Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

604 thoughts on “Your Ex Boyfriend Blocked You… What Now? (Video)”

  1. Avatar

    jazz

    June 12, 2016 at 4:10 pm

    Hi,
    i met my bf on instagram, and after chatting for a while we moved on chatting in whatsapp. Then we decided to meet as soon as possible as we were from different countries. He started to apply for visa while we were chattng everyday and knowing each other more.
    I believed both of us had strong feelings and we were very similar we were kind of meant for us. Unfortunately he couldnt get permissions to travel because his problems at work then his father got health issues with his heart so we couldnt meet. But we were planning to travel and meet in another country together soon.
    After one month he started to Get colder and he wrote me he cant start a relationship now because he had so many problems (health and work) which i said i can understand and feel for him that he is having bad times. I decided to give him time And wished him good luck. I didnt write him anything after he said he want to finish. After 5 days i had an accident and share it instagram.
    He wrote me at the same hour good bettering and he was so sorry to hear that and i thanked him sincerely.
    After this last conversation one day before he just blocked me from instagram and i had no idea what caused him to do that, i got very confused as i never contacted him in anyway didnt like anything he shared etc.
    ı am not blocked in whatsapp though, do u think i should try no contact and try to approach him later?

    Btw i tried Chris’ advices on my ex ex bf and even he moved on to other girl he wanted to get back to me and i ignored him in the end so i count myself quite experienced on this.

    1. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 17, 2016 at 11:03 am

      Hi Jazz

      there’s no harm if you want to try nc as a last step.. go ahead..

  2. Avatar

    Tammy

    June 6, 2016 at 6:50 am

    hi , been together for almost 3 years he broke up with me because I wasn’t affectionate enough for him we been on a break for abt 3 months but talking in between trying to make it work but he wasn’t feeling it anymore. so I’m on day 18 of no contact , he called me on day 4 but I didn’t answer and I found out on day 11 tht he blocked me on Instagram and thts the only social media I have him on I dnt have fb but I have his fb password and noticed he added one of his past ex’s. Should I be worried because I am. I cut the no contact down to 21 days. any thoughts ? thanks

    1. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 11, 2016 at 2:33 pm

      Hi Tammy,

      sorry for the late reply.. you shouldn’t cut it short because it looks like you need to focus more on improving yourself.. you shouldn’t stalk his social media accounts.. be busy on improving yourself, and meeting new people and posting about it.. You have to feel more independent first and more emotionally stable. You have to have your own life first and aim to be the ungettable girl for him to miss you.

  3. Avatar

    CheonSa

    June 1, 2016 at 1:51 pm

    My ex and I broke up what is now 2 months ago. For the past two months we have been “broken up” aka talking like nothing happened as he said he was regretting his decision. Finally I put my foot down and asked what was going on. I took my own initiative to block him where he called me asked why I blocked him etc. I unblocked him and let him re-add me on social media. He asked me to deactivate his facebook for him when we hung out. He didn’t want to delete me. We started talking less often and I mentioned again “look you wanted to break up”. He flipped out on me and said we had been broken up but I can’t “get over it”. We had a very ugly argument on the phone and he kept telling me he blocks all his ex’s and “cannot remain friends with them”. After he deleted me he then a few hours later refollowed me. We went into NC for about 19 days. I text him exactly how instructed and I got a great response. I waited a few days and followed up similarly. His response started to get abrupt and annoyed. We ended up getting into a huge fight were he called me an “obsessive stalker” blocked me on IG, and another app which is where we do our texting. He then TEXT me to tell me he blocked me but wasn’t going to block my number and argued with me again telling me to “get over it”. Is this one worth pursuing? Every guy I’ve ever dated ALWAYS came back after I moved on. This one is stubborn and I’m loosing my confidence now. Obviously I will go into “NC” because hes blocked me on social media. Sigh.

    1. Avatar

      Cheonsa

      June 15, 2016 at 2:29 pm

      To add he has also told me he blocks all his ex’s because “done is done”. I wasn’t sure his intentions as he went back and forth with me. He does not have a new girlfriend. I believe this might be a cultural thing (he is Korean for korea)

    2. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 17, 2016 at 11:50 pm

      Then that means the only probably chance is to do a really long nc, and then massively improve yourself.. and hope that during before you even finish nc, he at least likes one of your posts as a sign that he’s open to talking again.

    3. Avatar

      Cheonsa

      June 15, 2016 at 2:24 pm

      Yes, after I tried NC and then texting he called me a “stalker” because it’s “been a month” and blocked texting/ig/whatsapp etc. anything you can think of. To me it seems if I then try to email or contact from a new number it will seem even more crazy to him. I feel the situation is worse and worse.

    4. Avatar

      Cheonsa

      June 13, 2016 at 2:41 pm

      We get a long very well and it was a very “easy” relationship. Only until it was one issue which he didn’t want to talk about and the breakup was what was bad. I feel he is just so stubborn and there is nothing I can do. Sigh. I have been forced to keep busy but the situation is killing me. I feel he will never ever unblock me. Im thinking no contact isn’t gonna work unless the other person is thinking about you.

    5. Jennifer Seiter

      Jennifer Seiter

      June 14, 2016 at 12:59 am

      Did he block you from texting too?

    6. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 11, 2016 at 1:40 pm

      Hi Cheonsa,

      if you really want to get back with him, aak yourself why..why is he different than your other exes?

