Have you ever had an ex boyfriend say,

There is no way that we’ll ever get back together… Ever…

Think Taylor Swift but ten times worse and without the dancing!

Most women hear that and they are crushed. They literally look out the window and think the apocalypse has happened.

But does an ex boyfriend TRULY mean it when he says “we aren’t getting back together” or is it just an “in the moment” reaction to the breakup?

Well, that’s what I’d like to explore today.

And I’d figured the best way to explore that would be to take a look at one of my latest success stories.

I’d like to introduce you to Buffy!

What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?

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Wait, What Do You Mean Buffy?

Ok, this one might need an explanation.

For those of you who aren’t “in the know” when you buy Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO I actually give you an opportunity to join a Private Facebook Group where I help women through breakups. One of the coolest things about this is I am always doing “Facebook Lives” on the group where I just take questions for about an hour.

Well, one day a woman joined one of the Facebook Lives named “Sarah Michelle.”

Now, me being the Buffy aficionado that I am couldn’t help but compare her to Sarah Michelle Gellar (AKA: Buffy)

Well, turns out that our Buffy doesn’t just slay vampires she gets exes back as well. Watch the video below to learn more.

Update To Buffy’s Situation

So, I wanted to come back to this post and update it since there has been a development with Buffy’s situation.

Turns out that yesterday our little Buffy got engaged to her ex!

Yep, and here’s my proof,

So, what’s the moral of the story?

Well, if your ex boyfriend tells you that “he hates you” or that “you’ll never get back together” he doesn’t always mean it. In fact, it seems like more of a reaction than anything. Just ask Buffy, she knows!

If you would like to learn more about how to get your ex boyfriend back please check out,

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Interview Transcript

  • Ok so, you were probably one of the more interesting people I think I’ve ever had on because you’re a part of the Facebook group and I call you Buffy, because your name is like Sarah Michelle Gellar right? So, we have Sarah Michelle here and she actually got her ex back. What’s up?

  • What’s up?

  • What’s up Buffy? So, how are you doing? How are things and everything? For those of you who don’t know, she got her ex back. She’s a part of group and a this the first time we’re actually officially meeting. She’s like attended a few Facebook live and everything and I’ve obviously answered her questions but it’s really cool to actually meet Buffy in person. Don’t slay me or anything but–

  • Now, you know like–I’m actually doing really, really good. I mean before all of this, I was actually engaged.

  • Engaged–were you engaged with this particular guy?

  • My boyfriend–yeah. We were engaged. He broke it off.

  • Of course.

  • Yeah, he broke it off.

  • -Left at the altar. No, no, no, for real. Someone in the Facebook group yesterday was literally left at the altar. She came and said like the guy’s mom, like she had the dress on, the guy’s mom–that’s crazy!

  • I was supposed to be getting married actually. It was like months. So, I had already started buying things like we bought a house together–

  • Well what you are–for  a young person, you are moving quick girl.

  • Yeah, I actually bought my first house with money all by myself. Thankfully his name wasn’t on it. It’s just me but we bought a dog together and literally went the whole 9 yards, been together for 2 1/2 years and all of  a sudden, like we just moved in on the south like 3 months ago and he’s like, “I’m not happy. I’m leaving.”

  • So, like where there’s no signs whatsoever at all?

  • No and I didn’t understand it. He went to the gym at 8 o’clock at night and came back home at 1 in the morning. I’m calling where the hell are you? It was just the weirdest thing. It was just so out of nowhere and I see all this girls on like the Facebook live, like their ex tells them, “I don’t love you anymore” like, “You’re too much” like, “We’re never going to be together again,” I heard all those things, all of them.

    I heard every single one of those things come out of his mouth. When it came down to it, I found out he didn’t mean any of it, none of it. And I think that’s the hardest thing to comprehend, when you’re going through it because I feel a lot of the girls like in the Facebook page, all the guys say that and like when you hear it, like you just don’t understand at all.

  • The crazy thing is I try to explain to people, it’s like, well he’s in a moment where maybe he’s feeling that at that particular moment but in the grand scheme he doesn’t really mean it and it just kind of goes in one ear and out the other. It’s obviously you kind of have hindsight because you got him back. So, you can kind of obviously look back and see that but for someone really struggling, they’ll have a hard time swallowing that pill.

  • Yeah, when you first hear it you’re devastated. You are absolutely 03:19 because you’re like, are you kidding me? Like that is so deceiving from everything you’ve been telling me and everything you said but I honestly, it’s like emotions that are running high. When like if you’re in the moment you say things you don’t mean and I think it’s really hard for us girls to really understand that.

  • Yes. So, take me through the timeline. How did you find exboyfriend recovery? Sort of, go through your journey through–I’m assuming you searched on Google or something. That seems what everyone does. I need to diversify my traffic a little bit more. I need to start like paying for ads and billboards or something because I’m getting a little to relying on Google traffic.

  • Well, when I was first looking because I was just like–I was honestly looking for how do you get your ex back kind of like and when I started typing in like random different things, nothing came up. Nothing like–like I saw there was an article that was like how to get your ex back for sure 04:19reading it. It was honestly like the exact same thing you did but like it had weird, it was just the weirdest set up on how to do things.

  • So, one of the things that people don’t necessarily realize but I realize because I’m sort of in the business is, a lot of this web masters who really don’t are about people. They’ll hire someone from India to write the article for them and so you will read and Google is not smart enough to pick it up.

    I think if you like go to Google right now and type in how do you get your exboyfriend back, you’ll find like one of the featured snippets in Google is someone who has broken English, who’s trying to teach someone to get their ex back. So, it’s like not necessarily the best information out there.

