By Chris Seiter

Updated on February 27th, 2021

Have you ever noticed that when couples become close on a deep level they can almost sense when things aren’t right with one another?

Seriously, its like they have this internal radar detector that goes off any time they sense even the slightest of issues. Maybe it’s a look that a guy will give a girl or the silence from the girl after an important question from the guy. The most amazing thing about this phenomenon is that nothing really has to be said for the other person to pick up on the fact that something isn’t right.

In other words, what I am really trying to get at here is that when things aren’t right in a relationship you should be able to sense it if you have a deep enough connection with your partner.

Take animals for example.

After a devastating earthquake or tsunami there always seem to be reports saying that animals started acting strange or sometimes even did things like moving to safer ground. In other words, they can sense that it’s coming and adapt to the circumstances.

That is what this page is going to be all about, adapting to your circumstances.

What This Page Is Going To Cover

Many people know me as the “ex boyfriend” guy.

After all, I do run a large site specifically teaching women to get back with their exes. As a result, most of the members here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery care about one thing, learning about their exes. So, it only makes sense that most of the content found on this website revolves around that topic.

Well, this page is going to be a little different than the normal one.

Instead of talking about what to do after the breakup to get your ex boyfriend back I am going to be talking about what you can do before a breakup to prevent it from even happening.

Now, I realize that this may put me at odds with a few of the members of this site since they are probably going to scream,




If you are reading these words and warming your voice up to scream more criticism at me I want you to take a deep breath because I assure you that the insight that I am about to dish out here will help you to better understand your ex boyfriend (if you are broken up currently) and can even help you keep him if you do manage to get him back.

Below I have compiled a list of the things that this page is going to cover,

  • Understanding There Is No Exact Science.
  • Is The Relationship Worth Fighting For?
  • Breakup “Trouble Signs” To Watch Out For.
  • The Importance Of Communication.
  • Decoding What Your Boyfriend Really Means When He Communicates.
  • Prevention Methods
  • What To Do If You Fail At Preventing A Breakup

Are you ready for an insightful look at how men think in relationships?


Well, lets get started!

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This Isn’t An Exact Science


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Sustaining a successful relationship with another human being can be one of the most challenging tasks for anyone walking this planet.

No matter what you will eventually be faced with challenges like,

  • Emotional outbursts
  • Fear of loss.
  • Other people trying to sabotage your relationship.
  • How your partner handles attention from other people.
  • How you handle attention from other people.
  • How serious the relationship is.
  • Life goals?
  • When you fight do you fight fair?

My point is really simple.

When it comes to relationships there are a lot of factors that you have to take into account. It takes two very special people to overcome all the obstacles thrown in their path and the reason you are on this site is that you believe that you and your boyfriend or ex boyfriend are these two special people.

However, I don’t want you to let your emotions completely blind you from the truth of your situation.

Relationships are a two way street.

In other words, it takes the effort of both you and your boyfriend to make this thing work. For example, lets say that you and your man are trying to pull a heavy object up a very steep hill. You can’t pull the object up by yourself and he can’t pull the object up by himself. Rather it is going to take both of you putting your maximum effort in to lug this thing up the hill.

Do you know what this object is?

If you guessed that it’s your relationship then you would be right.

I already know for a fact that you want things to work out but I can’t guarantee that your boyfriend does. All I can guarantee is that I can give you the opportunity to understand him better and raise your chances of making him carry his weight in the relationship.

Managing Your Expectations

expectations vs reality

I have began noticing a trend on Ex Boyfriend Recovery that I think can be a little dangerous.

A woman usually comes to this website to learn more about why her ex is acting a certain way. Since this website has a lot of in-depth information on the male mind a lot of women start getting confident in how to approach their situation going forward.

Now, I am not saying that this is a bad thing at all. In fact, I absolutely love it when women derive confidence from the words that I have written. What I will say is a bad thing is when women set unrealistic expectations for themselves. For example, lets say you land on my website and you start reading the information I have put out there.

All of a sudden you start to see the light at the end of the tunnel and you believe with all your heart that you are going to get your ex boyfriend back.

This is an unrealistic expectation because no one can guarantee that you are going to get your ex boyfriend back.

You don’t want to hear that though do you?

You don’t want to hear that you may never be able to prevent a breakup when you know its coming or that you may never get your ex back. I am sure those thoughts creep in to your mind every once in a while but every time they do you probably push them away.

Instead of facing the truth, that you may fail at keeping your man, you decide to take the opposite approach and lie to yourself by constantly reciting,

“I am 100% guaranteed to succeed if I follow this method.”

This is an issue because essentially what you have done here is run away from your ultimate fear, failure.

Why is this such an issue?

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Have you ever noticed how people who set unrealistic expectations for themselves are devastated emotionally when those unrealistic expectations aren’t met?

Lets use an example to illustrate this point.

You and your boyfriend have been dating for over a year and you can sense that a breakup is coming. You become so desperate to stop the breakup that you go to the internet in search of advice. Luckily, you land on this page and begin to use my game plan for preventing a breakup. The game plan starts working and you begin to get confidence. Pretty soon you believe with all your heart that the breakup is going to be prevented. Weeks go by and you hold strong to your belief that you are going to keep your relationship together.

