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Will My Ex Regret Breaking Up With Me?

Your relationship has ended. The man you love has left you and you are feeling confused, hopeless and lost. On top of all this you can’t help but think you yourself:

“Does he regret leaving me? Does he even feel bad for hurting me?”

If it makes you feel a little better, everyone going through a break up has similar thoughts.

The good news is there are some pretty solid signs that your ex regrets breaking up with you. We’ll discuss what you can keep an eye out for along with what you can do to influence him and make him regret it even more.

Have you ever heard the phrase, “only human?”

“We’re only human.”
“You’re only human.”

It’s a way to say that we make mistakes and it’s normal.

We spend so much time thinking about things that we could have said or done different. It’s called regret.

Men are strange when it comes to regret. Even when they regret something, they will not always ACT on that feeling. Men have a tendency to ignore those feelings and try to bury them. Frustrating, right?

Not to worry though. Your ex may choose not to act on his regret, but he is still feeling it. Regret leads to doubt and doubt makes men susceptible to being influenced.

Funny how that works. Right?

This means that there is a chance that you can indirectly break down your ex’s stubborn walls and make him want to get back together!

A majority of men are stubborn and that they hate to admit when they have made a mistake. Even more than that, they hate to admit when someone else is right… Your ex is not going to want you to know that he regrets breaking up with you. He may even try to convince himself that he doesn’t regret it!

That’s right, he may not even be willing to admit it to himself. This makes it even more difficult for you to know what he is thinking.

That’s what I’m here for. I’ll show you some signs to look out for that will tell you if he regrets his decision even if he doesn’t know it.

Signs He Regrets Breaking Up With You
Sign 1: Acts of Jealousy
Sign 2: Intense Stalking
Sign 3: His Sphere of Influence
Sign 4: Your Breakup Was Impulsive
Sign 5: Grass Is Always Greener Syndrome

Steps You Can Take To Make Him Regret Breakup Up With You
Step 1: Complete No Contact
Step 2: Self Improvement
Step 3: Keep Him Guessing

That’s a lot, I know. Just stick with me and we’ll make your ex regret ever letting you go.

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Signs He Regrets Breaking Up With You

Like I said there are some things that make it obvious that your ex is not so certain about his decision to breakup. As you make your moves to reinforce his regret, you are going to want to know if you are making any headway.

When you are sick, you look for symptoms to recognize sickness. It’s the same with regret after a breakup. There are symptoms you can look for that will give your ex away. The first might have your ex looking a little green… with envy.

Acts of Jealousy

You know how little kids are with a toy they haven’t played with for months? You even thinks about getting rid of it or letting another kid play with it and suddenly it’s the only toy they want to play with.

Well, men are the same way.

A man who is even slightly regretting the breakup will be consumed with jealousy if you start catching the eye of other men, or begin showing them attention.

He may hide it well, but it is impossible to hide completely.

“You’re going out tonight? Who with? Is it a guy friend?”

Some men will be a little more straight forward about it. Their jealousy may take the form of unexplainable anger.

Try your best to excuse yourself from highly emotional situations like this if they arise. Remind yourself that their response only means that they care. Any response you give will likely excalate the situation even if you try to convince him that he’s imagining things.

As humans, we tend to go with the pack. If everyone wants a new iphone… we have to have it.

If we think that every guy in a 45 mile radius wants to date our ex… we can’t imagine life without them.

So, don’t be afraid to lt him be a little jealous. It’s a good thing.

Intense Stalking

Okay so, I’m not talking about if he’s parked across the stree from your house with binaculars. No. If that’s the case, girl you are probably better off.

I’m talking about the new world we live in… social media.

If your ex is checking up on you online and seems to always know everything that is going on in your life without you telling him, that guy is definitely rethinking his decision.

Now, there is always the friend caveat, where he is trying his darnedest to prove that you are still friends. You can use this to your advantage when you reach Steps 2 and 3. It’ll have this wanna-be friend realize that he doesn’t want to be just your friend anymore.

