Learn When The No Contact Rule Won't Work On Your Ex

748 thoughts on “When NOT To Use The No Contact Rule On Your Ex Boyfriend”

Laura

August 21, 2017 at 2:39 am

So my bf of a yr and I have been separated about a month now. We were long distance for a few months then moved in together. Shortly after I moved in I got pregnant and I’m about 5 months along. We didn’t have the easiest relationship but I care about him and want to make it work for the baby if possible. He started drinking really heavily again and has really bad anxiety. I didn’t agree with him smokeing around me and we argued about it so he kicked me out. We have been in contact and he has been nice but still blames me for his behavior. One week he said he missed me and he even asked if we could talk over the phone and we did. Few days go by I hear nothing so I ask him if we can talk because I wanted to know what we were doing about our situation and the baby. His last words to me he doesn’t like me and he could care less about the baby. I don’t know if this is something he’s going through or it’s done. So I have been doing the NC for a couple of days now. I said what I needed to say in a nice manner and told him I didn’t need a response. I’d like him to step up and be responsible but I don’t know what to do at this point.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 22, 2017 at 9:26 pm

Hi Laura
check this one:Here’s How To Get Your “Baby Daddy” Back

Maria

August 16, 2017 at 8:22 am

Hello! My name is Maria and i’ve dated my ex boyfriend for 10 months. We broke up about a month and a half ago. I failed the no contact rule after 10 days and then I started it again.
He texted me after 2 weeks after i failed the NC and we talked for an hour. He asked me if i want my cat back and then he seemed kind of interested in what I have been doing (he asked about some major events in my life). Last week was his birthday and i wished him all the best and we talked to each other for 3 hours. I tried to shut the conversation twice but he wanted it to continue. He told me he applied to a new job and that he wanted to get his driver license (one of the reasons our relationship ended was the fact that I told him that he is wasting his time on meaningless activities and don’t want him to be a loser. I know, I screwed up).
After 2 days I contacted him again because he posted something on his Facebook profile and it reminded me of something that we shared together. That day he told me that he didn’t eat anything that we used to eat together since “that moment” (he couldn’t/wouldn’t say “break up”).
He didn’t delete our pictures on Facebook even though he deleted some pictures with other persons. He also responds positively whenever we talk. At the same time, he has always stated that he wouldn’t get back together with any ex girl friend.
I really love him and I want him back but I think that he might be over me or he is trying to get over me. I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to be pushy and needy but I’m afraid I’ll lose him. I know I failed the NC but I couldn’t stop talking to him. What should I do now? Repeat the NC? What if he is over me by time I will have finished the NC? Is he just polite when we are talking (I contacted him three times since the breakup and he contacted me once)? Is there any chance we will get back together? Please, help us.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 16, 2017 at 10:40 am

