What Are Your Chances of Getting Your ExBoyfriend Back

How To Know If Your Ex Still Loves You

“Is love enough?”

The other day one of the ladies in the Ex Boyfriend Recovery Private Facebook Group proposed this question.

The answer to this is pretty simple.


Love isn’t always enough.

Life isn’t a movie where love conquers all, no matter the cost. However, I do have my favorite show I like to use as an example in situations like this.

As Angel says to Buffy in season 2:

Angel: This isn’t some fairy tale. When I kiss you, you don’t wake up from a deep sleep and live happily ever after.

Buffy: No. When you kiss me, I wanna die.

-Buffy the Vampire Slayer, “Reptile Boy”

We are going to talk about Buffy and Angel a fair amount in this article, so buckle up and get ready.

Buffy and Angel have a “Romeo and Juliet” star-crossed-lovers type of love. Deeply in love, but destined to always be apart because of their respective destinies. That happens when you are about 7 decades apart in age.

Although Angel leaves at the end of season 3 for his own spinoff series, he returns to Sunnydale many times during the next 4 seasons. The connection between the two of them is still electric.

Buffy and Angel are the best TV example of a couple who love each other but can’t be together that I can think of.

I know it negative and bleak. But, you are here because you want to get your ex back.  The good news is you are not a vampire slayer in love with a 240-year-old vampire, so you have a leg up on those two crazy kids.

Maybe your ex is like some of mine. He broke up with you, but he still said he loves you. But, for whatever reason, the two of you can’t be together.

If he still loves you, you are automatically in a good spot to get him back. It’s all about convincing his emotional side that it would be worth it to give another go. Then it will override the logical side that made the decision in the first place.

But we’ll talk more about that later on.

Maybe you’re not sure if your ex still loves you. Maybe you’re getting mixed signals. He’s keeping his true reasons close to his chest.

We’re going to talk about that today;


  1. Does He Still Love You or Think Of You?
  2. Signs Your Ex Still Loves You Or Has Feelings For You
  3. Signs Your Ex Wants You Back

Let’s get started!

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Does He Still Love You or Think Of You?

Of course, your ex still thinks of you.

Heck, I still think about exes that I dated a decade ago on occasion…. not always fondly, granted, but I do think of them.

As for if he still loves you, that territory is a little trickier to discern. There are signs though. We will get to that in a little bit though. But first I want to touch on something that I think is more important than your ex’s feelings toward you.


More important?!

Stick with me here.

Do you love you?

You are so busy wondering if your ex loves you. I wonder if you are giving yourself what you should; love, introspection, and self-care.

This is something I see a lot of in the Ex Boyfriend Recovery Facebook Group.

Often, people are so focused on their ex that they don’t give attention to one of the most important steps of the Ex Recovery Process. That step is No Contact.

It’s not enough to not talk to your ex during that time. You have to take the time to focus on yourself.

You are unforgettable, and your ex is not going to forget about you. I mean, unless he suffers from some sort of serious head injury or something.

Don’t focus on what your ex is doing, thinking, or feeling during those 30, 21, or 45 days of No Contact. Throw yourself into activities that make you feel good. Concentrate on the Holy Trinity of Health, Wealth and Relationships.

Take that time during No Contact to be introspective about your relationship. Ask yourself,

“Was that relationship serving my best interest?”

Ex Boyfriend Recovery has a ton of success stories from women who got their ex boyfriends back. However, there is another type of success. That is moving on.

Ex Boyfriend Recovery isn’t just about getting your ex back. Although, we can absolutely help you with that! It is also about recovering from the trauma of your breakup and finding yourself again. Sometimes that means moving on.

Take the time to be kind to yourself and do some inner work.

Many women started this journey wanting to get their ex back. But, in the end, they decided to move on to something better. Through the process, they found something even more valuable, a love for themselves.