  4. Avatar

    I Got Him Back

    May 28, 2016 at 1:28 am

    I did exactly what Chris said to do with the No Contact Rules! It was not easy but has been very effective. I was blocked and he doesn’t use social media… However, on those days I wanted to go see him I created a contact with my number and would send my self messages. Sounds WIERD for sure yet it worked for me! So after 71days because I wasn’t ready on day 30; I was too afraid of being rejected so I waited for the right moment. On day 71, I appeared at his job looking amazing! The smile he gave and his words “surprise-surprise…” was the start of us reconnecting. And as I walked in there was a gentleman who approached me flirting and immediately he asked the guy do you know her. I was shocked he was so protective. I told him I got a new job and wanted to share the news with him…then proceeded to leave. I didn’t stay long. However as I was saying goodbye, he then said, I’ll call you I hope you been good. It wasn’t 5mins after I left he sent the first text. So my advice is to try All the steps Chris is providing because they work… I PROMISE IT DID FOR ME! We are now back together!

  5. Avatar

    anon1

    May 23, 2016 at 10:57 pm

    Hi,

    I had been talking to this guy for a few weeks. We hung out and he expressed that he liked me and everything and he didn’t want me to think that it was just for a hookup; however, he would be distant and always wait for me to contact him. So I was getting mixed signals and I got annoyed with it one day when he blatantly ignored snaps (from snapchat) that he was not really interested in getting to know me. He then blocked me. I’m still not blocked on another app that we used to communicate. So how long should I follow the NC to message him again and what should I say when I do message him?

    Thanks.

    1. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 27, 2016 at 3:11 am

      HI Anon1,

      Try 45 days since you’re blocked, and then list the topics he loves talking about and use that for your texts.

  6. Avatar

    On again off again.

    May 9, 2016 at 3:31 am

    Hi,
    I have been dating a man for three years. We have been on and off and seem to break up every 3-4 months. After we break up he comes crying back saying he loves me and that I’m his soulmate. We were even engaged last October and he broke that off. One month later he came back again! I told him that I can’t do this anymore so he needed to make a commitment. We agreed to get engaged in three months. 5 months went by and we started arguing about his promise. Then he told my brother he was going to buy me a ring, marry me, and make my brother his best man. The next day we got into a argument and he broke up with me again. I’m really confused because I believe he loves me but I don’t know why he keeps breaking up to make up? My wants and needs never change. I try my best to be supportive and help with his 3 kids. Idk what to do to break the cycle when he comes back. What can I do? What do you think his problem is?
    Thank you!

    1. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 9, 2016 at 11:23 am

      hi on and off again,

      it’s like he’s impulsive.. try to do 30 day no contact..

  7. Avatar

    simmi

    May 8, 2016 at 11:09 am

    i broke up with my boyfriend a month ago.. succeeded finishing no contact.. and still couldnt get him back.. i spoke to him and then we never spoke .. i texted his frnd about my new crush(pretended) and my ex boyfriend blocked me… i have been talking about m ex boyfriend with his best friend.. and trying to convince him that i am over him… can u tell me what to do when any of our friends ask me about him?? how to react or reply..
    p.s. i am not over him i am just trying to show him i m moving on so that he misses me out n checks on me.. but he has blocked me

    1. Avatar

      Simmi

      July 13, 2016 at 6:14 am

      Ok..
      And just to explain u on a deeper note.
      Its something like he wants me but wont come to me. He ll love me but he wont patchup.. he wont come back to me but he doesnt want me to move on.. he wants me to forget him but he doesnt like if i talk about other guys. He doesnt want to patchup but he wants me to ask him to come back.. he says to not call him but if i call he speaks nicely.. if i am rude is is polite if i am polite he is rude. Its very confusing for me because one moment i feel like i am winning the other moment its going back to zero.

    2. Avatar

      Simmi

      July 11, 2016 at 12:38 pm

      He told me that he hates love. He said he does not want to fall into this situation again. He clearly said he does not want relationships now. And every other day he fights with me to not call him ever. I contacted him today after a week of NC and he was talking in a caring way.. he spoke about relationship but he is still saying the same thing. Shall i start NC for a longer period? If yes then for how much time .. ?? If no then what should i do when he gets irritated at me? Normally when he gets irritated i take break for a day or half then i talk to him. And he apologises for being rude. The situation makes me feel like the distance between us is being constant.. its not decreasing or increasing..

    3. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 12, 2016 at 12:43 pm

      it means he doesn’t see you have moved on because he keeps insisting that ge doesn’t want a relationship.. you need to spend less time initiating and try dating others too

    4. Avatar

      simmi

      July 6, 2016 at 11:46 am

      hi amor,
      so i started talking to him regularly now from the past week.
      the things i told him about his cheating friends came out to be true and he begged me forgiveness for that.
      he said i was a goddess tht he never realised.
      he said he loves me a lot and he can never forget me and he doesnt want to forget me. he doesnt want to move on.
      he doesnt want to be happy without me. he is daily taking alcohol and weed.
      he said he loves me more than anything but wont get back with me bcz i lied to him about a thing when we were together and now tht he knows everything then he feels he cant be with me coz it ll be against his principles. he is also kinda angry at me tht i lied to him. he said its a battle within him tht he wants to be with me but his rules and principles are not allowing him to get back.
      the first few days were good but then he told me he doesnt wants me to contact him at all bcz it makes him love me more and he wants his heart to be a hard rock. he shouts at me and abuses me and says me stuff and the other day i call him to ask how he is and how his anger is. he apologises me for being rude and talks to me. then again till the evening he shows anger asks me never to call and cuts the call.. i know it does sound like mind game or timepass but he says tht he wants me to hate him and forget him .
      i really dont know what to do.. he unblocked me and he talks nicely but then he sometimes gets mad and asks me never to contact him and still i do and he talks nicely..
      he just never wants me to talk about us..
      he still asks for suggestions like he says he has become directionless after me. he wants me to give him a right direction in life..
      when i told him about my new business he congratulated me and said that my life has become better after him. so i should stop contacting him.

      plz help me with this.

