Today we’re going to be talking about something that a lot of people ask me about and that is, “What is my ex feeling during a no contact rule.”

Now, if you don’t know what a no contact rule is, I have plenty of resources on my website, YouTube channel and podcast describing what that actually is.

But to give you a quick crash course,

A no contact rule is simply a period of time, where you’re ignoring your ex on purpose.

Now, this creates a lot of questions, especially around if it’s effective or not, and what happens when it is effective.

How does your ex act?

What are they feeling?

Well, that’s what this presentation is about today.

A Quick Word Before We Get Started

Now, before we get started there are a couple of things that I think you should do if you’re a newbie and you’re trying to get your ex back.

The first thing is to actually stop by my website Ex Boyfriend Recovery and take my ex recovery chances quiz.

It’s a simple two minute quiz that I put together that will ask you a lot of questions about your situation, when your breakup was and the circumstances around your breakup. Using that information I can actually put it through an advanced algorithm to give you an idea of what kind of chance you have of getting your ex back.

So, if you want to take that quiz all you simply have to do is go to my website or click the button below.

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All right, let’s get started and talk about what your ex is feeling during a no contact rule.

The Five Stages Of Feelings During The No Contact Rule

When I was brainstorming how to present this information to you, I came up with kind of, an interesting idea and that was, breaking up the feelings that your ex is feeling into five distinct stages.

Almost like the five stages of grief, but in this case it’s going to be the five stages of “feeling” in no contact.

So, assuming a no contact rule is working on your ex, you’re implementing it, you’re staying disciplined, you’re not making any mistakes in breaking the no contact rule. These are the five stages you can expect your ex to feel during a no contact rule.

  1. Calm And Assured Of Their Decision (3 Days To A Week)
  2. Worry After They Don’t Hear From You (Week To 2 Weeks)
  3. Anger After They Realize They Are Being Ignored (2 Weeks To 2.5 Weeks)
  4. Confrontation About What They Lost (2.5 Weeks to 3 Weeks)
  5. Hope Of Contact (3 Weeks To 4 Weeks)

I feel like I should include in this conversation that a typical no contact rule will last anywhere from 21 days to 45 days depending on the severity of your particular situation. This means that every ex will react a little bit differently to the no contact rule. For example, sometimes stage one can last for two weeks while stage two can only last a few days.

But generally speaking the dates that I’ve outlined here are pretty accurate.

So, let’s take a moment and dissect what each one of these things means so that you can get in your exes head and understand exactly how they’re feeling.

Stage #1: Your Ex Is Calm And Assured Of Their Decision

So, stage number one is that they are calm and assured of their decision.

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This one is pretty simple.

They feel very calm and as if they made the correct decision to leave the relationship. Like I said, this will typically last from anywhere between three days to a week. So, when you’re doing a no contact rule for the first three days to seven days they’re feeling kind of, good about themselves.

It’s important to keep in mind that, really, they haven’t confronted their feelings just yet.

They’re still in that honeymoon period of,

“Wow, I don’t have a relationship to prevent me from doing this.”

It can be an exciting time for them.

Usually during this stage you’re not going to hear from them.

But if you do hear from them, and that does happen sometimes, you’ll usually get basic messages like,

“Hey.” Or, “What’s up?” Through texting.

Now, where things really heat up is with stage two.

Stage #2: Worry After They Don’t Hear From You 

Stage two is worry after they don’t hear from you. Relationships are often defined by their patterns. This is especially true when it comes to communication.

Often when we are locked into a relationship with someone we get into certain communication patterns with that person.

For most pretty strong relationships that usually means you will text every day.

Well, when that pattern gets interrupted with a no contact rule you can start to notice worry within your ex.

Especially after your ex is thinking,

“Oh yes, he or she will break. For sure they’re going to contact me first.”

So, in this stage they begin to worry after a week potentially has gone by and they haven’t heard from you.

That’s when you’ll start to notice an uptick in checking social media accounts.

You’ll start to notice, they are stalking your Facebook profile and you may start to see them begin reaching out to you in this stage. And this is usually rare, but does happen, especially if you are on your social media game.

They can worry that you’ve met someone else.

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Stage #3: Anger After They Realize They Are Being Ignored

Now, stage three really ratchets up the tension another level.

Stage three is all about anger.

They are angry when they realize that you are ignoring them.

