6 Signs That Prove Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (And What To Do With Them)

2,942 thoughts on “Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (The Definitive Guide)”

Jake

June 6, 2020 at 3:45 pm

Wed been going through a tough patch since August last year but we were still together.
We broke up in jan and she started seeing this guy in Feb
It was a long distance relationship and this guy is with her in her college in another state.
The last time I spoke to her which was a couple of months back, she told me she was over me and everything with her new guy was a lot better than our relationship.
What is that supposed to mean?
Is it a rebound?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 7, 2020 at 8:10 pm

Hi Jake, so it does sound as if she got into a rebound relationship, but if that passes the 8 month mark it is likely that they have passed the rebound stage. If you want to get your ex back then you need to complete a 45 day No Contact and then start the being there method

Ashley

June 3, 2020 at 7:55 pm

How long after the breakup is the new relationship not considered a rebound? I know if they get in a relationship right away it’s a rebound, but what if it’s been months? At what point is it not a rebound relationship?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 3, 2020 at 8:42 pm

Hey Ashley it really depends on the length of your relationship before you met the new person. If you were together for years then anything up to 6 months. If your relationship was less than 12 months then up to a month would be considered a rebound.

Courtney Boyle

May 30, 2020 at 2:17 pm

I just recently broke up with my boyfriend we were both complacent stuck in quarantine. He is still working I wasn’t. I was getting stuck in my head and doubting the relationship. I’m 25 and he’s 23 we were dating for over a year, I always felt that he was immature and didn’t like the way he acted sometimes. We talked about moving in with each other but I couldn’t picture it anymore. When I went to have to the conversation with him I didn’t expect us to breakup I wanted to get my feelings off of my chest but in ended in us breaking up. Right after the breakup he went straight to his ex’s house and has been seeing her ever since. When we broke up 2 days later I regretted it I haven’t been able to eat or sleep, thinking about him with her or how he treated me so well that I pushed him away. I pushed away the only person that loved me and now trying to get passed this knowing he’s with someone else kills me. I know the breakup is all my fault and I cry everyday. I wish I could take everything back. He won’t speak to me and has deleted me off of everything.
Fern

May 18, 2020 at 4:12 am

I think my ex is in a rebound relationship. They’ve been together for 3 months now and my ex already reached out to me thrice. At first, he was just asking random questions (How am I?, If I already have a boyfriend? etc), but the last one he said HE MISSES ME. He admits he just wanted to tell me what he trully feels, though he said he doesn’t want to get back to me. Prior to his first chat, I’ve been in no contact for a month and I was already starting to move on, but now I don’t even no anymore. I don’t want to build my hopes up but why would he tell me that and still stay with his new girl?? What are the chances we’re getting back together when he’s clearly suppressing his feelings for me and is hoping they would work?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 20, 2020 at 11:00 pm

Hey Fern if you want your ex back then I think you can start following the being there method. He is not going to end things with the new girl yet as he is likely not sure what sort of response he is going to get from you

diana

May 17, 2020 at 9:17 am

my ex’s rebound started on a bit of a rocky foundation (ie she ignored him after their first date to talk to other guys) but as far as I know they’re still together after 3 months, although we’re all supposed to be quarantined right now. He texted me a month ago for closure and for being rude after the breakup, and confirmed they were still together. And today, I get the notification that he refollowed me on Instagram. How should I be interpreting this behavior? We never said that we’d be friends and he hasn’t texted or dm’d me, he only stalks my account… it seems weird to do this considering he’s seeing someone…
Jewel

May 16, 2020 at 8:02 pm

Hi, my name Jewel, me and my ex have been living 2 years and have broken up since crisis started, around 2 months, but we still living together, my ex sleep in other room. I’m foreigner and living in Poland, i don’t have family so i can’t move out during quarantine time. He met new girl when i was together and i felt something different and he confessed that he had been seeing another woman a couple days, she is his co-worker, and he liked the way they speak to each other. I was nearly being crazy, threaten i would kill her if he still met her, pleading, begging. After few days later, i was fine and accept his decision but i was still jealous and spoken bad things about new girl sometimes, my ex were really angry at me and he always come to her 2 and 3 days, and left me stay home even he doesn’t care about quarantine. I left home 10 days for recovering my self, i’m backed with new version of my self and it seem he can’t accept that, he is angry at me coz of no reason and hope i would go back old me but it doesn’t work. My ex and new girl have been for nearly 2 months and they official commitment relationship yesterday on Instagram.
Is it a rebound relationship ?
What should i do next for getting back my ex?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 21, 2020 at 12:17 am

