Your Ex Boyfriend Blocked You… What Now? (Video)

"I Can't Believe I Actually Have a Chance of Getting Him Back!"

Man… It’s been a while since I’ve posted a video, huh?

Turns out it’s not so easy to film when you go on vacation for Christmas and have a baby…

Who knew?

Anyways, after a long wait I have another video for you guys and it’s a goofy one.

I swear, I am having a little too much fun in these videos.

So, without further ado here is what to do if your ex boyfriend has blocked you.

Video Transcript

(Before I post this video transcript I want to give a special shout out to the newest member of the Ex Boyfriend Recovery team, Amor. She is going to be answering all of your comments and doing transcripts for us. So, be nice if you have the pleasure of talking to her. Thanks Amor!)

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Talk to the hand! You are blocked! That was weird. Anyways, today we’re going to be talking about what to do if your ex-boyfriend blocks you.

I’ll see you on the other side.

(INTRO)

There’s no doubt about it that it really sucks when an ex-boyfriend blocks you. I imagine there’s no greater feeling of depression for a woman who wants her ex-boyfriend back so bad but she has no way of contacting him. So, what I’m going to do for you today or what this entire video is going to do for you is, I’m going to teach what to do if your ex-boyfriend has blocked you and potentially how you can get him to unblock you.

But first, before we get into any of the details, we need to discuss the two types of blocking that your ex-boyfriend can do to you. First off, we have the partial block. A lot of women make this a lot more complicated than it has to be. The partial block is really simple. It’s basically when your ex-boyfriend blocks you in one way but you can still contact him in another way. Let me give you an example. Let’s say that I blocked you on Facebook but you could still text me with your phone, call me with your phone, email me or use an application like WhatsApp or something likethat. Well, if this were all to occur, you’ll be considered to be in the partial block. Now, let’s get to the holy grail of badness.

Holy Grail of badness?! What the heck?

Oh come on. Don’t tell you’ve never heard of the holy grail of badness?

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Yeah Chris? That’s a cup.

Whatever. Look the holy grail of badness is basically what I like to call the full out block. It’s as bad as it can get. It’s where you have no way of contacting of your ex-boyfriend but you can’t contact him through Facebook, through text messages, through just phone calls. You’re blocked everywhere imaginable. It’s a bad place to be and that’s why from this point on, we’re going to be operating under an assumption. The assumption, you’re in the midst of the holy grail of badness.

(HUMMING SKIT)

Dude, enough with cup!

Alright, fine. I won’t do the cup anymore…

Anyways, here is what I’m trying to get at. We’re going to be operating under an assumption and the assumption is that you’re in a full out block.

So, basically from this point on in the video, I’m going to be teaching you how to get out of the worst case scenario of full out block. I find a lot of women wonder why. Why would my ex-boyfriend block me? Of all the people in the world!

Let me tell you.

Anger.

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You’re annoying him.

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It hurts him too much to look at your picture.

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Out of spite.

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And finally the simple fact that he just maybe wants to get over you.

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Now, ignoring that last one. What you can you do if you were in a full out block butyour ex-boyfriend, you think, still has feelings for you?

Glad you asked.

There are three basic strategies that you can employ to get your ex-boyfriend to unblock you. But before we get into that I feel I should give you a bit of a disclaimer here. If you’re blocked, there’s no way around it. It’s a bad situation to be in. In fact, I would say it definitely lowers your chances of success. Now, that doesn’t mean you can’t have success. You just need to change your mindset of that. Try not to look at this entire process as “Oh, if he doesn’t contact me or if I don’t get him to unblock me, I’ve lost everything and the world is ending!”

Whoa. You’re not serious. The world is really not ending right?

No, you idiot.

