Man… It’s been a while since I’ve posted a video, huh?

Turns out it’s not so easy to film when you go on vacation for Christmas and have a baby…

Who knew?

Anyways, after a long wait I have another video for you guys and it’s a goofy one.

I swear, I am having a little too much fun in these videos.

So, without further ado here is what to do if your ex boyfriend has blocked you.

Video Transcript

(Before I post this video transcript I want to give a special shout out to the newest member of the Ex Boyfriend Recovery team, Amor. She is going to be answering all of your comments and doing transcripts for us. So, be nice if you have the pleasure of talking to her. Thanks Amor!)

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Talk to the hand! You are blocked! That was weird. Anyways, today we’re going to be talking about what to do if your ex-boyfriend blocks you.

I’ll see you on the other side.

(INTRO)

There’s no doubt about it that it really sucks when an ex-boyfriend blocks you. I imagine there’s no greater feeling of depression for a woman who wants her ex-boyfriend back so bad but she has no way of contacting him. So, what I’m going to do for you today or what this entire video is going to do for you is, I’m going to teach what to do if your ex-boyfriend has blocked you and potentially how you can get him to unblock you.

But first, before we get into any of the details, we need to discuss the two types of blocking that your ex-boyfriend can do to you. First off, we have the partial block. A lot of women make this a lot more complicated than it has to be. The partial block is really simple. It’s basically when your ex-boyfriend blocks you in one way but you can still contact him in another way. Let me give you an example. Let’s say that I blocked you on Facebook but you could still text me with your phone, call me with your phone, email me or use an application like WhatsApp or something likethat. Well, if this were all to occur, you’ll be considered to be in the partial block. Now, let’s get to the holy grail of badness.

Holy Grail of badness?! What the heck?

Oh come on. Don’t tell you’ve never heard of the holy grail of badness?

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Yeah Chris? That’s a cup.

Whatever. Look the holy grail of badness is basically what I like to call the full out block. It’s as bad as it can get. It’s where you have no way of contacting of your ex-boyfriend but you can’t contact him through Facebook, through text messages, through just phone calls. You’re blocked everywhere imaginable. It’s a bad place to be and that’s why from this point on, we’re going to be operating under an assumption. The assumption, you’re in the midst of the holy grail of badness.

(HUMMING SKIT)

Dude, enough with cup!

Alright, fine. I won’t do the cup anymore…

Anyways, here is what I’m trying to get at. We’re going to be operating under an assumption and the assumption is that you’re in a full out block.

So, basically from this point on in the video, I’m going to be teaching you how to get out of the worst case scenario of full out block. I find a lot of women wonder why. Why would my ex-boyfriend block me? Of all the people in the world!

Let me tell you.

Anger.

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You’re annoying him.

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It hurts him too much to look at your picture.

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Out of spite.

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And finally the simple fact that he just maybe wants to get over you.

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Now, ignoring that last one. What you can you do if you were in a full out block butyour ex-boyfriend, you think, still has feelings for you?

Glad you asked.

There are three basic strategies that you can employ to get your ex-boyfriend to unblock you. But before we get into that I feel I should give you a bit of a disclaimer here. If you’re blocked, there’s no way around it. It’s a bad situation to be in. In fact, I would say it definitely lowers your chances of success. Now, that doesn’t mean you can’t have success. You just need to change your mindset of that. Try not to look at this entire process as “Oh, if he doesn’t contact me or if I don’t get him to unblock me, I’ve lost everything and the world is ending!”

Whoa. You’re not serious. The world is really not ending right?

No, you idiot.

Look, the world’s not ending if your ex-boyfriend doesn’t contact you and the world’s not ending if you don’t get him back. A lot of women fail at this entire process of trying to get an ex- boyfriend back because they enter it with the mindset that they have something to lose. I don’t understand this mindset because if you went through a breakup, you’ve kind of already lost everything. So, what I like to tell women is enter this with the mindset that you have nothing to lose. The odds are in your favor if you have that mindset because it’s sort of like an armor. It’s not going to hurt you if things don’t go your way. And if they do go your way well, hey great risks come with great rewards sometimes but, enough talk. Let’s get right down to it. Here are my three strategies for getting an ex-boyfriend to unblock you.

Strategy One- Do Nothing/No Contact

Please don’t tell me that fooled you. Did you check your audio or your phone or your computer?

Well anyways, that little skip was supposed to signify the no contact rule. Now, you’re maybe wondering, what does the no contact rule have to do with getting you ex to unblock you? Well, I’ve been doing this a long time and I’ve seen a lot of situations particularly those wherein a man has blocked a woman. For any of the reason I’ve said before, here’s what I found to be the case.

Often times is the woman does nothing. Yes, doing nothing. He’ll unblock her. So, that’s why I recommend to do the no contact rule. Right now, the situation is out of your control. Your ex-boyfriend pretty much has all the power. He can choose to unblock you or choose to block you or again if he unblocked you or choose to continue blocking you. So, rather than fret and try to scramble right off the bat. I think you’d do the no contact rule. Really work on yourself during the no contact rule. Try to get your mind off him. Have an active no contact rule.

