Your boyfriend says he wants a break and I am guessing you don’t.

Maybe you’ve told your friends and family that you sense a breakup is coming and then when they press you for details all you can tell them is,

I just have this feeling

But they aren’t locked in your head. They haven’t obsessed about every detail and interaction you’ve had with him.

And then it comes…

The dreaded,

Let’s take a break

And that leads us to the topic of today’s article.

What the heck are you supposed to do if you find yourself in this situation.

Well, what if I told you that I have come up with a very unique three step process to guide you through this very difficult time.

The Three Things You Need To Do If Your Boyfriend Says He Wants A Break

You’ll find that where I stand on this situation differs from most outlets.

You see, most people like to tell you to handle things the “politically correct” way. They’ll tell you that you shouldn’t play games and that if you set something you love free it’ll come back.

I don’t subscribe to these beliefs.

All I care about are results.

And in my experience letting things “just sit” doesn’t work too well.

But more on that in a minute.

There are three things that I want you to do if you find yourself in a situation where your boyfriend says he wants a break.

  1. Understand that the two of you are broken up, you aren’t a break
  2. Don’t try to fix things immediately
  3. Utilize a form of no contact

I’d like to go through each of these things one by one so that you know exactly where I stand on them and you can have an idea of what can ultimately get you results.

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1. Understand That The Two Of You Are Broken Up

Every time I gear up to write one of these articles I do research.

This research comes in many different phases.

  • First, I’ll map out a strategy that I think will work
  • Next, I’ll cross reference that strategy with what I am seeing with clients or other people that I am working with
  • Finally, I’ll search and see what my peers are recommending to see how my strategy compares to theirs

Interestingly when I started looking at my peers for this article I learned that our strategies are vastly different.

The general consensus with them was,

See if you can work it out by setting ground rules for a break

Honestly, I think they’ve just watched a few too many episodes of friends,

Now, you may not agree with what I am about to say but honestly is there any difference between being on a break and being broken up?

People will have you believe that if you are on a break that you can pause the relationship.

That you need time to sort out your feelings and that when the break is over you can let your partner in on those feelings. But I find reality is much harsher than fantasy.

In almost every case I have found that a break is simply the gateway to a breakup.

And if you think about it, it makes a lot of sense.

You go on a break when something doesn’t feel right.

You go on a break when you feel that something with the relationship is broken.

You don’t go on a break when things are great.

Break = Broken Up

I want you to do something for me.

Every time you think of this “break” I want you to replace that terminology with “break up.”

The sooner you undergo this paradigm shift the better for what’s to come.

Actually, rather than having me ramble on here I’d like to talk about what’s to come.

2. Don’t Immediately Try To Fix Things

Human beings tend to be reactionary when it comes to breakups.

It’s a bit of cause and effect at play.

Your ex breaks up with you (cause)

You try to fix things as soon as possible (effect)

But what if I told you that the worst thing that you could do would be to try to fix things right now?

You found this article, probably through Google, which means that you typed in some variation of,

“What am I supposed to do if my boyfriend tells me he wants to go on a break?”

This implies that it was him that initiated the “break up.”

So, from his perspective he is in a position of power and you are in a position of weakness. Understanding that it would make total sense if you tried to fix things as soon as possible.

If you begged…

Pleaded…

Hoped…

And you want to know why I think these are huge mistakes.

Because you are trying to fix things from a position of weakness.

It’s not that I am not a fan of “fixing things.” On the contrary, the whole purpose of this article is to put you in a position to where you can begin fixing things. However, I play to win.

So, I am going to recommend the course of action that’s going to get you the best results.

And what gets you those results are two simple concepts,

  1. Perception
  2. Timing

We are going to cover the timing aspect of this strategy when we start talking about the no contact rule. So, for now I’d like to talk to you about perception.

How Perception Plays A Role

I started this website back in 2012 to create an environment that cut through the BS out there. I wanted to get right to the heart of the matter and teach people what really worked.

And for the most part I feel like I succeeded in doing that.

But learning about what works to re-attract someone after a breakup is a little funny. As time went on and I worked with more individuals on a one on one capacity I began to refine my strategies. In other words, the current version of Chris Seiter has way better advice than the version who started this website.

Why?

Well, it’s all about perception.

Last night my daughter got sick and the first thing my wife and I did was quarantine me from the situation. Children are like little biological weapons that infect everything they touch.

