By Chris Seiter

Updated on March 8th, 2021

It is not easy to see the big picture when you get dumped by your ex boyfriend.

It can cause you to behave erratically and irrationally.

Losing your boyfriend is never something you can plan or prepare for.  And when it happens, you fall into these web of emotions, eventually culminating in the singular question:

Is my ex boyfriend truly over me?

It is a painful question to entertain.  When your ex drops you out of his life, all you can think of is “why me”?

What have you done to deserve to be treated this way by the guy you have done so much for?

You wonder to yourself,

“could my ex boyfriend really be over me already?”

Is there some way to get him back?

It seems way too soon for him to have just shoved you aside in his mind.

How could your boyfriend be so cruel?

Does he care?

These are the thoughts that are bouncing around in your mind.

It seemed like everything was going smoothly up until you got the news that he wanted out.  Perhaps the two of you struggled in the relationship before.

It’s not unusual for couples to have falling outs.

Indeed, if I could count how frequently I have heard about couples calling it quits, well, let’s just say it happens a lot.

Maybe that is not a bad thing, right?

Two people meet, date, see each other, then things go awry somewhere down the road causing the couple to split up.  In away, it is part of the selection process.

First romances hardly every work out.

But let’s say in your situation, this falling out is worse than the others.

It is seldom a mutual decision. Either your boyfriend broke up with you or you finally said, “no more” and ended it with him.

But some time has passed.

The immediate aftermath is over. All of the angry and confusing feelings may have subsided somewhat.

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So you are left wondering if your ex boyfriend still cares about you.

You care.

That you know for sure.

You think about him every night in bed.

For that matter, he is constantly in your mind.

You still have feelings for him.

But does he, you wonder?  Y

ou think to yourself that he must still have some feelings.

After all, the two of you were a pretty hot item.

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I am Struggling to Cope – Why Isn’t My Ex Boyfriend?

But the fairy tale romance you and your ex boyfriend enjoyed came crashing down and now these confusing feelings are settling in.

It seems incomprehensible to you that you can be drowning in sorrow, yet your ex bf seems to be completely unaffected.

Even if he was the one that instigated breaking if off, a part of you still thinks he must have some feelings left for you.

And to make matters worse, you can’t even be sure how to process all the confusing notions running through your mind since your boyfriend cashed you out.

You feel discarded by your boyfriend when he let’s you go.  Maybe there wee signs that your boyfriend was going to drop you, but there is hardly anything that can prepare you when he hits you with it like a ton of bricks.

If your boyfriend left you with little or no notice, you will ultimately be left standing wondering a great many things about what had happened.

Your mind will be like a jungle of thoughts and ideas.  Yet, you find yourself always coming back to “is he thinking of me”.   It’s tough when your ex boyfriend’s real feelings are a mystery to you.

So what do you do if you are haunted by the question of whether your ex still cares about you, thinks about you, and is really over you?

I get this question a lot from women all over.

They want to know if their Ex is struggling in their own way about the breakup.   My clients want to feel that the whole relationship with their ex bf was worth their emotional investment.

So are you wondering if your ex boyfriend is still invested in you?

I get questions and stories of heartache everyday from women who are struggling with these very same heartfelt questions.   No knowing if their ex has even a kind thought for them, tears them up inside.

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I can’t believe that my ex isn’t out there somewhere, this very minute, agonizing over not being with me. What should I do?”

“He left me without warning, but It can’t be all over because my boyfriend isn’t one to give up on me. “

“John and I split up a few weeks back.  I still care and practically obsess about us getting back. I really hope he thinks the same way. I fantasize about him and cry a lot.  It helps me cope, I think.  Can it be possible that guys have as hard a time getting past their sorrows as us ladies?

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What Is Really Happening in the Mind of Your Ex Boyfriend?

If truth be told, how men and women act during and following a breakup is varied depending on their personality, attachment styles, the length of their relationship, and a host of other factors.

But there are some commonalities.  They just play out at different times.

Let me explain.

Your ex boyfriend is probably not completely in touch with what he is experiencing since the two of you parted ways. Few people really are.  It is not like he is out there whooping it up in those early days

Well, maybe there are some guys out there that behave that way from the get go.  You learn later from friends that he is partying it all up and seems to be taking joy in his new single status.  Of course, if this is the case, it clearly will rub you the wrong way.

But here is another truth.  Guys that do this are usually living in an emotional pretend world.

Your ex is probably embracing a Big Lie.  And that lie is being repeated with every immature action he may undertake after the breakup.

If the two of your were generally a decent couple for a good period of time, then that reality is difficult to overcome in your ex boyfriend’s psyche.  So if your boyfriend is reportedly “doing just fine” or seems to be “really happy”, trust me, it is in part an illusion.

If your ex has a heart, he cares.  He just might not yet understand how much he cares.

It is said they after a guy and girl break things off, the woman is usually immediately crushed by the end of the romance.  Feelings of rejection and resentment can take hold, though usually, it is the tears of unrequited love that dominates her mood.

But later, as time marches by, the girl does a better job of recovering and putting things in perspective, learning lessons from the failed romance and setting aside many of the painful memories.

Whereas boyfriends who are experiencing a breakup, early on will sort of live in their own fantasy world.  They will go out and play and act up. Thoughts of their ex girlfriend are pushed back to the outer recesses of their brain.

They will convince themselves that the breakup with you was the best thing that ever happened.  As your ex puts more stock on celebrating their freedom, they will just live it up even more.  Maybe a lot.

This is how they will behave, at least until the reality of their complicated feelings comes crashing down around them.

You may hear stories of your ex out there carousing and drinking and partying and dating and schmoozing and just being a real jerk about things that he has purportedly said about you.

But fate has a way of balancing the romance equation.

While your ex boyfriend may act like he does not have a care in the world and is fully and completely over you, there is nothing further from the truth.

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In most cases, this behavior is just made up drama as he pretends not to care about you.  Little by little, all of his bravado and false sense of knowing what is best for him comes crashing down.

Does your Ex Boyfriend Need a Serious Reality Check?

The timeline is different for all guys.

I think of it as the boyfriend reality check.

But in time, he will be transformed (by varying degrees) into a sniffling, moody, somewhat depressed former lover. He will start feeling like he is missing out on all the things that made him really feel special.  He will realize that he previously took you for granted.

