Have you ever seen a man beg for his girlfriend back, before?
Ok… perhaps I didn’t word that question correctly.
How about this,
Have you ever seen a man who has broken up with his girlfriend completely change his mind and beg for her to take him back?
I have, and let me tell you that it’s a glorious sight to behold!
Now, I am a pretty ambitious guy so I am going to make a statement that might floor you.
Are you ready?
(That’s a picture of me by the way 🙂 .)
Yep, I am going to be the man that teaches you how to make that ex boyfriend of yours get on his knees and beg to get back together with you.
But first, you are probably wondering why I used that picture of myself.
I mean, why in the world would I use a picture where I’m not even smiling. Well, this is actually a picture of me trying my very best to hold back tears on my wedding day (I didn’t cry… ) In other words, this is a picture of me at my most vulnerable.
I figure if you see me in a super emotional moment I can prove to you that I know exactly how you feel.
You feel vulnerable…
And like you are drowning in quicksand.
But I am going to get you out of that quicksand.
I am going to help and empower you.
So, who the hell am I?
Well, my name is Chris Seiter, founder of Ex Boyfriend Recovery and a professional relationship consultant specializing in breakups.
(You didn’t know I was that cool, huh?)
But you probably don’t give a crap about any of that, do you?
But of course, you came here to learn how to make your ex boyfriend beg for you to come back to him.
I’m not going to lie, that’s a pretty ambitious goal and in order to achieve it we first need to understand the state of mind that you have to put your ex in to get him to beg for you back.
The State of Mind You Need Your Ex To Be In To Start Begging
The other day my wife, daughter and I were at a restaurant when my wife and I got an ingenious idea.
Let’s order Lilly an Ice Cream
For your reference,
Lilly = Our daughter
Now, you may be sitting there wondering,
“What’s the big deal? It’s just ice cream?”
Well, why it’s significant is because my daughter had never had ice cream in her life before.
And upon tasting it for the first time she had a look on her face like she was Christopher Columbus discovering the Americas for the first time.
And then it happened.
She started begging for more…
Now, you may be wondering why I told you this story when it has nothing to do with your ex but I am going to ask you to look a little closer.
The key to making your ex boyfriend beg for you back is wrapped up in that entire story.
Well, my daughter didn’t do any begging until she had deemed the ice cream worth begging over.
And therein lies the most basic problem that most women coming to this website fail to grasp. Currently, in your exes mind you aren’t worth begging over.
I know that may be a hard pill to swallow and some of you may fight with me on that fact but let me ask you.
Do you ever beg for something that you don’t want?
The only time you ever beg for something is when you determine that it has immense value to you.
In my daughters case she tasted ice cream for the first time and immediately determined that it was a valuable taste and she wanted more of it.
In other words, make her beg for that ice cream was simply a state of mind.
She was so convinced that Ice Cream tasted good that she was going to do everything in her power to get more of it.
In your case, you need to convince your ex that you have an immense value to him. It’s only when you do that, that he will start to beg.
The only question, is how?
How the hell are you supposed to convince your ex that you are valuable?
Convincing Your Ex That You Are Valuable
Ever since I have started my Private Facebook Group I have been able to communicate with women going through breakups on a more personal level (sometimes talking to them through Skype) and the lessons I have learned have been nothing short of revolutionary.
You see, the really great thing about it is I am able to separate the things the successful women are doing from the unsuccessful women.
Want to know what I learned?
Well, the successful women are able to get their ex to place them back up on a pedestal. In other words, they become valuable again in their exes eyes.
That’s easy enough to understand.
However, we can also learn a lot from the women who fail specifically the actions they are taking.
About a month ago I talked to a woman over Skype (who was a part of the Private Facebook Group) about her situation and even I’ll admit that she was in a very difficult one.
Her ex was dating someone else and she may have freaked out about it post breakup and followed her ex all the way to an airport (where he was meeting his new girlfriend) and confronted the two of them.
Now, think about this for a minute.
By doing that one act she put herself in the “crazy ex girlfriend” territory. Her exes perception of her is always going to lead back to the moment that she acted a bit crazy.