(Parents, you know what I am talking about.)

Now, generally I don’t mind getting sick but ever since I started this business it’s one of my greatest fears.

Why?

Because if I go down pretty much everything else I’ve built up does.

Needless to say, I ended up sleeping in a different room from my wife and my daughter (both who are sick now) in an effort to avoid catching this nasty cold. So, I found myself with a bit of free time. I did what any self respecting person does with free time.

I fired up Netflix and started looking for a show to watch.

Ultimately I settled on a show called Peaky Blinders,

I bought into the show after about 2 minutes.

I don’t really know why but I found myself captivated. In fact, I was so captivated I stayed up till 4 AM just devouring the first few episodes.

Which in hindsight is kind of a dumb thing to do if you are trying to avoid getting sick.

Anyways, in one of the episodes a character said something that really struck me,

You don’t parley when you’re on the back foot

This quote is essentially all about perception.

For those of you who don’t know a “parley” is,

Parley: holding a conference with the opposing side to discuss terms.

So, back to the quote.

It’s all about perception because if you go into a parley where your opponent thinks they have the upper hand it isn’t going to go well for you. However, it’s a completely different story when you go into a parley and your opponent thinks you have the upper hand.

Again, it’s all about perception.

If your ex views you as,

  • Weak
  • Desperate
  • Gnatty
  • Sad

It gives them this strange upper hand and removes any mystery from the equation. And in case you didn’t know you need mystery working for you if you are going to get your ex back.

So, rather than trying to fix things immediately I say you wait until you can approach the situation from a position of strength.

Wait, how the hell can I do that?

I’d like to introduce you to the no contact rule.

3. Utilize A Form Of No Contact

Above I mentioned two ideas that tend to get more results than anything.

Do you remember what those were?

  1. Timing
  2. Perception

Well, above I talked all about perception.

The no contact rule is where timing comes into play.

Let me ask you a question.

Let’s say that the shoe was on the other foot and you told your boyfriend that you’d like to go on a break from him. It’s clear that he doesn’t want to cooperate but he plays along holding on to a shred of hope. Then, unexpectedly, your father passes away.

You and your father were unbelievably close and you are crushed by the news.

Would that be the opportune time to win your heart back if your (now) ex boyfriend tried?

Probably not.

Why?

Because the timing isn’t right.

You aren’t in a state where you are even open to the idea.

Do you see where I am going with this?

Pretty much a massive part of this battle is getting your boyfriend to the correct state where he can view you romantically.

And right after he asks for that break isn’t that time.

So, what can we do to help the “right” time to come about?

Utilize a no contact rule.

What Is The No Contact Rule? 

I’ve talked a lot about the no contact rule here, here and here.

I’ve also done quite a number of awesome videos over it,

But if you want a quick crash course,

The No Contact Rule: A period of time (21, 30, 45 days) where you completely ignore your ex in an attempt to make them miss you. It also gives you an opportunity to improve aspects of your life that you need to work on so that you can truly hit that UG status (UG = Ungettable Girl)

It’s worth mentioning that sometimes a straight no contact period isn’t ideal for your situation. If you find yourself wondering if you should be using a limited no contact rule check out that article.

Phew…

I know that didn’t look like a lot but that took a bit of work tracking down all of those links and videos 🙂 .

Anyways, you are probably sitting there wondering,

How does this even benefit me? Why should I do a no contact rule?

Well, I’ve been thinking that a lot lately.

And while I can sit here and throw out some insane statistics like how 100% of our successes within our private facebook group have utilized the no contact rule that wouldn’t really explain why it works.

Why The No Contact Rule Works

I think more than anything it’s due to the fact that it speeds up the timing of your boyfriend “being ready.” But just ignoring him for a certain amount of time isn’t going to be enough to do that alone and that’s really where the secret sauce comes into play.

Secret Sauce = What You Do During No Contact

I get upset when I am working with a client one on one and we both agree on a course of action that they need to take during a no contact rule and ultimately they don’t do it.

The no contact rule doesn’t yield the results that they were hoping for and they call me back and tell me that it didn’t work.

No….

It didn’t work because they didn’t do the most important aspect of the no contact rule and that is to use that time to change your exes perception of you.

Did the lightbulb go off yet?

There is a synergy between everything I am teaching you here.

