By Chris Seiter

Updated on August 9th, 2021

Social media has taken over the dating world!

In today’s episode we discuss exactly what you have to do if you want to increase the chances of getting your ex boyfriend back through social media.

We hear from Ash, a woman who is curious as to what is going on with her ex boyfriend (who just liked one of her Instagram pictures.)

Here is quick recap of Ash’s entire situation,

  • She “un-friended” her ex boyfriend on almost all forms of social media.
  • Her ex boyfriend still seems to be following her around though.
  • Wonders how she should handle social media relating to her ex.

Ash’s question wasn’t too long but I managed to dive into an amazing discussion over how to use almost all forms of social media to your advantage if you want to get your ex boyfriend back,

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What I Cover In This Episode

  • Why there is a 90% chance your ex is checking up on you after the breakup.
  • Why there is a 70% chance that your ex is using a friend to check up on you.
  • The importance of your ex boyfriend “liking” something.
  • How to use social media to your advantage.
  • Why I don’t recommend “un-friending” an ex after a breakup.
  • The importance of pictures.
  • Why some jealousy here and there is good for you.

Important Statistics About Social Media Mentioned

  • 88% of people check up on their exes using Facebook after a breakup.
  • 70% of people admitted to using a friend to check up on their exes Facebook profiles.
  • 64% of people over-analyzed wall posts & messages from their exes.
  • 50% of people delete their exes pictures after a breakup.
  • 33% quoted a song/lyrics about their ex.
  • 31% posted a picture in an attempt to make an ex jealous. (31% succeed jk jk.)

IMPORTANT Links Mentioned In This Episode

How To Use Social Media To Get Your Ex Back

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1. Don’t Un-friend Your Ex Boyfriend

Social media is one of the most effective weapons at creating interest within your ex boyfriend during the no contact rule so it is important that you don’t unfriend your ex boyfriend. Of course, if you did unfriend him or he unfriended you there is still a good shot that he will look at your profile down the road.

2. Pictures Are Important

Pictures are super important for creating interest in your boyfriend. Men are very visual creatures so if you post pictures on social media platforms it can go a long way to achieving the “ungettable” status you are trying to project. Make sure you post pictures that show you having the time of your life! I explain this thoroughly in the episode.

3. Jealousy Can Be Effective

A little jealousy through social media can work wonders but you have to be careful. Make sure you listen to the entire episode for a full run down of how you can use jealousy because if you don’t use it correctly you could completely ruin your chances.

4. The Ideas Is To Get Him Hooked To Your Profile

Imagine this…

Your ex boyfriend visiting your profile every day.

The idea behind using social media to influence your ex boyfriend is to get him to put a “check up” on your profile into his daily routine. If he is consistently coming back to your profile you have done something really amazing!

Podcast Transcript

Welcome to Episode 24 of the Ex-Boyfriend Recovery Podcast. I’m really excited to have you here today. This episode is going to be focusing specifically on social media and how to use it when you go through a breakup. I’m going to throw out some interesting statistics that not many people have heard before. We’re going to leverage these statistics and hopefully formulate a game plan to help you get your ex back.

Here is the format of this podcast. People call in and ask questions. I answer those questions. Today’s question is from Ashe, who is wondering how she can use social media to get her ex back, specifically what it means when her ex-boyfriend likes certain pictures on Instagram. Let’s hear from Ashe:

“Hi, Chris. I have a question. My ex-boyfriend is still following me on social media. He still looks at my Snapchat stories. What should I do? I unfriended him on everything but he still looks at my stuff. He just recently liked my Instagram picture.”

That’s a great question, Ashe. First, thank you for having the guts to leave me a voicemail and ask this question. Let’s get to it. You didn’t specifically ask a question about getting your ex-boyfriend back. I’m going to assume that you want him back.

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There is something that you have to understand about mediums like social media. You mentioned Instagram. I’m going to expand the reach, not just to Instagram, but to all forms of social media such as Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram. Back in my day, everyone was using Myspace. I don’t even know if that still exists. It’s such a small market share in the social media industry right now. I’m going to talk about what you have to do in these mediums to increase your chances of getting your ex-boyfriend back.

