We did texting all throughout the day, and then after she would be done with work, she would call me every single day and every once in a while she wouldn’t call me after work and I remember it drove me nuts because I was like, I had gotten to this routine of she’s going to call me right at 5 pm. I was at central time zone and she was in eastern. So, I was like right at 4 pm, she’s going to call me and then the call would come–I remember I was pacing really angrily, like stupid now that I think about it, 3 years later but again at that time, it was such a big deal to me to have her call me. So, but yeah, essentially we used to talk for usually like an hour to every single and then we just end the conversation to go to bed pretty early and I always stayed up super, super late but I remember eventually we kind of figured out that we wanted to give it a try and I decided that I would move to her because I can do what I do what I do basically anywere as long as long as I have an internet connection and then a laptop. So, I remember I moved there but I remember the whole month leading up to it I was a nervous wreck because I had always lived with someone like my parents at that time. So, it was like such a shell shock. I was going to this place where I didn’t really know anyone except her. There was no guarantee that it would work out. Luckily it did but I just remember I was a nervous wreck and I remember it was so weird because we moved in together, we figured ok, let’s just give this a try. It was kind of like they don’t recommend it but just going into the hornets nest, we’re just going to live together right off the bat and so, it was so weird for me because we didn’t have furniture other than a desk for me to work at with my iMac. I mean we have like a tv too but I just remember like going grocery shopping for the first time and I remember like literally eating in the apartment on a towel. I made macaroni and cheese and watching HBO or something on the floor and I was just like this is really, really bizarre, like so much drastically different than I what I was used to. My parent’s house which a house that had like furniture. We just have like a bed and some other little stuff but we didn’t have a couch or anything. It was a shell shock for me. So actually for me the hardest part when we actually sort of getting used to that. It wasn’t so much the relationship long distance for me, it was actually living together. Trying to navigate that. I found that to be a little bit more difficult but it’s interesting to hear that you’re kind of in the similar situation. Although I’m sure you’re not going to, it seems like you’re probably a little bit more practiced at stuff like that. It seems like you’ve been relationships before where you’ve lived with people. I’ve never done that before. I imagine it won’t work out as shell shocking as it was for me but who knows, it is something that you have to take into account.
Jean
December 15, 2017 at 9:35 pm
How or where can we have a look at Tia’s article you guys were talking about here? Or do we have to sign up for the FB group?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 19, 2017 at 6:35 pm
Hi Jean,
here it is:
What To Text Your Ex After A Breakup (And How To Incorporate Social Media)