The no contact rule hits on the timing aspect by simply ignoring your ex but it’s up to you to change his perception indirectly by using that time away wisely.

Now, how do you do that?

Well, that’s where I am going to recommend that you check out some of the other articles on this website!

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63 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Boyfriend Says He Wants A Break”

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    Frankie

    May 14, 2020 at 11:07 am

    My boyfriend of 4 years has moved out to his brothers house and asked for a break. I’ve been obliging, and since he has moved out properly I’ve started the NC rule as of yesterday (he was messaging sparsely to see if he could collect things etc). His last message said he felt refreshed being at his brothers, and that he felt sad because he was making me sad – not that he missed me or anything like that. I don’t want to read into his messages too much, but due to lockdown on top of this I can’t do a lot to try and take my mind off things. Any advice? Obviously even after the NC rule stops, we will need to discuss the house etc, so do I have a lower chance of winning him back due to this as well? x

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 20, 2020 at 1:44 pm

      Hi Frankie, lock down is difficult during these times but make sure you have plenty to keep you busy. Read, draw paint decorate garden whatever it is to stop you sitting and thinking about the break up. During Nc you need to be working on your Holy Trinity, so maybe look for some online jobs, or just work on your health and relationships around you with family and friends a lot of people will be struggling with what is going on around them right now. Help someone and it’ll help you feel better too. After NC is over oyu need to start the texting phase where you have short positive conversations with your ex. There are many articles on this website to help with that too

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    Vishakha

    May 13, 2020 at 1:39 pm

    Hey,
    I was in a LDR with my boyfriend for 4months now. Suddenly he stopped calling me and we had a fight and he said he wants a break. I got crazy and tried talking to him. He just replies me saying he need to be alone. I have now clue how to deal with it and if he will ever come back.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 19, 2020 at 8:46 pm

      Hi Vishakha, this is where you would complete a 45 day NC and then reach out after you have spent that time working on yourself and preparing yourself for your first short conversation with your ex.

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    Laura

    April 26, 2020 at 2:15 pm

    My bf has trust issues with me and thinks I dont really want to be in a serious relationship with him bc of some things I said that came out as me being flaky and not thinking of him as a boyfriend (he is also waiting for me to get my divorce which i am working on). I just started working on making him feel less insecure, but he’s been pulling back saying he doesnt know what he wants and that he fell in love with me too fast. When I confronted him he said he wants to focus on himself and cant do that when he’s with me bc he thinks about me (and prob insecure thoughts) too much. So I moved out to give him the space he asked for. He said we can still talk but he hasnt reached out. I know I should wait but I also dont want him to think i left for good and make him think I didnt want to be with him in the first place. What should I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 3, 2020 at 2:55 pm

      Hi Laura, so the No Contact period needs to be around 30 days where you do not reach out to your ex, then you start the texting phase, when someone asks for space the most important thing you need to do is give him the impression of what he wanted – life without you in it. In that time you need to work on your HolyTrinity

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    Tania

    April 19, 2020 at 5:55 pm

    Hi!

    My bf and I recently went into LDR. We lived together for 4 years and currently in LDR for the past year. Out of the blue, he decided he needs a break to determine if he wants to be with me forever because right now, he’s stalling and he just doesn’t know why. He stated he needs time and don’t know how long. Is putting a timeframe unreasonable?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 20, 2020 at 1:06 pm

      Hi Tania, it is not unreasonable – but you do not tell him he has a deadline. You tell yourself how long you are willing to wait for an answer

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    Tessa

    April 17, 2020 at 6:30 am

    My boyfriend has had a hard time because his grandma passed away (they had a close relationship) so he asked for a week of no contact. (He always says he likes to deal with emotions by himself) Obviously i missed him a lot but i gave him the space he asked for. Then after a week he messaged me “i miss you” so i said that i missed him back. He explained that it was because after he stopped thinkinh about his grandma he thought of me. But the next couple of days he wouldn’t message me. The only time we talked was when i messaged him in the evening asking how his day been etc. Well i asked him if he like wanted to talk to me at all and he said that It feels hard for him to initiate the conversation. And i didn’t know where that was coming from. We never had problems with communication. Then the next few days he wouldn’t text and so i asked if he doesn’t feel like he needs me/misses me. He just got very upset very fast and after few messages saying that break would be the best for us because he doesn’t want to bring my mood down and that talking to other people (men) might make me happier and all that nonsense he knows i would never do. Then he said that he needs to go and didn’t reply to me again. I apologized for pushing on him with these feelings questions but he just ignored it for two days. Then i got a very short message saying that from now until the lockdown is finished we are on a break and after he wants to talk to me in person. It’s been a week now and he hasn’t texted me, and neither did I. I just see him following other girls on instagram and liking their pictures, he is chatting to his friends as if everything was back to normal and yet he is ignoring me. ( he has never been the type to like other gilrs pictures or care much about their posts but it feels like he does now) Tomorrow is his bday and i don’t know whether i should text him saying happy bday or not. I really want him back but i don’t know if he is moving on already and i should too orr if there is a chance for us to be together.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 21, 2020 at 10:30 pm

