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Your Ex Boyfriend Blocked You… What Now? (Video)

Man… It’s been a while since I’ve posted a video, huh?

Turns out it’s not so easy to film when you go on vacation for Christmas and have a baby…

Who knew?

Anyways, after a long wait I have another video for you guys and it’s a goofy one.

I swear, I am having a little too much fun in these videos.

So, without further ado here is what to do if your ex boyfriend has blocked you.

Video Transcript

(Before I post this video transcript I want to give a special shout out to the newest member of the Ex Boyfriend Recovery team, Amor. She is going to be answering all of your comments and doing transcripts for us. So, be nice if you have the pleasure of talking to her. Thanks Amor!)

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Talk to the hand! You are blocked! That was weird. Anyways, today we’re going to be talking about what to do if your ex-boyfriend blocks you.

I’ll see you on the other side.

(INTRO)

There’s no doubt about it that it really sucks when an ex-boyfriend blocks you. I imagine there’s no greater feeling of depression for a woman who wants her ex-boyfriend back so bad but she has no way of contacting him. So, what I’m going to do for you today or what this entire video is going to do for you is, I’m going to teach what to do if your ex-boyfriend has blocked you and potentially how you can get him to unblock you.

But first, before we get into any of the details, we need to discuss the two types of blocking that your ex-boyfriend can do to you. First off, we have the partial block. A lot of women make this a lot more complicated than it has to be. The partial block is really simple. It’s basically when your ex-boyfriend blocks you in one way but you can still contact him in another way. Let me give you an example. Let’s say that I blocked you on Facebook but you could still text me with your phone, call me with your phone, email me or use an application like WhatsApp or something likethat. Well, if this were all to occur, you’ll be considered to be in the partial block. Now, let’s get to the holy grail of badness.

Holy Grail of badness?! What the heck?

Oh come on. Don’t tell you’ve never heard of the holy grail of badness?

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Yeah Chris? That’s a cup.

Whatever. Look the holy grail of badness is basically what I like to call the full out block. It’s as bad as it can get. It’s where you have no way of contacting of your ex-boyfriend but you can’t contact him through Facebook, through text messages, through just phone calls. You’re blocked everywhere imaginable. It’s a bad place to be and that’s why from this point on, we’re going to be operating under an assumption. The assumption, you’re in the midst of the holy grail of badness.

(HUMMING SKIT)

Dude, enough with cup!

Alright, fine. I won’t do the cup anymore…

Anyways, here is what I’m trying to get at. We’re going to be operating under an assumption and the assumption is that you’re in a full out block.

So, basically from this point on in the video, I’m going to be teaching you how to get out of the worst case scenario of full out block. I find a lot of women wonder why. Why would my ex-boyfriend block me? Of all the people in the world!

Let me tell you.

Anger.

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You’re annoying him.

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It hurts him too much to look at your picture.

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Out of spite.

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And finally the simple fact that he just maybe wants to get over you.

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Now, ignoring that last one. What you can you do if you were in a full out block butyour ex-boyfriend, you think, still has feelings for you?

Glad you asked.

There are three basic strategies that you can employ to get your ex-boyfriend to unblock you. But before we get into that I feel I should give you a bit of a disclaimer here. If you’re blocked, there’s no way around it. It’s a bad situation to be in. In fact, I would say it definitely lowers your chances of success. Now, that doesn’t mean you can’t have success. You just need to change your mindset of that. Try not to look at this entire process as “Oh, if he doesn’t contact me or if I don’t get him to unblock me, I’ve lost everything and the world is ending!”

Whoa. You’re not serious. The world is really not ending right?

No, you idiot.

Look, the world’s not ending if your ex-boyfriend doesn’t contact you and the world’s not ending if you don’t get him back. A lot of women fail at this entire process of trying to get an ex- boyfriend back because they enter it with the mindset that they have something to lose. I don’t understand this mindset because if you went through a breakup, you’ve kind of already lost everything. So, what I like to tell women is enter this with the mindset that you have nothing to lose. The odds are in your favor if you have that mindset because it’s sort of like an armor. It’s not going to hurt you if things don’t go your way. And if they do go your way well, hey great risks come with great rewards sometimes but, enough talk. Let’s get right down to it. Here are my three strategies for getting an ex-boyfriend to unblock you.

Strategy One- Do Nothing/No Contact

Please don’t tell me that fooled you. Did you check your audio or your phone or your computer?

Well anyways, that little skip was supposed to signify the no contact rule. Now, you’re maybe wondering, what does the no contact rule have to do with getting you ex to unblock you? Well, I’ve been doing this a long time and I’ve seen a lot of situations particularly those wherein a man has blocked a woman. For any of the reason I’ve said before, here’s what I found to be the case.

Often times is the woman does nothing. Yes, doing nothing. He’ll unblock her. So, that’s why I recommend to do the no contact rule. Right now, the situation is out of your control. Your ex-boyfriend pretty much has all the power. He can choose to unblock you or choose to block you or again if he unblocked you or choose to continue blocking you. So, rather than fret and try to scramble right off the bat. I think you’d do the no contact rule. Really work on yourself during the no contact rule. Try to get your mind off him. Have an active no contact rule.

You cannot be serious. That’s your advice, do nothing?

Chill. Chill. That’s not the only advice.

Strategy Two: Use Social Media To Your Advantage

Hmm. Alright. Social media. Just going to post something up right now.

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It’s true!

In one of my other videos, I cited a study about social media in which a graduate candidate- a graduate studies candidate interviewed something like 200 people and determined that 88% of them after a break up check their exes Facebook profile. So, that got me thinking.

Well, that’s pretty much a 90% chance that your ex-boyfriend is going to come strolling around your Facebook profile, why not use it to our advantage?

Now, I know what you’re thinking. “Hey dummy. We’re blocked. Everywhere. How is he going to see our Facebook profile?” You know.. there’s this funny thing called friends and friends often have Facebook profiles and friends often want to help out their other friends.

So, it’s not all that impossible that he can go up to his friend Austin and say, “Hey, Austin. I’m kind of curious to see what Cassie—”

Because you know, I hope your name is Cassie.”—I want to see what Cassie’s up to.”

“Oh, sure man. Just come on my Facebook profile. We can see. I’m friends with her.”

It happens.

So, why not take advantage of that opportunity? Why not post something on Facebook that will catch his eye. That will make him want to talk to you. Now, as for what to post. That’s completely up to you. I recommend going by my site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery for ideas. I do in depth explanations of what you can do on Facebook to catch his eye and get him to text you. But without a doubt, the method that I’m about to teach you next is probably my most successful when it comes to getting a man to unblock you.

Strategy Three: The Good News/Bad News Friend Tactic

Hey Chris! I got some good and I got some bad news.

What’s the good news?

You’re awesome!

I totally know. Alright, what’s the bad news?

You’re also totally conceited.

Ah the good news, bad news best friend strategy. It’s kind of a mouthful to say but here’s the premise of it. You’re going to be telling your ex-boyfriend’s best friend something shocking.

