Ahh.. Jealousy! Making Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous

Make no mistake about it, jealousy is a very powerful emotion. If it is used correctly it can be the driving force behind getting your ex boyfriend back. There is just one problem, most people have no idea how to correctly use it. I was reading a relationship article about jealousy the other day from a pretty well known relationship coach. His article basically went on to say that you should never use jealousy to try to get your ex back. The truth is, he is talking about using jealousy the wrong way to get your ex back. If you use jealousy in a smart way it is almost guaranteed to bring up previous romantic feelings that your ex had for you.

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What This Page Is About

I want you to view this page as the “ultimate guide” to making your ex boyfriend jealous. Now, I can’t guarantee that the tactics on this page will make him jealous because lets be honest, your boyfriend is a human being and most human beings are impossible to control. With that being said, I have seen many of the tactics outlined on this page work for many of the women I communicate with. Here is what we will be covering today:

  • Why jealousy is so powerful.
  • I am going to give you a gameplan to make your ex jealous.
  • How the NCR works with jealousy.
  • Specific text messages that can be used to make your ex jealous.

So, that is what this page will be covering.

The Power Of Jealousy

art-thou-jealous

Most men aren’t as complicated as you would believe. A married friend of mine once told me a little about the psychology behind a mans thinking and I happen to agree with him. It goes like this, most men forget how good they have it when they have been dating or married for an extended period of time. This usually means that the man will ignore his woman and her needs. Here is the kicker though, if a couple like the one I am describing (a man who is comfortable and not tending to his woman’s needs) go out to a bar and the woman starts flirting with other guys the dynamic will completely change. The “comfortable” man will no longer be so comfortable. All kinds of thoughts will be going through his head: anger, worry, jealousy, insecurity. The man will feel the need to protect his “property” and while he may be initially angry, if you play your cards right his behavior will completely change and you will start getting paid attention to.

The end lesson here: women have ultimate power over men!

Now, the “mock” situation I talked about above doesn’t apply to your situation perfectly (since your boyfriend is now your ex) but I guarantee that if you play your cards right bringing up those “protective” feelings in your man is very possible.

A Word..

Before you even attempt to make your ex jealous lets talk a little about what you want your ultimate goal to be. If you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous for the sake of making him jealous then I don’t think this is the page for you. I wrote this page with the intention of helping women use jealousy to win back their exes. So, if you want to make him jealous to bring out his protective and romantic side then this is the right page for that.

That is really what you are trying to accomplish here. You don’t want to make him jealous to rub it in his face. You want to make him jealous to remind him of what he is missing out on.

Your Jealousy Game Plan

What I am going to do now is give you a brief overview of how to properly use jealousy and then I will talk about each aspect in-depth. Reference the graphic below to understand your jealousy gameplan!

jealousy plan

The No Contact Rule

The no contact rule is a must if you want to make your ex jealous. In fact, it is essential if you want to get your ex boyfriend back. I don’t want to go into too much detail here about it because I have done multiple in-depth posts about it already like this one. However, I will give you a short synopsis of how the no contact rule is supposed to work.

The No Contact Rule- You are not allowed to contact your ex in any way after the breakup for a minimum of 30 days.

How The NC Rule Works In Tandem With Jealousy

Alright, now that you have an idea of what the no contact rule is I am going to talk a little bit about the things you can do during the no contact period that can will your ex jealous. Ideally, after a breakup you need to give your ex some space (which is kind of what the no contact rule is for.) However, I don’t want to give you the impression that you are going to sit around during these 30 days of no contact and count your fingers (your not going to make your ex jealous that way.) Instead, I am going to ask you to do a few things.

Do Something During The No Contact Period… Anything

I get a lot of emails every single day (random fact- I have 9 unanswered emails in my inbox just from today) and one of the most common mistakes I see from women is the fact that they don’t do anything at all during the no contact period. Here is how it usually goes, they tell me that they can’t wait to start the no contact period one day and then two days later they email me back saying something like:

“Well, I broke NC and texted him.”

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Here is the problem I have with this. When I ask women “what did you do during those two days?” they usually tell me that they didn’t do anything……

DID YOU EVEN READ EX BOYFRIEND RECOVERY PRO???

Look, if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous I seriously want you to spend those 30 days NOT thinking about him. I want you to go down the checklist I am about to provide and address all of the things on it.

Disclaimer: Some of the things on this list WILL make you uncomfortable but I am not in the business of being nice for the sake of being nice I am trying to give you advice that will help make your ex jealous and hopefully put you in a position to where you can get him back.

  • Get in the best shape of your life.
  • If you have acne I want you to get medicine to treat it
  • If you are uncomfortable with your teeth (they are bad) I want you to go to a dentist.
  • I want you to go out with your friends and have a lot of fun (take pictures, lots of pictures they will come in handy later.)
  • Buy the sexiest outfit ever (not too revealing though.)
  • Get a sexy haircut. I want you to look at yourself in the mirror after this haircut and go “OMG, I look like a goddess.” (too corny?)

No Contact Facebook Jealousy

facebook your doing it wrong

Disclaimer: This method will only work if you are still friends with your ex on Facebook. If you are no longer friends with him then don’t try to friend him… yet.