  • Yeah, I know because honestly like Googling s**t was my last resort. All my friends were like leave it alone like it’s done, it’s over, get over it, like even my family they’re like it’s just move on. You’re going to be ok and it’s like the hardest thing to accept because nobody is actualy going through it, you are at that point.

  • Yeah, you are totally isolated. So, you have this one need to get your back and you know I talk about this on the website. Your friends and family, they can be an incredible support system but at the same time it’s not necessarily like they’re on your side a 100% of the time.

  • No, because their thinking process is you know, especially for me because I’m young. It’s like, oh you’re young, you got to move on.

  • More fish in the sea, that kind of spiel.

  • Exactly. It gets really old because I think we have the mentality that if it’s meant to be, it will be. It kind helps you get through it.

  • I’m also curious. You said Google was your last resort, did you also like go to Youtube, go to Yahoo to like try to find anything you could on it?

  • To be honest, my  main source was Google. It was Google. I actually came across your website, and then I started looking through it and like you had a podcast that was going out–

  • So, you listened to the podcast.

  • I listened to the podcast and that’s how I was like, “Ok, we’ll I’ll give it a shot.” And so, I was actually at work listening to the podcast.

  • That podcast, it ranks in Itunes. It’s not like the top Itunes broadcast thing but you’d be struck at how many customers I actually get through that podcast and I’m even shocked because I feel like it’s a lot of effort I have to continually interview people. Before when I first started, I would just like answer people’s random voice mail questions. I don’t know if you had like tuned in to some of those episodes or tuned in to the more recent interviews or the interviews of the experts out there.

  • The one that I listened to was, I don’t remember which one. I really don’t remember which one it was but it was like the one where you were like promoting. I think you were just starting your Facebook page. You only have like 80 members in it.

  • So, it was early, early on. Now, the Facebook group grows every single day which is kinda cool. If I had started 5 years ago, it would probably be over like a 100,000 people by now. But I can’t even imagine–I think last I checked, it was 213 and like last week it was like 190 or 150 or something. It just grows constantly.

  • Yes, it’s crazy how quickly it’s grown.

  • I just really just started it like a month ago.

  • I was like the 75th member.

  • Right, yes.

  • It’s really cool to see it growing.

  • Yeah, that’s been one of the best thing. It’s absolutely my favorite thing to do because I love jumping on a Facebook live. I feel like people will get their money’s worth when they buy the product and stuff and then go into the Facebook group and they get sort of like a group of women to help support through things. I’m there, my wife is there, I jump on Facebook live.

  • It’s perfect. It is absolutely perfect. I think that’s what separates you from the other programs because you have that actual support that’s there.

  • So, let me ask you, Did you end up taking the quiz on the website?

  • I did and I couldn’t figure out how to like get it. I never got like an email for anything.

  • Really? It’s funny. I’m actually going to hire a designer to completely redesign the website. It’s going to be expensive of course but it’s going to look like–it’s this guy who works for Apple. He’s like one of the top top people. So, we’re trying to streamline the quiz and make it better because so many people like that quiz but we have had some issues with it but I find most of the people take the quiz and then they will jump on the webinar and then you know, they’ll buy the products, get into the group and sort of –I don’t know if that’s sort of the trajectory you took.

  • Because I took the quiz and then I got an email about the webinar–and then I joined it, like ok, well. And then it was like promoting your product and that was when I think you first were launching your Facebook too.

  • Literally it just had started out. Right when I started doing those webinars is right when the Facebook group was sort of kind of fruition and I think when we started , we had like beta tested it with like 15-20 members. And so, we didn’t have like a ton of people but I had done it maybe like 3-4 months before. We just had 15-20 members in this Facebook group and they stayed active.

    You’ve probably seen Mirka right? She’s one of the very original people that was in this beta test where we just like literally trying to test out and see if people would like it. And so we would just ask people like, “Would you like us to continue the Facebook group?”

    Obviously an overwhelming yes, but you know now it’s really starting to take off now that we’ve kind of incorporated in into the products. It is a little bit exclusive meaning you can only get to it if you buy exboyfriend recovery pro but I think it’s probably worth the money alone, you know?

  • Yes, definitely. I couldn’t agree more. It’s literally the best thing because you get live support, you get help from other women who are going through the same thing and you get like live Facebook because you do live all the time. Honestly, that itself like, you could do that and I think you would be fine.

  • Yes, it’s interesting how it all sort of comes to fruition. Sometimes I just have a spur of the moment like an hour in the schedule and I’m like, “I’ll just do one of this Facebook live”. It’s like sporadically all throughout the day but usually it’s like 3 or 4 times a week.

    And then I would always see you jump on right? And I always call you Buffy because it was like– I was for some reason watching Buffy at time and it’s all Sarah Michelle and I was like, “Oh, Sarah Michelle Gellar”. So, I would like just like jump back and forth.

    Let’s talk a little bit about your ex. What did you do to get him back? What resources did you like really leaned on?

  • I’m not going to lie. It was really hard like the no contact rule. That is the hardest thing I ever had to do. For about a month, I did on and off no contact because he would randomly just show up at my house. It was the weirdest.

  • So, it’s really difficult to like stick to it if he’s like showing up at your doorstep.

  • It was hard. He would just randomly just show up at my house if I didn’t answer. That was his thing. If I didn’t answer, he would just show up at my house. My biggest leeway was his best friend was actually talking to me. His best friend was like–

  • Oh, he always had like a thing for you or something?

  • No, to be honest, I actually dated his best friend before.

  • Ok, so he’s got a little bit of the jealousy. He’s probably thinking, “Oh god, they’re sleeping together.” or something like that.

  • Well, that was one of his biggest fears but his best friend was just helping me. Like his best friend talked to me and stuff like that.