Hi Maria

check this one:
Your Worst Nightmares During The No Contact Rule

Meggy

August 14, 2017 at 7:44 am

I really need advice!
My ex and i have been in a relationship for over 2 years. We were perfect together, each other’s first loves, first kisses, first dates and everything. But i always argued with him, didn’t appreciate what he had done for me and whenever we argue i felt he’s getting farther from me. And around May, he initiated a breakup but i said i would change and we worked out things. But in July, i also got emotional and started argument and we didn’t talk to each other for 9 days and after that he suddenly cleared his nickname from FB messenger and deleted the pictures from FB and changed his password. I begged him again and again. But he said very hurting words to me and kept saying no. And I agreed with him and he said if he misses me he’ll come back to me no matter when it is. But I went to his home after a couple of days and begged again. He was really angry at first but after talking a bit he was just like when we were dating, he was smiling and hugged me tightly. And I begged to have sex (we didn’t do it before) but he refused and he said you would cry and regret it. But he agreed anyways. And after doing that i begged again but he still said no. So that night, which was July 17th i wrote to him saying i will wait for you, but now i’m agreeing to breakup. He said i was still his first love and the most beautiful girl in the world, and if he misses me he will come back. And after a few days, we met up to get some documents from him, and he was different, he was no longer angry but was smiling and kind to me. He said he won’t look for other girls and although he knew i was logging into his icloud account, he won’t change his password and he still didn’t change it. And i asked him to kiss and he kindly refused, he said no we can’t. But we kissed. He said he was in a hurry, but i begged him to stay a bit but his mum called and get angry with him and asked where he is. After that he got annoyed. We almost didn’t talk or chat with each other. But he kept seeing my instagram story while not seeing his friends’ (i knew his password and he didn’t) he even seeing his chat with me on messenger. But suddenly he stopped seeing my story but saw his friends’. He also searched for some famous girls’ instagram. And yesterday i felt bad because i was the only one who knew his password and changed it back to his old password. In a minute he changed the password to something i don’t know and deleted all pictures with me that he didn’t delete before. I don’t know whether he got angry because i kept changing his password. I sent him a chat saying i’m changing for good and thanked him for breaking up with me because if he didn’t, i couldn’t have changed my behaviour and giving my a chance to start everything freshly and i also said i’m waiting for you not to get back together but to start everything from zero, when we got shy because of each other. He has seen the message but not replying.
What should I do from now on? Do i still have a chance to get him back? I’m planning to write to him in around second week of September with some messaging saying our old happy memories. Please give me some advice. Thank you!

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 14, 2017 at 8:57 pm

Hi Meggy,

Check this one:
Does Begging For Your Ex Back Even Work?

jody

August 2, 2017 at 9:11 pm

sheesh I screwed up! We had plans for the weekend. Weekend came and he didn’t call to reschedule or make plans. I texted and he said he was busy and would be late. I said should I take this as you don’t want to see me, not sure why you could not tell me. It went to a whole new level. I got a ‘Its not you its me text”. Panic mode struck and I sent and email stressing my concern and asking for him to to call me to discuss this and give me some closure. Next email, yes I said next, I offered to work things out go to counseling even go to church for counseling. No response. Called and left voicemail asking him to call so we could discuss, I’m still confused. . This literally came out of the blue. we were great just a few days before and had made plans for the weekend. Well now guess what another email. this one a little different. I told him his mom would not approve of his behavior, this was an inside joke of course, also told him karma is a bitch and he should have been the one who told me. I had someone tell me he was seeing someone else and no proof. He read the first two emails twice and this last one 3 times. I think shit was getting to real for him. We had no problems.. He said due to his divorce and how is ex was he has fear. We had been talking about future things regularly. I have started NC today. So what should I do, anything that you tell me to do is appreciated.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 5, 2017 at 6:59 pm

Hi Jody,

Check this one:
Get Your Boyfriend Back After A Fight

Jayla

July 23, 2017 at 10:19 pm

What if my ex is depressed? I didn’t realize it before because of my own issues but he started posting some really dark things and of course this led me to break my NC after two weeks to see if he’s okay. It took him 6 days to respond to my message and in his message he apologized for responding so late. I’m confused because why respond to a message 6 days later? Why not just start a new conversation? I didn’t respond and he sent another message the next day which was just a hey message and I responded after contemplating for hours. He was very interested in how I am and what I had been doing and he seemed impressed by my changes but when I asked how he was he disappeared again. I know I failed but I’m concerned that if I ignore him he’ll get more depressed. Should I try NC again? Or did I mess up too much?

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 25, 2017 at 5:33 pm

Hi Jayla,

if he really wanted to talk to you, wouldn’t he be initiating more when you already opened the doors for him to do so? If he’s suicidal, contact his parents or friends close to him so he can get professional help.

fateme

July 17, 2017 at 10:36 am

Hi Chris
I recently told my ex that i don’t want to talk to him for sometime and started the NC. Did I make a mistake? should i not tell him?

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 18, 2017 at 9:18 pm

a little.. did you tell how long you will not be contacting him?

Sarah

July 4, 2017 at 9:32 am

Hi, I am in a bad way at the moment and I need some clarity in my current situation. My LDR with my boyfriend ended 2 days ago, he broke up with me because he said he doesn’t love me the same way as he once did any more.