It’s amazing how big Facebook has gotten. I can remember back when I was in high school no one was talking about Facebook. All the rage was with MySpace. Funny how quickly that changed though. Anyways, I am going to give you the Facebook breakup jealousy rules now. I have found that the rules I am about to describe are the most effective at making your ex a little jealous.

  • After the breakup get rid of 95% of the pictures with you and your ex boyfriend. Pick out maybe one or two that your really like and keep them (you don’t want your ex to think he doesn’t have a chance at all to get back with you.)
  • Remember when I told you to take lots of pictures of you having fun with friends? Post those pictures.
  • If you have taken any pictures with guys while you were out having fun post those too. DO NOT post a picture of you kissing a guy. Trust me, this will hurt your chances of getting your ex back big time.
  • If your ex “likes” one of your photos or status updates do not do anything, just let it be.
  • Do not “like” any of your ex boyfriends updates or pictures. Just leave him be for now.

Dating During No Contact?

dating bear

If you are an avid reader of this site then you may be aware that I am very much in favor of going out on a date with someone new during the no contact period. Actually, if you reference the “Ex Boyfriend Jealousy Plan” above you will notice that I put “Dating” as the last little bubble. When I said dating in the bubble above I meant dating other people. I am actually talking about it in this section because I believe that going out on a date (even if you have no intention of actually dating the person) is best to do during the no contact period.

Now, I will say that this is a completely optional step but it can be very effective. Especially if your ex boyfriend catches wind of it. I want you to take a moment and imagine how you have felt when, in your previous relationships you caught wind that your ex went out on a date with a new girl. Now, imagine your ex feeling that very emotion. Sure, he will be angry and sad but I promise you at the end of the day he is going to question why he ever let you go.

Building Rapport With Your Boyfriend

texting

Now, if you followed my no contact advice above perfectly then I would imagine your ex has already gotten jealous but in the case that he hasn’t, don’t worry, we haven’t even gotten to the best stuff but we are about to! Eventually your no contact period of 30 days is going to end. The question is, what are you supposed to do then? Well, now it is time to open communication with your ex via text messaging. Why text messaging, well I wrote a whole article on it here.

Now, I am aware that you are looking for an exact step by step method for what you need to say to your ex but I am not going to get into that here because this page is supposed to only be about the ways you can make your ex jealous (I actually put together a guide about how you can use texting to get your ex back already.) What I will do is give you a few ground rules that you need to follow when contacting your ex.

  • You should aim to be in control of the conversation at all times.
  • If he doesn’t respond then DO NOT text him again. Wait a few days and try again.
  • Patience really is a virtue. You need to be very patient and realize that this is not going to happen overnight.
  • If you get angry or upset simply bow out of the conversation.
  • Don’t try to fix your broken relationship over a text message, it won’t work.
  • Don’t ask to meet up with your ex boyfriend.
  • Do not use texting as a booty call (you’d be surprised.)

(If you want more tips on how to text your ex I recommend picking up “The Texting Bible.”

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Showing That You Are In Control Of The Conversation

control freak

This is so important that I gave it it’s very own section.

(I even talk about it in The Texting Bible.)

Showing that you have control of the conversation is very important for a number of reasons. In college, I began to notice a pattern between the girls I liked and the girls I didn’t like anymore. You see, I will admit that I am a little complicated. I can see a pretty girl and like her immediately. However, if she doesn’t challenge me, intellectually or emotionally, I will lose interest. One thing that I noticed between the girls that held my interest and the ones that didn’t was that girls who allowed me to be in control of the conversation didn’t interest me as much.

For me, and most other guys, it is a case of “Oh, I can have her anytime I want because I can tell she is trying too hard to get me.” Of course, the flip scenario goes like this. A girl who dominated the conversation literally can have men wrapped around her finger. I am not afraid to admit that I have been reduced to feeling pathetic by some girls because they felt they “could have me” anytime they wanted. I have named the phenomenon I described her as being “ungettable”

The “Ungettable” Persona- A type of persona that a girl can display. She basically has so much confidence that she reduces a guy into thinking that he can’t get her which really turns 85% of guys on. Achieving this persona is essential if you want to get your ex boyfriend back.

Achieving the ungettable persona is not easy. However, one thing that all “ungettable” girls have in common is that they dominate any conversation they are in with the opposite sex. So, I suppose the question now becomes, how do you dominate a texting conversation?

Well, luckily for you I have been on the receiving end of quite a few ungettable girls so I can tell you some of the tactics that they were able to use on me that proved to be pretty effective.

