There is something that I want to show you.
I am actually in the process of rewriting my most popular book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO and in the process of writing it I actually came up with a new overall strategy that you should follow if you want to successfully get your ex boyfriend back.
Now, some of you who are familiar with my work know that I like making graphics to demonstrate things and it just so happens that for this new strategy that I came up with to get an ex back I created an infographic.
So, I am going to give you a quick glimpse of the into an infographic that I created with the intention of being available for only paying members,
(Psst… don’t tell on me.)
Pretty cool, huh?
Now, throughout the history of Ex Boyfriend Recovery I feel that I have done a phenomenal job of covering the following aspects of the “get your ex back” process,
But if I had to pick the one major weakness of this website it’s the fact that I don’t spend a lot of time talking about what to do when you come face to face with an ex. Now, it’s not that I don’t know how to advise people when they advance this far into the process it’s just that I felt that it was important that paying members had something extra.
Of course, since I am rewriting Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO and I see how much more is getting added to it I feel comfortable diving in to a topic that I have never covered before on this website.
The rules of going on a date with your ex!
One Thing I Want To Make Clear Before We Get Started
What I am going to talk about on this page is very advanced stuff.
In other words, if you don’t know the basics for getting an ex boyfriend back then this is definitely not the place where you should start.
Maybe, I should give you a quick crash course.
Ok, I think I am going to use my newly made infographic again to explain.
First things first, there is a very specific strategy that I teach to women who want to get an ex back. Now, some of the more observant people may have already noticed that the entire strategy is essentially summed up in the infographic above.
Let’s talk a little about the infographic first.
There are four basic levels to my strategy.
And within each of those levels are two stages.
This entire page focuses on level 4. Basically how to handle every important in person interaction you will be having with your ex boyfriend. But just because that’s all this page focuses on doesn’t mean that you can ignore levels 1 – 3.
In fact, I would say that one of the biggest mistakes that I see people making is moving too fast too soon.
I actually talked about that in my latest video,
For example, lets say that you were to try out my strategy and you start at the beginning.
And lets say that you do well in level 1.
You clear stages 1 – 2 within level 1 and you are ready to move on. What most people tend to do is they jump from level 1 to level 4 essentially skipping over two very important levels.
That’s a HUGE mistake.
This strategy is set up in a way that assumes you won’t skip over levels.
Therefore, what I am trying to say here is that while this article talks about level 4 exclusively you have to have the first three levels completed before you can implement anything here. That’s why I recommend you pick up one of my books,
Or simply read the in-depth articles on this website to gain a clear understanding of how to navigate levels 1 – 3 before you attempt anything I am about to teach you here.
I realize that it’s going to be very tempting because what I talk about on this page is probably going to revolutionize the way you look at dating for the rest of your life and you are going to be eager to try some of the strategies out but only do so on your ex boyfriend if you have passed levels 1 – 3.
The Purpose Of The Three Date Strategy
Before I talk about the three date strategy I think it’s important if I explain the ultimate purpose of going on a date with your ex boyfriend.
I hate to sound like a broken record but I want you to take a look at level 4 of our strategy on the infographic below,
What is the ultimate goal of any in person interaction with your ex boyfriend according to this graphic?
To succeed, right?
To get him back.
And that’s the assumption we are going to be operating under. We are going to be positing you to get your ex boyfriend back on every single date you go on.
And that’s where the three date strategy comes into play.
What Is The Three Date Strategy?
I don’t know why but a lot of women seem to be under the impression that it’s going to take one date with their ex boyfriends to convince them to be in a relationship again.
This rarely every works.
Instead, it will probably take three dates and sometimes even more than that.
But what’s the game plan for these three dates?
What should you accomplish during them?
What should you wear?
What should you say?
Geez… you sure have a lot of questions.
Look, I promise you that I am going to answer ALL of those questions but first a story.
Well… perhaps that isn’t accurate. This is more like a role play.
Lets say that you had a blind date with a guy tomorrow. Now, it’s been a while since you have lasted dated so you are very excited for this blind date. You get all dressed up and looking perfect and then finally the moment is here. You arrive at the restaurant where the blind date is supposed to go down and are greeted by a very handsome man.
Hell, this guy isn’t just handsome.
The type of guy that you have always dreamed about (looks wise.)
You find yourself picturing a future with him…
And that’s when it happens.
He gets down on one knee and proposes to you.
Would you say yes?
Bear in mind, this is the first time you have ever met him in your life.
In order for you to say yes to a marriage proposal you will have to know him on a deep level and will have to have at least dated him for a few months.
