Today I have a really special article/podcast/episode to show you.
Most of the visitors who come to Ex Boyfriend Recovery are in a constant state of panic where they are thinking things like,
This isn’t going to work…
I don’t have a chance…
He never wants to talk to me again…
Well, Sophia, the subject of today’s episode certainly had many moments like that. However, despite everything she ended up getting her ex back and is quite excited about that fact.
Now, generally when I start interviewing people who have gotten their exes back they know exactly what they did to actually win that ex back.
Sophia was different.
You’ll find that she admits that she has no clue why she got her ex back.
Then she proceeded to tell me her entire story and I started noticing a fascinating trend.
Perhaps the most interesting part of her situation was that her ex had literally blocked her and she was in a constant state of worry trying to figure out.
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What We Talk About In This Episode
- Sophia being blocked by her ex and what she did to get him to unblock her
- How she thought that he would never talk to her again
- Sophia had no clue how she got her ex back
- The importance of creating competition
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Transcript Of The Episode
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Gabrielle
March 12, 2022 at 7:49 pm
I have been seeing a guy for about 4 months and at first it seemed like he was the one. Everything was perfect but at some point I got nervous and so unstable that I kept pushing him away. I think I was his first choice but he finally ran off with the other women he was considering before things got deeper with us. I tried the no contact rule and it worked multiple times (I think she was a rebound) but at some point my anxiety was just too much and I blew every occasion I had to get him back not being enough confortable with the situation. In the end he got official with the other women and when I went to text him he barely spoke to me, invented a lame excuse and left me on read. (He accepted my friend request just before I went to message him) I finally got mad and told him I knew about the other women and blocked him on everything. A few days later I unblocked him but he put his Instagram account on private and blocked me on Snapchat. I think he still has feelings for me because he declared his love at new year’s and I think at the time he taught I was the one. He probably decided I was too much for him quite recently but I want to know if all hope is lost even if I know that logically it’s over. Thank you for answering.
Ronnie
August 30, 2021 at 1:44 pm
my boyfriend and i got in a very bad fight where he walked out in the middle of the night and stated he never wanted to see me again, he was blocking me etc. i called him after thinking he’d be open to talk more and he didn’t answer. shortly days later i found out i was blocked. i lost my mind calling him over & over messaging him on other social media. he has ignored everything. it’s only been 10days since our fight & 3 days since i last reached out. we’ve never fought so bad before and i’m nervous he’ll be done for good.
Kaylin
July 24, 2019 at 11:04 am
My boyfriend of three years (he isplaying rugby and staying in NZ at the moment) just dropped me like a hot potato.
All of the sudden he just told me that he are going through a rough time and he don’t feel the same about our relationship no more. He has been gone for 5 months now. I keep on asking him questions and every time i got an other answer for leaving me. First he said his feelings has faded, then he said he just need time and when he come back home we cant talk stuff out. The nxt morning i woke up i got a message fron him saying its final and nothing will change his mind. Now im in South Africa and he is thousands kilometers away from. He blocked me from every channel i can make contact with him. He said he will never want to get back with me and at the moment he don’t want to be in a relationship.
This morning he told me to drop all his belongings home by his mother. As he will not maybe come back home because he got another opportunity to play rugby in Whales
This past weekend i went to look for a flat for us to stay if he come back home as he promised when he come home we will settle and start our life’s together. He still told me he will send his contribution each month towards the flat. He also told me this morning he don’t love me know more. I asked him if he is seeing some on that side and he said no.
He told his cousin to encourage me to move on with my life as he can stay in a relationship with me because of he don’t feel the same and because of his mother treating him bad all the time because of me. I also dont know if she has a influence on him this time. Because he already went off and break the news of him dumping me even before i could face the world with a shattered heart.
I really didn’t stan in his way to go life his dream and go for the opportunity to play rugby overseas. I told him even if i should have to wait for him for year.
One of his fellow teams mates told me he (my boyfriend) is going through a rough time. And he said he feel a relationship will only keep him back from his success at the moment. And he is not ready for marriage commitments.
I was the one that Always had his back and supported him in everything he did.