  • Yes, he was “helping” you. Yeah, I get it. No, I’m just kidding!

  • He was really good about like talking about what was going on with him. So, that was how I kind of knew what he was doing. Because we broke up a little over a month ago when we first broke up, I have to have friends stay with me because I just couldn’t handle it and then I don’t know–the biggest thing that helped was honestly the no contact rule. It really was the best thing that I could have done and just the kind of getting yourself together like doing new things, like showing yourself off is a big thing.

  • So, how did you do that though?

  • Your wife 13:31 posted something on I had posted about like how to dress and she had like this video. She actually posted it online but I ended up going and looking at them anyway. And I actually learned how to put on extensions in that way.

  • Really from my wife? That was like–I can tell you the story about that particular–we were like in her parent’s house, and it was like the most like–everything was like crunched together. We have like no space. We both were like, “Ah, this isn’t going to turn out good. No one’s going to like this.” We posted it to the website. No one commented on it. Like hardly any people viewed it. So, I’m actually really shocked that that helped you out because we’re kind of been like giving up on it.

  • It literally caught his attention. Your wife is the reason that I learned how to do it.

  • So, we’ll give her the credit for your success. I won’t take the credit this time.

  • I went out, bought new clothes, I actually dyed my hair, put in extension and like he noticed me right off the bat because I was posting pictures and that’s like–

  • So, you’re doing it on like Facebook or social media or things like that?

  • Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, like I was posting this stuff all the time and he was noticing it. And it wasn’t until I started hanging out with other guys and like actually attempting to date other people that I got a reaction from him.

  • So, what was that like? What was the reaction you got out of him when you started doing those things?

  • That was when he started calling me constantly. That was when he was like Facetiming me. That was when I like my phone was constantly getting blown up.

  • This was all happening during the no contact period. Well, you’re attempt, it’s just kind of hard when he shows up at your doorstep and everything. So, how long did you make it like really before he started to crack down and just came back and said, “Can I get you back.”

  • So, my little first with no contact, the first one was for about 6 days. Second one, they were all like 6 day increment but the last time–

  • So, it wouldn’t be you that would break it. It would be like him doing something like showing up at your door.  So, technically, there’s like nothing you can do to control that because it’s not like you can just say “F off!”

  • Yes. He would just randomly show up at my house because I wasn’t answering him.

  • I think those are positive things though generally. Obviously in your case.

  • Yes, it wasn’t until my final round, it was then about close to 30 days that I hadn’t really talked to him and it was 4 days of no contact technically, if you really think about because he showed at my door before then but it was 4 days because the first day I didn’t hear from him at all.

  • So day 1 after the break up you don’t hear from him whatsoever?

  • The first week I didn’t hear from him at all. And then he came, got his stuff. You know, stuff like that. I don’t know if that’s really considered breaking it.

  • No, that  falls within the realm of you know, that’s ok.

  • He came, got his stuff and then we didn’t talk for about like 6 days after that and then–because he was trying to call me but I wasn’t answering him and so, he showed up at my house again. And then what happened after that–and then another 6 days and he showed up at my house again just because I’m not–

  • He’s consistent, you got to give him that. Every 6 days, he’s going to show up at your house.

  • Yes! Right after that, –this is the last time, the 4 days where he first of all didn’t talk to me and then on the second day, he called me  6 times. Literally called me 6 times and I didn’t answer. He left me a voice mail, “Pick up your phone!” And so, I didn’t talk to him. Third day, he called me 6 times and then he Facetimed me twice, Snapchatted me, he had his friends calling me because I wouldn’t answer.

  • So, no contact is definitely working on this guy.

  • Yes and I never thought it would. I really never thought because he actually told me we’re never getting back together.

  • Ok, he prefaced it with probably, “I’d never loved you before or we’re never going to get back together.” All of that kind of stuff.

  • I got the I haven’t loved you for 2 months spiel.

  • Oh ok. You’ve seen it around the Facebook group, I’m sure.

  • Basically on the 4th like, I didn’t talk to him and then I got this random text like, “Hey”. I didn’t answer. He texted me again, “It’s important. I need to talk to you.” And then was when I –because I’ve screenshot what he said to me and that’s when he was asking for me back.

  • Right, so how did the conversation go? Did you do this over text or was this over the phone?

  • He texted me about it and I told him let’s talk about it in person.

  • Ok, so how did it go in person?

  • In person, we actually sat down, laid out all of our problems and like I told him, I was like, “Look, I can’t do whatever it is you’re doing if you’re uncertain about us getting married.” Like obviously the wedding’s off because I am just not going to deal with it because we have no idea where this is going now because you know you broke off an engagement, you basically broke life together.

  • So, he’s basically going to rebuild some trust with you before you’re willing to sort of make that kind of commitment with him again.

  • Yes exactly and we decided we’re going to take things slow. I told him, let’s do a completely clean slate because I felt like that was the best thing for us because–like every couple, we’ve had our ups and downs and you know like, I just think the best thing for anybody who’s getting back in a relationship is to start over because if you’re not starting over, all that stuff is going to come right back up and you’re going to be right back at square one.

  • True. So, how is that working out for you so far? How long have you guys been back together exactly? Do you know? Is it like a month?

  • We’ve been back together for about a week now.

  • A week, so how is it going so far? You’re like kind of in the initial stages. I’ve seen the pendulum swing both ways. Sometimes it works out brilliantly, sometimes it’s another break up quickly after.

  • No, we’re actually doing really good right now because my biggest thing is that I’m not a very mellow person. I’m very high strung. I actually go to a therapist that kind of help me with my own problems and he’s working on his. So, we’re doing really, really well actually because I mean–I hate to say it but I think that break up was the best for us.