In fact, this belief is so strong that you push any type of negative thoughts out of your head. You don’t allow yourself to believe that failure is an option.

A day later your boyfriend breaks up with you and you are absolutely devastated. You are devastated because your expectations were unrealistic.

I mean, failure is not an option? I am sorry but the world doesn’t work that way.

So, what is the smarter way to approach this situation?

If I were faced with the same situation in my life here is how I would approach it…

Whatever Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger

It all boils down to the fear of loss in my mind.

You are here reading this page because you are afraid of losing your boyfriend. If I was you I would take the opposite approach. Rather than running away from that possibility I want you to embrace it.

All day long I see people running away from their problems. Very rarely do I ever see anyone who stops running and stands up to their problems but when I do it is certainly a sight to behold.

Look, here is the truth.

You are a woman and I am a man. I am willing to bet my life that I know men better than you do because I am one. I know what attracts men and I know what makes us stick around. Sure, there will always be those jerks that the general rules won’t apply to but generally speaking men are attracted to women who they think are better than them.

Now, I have a question for you.

What do you think is more attractive to men,

A woman who is constantly scared of losing a man?


A woman who is independent enough to realize that she doesn’t need a man to be complete?

In the long run a woman who realizes her value and understands that she can go on living without the admiration of men is going to be more attractive to men.

I understand that you are frightened of losing your boyfriend and make no mistake about it, it’s a very frightening prospect. But lets play devils advocate here for a bit. Lets say that the worse case scenario occurs and you aren’t able to prevent the breakup you know is coming.

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It’s not like the world has ended.

Sure, it may feel like it has but in reality the sun is still going to rise and set the next day. You are still going to wake up with ten fingers and ten toes (I hope.)

My point is simple, it is very possible for you to survive without your significant other if they decide to leave and if you face the fear of loss you can prepare yourself emotionally for the possibility of things not going your way.

So, rather than running away from the possibility of a breakup I want you to think about it and accept that it could happen. Instead of thinking,

“I have to keep him.”

I want you to think,

“I can live without him if he breaks my heart.”

Now, I do want to point out that in no way am I saying that you should break up with him before he breaks up with you (if that even happens.) Remember, the main goal of this entire page is to give you the tools you need to prevent a breakup from happening. All I am saying is that I want you to prepare yourself for the possibility that a breakup could happen and even if you do everything right you still may not be able to prevent it.

If you understand this truth it is going to make this entire process a lot easier because you won’t be running scared all the time.

Is Your Relationship Worth Fighting For?

totatlly worth it

If I were to ask you,

“Do you think your relationship is worth fighting for?”

I am sure that you are going to be pretty adamant that it is.

Here’s the thing though, you aren’t really an unbiased party. You look at your boyfriend or ex boyfriend and see the man of your dreams. I am sure when you are alone and get to daydreaming you picture what it would be like to marry him, what your kids would look like, how happy you would feel during the honeymoon.

My point is simple, right now you are blinded by love.

Don’t get my wrong, there is no better feeling than being completely in love with someone. However, the downside of being in love is that you can’t really think straight sometimes which means you can’t always see the truth of the situation.

Let me give you an example.

I am sure you have had at least one friend in your life that gets involved with a guy that treats her horribly. He stands her up, constantly flirts with other women, promises her things and then never delivers. To make matters worse this guy looks like a slime ball and every time you see them together you wonder to yourself,

“What does she see in him?”

Shes in love… she doesn’t see the entire situation in an unbiased manner.

Here is the scary part.

YOU could be that friend.

I wrote this section to help you understand if saving a relationship with your boyfriend is really the best thing for you in the long run. Let me explain myself a little bit better.

Take A Look At The Long Run


I don’t care about your boyfriend, husband, ex boyfriend or ex husband.

That’s the truth.

I don’t care about them.

My priority is YOU. The reason I am putting so much effort into this site is that I truly want to help you and sometimes that means I have to protect you from the relationship you are currently in. By now I hope you realize that I am all about serious relationships.

On and off relationships aren’t attractive to me.

Sure, I understand that everyone has their hiccups here and there and sometimes people need my help to get back on track but the only reason I give people my help is that I really want them to have a long and happy relationship with their significant other.

So, lets focus on you for a moment.

I think the smartest thing you can do is see if you and your boyfriend can make it in the long run. I know what I am about to say is crazy but this is the kind of craziness that is going to tell you if he is worth fighting for or if he is worth dropping.

Is this possible for you in the future?

cute old couple

Can you see yourself growing old with your boyfriend?

Getting married?

Having kids?

Growing old together?

Dying together?

Does he see you in the same light?

If you can’t answer yes to every single one of those questions then I am telling you right now that your boyfriend or ex boyfriend isn’t going to be worth fighting for.

Human beings only have a finite amount of time on this earth and every day you spend worrying about a boyfriend who doesn’t treat you well is a day you are wasting.