I am currently busy to move to the place that we were supposed to move in together. And i have to cancel our home coming holiday
I did apply the no contact rule and yester i dis send him a email. Becaused im blocked in every single way
Chris Seiter
July 24, 2019 at 10:38 pm
I do think sticking with No Contact and rolling it out in the way I talk about in my Program is what is best in this case.
Tony Rimmer
July 7, 2019 at 8:09 pm
Do you have any remedies for men who lost their girlfriends?
I met my ex for 14 years as friends, she came to London to study English from Colombia. She’s 47 in one month and I’ve just turned 54. I have a 10 year old son from a previous relationship. She has no children and only ever had 5 boyfriends who have all cheated on her, she’s never lived with anyone except her parents. She’s very independent, her own home and a lawyer in Colombia.
2.5 years ago we decided to try a relationship together and she’s been flying back and forth for a few months at a time and all has been good except one argument on holiday in Mexico. Last year she had an operation on her spine and is in constant pain, she came to stay for a year but seemed like s different person. She’s been trying very very hard to learn English to improve our communication but we’ve been fighting every month with huge arguments. She also thinks she’s going through the menopause but will not discuss this with me. I cook and clean and support her financially while she’s in the UK, I’ve taken her to doctors and hospital appointments to try and sort out her pain.
She would often sleep in a spare room after arguments for months at a time and lock the door at night as she was scared I might do something, our sex life was virtually nonexistent. So each month I tried to correct things by escaping for romantic weekends with her to Iceland, Paris, Venice, Madrid etc. but we keep fighting over nonsense things and bad communication.
We had one visit to a psychologist who said we need to sit together and talk about our worries and concerns but she refuses to discuss anything with me. The last two months started to get back to normal. Our last fight was was monumental. She was packing to leave me and I ended up throwing her clothes and her out of my house.
She went to stay with her friend and totally blocked me from all contact but came to talk to me with the support other people as she was scared of my aggressive behaviour. She flew back to Colombia 1 month ago and said she needed time to think. 12 days ago she emailed me one paragraph saying she’s too scared to come back and needs to get a job and start her life again.
I sent her many emails asking for forgiveness and agreed to see an anger councillor and said all the things I shouldn’t say begging, pleading etc and I’ve had no contact. I don’t know if my emails are also blocked or not.
I’m trying the 30 days and stopped emailing her 1 week ago to try your method. She has many debts from her operation and with me so I’m worried if she gets a job as a lawyer in Colombia to pay her debts she’ll never come back to me in the UK.
Nathalie
August 9, 2018 at 4:08 pm
Hello I’m going through something similar. You see my ex and I broke up 2 months ago but I never accepted the break up so I stayed at his house a lot while he claimed to be single. I found out about this website now so I started the no contact 4 days ago. Now, he told me if he doesn’t text me by our anniversary which is in like 4 days then it means he’s moved on and I should too. Ah this point I’m scare of what to do. What if he does move on ? What if no contact is going to make us worst. I don’t know what to do. This is a long distance relationship, 4 hours away! Please help me
Jolene
April 27, 2018 at 8:49 pm
Hey Chris. I have been watching every single video and podcast you’ve ever posted even subscribed to emails in the last two weeks… YouTube.. read every article possible. My situation is a little crazy. I have been back and forth between identical twin brothers. I chose the wrong one and now the one I am in love with.. my ex… will not talk to me it’s been four months.. and I GET it! BUT I know we have a deep connection and love each other and the reason it didn’t work out was because the other brother wouldn’t let us live in peace .. he works overtime to keep us apart and rhe one I am in love with would give everything up to be with me.. even risk the relationship with his own brother because of how much we care about each other.. It’s been going on for three years but we remained friends any other time… not this time. He is ignoring me. I am extremely interested in purcausing the product you have but I am stumped on what will work best for my situation. I was looking into the 67 dollar package. He has not blocked me but when I message him he barely responds and most likely not at all. I have started a no contact period over since I sent him a few long texts I never should have sent before I found your process. It’s been about two weeks since I messaged him after four months apart of complete silence. He follows my Instagram and Facebook is public so I know he is checking up on me based on previous experience with him in the past. I want to get him back and keep him forever. Please if you have any insight help me. I just want him in my life and as long as he’s happy that’s all that matters to me. p. s. I’m one of three girls he has ever been intimate with and first true girlfriend. we are29& 30 years old. Thanks for reading. I figured this is a unique situation you may not have helped with before. I can’t stop thinking about him and I know my heart has been missing him this entire four months. Thanks!