You cannot be serious. That’s your advice, do nothing?

Chill. Chill. That’s not the only advice.

Strategy Two: Use Social Media To Your Advantage

Hmm. Alright. Social media. Just going to post something up right now.

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It’s true!

In one of my other videos, I cited a study about social media in which a graduate candidate- a graduate studies candidate interviewed something like 200 people and determined that 88% of them after a break up check their exes Facebook profile. So, that got me thinking.

Well, that’s pretty much a 90% chance that your ex-boyfriend is going to come strolling around your Facebook profile, why not use it to our advantage?

Now, I know what you’re thinking. “Hey dummy. We’re blocked. Everywhere. How is he going to see our Facebook profile?” You know.. there’s this funny thing called friends and friends often have Facebook profiles and friends often want to help out their other friends.

So, it’s not all that impossible that he can go up to his friend Austin and say, “Hey, Austin. I’m kind of curious to see what Cassie—”

Because you know, I hope your name is Cassie.”—I want to see what Cassie’s up to.”

“Oh, sure man. Just come on my Facebook profile. We can see. I’m friends with her.”

It happens.

So, why not take advantage of that opportunity? Why not post something on Facebook that will catch his eye. That will make him want to talk to you. Now, as for what to post. That’s completely up to you. I recommend going by my site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery for ideas. I do in depth explanations of what you can do on Facebook to catch his eye and get him to text you. But without a doubt, the method that I’m about to teach you next is probably my most successful when it comes to getting a man to unblock you.

Strategy Three: The Good News/Bad News Friend Tactic

Hey Chris! I got some good and I got some bad news.

What’s the good news?

You’re awesome!

I totally know. Alright, what’s the bad news?

You’re also totally conceited.

Ah the good news, bad news best friend strategy. It’s kind of a mouthful to say but here’s the premise of it. You’re going to be telling your ex-boyfriend’s best friend something shocking.

Something so shocking that he’ll have no choice but to tell his friend, your ex-boyfriend, what you told him. Ideally, if you make this shocking enough, your ex-boyfriend will unblock you to talk to you about it. Let me give you an example. We’re going to do a little bit of a role play here and what we’re playing is going to be you. Basically we’re going to pretend that you are in the midst of text messaging your ex-boyfriend’s best friend in the hopes that you will deliver something so shocking to him that he’s going to message your ex and your ex will unblock you to talk to you about it. Now, you’re maybe wondering.

What kind of news should I deliver?

Should the news be bad or good? Well, either one can work but I tend to think always leaving a

good feeling will always trumps leaving the bad feeling.

Let me give you an example. Let’s say that you tell your ex-boyfriend’s best friend that you got a limb chopped off or something. That’s pretty shocking bad news. Okay? Now, let’s also pretend that you ran into Brad Pitt. That’s shocking. Everyone wants to hear that. You ran into Brad Pitt and you have a picture.

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Anyways, you ran into Brad Pitt and you have a picture and you send this picture to your ex-boyfriend’s best friend. That’s pretty shocking. He will most likely tell your ex-boyfriend about it and hopefully if the news is shocking enough or interesting enough, your ex will unblock you to talk to you about it.

That’s the premise.

Now, what should this text message look like?

I’m glad you asked. You know I like to think of text messaging kind of like a game of poker. You never really want to tip your opponent off on what kind of hand you have. You want to bluff. Well, text messaging an ex- boyfriend or an ex-boyfriend’s best friend in this case, it will be a little like playing poker. You never really want to let your ex-boyfriend’s best friend know what your true motive is. You want everything to sound as natural as possible.

So, how do you do that? Well, take a look at this text message. This is ideal type of text message that you want to send your ex-boyfriend’s friend. It’s very natural looking. Nothing really seems forced. It’s just sort of like, “Hey, look who I ran into. Brad Pitt. Here’s a picture.”

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Again, that’s one handsome devil.

So one last thing that I want to leave you with before this video ends. The only way that the good news, bad news method works, is if the news you go over is so shocking that it forces your ex- boyfriend to unblock you. That’s the only way it works. Now, does it have a 100% success rate?

Absolutely not.

Nothing does but it’s going to yield you more success than if you sat on your butt and did nothing.

Think about that.

Hey, thanks for watching this video. I really had a fun time filming it. Unfortunately, my wife couldn’t be in it today due to obligations. So, I’m stuck doing all the skits and I want to leave you with this message.

If you want to learn more about getting your ex-boyfriend back, please visit my website. www.exboyfriendrecovery.com. If you want your question answered, I’m making an active effort to answer every single question that you have in the comments section of YouTube.

Please, please, please ask me questions. I would love to answer them and also please subscribe to the channel.

Thanks guys.

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604 thoughts on “Your Ex Boyfriend Blocked You… What Now? (Video)”

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    Shane

    March 10, 2018 at 1:41 pm

    What if all his friends hate me as well? And, I unfriended his friends because of all the surrounding issues. Actually one of his so called best friend was actually the real reason why we broke up. How am i going to do the good/bad news?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 13, 2018 at 5:00 pm

      that means youi’re not going to use that tactic.. That’s ok. You can still use the other ones..

