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Tonisha
July 1, 2017 at 12:22 am
Hello I really need advice !
Me and my boyfriend of two years broke up recently , I found him texting another girl in his phone. Him and the girl don’t mean anything as of now during our break up it was typical flirting. When I found the text I broke up with him then decided to give it another try , he declined and told me he need to work on himself. It’s been two weeks since our break up I ask him if it’s a possibility of us getting together he says maybe but he wants to focus on his self .. he says he still loves me and doesn’t want to lose me. I told him that for my sanity I have to break contact with him and he didn’t like it but agreed and said that he wasn’t planning on doing anything (sex , be with other girls) that he just need to focus on himself. We have been through multiple breakups leading to this big one. I know we have driven each other away. Is it possible he will want to get back together. I have done the pleading thing already… before the no contact he would still spend the night , kiss me, and say he love me while broken up but doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now.
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 4, 2017 at 8:04 pm
Hi Tonisha,
Check this one:
How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Beg For You Back… It’s Easier Than You Think
Sim
June 30, 2017 at 2:46 am
I am almost two weeks into the NC rule. My Ex is away for the summer (until August) for work, but will be back. He ended things with a text message after an argument saying I was giving him grief for not speaking to me 24/7 and to not speak to him again, that he’s ending things, and that I won’t be hearing from him. No further explanation and just cut me off after.
Initially, that day and about two days after, I called and texted with no response. He has not said a word to me since, and that last message he sent was very very harsh (i’m assuming it’s because he’s in a new place that he loves, and his ego got the best of him. Just the day before he was telling me how much he loves me, although we were arguing more frequently).
I’m not sure how I should proceed after the no contact rule is over, as I’m afraid of getting no response or a very mean response again. Thoughts since he is away for a while? (Additionally, I was supposed to visit him at the end of this month, but clearly that is not happening now since plane tickets weren’t bought)
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 30, 2017 at 4:44 pm
Are you active now in improving yourself and in posting?
Lisa
June 29, 2017 at 6:44 am
I was with my boyfriend for nearly two years but when it came to moving forward to the next step (living together) he got scared and broke up. He’s been married before and was so hurt over his ex ending things that I don’t think he’s gotten quite over it. We’ve kept in touch and he’s often told me he still loves me and has been having second thoughts, but can’t make up his mind. I didn’t think this was fair so I suggested we take a “breather” so he can get clarity. He didn’t want to but since then I haven’t heard from him for 30 days. So he’s actually the one who’s pulled the “no contact” on me. Now what do I do? To be clear I want him back, but I want him to commit 100%.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 30, 2017 at 12:33 pm
Hi lisa
Start yiur count fron today and then do 30 days and focus in improving yourself and be active in posting
Devina Jalja
June 20, 2017 at 5:47 am
Hi, during my relationship, my bf (now ex bf) realized he loved me after I was motivating and supporting him through a big assesment. When he broke it off 6 months later, it was somewhat amicable, where he said, message me when you are ready to be friends. I haven’t talked to him in 40 days, nor has he messaged me. But right now, he is going through another big assessment, so I messaged him to wish him luck with a motivational text that was chill/not super intense, but still motivational. I broke no-contact, but I thought it made sense, because I am recreating good parts of our relationship after 40 days. Is this logic good? If he replies now to my good luck message what should I say or should I restart no contact?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 23, 2017 at 1:26 pm
Yes, that’s ok but how much did you improve and how active were you in posting?
ariel
June 12, 2017 at 5:43 pm
Hi,
I was in relationship for 8 months with a man who was going through a separation because his wife of a decade cheated on him.
It was a rocky relationship because he was through this emotional rollercoaster and although I understood that he was still healing, I guess I could not help but react to his unexpected cold spells.
when he is out of his funk… we are great. But recently, his divorce was finalized and he started being cold again. We went on for days without so much even as a peck even though I was staying with him.