Chris Seiter
April 28, 2018 at 4:42 am
Hi Jolene…certainly picking up one of my ebook bundled packages will help you a lot as I wrote these ebooks in order to help women optimize their chances. I agree, this is a rather unique story. You also might consider my Coaching Services. Whichever route you go, the idea is to come up with a game plan once you come up to speed on how this entire process could work for you. You may have to get a little creative here. And don’t be afraid to adapt if things take a turn for the better or worst. If the connection with the brother you wish to be with is truly that strong, then that is something you can leverage.
Giselle
April 26, 2018 at 11:16 am
I had a fwb relationship with a guy much younger about 4 months ago. I thought it wouldn’t last due to the age gap, but mutual romantic feelings got in the way.
He cared for me and I knew he liked me as did I but I also knew he was also looking for someone else who was probably more around his age. I was as well.
Towards the end of the 4 month period, I wasn’t getting many calls or texts to hang out. I stopped initiating as well because I thought the interest had gone.
I met someone new (just as friends) and although it is new, I was thinking about my young fwb guy because of the attraction and existing comfort level.
So I contacted him, told him about the new person and asked if he was seeing anyone. He said he was but wanted to get together to talk.
We met and mutually decided to just pursue the new relationships. It was hard. It still is. I called him up again last week and he said that he was hanging with his new gf.
I felt awful. I told him I missed him and he said he missed me as well and wished he was with me. He said he would meet me but I haven’t confirmed that meeting because he has a gf.
It’s been about 5 days since I have had last contact with him. Any advice on what I should say or do? The whole age difference is making me feel insecure.
Chris Seiter
April 26, 2018 at 2:52 pm
Hi Giselle….Well, my best advice to to make sure you have a comprehensive guide that can help you along the way. I wrote an ebook called, Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro (located on my website Menu/Products) that is massive in length and is designed to help optimize your chances. So go take a look at that at is serves as an excellent Companion Guide. This is a rather complicated situation, but If what he says about missing you is true, then a form of No Contact should be helpful.
Giselle
April 26, 2018 at 9:04 pm
Yeah I think it’s best for me to not have anything to do with him for a while. I’m going to just focus on me. The thing about when he says he misses me…most of the time it is when I tell him I miss him and he responds right away saying that he misses me also…which to me sounds like he’s just responding like for like… However there were a few random times when we have gone without any type of meet up for up to 2 weeks and I would get a text from him suddenly that he missed me. I don’t know if he just missed hanging out or what… When we put this on hold so he and I could go out separate ways to explore newer connections with people around our respective ages, I sent a text stating I cared for him. He responded back “love you”. Sometimes I feel like calling him up and asking to speak to him but other times the age difference is making me hold back and just let him go. I’m pretty confused I guess. If this guy did come back to me after no contact, I would be one happy woman.
Chris Seiter
April 26, 2018 at 9:34 pm
Well there you go, Giselle. Use this NC period to experience some healing and in the meantime, let see if he grows to better appreciate the value you bring to him. Its all going to come out in the wash and as time goes by, you will draw closer to your own feelings about what you want and if he meets those expectations.
Forgive me, but I can’t recall if I pointed you in the direction of my Private Facebook Support Group. Lots of synergy there with the many women who have joined it and it might be a really good fit for you. Anyway…feel free to drop by anytime with updates.
Giselle
April 27, 2018 at 12:08 am
Chris, how long should I do NC for? Since his new relationship is fairly new, should I even attempt NC to see if he would get in touch with me or should I contact him and ask if we could talk…and just tell him then my feeling for him? I’m confused. :S
Chris Seiter
April 27, 2018 at 5:22 am
Its a close call. Part of me thinks, way do you have to lose if you seek to contact him and have a no emotion/no blame talk. At least it will clear up the uncertainty you have. Then possibly you will have a better idea as to how to proceed.
Giselle
April 27, 2018 at 6:02 am
If I ask to speak to him, he will meet me…but I am not sure if I can show no emotion. 🙁
Thank you for your advice.