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By this point it’s been usually, about two weeks into the no contact rule.

They maybe have reached out to you a few times, you have ignored their attempts to reach out to you, or they’re simply angry that you’re not reaching out to them first.

This is a very common breakup behavior. So, there are a couple of things that you may see them do in this particular stage. Obviously they’re going to grow angry and that anger can create two different outcomes. Outcome number one is, they may just completely ignore you.

Some people when they get angry are passive-aggressive.

They like to ignore you.

The other approach, or the other thing that you may see start to happen is, they will start to text you.

And the texts will not be nice.

Something like, “Oh, you’re ignoring me now.” Or, “You know what? I’m glad I broke up with you.”

Things of this nature are simply a reaction to stage three. They’re angry. They’re angry that they’re being ignored. Things aren’t going the way that they thought they would, and they’re lashing out at the only person that it makes sense to lash out to and that would be you, the source of their frustration and pain.

Stage #4: A Confrontation About What They Lost

Now, stage four is where things start to take a turn for the better.

That is, a confrontation about what they lost.

In stage one I talked about the fact that even though they’re calm and assured of their decision, they really haven’t confronted their feelings just yet.

Well, stage four is that confrontation.

They’re starting to realize maybe they’ve lost you forever.

So, part of them potentially may have hoped that you would beg for them back after the breakup.

I know certainly, I have been through multiple breakups where I have thought this exact thing.

“I’m going to make her beg for me back.”

And when that doesn’t happen you begin to look at the person in a whole new light.

You begin to realize,

“You know, maybe I had them pegged wrong.”

And reactions also can vary here just like in stage three.

Some exes will get in touch with you to try to make amends for their outbursts in the angry stage.

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They’ll say something like, “Hey, you know what? I’m really sorry I lashed out to you. I was just having a tough day.”

And others can remain stoic and silent.

They can sort of, take the confrontation and say to themselves, “Well, you know what? I’m in a lot of pain here. I’m realizing that I may have lost this person forever, I’m scared to reach out and put myself out there. I’m just going to wait and see how things play out.”

These are the most common type of reactions you’re going to see from people in this stage.

Stage #5: Hope of Contact

Now, stage five is kind of, the fun part.

By this stage you’re about three to four weeks into the no contact rule. So, 24 to 30 days you have really stuck to your guns in the no contact rule. It’s really worked it’s magic on your ex and they start to hope that you’re going to contact them.

They’ve been through a rollercoaster of emotions up until this point. So, your ex really starts to shift gears here in hopes that you’re going to contact them. They may fidget and constantly check their phone to see if you have reached out.

This is an all throughout the day kind of, an activity where maybe they’re at work and they’re hoping that they hear from you.

And maybe it’s a false hope, and maybe they realize that maybe there’s a small chance that you will reach out.

So, every once and a while when they get a text they immediately pull it out hoping that it is from you, they check and see it’s not from you and they get angry and upset, because they realize they want you to be the one that’s texting them.

And also, here is where you’re going to see a huge uptick in social media stalking, whether that’s Instagram, Snapchat, or Facebook.

Those are the three most common ways that people will kind of, check up on you and see what’s going on. “Has he or she met someone else? Am I kind of, fool hearted here for hoping that maybe, they’re going to contact me? Are they okay? How are they living life without me?”

These are all questions that they’re wondering in their head, and the way to get those answers without directly asking you, is to go through social media. Also, you’re going to hear or see another uptick in hoping that they’re going to respond to their text messages.

So, you may start to see a flood of text messages coming in towards the end of the no contact rule as well. And those are the five stages that are most common with how your ex is going to feel after a breakup.

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250 thoughts on “What Your Ex Is Feeling During No Contact”

  1. Renu

    May 27, 2021 at 12:39 am

    I am 26 and my boyfriend is 21. We had a serious relationship but with no future together from his side and there is someone else to whom I have to marry. Also we are living in other countries apart but I visited him on his call and we were happy together but he is suddenly changed which he does not admit but he is not the same person anymore. He says that he is always busy and pays little attention to me and I have to fight him every other day. He never shouts at me just listens to me but also does the same things. I feel not of being any worth in the relationship. He neither asks to seperate nor he agrees for breakup but also not being the same person as before. Last time, I asked him either to block me from everywhere or make all things right as before. He denied to block and also showing no love or care that bothers me. I said nothing and not texted him again but I also not heard back from him from 3 weeks. He is active on social media and seems happy and m not using any social media and also stopped stalking him . I know its always in his mind that I am the one who is supposed to text first but I am thinking if I would do, again I have to face that ignorance and stress because I am so much in to him.What should I expect.