Finally I couldnt stand it and I told him maybe we are better off being friends. He agreed to it. he said he cares about me and he doesnt want to see me hurt. The thought of losing him suddenly became unbearable and immediately retracted my request but he said he realized that he doesnt want a relationship. maybe what we went through…. staying together, talking about marriage… was all the honeymoon period. he thought he could move on and start a new life… but he couldnt.
I love him and deep down I believe we can be happy… if he decides to open up his eyes and see what we could have.
As a last resort, I said.. let’s have a 30 days no contact… 30 days and after that…. let’s meet up and talk about how we feel. He agreed to it and I moved out of his place.
2 days after that… I told him I couldnt do it and I asked him to meet up and talk. but he said that I didnt even give the no contact a week… let alone 30 days.
Told him… I am sorry for not honouring what I said and that I will do the 30 days no contact. before that, I told him how he was the best thing that happened to me and that he gave me drive and braveness. I told him to use this 30 days to heal and to work on us. He didnt reply to this. It has been 5 days since we last met.
Did I do the wrong thing at the end by announcing the NC? if he agrees to the NC… does that mean that we still have a chance? he couldve said no and just ended it. or could it just be a dumper’s remorse? When 30 days come, should I initiate contact? or should I wait for him? I feel like he falls under the stubborn category.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 14, 2017 at 11:58 am
Yep, you shouldnt have told him about the no contact rule.. The best you can do is extend to 45 days and make it seem like you’re moving on through your posts.. Be active in improving yourself.. And then after nc slowly rebuild rapport..dont ask for a meet up right away.. Just be friendly..dont explain that you want to br friends. Just be friendly and continue improving yourself while building rapport
Sam
June 12, 2017 at 12:42 am
Hey!
Im in day 17 of 21 day NC. My ex texted me last night and asked me if i still have his things to which i responded: Yes, name a date and place, he said do you live in the same place and i said Yes, same place. I dont want to restart NC as i feel this falls into the exception category since i thought he was going to pick up his things but he just left me on seen after my last response…im confused now because i feel this was an excuse to talk to me lol but i dont know what to think now…what are your thoughts?
Thanks, 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 14, 2017 at 10:18 am
Since he didnt set a date, that means he’s just checking if you’re going to reply.. That means you have to restart the count.. And if he asks again, dont reply until he sees he’s going to get the things and then set the date and dont talk about anything else..
Sam
June 12, 2017 at 12:37 am
Hi there!
Ive been in NC for 17 days already im trying with the 21 day NC first, however, my ex sent me a text yesterday and asked me if i still have his things that were left over in my apartment…i answered yes i have them name a date and place, he said are you still living at the same place and i said Yes same place, he left me on Seen and didnt say anything back lol.
Im confused as to why he would ask me if i still have his things and he didnt arrange a date as to when he would pick them up…this is the main reason I responded to him cuz i thought he was gonna pick them up but no…lol i dont want to restart NC since i feel this was an exception to it as seen on a previos example on this site, i even used the same tenplate you guys have lol but i dont know what to do now :/ any thoughts?
Thanks, 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 14, 2017 at 10:19 am
Since he didnt set a date, that means he’s just checking if you’re going to reply.. That means you have to restart the count.. And if he asks again, dont reply until he sees he’s going to get the things and then set the date and dont talk about anything else..
Sade
June 5, 2017 at 11:01 am
Me and my ex-boyfriend have broken up for four months and last week he FaceTime me and last time I checked I was blocked and he told me “I’m blocking you” and he did so I’m confuse to why he called me which was in the morning? Like I know when he argued he said I always loved you but I just don’t understand!!!
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 7, 2017 at 3:28 pm
Hi Sade,
check this one:
Your Ex Boyfriend Blocked You… What Now? (Video)
Sade
June 5, 2017 at 10:24 am
Me and my exboyfriend have been broken up for like four months and a week ago he FaceTime me and last time I checked I was blocked and i really was so I’m very confuse and don’t know if I should call him back it’s been so long? Especially it’s was in the morning he called.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 7, 2017 at 3:28 pm
Hi Sade,
check this one:
Your Ex Boyfriend Blocked You… What Now? (Video)
Maya
June 5, 2017 at 1:42 am
Hi,
We broke up 3 weeks ago. Yesterday when he came to take his remaining things (we are living together for 3yrs and he moved to his mum’s), we had a final conversation. I asked for one last chance and apologized for my part. He said he wasn’t in love anymore and he can’t give this another chance.