Chris Seiter
April 27, 2018 at 3:07 pm
I realize its hard to maintain a cool demeanor. Hence that is why it is sometimes best to allow for some passage of time, but everyone’s situation has unique circumstances that may call for meeting earlier than later.
Giselle
April 27, 2018 at 9:47 pm
What should I say to him if I do meet him? I feel so tongue tied…around him of late.
Chris Seiter
April 28, 2018 at 4:32 am
Hey there Giselle. Compliment him and ask questions about stuff he likes. Most guys egos love compliments and they want to talk about their interests.
Giselle
April 26, 2018 at 11:28 pm
Thanks, Chris. No, I don’t think you mentioned that. How do I join? Does your book have a response for every scenario? How long do you think I should do NC for…?
Chris Seiter
April 27, 2018 at 5:25 am
To join the Private Facebook Group, just go to my website Menu and click on Products and you will see information about it there. Usually, a 21 day NC period works for folks, but it truly varies on each person’s situation. I try to make the book as comprehensive as possible.
Giselle
April 27, 2018 at 6:04 am
Does your ebook talk about big age gaps in the relationship…particularly if it’s the woman who’s older than the man?
Chris Seiter
April 27, 2018 at 3:05 pm
Hi Giselle…I don’t really get into that as I believe human behavior is pretty consistent across my age ranges. There can be some individual exceptions to that rule if the age gap is substantial.
Alexandra
April 16, 2018 at 4:08 pm
Hi Chris, I just started doing 30 days NC rule after my ex blocked me and I am on day 16 right now. I am worried that what if I am still blocked on day 31? Should I do the 45 days NC rule to wait for him to reach out instead??
Chris Seiter
April 17, 2018 at 11:51 pm
Hi Alexandra. Just stick with your plan. IF you haven’t picked up one of my ebooks, then go take a look as they provide a comprehensive blueprint on how to manage the entire process. There are other ways to make contact if it comes to it. Not necessary to wait to 45 days.
Zan
April 15, 2018 at 5:48 pm
Hi Chris,
So I was dating a childhood crush for about 4 months over the summer. We really hit it off but then started distancing. I text and called gnatted him, so I did no contact for 45 days and tried reaching out to him. He changes his number every few months, so I got no response there. So I reached out on facebook (he blocked me on IG) and basically just said he was in my mind and hope all is well. He seen it but of course I got no response and I think got blocked on Facebook as well (I believe I can still send a message on Facebook however). It’s been about 7 months now and I honestly can’t get over him. I would really like to try to reach out to him again, but I don’t know if and how I should? I don’t want to seem desperate. But I would really like to rekindle. Can you give me some advice please?
Chris Seiter
April 18, 2018 at 4:02 am
Hi Zan. Well, it starts with having a concerted plan. So consider some of my resources here on the site, including the ebooks I have written. Part of optimizing your chances is trying to find some balance in your life. So focus on your needs for now….your goals. If your mind is overly focused on getting him back, you will not enjoy the wonderful little moments of life and it makes the ex recovery process all the more difficult. Allow for some healing. You may surprise yourself in a few weeks as to how your process this whole experience with him.
Zan
April 23, 2018 at 8:56 am
Thank you Chris. I will. Do you think there is still a chance that I could rekindle this? Or did I mess it up ?
Chris Seiter
April 23, 2018 at 9:40 pm
Oh yes…remember…breakups are almost always messy and over time feelings begin to settle in. Keep you focus on positive things! The past is way back behind us. Its the future and the present moments you want to embrace. Remember to remind yourself how much you love yourself. There is a part of you, inside of you, that will help you get through all of this! And if you need some extra emotional support, take a look at my Private Facebook Support Group what has about 1500 women who are largely going through similar issues. And I work this group weekly, through Facebook lives.