  2. Minerva

    April 29, 2021 at 7:11 pm

    I had LDR for 1 year(used to talk everyday & never had break up/no contact more than 2 days) . My ex & I started to have many arguments so I broke up. He was first calm then became very aggressive then apologised and now he’s quiet ,sending his friends to me to go back to him. All of these happened in 1 week and during it I kept no cantact rule. Did he just give up on me?should I continue no contact?is it a good or bad sign that all of these stages happened in just 1 week? I’m worried

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 30, 2021 at 11:33 am

      Hi Minerva, if you want to follow this program then yes stick with the NC for 30 days. I would suggest that if he asks you to get back together and you WANT that then yes get back with him but explain that you both need to work on your communication skills in your relationship.

  3. Lilly sorento

    April 26, 2021 at 7:26 am

    My ex left me for a rebound. Is still in relationship but contacted me for closure. We have been no contact for over 3 months. Do I still continue nc

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 28, 2021 at 5:31 pm

      Hi Lilly, if you want to get your ex back then you need to read and follow the rules of the being there method.

  4. Traci Kite

    April 25, 2021 at 4:10 pm

    My ex and I broke up in June 2020, but continued seeing each other until December 2020. I am pregnant with his child currently and we found this out in October 2020.
    He began to see another person, but I am not sure exactly when because he never told me that this is what he was doing. I just found out about the other person in March 2021. I begged and pleaded for about five weeks and he kept telling me that I am giving the third party situation too much weight. He kept telling me that I am the one w/ the power and he needed time, etc., but I finally reached my breaking point. I took screenshots from the past 3 weeks and sent them to the other woman. He then texted me and told me that it’s over, he made his choice, he’s choosing her, etc. I texted him back and told him that I agree, it’s O-V-E-R. Neither of us have tried to reach out and have been in no contact for eight days. I will eventually have to speak to him because I am due in June 2021. I’m debating on whether I should allow him into the delivery room or not. I am conflicted, but I for sure want to wait the full 30 days before contacting him regarding anything at all. I feel like I backed him into a corner and that is the only reason that he texted what he did. I am a little angry that I had to go to such great lengths to receive a firm answer from him. I do still wish for a reconciliation, but I want him to be the one to take the initiative. In other words, if he doesn’t take that initiative, there will be no reconciliation. I refuse to be seen as needy (again) because that is how I spent the majority of our relationship, ESPECIALLY the last five weeks after finding out about the other woman. I guess I just want confirmation that I am doing the right thing because I go back and forth in my mind and for some reason, the NC is getting harder… not easier.

  5. Buttercup

    April 14, 2021 at 5:56 pm

    We dated for 2+ years, (broke up once during that time due to his parents disapproval. After a month he couldn’t take it, stood up to them and fought for me back).1 month ago he broke up with me because he felt unhappy/lost sight of his goals/independency. He then bread-crumbed me for 3 weeks, contacting me almost everyday, being sweet, saying he misses me, and that he thinks we “might” get back tgh. I felt used (we were slept tgh 3 times during this). When I realized no progress was being made I told him to please respect me and that I need to go no contact to focus on myself and heal, and he respectfully agreed. 1.5 weeks into no contact he called me and texted me saying he just wanted to check in. I didn’t pick up or respond. I feel he is very hot and cold and cant control himself. Is this a good thing? Should I respond or keep ignoring him?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 21, 2021 at 10:24 pm

      Hi Buttercup, continue to complete your NC and do not reply to him. You would benefit from following a 45 day NC and stick with it work on yourself in the mean time. Then reach out with one of Chris suggested text

  6. Jen

    March 25, 2021 at 12:11 am

    My ex and I dated for almost 2 years. Ended things over a month ago. I did no contact and finished 30 days and didn’t hear anything from him or see any activity from him to me on social media but around day 25 he watched my Snapchat story for the first time since the split. Then from day 29-31 he watched my Instagram stories. Today (day 33) I decided to look at his Instagram for the first time and I saw that he removed me as a follower and stopped following me, also removed me from Snapchat. Why could this be? What stage? Is this a good thing? Thanks!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 9, 2021 at 9:23 pm

      Hi Jen, I think you’ve misunderstood that when you complete NC you are supposed to reach out with a text that Chris suggests in his articles on this website and his videos on YouTube. As for your ex removing you this is normally an emotional response and he does not want to see what you are getting up to or let you into his either. It is not uncommon for exes to remove you while they grieve the relationship too.