The important thing to realize when you’re dealing with social media is the fact that it’s impossible to fully get your ex-boyfriend back with social media. It takes more than just sending a clever Facebook post or picture through Instagram. It takes more than that to get a man to be convinced to get back into a relationship with you. But that’s not to say that Facebook can’t be a weapon.

The first thing I’m going to do, not just for you Ashe, but for everyone listening is to throw out the statistics. From these statistics, we’re going to make certain assumptions on how you should approach getting your ex-boyfriend back. I believe this was reported in the Toronto Star. A Canadian university student did an interesting master’s thesis on exes, breakups and Facebook. I know that Facebook isn’t Twitter or Instagram, but never before has a study been done like this that looks specifically at what happens when exes go through breakups on social media.

This woman is Veronika Lukacs. I will link to her research in the show notes. Veronika found something really interesting about exes, breakups and social media. She found that 88% of people that go through breakups check up on former boyfriends and girlfriends on Facebook. Think about that. There is almost a 90% chance that your ex-boyfriend is going to stalk you on Facebook.

Just like, I’m sure, you’re stalking your ex-boyfriend on Facebook. Women ask me, “Why does this social media stuff matter?” when I mention it on my site or in my book. This is why it matters. Your ex-boyfriend is looking at you. He’s just not going to shout to the hills that he’s looking at you. You need to understand it logically. The odds are in your favor there. There is a 90% chance that your ex-boyfriend is taking a look at your pictures and profile.

This fascinating to me. Veronika also found that 70% of people used their friends to keep track of their exes. Here is an example. Let’s say that you break up with your boyfriend and you are very curious about what your boyfriend is up to. He unfriended you on Facebook. You go to your best girlfriend, who is friends on Facebook with your ex.

You say, “Hey, can I check out his profile?” She’s your best friend so she’s going to say yes. Seventy percent of people who went through breakups did this. Even if you’re being unfriended by your ex or you have unfriended your ex, there is still a high likelihood that your ex will still stalk your profile.

Here’s another interesting tidbit that Veronika found in her study. Sixty-four percent of people overanalyzed wall posts and messages from their ex. For example, if your ex-boyfriend posted on Facebook and you saw it, you are going to overanalyze it. “What does that mean?” You’re going to look at the pictures on his wall, him liking someone else’s comment, other people talking to him.

You’re going through this analytical phase. You’re overanalyzing things. This is important because, if you flip the script here, that means your ex-boyfriend is probably going to do the same thing to you.

Here’s another interesting tidbit. Fifty percent of people deleted their ex’s pictures. Half of the people deleted their ex’s pictures and half of the people kept them up. Here’s another one. Thirty-three percent of people quoted a song about their ex.

I always hear those situations where a girl comes to my website and says, “My ex keeps posting these really morbid or depressing lyrics. I think it’s about me.” There is a 33% chance that it is about you. In my opinion, I think it is about you. The statistics here say that 33% of people quoted songs about their exes after a breakup.

Thirty-one percent of people posted a picture in an attempt to make an ex jealous. That’s pretty interesting. That means that, if your ex is trying to make you jealous, you’re still on his mind. He still cares about you. That’s fascinating information to have.

When I was reading this study, she said that one guy admitted to hacking into his ex’s Facebook account. He was really embarrassed about it, but it happens. That’s why it’s important to change your password. If the temptation is there and you had a shared password with your ex on Facebook.

Some couples say, “If there’s nothing to hide, give him the password.” I understand that. I understand the thought behind that. If you’re going through a breakup, I would say to change your password. There is a high chance that your ex will log on to your Facebook account and check you out if the temptation is there. They will check out your messages, pictures, likes and notifications. Men do this.