    5. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 7, 2016 at 1:06 pm

      talk to each other.. i think he needs his own time now to be able to forgive you.. say and a sincere apology and then tell him you’re giving him space so he can heal properly..

    6. Avatar

      simmi

      May 15, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      hey..
      i contacted him again the next day and told him to do whatever he wants with my stuff and i dont want them back..
      i told him that 5 of his friends r hitting on me either wanting to have sex, or wanting a relationship with me or bitching about him saying he is an a**hole and stuff.. and he wont believe tht those guys can do this to him… i did not tell him the names as they would make him hate me more by saying tht i am trying to make them fight and i told him tht he should get their names by himself… he threatened to never talk to me if i did not tell him the names and i kept quiet.. then in anger he said “goodbye forever” and i said bye byeeeee in a sweet and happy tone.. ( dont know y i did not feel like stopping him or calling him back 🙂 i felt so happy tht i have actually moved on a lot) its been 4-5 days and still i havent contacted him…

    7. Avatar

      simmi

      May 10, 2016 at 12:55 pm

      he wanted me to call at 7 in the evening but i called him at 10:30. he was out with friends for drinking so he spoke roughly with me..

    8. Avatar

      simmi

      May 9, 2016 at 10:47 am

      evening means 4 hrs later … according to my place 😀

    9. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 9, 2016 at 5:08 pm

      sorry late reply simmi, did you call? actually no contact is for moving on, it just so happens that it’s the same process on trying to get an ex back.. if you really want him to regret leaving you, be the best version of yourself.. that way you don’t regret hurting him because your goal is to just better your life. Once he sees that, he’ll regret leaving you.

    10. Avatar

      simmi

      May 9, 2016 at 10:19 am

      shall i call him in the evening or tomorrow or even later..

      i badly want him to regret losing me..

    11. Avatar

      simmi

      May 9, 2016 at 10:16 am

      i called him up and asked him for my things.. and when we spoke about life i asked him y he blocked me and he said he was angry at me that i left him n so he blocked me….( it was a partial block, only on fb) i felt y on earth did he feel anger about breakup now…
      also he said that
      -he wont return me all my stuff cozz he wants my memories with him always..
      -he said he is fine when i asked him how he was.. i casually asked r u just fine or awesom.. he said he is alive
      -i felt pain in his voice when we spoke

      i forgot to mention i broke up with him bcz he is an egoistic person and now he is gentle and showing me that he misses me but still his ego is not affected.. i wonder what would make him leave his ego n what should be done to make him show me the real him.. i doubt if he misses me or not..now i doubt if all his love is real or fake coz i have never seen him like this before.. not even 1% of it… i know i am happy without him too but still a part of me misses him… i have partially moved on .. coz its been a month and i am living my life my way… can u tell me ways to move on if i should not take him back again…

      One more question.. i wish to make him beg for me and i want to take revenge on him by showing him wht he lost before deciding to be with him or loose him..
      he asked me to call in the evening.. what should i say to him to know if he really misses me or not..

    12. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 9, 2016 at 3:09 am

      Hi Simmi,

      have you been active in doing new activities during nc and are you continuing to do them now? and how are you convincing his best friend that you’ve moved? How do you say it to him?

      It’s better if it’s you’re actions alone or with friends that show that.

  8. Avatar

    Anisedat

    April 25, 2016 at 8:59 am

    Hey! Okay so I’m having this issue. I was travelling for several days to a city abroad that’s close from where I live and I met this guy. I stayed at his place, we got along really well, and had sex. He then developed feelings for me and we had been in contact for several weeks. He told me that I forgot some of my things there, I was gonna go back in May to visit, but 2 weeks prior, he bailed. I explained to him that it would be complicated for me to change my itinerary, but then he got pretty emotional, I stayed rational and wrote him a long message of solutions and thoughts. I left the choices to him and he told me that we should go our separate ways. It happened recently and I’ve been doing NC. A week after the fallout, he saw pictures of me swimming and deleted my facebook. People been telling me that, for some reason, I broke him but he also got something else in hand that managing ‘me’ wouldn’t be possible. I can still contact him, but the reason he’d reply after NC is slim unless he reaches out first. The reason why he bailed was that he has too many people flying in and out of his life, it’s starting to take a toll on him, and he needed to take a break from distractions. How strong are my odds of getting him back again? :s

    1. Avatar

      Anisedat

      May 8, 2016 at 6:12 pm

      lol that’s amusing. I wonder how his reaction during/after NC would be like. He re-friended me, but he unfollowed me on facebook though. My posts won’t appear on his feed but he can still stalk me. So it’s mostly ego then? I wonder if him being all “there’s no connection. I don’t feel attraction to you” and the whole “I don’t like your personality, I don’t want to see you again” was really the truth or he was just bluffing due to all emotional loads he’s having. His actions were totally questionable.

    2. Avatar

      Anisedat

      May 4, 2016 at 8:24 pm

      Well at one point when we argued, he was being pretty emotional and asked me what do I want, I I initially said “nothing” before I said “Affection” and he was PISSED. He then kinda hugged me again and told me “You know when I came there and hugged you like this, you know that I don’t really do this to anyone?” but his actions after sex these days were pretty questionable. It’s like he expected me to have feelings for him, but at the same time he didn’t want it, yet when I was being cold he got pissed, at the same time whenever I show affection, he backed off. I wonder what’s going on.