  • It’s not a bad thing sometimes. Maybe it was a good thing to slow down if he was unsure about like the marriage because that can get messy, especially you either have to annul it or get divorced or something.

  • I hate to say it but no matter how much it hurts, maybe it was for the best to kind of realize what was going on, like what we needed to fix because obviously there was some sort of communication problem that we couldn’t figure out and I hate to say it but I think maybe it was the best thing for us.

  • So, you’re pretty happy now though?

  • Oh yes.

  • Like where you’re at and you’re relationship with him?

  • I’m so happy. It’s not all flowers and roses.

  • Never is.

  • It’s not. Right now, what it is, is it’s work. I mean it’s not easy. That’s one thing I’ve really learned from this is that relationships are not easy. You have to give and you have to take and it has to be equal.

  • There are some compromises both people have to sort of make throughout the relationship for it to work I think. It seems like you are really easy to get along with. Looking back, you’re so calm about things. So, I guess you’re, sort of you’ve won. You got him back. Whereas, most of the women who are in the Facebook group are really struggling from day to day.

  • And that’s another reason why I like to hop on there because when I see something that’s kind of similar or if there’s anyway that I can help kind of give somebody some inspiration or some help, I want to and I think women really need to see that. That there is hope no matter what they’re saying to you or whatever is going on. There’s always still hope because guys want what they can’t have.

  • It’s very true. So, let me ask you. Let’s go back to kind of your struggles. When you’re really struggling through this break up, talk a little bit about how the Facebook group helped you specifically. Was it sort of that constant thing where you’re carrying around your phone all day just checking it to get your questions answered or just kind of like in the shadows trying to figure out from other people’s situations? How would use it?

  • I think I kind of did both because I wasn’t constantly posting but I wasn’t always–I would look to see who has a similar situation because I wanted to see how theirs is going because there were times where I felt like there was like no hope. I didn’t think anything was going to work. I thought that he wasn’t going to come back.

    I had those moments of complete weakness and I felt like I was failing and so that was when I would look at what other girls are going through and see what they’re doing and if I really just couldn’t figure out, I would post something and just kind of see what people are saying and see if I could– because I got a lot of support when I would post something. There was so much support. It helped a lot to be able to talk to them.

  • That’s why a love the Facebook group so much. It takes some of the pressure off of me because I can’t be everywhere at once. I’m one person and there’s like so many people out there who have break ups that are asking for help and everything but if you have a group of women sort of coming to the rescue, it helps everyone. It sort of like a group therapy type aspect to it.

  • Exactly. That was literally the best thing. You can’t ask for anymore support there because between your wife-because your wife helped me a lot.

  • She’s more active than I am. She hasn’t done any Facebook live yet. I’ve been trying to get her to do one. She’s always complaining about how she doesn’t have time and how she has to get ready. So, I’m stuck doing the Facebook live which I’m happy to.

  • Oh, those are great. I mean those are really great. It’s not technically one on one but at least, if you have a question that was like directly toward you because on a whole lot, like there’s that help right there and that support.

  • Like going back to my wife, she is the one who literally will go through and make sure everyone’s answered and her advice is actually really excellent. She’s really, really good at that texting advice and practical advice. I guess she knows how to manipulate men which I guess is kind of bad for me.

  • No, she’s great. She is awesome.

  • So now, here’s the other interesting thing I’ve noticed. Some people who buy exboyfriend recovery pro, they’re scared to join the group because they’re afraid that they’re afraid that their ex is going to see it right?

  • Oh, I don’t have that fear because I’m not going to lie, at first I was like are people going to see?

  • It’s private closed group, so no one can see it. So no one can see any of your posts or anything like that.

  • Because when you start posting things like, you think “Are my friends going to text me? Is somebody going to see?” I have not had anybody even see anything I’m doing on there. It’s just whatever I put on stays in that group.

  • Yeah, and so one of the big things too were sort of trying not to judge. One of the issues I think a lot of people have is their friends and family, they’re just not on their side and they`’ll judge and they’ll come in this preconceived notions.

    Now, I’m not going to lie, there are some situations where I don’t think a person should try to get back with their ex but generally speaking, we just try to work towards helping people get back with their exes which is why I’m so glad that Buffy the vampire slayer got her ex back!

  • Well, thank you!

  • So, give me your thoughts on I guess exboyfriend recovery pro. I don’t if you had a chance to read through the book at all. You did?

  • I did.

  • What did you think because that took forever to write. It was long. You got the longer version I’m sure but yeah..

  • To be honest, what I did, I took it piece by piece because if you read it all at one time, you’re just going to have no idea what to do.

  • It’s true. It’s a lot of information at once.

  • Yes, so what I did is I took it section by section and it felt like I was in the no contact phase, I read everything about the no contact first to make sure I don’t confuse myself.

  • That’s clever. So, as you’re basically doing that, as you’re in the middle of the no contact rule, you’re just reading the no contact sort of. You just become the master of that portion and as you moved up to texting, you would have read that. Luckily you don’t have to go all the way to the end.

  • -that far, I did what I could and then I was like, “Ok, I’m doing no contact. It’s going well.” Because I was about ready to get to that point. I read that texting part because I was like ok, I’m getting there. So, I should–for it. So, I took it section by section to make sure I followed each step correctly.

  • And luckily it worked out for you.

  • All my down time I would read like the ungettable girl, I would read like how to avoid fights. In my down time I would just read those because that was my biggest thing is when I saw him in person, I just want to be yelling at him.

  • So, did you by any chances check out the audio version at all and listened to any of it? Some people love it, some people don’t really use it a lot.