Look, the world’s not ending if your ex-boyfriend doesn’t contact you and the world’s not ending if you don’t get him back. A lot of women fail at this entire process of trying to get an ex- boyfriend back because they enter it with the mindset that they have something to lose. I don’t understand this mindset because if you went through a breakup, you’ve kind of already lost everything. So, what I like to tell women is enter this with the mindset that you have nothing to lose. The odds are in your favor if you have that mindset because it’s sort of like an armor. It’s not going to hurt you if things don’t go your way. And if they do go your way well, hey great risks come with great rewards sometimes but, enough talk. Let’s get right down to it. Here are my three strategies for getting an ex-boyfriend to unblock you.

Strategy One- Do Nothing/No Contact

Please don’t tell me that fooled you. Did you check your audio or your phone or your computer?

Well anyways, that little skip was supposed to signify the no contact rule. Now, you’re maybe wondering, what does the no contact rule have to do with getting you ex to unblock you? Well, I’ve been doing this a long time and I’ve seen a lot of situations particularly those wherein a man has blocked a woman. For any of the reason I’ve said before, here’s what I found to be the case.

Often times is the woman does nothing. Yes, doing nothing. He’ll unblock her. So, that’s why I recommend to do the no contact rule. Right now, the situation is out of your control. Your ex-boyfriend pretty much has all the power. He can choose to unblock you or choose to block you or again if he unblocked you or choose to continue blocking you. So, rather than fret and try to scramble right off the bat. I think you’d do the no contact rule. Really work on yourself during the no contact rule. Try to get your mind off him. Have an active no contact rule.

You cannot be serious. That’s your advice, do nothing?

Chill. Chill. That’s not the only advice.

Strategy Two: Use Social Media To Your Advantage

Hmm. Alright. Social media. Just going to post something up right now.

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It’s true!

In one of my other videos, I cited a study about social media in which a graduate candidate- a graduate studies candidate interviewed something like 200 people and determined that 88% of them after a break up check their exes Facebook profile. So, that got me thinking.

Well, that’s pretty much a 90% chance that your ex-boyfriend is going to come strolling around your Facebook profile, why not use it to our advantage?

Now, I know what you’re thinking. “Hey dummy. We’re blocked. Everywhere. How is he going to see our Facebook profile?” You know.. there’s this funny thing called friends and friends often have Facebook profiles and friends often want to help out their other friends.

So, it’s not all that impossible that he can go up to his friend Austin and say, “Hey, Austin. I’m kind of curious to see what Cassie—”

Because you know, I hope your name is Cassie.”—I want to see what Cassie’s up to.”

“Oh, sure man. Just come on my Facebook profile. We can see. I’m friends with her.”

It happens.

So, why not take advantage of that opportunity? Why not post something on Facebook that will catch his eye. That will make him want to talk to you. Now, as for what to post. That’s completely up to you. I recommend going by my site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery for ideas. I do in depth explanations of what you can do on Facebook to catch his eye and get him to text you. But without a doubt, the method that I’m about to teach you next is probably my most successful when it comes to getting a man to unblock you.

Strategy Three: The Good News/Bad News Friend Tactic

Hey Chris! I got some good and I got some bad news.

What’s the good news?

You’re awesome!

I totally know. Alright, what’s the bad news?

You’re also totally conceited.

Ah the good news, bad news best friend strategy. It’s kind of a mouthful to say but here’s the premise of it. You’re going to be telling your ex-boyfriend’s best friend something shocking.

Something so shocking that he’ll have no choice but to tell his friend, your ex-boyfriend, what you told him. Ideally, if you make this shocking enough, your ex-boyfriend will unblock you to talk to you about it. Let me give you an example. We’re going to do a little bit of a role play here and what we’re playing is going to be you. Basically we’re going to pretend that you are in the midst of text messaging your ex-boyfriend’s best friend in the hopes that you will deliver something so shocking to him that he’s going to message your ex and your ex will unblock you to talk to you about it. Now, you’re maybe wondering.

What kind of news should I deliver?

Should the news be bad or good? Well, either one can work but I tend to think always leaving a

good feeling will always trumps leaving the bad feeling.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say that you tell your ex-boyfriend’s best friend that you got a limb chopped off or something. That’s pretty shocking bad news. Okay? Now, let’s also pretend that you ran into Brad Pitt. That’s shocking. Everyone wants to hear that. You ran into Brad Pitt and you have a picture.