  7. Chloé

    March 1, 2021 at 10:10 am

    My ex and I were dating for 1.5 years. I’m 22 and he’s 21. He broke up with me last Tuesday (23 February) through WhatsApp saying he needs to find himself again and his own happiness. He had a lot going on, working 2 jobs from Monday – Sunday almost every week. Only having two days a month off. He wasn’t sleeping well lately and made a lot of mistakes on one of his jobs. He was also very committed to gaming and would even get anger outbursts if it did not go the way he wanted it to. He was never like this. He is overworked. Also in the last two months our fighting got worse and little irritations started to develop. And I got insecure about some things. I’m really not proud at how I handled these fights between us. He said he can’t do this right now because he’s so tired mentally and doesn’t know what his feelings at the moment are towards me. He wanted to be left alone and fix it himself to find himself again. Last Friday I called him because I couldn’t accept the fact he did everything through WhatsApp. We saw each other, talked and hugged when he said bye. I asked him if he would ever rule us out being together. He said he’s not going to rule out anything as he doesn’t know what the future might hold. I have not spoken to him since our last meet up. Should I do NC, and will it work in my situation to get him back?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 9, 2021 at 10:10 pm

      Hey Chloe, yes NC can work but you need to be sure that you are following the advice about the Holy Trinity and being Ungettable in your sitaution.

  8. Jessica Donovan

    February 26, 2021 at 11:50 pm

    Hi there. My ex and I broke up on Monday and I haven’t talked to Him since. He said he lost romantic feelings for me and that he doesn’t like me the same as he did when we first started dating. But said that he still wants to be in my life and wants me in his and that this isn’t a forever goodbye that he just needs space. But I believe the real reason he wanted to break up was because he was going through a rough time in his life and knew it was easier to push me away than anything. I feel as if he was starting to love me and didn’t know what to do because nothing happened that led up to us breaking up. I know he is the one for me because we have many things in common and he is my best friend. He hasn’t asked for his hoodie back or anything and I made him a bunch of things that are in his room. Do you think there is a chance we will get back together? Or what I can do to get him to come back to me.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 24, 2021 at 9:09 pm

      Hi Jessica, I cannot predict this I am so sorry, but you can work through the information and apply it to your situation. This is going to give you, your best chance at getting your ex back – but this does mean that you start with a no contact.

  9. Julieta

    February 10, 2021 at 2:49 am

    My ex hurt me a lot last year and even made me feel needy because I was just desperate for answers he wasn’t giving me. He finally said we had to be done to which I was devastated but finally respected it and went into no contact immediately. It’s been a little bit over a month and he reached out with a couple of stupid texts such as “say hi to your mom and the dog for me” “I’d like to see a pic of our dog if you can”. I wasn’t ready to talk to him and Im still not ready, so I kept ignoring him until he started to annoy me bc he wasn’t really saying much. I finally answered telling him that he’s hurt me a lot and that I’m finally feeling better and putting my life back together so that FOR NOW I can’t be his friend and that I need space. He said he understands and bunch of manipulative things he knows he could make me fall for before such as “I still love you with my whole heart, but I know I’ve hurt you a lot and didn’t deserve it” and then he goes on with it but not really apologizing or saying he’d like to amend things. Was I right to tel him to give me space? I’m getting anxious bc I really don’t know how I feel about him quite yet and that’s why I need the space but I don’t want to lose him.

