You’ve been through a breakup and you’ve found yourself here reading about getting your ex boyfriend back.

Now, maybe you are new here, in which case, welcome. Or maybe you’ve spent the past few hours tearing through our articles trying to find an easy way to get your ex back. Whichever it is, I am glad you are here.

By now you’ve probably determined that this is not an overnight process. There is no easy way to get your ex back. You are going to have to do some things that aren’t going to be easy.

One of those things is following through on the No Contact Rule. Yes, it is exactly what it sounds like. You can’t contact your ex for a minimum of 21 days, maximum 45 days. It sounds easy, but most of you will only make it about 45 minutes before you are back on the site looking for exceptions to the rule.

There is a reason for this.

Yes, we have thousands of people that have used our methods and had astounding results. From where you’re sitting, I imagine it is hard to see the possibilities, especially when you can’t even begin to guess what your ex is thinking.

Now, I’m not saying you should spend all of your time trying to guess what your ex is thinking.

That’s not it at all.

I am saying that sometimes you need a little push to follow through on the harder parts of getting an ex back. One really good way to stay motivated is to remind yourself of the possibility that your ex could very well still have feelings for you.

Let’s go over some of the ways to tell if your ex boyfriend still has feelings for you.

The Pendulum Effect

One minute you’re done. It’s over. The next you find out he’s asking all of your friends if you are seeing someone.

Then he’s giving you the cold shoulder. Then he’s sending you late night texts about nothing.

It’s almost like he’s trying to play games with your head.

This type of behavior results from an internal struggle.

Think about it.

We all question our decisions, even if we are super confident in them at first.

If your ex is being hot and cold with you after a breakup, you can bet he is at least giving into his feelings for you sometimes.

You don’t just cut someone important out of your life and not miss them. You can see both the upside and the downside of splitting up. So, you end up going back and forth between wanting them back and standing your ground.

It’s like this.

Is that not clear enough? Here let me try again.

Imagine him just swinging back and forth. At first, he is okay with his decisions he may even have a little animosity toward you. Then he thinks about it and remembers the times he enjoyed spending with you. But, then he reasons with himself and goes back to being okay with his decision.

You will be tempted to interrupt the swings and force him to stay on the side where he misses you.

It doesn’t work that way.

The more you try to effect his position directly, the more likely he is to swing to the other extreme.

That’s why we focus on changing his position indirectly with No Contact.

But here’s the point, he still has feelings for you, he is just rationalizing past them.

His Time Investment Is High

Did you know that there are five motives for communicating with an ex?

Weird right?

  1. The friendship with the ex is strong and rewarding.
  2. They see their ex as a possible “backup”
  3. Their ex is part of a larger group of friends.
  4. They invested a lot of time and have been through a lot with the ex.
  5. They still have feelings for their ex.

We’re not talking about why you are keeping in touch with him. We’re talking about why he’s keeping in touch with you.

Staying in contact simply because you are a part of his circle of friends is almost always just a tactic to keep the peace. So, we can go ahead and write that one off as a sign that he has feelings. He’s just avoiding drama. Can’t blame him for that.

If the underlying friendship connection within the relationship was strong, we can assume that there are going to be at least some feelings there, but maybe not the overly strong ones you are hoping for. Although, I wouldn’t write that off. Because after the EBR process, your ex could easily transition from friendly feelings to “I miss her” feelings.

If he seems to be staying in touch to keep you as a backup, then it’s likely that he is lacking in some self esteem when it comes to dating other people. He may not have romantic feelings per say, but he still sees the possibility there. And that’s something.

If he invested a lot into the relationship in the first place and the two of you went through some trials together, then it is likely that the two of you formed a bond. It’s hard to break those.

Reestablishing those bonds takes some strategy. Luckily, we’ve laid out an actual strategy that we have proved works time and time again.

If this is your guy, stick with the program. He will be missing you in no time.

He Avoids Extending Conversations

A lot of the time having a conversations with your ex can be exciting. You are happy to talk about literally anything. But say your ex keeps cutting these conversations short.