    3. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 8, 2016 at 2:20 am

      well, he expects you to have feelings for him but he doesn’t want to commit.. it’s like expecting you to chase..

    4. Avatar

      Anisedat

      May 4, 2016 at 9:43 am

      Okay. So something DID happen. I had a transit in his town and missed my flight, and couldn’t get out of town for 4 days and all places are booked. I… Broke my NC and asked him for help. He told me I can stay at his place, he was being really sweet, he kissed and hugged me, went out with me, took my luggages. Until I had my first blunder. I had sex with him. After sex, he pushed me off and he was being really moody until morning. He basically told me that while it was great, he didn’t feel anything. No connection. Because I was being passionate and he felt kinda wrong, and I was a really tempting distraction to his plans. But then the next evening, he softened, he hugged me and was being really nice until… I brought up the topic. He went moody again, asked me what I want, to which I replied “Affection.” then we had sex again. But after that he went really cold, told me that he didn’t feel good about it, it’s over and done, to pick his room or the sofa, since he wasn’t gonna join me around. He even threatened to call the police when I told him that I did no wrong and he shouldn’t treat me like that. Well I kinda pushed it in a way. Then I asked for forgiveness in the morning, kinda begged but not really, more like sincere apologies. Told him I care about him. He kinda said “thanks but don’t expect me to change.” He then returned in the afternoon, made me dinner, and spent some time chilling on the sofa, left at night, and returned in the morning. He kinda softened in the morning and afternoon since I was being chill and didn’t bring up the topic at all, but he still refused to kiss me or hug me or let me drop him at the airport. I’m returning to my town at the same time as him this afternoon. I couldn’t stand it at one point and contemplated to leave on the third day, but it was until he came home and made me dinner. So I decided to stay and give it another chance. I still kinda want him back, I’m planning to do another NC–this time probably a bit longer than before, he refriended me on Facebook, but I’m pretty concerned that he might delete it again in an attempt to move on or out of spite. Any insights and tips on the situation?

    5. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 4, 2016 at 2:12 pm

      whatever his actions would be during your next nc.. stick to your nc because you need to regain power.. To be honest, he’s already moved on from what you had before.. maybe not totally but with his actions.. it’s more of using you as a booty call..

    6. Avatar

      Anisedat

      April 28, 2016 at 9:19 pm

      Weeeell I didn’t. Although I’m not really against the idea, but we both didn’t really talk about that just… Cause. In my case, I was afraid to scare him off, but apparently I came off as cold to him and he thought his feelings weren’t reciprocated. He kinda thought I would just come and go like that and treat him like a hotel manager or smth and he’s pretty much distracted by other things, whatever that is. So he left. It could be work, it could be women, it could be him going “give me a bloody break.” idk. We’re both busy folks. It’s complicated, I know. My mistake was that I left all the decisions to him and didn’t really give him a say of what I wanted at that time. Yep, I was supposed to visit but since he bailed, I re-routed to Germany. I priorly told him that arranging my whole schedule would be a huge hot mess and he didn’t give a bat. Oh well. NC’s only been the first week, it’s been pretty fantastic for me and everything’s going well. I don’t quite understand why he had to delete my facebook though. People told me he was butthurt and is now trying to get over me. Some also said that he probably doesn’t want to have anything to do with me anymore. I’m not sure if I should listen to any one of them. Idk what should I expect or if I even have a chance to get him back lol I’m just doing NC without thinking of what the outcomes would be. What do you think?

    7. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 1, 2016 at 9:23 am

      well, don’t listen to them for now.. just continue on with nc because you still have three weeks. a lot more can happen.

    8. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 26, 2016 at 9:18 pm

      Hi Anisedat,

      I don’t quite understand, if you mean people are coming in and going out of his life constantly, how is that connected to you? Did you tell him you’re not ready to commit? You were even supposed to visit him right? If space is all he needs, then nc would help both you.. Him having space, you improving yourself.

  9. Avatar

    CJ

    March 25, 2016 at 5:39 am

    This is going to be long, I am sorry. You just need to know all the background knowledge before I explain the breakup

    My ex and I were together for a year and a half. Due to his culture his family didn’t know about me and we could not see each other whenever we wanted. We are both adults him 24 and I 22, just cultural differences made it hard. We were also in a long distance relationship. But, even though we had all these obstacles we still managed to see each other quite often (even twice a week) if we got lucky. It was nice, we fought sometimes but never big fights. We did break up once over his family not knowing about me, but we worked it out. I had joked with him that my friend tried forcing me to go tell his mom about us after the break up. He did not like that joke, of course I didn’t do it and we ended up laughing about it. He was never the type to constantly tell me he loved me or shower me in gifts, but I wasn’t like that either. We talked like best friends and we were and we were in love and talked about marriage. Well my coworker who has a boyfriend who does all the romantic stuff for her told me I deserved better. I told him, complaining about her. He didn’t seem to mind. He decided to visit his best friend 5 hours away to watch a basketball game. He was also going to visit that best friend the next week for his vacation. He decided the first weekend of visiting his friend he would leave early to spend at my parents house with me. On his way to his friends someone hit his bumper. I told him I knew something bad was going to happen because we have the worst of luck, he was upset I said that as if I was blaming him. And I told him not to come. Saturday rolls around and he doesn’t show, I become very upset because I assumed he would still try. He was ignoring me all that weekend because he was upset that I said I knew something bad was going to happen, but I did not know that was why. So me being upset about the car, ignoring me, not coming Saturday. I said I needed space and that I deserved better treatment. He took it as I deserve someone better than him. Told me that I don’t know how that makes him feel when he really tries and saying there is someone out there better. Started talking about breaking up and that he needed time to think. Me trying to make a joke out of the situation like always saying “if you break up with me I swear to God…” started laughing and said never mind. He assumed I was going to say tell his mom, which I would never do. But yelled “Do whatever it is you want to do. It’s over” 2 hours later I received a text saying it was over that I deserved better than him and I will always hold a special place in his heart. He blocked me on everything except email. I have beens sending him emails ever since begging for him back or to at least take the time to talk about it.
    I just received an email from hims saying again with the I deserve better.
    We don’t necessarily have mutual friends, I know his friends through him and he knows my friends through me. He blocked my family and friends and I only have one of his best friends on snapchat and instagram but even he is not his number 1 best friend.