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His Sphere of Influence

Everyone has those people in their life who just KNOW how they are feeling, even when they don’t tell them. It’s a good problem to have.

They can be a kind of support group when you are feeling crummy. And if they are like my friend they’ll take action on your behalf, even if you don’t ask (or even want) them to.

We call that circle of people that you rely on in life a “Circle of Influence.”


Well, you tend to listen to them and care what they think… right?

And you tend to tell them things you wouldn’t tell other people.

While your ex is not going to talk to you about regretting a break up, he may mention it to the friends and family that he is closest with. If he doesn’t mention it to them, they may be able to just TELL.

So, after dating your ex, you probably know who those people are for him, maybe his best friend, brother, or mom. Whoever it is, you can listen to those people when you interact. If they pick up on the fact that your ex is regretting the decision to break up, they will try and push you back together.

“He’ll come around.”

“He’d love to see you I’m sure.”

“He still talks about you all the time.”

No, this doens’t mean you should go running right to him and beg for him back. If he’s only slightly regretting the breakup, pushing too hard could push him into not regretting it at all.

These are just signs to look out for. Don’t use them as an excuse to act impulsively.

So, while this isn’t really an admission that he regrets the breakup, it does mean that his sphere of influence is rooting for things to work out between you.

And there is a reason we call them the Circle of Influence. They have the power to influence him.

Your Breakup Was Impulsive

Speaking of impulse, if you broke up because you were having a big fight, it’s likely that he’ll realize he made a mistake soon after.

It’s like getting rid of that jacket that you’ve had in your closet forever on a whim. Then the next day you realize that it would be the perfect finishing touch to the ourtfit you are wearing. Things always tend to work out that way.

Impulse decisions are rarely ever thought through and we tend to overthink them for a long time.

So if your ex dumped you in a moment of heightened emotions, it’s likely that he is thinking about that decision and wondering if he didn’t make a mistake.

You can use this to your advantage too. Stick around and we’ll talk about how.

Grass Is Always Greener Syndrome

If he was willing to leave you for someone else then why would he regret it. He replaced you, right? Eh, not so much. Sometimes people develop what is known as “grass is greener” syndrome. They think a relationship with someone else will be so much better than what they already have.

The “Grass is Always Greener Syndrome” is what happens when your ex dumped you for someone else.

It goes back to that human nature thing we were talking about earlier. We always want what we can’t have.

We only see what people let us see.

That girl that posts all of those healthy picutres of her food and of her working out on Instagram has cheat days and feels fat every now and again.

And that girl your ex left you for… well he didn’t know everything about her when he left you for her. He’s going to get to know her and realize that she has flaws too.

If you work Step 2 right then you can actually MAKE him realize that he had it good with you.

What these men don’t realize is that all the women in all the world come with similar attitudes, wants, and problems. So when your man leaves you for another woman it is only a matter of time before he realizes “wait… no… I want that one back!” This is ESPECIALLY true if you have been working on yourself and improving so that you become leaps and bounds better than his other woman.

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Steps You Can Take To Make Him Regret Breakup Up With You

Step 1: Complete No Contact
For women in pain, not talking to their ex is difficult to do. We want to share how we are feeling and we want to know that our exes feel the same way.

However, No Contact is highly effective against men.

Here’s why: Men don’t like to be controlled.

What they do like is power. When you start blowing up his phone after the breakup, he KNOWS he has power over you.

BUT, when you go silent and say nothing he begins to wonder…

“Where is she?”

“Why isn’t she upset and begging for me back?”

“Is there something wrong with me?”

“Is there someone better?”

“Did she realized she doesn’t need me?!”

This doubt is going to make him think that he doesn’t have as much pull over you as he thought he did. You’re strong and independent. You are worthy of his RESPECT. That’s right! Holding your own and staying silent is going to make him respect you and in time this will draw him back to you.

We all want what we cannot have. You need to make yourself as unobtainable, or, for you EBR ladies, ungettable, as possible.