This leads me to my next point.

How well does your boyfriend treat you?

Does He Really Treat You Well?


There are a lot of different types of men out there. Some are very sweet and treat you like you should be treated. Others are sweet on the outside but it’s all an act when you learn that they aren’t so nice on the inside. Oh, and who could forget the jerks who are jerks on the outside and on the inside.

Writing this small section has lead me to an interesting train of thought.

How is a man supposed to treat a woman in a relationship? If I could construct my opinion of how the perfect man should treat a woman what would he be like?

Well, I want to be realistic about this so I think some imperfection needs to be built in because lets be honest, no one is perfect.

If a man is going to make a big promise about the future I think he has to keep it. For example, most men out there will tell a woman exactly what she wants to hear just to get sex. I have heard horror stories of men telling women,

“Oh sure, I want kids with you in the future.”


“Of course I want to marry you in the future.”

If a man is going to say that he has to be able to back it up with his actions (which I will talk about a little bit later.) Big promises like this have to always be backed up. Little promises that aren’t as serious I think we can give some leniency on.

Lets talk about flirting now.

Throughout this site I have established that men absolutely love attention. So, it makes sense that they enjoy flirting a little bit. However, flirting can become dangerous because flirting too much can become a precursor to cheating. Smart men understand this and handle flirting a certain way.

Let me give you an example.

Lets say that a guy (who is in love with his girlfriend) has a guys night out with his friends and goes to a bar. At the bar he gets hit on by multiple women. He has a choice at this point. He can either flirt back or accept the compliments that the girls give him with class and not really flirt back.

Which choice do you think is right?

Breakup “Trouble Signs” To Watch Out For

houston problem

Very rarely have I encountered a situation where a breakup occurred out of nowhere. Sure, it can happen but it is rare.

This leads me to my next point.

As you know, this website specializes in breakups so as you can imagine I have heard just about every story you can possibly think of. I can’t tell you how many times I have listened to someone say,

“The breakup just happened out of nowhere. There were no signs or anything…”

Of course, when I ask questions and dig a little deeper I learn that the signs are almost always there the person was just blinded by her feelings. Well, what I am going to do in this section is cover each and every one of the breakup “trouble signs” that can can expect to see before a breakup.

The more signs you see on the list below the higher the likelihood there is that a breakup will occur.

A Sharp Emotional Decline

Do you remember back at the beginning of your relationship how your boyfriend used to respond to every single text message you sent within seconds?

How about when you used to call him and you could talk for hours on the phone?

Oh, and who could forget those amazing dates that you used to go on where he was so talkative that you literally though to yourself,

“He kind of likes hearing the sound of his voice…”

In my opinion, everyone goes through this emotional high at the beginning of a relationship. This high where you are so excited to be around your significant other that you can’t just shut up. Of course, as I am sure you have already realized, eventually this emotional high wears off a little bit.

Take a look at the graph below,

emotional high

Lets pretend that the graph above represents the emotional high that your boyfriend has at the beginning of the relationship. As you can see, the maximum point of the graph is “300.” It as this point that he is going to be super talkative in the relationship. In fact, he will probably be so talkative that you won’t have to initiate any type of communication with him. He will do all the work for you.
Couples who are in constant decline after

Of course, this emotional high usually doesn’t last forever and you should expect a decline in the graph the longer the two of you are together.

For example,

emotional high hold
Believe it or not this is actually what a normal graph should look like in a relationship. As you can see, the emotional high at “300” represents the honeymoon period where everything is bliss and neither one of you can do no wrong in the world. Of course, eventually reality kicks in and you realize that you are dating a human being with some flaws. This is why the graph drops to the “255” level.

However, there is one thing I want you to notice with the graph above. Notice how once the graph declines to the “255” level it stays in that range from that point on. In other words, you should always expect a decline after the honeymoon period but there is always going to be a point where it is going to settle in consistently.

Lets take a look at what will happen right before a breakup.

emotional decline
Couples who are in constant emotional decline after the steady “255” mark are at a high risk of breaking up.

Now, I know the graph above may be depressing to look at but I always prefer to look at things with a glass half full mentality. While it may be very bad that your graph is declining the good news is that it is very possible to change the trajectory.

Remember, this page is all about turning that graph around 😉 .

Lets take a look at another breakup sign you need to watch out for.

Fighting Is Becoming More And More Frequent

Lets stick with our graph examples for a bit because they are going to do an incredible job of highlighting my point in this section.

Above I already showed you what a graph for a couple about to break up looks like.

emotional decline
Well, this is the same graph with an arrow pointed at the honeymoon period.

The honeymoon period is always a fun time because you and your significant other don’t fight over anything. In fact, the two of you get along so well that it is mind boggling to you why you always hear stories of your friends fighting in relationships.

My point here is simple, during the honeymoon period you aren’t going to have many fights.

Lets move on to another graph.

emotional decline
You remember this point of the graph, right?

Well, if you don’t then I have two things to say.

Thing 1: You have a horrible memory.

Thing 2: This is the point of the graph that is normal for every couple in the world to settle into after the honeymoon period.