What does it mean?

Well, the easiest explanation it that talking to an ex is not easy. It’s awkward and uncomfortable. But if you don’t care about her, why would talk to her at all. (See the list of motives above.)

So, if the interactions you have are pleasant and comfortable but he is STILL cutting them short. The simplest explanation is that he doesn’t want to ruin a good thing.

Stop while you’re ahead, or so they say.

He’s less likely to screw things up if he keeps it short. It’s as simple as that.

Drunk Texting

There is not one but two quotes that come to mind when I think of drunk texts.

“A man’s true character comes out when he’s drunk.” – Charlie Chaplin

And

“A drunk man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts”

Alcohol has the ability to amplify whatever you are feeling at the moment. So, if you are particularly down, a girl’s night out drinking isn’t really the best idea.

Likewise, if you are getting drunk texts from your ex, then there are two possibilities. Either he is reflecting on your relationship and missing you or he’s hoping to hookup. Either way he is thinking about you when he is vulnerable. So that’s something to keep in mind… that you are on his mind.

He Goes On The Rebound But Can’t Seem To Stop Talking To You

We kind of touched on this earlier. If a guy is in a new relationship, but he can’t seem to cut you off. It is likely that he is unhappy or insecure in his new relationship.

The fact that he is keeping you around can be a good sign that he has feelings or you make him feel more comfortable.

You can learn more about that by watching this video.

 His Social Media Mirrors His Feelings

Let’s be honest, you’ve been on his Facebook. You’ve been keeping up with his posts, his snaps, and his vague Instagram posts.

And you’ve been trying to figure out if he’s trying to tell you something.

You find yourself looking for subtext in all of his posts.

It happens.

Subtweeting.

Vaguebooking.

The post that is directed at someone without actually saying their name.

We’ve all seen the passive aggressive social media post. In fact, some of us may even be guilty of posting a song lyric or seven of our own.

Me.

It’s me.

I’m guilty.

When are you likely to do this?

When you are hurting and you just want someone to understand how you are feeling?

When something just resonates with you and you need to feel like someone is hearing you?

When you want your ex to know that you are missing them?

Basically when you are emotionally raw and feeling alone… THAT is when you start posting emotional and passive aggressive quotes and lyrics even if it’s not something you would normally do.

Right?

So, if you’re seeing a lot of emotional stuff coming from a guy who’s not normally very emotional. It’s safe to say he’s feeling the separation.

What Does It All Mean

Okay so let’s talk. By now you should have a pretty good idea of if he still has feelings for you.

But as you can imagine that only gives you a foot in the door.

That’s really all you need here.

It’s so easy to loose your footing in the ex recovery process when doubt arises.

And it’s is a double edged sword, knowing that your ex still has feelings for you.

You’ll want to quit if you are unsure how he feels toward you.

You’ll want to rush things if you find out he does.

So, I urge you to take this information and use it wisely.

It can help you succeed or stop you from even trying.

You get to choose which.

Obviously, I gave it to you to encourage you.

Your Mission, Should You Choose To Accept It

So, what do you do with this information?

Well, like I said before, I’m assuming you are at the beginning of your journey. Either you just started the process to get your ex back or you are about to. Whichever it is, you are likely already experiencing difficulties. So let’s talk about why it important that your ex has some residual feelings for you, why it functions as a foothold in the process.

The secret here is to keep your emotions in check. Don’t let his indecisiveness trick you into thinking he is playing games.

If you want him back, the one thing you have to to is start No Contact and stick with it.

You can read more about that here.

If you’ve gotten partially through No Contact and then didn’t have the follow through, you should read this article here.

So, what is it about No Contact that makes it so successful? No Contact does to your ex what alcohol does to emotions. It amplifies what’s already there. So, if your ex misses you and you do No Contact properly, you can fan his feelings for you into a flame and even in a a blazing fire.

How much do you know about fire?