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Signs Your Ex Still Loves You Or Has Feelings For You

Okay, I’ll step down off of my self-love soapbox. We’re going to get into the nitty-gritty details of how I know your ex still feels emotionally connected to you.

It all boils down to the fact that, even if he is distant in one way or another, he is interested in what you’re doing.

But what does that interest look like?

I told you we’d be using a lot of examples with Buffy and Angel.

Like I said before, they harbored a deep love for one another.

They always had one another’s backs, even though they couldn’t be together. It was clear the love wasn’t dead.

Whenever there was an apocalypse, they would come to each other’s aid. SPOILER ALERT! When Buffy died, Angel was inconsolable. And when Joyce, Buffy’s mom, passed of a brain aneurysm, Angel was there for her while she grieved.

Angel: I can stay in town as long as you want me.

Buffy: How’s forever? Does forever work for you?

-Buffy the Vampire Slayer, “Forever”

They cared for one another, even if they are not together. They show up in the hard times and continue to touch base.

You should know that life isn’t like my favorite TV show.

Shocking right?

You don’t face an Apocolypse every other week.

So what are some real-world signs that your ex may still care about you?

He Initiates

So, your ex is the one to start getting the ball rolling in many of your interactions together. Whether it is texts, phone calls, or asking to hang out… he initiates.

If he is making sure that the two of you stay in contact, he, at least, wants to keep you in his life. At best, this could mean that he is reconsidering the split.

I recommend backing off a bit a few weeks into developing rapport. This creates an opportunity to observe his reaction andif he re-initiates. Keep track of it. Is it 60/40? What can you do to get it to 70/30? This requires being patient and keeping your cool though. You may go a couple days without hearing from him.

He Asks Questions

As human beings, we are naturally selfish creatures. Our favorite subject tends to be ourselves. So, if your ex continuously asks questions

“How was your day?”

Do you have big plans this weekend?”

He could be asking because he is genuinely interested. He could be asking because he wants to know if you are moving on.

Most of the time, people ask questions like this out of politeness, so if he asks, pay attention to his reaction. It could be that he is still harboring feelings for you and is curious how you are enjoying your life without him. Speaking of his reaction, that breings me to the next point.

He Exhibits Jealousy

Curiosity is always a pretty good sign. And if your ex appears particularly curious about your dating life, it is a good idea to play coy.

Keep it a mystery.

One of the best things you can do is to give your ex a sense of that urgency. He shoud feel like, if doesn’t swoop you up some other guy will.

He may ask directly about your dating life. My ex did that.

Or he may like a photo of you out and about on Instagram and simply ask you what you were doing in that particular place. This is why social media can be your friend whether you are dating around or not!

He Tells You

This is the simplest way to tell. Yet, it is the hardest for him.

In this day and age, it is rare for a man to just say how he feels, expecially if he’s unsure how it will be received.

Although, some exes really do lay it out this clearly.

The thing is, if he is telling you this, it’s either because he wants to get back together. I could also be that he does love you but there are reasons why the two of you shouldn’t be together.

Which is what we are going to talk about next!

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He Loves You… But…

Now, just because your ex has feelings for you, doesn’t necessarily mean he wants you back. Most men are very logical creatures. Even if they feel something deeply, they have this uncanny ability to try and smother it. The good news is, there are things you can do to sway his opinion and make him realize he’d be an idiot to not want a second chance with you.

You’re never really going to know if he wants you back or not unless he straight up says something. The signs he wants you back are kind of similar to the points in the above section – if he shows an interest.

But what if he shows an interest and says he has feelings for you, but still thinks the two of you shouldn’t get back together?

This is one of the most frustrating scenarios because it puts you in a position of trying to change someone’s mind.

It’s not simple or easy.

And how does one do that?

The Interdependence Theory!

It’s all about getting his logical side on board with his emotional side. The goal of this would be getting him to realize that that the two of you have is important and worth taking a chance for.

Keep all of your conversations light and pleasant.

