You always hear me talking about “The No Contact Rule” and how great it is.

Heck, I’ve written close to twenty articles covering it throughout the history of this website.

I’ve even done my own independent studies where I have looked through my individual success stories helping women get back with their exes and determined if the no contact rule was a major factor in that success.

Hint Hint: It is as I found that over 70% of my successes have utilized the no contact rule in some way, shape or form.

But you want to know the one thing I have never done before?

I have never compiled those success stories in one place and dissected them for you.

Until today!

Honestly, I don’t know why I didn’t think of this sooner.

I guess I am going to have to give credit to the women who are a part of my private support group who are constantly yearning for proof.

You see, they want to see the no contact rule work more than anyone as most of them are literally in the middle of one as we speak. To them it’s a light at the end of the tunnel.

I have always felt that my big claim to fame as a breakup consultant is the fact that I think I have more success stories out there than anyone.

And today I am going to prove it by showing them to you!

The No Contact Rule Success Story #1: Anna

Some of the more well read readers of this article may recognize the name “Anna.”

Well, that’s because I have her success story posted throughout the site and even did a real interview with her here.

But I suppose you want the proof, eh?

So, let’s get to the fun part and dissect this situation for a second.

My wife Jennifer and I helped Anna out a lot (not that she needed it she’s a total badass.)

Breakdown of Her Situation

  • She was in a long distance relationship
  • She was engaged to her ex
  • She was in the middle of NC
  • The was something VERY important she needed to get at her exes house

And that’s where our story is going to pick up.

You see, I learned a long time ago that there are certain circumstances where it’s ok to break the no contact rule quickly if you have important items that you need to retrieve from your ex.

That was the case for Anna so she was allowed to break the no contact rule.

What I wasn’t counting on was that it was during this interaction of getting her items back from her ex that she got him to ask her to be back.

Here Is My Hypothesis On Why The No Contact Rule Worked

We know that she was in the middle of the no contact rule (17 days to be exact) when she was forced to get her things back from her exes place. Now, while Anna was totally freaking out about it (watch the interview) her ex was probably doing the same thing.

17 days of silence is a long time for a man and while he hadn’t reached out to her (again watch the interview). I am betting it was some type of ploy on his part to see if she’d reach out to first.

As every day passed and she didn’t reach out he became more and more agitated, slowly realizing just how much he missed her.

It all came to a boiling point when Anna had to get her things from him.

Seeing her was probably just too much and he had to have her back.

Now, Anna deserves all the credit for her killer strategy of seeing her ex in person (again, watch that interview) but I think the no contact rule definitely enhanced it because it worked him up and made him realize just what he had lost.

No Contact Rule Success Story #2: A Random Girl From Our Support Group

So, while success story #1 was about a woman who got her ex back I’d like to switch things up a bit and talk about some of the amazing things that the no contact rule can make men do.

 

So, here is the lowdown on this situation.

This woman was in the middle of the no contact rule when she heard her doorbell ring.

She went to see who it was she was greeted to a flower delivery man with a note from her ex.

Remember, she is in the middle of the no contact rule and he asked her on a date!

So, what do we think happened here?

My Hypothesis For Why The No Contact Rule Worked

The “NC” has a funny way of bringing out what we are really feeling.

But here is the funny thing.

Women often take a short sighted view on this.

They fail to realize that the no contact rule isn’t only affecting them, it’s affecting their exes as well even if it doesn’t seem like it is.

I’ll give you an example.

Women will often ask me,

Chris, what if he doesn’t contact me during the no contact rule? Does it mean that it’s not working?

I can’t tell you how many success stories I have come across where this has happened (look at no contact rule success story #1.) Usually all it means is that your ex is one stubborn SOB and he has resided himself to making you be the one to contact him first.

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But I am getting off topic here.

In this particular circumstance this woman used the no contact rule on her ex and if affected him so much that he felt the need to send her flowers and ask her on a date.

Now, was it only because of the no contact rule that he did this?

No, I think it would be arrogant of me to say that.

Instead, I think it’s a testament to how great this particular woman’s relationship with him was. It was so good that it made it easy for him to miss her and he took action to win her back.