I’m going to give you an analogy and in order for you to follow you need to know one things about fire. It needs oxygen. Without oxygen, a fire will die. If all of the windows in a house are closed and the fire starts to fade and you open a window slightly on the other side of the building, the flames will seek out that opening and increase exponentially. The smaller the fire becomes, the more it thirsts for air.

No Contact works this way. You are going to starve your ex of your attention. His affections, even if they are small, are like that small fire. By starving him of your attention, he will crave it so much that when the two of you get back in touch, he will be overwhelmed by his desire to have you.

I know. I know. That’s a pretty big analogy. But that’s how much I stand behind what we do here.

We even offer coaching that will help you with your particular situation.

And now that you know the tell-tale signs of if he has feelings still, you can make those feelings work for you rather than against you.

Let’s go over them one more time.

We have The Pendulum Effect, where your ex is being wishy-washy about how he feels. From the outside it looks like he’s playing games, but in reality he’s reasoning with himself about his feelings for you. Sometimes, reason will win, sometimes his heart will win.

Use No Contact to fan the flames. Use our experts to get through it and make it work for you. That’s what we’re here for.

48 thoughts on “6 Signs Your Ex Boyfriend Still Has Feelings For You”

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    Lilly

    September 8, 2019 at 1:24 am

    So I broke up with my boyfriend about 4 months ago. We had a bad fight and we didn’t talk over the whole summer, but a couple days before school started we had a small convo to see how each of us were doing. School started a couple weeks ago and we’re in the same classes. He completely ignores me and doesn’t try to text me. But other times I find him catching a glance at me during class. I still have feelings for him and want to get back together, but I don’t know how he feels and he’s constantly confusing me and I don’t know what to think. Should I try to text him? Does it sound like he still has feelings for me?

    1. Shaunna

      Shaunna

      September 12, 2019 at 10:04 pm

      Hi Lilly, I would first complete a 30 day NC and then start the Texting phase 🙂

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    Courtney

    July 31, 2019 at 9:28 pm

    My boyfriend and I just broke up about a week ago but we live together and he said he doesn’t want to move out. He broke up With me after I found out he was talking to another girl from the past. How do I employ the no contact rule while we are still living together? Is there a way to fix things while he’s still here so I don’t have to make him move out and increase the chances of him dating her?

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    Judith

    July 26, 2019 at 10:37 am

    Hi, im from India i have boyfriend from last month from fb but long distance relationship we like each other we texted everyday he asked me alot about me and he told about him too but one day he asked me to videocall and have romance sex i said i cant we need know to more each other first he said ok.. And the other day i asked me again, i was angry and u dont love me u want only sex i said.. He told if u trust me and love do it for me… I think that he was playing with me.. I want to break up with u, u didnt understand me i told u many times u asked me again and again i said. Im very careful and afraid that he was playing with me cos im older than him. The next day he called me and i didnt pickup cos im afraid that he asked me again.. But i like him a lot i never chase a man and msg first in my life but i like him alot what should i do please help

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    Anonymous

    July 22, 2019 at 1:45 am

    Hi Chris,
    maybe you can help me through this.
    I started dating my (now) ex boyfriend 8 months ago. We had a good and open relationship, never really fighting, we startet to plan our future together (moving together in the spring, potentially get married on one point).
    Then last week, I found out that I am pregnant with his baby. Two days after I told him, he broke up with me. Said things like he isn’t ready to be a father, is really nervous and scared about that. He also said on that day he loves me and he doesn’t know if this is the biggest mistake ever he is doing. After that we were texting a little bit, but it turned out the he said he needs now space. So I am not going to text him anymore. Is this the right thing to do?
    I do still love him and I hope he will come back.. I hope there is still a chance for us being a couple again.

