This Is How You Know If Your Ex Still Loves You

Will Text Messages Be THE THING That Gets Your Ex Back?

There are many different “signs” that you can look for to know if your ex boyfriend still loves you. This page is going to take an in-depth look at each specific sign and give you an idea on how to proceed if you decide you want your ex boyfriend back. First though, I would be a fool if I didn’t point out that there isn’t an exact science to this. What I mean, is that since we are dealing with a male human being things can be a bit…. unpredictable. So, there may be some rare cases where your ex could exhibit many of the signs below and yet he still might not be interested in you. Don’t worry though, everything that is on this page has been thoroughly researched and is a compilation of many of the best relationship experts advice and findings. While I can’t guarantee anything, I think it is a safe bet to assume that if your ex is doing the things below he is probably interested in you.

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November 8, 2016

1 - Two Things You Have To Do First

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Before we get down to the nitty gritty on how to determine if your ex still likes you there are two things that I need you to accomplish. The first is relatively simple, the second one… not so much.

  1. I want you to take some time and figure out if you have a legitimate reason for wanting your ex boyfriend back. As a general rule, couples who get back together after a break up tend to have really good reasons for doing so. Oh, and I think it is important to mention that couples who successfully reunite with legitimate reasons last longer! Still confused? Don’t be I actually wrote a huge post that defines what a good reason is and will even give you some examples here.
  2. Secondly, I need you to adopt a No Contact Rule. Experts agree that in order to put yourself in a good position to win back your ex boyfriend you need to cut yourself off from them for at least a month. Make no mistake about it, it will be among the hardest things you have ever done. There will be a constant temptation to call them, email them or text them. Whatever happens make sure you DO NOT DO IT.

(If you want more in-depth help with these two things you can find it here.)

Now, I bet you are wondering what any of this has to do with figuring out if your ex boyfriend still misses you, I assure you it is really important.

2 - The Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Likes You

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Ok, no matter who broke up with who, how bad the break up was or how much you think he hates you I can assure you one thing… he is thinking about you. Did you know that 81% of people still think about their exes too much? What’s worse is that nearly 90% of Facebook users still look up their ex. So, I think it is safe to assume that you on your exes mind more than you think you are. The real question is, is he thinking positive or negative things about you? At least that is what you are wondering. Obviously, you want your ex to be thinking very positive thoughts when it comes to you as it will make getting him back a lot easier. With that being said, even if your ex thinks you are the anti-christ there are certain things you can do to change his mind. Besides, right after a breakup both parties are angry at each other so there isn’t much positive karma going around is there?

That is where the no contact rule comes in play. I can pretty much guarantee that your ex won’t be having any positive love thoughts about you a few days after your breakup (especially if YOU broke up with him.) By implementing a no contact rule you are doing two things.

  1. First, you are giving him and you time to calm down and get your wits about you.
  2. Secondly, he is going to wonder why you haven’t tried to call or text him to check up (like he thinks you are supposed to do)

Which leads us to our first sign…

3 - Sign 1- If He Calls, Texts or Messages You

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We already know that he is thinking about you but if he actually takes the time to text message you or call you then you should feel really good about yourself because he is definitely showing interest. Now, I am not going to sit here and tell you that all your troubles are over and you can run back into his arms and the world will rejoice. Let’s be honest here, just because he text messaged you doesn’t mean that he wants you back but it is definitely a sign pointing in the right direction. If you are staying true to the NC Rule (No Contact Rule) then you greatly increase your chances of having him contact you in some way. The only thing is you can’t contact him back which is explained if you read my book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.

4 - Sign 2- Does He Keep An Eye On You?

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While you are supposed to be avoiding your ex both physically and mentally for 30 days there are certain cases where it is impossible to do so. If you notice that your boyfriend keeps popping up in places that you frequent then this is a definite sign that he still has feelings for you. Now, I do feel it is important to mention that sometimes it can just be a coincidence that they are at the same place that you are. However, I would say  that if you notice them “being around” at least three times then that is a definite pattern.