The realization of that will hurt and while you are entering into that phase of getting past what he did to you, he will be passing you by (on an emotional level), headed in the opposite direction.

Yes, such are the vagaries of how men and women are different.

In the beginning, your ex will be thinking of himself.

He will likely feel a certain degree of relief that he has his freedom back. He will be telling himself lots of little lies as he passes through the post splitting up phase.

These behaviors usually play out for a few days or even weeks.  But if your guy is like most guys, he will eventually realize he has not fully come to terms with what has happened.

What Do the Break Up Gods Say About Your Boyfriend Needing and Wanting You?

Fate speaks the truth in the topsy turvy world of breakups.

The problem is no one can see the future.  Well, maybe Yoda can, but I haven’t seen him around lately.

The  breakup Gods are the ones that settle the score for all couples.

They will sneak right up to your ex and shake him at his core.  The breakup Gods are not about evening the score.  They are simply in the business of delivering to us certain truths about our feelings.

It will usually happen to your ex boyfriend when he least expects, because after all, most guys are not really in touch with their true feelings after being separated from their girlfriend.  They live in a sort of pretend world.  They act like they are not in pain.  They pretend that you never really gave them fulfilling moments.  Your boyfriend will tell himself all the pretty little lies he can muster up and will do this over and over again.

But eventually, your boyfriend’s facade will melt away.

Unless your guy is a complete, self absorbed ass, his thoughts will turn to you.

As to how much he really needs you back in his life….well that is impossible to predict.  There are just way too many variables.

Some guys realize the stupidity of breaking up with you, swallow their pride, and then makes some kind of gesture. Other guys arrive at that emotional place where they begin to doubt if it was really such a good idea to end things with you.  They become amenable to finding a way back in.

Then of course we have the stubborn boyfriends who oppose doing anything that is in their best interests.  While they are not hopeless, they certainly make the whole affair of recovering from a breakup a much more difficult ordeal.

Finally, there are some guys who just simply don’t want back into the relationship. They either broke up with you or you ended it with them and for any number of reasons, they have come to terms with what is best for them (and you).

So what is the simple answer to how you can get your ex bf to notice you and act like he cares deeply for you?  Is that even possible if he is not feeling it inside?   How do you even get him to that place where he is in touch with his feelings?  The short answer is to give him space as “time” is your ally.  But there is more to it.

I realize what you want most is for your ex to sweep you off your feet and tell you how much you mean to him.

That is truly want you want to hear and experience.

Is it even possible? Yes, of course it is.

Is it likely?

Nothing in the sphere of ex boyfriends and ex girlfriends can be characterized as probable or likely.  But I have some ideas that might just help you, help him get to that moment when you both realize that the parting was too swift….that you both deserve a do over.

How Do You Get Your Ex Boyfriend To Act Like He Has a Heart?

You know, that is really what we are talking about here.  What can you do to awaken those feelings that “you know” are hidden up inside your ex?

Every dag I get a parade of women asking for help on this topic.

Chris, what can you do if your ex boyfriend just has gone stone cold about everything that reminds him of our relationship?”

“My ex dropped me out of his life, just like I was a nobody.  He behaves like he never knew me. It kills me that he treats me like this. Does this mean I have no chance?   I am desperate for some tips on how I can turn my ex bf back into a loving, caring person again.”

“I think my ex has wiped me out of his mind completely.  If there is anything left, even a memory of us, he seems determined to let it waste away.  I am really sick of hoping he has even one kind thought about me.”

Understand that your Ex Boyfriend is Probably Experiencing the Playboy Phenomenon

These troubled women are all experiencing a common behavior from men, following the breakup.

I call it the “Playboy Phenomenon”.

If your man is the the one that precipitated the split, then shortly afterwords he will likely succumb to the urge of acting like a Playboy.

In his mind (because most guys cherish their freedom) he is FREE.  He may have these visions of hanging with his buddies and partying it up. So don’t be looking for any cues or clues from your former boyfriend that even a little part of his heart bleeds for you.

Remember, your ex is a guy.  He thinks like a guy. He is not living inside your mind or processing things like you do.

Now of course, this is not the case for all men.

Some guys actually act like grownups.  They may have a sensitive, empathetic side.  Maybe the breaking up with you was rough on him.  And knowing that you will likely be keeping tabs on him, he will be respectful and moderate his behaviors such that they are not misconstrued.  These are the nice, conscientious guys.  They are graced with a good dose of empathy.

I mean after all, when you have two people who were in love, but who have now gone their separate ways, well….you have a very sorrowful drama playing out.  It should be rough on everyone’s feelings.  So sure, there are some men out there that process their experiences in life in the same way you do. If you are matched up with a guy like that, then I like your chances.

But, many guys don’t have that kind of makeup, at least not yet.  Maybe they are young and just have not yet experienced the emotional cycle of a breakup, so they have no clue how to act or what to expect or even how to feel.

Some guys are in a phase of their life where they are just really playboys and want the play the field and hang out and flirt and drink and play some more. You get the picture.

Then there are the mean VINDICTIVE ones.

Yep, they are out there.  I sure hope you were not seeing one of those kind of boyfriends.

No matter what you say or do or think, these guys are just not going to have much room upstairs in their mind for feelings like “Oh, she was so pretty” or “I miss the smell of her when we make love” or “I wish I could see that little curl of my ex girlfriend’s smile”.

At least they don’t have those feelings in the forefront of their mind.  Maybe there is some goodness in these kind of guys and their vindictive behavior is a product of them simply overreacting.  If not and their undesirable behavior becomes a pattern, then you are better off without them in your life.

If we are talking about a narcissistic, pig headed, mean, angry, and resentful ex bf, then you are better off just imagining he doesn’t even exist.  He won’t be thinking of sweet things to say to you, unless he wants something.  That is not his make up. Maybe you broke up with your ex bf and his ego just couldn’t handle it.

This is where practicing the No Contact Rule will do you much good.   Just remember, you should have zero tolerance for anyone that mistreats you. There are many good catches out there.  Take the lessons learned from the failed relationship and trust you will land on your feet.

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What Does Your Relationship Recovery Plan Look Like Going Forward?