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    Rebecca

    July 21, 2019 at 1:49 am

    Hi Chris,
    My ex broke up with me because of his religion, he doesn’t want to commit sin any more and he told me he’s not happy doing it any more with me or anyone else, he’s trying to better himself but he won’t be with me because he doesn’t to get married or get tempted. He said he was still with me but if I left him alone and researched the religion for a few days he’d talk to me but I rang him up pleading with him again and now He said he won’t come back to me or my bed ever again, he doesn’t want me and he doesn’t trust that if I wait around I won’t be with other guys. Originally I think he was going to take me back but I begged and pleaded with him and pushed him further away he said I was trying to change his mind he told me leave him alone he’s never coming back. But I’ve known him 10 years he fancied me when he was 15 we were together when we were 17, broke up got back together 4 years later and were together a year and a half. I don’t know what to do. It’s my fault.

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    Nina

    May 30, 2019 at 3:27 am

    Hello,

    So it was my birthday and out of the blue he said he still cared about me and was concerned that i will drink or do something stupid for my birthday. For the whole day I was ignoring him and he would ocassionaly ask how was it all going. I ended up falling asleep around 10 pm but woke up at 2 am to a message “good night” while he thought i was still “partying” i answered then as if i was then going to sleep. The next day he started a conversation about us, saying things like wishing me luck, to stay smart and careful. How it is not a farewell yet, justifying our break up and how it was for the good. He even mentioned our old talk and was bringing up good memories. I was trying to stay collected but also be visible open to him that i do think we didn’t have to breakup. We ended up flirting a little bit and ended on a good note. Day after he was initiating the conversation, but i was trying to be distant. I don’t know, is this a good sign? We broke up a month ago and stayed in touch, but just a few texts during the day. We never had big problems in our relationship which was LONG DISTANCE and the initial breakup was because he wasn’t feeling the same like before and his feelings for me got platonic, prior to that we didn’t see each other for three months due to college and his laziness. I still want to give it some time and see what happens by itselfs in another month, I don’t want to rush anything, but I also want to meet up right now..

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 30, 2019 at 10:19 pm

      Hi Nina….so I think if you are plugged into a solid ex recovery Program, you can advance your chances. Just keep thinking in terms of patience and little steps and seek out my Program (EBR PRo Bundle) if you have not already done so!

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    Jill

    May 28, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    Hi Chris,
    My ex and I were together for 1.5 years. He joined the military in January and is leaving for basic training the end of May. He and I spoke of marriage and moving together to his training station after basic. After his acceptance, he began a vigorous physical training regimen that took all focus off of our relationship. I felt ignored. We mutually broke up the end of February and have talked here and there since. He and I both saw other people in between. I took a three week vacation from talking to him and that is where I realized that he was the one. I started to slowly talk to him and he was receptive. He wrote letters to me when he and I were together so I wrote him a letter explaining my feelings and how I have implemented changes to progress towards a more healthy and balanced relationship. He and I ran into each other and talked for a bit. He kissed me. Now he says he doesn’t see a future for us because the past relationship was not the greatest and he wants to focus on his career in the military but still wants to talk. He is leaving for basic training the end of this month. I gave him my address if he wants to write. I don’t know what to do. If I use basic training as a no contact period I am afraid that contact will not be able to be established after. I don’t want to give up.