No Contact Rule Success Story #3: The Never Initiated Girl

Now, I don’t want you to be reading this and get a big head that this is a typical result because it’s not.

However, every once in a while we get a pretty awesome NC success story like this,

So, this one is pretty straight forward.

When it comes to the no contact rule I usually recommend three different time frames.

  1. The 21 Day Rule
  2. The 30 Day Rule
  3. The 45 Day Rule

Now, to be perfectly honest with you I can’t remember exactly which no contact rule time frame that this particular girl chose but one thing is for sure.

Even after her no contact rule time frame was up she didn’t initiate a conversation with him at all.

She simply waited and he came to her and asked for her back.

In other words, the only actual strategy she tried that I recommended was the no contact rule. Therefore we can assume that the no contact rule played a huge factor into her success.

My Hypothesis For Why The No Contact Rule Worked For Her

Are you beginning to see a common theme among our success stories?

It seems like a lot of the men who come back to their exes as a result of the no contact rule begin missing them in an extreme way.

And if I were a betting man that is what I would say happened here.

It’s a case of a man being left alone with his own thoughts for a long time and coming to the realization of what he lost.

No Contact Rule Success Story #4: Jessy

Jesse has a really interesting story in the fact that SHE was the one who broke up with her ex.

You see, Jesse had been married before and thought that she was ready for the next step with her boyfriend at the time and believe it or not he agreed. However, she asked him to go to couples counseling with her so they could make sure they resolve any issues they had before they entered into a life long commitment.

Well, as I am sure you can imagine that didn’t go over too well with her boyfriend and he broke up with her.

That’s when Jesse found Ex Boyfriend Recovery and well, just watch.

If you want to learn more about her situation without watching the whole video I recommend you read the post I wrote on her here.

But here is the quick cliff notes version.

  • Jessy did the 30 day no contact rule
  • Even though it went against what she thought was right she decided to reach out to him first
  • He told her immediately that he was glad she reached out.
  • He missed her so much
  • Blah, blah, blah
  • Now they are married!

Like I said, read the article I wrote on them!

Why The No Contact Rule Worked On Jessy’s Ex

I have a lot of data on this particular success story as it relates to the no contact rule since I did an hour long interview with Jessy and got to hear exactly what her ex said to her after she reached out to him post NC.

This is a quote from our interview,

So, I later learned that in his mind he was like, “Fine, if she’s not going to contact me, as much as my heart is hurting, I refuse to contact her.”

So, what we have here is a stubborn ex who put his foot down and decided to not contact her during the no contact period no matter what.

But what is interesting is what he did once she contacted him.

It’s almost as if instantaneously he switched gears and went from the “I’m not going to contact her” mentality to the “I miss you so much” mentality.

Again, our common theme comes up!

No Contact Rule Success Story #5: Jellybean!

And for our last no contact rule success story of the day I thought we would do something fun and go “old school” by picking one of the comment success stories from the old version of our website.

I’d like to introduce you to Jellybean,

Jellybean is actually one of my favorite success stories to quote for a couple of reasons,

Firstly, it shows how capable my team is at helping you guys when I can’t.

 

Secondly, who can say no to someone named Jellybean?

Alright, so here is the breakdown of her situation.

After the breakup with her ex boyfriend Jellybean did what most women tend to do.

She went crazy trying to beg and plead for her ex back. However, eventually she came to her senses and decided to implement the no contact rule. Once she did that and really spent her time focusing on making sure she was doing it properly she started to see some success.

Eventually her ex asked for her back and they lived happily ever after!

Actually I haven’t heard from Jellybean in two years so I am assuming they are still together.

How can I make that assumption?

Well, usually if people have a positive experience on this website they will visit it again once they go through another breakup.

Anyways, Why Did The No Contact Rule Work For Jellybean?

I think the important thing to note here is the fact that Jellybean did not follow the EBR breakup protocol of immediately jumping into the no contact rule.

Instead, she did what most women do unfortunately.

She begged…

She pleaded…

She cried…

She basically did everything she wasn’t supposed to do.