Step 2: Self Improvement

So, speaking of becoming ungettable… do you know what that is?

It’s an Ex Boyfriend Recovery term. You can read more about it in this article, The Ungettable Girl.

The absolute best revenge you can take on an ex is to make him regret losing you in the first place.

A lot of women make the mistake of becoming the “crazy” ex girlfriend.

But not you.

You are going to become a glowing, healthy, vibrant version of yourself that is going to make him stop and say,

“Is that really HER?!”

How do you go about doing this?

Well, you focus on the Holy Trinity.

The Holy Trinity is another one of those Ex Bofyriend Recovery terms. It’s a trifecta:

  1. Health
  2. Wealth
  3. Relationships

Here’s a video Chris put together to explain it:


This is a pretty big one for you as men are upsettingly interested in looks.

After a breakup, exercise is an excellent way to burn off your negative emotions and get an ego boost while your at it. And you do it all while working on improving your overall health and physical appearance.

Get a new haircut and update your wardrobe Do anything you can do that makes you feel goo about yourself. Yes you want to make him stop and take notice as he scrolls through your Instagram, but ultimately the goal should be making yourself feel amazing.

On that note, there is another aspect of health that doesn’t always get as much attention ad your physical health and that is your mental health.

Working on mental health can mean many things:

  • Seeing a therapist
  • Doing some journaling
  • Attending yoga classes
  • Just taking some time for yourself

Whatever it is you need to do to rebalance your mind, do it.


I don’t know if you have heard or not but now is the time for powerful women.

This means we no longer relying on men.

During your No Contact, work on getting yourself established financially so that the only person you NEED to be successful is you.

This can mean many things.

It can mean getting a new job, it can mean asking for a raise, or it can mean going back to school.

Whatever it means for you to place yourself into better standing financially go forward and start taking the steps needed to get there.


After a breakup, women have little to no interest in dating. They want the man they want and that is it.

However… hear me out here… dating is actually going to get your ex interested in getting back together with you.

Like I said earlier, men want what they cannot have and they want what other people want. If he hears you are dating again he is going to start to fear truly losing you and will come running back.

I’m not saying go out and look for love. I am saying go see a movie… have dinner… let someone treat you well for a change.

Outside of just dating, though it is important to cultivate the relationships with your friends and with yourself. It is too easy to get the idea that you need a relationship to be happy.

That is simply is not true!

Become comfortable with yourself and develop a solid support group to surround yourself with. That is the goal of the Holy Trinity and Becoming Ungettable.

Step 3: Keep Him Guessing

The final piece of advice that I am going to give you is to keep your ex guessing.

After No Contact, if he asks you about things that you did or people you met after the breakup give vague answers that will make his imagination run wild.

For example, if he asks,

“Have you ever been to this restaurant?”

Smile and say,

“Oh yeah, a couple weeks ago. It’s a fun place!”

and leave it at that.

I personally have been doing this and my ex now thinks I went on twenty times as many dates as I actually went on… It drives him crazy.

Emotions and people change. Your ex may feel a certain way now but that is not going to last forever.

Focus on yourself, become the best version of you that you can be and he will come crawling back to you. You may very well realize you are worth so much more than he could ever offer you.

The Take-Away

What you should come away from this article knowing are the five ways to tell if your ex is regretting the breakup ever happening:

  • Acts of Jealousy
  • Intense Stalking
  • His Sphere of Influence
  • Your Breakup Was Impulsive
  • Grass Is Always Greener Syndrome

…and there are steps you can take to multiply that regret:

  1. Complete No Contact
  2. Self Improvement
  3. Keep Him Guessing

Okay, so, now you have access to all the info, this article and all of the EBR books and material. You even have access to live coaching with out experts.

But, right here, right now, I want you to tell me about your breakup. I want to have a conversation with you in the comments below. Tell me about your breakup and what you have done since then. And our experts will help you decide what steps to take next.


Written by EBR Teamate


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17 thoughts on “Will My Ex Regret Breaking Up With Me?”