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    Shane

    March 10, 2018 at 1:39 pm

    What if all his friends hate me as well? And, i unfriended his friends because of all the surrounding issues. One of his so called best friends was actually the real reason why we broke up. How am i going to do the good/bad news?

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    Lucy

    March 5, 2018 at 12:39 am

    Hi,
    I was in an LDR for 2 years. We broke up 2 months agoe night and I flipped and called him over and over until he blocked me. It’s weird because THAT SAME DAY he said that he would love me until the day he died and that he cared a lot about me. I tried the 30 day rule but obviously that won’t work because he blocked me. He doesn’t have social media, so I can’t post anything for him to see. The only thing that he had was snapchat, which he unfriended me on (I don’t know if he blocked me on there though.) he was going through some hard stuff at home but I don’t know if that was just a cop-out. I’ve reached out, but he never replied. Our break-up wasn’t HORRIBLE, like we weren’t screaming or insulting each other. Did I ruin my chances by begging? Where do I go from here? I desperately want to hear from him again.

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    Akanksha

    January 19, 2018 at 8:30 am

    Hey!!!!
    This is Akanksha…..i had my break up 3 months back….i had my realtionship for almost 9 months….nd after my breakup…..i did stupid things that my ex blocked me from fb…..nd unfriended me from fb……nd i applied no contact after dat…..nd after a month of no contact he blocked me from snapchat……nd we went on a trip with our mutual frnds.. nd he blocked me from fb on the trip itself……i thought things would improve through the no contact….but he never talked to me on the trip for 10 days….i looked the best….i enjoyed myself at the trip….but nothing helped….instead he blocked me from fb…..i reallly need your help…..i really lyk him…..nd we r classmates ……..nd i just cant let him go.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 20, 2018 at 4:15 am

      Hi Akanksha,

      Does he know you want him back?

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    Chanel

    January 16, 2018 at 3:35 pm

    So here’s the thing we are not Facebook friends and I’m not really into social media. Would it still me weird to reach out via Facebook. I think I might try texting first. I know this is way too early to be thinking of.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 18, 2018 at 6:39 am

      It would really be weird.. unless that’s your only way of initiating contact.

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    Chanel

    January 15, 2018 at 6:40 pm

    Hi Amor,

    So I read the article you suggested and did not reach out for his birthday. I’m doing my best to use this time and improve myself. Do you think I have a shot at getting him back. I’m still blocked on whatsapp but I haven’t tried to text Him as I’m in NC. But what if I’m still blocked after the 45 days should I try to reach out through Facebook or his work cell.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 15, 2018 at 8:13 pm

      Hi Chanel,

      Facebook is better but for now just keep improving yourself and being active in posting.. And check this one too:
      EBR 002: What To Do If You Have No Way Of Talking To Your Ex

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    Chanel

    January 4, 2018 at 9:36 pm

    Hi recovery team,
    My ex and I have been dating for almost 3 years. We got into a huge argument a few days ago through text about him going away for his birthday day and not telling me. In which he just stopped responding to me. We broke up one time before where he did the same thing there was no break up conversation he just cut off all communication. But today I noticed he blocked me on whatsapp. It’s only been a few days and I figured he would get over the argument I sent two text messages nothing too crazy. One said good morning and when he didn’t respond the other said I guess you don’t want to be bothered with me. I tried to call two times that night which he sent straight to voicemail. That was two days ago. Today I noticed he blocked me on whatsapp. Pretty much I’ve decided I’m going straight into the NC rule for 45 days and use this time to work on my body. I have enrolled in a 28 day work out challenge. His birthday is in a couple of days. Should I reach out to him. Also if he has me blocked and I don’t have him on social media at all how do I talk to him after the 45days of NC. PS I have never really been into social media it has always been a little strange for me so I hardly ever post. I only have one friend that plays basketball with him from time to time. Should I use that friend to talk about me to him?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 6, 2018 at 12:20 am