My advice is not aimed at trying to resurrect good feelings from the vindictive ones.  They are in a class of their own and you are better off not chasing that failed romance.  Let’s focus on those ex boyfriends that showed at least a minimum standard of class.

So the question on the table is how do you awaken the spirit of love you believe still resides within your ex?  How do you jog his memories of the really beautiful moments you both shared together?  Because if you do, it will help a lot.

So I have an interesting, somewhat fun filled plan that might just raise your chances.

Maybe that is all the two of you need.  Just a little spark to resurrect the loving feelings that have not escaped either of you.  I figure you wouldn’t have come here to my website unless you were looking for some ideas.  You are probably looking to land on some actionable tips.

Maybe you need some detailed strategies on how to recover your ex bf.  Well, you came to the right place.  I have that and a lot more.  But there is another thing you came here for.

You might not even know it.

You need a lift me up.

You have spent far too much time thinking about what your ex boyfriend might be thinking.  That is a lot twisting and turning of emotions.

You could benefit from a mood lifter.  A little fun.

So here you go.  Here is my fun filled way of trying to re-direct you down the right path.  Are you ready?

Here are the 5 steps to stirring up your ex boyfriend’s interest in you!

1.Take Yourself on a Date. You need a mood elevator and what better way to do that than to treat yourself to something really fun, and really special.  If you want to double date, then take yourself out twice.  I know.  It sounds kinda crazy, but a while back I did a Podcast and spoke to this very wise woman who said one way to rebuild yourself is to treat yourself the way you would want your boyfriend to treat you.  Involve yourself with something that you really would like to do.  For now on, you are your own best friend.  Your ex is bound to notice the change in your attitude and temperament.  He will hear about. He might see you in person briefly.  Your social media pics will reflect the new you.

2. Start a Rumor that your have a Mystery Lover.  I know.  I know.  It sounds so adolescent to participating in such a ruse.  But consider it anyway.  What we are talking about here is you constructing an imaginary lover’s triangle.  So just put a little thread out there that you have received this lovely bouquet of roses.  Take a pic and post it on Facebook, inquiring “who the heck sent this to me!”  Since you have been dating yourself, you might as well give yourself some roses.  It will be perfect. Your ex boyfriend is bound to notice and if he doesn’t, well, you have friends and other tactics you can turn to that will help him hear about it.  A little jealousy, if measured out in the right quantity, can go a long ways!

3. Go on an Adventure to a Far Away Place.  Do you see how all these things connect.  You are dating yourself.  You give yourself some flowers.  And now the world will soon learn that you are off on this adventure.  Make sure you take a lot of pics and post them all.  Send a little, innocent text (embedded with a picture) of you doing something fun that the two of you use to do when your were dating.  The message should sound innocent and slightly unintelligible (“So much white sand”). Make it out like it went out as a broadcast email to several people and your ex accidentally go it.  You are planting seeds in your ex boyfriend’s subconscious.  Give it time.  I bet it will take root.

4. Eat a HUGE piece of Pie.  This one is entirely for you. I want you to love yourself more than you have ever love another.  You deserve the moment.

5. Practice Patience and Being Active.  Most of my clients never finish the No Contact Period.  They can’t resist reaching out to there ex boyfriends. But often when they do so, it is too soon.  They have not planted enough seeds. They have not created enough attraction.  They have not sufficiently healed.  So practice being happy with being your best friend and while you are at it do these things. Walk 2 miles.  Jog on mile.  Play tennis. Go see a movie. Read a book. Sign up for a yoga class (or karate).  Essentially, I want you to engage in life and all the things you enjoy doing and a bunch of things you have never done.  Do them all.  Create unforgettable moments for yourself.  So many good things come from these activities. Health.  Spiritual wealth.  Release of mood elevating hormones.

So is that rascal you call your boyfriend, really and truly over you?

Naah, no way I say!

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87 thoughts on “Is My Ex Boyfriend Over Me Already?”

  1. Sarah

    January 28, 2021 at 4:14 am

    My boyfriend ended with me which I didn’t take well as it came out of the blue and there were no signs anything was wrong im extremely heart broken and gutted his done this he ment the world to me and I had very deep feelings for him and things were going strength to strength I’ve absolutely lost it with him and have thrown alot of nasty things and words at him only because of the things I’ve been told and seen from supposedly him with someone else straight after we broke up friends had seen him hanging out with another woman looking happy and close which I’ve now found out is a so called good friend they have been spending alot of time together and going place even to secret locations which he never did with me I’ve asked her what makes her so special as I was he should of been doing thoughs things with me after all I was his girlfriend these are just a few of the things I’ve gone off about. I feel that I never ment anything to him and that our relationship ment nothing and is a waste of ten months together and that his never cared about me and our relationship I’ve felt and feel like I was always in the way of what he wanted to do particularly with his friends have I taken things to far throwing nasty things and words at him cause I was very hurt and heart broken
    what are the changes of us ever talking and seeing each other again?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 6, 2021 at 4:30 pm

      Hi Sarah, if you spend some time reading and following the program, apply the information and this gives you, your best chance to get your ex back

  2. Lucy

    July 29, 2018 at 2:37 pm

    My ex is one of those who think their decision was the right thing for both of us. He has come to terms with the break up. Is there still a chance I can change his mind?

    1. Chris Seiter

      July 29, 2018 at 3:40 pm

      Hi Lucy!

      There are a lot of guys who think they have it all figured out. But later they realize they didn’t know their feelings at all or they come to appreicate your value more. But you need to have a game plan to help them see your value is growing and that they made a mistake in leaving you. Go to my home page and tap into all those resources I have for people that helps them with getting their ex back.

  3. Lara

    January 29, 2018 at 4:20 am

    My boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago, i’m still in no contact and i haven’t talked to or heard from him since we broke up. However, i’m guilty of keeping an eye on his social media and that’s how i found out that he’s been following a ton go hot girls on instagram and liking their pics, and recently he posted a photo in which some girl commented that she had his hoodie, and another one commented as well saying she missed him. That really hurt me and made me furious at the same time – we ended things really good and i know he still loves me because he told i’m the best thing that happened to him and he cried and said he loved me (also he’s been seeing all my stories and my friend’s stories) but why would he do this and post it on instagram when he knows i’m going to see it?? Please help

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 31, 2018 at 11:55 am

      Hi Lara,

      Probably because he knows you’re going to see it.. If you’ve been silent, it’s a way to see if you’re checking his account, if you did, you probably would contact him to react

  4. Leone

    May 30, 2017 at 2:33 pm

    After short period of time,we broke up last year. I did the NC but nothing happened.After breakup we had been together few times,we never slept together just kissing and once make out. Each time he never call or text me. We just don’t communicate. And I feel like he doesn’t care. It’s very sad. Can you please tell me or suggest what should I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 30, 2017 at 7:54 pm

      well, it’s not a guarantee that it will work but what did you mean that it doesnt work? how many times have you done it?