Last year he split up with me on holidays and after a month in the NC rule he wanted to meet up with me and show me how wrong he was. I gave him another chance and things were going so well until the last couple of weeks. He dropped a bombshell that he wanted to Persue an opportunity to go to the USA for a few years but after me offering to go with him he said he needed to do it by himself that it was his experience and didn’t want me with him. He also said that he wouldn’t make as much effort as he put in when I was abroad and that being with me in a LDRcould hinder him of potentially dating in the USA. After that he apologised and said he was committed to us and when I arrived to see him and spent a few days with him all seemed like it was going well.

When I flew home I didn’t hear from him and he was quite angry. He told me he doesn’t feel the same way anymore like he did 3 years ago and this oppertinity he may or may not get has made him think more seriously as to what he wants. He asked if I could spend the summer with him to see if his feelings could come back and I said no because it felt like a trial. Since then he has text me wondering if I’ve blocked him off social media and why I’m not texting him. He also screenshotted a joke about a conversation me and my friend were talking about dating texting me “nice to see you’ve moved on quickly”.

I have a lot of my stuff left in his house and I’m moving over next week to a different part of the country and am collecting my things but he wants to see me before I go for “closure”. I really need some advice or some voice of reason because its twice in a year he has done this and all I want to do is block him and not talk to him but part of me wants to talk to him and all we’ve talked about was how sad it is that it’s over but he’s making it seem like it’s my fault for not agreeing to his solution

I need some advice as what to do next. 3 years I’ve waited to be with him properly and now with a week before I was supposed to move over to him he broke up with me.

What do I do?

Sarah

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 5, 2017 at 4:28 pm

Check this one:
What Do I Do Or Say To Get My Ex Back Into A Committed Relationship?

Verity

July 3, 2017 at 9:35 am

Hi wondering if you could answer a couple of questions for me . I have bought the book and it’s very insightful but I’m struggling with friends own and a new girlfriend at the same time . We were together a year and a half , we loved each other so much. I have jealousy and abandonment issues ( which I am currently dealing with through meetings) and he has issues due to his dad abandoning him . But despite this we had a good relationship I would have the odd jealous outburst but we got through it . This is the second time we have split. When we split he love me,he didn’t know what to do. After three weeks of me pushing him away telling to leave me alone , and him pushing me and pushing me . He became a bit more distant . After four weeks she came over and we slept together. I didn’t know about the new friend at the time. So we has a new friend. He has been spending a lot of time with her for the last five weeks or so. And I found out about her I went mad assumed it was his girlfriend and I messaged her to say I’ve slept with him and that he was playing us off each other . Nothing came of this , told me they were just friends I never trust him and he just couldn’t do it anymore The big part of him thought we should move on , but he still loved me . A week ago the new friend was on holiday and me and him had a night out together. We have a lot of mutual friends and we go to the same pub. I moved on from the pub and he became very depressed crying to me about his dad and other issues but we didn’t talk of the relationship . He message me in the week to ask how my meetings were going. I gave him very limited response. Yesterday I was at the pub and he turned up with his new friend. I was sat with his best friend and they came over to our table I handled situation well and after I finish my drink said I was leaving . I’m scared he’s trying to friends zone me. And he is not officially with this new girl yet. My questions are, do I continue no contact, do stop going to the pub where all our best friends go and some live there, or do I try and get him back before he gets with the new friend. No begging has taken place on my part, but I have tried twice to talk to him about what we should do, to which you just said I really don’t know. Please can you advise me on what to do in this situation. Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 5, 2017 at 4:01 pm

Hi Verity,

Restart nc, if you can avoid the pub for now do so.. Focus in improving yourself

Jane

June 30, 2017 at 4:17 am

HELP!!!! I’m ten days into NC. My ex has been a text gnat in a good way, everyday! He has said he misses me and that it’s hard not to message me because I’m always on his mind. I know he loves me and is attracted to me but I think he just wants to be friends. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 30, 2017 at 4:45 pm