Now, by doing that her ex boyfriend started to make certain assumptions about her.

Assumption #1 = She misses me more than I miss her

 

Assumption #2 = She is a little over emotional

 

Assumption #3 = I am winning the breakup

Now, I may not know much (lie) but one thing I do know is that men often don’t take their ex girlfriend back when they make these assumptions.

But Jellybean did a really smart thing.

She got really serious about the no contact rule and jumped right into it and slowly but surely his assumptions started getting replaced with these,

New Assumption = Maybe she doesn’t miss me as much as I thought…

 

New Assumption = Maybe she isn’t as over emotional as I thought…

 

New Assumption = I am losing this breakup…

And I think we all know what happens to a man once he has these assumptions.

126 thoughts on “A Comprehensive List Of No Contact Rule Success Stories”

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    K

    December 3, 2019 at 6:10 pm

    Hi, my bf wanted a break up a week ago, we have since met up twice for exchanging things. We are in a sort of long distance relationship (1 hour apart) for a year. The reason why he wanted to end things is because of the distance and he couldnt stand not having me by his side all the time. There is no way to change things for now although we will eventually be back together in a few years time. I tried to logically convince him why we should stay together and he softened up and said give him 2 months to think. We still have super strong feelings for each other. Should I not contact him at all for the 2 months he asked for?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      December 6, 2019 at 9:29 pm

      Hi K, so give him the space he wants, but in the mean time you need to live your life and do your own things showing him youre not going to sit at home waiting for him!! Giving him 2 months is a long time so I suggest 30 days, and if by then he wants to break up accept that decision gracefully and start dating make sure you post hints that you may have met someone else it is going to make him realise that you are a desired woman and that he can not just place you on the side for a future “someday” that might not ever happen

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    JL

    November 20, 2019 at 11:12 am

    My boyfriend and I had been in a long distance relationship. However, we broke up because of distance after a month. He said being friends was better as having a love relationship would be harder. I like him and I want to get him back. I think we are meant to each other. He said that I was a very rare girl but we couldn’t stick with time. Both of us were busy, maybe this worsened the situation. We had never met each other in real life. Is it possible to get him back? Thanks.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 23, 2019 at 1:37 pm

      Hi JL for your best chance of getting him abck you need to follow the program, but what you may find is harder to get him invested if there is no chance of you both being able to meet up in person. The goal of a long distance relationship is that the end goal is that you will be together in the near future. If that cant happen for you both then I would consider how you are going to be able to make it work with your ex in the future. Again, this is your decision to make of course, so following the program and sticking to a No Contact for the time being while you work on yourself and what you want is best method right now

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    ANON

    November 19, 2019 at 2:55 am

    Hi,
    A week after a wonderful weekend where my bf visited me (from his college to mine-2 hours apart) My bf of four years (we started dating at age 14/15 in the same high school) broke up with me via a text that basically said “I can’t do this anymore” and Brought up behavior from the past that we had already talked through and I had changed that behavior and also said he was too stressed with school (first year of college) that he couldn’t deal with the pressure. He wouldn’t answer my calls or talk to me on the phone, and only answered a few of my texts before he just stopped responding and then stopped sharing his location with me and deleted all of our pictures on his social media. I feel so sad, like a slap in the face. At first I tried to reason with him and told him I loved him and begged, but that night of the breakup I sent a text that said “I am just going to respect your wishes. I wish you nothing but the best and thank you for a great four years” and he just never responded. I haven’t contacted him since even though its really hard. He posted on social media when he never used it when we were together, but he hasn’t reached out in any way. I just feel like he is moving on without any issue and it hurts so bad, especially because the way he ended things just seemed really cruel and confusing, because everyone always said he loved me so much, or that I was the catch. He told me he wanted to marry me and that I was the one all the time and…. just one week before all of this. Do you think NC will work? Do you think I am doing the right thing here? Does he even care?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 23, 2019 at 10:42 pm

      Hey, so yes you need to do a proper NC where you do not reach out or reply to him for a 30 day period and in that time you need to work on yourself to be the best version of yourself. following the program is going to give you, your best chance of getting your ex back

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    Mandy

    November 15, 2019 at 8:10 pm

    I found out 6 weeks ago that my husband is having an affair. It’s been going on for 6-8 months. He says he loves us both. I need advice for how to implement the NC rule with him in my house, because he will not leave.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 18, 2019 at 10:02 pm

      Hi Mandy, you need to do something called Limited NC where you only speak to him about shared responsibilities, that would be children bills or emergencies.