And yet… time after time I witness women essentially doing this to their ex boyfriends except instead of marriage it’s forcing a relationship on him. Look, convincing an ex boyfriend to get back into a relationship with you isn’t going to happen overnight and it isn’t going to be necessarily easy.
Hell, I would say that it’s going to be hard which is why you can’t expect to accomplish it completely on one date.
Instead, I want you to go on three dates and slowly build up to it.
Just like my marriage analogy.
It takes time to get a yes to a marriage proposal.
Same principle here.
It takes time to get a yes to a relationship proposal.
What Are The Three Dates?
I want you to take a good look at the graphic below,
Notice anything interesting?
(Besides the fact at how poor of an artist I am.)
Well, first off the three dates I keep going on and on about are,
- The Small Date
- The Medium Date
- The Romantic Date
But that’s not the most interesting part. Instead, the most interesting part is that there are two arrows revolving around the “romantic date.” This was done on purpose by me because… well, I will get to that in a second. First things first, lets talk about the three dates.
The Small Date
The idea behind the three dates strategy is that you are starting off slow and then building up attraction very gradually. The analogy I like to use is kind of like when you are boiling a pot of water. You put the pot of water on the stove and then you turn the fire on.
Does it start boiling immediately?
No, it takes a few minutes and slowly but surely the water gets hotter until it reaches the point of boiling.
Same principle here.
While our main goal may be getting your ex boyfriend back that isn’t until later. For now, we are just trying to “heat the water” up. Once the water boils that’s when you sill strike.
That’s why this date is called “the small date.”
Your main goal here is to plant the seeds for a future date.
To remain memorable.
To have him walk away from the date thinking,
“Man, I really want to see her again.”
And there are a TON of ways to do this. But first, lets talk about location. Where should the small date be held?
A few days ago I recorded a podcast episode where one of the visitors to Ex Boyfriend Recovery asked a pretty simple question.
“What should I do on a date with him? Do I ask him to hang out?”
And in that episode I explained the premise of the three dates and how you want to gradually build attraction throughout these three dates. But I think deep down she already knew that. The question I really wanted to answer was when she asked,
“When I see him in person do I ask permission to hang out?”
I thought my answer to her perfectly summed up what a “small date” would look like. You see, I told her that she should never ask permission. She should just put him in a position where they are hanging out.
I gave her an example.
Starbucks is an ideal location for a small date. Why? Because of these things,
Seriously, Starbucks is known for having a ton of comfortable chairs and couches throughout their locations.
So, let me give you some background on her situation.
Her ex had contacted her about returning a record that she had left over his house after the no contact rule was completed. So, the two of them set a date up a week ahead of time so she could get the record back but she was panicking because she didn’t really know how to approach the situation.
Luckily for her… I did!
The fix was easy and would require a bit of initiate on her side.
Here is what she should do.
She should tell him to meet her at Starbucks and set a specific time in the middle of the day.
Let’s say 2:30 PM.
Here is the thing though.
Instead of her showing up at 2:30 on the dot she should show up 30 – 45 minutes early and make her way inside of Starbucks and sit at a table or couch where there is enough room for both of them to talk. You see, men are cowards when it comes to dates and since her date is predicated around her ex returning a record that she owns to her I have a feeling that he would take the cowards way out and just give her the record in the parking lot of Starbucks as opposed to actually sitting down and having a conversation with her after he returned the record.
So, her showing up early and sitting in Starbucks will force him to come inside, sit down, give her the record and then talk.
Which is what she wants.
She wants to talk to her ex boyfriend.
To interest him…
Keep him engaged and then just when he starts enjoying her company she needs to end the date prematurely.
Why Should She End The Date Prematurely?
Have you ever heard of something called “The Zeigarnik Effect?”
Well, back in the day there was a Russian soviet scientist who went by the name of Bluma Wulfovna Zeigarnik. She was actually the one who discovered “The Zeigarnik Effect.”
So, what is it?
It states that people people remember uncompleted or interrupted tasks better than completed tasks.
In other words, if you sit through an entire date with your ex boyfriend and wait until the conversation fades to end the date he is less likely to remember the entirety of the date when compared to you ending the date prematurely.
Man that was a mouthful and I am not even sure that made sense to me.
Ok, lets dumb this down for the mere mortals of the world like us.
What does Hollywood do better than anyone?
Tell stories, right?
They tell stories through television shows, movies and even streaming services.
Speaking of television shows.