Ungettable Texting Dominance Example 1

The example below is an exact conversation I had with an unnamed “ungettable” girl. Notice how in this particular conversation she ended everything with a simple “hahahaha” and never responded to my texts after that. Now, this tactic was risky and only really worked on me because I clearly had feelings for the girl. Nevertheless, I was the one putting more effort into the conversation which meant she was in control.

jealousy text

Ungettable Texting Dominance Example 2 (What Not To Do)

I wanted to include this example, even though it is personally very embarrassing to me. Remember, I am just going through my phone in the last six months and pulling out conversations with girls who I really really really liked. A couple of things to note: this girl was probably the most attractive girl I have ever met. She came up and asked to dance with me at a local bar. Anyways, she dominated the conversation so much that I literally felt like I had no chance so I just gave up even though I really liked her. So, this is kind of an example of what NOT to do.

example 2 not to do

There is a lot more to the story but as you can see she dominated the very first conversation we had. I really liked her so I texted her the next day but I could never find my groove. I always felt like I wasn’t good enough and she would simply bow out of the conversations whenever she would like.

Bowing Out Of The Conversations By Not Responding- This is a pretty effective way to establish control. However, if you do it too much the guy will think he doesn’t have a chance with you. That was what happened above. So, I say if you are going to use this tactic make sure you use it sparingly.

Ungettable Texting Dominance Example 3 (Recommended)

I think that this example is really the perfect way to “control” the conversation. This is another example out of my phone with a girl who I liked once upon a time. I actually sat next to her in a college class and we developed a friendship. Once again, she wasn’t too beautiful but she definitely had the “ungettable” persona. Now, I want to note a couple of things: Notice how she had me hooked in the conversation. Also, the way she ended the conversation first was perfect. She sent the last two texts really closely together so I didn’t even have time to respond before she “had to go.”

example 3

Jealousy Texts

(For more jealousy text messages I recommend picking up The Texting Bible.)

Since we are on the subject of texting lets talk a little about the most important type of text if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous, the jealousy texts. Using jealousy via a text message is a subtle art. In a way, you want to make your ex aware that you are out having fun with other guys that aren’t him but it won’t go over too well if you straight up text him “hey I was out on a date last night and I did blah blah blah.” Yeaaa…. you need to be really subtle at the way you work jealousy into your text messages. I am going to give you two really clever examples below that demonstrate this point. Now, there are thousands of ways to work jealousy into a text message but you are going to have to get creative because I am just going to give you these two examples (I am getting a little tired of writing to be honest haha.)

Romantic Movie

The romantic movie jealousy text I can’t take credit for. A guy named Michael Fiore really came up with it but I actually think it is really clever. Basically, you text your ex that you went to see a romantic movie with a friend (you don’t specify if the friend is male or female.) The fact that the words romantic and friend are placed so close together in the text will make your ex boyfriend wonder a little bit.

romantic movie text

Was That You?

This is another text that I can’t take credit for. Again, Mr. Fiore deserves all the credit. Basically, in this text your are going to send your ex boyfriend a message saying something like “was that you at (place you frequent) last night.” If you want to get really aggressive with it you can add in “if it was, you looked really good ;)”

jealousy (did I see you at)

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Jess
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hi so my ex and i ended things in Jan after 3 months together and i initiated no contact. after about a week of no contact he started initiating texts and even showed up as a surprise where I was one day! since then we have had two coffee meet ups and we are in contact daily. However recently in the last week he started asking and fishing if i was dating other men (im going out and meeting new ppl). I have not confirmed or denied anything rather left it ambiguous. i am trying to be patient but i… Read more »
Jess
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hi so my ex and i ended things in Jan after 3 months together and i initiated no contact. after about a week of no contact he started initiating texts and even showed up as a surprise where I was one day! since then we have had two coffee meet ups and we are in contact daily. However recently in the last week he started asking and fishing if i was dating other men (im going out and meeting new ppl). I have not confirmed or denied anything rather left it ambiguous. i am trying to be patient but i… Read more »
Falguni Sarkar
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I need a counselling. Can you contact me?

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Hi Falguni,

Chris offers coaching calls. If you’re interested, this is the link:
Expert personal coaching to help get your ex back

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I need a counselling. Can you contact me?

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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Falguni,

Chris offers coaching calls. If you’re interested, this is the link:
Expert personal coaching to help get your ex back

Patricia Paquette
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You are absolutely amazing with your advice!

Patricia Paquette
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You are absolutely amazing with your advice!

Anabella
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Oh its me Hmmm that commented below, sorry

Anabella
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Thank you!…So how long do you think I should do no contact for 21, 30 or 45 days? And in your honest professional opinion what effect, whether good or bad, do you think blocking on WhatsApp will have on him? I’m on day 21 of no contact by the way.

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EBR Team Member: Amor

Do 45 days because you’ve already done nc before..make this your last.. If you’re active in posting in fb and ig publicly, nothing.. It can even prevent you from messaging him..

Anabella
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Oh its me Hmmm that commented below, sorry

Anabella
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Thank you!…So how long do you think I should do no contact for 21, 30 or 45 days? And in your honest professional opinion what effect, whether good or bad, do you think blocking on WhatsApp will have on him? I’m on day 21 of no contact by the way.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Do 45 days because you’ve already done nc before..make this your last.. If you’re active in posting in fb and ig publicly, nothing.. It can even prevent you from messaging him..