You can expect a normal amount of fights during this point of the graph. I mean, every couple if they are together long enough is going to have a fight here and there over things. However, the one thing I do want to point out is that usually the fights you do have are over important topics.

For example, a couple at this stage of the graph isn’t going to have a screaming match over who left the TV on last night.

No, that’s a couple who are at this stage of the graph,

emotional decline
I have always found it interesting that couples who reach this point of the graph always seem to have a massive amount of arguments. Not only have I seen it through this site and through my personal group of friends but I have experienced it myself.

I think that when you reach this point of the graph you start caring less and less about the other persons feelings and you become completely selfish.

So, it makes sense that as your emotional capital in the relationship is on a sharp decline every little thing can set you off.

That’s the thing about couples who who are higher up on the graph. Couples there are able to take a step back and look at the big picture. They have the ability to set their emotions aside and do whats best for the relationship.

You: I Love You, Him: That’s Nice…

love you

I am assuming that you and your boyfriend are in a pretty serious relationship and have already said “I love you” to one another here.

(If the two of you haven’t said “I love you” to each other yet then you can skip this section.)

One of the tell tale signs that you are losing your boyfriend is if he consistently says those three little words less and less.

I have actually seen some horror stories through Ex Boyfriend Recovery when it comes to this.

For example, there was one woman who came to this site after saying “I love you” to her boyfriend. Want to know what he said to her after her confession of love?

“I don’t love you…”

Now, I imagine that was incredibly hurtful for that particular woman to experience but generally speaking this happens very rarely. Usually what you see happen is that the guy will just stop saying it very slowly. For example, it can be pretty common for couples to end a phone conversation with an “I love you.”

So, imagine that you and your boyfriend are talking on the phone and you notice that he is a little distant during the conversation. Of course, you don’t want to start an argument so you decide to let it go and just end the conversation. At the end of the conversation you say your customary “I love you.” Normally he is one to say “I love you” back but this time he replaces it with a “You too…”

The next conversation you have you notice that instead of saying “I love you” to your “I love you” he says, “That’s nice..” instead.

Obviously something is wrong here.

This is very common for someone who is deeply hurt or someone who is losing their feelings.

Keep an eye out for this one.

The Importance Of Communication

talking to me

Communication is important for any relationship to thrive.

So, it makes sense that one of your biggest weapons to combat a future breakup is communication. Right now I am betting that you and your boyfriend aren’t communicating very much. Sure, the two of you may laugh and have good times but underneath all of that both of you are probably pushing the true problems of your relationship away.

For example, you could be avoiding talking to him about that girl you always see him flirting with on Facebook. Maybe the two of you are having financial issues that you don’t want to bring up because you are afraid you may lose him if you do.

My point is simple, the longer you let these issues linger the worse they will become. What you don’t want to have happen is leave them unresolved for so long that they blow up in your face.

The Proper Way To Use Communication

communicateI want to be clear here.

The kind of communication we are talking about here isn’t just the regular day to day stuff. I am talking about communication with issues that affect both you and your boyfriend on a very deep level. The real challenge is figuring out how to navigate such a sensitive issue without,

A) Setting your boyfriend off.

B) Setting yourself off.

So, how do you accomplish this?

In my experience, when your having to deal with a very complicated subject that you know is going to be a tough area to talk about with your significant other you have to be very smart about how you talk about this subject.

For example, lets say that you want to approach your boyfriend about his constant flirting with other girls. You know for a fact that the second you bring this subject up to him it is going to set him off and the two of you could potentially get into a fight.

So, rather than rushing in to the conversation unprepared it would be smart of you to take a deep breath and gather your thoughts. Take some time to plan out what you are going to say. In addition to that, you should also have a plan for every type of reaction he may have.

If he reacts the way you want him to react then have a plan for what to say.

If he reacts in a very negative way then have a plan for what to say.

My point is simple, there shouldn’t be a reaction from him that catches you off guard. You need to be prepared for everything.

When the time finally does come for you to talk to him about a tricky subject I have found that the tone of your voice is EXTREMELY important.

For example, lets stick with our “girls flirting” example. If you begin talking to him about this and he senses your anger and frustration through the tone of your voice he is automatically going to assume that you are angry and frustrated. What do you think this is going to do to him?

Well, its probably going to make him angry and frustrated. As a result, the two of you will probably wind up in the middle of an argument and it can all be traced back to the simple tone of your voice.

The better way to deal with the “girls flirting” example is to make sure that when you do approach him about it you have a very soft and caring voice. Yes, you want to voice your concerns but you want to do so in a way that isn’t going to cause him to think that you are angry and frustrated with him.

Now, I know some of you may still be a little confused as to why you have to be soft and caring when he is clearly in the wrong with his “flirting.”

Trust me there is a method to my madness.

Let me ask you, if you were to approach him with a very angry tone do you think he would be more willing to communicate with you and work through the problem?

Of course not.

Instead, all you will probably do is push him further away.