You shouldn’t bring up emotional topics like your past. And all jealousy tactics should be subtle, especially if there was a breach of trust in the relationship.

Keeping your emotional cool is essential.

Your ex may and likely will say things that upset you.

He may talk about other girls or try to revisit the negatives of your relationship.

Don’t fall for this. If he sees you get emotional, he will be validated in his assessment that a relationship between the two of you wouldn’t work.

Be objective.

Think of your guy’s brain like a balancing scale. One side is the logic, and the other is his emotions. Most men have a tendency to be logic to a fault. Even if he still loves and care for you, the logical side of his brain may stil;l say that he shouldn’t be with you.

How do you change his mind?

Show him things are different, that you’ve changed, and the two of you can begin a new relationship with a more or less blank slate. Overloading him with promises that you will change is not going to cut it. Actions speak louder than words.

Our articles and books on becoming an “Ungettable Girl” can help you in this department.

In Conclusion

Does your ex still love you?

I don’t know.

Only you know the details surroudning your breakup. However, we’ve laid out some good signs for you that may that will help you determine if he still has residual feelings for you.

However, just because he has feelings does not mean that he is ready to jump back into a relationship with you. It is essential that you do the work during No Contact so that you arethe best version of yourself when you and your ex begin building rapport again.

He should be able see the change in you without even have to look too hard.

More importantly, make these changes for YOU. Relationship may come and go, but you have to enjoy your own company for the rest of your life.

Many people come into the Ex Boyfriend Recovery program seeking tools to help them get their ex back. But the “recovery” we offer is two-fold. We also give you the tools to help you be happy with yourself and move on to a happier life with or without your ex.

Remember, it’s almost always seems  exes tend to make a return once you’ve started moving on and are content with your life.

Alright, now that you have all of the infomration, I want to have a conversation with you. In the comments below, tell me about your breakup and how you reacted afterwards. Our experts will help you determine what your best course of action is moving based on your personal situation.


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25 thoughts on “How To Know If Your Ex Still Loves You”

  1. Tracey

    March 17, 2018 at 3:41 pm

    Me and my ex have broke up for 4 weeks now we have two kids together and I’m still in contact for them but no other contact other than the kids.hes told me loads of times that it’s over but he has never told me he doesn’t love me anymore even when I asked him so I don’t really know what to think anymore.when he sees the kids he is always in my house and it’s too difficult to be with him in these circumstances because when he leaves I get really unset.i know he has been on a date and I belive he is still in contact with this girl.he is also looking for a flat with his dad.just want him back because this is out of character for him

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 17, 2018 at 5:08 pm

  2. Marie

    March 16, 2018 at 8:16 pm

    My boyfriend of nearly a year broke up with me last month because he’s been dealing with depression. He basically said he lost feelings for me and felt like the relationship ran its course, like the spark wasn’t there. He assured me that he’s going to get help for his depression finally, but he felt like this break up is what’s best. He’s basically not sure if his feelings are a product of the depression, or if it’s how things really are (I think it’s the former). He didn’t want to get our hopes up by saying that things will be better after he gets help, because he doesn’t know if his mind is going to change really.

    We both care about each other a lot, I just don’t know what to do. He texted me the day after the breakup saying that it was really hard on him and that I’m a very important person to him. I responded and basically said I need a few days to process things and not talk to him, but I will be there for him if he needs anything (like help with his depression). He said he respects that and appreciates that I’ll be here for him.

    I’m currently in day 23 of NC and considering what my first text to him will be. Our would-be anniversary is a week from tomorrow, so I’m trying to give that date some space if that makes sense. I don’t think I want to wait until after that day to text him because it’s already been hard enough these last 3 weeks.

    I also want to text him during the week because if I’m at work and busy, I’ll feel less of an obligation to text back right away. If I was just sitting at home, I know I’d be staring at my phone waiting for a response.