    I feel like my situation is so different from all of these and I truly just do not know what to do. I decided no more emails and to not contact him for 30 days. But, do not know how to contact him when the time is right. I do not know if I should even try contacting him after the 30 days or to leave him alone. I know he still loves me, but I feel like he is afraid/angry and wants nothing to do with me. I feel lost.

    1. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 2, 2016 at 12:29 pm

      HI Cj,

      you’re adults, if he’s not ready to introduce to his parents now, he could at least not block you and your family or have a plan on when to say it.. Continue with no contact for now..

  10. Avatar

    Busy Bee

    March 21, 2016 at 10:14 am

    Hello,

    A few months ago i met a guy on Facebook. We instantly get along. We both feel the connection after few months of talking to each other. At the beginning he told me that he’s not ready for a relationship and so we both agreed, but eventually I got emotionally attached to him, and yep fall in love with him, and he admitted that he loves me too. I know it sounds cliche but those 3 months times were perfect. But then all of a sudden he became so distant and keeps on backing off on his feelings, asked him whats wrong and told me he’s very busy with work, school, health issues, and it would be to hard for me in the long run, he doesn’t have much to give me, which he can’t even make food for himself. I felt hurt, and confused because he just told me he loves me few weeks ago and then now? What went wrong. I got so emotional plus my work, and family issues too. So i messaged him that he’s not the guy I’ve known before, then i took a time off and deactivated my account without talking to him. Then after realizing everything and what i have done and me missing him, i activated my account back and was about to apologize to him but i was too shy and i don’t know what to say, and after few hours when i finally got a courage to talk to him again, i can’t message him anymore, he blocked me. I am so so so devastated, confused, hurt. After a week i tried to call him but he cancelled it, called again and leave him a voicemail instead, and apologized to him, i even sent him a letter saying how sorry i was and he really has a special place in my heart. its been 21 days since, but until now i haven’t heard anything from him, i’m still blocked… I don’t know what to do. I miss him so much 🙁 do i have to let go and move on, will he ever contact or talk to me again after 30 days NC? ugh…

    1. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 21, 2016 at 11:51 am

      Hi Busy bee,

      hmmm.. based kn his actions it looks like he really doesn’t want to be in a relationship..when he saw youbwere getting serious, he backed off

  11. Avatar

    Katie

    March 14, 2016 at 2:25 am

    I am on day 24 of my no contact period. There has been no contact thus far. He hasn’t reached out to me and I haven’t contacted him in anyway. However, I just noticed that he has deleted me off of skype. We are still friends on all other social media networks. I don’t understand why he would only delete me from skype and why now? I am wanting to contact him at the end of this no contact period but I’m scared that since he has deleted me that this lowers my chances of getting a response.

    1. Avatar

      Katie

      March 18, 2016 at 5:39 am

      Okay thanks! How long should I extend it? If he does reach out to me should I still extend it?

    2. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 19, 2016 at 8:50 am

      I think a week will do but if he reached out, reply to him

    3. Avatar

      Katie

      March 17, 2016 at 8:10 am

      We used a mix of skype and whatsapp. He did block me on whatsapp for the first two days of the break up but then I saw that he unblocked me.. But now deleted me on Skype. Since I’m so close to the end of the no contact period I’m just getting really nervous, especially since he hasn’t reached out at all and deleted me. Makes me feel like if/when I text him that he won’t respond.

    4. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 17, 2016 at 1:59 pm

      I think you should extend, so even if you’re going to message him, it won’t be as close to his recent deletion

    5. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2016 at 11:17 am

      HI Katie,

      Is Skype your main app for talking to each other? If so, it can be that he’s missing you and it’s his way of coping with it.

  12. Avatar

    he blocked me but...

    March 1, 2016 at 11:43 am

    we broke up 4 months ago but we talked till january when he blocked me ,,i did nc rule for 45 days but now i dont know how to talk to him.. should i just go to the mall where he goes and let him see me looking hot lol, i mean if i do nothing more than wait nothing is gonna happen , need to do some action

    1. Avatar

      he blocked me but...

      March 1, 2016 at 6:29 pm

      yeah but he blocked me so how? how i`m gonna text him after nc

    2. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 2, 2016 at 2:52 pm

      oh okay…sorry I overlooked.. it means you have to wait till you’re unblock.. if after two months you’re still blocked.. try the mall move..