Hi Jewel it is possible that he is going to be in a rebound right now but it is important that you complete 45 days No Contact before you start the being there method

Kim

May 14, 2020 at 8:23 am

Hi

So my ex and I stopped talking to each other/ broke up in feb, because he was seeing someone whilst still with me. After we broke up, he started seeing the same girl and then weeks later moved on to another girl. I haven’t spoken to him since then and i tried not to react to anything. I stayed radio silent. Recently i saw he has a new girl. I was a bit sad when i saw this because i do still have feelings for him and i do want to be with him. But what does this mean moving from girl to girl? I ended up unfollowing him on instagram and we basically don’t have each other on any social media. I’ve tried to build my myself up during this time and I have tried to move on for myself but i can’t help the way i feel about him. We’ve known each other for four years. Has he totally forgotten me. I know if i had to reach out to him he’d just make me a fool. Also during these four years we have dated off and on. What should I do? Is it over this time?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 20, 2020 at 9:06 pm

Hi Kim, you need to spend your No Contact period working on becoming Ungettable. Where your ex is going to be on the outside looking in, seeing how amazing you are and he was a fool to let you go let alone cheat on you. I would also be sure to start dating if possible in your area with current circumstances. Your guy seems like he moves on and cheats often so I would be sure that you show him you are the best person he ever had and is going to have to work to get you back. If he does come back you need to get him investing his time into you, talking to you and spending time with you

Tanner M

May 12, 2020 at 4:54 pm

Still searching for answers on what is going on.

My Ex girlfriend broke up with me end of January (24th), citing depression, stress, classwork, and unable to feel human as the reasons for the break up. We kept in touch all of Feb and most of March. Beginning of April (literally the 1st) she got a new boyfriend, they had met mid March around the time she responded to me less and less.

He seems to be the opposite of me at a glance, he is VERY similar to her exes before me (Though hopefully minus the abuse), and she isnt exactly exhibiting the “tell tale signs” I see on articles like this. She NEVER posts about them on social media, from what I see they barely communicate at all, and even her own family was suprised she had a new boyfriend (Some didnt even know we broke up).

I hope its a rebound but Im not sure. I did 21 days no contact in April, Im changing up my own habits to try and be more exciting, Ive identified as many issues with myself during the relationship and after as possible to work on them. I feel I am in a good place to fix things with her given the chance but Im concerned this isnt a rebound. I want to pretend it is but I cant know for sure.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 20, 2020 at 11:38 pm

Hi Tanner, the fact that your ex has met someone new, rebound or not is if you complete a 45 day No Contact and then start following the information for the being there method. It takes time and patience you need to show her how you are the better option between you and the new person

Louis Richards

May 11, 2020 at 6:28 pm

hi my name is Louis and me my ex girlfriend been together for 3 years now we havent spoken since last year been 5 months and a bit now I feel like I’m in a rebound she jumps in a new relationship I think she trying to make me jealous with new guy I don’t even know him me and my ex girlfriend haven’t spoke 5 months and a bit now now
Nehal Dewan

May 11, 2020 at 9:20 am

Hi. So I had been in a serious long distance relationship for 7 years. I had issues going on with me for almost a year before we broke up. I was sad and she told me that she was guilty for being happy around me and I was angry and told her that I wanted a break up. I might also have told her existence in my life was regretful. I apologized and she accepted it and I felt really guilty. But that’s not important. Cause she straight up told in my face shes moved on and is very happy. And I had to let her go. And that she wasnt coming back to me. It’s been 2 months we broke up and I saw her dating this guy. Who she posts picture of ,a video call in which she crops out the face of the guy. And she texts me constantly on alternate days to ask if I’m okay. She texts me telling me she is worried about me. And I’m angry. But I still do reply her but she doesn’t talk to me about this guy. She says it’s weird and didnt want me to find out the way I did. And I have done post relationship mistakes. Do u think it’s her rebound?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 20, 2020 at 11:50 pm