Continue nc until 30 days

Jessica

June 30, 2017 at 2:17 am

I hurt my boyfriend by telling him I still liked an old high school crush when I first got into a relationship with him. My boyfriend X is my first, I never meant to hurt him and I thought I was being truthful to him. Before our first kiss I told him I felt guilty about the other guy.. then I rarely ever mentioned him again after I saw that I hurt him. I was already over that other person we barely even spoke.. me and my ex stayed in this relationship for a year and half.. it was so perfect, I never felt anything like it… our first break up was 11 months through our relationship was when I spoke to the other guy in my boyfriends presence, when i did it was part of me showing i didn’t care anymore.. but then i begged him to not go.. he came back after a few days.. but then problems started coming towards the end we had fights over the slightest things, jealousy (but we’re both loyal to each other, it was simple jealousy we both could live with).. frustration (as we’re both studying medicine) it never meant i love him less.. but he started bashing our relationship and it hurt me so much…then during our last six months its been all arguments … he broke up with me saying the spark is gone and that he can never get past how i hurt him at the begging.. as usual i begged him to stay because i loved him and i didn’t want to be without him… he didn’t stay but two weeks after it we met at a dinner with friends and he tried to speak to me.. I was mean to him because i was hurt then the next day i spoke to him, he said lets be friends.. i was okay but then i lashed out because i believed he broke up with me because he got fed up… I had literally given him all my time, all my love, my everything to make him happy.. (He was more in love with me than i was at first then vice versa) we lasted for three weeks, we made love for the first time (we live in a different society) and then a few days later he started getting distant.. for two days and tried to give him space and be as nice as possible then he apologized and we were okay.. then we heard a song about cheating and he accused me of being unfaithful to him.. and that he doesn’t trust me around that person and i got mad cause i stopped thinking of that person a long time ago… The fight was horrible.. he told me hurtful things and that i don’t deserve his love… I admit my mistake! I will forever regret it.. it was a few months into the relationship I never imagined i could hurt him, but i barely contacted that person except for study reasons and it was like 2 times, mostly initiated by him. I didn’t know what love was till i met my boyfriend.. He doesn’t believe I love him.. we were both each others first… I love him more than anything… it’s been almost 19 days since we spoke to each other Im doing NC but i don’t know if i should because i am too blame.. he found out i wasn’t studying through a friend so he tested me telling me not to let anything get in the way of my education… I replied two days later… because i was mad at the things he said and blocking me off hang out when i was semi-begging him telling him to see the good in us… he was mad i didn’t reply and said he didn’t want to be my friend or get back with me or anything… Now he deleted all our photos together… took down pictures of gifts i gave him, and cute captions… he avoids our mutual friends when I’m with them… I am regretful. And Im so in love with him… i don’t know why i fight with him.. Should I apply NC (its been going for 16 days) only heard of him once on the third day when he was checking on me but thats it… He added so many girls i didn’t like on instagram, and he’s posting pictures of him (thats he’s sent to me before?? but pretending its new?) He’s smoking now! He knows how much I hate smoking and he only started it.. we blocked each other off everything.. but now he’s posting more on the only social me could he be trying to get my attention.. after the last time we broke up he said he did things that he knows would bother me cause he knows ill stalk him. he also said he was gonna wait a month and try to get back with me… I don’t know this time.. specially that he accused me of things I had no answer to but weren’t true?!! Should i text him again explaining they’re not!!! what do i do to not lose him forever!!!

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 30, 2017 at 4:39 pm

Yeah, so you can have a restart from all the fights

Butterfly

June 7, 2017 at 7:31 am

My ex and I broke up 2 days ago. It did not end so well. The next day he messaged me and we basically agreed it was a mutual split. At first he was acting like i had did him wrong. We did talk almost all day. Ive lived with him for almost 2 years. When i left i took only my essential items and told him id come back for the rest. He ended up packing up my belongings and sent me picture of it asking when i could get it out. Neither of us seem sure our decision. Id like to do no contact. I do a few things from our home. Im worried about moving completely out just yet. If i begin to rent an apartment i will have a year commitment. Should i just completely move out and then start nc? Or try nc until i have to get my stuff out? I just don’t know where to start. He may really be done. This is not the first time ive moved out and i dont want to move out just to move back in.