The better idea is to take the opposite approach because if you are soft and caring with how you talk to him he is definitely going to be more willing to open up and communicate with you and that is really what it’s all about.

How To Tell What Your Boyfriend Really Means When He Communicates

I want you to know something.

Your boyfriend really cares about you.

Even if he is on the cusp of breaking up with you he still cares about you (I know that may sound weird but its true.) This site is geared towards women who have gone through some of the roughest breakups in their lives. So, it shouldn’t come as a shock to you that a lot of them wonder why their boyfriends say everything that they want to hear right before a breakup.

For example, there was a woman who contacted me via this site who said something like,

“I don’t get it. Why is it that one day everything is fine and he is being all sweet and the next day all of a sudden he breaks up with me? I don’t get it?”

Like I said above, your boyfriend cares about you. While he may be falling out of love with you he still cares about you and doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. This leaves him in a very awkward position. On the one hand, he doesn’t want to see you hurt but on the other hand he doesn’t really want to date you anymore.

So, what does he do?

Well, in his warped mind he thinks that if he tells you everything you want to hear it might lessen the blow when he decides to break up with you. Oh, and just in case you are wondering men usually don’t just wake up one day and decide to break up with you. No, it usually weighs on their mind for weeks before they make a decision.

Anyways, my point is simple, sometimes towards the end of the relationship your boyfriend can say things that he really doesn’t mean just to spare your feelings.

This is kind of ironic since this actually kind of makes things worse but men are idiots what can I say.

What I want to do now is give you my ultimate BS detector. In other words, I am going to teach you a way in which you can figure out if your boyfriend really means what he says.

Words And Actions (The BS Detector)

I have given the “actions vs words” speech a lot throughout this site.

Some of you may be annoyed by it’s consistency throughout these pages but you know what, the fact that I am constantly peddling the “actions vs words” argument means it must be very important so listen up.

There is nothing that can make a human being more emotional that a relationship can.

What happens to human beings when they get emotional?

They talk a lot.

I guarantee you that your boyfriend has said a lot of things to you. Heck, he probably promised you the world at one point. So, the question on the table right now is how do you know if he is just saying things you want to hear or if he really means them?

Well, that’s where the ability to weigh words and actions comes in.

The trap I continually see women fall in to is that they get seduced by words but forget to look at the actions that follow those words.

For example, if your boyfriend tells you that he is going to marry you then without a doubt your heart is going to leap out of your chest. It feels so nice to be wanted by someone on such a deep level. However, the one thing that you have to keep in mind is that just because your boyfriend tells you that he wants to marry you doesn’t actually mean it is going to happen.

Men have figured out that words can seduce women. For example, there are some men I know that will literally say anything to get in a girls pants.

Is it despicable? Yes.

Does it work? Absolutely.

Women often fail to see that words mean nothing without the actions that follow them.

Lets go back to our marriage example.

It is entirely ok to celebrate if your boyfriend says he wants to marry you but I want you to keep in mind that those are only words and the actual action of getting married hasn’t occurred yet. Save your real celebration for when the actual action occurs.

It just so happens that this is the type of thinking that will help you cut through any BS that your boyfriend says to you. This is the true way to understand what your boyfriend truly means.


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Prevention Methods

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When you came to this page I bet you thought I had a super secret formula for you to prevent a breakup.

(FYI there isn’t a secret formula.)

I bet you even went online to look up other ideas on preventing a breakup. The experts out there probably gave you one or two good ideas but the truth is that they aren’t going to be 100% honest with you when it comes to preventing a breakup with your boyfriend.

You see, the so called “dating guru’s” out there want you to believe that in order to prevent a breakup you just have to do one thing and if you do that one thing then BAM, the breakup is prevented. The truth is that preventing a breakup isn’t about doing one thing. It’s about doing a lot of little things spread out over time.

Below I have compiled the things that you have to do a good job at to prevent a breakup with your boyfriend from occurring.

Have An Open And Honest Talk


Being open and honest with your boyfriend can be tricky especially when you are scared to death that he is about to break up with you.

However, the thing that you have to understand is that the more you avoid the problems in your relationship the sooner that breakup that you are so scared of could come.

I want to tell you a story.

Now, before I tell this story I want you to bear in mind that while this story doesn’t perfectly fit the situation you may find yourself in it still applies to your situation, if that makes any sense.

One of my good friends in college was dating a girl that he really liked. How do I know he liked her? Well, he flat out told me one day,

“Chris, I think I am falling for this girl.”

Unfortunately, my friend had just gotten out of a long term relationship where he had been emotionally abused by his ex girlfriend. So, he was a little slow when it came to expressing his feelings with his new girl. You see, the harder she fell for my friend the more she expressed her love to him. Of course, my friend really appreciated everything that she was expressing but he just wasn’t in a place where he was ready to express what she wanted him to express.

I think you can see where this is going…

The two of them got into a lot of arguments because of this problem. She would have this grand displays of affections and he wouldn’t know how to handle them because he couldn’t express everything that she wanted him to express.

This was a problem.

Of course, rather than talking it out and actually COMMUNICATING both of them were stubborn and allowed this problem to go on.