Hmmm
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Hi Amor, My ex and I broke a little over a year ago, I did no contact and got him back but now we’re broken up again. I initiated the break up but right after I regretted it and tried to call him back, I called and texted constantly with no reply for about 3 days. I waited a week then contacted him and told him I didn’t really want a break up I just needed him to apologize but he wouldn’t apologize. I said we couldn’t get back together if he didn’t and he was OK with breaking up.… Read more »
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EBR Team Member: Amor

if you’re blocking him, you have to make your post public so that he will still see it if he gets curious. He probably is trying to make you jealous because he still has feelings or he’s just possessive and he wanted to get back at you when you posted jealousy pics.

Hmmm
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Hi Amor, My ex and I broke a little over a year ago, I did no contact and got him back but now we’re broken up again. I initiated the break up but right after I regretted it and tried to call him back, I called and texted constantly with no reply for about 3 days. I waited a week then contacted him and told him I didn’t really want a break up I just needed him to apologize but he wouldn’t apologize. I said we couldn’t get back together if he didn’t and he was OK with breaking up.… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

if you’re blocking him, you have to make your post public so that he will still see it if he gets curious. He probably is trying to make you jealous because he still has feelings or he’s just possessive and he wanted to get back at you when you posted jealousy pics.

Maya
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Hi, so I reached out to my ex yesterday after 1,5 month but he answered pretty short and distant… He also closed the conversation by not answering my second text and said he had to study (so I had to leave him alone). I didn’t know what to do and had the feeling I lost control over the conversation so I didn’t answer anymore and didn’t send ‘okay, good luck’ or anything… what do I have to do now?

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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Maya,

That’s good that you didn’t answer.. Check this one:
The Stages of Not Getting a Text Back From Your Ex and How to Survive Them

Maya
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Hi, so I reached out to my ex yesterday after 1,5 month but he answered pretty short and distant… He also closed the conversation by not answering my second text and said he had to study (so I had to leave him alone). I didn’t know what to do and had the feeling I lost control over the conversation so I didn’t answer anymore and didn’t send ‘okay, good luck’ or anything… what do I have to do now?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Maya,

That’s good that you didn’t answer.. Check this one:
The Stages of Not Getting a Text Back From Your Ex and How to Survive Them

sarah
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Hi there, So I have not seen/talked to my ex since we broke up 2 months ago, and this is our second break up. We were together for over 2 years. He broke up with me because according to him we are in different life stages (he’s focusing on his career, and i’m still in college), and although he loves me, we simply “don’t work”. In that 2 months he did not reach out to me. He also deleted every trace of us on his Facebook. He also remade Instagram and made it private, and so I can’t see what… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sarah,

don’t assume.. if you wanted to try, you have to act..because prolonging rejection, doesn’t increase your chances. Yes it hurts to be rejected but at least, if you are rejected, you can start to move on instead.

sarah
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Hi there, So I have not seen/talked to my ex since we broke up 2 months ago, and this is our second break up. We were together for over 2 years. He broke up with me because according to him we are in different life stages (he’s focusing on his career, and i’m still in college), and although he loves me, we simply “don’t work”. In that 2 months he did not reach out to me. He also deleted every trace of us on his Facebook. He also remade Instagram and made it private, and so I can’t see what… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sarah,

don’t assume.. if you wanted to try, you have to act..because prolonging rejection, doesn’t increase your chances. Yes it hurts to be rejected but at least, if you are rejected, you can start to move on instead.

Marie
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Hello, my boyfriend broke up with me this past Monday. He is all over Facebook now and commenting and posting memes. He tells other girls they are pretty. Sometimes adds a kiss emoji. It makes me so mad. When he broke up with me he told me he just wanted to be alone and I deserved better than him anyway. I think he was referring to his drinking problem. He’s a loner and likes to drink at home. The problem is I’m at a point of no return. I love him and am willing to still be with him. Anyway,… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Marie
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Hello, my boyfriend broke up with me this past Monday. He is all over Facebook now and commenting and posting memes. He tells other girls they are pretty. Sometimes adds a kiss emoji. It makes me so mad. When he broke up with me he told me he just wanted to be alone and I deserved better than him anyway. I think he was referring to his drinking problem. He’s a loner and likes to drink at home. The problem is I’m at a point of no return. I love him and am willing to still be with him. Anyway,… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Jo Jo
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My BF of a year broke up with me a couple months ago. I did NC for 35 days, then reached out to him asking a suggestion of a place to stay in a city he frequents. He responded in a positive way with 2 texts giving me a list of rentals and telling me which ones were his favs. I then responded back asking how he and his kids were doing but go no response back. I decided I wasn’t completely done with working on myself at that point, so I did not reach back out and decided to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jojo,
When did he broke up with you? But, it looks like, it’s been a long time, if you literally meant 2 months ago, that means it’s ok if you started to date moreso if it’s longer than that

Jo Jo
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My BF of a year broke up with me a couple months ago. I did NC for 35 days, then reached out to him asking a suggestion of a place to stay in a city he frequents. He responded in a positive way with 2 texts giving me a list of rentals and telling me which ones were his favs. I then responded back asking how he and his kids were doing but go no response back. I decided I wasn’t completely done with working on myself at that point, so I did not reach back out and decided to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jojo,
When did he broke up with you? But, it looks like, it’s been a long time, if you literally meant 2 months ago, that means it’s ok if you started to date moreso if it’s longer than that