  10. Julieta Torres

    February 8, 2021 at 10:52 pm

    My ex hurt me a lot last year and even made me feel needy because I was just desperate for answers he wasn’t giving me. He finally said we had to be done to which I was devastated but finally respected it and went into no contact immediately. It’s been a little bit over a month and he reached out with a couple of stupid texts such as “say hi to your mom and the dog for me” “I’d like to see a pic of our dog if you can”. I wasn’t ready to talk to him and Im still not ready, so I kept ignoring him until he started to annoy me bc he wasn’t really saying much. I finally answered telling him that he’s hurt me a lot and that I’m finally feeling better and putting my life back together so that FOR NOW I can’t be his friend and that I need space. He said he understands and bunch of manipulative things he knows he could make me fall for before such as “I loved you and still do with my whole heart, but I know I’ve hurt you a lot and didn’t deserve it” and then he goes on with it but not really apologizing or saying he’d like to amend things. Was I right to tell him to give me space? I fear he’s not going to ever speak to me again now

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 11, 2021 at 9:00 pm

      Hi Julieta, yes if they continue to text you and you do not want to hear from him or want him back then you are right to tell him to leave you alone. Keep in mind if you do want him back then you need to reach out before the 60 no contact day mark.

  11. Koko

    February 6, 2021 at 1:17 pm

    Hi, my ex said if we wanted to be friends in the future, to go no contact and that was almost 2 years ago now and I’ve tried to msg and communicate with him now (even though he was the dumper) and I get nothing. He ignores me completely. He isn’t with anyone either. Not sure what his issue is with me. I’m starting to realize that he didn’t just want a break from us, he wanted a break up completely ! 🙁

  12. Taylor

    February 4, 2021 at 9:48 pm

    So i broke up with feanc’e about a month ago.however we have texted here and there but he leaves me hanging and this time its been 5 days and iev heard nothing should i do the no contact when he trys to reach me?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 6, 2021 at 4:00 pm

      Hi Taylor if you want to try and get your ex back then yes step one is the No Contact period.

  13. Bianca

    January 31, 2021 at 9:12 am

    Hi! My ex and I were in the process of moving houses (both rented) and both had things in both houses. We broke up on Wednesday evening and yesterday (Saturday morning) we saw each other as I came to our old house (where he is staying now) to bring him clothes and we agreed things were still very raw and we’d wait a few days to talk again and agree to each go to the other house to pick up the rest of our stuff. Shall I wait until he contacts me in a few days, and after we have each picked up all our stuff in the other’s house, start NC? Or shall I ignore him altogether now and do no contact now and in 30 days say: sorry I needed time to heal, he can come now to get his stuff and I will do the same? I feel that’s mean. But I also feel seeing him in a few days will get both of us back to stage 1 (him being reassured in his decision and me back to stage 1 in my healing process). Thanks!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 4, 2021 at 4:54 pm

      Hi Bianca, if you can go 30 days without the things that are at his, and he does not reach out then I suggest try to go the whole 30 days. If he reaches out to you about collecting some of this belongings, tell him that is fine and that he can come at a time that suits you. Do not speak of anything other than this, and continue to the 30 days.

  14. Li

    January 30, 2021 at 6:47 am

    All your lessons are beneficial Chris but I have always wanted to take through in this boyfriend recovery because I have an off, on relationship and he says it’s because of the mother. What can I do to be helped by you?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 30, 2021 at 5:32 pm

      Hi Li, so you need to get your mother onside so if there is a reason she does not want you to be together, try to figure out if there is a way to change her view of you, following the no contact rule and work on your holy trinity during that time.

  15. Ju

    January 27, 2021 at 8:52 pm

    Quick question. How do I know how long my no contact should be ?
    I am currently on 16 days, missing him a lot, but didn’t break my no contact. How long should I keep going?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 27, 2021 at 9:28 pm

      Hi Ju so if your break up was messy and lots of begging and pleading you would go to 45 days, if it was a short relationship where you broke up amicably then 21. But majority of the time people follow the 30 day plan.

  16. Bap

    January 24, 2021 at 10:33 pm

    Quick question. So I have a drinking problem that resulted my ex and I splitting up and we’ve been under no contact. They haven’t blocked my number but have removed me from social media. For about a week and a half now. I am going to rehab in about a week which will be 30 days. Should I mention something about that?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 25, 2021 at 5:08 pm

      Hi Bap, I would suggest that you send a message letting them know that you are going into rehab and that you will not be available until you are home again – this shows that you are going to work on yourself and that you are taking things seriously, other than that do not reach out.