 

Will Text Messages Be THE THING That Gets Your Ex Back?

In so many of the success stories I’ve heard over the years, the primary way that the couple communicated was texting. Texts are short, simple and can lead to HUGE results if you can send the right text message, in the right situation. But it all depends on the inner-dynamics of your relationship.

We’ve put together a quiz, so you can find out if text messages will work for your individual situation. It’s a total of 19 questions, and only takes about 5 minutes to answer. Are you ready to know ?

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5 - Sign 3- Do You Get A Reaction?

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As you know, I am pushing the NC rule pretty darn hard. However, I am not naive. I know how relationships work and I know that the majority of women reading this will not be able to hold out for 30 days. So, in the event that you break down one of the best ways you can determine if he still has those deep feelings for you is watching how he reacts when he sees you. This can be a little tricky to determine but I will go ahead and give you some things to watch for.

  • Does his face light up?
  • Does he sneak looks at you when he thinks your not looking?
  • If he talks really fast that is a good sign as well.
  • Looking into your eyes for a long period of time is a good sign too.

6 - Sign 4- Does He Keep In Touch With Friends & Family?

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Ex boyfriends who are possibly interested in getting back together will keep in touch with your friends or family. This sign especially rings true if you are deep into your no contact. If you aren’t picking up your phone they are going to reach out to friends or family to see how you are. If you want them back then this is a very good sign. Of course, there are some cases where an ex will keep in touch with your family just to annoy you but you can usually tell in those cases.

7 - Sign 5- Touching

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I may lose some man points for this but one of my favorite movies to watch is Hitch (where Will Smith basically plays a love doctor.) There is a scene at the beginning of the movie where he points out that one of the signs that a woman will show, if she is interested in a guy, is touching. Well, the same can be applied to men. If you see your ex and he is maintaining some type of physical contact like touching your arm, hand, knee, leg that is a really good sign.

8 - What To Do After You Have Figured Out He Still Loves You

So, he showed some of the signs above eh? Well, now you have a decision to make. Do you want to try and get him back or do you want to move on? Since this is a website specifically for women who want to get their ex boyfriends back I can tell you that there is so much information on this site for FREE that you will be blown away. However, not all of the information is going to give you 100% of everything you need. It is for that reason that I am highly recommending you to check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. It is really a true “step by step” method to winning back your ex boyfriends heart. Other than that I hope you enjoy this site and find everything you are looking for.

 

Will Text Messages Be THE THING That Gets Your Ex Back?

In so many of the success stories I’ve heard over the years, the primary way that the couple communicated was texting. Texts are short, simple and can lead to HUGE results if you can send the right text message, in the right situation. But it all depends on the inner-dynamics of your relationship.

We’ve put together a quiz, so you can find out if text messages will work for your individual situation. It’s a total of 19 questions, and only takes about 5 minutes to answer. Are you ready to know ?

Take 5 Minute QuizAnd Find Out Now!

What Do You Think? (1,301)

  1. Shannon - 0

    Shannon

    My boyfriend broke up with me last night cause he taught I was on the phone to someone else on viber when in fact I was trying to call him at the same time now he has blocked Me and I have not heard from his since then I’m heartbroken I love him so much I need some advice in what to do next

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    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Shannon,

      are you on and off together?

    • Rachel - 0

      Rachel

      My ex has just broke up with me last 2 months, we had distance relationship in 1.5 years (in previous, I flirt and follow him first in 2 years, then I got the agree from him). After 1.5 years, I felt that he was not interested in me anymore (I texted to him 1-2 time/week, call 1 time/week but he did not pick up my phone and even not reply it). Then, he said that he felt too tight in our relationship, he hated that I was close with his mother and his relatives (I once told his mother about our current sad status); he did not love me anymore and he decided that we should stop. I did the stupid thing: come to his country to see him and hug him (i did not cry) and ask him to think carefully. But his answer was no. So I decided to completely let him go as what he really wants. He told me that I should forget him and consider him as a friend after breaking up. Obviously it is weird for me to become friend with an ex. So I reply that there will be no friendship between us, and I unfriended him from my facebook.