Hi Nehal, as you had a long term relationship giving that she has moved on within 3 months yes there is a chance this can be a rebound, there is also the case that she has grass is greener syndrome. You need to complete a 45 day No Contact and then from there you need to implement the being there method if you want to get your ex back

Sarah

May 6, 2020 at 3:15 am

I spoke/dated my ex for 6 months. We had an issue with distance. They left me because of it even though I chose to stay. They said they loved me but decided to leave anyways. I found out they’re talking to someone else. Possibly a friend’s ex. Could that be a rebound?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 12, 2020 at 1:21 pm

Hi Sarah, I would say if they moved on within the week to two weeks yes it could be a rebound

Christina

May 5, 2020 at 1:43 am

I dated this guy for 4 months long distance, and 2 months later, he’s seeing someone else. Is it possible this is a rebound?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 5, 2020 at 10:46 pm

Hi Christina, I would say there is a chance this could be a new relationship but it does not mean you cant get him back you need to complete a 45 day No Contact and then start the being there method

Jorden

May 3, 2020 at 5:35 pm

Hey
So I have been dating my ex for almost five years (since I was 15) and then we broke up 2 months ago… back then he told me it’s not about being with anyone else or other girls he just wasn’t happy with in himself and needed to find out what makes him happy and out of love for him I said I loved him too much to not respect his wishes.
a few days ago he texted me and said that although we don’t talk he wishes me happy birthday I replied that is not talking is not my choice and that I would like for us to try and remain friends as he suggested when we broke up , it took him 3 days to text me back that out of respect he has to let me know that he is dating someone and has a new girlfriend and being friends will hurt us both … I felt really disappointed and discussed, it hasn’t even been 2 full months yet and he already forgot all about me and moved on ?
All our friends are mutual and during this social distancing I managed to do no contact up until that point, 2 days ago when he told me about said girlfriend my friends all met up for the first time and I was informed he was bringing his girlfriend Which used to be one of his friends. I yelled at my best friend for letting it happen and she did everything she could but he didn’t care and didn’t want to come alone I was not going to go over there and see it live after finding out 4 hours beforehand And I didn’t.
I ended up seeing him yesterday as well without the said girl I was civil and said hello but it was really painful.
Not to mention he acts poorly, he lied to my from the beginning about why we broke up even when I asked directly, he watches every Instagram story I post but not liking any of my photos, and now this ? Like seriously how could he do this ? Didn’t he love at all? How could he delete everything we had so fast and be with someone new already? And why is he so inconsiderate? Like what’s the deal ? We didn’t have a fight or anything when we broke up we were on a rise and just celebrated his birthday a few days before and I was just trying to make him happy after he was depressed for some time and I can’t say I stopped loving him or caring for him since …
Does he absolutely not care about me at all to a point where he doesn’t mind seeing me ? He has to know that what he does hurts right ? Is it on purpose? And how do I deal with that situation when we have the same group of close friends?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 17, 2020 at 9:27 pm

Hi Jorden, it sounds as if your ex moved on quickly which is likely to be a rebound with how long your relationship was. However for now you need to follow a 45 day NC and be civil if you happen to hang out with your shared friends at the same time, at the end of your 45 days you start the being there method if you want him back. As for how he is behaving around the OW he is more likely in the honeymoon phase and wanting to re assure him that she has nothing to worry about that he is friends with his ex at this time.