  • I didn’t use the audio version only because I couldn’t find it.

  • Oh really? Did you have the membership access to the like the area?

  • Yeah, I did but I couldn’t see anything on the membership access.

  • Yeah, that’s one thing that we’re actually on the process of updating. You joined really early on when we’re doing the Facebook group and everything but honestly that Facebook group seems to be constantly everyone who’s I talk to–sort of like–that’s the best asset.

  • Hands down that is the best. If you pair up the book–like if you pair that up along with the Facebook, that itself is like bulletproof in itself.

  • The idea is to get everything to kind of work synergistic-ally. So, you sort of get the overall strategy with the book and sort of this is your go to what to do and then anytime you’re sort of needing the personal help, you just come to the group and you get the help you need.

  • Yeah, it’s perfect.

  • The crazy thing is I don’t think it would have worked without Facebook because for some reason Facebook is so trusted and people are logging in constantly every single day. If this is was just like a forum behind like some sort of password protected thing, I just don’t think it would as active as it is because so many people go onto Facebook.

  • Personally, I think I would have had a much harder time had there not been Facebook. I would have probably like broke down multiple times and texted him and failed, like multiple times.

  • The interesting thing too is I’ve noticed that the success rate of the people who buy prob has gone up ever since we started using the Facebook group and my wife and I think it’s because so many people fail during that no contact period but when they’re on the Facebook group, they almost have people to hold them accountable. So, they actually stick through and they get better results.

  • Yes and not to mention like if you are fighting yourself to like text him or whatever, you can just go there and vent because I mean, like you’re friends don’t want to hear it anymore. I’m not going to lie, my friends didn’t want to hear it anymore. You can just go there and vent because every single girl there knows what you’re going through.

  • Some of the girls get really like into the situation that–I don’t know if you paid attention to Too New and the baby. Did you saw that situation?

  • Yeah, that was crazy!

  • It broke my heart with some of the things that this guy was doing to her but I guess that’s what I’m kind of getting at there. Like some situations have become sort of widely known. That Too New she had like so many people jumping in to help her. There was one girl who would like wanted to help her with the lawyer and all this like crazy stuff.

  • It’s perfect because you get all this support from other women. It’s a very comfortable place to talk. You can put your feelings out there without being judged.

  • The funny thing is a lot of people who are like kind of on the fence about it, they buy pro and then they like request to join in the group and then I add them, their first question is typically, can my friends see this or everything and Mirka or me or someone is coming in and it’s like “No, they can’t see it.”

    but there is that fear but eventually they come around and it becomes that safe space that you’re sort of mentioning there. It’s weird that they have like this skeptical view of it. It is a private group. It’s meant to be sort of in it’s own corner where no one can sort of see anything you’re posting.

  • I think that also comes with insecurity because you’re not sure–you don’t want him to see that you’re doing that because then he’s going to be like, well, why are acting crazy or something?

  • It’s the craziest thing. I always complain that we have so many people coming to our website but it’s like no one shares the website on the web because of the niche. Like no woman wants to admit that she wants to get her ex back in public.

    So, it doesn’t share well. One of the perfect stories to illustrate this is I remember right when I first started the website, I first wrote the book, it wasn’t very big and so I was like trying to get as many sales as I possibly could to just basically pay the rent and do all this stuff and I remember there was a girl on Facebook who reached out to me, she said, “Chris, I’m really interested in buying your book.” and I was like, “Yes! Ok”

    So, I write her back and everything and then she had done it on her wall and her ex had found it and he was like, “What is this about?” and so right there I lost the sale because she like closed up. But it made me think we need something that’s private so no one can see it and that’s sort of how the Facebook group came to be eventually but it came to be like –but yeah, that’s one of the funny stories I’ve gotten before.

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  • But some people are just not technical with Facebook. So, they don’t like know if their–she must have been thinking on her phone and she was like private messaging me and it was like public on her wall and so everyone saw it. So, you do have to kind of be careful before you post it and stuff.

  • Yeah, don’t make that mistake of actually posting it on your actual Facebook.

  • Do you have any kind of words of wisdom to leave the fine people listening to this podcast who are trying to get their exes back? Any kind of advice?

  • To be honest, my advice to all the girls out there is when they say this things like I don’t love you or they say to you that it’s not ever going to work. Don’t believe it. It’s all just an act because it’s just emotions running high. The best thing to do is when you’re in the no contact period is to work on yourself because when you’re working on yourself, they’re going to see it and they’re going to like every bit of it.

    Not going to lie you know because they’re going to see it. There’s no doubt about that. How can they not? If they’re in a relationship with you prior to this, they’re obviously checking up on you and there’s no such thing as no hope. There’s always hope. I want everyone out there to know that even in the most difficult situations, there’s always going to be hope and don’t ever lose that hope.

    I’ve been looking at Facebook page a lot lately and everybody kind of seems really down and like everybody seems like they’re losing that hope because– I think the hardest thing is that nobody thinks there’s success stories on there. So, it’s like–

  • Well, we’re going to start posting and I think directly like this one. There was another one I did yesterday. I think those kind of success stories can be–

  • It’s a motivation.

  • Yes. It’s something to strive towards. Like I said, we’re still trying to work out how the group is structured and everything but the reason I wanted to have you on was so people can see what’s possible if you do things the right way which you certainly did Sarah. So, thank you so much for coming on. I really appreciate it. Take care.

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72 thoughts on “He Told Her They’d Never Get Back Together…. He Lied!”

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    Rosalind Liebenow

    April 12, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me saying he doesn’t feel like same person and doesn’t think we can get spark back. I am currently trying the no contact rule other then to send him certified letter to remove his items from my house after he has made zero attempt to do so. Its all his belongings minus shower stuff and a duffle bag of clothes. This no contact thing is hard as I have a 10 year old daughter who is devastated and all I want to do is move forward with life.