Did you know that they are the undisputed king of utilizing “The Zeignarik Effect?”
What’s the biggest difference between television shows and movies?
Well, movies tell a story to you in about two hours.
They tell stories to you in the course of 10 to 22 hours.
Seriously, take one of the best shows of all time, Game of Thrones.
Each season has about ten episodes of about an hour.
That’s ten hours!
I have never even heard of a movie lasting that long.
But that’s why it’s essential for a TV show to capture an audiences attention. You will notice that every single TV show episode ends on a cliffhanger. A moment that literally makes you think,
“I have to find out what happens next!”
And then the episode ends.
TV shows have to do that to make you remember.
*Psst… in case you didn’t notice a cliffhanger is essentially an uncompleted task.)
Why do TV shows have to do this?
Well, because there is generally a week long wait before the next episode airs and the creators of the TV shows have found that the best way to make you remember to tune in the next week is to utilize “The Zeignarik Effect.”
So, that’s why you should end your date with your ex boyfriend prematurely.
It’s going to raise the chances that he is going to remember you.
Don’t believe me?
Well, then perhaps it’s time for me to tell you a little bit about the worst date I have ever been on in my life.
The Worst Date I Have Ever Been On
I have been on a lot of bad dates in my life.
Here’s a list of some of the more interesting experiences I have had to endure,
- I broke my foot on a date…
- I didn’t have enough money to pay for a movie ticket for a date once… (The movie sucked anyways)
- I once got roped into doing a double date with an alcoholic…
- I spent my entire paycheck when I was a waiter on a date to impress my then girlfriend (and then I broke up with her a week later)
But the truth is that look back on those dates as funny stories to tell.
They don’t even compare to the story I am about to tell you.
It’s funny… I actually thought about this date today because my wife and I were actually trying to get our pediatrician to call in a prescription for our daughter and they kept saying that they did it when they really didn’t.
Yup, I would keep calling CVS Pharmacy to verify that the medicine had been called in and they kept saying,
“I am sorry sir… we haven’t gotten anything.”
And then I would call the pediatricians office to get them to call it in again and they wouldn’t answer.
Quite a morning a the Seiter household.
It got to the point where I got so angry with our pediatrician (we are leaving them) that I drove up there and forced them to call the medicine in, in front of me.
The whole thing was a massive waste of time.
There is nothing I hate more than having my time wasted.
Which leads me to my point.
The worst date I have ever been on was a never ending date. Seriously, I met this girl up at a restaurant at noon and I essentially spent the entire day with her.
I didn’t want to…
Seriously… any time I would tell her that I had to go she would just keep talking and ignore me.
Eventually it got to the point where I had to tell her,
“I HAVE TO GO!”
Now, I liked her fine at the beginning of the date and if she had ended it prematurely I may have wanted to see her again but when the date just kept dragging on and on I literally lost any attraction I had towards her.
The Medium Date
So, before I get into the specifics of the “medium date” I want to reiterate that the whole point of doing this “three date” method is to SLOWLY rebuild attraction.
Thus, every new date that you go on is going to slowly ratchet up the attraction.
I want you to imagine a graph that is going upwards slowly by slowly.
This is supposed to represent a visual of his feelings.
It’s also supposed to represent a visual of the level of “attraction intensity” that you want on your dates.
Let’s say that the attraction intensity on the first date was here,
Well, if we hold true to the “three date method” and slowly building attraction up over the course of the three dates then that means you want the “medium date” to be right around here,
But what does that date actually look like?
Where do you go?
What do you do?
What are you supposed to accomplish?
These are all very good questions that I am going to be answering in this section.
Let’s start with what your main goal is during the medium date.
What You Are Trying To Accomplish On The Medium Date
Simple, you are trying to rebuild attraction and make him want another date with you.
In other words, you have the same exact goal as you had on the small date.
Here’s where it gets tricky though, you can’t be too romantic on this date.
So, you have to build attraction without it being too threatening.
After all, this isn’t meant to be the uber romantic date that we are going to talk about next.
How do you do this?
How can you build attraction in your ex without it being too romantic?
I want you to take your ex boyfriend on a fun date.
That leads me to my next point.
Where Do You Go On The Date?
If you actually go back in time to this article you will notice that I actually recommended that you go on a date with a group of people during your medium date. The idea here is that it creates an un-threatening vibe and opens your ex up to having fun.
And after a few more years of coaching and advising under my belt I still think this is the smartest thing to do.
In my opinion, to convince a man to go on a romantic date with you (which is where the heavy lifting is really going to occur) you are going to have to get him to jump through a few hoops.