Alty

May 2, 2020 at 6:35 am

Hi
I’m a 44yr old male with 2 young boys of 8 & 6
I have recently been dumped via text by my partner of 4 years. She also has 2 young girls the same age.
Around 3 weeks after she dumped me she has been selling a new man to me. I admit I was the problem with our relationship and I own that. Ive done a lot of soul searching and research on what went wrong and how i can be a better person for her and i have messaged her that too. She ignores it and posts a pic of her and this guy.
She has been cold and stood her ground and told me to leave her alone,she’s happy and has moved on. This is 3 weeks after dumping me. Today(5 weeks after dumping me)she put a pic up on her facebook of her and this guy and it has destroyed me.i want nothing more than to be with this lady and im happy to wait a few months or more to see how this new relationship she has thrown in my face turns out. She has been very vocal about how shes happy and why would she even consider dumping this great new guy to come back to me.
I’ve never felt so much pain and i feel this may have been the kind of pain ive put her through and it hurts.
No i have not cheated,i just disnt commit like she wanted me too and treated her wrong in that aspect.
Please help or shed some light…i really would do anything to be with this girl

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 7, 2020 at 8:43 pm

Hi Alty, I would suggest that you stop looking at her social media for the time being, and then complete a 45 day No contact so that you can let your ex and the new man pass the honeymoon phase and then you start following the being there method.

Sara

April 30, 2020 at 4:12 am

My and I were together for 3 1/2 years and engaged. He broke up with me two months ago saying he wasnt happy, lost feelings, and wanted to be single. For the first month we stayed in constant contact and were still sleeping together. I did all the wrong things, begging, pleading, gnatting, getting jealous. Then I cut off the physical aspect and stopped begging and talking about our relationship and he was still texting me daily but the text got more and more distant/boring. 2 weeks later he flipped out on me and accused me of being on a dating app and using him then he immediately went Facebook official with his “new” girlfriend who is actually the girl he dated for 6 months before me, he broke up with her at that time. I assume they were seeing each other for atleast a week or two prior to that or longer even though we were still talking everyday and sleeping together. He told me he doesnt care about me and not to speak to him again when I tried to text him about the dating app fight. I purchased the EBR program and went into NC the next day that was 16 days ago . He has not tried to reach out at all. Does this count as a rebound even though they had a short relationship prior to us about 4 years ago? He is acting out on facebook, posting a ton of pictures of them, saying he loves her and how happy they are. Does this ruin my chances since they had a previous relationship?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 7, 2020 at 5:12 pm

Hey Sara, yes I think it is a rebound, but I think he also tried to pass blame by saying you were on a dating app when he was speaking to you and this other girl at the same time. People like to be the victims in their own stories, it is unlikely he will reach out to you, but he will more than likely be in the honeymoon phase with this girl so be sure that you stick to NC for 45 days and then start the being there method. IF you have purchased EBR Pro then I assuming you are part of the Private Facebook Group too?

Yash

April 29, 2020 at 11:32 am

Hi

So i think my ex bf’s rebound relationship is ended. However, after 3 months he added me on snapchat and started snapping me but i wasn’t reacting. However i did put a pic of myself as my story and he saw it and after that he stopped snapping me but still has me. This is mixed signals. Also on instagram he put a quote like the best relationships are the ones you least expect to happen. And it did annoy me a bit. I don’t know what he’s getting act and I’m so confused because i also don’t know what’s really going on in his life. I do want him back what should i do? Also what do all these signs mean.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 2, 2020 at 3:10 pm

Hey Yash I wouldnt see this as mixed signals. This is him trying to get you to reach out and he has realised that you are not answering his messages at the moment. I would stop watching his social media activity as you are over analysing his actions. If you want him back, first thing you need to do is complete a full period of 30 days and then reach out and start having short positive conversations to re build your connection

Ai

April 7, 2020 at 8:34 pm

My ex and I are pretty young (college), and we dated for a year and a half. I broke up with him for some space, because he was nonstop calling/texting and getting mad when I wasn’t able to respond (classes etc.)

So the original “plan” was that we would try again in a few months, but we argued a couple of times pretty badly post breakup because I overreacted about a lot of small things he said. However, even when we were on good terms he’d still be telling me that he liked _____ type of girl and try to imply that one of my coworkers was interested in me.