4 years ago when we started our relationship he cheated on me and asked for a chance which I gave to him. Over the years he really tried to work on his mistake, but every time we had a fight that came out of my mouth as a grudge. We were looking for a house to buy together and get married this year. My parents demanded he converts to Islam and her mother, who is a religious Catholic, was hurt and defied this. I tried to solve this situation by a secular marriage but asked if he can pretend to convert when he goes overseas for the reception part. He didn’t say no. This year he was supposed to come meet my family overseas but he didn’t come. He met me for holidays in another country afterwards instead. We fought a lot during that trip and after 2 weeks of coming back to our place, he broke up and left.
He cried a lot during our last conversation, but he was more than sure that he can’t go back to this as it has become toxic. He mentioned it might have stemed from me getting hurt from his actions and that he can’t think of getting married anymore. I told him I left my family for this but he was adamant and left.
What should I do now? Should I stop contacting him? I have to move out now and I am extremely lonely and depressed to even think about it and the economic burden it will cause me. Please help!
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 7, 2017 at 3:17 pm
Hi Maya,
if he already moved out, then just stay there.. the place is all yours right? are you going to do the no contact rule?
Sammie
May 29, 2017 at 9:25 pm
I just ended the no contact rule with my ex. I contacted him and he responded positively. In the past when i have tried the no contact rule and failed he would respond to my text messages, but they were always neutral replies. My question is how should I start the next conversation with him. I don’t know what to talk about to keep his interest. Also are neutral responses good because when ever i did bump into him he was always excited to see me, so i’m not sure why he responds to my text like this.
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 30, 2017 at 6:31 pm
nope, it’s not really good..check this one:Texting An Ex Boyfriend (The New Rules)
Claire
May 26, 2017 at 9:36 pm
Hi Amor?
So i completed my no contact and before i could text my ex boyfriend we actually met at his friends place.His friend had told him we were together so I knew he was coming because he had to drop something and he told my friend that he does miss me on text.
So when he finally came.. It was a bit awkward but then we had to leave because they were going somewhere. So i decided I’ll talk to him about his mistakes and it’s like things changed. He said of how i cheated on him.. He is going to get a girl friend and he’s going to tell me about it. He even said he’ll never give me a chance but what do i do now? He is replying my texts and answering my calls but i don’t think i started it well with texting. Please help me
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 27, 2017 at 5:41 pm
if you really dont want to get back together, why would ask him to take you to the museum at the first day of texting, right? It establishing that you’ve changed will not just take 30 days.. if you want to establish to him that you’re just friendly, dont be demanding on him.. Just be friendly.. have your own life.. be more focused in your activities..if you dont want to be perceived as a chaser, dont rush things and be more attentive on your activities.. whether it be alone, with friends, relatives or better yet, doing new ones that help you grow and make new friends
Leeann
May 19, 2017 at 1:04 am
This is pretty long, just warning you lol. Okay so my ex and I have been broken up for about two weeks now. Here’s a little background information before I continue. We had been dating for 8 months & everything was amazing at the beginning. Around march, is when he started acting weird. We didn’t see each other that entire month until, April about a week before my birthday. When we had finally seen each other I was happy & we had a fun time. He met my extended family & he seemed to enjoy it. Well ever since that time, he started to get very distant & he stopped texting and calling me as much as he used to. He is going through a bit of a downfall since he doesn’t have a job right now so that could be a reason. But, I have suspicion that he may have been talking to other girls at this time. (He’s in a frat so they throw a lot of parties & im pretty sure he had to be talking to girls obviously). But because he was ignoring me I would get upset & call him & when he wouldn’t contact me back I would call & text him again. (I know I was being way too pushy, I see that now.) well I had gotten so annoyed with him ignoring me & not replying to me, I sent him a text saying basically what is going on? Why are you growing distant? And I reassured him that Im always here for him If he needs anything. He replied saying how he knows I deserve more attention & that he doesn’t want to hurt me & doesnt mean to ignore me but he’s just not feeling it right now & we should take a break(he pulled the “it’s me not you” card.) I agreed, because we obviously needed some time apart from how distant it had become. We didn’t argue or anything and we basically told each other that we are here for one another if we need anything. We still have each other on all of our social medias & he still watches my Snapchat story. Because it ended more positively, I feel as though there is still pontential for us to try it again. I haven’t contacted him since the break up& he hasn’t either. With this situation, do you think I should contact him after the no contact period & what approach should I take? We kind of left it open by saying we would take a break. He’s pretty closed off with his emotions & doesn’t like to speak about his problems very much either, I should mention.