  5. Luiana

    May 30, 2017 at 8:24 am

    After short period of time,we broke up last year. I did the NC but nothing happened.After breakup we had been together few times,we never slept together just kissing and once make out. Each time he never call or text me. We just don’t communicate. And I feel like he doesn’t care. It’s very sad. Can you please tell me or suggest what should I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 30, 2017 at 7:51 pm

      well, it’s not a guarantee that it will work but what did you mean that it doesnt work? how many times have you done it?

  6. Maya

    May 26, 2017 at 12:09 am

    Hi! I just found and read this article and it is exactly what Ive been looking for. Everything it talks about perfectly describes what I’ve been going through and feeling. My boyfriend and I dated for over a year and were always very happy together. We were truly each others best friends. It got to a point where I couldn’t think of anything that could ever break us up. However it came up that I had to move a few hours away. Before the move he kept saying how much he was going to miss me and that we were going to make things work but out of the blue a few days later he dumps me saying it just wasn’t going to work and its just the way things have to be. Like the other women who were mentioned in the article I find myself wondering why he suddenly bailed on me after he was so adamant about not giving up on each other in the past and wondering how he just completely dropped me out of his life like I was nobody and seemed to be out having a good time like I meant nothing. After the breakup I tried talking to him a few times and almost every time he was responsive and talked to me but it was always me starting the short conversations. About 2 months after the breakup was the only time he ever has reached out to me and he asked me for advice about something. Currently it has been 9 months since the breakup and I’ve recently moved back into the same area as him. Ive been following the cites advise on being the “ungetable girl” but it has been 5 months since we’ve had any contact at all. Today I ran into my ex for the first time at the store. We were walking down the isle towards each other and I immediately felt awkward walking towards him so I started fiddling with my bag for a distraction. As I was doing this he said hi to me as we pass and at this point I looked up and said hi back. I wavered for a millisecond hoping he’d stop and talk but by the time I responded and looked up at him he was looking past me and just kept walking. During the whole interaction I was so frazzled and because of that i never really got to look at him or a chance to try to make eye contact. I was however upset by the fact that by the time I did look at him he was already looking past me and he didn’t stop to talk. Like all the other women mentioned in this article the one thing that has always bothered me sense the breakup was wondering if he ever misses me or thinks about me, especially because I do feel like if we just spent time together everything would come flooding back. I plan on continuing to follow the advice of being an “ungetable girl” and this article and hope he reaches out. I guess what Im looking for is some clarifications for the way he acted towards me sense the break up. Sense the breakup he’s acted like a different person to me. After our interaction today I’m wondering if my efforts of being an “ungetable girl” are even working at all. Why did he act this way when I saw him today…and if the way he acted towards me today wasn’t the best then are my efforts not working?? If they aren’t working what else can I do?
    Thanks so much for your help!

    1. Maya

      July 11, 2017 at 5:30 pm

      Hi amor! you’ve been so helpful but now i really don’t know what to do. Ive been home in the same place as my ex for over 2 months now and I haven’t heard anything from him. Ive really been trying to post a lot and act like an ungettable girl. I really haven’t done anything through social media that would making him think I’m chasing him or anything. Yet still I’ve heard nothing from him and its getting to the point where Im running out of time. In about a month and a half ill have to move away again for a few months for school. I realize that probably too much time has past and not enough time remains for us to really get into a relationship again but Im still hopeful because you never know and Id at least like to get back into solid contact with him. Ive been trying everything but all I feel I am left with now would be to reach out to him myself. This however terrifies me I guess because all common sense I have is telling me he’s moved on/is moving on with his life and isn’t interested and me reaching out would just make me seem pathetic. At this point my only goal is to reestablish contact with him hoping that we can at the very least be friends again. But like I said it scares me and I have absolutely no idea how to do it. Would reaching out to him when I’ve been trying to be the ungettable girl do me more harm than good?? And if I do reach out what do I say to a person who used to be my everything but I haven’t talked to in really almost a year without seeming like I’m a pathetic, clingy ex who hasn’t moved on?? Please help, Thanks

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 14, 2017 at 1:11 pm

    3. Maya

      May 27, 2017 at 6:53 pm

      Okay thank you! I know your probably right about him moving on…9 months is a long time. so it he has moved on what now?…Is there any way to get a boyfriend who’s moved on to want to give you a second chance? I really do love him and while we were together he loved me too. If he has moved on does that mean my efforts with posting a lot of social media and everything aren’t having any effect on him? Is there nothing I can do to save this?

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 29, 2017 at 6:02 pm

      it’s still better to be active in posting because that’s proof that you’re improving, have your own life and not chasing.. take it as a restart.. rebuild rapport as if he is stranger that you like.. your edge now is that, you know him already.. you know what his interests are.

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 27, 2017 at 3:31 pm

      it’s been 9 months.. he probably have moved on by now.. and maybe he sensed the awkwardness when you bumped into each other, so he just kept walking on after saying him.. if you bump into each other again, be friendly and talk.. so, that it’s not awkward to start texting again after that.