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    Sarah

    December 18, 2017 at 9:33 am

    Hello! I have commented on here a few times about my ex and how he helped me through a hard time in my life but then broke up with me in August and then he started talking to me again in September. Well, I’m so I’m still confused and even more hurt. From September all the way through the beginning of November, he would call me on his way home from work, and about 4 out of the 7 days of the week he’d come over and we’d go for a run. He even bought new running shoes so we could keep it up. He started getting strsssed again with student loans and work. At the end of October he told me that he still had feelings for me but didn’t want to hurt me. He kept saying that we are in the situation we are in because I tend to be a little overbearing. I was confused because not once since he had come back in my life did I ask for us to get back together. I didn’t hear from him for a couple of days and I called him to make sure he was okay and he said that he was tired and stressed and he was mad because I was calling him because “ he hasn’t gone one day in a year and a half without seeing my name on his phone”. Which isn’t true but he was just so mad. That night he profusely apologized and said he is just so stressed. He invited me over for dinner. Well, that was in the beginning of the November and that was really the last time we spoke. That next day I asked him if he was able to run and he told me I’d have to run on my own for a while bc he was too busy. I texted him a few times after that a little with not much of a response. For thanksgiving, he his parents are divorced and he spends it with his dad. His step dad and his mom are my bosses (I work at an insurance company) and they knew that with my current situation of my dad being physically abusive that I wouldn’t have anywhere to go for thanksgiving so they invited me and another coworker for thanksgiving. Before I accepted, I messaged my ex and I explained that his mom had invited me and he said that it’s completeky okay and he “wants me to be happy”. I didn’t hear from him again and on thanksgiving I went to his house (again, he wasn’t there he was at his his dads) and I had thanksgiving dinner. He came back from his dads a little bit later and when I saw him he didn’t even look at me or say hi. He barely said hi to his other family members and he just went down to his room. Not only was he rude for not saying hi to me he didn’t even acknowledge his grandparents. His sister who is about three years younger then us came over too and she didn’t say hi to me or anyone in the family either. He ended up taking her home about ten minutes later when I decided to get out of there. His mom was so angry and said that her son has been treating everyone so weirdly lately and she kept apologizing. When I left that night I texted him and told him I’m sorry if I made things weird, I didn’t know everyone was going to be fighting. He didn’t respond and I just got so upset and hurt because the fact that he didn’t even look at me killed me. So I called him and he obviously didn’t pick up. I then noticed he blocked me on Snapchat and he blocked my number. He has never done that before and I was heartbroken. He still follows me on Twitter and Instagram and he always looks at my Instagram story. That next week at work his mom apologized again and said that he has been miserable lately and she doesn’t know why and to just let him be miserable because he’s always like that. He finally unblocked my number yesterday. I know that because my phone acted up after being reset and I accjddtnslly messaged a link to a record to everyone in my contacts list when I tried to send it to my sister. He didn’t respond but it said delivered. Anyways, I’m not sure how to handle this or what to do. He’s the one who came back strong in September when I was starting to get over him and he was honestly as sweet as could be for the last two and a half months. Telling me that I’m a great person, that no matter what he will always be there for me, etc & the whole running together thing. He had to drive an extra half hour on his way home from work just to do that. What could have caused him to ice me out and do you think I’ll ever hear from him again? I noticed he recently became friends on fb with a girl that tried getting with him on New Years last year. He always thought she was annoying AND he doesn’t even use Facebook so I am concerned that they might be hooking up. (I’m obsessing I know). What should I do? Should I try to talk to him? Not knowing why he’s doing this is hurting me. Should I wish him a merry Christmas? He was such an important part of my life and we had become such good friends. When he came back again in my life he was even more open with me then before. Ugh. We are both 24. Please let me know what you think and your advice! Thank you!!

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 20, 2017 at 7:43 pm

      Hi Sarah,

      I think you need to move on.. More probably he was just friendly before because he was still used to having you around..

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    Sarah b

    December 12, 2017 at 3:39 am

    My ex and I were dating for around 6 weeks. We’re both single parents, he’s 31 and I’m 29. Everything from day dot was perfect. He’d say all these beautiful things, was a total gentleman and when we were together he’d always have his hands all over me telling me how sexy I was. The kids got along great too. But then out of nowhere he shut down and started ignoring me. After a few texts of me asking what was wrong he said he thought he was ready for a relationship after being in recovery (he’s a recovering drug addict and been in recovery for nearly 2 years). He said he needed time to digest everything. So after still ignoring me and shutting me out I just left it a day or 2. Out of nowhere he text to say he missed me. So we organize to go stay at his place on that weekend (he lives 2 hours away) again all was perfect. The next day it’s like he couldn’t wait for me to leave. Then I didn’t hear from him again until 4 days later where he said he wasn’t interested in a relationship (yes admittedly I became a gnat in the silent 4 days and I sent a text 3 hours before his “I’m not interested in a relationship ” text saying I can’t do it and that I would organise to drop his belongings off). He told me not to come to his as well. I asked for an explanation and his literal response was “I don’t have an explanation. Can you please just respect that I would like to be left alone”. He blocked me on everything. I’ve entered nc but I’m doubtful I will hear from him or get a response after the NC period. Can you shed any light on why or what was going through his mind? Because we didn’t fight at all and everything was literally perfect. This was really out of left field for me. I don’t believe he faked the feelings because when I did question him on it during his first silent period his response was “don’t tell me what you think I did or didn’t feel “. I’ve read so many articles on here but I feel like this situation is only partially covered.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 14, 2017 at 9:05 am

      Hi Sarah,
      Looks like it went too fast for him..

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    Question

    November 10, 2017 at 8:21 pm

    Me and my ex had a bad break up started a litte over a month ago and I haven’t talked to him in 15 days .. he changed his number and haven’t contacted me . I made a WhatsApp yesterday . He still uses his old one with his old number because when I click on his old contact it shows he’s been online . I wrote him a simple “hey” . He’s been online but hasn’t opened the message because it still shows two grey check marks instead of blue .. but he didn’t block me like I expected ..

