What Are Your Chances of Getting Your ExBoyfriend Back

Here’s How Mary Got Her Ex Boyfriend To Unblock Her (And Eventually Come Back)

I’m sure Mary was shocked when she woke up one day to find her boyfriend had blocked her on Facebook.

Out of the blue with no warning whatsoever…

I mean, who even does that?

One day Mary is walking around thinking everything is fine and the next day she wakes up to find that her boyfriend has disappeared from her on Facebook.

He wanted to breakup and this was his weird way of informing her.

So, Mary did what ever self respecting woman does in that situation, she begged for her ex back.

Unfortunately, he wasn’t having any of it.

So, how the heck did Mary get her ex back?

Well, find out by watching the video below as I interview her,

Written by EBR Teamate

Chris Seiter

34 responses to “Here’s How Mary Got Her Ex Boyfriend To Unblock Her (And Eventually Come Back)”

  1. Lara says:

    Hi. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. He said it’s not right time for us to be in a relationship and relationships are not his things. But I know he fell out of love with me probably because of my clingy behaviour. The breakup wasn’t out of the blue since we were having problems. He didn’t wanted to commit. So when he broke up with me I didn’t beg him to stay or anything. I just told him to take care of himself and not to contact me again. (I didn’t even meant that).
    So yeah I was hurtand wanted him back badly but I didn’t contact yet. Just 1 week ago he texted me at 3am saying he’s sorry for everything that ever happened between us. And that he knows that I hate him now. I calmly told him that I don’t hate you. And then he replied with ‘you’re hurt because me’. The conversation didn’t go that well cause after a while he stopped responding and said just ‘okay’. That’s it. Maybe I screwed up and couldn’t text probably. I just don’t know I don’t think he’ll come back. Will he text me again? Btw, we were in a ldr relationship.

  2. Lara says:

    Hi. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. He said it’s not right time for us to be in a relationship and relationships are not his things. But I know he fell out of love with me probably because of my clingy behaviour. The breakup wasn’t out of the blue since we were having problems. He didn’t wanted to commit. So when he broke up with me I didn’t beg him to stay or anything. I just told him to take care of himself and not to contact me again. (I didn’t even meant that).
    So yeah I was hurtand wanted him back badly but I didn’t contact yet. Just 1 week ago he texted me at 3am saying he’s sorry for everything that ever happened between us. And that he knows that I hate him now. I calmly told him that I don’t hate you. And then he replied with ‘you’re hurt because me’. The conversation didn’t go that well cause after a while he stopped responding and said just ‘okay’. That’s it. Maybe I screwed up and couldn’t text probably. I just don’t know I don’t think he’ll come back. Will he text me again? Btw we were in a ldr relationship.

  3. P.A says:

    Hello,

    I’ve been broken up with my ex boyfriend for little over a year now, we’ve been on and off talking and sometimes even go for months without talking. A few months back he completely stopped all contact but then a few months later he contacted me out of the blue regarding a money matter. After that I didn’t expect anymore contact but he reached out again and we’ve started talking here and there throughout the week (he has to block me when he’s with his girlfriend, when he’s at work he can talk to me freely). He said he likes knowing what I’ve been up to and checking on me, and that he misses our old times of hanging out and so forth. He also said “I hate to admit but I do miss you”. After a month or so of talking I tried the meeting up step which he declined due to having a girlfriend. However, this week I reached out to him again, after he told me (he said he’s barely told anyone) about some of his issues, offering him the fact I am here to talk to or even if he wants to hang out. He said “that’d be good :)” and we organised a day to meet however he didn’t show up. I then jokingly said he owed me a day and suddenly a few hours later he showed up to my house asking if I wanted him to come over. We chatted like old times for about 30 minutes and he went on his way. I asked him if he’d like to meet again and he said he can’t make it a regular thing due to his girlfriend. He also keeps mentioning that nothing will happen between me and him unless something happens with his girlfriend. Is this maybe a sign? I really would like some input on my current situation and where you think I currently stand. Thank you! 🙂

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      If I was in your situation I would move on.. Because he’s either making you a back up, trying to be friends with benefits, date both of you or too coward to go for you.. Just one of those reasons is enough to walk away..the longer you talk to him and see him and ask if he’s going to meet you, the more you look like you’re too available and expecting

  4. Katarina says:

    Hello. I was always available to him, we ended in bad terms and after two years of nc my ex added me on facebook. Its been a week and still no contact. I really miss him, how do i get him to chase me?