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Anyways, you ran into Brad Pitt and you have a picture and you send this picture to your ex-boyfriend’s best friend. That’s pretty shocking. He will most likely tell your ex-boyfriend about it and hopefully if the news is shocking enough or interesting enough, your ex will unblock you to talk to you about it.

That’s the premise.

Now, what should this text message look like?

I’m glad you asked. You know I like to think of text messaging kind of like a game of poker. You never really want to tip your opponent off on what kind of hand you have. You want to bluff. Well, text messaging an ex- boyfriend or an ex-boyfriend’s best friend in this case, it will be a little like playing poker. You never really want to let your ex-boyfriend’s best friend know what your true motive is. You want everything to sound as natural as possible.

So, how do you do that? Well, take a look at this text message. This is ideal type of text message that you want to send your ex-boyfriend’s friend. It’s very natural looking. Nothing really seems forced. It’s just sort of like, “Hey, look who I ran into. Brad Pitt. Here’s a picture.”

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Again, that’s one handsome devil.

So one last thing that I want to leave you with before this video ends. The only way that the good news, bad news method works, is if the news you go over is so shocking that it forces your ex- boyfriend to unblock you. That’s the only way it works. Now, does it have a 100% success rate?

Absolutely not.

Nothing does but it’s going to yield you more success than if you sat on your butt and did nothing.

Think about that.

Hey, thanks for watching this video. I really had a fun time filming it. Unfortunately, my wife couldn’t be in it today due to obligations. So, I’m stuck doing all the skits and I want to leave you with this message.

If you want to learn more about getting your ex-boyfriend back, please visit my website. www.exboyfriendrecovery.com. If you want your question answered, I’m making an active effort to answer every single question that you have in the comments section of YouTube.

Please, please, please ask me questions. I would love to answer them and also please subscribe to the channel.

Thanks guys.

August 2, 2016

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What Do You Think? (226)

  1. Rosie - 0

    Rosie

    My ex and I broke up back in December. We got back together for a week and then he ended things again.

    He told me he didn’t have feelings for me and that he just wanted to be alone. We saw each other again and he asked me if he could still text me sometimes and if when I returned home in 3 months, he could see me.

    For about a week we were texting, I would get anxious and text him about the condition of our relationship and if he still wanted to talk. He told me I was pushing him away and to give him a few days to think.

    I waited 3 days and then texted him a link to a song. We got to talking about how I was doing in therapy and how he was with his depression. He was cold and told me that he hung out with new people, he didn’t seem like himself and I told him I was beginning to feel a little different about him.

    He then told me that he was looking into seeing other people. This is after he told me that we broke up because he needed time to work on his self esteem and he wasn’t interested in a relationship.

    I was mad and I told him how I felt. I told him I hated him. He told me he was sorry and said he would always love me.

    The next day I texted him and apologized for saying I hated him. He accepted my apology. Then he blocked me on everything. I now have no means of communicating with him.

    This is the fourth day and it hurts. A few weeks ago when he blocked me, he unblocked me a few days later. Now he says he has no choice but to move on.

    I feel like I ruined it! I’m going to wait 30 days and try to get in contact through a friend if he hasn’t unblocked me.

    I’m not sure what else I can do. He told me he wanted to see other people and move on, I think it’s a possibility he just said that because he knows it’s the only thing that would make me go away.

    To me, it doesn’t make any sense why he would still say I was his best girlfriend, that I’m special to him and he still loves me, but that he wants to date other people?

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    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Rosie,

      I think what he meant is that he loves you as a friend.. dont just wait.. be active and aim to be the ungettable.girl

    • Rosie - 0

      Rosie

      I used to be the UG for him!

      In some ways I think I still am, but I feel like I tarnished that by asking multiple times to try our relationship again.