      Reading your article, I followed the NC rule until now is almost 3 weeks. He still now does not text or contact me. I also post my beautiful and happy photos after breaking up, to show that I’m really fine without him. If after 30 days with NC, I do not get any feedback from him. Because he knows that I am living alone far from home (I’ll be back to hometown in next 2 months, so I don’t have any plan for having new dating. He really knows that fact) so he might not be afraid to losing me -> the step: “making him jealousy” may not work in my case. Should I continue to follow the rule until he contacts to me first? Or I have to text him first? All I want to do is making him want me and beg me back. Please tell me what to do. Thanks for your advice.

    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Rachel,

      if you’ve chased him, you should so 45 days..and then initiate contact after that

  2. Carole - 0

    Carole

    We broke up 5 weeks ago with my boyfriend for 2,5 years. Our relationsip became a distance relationship after 8 months. We were living in two different countries. We managed to meet once in a month. We were both affording financially and physically to see each other. Everytime we met, we spent amazing time together. We visited more than 15 countries together, shared so much. We wee talking every day, every hour by texts. We were planing to move to same country. I mean I was going to move to the country that he is living. He was looking me jobs, always telling how much he wants me to be there with him.

    One day, I told him I was a bit afraid to move abroad to be with him, because it has been so long that we were not in the same places. We met so many people, we grew up in different places, so I actually do not know what I was going to see if I move to the country where he is. He was like: “Yes, I fell the same. “I was totally dssapointed. Although I told him I felt lost, I expected him to tell we will be perfect and will be so happy. We were trying to be in the same country for almost 1,5 years, so I really believed this s what he wants.

    After that phone call, I texted him. I told the phoone call made me so confused. I told I have to know he is sure he wants me to come there because it is a life time decision. He told me he doesnt know. He doenst know about us because we lives far for so long. I was misserable. I was crying, and textin him really bad words. He was till nice to me. He was telling what I really wanti I couldnt tell him, I want to move no matter what because he was telling me he is not sure.

    After one day, we made another call. He was so cold. I couldnt belive how he can be taht much cold after I jus said “I am lost” 1 day ago. He started to tell me he does not want to make me sad, we are on different pages, I expect him to marry me, but he needs time to that, and he is not sure. I deserve to have my dreams. I was crying so much. I was telling what is imperfect about me and I will change it. He told me I am a perfect girl. I am the most beautiful girl he has ever dated, but we are different and we are different goals. Okey. I was aware what he was telling, but I didnt want to accept. because we had these conversation before, and we fail to implement break up. Therefore, I was still hoping this time he cannot implement it but he was sounding so serious. I told him I do not wnat to break up. He told he wants to breakup, and he does not wnat us anymore…

    I didnt have anything left to tell him. I had to accept although I was crying. The day after I was misserable, I was crying. Another day I sent him a text teling that he wants me to delete our pics on facebook or not. He said he wants them to stay because they are part of us. He was telling me he loves me just 1 day before our break up. I asked him if it was a lie, and he told me no it is not a lie. He was so nice and after that we send some texts to each other. I decided to send him a kindly good luck message, and he sent me the same kind of message and thats it.

    He likes my pics on instagram, I fell he is stalking me, but maybe he is not. He hurt me so much although I know he s doing that to not hurt me much more in the future.

    I promise myself to never conatct with him again. Anyway I have to let him go if he wants this. I want to move on too.
    But I really want to know he oves me or not. What do you think? What is your recommendation?

    Reply
    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Carole,

      I think he still loves you.. What do you really want, to try or move on?