The truth was that neither one of them wanted to lose each other. She was in love with him so she obviously didn’t want to lose him and he was in love with her (even though he never actually said it to her but he did tell me as strange as that sounds.) Both of them could kind of sense a breakup coming but they were too stubborn to do anything about it to save their relationship.

That was when I chimed in…

“Look, she is going to break up with you if you don’t tell her why you have such a hard time expressing your feelings.”

So, using my advice he decided to have that open and honest conversation and to his credit he told her everything. He told her about his past relationship with the girl who had scarred him emotionally and she listened to it all.

Guess what?

They had a happy ending because they are still together as we speak 🙂 .

Look, if you want to save your relationship with your boyfriend you are going to have to have an open and honest talk where you go through all of the problems in your relationship (one by one) and find a solution for them. I didn’t say it was going to be an easy process but it has to happen.

Your New Motto = INFLUENCE


I am about to lay some heavy truth on you.

The mistake that 90% of women make when they sense a breakup coming on is that they try to take control of the situation and force the breakup not to happen. There is something I want you to understand. You will never have control of whether or not your boyfriend breaks up with you.

The fact that you have read this far down the page means you want the relationship with your boyfriend to work so I already know that you aren’t going to break up with him. So, that means that the real risk of a breakup occurring is going to come from him.

Your boyfriend is a human being and human beings cannot be controlled. Trying to control a human being is like trying to control the weather, it’s just not going to happen.

Look, I am not going to sit here and lie to you. I don’t know the super secret method for controlling a human being. However, I do know the super secret method for making them react the way you want them to in certain situations.

How do you do that?

Well, that’s a question that I will answer another day.

Right now all you care about is preventing the breakup that you sense is inevitable. The thing you have to understand is that your boyfriend is not an idiot. Well, let me be more accurate with that statement. Your boyfriend is not an idiot when it comes to who he wants to be with.

You see, every guy who wants to be in a serious relationship is going to be with the person that he thinks can offer him the most.

Now, the definition of “most” is different from guy to guy but there is one correlation that is consistent among men, they are with women that influence them the most.

Stopping the breakup isn’t going to happen overnight. Rather it is going to happen over the course of days, months, years and decades (if you want to stay in the relationship that long.) Every single day I want you to wake up with one goal. I want you to wake up and say,

“How can I influence him today?”

Maybe you can stimulate him through serious conversations.

Maybe you can connect with him on an emotional level by remembering some of the best times you had together.

Perhaps you can aim to continually create new memories that stimulate him on an emotional and physical level.

My point is simple, you need to become such an influence on him that he can’t even envision a life without you and achieving that goal doesn’t happen overnight. It is going to take work every single day.

Influence is going to be your best defense against a breakup.

What To Do If You Can’t Prevent The Breakup

I don’t want to be negative here but I am a very realistic person.

It could be entirely possible that you do everything I suggest here perfectly and you still fail to prevent the breakup. Well, if that happens then I don’t want you to freak out because you can still get him back. In fact, look around, this entire site is dedicated to helping women get their relationships back on track.

You should probably start by checking out my book that will teach you how to get your ex boyfriend back,

Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.

That book has pretty much everything you could possibly want for getting an ex back.

Of course, if you want to just browse around the site and see what you can learn from the information I provide to the public feel free to do that as well.

Oh, and don’t forget that I usually answer everyone who comments on this site so feel free to drop me a line below.

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399 thoughts on “How To Prevent A Breakup With Your Boyfriend When You Know It’s Coming”

  1. Maria

    July 21, 2021 at 6:57 pm

    My boyfriend and I have been going through separate depression cycles lately, him over stressed at work and me on a medication that has caused emotional instability. He said that we have changed and that he is unhappy right now, that he really hopes things will get better , but he doesn’t know how much more he can take. He said he still loves me and cares deeply for me, and he said he wants a few days to think clearly about things. During this conversation I asked him several times if he wanted to break up, stop seeing each other, end things— and he said no to each time I asked, but when I asked if he wanted to stay together and work on things, he said he didn’t know.

    Is he just trying to let me down easy? Or is he just trying to have an honest conversation and wants to avoid the break up?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      August 6, 2021 at 11:37 pm

      Hi Maria, read the ungettable information that Chris has published I would say that this is what you need to be doing for yourself while completing a no contact period, where you also make sure that you work on yourself allow your ex time to focus on themselves too. Allow him to come to you to talk when he is ready, allow him to chase you for your time.