      Hi Tessa, it is necessary that you complete your NC and allow him some time to truly miss you thinking that he has lost you, even more so when you do not reach out for his birthday he is going to question why you didn’t text him. He is grieving a loss of someone who was important in his life so you need to understand he is also learning how to cope with those feelings. Complete 30 days NC minimum and then reach out to your ex after starting the texting phase

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    Deja

    April 17, 2020 at 12:31 am

    Hi,
    My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. Lately, we have been arguing over the smallest things. He would say that he would be busy and I was calling a lot when he sometimes he didn’t communicate and I just would want his time. A couple of weeks ago during the lockdown, we were arguing and he said can we take a break because he has other things he has to do and was tired of it and he blocked me off everything. I was trying to find ways to talk to him but he texted me on one social media a couple of days later making sure I was okay and I asked him what did he mean by a break no reply nor did he say he wanted someone else so I’m doing no contact and I’m on my 6th day of no contact because I am kind of confused and a little scared. Is he thinking of something or want someone? What could he mean by a break? Will he unblock me off of everything including from his phone and reach out to me and talk to me?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 21, 2020 at 10:48 pm

      Hi Deja, it is likely that you will be unblocked eventually but by the sounds of things he wants a break from the fall outs and the arguments that you guys have been having lately. Allow him the space and when he comes back be happy and easy going so that he thinks the space has not upset you

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    M

    April 15, 2020 at 6:43 pm

    Hi my boyfriend and I have been doing long distance for about a year. We started dating the beginning of his senior year in high school and as he went into the military. We talked last Wednesday and he told me he just feels like he needs time for himself and he doesn’t get the same feeling with our relationship and that he’s holding me back. There is nothing I can say to make him want to try and not give up on us. Next week we were suppose to hit a year and a half. I convinced him to go on a break until next Saturday to think about it, he says he doesn’t think he will change his mind. His friend that’s also military did the same thing with his girlfriend. I don’t want to lose him but don’t know what to do. He has never even talked about splitting up before and promised to never leave me. Also I can’t see him until Christmas and I think the 3 year Apart reality really hit him. I didn’t react so good at first and spammed him a little. I have t reached out in 2 days we are suppose to talk on Saturday. I don’t know what to do. I think we weren’t giving each other enough freedom.

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    Lou Lou

    April 14, 2020 at 12:05 pm

    My boyfriend dumped me during lockdown and said he needed space to sort out His own crap . He’s said we on time out for now . he’s now currently blocked me . What do I do . Do I chuck his things away

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 14, 2020 at 9:13 pm

      Hi Lou do not throw his things away, you just box them up and stick them out of the way for the time being. He will unblock you eventually just follow the No Contact information and make sure you are taking care of yourself during this time

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    Dianna

    April 1, 2020 at 12:25 pm

    Hi, I am in an LDR relationship for almost 4 years now.. I admit I have been demanding this past few months.. My bf got fed bup and said I am impatient and wants us to be friends for now.. I told him I don’t like the idea and if he would pursue leaving I will settle down with someone else since I have already waited a lot.. He said, we are still friends and that there is no need for me to block him caus we might get back together.. I told him I will block him and leave as well if he wants us to be friends for now.. Please help.. I’m dying..

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 2, 2020 at 4:07 pm

      Hi Dianna, I am not sure what you want help with. But if you want your ex back in a relationship then you need to accept that LDR are difficult and that at times you don’t get to see or speak to your partner much. Was there a plan for you both to be together one day?