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    BlueBerries

    November 3, 2019 at 4:05 pm

    Hey,
    I need a quick advice in terms of the situation I’m in before I consider purchasing your bundle.
    My ex and I have been on and off for the past 7 months. I am quite clingy and overwhelming, he admitted he wants a break from me because he is tired and I am emotionally draining. He’s lost himself and his feelings for me. I was wondering how I could respark that flame? Will the NC rule work? I’ve done it once during an off period, where he contacted me and waited by my door 4 days in, but now i’m not too sure whether NC will work because he’s blocked me on everything and said it’s really time for me to move on.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 9, 2019 at 4:31 pm

      Hi BB so you do need to do a NC and you’re blocked at the moment so you have no choice but to do so, read up on what the Ungettable girl is and how to implement it. When you purchase the bundle you will also get the support of the Facebook Group which is really useful when youre blocked for ideas on what to post and how to use the sphere of influence too. So consider it if you really want your ex back. On the other side make sure you read as much as you can on this website (that is valid to your situation) and make sure you take action not just read the words on how to follow this process properly.

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    Vi

    October 21, 2019 at 5:25 am

    Hello, we started from a tinder date 1 year ago, to FWB, then 2 months ago, we officialized the relationship which was awesome. However, we’ve been having some ups and downs throughout the year. We would call it quits and come back together but it has always been because of 1 reason, he’s not ready yet but he wants to try. He will make the effort for one week and will go back from the start, selfish thoughts, thinking of him, him and only him. Last time I called it quits, 3 months ago, and applied NC, I got a bouquet on my door with a letter of apology saying he’s a loser and he does not deserve me. Long story short he acted selfishly again, plus he was on the defensive when I confronted him when he finally concluded that we were not the same page, he can’t give me what I need because he loves his freedom as much as he loves me. He’s not settled in his life for the time being(he was 3 years ago with his ex-but after the breakup he’s been having several problems, health, job, personal) that’s the reason he’s not being able to give me what I deserve which is respect and a place in his life. (I know his family and only 1 of his friends) . He’s torn, I can see it. We broke up 2 days ago and asked him to come and take back his stuffs. I started applying NC. Will it work?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 21, 2019 at 8:45 pm

      Hi Vi, so following the program correctly is going to give you your best chance of getting him back yes. But remember you have to stick with the advice from No Contact to the texting phase and so on do not rush the value chain or you may more likely fail

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    Casey

    September 30, 2019 at 3:55 pm

    Hi Chris!

    So my ex broke up with me after 5 years of being together for no reason. The day after he said he’d made a mistake but then I went to see him and he said he needed space and reiterated that we were broken up (which I’m not gonna lie REALLY hurt).

    He’s never been one for chasing I always initiated everything in our relationship. Anyway I took your advice and started No Contact 3 weeks into the breakup I’m now 2 weeks into no contact and I’ve not heard anything from him I feel like I’m going crazy; how do I fight this temptation to contact him? What if he’s moved on?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 1, 2019 at 8:11 pm

      Hi Casey, he’s not going to move on the way you’re thinking in that short amount of time. Even if he does start dating it isn’t going to have that much of an impact after a 5 year relationship. Stick with your No Contact and in that time work on yourself to be the best version of yourself, making sure that you post some great activities you’ve been doing now and again.