  1. Ashley

    March 14, 2018 at 5:52 am

    My boyfriend and I dated for 6 months and broke up. Well I did the no contact and over 6 months of us being broken up he came back. It was everything I ever wanted. We forgave each other and worked through things. This time we’ve been together 8 months and we started arguing over past things. But finally found common ground… so I thought. He gave me a card saying how he was so sorry for our rough times and he loves me so much and hopes we figure life out together. Well days later we got in a dumb fight. Said hurtful things. I left to cool off and not even an hour later he moved everything out of our home including his sons things. And he refuses to speak to me. It’s been almost a month since he left and only 2 weeks since we haven’t spoken a word. I’m trying no contact but I’m not sure what to do. Please help me.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2018 at 2:47 pm

      Hi Ashley,

      That means you have to take it that he broke up with you and start the count of nc from the last time you initiated and replied. How active are you in improving yourself?

  2. Danielle Spradbury

    March 12, 2018 at 9:44 pm

    Its been nearly 3 weeks since he broke up with me and at first i was devastated but now i am getting my finances sorted i can see light at the end of the tunnel we had a phone call today and he was telling me hes dating other woman and i said thats ok now cos i dont want to be back with you and said i will be going out myself and he said be careful cos there are idiots out there which made me feel that he did care

  3. Hallie

    March 9, 2018 at 8:59 am

    Me and my depressed unemployed ex Fiancé broke up a month and half ago. The day we broke up he close off himself and told me he wants to die and I feel helpless. He also said that he has no affection for me anymore. Hence, I broke up as I gave up after trying so hard to support him. But later regretted bcos I love him so much.

    After a month of no contact, he texted me “Hey.. How are you doing” and then he said he still wants and love me and took him long to straight himself out. He also ask “If I want you back.. U want it? Just asking” and I told him we can discuss together if we want to talk about r/s. He said should meet up soon but not now because he is in lost mood? No idea what that means.. Then he ask if i was sleeping with anyone and I told him that it is none of his business. And he got mad. I don’t know if I should put my hopes up. I was ready to move on and this is holding me back.

    Will be seeing him on Monday as he has a short class at my training center where I work. Not sure what to do. Should I just ignore him throughout or approach him to talk abt our r/s?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 12, 2018 at 5:11 pm

      Hi Hallie,

      If he didn’t change, do you still want him back?