  2. Leila

    July 12, 2021 at 8:04 am

    My bf and I had been fighting alot, it didn’t help that lockdown came along and applied more pressure on our relationship and he became more and more distant and I kept trying to cling on to him, I had my insecurities with girls and I hated how he was still kind with women that were trying to get his attention, I know its wrong but I wanted him to tell them hes not interested, even though i am right there next to him, and he is holding my hand, and it is obvious,… I was jealous about close friends of his and mine, co-workers he worked with. he put in so much effort to spoil me, and the last time he did I blew up over a girls checking him out, we had a massive fight and I told him to leave, I didn’t expect him to actually do it, i told him many times to leave but normally we made up after a couple days but this time was different. He decided to take back his crazy hours old shift
    Where he would have no time to see people, we spent two weeks apart, the first week I couldn’t help but lash out, I didn’t understand why he needed a week to decide if he wanted me, when all I needed was a few minutes. the second week I waited patiently for him to come back, he did … but to end it. I had issues with how much time he spent with his boys, I was super clingy, jealous, insecure and anxious all the time and he couldn’t take it anymore. I tried to explain maybe the contraception pills were also causing this emotional outburst and I could change. I even cut off my best friend for years, because I felt she was trying too hard to get close to him, I persuaded him to try again but we would start slow, meet once a week and keep it light and fun, we agreed we were still together and would stay loyal, but it didn’t happen like i hoped, he would see his boys instead of me, he never stayed the night, he was cold and distant and felt like the sex was the only thing keeping us together. It has been 2 weeks since I last saw him, I thought things were great the last time I saw him, he put in more of a effort, I saw him twice that week because he was too tired the first day after work, so he tried again another day after work, we spoke about him not staying the night and he promised he would the next time, but instead he never turned up, he went out with his boys, I tried to contact to see if I can see him after, I accidentally blew up his phones with calls and texts, he temporarily blocked my number but he hasn’t spoken to me, I tried going to his house the next day with gifts to apologise but he never answered, I am guessing it was because he was asleep, but everything inside me is screaming he is going to break up with me. That he doesn’t want me anymore, just sexually and that I have lost my bf and will never get him back.
    I dont think he is ever going to come back. I cant sleep and I lost my appetite

  3. Faye

    June 23, 2021 at 7:20 am

    My boyfriend of 1.5 years and I have been fighting often, and I believe that the reason behind it is the way I constantly nag him about our relationship (like how things have changed, how he isn’t affectionate anymore, me feeling unloved and unappreciated, etc.). He would say that it’s tiring how we would always fight and that “I don’t know what to do with you anymore!”. I have pushed him too far that he asked for space.

    1 week into the space, I told him that we should talk already and that I’m ready to hear what he has to say to me. He replied with “You should wait. Don’t hasten things up since you still don’t know what I’ll be saying to you. Respect the space I asked from you, use this time to think. If you keep this up, don’t blame me when I block you from all of my social media accounts. I won’t even try to entertain you if you plan on coming here at my place just to talk to me. We need this space as a lot of toxic things have happened between us, and if you can’t do that then stop this.” It has been 2 weeks already since he asked for the space, and we’ve been NC since our last conversation. I’m afraid that I have made matters worse because of my confrontation, now I feel like he’s on the path of breaking up with me. I still want to fix our relationship, but I also want to respect the space he asked for. Should I assume that he’s really thinking of breaking up with me?

  4. Faye Velasco

    June 23, 2021 at 4:21 am

    My bf and I have been together for 1.5 years, and we can say that we are in a serious relationship. However, it has been 2 weeks since he asked for space after us having a big fight. As the first week of our space passed by, I told him that we should talk about it already as it has already been a week since the space begun (this has been by far the longest space we’ve had), and that I’m ready to hear whatever he has to say to me. He replied “You should wait. Don’t hasten things up since you still don’t know what I’ll be saying to you. Respect the space I asked from you, use this time to think. We need this space, a lot of toxic things have happened between us.”

    I’m afraid that I made things worse. I want to talk to him already to fix this, but I also want to respect the space he wants. Since then, we have been on “No-Contact” but he would look at my IG stories. Should I assume that he wants to break up with me?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 28, 2021 at 8:23 pm

      Hi Faye, respect his request for space right now. I would suggest that you allow him solid few days without you reaching out to him. I would mentally set a date that you are willing to allow space for, if he is not ready to speak to you by then, start to prepare for a break up conversation and AGREE to the break up and then go into a strict 30 days NC

  5. Mae

    June 7, 2021 at 3:14 am

    My boyfriend and I of 1.5 years have gone through a lot. He has told me he no longer feels the same for me, that I’m a lovely amazing girl but he doesn’t want us anymore.

    I have convinced him to have a 5 day break. He is adamant it won’t change how he feels.
    We’ve broken up before, but he’s come back a few days later. He said there’s still a part of him that loves me and wants this to work but a large part that doesn’t.

    I have been beside my self crying as I love him so much, and thought he would be moving away with me because that is what he told me and only now has he decided “or been thinking about for a while” he doesn’t feel the same. Now I have experience in a long term relationship and I know it takes work, you can grow back love and connections.
    I don’t know how to get him to see that? To see I’m worth everything ? To not let me go. I don’t know what to do.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 8, 2021 at 7:32 pm

      Hi Mae, you cannot “make” him see anything. All you can do is work on yourself during a NC period and then work on becoming “Ungettable” and showing your ex he’s made a mistake letting you go.