    3. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 1, 2016 at 4:33 pm

      Hi,

      the next steo after nc is texting.. click this blog post so, you can see other tips and steps after no contact
      The No Contact Rule (Version 2.0)

  13. Avatar

    Tossed away like garbage

    February 29, 2016 at 7:48 am

    My boyfriend dumped me on News years in a text and I in a panic texted him relentlessly trying to make things end on better terms but instead he blocked me from everything a few days later. I had one last talk with him during that same week and it was brief. After that I found your website and tried NC. We haven’t talked since the 6th of January, almost two months now and I’m still blocked from everything. It kills me having to walk past him at school everyday and act like we don’t know each other when really we knew each other so well.
    What do I do? I have no way of reaching out to him except in person. Is it time to let go? I still miss him but I don’t know what to do

    1. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 1, 2016 at 9:31 am

      If you havr improved and grown and he doesn’t really reach out anyway, yes it’s time to move on

  14. Avatar

    M.

    February 29, 2016 at 7:48 am

    So here’s my problem in a nutshell: Together for 20 months, broke up 4 1/2 months ago, he wanted to stop talking since the very beginning of the breakup, but I kept pushing to talk and see him. We’ve talk on and off, hung out once in a while, and we’ve also hooked up multiple times. He’s claimed to enjoy seeing me and talking to me. He also gave me many mixed signals, like accidentally calling me by my old nickname, telling me he loves me still, and kissing me. Now, he says he’s done seeing me all of a sudden and just wants to not hear from me ever again like he originally wanted to at the beginning of the breakup. He threatens to block me if I ever text him again. I plan on initiating no contact. Do I have a chance to ever win him back and should I take his threat seriously after no contact? He’s also coming over tomorrow after I get off work just to pick up his t-shirt I borrowed from him. What should I do and say when I give it back?

    1. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 1, 2016 at 9:29 am

      Hi M,

      It’s better ti do no contact for now.. and when you give the shirt just be casual.. just give it to him and don’t talk.. Do no contact first then guage how he has been after nc before initiating contact again

  15. Avatar

    Cat

    February 28, 2016 at 6:26 am

    Hello, I just have a quick question!
    I’m currently doing the 30 day NC and I’m on day 4. I know that it’s too soon to see whether he will unblock me or not.
    We agreed to leave one line of communication open in case of an emergency (texting) but it is not to be used for anything else.
    We also have a mutual friend who I trust won’t tell him, that I want to gauge how he feels about me before sending him a message.
    I don’t know if I should try to get him to unblock me in other places, or if I should just go ahead and text him when it’s time, even though we agreed it’s for emergencies?
    Also, he was pretty angry when we tried to figure things out, but he’s really broken hearted over this. He doesn’t want to see my picture anywhere because it hurts him and I made the mistake of contacting him a few times before we had our last conversation, so he just wanted to make it so that I couldn’t contact him. I started my 30 day NC on the day we last spoke.

    Thanks for your help! Love your website by the way, it’s super helpful!

    1. Avatar

      Cat

      March 1, 2016 at 1:02 am

      no he does not, but he also told me that he can’t just be my friend and that as it stands right now, he doesn’t want to date me, so I’m thinking I’m going to have to do a longer NC period. I have to restart anyway since it got nasty last night.

    2. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 28, 2016 at 3:11 pm

      Hi Cat,

      Does he know that you’re doing a 3p day nc?

  16. Avatar

    Temari

    February 26, 2016 at 11:13 pm

    My bf and I were together for about 6 months, it ended badly and he didn’t even seem to care because we have been on and off. We broke up roughly 4 months ago and i haven’t heard from him since. He blocked me on pretty much everything and deleted my number( he even said he was going to delete my number and block me and that he din’t want me in his life).
    Do you think he’ll ever unblock me and hopefully we can be friends?

    1. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 27, 2016 at 10:27 am

      Hi Temari,

      up until now? Mostly if you just let him be.. and he noticed you have moved on, that’s when he’ll unblock you

  17. Avatar

    Hope

    February 22, 2016 at 2:03 am

    Hi,
    My boyfriend and I had made all plans of getting married this summer. It is customary in our culture (India) that we ask for our parents’ permission to marry each other. My family gave their blessings but his family was giving us a hard time. He went to meet his parents in India (we live in the US) and convince them. However, they didn’t agree because I am older than him by 3 years and that is sort of a no-no in the society. He tried his best to convince them but my guess is they blackmailed him emotionally (which is very common for the culture but a lot of people do go against families and do what they want for their happiness). He wanted a happy ending for us – blessings from both families.
    It’s been 3 months now that he broke up with me because of this. We are a perfect match for each other. We both have felt how strong the connection is and know that we are each other’s soulmate. We have known each other for 3 years and been in a committed relationship for a year.
    We talked a few times since the breakup and I have tried to convince him to come back to me. Wrote letters and tried everything I could possibly do. But every time all he has said is he is filled with guilt for having put me through all this pain and he is really sorry. It has been killing him too. He is very angry at himself and at everyone in his family for how things have turned out and he has stopped caring for anyone (including me I think) and has stopped all communication with all his friends too. All he does is goes to work (his performance at work too is affected), come home watch tv and drink a few drinks and try to get some sleep. He has been polite in all conversations but he has begged me to stop trying to get back together with him and has asked me not to text or call or show up at his apartment as seeing/talking to me sort of kills him. But since I didn’t listen to him, he blocked me on Facebook and then deleted his fb profile a couple of weeks ago. Then last week, he blocked me on whatsapp and then on gmail and hangouts and I am guessing on phone too for text messages and calls.
    I know he loves me a lot, but is in tremendous pain right now. All he keeps asking for is a little bit of peace of mind.
    Please advice what should I do? I am sure that if we get back together, we call both look beyond all this and have a very good happy life together.
    Thank you for all your help!