What are these hoops?
The two non-threatening dates.
But the big difference between the first date and the second date is the venue.
A coffee shop meet up during the day is non threatening in and of itself.
A medium date at night revolving around fun can border on romantic depending on the activity.
So, to “dumb down” the romantic vibe all you need to do is invite a group of people.
This group will serve as a buffer between him feeling like you are going too fast too soon which is a HUGE problem that the women on this website have.
Now, I am not going to lie to you.
Getting a group of people together is difficult.
Well, you can’t invite a bunch of your friends because your ex will feel threatened by that.
Also, you can’t invite a singular couple that you know because that will scream DOUBLE DATE.
Instead, you want to have a healthy mix of men and women going on this fun date.
The activity has to be fun.
Here are a few of my favorite examples,
- Laser Tag
- Beach Day
- Sporting Event (Baseball Game Is Preferred)
- Mini Golf
- Pool Party
All of these are super fun and they are conducive to big groups.
What Do You Do If You Get Him To Go On “The Group Date?”
It’s really that simple.
I want you to take off the “Ex Boyfriend Recovery” goggles for a second and allow yourself to be “in the moment.”
Just have fun.
The attraction part will take care of itself if you do that.
One of the biggest issues for women trying to get their exes back that I have found is the fact that they get so uptight and focus on the technical aspects of “building attraction” that they end up achieving the opposite effect.
Sometimes the smart thing to do is to throw the rules out the window and just see where things take you.
As long as you show him a good time and you are having a good time the attraction part will take care of itself, trust me.
But Chris… Do We Still End The Date Prematurely?
I am going to be honest with you.
The politically correct answer is YES.
BUT there is an external factor that you have to take into account.
Where you had the date.
Let’s say that you gathered a huge group of friends for a pool party over at your friend Lisa’s house and you managed to get your ex boyfriend to attend. If you end the date prematurely and he doesn’t go home when you go home then you run the risk of him meeting another girl at this pool party and falling for her.
We definitely don’t want that.
But at the same time you aren’t going to leave him wanting more if you stick around by his side the entire time while you are at the party.
So, what this really boils down to is the fact that where you have your date is IMPORTANT.
Ideally you don’t want to pick a date that isn’t going to last all day.
For example, a pool party or a beach day is probably going to last into the night.
Whereas bowling and laser tag are activities that are fun but won’t last super long. This will allow you to end the date prematurely without feeling threatened by another woman that may be on the group date with you.
The Romantic Date
The romantic date is without a doubt the most important date out of all three dates we are talking about on this page because it’s going to be the actual date where you are going to be going in for the kill.
Going For The Kill = Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back
Now, if you recall my cool little graphic above you would recall that the romantic date part of the graphic had a strange circle,
I assure you that this wasn’t a design flaw on my part (even though I will admit that it looks very crappy.)
No, this is actually done on purpose because it’s supposed to represent a repeat cycle.
Thus far we have talked about three dates,
- The Small One
- The Medium One
- The Romantic One
The idea behind these three dates is that each one ups the ante.
It creates this “attraction funnel” that you put your ex through and hopefully by the end of it he is willing to re-enter a relationship with you.
Now, lets assume that you have made it as far as the romantic date portion of our little funnel.
In a perfect world your ex boyfriend would be willing to get back into a relationship with you again at the end of that romantic date.
But we don’t live in a perfect world now do we?
Nope, most of the time we live in an imperfect world.
I have found that most of the time one huge romantic date isn’t enough.
Sometimes it takes multiple romantic dates.
That’s where that endless cycle of romantic dates comes into play.
I want you to go into each and every romantic date with your ex boyfriend with a mindset of getting him back but if it doesn’t happen at the end of the romantic date then I want you to repeat the process over again in a few days.
The idea is to keep putting him in a position where he will have an opportunity to ask you to be his girlfriend again (more on that in a second.)
However, after three romantic dates I want you to hit the pause button.
What do I mean by pause button?
I want you to go into a mini no contact period again for a total of 3 days.
That’s it… It’s as simple as that.
So, here is what this looks like,
Notice how you put your plans on pause after he hasn’t asked you after the third romantic date?
The idea behind doing this is actually to make your ex think,
“Where did she go? Is she over me? What happened?”
Common sense dictates that if any man is willing to go on three romantic dates with you that he has some type of feelings for you and by putting the breaks on by pausing you are attempting to shock him into the reality of the situation.
The Reality = HE LIKES YOU!