    I’m just really at a loss for what to text him when I eventually do reach out. (And I know he’s definitely not going to text me, I told him I needed space and he won’t be the one to break the silence)

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 17, 2018 at 4:37 pm

  3. Nicole

    March 16, 2018 at 6:43 pm

    Hi Chris,
    Please help me! My husband and I are separated. He began asking for space and then moved out in July! We have been together for 20 years, married for 12, with 3 children 9,6 &3. We had a lot of ups and downs and had fighting but was never over anything major and no matter how much I beg, cry plead to save our marriage he tells me no! He said the only chance he will reconsider is doing a separation agreement and if he sees changes he would reconsider. He says he doesn’t feel the same way I do because of the fighting and he just doesn’t want that. He wants to live a peaceful life. I love my husband and want our family back together. He says my actions do t match my words, sometimes I get so frustrated because we haven’t been together and I never thought this would happen. How do I get my husband to trust me again and love me again? He’s been gone 8 months and the only time spent together is with our kids on most of his visits. This is tearing me apart and my children. Is there any hope for me? We are actually seeing a lawyer to do a separation agreement today and I’m devastated.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 17, 2018 at 4:24 pm

      Hi Nicole,

      Have you checked this one:
      How To Get Your Ex Back When You Have A Child With Them

  4. Sara

    March 16, 2018 at 7:39 am

    I was with my boyfriend for 18years, two beautiful daughter. He wasn’t brought up by his father who is a womanising horrible man, he met him a few years ago and had such an impact on him. We weren’t getting on since him being on the scene then I lost our first son at 14 weeks and never told him, felt I couldn’t talk to him. I then pushed him away for a whole year, it killed me and I felt disappointed, I slept with another guy a week after the anniversary of my baby’s death, I was broken over it all. A year later, I told him the truth, I couldn’t keep it in, 3days later he started sleeping with one of his sisters friends, she lives over an hour away, he thought I didn’t know, we were still living Together. When I confronted him he told me it was over between them, we started getting on and I thought making a go of it, turns out they were still in contact, I threw him out. He’s insisted it’s not like that between them anymore, that he’s confused over me pushing him away and NoT having sex with him last 2 years and now where getting on and having sex after me not letting him touch me, he’s been having sex with me now and seeing me for last 3 months and chasing her, meeting her in bars, kissing hugging all ‘the good stuff’ clearly having sex now and again. I called him on it again yesterday after he spent the day in bed with me and he says he doesn’t feel anything with me anymore, but wants to have sex and still loves me (apparently I’m the best sex ) I’ve had arguemwnts with the girls friend too where she claims to be using him to piss me off but I think that’s lies. We’ve argues mainly about her, all my assumptions seem to have been true, he told me he’s not sure he wants this life anymore, now he’s got use to some freedom I guess, but can a family man who has a good life really not want it anymore? Every time I’ve had enough over the last 3 months and said that’s it I’m done( 3times now!) he comes running back to save it yet then a day later says he’s now not sure (head f**k!!), I have a lot on at work and sorting finances and looking after our daughters, i work in a gym and I lost so much weight and feel a mess! Although I’m hit on every day and continuously told how lovely and gorgeous I am, She walks around in skimpy lace outfits with tits and arse out) lives at home with mum doesn’t drive but does work! I’m 33, he’s 36 and she’s 26! (Is this s mid life chrisis!) We have spend 18years great and 2 years crap, really crap! But is it worth trying to get him back and can I even? Or does this new girls stand a better chance and I should just let him go.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 16, 2018 at 3:49 pm

      Hi Sara,

      Try the nc rule first and check this one:
      How To Get Your Ex Back When You Have A Child With Them