Crystal
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Hi,
So what if trying to make my ex jealous has the opposite effect and he becomes more disinterested? What happens if he thinks I’m playing games? How do you avoid this from happening? Are there some guys that jealousy tactics don’t work on?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Nope, continue in nc..be active in improving yourself and in posting..dont use jealousy moves that are too forward like posting and captioning it that you’re dating a new guy, or showing pda

Crystal
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Hi,
So what if trying to make my ex jealous has the opposite effect and he becomes more disinterested? What happens if he thinks I’m playing games? How do you avoid this from happening? Are there some guys that jealousy tactics don’t work on?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Nope, continue in nc..be active in improving yourself and in posting..dont use jealousy moves that are too forward like posting and captioning it that you’re dating a new guy, or showing pda

laura
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hello, my boyfriend and kind of fiancé broke up with me 4 months ago. we hadnt any contact during this period. 2 weeks ago he texted me on my birthday..we texted a few messages on a irregular base.. I didnt answer anymore, but then after a few days I texted him that i miss him and still think of him ( only this 2 sentences) . I screeeewed up on this..I know I shouldnt have done this, but I thought that I had to come clean with my feelings before its too late . His reaction was really not what… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi laura,

Restart nc, do at least 30 days before initiating contact again..improve yourself and be active in posting

laura
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hello, my boyfriend and kind of fiancé broke up with me 4 months ago. we hadnt any contact during this period. 2 weeks ago he texted me on my birthday..we texted a few messages on a irregular base.. I didnt answer anymore, but then after a few days I texted him that i miss him and still think of him ( only this 2 sentences) . I screeeewed up on this..I know I shouldnt have done this, but I thought that I had to come clean with my feelings before its too late . His reaction was really not what… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi laura,

Restart nc, do at least 30 days before initiating contact again..improve yourself and be active in posting

Alexa
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Hi Amor, I did as advised and he replied the following day . He also anknowkdged/ replied to my previous texts in the same message. We exchanged a few messages, he even asked me some things and I think he may have tried to flirt at one point( so engaged). The convo was getting short so I ended the conversation after a 3-4 times back and fourth. . Two days latter he then replied Saying he had fallen asleep and that it was really nice talking to me too – hope I had a nice day. I waited some hours… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

you have to just focus in building rapport..what matters more is how he feels during and after thr conversation and that you are continuing to improve yourself and actively posting

Alexa
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Hi Amor,

Even if he’s started seeing someone new? There has been a check in at at romantic restaurant, a homemade breakfast and take away posts. He hasn’t responded to me for 2 days again…
I’m doing all of these things. But he is unpredictable in he’s replies and doesn’t tend to ask me any questions … feel like he’s just being polite by replying and the signs say he’s with someone new now….
this has been going on since February …
Alexa

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

if you think he’s really happy with her, and you don’t want to try, then let go.. but if you really want a chance, stop focusing on them.. because that’s not going to help you build rapport..

Alexa
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Hi Amor, I’m very stuck . He’s replying on minute, Then starts to give me one word replies. Then he’s engaged again. I tried to move to calls ( with a story set up) he said he could call me in he’s break …but he didn’t . I initiated the following day and once again a day has passed with no reply … he’s been posting on social media though. I don’t think he’s happy with her – there’s nothing official from what I can see … but I do think he’s happy without me . Its like he’s finally… Read more »
Alexa
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Hi Amor, I’m very stuck . He’s replying to me one minute, Then starts to give me one word replies. Then he’s engaged again. I tried to move to calls ( with a story set up) he said he could call me on he’s break and he really wanted to know what happened …but he didn’t call. initiated the following day and once again a day has passed with no reply … he’s been posting on social media though. I don’t think he’s happy with her – there’s nothing official from what I can see … but I do think… Read more »
Alexa
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Hi Amor, I’m very stuck . He’s replying on minute, Then starts to give me one word replies. Then he’s engaged again. I tried to move to calls ( with a story set up) he said he could call me in he’s break …but he didn’t . I initiated the following day and once again a day has passed with no reply … he’s been posting on social media though. I don’t think he’s happy with her – there’s nothing official from what I can see … but I do think he’s happy without me . It’s been over 4… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry, how long have you been texting to build rapport?

Alexa
Guest
Hi Amor, I initiated at the beginning of February after 30 days NC. It was going well , he was Engaged in Convo, even said I’d made he’s day at one point- then he started to get silent / take longer to reply around mid / end of March just as I was about to move to calls. I rested for two weeks as advised around beginning of April and then initiaated ( he actually got in touch after 10days but I rested the full 2 weeks) . Initially he was responsive , even said it was lovely talking to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

that means he’s more into her..you have to improve the quality of your messages, and your activities too.. if he sees your posts would he be interested or intrigued with what you’re recently doing? If you want him to collect his things that’s ok.. and transitioning the calls should be before the high point, so that you can make the call as the high point and then end it there.