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    remma

    September 19, 2019 at 6:56 am

    Hi there,
    Me and my ex broke up about 3 weeks ago after dating for 7 months. This is the first time we’ve dated but we’ve had on and off things for around 3 years. Although he did it I was super fine with it. We haven’t been in contact at all but he’s acting super rude and bringing me up to people constantly. Does that mean he still cares? what should I do cause I clearly have some feelings but I want him to come back and I want to show that “I don’t care”, thanks!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 19, 2019 at 8:27 am

      Hi Remma, So complete a NC first and from there start the texting phase using the information provided on the website. As for him bad mouthing you to people, rise above it, it may be his anger from the breakup. You know who you are and you know the truth

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    Alejandra Diaz

    August 13, 2019 at 4:25 am

    Hi Chris
    I been was with my ex for about 9 mos. It was great, I met his family his kids. He has never brought another women after his separation with his ex. I’m the first. Things were great I had a tragic moment in my life that had to do with my ex. I need to deal with his funeral arrangements. When I came back we had lots of issue, happen i discovered some texts from another girl. He said nothing happen. But with all that I didnt trust him anymore. Things got worse more fighting. Well I broke up with him. We were still seeing each other and hanging out at family event. But as tone has gone by he having less communication with me, tell me he needs space that he needs to figure how to work on me. But theres no more everyday texting or calling
    He very distance. We spend some time together,this weekend but he hasn’t texted me at all or called..also I driving his car since my car getting fixed but he hasn’t asked for it back either. He is over me. He not the type to go out, if he not with his kids his at hos.moms house. Or with his friend drinking..
    Last week he texted me that he was feeling down this couple of day he was feeling depressed and was thinking about us.
    Please let know if I have lost him
    Yes I have begged, plede and tried to understand why he not ready for a commitment. But he hasn’t told his family or friends we not together anymore
    But the wierd thing is he introduced me as his girlfriend..please him me is my relationship with completely over.

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    Noelle

    July 15, 2019 at 11:09 am

    I LOVE you website. I tried no contact before and it worked. It was 21 days and he was angry with me when I texted him and I sent the wrong text probably. That was 2-3 years ago, now we have a daughter together and live together. He said he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore and im heartbroken. I am in the process of moving out and I plan to do contact again this time 30-45 days and I will stuck to the appropriate text message because last time when he was upset I told him that I needed a break from the friendship.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      July 15, 2019 at 3:13 pm

      H Noelle…I wish you the best of luck with you NC efforts. Just make sure you follow along with my teachings which I detail in EBR PRO Relationship Bundle.

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    Sam

    July 14, 2019 at 1:22 am

    Hi! So me and my boyfriend broke up exactly a week ago. We dated for 19 months and our relationship was anything but perfect, but in the end we always did our best to stay with each other. Towards the end of our relationship (last month or so) he broke up with me twice, both times for around an hour, but both times he came back. This time, he broke up with me because I called another guy hot which was wrong I admit, but in the end what he did to me throughout the relationship was actually was worse than that (cheating, etc.) Not 5 minutes after breaking up with me, I was blocked on everything. I texted him a couple times begging and pleaded and after 2 days I was unblocked but never got a reply. 3 Days after we broke up I texted him to ask him when would be a goof time to bring his stuff back and he answered but only to tell me to leave him alone. I have been in NC for 3 days since, and I’m wondering if there’s even a chance he’ll come back and if NC will even work on him since he is so stubborn. Also, how does being UG help if I’m blocked on all social media and he has no way of seeing it? Before we started dating, he did end things at one point saying that he needed to focus on himself, and I unintentionally had no contact with him for weeks until one night he unblocked me and we began dating. I’m trying not to lose hope but I want him back so bad and I feel like the best part of me is missing without him.

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    Linda

    July 5, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    Hi Chris,
    I think I made a mistake on how I started no contact. He started seeing another girl and said he sees me as a friend for now and wants me to be his friend. We tried the whole friends thing and it’s just not working for me because it hurts too much. I told him I can’t be his friend and that it’s best if we don’t contact each other. Now I’m scared if I showed too many cards in my hands. Should I have just gone cold turkey? I mean i know it’s too late now but now I’m wondering if this is going to work at all…

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    Cash

    May 24, 2019 at 9:26 am

    Hi Chris,

    My ex and I broke up two times. They are both really bad break ups. The first time it was his fault the second was completely mine. We been together for 4 years.