Amanda
April 6, 2018 at 11:02 pm
I have been dating a coworker on and off since June. He is 32 and I am 25. He is very high strung and is one of those that’s lives to work instead of works to live. He ended up completely cutting ties in December because he has a difficult time dealing with stress and anxiety. He tends to push me away at those times. I did not contact him but he did come back at the end of January wanting to try things again but just take it slow. On Mardi Gras he stopped speaking to him because I drunk texted him. I was just being obnoxious and playful and I called him out for opening my snapchats but not texting me back. I really didn’t care. I was just giving him shit. I then did not hear from him for an entire week. In that week some girl I’ve never heard him talk about was sharing random videos on his Facebook wall. I finally caved and asked him if he was mad at me. He said no but he just doesn’t have time for a relationship. I screwed up and kind of tried talking him out of it. Well later that same evening, this same girl who had been posting on his Facebook wall, mentioned me in a Facebook comment. She deleted it so I’m assuming it was on accident but I still got the notification. I sent him a screenshot of the notification and asked him who this girl was because she was commenting about me and I don’t know her. He said it was a friends sister and asked what she said. I told him I didn’t know. Moral of the story, he accused me of making the whole thing up. I kept it short at that and said I agree, I think the whole thing is weird. The next day I wake up and I’m blocked on every form of social media. I sent him a text asking if we could talk because I didn’t want us to be on bad terms due to us being coworkers. He told me to stop texting him. It’s now been 7 weeks and I have not reached out to him and he has not reached out to me. Work has been so awkward! Is there anything I can do to salvage this?
Jennifer Seiter
April 7, 2018 at 2:04 am
Try a text and see if he’s still avoiding you. Make sure you read our article on texting so you send the right text.
Crystal
April 3, 2018 at 6:17 am
Hi! I have a strange question for you, my boyfriend (unsure if it’s ex boyfriend now), told me he loved me for the first time over the phone which I responded positively back saying me too, he apologized for disappearing for a few days before this call and said he hasn’t felt like himself lately and the last thing he said was “love you and miss you so much, let’s plan to see each other soon” followed by him ghosting me for the last 3 weeks, I tried to call twice: once two days after he said I love you for the first time where I got no response and then again 2 weeks later and left a voicemail saying I’m worried about him. I received nothing back. He has no social media but I know he has been online as per the viber app so he is definitely alive just not responding me. Who says i love you for the first time and then ghosts a girl? So confused. I do believe that he loves me as per his actions before the ghosting. What are your thoughts on what happened and what I should do? Thanks so much in advance for your help.
Chris Seiter
April 4, 2018 at 1:08 am
Oh… I love strange quesitons.
Who says I love you and then ghosts you?
Two thoughts come to mind.
1. A man who wants to get in your pants, doesn’t get what he wants and then bails.
2. A man who gets freaked out by the commitment, hates confrontation and bails.
Crystal
April 10, 2018 at 9:04 pm
Sorry one more note.. he was married previously so how afraid of commitmetn can he be? :S
Chris Seiter
April 10, 2018 at 10:22 pm
Agreed. He has demonstrated he can make a commitment. Whether he is gun shy or whatever, that is is unclear. Just keep executing your plan an adapt it where it makes sense!
Crystal
April 10, 2018 at 7:44 pm
lol!. Probably number 2. Number 1 is unlikely because typically they would see you right after the I love you if the physical was what it was.. you can’t have it if you don’t see each other haha.
So since it’s number 2, is there any way to lure him back out? Make him confront by confronting him? Or do you do the wait 30 days thing? Please advise. Chris, your advice is most appreciated in this strange scenario.. lol.
Chris Seiter
April 10, 2018 at 10:16 pm
I know Crystal, things can get weird fast in break up situations. Why not consider a resource I wrote for folks like yourself. It’s called Ex Recovery Pro and this ebook can be found on my website in the Menu Section under “Products”. It it usually best to have a comprehensive Guide to lead you
Amera
April 2, 2018 at 8:31 pm
Can I attend my ex wedding.!? His sister invited me.
Chris Seiter
April 3, 2018 at 2:08 am
If you are trying to get him back I think it might be time to stop….
Amera
April 3, 2018 at 7:04 pm
How to stop.?
Chris Seiter
April 4, 2018 at 12:50 am
Can you give me some context. I’m answering from the backend of the website and can’t reference our previous conversation.
Annoying… I know.
Amera
April 4, 2018 at 6:42 am
How to stop from getting my ex back as you said-” if you are trying to get him back I think it might be time to stop….” ??
Chris Seiter
April 5, 2018 at 10:54 pm
So, I think one of the best things you can do is start limiting reminders of him. let’s take a small step first.