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    June 23, 2020 at 3:29 am

    I sent my ex a text about “picking his brain” on something he’s an expert in (cooking)…is this the only text to send to him each time to get him to talk?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 23, 2020 at 7:17 pm

      Hey Elizabeth, I wouldnt speak to him about this subject alone as you are going to lose his interest quickly but it is a good conversation to have with him no and again

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    May 8, 2020 at 7:39 am

    Hi! My ex boyfriend and I are together for 6 years. He broke up with me 9 days ago because he couldnt handle me anymore. We used to fight a lot because I am always angry whenever he go out with his friends. And then this one day, we had a big fight cause of the same issue. I nagged him and he lost his temper then he broke up with me.

    It’s been a week, he blocked me on facebook, phone and imessage. I tried reaching out to him but i ended up being blocked again. I tried reaching out for 1 week. I dont know what to do. He’s talking to my friends and asking my friends to comfort me, because he dont want other people to give the comfort that i need during this time.

    He also said that, we will never ever getting back together because he is so fed up with me. Is it true that there are no chance for us to be together anymore?? Help me. Thank you.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 12, 2020 at 9:58 pm

      Hey Sassy, so you would need to complete your NC and make sure that you do not reach out and change your exes perception of you, if he could not “handle” you anymore, he would see you as someone who is surrounded by drama and issues. So you need to learn how to control your emotions and then how to not have a dramatic life, no arguments or negative effects in your life as best as you can, working on your Holy Trinity. The fact you have been blocked also means that you would want to do a 45 day NC.

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    September 30, 2019 at 10:30 pm

    Hey, Im lay. I’ve been dating my ex for about 1 year and 3 months and we are currently broken up. I’m the beginning of our relationship I needed to really work on myself because this was my first time actually being in a relationship like that. I was very friendly and wasn’t considerate so that led to a few breakups. We’d usually breakup and get back together within 2-3 weeks. We would tell each other how much we missed being together and that nobody opinion mattered. Even after me being friendly, I stopped but recently I’ve been acting very childish and foolish. I wasn’t listening to him when he told me to stop doing things he didn’t like and that seemed to always frustrate him. He listened to me when I told him not to do things and i just seemed very selfish. We’ve been living together for over 3 months and one day he just had enough of me and told me we needed a break. Of course I put up a fight about me going to change myself and that he should wait for me and he said he would…a few days later he texted me about my things. He said that he was going to give them to me that morning. I said okay and asked if he still needed space and he said “right now i would”. I didn’t take him seriously and thought he just needed to cool down about wanting to take a break. He told me that he would be there for me through thick and thin as friends but he wanted to end the cycle of breaking up and getting back together. He said he’s tired and he didn’t wanna do it again. I tried my best to fight for the relationship and started telling him ways I’ve changed myself and told him ways we can maintain it but he just wouldn’t. I asked him was we done forever and he said “will never know but for now yes” and i kept trying to beg it seemed like. I wish I could’ve changed myself while I’m the relationship. I miss him so much and I don’t want him to date anyone else. We had made plans About our future together and we used to always talk about how we would be successful in life. I’ve never thought that by me acting the way I did that It would end the relationship for good. He told me he isn’t changing his mind. I told him he just need to think on it and he said he already did and he just can’t. What should I do???

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 1, 2019 at 8:56 pm

      Hi Lay, so I would say you need to do some work on yourself, your self esteem and consider your maturity level for this type of relationship. Read on becoming Ungettable, but in your case I would consider this to be emotionally composed and showing maturity in your life. The breaking up and getting back together is a toxic pattern that even your ex has noticed and he was right to take a break as you need to get out of this bad habit of arguing and ending things.

      Relationships take work and at this moment in time you need to let him get over the arguments and negative thoughts he has about your relationship and you. This is where NC is going to help you. So make sure you complete a minimum 30 days NC and read as much as you can from this website to help you grow

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    July 20, 2019 at 10:06 am


    I did something very stupid. I always told my ex that if he would break up with me, it would really be over for ever. I Made this very clear.

    I also told him I’m not going to contact him and I don’t wanna be friends with him when he broke up with me. We did break-up ‘peacefully’. We hugged and kissed but I didn’t cry and told him I would respect his choice.

    I’m just scared the no contact rule isn’t going to work because he thinks that there is no chance in getting me back after he broke up with me. What do you think?

    Should I contact him, try to get him back and then apply the no contact rule? I don’t know what to do.


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    December 24, 2018 at 6:29 pm

    My boyfriend said I smother him and for me to leave him alone. He doesn’t want to be with me and we are never getting back together. I feel as if he is my one and I love him so much. He said I was jealous and didn’t give him space. I don’t want things to be over.. what do I do?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      December 24, 2018 at 10:16 pm

      Hi Ashleight….some guys just don’t like it when they feel they are losing their independence. They get antsy and then make statements like that. You can probably draw him to you more by giving him some space and get him chasing you.

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    March 8, 2018 at 10:13 am

    Hi Amor,

    Thank you for your previous advice. It’s been a week now and he’s since said harshly that we’ll never get back together and that he hopes I find someone that I love…..he is the one I love and I will never search for the other guy. We’ve got exams coming up, so he doesn’t want to communicate for three months and said we can be friends, but I can’t just forget the three years we’ve been together. I know I messed up real bad, but what do I do? He’s honestly the only one for me and I can’t imagine doing all the amazing things in life without him. I’m scared that he won’t want me back or will move on.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 10, 2018 at 7:34 am

      Don’t contact him because if you do you’ll be chasing.. And extend a month more weeks after 3 months before initiating contact so, that you don’t look like you’re just waiting..be active in improving yourself and build a new routine in your life..