      I’m not sure how to prove to him that I’m the UG again if he’s blocked me on everything and thinks our breakup is final.

      And I won’t be in the same state as him for another month!
      I’m afraid he’ll find a UG by then to replace me 🙁

      Although, he has really high standards, I’m worried about rebounds.

    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      just stop asking him.. and go on in your life.. You have memories. So even if he finds a rebound, you still have an edge, especially if you’re going to be better than the girl he met.

  2. Sam - 0

    Sam

    Hi Amor.

    I’m having trouble tonight. My ex has blocked me and I found him active on a dating site. Is there any point in me carrying on with no contact. He broke up with me because he said he didn’t think it was love…

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    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Sam,

      If the other choice is to move on, that will be your decision. If you want to chase, don’t.

  3. amber - 0

    amber

    Well my ex was blowing cold and hot, and things went to a head when he got me flowers one night only to flip back later. I called him toxic to me and he blocked me on all channels, we have no mutual friends and his stuff is still with me. I tried texting his best friend to pass his best friend his items but the best friend haven’t read anything yet (FB message request).

    I don’t really want him back but i am upset why he blocked me like that. Does he want me clearly out of his life and move on?

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    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Amber,

      he probably did that out of emotion because he was pissed.

  4. Donna - 0

    Donna

    Amor,
    I know it’s been a while, but I finally wrote a private message to his role playing account today. I was going to send him a private message on Facebook, but since he has never replied on Facebook to me, I figured that would not be the best route to go.

    I still can’t bring myself to go on Instagram in fear of seeing his account and the pictures of him and his rebound girl.

    What would you or Chris say to me reopening my other Twitter account? It doesn’t seem like I have much of any options to reconnecting to my man.

    My weekend hasn’t been all too good since I found out that he has been near my hometown this weekend for a convention and meanwhile, I have moved several states away and had no way of being at the convention anyways. I saw a picture of him at the convention and he looks sad and like he has lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw him, and he was already trim and healthy back then. Does he miss me? I don’t know. Is he mad that I’m not there and he thinks I moved on? I don’t know. I’m really trying to work on myself and trying to use the NC effectively. It’s all really frustrating to me.

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    • Donna - 0

      Donna

      Hi Amor,

      I got a reply from him a few minutes later and I waited until now to answer him back. Hopefully I don’t seem too eager. He didn’t answer my question but he did ask me how I am doing. I told him I’m doing well, keeping the message positive, I told him about a couple things going on in my life and left the message on a high note.

      I hoping that if this really is him, that this conversation will bring us closer to reconnecting again. If not, at least it will give me a sense of confidence that I need. Hopefully some day in the future he will unblock me and I can actually talk to him.

    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi donna,

      that’s good that he answered you.. And yes, it’s ok to reopen your Twitter account.. if he looked like he missed you, then that’s good.. because that means he would want to talk to you

    • Donna - 0

      Donna

      Well that’s the problem. I don’t know for sure 100% that the person behind the role play account is him or not since a friend of mine told me he denied it and said it was a coincidence. But he could be just hiding.

      I just don’t want my heart to be broken any more than it already has. I’m still wary of contacting him on my separate account. He is still making these comments on his Instagram pictures meant for his girlfriend, but it just screams that he is trying to make me and his ex fiancée jealous and angry.

      Plus, if he really misses me, why wouldn’t he unblock me on his main Twitter account?And wouldn’t he have tried to contact me on Facebook too instead of ignoring my messages from last year?

    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      If he really is the guy in the role playing account, that explains why he hasn’t unblocked you,.. he’s playing safe.. He’s trying to gauge, how you are and if you really changed.

    • Donna - 0

      Donna

      I agree with that logic. I went back onto Instagram and left a comment on his picture with his daughter, but he answered back to his friend who commented before me. So I’m assuming he is ignoring me on purpose because he girlfriend is insecure… and I think he might be going through a midlife crisis. I’m just hoping that someday he will be ready to talk to me and we can resolve whatever it is that made him want to block me.