  5. Alice

    March 16, 2018 at 6:38 am

    I met him while on vacation in South Africa. We spent 1 night together before he had to fly back home. He then asked his boss for more time off and flew back to spend my last 4 days of vacation with me and my friends. We started dating shortly after even with the long distance, me in NYC, him in South Africa. I visited him twice since, the last time for a whole month. We dated for 9 months until he broke up with me because he said he was tired of waiting for me to move to South Africa. He said I took too long to decide, that he would have helped me find a job there, etc. He blocked me on all social media and texts. I couldn’t contact him at all so I sent him a letter and he unblocked me after a week telling me we couldn’t get back together. We talked about it and he said I didn’t do anything wrong but he just didn’t feel the same anymore. We stopped talking then but a week later he asked me what he should do with my stuff. He offered to send them and asked me if I wanted him to also send some of my favorite hot coco and ketchup from SA. He also said I could keep his grandfathers pendant he had given me. After our talk I thought that was it but he still sends me songs and asks me how my weekend was. He says things like you know what I like, and most recently texted me on Friday night with a funny video. Since my phone was broken I couldn’t respond and on Monday he sent me a video of the new car he bought. Its been 2 months since we broke up and I still love him more than anything. I’m trying to ignore him but he keeps reaching out.

  6. Na

    March 15, 2018 at 5:11 pm

    I met this person online, we were talking everyday all the time and calls etc.. He is married and at first it was just an friendship relationship, but it just started to get intense. I live in Brasil and he lives in Peru,he bought plane tickets to come to my country, we reserved the hotel and it was going just fine.. on womens day he sent me a bouquet of red roses to my office with a beautiful card (he bought online and sent)… he said I love you so many many times but he was jealous about me and started to get weird when I go out with my friends, one friday he said “I will call yu tomorrow at noon I love you” he didnt even send a text for me on the next day and then at sunday he called me and I didnt answer and I said I wanted to talk only on monday now because you just pretended I didnt exist.
    He said he didnt want the relationship anymore because I did this and he didnt like I changed my behavior, and he said it was better if we ended everything he cancelled the plane tickets and said he wouldnt give me what I deserve and said he wouldnt change his situation (marriage). He said he didnt want to worry about his house and about me and that he cant handle this situation. He broke my heart and I said why you made me like you so much and you are not coming here anymore to even see me??? Now he doesnt talk to me, I said sorry for him after we broke up and he was rude saying he wish me the best and saying bye. Now im suffering and I just need to know if have any chance of him talking to me ever again…

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2018 at 5:59 pm

      Hi Na,

      If he’s married, you need to cut ties with him because he’s making you his mistress..

  7. Emma

    March 15, 2018 at 1:33 pm

    I was with my boyfriend for 7 months. At the beginning he was smitten with me, would have done anything for me- and I was the same. For an unknown reason, my attitude changed and I become quite negative towards him in a sense where I would stop him from giving me affection, I would never give affection and I had no interest. So I broke things off, and he was distraught. I felt guilty and ended up being back with him. But then he changed too and we began arguing every minute of every day. I ended it again as I couldn’t cope with it. He seemed to be upset but he agreed that it was for the best. In the end it was me who changed my mind, and to my shame I begged for him back. It took a couple of days for him to agree to try things with me again.. but his attitude wasn’t the same. He wasn’t loving at all, he didn’t seem interested, the “good morning” texts just stopped and he become quite mean to me. I text him asking why he has been so different and he just replied “be over in 5”.. I knew he was going to break it off, and sure enough- he did. (This was last night). He still stayed for dinner, and he still kept telling me he loved me. But he said that he shouldn’t of agreed to get back together as it’s not what he wants and although he does STILL love me, he’s lost a lot of love for me. He stayed the night, and it was an affectionate evening, we got along so well, cuddled all night and he left for work this morning, he gave me a kiss and a long emotional cuddle and we said goodbye. I text him saying I wished it didn’t have to be this way but I wish him the best. He said he loves me too and also wishes me the best. I have a gut feeling he will end up coming back, he said “if I changed my mind in a months time, I would beg for you back. But you’re not the sort of person who would take me back are you?” I said ”if I was still in love with you then I would take you back”.. I’m just wondering if this sounds like he will ever come back? I said I was going to block him from social media and at first he resisted but then said himself he would block me on everything except from text.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2018 at 5:46 pm

      Hi Emma,

      If you’re going to try the nc rule don’t block him but go for 45 days since he expects to you talk to him again after 30 days.