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 19, 2017 at 10:28 pm
are you actively improving yourself and posting in social media? If not, restart the count.. and yes, you can initiate after nc. Check this one:
EBR 053: Deconstructing The Perfect First Contact Text Message
Dee
May 13, 2017 at 10:04 am
Hello! My ex boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 months when he decided he wanted to breake up because he was insecure and didn’t know what he wanted. I started the no contact rule right away and after 6 days he contacted me. We got back together after 2 weeks and 1 week after he decided again that he doesn’t know what he wants and that we should break up again. I want to start the 30 days no contact rule again. Do you think we have any chance of getting back together for real again? I must say that he has a fear of commitment and that was the main reason of all our fights during the relationship because I always wanted a serious relation.
Dee
June 2, 2017 at 9:12 pm
So should I contact him further or leave him alone?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 3, 2017 at 3:30 pm
you can initiate, just use better topics..
Dee
June 1, 2017 at 7:01 pm
So I texted him today and the text was something like this “Guess what? I tried going to crossfit and it was awesome! Thank you for telling me to do more sports!” because he always told me to try crossfit because he likes it. His reply was “Great! Keep up the good work” and I texted him something like this “How have you been doing?” and he didn’t reply at all. What could this mean?
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 2, 2017 at 7:02 pm
that’s hard to say but most of the time, it’s because there’s nothing to talk about his life..
Dee
May 31, 2017 at 9:59 am
I just found out that my boyfriend is in a relationship with this girl that I was talking about. My no contact rule ends tomorrow. Should I text him in this condition?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 31, 2017 at 4:56 pm
yup and if he doesnt know that you know, dont confront him about it.
Dee
May 15, 2017 at 5:25 pm
Thank you! I’ll keep you posted.
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 16, 2017 at 5:33 pm
ok, you’re welcome!
Dee
May 15, 2017 at 5:07 pm
So the no contact rule will supposedly work?
Chris Seiter
May 15, 2017 at 5:20 pm
Yes mam!
Dee
May 15, 2017 at 6:11 am
I forgot to mention that when we broke up he told me he was attracted to his dance instructor and now after 4 days after break up he is hitting constantly on her. Could this be a rebound?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 15, 2017 at 4:20 pm
nope.. it’s a grass is greener case.check this one:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 13, 2017 at 3:53 pm
yeah, you can still do 30 days.. stick to it.. be active in improving yourself and in posting..don’t give in with just one request of getting back together.
Laila
May 11, 2017 at 1:23 pm
Hello,
My story is a little bit long but I’m so confused and wanna know the truth. I’m married and divorced already. But still stay together because I have 2 childrens. But we are not staying in the same room. Then I met one guy that used to stare at me every time he sees me. And he showed me that he liked me too much. After a couples of month we knew each other and he told me that he liked me too much. But he had a girlfriend. He said that “I already like you when I was with her” I knew it. And one day he told me that he and his girlfriend break up already. And now he is single. And he told me that he loved me too much and want me to be his girlfriend, I was really happy because I loved him too much too. And we started our relationship that was really very nice. He told me that he found the love of his life he wants to marry me, so was I.