  4. Catherine

    March 9, 2018 at 8:19 am

    I recently was in a 1.5yr long relationship where my ex and I did everything together. I am a very strong and independent woman and he has been hurt by past ex’s, but also he cheated on his previous relationships. During our relationship I never once stayed at his home without invitation. At the time we finally broke I was staying 4-5 days per week, doing all the cooking, cleaning, laundry and making sure he was happy every night after work. I massaged him several times per week and pampered him to the hilt. Throughout our relationship he indicated that he would never tell another woman that he loved her, but he would show it. He truly did show it our entire relationship. He had a new house built and I shopped for all his furniture with him, I decorated his home, I purchased items that he has all over his home. We shopped together, spent massive amount of time with his family and had an incredible sex life whenever he wanted it. He asked me to bring my clothes over and had a drawer setup for me. This was not an act and I truly loved giving him this treatment. One day I had an incredible feeling that I needed to look at his phone. Never in all the time we were together did I ever do this and I trusted him 100%. I found a girls name on facebook that he was looking at. Within the next week or so we had a very minor disagreement that I felt we needed to talk about. I always walked on egg shells with him and this was the first time I stood my ground with wanting to discuss this. He immediately said he wanted to take a break and I immediately responded,”I think we should”. I then left his key and took my belongings and left a note with my feelings of love for him and wishing the best for him. This was 12/28, note that he broke up with me the year prior on the same day. Later that week was New Years Eve and he changed him profile to single 30 minutes before midnight. I immediately unfriended him. We went a whole month with no contact, then I started texting him. I was completely hurt by his coldness and he would not respond, but would always read them very quickly. One day I had to stop and pay a bill at his work and drop off his items and I made a point of talking with him. He seemed very depressed, but after our talk he seemed in excellent spirits. I msg him that it was nice to see him and he said the same thing. Then he went cold again. After several days of txting him I told him that it was not right for a woman to pursuit a man and that I would let him be. One day I called him after several days and we had an excellent conversation. Then I asked if we could possibly have a chance again. He said he did not love me. I thought that was so strange because his actions were nothing but of love. I ended the conversation and did not send anymore messages. 1.5 months went by I realized that I had left several items at his home. I asked if he would bring the rest of my items to his work and he responded. He brought them to his work and I went and picked them up and made a payment and left a check for money that he loaned me (he never thought it a loan) and I sent a msg to make sure he got it. We started talking and he said that he would contact me later because he was with someone. This was on 2/15. He made a point of telling me that we would talk soon. I told him no problem. I actually needed to ask him something so two days later I sent him a txt saying that I needed to ask him the question about a bill we shared. He started talking to me and we had a great discussion. I thought that was awesome. So the next week I had a devastating day found out that I have to have a surgery immediately that would put me out of commission for close to a year. Plus my engine in my new car just took a tits up when I was parked at the park. I asked if he would come during his lunch and talk with me. He agreed and we had a wonderful conversation that was supportive and uplifting. He also inquired about a guy that I was talking with and the status. I really thought we would get back together after that. The next day I txt him and asked if we could talk that night over the phone, he asked,”what do you want to talk about”. I said that I wanted to talk about having a friendship, but by his response he seemed hesitant and I was wondering if he was pursuing another woman? And that I did not want to be a wedge between them. He indicated that he was hesitant because he is seeing someone. I immediately figured that’s what happened when we broke up and responded with, “Oh ok, that kinda shitty”. He immediately responded with that he never was with anyone but me during the whole relationship and he wanted me to know that, and that he knew I wasn’t with anyone. He said they had only been together 2 weeks. I apologized and immediately was crushed. I then responded with why he would move on so quickly when he said we should take a break. I then sent him a lengthy message about everything I thought about our breakup and how his acts of love did not match up to his words that he did not love me. I told him that was the last communication I’d send him, said I was sorry for my part and wished him luck. The next day he went to my friends work and told his close friend that he was dating another woman, knowing his bragging was going to get back to me. 2 days went by and I was walking my dog and out of the blue I thought of the name I saw on his facebook search and knew where she worked. I walked in and asked for a haircut appt. Later that day that girl contacted me and grilled me about him and wouldn’t leave me alone, she knew everything about me. I told her that I connected the two and that I knew he was a cheat, which made everything make sense. She swore that they were not together when we were together and she seemed worried about me wanting to get back together with him. I told her about the meeting at the park and how he cheated in the past. I was pissed. I txt him and called him a fucking cheat and to never have his women call me again. I told him, “NEVER EVER FUCKING CONTACT ME AGAIN”. She bugged me till 3:30am and read all the txt that him and I shared and informed me of that. I blocked her from msg’ing and facebook. Now I love this man deeply and I believe that he is scared to commit and found the first girl that seemed greener. He is 54 and she is 37. I am 44. She does not seem too intelligent while conversing with her, I am highly intelligent as is he. I am wondering why he would be conversing with me while in this relationship with her and I am wondering how his little relationship is going now that she is paranoid about me and his other infidelities. I am now going to do the “no contact” approach with him. He has always told me how much he looks up to me, how smart I am and that I didn’t do anything wrong in the relationship and that he really liked me a lot, he just doesn’t love me. That never sat well with me and seemed like a hokey response full of holes that didn’t match his actions. Suggestions are very welcome here.