    • Donna - 0

      Donna

      Truthfully, I don’t think I’ve changed negatively. If I did “change” it was me getting upset that he blocked me. Other than that, I wasn’t a clingy person. I had my fulltime job to keep me busy and growing into a better person. Then when he blocked me, it made me wonder if I didn’t do something because I was giving him the space he needed. Usually a man has a good reason why he blocked a girl. But he doesn’t have a good reason because I did nothing wrong. All I know is a friend of mine told me another girl, who I never met in person said something to him about me (I don’t know what was said) on Twitter and he believed it to some extent obviously.
      Will Chris descuss this subject of if your ex hears/reads rumors and believes them and blocks you without asking if it’s true? Should I just send Chris a voice mail and ask him? This whole mess is definitely not what I would call a normal situation.

    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Whatever the rumor is, if it’s not true, it will show in how you live your life.. So, either you maintain yourself or you keep.. We don’t have a specific podcast or blog post about a bf believing rumors yet, so, thank you! I’m going to suggest that. If you want,yes, you can send a voice mail.

  5. Ace - 0

    Ace

    Ok so after a couple failed attempt at contacting me my ex blocked me from all his social media a couple days after he last tried to contact me. So I have a couple questions:
    1. Is this good or bad?
    2. Should I continue the social media aspect of no contact, since he can’t see my posts?
    3.I was wondering if I should extend the no contact period to 45 days since he is clearly emotional right now, I’m currently 24 days no contact.

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    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      as long as your posts are public, he will see them.. it depends on why he blocked you.. If he’s just pissed, just let him cool down.. he’ll probably unblock you once he realizes it was an emotional move..If you’re still blocked at day 30, yes, extend to 45 days

  6. First and ONLY gf going on 8yrs - 0

    First and ONLY gf going on 8yrs

    Okay.. So what if we have played no contact before. Not by reading it. But he used it on me. And choose when he would return not matter what I said. So I forced myself to date someone after a yr and a half of us being appart but after 5 yrs of dating. The reason we broke up I was his first everything and he wanted to experience other things bf settling down. We broke up the new guy and me. I realized why did I push him away. Because he wanted me back and tried. Months later I bumped into him 3 times. 2 times saw me and left third time I said hi. We started vaguely talking. And would sleep together. He says hes never comming back, he doesn’t love me. I am used and gross bc the guy was older then me by 8 yrs. And he still hasnt even been on a date. Well, January he blocked me. But two months later nessaged a friend of mine thought he found me in a dating site wasnt me. But we started emailing. He unblocks me then will reblock me when he leaves. He says things like I know I’m breaking my own rules. So now what?

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    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi,

      sorry I have to clear something out, you’ve been broken up for 5 years now? And he said he will come back to you someday when he’s done having fun?

  7. Kayla - 0

    Kayla

    Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 2 years. The last time we got back together was the best our relationship had ever been. But one day he just decided that he didn’t need a relationship and that he needed to better himself. Which I have a lot of reasons to believe it is untrue. At first after we broke up I constantly blew up his phone and then he blocked me on Facebook and my number but we were talking on snapchat every now and then for about a week. Two weeks ago he unblocked my number and on Facebook and was texting me being really sweet and trying to see me, but last Tuesday we kind of got into an argument. The last thing I said was a paragraph about how I felt and that he can do what ever he wants and that I can find a way to be happy with out him. He blocked me on everything. Facebook, snapchat and my number. I’ve tried to contact him in other ways but he will not talk to me. I’m not sure exactly what I did because things were actually going good and I don’t think I said anything to him to make him this mad at me. He’s never done anything like this and he’s never ignored me likes this. It’s been about a month since the break up and almost a week since the blocking. I don’t know what to do and I’m very upset because he’s never went this long without speaking to me. I feel like no matter what I do he won’t come back

    Reply
    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Kayla,

      start the count of no contact period after this and then do 45 days..that way you could give him space while you’re also improving yourself..