We talked seriously on his birthday (About 3 weeks after the breakup) and even then he still said he was open to it later, but didn’t want to get together right now, and I agreed. We don’t argue in between then and Valentine’s Day at all, in fact we were getting along pretty well. And then he tells me he doesn’t love me, have any feelings for me, or ever want to try again. And I hear him loudly telling his friends about how he has a date, and his friend calls indirectly calls me his backup.

She ghosts him after their date, but a month later they went out again and now they’re “official” according to him. I only know this information because he keeps loudly announcing it around me when we have to be in the same room, what am I supposed to do about this??

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 13, 2020 at 3:29 pm

Hi Ai, I wouldn’t even react to this, if his friends are calling you his back up take note. He is keeping you “there” so if things fall apart with the new girl he would come back to you. Read about being Ungettable and apply this to yourself. Start dating casually too so that he can see you have a number of other guys interested in you. Do not show any emotional when he speaks of his relationship or the new girl. Behave as if you are indifferent to what he says

Shinese

April 4, 2020 at 8:16 pm

I broke up with my ex boyfriend of 9 months who I’m deeply in love with, 3 months ago after an explosive, painful argument. I was very hurt & angry and I told him to leave me alone because I was done & needed time alone. We initially still messaged each other and then it stopped for a month. I really missed & loved him so I reached out to him last night to rekindle our relationship when he told me that he is in a long term relationship with someone else and that we are over for good. He started a new relationship a month after I broke it off and I feel like he never loved me when we were literally planning our lives together, discussing marriage & children, buying a home, and in the process of living together. I feel so lost & alone.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 9, 2020 at 11:06 pm

Hi Shinese, it could still be a rebound relationship. It really depends on how much time he has invested into the new girl. There is the option to implement the being there method make sure you read about it before reaching out to your ex again

Ilivi

March 30, 2020 at 7:32 pm

My ex and I had been dating for a year and a half. We lived together for a bit of that time and we’re making huge plans for the future and marriage and such.

Without going to add too much detail, I had a physical and emotional crisis with my body that we didn’t know about until the relationship had ended. He broke up with me because he couldn’t handle my emotions at the time.

Been no contact for almost a month. It started on an angry note where I told him to not contact me unless he wanted to try again, and I later apologized, but there was no reply on his part.

Less than two months after we broke up, he’s seeing a new girl. Posts her everywhere. Changed his profile picture to her. All of his pictures post break up are of her, and she looks exactly like me. He set his social media to unprivate so once I unblocked him, I would see him and this girl. He’s throwing her everywhere and is making sure everyone knows about it.

He’s a relationship hopper and I was the only girl he dated for longer than 6 months. I’m overall confused as he’s doing things he never did while him and I were dating.

I just need reassurance and I want this boy back

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 30, 2020 at 8:38 pm

Hi Ilivi, so the posting on social media and “over doing it” is sometimes their way of trying to prove how great things are between them… usually this is overcompensation. So try not to focus on that too much. It is only social media. I would read up about the Holy Trinity, being Ungettable and focus on this for 45 days, so that their new relationship can pass their honeymoon phase. Then go into the Being There method. You need to read the articles and information Chris has provided for this so that you do it perfectly when you reach out to your ex again.

Jodie Hampshire

March 29, 2020 at 2:57 am

Hi I was with my husband for nearly 10 years. We split up 18 months ago however we’d go around each other’s houses and still sleep together. 3 weeks ago he went to his mums wedding as met a women he briefly knew 11 years ago they spoke she’s married also to a friend of his he sees little off. After the wedding she started messaging him and they communicate all the time, she talks about the abuse she’s subject to at home, she just last night chucked her husband out the house, and told my ex she hasn’t stopped thinking about him and was checking on him from afar all this time 10 years. They are planning a relationship and it’s completely destroyed me as a person as he’s become sarcastic and horrible any advice would really help

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 30, 2020 at 9:11 pm

Hi Jodie, so at this point you would need to not sleep with him again, keep your distance so that he sees you are pulling back. Work on your Holy Trinity and focus on getting over your break up for the time being. If he is going to pursue the other woman then you are going to have to make yourself aware of how to follow the being there method

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