Manli
March 26, 2018 at 5:05 am
Honestly i don’t think he’ll initiate after i deliberately ignored his comment during my second 30 day no contact rule. What do i do? Try and reach out to him? How was i chasing him when i was slowly trying to build up convo and remind him of the good memories after no contact? I’m confused and lost. I just want him back!
Chris Seiter
April 3, 2018 at 1:28 am
In my experience half the issues I see when exes ignore “reach out’s” is due to the methods or texts used. Do you mind giving me some more context?
Manli
April 3, 2018 at 2:28 pm
We initially started fighting beginning of November because i took a text typo and made it a big deal. Things became good then a bigger fight. And things got ugly! Neither of us gave in so things got worse. We did not celebrate our year and half anniversary due to the anger. I was so upset.
Finally when i was ready to put this past me. Something he was asking for the entire time but i couldn’t forget what was said. All he replied with was he’s glad. He was preoccupied with his friends. Christmas he only sent me one message. In between Christmas and New Years i sent him so many happy loving messages. Called him to and from work like i used to always. No reply. He replied once saying he’s busy with work.
Right before New Years he tells me he doesn’t have the spark for me anymore. After the fighting and everything. I was devastated. I begged and pleaded but to no avail. I even wrote a heartfelt card and sent a gift because i wanted to show we could still celebrate the holidays and our anniversary still even though it passed. He said he appreciated the card but wished i didn’t send anything because we aren’t together. He told me maybe in the future but now he’d like to be friends.
I began my first no contact period beginning on January when he failed to inform me of our dinner plans. I tried to see him since December was a hard month he never got back to me. He blew up my phone via text and call the first week. He saw i was reading and not replying since it was through what’s app. He expanded on how much he loved my card. I ended up breaking it and calling him back the end of the week. Still going on about how he wanted to be friends. I said i can’t be your friend but i still tried. Again, it was me reaching out to him and hardly anything from him.
Began my second no contact 30 day period. He texted me the end of the first week. I didn’t reply or open it immediately. He saw i opened it and kept checking what’s app until he finally deleted the app. I posted a selfie of me with make up on and then my drinks on Snapchat story. He ended up blocking me and his friend deleted me. I was also posting inspirational and relationship quotes on Snapchat so maybe he was tired of that.
He didn’t contact me again. I texted him after 30 days no reply. Not sure If I’m blocked. I sent him a bday card mid February. He Facebook messaged me saying he appreciated the card and we very briefly chatted. I even left a birthday voicemail. Not sure if it was received it rang normally and then said the number was unavailable beep.he didn’t acknowledge the voicemail.
Then week later i did a good reminder text. I said “do you remember which restaurant we went to before the laker game ? I am hoping to take a friend there.” He wasn’t happy and said he didn’t need to know i was taking “a friend”. I think the friend comment upset him i even said sorry i didn’t mean it like that and i tried to make it light by saying how they have good dessert.
Then two weeks later I’m doing another good reminder text all i say is “hi! Guess where i just dropped my brother off at!?” Boom! Blocked! No reply.
He calls me right away and says Look just leave me alone. Leave me alone. Haven’t i told you before?! All i could mutter was ok and yes to the question.
I don’t know if my number is blocked but I’m blocked on Snapchat and Facebook for sure.
Chris Seiter
April 4, 2018 at 1:13 am
I think probably one of the best things you can do is attack is sphere of influence if you’ve been blocked. Do you know what that is?
Manli
April 5, 2018 at 4:22 am
No, I don’t. What is the sphere of influence? Do I even have a chance, I mean he isn’t even speaking to me and has me completely blocked? I don’t understand why he is still angry with me after a large amount of time has passed. I think the friend comment made him upset. I did send an email recently trying to clear the air, but i got no reply. I am probably blocked via email too.
Chris Seiter
April 5, 2018 at 11:49 pm
So every ex has a set of individuals he surrounds himself with that shape his perception of things. If you can get these people on your side championing your cause it makes things soo much easier.
Manli
April 6, 2018 at 1:09 am
His friend deleted me off Snapchat when he did also. But one of his friends kept me. Isn’t it weird to reach out to his Friends or sister? Like won’t it upset him. I can’t get him to talk to me at all.
Chris Seiter
April 7, 2018 at 4:38 am
Obviously you shouldn’t do anything outside of your comfort zone.