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 9, 2017 at 3:43 pm

If you’re going to move out completely, that means it would be better to stay on having your own place until the relationship is really stable enough to move back in together, or he should be the one to move in to your place.. for now, what kind of things did you leave there? Is it the kind of things that looks like you’re still hoping to get back together?

Butterfly

June 7, 2017 at 7:09 am

My bf and i broke up 2 days ago. It was not a great ending. We have lived together for almost 2 years. I left and took only my essentials that day. He contacted me the next day acting like i was in the wrong. He seems to think he broke up with me, but i was the one who left him. He packed up my stuff and sent me picture asking when i wanted to come get it. We did end up talking most of the day. By the end of the day we agreed it was more of a mutual split. We both seem to be unsure of our decision. I want to do no contact mainly for us to be able to think clearly. I am wondering when i should start the nc and when should i officially move out? I do need some things from our home. Also during the nc am i supposed to keep moving on? Im unsure if I should rent an apartment and make a year commitment. If we end up together i would go back to our home.

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 9, 2017 at 3:49 pm

If you’re going to move out completely, that means it would be better to stay on having your own place until the relationship is really stable enough to move back in together, or he should be the one to move in to your place.. for now, what kind of things did you leave there? Is it the kind of things that looks like you’re still hoping to get back together?

Riz

May 28, 2017 at 10:41 pm

How do you do NC if you’re in the same whatsapp group? Do you leave the group or chat less in there?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 30, 2017 at 3:36 pm

you dont have to leave.. but if you can, dont chat there for the time period of nc.. if you do, just dont talk to him.

Chrysta Garcia

May 5, 2017 at 4:25 am

Me and my boyfriend (ex) had been together for a year and a few months. He is in the army and stationed in Texas while im legt here back home in arizona. Here is a little back story; we met about 7 years ago in 8th grade, and we were best friends until i started getting feelings for him when we were seniors in high school. He didnt feel the same way about me back then. Then he went to basic training right after high school. We kept a lot in touch writting to each other and thats how our love grew. About 5 months or so passed until i finally got to see him again because he came back home! He officially asked me to be his girlfriend about 8 days later. This was on december 2015. So after as soon as he left i was unsure about our relationship. This was my first boyfriend and it would be long distance so i (in my head) thought that there was no way this was going to work out. I was going through aa face where i was out partying often. A few days later after he left i went out woth my friends and they also began filling my head with doubt and telling me things like “you really think he doesnt do anything over there?” And little comments like that. I got drunk that night and i made out with two guys. (Im horrible) after that i had no contact with them or ever saw them again. I never mentioned it to my boyfriend. I told myself i wasnt going to go out anymore, and that lasted until march 2016. I went out with my friends again and i got drunk, made out with some guy, just this time my boyfriends friend saw. He told me i had to tell him if not he was. So i took initiative and told him about that one time. He was completly broken. I swore to myself i would never do that again. And i never did after that. I told him a week before he came back home,May 2016. He was destroyed but we managed to work things out. He regained his trust in me and we had good communication. I stopped getting drunk when i went out, cut all contact with men, lost some friends, and became completly for him. So, fast forward an amazing year with my best friend to april 1st. He told me he had something tell me but he didnt sound too serious. I asked him what it was and he told me that one of the guys that i had made out with in jan 2016 messaged him and told him that his was completly sorry and what not. At first i hesitated and hanged up and i wven broke up with him. I was so scared but i told him the truth and i mentioned there was another guy as well. Somehow we kept talking and obviouslt nothing was the same anymore. I kept apologizing and he was so upset and angry at me. He has every right to, but he was being very hurtful to me as well. That lasted about 10 days until he decided to completly cut me off from everywhere. He then messaged me a week later telling me that he loved me and missed me and that it was going to take a while until he got over me. I always mentioned to him that i loved him and i missed him and asked him if there was a way we could start over and take things slow. He said he wasnt sure. So fast forward a few days and i see that he os talking to another gorl and making it public. We kept texting but he became short and ignored me and he would go online. I would get so jealous i would even drop hints at him like “i dont eant your girfriend to get mad because youre talking to me”. He told me it was nothing serious for him and that they were just friends. So i would go to her profile and there would be text conversations she would post between them two of him saying how much he appreciated her and how pretty she was. I also saw that she had him as a header and she was counting down the days for when he next comes which is in july 2017. He was sending me mixed messages such as remmebering all weve been through and telling me how he would never forget about me and if we could see each other and hang out and he even asked me if we could be intimate when he came back home. So here he is telling me one thing while talking to this other girl and i decided to cut him off. I blocked his number. That same night my cousin showed me a video he posted on snapchat of him kicking our promise ring and flipping it off. It took every inch of strength in me to block him. I still check his twitter acvount and he is still talking to the girl. Im not sure what to do. I know i messed up so much in the begining of our relationship but after that i had no eyes for anyone and completly fell in love. Im trying my best to let go but something about all this doesnt feel right. I honestly never thought he would leave me and i was so sure to have him. I know i hurt him more than anything. I want to be able to help him overcome his pain and show him that im reallt not that person anymore. I know i should’ve told him about all the times i messed up. Im running short on time knowing that he is coming in july. I havent talked to him in about a week and im so afraid im loosing him even more. I really love this man and im willing to go to hell and back