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    Ms. M

    May 28, 2019 at 2:02 am

    Hi,

    I met a guy two and a half years ago. He is 10 years younger than me but that has never been an issue. We’re both Christian and want the same things in life. However, I was going through a tough time and that was affecting my mood and my behavior. I started treating him poorly and he broke up with me. Three months later, we started “dating” again but only because I insisted that we’d give it a try. Everything was like the beginning. He kissed me and looked at me the same way he used to. But, he started becoming distant and told me that he didn’t think it was going to work out. I wasn’t treating him poorly anymore. I think that he had just labeled me as argumentative and every time I had a different view on something, he would take it as us not being compatible. He has always insisted in remaining friends so, I tried that route but it wasn’t working for me because I love him and want a relationship with him. The last time I tried being his friend was after implementing NC. I reached out after a month and we started chatting (although bed sometimes respond after 1 or 2 hours, when he used to text back almost immediately before). I didn’t comment on it. I just kept it cool. We met up and went fishing a couple times and spent time with his family. Everything was perfect except for the fact that I still love him and he doesn’t have romantic feelings for me anymore. Recently, he has started hanging out with a woman who is my same age, my same ethnicity, same skin tone, eye and hair color… I didn’t know what to think of it. It made me jealous and insecure. And, although he says he is not interested in her and will never want a relationship with her, my question is why does he spend time with her, her son and her family? I think he might just be trying to fill the void. Because of this, I decided to say goodbye and not communicate anymore. But, before I did, I told him my decision and requested for him not to contact me unless he missed me and wanted to try things out once more. So, basically, I’m implementing an indefinite NC. The thing is that I’m scared. I’m scared that I might’ve pushed him away for good. I’m scared that I’ll wait for him to come back and that he never will. He used to mention how being friends and getting to know me more could potentially lead to him wanting a relationship with me. So, I guess I’m just scared that, by taking my friendship away from him, I completely ruined any chances of him wanting to get back with me in the future. I truly believe we can be awesome together. I just think that he became confused, stressed, and unsure about us and that he took all that as a “sign” that we shouldn’t be together. I don’t have a specific question that I want to ask you. I guess I just want your input.
    Thanks in advance.

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    Trinah

    May 22, 2019 at 9:50 pm

    hello, my boyfriend broke up with me two months ago but now he’s saying that he wants to sleep with me. yes I still love him but I don’t want him to use me, what should I do?

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    Leigh

    May 21, 2019 at 5:25 pm

    my ex told me I have no chance at getting back together with him. ever. He says he wants to focus on himself first and his studies and that he fell out of love for me just days after telling me he did love me. We broke up for a day then got back together the day after saying he realized he really did love me. Only to end it again just a few days later saying it was merely out of pity. Im on NC for about 4 days since our breakup.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 21, 2019 at 8:14 pm

      Hie Leigh…so guys sometimes say things that are foolish. Love is not something you can just set aside or toss out the window. But our feelings about a lot of things can be complicated. Sometimes space and time is the best medicine. Be sure to take a look at picking up my EBR PRO Bundle to get a sense of the big picture of one’s ex recovery strategies.

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    Shari

    May 21, 2019 at 8:21 am

    Hi Chris, (funny that’s my ex’s name)
    My ex broke up with me after being together 7 years. We have been broke up since the end of February. There were a lot of red flags in the beginning that I ignored and it was a rocky relationship half the time but there were also good times. We fought a lot and a lot of shady things happened during the relationship. We had a baby back in November 2017 and he has absolutely nothing to do with me or his son. He at first said he didn’t want to come see our son because I was staying with my mom and he said if I go back home he would come see the baby. I’ve been home since the beginning of April and he hasn’t come but one time April 30 but only to have sex with me. After that everything was fine until 2 days later he started flipping out on me about child support and blocked me on his phone again. He has had me blocked since February. I took him for child support back in October because he was absent 95 percent of my pregnancy and walks away from me and the baby constantly. He normally stays away no longer then a month. I was also told from a girl friend of mine, who lives a couple apartments down from him that back in April he was getting picked up by a blonde haired girl in a blue ford truck. I asked him about it and got no response, or there is no girl or I don’t want anyone! When I did talk to him in those couple days he told me I’m a beautiful girl and I will find someone, we just don’t get along and fight to much. Then he says things like it would be easier to get back together or he can’t come around to see the baby because he will catch feelings if he’s around me. He did tell me at one point to go find someone to take his place and be a daddy to the baby. When he did come here to have sex with me he spent most of his time throwing up in the bathroom he said because his nerves and he was upset. If he’s so upset then why is he doing this. We only broke up over a disagreement about me doing everything at his apartment to help him out when I come up on the weekends and his 16 year old son doesn’t help just plays his xbox all the time. Our usual disagreements. Please help I’m so confused and I’m thinking there’s no help for my situation. I believe it’s over for good and he’s not coming back this time.