  7. Tammy

    May 20, 2017 at 1:43 am

    Hi Amor,
    I was with my boyfriend for 9 years until 12/15/2016. He broke up with me and said it was because I didn’t trust him. He gave me reasons to feel this way. I did the no contact rule even though it hurt me. For many weeks he told me he wanted me back and he missed me. I advised I may consider taking him back if he can make a commitment to move in. I also told him if he hooked up with anyone else to let me know but if he does I wont take him back. He said ok. 2/2017 I saw a new very young girl on his FB that had a posting announcement dated 12/20/2017 stating she is dating him. This hurt me since him and I slept together a few times after that date. I contacted her and showed her my txts to prove he is still trying to work things out with me and than contacted him to let him know I knew about her. 2 weeks go by since that seemed to be his pattern of contacting me and he finally calls me and txts me saying HE IS READY . I assumed he was ready for us to move in together finally and get back with me. One week later I respond by this time it was mid March 2017. For 2 weeks we get together. The end of the 2nd week all of the sudden he doesnt contact me. 3 days go by and finally I txt him telling him I feel used and why did he tell me he was ready when clearly nothings ready. I told him I will always love him and that this is not a game and I will continue to stay outta his life. The once every 2 week pattern has been broken. Where he would reach out to me and I havent heard from him since April 1, 2017. My heart hurts so much daily I do everything to keep busy,school,work, going out and nothing works. Why would he get on his hands and knees in Febuary and promise me everything only to not do it ? I know he loved me I assume now he may be with sumone else we never hung around each others friends to where sumone can reach out to me and tell me what he is up to so I know nothing . What do I do soo depressed.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 21, 2017 at 6:24 pm

      Hi Tammy,

      I think you need to do a 45 day nc because you’re on and off with him.

  8. SO

    April 30, 2017 at 1:20 am

    My ex and I were together for 8 years. I broke up with him because I wanted to find myself and be alone for a while. We broke up last year. He got together with another girl (who’s really nice and sweet) and he’s been with her for over a year. He contacted me at the start of our break up to collect his stuff and get closure. He hasnt spoken to me since then. He has not initiated contact and he seems to be happy with the new girl and introduced her to his family after ages.

    Should I move on?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 30, 2017 at 12:42 pm

      Yes, you should move on..

  9. LK

    April 26, 2017 at 7:03 am

    Hi Amor,
    I followed the nc rule except I need to inform him the time I would arrive and collect my stuff at his place and he didn’t try to hold me back and till now, I haven’t been texting or calling him. I broke up with my ex boyfriend for nearly 2 months, he told our mutual frd that he has moved on already, I am not as needy anymore, but I still want to get him back. I am the one who initiated because of some non sense stuff and he made the decision at the end. However, both my ex and I will have june exam coming up soon, I am wondering whether I still have a chance of getting him back. At the same time, we are from different nationalities, so we won’t be able to see each other during the summer.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 29, 2017 at 9:45 pm

      no contact is not about being silent, and just waiting. You have to use it for yourself to heal and improve.. Take it as if he has moved on and then slowly rebuild rapport after nc.

  10. Ronnie

    April 25, 2017 at 2:10 pm

    My boyfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago. He broke up with me after 3 yerars. I started NC instantly. He did not contact me either. Then we began texting but apparantly he was busy and started not to reply. I got annoyed and came to a point where I just wanted to end it once in for all, so I drove by his house to pick up my things and yell at him (which I had not done at all before. It was a very clean break up). He was clearly surprised to see me after five weeks, because he had texted he did not want to meet, because he felt it was to take a step back. And he was trying to move on. But I was angry, because he never explained properly why he wanted to end things and I needed closure. I have kept myself up every night thinking about reasons why. Frankly, our relationship, which was both of our first relationship, was pure bliss. He thought so as well. He did not really have a reason to break up. When he let me into the house, he could not look at me. And he did not for half an hour while I talked, shouted and cried. I asked him why he broke up and he said he wanted to be single and had lost some feelings. (he is 19) I understand that a 19-year old wants to try out new things, but it is not fair that he completely dismisses me, because he said I did nothing wrong… A few days later, we both attend the same prom. I know he notices me, like I notice him. A mutual friend of ours comes up to me to ask about the break-up and says that my ex clearly supresses his true feelings and the friend does not know why my ex pretends that he made the right desicion. Sínce I was drunk I got emotional and walked up to my ex. And then began the fight. A terrible public fight. I know he lied to me about seeing me that night, and he has lied about other things too. I just wonder, whether he lied when he shouted: “I do not have any feelings for you anymore.” I said it back. And I did not mean any word of it even though I was drunk.

    It ended so terrible that I just want to know: Is there any chance that he will ever contact me again after this public dispute or should I just let it go? I really did improve by losing weight and going out more and post about all of it. Perhaps he just needs time to be single at 19 before he realises what an amazing relationship he let go. I am so confused because I was mistreated, his friends act like it was my fault and I still love him. I am trying to let go by taking up new sports, joining Tinder and going out with friends. I even moved. I just cannot help but feel that everything was better when he was next to me.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 29, 2017 at 9:35 pm

      fighting and being emotional when you’re trying to build rapport is wrong. Those are the opposite of building rapport. Either you restart nc or move on..

  11. Blue

    April 11, 2017 at 11:13 pm

    I was about to move one completely and now my boyfriend contacted me back.
    So, my boyfriend of 5 years (let’s call him R.) called off our date almost 5 months ago. Before it happened we were in a LDR. We never argued and his behavior changed only after he lost his job. He started avoiding contact with me. Then, when we met, he told me about his situation and asked if we could start meeting only every other weekend instead of every weekend like before. I saw he experienced a real financial hardship; he even didn’t have enough food at home. But I was angry regardless and showed him my anger too.
    After R. called off our last date I send him email asking why, he didn’t answer. For the next 2 weeks we had emails exchange, I always initiated contact. His emails were just friendly; I tried keeping my emails neutral too. Then, I went to a NC for 5 weeks & did really well. R. never contacted me during that time. After a NC I contacted R. again, we had 4 or 5 weeks of neutral emails exchange and never went beyond this. He sometimes waited 1-2 days to answer my simple email, sometimes he never answered. When 7 weeks ago I sent him my last response wishing him goodnight, he didn’t answer. So, I decided to move on.
    Moving on was hard on my part, I kept thinking of R. I missed him a lot, constantly checking my emails and text messages. But I made my decision that I wasn’t going to contact him first.
    Now, almost 2 months after NC, my boyfriend sent me a weird email. He asked if I was working tonight. I waited over a day & sent him answer, saying that I didn’t work that day. I guess my response was very neutral. So, 2 days passed since my last response and R. hasn’t answered. I don’t know what to think about that. I was slowly moving on emotionally and now my emotions are stirred up again.
    Can you help me to figure out what his behavior may mean? BTW, I’m not going to send R. any new emails unless he emails/texts me again.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 12, 2017 at 7:36 pm

      he just probably got curious at that time..