    What should I take if this ? Should I attempt to contact him again ? Or should I leave it alone ?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 12, 2017 at 8:20 pm

      If you’re in the no contact rule, you shouldn’t contact him in any way.. sending even just hey is breaking the no contact rule.

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    Sarah

    October 8, 2017 at 4:35 pm

    Hello!
    I commented on here on August 27 about my exboyfriend blocking me on instagram. It was a rather long post about it, and you so kindly responded. I never thought I’d even ever hear from him again. Well, after you responded about healing myself, and doing the no contact, I listened to everything you said. I joined a rugby team, changed up my apartment, and started my job at his family’s insurance company. I didn’t contact him for about two weeks. On around September 18, I went to a college football game and he ended up being there too. He must have known I was there from social media, and I suddenly got a text from him where he jokingly said “stalking me?” I made sure not to answer right away, and I made my answers short, sweet and to the point. The game had just began, and he texted me throughout the game asking where I was sitting & how I was liking the game. I barely responded, and at the end of the game he asked where I was parked and he said that he was tail gating with his family and would love for me to come say hi. I didn’t…I ended up just leaving with my friends. That night, he texted me again asking what I was doing the following day. I told him I am not sure, probably nothing since it was Sunday, and that is my relaxing day to read. He said “Okay, I didn’t know if you wanted to talk or not” I said okay, and I didn’t text him the rest of the night. The next day I didn’t talk to him, until he called me and asked if I was home and he wanted to stop by. He ended up coming over, with a box of hoagies from the football game (his dad always makes hoagies for the games), a box of ice cream from the creamery next to the college, and some iced tea. Things were awkward and he broke the ice by laughing at the desk I put together a couple days earlier. I am not the best at building, and I accidentally put one of the pieces on backwards.He said he would fix it and he did. Afterwards he stood up and just kind of looked me. I gave him a hug and he wouldn’t let go. I asked him if he was okay and he just shook his head. He looked at me for a solid 30 seconds and I made the mistake of kissing him. When we were done he looked at me and said that this isn’t a good idea. He said that he is still so attracted to me, but he still stands firm on the fact that he needs space. He also said that because I work for his family’s company we “wouldn’t allowed to date”. Mind you, we are 24 years old. After his speech, he kind of just changed the subject about why he came. He said that he “wanted to make sure that I know that he isn’t mad at me for working for his family.” I said, confused, that I know he isn’t…I asked him before during and after I took the job that he was okay with it. He ended up staying for about 3 hours and we just talked about EVERYTHING. When he left he said that he still needs “space” and that we are friends.
    After he left, he called me on his way home. He said that hte box the hoagies were in is his dad’s, and he needs the box back so when I am done with the food he will come pick it up. The next day, Monday, he ended up calling me again. When I picked up he told me that this isn’t going to be a new common thing (him calling) and he made some lame excuse for why he was calling. The next day, he called on his way home from work again and said the same thing, that this wasn’t some new thing him calling.. I couldn’t talk long, and I told him “okay, well I have to go, I’ll talk to you later.” He replied “no…you won’t.” I said why, and he said “because I don’t want to. I still need the space” and I said “you’re the one who has been calling me” and he said “fair enough.” Well, he has ended up calling me every day since then. Sometimes, more then once a day. He has come over many times since then and we just talk and hang out. He has said that we are “friends” on numerous occasions, but then he will end up getting me dinner and other nice gestures. Two weeks ago, he called me and asked if I would be interested in going running with him. I used to always ask him to run with me when we were in a relationship, and he told me no because he lives a half hour away and he wouldn’t want to drive an hour home from work, then a half hour to my home just to run and then drive home. When he asked me this two weeks ago, I was shocked. He has since then come over every day after work to go for a mile run with me. I am just confused about everything. I still really like him, and he has told me on numerous occasions this past month of us talking again, that he still really cares for me but he has made side comments that “my problems are not his anymore” but then he will go and try to help. He also finally introcued me to one of his friends who lives further away for the first time. Even though we dated for a year, his friend never came down to our town so it was nice to finally meet him. He brought him over after going to a party, and they both ended up sleeping over and we got breakfast together in the morning. I think he doesn’t know what he wants, and I think he is trying to make excuses and talk himself out of not liking me. I need advice on how to handle this. I don’t want to get hurt again, and while he is being nice and talking to me almost daily, I am scared he will just walk away again. What would you do?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 9, 2017 at 12:26 am

      Hi Sarah,

      You cant avoid getting hurt in any kind of relationship.. But restart nc, stick to at least 30 days and check this one:
      EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

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    Sam

    September 4, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    Hello. I have a very unique situation in that my ex-boyfriend reached out to me through a dating website not knowing it was me. I’m a very private person, and I removed my face, and apparently he didn’t recognize me. We had a terrible breakup and I ended up having a mental breakdown after, and begged him back many times. We were together for 2 years although it was bumpy with a lot of fighting etc. The fighting was over nonsense though. Do you need any other info to help with advice? I feel like this is a unique situation and I’m not sure what to do.

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      Sam

      September 4, 2017 at 4:42 pm

      Forgot to add that the breakup was so bad that he blocked me from everything.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 7, 2017 at 7:48 pm

      HI Sam,

      when and why did you break up? Have you done the no contact period?