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    Shefali Shefali

    May 20, 2019 at 11:41 am

    Hi Chris,
    Me and my ex broke up a month n half ago. Ok we used to fight a lot and m guilty of cheating over a kiss with other guy while i was drunk. I realized it I begged, apologized, pleaded, cried, joined my hands, accepted his coldness. In between his birthday came 3 days ago I did all my best efforts flowers, balloons customised cake, gifts and tried to make his party memorable. But at the end I get the reply today that it is over from my side I told you before as well. Chris I was sorry I did everything. He says he wants to be alone n single as he have different goals for life. N relationship no chance at the moment but he does mention that in future may be or may be not. I am stuck, depressed and losing everything. Please help me.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      May 20, 2019 at 2:47 pm

      I know this is hard on you, but you can lift yourself up with a solid ex recovery plan. Sometimes guys need time to work thru things and you can employ a sensible strategy thru No Contact and the other things I teach to help increase your chances.

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    Tong Tong

    April 3, 2019 at 8:41 am

    Hi Chris,

    Me and my ex bf broke up 3 days ago. But our relationship is not long as others, we have been together only for 2 months… Do you think NC rule is working on my situation? Our break up is due to some misunderstanding and my childish behaviour of saying broke up to get his attention, but he misunderstand this as real break up (He is France, maybe his English understanding may not good) and he said he took one day to accepted that. I just realised he thought we already break up on next day, I am so frastruated and explain him thats not I really mean, ask if he would change his mind and get back with me, he said he needs some time to think about what’s his mind. But he said he likes to talk to me and be friends. I have texted him a long message first after first day of broke up saying thank you for these 2 months those happy memories and wish him the best in future, he also replied me the same thing. I couldn’t control my emotion and start texting a long message to ask him get back with me, I will change, we can work out this together better than ever, like begging him. But he still saying he don’t know now, he wants to be alone at the moment , he needs tome to think, but he likes to talk to me it’s very important to stay a connection with me(I don’t know why he thinks like that) Next day, he texted me a good morning and I didn’t reply until the night I couldn’t resist to kiss him and sent him alot of our messages and pictures together, saying i miss him, but he seems doesnt really care saying I should do some sports to get better, I should eat better and get some good sleep, we talked about our day, like friend. Today I want to start NC rule. I’m not sure how many days I need to take because he will back to France for good at the end of April… If I start for 30 days NC rule, does it mean we have no chance to get back together?

    I really need your help Chris. Thanks a million

    Tong

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      April 4, 2019 at 3:16 am

      NC should help you cause Tong!

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    Tay

    March 27, 2019 at 3:57 pm

    Hi , my gf texted me a few days ago asking if we can go back been friend to see if we are suitable for each other and maybe in the future ,if possible go back as couple. She feel that our relationship is unstable as we are always quarrelling. I texted and call her several times the next day and she reply with text saying that she had a lot of assignment and had to work at the same time, she really had no mood to talk about relationship stuff. She won’t force me if I don’t want to stay friends or contacting her. She just want to be alone for now. I reply her with “ok” and send her long text telling her that I’m sorry for not been a good partner and are willing to work on myself while I will give her space for now. If she need anything, I will be there for her. She didn’t give any response after reading the text. From then I didn’t contact her and start the NC rules. Today is the third day of NC. I’ve deleted my Instagram to avoid viewing her story. Do you think is suitable to apply NC for my situation? My gf didn’t mention break up with me but she is asking for space. Does NC appropriate in this kind of situation?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      March 27, 2019 at 9:23 pm

      Hi Tay! So giving her space is not necessarily the same thing as a full fledged No Contact strategy. Just give her some breathing room and don’t prod or check up on her for up to a week or so. If she does reach out, be kind and positive and think in terms of little steps.

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    Nicole

    February 23, 2019 at 6:28 pm

    Hi Chris! Have you helped a same sex no contact situation? My gf broke up with me last year october after a 9 year rele. Then 2 months after she is in a rele with her co worker. I begged for her to come back because she said that she still loves me but also in love with the other.. I mean theyre only 2 months together. So I finally gave up begging and told her I wanted to have no contact and she agreed, even wishing me well on healing. I was hoping this could get her to miss me and have her back in my arms again. What do you think chris? Thanks in advance.