But I want to note that I didn’t say reach out to his friends. I said understand that his friends are tools that you can use to pass information to him. Especially if they are friends with you on FB and can serve as his spies. All you have to do is something noteworthy and they’ll come a running.
Manli
April 8, 2018 at 4:33 pm
I hope so i saw his sister and his friend saw my Snapchat and Instagram story of a wedding i went to last weekend. How do i get my ex to talk to me? I don’t know where his anger is coming from, maybe because i said i wanted to take a friend to a restaurant. He seemed to get jealous saying he didn’t need to know i was going with a “friend”. I have no clue how to get him to talk to me.
Chris Seiter
April 11, 2018 at 2:00 am
HI Manli. If there is anger…then give him some space. He most likely will come calling
Manli
April 4, 2018 at 3:04 am
No, what is that? Should i reach out to him? If so, how?
Chris Seiter
April 5, 2018 at 10:46 pm
Here’s your new mantra.
In every single conversation you have with him I want you to think,
“What’s in it for him?”
Women tend to make conversations about themselves too much.
Michelle
March 21, 2018 at 4:01 pm
I’m waiting for the transcript 🙂
Manli
March 18, 2018 at 3:09 am
We initially started fighting beginning of November because i took a text typo and made it a big deal. Things became good then a bigger fight. And things got ugly! Neither of us gave in so things got worse. We did not celebrate our year and half anniversary due to the anger. I was so upset.
Finally when i was ready to put this past me. Something he was asking for the entire time but i couldn’t forget what was said. All he replied with was he’s glad. He was preoccupied with his friends. Christmas he only sent me one message. In between Christmas and New Years i sent him so many happy loving messages. Called him to and from work like i used to always. No reply. He replied once saying he’s busy with work.
Right before New Years he tells me he doesn’t have the spark for me anymore. After the fighting and everything. I was devastated. I begged and pleaded but to no avail. I even wrote a heartfelt card and sent a gift because i wanted to show we could still celebrate the holidays and our anniversary still even though it passed. He said he appreciated the card but wished i didn’t send anything because we aren’t together. He told me maybe in the future but now he’d like to be friends.
I began my first no contact period beginning on January when he failed to inform me of our dinner plans. I tried to see him since December was a hard month he never got back to me. He blew up my phone via text and call the first week. He saw i was reading and not replying since it was through what’s app. He expanded on how much he loved my card. I ended up breaking it and calling him back the end of the week. Still going on about how he wanted to be friends. I said i can’t be your friend but i still tried. Again, it was me reaching out to him and hardly anything from him.
Began my second no contact 30 day period. He texted me the end of the first week. I didn’t reply or open it immediately. He saw i opened it and kept checking what’s app until he finally deleted the app. I posted a selfie of me with make up on and then my drinks on Snapchat story. He ended up blocking me and his friend deleted me. I was also posting inspirational and relationship quotes on Snapchat so maybe he was tired of that.
He didn’t contact me again. I texted him after 30 days no reply. Not sure If I’m blocked. I sent him a bday card mid February. He Facebook messaged me saying he appreciated the card and we very briefly chatted. I even left a birthday voicemail. Not sure if it was received it rang normally and then said the number was unavailable beep.
Then week later i did a good reminder text. I said “do you remember which restaurant we went to before the laker game ? I am hoping to take a friend there.” He wasn’t happy and said he didn’t need to know i was taking “a friend”.
Then two weeks later I’m doing another good reminder text all i say is “hi! Guess where i just dropped my brother off at!?” Boom! Blocked! No reply.
He calls me right away and says Look just leave me alone. Leave me alone. Haven’t i told you before?! All i could mutter was ok and yes to the question.
I don’t know if my number is blocked but I’m blocked on Snapchat and Facebook for sure.
What does this mean? Why this anger? It’s March now. Last we spoke on the phone in January it was friendly. What do i do now?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 22, 2018 at 6:15 pm
Hi Manli,
It looks like he either thinks you’re chasing him or just deliberately making him jealous so, he got pissed. You have to let him initiate and to set a limit on until when you’re going to wait for him to initiate.
Eira
March 15, 2018 at 8:44 am
hey..
is the article out for the topic?