Understanding all of this, Ashe, we have our work cut out for us. If that doesn’t make social media relevant to getting your ex back, nothing does. These statistics are that 90% of people checking up on former girlfriends and boyfriends on Facebook, 70% use their friends to keep track of their exes and 64% overanalyze wall posts and messages from their ex, 50% deleted pictures, 33% quoted a song about their ex and 31% posted a picture in an attempt to make an ex jealous. This makes social media relevant when it comes to getting exes back.

If you flip the script and understand that, “There is a 90% chance that my ex is looking at my social media profile,” you can use social media as a weapon to get your ex back. I’m going to teach you how to do that today. I understand, Ashe, that you said that you unfriended your ex on Facebook. I am not a fan of this.

I’ll tell you why. Those statistics that I mentioned prove how relevant social media is to dating nowadays. It didn’t used to be this way. Back in the old days, social media didn’t exist. It was a lot different. The fact that social media exists now means that you can indirectly influence your ex and improve your chances of getting your ex back.

That’s why I’m such a proponent of staying friends with your ex after a breakup. It’s not because I’m trying to encourage people to stalk their exes. I understand the temptation is there. But it is such a huge asset to you, if you use it correctly. You can really improve your chances of getting your ex back. That’s what I would like to talk about for you today, Ashe.

I understand that you unfriended your ex. This may be hard to hear, but the last thing you want to be looked at is a flip-flopper. You don’t want to be looked at as a flip-flopper when it comes to your ex-boyfriend. A flip-flopper is a person who friends their ex. Then after the breakup, they unfriend their ex. Then a few days later, they send a friend request to their ex. Their ex declines it. They send them another friend request. It gets excessive. You don’t want that. Ashe, in your case, I’m going to recommend not to friend your ex until after you use the no contact rule and build up some rapport with your ex. Don’t friend him.

For those of you who are friends with your ex, this episode is more for you. I’m creating a game plan for you. Ashe, I’m sorry to say but right now, maybe you can use Instagram. That’s the beauty of the fact that you are still friends there. Don’t friend your ex, Ashe. You don’t want to be looked at as a flip-flopper. That doesn’t mean you can’t use the advice that I’m going to give here.

Remember, there is a 70% chance that he’s using one of his friends to check up on you. Keep this in mind. I understand this episode may not be geared towards you, but it kind of is. You can still use all the information here because there is a high chance that your ex is still checking up on you. Don’t friend him because you don’t want to be looked at as a flip-flopper.

I’ve already covered why it’s important to stay friends with your ex. You’re going to use social media to your advantage. Before I start talking about how you need to use social media to your advantage, I want to answer Ashe’s question specifically about the like. She said her ex-boyfriend liked one of her pictures.

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What’s the significance of that? In my opinion, here is the importance of a like. It equals that your ex is trying to get attention from you. It’s the safest way he can do so. He has that fallback. Let’s say that he likes your picture. You contact him and say, “What’s that about?” He can always fall back to the position of saying, “What are you talking about? I just liked your picture. What’s the big deal?” He’s doing it on purpose.

The moment he pulled his mouse over the picture and clicked the like button, he knew that a notification was going to go to you and you would know that he liked your picture. He understands this. It’s his way of trying to stay relevant in your mind. It’s his way of maybe trying to ruffle your feathers a bit. But he’s thinking about you. That’s the most important part.

It’s safe for him. He will always have the fallback position of saying, “What’s the big deal? It’s just a like.” It’s not just a like. He’s doing something to get your attention. Doing something to get your attention is bigger than just liking a picture. Yes, sometimes I see pictures that I like, so I like them. No big deal. But when you’re dealing with exes and relationships, there is significance every time someone does something like that. It may be small significance. It may not be the biggest thing in the world. But there is still significance there. That’s the importance of a like.

We’re going to talk a little bit about what you can do to increase your odds of influencing your ex to want to take you back through social media. Facebook is the most popular one. Nothing comes close to Facebook yet. I’m going to gear more of the information here towards Facebook. That doesn’t mean that, if you and your ex are big proponents of Twitter, Instagram or Pinterest, the information I’m telling you here can be applied through those mediums. Since Facebook is the biggest social media platform currently, I’m going to gear the information I’m teaching here towards that.