Alexa
Guest
Hi Amor, I did as advised and he replied the following day . He also anknowkdged/ replied to my previous texts in the same message. We exchanged a few messages, he even asked me some things and I think he may have tried to flirt at one point( so engaged). The convo was getting short so I ended the conversation after a 3-4 times back and fourth. . Two days latter he then replied Saying he had fallen asleep and that it was really nice talking to me too – hope I had a nice day. I waited some hours… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

you have to just focus in building rapport..what matters more is how he feels during and after thr conversation and that you are continuing to improve yourself and actively posting

Alexa
Guest

Hi Amor,

Even if he’s started seeing someone new? There has been a check in at at romantic restaurant, a homemade breakfast and take away posts. He hasn’t responded to me for 2 days again…
I’m doing all of these things. But he is unpredictable in he’s replies and doesn’t tend to ask me any questions … feel like he’s just being polite by replying and the signs say he’s with someone new now….
this has been going on since February …
Alexa

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

if you think he’s really happy with her, and you don’t want to try, then let go.. but if you really want a chance, stop focusing on them.. because that’s not going to help you build rapport..

Alexa
Guest
Hi Amor, I’m very stuck . He’s replying on minute, Then starts to give me one word replies. Then he’s engaged again. I tried to move to calls ( with a story set up) he said he could call me in he’s break …but he didn’t . I initiated the following day and once again a day has passed with no reply … he’s been posting on social media though. I don’t think he’s happy with her – there’s nothing official from what I can see … but I do think he’s happy without me . Its like he’s finally… Read more »
Alexa
Guest
Hi Amor, I’m very stuck . He’s replying to me one minute, Then starts to give me one word replies. Then he’s engaged again. I tried to move to calls ( with a story set up) he said he could call me on he’s break and he really wanted to know what happened …but he didn’t call. initiated the following day and once again a day has passed with no reply … he’s been posting on social media though. I don’t think he’s happy with her – there’s nothing official from what I can see … but I do think… Read more »
Alexa
Guest
Hi Amor, I’m very stuck . He’s replying on minute, Then starts to give me one word replies. Then he’s engaged again. I tried to move to calls ( with a story set up) he said he could call me in he’s break …but he didn’t . I initiated the following day and once again a day has passed with no reply … he’s been posting on social media though. I don’t think he’s happy with her – there’s nothing official from what I can see … but I do think he’s happy without me . It’s been over 4… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry, how long have you been texting to build rapport?

Alexa
Guest
Hi Amor, I initiated at the beginning of February after 30 days NC. It was going well , he was Engaged in Convo, even said I’d made he’s day at one point- then he started to get silent / take longer to reply around mid / end of March just as I was about to move to calls. I rested for two weeks as advised around beginning of April and then initiaated ( he actually got in touch after 10days but I rested the full 2 weeks) . Initially he was responsive , even said it was lovely talking to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that means he’s more into her..you have to improve the quality of your messages, and your activities too.. if he sees your posts would he be interested or intrigued with what you’re recently doing? If you want him to collect his things that’s ok.. and transitioning the calls should be before the high point, so that you can make the call as the high point and then end it there.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

pick a more casual topic instead of a reminder text.. anything that current that is in his interest like tv shows, sports, news etc.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

pick a more casual topic instead of a reminder text.. anything that current that is in his interest like tv shows, sports, news etc.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s ok.. You can still initiate after two weeks..

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s ok.. You can still initiate after two weeks..

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

rest for two weeks.. be very active again and don’t forget to post.. dont use his things as a first contact text after the mini nc..

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

rest for two weeks.. be very active again and don’t forget to post.. dont use his things as a first contact text after the mini nc..

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

rest for two weeks.. if he’s still like that, you have to move on

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

rest for two weeks.. if he’s still like that, you have to move on

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you have to initiate more.. you cant build rapport in talking just once a week

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you have to initiate more.. you cant build rapport in talking just once a week

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

by the time that you’ve moved to calls, so that you’ve built rapport..

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

by the time that you’ve moved to calls, so that you’ve built rapport..

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

if he didn’t get them for months, that means they’re not that important but it’s ok if you want to ask him to get them

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

if he didn’t get them for months, that means they’re not that important but it’s ok if you want to ask him to get them

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s ok that you’re initiating.. what’s more important is that you have good conversations and that you’re the one ending it high point.. proceed to calls first before meeting up

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s ok that you’re initiating.. what’s more important is that you have good conversations and that you’re the one ending it high point.. proceed to calls first before meeting up

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alexa,

the comment should just be there and you should see that it states awaiting moderation, if it’s moderated, you would just see it posted. How much did you improve during and after nc? Were you active in posting in social media?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alexa,

the comment should just be there and you should see that it states awaiting moderation, if it’s moderated, you would just see it posted. How much did you improve during and after nc? Were you active in posting in social media?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alexa,

the comment should just be there and you should see that it states awaiting moderation, if it’s moderated, you would just see it posted. How much did you improve during and after nc? Were you active in posting in social media?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alexa,

the comment should just be there and you should see that it states awaiting moderation, if it’s moderated, you would just see it posted. How much did you improve during and after nc? Were you active in posting in social media?

