A Comprehensive List Of No Contact Rule Success Stories

You always hear me talking about “The No Contact Rule” and how great it is.

Heck, I’ve written close to twenty articles covering it throughout the history of this website.

I’ve even done my own independent studies where I have looked through my individual success stories helping women get back with their exes and determined if the no contact rule was a major factor in that success.

Hint Hint: It is as I found that over 70% of my successes have utilized the no contact rule in some way, shape or form.

But you want to know the one thing I have never done before?

I have never compiled those success stories in one place and dissected them for you.

Until today!

Honestly, I don’t know why I didn’t think of this sooner.

I guess I am going to have to give credit to the women who are a part of my private support group who are constantly yearning for proof.

You see, they want to see the no contact rule work more than anyone as most of them are literally in the middle of one as we speak. To them it’s a light at the end of the tunnel.

I have always felt that my big claim to fame as a breakup consultant is the fact that I think I have more success stories out there than anyone.

And today I am going to prove it by showing them to you!

The No Contact Rule Success Story #1: Anna

Some of the more well read readers of this article may recognize the name “Anna.”

Well, that’s because I have her success story posted throughout the site and even did a real interview with her here.

But I suppose you want the proof, eh?

So, let’s get to the fun part and dissect this situation for a second.

My wife Jennifer and I helped Anna out a lot (not that she needed it she’s a total badass.)

Breakdown of Her Situation

  • She was in a long distance relationship
  • She was engaged to her ex
  • She was in the middle of NC
  • The was something VERY important she needed to get at her exes house

And that’s where our story is going to pick up.

You see, I learned a long time ago that there are certain circumstances where it’s ok to break the no contact rule quickly if you have important items that you need to retrieve from your ex.

That was the case for Anna so she was allowed to break the no contact rule.

What I wasn’t counting on was that it was during this interaction of getting her items back from her ex that she got him to ask her to be back.

Here Is My Hypothesis On Why The No Contact Rule Worked

We know that she was in the middle of the no contact rule (17 days to be exact) when she was forced to get her things back from her exes place. Now, while Anna was totally freaking out about it (watch the interview) her ex was probably doing the same thing.

17 days of silence is a long time for a man and while he hadn’t reached out to her (again watch the interview). I am betting it was some type of ploy on his part to see if she’d reach out to first.

As every day passed and she didn’t reach out he became more and more agitated, slowly realizing just how much he missed her.

It all came to a boiling point when Anna had to get her things from him.

Seeing her was probably just too much and he had to have her back.

Now, Anna deserves all the credit for her killer strategy of seeing her ex in person (again, watch that interview) but I think the no contact rule definitely enhanced it because it worked him up and made him realize just what he had lost.

No Contact Rule Success Story #2: A Random Girl From Our Support Group

So, while success story #1 was about a woman who got her ex back I’d like to switch things up a bit and talk about some of the amazing things that the no contact rule can make men do.

 

So, here is the lowdown on this situation.

This woman was in the middle of the no contact rule when she heard her doorbell ring.

She went to see who it was she was greeted to a flower delivery man with a note from her ex.

Remember, she is in the middle of the no contact rule and he asked her on a date!

So, what do we think happened here?

My Hypothesis For Why The No Contact Rule Worked

The “NC” has a funny way of bringing out what we are really feeling.

But here is the funny thing.

Women often take a short sighted view on this.

They fail to realize that the no contact rule isn’t only affecting them, it’s affecting their exes as well even if it doesn’t seem like it is.

I’ll give you an example.

Women will often ask me,

Chris, what if he doesn’t contact me during the no contact rule? Does it mean that it’s not working?

I can’t tell you how many success stories I have come across where this has happened (look at no contact rule success story #1.) Usually all it means is that your ex is one stubborn SOB and he has resided himself to making you be the one to contact him first.

But I am getting off topic here.

In this particular circumstance this woman used the no contact rule on her ex and if affected him so much that he felt the need to send her flowers and ask her on a date.

Now, was it only because of the no contact rule that he did this?

No, I think it would be arrogant of me to say that.

Instead, I think it’s a testament to how great this particular woman’s relationship with him was. It was so good that it made it easy for him to miss her and he took action to win her back.

No Contact Rule Success Story #3: The Never Initiated Girl

Now, I don’t want you to be reading this and get a big head that this is a typical result because it’s not.

However, every once in a while we get a pretty awesome NC success story like this,

So, this one is pretty straight forward.

When it comes to the no contact rule I usually recommend three different time frames.