  12. Giselle

    March 29, 2017 at 10:03 am

    Hi, I cheated on my ex a month ago. This is an ex that loved me so much and wanted to marry me so badly to the point that he would propose everyday and try to convince me to finally marry him.
    When he found out, he didn’t say “goodbye”, instead he said “I’ll contact you when I’m ready, but I’m not sure”. Our falling out wasn’t so bad, we said “bye” in a very amicable way. He blocked me everywhere though as he said he would. I blocked him as well. He told me that he “really loved me” the night before he found out. So will a man that loves a woman so much just give up on her because she made a mistake?? Also, this isn’t the first time we had a break/falling out. He has been back everytime wanting to be more serious with me everytime he came back.

    I adhered to the no contact rule and laid off social media for an entire month. The no contact rule ended about 2 weeks ago and I have been active again. Appearance wise I already am everything he wants (the reason he had been chasing me for 3 years). I also don’t need to be losing weight or anything like that, therefore my self improvement phase was one of staying off social media. He has also been posting on his social media. He blocked me on all accounts, but he probably has checked up on my social media at one point?

    I don’t know if the rules are different for when you have cheated on someone, but he did say he would be back? Unless he lied, which I don’t believe cause he repeated himself twice.

    Also, is it a good idea to try to VERY subtly make him jealous through social media??

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 29, 2017 at 3:04 pm

  13. Hopeful

    March 23, 2017 at 7:28 pm

    My ex broke up with me a week ago, March 16th. He said it wasn’t my fault/I didn’t do anything wrong, but there was too much going on in his life and it wasn’t working anymore. We live 1 1/2 – 2 hours away from each other and he drove all the way to me to do it in person. I’d felt the affection and interest from his end fizzing out for some time, and feel as though I made things worse because when he seemed to withdraw, I’d reach out and message him more. That was my fault, but there was a lack of communication from him that never really went away, and his friends seemed more important. I never got to meet them because of the distance and the fact that I’m incapable of driving to him alone. It was too much to arrange.

    At first he was affectionate through text and in person. He would ask me when I was free every week and we’d make plans to see each other. He’d even try to make it so we could see each other sooner. I was really excited, I thought he was really into me and the relationship. Then he got into some problems with his dad and got the car he was using taken away (steering lock, and his dad was the one paying for the car), and it became extremely hard for us to see each other, as I’d have to drive to him with my mom accompanying me, because it was a long drive and we both felt it wasn’t safe for me to go alone. This started two months into our relationship and continued for another two months until he got the car back.

    I feel like this period of time hindered our relationship because all I had to hear from him was, for the most part, texts. He wouldn’t answer for 3-8 hours a lot of the time if he was out and with friends, and sometimes didn’t tell me he was out beforehand so I knew to give him space, or even what was going on. During this time he also (I felt) became less affectionate towards me, which made me think something was wrong and made me cling.

    I tried telling him several times that I had problems with feeling like his friends took up most of our relationship. He got to spend half the week with them and, on average, a day and a half with me. When we were spending time together in person he’d be texting them, or leave my house early to spend more time with them. I also told him it made me anxious when I didn’t know he was out and didn’t hear from him for hours. These were things he seemed eager to take care of at first, but when they kept happening, I kept addressing them, until eventually he got offended and frustrated with me. In hindsight, I wish I had given him more space.

    With our one year anniversary 24 days away, he suggested a break. I freaked out because no one had suggested one before. We had been arguing, so I told him we needed to wait until we were less emotional to make such a major decision about our relationship. It was never discussed again, though I did tell him I worried he felt forced to stay with me about ten days later. This wasn’t something he confirmed or denied. Almost one month after our anniversary he broke up with me and said he felt pressured to stay with me, despite me voicing my concerns about that in the past. He said he didn’t remember me bringing it up to begin with.

    We haven’t talked since he broke up with me. We agreed that we could still hang out and be friends, but I’m worried he won’t want to see me because I’m so far away, and there will be less incentive since we’re not together. I asked if this was definitely the end of us ever getting back together and he said he didn’t know but “he’d cross that bridge when he came to it,” but also seemed adamant about the fact that us taking a break now wouldn’t make things better (a suggestion I brought up) and that there were better guys out there for me. Some of his belongings are still here, and he still has a book I let him borrow. I don’t know when to do the exchange or how to handle it, but I want it to be in person. He’ll like things I post on Faecbook and is active on there a lot, but we still haven’t reached out to one another. People I’ve told say “it doesn’t seem like it’s over” and that “it doesn’t seem like he wanted to break up with me.”

    I’m trying to do 30 days of NC, but on day seven it feels impossible. I worry he won’t want to reach out to me and is enjoying his “freedom” with his friends and that he’s completely over me for someone local and won’t to talk to me at all. I’m upset with myself for how clingy I was and how that pushed him away, and now I’m afraid that’s all he’ll remember, since I even told him on the day of the break up that I was scared when he left my house I’d never see or hear from him again.

    Is him liking the stuff I share/post positive? I want to think so, but I don’t know what to think because he hasn’t contacted me. His relationship status also says “In a relationship” from when I changed mine, but when I go to look at this, it has our anniversary, which makes me think he either hasn’t remembered to change it, or isn’t over things. This is all really confusing for me, and I don’t know what to think. Please help.

    1. Hopeful

      April 4, 2017 at 11:35 pm

      Hi Amor,

      Thank you for all of your help so far. I haven’t broken NC this time yet and he hasn’t contacted me either. Last night was very emotional for me because after almost three weeks of being broken up, he finally changed his status to “Single.” I’m trying not to read too much into it because he probably forgot to change it or a friend pointed it out, but I’m still worried he’s distancing himself from me. In twenty days I’ll be able to reach out so I’m trying to keep myself occupied. Before he changed his status, I posted a comparison of how much weight I lost over the years. He didn’t react to it, but I think it’s a good step in showing my progress on there, even if he may have unfollowed me or used Facebook’s breakup settings.

    2. Hopeful

      April 3, 2017 at 5:41 pm

      Do you mean to move on with my life, or from him?