  8. June

    March 15, 2018 at 7:06 am

    There was this guy that I was really close to. We used to text each other very often but did not get to hang out as he was overseas. When we finally get to meet, we cuddled and made out but little did I realize that he didnt want a relationship. We lost contact ever since.

  9. Ella

    March 14, 2018 at 7:59 pm

    My ex, who I’ve known for almost a decade at this point, broke up with me a week after telling all our mutual friends that I was the ‘love of his life’ and that he ‘couldn’t do anything without me,’ ‘couldn’t wait to marry me’ and asked for advice on how to articulate all of that to me. After we broke up, we didn’t speak for a few months, during which he had a rebound girlfriend. Immediately after they split, we started talking back and forth and on-off for months. We even saw each other once before he started graduate school and before we both started traveling a lot. We still do talk frequently and even when I’ve tried to ignore him, he pokes me until I respond. When we speak it’s like he wants to show me how much better he’s doing, especially now that he’s in grad school. He’ll make teasing and loving comments about me, the way I dress, my new apartment and he watches everything I do on social media…it’s lovely but he doesn’t make big moves, even to meet up. Even with all the history and tension and he’s always been extraordinarily shy and timid by nature. We talked about meeting up after his recruitment for summer jobs, which was stressing him out a lot, was finished. Is he still interested though? We talk A LOT for how long we’ve been broken up and I’ve been told by a few friends that he clearly keeps an eye on me….

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2018 at 12:59 pm

      When and why did he break up with you? How long has it been since the break up? You can follow the advice on this one:
      EBR 012: How To Get Out Of The “Friend Zone” With Your Ex Boyfriend

  10. Chloe

    March 13, 2018 at 11:19 am

    Tough one. My ex fiancé broke up with me over the phone 2 months before our wedding. We were living in Bristol UK (his home) and making the move to Australia (my home) where we were going to get married. He told me to fly to Australia to finalize wedding plans and he would pack our flat up and be with me in a few weeks. He never made it over. After 6 ½ years he decided he couldn’t make the move. We got along so well, never fought, we’re best friends who talked about everything but he was just too stressed about getting married and it freaked him out. Instead of talking to me about it (if he had I would of called off the wedding knowing it would save my relationship) he walked away from his best friend and everything we had.
    He then went to America and hooked up with a girl there after only 6 weeks from our breakup in October. He has since told me they talk at least every 2nd day, that she is more into him than he is to her, she is coming to visit him end of March, he enjoys feeling wanted but knows it could never work out. I feel like I have just been replaced and he has given himself no time to truely know if he misses me or not.
    I flew back to the UK to pack my things up. The first night I was there he admitted he missed our friendship and how easy it was to talk to me. We slept together. He admitted he wasn’t 100% sure he made the right decision, he said he still felt something for me. Yet he still thinks that he made the right decision to cal things off but he can’t tell me why. It is so frustrating!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2018 at 1:38 pm

      Hi Chloe,

      Follow the advice on this one:
      EBR 059: How To Get Him Back If You Were Engaged…