But one day when my ex husband knew about our relationship he tried everything to stop us. My ex husband even told him that if he doesn’t stop relationship with me he will kill my boyfriend. At first my boyfriend told me that we have to stop texting each other. Stop meeting each other. And he told me don’t forget that I love you. See you.
But even we stop texting each other my ex husband still not believed us. He went to my boyfriend’s home and threatened him again that if you are not stop your relationship with her you will die. I will kill you!
After a lot of threatening my boyfriend text me to stop relationship with me. I beg him a lot to not leave me but he still say the same that “forget me please” and told me to stop contact him. But i can not stop. I still send him message and told him again and again that pls don’t do this. And my ex husband still threatened him non stop. Untill one day my boyfriend brought a woman with him. And talked with that woman like they were in love and kissekissed that woman infront of my ex husband and me. I was so much hurt and pain. I felt like my world is over I don’t know what to do so much suffered. My boyfriend stayed with that woman. And when I texed my boyfriend and asked him why did you do this to me? You cheat me. You are a liar. He was so angry and asked me to stop texting him. So i stop texting him. And every every time when he saw me he stared at me. He watched me every every time that he saw me.
After 2 months of no contact. I send him a message to ask him to stop passing my office. Because he often walk passing my office and near me when I was sitting outside my office. He made me sick every time when I see him because I still love him too much and angry too much for what he have done. After i text him he suddenly replied that “I’m sorry i will try to not passing there.” And I send him the second message to thanks him that he will do what I want and he replied again “I understand and I am sorry”
After that, an other day I text him again. And talk about our relationship. He said “I’m sorry about what happened.” And again he said “I’m so sorry I wrong too much with you” and he said that his relationship with new girl will end one day. But I was angry and I told him that it is ok one day I will forget you. He replied this, “you will make it love is not forever.” And after that when I text him again he did like he was angry with me and told me to try to forget him. And I told him that I can’t forget him. And I asked him how tI hate and forget him. I said this again and again. He said wait I will send you a message and you will hate me. And after that I asked about his feeling for me. He said “why you want to know this, I don’t know. But i forced him to answer me so this is his answer. “I don’t know what to tell you. I think that I don’t love you now but would like to have sex with you. I hope with this message I can help you to hate me.”
After read his answer I was angry and said goodbye to him and I also said this because of offended. “If one day you want to have sex with me you can tell me!”
Then he said it is not good that we sleep together because I told him before when we were in love that I will have sex after married. But I said it is ok I want it now so he said ok. And told me to choose the day that we will have sex. But I said one thing that I don’t want to sleep with the man that doesn’t love me so he said I don’t want to have sex with you now even i want it so much but I respect you. And after that I started fighting with him again so he was angry with me. And stop talking with me 9 days. Then I send message to him again and he asked me what do you want? I told him that I want you back. He said not possible. And again we fighting. So I said goodbye to him again and now it’s 16 days already. I miss him so much. And want him to text me too much.
I want to know that what is he thinking now and does he still love me?
Thank you.
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 11, 2017 at 8:16 pm
Hi Laila,
check the links below:
You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed… I’m Here To Fix That
The Ungettable Girl
Sydni
April 28, 2017 at 12:47 am
He had followed me on Instagram prior to our actual meet up.
I had only known his name- and that many girls liked him.
The next year- I had gotten a math class with him.
I remembered his name.
Within 2 weeks- I went up to him, and asked “hey you’re ‘his instagram username’, right?”
Later that night- I DM’ed him, saying a simple “hi”
He replied to next morning with a hi.
I decided to answer after school.
He then asked questions about me- and we hit off immediately.
I at the time, had broken up with my ex due to a guy friend’s attempt at something for us. (Keep this person in mind)
Due to that breakup, I was still trying to get over my ex, but at the same I was falling for this new math guy.