The first thing I want you to understand about influencing your ex on Facebook, or other social media, is that pictures are vitally important. They’ve done studies that have shown that human beings are more visual. They are more inclined to read things that are attached to pictures. A lot of you are always wondering why I attach these funny memes to the in depth articles that I write about ex-boyfriends, situations and what it means. That’s because pictures keep you engaged. They keep you scrolling down the page. If I had a page full of white space, there is no way you would read all of that. That’s boring.

But the pictures, gifs and funny videos make it interesting. They make it interesting. Pictures have this amazing affect to influence people more than the written word. You’re going to use pictures to your advantage. I talk a lot about the un-gettable girl. It’s predicated on the fact that men want what they can’t have. Pictures through Facebook are your best way to display this.

You display that your ex can’t have you, that you’re having the time of your life without him. You’re not being obvious about having the time of your life. You’re going out. You’re having fun with friends. You’re going to bars or clubs. You’re seeing amazing scenery. You are having the time of your life. If your ex sees this stuff, it will make him a little jealous.

He’ll be thinking, “Why didn’t she do that stuff with me? She looks like she’s having the time of her life.” Why isn’t she distraught over losing me? It hurts his ego a bit. But it works to get him chasing you. Remember, men want what they can’t have. He sees you going out. He sees you other people with you. He sees you experience the world.

Maybe you visit a beautiful city. You see a skyline that is just gorgeous. You post that to Facebook. Your ex is going to be interested in that. He’s going to keep going back to your Facebook page to see your next update. He’s going to keep doing that. The more you can get him hooked on going to your Facebook page, the more likely he is to have those feelings for you again. He’s obsessed with you, and you want him to become obsessed with you. Use pictures as much as you possibly can.

I want to be really specific about the type of pictures to use. You want to use pictures that say you’re having the time of your life, without saying it. You don’t want pictures to be obvious. You don’t want it to be you at the club with your girlfriends, you have drinks in your hands and the caption on the picture is, “Having the time of my life.” No.

You want this to be subtle. You want this to be natural. You do want to go out to a bar or hang out with your friends, but you don’t want to have captions for the picture. You want it to be really natural. You always want to look amazing. You want to look as hot as you possibly can. If your ex sees you as beautiful and hot, it’s his way of missing you. Remember, men are visual creatures. We like women who are very attractive. You’re trying to get your ex to keep coming back to your profile. If he keeps coming back to your profile, he’s hooked.

Did you know that 45% of the traffic that comes to Ex-Boyfriend Recovery are return visitors? It’s because the content I write is so good and in depth that people just keep coming back to the website. They’re expecting more. They’re expecting an update. They’re expecting new podcast episodes, a new article, more comments and answers to their comments. It creates a snowball effect where they keep coming back to the website. As a result, word of mouth spreads. I get more people to come. It’s an endless process.

You kind of want the same thing to happen with your ex. You want him to keep coming back to your profile, checking to see if there are any updates. Your pictures are the best way to do this. Don’t do any crazy, silly quotes of love songs that remind you of your ex. Post pictures of you having the time of your life. That’s what we want.

Now we’re going to get into something a little bit more advanced. That is jealousy. Use pictures of other guys to make your ex jealous. This is like playing with fire if you don’t do it correctly. How do you do it correctly? If you are posting a picture of you making out with another guy on Facebook, that’s a big no-no.

If I was in your ex’s position, we broke up and I saw you making out with some other guy, the first thing I’m going to think is, “What a slut.” I will never want to talk to you again. That is using jealousy in the wrong way. It’s akin to you going out with your ex to a dance club and then dancing the night away with some other guy while your ex stands there. That’s not going to do anything to progress the recovery of your relationship.

You can use jealousy. A little jealousy here and there is an amazing thing. It can work wonders. But if you’re not careful with it, it can burn down the entire forest. That’s what I mean when I say that it’s like playing with fire. The best way to use jealousy is to pick a good guy friend and take a picture with him.