      If you start following the program, you need to not block your ex, but you do need to read, understand and follow the rules of a No Contact Rule. I would suggest doing so for 30 days before you reach out to your ex, which should be a text that Chris has suggested in his articles and videos

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    Cindy

    April 1, 2020 at 7:58 am

    Hi
    My boyfriend and I have been sleeping together for almost a year before we officially started dating. I later find out that he cheated on me , I confronted him and he said he has slept with 5 girls since we started dating. I was so heart broken I still forgave him and agreed to continue the relationship. Few days later he sent me a message saying he needs a break , that he still thinks about his ex everyday even when I’m around, but he still loves me . So I asked him if his Ex comes back will he go back to her, he said he doesn’t know. I’m so confused, I even begged him to stay but he insisted it’s the only thing he wants right now. He said it’s a difficult decision for him but he has to do it, claiming he still loves me. He said let’s still be friends and I agreed ( I shouldn’t have). I don’t know if the NC will still work, I did not block him from any social media, we chatted this morning but it was casual. I asked him if the break is not a gate way to breakup and he said “It depends on how long it takes”. I still love him and he knows, he apologised for disappointing me. Please I need advice.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 8, 2020 at 3:51 pm

      Hi Cindy yes you need to go into a NC as he needs to feel what his life is going to be like without you – if you want him to be you boyfriend then you can not be his friend right now – you need to work the Holy Trinity and then reach out in 30 days

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    Sonia

    April 1, 2020 at 6:19 am

    Hello Chris,

    My boyfriend and I have been having issues for a while now because of my temper problems we often have long fights over meaningless things I now realize how wrong I have been and I only want to change myself for the better. I do not consider us to be a toxic couple we have had the most best times but also the hardest times. He now wants a break he said he still loves and misses me but wants to be alone and did not specify for how long he wanted the break. When I said I would wait for him he asked me not to and asked me to figure out if this is what I really wanted and that he wont mind if I dated someone else. I know that he is all I want and I have made some mistakes along the way and I want to fix things, I only want another chance just to prove to him that I have changed and I will not hurt him the way I did before. I just need him back to prove that I am not the same person and this was not a mistake or something he would regret. What should I do during this break? I only need him back because this is my fault and I pushed him towards this decision because of my hurtful actions

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 9, 2020 at 11:44 pm

      Hi Sonia, look up the Holy Trinity that Chris speaks of where you are going to work on yourself to be the best version of yourself.

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    Rita

    March 28, 2020 at 3:21 pm

    Hi, me and my boyfriend are in relationship for 14 months. He recently told me that I’m too demanding, and has stopped staying over at my place overnight since a month ago. He used to spend at least two nights with me in the previous months.

    I’m worried that he may ask for a break/breakup soon. Could you advice what I should do? Thank you!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 28, 2020 at 9:54 pm

      Hi Rita, I would suggest that you become less demanding and start spending time with your friends or in your own company to show your bf that you are giving him space and not going to demand anything of him going forward.

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    Saloni

    March 15, 2020 at 3:45 pm

    Hi
    I and my boyfriend is in relationship for past 2.5 years everything is going very good even in February we have spent lot of time together bt suddenly we have a small fight and later on he told me he wants a break to understand himself what he wanted to do in his carrer and whether he see our future or not in the meantime i have texted 4 times and 2 times I called earlier he was texting me back bt he is not its been 15 days so i am not able to understand what to do

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 17, 2020 at 8:37 pm

      Hi Saloni so you need to start your No Contact where you spend some time focusing on yourself. You need to stop texting your ex for at least 30 days and then when you are done reach out with a text that Chris suggests

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    Rita

    March 10, 2020 at 10:18 am

    I got news from someone that my man was checking on me. I was angry, i over reacted. I Said a lot of things to him. He tried talking to me but I didn’t listen. Later run I found out that’s not true he had nothing with the Lady, now he’s angry I didn’t trust him but rather I trusted what people where saying. He needs space, have begged him he still stands on his ground about the break what should I do I need my man back.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 12, 2020 at 1:30 pm

      Hi Rita, so you should allow your ex some space as he is hurt and upset that you did not trust him. Just be cam about this if it is a break up then allow 30 days of no contact before reaching out to him again