Bella
Guest
I have a bit of a situation. i work with this guy and we were friends, I started getting feelings for him and told him I like him, we kissed and started dating. Nothing physical ever happened between us but on our second date I told him I was falling in love with him. He said it back. Well we continued to date for about a month then out of the blue he broke things off saying I was moving too quickly for him and he’s not really ready for a relationship.and that he shouldn’t have said it back but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Bella,

if it’s short, not really.. Check this one:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

Bella
Guest
I have a bit of a situation. i work with this guy and we were friends, I started getting feelings for him and told him I like him, we kissed and started dating. Nothing physical ever happened between us but on our second date I told him I was falling in love with him. He said it back. Well we continued to date for about a month then out of the blue he broke things off saying I was moving too quickly for him and he’s not really ready for a relationship.and that he shouldn’t have said it back but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Bella,

if it’s short, not really.. Check this one:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

aviraj
Guest
hii amor…my comments are not showing under ur answer..u asked me how old are you both so he is 33 and i am 30..i am very depressed even after 25 days he is not contacting me..he is not missing me.we usually talked for 2-3 hrs daily..i told u in my previous comment that we met on matrimonial site..but he is not even coming online on dat site from the day he broke up with me which shows he is atleast not searching any other girl on matrimonial site..and you also asked how active we are in posting..actually he is more… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

hmm, do they appear as awaiting moderation?
how much did you improve? because that’s the most important part of nc. I think you need to extend to 45 days and to focus in that and in posting in fb too because even if you’re not friends, there’s still a possibility that he will check that and it’s more natural to have a lot of posts in fb..you need to aim to be the ungettable girl. Check this one:
The Ungettable Girl

aviraj
Guest

thanks i reaad that section on the ungettable girl.amor you said i should focus on posting on fb.but from last one week i have deactivated my fb account.plz suggest should i start posting on fb that having fun with friends,watching movie,having lunch or enjoying with friends etc things on fb to make him feel that i am very ok without him.plz suggest what type of posts should i post on fb..thanks

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yes you should reactivate it and be active in posting anything you can post. Start with a good profile pic

aviraj
Guest
hiii amor.thanks for reply.i have reactivated my fb account and started posting on fb.and about nice profile pic…actually my profile pic is already very nice.and i am active in changing my dp on whatsapp.but amor even after 28 days.he is not giving any signal that he miss me or not..actually i have checked in one famous parlour on fb and people started commenting that pre bridal start? when is the day? but first of all i don’t knw whether he is checking my profile and if he is checking even then he is not giving me any signal.i don’t knw… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

first, there was not enough for him to regret for when you started nc because he doesnt6 see you living life, having fun, improving and being better.
because there’s a high chance that he had checked it before.. now, if you have mutual friends, that would help if you go out with them because he will see when they tag you..but if he doesn’t check now, that’s ok..as long as he has something to see once he gets curious when you start to do the building rapport phase

aviraj
Guest

amor actually i got ready for some wedding and i put a pic of my eyes with full eye make up as my cover pic on fb and people started thinking that i am getting married.now the problem is that what if he will see that pic and comments as my friends are congratulating me on fb and from the day i got activated on fb he hasn’t posted anything..do you think all this what is going on will help me in making him getting jealous or i should make it clear on fb that i am not getting married

aviraj
Guest

and we don’t have any mutual friend..and thanku so much for ur replies..

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome! it would be better to make it clear in the comments that you’re not getting married, but that’s a good click bait if he sees it, it can make him wonder. And other than that, just a reminder, post other activities, especially the ones that you look good, happy, playful, having fun or mysterious..

aviraj
Guest

hiiii amor..amor even after 32 days of no contact period he is not making any effort.he is not posting any activity on fb from the day i started posting my activities on fb.he is also not much active on whatsapp but as u said i am very active now a days on fb but still no results..plz help me amor.

aviraj
Guest
one more thing amor..i am very confused that why he is not coming online as much as he came before..if he comes online on whatsapp then its most of the time its jus for few seconds then again after 1-2 hrs for 5-10 seconds or at the max for 1-2 minutes..earlier it was not like that.it is possible that he is checking me but i can’t say it for sure.i have changed my profile pic with a new and very beautiful dp. amor everyone is saying that 32 days are too much and he will not gonna come back.but i… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it can be because he doesn’t want to see your posts because he’s still affected.. It doesn’t matter if he’s online or not during nc..if he doesn’t want to get back together,.then he has to see that you’re moving on for him to take a chance on being friendly..because if he doesn’t want to get back, he would be annoyed if he thinks you’re chasing..take it as a restart..move on without fully moving on and then slowly rebuild rapport after nc

aviraj
Guest

amor out of frustration i messaged him that listen dont think i called u that was by mistake and there is possibility that this mistake will happen again..so if u want then u can block me..but he didn’t reply and didn’t even block me.the thing that forced me to msg him that he told me many times that his many ex gf’s still called me or message him..i wanted to make him clear i am not doing that..that call was jus by mistake..