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    EMILY

    September 1, 2017 at 4:14 pm

    I am Emily here from Malaysia. I have actually sent my problem to the Contact Us but there is no respond there. I just wish you can give me some clue that what I should do to move on or wait him.

    My ex broke up with me on 29 March 2017 with our relationship almost a year. He got a new gf 28yo on the April. He is 33 and I am 19 that graduating next year. So basically the reason he want to break up with me is because he said we have different path and he does not want me to sacrifice my youth for him since he wish to marry early. So i accepted the reason.

    We didnt contact much for the April but the no contact rules arent applicable on me cause he is my Boss, so basically we still need to discuss about work. We continued to have sex start from May till now. And his gf acknowledge my presence and she confronted to me last week. She told me that at first few months she cannot accept his bf keep attaching with me and cause lot of arguments until the last month my bf told her to plan to get marry next year. She trying to make her position clear to me ‘ future wife’ infront of me with some facts that she met most of his relatives because his mum just pass away on July.

    During the time his mum is admitted in hospital, I went there every night to take care his mum but I did not met up with him or her cause he is midnight shift. At last his mum back to home because of nothing can do by the doctor I still travel every night to his house and visit his mum. I was so shocked because there is the time I only knew she are living in his house.

    We use to be underground because of working issues so we never really let others know we are having relationship, recently our company staff was just too sensitive and they took a photo of us sat on the sofa together and sent to his gf personally. That makes him very angry and after some times i heard that my ex ask her to move back to her place.

    On the last week his gf confronted me because of another issues is our company staff stalk through my personal chat account with my ex and realize we use to be couple and even screenshot our old conversation and send to his gf. At that time, his gf insist us to have a talk 3 person togther and me and my ex refused.

    He treated me better after the day of his gf confronted and we hang out more. But few days ago my friend really think that i should not continue being like this as a sidebitch and they think i deserve better, at that moment i am so confused bcause i really tried to let go before but it doesnt work because we almost texting each other everyday. I’ll get hurt when i see he is with his gf and he knew it, we argue i broken heart, he treat me better and try to make me stay.. Then the same thing still happen like a cycle.

    The moment i am so confused so i check through the google and i found you. I never think there is really expert like this and i read through the no contact rule. And i tried it just for one day he start looking different. But it still fails because i am so fear that he think i have move on so he put back the focus on his gf. I am fear since he still treating his gf like a gf and never have the signal for me think that he is going to decide to choose one.

    i try to comment here because i couldnt comment in the orginal post which is this https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/my-ex-boyfriend-and-i-still-hook-up-how-can-i-get-him-to-commit/

    it keep saying my verification is error. Anyway i just sent the rebreak up text in the passage and i dont know what i did is right or wrong since u said is risky T.T

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 4, 2017 at 6:44 pm

      HI Emily,
      have you checked this one:
      EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