Within days- our classmates were interrogating us on whether we liked each other.
It became pretty obvious that he wanted to date.
I told him I needed time to get over my ex- so I could love him fully, and so he waited.
For around a month.
Then I felt ready.
4 months of what felt like pure love.
We talked everyday, shared our deep scary secrets, and desires.
He even hinted at wanting to marry me.
Better than anything my exes combined had offered me.
I felt like the luckiest girl alive.
He eventually came up to me- and went “I’m getting confused” as our communication was deteriorating.
I trusted that he would come back.
He did- for a short period.
He eventually got quieter and quieter.
I asked him about it, and he would say things all eventually meaning “I don’t love you anymore.”
Earlier in the relationship- we had both agreed that people that don’t want to commit, or love each other anymore weren’t in a relationship anymore. That would have been considered a “one sided relationship”. This had been our silent breakup.
We kept silent for around a month.
People still thought we were dating. Heck, some still do.
I only told the guy friend (I mentioned previously) about it- a few weeks later.
I guess eventually- his friends noticed something- and news got out.
People would ask him what happened- and from what I’ve heard- he gets really annoyed and says things like “don’t talk about that” or ignores the person entirely.
He had a science meetup with friends (for a state club or something) and one of them always brings them her homemade desserts and such. I’ve heard they are really good- and apparently my ex takes handfuls upon handfuls of them.
On the day of their competition- she had her lemon meringues- except, my ex had only eaten one. ONE. I, as a not so enthusiastic about food person, would eat at least 3. So why was he eating only one?
I had also heard he cried- but I’m not sure on the reason why.
Another member had told me he had misplaced one of his binders- but would someone have such an intense reaction?
The guy friend asked him what he had thought of me. He apparently said that I was too stubborn.
I got immediately pissed- and decided to ask him myself.
He said he never thought I was stubborn. I even asked if he was lying. He said no.
I went online to question my guy friend’s words. The way he had told me- the words he used, etc. He had also lied to me previously, about who he liked. He liked me- but I could never deal with people liking me unless it’s mutual- I feel trapped that way. So instinctly- I avoided him. He then decided to tell me “I don’t like you anymore. I like _____” He told me that he had liked other girls after that as well. He later came up to me- apologizing for his lies, and confessed to liking me the whole time. I wasn’t surprised. I could tell by his behaviors. He said he didn’t like me anymore now, “for real this time” that’s a lie.
Apparently someone in my ex’s friend group had asked him if we’d broken up. He said he confirmed it. Without even asking for permission. *eye roll*
Ahem, getting back on track- after the news, my ex that I still love started subtly (but no subtle enough) ignoring me and my entire friend group.
I decided- ok. No contact for you.
It’s been around a week now.
All was well- I tried to remain optimistic- and I felt happy.
Until we almost bumped into each other after lunch.
We both saw each other- stopped our steps and then he said “hello~” in his old charismatic loving voice.
*ahem* so what did he do here?
After slowly avoiding me- and then suddenly throwing a “hello~” into my already confused life?
A friend said he looked decently upset after the news got out.
I have gotten very confused now.
He’s irritated about talking about us- started acting weirdly after our news got out, but when just me, have a nice and normal tone?
I’m not sure how far I am in the process of getting him back.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 30, 2017 at 8:25 am
you bumped into each other, maybe it’s just his awkward response to the situation.. focus in improving yourself for now.. if he greets you again, just be polite and direct..
Elise
April 26, 2017 at 5:37 pm
We were doing long distance for 6 months, and then because he was busy with work, we decided to end the relationship. I started NC right away, and three weeks in, he sent me a private message on snapchat responding to a public story. I ignored him. Every day for the next week, he would send me a private message about my snapchat story. He would ask where I went to eat, and video links.
After NC, I texted him about something that I saw that reminded me of him. He read it right away, but didn’t respond. That night, he sent me another message through snapchat to which i didn’t respond. The next time he sent me a message through snapchat, I responded and we had a bit of a conversation but then I stopped talking to him in the middle of the conversation. The next day, he sent me another message through snapchat, and I sent him a reply through whatsapp instead, but it’s been 24 hours and he hasn’t responded to that.