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 5, 2017 at 4:46 pm

check this one:
Fix Your Relationship If You Cheated On Your Ex Boyfriend Before Its Too Late (Video)

Renee Miller

March 21, 2017 at 5:09 pm

He is the one not contacting me. I’m currently 7 mths pregnant and when he moved out 3 weeks ago everything seemed to be okay. He said he loves me and cares for me. But, it’s been over two weeks of silence. Now, I believe he has a new phone and I don’t know where he lives now. I’m so confused because we are engaged or was engaged. We were just trying to do things differently by him moving out to better our relationship. But now he is totally disconnected from me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 25, 2017 at 10:46 am

Hi Renee,

who decided that he should move out and why?

Cheryl

March 13, 2017 at 9:34 pm

Found out on day 20 of NC that my exes father died. (He has not actually contacted me in 40 days). I sent a text telling him I was sorry for his loss. Was that a mistake?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 15, 2017 at 4:53 pm

Hi Cheryl,

nope.. just continue on the count after that..

Kirsty

March 12, 2017 at 11:11 pm

Hey there , i was wondering if you could help me .
Im at a loss as to what i should do . Im pregnant with my exs child and hes moved on to date his best friend of many years ( i do believe it could be a rebound as he hates being alone ) but i cant fully do NC as i need to tell him about the baby and appointments because he wants to be involved fully with everything to do with the pregnancy . His new gf has a child aswell but he has stated she thinks things are awkward holding hands as they are best friend and he told me they arnt all loved up and that he doesnt know where they will be in 2/ 3 months none of us do . Is he just leading me on so i dont get upset? Im in day 4 right now of no contact but he did call me ( i was on the phone ) text and then call again yesterday but hasnt spoken today .
Do i still have a chance with him? Id do anything to get him back because i do love him i just dont want to rush into things or mess them up like last time
Also ..how do i interact with him in person as we attend scans/ appointments together and i have one this week. Please help
Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 15, 2017 at 10:17 am

Hi Kirsty,

follow the advice on this one:
Here’s How To Get Your “Baby Daddy” Back

May

March 11, 2017 at 11:08 am

Hi Amor,

I had to break no contact as my ex texted today asking for his keys back. Our conversation was entirely formal and I ended it saying thank you (as I asked him to sort some formalities) so as not to come off as too cold. Does this mean I have to start no contact again? Was thanking him a bad idea? It has been 7 days since I began no contact and in that time he has tried to contact me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 14, 2017 at 5:39 pm

Hi May,

nope you don’t gave to restart..that’s the right way to handle it.