Something so shocking that he’ll have no choice but to tell his friend, your ex-boyfriend, what you told him. Ideally, if you make this shocking enough, your ex-boyfriend will unblock you to talk to you about it. Let me give you an example. We’re going to do a little bit of a role play here and what we’re playing is going to be you. Basically we’re going to pretend that you are in the midst of text messaging your ex-boyfriend’s best friend in the hopes that you will deliver something so shocking to him that he’s going to message your ex and your ex will unblock you to talk to you about it. Now, you’re maybe wondering.

What kind of news should I deliver?

Should the news be bad or good? Well, either one can work but I tend to think always leaving a

good feeling will always trumps leaving the bad feeling.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say that you tell your ex-boyfriend’s best friend that you got a limb chopped off or something. That’s pretty shocking bad news. Okay? Now, let’s also pretend that you ran into Brad Pitt. That’s shocking. Everyone wants to hear that. You ran into Brad Pitt and you have a picture.

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Anyways, you ran into Brad Pitt and you have a picture and you send this picture to your ex-boyfriend’s best friend. That’s pretty shocking. He will most likely tell your ex-boyfriend about it and hopefully if the news is shocking enough or interesting enough, your ex will unblock you to talk to you about it.

That’s the premise.

Now, what should this text message look like?

I’m glad you asked. You know I like to think of text messaging kind of like a game of poker. You never really want to tip your opponent off on what kind of hand you have. You want to bluff. Well, text messaging an ex- boyfriend or an ex-boyfriend’s best friend in this case, it will be a little like playing poker. You never really want to let your ex-boyfriend’s best friend know what your true motive is. You want everything to sound as natural as possible.

So, how do you do that? Well, take a look at this text message. This is ideal type of text message that you want to send your ex-boyfriend’s friend. It’s very natural looking. Nothing really seems forced. It’s just sort of like, “Hey, look who I ran into. Brad Pitt. Here’s a picture.”

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Again, that’s one handsome devil.

So one last thing that I want to leave you with before this video ends. The only way that the good news, bad news method works, is if the news you go over is so shocking that it forces your ex- boyfriend to unblock you. That’s the only way it works. Now, does it have a 100% success rate?

Absolutely not.

Nothing does but it’s going to yield you more success than if you sat on your butt and did nothing.

Think about that.

Hey, thanks for watching this video. I really had a fun time filming it. Unfortunately, my wife couldn’t be in it today due to obligations. So, I’m stuck doing all the skits and I want to leave you with this message.

If you want to learn more about getting your ex-boyfriend back, please visit my website. www.exboyfriendrecovery.com. If you want your question answered, I’m making an active effort to answer every single question that you have in the comments section of YouTube.

Please, please, please ask me questions. I would love to answer them and also please subscribe to the channel.

Thanks guys.

Written by EBR Teamate

Chris Seiter

282 responses to “Your Ex Boyfriend Blocked You… What Now? (Video)”

  1. Sam says:

    Hello. I have a very unique situation in that my ex-boyfriend reached out to me through a dating website not knowing it was me. I’m a very private person, and I removed my face, and apparently he didn’t recognize me. We had a terrible breakup and I ended up having a mental breakdown after, and begged him back many times. We were together for 2 years although it was bumpy with a lot of fighting etc. The fighting was over nonsense though. Do you need any other info to help with advice? I feel like this is a unique situation and I’m not sure what to do.

  2. EMILY says:

    I am Emily here from Malaysia. I have actually sent my problem to the Contact Us but there is no respond there. I just wish you can give me some clue that what I should do to move on or wait him.

    My ex broke up with me on 29 March 2017 with our relationship almost a year. He got a new gf 28yo on the April. He is 33 and I am 19 that graduating next year. So basically the reason he want to break up with me is because he said we have different path and he does not want me to sacrifice my youth for him since he wish to marry early. So i accepted the reason.

    We didnt contact much for the April but the no contact rules arent applicable on me cause he is my Boss, so basically we still need to discuss about work. We continued to have sex start from May till now. And his gf acknowledge my presence and she confronted to me last week. She told me that at first few months she cannot accept his bf keep attaching with me and cause lot of arguments until the last month my bf told her to plan to get marry next year. She trying to make her position clear to me ‘ future wife’ infront of me with some facts that she met most of his relatives because his mum just pass away on July.

    During the time his mum is admitted in hospital, I went there every night to take care his mum but I did not met up with him or her cause he is midnight shift. At last his mum back to home because of nothing can do by the doctor I still travel every night to his house and visit his mum. I was so shocked because there is the time I only knew she are living in his house.

    We use to be underground because of working issues so we never really let others know we are having relationship, recently our company staff was just too sensitive and they took a photo of us sat on the sofa together and sent to his gf personally. That makes him very angry and after some times i heard that my ex ask her to move back to her place.

    On the last week his gf confronted me because of another issues is our company staff stalk through my personal chat account with my ex and realize we use to be couple and even screenshot our old conversation and send to his gf. At that time, his gf insist us to have a talk 3 person togther and me and my ex refused.

    He treated me better after the day of his gf confronted and we hang out more. But few days ago my friend really think that i should not continue being like this as a sidebitch and they think i deserve better, at that moment i am so confused bcause i really tried to let go before but it doesnt work because we almost texting each other everyday. I’ll get hurt when i see he is with his gf and he knew it, we argue i broken heart, he treat me better and try to make me stay.. Then the same thing still happen like a cycle.

    The moment i am so confused so i check through the google and i found you. I never think there is really expert like this and i read through the no contact rule. And i tried it just for one day he start looking different. But it still fails because i am so fear that he think i have move on so he put back the focus on his gf. I am fear since he still treating his gf like a gf and never have the signal for me think that he is going to decide to choose one.

    i try to comment here because i couldnt comment in the orginal post which is this https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/my-ex-boyfriend-and-i-still-hook-up-how-can-i-get-him-to-commit/

    it keep saying my verification is error. Anyway i just sent the rebreak up text in the passage and i dont know what i did is right or wrong since u said is risky T.T