  5. Luna says:

    It’s been four months since my ex told me that we needed a break (we did, I’ve became too clingy and negative and our last weeks together were 70% arguments). At first we keep in touch as he wished, later he became cold… And after a while (NC) we talked and he told me that he left last year behind and he is in another time of his life (not with another girl) and said that we could be friends and maybe met some day (we live in different cities but near) but in anither “pace”. and let me knew that he keeped my photos (we used to ask me for selfies and pictures of me)and asked if I was ok with that. After that, he text me two or three times in two weeks sending me things that reminded him to me and movies and tv series we used to watch together. He even suggested that one day we could watch some episodes together” (by distance, just texting) as we used to do. Last week I texted him with some similar stuff (a book that I was using in my job that days, about something he loves). He answer me with a bunch of emojis and one word and when I replayed he didn’t text more. The subject wasn’t very engaging so I shouldn’t expect more. When we were together we texted each other al day long and great part of the night about anything but obviously that’s not the situation anymore. This Friday is the premiere of a movie he’s really waiting for (me too but not as much as him) and I want to text him and letting him know that I’m gonna watch it too and that we can talk about the film later but I don’t know if it’s a good idea.
    I really miss him and want him back but I don’t know how to make him “addicted” to talk with me as he used to be, how to make him want to tell me things and, to sum up, being the person I was to him, when I was the firstperson he told anything, when he was looking forward to our next date, when he preferred texing me than sleep a little more… That kind of things. I don’t know what to do…

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      how long was your nc and how much did you improve?

    • Luna says:

      My NC was three weeks and a half. I change my image and keep on with my life as before (I have a great social life and since we lived in different cities, I didn’t stopped it too much when we were together).
      We talked a little three days ago and he seemed to be closer to me, we ageed in talk this weekend about a movie we were going to see (not together) and I texted him hours ago but he is ignoring me.
      I don’t know, I feel super insecure and scared that I’m not gonna make it, I don’t know what to do to get him back

    • Luna says:

      I reply again because he texted me back yesterday, he was busy with family. He didn’t talk more, he is going to see a movie today and we have decided that we would talk about it after that, so is his move, if he texts me, it’s ok. If not…well, I can’t do it again, I really need him to reach me first, just like the past weeks.
      So it seems that he is being less cold than before, small steps, very small for me because I don’t know if I’m going to make it. When we started he “chased” me, he always wanted to talk…everything was natural and easy. I understand that the situation is different now and that the past few weeks habe been an improvement but I still feel the fear… I am s scared…when we started to talk again he told me that he has moved on (not with another girl, just his life stage) and as I accepted it, he started to talk more, and texting first when he saw something that reminds him to me. My best friend says that she doesn’t believe his “I’ve moved on, I left the past year behind” but… I don’t know, I just want to be the “chased” one again, to make him feel the magic and the illusion of our first months, but I don’t know what to do. I am trying to show him the best side of me again, the Luna of the best part of our relationship: independent, positive… Not the negative, needy, insecure and clingy one. But I don’t know if he is seeing this and I am very afraid that he has really moved on and left me behind. He is very stubborn and capable of “convince” himself that he will be better without me. How can I change his mindset?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      I agree with letting him initiate for now.. the best you can do is to really be independent. That means being more busy in your activities than with him

    • Luna says:

      Thank you Amor. Yes, I guess that it’s the only thing I can do but it is very difficult to focus when I’m missing him… BUt I`ll try

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      ok, that’s good.. you’re welcome!