Amanda

March 10, 2017 at 9:53 pm

Hi there,

My boyfriend broke up with me last Wednesday. We have been together for about a year and a bit. I begged for him back and he thought about it until Monday where he made his final decision. He said he needed space and time away from me and if this was ever going to work he needed space. He’s 18 years older than me, has a 4 year old daughter and an ex wife. He said he couldn’t trust me because twice he drove by my house and my exs car was there but my parents had invited him over to do work on the house and I told him that. He took me back twice after those two times. Last week he asked to see my phone and I danced around his kitchen before I gave him my phone, he believes that I deleted something on myPhone which I didn’t I didn’t want him to see personal messages I had with my girlfriends. I said I needed some space and to think from him because we were getting serious and I wanted to him to move me in to his place but didn’t think he was serious with him- he told me he was and to take some time to think about what I wanted. I took two days and then on the second day he broke up with me. This Wednesday I called him twice and he didn’t answer then he called me back and I said I was so depressed and just wanted him back and he said” dear you need to keep busy for a bit”. So I don’t know what that means. Will he eventually come back ? Do I do the NC for 21 days and then text him ? Next week is march break and I know he will have his daughter and be busy. But I don’t want to loose him. He’s my soulmate. I have to get him back. Helppppp 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 14, 2017 at 4:32 pm

Hi Amanda,

if he thinks you cheated, approach it like the advice in the link below:
Fix Your Relationship If You Cheated On Your Ex Boyfriend Before Its Too Late (Video)

Gena

March 4, 2017 at 10:06 am

My boyfriend and I were together for about three and a half years it started to get more serious as he began staying at my house for the first time in December of 2016. The first couple weeks were great then he started school again and everything changed. I almost had a feeling he met someone or was interested in someone because his behavior suddenly changed, he became interested in the music Started wanting to dress different really cleaning and taking care of the inside of his car when for the past 3 years he never cared and just trying to stay more organized more focused on school and all of a sudden spending a lot more time at school and at the beginning he would invite me for lunch and now it’s almost as if he was trying to keep me away from his college campus and he became really secretive with his cell phone so anyway just a couple days ago he I had been ignoring me for the past couple months we went on the trip last weekend it wasn’t that great of a trip but towards the end on the drive home things were great then he ignored me almost most of following day, Sunny me only short were the text messages about three of them late that night then the next day he went to school so I did hear from him at all and I didn’t reach out to him at all and the day after that he usually would come and spend the night at my house this time he did not and he left me a voice message saying the reason why he can’t which was completely makes no sense because never matter to him before so I called him out on it and we got into a minor argument at least I thought it was minor things seem to be fine then later on the next day we got into another argument he was much more aggressive and much more upset this time and started to call me all kinds of names and insults and saying that I was cheating on him and I have someone on the side and he knows that’s reason why I’m trying to initiate a breakup that’s all I was left as I try to see him that day we actually did see each other but he kind of blew me off and said that he was too upset to talk and that he would want want to pick up his things at some point next week and that was it we didn’t talk for 3-4 days then all of a sudden if he calls me to exchange his things and says he’s like to meet me so we can talk in person well one thing led to another he kept giving me the runaround and we been in a meeting all the sudden he said that 9 p.m. was too late after he kept changing the time and said that he didn’t want to meet with me after all cuz he’s upset and think that we should go with the weekend just trying to relax after we hung up I logged on to Facebook and so that he changed his relationship status to single and also saw that to you females are friends with him on Facebook now no they don’t live in this country but I found that odd and I also found strange that we had a fight and he changed his relationship status to single does it even talk to me about it we don’t even talk he doesn’t even say we’re breaking up it was more of a fight so my question is do I say anything at this point to initiate no contact does he need an exclamation when I first saw the relationship status changed I kind of went off on off on him that I sent him a text message saying I saw the change and it’s him that’s been wanting to be single all these months and he’s been trying to pin it on me so for him to stop playing games and just be adult and tell me I’ve heard no response back from them so my instinct tells me not to contact him again avoid all contact with him but a part of me feels I need to say something to initiate this so he doesn’t just think well she just started ignoring me for no reason.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 4, 2017 at 6:55 pm

Hi Gena,

since you’re not really broken up yet. Open this one:
How Do I Prevent My Boyfriend From Ending Our Relationship

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