  8. Kris - 0

    Kris

    I’m not blocked on social media. He just unfriended me on everything for the reason that he thinks I have been purposely ignoring him that it pissed him off. I was trying to do NC so I AM purposely ignoring him. it’s like we’re playing a game of hide and seek, he texts me and if I dont respond right away, he would check my snap chat to see what I’ve been up to. So obviously I cant say that Im not on my phone and didnt see his message. That’s what pissed him off he thinks I’m lying to him. Really wanna do active NC but I fail and would respond when he would text me that he’s upset that he thinks I’m ignoring him and I would always try to reason out that.. “I didnt see his text right away”. cause I would only usually reply like the next day or when he starts texting me upset already. Anyways, I knew that he unfriended me after he texted me that he’ll leave me alone. So I kinda got scared and texted him back. But I didnt confront him about the unfriending, instead he admitted that he unfriended me because of the fact that I am purposely ignoring him and he doesnt want to see my posts just to find out that I’m lying to him that “I didnt see his message right away”. So now I’m kind of upset that he unfriended me but I try not to show him that and told him I’m okay with it cause it’s his social media anyway, I’m just thinking now is that a bad thing that he unfriended me? He still texts me almost everyday and even asks to hang out. I’m just concerned as to what does his behavior mean.

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      You have to be strong in no contact because the more you restart the less it’s effect. You should be strong in it because you have more of the reason to do it since he knows how much you love him and that you’re just there available when he needs you.

  9. jazz - 0

    jazz

    Hi,
    i met my bf on instagram, and after chatting for a while we moved on chatting in whatsapp. Then we decided to meet as soon as possible as we were from different countries. He started to apply for visa while we were chattng everyday and knowing each other more.
    I believed both of us had strong feelings and we were very similar we were kind of meant for us. Unfortunately he couldnt get permissions to travel because his problems at work then his father got health issues with his heart so we couldnt meet. But we were planning to travel and meet in another country together soon.
    After one month he started to Get colder and he wrote me he cant start a relationship now because he had so many problems (health and work) which i said i can understand and feel for him that he is having bad times. I decided to give him time And wished him good luck. I didnt write him anything after he said he want to finish. After 5 days i had an accident and share it instagram.
    He wrote me at the same hour good bettering and he was so sorry to hear that and i thanked him sincerely.
    After this last conversation one day before he just blocked me from instagram and i had no idea what caused him to do that, i got very confused as i never contacted him in anyway didnt like anything he shared etc.
    ı am not blocked in whatsapp though, do u think i should try no contact and try to approach him later?

    Btw i tried Chris’ advices on my ex ex bf and even he moved on to other girl he wanted to get back to me and i ignored him in the end so i count myself quite experienced on this.

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Jazz

      there’s no harm if you want to try nc as a last step.. go ahead..

  10. Tammy - 0

    Tammy

    hi , been together for almost 3 years he broke up with me because I wasn’t affectionate enough for him we been on a break for abt 3 months but talking in between trying to make it work but he wasn’t feeling it anymore. so I’m on day 18 of no contact , he called me on day 4 but I didn’t answer and I found out on day 11 tht he blocked me on Instagram and thts the only social media I have him on I dnt have fb but I have his fb password and noticed he added one of his past ex’s. Should I be worried because I am. I cut the no contact down to 21 days. any thoughts ? thanks

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Tammy,

      sorry for the late reply.. you shouldn’t cut it short because it looks like you need to focus more on improving yourself.. you shouldn’t stalk his social media accounts.. be busy on improving yourself, and meeting new people and posting about it.. You have to feel more independent first and more emotionally stable. You have to have your own life first and aim to be the ungettable girl for him to miss you.