  3. Sarah says:

    So my boyfriend and I dated for a year. Things started out great, but my mother had a huge mental breakdown, and this happened about a month into dating my ex. I hated being home because my mothers health was getting worse, so my ex would help me any chance he got. Picking me up, letting me stay at his family home, etc . He was amazing and his mom also helped out when my mother threw out all of my clothes, refused to give me insurance info, etc. In December, my mom decided to go back with my abusive father and I had to go along as well. My boyfriend tried to help me find an apartment, but I could tell the stress from my situation was getting to him. I finally found a place, and moved in, alone. He helped me put furniture together and we became closer. He was over constantly, and we were best friends. In May, we went to a party together where I got very drunk and I had told my boyfriend that I loved him but I couldn’t be with him bc he doesn’t love me and never would. I don’t remember saying this, but my ex said I did. The next day after that party, he told me he wanted to break up because I had become very insecure and clingy and he had just started a brand new job and that he needs his space. He did this over the phone and said he would come over that night to talk to me. When he came over that night, he changed his mind and said he wants me in his life and I’m like part of the family and he wants me to stay. But he told me that he is not the type of guy who will text all the time, and that he likes his space. After that, we became even closer and we went to his family cabin together and we were inseparable. He would call me on his way to and from work (his commute was two hours morning and evening) and we’d talk the whole time. In July, his job got even more stressful and he became more distant. He had to help me pay my rent twice in between this time and each time he did it willingly even though I said no. He and I hung out together for the last time around July 21. He spent the night after he was at a friends house. That morning he and I went and got coffee and he dropped me off. That was the last time we really spoke. He was not answering my texts and on August 4, I snap chatted him and he unfriended me. That was when I knew he was done and so i texted him and told him to let me know when he would like to meet in person. He replied “i don’t to be honest” I got upset and demanded that he at least talks to me about what is going on. He agreed to meet that night. He came over and spent 3 hours talking to me. He told me that he needs to work on myself, and I need to work on myself since I had to move out, I live alone for the first time, and he thinks I should try to work on being happy. He said he has felt smothered from the stress of everything. He told me that he thinks I am the nicest person in the world, and he would be honored to have me in his life but right now he needs space, but he told me that he would 100 % reach out to me when he was ready. He said that if I reach out to him first and he’s not ready then just give him more time. And he said that if he reaches out to me first and I don’t respond, then I’m not ready. He also told me to keep everything he had given me. Like his father’s mugs from college, his fan, a couple storage containers and his guitar hero game. He kept telling me that this was not the last time he was going to talk to me. And that he would reach out when he’s ready. He told me that if i need anything to let him know. He was so sweet. He told me to watch this one movie when he left.We hugged goodbye for about 10 minutes and he even shed some tears. Then he left. He added me back on snapchat. The next morning, I texted him and told him that if he needs anything, I am here for him too. I know he said he wanted space, but I just couldn’t. He quickly replied that thank you. Then we kind of continued a conversation for a little bit throughout the day. I didn’t even expect him to text me back. He even started a new convo later in the evening about his new glasses. That night, I texted him about a book I got and he replied “that’s nice” and that was it. In the middle of the night, I watched the movie he suggested and he replied the next morning a funny joke about it. He didn’t respond to my text after that. In the afternoon, he called me. He said his nan was in the hospital after she collapsed when he went to visit her and that he might need my help to watch the dogs because his father was not in town. He had actually called me before he called his dad and he hung up to call him.(His father and grandma live together about two minutes next to me. I walk to work, and his nan waits for me every morning still to talk to me). I quickly got ready but then he texted me and said his town was going to be home shortly, but thank you for being available. He then thanked me a few more times and for the next few days he would send me updates about his grandmother. The day his g grandma was in the hospital, he was texting me a lot. I was confused because he had told me he wanted space so I was honest and told him that I am confused why he was texting me. He replied “yeah idk. I don’t know what I should do or not do” I asked what he meant and he said “I don’t know if I should answer or not” and I told him that he doesn’t have to talk to me, and that I don’t want him to respond if he doesn’t want to and he replied “I know.” I told him I’m sorry for all getting up in my feelings, but i want him to stay in my life because he means a lot to me. He replied “no, it’s okay.”That was about the last conversation we had. It’s been about two weeks now and I have not been able to go a week without texting him. Sometimes he replies, most often he does not. Last night i snap chatted him for the first time about beating a level in a video game he and i has been trying to beat since May. He opened it up right away, but did not respond, as expected. The next day I kind of felt stupid for snapping him. I went on Instagram, and saw that he had viewed my instagram story of a picture of flowers. A few hours later, I went on again and noticed that he had blocked me on instagram, but on no other social media outlets. I was heartbroken. An hour later I texted him bc I was still upset about snapping him and I told him that I did not mean to make him uncomfortable, I was just trying to share my win in the video game and to be funny. I then told him that while it is getting a little easier to give him space, he is still my first person I want to share good things and bad things with and it sucks. He never responded to my text, but he viewed my snap chat story a little while later. That is where the current standing is.
    To make things a little more complicated…a week before he and I broke up his family offered me a job with their high standing insurance company. I have not been able to make ends meet and as a teacher, I can barely afford rent. They offered to pay me more then I could imagine, and enough where I could pay my rent, and bills, and put money away to save for a car (because I literally moved into my apartment with just a box of clothes and no car so i have had to restart). I interviewed and got the job. I start next week. The night my boyfriend and i broke up I told him that his family offered to have me interview for their company and I asked if he would be okay with it. He said of course, he wants me to succeed and do well. His mom and I have talked a lot since all this and she mentioned that her son is so incredibly moody and stressed. I mentioned to her the one day if he knows that I was interviewing, and she said yes and that he was totally fine with it. His mom said this is all strictly professional, but she thinks of me as one of her own and she said that she will try to help me anyway she can.
    So my question is, do you think we have a chance of getting back together? I am nervous that after me texting him about the snap chat thing the other day and him not responding and being blocked from instagram if that means there is no chance. I still have so many feelings for him, and I feel like I am doing better emotionally. I am happier and I have been working on myself. I know its been less then a month since the breakup, but I want him back. He told me that he wants the space, and I feel bad that I have not been able to respect him and give it to him. But I am so scared that he was only telling me that he’d reach out to me eventually to make me feel better. I am worried that he will never reach out to me again. And that makes me so upset. So, what do you think ? And how should I handle this moving forward? I am sorry this is so long and dramatic, but it has been an emotionally tough year with so many changes.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      HI Sarah,

      Start a 30 days nc first.. focus in healing and improving yourself and in posting, don’t chase.. and then continue doing that after nc, while slowly rebuilding rapport with him. That will help increase your chances.

    • Sarah says:

      Than you so much for responding. I am going to start the 30 day NC today. Why do you think he allowed me to keep everything though, and why do you think he blocked me on instagram when he doesn’t even use it? He follows me on snapchat and Facebook and twitter, still. I know I shouldn’t be dwelling, but it’s all very confusing.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      It can mean your posts still affect him and maybe he’s being kind because he knows you need those things more than him

  4. Quiana says:

    My bf of 3 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago. We’ve been on, and off for those years, because of trust issues and have a history of fighting. We lived together, and about a month ago we got into a fight, and I kicked him out forcing him to go back to his mom’s. I realized a day later I made a huge mistake, and begged him to come back. He did, but he was distant and different which made me overly annoying pestering him with constant relationship talks, and finally 2 weeks ago he broke up with me. He told me I embarrassed him with his mom, he doesnt trust that i wont do it again and he couldn’t forgive me. He said he didn’t love me like he used to, and wanted to go back to his moms. My heart was broken. He then told me I need a guy who feels more like I do, and hes doing this for my own good. I then told him we could be good together if we both work on things, but it didnt work. I cried, told him he was a shitty bf, played with emotions and to never talk to me again. I regret it. I haven’t talked to him since (2 weeks). I’m doing no contact. Today he blocked me off of Facebook, and is adding all the same girls/exs he knows I don’t like. I’m scared its really over this time. My questions are… do you think hes finally giving up on us? Could he really have fallen out of love within 2 weeks? Will no contact even work in a situation like this? Do i have any chance of changing his mind? Help!

  5. Eryn says:

    Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up. We’ve been together for 10 years and 10 months. He broke up with me because he said he was no longer happy and he thinks he is falling for another girl. We broke up 2 weeks ago. I never beg or gnat. I let him go easily and even wish him well and happiness. I still want to get him back so I decided to use NC. I am now on my Day 7 NC. But I realized now that he just blocked me on facebook(my old account). I have new account by the way because we have a lot of memories there. Is it a good sign that he blocks me? Do I still matters to him? Do I still bother him in his thoughts? Is it his way of moving on because he cant stop thinking about me?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Eryn,

      make your posts public in your new account. and yes, that’s a good sign that he blocked because he might be missing you.