  11. Lena B

    March 13, 2018 at 2:50 am

    My ex, who I’ve known for almost a decade at this point, broke up with me a week after telling all our mutual friends that I was the ‘love of his life’ and that he ‘couldn’t do anything without me,’ ‘couldn’t wait to marry me’ and asked for advice on how to articulate all of that to me. When he broke up with me a week later, it was a complete 180 and seemed to come from some scary place of neglect and fear, culminating in him yelling at me ‘why would you want to be with me I’m a fat nobody with no career to speak of’ (we went to Ivy League universities so that’s when I realized it was depression and that he felt like a failure and no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t break through to him). After we broke up, we didn’t speak for a few months, during which time he had some random rebound girlfriend. Immediately after they split, we started talking back and forth and on-off for months. We even saw each other once before he started graduate school. We still do talk frequently and even when I’ve tried to ignore him, he pokes me until I respond. When we speak it’s like he wants to show me how much better he’s doing, especially now that he’s in grad school. He’ll make teasing and loving comments about me, the way I dress, my new apartment (that he hasn’t even seen) and watch everything I do on social media…it’s lovely but he doesn’t make big moves, especially to meet up. Even with all the history and tension, he’s always been extraordinarily shy and timid by nature. The last time I brought up meeting he said after recruitment for summer jobs was finished (a crazy few weeks at one of the top MBA programs in the world!) and that it sounds like a good idea. The ball is in my court now.

    Is he still interested though? We talk A LOT, especially for how long we’ve been broken up and I’ve been told by a few friends that he clearly keeps an eye on me….

  12. Anna

    March 12, 2018 at 11:35 pm

    My ex and i dated for about 6 months, we broke up over a fight. We kept in touch and started to sleep together, hang out and he initiates a lot. We meet up about 2-3 times a week. (I’ve read your articles to not sleep with your ex bf, so i know that he might had kept me in his life for just sex.. )
    He says he still likes me, cares for me and enjoys my company, but we can’t get back together because we already broke up and he doesn’t want to try again. He says it’s the only reason he’s not together with me (in case we broke up again, he doesn’t want to date on-off..)
    I feel like he’s just stringing me along and keeps me around for sex.
    I told him i won’t sleep with him anymore, he asked to still hang out and not have sex..
    He says he won’t get back together with me, but definitely doesn’t want to end this either.
    The fact that he still wants to see me makes me feel i have a chance. I don’t want to waste my time if there’s no chance for a relationship.. and if he really likes me then why he’s so stubborn to not to try it again… Should I move on?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2018 at 10:51 am

      Hi Anna,

      Yes, he is using you and you should move on..

  13. Summer

    March 12, 2018 at 10:30 pm

    So my bf and I got back together, but on social media he’s acting single. Like on instagram he went live with a message that says ‘ I’d rather be single than listen to your hoe talk.’ And he certainly knows I’m not a hoe. I’ve only ever liked celebrity men’s pictures etc so I don’t see why that would be about me. So do you think he could be cheating on me?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2018 at 10:24 am

      Just because of that one post? It would be betteru if you ask him 2
      What it was about..

  14. Missfab

    March 12, 2018 at 7:21 pm

    My ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me over a year ago. What was worse is he just stopped talking to me after we got into a argument about a female friend coming to stay with him for a month which I was completely uncomfortable with. I didn’t hear from him for months and didn’t contact him as I had already told him I would never accept him using silent treatment on me again. 8 months later he started texting me saying he’s been thinking about me and that he is moving to NYC. I wished him well but didn’t interact much. I then texted him two months later to arrange a face to face meeting to get closure which he agreed to. On the day we were meant to meet he cancelled due to being busy at work. I simply replied ok. I was disappointed but realized that it was best I stop looking for closure and simply move forward. A month later in December he tried reaching out to me but I just ignored his text as I was determined to start my new chapter and desperately wanted to free myself from the pain he put me through. I was no longer angry but didn’t want to entertain his text. Fast forward to feb I texted him on his birthday to wish him a happy birthday and he thanked me. A month later he texted me belated birthday message. He also texted me “I still want us to be friends and also friends but I don’t know if you are open to that” I’m honestly confused. Why would he want us to be friends after walking away from me and cutting me out of his life for so long? Do you think he want me back or am I reading too much into it? What would you recommend I reply If I want him back?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2018 at 8:50 am

      Hi Miss fab

      I think you’re reading too much into it…he has a been initiating in the past but always left you hanging after. He’ll probably do that again.