  1. The 21 Day Rule
  2. The 30 Day Rule
  3. The 45 Day Rule

Now, to be perfectly honest with you I can’t remember exactly which no contact rule time frame that this particular girl chose but one thing is for sure.

Even after her no contact rule time frame was up she didn’t initiate a conversation with him at all.

She simply waited and he came to her and asked for her back.

In other words, the only actual strategy she tried that I recommended was the no contact rule. Therefore we can assume that the no contact rule played a huge factor into her success.

My Hypothesis For Why The No Contact Rule Worked For Her

Are you beginning to see a common theme among our success stories?

It seems like a lot of the men who come back to their exes as a result of the no contact rule begin missing them in an extreme way.

And if I were a betting man that is what I would say happened here.

It’s a case of a man being left alone with his own thoughts for a long time and coming to the realization of what he lost.

No Contact Rule Success Story #4: Jessy

Jesse has a really interesting story in the fact that SHE was the one who broke up with her ex.

You see, Jesse had been married before and thought that she was ready for the next step with her boyfriend at the time and believe it or not he agreed. However, she asked him to go to couples counseling with her so they could make sure they resolve any issues they had before they entered into a life long commitment.

Well, as I am sure you can imagine that didn’t go over too well with her boyfriend and he broke up with her.

That’s when Jesse found Ex Boyfriend Recovery and well, just watch.

If you want to learn more about her situation without watching the whole video I recommend you read the post I wrote on her here.

But here is the quick cliff notes version.

  • Jessy did the 30 day no contact rule
  • Even though it went against what she thought was right she decided to reach out to him first
  • He told her immediately that he was glad she reached out.
  • He missed her so much
  • Blah, blah, blah
  • Now they are married!

Like I said, read the article I wrote on them!

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Why The No Contact Rule Worked On Jessy’s Ex

I have a lot of data on this particular success story as it relates to the no contact rule since I did an hour long interview with Jessy and got to hear exactly what her ex said to her after she reached out to him post NC.

This is a quote from our interview,

So, I later learned that in his mind he was like, “Fine, if she’s not going to contact me, as much as my heart is hurting, I refuse to contact her.”

So, what we have here is a stubborn ex who put his foot down and decided to not contact her during the no contact period no matter what.

But what is interesting is what he did once she contacted him.

It’s almost as if instantaneously he switched gears and went from the “I’m not going to contact her” mentality to the “I miss you so much” mentality.

Again, our common theme comes up!

No Contact Rule Success Story #5: Jellybean!

And for our last no contact rule success story of the day I thought we would do something fun and go “old school” by picking one of the comment success stories from the old version of our website.

I’d like to introduce you to Jellybean,

Jellybean is actually one of my favorite success stories to quote for a couple of reasons,

Firstly, it shows how capable my team is at helping you guys when I can’t.

 

Secondly, who can say no to someone named Jellybean?

Alright, so here is the breakdown of her situation.

After the breakup with her ex boyfriend Jellybean did what most women tend to do.

She went crazy trying to beg and plead for her ex back. However, eventually she came to her senses and decided to implement the no contact rule. Once she did that and really spent her time focusing on making sure she was doing it properly she started to see some success.

Eventually her ex asked for her back and they lived happily ever after!

Actually I haven’t heard from Jellybean in two years so I am assuming they are still together.

How can I make that assumption?

Well, usually if people have a positive experience on this website they will visit it again once they go through another breakup.

Anyways, Why Did The No Contact Rule Work For Jellybean?

I think the important thing to note here is the fact that Jellybean did not follow the EBR breakup protocol of immediately jumping into the no contact rule.

Instead, she did what most women do unfortunately.

She begged…

She pleaded…

She cried…

She basically did everything she wasn’t supposed to do.

Now, by doing that her ex boyfriend started to make certain assumptions about her.

Assumption #1 = She misses me more than I miss her

 

Assumption #2 = She is a little over emotional

 

Assumption #3 = I am winning the breakup

Now, I may not know much (lie) but one thing I do know is that men often don’t take their ex girlfriend back when they make these assumptions.

But Jellybean did a really smart thing.

She got really serious about the no contact rule and jumped right into it and slowly but surely his assumptions started getting replaced with these,

New Assumption = Maybe she doesn’t miss me as much as I thought…

 

New Assumption = Maybe she isn’t as over emotional as I thought…

 

New Assumption = I am losing this breakup…

And I think we all know what happens to a man once he has these assumptions.

