Will My Ex Regret Breaking Up With Me?

Your relationship has ended. The man you love has left you and you are feeling confused, hopeless and lost. On top of all this you can’t help but think you yourself:

“Does he regret leaving me? Does he even feel bad for hurting me?”

If it makes you feel a little better, everyone going through a break up has similar thoughts.

The good news is there are some pretty solid signs that your ex regrets breaking up with you. We’ll discuss what you can keep an eye out for along with what you can do to influence him and make him regret it even more.

Have you ever heard the phrase, “only human?”

“We’re only human.”
“You’re only human.”

It’s a way to say that we make mistakes and it’s normal.

We spend so much time thinking about things that we could have said or done different. It’s called regret.

Men are strange when it comes to regret. Even when they regret something, they will not always ACT on that feeling. Men have a tendency to ignore those feelings and try to bury them. Frustrating, right?

Not to worry though. Your ex may choose not to act on his regret, but he is still feeling it. Regret leads to doubt and doubt makes men susceptible to being influenced.

Funny how that works. Right?

This means that there is a chance that you can indirectly break down your ex’s stubborn walls and make him want to get back together!

A majority of men are stubborn and that they hate to admit when they have made a mistake. Even more than that, they hate to admit when someone else is right… Your ex is not going to want you to know that he regrets breaking up with you. He may even try to convince himself that he doesn’t regret it!

That’s right, he may not even be willing to admit it to himself. This makes it even more difficult for you to know what he is thinking.

That’s what I’m here for. I’ll show you some signs to look out for that will tell you if he regrets his decision even if he doesn’t know it.

Signs He Regrets Breaking Up With You
Sign 1: Acts of Jealousy
Sign 2: Intense Stalking
Sign 3: His Sphere of Influence
Sign 4: Your Breakup Was Impulsive
Sign 5: Grass Is Always Greener Syndrome

Steps You Can Take To Make Him Regret Breakup Up With You
Step 1: Complete No Contact
Step 2: Self Improvement
Step 3: Keep Him Guessing

That’s a lot, I know. Just stick with me and we’ll make your ex regret ever letting you go.

Signs He Regrets Breaking Up With You

Like I said there are some things that make it obvious that your ex is not so certain about his decision to breakup. As you make your moves to reinforce his regret, you are going to want to know if you are making any headway.

When you are sick, you look for symptoms to recognize sickness. It’s the same with regret after a breakup. There are symptoms you can look for that will give your ex away. The first might have your ex looking a little green… with envy.

Acts of Jealousy

You know how little kids are with a toy they haven’t played with for months? You even thinks about getting rid of it or letting another kid play with it and suddenly it’s the only toy they want to play with.

Well, men are the same way.

A man who is even slightly regretting the breakup will be consumed with jealousy if you start catching the eye of other men, or begin showing them attention.

He may hide it well, but it is impossible to hide completely.

“You’re going out tonight? Who with? Is it a guy friend?”

Some men will be a little more straight forward about it. Their jealousy may take the form of unexplainable anger.

Try your best to excuse yourself from highly emotional situations like this if they arise. Remind yourself that their response only means that they care. Any response you give will likely excalate the situation even if you try to convince him that he’s imagining things.

As humans, we tend to go with the pack. If everyone wants a new iphone… we have to have it.

If we think that every guy in a 45 mile radius wants to date our ex… we can’t imagine life without them.

So, don’t be afraid to lt him be a little jealous. It’s a good thing.

Intense Stalking

Okay so, I’m not talking about if he’s parked across the stree from your house with binaculars. No. If that’s the case, girl you are probably better off.

I’m talking about the new world we live in… social media.

If your ex is checking up on you online and seems to always know everything that is going on in your life without you telling him, that guy is definitely rethinking his decision.

Now, there is always the friend caveat, where he is trying his darnedest to prove that you are still friends. You can use this to your advantage when you reach Steps 2 and 3. It’ll have this wanna-be friend realize that he doesn’t want to be just your friend anymore.