In other words, he is not going to look at her as very valuable. Instead, he is going to look at her like this crazy chick that followed him around that one time.
It’s a tough place to be, no doubt but it’s something you can absolutely learn from.
Your Behavior Matters Post Breakup When It Comes To Getting Him To Beg
Our goal with this article is to make your ex boyfriend beg for you back is it not?
Here is the sad truth you are going to have to accept.
It’s a very ambitious goal that not everyone is going to be able to achieve.
It’s a hard pill to swallow, huh?
Now, does that mean that it’s impossible to get your ex back if he doesn’t beg for you back.
No, it just means you aren’t going to see him begging for you back if that makes any sense.
Take the story of the girl who confronted her ex and his new girlfriend at an airport. Her behavior after the breakup absolutely angered and freaked her ex out.
Instead of thinking,
“I wonder what (name) is up to?”
He’s probably thinking,
“God, (name) is so freaking crazy?”
Do you see where I am going with this?
It’s a lot easier to pivot into making your ex beg for you back if he doesn’t put you in the “crazy ex girlfriend” category.
In other words, if you acted batshit crazy after your breakup then the chances are going to be pretty high that you aren’t in a position to make him beg for you back.
Now, does that mean the world has ended?
Of course it doesn’t mean the world has ended.
All it means is that you probably shouldn’t get unrealistic expectations about having your ex beg for you back.
You could still have a really good shot of getting him back but having him beg for you back is probably not in the cards.
Ok, now that I have that out of the way let’s talk about the lucky people who behaved somewhat normally after their breakup and what they can do to improve the odds that their ex will beg for them back.
The Four Ways To Convince Your Ex You Are Worth Begging For
There has been something that has been on my mind a lot lately and I’m not sure I should tell you…
It’s not that I want to be secretive or anything but I think it could make me a lot of money….
Ah screw it, who needs money anyways (me) I am just going to tell you!
I had mentioned a bit earlier in this article that I have been working personally with a lot of women on our Private Facebook Group and quite a few of them have actually gotten their exes back.
And I find it fascinating to ask them after they got their ex back what made the biggest difference when it came to convincing him to come back.
Four things constantly get mentioned by the success stories and the more and more I picked at them I realized that these four things are essential to regaining some leverage after the breakup and putting yourself in that “value” position that you desperately need to be in to have any chance of making him beg.
The four things are,
- The Uncaring Vibe
- Dictating The Pace
So, here’s the deal.
Based on my own independent research and experience you need to hit on these four things if you want to make your ex beg.
From the top,
The Uncaring Vibe
Ok, I am probably about to lose any type of credibility by making this reference but what the hell.
When I was a kid there was one TV show that I loved above anything else, Dragon Ball Z.
And there was one character I adored more than anything (and it wasn’t the protagonist.)
Nope, it was this guy named Vegeta. Basically, Vegeta was obsessed with being the most powerful fighter in the universe and always put himself through this rigorous training to do so. However, he always fell short.
At point throughout the series there was a transformation that he wanted to achieve more than anything. The all powerful “Super Saiyan,”
However, no matter how hard good old Vegeta tried he just couldn’t reach it.
In fact, he got so frustrated at one point that he completely gave up his quest screaming,
And it was at this point that he finally achieved his goal.
When he stopped caring.
Now, you may be sitting there wondering,
Why did you tell us that ridiculous story?
Well, I have seen a similar phenomenon happening with women who desperately want their exes back. You see, a certain segment want their exes back so much that at times I wonder if they would cut off their pinkies to achieve the goal.
And to make matters worse when their ex shows no interest in them they only want them even more.
Unfortunately, they see no results and it’s only when that have that inevitable Vegeta moment where they find themselves screaming,
I DON’T CARE ANYMORE
That they finally start to see some progress.
It’s a weird phenomenon but I have seen this happen time and time again.
I haven’t been able to prove it yet but my theory is that when you give up in this manner you have absolutely nothing to lose and you give off a more attractive vibe to those around you.
It’s a transformation and it’s something that you absolutely need to have if you want him to beg for you back.
I mean, think about it for a minute.