  6. Claudia says:

    Well I think things is getting serious right now because my boyfriend has a full out block on me. He unfriended me on Facebook and Snapchat, he blocked me from Instagram, Whatsapp. But in fact we were just having a “minor”( what I Thought) fight like bad things have happened in my life and I tried to share with him but he did not comfort me and send cold messages that infuriates me. Then all of a sudden he asked for a break up and just blocked me. Well at this moment it is day 3 of NC, but I read your article saying sometimes men is going to block you forever especially a full out block. Actually I did not feel hurt that much and this is our first break up but I did not cry at all (to be honest). Of course I think it is a pity that we ended our relationship because once we are so in love and I have thought to seek a better ending. Is he going to block me forever? Should I just go on to find another men? lol

  7. Guest says:

    Hi Chris
    My ex broke up wid me for almost 5 months ago. Actually i was a very possessive girlfriend. He also blocked me on whatsapp . Then i went on no contact. N den he unblocked me. And recently i started talking wid him. But he told me dat he has moved on. But i told him dat i haven’t. And it was my mistake dat i also told him somthin really hurtful about the breakup. And he told me not to contact him anymore and blocked me on whatsapp n fb too. I dont kno wat ro do now. I really love him n want him back. Can u please give me some advice?

  8. Guest says:

    Hi Chris
    My ex broke up wid me for almost 5 months ago. Actually i was a very possessive girlfriend. He also blocked me on whatsapp . Then i went on no contact. N den he unblocked me. And recently i started talking wid him. But he told me dat he has moved on. But i told him dat i haven’t. And it was my mistake dat i also told him somthin really hurtful about the breakup. And he told me not to contact him anymore and blocked me on whatsapp n fb too. I dont kno wat ro do now. I really want him back . Can you give me some advice? ?

  9. Guest says:

    Hi Chris…
    My ex boyfriend broke up with me 5 months ago. He told me that I was very possessive and controlling. And he also blocked me on what’s app. Then I went for no contact. N he unblocked me after 3 months. So I jst randomly started talking with him. He was very friendly. He told me that he has moved on. N I told that I haven’t. And I also told somethin hurtful about the breakup. So he got angry n told me not to contact him anymore. N blocked me on fb n what’s app. But I really love him n I want him back. Can you give me some advice? ?

  10. Berry says:

    Okay… thanks :c

    • Berry says:

      All the school is talking about us and there are “teams” like my friends are saying we both did things wrong when we dated and there are his friends who say i was too annoying and he did good to leave… a friend of mine wanted to know my ex’s version and talked to him and then came after to tell me what he told her and he said “i broke up because she was annoying and it pissed me off she would say she would change but never did and everytime i left she would say it again”. when someone mentions me to him he gets really upset and say “she’s a bitch” and “i don’t care about her anymore”.
      what his friends say is true i wasnt a patient/attentive/caring gf especially at the end of our relationship… and i understand he got fed up with my promises of change leading no where. i saw my therapist only once a month when i was dating him because he would say “you dont need it you can change by yourself” but i never managed make big changes… im seeing my therapist again now and i wont stop like before… but he’s really pissed and doesn’t believe in me anymore. :c like i said he left mulitple times when we dated for the same reason and even during this last (and final) break-up he had a bit of hope but then it disappeared when i said one small bad thing and he left for real…
      now im working on improving myself (like i should have during our relationship…) but i feel like he will never be interested again because i let him down so many times… he’s hurt i didnt try to fix things… i really love him but i wasnt a good person 🙁 he started smoking again and gets in trouble with all his teachers now btw… like he used to before we dated… and only hang out with his bff who hates me because he wanted to date me but then lost interest and i got clingy when he changed his mind :((((

  11. Berry says:

    My one year boyfriend (and first love for the two of us) and I broke up many times… At least 7 times now. We both have different problems because of our family and we are easily stressed or anxious. He is the one leaving every time, coming back saying it’s stupid, because he loved me and bad moments happen, we just have to work to make things better and move on together, “you make me so happy when things are okay, why leave for a sad moment?”. But he would return on his words a day or even an hour after, saying he doesn’t love me and that he’s just staying to not make me sad. It happened again 2 days ago, he left, then came back 2 days after saying he just wants to enjoy those holidays we’ve been waiting for for so long (we had 2 weeks of tests non-stop). Then he left again at the end of the day. We were resting on his bed (we spent the day out buying stuff to prepare the holidays and we both cried a lot because when we got back together earlier we both told a lot to each other, but at the end of the conversation it was just relief and joy for both of us), and I noticed he had removed all the things I bought him from his room. I asked him where he put it and if he wanted to put them back with me one day (a stupid sentence I realize now). His mood changed completely. He was all tender and happy before and now he had dead eyes and a cold voice. He said “I don’t love you anymore, that’s why I removed everything, now leave”. It was as if he was someone else and it’s not the first time it happens but it stills got me :c. I asked him if he had lied all day, he replied yes. Then he gave me my stuff without a glance. I was so shocked and angry I asked to see where the stuff I gave him were. I tore a paper fox into pieces out of anger (another bad decision…) (he said “don’t do this in front of me or in my house”…), then we proceeded to choose which one to keep and which to trash. He kept the photos, the plushes, flower with my perfume and a matching bracelet. I said “it was lovely being with you… i wish you the best” and tried to kiss him on the cheek but he threw me out of the house. The day after he sent a text asking if he could pass by to get back one of his plush (a childhood one). So he came. He only looked at me when i arrived he looked sad, i put the things in his bag and then he left as if I wasn’t there with a bored “thanks”. Then I called his mum for work and asked her how he was, and said i thought abt apologizing to him. She asked why and told her the story since she asked… The day later i help a friend with homeworks and she calls him to ask questions abt the homeworks… he’s very bored and she called a second time, i had to explain what we needed in the second call it was very awkward. He has blocked me on facebook, but unfriended/unfollowed on the other things where he is active.
    A week later, i saw him in a programming class. I went to see him at the end, he didnt want to talk and was really annoyed but i pushed a bit i wanted to understand why… he said “youve been a pain for 5 months you never listened now im done. live your life i will live mine”… i apologized he said he didnt care. i said i would come by to give a gift to her mum to say thank her for the work she found me n he yelled “dont talk to her” and i said “it has nothing to do with you gimme a break. its my professonial life sorry it involves your mum.” he kept saying “leave her alone”, i kept responding “it has nothing with you” and i pushed him :'(. then he said “i dont care about my dad why would i care abt my mum” and i was like wtf… “why are you telling me you dont want me to see her then?”. he said “i dont want you to contact her” again and i got really angry and hold him by the collar and told him “dont interfere in my work. you arent the center of the world” and he responded “you arent scaring me” i said “its not my intention. i just want you to let me talk to your mum abt work only”. then i pulled back. he said “if i wanted to talk to you i have your number that i blocked so i wont find it” i said “i wanted to talk because i cared about you” and he responded “i dont care about you. fucking leave.” i walked away but turned back and said “dont give me order im not your dog” and left saying he was a prick… i wanted to cry during the whole thing.
    I’m going NC now but do I have a chance? Or is he really done…