  11. CheonSa - 0

    CheonSa

    My ex and I broke up what is now 2 months ago. For the past two months we have been “broken up” aka talking like nothing happened as he said he was regretting his decision. Finally I put my foot down and asked what was going on. I took my own initiative to block him where he called me asked why I blocked him etc. I unblocked him and let him re-add me on social media. He asked me to deactivate his facebook for him when we hung out. He didn’t want to delete me. We started talking less often and I mentioned again “look you wanted to break up”. He flipped out on me and said we had been broken up but I can’t “get over it”. We had a very ugly argument on the phone and he kept telling me he blocks all his ex’s and “cannot remain friends with them”. After he deleted me he then a few hours later refollowed me. We went into NC for about 19 days. I text him exactly how instructed and I got a great response. I waited a few days and followed up similarly. His response started to get abrupt and annoyed. We ended up getting into a huge fight were he called me an “obsessive stalker” blocked me on IG, and another app which is where we do our texting. He then TEXT me to tell me he blocked me but wasn’t going to block my number and argued with me again telling me to “get over it”. Is this one worth pursuing? Every guy I’ve ever dated ALWAYS came back after I moved on. This one is stubborn and I’m loosing my confidence now. Obviously I will go into “NC” because hes blocked me on social media. Sigh.

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Cheonsa,

      if you really want to get back with him, aak yourself why..why is he different than your other exes?

    • Cheonsa - 0

      Cheonsa

      We get a long very well and it was a very “easy” relationship. Only until it was one issue which he didn’t want to talk about and the breakup was what was bad. I feel he is just so stubborn and there is nothing I can do. Sigh. I have been forced to keep busy but the situation is killing me. I feel he will never ever unblock me. Im thinking no contact isn’t gonna work unless the other person is thinking about you.

    • Jennifer Seiter - 0

      Jennifer Seiter

      Did he block you from texting too?

    • Cheonsa - 0

      Cheonsa

      Yes, after I tried NC and then texting he called me a “stalker” because it’s “been a month” and blocked texting/ig/whatsapp etc. anything you can think of. To me it seems if I then try to email or contact from a new number it will seem even more crazy to him. I feel the situation is worse and worse.

    • Cheonsa - 0

      Cheonsa

      To add he has also told me he blocks all his ex’s because “done is done”. I wasn’t sure his intentions as he went back and forth with me. He does not have a new girlfriend. I believe this might be a cultural thing (he is Korean for korea)

    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Then that means the only probably chance is to do a really long nc, and then massively improve yourself.. and hope that during before you even finish nc, he at least likes one of your posts as a sign that he’s open to talking again.

  12. I Got Him Back - 0

    I Got Him Back

    I did exactly what Chris said to do with the No Contact Rules! It was not easy but has been very effective. I was blocked and he doesn’t use social media… However, on those days I wanted to go see him I created a contact with my number and would send my self messages. Sounds WIERD for sure yet it worked for me! So after 71days because I wasn’t ready on day 30; I was too afraid of being rejected so I waited for the right moment. On day 71, I appeared at his job looking amazing! The smile he gave and his words “surprise-surprise…” was the start of us reconnecting. And as I walked in there was a gentleman who approached me flirting and immediately he asked the guy do you know her. I was shocked he was so protective. I told him I got a new job and wanted to share the news with him…then proceeded to leave. I didn’t stay long. However as I was saying goodbye, he then said, I’ll call you I hope you been good. It wasn’t 5mins after I left he sent the first text. So my advice is to try All the steps Chris is providing because they work… I PROMISE IT DID FOR ME! We are now back together!

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  13. anon1 - 0

    anon1

    Hi,

    I had been talking to this guy for a few weeks. We hung out and he expressed that he liked me and everything and he didn’t want me to think that it was just for a hookup; however, he would be distant and always wait for me to contact him. So I was getting mixed signals and I got annoyed with it one day when he blatantly ignored snaps (from snapchat) that he was not really interested in getting to know me. He then blocked me. I’m still not blocked on another app that we used to communicate. So how long should I follow the NC to message him again and what should I say when I do message him?

    Thanks.

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      HI Anon1,

      Try 45 days since you’re blocked, and then list the topics he loves talking about and use that for your texts.

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