      I’m also a bit worried he’ll think I wasn’t sincere in wanting to stay friends. He told me he had exes say that, then they never reached out. I’m nervous he’s going to think I’ll do the same.

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 4, 2017 at 3:21 pm

      oh sorry, I meant, your choices is to restart nc or to move on. You’re going to initiate contact after this 2nd nc.. so, don’t worry about that.

    4. Hopeful

      April 2, 2017 at 3:30 am

      Initially I was trying for No Contact. I caved after day nine, since he’d been liking stuff I’d post occasionally. I reached out and messaged him and he responded immediately every time. I spaced out my replies and made sure to end the conversation so it wouldn’t last too long. The conversation seemed to go well, and it felt even, and he seemed engaged.

      Since then, he hasn’t reached out to me. It’s been a week since I initiated. He’ll like some of my statuses every now and again, but I still worry he’s expecting me to keep initiating even though he broke up with me, and it feels like he doesn’t want to put in effort to talk to me. I don’t want to do No Contact, but it feels like he doesn’t care whether we talk at all at this point, and I’m hurting. I don’t know what he wants.

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2017 at 12:52 pm

      that’s because you gave in too easily at the first sign that he missed you. There’s no chase.. The better choice is to restart 30 days, stick to it, be very active in improving yourself and in posting. Other than that move on. Because if you keep initiating now, you would more probably be friendzoned.

    6. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 25, 2017 at 1:37 pm

      Hi Hopeful,

      do you want to try the no contact rule?

  14. Ashley Spinelli

    March 20, 2017 at 11:55 pm

    My ex and I broke up 2 months ago…I initially broke up with him but then 2 days went by and I texted him asking if we could talk because I wanted to work things out and he said that this was for the best for us and that he’s happier single and will be single for a long time. He said that he needs to figure out where he wants to be in life and that requires him to be single. since then I have made the mistake of asking him to talk so he blocked my number, Facebook, my family on Facebook too and my friend told me that he just recently deleted pictures of us. Is it hopeless to try and reach out or is there even a chance for us anymore?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 24, 2017 at 9:04 pm

  15. Ally

    March 14, 2017 at 8:23 am

    Hi there. I’m not sure if my situation is quite suitable for this thread.. but I’m really upset and desperate and I just need some advice and talk to someone
    My ex and I have had a very complicated journey. To be honest I don’t even know how it evolved the way it did. We used to be very in love .. almost 3 years ago now. He then moved away and the distance took its toll. He dumped me a soon moved onto another girl which I later found out he dated for almost a year. In that three years I never really moved on from him. I dated here and there but there really wasn’t anyone who could replace him for me

    8 months ago due to coincidence I moved to where he lived at the time. I thought I’d drop him a text to say hello. For the first few weeks-months I thought he liked me. From his behaviour and language. We would talk or see each other almost every single day. He would want to know every moment of my life. However he never actually made a move or ask me out on an official date. It dragged on for a long time and I started to wonder if I have been friend zoned. But a few other things happened which made me believe he may still have liked me. After 6 months of this, I had to move back to my home. And to my surprise, he wanted to and eventually followed me and moved states for me. However his one request was that we live together (as housemates in separate bedrooms). I felt obligated to agree as he had to move his entire life

    We’ve been living together as housemates for almost two months now. Initially we were really close and spent almost every moment together. However in the last couple of weeks there have been a few personality issues that have started to irk me. I retaliated by basically being less friendly and more distant. In hindsight I don’t know if this was the right move but I was getting tired and I wanted to exert some authority too.

    I feel like this uncertainty and lack of clarity has made me very frustrated and easily irritated. For weeks I’ve been wanting to have the talk with him. But I’m not very good at initiating this conversation. I’ve tried 3-4 times. But I’ve always chickened out.

    One week ago we both got very drunk. And he made a sexual move on me. Regretfully I did respond.. we didn’t actually have sex but suffice to say things got heavy. We’ve never talked about it. Since then I’ve tried one more time to have this conversation with him over nice dinner and wine which he initially agreed to then cancelled two hours before. I was really disappointed and didn’t bother hiding my feelings

    Today I came home from work unexpectedly. He had mistaken and thought I was working late. I came back finding him on my couch watching a movie with a random girl. I was really hurt and didn’t know how to react. He introduced her as a friend. ANd kept trying to make small talk with me but I was just not having any of it. I just couldn’t conceal my feelings and gave very curt replies. I decided to leave and go out or a drive. I came back an hour later and she was still there with him trying to make small talk with me. I replied curtly then went back to my room and didn’t come out for the rest of the night

    I don’t understand Chris. Have I misunderstood things all along ? Was I too late in deciding to make a move ? How should I behave and respond from here onwards ? The day before this incident, he asked if I would take a sick day as he had the day off work. So we could spend time. I told him I couldn’t at short notice. And less than 24 hours later I come home to a random girl on my couch cosying up to him. I’m just so lost right now. Could you please enlighten me what went wrong, have I been friend zoned ? Can I and how do I get out of this ? Is it all too late for me ? What should I do ??

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 16, 2017 at 7:02 am

      Hi Ally,

      just talk.. there’s no other way around it because it might have been confusing for him too

  16. Tiea

    March 2, 2017 at 8:49 pm

    Hi- my ex boyfriend and I broke up four months ago. We were together for almost five years. I have not tried NC. We talked almost daily since we broke up and I thought up until recently that we were going to fix things. I found out this past Sunday he is dating someone (lied to me about it) – at the moment it is not serious. Needless to say I was very upset when I found out and felt like he had led me on to thinking we could fix our relationship. We got into an fight about it and he said many hurtful things and he told me he was done with me. I feel so lost without him. I want him back so badly. We broke up because I had many personal issues going over the summer and I was pushing him away so he became unhappy and left. Is it too late for me?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 3, 2017 at 8:03 pm

      Hi Tiea,

      looks like she’s a rebound. It’s not too late to do a 30 days nc..

  17. Help please

    March 2, 2017 at 8:46 pm

    Is it stated that the no contact rule will always work? And how long should you do that before you give up?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 3, 2017 at 8:01 pm

      Hi,

      Nope, there’s no guarantee that it will. It can only help increase your chances. It depends on the situation on how long you should do it.