Now, one of the biggest debates on Ex Boyfriend Recovery is around whether or not YOU should ask your ex boyfriend back during these dates so you don’t get caught in a situation where you have to “pause.”
Should You Ask Your Ex Boyfriend To Be In A Relationship With You Again While On A Romantic Date?
As much as I hate to say this I think there really is no right answer when it comes to this.
In fact, I talked about this extensively in an article about “the ask” on this website.
So, rather than give you a lecture about the right’s and wrongs of asking an ex out yourself I am just going to tell you what I know.
Having Him Ask You To Be In A Relationship Again > You Asking To Be In A Relationship Again
This is always going to be preferred. Thus, everything you do should be geared towards making this outcome a reality and the method above that I just “graphed” for you is the best way I have found.
FYI: I consulted my wife on this and we both agreed that pausing after a while is the best way to shock a man into doing what you want.
Does that sound manipulative?
I plead the fifth on that one.
Let’s move on to some of the funner aspects of going on a date with your ex.
What You Should Wear On Your Three Dates?
Last week my wife did her very first video for Ex Boyfriend Recovery,
And it was all about what to wear on a date with your ex boyfriend.
I have to say, I have never been more proud of her.
Easy, because she tackled a subject that I didn’t even think to tackle before. You see, one thing that I am really good about when it comes to advising people to get their ex back is the big picture.
I am great with coming up the overall plan for getting an ex back but little technical details like,
- What to wear
- How your hair should look
Always seem to escape me.
Luckily, my weakness is my wife’s strength which is why she did the video you see above.
Of course, if you are too lazy to watch the video allow me to sum up our findings about what kind of clothes to wear on your date.
The THREE Big Colors
Here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery we recommend that you wear three different colors on a date with your ex.
Why these three colors?
Easy, subconsciously colors make men feel different things.
Lets take a moment and go down the list,
Red (We Recommend This The Most)
Red actually represents passion. This is something that you definitely want your ex to feel when he sees you.
You want him daydreaming about you… Sexually.
And a sexy red outfit can do that for you.
For example, our research taught us that waitresses in France would often wear red because they knew they would get higher tips, as much as 20%. In other words, men who would come to the restaurant would see them in red, fantasize about them and tip them well as a result.
Now, some of you may be sitting there wondering,
“But if he daydreams about me sexually won’t that be all he is after?”
Is there really anything wrong with that?
At first anyway?
Think of it like this.
Currently you and your ex are broken up and he wants nothing to do with you.
If wearing a sexy red outfit makes him think about having sex with you won’t that put you in a better position in your effort of getting him back than you were in when you first started?
I can tell you that as a relationship consultant I would rather have a client whose ex wants to sleep with her as opposed to a client whose ex wants nothing to do with her.
Now, where women often find themselves in trouble is when they actually do sleep with their ex.
WE DO NOT RECOMMEND THAT YOU SLEEP WITH YOUR EX.
Not until he commits to you.
Let’s move on to our next color.
Blue (Trust Issues Or Cheating)
Here’s a fun fact about about blue.
Advertisers have poured millions of dollars into research on the best color that will make people buy their products. Do you want to know what they found about blue?
Baby blue in particular,
Apparently this color is supposed to ooze trust and innocence.
Especially online where people are often afraid of being a victim of a scam baby blue is used to calm those fears.
Hell, even Ex Boyfriend Recoveries logo is blue,
Why did I pick that logo?
Funny story, it actually wasn’t because I wanted you to trust me more. Originally my old logo was red. It’s just that I am not exactly the most feminine when it comes to design so when I was redesigning the site I wanted something that spoke to women more and a blue look like this would do that I felt.
Anyways, we recommend that you wear blue on a date only if you want your ex boyfriend to trust you more.
Consider this, politicians are often seen in blue because they want you to trust them more.
So, wearing blue on a date is ideal for situations where trust was an issue throughout your relationship.
Cheating especially comes to mind here.
If you cheated on your ex then you definitely want to be seen in blue a lot.
You need every edge you can get.
Let’s move on to our final color, Black!
I have never been one to play it safe on this site.
If I think something I am going to tell you even if that puts me at odds with people.
So, here it goes.
If you are overweight then you probably need to wear black.
Research has proven that black makes your figure look better.
In other words, you go from this,
Ok, maybe it doesn’t work to that extreme BUT research has proven that it will make you look skinnier.
So, if you didn’t lose those 15lbs you were meaning to lose during the no contact rule then black is probably the way to go. Of course, black also has an added bonus.
