Fix Your Relationship If You Cheated On Your Ex Boyfriend Before Its Too Late (Video)

What’s up?

I apologize for being a bit late for posting this video. It was a very rough weekend for me. Anyways, I have it up now.

In this video I teach those of you who cheated on your ex boyfriends how to get him back.

Check it out!

P.S. To date this has been my favorite video. You know what that means right? It’s hilarious!

Video Transcript

Hey what’s up, today we’re going to be covering how to get your ex back if you cheated on him. Now a great way to start off this video would be to look at the reason why you cheated.

Wait don’t we know the reasons we cheated on our exes?

Well that’s certainly true, I’m going to be talking about reasons you may be a little bit  embarrassed to admit. So I just like to get everything out there so we can move forward. Let’s begin.

Can anyone tell me why you cheated on your ex?

Chris: Because I totally felt like it.
Erika: Because you made me
Chris: Because I’m the most handsome devil in the world.

Close.

Let me just teach you.

There seems to be this common believe now a days that when it comes to cheating men and women cheat for different reasons. Now I’m certain that it can be true in certain cases but it’s not always true. So what’s this believe, well its that men cheat for physical reasons and women cheat for emotional reasons.

Does this theory that men cheat physically and women cheat emotionally hold? Let’s ask phsycotherapist, Dr. Ester Perel rather lets look at some of her studies on the subject. She is one of leading therapist that has studied cheating for a living in the entire world. She’s found that the number 1 correlation for men and women who cheat is the excitement they get from cheating. There’s a thrill to it. Theres the rush. The general excitement of cheating appeals to people and that is an underlying reason why people cheat.

And it may be a reason you think or feel that your not willing to admin publicly. But I’m just going to through it out there its very possible and this theory, this excitement is going to come up later when I starting talking about what you can do to get your ex boyfriend  back if you cheated on him. Speaking of which I’m going to give you my top 5 steps on what to do if you cheated on your ex boyfriend.

Step One: The No Contact Rule
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Ah the good old no contact rule. Now it may seem counter intuitive to ignore your ex after a breakup when you were the one at fault. But if you actually look at the purpose of the no contact rule it will make sense. So what’s the purpose of the no contact rule?

Well theres really two points to it. To make your ex miss you and to erase any bad feelings he may have towards you. And thats the big thing we are trying to do here. We are trying to calm him down because if you cheated on your exboyfriend his anger level will be at a maximum. So lets wait till it comes down to a minimum before you try to get him back.

Step Two: Say your Sorry And MEAN IT!
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I know what your thinking. “Well I can just apologize it’s not like haven’t done that before.”

Your not listening, you have to apologize and mean it. A few sections ago we talked about Ester Perel the worlds leading psychotherapist and how she found that people cheat for the thrill and rush of it. That plays into it this because often times when it come to feeling bad or guilty people don’t feel bad for their actions because its exciting and fun for them. They feel bad for how they made the other person feel. They feel bad for hurting their significant other. Men are good at picking this up when you apologize to them. They can tell if your really sorry or not. So make an effort when it comes to apologizing to them to really show them that you are guilty. That will go a long ways.

Now I’m going to teach you a method I call the hamburger method. Basically this is going to involve the no contact rule.

Look to my right, your left you will see a graphic of a hamburger and the way this works is the meat of the hamburger is going to be considered the no contact rule. The top part above the meat is the apology. I want you to give a meaningful apology before you enter the no contact rule. The no contact rule you don’t talk to your ex at all. After the no contact rule you give another apology when it makes sense. You need to reiterate this apology because one apology is not enough for this type of behavior.

Now lets move on to the third thing you can do to get your ex back.

Step Three: End the Relationship

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End the relationship does not mean you end the relationship you have with your ex boyfriend. It means you end the relationship with the person you cheated with. Basically you erase them from your life. Erase them from the world. They do not exist. Do not talk to them. Do not do anything regarding them. Throw out their phone number. Lose them. If you are serious about getting your ex back this is a step you will have to take.

Step Four: Show Intense Commitment

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Showing intense commitment is easy to say but really hard to do. Now what do I consider an intense commitment? I consider an intense commitment to this process. Your going to have to swear off men in general. No flirting, no taking pictures, no kissing, definitely no dates. None of this is going to help you get your ex boyfriend back if you cheated on him because you cheated on him he is on red alert around you 24-7. If he is starting to feel like he wants you back he is going to dive into what has been going on after the breakup and if you’ve been with other guys. If you have been with other guys that’s not going to help you.

Step Five: Rebuild Attraction

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The final step of getting your ex back if you cheated on him is starting the original process that I teach on my website ex boyfriend recovery and in my ebook ExBoyfriend Recovery Pro. So rather then detail that for you here I’m going to recommend that you go right now this moment to my website www.exboyfriendrecovery.com. Search and read some of the content there you will get a really good idea of what you need to do to win him back. Also if you want a step by step game plan right now check out my ebook which you can find at www.exboyfriendrecovery.com. The ebook is called Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro and if you want to learn more about texting messaging. I have a really great e-book called the texting bible. Basically its a dictionary with 250-300 texts messages that you can use in any situation that you can think of.

Hey we just wanted to say, yes we just wanted to say thank you for getting to the end of this video. We really appreciate you. Again like I said if you want to learn more about getting your ex boyfriend back go to www.exboyfriendrecovery.com.

