You
In a strange way we are a slave to our bodies.
Perhaps that’s not a scientific way of looking at it. If you want to get technical we are all a slave to our brains.
Nevertheless, have you ever been with someone where you just naturally had this inclination to touch them.
And for the record I’m not trying to be dirty here,
I’m talking about innocent touching.
- Little touches on arms
- Holding hands
- You get the picture
I was a bit of a late bloomer when it came to relationships.
I didn’t get my first girlfriend until I was 18 years old and believe me when I say it was like pulling teeth to finally get a girl to agree to go out with me.
I literally felt I was in the middle of one of those “will they, won’t they” arcs in a soap opera.
The turning point for me actually occurred when someone put a clothespin on me.
Apparently someone at my high school had started this interesting game where you’d have to hug someone who had a clothespin attached to them. The girl who would end up being my first girlfriend literally walked up to me and said,
“I think this would look good on you.”
And then hugged me.
Now, I had never been hugged before.
I mean, sure, my mom had hugged me but I had never been hugged by a girl who was potentially interested in me before. So, you can imagine the rollercoaster of emotions swirling inside of me,
I later learned that she was just looking for an excuse to hug me.
Here’s my point.
When your ex is “feeling it” they won’t be able to help themselves and will most likely find a way to touch you.
Sign #3: They Respond To Your Messages Promptly
Let’s switch gears for a moment and focus on “text game.”
One of the things that I talk a lot about in my book is the fact that little things like response time matters.
When I met my wife for the first time we were already in a long distance situation.
She lived in Philadelphia and I lived in Texas.
I tell you this not to brag about how we made it work but to highlight how limited we were in the “getting to know each other phase.”
We probably would have been able to move much more quickly if we could have not waited two months to go on an actual date to see each other.
Anyways, we were basically limited to text messaging and phone calls.
One of the things that always struck me though was how I would literally make a conscious effort to vary my response times.
I’d literally think to myself,
I am going to wait 45 minutes to respond to this.
But the wait was agonizing and I’d fail every single time.
It got so bad that I’d ended up responding to her promptly every time she asked a question.
The craziest part is that I knew it wasn’t the right way to approach the situation.
I should have definitely stayed more disciplined but I’d continually fail, a slave to my emotions.
Sign #4: The Proximity To You (Physically And Electronically)
Scientists found something interesting when they looked at how people fall in love.
It’s something that I’ve seen a lot with my own personal success stories and through working with clients for six and a half years.
Generally speaking, the closer someone is to you the more likely they are to have feelings for you.
Now this applies in every sense of the word.
I’m talking about physical closeness, general closeness and even electronic closeness.
In case you need some visual aids,
If someone has feelings for you or is in love with you it is inevitable that they will find themselves in close proximity to you.
Honestly there isn’t much more for me to unpack here so I’m just going to move on.
Sign #5: They Are Willing To Try Things You Like
I met my wife for the first time in Florida.
As stated above, she lived in Philadelphia and I lived in Texas and we agreed to meet in Florida.
I was beyond nervous.
I’m not even sure I have words to describe how my body shook on the plane to Florida.
I had one simple goal when I met her, make a good impression.
Looking back I’m sure that she had the same goal as well.
Now, I’m from Texas so it goes without saying that I’m not much of a salad eater.
In fact, I’d go as far as saying that I despise salads.
I’m definitely a meat eater.
I tell you this not to rock the boat but to give you some context so the story I’m about to tell makes sense.
Upon meeting for the first time my wife offered to cook food for me.
My first initial thought is of course,
Awesome, she is going to cook up some steak for me.
Only she didn’t cook steak.
She trotted this out,
Of course, I’m meeting this girl for the very first time in person so I can’t look disappointed or her feelings will be hurt.
I feigned happiness and “dug in.”
I’ve never gagged on anything in my life before. In fact, any time I’d see those hilarious memes of people gagging I just thought they had a weak stomach.
About midway through eating this salad my gag reflex kicked in and it took everything I had not to do this,
It was quite possibly the worst meal I’d ever had.
Of course, I’m in this really precarious position where I can’t ask for something more substantial because then It’ll be found out that I hated the salad.
So, I went to bed hungry that night.
Totally worth it though because I got a wife out of it.
Here’s my point.
When we love someone we tend to try things that are outside our comfort zone.
We do things we don’t want to do.
If you’ve noticed your ex doing this then that is probably a good sign.