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    kayla

    May 14, 2019 at 8:06 pm

    Hi Chris! So wanted your opinion. Me and the ex just broke up after 3.5 years of living with each other. School got in the way for both of us and neither of us gave any effort after awhile. This was a mutual break up, I asked if he was happy he said he returned the question I said no also. He then went on to say I’m “unattractive & he doesn’t wanna marry me.” So why would he say these things? He moved out the next day we are still friends on Facebook we’ve only talked about bills. Why do he say those mean things?& does he creep on my social media he liked a message on Facebook from 2 months ago which was VERY odd it wasn’t any serious conversation I’m sure it was on accident.

    Thanks so much!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 14, 2019 at 11:23 pm

      Hi Kayla….so your ex said some mean things – most likely out of foolishness. I think you should check out my Program and consider implementing No Contact.

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    Sarah

    May 13, 2019 at 4:29 am

    hi me and my ex broke up like a week ago after being together for 1 year and 2 months and we haddd a lot of fights not about other people but about different situations and little stuff well his parents are divorced and he goes off to college which is only 39 mins away from me but he going to live with his dad which is 30 mins away from me at the end of July and I was scared he was gonna find someone new and stuff and anyways we’ll he went to his step sister graduation and he said I’ll text you and call you I promise and he said I’ll be home Sunday to se you at noon so I said okay well… I got one word text like every 3 hours knowing he was doing nothing too and then he didn’t call me one time and even when I asked him to! and he didn’t come home Sunday at all he said I don’t ever get to see my dad I just want to spend time with him which I understand spend time with him but don’t tell me your coming home and not show up without a text like hey I’m gonna stay for a little bit longer so he was like I’ll be there at 4 we’ll… never showed up so I said why are you getting my hopes up and saying your coming when you don’t I don’t care you spend time with your family but stop lying to me about things he is about to live with his dad for a while until he old enough to move out in his own. well I said you know what let’s take a break and he was not wanting one and we have broken up before but I was like maybe it’s better for us well it needed up us breaking up bc he texted another girl and was saying I want to get to know you more and told her we were broken up and we weren’t officially and he knew that and he was like but you broke up with me and I’m just trying to gain friends well I let it go cause this whole weekend we have been talking about us and everything then he started getting weird he was saying that our conversation was good and I still want you in my life and stuff then he started talking about sex over and over then tonight he was like posing I’m single slide up and stuff and he told me not to move on but he’s over here telling people to slide up he is single and I’m so confused if he wants me or not and I poured my heart out to him tonight apologized g for everything and he said ok and that was it and he sent streaks on Snapchat that were goodnight and it had a heart and said so happy and I asked why are you happy is it bc if a girl and he said idk and I said omg fr and he said no and j was like promise and he said yes so I don’t know if he wants to get back with me or if he doesn’t

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 13, 2019 at 3:28 pm

      Hi Sarah…I think so long as you have a sensible ex recover plan, then you can optimize your chances with the best strategies. So take a look at my Program – EBR Pro Bundle as there are a lot of resources there!

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    Ellen

    May 9, 2019 at 7:49 pm

    Hello Chris,

    So what if instead of him posting things on social media that would hint that he’s missing me, he’s in a new relationship and views my stories every month or two..it’s been 9 months. I don’t know if it’s just curiosity or because he cares or misses me. Or checks my profile more than that but avoids the stories most times so that I don’t know he’s keeping tabs on me. He chose to unblock me a week after this whole situation and has been doing this ever since.

    Is that not enough to figure out whether I’m still on his mind or if he has feelings?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 9, 2019 at 9:10 pm

      Hi Ellen….blockers often turn into unblockers as their emotions settle back

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    Helen

    May 5, 2019 at 2:20 pm

    Ive also tried to book for a coach but you have no spots left for this month..i added myself to the waitlist so i hope youll be able to get me back with my ex!

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 5, 2019 at 5:09 pm

      Hi Helen….this is Chris. While I am not taking any more slots on this month due to scheduling and workload issues, I did check my Senior Coach, (Anna Gonowon) schedule and she has coaching sessions available from May 24 thru May 31. Anna is a terrific coach, so I highly recommend her. Feel free to send me a message using our Contact form (link found at bottom of any page of my website) if you need additional information about our coaching services.