  17. Anna

    January 12, 2021 at 3:44 pm

    HI, I was in a long distance relationship, and we were talking serious relationship and future together. However, lately we started arguing a lot, I became insecure and not trusting him, and he went from being respectful to my triggers to just irritated. He also had behaviors that would trigger insecurities in me. I suggested we take a break to save the relationship but a week into the break he broke up with me. He told me he loves me, but I need to fix myself. He said that it would be either me or no one else for him, but believes that relationship at this time is not good for us, that I’m not ready. It’s very confusing, not sure if I should give it time and hope that he will be back or just move on. I have been in no contact for 2.5 weeks now. Please help.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 18, 2021 at 10:22 pm

      Hi Anna, this is why we say that we should always work on ourselves to be the best version of ourselves, while partners can be respectful of our insecurities in some ways, when they start straining them too they tend to grow tired of trying to reassure you and feel annoyed. During your NC make your sole focus being about how to be confident, work on your self work and know you are worthy. Reach out with a text that Chris suggests in his articles, but be sure that you work on yourself before reaching out.

  18. caty zhong

    January 8, 2021 at 4:23 am

    I found out my bf was cheating on me for a month while he’s traveling other country and stayed there for 3 months. he wanted to broke up with me, so we did. he texted me he want to fix things with me 5-6 days after we broke up. I ignored him. 10 days later I had to ask him to delete me from his social media. it’s disgusting for me so I had to. He did. then 5 days later he said he miss me, life isn’t same anymore, he said he screwed up, sending me videos of me, and I told his I don’t wanna talk with him. The next day he sent me long long text he realized he’s selfish, disgusting person. he is really sorry to me about how and what he did to me. he said he will fix .. etc. and I ignored it. Now it’s been 9days since I did not reply him.
    What should I do? do you think he will keep reach out to me? we’re in different country now, i want him to fly to me and apologize in person.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 25, 2021 at 4:54 pm

      Hi Caty so I think when he comes home he will likely ask to see you, but stick with your no contact for 45 days at least. Make sure that you work on yourself to move past the upset caused by his cheating. Read the articles about the holy trinity and being ungettable showing that you are the best version of yourself.

  19. Private

    January 4, 2021 at 7:22 pm

    My ex and I dated 2.5 years we broke up end feb 2020, it was a mutual break up and for 3 months he was after me but I wasn’t ready to take him back. When I decided to take him back he turned and the tables have been like that ever since. The rest of the year we still saw each other, me trying to kind of make him realize he should be with me. He ended up blocking me a few times as well. Fast forward to the week of new years, I found out he had tinder and the week before that he told me he wanted to be with me but wasn’t 100% sure, mixed feelings. It’s been like that the entire time. We argued the week of new years and he blocked me. On new years I had a bit too much alcohol and texted him many things saying that he should enjoy his new girl (there is no nee girl) etc etc… the next morning he told me that I shouldn’t drink at all coz then I wont say stupid things. I eventually admitted to saying these things, apologized and said that we shouldn’t contact each other for a bit. Its now been 3 days. I have extreme anxiety and I so badly want him to make contact. Can I still enforce the no contact rule, and will it still work? I honestly feel in my heart that we should be together, he just needs to admit to his feelings and not let his ego get in the way.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 19, 2021 at 9:30 pm

      Hey there, so ideally you should have implemented NC soon after the break up, however yes you can follow the program starting with NC now. Be sure that you read articles and watch videos to do with longer term break ups.

  20. Sarah

    January 2, 2021 at 1:36 am

    This guy I use to work with 8 years ago, messages me out of the blue, on Facebook this past September. Nothing happened between us in the past. We were just always flirty. Well when he messaged me he asked me out on a date and we were inseparable for over two months. Then around the second week of December he pulls away and starts to ignore me. I ask him what’s wrong and he says is going through something and that he has his own problems and he completely drops me. I was stunned and very hurt. One day everything is fine and then over night everything changed. He says he doesn’t want to walk about what he is going through and that he wants to be alone for now. Should I message him and ask him wtf happened? I’m very hurt and confused.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 15, 2021 at 10:55 pm

      Hi Sarah, no I wouldn’t recommend that you reach out asking what happened to cause this, I would suggest that you use the social media platforms to show you are doing well and are not dwelling on the fact that he has dropped you. I’d suggest reading some Ungettable articles and reach out after 30 days NC if you want to, using a text that Chris suggests to get him interested in having a brief conversation with you to break the ice.

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