Don’t let the guy friend touch you on the hips. Don’t take a picture of you and the guy friend at a club and you’re grinding on him. Make it look like a couple picture, but don’t make it look like a couple picture. Side-by-side pictures or selfies are perfect for this. You want your ex to come to your profile and think, “Who’s that guy?” She’s dating someone. Remember, the more that your ex can’t have you, the more attractive you become to him. Don’t make out with this guy and don’t lead this guy on.

The last thing you want to do is lead this guy on in an attempt to get your ex back. Then this guy is going to have feelings for you. Then you may lose a friend. You don’t want that. Just be clear that you’re going to take a picture with him as friends.

Also, be sure that the guy you’re going to take a picture with doesn’t have a girlfriend. Why do I say this? It’s hurtful when a woman goes to her Facebook profile and sees her boyfriend taking a picture with another guy. Just like it’s hurtful when a boyfriend goes to Facebook and sees his girlfriend taking a picture with another guy.

You and your ex are broken up. It’s all fine. You can do this. There are no rules forbidding you from doing this. But if you were in a relationship with someone, don’t do this. It’s the same principle. If your friend that you want to take a picture with has a girlfriend, don’t take this picture with him. It will get posted on Facebook. You may cause a rift between him and his girlfriend. That’s the last thing you want to do. You don’t want to cause a rift.

Take a nice, single guy friend. Communicate clearly to this guy friend that, “We are just friends. This is meant to make my boyfriend jealous. Can you help me out?” The guy friend will be willing to do that, especially if you return the favor and help him pick up a girl. A good way to do this is to bargain with him.

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You can say, “I read this website. I have this idea. I want to take a picture with you in an attempt to make my ex-boyfriend jealous. Potentially, he may chase me a little more. I can influence him to get him back. But I don’t want you to get the wrong idea. If you do this for me, I will help you get a girl at this club. I will introduce you to one of my friends.” If you do that, the guy is going to be willing to work with you.

Remember, people are always out for what’s in it for them. It’s the same thing here. You give him a little something, he’ll give you a little something. That would be my advice on how to get a guy to take a picture with you. Remember, if this guy has a girlfriend, do not do it.

Everything that I’m talking about here is meant to get your ex to continually come to your Facebook profile. While he may not be ready to admit that he’s missing you or that he loves you still, he keeps coming back to your profile over and over again. It’s going to reinforce in his subconscious that he still has feelings for you. This is especially effective during the no contact rule when you’re not allowed to have contact with your ex. If he’s coming back to your profile constantly looking for an update on your life, it means he’s obsessed with you. That is what obsessive people do. That’s when you have him.

Ashe, I hope that answers your question. That’s my best advice on how to get your ex-boyfriend back with social media. You can’t get him back 100% but you can certainly influence his decision. You can stay relevant during the no contact rule with social media.

Like I said, there is a 90% chance that your ex will look you up or check you out on Facebook. Facebook has this amazing ability to keep people coming back for more. Your ex will log into Facebook multiple times a day. Personally, I’m a guy and I log into Facebook way more than two or three times a day. My wife logs onto Facebook more than two or three times a day.

I think everyone who has a Facebook account and is engaged in it logs on multiple times a day. Every time your ex logs onto Facebook, it’s another opportunity that he has to look at your profile. This can be used across all social media. If I were you, I wouldn’t just apply this information to Facebook. I would apply it to all forms of social media.

In my opinion, that’s the best way to use social media to your advantage when you’re trying to get your ex-boyfriend back. I hope this episode was really educational for you.

If you have any questions, please feel free to comment in the show notes. You can find that at If you have not already gone to my iTunes page and left a review for this podcast, please do so. Everything you do helps. I hope you have a great day.