  3. Queen - 0

    Queen

    Hi there! My ex boyfriend and I broke up last September 2016. He was my high school batch mate and our relationship lasted for about 3 months only because it was in a long distance relationship. Actually, we never fight and argue we just decided to end our relationship in peace but we remained friends until now. The problem is that I’m getting confused if he still like or love me? Or he wants our relationship back again? The fact that he always react on my posts on social media, he never missed to watch every stories I made on IG, he liked or loved my posts on FB, chat me once in a while to know what I’m up to, sometimes Facetime, etc. I admit, I still love him until now. The only problem is the distance and timezone between the two of us. 🙁

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  4. prisringos - 0

    prisringos

    It’s hard to do the no contact rule when he is your classmate in school , and by for ththat is very unavoidable. Although I’m not exactly planning to get back together with him, only time can tell. For now i really wish i could be friends again with him like we were before but it has become a bit awkward between us—I really want to make good memories with him this year, what should I exactly do?

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  5. Lynn - 0

    Lynn

    I met the most amazing guy a few months ago, he wouldn’t stop looking at me. He text me and we became good friends, he asked me to meet up as friends and we had the most amazing time together. He told me he adored me and after asking me out for the third time, I said I would be his girlfriend. We have text, morning day and night, he has met my parents, stayed at my house. He told me I was his everything. We live a couple of hours drive away, which did worry me at first but we see each other on a Saturday, we Skype and we text all the time. If I had a boyfriend that lived next door I wouldn’t have time to see him anymore than that. A few days ago he messaged and asked if we could go back to how we were at the beginning, get to know each other all over again. He likes me and needs me so much that it worries him, he can’t trust himself with me and he’s scared of hurting me, also the distance worries him. He needs me in his life but he’s confused. He goes on to say he’s not well and he’s not happy, he doesn’t know why. Everything isn’t right in his life. He wants us to see how things go. His brother broke up with his long time girlfriend over Christmas, that seems to be when he changed. I love him dearly, we had no contact for a few days although he did message me but there were no kisses so I ignored him. Last night I just text to see if he was ok, he says he’s not well, hadn’t met anyone else, just not happy with life. What do I do?

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  6. Radhika - 0

    Radhika

    hii..mam as i told you my bf had broke relation before 3 month..i did not met him till now.i mean face to face he did not say that he dont want to stay in a relationship..can you tell me that i ask to his friend that i want to met and clear all the issues.

    Reply
    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Radhika,

      I dont suggest breaking nc to talk to him but if that’s what’s going to help you realize what your next step is, then go ahead and talk

  7. Radhika - 0

    Radhika

    hi.mam..i started the NC rule before four days.my boyfriend broken the relationship before 2 and half month.but in the mean time i begged him for relation and love but he ignores me.he get a high level job and he made his mind with full of ego attitude.should i carry this rule or met him to solve the situation.i want to get back respect and love.he had family responsibilty , i know he love me but he did not want to talk with me.please give me suggestion mam.

    Reply
    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      There’s no guarantee that the no contact rule will work. It means it’s not sure if it will work but it doesn’t mean it will not work. So, it’s still better to do it than chase your ex or not do anything. Start it. Do at least 45 days and improve yourself. Do new things and grow. Check the links below:
      The Ungettable Girl
      Here’s How To Deal With Anxiety In Your Breakup

  8. Radhika - 0

    Radhika

    mam you told me that NC rule will not work. chasing him is not good.but when he broke the relation i begged him for relationship in august he said yes we will continue.but in september he said i have no time from office after september in october he said we remain with good friends but now in january he don’t call me and message me.even he blocked my number frome everywhere.my fault is that i had not met him since 3 months.but now i start NC rule .please tell me will this rule be right to get back him in my life or i should met him.