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chocoholic
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But the point was I actually need help to be with him.. I need some guidance… And m lucky that I found you sir..I never thought that you will reply to my comment.. I want to be with him though this relationship was getting worse..he was the way too much busy.. friends bla bla, and at the end of the day he knew that i’ll first get angry then I’ll be fine. . I was tired of his this routein and excuses… I know he loves me alot.. but we both were kinda tired..I want him to come back and… Read more »
chocoholic
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One simple question sir.. it’s been 3 days I am not talking to him.. once he tried to call me after that I didn’t get any of the Tex or call from him.. how long should I wait?? Or Any tip??

chocoholic
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It’s been 2 days since I blocked him. We had a sever fight and then we mutually ended up this relationship.. I applied nc rule since 2 days yesterday at 2 am I got a notification that this user is trying to call you.. though he’s still in my phone’s blacklist.. we both started fighting like hell on some specific matters..I want to start a fresh relationship with him I know he loves me.. I just want to take this relationship to a new level.. how long should I apply this nc rule..?? I miss him badly .. but I’ve… Read more »
Maggi
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Does the NC rule means also not replying to his messages ? We let beginning of 2018 I was desperate at the beginning, we still share the house but he is abroad since then. We had to be in touch because of common things like car, post and so on. Then he came over for two weeks for Work reasons, we were all polite and even had one serious talk that lead nowhere. since he left beginning of March I did not contact first but he does casually texting me and asking how are things or apologises that he left… Read more »
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Sir I need help m in a miserable condition.. suffering from a horrible anxiety.. can you plz contact me on my email..

Sumati
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Hii I’m from India. I have a totally different case, my dad is a negative character and my mom just covers his mistakes all the time. Going through all that since my childhood, I decided to move out when I was 23, its been 2 years now. In the meantime I met this guy who literally understands my situation and the pressure that I went through. I loved my mom to the core but unfortunately my dad was her priority. As I spent time with this guy. I started feeling the love I was craving my whole life, seriously he… Read more »
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Sumati
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Hii I’m from India. I have a totally different case, my dad is a negative character and my mom just covers his mistakes all the time. Going through all that since my childhood, I decided to move out when I was 23, its been 2 years now. In the meantime I met this guy who literally understands my situation and the pressure that I went through. I loved my mom to the core but unfortunately my dad was her priority. As I spent time with this guy. I started feeling the love I was craving my whole life, seriously he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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Emily
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I’ve never posted anything like this before but after going through a terrible time I felt I wanted to share. Me and my partner had lived together very happily for 5 years, we’d been through so much together and finally achieved our dreams, we relocated for great jobs together and life seemed perfect, all of a sudden he announced he wanted some space and to move 500 miles away back to his mums and leave me and our little boy alone in our new house. I run a company and travel a lot, he is a pilot so also travels… Read more »
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Thank you for sharing Emily!

Emily
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I’ve never posted anything like this before but after going through a terrible time I felt I wanted to share. Me and my partner had lived together very happily for 5 years, we’d been through so much together and finally achieved our dreams, we relocated for great jobs together and life seemed perfect, all of a sudden he announced he wanted some space and to move 500 miles away back to his mums and leave me and our little boy alone in our new house. I run a company and travel a lot, he is a pilot so also travels… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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Thank you for sharing Emily!

Trish
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I have a couple questions about the No Contact rule. They are covered in some places but alot of different websites give really different advice.
One question that I have is in regards to social media. I know a big part of working on yourself is showing off the work that you are doing but what if your ex doesn’t use social media? How can you show the work you’re doing and fun you’re having?
Thanks!

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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Trish,
that means you need to make your posts public if you’re not friends or not connected.. There’s a high chance he’ll check your account once he gets curious..that’s why it’s important to do posts that just stays there unless you remove them…

Trish
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I have a couple questions about the No Contact rule. They are covered in some places but alot of different websites give really different advice.
One question that I have is in regards to social media. I know a big part of working on yourself is showing off the work that you are doing but what if your ex doesn’t use social media? How can you show the work you’re doing and fun you’re having?
Thanks!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Trish,
that means you need to make your posts public if you’re not friends or not connected.. There’s a high chance he’ll check your account once he gets curious..that’s why it’s important to do posts that just stays there unless you remove them…