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Let’s say he’s really done.. then act as if you are moving on too.. get him interested through your improvements

  12. Soojin says:

    Thanks Amor.
    So you mean do I need send a clean slate email then 30days no contact again?
    But I sent a begging email after 2days we broke up and afeter that I didn’t anything. Still need to do it again? Thanks so much for your advise 🙂

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      yes, say that you just want to thank him for everything and you understand what happened now, and hope that he has a great life ahead

  13. Soojin says:

    I am in the middle of the no-contact rule with my ex-boyfriend and have been for 3 weeks. It was a messy break up and he was very mad and I kept calling so he blocked me. The last email I sent him was me apologising and that I don’t want to break up and still love him. I told him to give it some time. After three weeks of the no contact rule he hasn’t contacted me. Should I send him a clean slate email and start the no contact rule again? Do I still need to do 30days or 45days? Thank you

    Thanks, looking forward to your answer as soon as possible.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Soojin,

      I think you should because you begged.. and then yes, restart a 30 day nc..

  14. Samantha says:

    I called him 14 times while I didnt know he was hanging with his friend. He said he would block me so I went over to his place unannounced. He was super mad and called me crazy. He full out blocked me. Did I ruin my chances of him ever thinking im not crazy, or for him ever unblocking me, or also getting him back?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Samantha,

      its not yet too late to change and improve in no contact period..

  15. Ana says:

    So I did 45 days of NC with my ex after he blocked me on everything and said I’d never hear from him again.

    At 30 days I sent a really nice email apologizing for my part and making it clear that I’d like to try to make things work. No response.

    Two weeks later, I sent another saying something along the lines of, “I don’t know if you got my last email, but I’d still like to meet up.”

    Huzzah! He responded. He said he had come by my apartment earlier in the day but I was out. His email was friendly. He said we should meet up this Sunday as he’s away with his family for this week but will be back.

    So we have plans to meet.

    But I’ve noticed, he still has me blocked on everything but email. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and phone are all blocked.

    I asked him to text me what time he wants to meet, but rather than text me, he sent an email. So I assumed he deleted my number and I sent it to him in another email and said I also wanted to ask if he was seeing someone because then I feel it would be inappropriate for us to meet up.

    No response yet. I would assume he’s not dating anyone because it would be out of character for him to want to see an ex while he’s dating. Plus, I saw him on Tinder a week ago.

    But my mind is still going wild.

    I can’t understand why he wouldn’t unblock me if he wants to see me. Perhaps he’s being cautious?

    And how should I proceed when we meet? I’ve asked him to come over a little earlier so we can chat and he agreed and said he’d see how much time he has when he gets home.

    I’m worried that he’s going to come over and tell me he just wants to be friends, but I think it’s pretty obvious from my email that that’s not where I stand.

    So I wrote out a letter explaining that I would like things to work out and the boundaries if we do start over. When he comes over, I was going to scope out the situation and then let him read it.

    But I wish I could get inside of his head…why am I still blocked?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Ana,

      you’re rushing it.. It he doesn’t want to get back together, telling him that that’s what you what will either friendzone you or he will avoid you.. have you met?

  16. Ana says:

    So I did 45 days of NC with my ex after he blocked me on everything and said I’d never hear from him again.

    At 30 days I sent a really nice email apologizing for my part and making it clear that I’d like to try to make things work. No response.

    Two weeks later, I sent another saying something along the lines of, “I don’t know if you got my last email, but I’d still like to meet up.”

    Huzzah! He responded. He said he had come by my apartment earlier in the day but I was out. His email was friendly. He said we should meet up this Sunday as he’s away with his family for this week but will be back.

    So we have plans to meet.

    But I’ve noticed, he still has me blocked on everything but email. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and phone are all blocked.

    I asked him to text me what time he wants to meet, but rather than text me, he sent an email. So I assumed he deleted my number and I sent it to him in another email and said I also wanted to ask if he was seeing someone because then I feel it would be inappropriate for us to meet up.

    No response yet. I would assume he’s not dating anyone because it would be out of character for him to want to see an ex while he’s dating. Plus, I saw him on Tinder a week ago.

    But my mind is still going wild.

    I can’t understand why he wouldn’t unblock me if he wants to see me. Perhaps he’s being cautious?

    And how should I proceed when we meet? I’ve asked him to come over a little earlier so we can chat and he agreed and said he’d see how much time he has when he gets home.

    I’m worried that he’s going to come over and tell me he just wants to be friends, but I think it’s pretty obvious from my email that that’s not where I stand.

    So I wrote out a letter explaining that I would like things to work out and the boundaries if we do start over. When he comes over, I was going to scope out the situation and then let him read it.

    But I wish I could get inside of his head…why am I still blocked?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Ana,

      you’re rushing it.. It he doesn’t want to get back together, telling him that that’s what you what will either friendzone you or he will avoid you.. have you met?

  17. sanjukta says:

    Hi… me and my exboyfriend just broken up 2months ago… after breakup also we share good bond… we spend time with each other..we used to talk… everything was almost good.. But suddenly one of my friend said me that my exboyfriend is double standard he was saying all bad bad things about me to his friends and public… after hearing this i got so furious that i blame him for everything i told him hurtfull things that effected him badly… after 2days we had fight again i keep on convincing him that am sorry for hurting him i didnt mean it.. but he is like cant get over my words.. i drop msgs after msgs calls aftr calls but he started avoiding me.. he said he cant forgive me and he dnt want to talk anymore… than he blocked me from phone whatsaap instagram facebook messenger… only he didnt block in my facebook app thats why i can see his post and he can see mine.. but i cnt text him or call me… he clossed all the door for me.. he hates me he said…. what should i do now? I really love him hard…. wont he never talk to me again?wont he never unblocked me again? Pleaseee help me out…. am in pain i cant bear it 3days alrdy gone he blocked me

  18. Mariena says:

    My ex and I broke up after a fight this past December. A few days later I tried to apologize but he ignored me so did to do the No Contact Rule. After 30 days he still ignored me so I waited another 30 days. Now he has me completely blocked. We don’t have any mutual friends and I have no way of contacting him except showing up on his door step. At this point should I just give up? I’ve tried dating improving myself but I can’t get my mind off of him. I feel like I’ll never get over him. I have no idea if he’s dating again and I’m almost ready to just go over to his place and beg for him to come back. Do you think this would be a something worth trying?

    • Mariena says:

      We dated for a year by the way

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Mariena,

      if he blocked you, the last thing he wants is for you to chase. The more you do nc, the less it can help, but how much did you improve in the past two nc? Were you actively posting in social media? What was the first text you sent after the first nc?

    • Mariena says:

      Around the time the 1st NC ended, he was going for a promotion at his job so I reminded how well he did while preparing (helped him prepare) and wished him good luck. After the 2nd NC, I congratulated him on getting the promotion. I only posted a few updates and pictures of my own journey to self improvement such as doing volunteer work and learning better ways to deal with stress. I should also mention that a few days after we met, his brother passed away. I’m wondering if he might have associated me with that tragedy.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      can be.. but it depends on how he views you at that time too. Were you a confidant, somebody he always wanted to see during the dark times of his life or somebody that came along at that time amd he tried to use unintentionally as a rebound from the hurt?