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    Sarah

    August 27, 2017 at 3:22 am

    So my boyfriend and I dated for a year. Things started out great, but my mother had a huge mental breakdown, and this happened about a month into dating my ex. I hated being home because my mothers health was getting worse, so my ex would help me any chance he got. Picking me up, letting me stay at his family home, etc . He was amazing and his mom also helped out when my mother threw out all of my clothes, refused to give me insurance info, etc. In December, my mom decided to go back with my abusive father and I had to go along as well. My boyfriend tried to help me find an apartment, but I could tell the stress from my situation was getting to him. I finally found a place, and moved in, alone. He helped me put furniture together and we became closer. He was over constantly, and we were best friends. In May, we went to a party together where I got very drunk and I had told my boyfriend that I loved him but I couldn’t be with him bc he doesn’t love me and never would. I don’t remember saying this, but my ex said I did. The next day after that party, he told me he wanted to break up because I had become very insecure and clingy and he had just started a brand new job and that he needs his space. He did this over the phone and said he would come over that night to talk to me. When he came over that night, he changed his mind and said he wants me in his life and I’m like part of the family and he wants me to stay. But he told me that he is not the type of guy who will text all the time, and that he likes his space. After that, we became even closer and we went to his family cabin together and we were inseparable. He would call me on his way to and from work (his commute was two hours morning and evening) and we’d talk the whole time. In July, his job got even more stressful and he became more distant. He had to help me pay my rent twice in between this time and each time he did it willingly even though I said no. He and I hung out together for the last time around July 21. He spent the night after he was at a friends house. That morning he and I went and got coffee and he dropped me off. That was the last time we really spoke. He was not answering my texts and on August 4, I snap chatted him and he unfriended me. That was when I knew he was done and so i texted him and told him to let me know when he would like to meet in person. He replied “i don’t to be honest” I got upset and demanded that he at least talks to me about what is going on. He agreed to meet that night. He came over and spent 3 hours talking to me. He told me that he needs to work on myself, and I need to work on myself since I had to move out, I live alone for the first time, and he thinks I should try to work on being happy. He said he has felt smothered from the stress of everything. He told me that he thinks I am the nicest person in the world, and he would be honored to have me in his life but right now he needs space, but he told me that he would 100 % reach out to me when he was ready. He said that if I reach out to him first and he’s not ready then just give him more time. And he said that if he reaches out to me first and I don’t respond, then I’m not ready. He also told me to keep everything he had given me. Like his father’s mugs from college, his fan, a couple storage containers and his guitar hero game. He kept telling me that this was not the last time he was going to talk to me. And that he would reach out when he’s ready. He told me that if i need anything to let him know. He was so sweet. He told me to watch this one movie when he left.We hugged goodbye for about 10 minutes and he even shed some tears. Then he left. He added me back on snapchat. The next morning, I texted him and told him that if he needs anything, I am here for him too. I know he said he wanted space, but I just couldn’t. He quickly replied that thank you. Then we kind of continued a conversation for a little bit throughout the day. I didn’t even expect him to text me back. He even started a new convo later in the evening about his new glasses. That night, I texted him about a book I got and he replied “that’s nice” and that was it. In the middle of the night, I watched the movie he suggested and he replied the next morning a funny joke about it. He didn’t respond to my text after that. In the afternoon, he called me. He said his nan was in the hospital after she collapsed when he went to visit her and that he might need my help to watch the dogs because his father was not in town. He had actually called me before he called his dad and he hung up to call him.(His father and grandma live together about two minutes next to me. I walk to work, and his nan waits for me every morning still to talk to me). I quickly got ready but then he texted me and said his town was going to be home shortly, but thank you for being available. He then thanked me a few more times and for the next few days he would send me updates about his grandmother. The day his g grandma was in the hospital, he was texting me a lot. I was confused because he had told me he wanted space so I was honest and told him that I am confused why he was texting me. He replied “yeah idk. I don’t know what I should do or not do” I asked what he meant and he said “I don’t know if I should answer or not” and I told him that he doesn’t have to talk to me, and that I don’t want him to respond if he doesn’t want to and he replied “I know.” I told him I’m sorry for all getting up in my feelings, but i want him to stay in my life because he means a lot to me. He replied “no, it’s okay.”That was about the last conversation we had. It’s been about two weeks now and I have not been able to go a week without texting him. Sometimes he replies, most often he does not. Last night i snap chatted him for the first time about beating a level in a video game he and i has been trying to beat since May. He opened it up right away, but did not respond, as expected. The next day I kind of felt stupid for snapping him. I went on Instagram, and saw that he had viewed my instagram story of a picture of flowers. A few hours later, I went on again and noticed that he had blocked me on instagram, but on no other social media outlets. I was heartbroken. An hour later I texted him bc I was still upset about snapping him and I told him that I did not mean to make him uncomfortable, I was just trying to share my win in the video game and to be funny. I then told him that while it is getting a little easier to give him space, he is still my first person I want to share good things and bad things with and it sucks. He never responded to my text, but he viewed my snap chat story a little while later. That is where the current standing is.
    To make things a little more complicated…a week before he and I broke up his family offered me a job with their high standing insurance company. I have not been able to make ends meet and as a teacher, I can barely afford rent. They offered to pay me more then I could imagine, and enough where I could pay my rent, and bills, and put money away to save for a car (because I literally moved into my apartment with just a box of clothes and no car so i have had to restart). I interviewed and got the job. I start next week. The night my boyfriend and i broke up I told him that his family offered to have me interview for their company and I asked if he would be okay with it. He said of course, he wants me to succeed and do well. His mom and I have talked a lot since all this and she mentioned that her son is so incredibly moody and stressed. I mentioned to her the one day if he knows that I was interviewing, and she said yes and that he was totally fine with it. His mom said this is all strictly professional, but she thinks of me as one of her own and she said that she will try to help me anyway she can.
    So my question is, do you think we have a chance of getting back together? I am nervous that after me texting him about the snap chat thing the other day and him not responding and being blocked from instagram if that means there is no chance. I still have so many feelings for him, and I feel like I am doing better emotionally. I am happier and I have been working on myself. I know its been less then a month since the breakup, but I want him back. He told me that he wants the space, and I feel bad that I have not been able to respect him and give it to him. But I am so scared that he was only telling me that he’d reach out to me eventually to make me feel better. I am worried that he will never reach out to me again. And that makes me so upset. So, what do you think ? And how should I handle this moving forward? I am sorry this is so long and dramatic, but it has been an emotionally tough year with so many changes.

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      Sarah

      August 27, 2017 at 4:58 pm

      Than you so much for responding. I am going to start the 30 day NC today. Why do you think he allowed me to keep everything though, and why do you think he blocked me on instagram when he doesn’t even use it? He follows me on snapchat and Facebook and twitter, still. I know I shouldn’t be dwelling, but it’s all very confusing.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 28, 2017 at 1:51 pm

      It can mean your posts still affect him and maybe he’s being kind because he knows you need those things more than him

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 27, 2017 at 1:54 pm

      HI Sarah,

      Start a 30 days nc first.. focus in healing and improving yourself and in posting, don’t chase.. and then continue doing that after nc, while slowly rebuilding rapport with him. That will help increase your chances.