Emy
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We have been talking since 8months and got engaged 3.5 months back. Its a long distance relationship, no sex, pure feelings. We have never had a fight or disagreement till today instead he always kept talking about the future and always showered me with love and vice versa. Suddenly 5 days back he just broke up with me saying love is not enough and we might not be happy in the future. In one day he just called everything off! Our families were involved we were in love (or so i thought). I kept asking about the reason and he… Read more »
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Emy
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We have been talking since 8months and got engaged 3.5 months back. Its a long distance relationship, no sex, pure feelings. We have never had a fight or disagreement till today instead he always kept talking about the future and always showered me with love and vice versa. Suddenly 5 days back he just broke up with me saying love is not enough and we might not be happy in the future. In one day he just called everything off! Our families were involved we were in love (or so i thought). I kept asking about the reason and he… Read more »
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Sam
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Hi, I had been dating a guy for 6-7 months when he ended our unofficial relationship a week and a half ago. His reasoning was that even though we were great together, that I was an amazing partner, he didn’t see a future with me at the present moment and did not want to continue to lead me on. He insisted that I reach out to him once I get over him because he really did value our friendship. The breakup was amicable and I did not beg or plead with him (although I did cry). We are still Facebook… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sam,

It’s normal to feel that way..

Sam
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Hi, I had been dating a guy for 6-7 months when he ended our unofficial relationship a week and a half ago. His reasoning was that even though we were great together, that I was an amazing partner, he didn’t see a future with me at the present moment and did not want to continue to lead me on. He insisted that I reach out to him once I get over him because he really did value our friendship. The breakup was amicable and I did not beg or plead with him (although I did cry). We are still Facebook… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sam,

It’s normal to feel that way..

S
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I have been in relationship with my ex for 4 years one year and a half was long distance ( moved to barcelona to see if i can start a life there etc. we saw each other 4 times in that year and a half away) . So this year on june 13 my ex breaks up with me through a text. For the next three months its been an emotional rollercoaster for me. We saw each other 4 times. The last time was recent just a week . I moved back to the same city so we can try… Read more »
S
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I have been in relationship with my ex for 4 years one year and a half was long distance ( moved to barcelona to see if i can start a life there etc. we saw each other 4 times in that year and a half away) . So this year on june 13 my ex breaks up with me through a text. For the next three months its been an emotional rollercoaster for me. We saw each other 4 times. The last time was recent just a week . I moved back to the same city so we can try… Read more »
Cloe
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Hi, exactly 1 months ago my ex broke up with me, on our 4 months anniversary. 4 months isn’t long but for us it was. The reason he broke up with me was because he ” has stress, he didn’t loved me anymore, i was too clingy ” i only saw him once a week because of our busy internships. I dont get it, why was i ” too clingy ” if i only saw him once a week. He said that he had the feeling that I didn’t trust him which I totally do. I havent talked to him… Read more »
Cloe
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Hi, exactly 1 months ago my ex broke up with me, on our 4 months anniversary. 4 months isn’t long but for us it was. The reason he broke up with me was because he ” has stress, he didn’t loved me anymore, i was too clingy ” i only saw him once a week because of our busy internships. I dont get it, why was i ” too clingy ” if i only saw him once a week. He said that he had the feeling that I didn’t trust him which I totally do. I havent talked to him… Read more »
Annakay
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I dont know why but my post keeps disappearing.. Could u please respond

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Annakay,

I responded to your other posts. I’ll just copy my answer there and paste it here.

talk another friend about being with you if you’re alone at home or a relative.. but right now, stick to nc and be active in improving yourself and keep being active in posting.

Annakay
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My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago, we were together for 2 years and 10 months, we are both 21 been together from we were 17. He says he wants to be very close friends cause he doesn’t want me out of his life but he says that we dont get along and were not compatible but he still wants to be here for me if i need anything i should just call him and he’ll be here and that he’s going to always be here but he just wants to be free and focus on school(he just… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Annakay,

I responded to your other posts. I’ll just copy my answer there and paste it here.

talk another friend about being with you if you’re alone at home or a relative.. but right now, stick to nc and be active in improving yourself and keep being active in posting.

Annakay
Guest

I dont know why but my post keeps disappearing.. Could u please respond

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Annakay,

I responded to your other posts. I’ll just copy my answer there and paste it here.

talk another friend about being with you if you’re alone at home or a relative.. but right now, stick to nc and be active in improving yourself and keep being active in posting.

Annakay
Guest
My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago, we were together for 2 years and 10 months, we are both 21 been together from we were 17. He says he wants to be very close friends cause he doesn’t want me out of his life but he says that we dont get along and were not compatible but he still wants to be here for me if i need anything i should just call him and he’ll be here and that he’s going to always be here but he just wants to be free and focus on school(he just… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Annakay,

I responded to your other posts. I’ll just copy my answer there and paste it here.

talk another friend about being with you if you’re alone at home or a relative.. but right now, stick to nc and be active in improving yourself and keep being active in posting.