  18. Isthatyou

    March 2, 2017 at 10:06 am

    Long story short, I cheat on my ex who wanted to marry me. He was hurt so he told me to not worry about him anymore and that he would go his own way. He then also said he would be back and that he would let me know. Blocked me on every social media and so did I him.

    Five days later someone contacted me with a private number. I didn’t pick up. It could have been him? I checked his other social media (which he doesn’t know I have) and he was online around that time. Then the next day someone called me again with a private number. Again I didn’t pick up but checked his social media and he was online around that time (45 minutes before) again. Then the next week after that someone contacted me again with a private number. Again I didn’t pick up and checked his social media again and again he was online 45 mins before the call was made. It has been 18 days since we have last talked to each other.

    Please don’t direct me to another link about how to get back an ex when you’ve cheated. Jut tell me could it be him? Is it just a huge coincidence? He did say he would contact me. So I don’t know if I’m just so biased or if it’s really him? I’m glad I haven’t picked up yet because I’m doing the 30 day no contact rule. We were planning on getting married so he never saw this coming and wouldn’t have left if I had been faithful. Please help me with the questions

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 3, 2017 at 12:00 am

      Hi Isthatyou,

      yes, it can be him. You don’t want a link about how to navigate your situation? Does that mean you don’t want to try advice there? Whether it was him, it doesn’t matter because that’s not going to help your improvement and it’s a miss call. You didn’t have a conversation. But if it helps you to feel better, yeah, it can probably be him but still, he didn’t ask for you back right? So, right now the more important thing is you focus in improving yourself.

  19. Jackie

    February 27, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    Quick version: got dumped by my ex after 3.5 years together on January 22nd (36 days ago as of today)

    We broke up twice before, the first time was last August (2016) and it lasted 2 weeks before he came back. Admittedly, even though he initiated the first contact after he broke up with me, I rushed things with us getting back together so fast.

    We were good for the next 4 months, happy and completely normal. Christmas Day was one of our best days ever, full of love. Then on January 28th, he broke up with me randomly. He gave these as the following reasons:
    -we had gotten too serious and talking about marriage so much scared him
    -I was unstable and relied on him a lot (this is true)
    -he needed to focus on himself because he had a very important personal event coming up where he needed to perform well

    I begged for him not to go but he did anyways. After 5 days of not talking, he came back again. He came over to my house and asked me back, this time however, he didn’t want to tell his friends/family. We remained secret for a few weeks. The few weeks after that were rough. He was depressed and always second guessing us. Then after 2 weeks being back together, he said he needed time to think about us. We didn’t talk for a week and then the 7th day we met up and he ended it even though at the beginning of the conversation he wanted to make it work.

    When we broke up this last time (Jan 22), I didn’t really beg. I acted mad (I was) and didn’t plead. I texted him that night saying I thought it was a mistake. The next day I texted him asking him to not say anything bad about me and basically just not trash your relationship. He agreed. We have not talked since that day(35 days). The only “contact” has been from his end where he liked one of my tweets on twitter.

    I feel like NC won’t work because he isn’t expecting me to contact him. I mean, we broke up, we aren’t supposed to talk. Not talking after a break up is normal. My silence is not out of the ordinary to him. I also feel that the pressure from his friends and family will keep him from getting back with me.

    It should be listed that I had serious problems trusting him. Not because of anything he did, but because I have extreme anxiety that I am now being treated for and seeing improvements. In the relationship, I was EXTREMELY controlling. I know realize that’s not okay and don’t plan on being that way again. But honestly, it wasn’t fair to him and it was exhausting for him.

    These are my thoughts. Yours?

    Thank youuuuuu

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 27, 2017 at 8:28 pm

      Hi Jackie,

      It doesn’t mean there can’t be a restart. It’s good that you didn’t talk but the question is how much you improved and how active were you in posting? I think you need to start the count of 30 days from now and then be very active in improving yourself. Check the link below about that and then after it, slowly build rapport and attraction.
      The Ungettable Girl

  20. Jackie

    February 27, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    Quick version: got dumped by my ex after 3.5 years together on January 22nd (36 days ago as of today)

    We broke up twice before, the first time was last August (2016) and it lasted 2 weeks before he came back. Admittedly, even though he initiated the first contact after he broke up with me, I rushed things with us getting back together so fast.

    We were good for the next 4 months, happy and completely normal. Christmas Day was one of our best days ever, full of love. Then on January 28th, he broke up with me randomly. He gave these as the following reasons:
    -we had gotten too serious and talking about marriage so much scared him
    -I was unstable and relied on him a lot (this is true)
    -he needed to focus on himself because he had a very important personal event coming up where he needed to perform well

    I begged for him not to go but he did anyways. After 5 days of not talking, he came back again. He came over to my house and asked me back, this time however, he didn’t want to tell his friends/family. We remained secret for a few weeks. The few weeks after that were rough. He was depressed and always second guessing us. Then after 2 weeks being back together, he said he needed time to think about us. We didn’t talk for a week and then the 7th day we met up and he ended it even though at the beginning of the conversation he wanted to make it work.

    When we broke up this last time (Jan 22), I didn’t really beg. I acted mad (I was) and didn’t plead. I texted him that night saying I thought it was a mistake. The next day I texted him asking him to not say anything bad about me and basically just not trash your relationship. He agreed. We have not talked since that day(35 days). The only “contact” has been from his end where he liked one of my tweets on twitter.

    I feel like NC won’t work because he isn’t expecting me to contact him. I mean, we broke up, we aren’t supposed to talk. Not talking after a break up is normal. My silence is not out of the ordinary to him. I also feel that the pressure from his friends and family will keep him from getting back with me.

    It should be listed that I had serious problems trusting him. Not because of anything he did, but because I have extreme anxiety that I am now being treated for and seeing improvements. In the relationship, I was EXTREMELY controlling. I know realize that’s not okay and don’t plan on being that way again. But honestly, it wasn’t fair to him and it was exhausting for him.

    These are my thoughts. Yours?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 27, 2017 at 8:28 pm

      Hi Jackie,

      It doesn’t mean there can’t be a restart. It’s good that you didn’t talk but the question is how much you improved and how active were you in posting? I think you need to start the count of 30 days from now and then be very active in improving yourself. Check the link below about that and then after it, slowly build rapport and attraction.
      The Ungettable Girl

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