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    Helen

    May 5, 2019 at 2:15 pm

    My ex and i broke up after 5.5 years, it was a great relationship and we never had major fights and never broke up..he moved away and we did LDR for 10 months and due to family problems (my family had problems, nothing to do with him just in general), he decided to end things and said with the situation in my family, he doesn’t see a future with me anymore and what’s the point..and doesn’t want my family situation to affect his career..So i sent him a positive message that he’s right and the situation is crazy right now and i love him and he replied that my message means so much to me and he’s always there for me. I have started NC but yesterday i accidentally called him on whatsapp and he messaged you called? and i replied by accident sorry! So I don’t know what to think..is there a possibility he might want to try again? He seems pretty adamant now not wanting to get back, we’ve been broken up for like 10 days..

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 5, 2019 at 5:10 pm

      It would be best to keep marching forward with your NC and doing those things I discuss in my Program

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    Alexia

    May 3, 2019 at 10:07 pm

    Hi Chris,
    I was with my ex for almost two years. We got along so well but he did have issues with being in a relationship. He ended up asking me to be his girlfriend and we were together for almost two years. He ended things on April 4th because i got hurt that he wanted to go on a trip with just his roommates. I’m not one to get mad at him if he wants a guys trip but the way he said it hurt and i just told him I wasn’t mad just hurt. He ended up breaking up with me saying he missed being single. He hasn’t said I love you to someone in over 8 years, the day we broke up he told me he loved me. we met in person to talk on the 6th, he brought some of my things i had left at his place and we talked. He said he needed to do this for himself and he tried the relationship. He said he wasn’t sure if he was making the right decision but it was one he needed. I told him I understood and just couldn’t believe this was it. He got teary eyed and said he loved me again. Ive been so far with 21 days of no contact, he hasn’t reached out to me at all. He watches all my sisters and my friends social media stories but still hasn’t reached out. I love him and I’m trying to move on but i don’t know if I should contact him after the 30 days. I feel like I’m usually the one who has to contact him and this time I’m really trying to see if he is willing to be the one.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 3, 2019 at 10:22 pm

      Hi Alexia….so my Program does call for you to reach out after your NC period is over. You might want to tap into my Program resources!

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    Tanya

    April 25, 2019 at 11:49 am

    Hello

    My ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago. I broke up with him bcs he said that he wasn’t sure about his feeling towards me. I immediately regretted it and asked him to meet few days later but he said he didn’t want to get back together bcs he just realised that he has never loved me. Do you think he has never really loved me? Btw since then I’ve applied no contact rule n he hasnt contacted me till now. He is also rarely only on instagram like he is used to before breakup.

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    Anonymous

    April 15, 2019 at 12:31 pm

    After a five year relationship and up and downs my ex has been confusing me. One minute he loves me, the next he doesn’t. He calls me while he’s drunk and says he still misses me and loves me he said he wants to get back together but not right now. Right now we are not in contact I know he’s having a time with the break up cause he says he’s a mess and he’s hurting and he’s drinking a lot. What should I do? He doesn’t wanna get back together because he’s afraid I’m going to hurt him. Please help.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      April 15, 2019 at 2:23 pm

      Perhaps some quiet time away from each other will work for you both in order to reconnect

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    Jiy

    April 4, 2019 at 2:29 am

    Hi my boyfriend of 12 years broke up with me because of his insecurities. He saw me in the grocery store one day and he ran into my ex and assumed we were tigether. We were not even by each iother. So it’s been 2 months and he won’t call me. He’s reached out a few times when his nephew passed away last month he text me and I went to the funeral with him. Will he reach out to me again. I miss him so bad. He got real sick last year and I took a loa to care for him because he did not wanna go to rehab and I nursed him back to health paid his rent for him ran all his errands for him and this is the thanks I get. I feel like he doesn’t care after everything I did for him .

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