Annakay
Guest
My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago, we were together for 2 years and 10 months, we are both 21 been together from we were 17. He says he wants to be very close friends cause he doesn’t want me out of his life but he says that we dont get along and were not compatible but he still wants to be here for me if i need anything i should just call him and he’ll be here and that he’s going to always be here but he just wants to be free and focus on school(he just… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Annakay,

talk another friend about being with you if you’re alone at home or a relative.. but right now, stick to nc and be active in improving yourself and keep being active in posting.

Annakay
Guest
My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago, we were together for 2 years and 10 months, we are both 21 been together from we were 17. He says he wants to be very close friends cause he doesn’t want me out of his life but he says that we dont get along and were not compatible but he still wants to be here for me if i need anything i should just call him and he’ll be here and that he’s going to always be here but he just wants to be free and focus on school(he just… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Annakay,

talk another friend about being with you if you’re alone at home or a relative.. but right now, stick to nc and be active in improving yourself and keep being active in posting.

Kait
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My boyfriend drove 2 hours to break up with me on our year and a half anniversary. He has been working 90 hour weeks all summer and said the reason for the break up was because he wasn’t happy and hasn’t been himself. I asked if he thought if just maybe it was because he was overworked and he said no. All of our friends and people who know our relationship seem to think that at some point in time we will be back together. However, I have implemented the No Contact Rule (on Day 5!) and although it has… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kait,

don’t tell.. Just be calm when exchanging things.. Telling him looks like you’re trying to convince him to come back.

Kait
Guest

So what kind of conversation do we have? What if he wants to talk about the relationship. I want to be able to acknowledge my faults without sounding like I’m trying to get him back, while also trying to get him back hahah

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

just be casual.. if he talks about the relationship, then just maintain being calm and civil. Answer in that way. Talk about positive things, funny things and look good.

Kait
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When he came back to school to move and for us to exchange things, he brought his ex-girlfriend with him. The girl I was worried about all summer. The girl he waited halfway through the summer to tell me that she works where he works again. I didn’t want to see either of them so I took his stuff to his friends house, but he (and she) ended up being there. I gave him his stuff and asked for mine back. He told me I needed to go and I dissed him and her (shouldn’t type it, but about his… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

well, do what you can control, which is yourself. Waiting for somebody to change their mind is unproductive. And if you want a higher chance with, that means you can’t fight with him. If you’re restarting, do at least 45 days and follow the advice on this one:
How To Win Back An Ex Who Is With Someone Else

Kait
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My boyfriend drove 2 hours to break up with me on our year and a half anniversary. He has been working 90 hour weeks all summer and said the reason for the break up was because he wasn’t happy and hasn’t been himself. I asked if he thought if just maybe it was because he was overworked and he said no. All of our friends and people who know our relationship seem to think that at some point in time we will be back together. However, I have implemented the No Contact Rule (on Day 5!) and although it has… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kait,

don’t tell.. Just be calm when exchanging things.. Telling him looks like you’re trying to convince him to come back.

Kait
Guest

So what kind of conversation do we have? What if he wants to talk about the relationship. I want to be able to acknowledge my faults without sounding like I’m trying to get him back, while also trying to get him back hahah

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

just be casual.. if he talks about the relationship, then just maintain being calm and civil. Answer in that way. Talk about positive things, funny things and look good.

Kait
Guest
When he came back to school to move and for us to exchange things, he brought his ex-girlfriend with him. The girl I was worried about all summer. The girl he waited halfway through the summer to tell me that she works where he works again. I didn’t want to see either of them so I took his stuff to his friends house, but he (and she) ended up being there. I gave him his stuff and asked for mine back. He told me I needed to go and I dissed him and her (shouldn’t type it, but about his… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

well, do what you can control, which is yourself. Waiting for somebody to change their mind is unproductive. And if you want a higher chance with, that means you can’t fight with him. If you’re restarting, do at least 45 days and follow the advice on this one:
How To Win Back An Ex Who Is With Someone Else

Sharon
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What if we need to see each other at work. I really struggle. He broke up with me 5 weeks ago and told me last week he is casually seeing a young girl

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Madyson
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Hey! My ex and I have been broken up since 2015 then last year 2016 he came back in July. During this year we have been going out, he makes time for me, we slept together many times (my biggest mistake) recently he told me not to waste my time with him and has been hot and cold. I started the no contact. Is it worth it? Or should I leave him alone period?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Try to do the no contact process properly, if it doesn’t work, then at least you can move on knowing you did what you can in the right way.