    1. Avatar

      Hope

      February 23, 2016 at 12:19 pm

      Yes, you are right. He is shutting everyone out right now. I have always been ready to go independent if need be. But he hasn’t been able to come to terms with that. He has been thinking of the past 30 odd years of association with his parents and thinks it is logical to sacrifice his happiness and his future for his parents’ happiness. Which in reality is next to impossible Coz he is signing up for next 50 odd years of misery. I don’t know how to make him realize what is the right thing to do and that life is not always served on a silver platter. And that going independent is the way for now. All parents eventually come around for the love of their kids. Is there a way to make him realize all of that and make the right decision? How to make the love overpower his sense of responsibility towards his parents?
      Also is a 30 day nc sufficient? Do you think there are chances of us getting back together?

    2. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 24, 2016 at 7:20 am

      He’s 30 year’s old? Well, he has to make this decision himself.. the only one you can control is yourself.. for me, If he’s like that, it’s going to be a lifelong problem if he won’t be responsible for his own happiness.. and I can’t be partnered with somebody like that because I’ll end up being like him and we might have problems with his family too if he listens more to them than me if we get married…

      So, in short.. I’ll continue being someone he’ll want to be with but he has to prove he’s worth it for me.. that way, he knows he has to be in a certain level of independence before he gets your heart

    3. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 23, 2016 at 8:57 am

      Hi Hope,

      well for now, you really have to do nc since you’re in full block but is here anyways to convince his parents? What about being stable? And can he or both of you go independent if you get back together? It seems like he’s shutting everybody out now

  18. Avatar

    jenna

    February 21, 2016 at 11:04 am

    hello I had a 5 year relationship and everything went just like on the site after a time we talked each other again He was very surprised at how I was changing and our conversations went well until that he women add on social media After I had said everything went back to normal , we speak again cozy with each other until I have a friend on my whatssapp profile did he began to insult me and said i hate you you exist for me , and when he blockte me whatsapp and facebook I understand myself of anything because he knows that have no relationship with that boy and he also add women themselves do you really think he hates me and never want to talk to me? can you help me?

    1. Avatar

      Ariel

      February 23, 2016 at 3:19 am

      Hello, I’m really hoping this is the correct spot to be asking for some advice but if not I apologize.. Anyways my ex broke up with me almost two weeks ago, after afew days I said that we could try and be friends. So we started talking again and arguing occasionally but he even told me that he missed me a few times, then on February 19th he was telling he broke up with me for a reason and that if it was ment to be we’d find our way back to each other well it ended with him sending me some screen shots of a conversation he had with a friend and I know I should have ignored it but I didn’t he had made me look like a horrible person and himself seem perfect so I messaged his friend to set them straight because I was so frustrated I know it’s petty and I shouldn’t have anyways things were good we were talking that night flirting a bit and he told me he missed me agian and that he’s still in love with me.. Next morning I messaged him around 8am to tell him about the random dream I had about him a few days before anyways he asked what it was and before I could respond he said ” we are not friends stay out of my life” and blocked me on all apps including Facebook.. Next day I sent a long apology text message and I left it at that I have not message him or tried to contact him since… What do I do in this situation?

    2. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 24, 2016 at 5:59 am

      Hi Aroel,

      I answered your previous comments.. I hope you can read this.. are you going to do nc?

    3. Avatar

      jenna

      February 22, 2016 at 12:02 pm

      yes he hated him when we have a relationship he thought had that we should not talk so when he saw that I did that after our relationship so he was so very angry that he me so much hate I told him that I did nothing to him but he would not listen

    4. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 23, 2016 at 11:53 am

      If you already explained.. that’s eniugh… let him cool off first

    5. Avatar

      jenna

      February 21, 2016 at 5:27 pm

      yes he hate this guy
      and now he wants to beat him while he knows we have nothing

    6. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 22, 2016 at 11:39 am

      he hates him even before you added him? then that’s the reason why he’s angry

    7. Avatar

      jenna

      February 21, 2016 at 5:25 pm

      Yes everything went well we talked daily with each other until I had a picture of a boy on my whatssapp profile had put , he was angry and he told me that he hate me and do not want to talk to me while he ‘s never really a jealous person Been I do not get it because he himself also spoke with women so why he hates me sorry my first post is not good

    8. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 22, 2016 at 11:38 am

      if you mean you made that guy your profile pic, maybe he thought he was your bf . but if you just added him then he’s being irrationally jealous.. Let him be for now..

    9. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 21, 2016 at 2:58 pm

      Hi Jenna,

      just want to ask first, you did nc and then everything went well until he saw you have a new guy friend in snapchat? Is he really the jealous type? Is the guy someone he has always been jealous of?

  19. Avatar

    Deb

    February 14, 2016 at 5:11 pm

    Hi. So here’s how it is. My ex bf did block me (portable phone, mails etc.) I still had contact with his family, especially his grandmother, and discussed my feelings with her. Today she apparently decided to tell him about it. I received a mail politely telling me that his decision is final and that I should stop contacting her. What do I make of it? The reality of this situation hasn’t hit me yet I feel. Where should I take it from here? I was pretty close to a 30 days NC. But now it seems like it was all blown away in one go.

    1. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 15, 2016 at 12:40 pm

      Hi Deb,

      Actually, it’s better if we keep others, especially family members not involved from our couple problems.. that could even be the cause of him not wanting to get back… if you can,wait one week..one last time, before trying to contact him again

  20. Avatar

    June

    February 14, 2016 at 2:57 pm

    Hi!
    I’ve known him for 2 months and he totally blocked me yesterday.