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    March 5, 2018 at 9:28 am

    Hi Amor,

    thank you for your reply. He’s since contacted me via a friend saying that he loved me but he feels like I didn’t love him back and that he hopes i’ll find the one. He’s told me that we are never getting back together and doesn’t want to communicate with me for the next three months because we’ve got exams. I can’t stop thinking about him and want him back so bad but I’m afraid that he doesn’t want me like he’s said we are never getting back together. What do I do?

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    February 27, 2018 at 7:00 pm

    Hey! Recently my boyfriend found out I online cheated on him…..not because I didn’t love him any less but because I’m so insecure about my body that when things were going rough in my relationship I looked elsewhere. I sent messages to him showing him how much I loved him, he kept reading them and eventually blocked me on all social media and my phone. I’m so heartbroken because I broke the only person who mattered to me and feel like I can never love, trust or be trusted again. What do I do?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 28, 2018 at 3:51 pm

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    January 17, 2018 at 4:05 am

    Hi amor, me again
    Thanks for your reply before

    Its my 10th days of NC and I’m feeling great about myself right now. I still hoping to get back with my ex.
    I have read almost all the articles, and I’m kind of confused right now about my situation. From your point of view for my story below, is he breaking up with me because he considered it as me cheating on him? Even though I told him the next day that I’m going with this guy?
    If so, should I apologize once more and do NC just for 15 days?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 18, 2018 at 7:32 am

      you’ve just been dating for 4 months.. and you already apologized.. you’ve broken up now too so if you keep apologizing, you will look like you’re chasing him.

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    January 7, 2018 at 8:15 am

    Hi Amor, its me again
    Thanks for your reply before

    I already told my ex about being friend is not working and thanking him for everything, and he told me thank you too for everything and ask me “so you’re done? you’ve decided to given up?”
    How should I respond to this?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 9, 2018 at 12:59 pm

      Nothing.. He’s just trying to keep you talking to him

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    January 6, 2018 at 6:10 am

    Hi Amor, its me again
    Thanks for your reply ^^
    I forgot to tell you that he’s the type of person that has a very high ego, but he’s a very kind person for a man. Because he told me to move on and met someone else after we breakup, I got this feeling that he’s doing it on purpose knowing that he himself can’t move on from me if I’m not making a move first.. (he actually admit to me it will be hard for him as well) And when he knows that I’m having a great time without him, it will make him happy as well, knowing that I’m doing fine without him.
    Thats why I’m scared of doing NC. I’m gonna need your advice during this moment.

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    January 4, 2018 at 11:42 am

    Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me cause i’m going for a walk with a “gay” without his permission. I told him the next day about me going with this guy, and he got angry at me cause I didnt report to him the other day.
    I know its mostly my fault and its the second time I’m actually going with other guy without me telling him first.
    We’ve been dating for about 4 and half months, and he said that the reason he want to break up is not just because of me going with this guy, but also because I put a lot of pressure on him during our date (but he never mention what it is).
    He told me that he can never trust me again after what I did to him, and I actually beg for his forgiveness for about more than 1 hour and he still refuse me, saying it will never work. So I ask him if we can still be friends and keep chatting, and he said that its fine as long as I dont put a feeling to it and dont hope too much to get him back.
    I was planning on doing NC, but we already chat for almost 2 weeks after our breakup. And he still give me all the care he used to gave me during our relationship.
    My question is, will he find it weird if I suddenly do NC to him after chatting for almost 2 weeks? He once said that he still care about me, but doing a serious relationship will never gonna work this time, cause he cant trust me back.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 5, 2018 at 10:40 pm

      HI Mei,

      send a clean slate text first.. tell him being friends is not workable for you now and thank him for everything and then start nc.

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    January 4, 2018 at 9:39 am

    Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me cause i’m going for a walk with a “gay” without his permission. I told him the next day about me going with this guy, and he got angry at me cause I didnt report to him the other day.
    I know its mostly my fault and its the second time I’m actually going with other guy without me telling him first.
    We’ve been dating for about 4 and half months, and he said that the reason he want to break up is not just because of me going with this guy, but also because I put a lot of pressure on him during our date (but he never mention what it is).
    He told me that he can never trust me again after what I did to him, and I actually beg for his forgiveness for about more than 1 hour and he still refuse me, saying it will never work. So I ask him if we can still be friends and keep chatting, and he said that its fine as long as I dont put a feeling to it and dont hope too much to get him back.
    I was planning on doing NC, but we already chat for almost 2 weeks after our breakup. And he still give me all the care he used to gave me during our relationship.
    My question is, will he find it weird if I suddenly do NC to him after chatting for almost 2 weeks? He once said that he still care about me, but doing a serious relationship will never gonna work this time, cause he cant trust me back. I just dont know what to do to get his trust back.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 5, 2018 at 10:40 pm

      HI Mei,

      send a clean slate text first.. tell him being friends is not workable for you now and thank him for everything and then start nc.