His Sphere of Influence

Everyone has those people in their life who just KNOW how they are feeling, even when they don’t tell them. It’s a good problem to have.

They can be a kind of support group when you are feeling crummy. And if they are like my friend they’ll take action on your behalf, even if you don’t ask (or even want) them to.

We call that circle of people that you rely on in life a “Circle of Influence.”

Why?

Well, you tend to listen to them and care what they think… right?

And you tend to tell them things you wouldn’t tell other people.

While your ex is not going to talk to you about regretting a break up, he may mention it to the friends and family that he is closest with. If he doesn’t mention it to them, they may be able to just TELL.

So, after dating your ex, you probably know who those people are for him, maybe his best friend, brother, or mom. Whoever it is, you can listen to those people when you interact. If they pick up on the fact that your ex is regretting the decision to break up, they will try and push you back together.

“He’ll come around.”

“He’d love to see you I’m sure.”

“He still talks about you all the time.”

No, this doens’t mean you should go running right to him and beg for him back. If he’s only slightly regretting the breakup, pushing too hard could push him into not regretting it at all.

These are just signs to look out for. Don’t use them as an excuse to act impulsively.

So, while this isn’t really an admission that he regrets the breakup, it does mean that his sphere of influence is rooting for things to work out between you.

And there is a reason we call them the Circle of Influence. They have the power to influence him.

Your Breakup Was Impulsive

Speaking of impulse, if you broke up because you were having a big fight, it’s likely that he’ll realize he made a mistake soon after.

It’s like getting rid of that jacket that you’ve had in your closet forever on a whim. Then the next day you realize that it would be the perfect finishing touch to the ourtfit you are wearing. Things always tend to work out that way.

Impulse decisions are rarely ever thought through and we tend to overthink them for a long time.

So if your ex dumped you in a moment of heightened emotions, it’s likely that he is thinking about that decision and wondering if he didn’t make a mistake.

You can use this to your advantage too. Stick around and we’ll talk about how.

Grass Is Always Greener Syndrome

If he was willing to leave you for someone else then why would he regret it. He replaced you, right? Eh, not so much. Sometimes people develop what is known as “grass is greener” syndrome. They think a relationship with someone else will be so much better than what they already have.

The “Grass is Always Greener Syndrome” is what happens when your ex dumped you for someone else.

It goes back to that human nature thing we were talking about earlier. We always want what we can’t have.

We only see what people let us see.

That girl that posts all of those healthy picutres of her food and of her working out on Instagram has cheat days and feels fat every now and again.

And that girl your ex left you for… well he didn’t know everything about her when he left you for her. He’s going to get to know her and realize that she has flaws too.

If you work Step 2 right then you can actually MAKE him realize that he had it good with you.

What these men don’t realize is that all the women in all the world come with similar attitudes, wants, and problems. So when your man leaves you for another woman it is only a matter of time before he realizes “wait… no… I want that one back!” This is ESPECIALLY true if you have been working on yourself and improving so that you become leaps and bounds better than his other woman.

Steps You Can Take To Make Him Regret Breakup Up With You

Step 1: Complete No Contact
For women in pain, not talking to their ex is difficult to do. We want to share how we are feeling and we want to know that our exes feel the same way.

However, No Contact is highly effective against men.

Here’s why: Men don’t like to be controlled.

What they do like is power. When you start blowing up his phone after the breakup, he KNOWS he has power over you.

BUT, when you go silent and say nothing he begins to wonder…

“Where is she?”

“Why isn’t she upset and begging for me back?”

“Is there something wrong with me?”

“Is there someone better?”

“Did she realized she doesn’t need me?!”

This doubt is going to make him think that he doesn’t have as much pull over you as he thought he did. You’re strong and independent. You are worthy of his RESPECT. That’s right! Holding your own and staying silent is going to make him respect you and in time this will draw him back to you.

We all want what we cannot have. You need to make yourself as unobtainable, or, for you EBR ladies, ungettable, as possible.