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    Jules

    February 16, 2019 at 7:04 pm

    Hey Chris,

    so my guy broke up with me 4 days ago. We weren’t officially together and in the last few weeks (we had exams) he just wasn’t sure of our “thing” anymore. We still hung out and studied together but more as friends.. so on Wednesday our holidays started and I didn’t want to leave like that and asked him whether he wants a relationship or not and he was still not sure but ended it because he didn’t want me to wait and get my hopes up. I understand that and I respect his decision. We both cried a lot during the break up, bno shouting, no bad words, only tears. I didn’t beg him to reconsider because I know it doesn’t help. He said things like he wants to stay friends blah blah because he likes me so much as a person and he wants to keep doing the things we did together (cooking, sports,…) but I guess time will tell if he really meant it. I just thanked him for everything he did and to take care and not do anything stupid..
    So here I am. I didn’t contact him or anything, it’s very hard. But I don’t want to ruin anything ..
    We are going to see each other inevitably when university starts again in the middle of March – so it’s the perfect time for NC.
    I miss him terribly but I do need to work on myself and figure things out as well. I’m just afraid how it’s going to be when we see each other again.. will he reach out to me before? Does he miss me? And what do I do when I see him again and everything just hits me again?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      February 17, 2019 at 1:08 am

      Hi Jules!

      So you clearly have a solid plan in wanting to roll out NC and focusing on being the best “you”….not for him…but for you. To tap into my Program, you can pick up my epic long eBook, 485 page “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro”. Those questions and more will be covered and will give you more confidence as to how best to move forward.

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    Katie

    February 3, 2019 at 3:01 pm

    Hi, Chris,
    My story is a little odd. I’d been seeing a guy for 6 mos exclusively, though we hadn’t put a label on it. We were taking it slow. The last few weeks of it, things started moving forward and we’re going great. He told me he was almost ready, was calling me just to hear my voice, telling me he missed me, needs me in his life, super affectionate, talking about getting me a key to his apartment and keeping stuff there, said he wants to see me more often and one day if we were to eventually move in together. Everything was going great and promising. Then I got a FB message from his crazy ex gf asking if I was seeing him. She had been contacting him and he told her he was seeing me. I didn’t engage in conversation with her and told him she messaged me. Then the next day, he told me he needed a break and that he cares about me but is messed up. He had told me for weeks that he didn’t deserve me and he is not worthy of my love. He went right back into saying that and said he wants to be with me but doesn’t deserve me. Please help me! I started NC two weeks ago. I messaged him only a couple times after the break up because I had questions but didn’t beg. He still kept saying he doesn’t deserve me. When a I told him i wasn’t going to chase him, he said “just let me get my bearings.” Please help me understand.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      February 4, 2019 at 3:57 am

      Hey there Katie!

      It sounds like your ex’s ex has gotten into his head, but my guess is she is his ex for a good reason and in time he will see the light. Meanwhile do all the things I teach in implementing the No Contact rule. Pick up my 485 page ebook so you are fully equipped with a sensible blueprint of how you manage this post breakup period.

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    Fati

    January 17, 2019 at 9:48 am

    Hi, i need some help my bf and i were in relationship gor 1 year now, at first everything was good, until problems start to came up, 1st time he used the silent treatment on for no reason just because his mad we talked after 2 week and from this things got worst, he so busy with his work he start to lose intrest in me i was the was always asking him out, call him, text him…. When things go worst with him he go silent and told me nothing about it and for i go miserbal to not hear from him so i let him cool off then we talk after a period of time. Now its been 6 months that we are like that and lately i told him to break up and he said nothing about it first he was reading my text follow my statut and now nothing, i want to use the NC rule but i’m not sure if he will contact me or not am not even sure if were breaking up he alawys choose to silent than talking, i want to get things better and i really don’t know what to do with him anymore

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      January 17, 2019 at 6:54 pm

      Hi Fati! Sometimes if what you have tried in the past hasn’t worked its time to try a different approach and No Contact may very well be the right medicine. Check out my Home Page for details on all the resources I offer to help you thru all this.

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