And I’ll let the elf take it from here. If you wanna get your ex boyfriend back or you have any comments please comment in the YouTube section below. Thank you!

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marie
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in one article you say to not do a full 30 days but a 15 day NC after cheating, another article says do not apologize at all, then one says to apologize after priming, this one says to apologize before NC. I’ve already been in NC for 7 days. clarify?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Marie,

what were the articles that you mentioned? The advises might be different because of the context of the message. What’s your situation?

marie
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in one article you say to not do a full 30 days but a 15 day NC after cheating, another article says do not apologize at all, then one says to apologize after priming, this one says to apologize before NC. I’ve already been in NC for 7 days. clarify?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Marie,

what were the articles that you mentioned? The advises might be different because of the context of the message. What’s your situation?

Joyce
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Hi EBR Team: Thanks for making this site and believing in second chances at love. I was about to give up but felt relieved with the glimpse of hope your site has given me. My ex and I have lived together for almost four years. Those years weren’t a smooth sail but we’ve managed to have beautiful and fun moments together. We became close to each other’s family and friends as well. We had great adventures and had really fun times. He even said that he’s never felt that kind of freedom in a relationship before. But there were times… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Joyce
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Hi EBR Team: Thanks for making this site and believing in second chances at love. I was about to give up but felt relieved with the glimpse of hope your site has given me. My ex and I have lived together for almost four years. Those years weren’t a smooth sail but we’ve managed to have beautiful and fun moments together. We became close to each other’s family and friends as well. We had great adventures and had really fun times. He even said that he’s never felt that kind of freedom in a relationship before. But there were times… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Rachael
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my bf of 5 years finally broke up with me about a month ago. we were incompatible from the start and i knew it wouldn’t last forever but he became my best friend. the breakup was mutual and respectful and for a full week afterwards we were still texting like best friends. but then i admitted to him that i had been cheating on him at the end of our relationship and he immediately wanted nothing to do with me. of course i don’t blame him for that and i don’t think we should ever get back together as boyfriend… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Rachael,

Yeah someday when much time has passed.. It depends from a person to person but a safe bet would be maybe after 6 months or a year he would have moved on..

Rachael
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my bf of 5 years finally broke up with me about a month ago. we were incompatible from the start and i knew it wouldn’t last forever but he became my best friend. the breakup was mutual and respectful and for a full week afterwards we were still texting like best friends. but then i admitted to him that i had been cheating on him at the end of our relationship and he immediately wanted nothing to do with me. of course i don’t blame him for that and i don’t think we should ever get back together as boyfriend… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Rachael,

Yeah someday when much time has passed.. It depends from a person to person but a safe bet would be maybe after 6 months or a year he would have moved on..

Fig
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We were in a long distance relationship. We were previously in a very committed and serious relationship. A close guy friend made a move on me because he knew we might be on the verge of breaking up. (just a kiss, nothing more.) I told my bf about it and we broke up. He did give me a second chance but it was so tiring on my end. I felt that he changed as he did not treat me with the same affection as he used to. I felt that I was treating him better than I treated myself and… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Fig,

start the no contact rule and treat as a restart after.. Initiate contact and slowly rebuild rapport..

Fig
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We were in a long distance relationship. We were previously in a very committed and serious relationship. A close guy friend made a move on me because he knew we might be on the verge of breaking up. (just a kiss, nothing more.) I told my bf about it and we broke up. He did give me a second chance but it was so tiring on my end. I felt that he changed as he did not treat me with the same affection as he used to. I felt that I was treating him better than I treated myself and… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Fig,

start the no contact rule and treat as a restart after.. Initiate contact and slowly rebuild rapport..

Tanja
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My ex-fiancé & I broke up last July because I cheated. Ever since then we have been kinda on again off again if seeing & going out with each other. I have made all the mistakes of begging being a text & calling gnat shoring up st his house & even getting angry & saying mean ugly things to him because he won’t take me back completely. He has gone out with other girls is on every dating site you can think of but yet still talks to me & sees me when he wants. He has showed up at… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tanja,

Nope don’t tell him, just start it..

Tanja
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My ex-fiancé & I broke up last July because I cheated. Ever since then we have been kinda on again off again if seeing & going out with each other. I have made all the mistakes of begging being a text & calling gnat shoring up st his house & even getting angry & saying mean ugly things to him because he won’t take me back completely. He has gone out with other girls is on every dating site you can think of but yet still talks to me & sees me when he wants. He has showed up at… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tanja,

Nope don’t tell him, just start it..

Yola
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Hi Chris

I cheated on my bf…we were right for two weeks then my ex contacted me so he thinks I’m still saying him he told his friends he wants nothing to do with me and we will never get together with me…is there hope after such.

Yola
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Hi Chris

I cheated on my bf…we were right for two weeks then my ex contacted me so he thinks I’m still saying him he told his friends he wants nothing to do with me and we will never get together with me…is there hope after such.