    Reply
    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      There’s no guarantee that the no contact rule will work. It means it’s not sure if it will work but it doesn’t mean it will not work. So, it’s still better to do it than chase your ex or not do anything. Start it. Do at least 45 days and improve yourself. Do new things and grow. Check the links below:
      The Ungettable Girl
      Here’s How To Deal With Anxiety In Your Breakup

  9. mekah - 0

    mekah

    Me an my ex been broke up for 7 months now an he has a girlfriend who he got with a week after we broke up. He rides past my house when he’s not with her he wants to stop an talk. He calls me some time. He acts like he still interested we was together for 5 1/2 years. What should I think about this. Is it a chance?

    Reply
    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Mekah,

      he probably misses you but do you to want try the no contact rule?

  10. Mary john - 0

    Mary john

    Hi!
    I breakup with my bf few days ago, the reason is i do wrong by testin him if he loves me or not. I use another number that he doesnt have, i chart with him for almost two days and at th end he told me to come at his city so that we can knw each other well all those time he ddnt knw that he was chatin with me so i get angry after that i decide to tell me the truth that he was chatin with me, because i was angry i end up told him that we need to breakup and the only thing he say is ok that hurt me a lot..
    I still lov him i dont knw what to do, he ddnt text or call since we breakup, i cant stop thinking about him..plz give me an advice.what am supporse to do cz am real in pain.

    Reply
    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Mary

      it might have been wrong to test him that way but he failed. How do you trust him after that? The thing is, he’s beating you in your own game. Isn’t he supposed to be the one who’s worried that he got busted that he’s about to date somebody else?

  11. Radhika - 0

    Radhika

    hi..mam my boyfriend manish sharma.hr broke the relation before two months.when our relationship began he was on small post in a company .after passing time he left his job and get permotion in another job.all the time was good.but suddenly he lost his job and than he get well setteled job in a good company.but now he has lots of attitude ego and he said that he don’t want to remain in a relationship.what should i do mam to get back in my life with love and respect.

    Reply
    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      there’s no guarantee that the no contact rule will work but it’s better than chasing him.. do you want to do it?

  12. Liz - 0

    Liz

    My boyfriend and I broke up a little over a week ago. He’s from Puerto Rico and he went home for the holiday on our college break. We both go to school in the same city. He and I fought a lot about the fact that when he was home I didn’t hear from him as much as I wouldve liked to. I would go hours without hearing from him. Recently we got into a big fight about it when we typically don’t fight at all. This is the only thing we fight about. He broke up with me and gave me these excuses, that I can’t handle him being gone, he thinks my parents are difficult and doesn’t like him, he needed to focus on school, and he wants to be alone right now. He is the type of person that shuts down and retreats when he gets overwhelmed so I gave it a few days to let him cool off. I asked him to contact me so we could talk it out and because he’s in PR It had to be on the phone and he did. But his mind did not change. Our relationship was great minimal fighting, super happy, great sex, a happy 19 months together. We have a ton in common when it comes to interests and really know how to handle one another. He feels really bad about the breakup. He is now on a cruise with his family and we talked again right before about how he’s going to take time to reflect while he’s gone for these 11 days with no contact with me. That is how things were left. Please help me. I know he still cares and loves me. The only thing that worries me is that he said he didn’t feel the same. But that could very well be due to the fact that he doesn’t understand that eventually the infatuation goes away and is replaced with a more mature and functional love. He still did things to show he loved me and cared about me everyday and might be just saying that because he’s mad. He blindsided me and never let on that he wasn’t feeling the same. Right before he left for PR everything was great although I was anxious about him leaving. Oh and last thing. I was supposed to go on this cruise with him but my parents put up such a fight it was miserable. I’m not sure what to think. He promised to meet up and let me know when he’s coming back from college break but I’m anxious about what he’s going to say. What do you think is going to happen given the info I gave you? That’s all that I can think of. Thank you for whatever you can help me with.

    Reply
    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Liz,

      how old are you both? did he break up because of your parents or because you’re clingy?

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