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    Quiana

    July 28, 2017 at 10:07 am

    My bf of 3 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago. We’ve been on, and off for those years, because of trust issues and have a history of fighting. We lived together, and about a month ago we got into a fight, and I kicked him out forcing him to go back to his mom’s. I realized a day later I made a huge mistake, and begged him to come back. He did, but he was distant and different which made me overly annoying pestering him with constant relationship talks, and finally 2 weeks ago he broke up with me. He told me I embarrassed him with his mom, he doesnt trust that i wont do it again and he couldn’t forgive me. He said he didn’t love me like he used to, and wanted to go back to his moms. My heart was broken. He then told me I need a guy who feels more like I do, and hes doing this for my own good. I then told him we could be good together if we both work on things, but it didnt work. I cried, told him he was a shitty bf, played with emotions and to never talk to me again. I regret it. I haven’t talked to him since (2 weeks). I’m doing no contact. Today he blocked me off of Facebook, and is adding all the same girls/exs he knows I don’t like. I’m scared its really over this time. My questions are… do you think hes finally giving up on us? Could he really have fallen out of love within 2 weeks? Will no contact even work in a situation like this? Do i have any chance of changing his mind? Help!

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 31, 2017 at 5:50 am

      HI quiana,

      no contact is for you to improve.. not to change somebody else’s mind.. but I think you have a chance. It’s just that living together has been emotionally draining for the both of you.If you do get back together, I think it would be better not to live together.Check this one:
      EBR 060: “Dating Yourself” During No Contact With Veronica Grant

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    Eryn

    July 21, 2017 at 8:15 pm

    Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up. We’ve been together for 10 years and 10 months. He broke up with me because he said he was no longer happy and he thinks he is falling for another girl. We broke up 2 weeks ago. I never beg or gnat. I let him go easily and even wish him well and happiness. I still want to get him back so I decided to use NC. I am now on my Day 7 NC. But I realized now that he just blocked me on facebook(my old account). I have new account by the way because we have a lot of memories there. Is it a good sign that he blocks me? Do I still matters to him? Do I still bother him in his thoughts? Is it his way of moving on because he cant stop thinking about me?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 25, 2017 at 2:35 pm

      Hi Eryn,

      make your posts public in your new account. and yes, that’s a good sign that he blocked because he might be missing you.

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    Claudia

    May 8, 2017 at 10:49 pm

    Well I think things is getting serious right now because my boyfriend has a full out block on me. He unfriended me on Facebook and Snapchat, he blocked me from Instagram, Whatsapp. But in fact we were just having a “minor”( what I Thought) fight like bad things have happened in my life and I tried to share with him but he did not comfort me and send cold messages that infuriates me. Then all of a sudden he asked for a break up and just blocked me. Well at this moment it is day 3 of NC, but I read your article saying sometimes men is going to block you forever especially a full out block. Actually I did not feel hurt that much and this is our first break up but I did not cry at all (to be honest). Of course I think it is a pity that we ended our relationship because once we are so in love and I have thought to seek a better ending. Is he going to block me forever? Should I just go on to find another men? lol

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 11, 2017 at 4:28 pm

      do you want to try the no contact rule?

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    Guest

    April 18, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    Hi Chris
    My ex broke up wid me for almost 5 months ago. Actually i was a very possessive girlfriend. He also blocked me on whatsapp . Then i went on no contact. N den he unblocked me. And recently i started talking wid him. But he told me dat he has moved on. But i told him dat i haven’t. And it was my mistake dat i also told him somthin really hurtful about the breakup. And he told me not to contact him anymore and blocked me on whatsapp n fb too. I dont kno wat ro do now. I really love him n want him back. Can u please give me some advice?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 25, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      Restart nc, imprOve yourself and don’t rush in building rapport

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    Guest

    April 18, 2017 at 5:35 pm

    Hi Chris
    My ex broke up wid me for almost 5 months ago. Actually i was a very possessive girlfriend. He also blocked me on whatsapp . Then i went on no contact. N den he unblocked me. And recently i started talking wid him. But he told me dat he has moved on. But i told him dat i haven’t. And it was my mistake dat i also told him somthin really hurtful about the breakup. And he told me not to contact him anymore and blocked me on whatsapp n fb too. I dont kno wat ro do now. I really want him back . Can you give me some advice? ?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 25, 2017 at 4:19 pm

      Restart nc, imprOve yourself and don’t rush in building rapport

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    Guest

    April 18, 2017 at 5:17 pm

    Hi Chris…
    My ex boyfriend broke up with me 5 months ago. He told me that I was very possessive and controlling. And he also blocked me on what’s app. Then I went for no contact. N he unblocked me after 3 months. So I jst randomly started talking with him. He was very friendly. He told me that he has moved on. N I told that I haven’t. And I also told somethin hurtful about the breakup. So he got angry n told me not to contact him anymore. N blocked me on fb n what’s app. But I really love him n I want him back. Can you give me some advice? ?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 25, 2017 at 4:19 pm

      Restart nc, imprOve yourself and don’t rush in building rapport

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