Kay
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Hi, I’ve been reading the site and looking at comments.. I cheated on my boyfriend about a year ago, and he found out a couple of weeks ago and immediately broke up with me. We’ve been together 5 years and I know in my heart that this isn’t it for us, but I don’t know how to make him see that now. He’s very angry and hurt but I just want him back. I’ve only tried to contact him once in 3 weeks and it was by letter, not a great response. I’m willing to try NC, but after watching… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kay,
Nope, try the approach above, apologize first before and after nc.. Check this one too:
EBR 020- How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated

Kay
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Hi, I’ve been reading the site and looking at comments.. I cheated on my boyfriend about a year ago, and he found out a couple of weeks ago and immediately broke up with me. We’ve been together 5 years and I know in my heart that this isn’t it for us, but I don’t know how to make him see that now. He’s very angry and hurt but I just want him back. I’ve only tried to contact him once in 3 weeks and it was by letter, not a great response. I’m willing to try NC, but after watching… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kay,
Nope, try the approach above, apologize first before and after nc.. Check this one too:
EBR 020- How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated

chelsea
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Hi, I cheated on my boyfriend in June 2016 with my ex-boyfriend. He found out and was very hurt. We broke up for maybe a week and ended up back together. The trust was never 100% since that. In December 2016 he saw a text to my ex-boyfriend to meet him to talk about a problem and I had sent him a picture. He broke up with me on the spot and we tried to remain friends, that lasted for about a week until I had a breakdown and went “crazy” on him. Now we are not speaking as of… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chelsea,

what was the problem and the picture and why didn’t you cut ties with your ex?

chelsea
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the problem was a girl that my ex-ex had been dating was telling mutual friends that my ex-ex and I were seeing each other/dating. This was untrue and I wanted to meet him in person to discuss the issue. the picture i sent was a selfie of myself, one that i should have only sent to my boyfriend at the time. it was wrong. I had cut ties with my ex-ex completely prior to the issue with the girl spreading weird rumors. Since my last post, my ex and I spent 3 days together….and now we are not speaking again,… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

let him cool down for a week and then explain, if he still doesn’t believe you then do the no contact rule

chelsea
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Hi, I cheated on my boyfriend in June 2016 with my ex-boyfriend. He found out and was very hurt. We broke up for maybe a week and ended up back together. The trust was never 100% since that. In December 2016 he saw a text to my ex-boyfriend to meet him to talk about a problem and I had sent him a picture. He broke up with me on the spot and we tried to remain friends, that lasted for about a week until I had a breakdown and went “crazy” on him. Now we are not speaking as of… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chelsea,

what was the problem and the picture and why didn’t you cut ties with your ex?

chelsea
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the problem was a girl that my ex-ex had been dating was telling mutual friends that my ex-ex and I were seeing each other/dating. This was untrue and I wanted to meet him in person to discuss the issue. the picture i sent was a selfie of myself, one that i should have only sent to my boyfriend at the time. it was wrong. I had cut ties with my ex-ex completely prior to the issue with the girl spreading weird rumors. Since my last post, my ex and I spent 3 days together….and now we are not speaking again,… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

let him cool down for a week and then explain, if he still doesn’t believe you then do the no contact rule

Kat
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Hey Chris or Amor, I have loved looking through the articles and videos on your website and they have lifted my mood and made me feel a lot more confident about saving my relationship! However, I still need help…I have been in a relationship for a year and a half with my boyfriend, which has been the most special and amazing time of my life, and he truly became my best friend and soulmate during that time, however in September I moved to college in a different country whilst he stayed at home to work so the relationship became long… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kat,

try to follow the no contact rule and focus in improving yourself.. because being friends now, will have more risk of being friendzoned.

Kat
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Hey Chris or Amor, I have loved looking through the articles and videos on your website and they have lifted my mood and made me feel a lot more confident about saving my relationship! However, I still need help…I have been in a relationship for a year and a half with my boyfriend, which has been the most special and amazing time of my life, and he truly became my best friend and soulmate during that time, however in September I moved to college in a different country whilst he stayed at home to work so the relationship became long… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kat,

try to follow the no contact rule and focus in improving yourself.. because being friends now, will have more risk of being friendzoned.

Sharon C
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Hey Chris or Amor! ive been reading your articles for about 2 weeks now. I LOVE the NC rule and everything you explain behind it. I have a situation on where I would love your advice. I had a bf for about 5 years. hes my longest relationship. we both loved eachother very very much. we were planning on getting married and all. early this year in 2016, in Febuary to be exact, I had a one night stand where I got black out drunk, & was without him. I regretted every minute of it afterwards and decided to keep… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sharon c,

It looks like there’s a good chance someday..Does he know it was just a one night stand and that you’ve cut all ties with the guy?

Sharon C
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Hey Chris or Amor! ive been reading your articles for about 2 weeks now. I LOVE the NC rule and everything you explain behind it. I have a situation on where I would love your advice. I had a bf for about 5 years. hes my longest relationship. we both loved eachother very very much. we were planning on getting married and all. early this year in 2016, in Febuary to be exact, I had a one night stand where I got black out drunk, & was without him. I regretted every minute of it afterwards and decided to keep… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sharon c,

It looks like there’s a good chance someday..Does he know it was just a one night stand and that you’ve cut all ties with the guy?

kay
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Hi there firstly I would like to thank you for what you are doing. I went on a date with a married guy and my ex found out,he said he had forgiven me and we continued our relationship,this happened in June August was hell on and off depending on what he felt,we tried working things through then that married guy popped up unannounced,that made things worse and last Sunday he broke up with me. I have apologised a thousand times even suggested counselling but he wont take me back. He says he would rather have me as a friend which… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kay,

did you mean you dated the married guy during your relationship? Well, if he really is bothering you and won’t listen, get a restraining order. Just be civil with your ex. Be calm. Don’t be emotional. Follow what’s advised in the video above and take it slow after nc..