  6. P.A says:

    Hello,

    I’ve been broken up with my ex boyfriend for little over a year now, we’ve been on and off talking and sometimes even go for months without talking. A few months back he completely stopped all contact but then a few months later he contacted me out of the blue regarding a money matter. After that I didn’t expect anymore contact but he reached out again and we’ve started talking here and there throughout the week (he has to block me when he’s with his girlfriend, when he’s at work he can talk to me freely). He said he likes knowing what I’ve been up to and checking on me, and that he misses our old times of hanging out and so forth. He also said “I hate to admit but I do miss you”. After a month or so of talking I tried the meeting up step which he declined due to having a girlfriend. However, this week I reached out to him again, after he told me (he said he’s barely told anyone) about some of his issues, offering him the fact I am here to talk to or even if he wants to hang out. He said “that’d be good :)” and we organised a day to meet however he didn’t show up. I then jokingly said he owed me a day and suddenly a few hours later he showed up to my house asking if I wanted him to come over. We chatted like old times for about 30 minutes and he went on his way. I asked him if he’d like to meet again and he said he can’t make it a regular thing due to his girlfriend. He also keeps mentioning that nothing will happen between me and him unless something happens with his girlfriend. I know this is general speaking but I feel like he’s trying to hint something. I really would like some input on my current situation and where you think I currently stand. Thank you! 🙂

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      If I was in your situation I would move on.. Because he’s either making you a back up, trying to be friends with benefits, date both of you or too coward to go for you.. Just one of those reasons is enough to walk away..the longer you talk to him and see him and ask if he’s going to meet you, the more you look like you’re too available and expecting

    • P.A says:

      He continuously keeps asking me if I still have feelings for him as well. Does this mean anything? He also says he enjoys talking to me and I think he still checks all of my social media

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      because he’s trying to guage if he can still string you along

    • P.A says:

      Does that apply if he traveled 2 hours to come and make sure I was okay when I said I was upset and having a really bad day?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      that’s a good sign if he really did come but not enough if he’s still with another girl.. but if he just suggested to come, that’s different

    • P.A says:

      Well he asked was I okay because I was being off when we texting and then he suggested to leave me alone if I wanted but then suddenly the same time he said he would leave me alone he would come and see me so I could talk about it and I said after the last time he saw me would he be fine with it and he said yeah

  7. Anne says:

    Hi!
    My ex broke up with me in the end of November mainly because I was too insecure. We used to live together. After this I went to my mother’s house and we spent two weeks of no contact. Then I had to come back home, but I would always sleep in my sister’s house. By this time we started talking again as friends. Many times in a flirtatious way. He left home in the beginning of February and then I came back home for good (I live in the apartment now). After a few days I asked him for us to be together again and he said no, cause he waited two months for me to say something and I didn’t. But I didn’t know! He said things were different now. After that he called me drunk a few times to say how much he misses me and that he’s confused about his feelings. He even asked me back once but then changed his mind when he was sober. That was in the end of February. After that we made out a couple times, when he would call me drunk in the middle of the night telling me all that stuff. Last time he called this way (and I allowed him to come home to sleep over) was in the begging of April. But every time I let him know how I feel about us he says he doesn’t want it anymore. He still calls me eventually or sends messages just to know how I am. Even finds excuses to talk to me sometimes. Gave me chocolate for Easter (a tradition in Brazil). Do I still have a chance to get him back? What should I do? It’s been almost five months! Please please help!

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      But you’re not living together now right? Restart the no contact rule.. Do the 30 days properly.. And slowly build rapport after

  8. TNT says:

    Hi Chris! (Don’t know if you got my reply I send a couple a days ago, so I will reply to you again!)

    After the NC of 30 days and after that I send him a text saying: “Hey! Just saw the movie [X] and I know how much you liked those movies, it made me think of you!”

    He replyed: “Oh yeah! How was it? Did you like it? :)”

    So I said: “I would! It was really good! But I gotta go now, my friends are waiting for me!”

    He said: “Yeah, talk to you soon!”

    We text like, once a week maybe. But still I always need to start conversation. So it kinda looks like I’m chasing?

    The first contact after the NC was two months ago. So because I always have to start first.. It’s going kinda slow? I don’t need to hurry, I rather do it right than fast!

    But why doesn’t he ever contact me first? He does however alsways reply to my texts!

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      That’s ok if you’re the one initiating as long as you’re the one ending the conversation at high point..you’re just starting to build rapport, it’s normal that he wouldn’t initiate..