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378 thoughts on “EBR 024: Using Social Media To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

  1. Mary

    November 18, 2022 at 10:25 pm

    I’m reading it says social media is essential. I wish I can use social media to my advantage but my ex doesn’t have any social media that means it’ll be a lot harder to post and for him to see any of the posts. He’s never had IG and Facebook he deleted years ago. He did text me 1 week after the break up asking how I was doing and how work is going which I haven’t replied to him making it 8 days NC. He also said always sending you good wishes which makes it seem like have a good life to me haha

  2. Kh

    August 3, 2022 at 6:52 am

    So my ex(who dumped me) not follows me but keeps on checking my ig stories every single time.But he doesn’t text me or send me any message.I don’t know what to do
    ,i want him back but not sure if he will every text me and how long will it take

  3. Eesha

    June 27, 2022 at 8:01 am

    So, I started NC a few days ago but also deactivated my Instagram and Snapchat profiles a day before I started NC. I was driving myself crazy seeing him online and I knew I needed the space. After I deactivated my profiles, he sent me a text saying, “You blocked me? Why???”. I responded to that saying “Deactivated.” He said, “So you haven’t blocked me?” I haven’t responded to him since then.

    Will it be a terrible move if I choose to go off the social media grid for some part of my NC just to get my head straight? About 5-10 days? I’d appreciate your thoughts on this 🙂

    1. Coach Shaunna Nicol

      July 18, 2022 at 7:56 pm

      Hey EEsha so in this situation I would say that leaving your accounts active and you removing from your phone so that you are not using them is best as he then sees you’re still there but you are not “posting” at the moment this creates a sense of worry / mystery about him. He also just accidently shown you that he is checking on your socials!

  4. Chealse

    March 2, 2022 at 5:13 pm

    Hi, so I still have my ex on social media. Our major source of interaction was Snapchat. Ans I didn’t delete him like you said. I was steering away from posting anything on my story during no contact. But are you saying we should be posting positive and uplifting things during no contact, just not interacting with their social media. Also me and him have mutual friends, and are in a group chat together, do I not interact or open those snapchats either?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 21, 2022 at 9:19 pm

      Hey Chealse yes post positive things on your socials as you normally would your NC needs to be towards him, you do not watch his stories, message him, phone him or answer anything he may send you. Do not open his SC during your NC either. I would suggest that you be less active on the group chats, do not ignore your friends just be slower replying to anything that is posted.

  5. Dee

    January 19, 2022 at 10:17 am

    I’ve been posting pics exactly as you recommend and mutual friends tell me he stalks me all the time but he does not hit the like button and he’s made no attempt to contact me. It’s been been almost 6 weeks since he ghosted me after a fight. What should I do. We are an older couple, divorced with grown kids.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 26, 2022 at 9:43 pm

      Hey Dee if you have completed a 30 or 45 day NC then you can start reaching out with texts that Chris has suggested in his articles or videos.

  6. Sam

    December 25, 2021 at 9:59 am

    Was with ex for over 3 years and split about 5 months ago. Had no contact for about 3 months. He did try but I ignored however he messaged about 1 month ago and I finally replied. We are getting on really well and he calls and messages daily. I also go up to his. My issue is I. Have 3 children from previous and he doesn’t get on with my youngest. Tells me he loves me everyday and says he is kids dad. Can it ever work? Or am I wasting my time.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      December 27, 2021 at 8:43 pm

      Hey Sam, well if he does not get along with your child is this a battle for your attention? Or is it their personalities clash enough that they are not ever going to get along? I would suggest that you take a step back until you can decide if he is going to be able to get along with your child. The reality is he isn’t your childrens father, he’s your possible boyfriend. So the children should always come first no matter how much he loves you.