kay
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Hi there firstly I would like to thank you for what you are doing. I went on a date with a married guy and my ex found out,he said he had forgiven me and we continued our relationship,this happened in June August was hell on and off depending on what he felt,we tried working things through then that married guy popped up unannounced,that made things worse and last Sunday he broke up with me. I have apologised a thousand times even suggested counselling but he wont take me back. He says he would rather have me as a friend which… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kay,

did you mean you dated the married guy during your relationship? Well, if he really is bothering you and won’t listen, get a restraining order. Just be civil with your ex. Be calm. Don’t be emotional. Follow what’s advised in the video above and take it slow after nc..

rachel
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So me and my ex broke up 2 months ago. It has been chaos ever since. He is alwys angry msging me claiming that i have slept with this guy and that. He has a long list of guys that he has made up in his mind that i have slept with. I have tried explaining to him countless times but he doesnt seem to be working. I even read the article that states if i have been falsely accused of cheating. I have tried everything, i followed that article and not spoken to him for more than a week… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Hi Rachel, stop feeding the fire Rachel.. I know you’ll keep doing what you want to do and I understand that and I also think that’s the only way that can help you realize that the more you answer, the more you show up, the more you beg, the more it will make him angry or take advantage of that power by continuing to be angry at you. You basically keep on reacting to him and it’s making him feel good. Take the high road. Ignore and improve yourself. Learn to live life that he’s the only who’s angry. You’ve… Read more »
rachel
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So me and my ex broke up 2 months ago. It has been chaos ever since. He is alwys angry msging me claiming that i have slept with this guy and that. He has a long list of guys that he has made up in his mind that i have slept with. I have tried explaining to him countless times but he doesnt seem to be working. I even read the article that states if i have been falsely accused of cheating. I have tried everything, i followed that article and not spoken to him for more than a week… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Hi Rachel, stop feeding the fire Rachel.. I know you’ll keep doing what you want to do and I understand that and I also think that’s the only way that can help you realize that the more you answer, the more you show up, the more you beg, the more it will make him angry or take advantage of that power by continuing to be angry at you. You basically keep on reacting to him and it’s making him feel good. Take the high road. Ignore and improve yourself. Learn to live life that he’s the only who’s angry. You’ve… Read more »
What happens now?
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Hey there! My husband and I have been married four years and have a two year old son. He is currently on a 6 month deployment overseas. 6 weeks ago I had a one night stand with another woman. Our relationship was good but I wanted to explore my sexuality and was unable to resist the temptation of an open opportunity. I confessed and he told me that we were done. I didn’t follow no contact at first and apologized over and over for about a month. Through the month, he sent me mixed signals by telling me a few… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

It’s ok to talk about your son only but if he’s not wanting to get back with you, don’t respond to that or tell him you’re not ready to talk about that stuff yet.

What happens now?
Guest
Hey there! My husband and I have been married four years and have a two year old son. He is currently on a 6 month deployment overseas. 6 weeks ago I had a one night stand with another woman. Our relationship was good but I wanted to explore my sexuality and was unable to resist the temptation of an open opportunity. I confessed and he told me that we were done. I didn’t follow no contact at first and apologized over and over for about a month. Through the month, he sent me mixed signals by telling me a few… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

It’s ok to talk about your son only but if he’s not wanting to get back with you, don’t respond to that or tell him you’re not ready to talk about that stuff yet.

Jess
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Hi, I’ve got two of your ebooks and read tons of articles. I’m so grateful for all your help. But I have a question, that I can’t seem to find on here. I’m into day 27 of no contact, and after some soul searching and meditation, I’ve realised that there were a few things I did that would have been hurtful to my ex. We both did, but I’ve come to realize we were both to blame. We had a great relationship, but it just got very stressful for both of us (work commitments, buying a house) He broke up… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jess,

thanks for buying and appreciating our books! hmm.. how heavy is it? I mean, according on how well you know him, and from what happened, are those things something you should say sorry first? If you start talking first, would he think about them rather than just talk to you?

If you say it first, would it cause tension or it’s just something you could say while in the conversation and then he would forgive and move on?

Jess
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Hi, I’ve got two of your ebooks and read tons of articles. I’m so grateful for all your help. But I have a question, that I can’t seem to find on here. I’m into day 27 of no contact, and after some soul searching and meditation, I’ve realised that there were a few things I did that would have been hurtful to my ex. We both did, but I’ve come to realize we were both to blame. We had a great relationship, but it just got very stressful for both of us (work commitments, buying a house) He broke up… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jess,

thanks for buying and appreciating our books! hmm.. how heavy is it? I mean, according on how well you know him, and from what happened, are those things something you should say sorry first? If you start talking first, would he think about them rather than just talk to you?

If you say it first, would it cause tension or it’s just something you could say while in the conversation and then he would forgive and move on?

Blue
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I had to go through NC for 15 time last year. Our dates that he initiates are always unforgettable and then he withdraws again. He can not forgive that I was in rebound relationship after our breaking up 2 years ago, even though I cut all ties with my rebound and I returned back to my ex. He arranged beautiful date again a month and half ago. We had beautiful 2 days like we used to have before. And then nothing. This rollingcoster of hot and cold behavior kills me. Again NC from my side and he does not respond… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Blue,
by 15 times, do you mean 15 all completed nc?