  9. JL says:

    Hi Chris I’m currently in the NC period and struggling. I told my BF that I wasn’t happy very emotionally 30 days ago. I was crying hysterically & told him I love him and want to be with him but I was feeling as if he was taking me for granted after the 15 months we were together. He was shocked, holding his head in his hands & didn’t offer much to the conversation except for agreeing that things were feeling different for him also. I should mention that we are both in our 40s, divorced & each have a child from those marriages. Anyways, I left very emotionally after he held me tight for a bit. Neither of us said it was over nor did either of us fight for it. I just want to get back to where we were. Back to where we prioritized each other. I left him a message about a week after this incident on the advice of a friend & before I had found you! I told him I was sorry for how emotional I was and that I would like to meet him to talk with him. I told him I loved him very much. I left that message approximately 21 days ago and I had not heard anything from him. I’m still friends with him on Facebook and I’m doing posting and I’m taking care of myself. I’ve lost over 10 pounds. But the truth is I really miss him and I really love him. He has not blocked me on anything and he also has some of my personal belongings. Do I stay in the NC for another week because I made the telephone call? Or do I go by the break-up date? And do I have a shot or is too much damage done? Thanks for all you do to help us!

  10. Sally says:

    My situation doesn’t apply to one single rule. Please advice on NC.

    Had a fantastic relationship for 5 months. During dating, knew he was going to be leaving for a year overseas backpacking and I can’t follow because I’m still in med school. Our dates were so perfect it was like our relationship was perfectly choreographed by the universe. Seriously… I was gobsmacked with how easily we get along and we always had fun. He feels the same.

    The time came when he left. He said we should NC for 2 months and then become friends so we can be less invested. Plus he’s been burnt before from his last gf. It will be so easy for him to be distracted overseas and I know he won’t be celibate all that time so we wistfully agreed to NC. To be perfectly honest he can get any girl he wants, he’s an 11. Obviously during this time I’m active on social media with improvements. I’m even learning a new instrument, skydiving and horseriding, pretty fun! (Not at same time ;D )

    Is this too long a time for NC? Should I wait only 30 days? BUT will it seem like I am chasing if I don’t wait two months? Does it even matter because it’s not like I’ll see him for at least a year anyway? Should I wait for his message first after 2 months? We left at the height of honeymoon and I’m hopeful and determined for a future chance.

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      frankly, if he’s really serious about you, he wouldn’t ask that from you. If you trust him fully, you wouldn’t be thinking that he will not be faithful…he already friendzoned you.. if you really want a relationship from him.. if I was in your position, I will not play by his rules.. he has to work his way of why I should trust him.. if you want to ne friends, continue talking. Other than that, move on

  11. TNT says:

    Hi Chris!

    My NC ended 1 month ago. I send him a text that said: “I was just at the movies watch [X] and I just thought about how you loved these movies! It made me think of you! Have you seen it yet?”

    He replied: “Haven’t seen it yet, but it looks really promising! Do you reccomand it :)?”

    I said: “I did, it was pretty good! But I have to talk to you later, my friends are waiting on me!”

    He replied: “Yeah, speak to you soon!”

    We texted like 3 more times aftee that.. So once a week. He never starts a conversation, however he does always reply to me. But it looks like I’m still chasing him, because I always text first..

    What to do? I just think he is really busy enjoying his life, that he barely thinks about me or something?

    • EBR Team Member: Amor says:

      That’s ok if you’re the one initiating as long as you’re the one ending the conversation at high point..you’re just starting to build rapport, it’s normal that he wouldn’t initiate..

  12. TNT says:

    Hi!

    My boyfriend dumped me 3 months ago. I did the 30 days NC and inproved myself greatly. My ex never contacted me in the NC period, infact, my ex is also improving himself greatly; Going to the gym, hanging with friends more, driving lessons.. How come he is improving so much? Is he trying to forget me?

    Also, something I’ve been wondering alot and I really want an awnser to: How usual is it for a ex boyfriend to miss you after a few months? (Like, enjoying his life now, but after a few months starting to miss me?)

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