Sharon
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He broke up with me 5 weeks ago. We work together so I really struggle. He told me last week he is casually seeing a young for. Heartbroken. I begged and pleaded at the beginning but don’t know if they miss you if they see you everyday x

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
Sharon
Guest

What if we need to see each other at work. I really struggle. He broke up with me 5 weeks ago and told me last week he is casually seeing a young girl

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Madyson
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Hey! My ex and I have been broken up since 2015 then last year 2016 he came back in July. During this year we have been going out, he makes time for me, we slept together many times (my biggest mistake) recently he told me not to waste my time with him and has been hot and cold. I started the no contact. Is it worth it? Or should I leave him alone period?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Try to do the no contact process properly, if it doesn’t work, then at least you can move on knowing you did what you can in the right way.

Sharon
Guest

He broke up with me 5 weeks ago. We work together so I really struggle. He told me last week he is casually seeing a young for. Heartbroken. I begged and pleaded at the beginning but don’t know if they miss you if they see you everyday x

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
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I’m pretty skeptical right now because the “webinar” was prerecorded so I’m wondering if someone will actually respond to me if I comment. I was considering purchasing pro but now I’m not even sure if any of these comments are legit.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Sometimes I wonder if I’m reall too! Hahahaha

J
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I’m pretty skeptical right now because the “webinar” was prerecorded so I’m wondering if someone will actually respond to me if I comment. I was considering purchasing pro but now I’m not even sure if any of these comments are legit.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Sometimes I wonder if I’m reall too! Hahahaha

Liz
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I just ended a year and a 1/2 relationship with an amazing man. No fights, full of affection and we were both really happy. He was dragging his feet to finalize his divorce and blamed it on money. He had been separated for 3 years because she walked out on him. They attempted to reconcile a year into the split and she walked out again. The second she met me 9 months ago she has been playing the victim hard core. Calling and texting multiple times a day. Finally my boyfriend gave in and started texting her back. I told… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Liz,

frankly, if he really thinks you’re the best, he wouldn’t have left. I think you’re the rebound but I think there’s a chance that he would see you as the grass is greener if the other woman just keeps being herself and you kept improving.

Liz
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I just ended a year and a 1/2 relationship with an amazing man. No fights, full of affection and we were both really happy. He was dragging his feet to finalize his divorce and blamed it on money. He had been separated for 3 years because she walked out on him. They attempted to reconcile a year into the split and she walked out again. The second she met me 9 months ago she has been playing the victim hard core. Calling and texting multiple times a day. Finally my boyfriend gave in and started texting her back. I told… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Liz,

frankly, if he really thinks you’re the best, he wouldn’t have left. I think you’re the rebound but I think there’s a chance that he would see you as the grass is greener if the other woman just keeps being herself and you kept improving.

Melina
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Hi. WIll it break the NC rule if I’m in contact with his assistant? You see.. I need some stuff in his house but I’m sticking not to contact him directly at all but I really need some important stuff in his house (such as business files and the like). I contacted his assistant and asked a friend to get the files for me. Is that breaking the NC rule?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Nope, it’s not..

Melina
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Hi. WIll it break the NC rule if I’m in contact with his assistant? You see.. I need some stuff in his house but I’m sticking not to contact him directly at all but I really need some important stuff in his house (such as business files and the like). I contacted his assistant and asked a friend to get the files for me. Is that breaking the NC rule?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Nope, it’s not..

Barbara
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Hello Amor, my Ex wanted to break up three weeks ago, but I convinced him not to, cause I didn’t have a chance, it came out of nowhere. He says, that he needs a lot of alone time in general and can’t imagine beeing in a relationship, where you see each other every day, not with anyone. In the beginning it felt different, he kept wanting to see me and he even through aside plans to move somewhere else after his studies and got his life sorted out. I didn’t ask for that but I think maybe it affected him.… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Barbara,

restart the count of nc after that and check this one:
EBR 053: Deconstructing The Perfect First Contact Text Message

Barbara
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Hello Amor, my Ex wanted to break up three weeks ago, but I convinced him not to, cause I didn’t have a chance, it came out of nowhere. He says, that he needs a lot of alone time in general and can’t imagine beeing in a relationship, where you see each other every day, not with anyone. In the beginning it felt different, he kept wanting to see me and he even through aside plans to move somewhere else after his studies and got his life sorted out. I didn’t ask for that but I think maybe it affected him.… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Barbara,

restart the count of nc after that and check this one:
EBR 053: Deconstructing The Perfect First Contact Text Message