Blue
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yes,it took little bit longer then a year. one year and half . but it finishes with the withdrawal again. And I have to restart again and again. any advise?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hmmm, take it slow after nc this time..Make him work for you.. And also, I think you have to focus on you this time of nc instead of just aiming to geet him back..

Blue
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I had to go through NC for 15 time last year. Our dates that he initiates are always unforgettable and then he withdraws again. He can not forgive that I was in rebound relationship after our breaking up 2 years ago, even though I cut all ties with my rebound and I returned back to my ex. He arranged beautiful date again a month and half ago. We had beautiful 2 days like we used to have before. And then nothing. This rollingcoster of hot and cold behavior kills me. Again NC from my side and he does not respond… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Blue,
by 15 times, do you mean 15 all completed nc?

Blue
Guest

yes,it took little bit longer then a year. one year and half . but it finishes with the withdrawal again. And I have to restart again and again. any advise?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hmmm, take it slow after nc this time..Make him work for you.. And also, I think you have to focus on you this time of nc instead of just aiming to geet him back..

kathryn
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I have bought all your products, have listened to your iPod casts etc but still am having problems with get a response out of my ex. I was in a 10 yr relationship with my high school sweetheart and 4 months ago he left me because I had depression and it caused me to cheat on him twice. he was heartbroken and told me he was falling out of love with me (probably due to my depression and cheating) and I haven’t heard from him since. he’s completely blocked me out of his life Facebook, email, phone, texts etc. I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kathryn,

was all your efforts during those four months while you were blocked?

kathryn
Guest

i did no contact for the past month only because i was trying to contact him first after he broke with me so i did the efforts after that 30 day no contact

kathryn
Guest

i don’t know what specific steps to follow i have listened to pod casts and i am wondering do i do another 30 day no contact which will be easy since he’s cut me out completely! and then send a text but i don’t know how to approach him without his defence mechanisms going up and completely ignoring me its been 4 months since I’ve heard a word from him and I’m trying to break this wall of silence he’s put up

kathryn
Guest
no he blocked me after he broke up with me last october than i only did 30 days no contact last month and i tried to contact him last week with a text message i got nothing back. I’m willing to pay anything for step by step guidance on how to approach him i have used psychologists and relationship therapists on what i should do and nothing has worked. he blocked me completely last october and i haven’t heard anything at first i was texting him a lot and calling him and did things i shouldn’t have i did the… Read more »
kathryn
Guest
I have bought all your products, have listened to your iPod casts etc but still am having problems with get a response out of my ex. I was in a 10 yr relationship with my high school sweetheart and 4 months ago he left me because I had depression and it caused me to cheat on him twice. he was heartbroken and told me he was falling out of love with me (probably due to my depression and cheating) and I haven’t heard from him since. he’s completely blocked me out of his life Facebook, email, phone, texts etc. I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kathryn,

was all your efforts during those four months while you were blocked?

kathryn
Guest

i did no contact for the past month only because i was trying to contact him first after he broke with me so i did the efforts after that 30 day no contact

kathryn
Guest

i don’t know what specific steps to follow i have listened to pod casts and i am wondering do i do another 30 day no contact which will be easy since he’s cut me out completely! and then send a text but i don’t know how to approach him without his defence mechanisms going up and completely ignoring me its been 4 months since I’ve heard a word from him and I’m trying to break this wall of silence he’s put up

kathryn
Guest
no he blocked me after he broke up with me last october than i only did 30 days no contact last month and i tried to contact him last week with a text message i got nothing back. I’m willing to pay anything for step by step guidance on how to approach him i have used psychologists and relationship therapists on what i should do and nothing has worked. he blocked me completely last october and i haven’t heard anything at first i was texting him a lot and calling him and did things i shouldn’t have i did the… Read more »
Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
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Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
I know you receive a lot of questions, so I’ll try to keep it as brief as possible. He and I were together for 10 months. I cheated on him (kissed and held hands with someone else only). I felt guilty and admitted to it. He got very angry, but decided he wanted to work through it. I kept hanging out with the person (as friends only), and ended up admitting it to him. He then broke up with me. A few days later, he desperately begged for me back, and even after I told him to give me more… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Betty salt,

it’s ok of you’re just greeting him but don’t engage a talk with him and also, you have to cut all ties with the other guy so, you will have a better chance after nc

Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
Guest
Betty Salt PLEASE HELP

I have cut ties with the other person, but I suppose there isn’t any way for my ex to know that. Does it matter if he knows? Also, just to confirm, telling him happy birthday does not break NC? I thought the point of NC was no contact at all, so I just want to be absolutely sure it won’t mess up my chances. If I do say happy birthday to him, should I do it somewhere less personal like on his Facebook wall, or actually text it to him?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

For me as long as it’s just happy birthday and no talking..hmm yeah it’s better if it’s less personal so there’s less chance of a talk

Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
Guest
Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
Okay, so it has been about 30 days, so I sent my ex a message, and he responded. I’m not really sure where to go from here though. What do I do next? Here is the convo: “I was packing up my room the other day and found ticket stubs from a concert we went to, and it obviously made me think of you. Honestly, it really made me smile. I’m happy and grateful that I got to experience so many interesting and exciting things with you. I hope you’re doing well.” And he said, “you too, take care”. I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

if you’ve already apologized..that will do.. focus on making the next text more engaging.. don’t say or ask on the karaoke text of he remembers how you spent time together there, one remembrance is enough for now..it has to be in a way that he will desribe or tell a story…like starting the text with, “hey what’s up,I went to the karaoke bar and blah blah..”

Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
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Betty Salt PLEASE HELP

I just wanted to say thank you. As someone who cheated and was trying to get my ex back, I was definitely losing hope, but after following all of your advise, he’s now talking to me again and wants to work things out. It has been exactly 2 months since he and I split up, and it was certainly a process, but things are looking good from here.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome! I’m happy he’s talking to you again!

Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
Guest
Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
I know you receive a lot of questions, so I’ll try to keep it as brief as possible. He and I were together for 10 months. I cheated on him (kissed and held hands with someone else only). I felt guilty and admitted to it. He got very angry, but decided he wanted to work through it. I kept hanging out with the person (as friends only), and ended up admitting it to him. He then broke up with me. A few days later, he desperately begged for me back, and even after I told him to give me more… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Betty salt,

it’s ok of you’re just greeting him but don’t engage a talk with him and also, you have to cut all ties with the other guy so, you will have a better chance after nc

Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
Guest
Betty Salt PLEASE HELP

I have cut ties with the other person, but I suppose there isn’t any way for my ex to know that. Does it matter if he knows? Also, just to confirm, telling him happy birthday does not break NC? I thought the point of NC was no contact at all, so I just want to be absolutely sure it won’t mess up my chances. If I do say happy birthday to him, should I do it somewhere less personal like on his Facebook wall, or actually text it to him?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

For me as long as it’s just happy birthday and no talking..hmm yeah it’s better if it’s less personal so there’s less chance of a talk

Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
Guest
Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
Okay, so it has been about 30 days, so I sent my ex a message, and he responded. I’m not really sure where to go from here though. What do I do next? Here is the convo: “I was packing up my room the other day and found ticket stubs from a concert we went to, and it obviously made me think of you. Honestly, it really made me smile. I’m happy and grateful that I got to experience so many interesting and exciting things with you. I hope you’re doing well.” And he said, “you too, take care”. I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

if you’ve already apologized..that will do.. focus on making the next text more engaging.. don’t say or ask on the karaoke text of he remembers how you spent time together there, one remembrance is enough for now..it has to be in a way that he will desribe or tell a story…like starting the text with, “hey what’s up,I went to the karaoke bar and blah blah..”

Betty Salt PLEASE HELP
Guest
Betty Salt PLEASE HELP

I just wanted to say thank you. As someone who cheated and was trying to get my ex back, I was definitely losing hope, but after following all of your advise, he’s now talking to me again and wants to work things out. It has been exactly 2 months since he and I split up, and it was certainly a process, but things are looking good from here.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You’re welcome! I’m happy he’s talking to you again!

May
Guest
I was in a LDR and cheated on my ex, I didn’t want to lie or keep anything from him so I almost immediately told him. He asked no questions about anything, it was just over. That was about a month ago… we were only together about three months but we already said “I love you”. In that time, we got to meet once for only a day and it was about a week or two into the relationship. Anyway, after a day, he messaged me and said to give him time and “the best course is to start over… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

He’s right, you have to start over as friend and if he’s telling the truth, you have to cut all ties with the other guy. and most of the effort will likely come from you to regain trust.

May
Guest
I was in a LDR and cheated on my ex, I didn’t want to lie or keep anything from him so I almost immediately told him. He asked no questions about anything, it was just over. That was about a month ago… we were only together about three months but we already said “I love you”. In that time, we got to meet once for only a day and it was about a week or two into the relationship. Anyway, after a day, he messaged me and said to give him time and “the best course is to start over… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

He’s right, you have to start over as friend and if he’s telling the truth, you have to cut all ties with the other guy. and most of the effort will likely come from you to regain trust.

Alana
Guest
Hi Chris, I really like your site, I find it very helpful. I want to apologize in advantage if my grammar is not proper, English is not my first language. So, thing is, I cheated on my boyfriend four months ago. I was flirting with a coworker and didn’t expected for that to happen. But I let it happen: he touched my leg and I touched his back. Then he touched my crotch and I didn’t want him to, but I couldn’t stop him. I was paralized since we were in a car with more people in it and I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alana,

YOu managed to get him agree on a date but is it because he really liked to go with or he just agreed to go? How do you picture yourself demonstrating the new you? How many days from now is the Europe trip?

Alana
Guest
Amor, thanks for replying. I ask him for a chance to met the new me in a date, and he a tree but doesn’t show excitement at all. I haven’t see him since I told him the entire truth and I’m going to see him im a few hours. He ask me before we talk on the phone and agree to have a date to bring his clothes and stuff he had in my place. I asked him the same. I a little insecure about that right now… But since I agree that out previous relationship is dead I’d like… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Okay, if you only have a week, even though you can’t really do full nc, at least make that week like it.

Alana
Guest
Hi Chris, I really like your site, I find it very helpful. I want to apologize in advantage if my grammar is not proper, English is not my first language. So, thing is, I cheated on my boyfriend four months ago. I was flirting with a coworker and didn’t expected for that to happen. But I let it happen: he touched my leg and I touched his back. Then he touched my crotch and I didn’t want him to, but I couldn’t stop him. I was paralized since we were in a car with more people in it and I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alana,

YOu managed to get him agree on a date but is it because he really liked to go with or he just agreed to go? How do you picture yourself demonstrating the new you? How many days from now is the Europe trip?