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    December 5, 2017 at 6:29 pm

    In anger I askedmy bf to not text/contact me again. He hasnt. Un fact he gasnt contacted me for 3 weeks. Im just devastated.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 5, 2017 at 9:00 pm

      Hi Geeta,

      It would be better if you see a therapist to get professional counsel…

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    December 5, 2017 at 12:50 pm

    Hi Chris/EBR team,

    My ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago and this is the second time he broke up with me. We met begining of last year and was in a relationship for about a year, he broke up with me in Jan this year via text messages. The reason was it wasnt a happy relationship for him. I begged him a lot to give us another chance, called and texted him a lot for few days and as a result of that he just blocked my mob and blocked me on facebook. I then stopped contacting him and after about two months in March i decided to send him an email telling him how much i missed and loved him and wanted us to give it a try again, he responded saying he missed me too but he didnt want to rekindle the relationship. I then replied to him and begged him to give us a chane and this time he reply was very harsh and he sounded very angry which i just couldnt take anymore, hence i replied back sounding equally harsh and angry and at the end of the email thanked him for all the pain he caused me and said goodbye. Despite of still having feelings for him i then decided to move on with my life, i just didnt have any choice really as he never wanted to come back to me. Life started to go on and to my very surprise one night in end June i got a text from him saying he missed me, we then talked a little and after about a week i told him how much i still loved him and wanted to be with him. He then decided to meet up with me and when we met we realised we still had feelings and wanted to be with each other but wanted to take it a bit slowly. But this second time around things just didnt work out as we wanted to. The previous issues in the relationship that caused the first breakup started to resurface and we started to fight again. And eventually the second breakup happened around mid Oct. This time it happened in person, we had a bad fight where he swore at me and called me bad names and pushed me and told me to get out of his place, and i just couldnt at all take it and before leaving his place i swore at him too pretty badly and left and once i got to my car i sent him few texts where i again called him names and said few nasty stuff. This breakup was nothing like the first one which was peaceful, this time it ended very badly between us in a very hostile way and it was very painful too becasue of all the verbal abuse from both sides which really happened because of the heat of the moment, because of the anger i said pretty nasty stuff to him which i really never ever meant and wouldnt have ever said if the situation was much calmer and also if he hadnt started to call me names… Now it’s been over 6 weeks and obviously there is no contact between us and looked like to me he blocked me everywhere online. Over these 6 weeks my anger has subsided a lot and i have started to feel really bad about the nasty stuff i said to him and also texted him. The truth is i really miss him and i still love him very much and want to get back together again and this time try our best with each other. But i just dont know the way we broke up this time it was pretty bad, if it would be possible at all to have another chance with him, if he would come back to me at all and rekindle the relationship with me. He is full of ego, sensitive and holds on to grudges for longer, he will never contact me again this time and he wont apologise to me for his mistakes and for his bad part. As my calls/texts wont go through because he blocked me, i’ve been thinking lately to take the first step and email him and aplogise for the bad stuff i said to him and also tell him that i still love him and would want a last chance with each other. I really want him back, i really want us to get back together more than anything… My situation is very bad and seems like impossible. Could you please help me? Could you please advise me what i really should do that would bring us together again and rekindle our relationship?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 5, 2017 at 8:42 pm

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    November 11, 2017 at 9:33 am


    So a month ago my bf broke up with me. It was so out of the blue and no one saw it coming. He said he was unhappy, not just with our relationship but every aspect of his life. A week later i found out he had reconnected with his first love and felt that he wanted just a little bit more happiness. I want him to be happy but struggling with the fact that he just replaced me. Not once did he speak to me about this unhappiness he was experiencing, he said he didnt even realize.

    Everyday is a struggle, he was the first person that i was building s life with and now it wasnt enough and i get to do everything we did together alone while he does it with someone else.

    Im angry and extremely hurt by all of this, I was blindsided. He still wants to be a part of my life, he says he cares but i wonder if he really does…even so im not sure how to do that because all i can think is that he just walked away, threw everything we were building away and replaced me.

    I honestly dont know what to do, I just want things to go back to the way they were. We werent broken, we had an amazing relationship not without downs but i chose him everyday. He was worth it…and still is.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 13, 2017 at 1:14 am

      Hi Taryn,

      do you want to try the no contact rule?

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    Taryn Menyennett

    November 11, 2017 at 8:20 am

    So my bf broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. He said he was unhappy, but he is unhappy with every aspect of his life. Only a week later did I find out he had reconnected with his first love and felt he deserves that little bit more happiness. I’ve never really built a life with someone and right now I’m so angry and hurt. It came out of no where and no one saw it coming. Everyday has been a struggle. It’s just gone and I have to accept it.

    I don’t know if I will even get a chance to be with him again. Everyday I have to do things that we did alone and he is just ok…

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 13, 2017 at 1:14 am

      Hi Taryn,

      do you want to try the no contact rule?

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    November 7, 2017 at 4:10 pm

    Hi, my boyfriend for a year broke up with me, this is the second time we broke up but this time i think he is serious. He broke up for a reason that he not lucky, currently he has financial issues and might loose his job. He is saying, he is hurting coz i love him. He blocked me. How can i get him back?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 8, 2017 at 7:01 pm

      Hi Irene,

      do you want to try the no contact rule?

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    October 8, 2017 at 10:07 pm

    Hello. My fiance and I broke up 6months after our engagement which was a year and half ago. After 5 months of breakup, he tried reaching out to me and he was sorry we broke up, he asked family and friends to beg me but I wasn’t having any of it, I with held the sex just to know how he lf he had truly changed. Well one week after accepting his apology and ready to give our relationship a chance, he ghosted on me and stopped picking my calls or reaching me and was always saying he was busy. I then cut off all communications with him and blocked him off, it was so heartbreaking, I thought he was back for good.
    Now 9 months later he is back again with same apologies and wanting us to be back, it felt so real that I forgave him and slept with him and now one week again he has ghosted on me. I feel so used and hurt, I want him back so much but I don’t understand why he behaves this way, when we love each other so much and it is obvious that he finds it difficult to move on and I could see that he still loves me but I see so much anger in his eyes. Is there a possibility of us getting back together or is this a game to him? Do I move on? So confused

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 10, 2017 at 12:10 pm

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