Lucy
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My ex and I broke up 6 weeks ago. I tried to do no contact two times during that phase and he kept coming up with excuses to get his stuff back, or I sucked. I’m not sure. Eventually, we got to point where we were cool, and sorta of talking civil. I then decided to pull no contact again to give him and I sometime to think things through. I did it a bit differently this time, I sort of just ghosted the conversation and turned my phone off. And it’s been 23 days – I’m not sure if… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

but are you actively improving yourself now and in posting in social media?

Lucy
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My ex and I broke up 6 weeks ago. I tried to do no contact two times during that phase and he kept coming up with excuses to get his stuff back, or I sucked. I’m not sure. Eventually, we got to point where we were cool, and sorta of talking civil. I then decided to pull no contact again to give him and I sometime to think things through. I did it a bit differently this time, I sort of just ghosted the conversation and turned my phone off. And it’s been 23 days – I’m not sure if… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

but are you actively improving yourself now and in posting in social media?

Laila
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Hi Amor, I got a serious problem. My ex broke up with me last night. We were dating for about five months. Unfortunately we had a very long distance relationship but we still managed to see each other for about a total of 2-3 weeks per month. Even when we didn’t, he used to call me several times a day for 2-5 hours. What we had was so special (he always told me) Just one week ago he told me that he has never been so happy with a woman like he was with me. We had a big but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

I’m going to assume that getting your job means moving together. he realized that it is going too fast..it’s nice and sweet to talk about moving together but when he realized it’s just been months, it probably scared him..he just got out of a 5 year relationship..it’s hard to be in ldr but it gave him some freedom while still not being alone

Laila
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Amor, thank you for your reply. Do you think there is any chance of getting him back? He still likes my pictures but hasn’t reached out to me via text. I am doing NC. However, I wonder if he misses me as I suppose I was a rebound. Is 30 days of NC not too much?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

He probably misses you, I think you have a chance.. especially if you convey that you have your own life.. it’s not too much, especially if he’s not initiating a text or wanting to get back together.. but you can initiate a text after nc to start to slowly rebuild rapport..check this one:
EBR 003: Does Having Your Own Life Help You Get Your Ex Back?

Laila
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Hi Amor, I got a serious problem. My ex broke up with me last night. We were dating for about five months. Unfortunately we had a very long distance relationship but we still managed to see each other for about a total of 2-3 weeks per month. Even when we didn’t, he used to call me several times a day for 2-5 hours. What we had was so special (he always told me) Just one week ago he told me that he has never been so happy with a woman like he was with me. We had a big but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

I’m going to assume that getting your job means moving together. he realized that it is going too fast..it’s nice and sweet to talk about moving together but when he realized it’s just been months, it probably scared him..he just got out of a 5 year relationship..it’s hard to be in ldr but it gave him some freedom while still not being alone

Laila
Guest

Amor, thank you for your reply. Do you think there is any chance of getting him back? He still likes my pictures but hasn’t reached out to me via text. I am doing NC. However, I wonder if he misses me as I suppose I was a rebound. Is 30 days of NC not too much?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

He probably misses you, I think you have a chance.. especially if you convey that you have your own life.. it’s not too much, especially if he’s not initiating a text or wanting to get back together.. but you can initiate a text after nc to start to slowly rebuild rapport..check this one:
EBR 003: Does Having Your Own Life Help You Get Your Ex Back?

Em
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Hello, Me and my boyfriend were together for over 3 years. He started to distance himself and next thing I know he is at my house in the middle of the night saying a hurt him because he read my text to my friend saying I’m hurt by his actions. I haven’t heard from him for a week. I did all the bad things. I tried to text and call the first few days. But I just started the no contact. I’m not crying anymore and I feel some what better but I really do miss him. I cut off… Read more »
Em
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Hello, Me and my boyfriend were together for over 3 years. He started to distance himself and next thing I know he is at my house in the middle of the night saying a hurt him because he read my text to my friend saying I’m hurt by his actions. I haven’t heard from him for a week. I did all the bad things. I tried to text and call the first few days. But I just started the no contact. I’m not crying anymore and I feel some what better but I really do miss him. I cut off… Read more »
Jenn
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Hi Amor, My ex boyfriend and I dated for over three years. A year and a half ago he broke up with me out of the blue (I thought). We were long distance at the time. At first I freaked and begged for him back. Then I stopped doing that and when he saw me in person he immediately wanted to get back together. He said breaking up with me was a mistake and he would never do it again. Fast forward a year and a half later and he did it again. He says it’s not me, he’s unhappy… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

try to do nc again, do at least 30 days.