  7. Phoebe

    November 21, 2021 at 9:08 am

    Hi, was in a long distance relationship (were friends before we dated). The reason was pretty much pandemics, his personal issues, and the fact that we haven’t seen each other in more than five months (and no idea when we will be able to due to border restrictions). I gave him a time limit to move in with me since it has been nearly 2 years of long distance and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it. On top of that, my ‘clingy/needy’ behaviour caused him to start losing interest in me and was anxious of building resentment towards me during our breakup. I sent an angry long message post breakup and apologised the next day. I started no contact period but lasted for 2 weeks (I reached out asking for a proper honest conversation after my studies and he replied no worries, but I didn’t continue the conversation as he didn’t seem like he wanted to). And he keeps watching my instagram stories (he already started liking other female friend’s pics even when he knows I don’t like it). I’m the one who let him go, out of dignity, not because I wanted so (he showed signs of wanting to break up). I previously thought we could work through this together, before my neediness and clinginess killed the relationship (he didn’t have positive feeling when talking, which now I know pushed him away). I’m trying to heal and become a better person. Am I walking the right path? Is there anything else I could do? Should I have that proper conversation with him? I planned to start no contact for a month, but seems like ghosting when I promised to talk…but right now I think it’s better when I’m ready to behave in a more confident way and not being attached.

  8. Hannah

    October 10, 2021 at 11:35 pm

    So was in a 1 year relationship. He broke up with me and been in NC for a week. I posted a video on Snapchat story of going to an event and having fun. He checked it nearly straight away but then I realised he blocked me on Snapchat after viewing it. Why would this be? But then still has me on Instagram and facebook..

  9. Anouk

    September 14, 2021 at 4:12 pm

    Hi, my ex broke up with me for the second time after a year and two months (we were apart for 7 months) and before that we were together for a year. I did not beg, plead, … it has been a month since the breakup and we still have eachother on social media, but he does not like anything and he did not wish me a happy birthday… It feels like he simply doesn’t care about me.

  10. lilly

    April 3, 2021 at 4:27 am

    my boyfriend and i broke up a couple of days ago (he said that he loves me but he’s confused as to whether he is in love with me or not, i think i might have smothered him and we were friends 9 months before we dated and dated for 6 months) and two days after he came over and we talked for hours and got food and were as close as we usually have been and then when he went home we called and talked more but the next day he decided that, that probably wasn’t the best thing and said he needs time to get perspective on what he’s lost and to get used to not having me all the time and we said no contact for two weeks but he’s sent me some videos i don’t know what to do, i want to try and get back together or try and be friends again

  11. Robin Scherbastky

    March 11, 2021 at 1:39 am

    Hi, i have started reading your articles 2 days ago and it has given me so much hope on getting my ex back.
    I want to know if I have to start no contact rule again after messing up the texting phase (I kind of became clingy and also started to go too fast and I think that scared him and he is ghosting me now). I think he has a girlfriend now but not sure

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 11, 2021 at 7:48 pm

      Hi Robin, so yes you need to re start your NC again but this time you would need to go 45 days if you confirm there is a girlfriend. I would suggest that you read through a few more articles to help you along the way.

  12. Preet

    January 18, 2021 at 4:20 am

    What can I post on IG during a lockdown? He is in another country with no cases and gets to post amazing pics of his activities. He also has a gf. I have maintained no contact for a year, he has been viewing my stories and liking my pics and flirting in the DMs. I’ve been polite but neutral, and explained I couldn’t flirt back because he has a gf and I don’t want to hurt anybody. I feel very powerless since I can’t post any pics of me out and about due to lockdown. Starting to feel incredibly dispirited and boring

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 18, 2021 at 9:21 pm

      Hi Preet, we do not suggest that you go into a No Contact over 60 days, so I would suggest that if you want to get this ex back that you start following the being there method. There are articles to help you understand the types of messages you need to be sending. As for social media posts while in lockdown, it is going to be focused on self care and positivity. Fitness if you are into your running / walking etc.

  13. Hashh

    January 1, 2021 at 7:43 pm

    I was in a relationship with a guy nd in between that i fall in love with another guy the point is the guy i was with in relationship i didnt love him that much but i fall for this other guy real hard now i left my current bf for him nd he just doesnt seem to love me back he talks to me after a week nd he is always on his social media

  14. Jen

    November 27, 2020 at 9:00 pm

    What if you have no social media? I only had him on WhatsApp and snapchat and he deleted me from both. I have no Facebook or Instagram or Twitter accounts.
    I only have LinkedIn but that’s inappropriate and we are not connected there.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      December 4, 2020 at 9:51 pm

      Hi Jen, you can still work on yourself and make sure that you are the best version of your self. Then star the texting phase as normal after you have finished your No Contact.