Am I handling this right? Should I respond to his snapchat messages? I’m confused as to why he would send me snapchat messages and expect an answer, but when i move the messages to texting or whatsapp, he doesn’t respond. What should i do?
Elise
May 6, 2017 at 7:22 pm
It’s much of the same. He will respond to my snapchat stories, and we will go back and forth about it, but then one of us will stop replying. He’ll respond to another snapchat story the next day.
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 7, 2017 at 1:26 pm
try to initiate a conversation through pm..use a topic he always loves talking about and be the one to end the conversation at high note..check this one:
Texting An Ex Boyfriend (The New Rules)
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 29, 2017 at 8:35 pm
how is the conversation now?
Brianna
April 21, 2017 at 10:22 pm
My ex and I broke up after dating for 6 months. We were friends for about two years before dating and were kind of on and off. I have always been in love with him, and our relationship was good the last since months. We always talked about having a future together and he would always tell me I’d be the girl he marries one day. About a month ago he asked me to go away on a weekend with him and my parents are strict so they said no. That kind of upset him because he likes going and doing things. Anyway, he got over it so I thought and accepted it. I don’t think he ever got over it really. Two weeks ago he called me saying he found another job offer out of state. He already has a really good job where we are and a great future ahead. He told me he might want to take it and that nothing was holding him back besides family. He never mentioned me or the relationship. I asked him to talk about it a few times and we never did. Finally over text I said so what’s going on and he said he made his decision to take the job. We pretty much ended the relationship over text. I told him I wanted to talk in person and he agreed, but never contacted me to actually talk. It’s been 10 days and I am going crazy. Everyone says I shouldn’t contact him. I miss him and want to be with him. If he’s taking the job I understand, but I at least wanted answers and to talk about what’s going on and tell him how I feel.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 27, 2017 at 10:46 am
If you already tried and he didn’t want to talk p, it would be better to proceed to no contact rule instead
Jayce
April 20, 2017 at 12:55 am
Dated 6 months. I broke it off with him. His life was in chaos and he was needy. I tried to be very supportive and gracious and leave the door open. We got together after a month for two weeks, we really missed each other, but he was frosty. By week 2 he was pulling away. I asked him calm and friendly if he was dating or if we should start exploring other options. He said no! Next day I found him active on a dating site. My knee jerk reaction was to take a screen shot of his cover page sent it to him And simply said bye. He said what? I didn’t answer. I was so hurt that he looked me straight but n the eye and lied. NC now for 2 weeks. I’m not sure f he’s so stubborn that ll have to make a move or if he’s with someone else and I should forget about him. I think he thinks that I will walk out of his life at any given moment. But we were heading toward real love prior to this mess. What should I do after day 30. Yes I’m out living my life.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 26, 2017 at 2:03 pm
he didn’t say anything about the screenshot?
Shauna
April 11, 2017 at 4:10 am
I am on day 8 of NC, I am having a really hard time because I miss him so much. We broke up because he says not seeing me does not work for him. I have asked repeatedly to see him & I tried to make plans with him he thinks that I chose everyone else over him. I have told him let’s spend a couple hours a couple times a week together & we can figure out the weekends. He says 1-2 hours a week is not a relationship, I told not seeing each other is not a relationship either. I really do want quality time, that’s the way it was when we first started dating. Why do things change. I miss him & I am afraid I will never get to talk or see him again. I gave him my heart & love, I feel like not only did I lose my boyfriend but I lost my best friend too. I really don’t think it should be me making all the effort….Right? I did make plans for 1 Saturday he was mad & deleted me from Instagram when he saw new or with my friends. I had tried to make plans with him earlier that week & blew me off & brought up March Madness & didnt say anything about wanting to see me. So yes I did make other plans I wasn’t gonna wait around for him. I love him, & I miss him, the effort should not solely be up to me.