Alana
Guest
Amor, thanks for replying. I ask him for a chance to met the new me in a date, and he a tree but doesn’t show excitement at all. I haven’t see him since I told him the entire truth and I’m going to see him im a few hours. He ask me before we talk on the phone and agree to have a date to bring his clothes and stuff he had in my place. I asked him the same. I a little insecure about that right now… But since I agree that out previous relationship is dead I’d like… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Okay, if you only have a week, even though you can’t really do full nc, at least make that week like it.

Leah
Guest
Hey, I had an affair on my long distance boyfriend that I met online. He found out when he visited me for the very first time one month ago. Immediately, he asked for answers and I told him everything. However, he still doubts my honesty because of the extent of which I tried to hide the affair. I have cut all ties with the person I had the affair with. I have tried giving my ex-boyfriend space. I don’t want to bother him. I don’t text or call first. However, he has contacted me every day since finding out. More… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Leah,

The least you can do is send a heartfelt message of assurance and then after that I think it can help if you share more about your day a little. A video clip, A short event of an interesting thing that happened. If things work out, whenever you meet up do new things. Build new memories but if you really can’t have a proper talk. Give him space but be sure you’ve sent that heartfelt and sincere assurance to him, so he can think about it.

Leah
Guest
Hey, I had an affair on my long distance boyfriend that I met online. He found out when he visited me for the very first time one month ago. Immediately, he asked for answers and I told him everything. However, he still doubts my honesty because of the extent of which I tried to hide the affair. I have cut all ties with the person I had the affair with. I have tried giving my ex-boyfriend space. I don’t want to bother him. I don’t text or call first. However, he has contacted me every day since finding out. More… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Leah,

The least you can do is send a heartfelt message of assurance and then after that I think it can help if you share more about your day a little. A video clip, A short event of an interesting thing that happened. If things work out, whenever you meet up do new things. Build new memories but if you really can’t have a proper talk. Give him space but be sure you’ve sent that heartfelt and sincere assurance to him, so he can think about it.

Trice
Guest
Hey! My ex dumped me because he thought I was cheating ( I was). It was going to b an untold secret but he said some mean things n I spilled the beans. I’m not proud of cheating, I actually really regret it. However, n this may seem crazy, but iI’m still seeing the guy I cheated on him with even though Im not really interested in him. We broke up about 2 weeks ago. We spoke once n that Convo was terrible. He was livid, but he did continue to text until we agreed to never speak again. I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Trice,

Do you want to move on? If not, go with NC period. Let the negative emotions subside

Trice
Guest
Hey! My ex dumped me because he thought I was cheating ( I was). It was going to b an untold secret but he said some mean things n I spilled the beans. I’m not proud of cheating, I actually really regret it. However, n this may seem crazy, but iI’m still seeing the guy I cheated on him with even though Im not really interested in him. We broke up about 2 weeks ago. We spoke once n that Convo was terrible. He was livid, but he did continue to text until we agreed to never speak again. I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Trice,

Do you want to move on? If not, go with NC period. Let the negative emotions subside

Mia
Guest

Hi, Jennifer,
thanks, I know, I’ve already done everything rigth when we broke up the first time but I’m not sure how to deal with this situation. Should I move and forget about him? I really love him but he is pushing me away, he lies about his feelings and we lasted only two months after reconciliation… Am I fool for wanting a third chance? Is it even possible to last after two break ups?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mila
No, you’re not a fool. You’re just willing to try again. It doesn’t matter how many breakups you had or going to have. what matters is if both people in the relationship are willing to make it last one more time.

Mia
Guest
Thanks Amor. I’ve read all arcticles on this blog, some of them several times and I know the procedure but I would like if you or Chris of Jennifer could write something about trying hard in relationship when you got ex back. Because, I’ve read those texts and I was trying to do everything right and show my affection and love but he was refusing sex, I always initiated it and also, I was the one hugging and kissing him much more… Chris wrote that after you got your ex back it is very important to implement Five languages of… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
Hello again Mia, First, are you back and living together now or you’re pertaining to events before you broke up? It is possible that someone is not ready yet to live together with somebody but if he refuses sex all the time, that’s a different issue. There is a problem if he always refused your requests. The key to relationships is that both of you should be a good addition to each other’s lives.Not a burden. Not a responsibility. Since women are more emotional, when we fall in love we tend become so in love, we lose balance in our… Read more »
Mia
Guest

*despite his behaviour, not despise, wrong spelling 🙂

Mia
Guest

Hi, Jennifer,
thanks, I know, I’ve already done everything rigth when we broke up the first time but I’m not sure how to deal with this situation. Should I move and forget about him? I really love him but he is pushing me away, he lies about his feelings and we lasted only two months after reconciliation… Am I fool for wanting a third chance? Is it even possible to last after two break ups?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mila
No, you’re not a fool. You’re just willing to try again. It doesn’t matter how many breakups you had or going to have. what matters is if both people in the relationship are willing to make it last one more time.