If you truly feel like you have nothing to lose you aren’t going to give a crap on if he responds to your texts. You aren’t going to care and that gives you power.
You won’t be tentative in your actions.
You’ll be powerful!
I’m just Saiyan 😉 .
I am a big believer that if I am going to recommend a strategy to you that I should have proof to back it up and that’s where this next thing comes into play.
I have been noticing a very fascinating trend on the Private Facebook Group a lot of women seem to be having a ton of success with introducing some competition.
Now, what do you think I mean by competition?
Competition = Your Ex Seeing You With Another Man
But I suppose it makes a lot of sense if you really think about it.
You’ve heard the theory on social proof, right?
Well, social proof posits that people are going to base their perception of you based on how you look socially. In other words, if you see a guy at the bar with two women hanging off of his arm then you are probably going to think he is a player.
Now, I’m assuming most women might be turned off by a “player” but men tend to think a bit differently when the shoe is on the other foot.
You see, when we see a woman getting hit on by men we automatically think that she is of higher value.
There’s that word…
Value (what you need to show your ex that you are.)
So, let’s say that you go on a date with a guy and post a picture of it to Facebook or Instagram and your ex sees that. It’s going to be an indication that other men find you attractive and that you might be more valuable than he initially thought.
If you haven’t already read my guide on “The Ungettable Girl” then drop everything you are doing and read it (the way you look at men will be forever changed I promise you.)
You know, it’s really funny.
I first wrote that article about 3 years ago and I still get asked about it all the time.
I came up with the idea for “The Ungettable Girl” after my best friend and I were waited on by a pretty attractive waitress. I remember very clearly how much he went on and on about how beautiful she was and how he would have no chance with her (I agreed with everything he said by the way (this was before I even met my wife.)
The fact that she was so far out of our league made her more attractive.
And that’s when I had the inevitable lightbulb moment,
This phenomenon applied to every woman I could think of who was out of my league. I always found that I was much more attracted to women who I felt like I had no chance of getting.
Take the case of Brittany a girl who sat across the room in one of my college classes years ago.
I literally remember thinking there was no way on earth that I could ever get a girl like that and it made her even more attractive to me. In fact, it made me so attracted to her that I engaged in a set of super embarrassing attempts to talk to her and eventually settled on coming up to her like a creep to ask if I could sit next to her (even though someone was already sitting next to her.)
So, let me ask you a question.
Do you feel like you are “ungettable?”
Do you feel like your ex views you that way?
Often I find that the women I work with aren’t. In fact, they are so obsessed with pleasing their exes that it’s impossible for them to obtain the elusive ungettable status.
There’s no chase, no reason for why he would even be interested.
And if you can’t get him to view you this way then you can kiss having him beg for you back goodbye.
Dictating The Pace
What do you think I mean by dictating the pace?
After working personally with thousands of women I have noticed that more often than not the person who controls the rate at which the relationship develops often wins out in the end when it comes to getting an ex back.
In other words, the person who controls how fast things are going/progressing and controls the landscape is going to put themselves in a great position to succeed.
But that is often a problem because it requires a great amount of discipline and women who are going through breakups are among the least disciplined creatures on earth.
So, I figured I’d give you a really great example of someone who I feel mastered dictating the pace and got her ex to actually ask for her back.
I’d like to introduce you to Anna.
Now, Anna was kind enough to hop on a skype call with me for the podcast and allowed me to pick her mind and I have to say I came away very impressed with her approach.
So, after talking with her (which again, you can listen to here) I realized that she did an incredible job of controlling the pace.
I’ll give you a direct example.
The woman literally had her follow him around a house from room to room just so he could look at her butt!
Now, I know that might not seem like much but let’s dissect it a bit.
By having her ex follow her around a house she is literally creating a situation where he is chasing her. Yes, it’s on a small scale but all this stuff adds up.
You want another example on how she controlled the pace?
Well, as they met each other in person for the first time since the breakup she had him hooked in a conversation and then abruptly ended it and had him follow her to a room.
Again, I know this seems like small stuff but trust me when I say that it’s not.
All this seemingly insignificant adds up.
This is what it takes to make your ex boyfriend beg for you back.