      I think you need to veer away from job topics next time and this time, as a last approach do 45 days

    • Mariena says:

      So you are saying I should wait another 45 days and then try contacting him one last time? I will give it one more try but before I begin, can I tell him one last thing such as I’ll give him all the space he needs? I can still get in touch with him through e-mail.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      I mean you’re already in nc now because you’re blocked right? This no contact will be 45 days at least.Don’t email him. Just live life. You would sound like you’re trying to convince if you further email him since you’re already block.

  19. RedJay says:

    Hi Team Recovery,
    First of all I want to say thank you for the Recovery book. It was helpful and in a way funny to read. It helped me understand certain aspects of why I been acting so odd due to running emotions. To make it short a month ago he said it’s better to say Goodbye, since he doesn’t want to give me hope. We been in a long distance relationship for 6 months. This is or first horrible fight and we split up in December. We talked on and off on January, then I came to this book and started to begin my NC on February. I’m on my 17th day. Yesterday a mutual friend like an art piece I made and he seen it on Instagram. I been focusing a lot on my art and healing. It has been so hard, cause everything inside me screams that I miss him. He hasn’t send my stuff back. Then I come to the following his friends Dog had an operation. I said to her, poor Dog. I hope he gets better soon. My ex blocked me on all social media. It hurts and I try to analyse why. What do I need to do? I’m not going to break my NC, how tempting it is. I’m on 17 days and for me it has been a roller coaster of emotions. I like some advice and prospective.

    Thank you very much.
    RedJay

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      HI Redjay,

      it can still be a good sign, because that can mean he’s still hurting to see your posts.. but right now, try new things too. Widen world and make new friends..

  20. RedJay says:

    Hi Team Recovery,
    First of all I want to say thank you for the Recovery book. It was helpful and in a way funny to read. It helped me understand certain aspects of why I been acting so odd due to running emotions. To make it short a month ago he said it’s better to say Goodbye, since he doesn’t want to give me hope. We been in a long distance relationship for 6 months. This is or first horrible fight and we split up in December. We talked on and off on January, then I came to this book and started to begin my NC on February. I’m on my 17th day. Yesterday a mutual friend like an art piece I made and he seen it on Instagram. I been focusing a lot on my art and healing. It has been so hard, cause everything inside me screams that I miss him. He hasn’t send my stuff back. Then I come to the following his friends Dog had an operation. I said to her, poor Dog. I hope he gets better soon. My ex blocked me on all social media. It hurts and I try to analyse why. What do I need to do? I’m not going to break my NC, how tempting it is. I’m on 17 days and for me it has been a roller coaster of emotions. I like some advice and prospective. Thank you very much.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      HI Redjay,

      it can still be a good sign, because that can mean he’s still hurting to see your posts.. but right now, try new things too. Widen world and make new friends..

  21. Hannah says:

    So I broke up with my ex. We were in ldr for 1 and 3 months. He said he doesn’t love me anymore. We broke up in a good way. He even asked me to be still friend. I still love him so much and want him back. So I start no contact. And I’m in NC for 4 days now. It is the longest time we didn’t talk. But this morning I just know that he blocked me on whatsapp and I’m sure about it. Why he blocked me? I never beg him or annoy him. We broke up in a good way. I just don’t know the reason why he blocked me, it pissed me off actually but I think I should not think about it and focus on my self. Do you know what’s the reason he did that? I’m confused

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Hannah,

      can be good sign, maybe to prevent himself from checking you..

    • Hannah says:

      Hi amor, thanks for reply.
      What do you mean a good sign?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      it can be a good sign that he blocked you because that can mean it still hurts to see your posts..

    • Hannah says:

      Is there any possibilities that he try to forget me? Deep inside my heart don’t want it, but I know there’s nothing I can do anymore. He’s always keep everything on his mind and never let it out. And I’m afraid he will deny his feeling towards me.. Can you explain what’s on men’s head at this time? Thank you amor

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      if he’s affected that means there’s still care. It’s not by human nature to just forget somebody instantly. It takes time. And don’t focus on the negative, it will not help. Whether you get him back, you improved yourself. He lost somebody, you gained a better version of yourself.

    • Hannah says:

      So finally at my 10th day of NC he text me on snapchat and said “hey” which of course I ignored. Why he blocked my whatsapp and still haven’t unblocked it now, but keep me on other applications. I’m confused. And what do you think after he texted me hey that time? Thanks you, need your perspective amor.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      dont read much into it.. if you’re not using snapchat always, maybe he just used that to get a reaction, like him texting hey..

  22. Rosie says:

    My ex and I broke up back in December. We got back together for a week and then he ended things again.

    He told me he didn’t have feelings for me and that he just wanted to be alone. We saw each other again and he asked me if he could still text me sometimes and if when I returned home in 3 months, he could see me.

    For about a week we were texting, I would get anxious and text him about the condition of our relationship and if he still wanted to talk. He told me I was pushing him away and to give him a few days to think.

    I waited 3 days and then texted him a link to a song. We got to talking about how I was doing in therapy and how he was with his depression. He was cold and told me that he hung out with new people, he didn’t seem like himself and I told him I was beginning to feel a little different about him.

    He then told me that he was looking into seeing other people. This is after he told me that we broke up because he needed time to work on his self esteem and he wasn’t interested in a relationship.

    I was mad and I told him how I felt. I told him I hated him. He told me he was sorry and said he would always love me.

    The next day I texted him and apologized for saying I hated him. He accepted my apology. Then he blocked me on everything. I now have no means of communicating with him.

    This is the fourth day and it hurts. A few weeks ago when he blocked me, he unblocked me a few days later. Now he says he has no choice but to move on.

    I feel like I ruined it! I’m going to wait 30 days and try to get in contact through a friend if he hasn’t unblocked me.

    I’m not sure what else I can do. He told me he wanted to see other people and move on, I think it’s a possibility he just said that because he knows it’s the only thing that would make me go away.

    To me, it doesn’t make any sense why he would still say I was his best girlfriend, that I’m special to him and he still loves me, but that he wants to date other people?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Rosie,

      I think what he meant is that he loves you as a friend.. dont just wait.. be active and aim to be the ungettable.girl

    • Rosie says:

      I used to be the UG for him!

      In some ways I think I still am, but I feel like I tarnished that by asking multiple times to try our relationship again.

      I’m not sure how to prove to him that I’m the UG again if he’s blocked me on everything and thinks our breakup is final.

      And I won’t be in the same state as him for another month!
      I’m afraid he’ll find a UG by then to replace me 🙁

      Although, he has really high standards, I’m worried about rebounds.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      just stop asking him.. and go on in your life.. You have memories. So even if he finds a rebound, you still have an edge, especially if you’re going to be better than the girl he met.

  23. Sam says:

    Hi Amor.

    I’m having trouble tonight. My ex has blocked me and I found him active on a dating site. Is there any point in me carrying on with no contact. He broke up with me because he said he didn’t think it was love…

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Sam,

      If the other choice is to move on, that will be your decision. If you want to chase, don’t.