Mia
Guest
Thanks Amor. I’ve read all arcticles on this blog, some of them several times and I know the procedure but I would like if you or Chris of Jennifer could write something about trying hard in relationship when you got ex back. Because, I’ve read those texts and I was trying to do everything right and show my affection and love but he was refusing sex, I always initiated it and also, I was the one hugging and kissing him much more… Chris wrote that after you got your ex back it is very important to implement Five languages of… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
Hello again Mia, First, are you back and living together now or you’re pertaining to events before you broke up? It is possible that someone is not ready yet to live together with somebody but if he refuses sex all the time, that’s a different issue. There is a problem if he always refused your requests. The key to relationships is that both of you should be a good addition to each other’s lives.Not a burden. Not a responsibility. Since women are more emotional, when we fall in love we tend become so in love, we lose balance in our… Read more »
Mia
Guest

*despite his behaviour, not despise, wrong spelling 🙂

Keira
Guest
Hi, I was casually seeing a guy 2 years ago for 6 months until I found out he was still in an unhappy relationship with his baby mumma, he moved far away and they broke up not long after he made contact with me recently saying he still always thinks about me and is ready for something serious now, he paid for me to go see him and said he wanted to be with me. I agreed we could try even though would be very long distance. It was very new I had to go overseas to take my daughter… Read more »
Jennifer Seiter
Guest

Is he still in a relationship with her? When is the last time you spoke to him?

(P.S. I am helping Chris out with his comments so more people will get answered)

Keira
Guest
Hi, I was casually seeing a guy 2 years ago for 6 months until I found out he was still in an unhappy relationship with his baby mumma, he moved far away and they broke up not long after he made contact with me recently saying he still always thinks about me and is ready for something serious now, he paid for me to go see him and said he wanted to be with me. I agreed we could try even though would be very long distance. It was very new I had to go overseas to take my daughter… Read more »
Jennifer Seiter
Guest

Is he still in a relationship with her? When is the last time you spoke to him?

(P.S. I am helping Chris out with his comments so more people will get answered)

Konfused
Guest
I have written on here before. A few posts ago actually. After NC I sent an email describing all I didn’t get to say when he dumped me. I realised after I sent it that I may have sounded nasty but it was too late. That night I got a missed call on private and it wasn’t from my family/friends. But because I missed it I may never find out. Each day that I looked at my phone and saw no msg I became resentful and used his email to sign him up for silly stuff. It sounds terrible, but… Read more »
Jennifer Seiter
Guest

After no contact you should really send him a text that is more positive. You have to take it more slowly. Rebuilding attraction takes a lot of time. What was the exact cause of the breakup? Cheating?

Wait two weeks and then send him a text that would make him feel good. What are his interests?

Konfused
Guest
It wasn’t a text it was an email, it’s my only way of contact..because he deleted his Facebook and I deleted his number. No there was no cheating, and he didn’t really give me an excuse as to why we broke up (we were only together 6 weeks). I cracked it at him for looking up a very trashy girl on Facebook while he was with me and then after he said he sees me more like a friend/sister which is absolute crap..he was always all over me. He likes golf, I don’t know how to bring that up in… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Go around the “by the way” tone, make casual. Maybee about things he can use for golf or events.. Those that can benefit him, or ask for advice about it,

Konfused
Guest
I have written on here before. A few posts ago actually. After NC I sent an email describing all I didn’t get to say when he dumped me. I realised after I sent it that I may have sounded nasty but it was too late. That night I got a missed call on private and it wasn’t from my family/friends. But because I missed it I may never find out. Each day that I looked at my phone and saw no msg I became resentful and used his email to sign him up for silly stuff. It sounds terrible, but… Read more »
Jennifer Seiter
Guest

After no contact you should really send him a text that is more positive. You have to take it more slowly. Rebuilding attraction takes a lot of time. What was the exact cause of the breakup? Cheating?

Wait two weeks and then send him a text that would make him feel good. What are his interests?

Konfused
Guest
It wasn’t a text it was an email, it’s my only way of contact..because he deleted his Facebook and I deleted his number. No there was no cheating, and he didn’t really give me an excuse as to why we broke up (we were only together 6 weeks). I cracked it at him for looking up a very trashy girl on Facebook while he was with me and then after he said he sees me more like a friend/sister which is absolute crap..he was always all over me. He likes golf, I don’t know how to bring that up in… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Go around the “by the way” tone, make casual. Maybee about things he can use for golf or events.. Those that can benefit him, or ask for advice about it,

Erika
Guest
Hi Chris! I want to stay in NC but I have a trip with my friends starting on the 16th and he’s part of the group. I and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago. I broke my NC after a week but now I’m in NC again for more or less a week now. How do I do with the trip? Just ignore him? Well, I’m not even sure if he’s coming with us but just in case he decides to go, what should I do? So a little background, he and I was supposedly going to a temporary… Read more »
Chris Seiter
Guest

Maybe you might have to do some form of limited contact in this case. If he is part of the trip I mean.

Erika
Guest
Hi Chris! I want to stay in NC but I have a trip with my friends starting on the 16th and he’s part of the group. I and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago. I broke my NC after a week but now I’m in NC again for more or less a week now. How do I do with the trip? Just ignore him? Well, I’m not even sure if he’s coming with us but just in case he decides to go, what should I do? So a little background, he and I was supposedly going to a temporary… Read more »
Chris Seiter
Guest

Maybe you might have to do some form of limited contact in this case. If he is part of the trip I mean.