aviraj
Guest

amor i am very disturbed..it seems like that he has made his mind..he is not getting affected by anything not with my changed beautiful pic..not with my happy posts and chat with my friends on fb..the only positive sign is till date he has not done even a single activity on fb from the i started posting on fb and secondly he is not coming online on whatsapp..i mean his online behaviour is very different..but the truth of the day is that he is not contacting me.he is not making even a single move..jus fed up with life now

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

then accept that he has moved on.. Now, that would mean all he wants is for you to move on in order to be open on being friendly.. if he sees that through your posts whether during nc or after you sent initial text, that’s good.

aviraj
Guest
hii amor…my comments are not showing under ur answer..u asked me how old are you both so he is 33 and i am 30..i am very depressed even after 25 days he is not contacting me..he is not missing me.we usually talked for 2-3 hrs daily..i told u in my previous comment that we met on matrimonial site..but he is not even coming online on dat site from the day he broke up with me which shows he is atleast not searching any other girl on matrimonial site..and you also asked how active we are in posting..actually he is more… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

hmm, do they appear as awaiting moderation?
how much did you improve? because that’s the most important part of nc. I think you need to extend to 45 days and to focus in that and in posting in fb too because even if you’re not friends, there’s still a possibility that he will check that and it’s more natural to have a lot of posts in fb..you need to aim to be the ungettable girl. Check this one:
The Ungettable Girl

aviraj
Guest

thanks i reaad that section on the ungettable girl.amor you said i should focus on posting on fb.but from last one week i have deactivated my fb account.plz suggest should i start posting on fb that having fun with friends,watching movie,having lunch or enjoying with friends etc things on fb to make him feel that i am very ok without him.plz suggest what type of posts should i post on fb..thanks

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yes you should reactivate it and be active in posting anything you can post. Start with a good profile pic

aviraj
Guest
hiii amor.thanks for reply.i have reactivated my fb account and started posting on fb.and about nice profile pic…actually my profile pic is already very nice.and i am active in changing my dp on whatsapp.but amor even after 28 days.he is not giving any signal that he miss me or not..actually i have checked in one famous parlour on fb and people started commenting that pre bridal start? when is the day? but first of all i don’t knw whether he is checking my profile and if he is checking even then he is not giving me any signal.i don’t knw… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

first, there was not enough for him to regret for when you started nc because he doesnt6 see you living life, having fun, improving and being better.
because there’s a high chance that he had checked it before.. now, if you have mutual friends, that would help if you go out with them because he will see when they tag you..but if he doesn’t check now, that’s ok..as long as he has something to see once he gets curious when you start to do the building rapport phase

aviraj
Guest

amor actually i got ready for some wedding and i put a pic of my eyes with full eye make up as my cover pic on fb and people started thinking that i am getting married.now the problem is that what if he will see that pic and comments as my friends are congratulating me on fb and from the day i got activated on fb he hasn’t posted anything..do you think all this what is going on will help me in making him getting jealous or i should make it clear on fb that i am not getting married

aviraj
Guest

and we don’t have any mutual friend..and thanku so much for ur replies..

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome! it would be better to make it clear in the comments that you’re not getting married, but that’s a good click bait if he sees it, it can make him wonder. And other than that, just a reminder, post other activities, especially the ones that you look good, happy, playful, having fun or mysterious..

aviraj
Guest

hiiii amor..amor even after 32 days of no contact period he is not making any effort.he is not posting any activity on fb from the day i started posting my activities on fb.he is also not much active on whatsapp but as u said i am very active now a days on fb but still no results..plz help me amor.

aviraj
Guest
one more thing amor..i am very confused that why he is not coming online as much as he came before..if he comes online on whatsapp then its most of the time its jus for few seconds then again after 1-2 hrs for 5-10 seconds or at the max for 1-2 minutes..earlier it was not like that.it is possible that he is checking me but i can’t say it for sure.i have changed my profile pic with a new and very beautiful dp. amor everyone is saying that 32 days are too much and he will not gonna come back.but i… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it can be because he doesn’t want to see your posts because he’s still affected.. It doesn’t matter if he’s online or not during nc..if he doesn’t want to get back together,.then he has to see that you’re moving on for him to take a chance on being friendly..because if he doesn’t want to get back, he would be annoyed if he thinks you’re chasing..take it as a restart..move on without fully moving on and then slowly rebuild rapport after nc

aviraj
Guest

amor out of frustration i messaged him that listen dont think i called u that was by mistake and there is possibility that this mistake will happen again..so if u want then u can block me..but he didn’t reply and didn’t even block me.the thing that forced me to msg him that he told me many times that his many ex gf’s still called me or message him..i wanted to make him clear i am not doing that..that call was jus by mistake..

aviraj
Guest

amor i am very disturbed..it seems like that he has made his mind..he is not getting affected by anything not with my changed beautiful pic..not with my happy posts and chat with my friends on fb..the only positive sign is till date he has not done even a single activity on fb from the i started posting on fb and secondly he is not coming online on whatsapp..i mean his online behaviour is very different..but the truth of the day is that he is not contacting me.he is not making even a single move..jus fed up with life now

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

then accept that he has moved on.. Now, that would mean all he wants is for you to move on in order to be open on being friendly.. if he sees that through your posts whether during nc or after you sent initial text, that’s good.