Jenn
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Hi Amor, My ex boyfriend and I dated for over three years. A year and a half ago he broke up with me out of the blue (I thought). We were long distance at the time. At first I freaked and begged for him back. Then I stopped doing that and when he saw me in person he immediately wanted to get back together. He said breaking up with me was a mistake and he would never do it again. Fast forward a year and a half later and he did it again. He says it’s not me, he’s unhappy… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

try to do nc again, do at least 30 days.

Lynn
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me four months ago. After a while talking sometimes, I decided to go NC because he was very distant and that was hurting me. After those weeks we start talking again like friends, from time to time and about books, movies, tv… Sometimes he sent me things saying “it made me think about you”. We usually to have short conversations, once a week or so. I miss the times we texted each other all day long). We have a common chat group with mutual friends and he doesn’t talk directly to me there. Since… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

check this one:
The Ungettable Girl

Lynn
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Many thank you for this Amor. I was thinking…when we met, I liked him a lot but I was afraid of my own feelings, so he had to fight for us, he “chased” me, put a lot of effort…and I think he kinda liked it. Later he felt too comfortable and I started to be insecure, needy and clingy, since I was scared that he had lost interest (no, I can see it clearly now but…too late). So I think that “the ungettable girl” could be the perfect method for me. Furthermore, not only at the end of our relationship… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s good!You’re welcome!

Lynn
Guest
My ex boyfriend broke up with me four months ago. After a while talking sometimes, I decided to go NC because he was very distant and that was hurting me. After those weeks we start talking again like friends, from time to time and about books, movies, tv… Sometimes he sent me things saying “it made me think about you”. We usually to have short conversations, once a week or so. I miss the times we texted each other all day long). We have a common chat group with mutual friends and he doesn’t talk directly to me there. Since… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

check this one:
The Ungettable Girl

Lynn
Guest
Many thank you for this Amor. I was thinking…when we met, I liked him a lot but I was afraid of my own feelings, so he had to fight for us, he “chased” me, put a lot of effort…and I think he kinda liked it. Later he felt too comfortable and I started to be insecure, needy and clingy, since I was scared that he had lost interest (no, I can see it clearly now but…too late). So I think that “the ungettable girl” could be the perfect method for me. Furthermore, not only at the end of our relationship… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s good!You’re welcome!

Tiphy
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Hi after an again and off again relationship with this guy and a massive fight last week where horrible things were said.. i decided to go on no contact and it worked well … i stopped no contact when he called me 3 times and sent more than 4 positive messages in a day, the number seven Chris recommends … We talked, he apologized for all the things he said and said that he would die without me… etc etc… we got back together on Friday i guess. On Saturday, i said “c u Wednesday” there was gonna be a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

yes, because you should actually be an ungettable.. so, in the mean time that you dont feel you’re an ungettable girl, fake it but aim to be a real ungettable girl

Tiphy
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I ruined it being a dramaqueen … i restarted no contact and as i work w him, it will have to be limited no contact im going on 30 days no matter if he begs or looks for me.. im fij8shing the 30 days and improving myself… is 30 days enough?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Yeah, I think that’s enough

Tiphy
Guest
Hi after an again and off again relationship with this guy and a massive fight last week where horrible things were said.. i decided to go on no contact and it worked well … i stopped no contact when he called me 3 times and sent more than 4 positive messages in a day, the number seven Chris recommends … We talked, he apologized for all the things he said and said that he would die without me… etc etc… we got back together on Friday i guess. On Saturday, i said “c u Wednesday” there was gonna be a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yes, because you should actually be an ungettable.. so, in the mean time that you dont feel you’re an ungettable girl, fake it but aim to be a real ungettable girl

Tiphy
Guest

I ruined it being a dramaqueen … i restarted no contact and as i work w him, it will have to be limited no contact im going on 30 days no matter if he begs or looks for me.. im fij8shing the 30 days and improving myself… is 30 days enough?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Yeah, I think that’s enough

B
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2nd break up with the same guy and NC for more than 30 days now… still no contact from him… and I don’t wish to text or initiate contact first because I believe that if he wants to talk to me he truly will. It’s better to give up right? Since I don’t see any hope..

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

if you want to, that’s your choice, and your right to move on..