  5. rose

    March 8, 2018 at 8:25 am

    My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago and since then I keep begging. I was toxic in our relationship and he has his faults as well. Our trust is completely broken. My last message to him was he is going to regret what he did to me. I am so angry at him for dumping me but I want him back. I need your help.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 11, 2018 at 11:00 am

  6. Alex

    March 6, 2018 at 10:34 pm

    Hi,so i got my ex back ,but not When i tried to do so(it didn’t exactly worked out,we got together but very quickly he said that he stands by his previous decision) but when I tried to recover and move on.He told me what a mistake he made and he wants to rebuild our relationship.I agreed.Its have been 2 months but I have a major trust issues that he is going to leave me again and I can’t really engage in our relationship,I can find myself trying to not be so attached to him anymore.Sometimes I have a little breakdowns that he wants to leave me and it’s all in my head because he is not giving me any reasons for that.There are times that this situation is making me feel very anxious.What can I do?I know that this behavior is destroying what we want to build.I’d love to hear your advice.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 10, 2018 at 6:49 pm

      Hi Alex,

      Have couples therapy and your own personal therapy. What new personal routines have you started since you got back together? Like going out with your friends once a week, or volunteering alone or joining a workshop?

  7. Tara

    March 5, 2018 at 3:50 pm

    My ex and I️ broke up about ten days a ago. When we parted he said he was extremely depressed and needed time for life to kind of fall into place for him. He also texted me and told me he loved me and this wasn’t forever. Then he texted me again and sent a bunch of mixed signals. I️ stopped replying because he said he needed time and I️ agreed to I️t. I️ was very positive and tried not to act desperate while still letting him know I️ cared and would rather be together but that I️ understood. He started to be resistant so I️ just stopped responding. He texted me a couple more times and I️ did not respond. Finally he asked for one of his items and was slightly snappy about I️t. However, I️ have a ton of his stuff and he only asked for one thing. So do I️ take him all of his stuff or just the one thing? I️ don’t want to come off as harsh or to be mean or seem uninterested in any chance of being together in the future.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 10, 2018 at 1:07 pm

      Hi Tara,
      You can ask him of he would like to get other items too..

  8. Karen

    March 5, 2018 at 1:34 pm

    This is totally my ex boyfriend who after months stalks my social media, acts jealous and when I tell him to stop and start living his own life, he tries to prove me he is only friendly and care for me as a friend and that is why he is interesed in my life without him. What a lame lie. Well maybe he believes it but he is lying to himself. But be aware – it is also a sign of a controlling ex boyfriend who still doesn’t want you but also doesn’t want you to move on. Egocentrics.

  9. Ai

    March 4, 2018 at 6:16 am

    Hi, I just broke up with my ex one week ago. The problem started when he began ghosting me during christmas and decided to ignore me (during our 5 years together, every weekend or holiday we always spend our time together) but suddenly he went and disappear on me. Furious, i confronted him about it and he turned to angry at me for being controlling, dominating, you name it. And so two months of fights, begging and whatnot, he turned colder every time passes, and seemed to be enjoying his ‘first win’ because during our five years I would somehow always win our argument. During those 2 months I had improved on myself, but he still wont forgive me (he also asked to breakup numerous times). Thinking I’ve done everything I could, I decided to let him go and say it to his face. Not long after he was bursting in tears, saying sorry numerous times but did not say anything about not wanting to break up with me. Then the day after he sent me text in the morning saying that he did not expect that this day would come, and stating that maybe both of us needed time. Since the breakup I havent contacted him and today is day 7 of NC and since that last text he hasnt contacted me yet. What should I do? Thank you

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 8, 2018 at 11:56 am

      Hi Ai,

      keep being active in your life and focus in yourself and don’t try to convince him again. That’s chasing. If he wants to be in your life, he should be the one working to get you back.

  10. Lexi

    March 3, 2018 at 8:28 pm

    My ex told me that he broke up with me because of another guy, people were telling him that i was flirting with the other guy but it wasn’t true so now he is back to dating his ex which is my best friend and I’m dating my exes best friend and I just don’t know what to do Can you please help me into getting my ex back!!!??

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 7, 2018 at 12:10 pm

      Hi Lexi,

      Why are you dating your ex’s best friend? That’s just adding on to the rumors of you flirting with somebody else when you were together.