    We were very attracted to each other at the beginning but I had a bf back then. I clearly let him knew my situation(my bf and I were doing a long-distance, but we already had a future plan together like me moving to his country). He’s a very nice person and he really tried his best to respect me. Let me give u an example, I know its funny but sometimes he was walking around with a hard dick but still refused to kiss my lips (only constantly on forehead when he really felt to kiss me). He also said if I dont have a bf he would definitely date me and stuff; and once he even asked me seriously if I can change bf. I really really wanted to but I said no.

    We agreed to stop contacting each other one month ago but I recontacted him immediately. I said maybe we should try to be friends so we dont lose each other. He agreed but annoyed at the same time claiming that he finally felt relieved but now had to deal with the situation again. After that, the dynamic between us has changed. He stopped texting me all the time or asking me out whenever he had time. Sometimes he even had this mood explosion for no reason and that hurt me. I also said harmful things to him afterwards.

    Finally one night I called him and he was with other friends and was very drunk. I asked where he is and who he’s hanging out with. He said “Why is that your business dont you already have a bf? Mind your own business and leave me alone.” later I heard him laughing with his other friends(female) in the phone.

    The next morning I broke up with my bf. And I later sent him a text message. “my bf broke up with me, because I was very sad last night about what you said and I cried when I was skyping with him, and then I told him everything.”

    He was completely shocked and called me right away and said I shouldn’t have broke up with him. But I didnt give him chance to talk much and hangt up the phone.

    The day after that he called again and said it with a guilty voice: his instinct tells him its better for us not to contact each other anymore. and that I should get back with my bf. I was SHOCKED at that moment but behaved cool. However later I was extremely sad and made several phone calls but he turned into this cold monster in the end. Like there is no way back. and now he blocked me on EVERYTHING. he also said only thinking about the shit happened during the last 2 month makes him want to stop contacting.

    My question is: is there any possibility he will recontact me if i just stay quiet for a month or so ?

    I know its a big drama but I havent eaten for a week. Plz help!!!!

    1. Avatar

      June

      March 21, 2016 at 6:35 am

      Last question: I’m leaving for another country in one or two months, can I go to his place before I leave? I jsut want to see him the last time before I go. Will he resent this?

    2. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 21, 2016 at 7:48 am

      Yes, it’s possible because he may think you are moving on but with his last message, I don’t think it’s good to show up at his place

    3. Avatar

      June

      March 20, 2016 at 3:42 pm

      aw…well, if I just stay cool and let it be, is it possible that someday he miss me all of a sudden and contact me again? I mean it happened to me before, I dont know if the same can apply on men.

    4. Avatar

      June

      March 18, 2016 at 12:09 pm

      It just came to my mind that one month ago before this happened, it was I who first time brought up stop contacting, he didnt quite like it but agreed. Later I recontacted him suggesting to be friends, he sounds mad because he doesn’t like me making decisions all the time and manipulating him….he said he finally felt relieved but now it had to start all over again….however he accepted the deal. /////// I think the moment he eventually made final decision to stop seeing me was when I was telling him I broke up because of him. .he said it in a bit trembling voice that his instinct tells him its better if we stop contacting each other……he said he likes me as a person but its not healthy for us to keep seeing each other. Later I called him again asking him out for a cup of coffee he hesitated but refused, the 3rd time i called him he sounded very mad “I SAID DONT CONTACT ME ANYMORE! PLEASE STOP CONTACTING ME! ” and he said if I keep doing this he’s gonna call police. ////// so what is he thinking now??? has he moved on already??? why he stays absolute silent even after I made confession to him?? HELP!!!!

    5. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 19, 2016 at 2:44 pm

      It means he really doesn’t want to get back together.. I know you want closure but it’s clear he just wants you to move on..

    6. Avatar

      June

      March 18, 2016 at 11:32 am

      I;ve been asking 4 friends to send him text messages, telling him I miss him, calling him coward and ugly, apologizing…..all of my friends are blocked immediately. He stayed absolutely silent…. and today I sent him one message telling him that I know things doesnt work between us but things happened too abruptly, and I will visit his place because I want a face-to-face goodbye and say all the things i want to say, after that i will not show up ever again. (This is really what I want at this point, I do not look for anything more than this.) Of course he didnt respond, but should I go?
      (I know i lost control when I was rejected by him and I regret about all the text messages)

    7. Avatar

      June

      March 15, 2016 at 2:22 am

      I sent him a message yesterday by another friend’s phone, telling him its been more than a month but I’m still thinking about him, and that I just felt happy and safe when I was around him. I told him if I’m allowed to have another chance I would follow my heart and choose the person I really like (him) and Im looking forward to hear back from him. However still no reply.

    8. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2016 at 2:12 pm

      Awww.. I understand you want to talk to him so badly and of course that you want him back, but him knowing that that’s your motive may just make him stay silent. But let’s see and let’s hope that that touches his heart and changes his mind for you

    9. Avatar

      June

      March 6, 2016 at 10:56 am

      So im over the NC period, and I added him his wechat (an instant messenger we use here) today, but he blacklisted me….. T__T what am I gonna do now?

    10. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 7, 2016 at 12:40 pm

      that can mean he still thinks you want him back.. and also it’s not a good move to try to push further…

    11. Avatar

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 15, 2016 at 11:25 am

      Hi June,

      I think he will…though I’m not sure of he would want to try a relationship right ahead.. it seems that he conditioned himself when you chose your bf.. so, if ever, you have to expect to start over..

      meaning, rebuilding first before a romantic relationship

1 2 3 4 5