  15. Pato

    November 25, 2020 at 1:55 am

    Can you watch your ex-girlfriend Instagram stories during NC? Or is it better to ignore them? Or just a few?
    She’s watching all my IG stories. I’m ignoring all of hers.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      December 12, 2020 at 9:03 pm

      We suggest that you do not watch your exes social media during your No contact period

  16. Julie

    November 5, 2020 at 2:48 am

    What about if your ex deleted his entire FB account? What does it mean? He even deleted himself from his work FB account and he was the administrator of it.
    Mine is public so he can still see it if he wants to. What are the chances? It seems like he just wants to disappear. Or he doesn’t want me in his face as a constant reminder. He could always make a new account that I haven’t been able to find, but that is going to seem odd to all his friends isn’t it?!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 5, 2020 at 10:31 am

      Hi Julie, so he could be taking a break from social media – it does some people the world of good being away from it all for a while. I think you need to spend less time focusing on his social media activity, start working on yourself, no contact and the holy trinity.

  17. Lily

    November 2, 2020 at 12:51 am

    We just broke up yest and he’s already likeing pics. One was me and my kid and dog and the other is a post about letting shit go. I love him but don’t know if he’s rite for me anymore. I want to unfriend him so I don’t see his pics.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 2, 2020 at 7:54 pm

      Hi Lily, if you can ignore him and his interactions on social media for 30 days until you decide what it is you want to do

  18. Diane

    October 28, 2020 at 5:18 pm

    I’m currently 3 weeks into no contact with a guy that I wasn’t actually in a relationship with. I took a 2 week break from my social media to get my head in check then started posting as I normally would. He views all my Snapchat and instagram stories and I don’t view any of his.
    Thing is I’ve already done no contact with him before, he contacted me after 47 days but disappeared again shortly thereafter, I guess when he realised he hadn’t completely lost me.
    Should I just go indefinite no contact. I don’t plan on reaching out to him first at all, I don’t think there’s a chance of him coming back but I still find it strange that he views everything I post if he basically ghosted me.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 28, 2020 at 9:16 pm

      Hi Diane, so this program encourages you to either follow the indefinite no contact if you want to move on from this ex, or reach out if you want to try to get them back. It has to be your choice which one you want to do, however if you want him back then read about the texting phase and how we advice you to follow it step by step

  19. Andra

    September 19, 2020 at 5:14 pm

    Hi! I have a question: if my ex likes all my photos and posts on Facebook, and I want him back, currently being in the no contact rule phase, when he posts a photo, should I like his photo, as well?
    I need to mention we were on a short term relationship and he said he wasn’t ready for commitment. Thanks

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 25, 2020 at 9:12 pm

      If you are following NC then you do not like anything of your ex social media while in NC

  20. Annie

    August 14, 2020 at 11:45 pm

    Hello! I hope you all are ok. I had a long distance relationship. The reason was pretty much pandemics, money and the fact that we haven’t seen each other in more than eight months (and no idea when we will be able to, since his salary was reduced). He hates facebook, and he only downloaded whatsapp because of me. I started no contact period on august 6. And he keeps liking my instagram pictures. I’m the one who let him go, out of dignity, not because I wanted so. I thought I would give him time to think about it, before my neediness and clinginess killed the relationship (he’s not the texting, messaging, overattached dude, and I demanded more attention… yeah now I know I was looking for the validation I don’t give myself). I’m improving, trying to become a better person, and he keeps liking my pictures. Am I walking the right path? Is there anything else I could do? I planned to make radio silence for a month (because my birthday is coming), but right now I think it’s better when I’m ready to behave in a more confident way and not being attached. watcha think?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      August 31, 2020 at 6:35 pm

      Hey Annie, here in ERP we suggest that you go into a No Contact asap as you need to start working on yourself and getting over the break up. So no, I dont think you need to way. I would suggest that you go into a NC and work on your confidence in that time, even if you need to complete a longer version of NC of 45 days to do that.

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