  24. amber says:

    Well my ex was blowing cold and hot, and things went to a head when he got me flowers one night only to flip back later. I called him toxic to me and he blocked me on all channels, we have no mutual friends and his stuff is still with me. I tried texting his best friend to pass his best friend his items but the best friend haven’t read anything yet (FB message request).

    I don’t really want him back but i am upset why he blocked me like that. Does he want me clearly out of his life and move on?

  25. Donna says:

    Amor,
    I know it’s been a while, but I finally wrote a private message to his role playing account today. I was going to send him a private message on Facebook, but since he has never replied on Facebook to me, I figured that would not be the best route to go.

    I still can’t bring myself to go on Instagram in fear of seeing his account and the pictures of him and his rebound girl.

    What would you or Chris say to me reopening my other Twitter account? It doesn’t seem like I have much of any options to reconnecting to my man.

    My weekend hasn’t been all too good since I found out that he has been near my hometown this weekend for a convention and meanwhile, I have moved several states away and had no way of being at the convention anyways. I saw a picture of him at the convention and he looks sad and like he has lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw him, and he was already trim and healthy back then. Does he miss me? I don’t know. Is he mad that I’m not there and he thinks I moved on? I don’t know. I’m really trying to work on myself and trying to use the NC effectively. It’s all really frustrating to me.

    • Donna says:

      Hi Amor,

      I got a reply from him a few minutes later and I waited until now to answer him back. Hopefully I don’t seem too eager. He didn’t answer my question but he did ask me how I am doing. I told him I’m doing well, keeping the message positive, I told him about a couple things going on in my life and left the message on a high note.

      I hoping that if this really is him, that this conversation will bring us closer to reconnecting again. If not, at least it will give me a sense of confidence that I need. Hopefully some day in the future he will unblock me and I can actually talk to him.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi donna,

      that’s good that he answered you.. And yes, it’s ok to reopen your Twitter account.. if he looked like he missed you, then that’s good.. because that means he would want to talk to you

    • Donna says:

      Well that’s the problem. I don’t know for sure 100% that the person behind the role play account is him or not since a friend of mine told me he denied it and said it was a coincidence. But he could be just hiding.

      I just don’t want my heart to be broken any more than it already has. I’m still wary of contacting him on my separate account. He is still making these comments on his Instagram pictures meant for his girlfriend, but it just screams that he is trying to make me and his ex fiancée jealous and angry.

      Plus, if he really misses me, why wouldn’t he unblock me on his main Twitter account?And wouldn’t he have tried to contact me on Facebook too instead of ignoring my messages from last year?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      If he really is the guy in the role playing account, that explains why he hasn’t unblocked you,.. he’s playing safe.. He’s trying to gauge, how you are and if you really changed.

    • Donna says:

      I agree with that logic. I went back onto Instagram and left a comment on his picture with his daughter, but he answered back to his friend who commented before me. So I’m assuming he is ignoring me on purpose because he girlfriend is insecure… and I think he might be going through a midlife crisis. I’m just hoping that someday he will be ready to talk to me and we can resolve whatever it is that made him want to block me.

    • Donna says:

      Truthfully, I don’t think I’ve changed negatively. If I did “change” it was me getting upset that he blocked me. Other than that, I wasn’t a clingy person. I had my fulltime job to keep me busy and growing into a better person. Then when he blocked me, it made me wonder if I didn’t do something because I was giving him the space he needed. Usually a man has a good reason why he blocked a girl. But he doesn’t have a good reason because I did nothing wrong. All I know is a friend of mine told me another girl, who I never met in person said something to him about me (I don’t know what was said) on Twitter and he believed it to some extent obviously.
      Will Chris descuss this subject of if your ex hears/reads rumors and believes them and blocks you without asking if it’s true? Should I just send Chris a voice mail and ask him? This whole mess is definitely not what I would call a normal situation.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Whatever the rumor is, if it’s not true, it will show in how you live your life.. So, either you maintain yourself or you keep.. We don’t have a specific podcast or blog post about a bf believing rumors yet, so, thank you! I’m going to suggest that. If you want,yes, you can send a voice mail.

  26. Ace says:

    Ok so after a couple failed attempt at contacting me my ex blocked me from all his social media a couple days after he last tried to contact me. So I have a couple questions:
    1. Is this good or bad?
    2. Should I continue the social media aspect of no contact, since he can’t see my posts?
    3.I was wondering if I should extend the no contact period to 45 days since he is clearly emotional right now, I’m currently 24 days no contact.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      as long as your posts are public, he will see them.. it depends on why he blocked you.. If he’s just pissed, just let him cool down.. he’ll probably unblock you once he realizes it was an emotional move..If you’re still blocked at day 30, yes, extend to 45 days

  27. First and ONLY gf going on 8yrs says:

    Okay.. So what if we have played no contact before. Not by reading it. But he used it on me. And choose when he would return not matter what I said. So I forced myself to date someone after a yr and a half of us being appart but after 5 yrs of dating. The reason we broke up I was his first everything and he wanted to experience other things bf settling down. We broke up the new guy and me. I realized why did I push him away. Because he wanted me back and tried. Months later I bumped into him 3 times. 2 times saw me and left third time I said hi. We started vaguely talking. And would sleep together. He says hes never comming back, he doesn’t love me. I am used and gross bc the guy was older then me by 8 yrs. And he still hasnt even been on a date. Well, January he blocked me. But two months later nessaged a friend of mine thought he found me in a dating site wasnt me. But we started emailing. He unblocks me then will reblock me when he leaves. He says things like I know I’m breaking my own rules. So now what?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi,

      sorry I have to clear something out, you’ve been broken up for 5 years now? And he said he will come back to you someday when he’s done having fun?

  28. Kayla says:

    Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 2 years. The last time we got back together was the best our relationship had ever been. But one day he just decided that he didn’t need a relationship and that he needed to better himself. Which I have a lot of reasons to believe it is untrue. At first after we broke up I constantly blew up his phone and then he blocked me on Facebook and my number but we were talking on snapchat every now and then for about a week. Two weeks ago he unblocked my number and on Facebook and was texting me being really sweet and trying to see me, but last Tuesday we kind of got into an argument. The last thing I said was a paragraph about how I felt and that he can do what ever he wants and that I can find a way to be happy with out him. He blocked me on everything. Facebook, snapchat and my number. I’ve tried to contact him in other ways but he will not talk to me. I’m not sure exactly what I did because things were actually going good and I don’t think I said anything to him to make him this mad at me. He’s never done anything like this and he’s never ignored me likes this. It’s been about a month since the break up and almost a week since the blocking. I don’t know what to do and I’m very upset because he’s never went this long without speaking to me. I feel like no matter what I do he won’t come back

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Kayla,

      start the count of no contact period after this and then do 45 days..that way you could give him space while you’re also improving yourself..