It is often associated with sophistication, power and strength.
So maybe if you were looked at as weak in your relationship black is the perfect color for you. We also recommend wearing black if you begged for your ex back in an extreme manner.
Colors Have Different Cultural Meanings
Without a doubt most of the visitors who come to Ex Boyfriend Recovery are from the United States or the United Kingdom!
But close behind those two countries is the rest of the world,
- You get the idea
Therefore, a huge portion of the audience that I have here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery is from around the world.
Do you have any idea what different colors mean around the world?
Well, I can tell you that red, for example, doesn’t mean passion in Egypt.
Nope, red is often associated with DEATH.
Now, I don’t know about you but I don’t think that death is something that you want to be displaying on a date with your ex. Luckily for you, I happened to stumble across an amazing resource,
Using this chart you should be able to pin down exactly where you stand if you are from a different part of the world.
Oh, and you can even use this chart if you are from the UK or the US but you are dating someone who may not be from the UK or US originally. For example, I had a girl from the United States last week ask one of my assistants what she could do to get her ex boyfriend back if he was overseas in France.
Let’s assume that this girl managed to set up a date with her ex who lives in France. What color should she wear?
Let’s look at what our chart says about France?
Hmm… aristocracy basically means that you are high class and this is something you definitely want to wear if you want to present a sophisticated vibe. But remember, we want an ex to feel passionate about you and I am not so sure aristocracy is going to do that.
Red is good but let’s see if we can find something better.
Freedom and peace…
Eh, he could take that as meaning that you want to be free of him forever which is definitely not a vibe that you want him to get from you.
No way, next.
Fertility and strength…
Hmm… fertility and passion kind of go hand in hand. After all, fertility is defined as the ability to conceive children. There is also an alternate definition where fertility means young so there is that.
Red and green are the best colors I have seen so far.
Let’s see if we can find something better.
Freedom and peace…
Ya… that’s not what we are going for at all. As far as I know there isn’t any cheating involved in this situation. If there was then I can see a case being made for blue.
Freedom and peace again…
Apparently black means nothing in France haha.
Again, this doesn’t trump red or green for me.
So, according to the chart this woman should wear either red or green if she wants the maximum result. Let’s see if I can find something that I think would work on a man to give you a good idea of the proper way to color coordinate.
For red I think this would work,
And for green I think this would work,
FYI I checked with my wife to make sure I wasn’t giving you bad dress options.
Something You Never Knew About Men And Hair
In addition to doing a video on what to wear on a date my wife also did a series on how to wear your hair on a date.
She specifically talked about hair extensions.
Now, I am going to be the first to admit that I don’t know anything about hair extensions.
Luckily for you, my wife does.
But when it comes to hair and men I know quite a bit (since I am a man.)
So, let’s settle the age old debate once and for all.
Short Hair Vs. Long Hair (What Do Men Prefer?)
I want you to take a look at these two pictures,
Now, I think everyone can agree that Jennifer Lawrence is an attractive woman.
But let’s pretend that I got 100 men into a room and showed them the picture above of her.
After showing them the picture I would ask one simple question,
Which version of Jennifer Lawrence do you find more attractive?
What do you think the vast majority of them would say?
Well, it is my personal belief that most men would prefer the long haired Jennifer Lawrence over the short haired Jennifer Lawrence.
Well, I have a few theories as two why.
Theory #1 = Society Throws Long Haired Women In Our Faces On A Daily Basis
I did a test.
I went to Google Images and typed in,
And you won’t believe what came up,
Lot’s of beautiful women.
I took a screenshot so you could see.
In my screenshot I counted a total of 60 pictures.
Do you care to take a guess at how many women with short hair were pictured?
3 out of 60 = 5%
In other words, Google Images is basically saying that 95% of women who are considered beautiful have long hair.
Now, it doesn’t take a genius to realize that most advertisers are going to use a long haired woman to appeal to a man because they know that men find them more attractive as opposed to short haired women.
Why is short hair considered unattractive to men?
Theory #2 = The “His Mom” Effect
What if I told you that every time your ex boyfriend meets a girl with short hair he immediately thinks about his mom.
Well, that’s what I think honestly happens.
Now, I love my own mother (who has short hair) more than anything but there is not ever a universe where I would date someone that reminded me of her.
That’s just too weird.
In addition to that I noticed that a lot of women who are older tend to go with shorter hair.
I don’t know why. Maybe it’s a big “F*ck You” to society but what I do know is that most men aren’t going to be as attracted to a woman with short hair.