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    Very sad and confused

    January 23, 2020 at 12:04 pm

    Hi,
    Me and my boyfriend were together for 4 year. Everything was great, we had lot of fun together, he called and texted me constantly so sometimes I find it boring but never told him.
    Every birthday, Christmas, Anniversary he tried to make me happy with some cute stuffs, and most importantly he was there.
    Last two months we were arguing little bit more then previous 3 years.
    I never knew what jelous means, because, luckily, he never gave me the opportunity to feel it.
    It comes Christmas time and he act so weird, he announces that he needs pause to make change his life, to find a job, to teach Everything he needs for life.
    He said he still loves me but he can not focus on our relationship right now and that he does not want to hurt me with his nervous.
    He said he want to have thar feeling of missing me and that Everything within us will be ok.
    Every day since zhat he call me and say that he is happy hearing my voice happy and that he miss me but now he can’t be with me.
    I do not know what to think.
    He is 24 now and we still live separate. He lives with his parents and all the time arguing with his mother about mistakes he has done since he was teenagee.
    Please, help me

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 24, 2020 at 12:59 pm

      Hi there, so it sounds like your boyfriend / ex needs space and less stress and pressure on him. So go into a No contact focus on yourself for some time and know that he is has been on hoesnt and said he can not do with a relationship right now while he is over stressed with his life situation

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    Lost in LA

    December 8, 2019 at 12:58 am

    Are you only to break no contact if they reach out asking to get back together? My ex (as of 2 weeks after 3 years together) broke up with me saying he believes we are incompatible (Lots of fighting lately due to stress on both sides) reaches out to “check in” and wish me “happy holidays” and then turns around and states he “feels like he’s chasing me only to be ignored” when I don’t respond trying to implement no contact. I’m just not sure if checking in warrants no contact. I’ve blocked him on all social media (seeing his name pop up on our mutual friends posts is too painful) the only way he can currently reach me is via text. This is so hard and I’m devastated especially given it’s the holidays.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      December 8, 2019 at 10:56 pm

      Lost In LA, yes only if your ex wants you back that you reply if theyre just checking in, then they just want to know if you reply to them and still available to them

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    Amber

    September 10, 2019 at 3:42 pm

    My boyfriend and I are technically broken up (we have gotten rid of our pictures of each other on social media and Facebook statuses have been changed), but we are continuing to talk because he said he just needs some time and space to try to get his life together. He is under a lot of stress, we both are, with moving, school, and jobs. It honestly came out of the blue for me, and it’s only been a couple days. I am absolutely heartbroken and when we talked last night in person, he was very upset too, like actual tears happening upset. We decided that we would do this for as long as 4 months, so he could have his time. But I keep reading different articles and I’m getting contradictory answers. Lots of people are saying that more good can come from this break than bad, but others are saying that this is just going to lead to a true break up, for good. Right now, of course we are both in pain, but I do not want the pain to go away until I know whether we will get back together or not. I want him to be happy and I am not going to try to change his mind anymore, but I am just so confused as to where all of this came from. I am also scared that if we do get back together, it will be even worse than before.

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    Feeling confused

    August 30, 2019 at 3:31 pm

    Where did my comment go??

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    Feeling confused

    August 30, 2019 at 3:19 pm

    My boyfriend and I were only together for a short three months. Which was amazing. But he is overworked although I was understanding to his swing shifts he feels like he is letting me down a lot of times and he said this isn’t the man he is. He put me in his future. But he has a lot going on such as remodeling his home so he can move in it plus the work. I am 39 and he is 40. I’m in nursing school which I’m pretty busy myself. And I have a two year old disabled son. We got into a misunderstanding and he said he was done which I did nothing wrong. He was pulling away and we communicated about things but I guess I was not on the same page and was a bit confused. So we left on bad terms he deleted me off Facebook. So two weeks later he can back saying he didn’t want to be on bad terms. That he doesn’t want to lose me or his best friend and I’m a round about way told me he loved me. But not direct but I could tell his feelings were so sincere. He said he just wanted us to break so he could focus on getting things done to prepare for the future. Well I’m ok with a break but not ending things. But I’m still sitting here confused. Bc we talked the next day about some school news I had that he told me to contact him about but it’s now been two weeks of no contact. So is the break continuing I mean it seems like it. Ugh I do not feel I should have to contact him even if we were last on good terms bc I’m not the one that felt this was needed. Any advice? Should I just keep going on with my life and wait for him to contact or should I be like hey remember me? Lol

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    Tmcquire

    August 28, 2019 at 10:39 pm

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