Step 2: Self Improvement

So, speaking of becoming ungettable… do you know what that is?

It’s an Ex Boyfriend Recovery term. You can read more about it in this article, The Ungettable Girl.

The absolute best revenge you can take on an ex is to make him regret losing you in the first place.

A lot of women make the mistake of becoming the “crazy” ex girlfriend.

But not you.

You are going to become a glowing, healthy, vibrant version of yourself that is going to make him stop and say,

“Is that really HER?!”

How do you go about doing this?

Well, you focus on the Holy Trinity.

The Holy Trinity is another one of those Ex Bofyriend Recovery terms. It’s a trifecta:

  1. Health
  2. Wealth
  3. Relationships

Here’s a video Chris put together to explain it:

HEALTH

This is a pretty big one for you as men are upsettingly interested in looks.

After a breakup, exercise is an excellent way to burn off your negative emotions and get an ego boost while your at it. And you do it all while working on improving your overall health and physical appearance.

Get a new haircut and update your wardrobe Do anything you can do that makes you feel goo about yourself. Yes you want to make him stop and take notice as he scrolls through your Instagram, but ultimately the goal should be making yourself feel amazing.

On that note, there is another aspect of health that doesn’t always get as much attention ad your physical health and that is your mental health.

Working on mental health can mean many things:

  • Seeing a therapist
  • Doing some journaling
  • Attending yoga classes
  • Just taking some time for yourself

Whatever it is you need to do to rebalance your mind, do it.

WEALTH

I don’t know if you have heard or not but now is the time for powerful women.

This means we no longer relying on men.

During your No Contact, work on getting yourself established financially so that the only person you NEED to be successful is you.

This can mean many things.

It can mean getting a new job, it can mean asking for a raise, or it can mean going back to school.

Whatever it means for you to place yourself into better standing financially go forward and start taking the steps needed to get there.

RELATIONSHIPS

After a breakup, women have little to no interest in dating. They want the man they want and that is it.

However… hear me out here… dating is actually going to get your ex interested in getting back together with you.

Like I said earlier, men want what they cannot have and they want what other people want. If he hears you are dating again he is going to start to fear truly losing you and will come running back.

I’m not saying go out and look for love. I am saying go see a movie… have dinner… let someone treat you well for a change.

Outside of just dating, though it is important to cultivate the relationships with your friends and with yourself. It is too easy to get the idea that you need a relationship to be happy.

That is simply is not true!

Become comfortable with yourself and develop a solid support group to surround yourself with. That is the goal of the Holy Trinity and Becoming Ungettable.

Step 3: Keep Him Guessing

The final piece of advice that I am going to give you is to keep your ex guessing.

After No Contact, if he asks you about things that you did or people you met after the breakup give vague answers that will make his imagination run wild.

For example, if he asks,

“Have you ever been to this restaurant?”

Smile and say,

“Oh yeah, a couple weeks ago. It’s a fun place!”

and leave it at that.

I personally have been doing this and my ex now thinks I went on twenty times as many dates as I actually went on… It drives him crazy.

Emotions and people change. Your ex may feel a certain way now but that is not going to last forever.

Focus on yourself, become the best version of you that you can be and he will come crawling back to you. You may very well realize you are worth so much more than he could ever offer you.

The Take-Away

What you should come away from this article knowing are the five ways to tell if your ex is regretting the breakup ever happening:

  • Acts of Jealousy
  • Intense Stalking
  • His Sphere of Influence
  • Your Breakup Was Impulsive
  • Grass Is Always Greener Syndrome

…and there are steps you can take to multiply that regret:

  1. Complete No Contact
  2. Self Improvement
  3. Keep Him Guessing

Okay, so, now you have access to all the info, this article and all of the EBR books and material. You even have access to live coaching with out experts.

But, right here, right now, I want you to tell me about your breakup. I want to have a conversation with you in the comments below. Tell me about your breakup and what you have done since then. And our experts will help you decide what steps to take next.

		

Written by EBR Teamate

Shannon