  29. Kris says:

    I’m not blocked on social media. He just unfriended me on everything for the reason that he thinks I have been purposely ignoring him that it pissed him off. I was trying to do NC so I AM purposely ignoring him. it’s like we’re playing a game of hide and seek, he texts me and if I dont respond right away, he would check my snap chat to see what I’ve been up to. So obviously I cant say that Im not on my phone and didnt see his message. That’s what pissed him off he thinks I’m lying to him. Really wanna do active NC but I fail and would respond when he would text me that he’s upset that he thinks I’m ignoring him and I would always try to reason out that.. “I didnt see his text right away”. cause I would only usually reply like the next day or when he starts texting me upset already. Anyways, I knew that he unfriended me after he texted me that he’ll leave me alone. So I kinda got scared and texted him back. But I didnt confront him about the unfriending, instead he admitted that he unfriended me because of the fact that I am purposely ignoring him and he doesnt want to see my posts just to find out that I’m lying to him that “I didnt see his message right away”. So now I’m kind of upset that he unfriended me but I try not to show him that and told him I’m okay with it cause it’s his social media anyway, I’m just thinking now is that a bad thing that he unfriended me? He still texts me almost everyday and even asks to hang out. I’m just concerned as to what does his behavior mean.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      You have to be strong in no contact because the more you restart the less it’s effect. You should be strong in it because you have more of the reason to do it since he knows how much you love him and that you’re just there available when he needs you.

  30. jazz says:

    Hi,
    i met my bf on instagram, and after chatting for a while we moved on chatting in whatsapp. Then we decided to meet as soon as possible as we were from different countries. He started to apply for visa while we were chattng everyday and knowing each other more.
    I believed both of us had strong feelings and we were very similar we were kind of meant for us. Unfortunately he couldnt get permissions to travel because his problems at work then his father got health issues with his heart so we couldnt meet. But we were planning to travel and meet in another country together soon.
    After one month he started to Get colder and he wrote me he cant start a relationship now because he had so many problems (health and work) which i said i can understand and feel for him that he is having bad times. I decided to give him time And wished him good luck. I didnt write him anything after he said he want to finish. After 5 days i had an accident and share it instagram.
    He wrote me at the same hour good bettering and he was so sorry to hear that and i thanked him sincerely.
    After this last conversation one day before he just blocked me from instagram and i had no idea what caused him to do that, i got very confused as i never contacted him in anyway didnt like anything he shared etc.
    ı am not blocked in whatsapp though, do u think i should try no contact and try to approach him later?

    Btw i tried Chris’ advices on my ex ex bf and even he moved on to other girl he wanted to get back to me and i ignored him in the end so i count myself quite experienced on this.

  31. Tammy says:

    hi , been together for almost 3 years he broke up with me because I wasn’t affectionate enough for him we been on a break for abt 3 months but talking in between trying to make it work but he wasn’t feeling it anymore. so I’m on day 18 of no contact , he called me on day 4 but I didn’t answer and I found out on day 11 tht he blocked me on Instagram and thts the only social media I have him on I dnt have fb but I have his fb password and noticed he added one of his past ex’s. Should I be worried because I am. I cut the no contact down to 21 days. any thoughts ? thanks

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Tammy,

      sorry for the late reply.. you shouldn’t cut it short because it looks like you need to focus more on improving yourself.. you shouldn’t stalk his social media accounts.. be busy on improving yourself, and meeting new people and posting about it.. You have to feel more independent first and more emotionally stable. You have to have your own life first and aim to be the ungettable girl for him to miss you.

  32. CheonSa says:

    My ex and I broke up what is now 2 months ago. For the past two months we have been “broken up” aka talking like nothing happened as he said he was regretting his decision. Finally I put my foot down and asked what was going on. I took my own initiative to block him where he called me asked why I blocked him etc. I unblocked him and let him re-add me on social media. He asked me to deactivate his facebook for him when we hung out. He didn’t want to delete me. We started talking less often and I mentioned again “look you wanted to break up”. He flipped out on me and said we had been broken up but I can’t “get over it”. We had a very ugly argument on the phone and he kept telling me he blocks all his ex’s and “cannot remain friends with them”. After he deleted me he then a few hours later refollowed me. We went into NC for about 19 days. I text him exactly how instructed and I got a great response. I waited a few days and followed up similarly. His response started to get abrupt and annoyed. We ended up getting into a huge fight were he called me an “obsessive stalker” blocked me on IG, and another app which is where we do our texting. He then TEXT me to tell me he blocked me but wasn’t going to block my number and argued with me again telling me to “get over it”. Is this one worth pursuing? Every guy I’ve ever dated ALWAYS came back after I moved on. This one is stubborn and I’m loosing my confidence now. Obviously I will go into “NC” because hes blocked me on social media. Sigh.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Hi Cheonsa,

      if you really want to get back with him, aak yourself why..why is he different than your other exes?

    • Cheonsa says:

      We get a long very well and it was a very “easy” relationship. Only until it was one issue which he didn’t want to talk about and the breakup was what was bad. I feel he is just so stubborn and there is nothing I can do. Sigh. I have been forced to keep busy but the situation is killing me. I feel he will never ever unblock me. Im thinking no contact isn’t gonna work unless the other person is thinking about you.

    • Jennifer Seiter says:

      Did he block you from texting too?

    • Cheonsa says:

      Yes, after I tried NC and then texting he called me a “stalker” because it’s “been a month” and blocked texting/ig/whatsapp etc. anything you can think of. To me it seems if I then try to email or contact from a new number it will seem even more crazy to him. I feel the situation is worse and worse.

    • Cheonsa says:

      To add he has also told me he blocks all his ex’s because “done is done”. I wasn’t sure his intentions as he went back and forth with me. He does not have a new girlfriend. I believe this might be a cultural thing (he is Korean for korea)

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      Then that means the only probably chance is to do a really long nc, and then massively improve yourself.. and hope that during before you even finish nc, he at least likes one of your posts as a sign that he’s open to talking again.

  33. I Got Him Back says:

    I did exactly what Chris said to do with the No Contact Rules! It was not easy but has been very effective. I was blocked and he doesn’t use social media… However, on those days I wanted to go see him I created a contact with my number and would send my self messages. Sounds WIERD for sure yet it worked for me! So after 71days because I wasn’t ready on day 30; I was too afraid of being rejected so I waited for the right moment. On day 71, I appeared at his job looking amazing! The smile he gave and his words “surprise-surprise…” was the start of us reconnecting. And as I walked in there was a gentleman who approached me flirting and immediately he asked the guy do you know her. I was shocked he was so protective. I told him I got a new job and wanted to share the news with him…then proceeded to leave. I didn’t stay long. However as I was saying goodbye, he then said, I’ll call you I hope you been good. It wasn’t 5mins after I left he sent the first text. So my advice is to try All the steps Chris is providing because they work… I PROMISE IT DID FOR ME! We are now back together!

  34. anon1 says:

    Hi,

    I had been talking to this guy for a few weeks. We hung out and he expressed that he liked me and everything and he didn’t want me to think that it was just for a hookup; however, he would be distant and always wait for me to contact him. So I was getting mixed signals and I got annoyed with it one day when he blatantly ignored snaps (from snapchat) that he was not really interested in getting to know me. He then blocked me. I’m still not blocked on another app that we used to communicate. So how long should I follow the NC to message him again and what should I say when I do message him?

    Thanks.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      HI Anon1,

      Try 45 days since you’re blocked, and then list the topics he loves talking about and use that for your texts.

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