  6. Annelise P

    April 27, 2021 at 3:56 am

    This weekend has been very rough for my boyfriend and I, today being the worst. He recently quit his job and did not do well on a test to get into a certain job. Last night he said he does not know if he still wants to be with me or not, so I asked him and why and he said we changed, that I’ve become selfish in wanting to see him often and that I don’t care about his happiness. However, I do care deeply and I felt him starting to distance himself lately so I thought time together would help us. Today I gave him the option to leave or to work with me to fix our problems, and he said he wasn’t sure so I gave him time to figure it out. He says he doesn’t know if he still loves me, but that he wants to give us another chance, so we’re quite literally starting over, and have a date soon. Am I doing the right thing?

  7. Belle

    March 25, 2021 at 1:18 pm

    I’ve known my boyfriend for about 2 years, but we’ve only been together for almost 7 months. About a month ago, our communication decreased significantly and he has pulled away an insane amount. We live together (due to timing of moving out of an apartment) and have a dog together, and he asked for space. I fought it for a couple days, but then decided to give him his space. Many things on here say that once space is asked for, the relationship is over, but like many, I want to fight for this relationship. What should I do? Someone please help!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 11, 2021 at 7:56 pm

      Hi Belle, so when he asks for space it is the thing you need to give him – while you want to fight for the relationship, it feels that you should be actively doing something but allow him some space. Is there a reason he’s pulled back so much? A fall out. Argument. Have you become needy or too dependant on him?

  8. Miriam

    March 3, 2021 at 3:41 pm

    I have various questions: my boyfriend of 4 months started declining his texting. He would take hours up to 6-10 hours to respond to me. I asked him to hang out. He said its cool. So I asked him if he was still interested. He then proceeded to ignore and hours later he says wyd. Later on he said my feelings overwhelm him. He started following woman on social media. He still texts what did you do & wyd, but it feels like speaking to wall. Yesterday, I told him that I have felt that he hasn’t been there emotionally and if something in his personal life was affecting him. I also told him that if he wanted to break up it was fine that I would understand. He hasn’t answered me. He has not blocked me on his phone or social media. Should I assume he has broken up with me?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 24, 2021 at 7:55 pm

      Hi Miriam, it sounds as if you have been too “needy” for this guy where he wants a more relaxed and secure relationship than feeling that he is trying to reassure you, he told you that you were overwhelming him and continued to ask for attention. I would suggest that you take a 21 day No contact for now, but in that time be sure that you show on social media that you are doing great. If you show that you are doing well without him reaching out he will realise that you are not as dependant on him as he thought.

  9. Shirley Lo

    January 5, 2021 at 4:38 pm

    I have been a relationship for 14 years and we have a daughter together. He doesn’t want to work things out because we have too much problems. Right now he says he doesn’t want to work things out but we talk as if we’re still together. Does that mean he cares about me like what your article said? We’ve always worked things his way and when we do he says we’re doing great. But when I speak about how I feel it’s major problem bc he feels attack. He was at his lowest and I stuck around. Now I’m at my lowest and he says we’re unstable. Does he really not want us together? I’M confuse by his actions too like cooking for me and discussing his thoughts like a friend. Thank you!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 6, 2021 at 9:02 pm

      Hi Shirley, I know it is hard, but sometimes people cannot cope with their partner having a low even though they go through them, themselves. Its just sadly how some people are. When you explain to your partner how you are feeling, be sure that you are not using blaming words when expressing your feelings, as in do not make it sound like it is his fault you feel that way, more that the situation has created those feelings. I think with the length of the relationship he still cares about you and maybe conflicted by his own feelings as he loves you, but does not like the stage your relationship is experiencing right now and his auto reaction is to end things.

  10. Stephanie

    November 23, 2020 at 3:33 am

    Hi, I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year and we really love eachother, we live together and do everything together. However the only issue in our relationship is trust, I know without that there is no relationship, I’ve caught him adding old flames on social media, and commenting/liking photos and I’ve brought it up to him and he apologizes and says he would never do it again and that he can’t keep hurting me. But we end up not breaking up every time. This time is different, him and two of his friends went on a guys trip to Mexico and I caught him texting another girl that he used to date before me and he had told her he wants to be with her and that he would see her ASAP. When I told him I knew about it, he apologized and took blame and kept telling me how much he loves me and how she is nothing to him. But we’ve hardly talked since he’s on vacation. I don’t know what to do.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 24, 2020 at 9:35 pm

      Hi Stephanie, so I would say that you need to consider his ACTIONS right now where he is behaving unfaithful – its followed by an apology (words no actions) and he does the same thing again. I would suggest that you consider your own worth and think about if you should walk away from him, he needs to realise you are not going to sit around and allow him to do this to you. Stand up for yourself and don’t be afraid to lose someone who treats you this way – this is not love sweetie <3

  11. Sara

    November 19, 2020 at 9:50 am

    I sense a break-up coming (from my bf’s end) – I’m feeling torn between waiting around for him to do it, or if I should break up with him first, or suggest “a break” of some sort before he does. That way I could keep a bit of my power? Any advice?

    I still want to be with him.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 19, 2020 at 5:11 pm

      Hi Sara if you want to be with him then no do not break up with him. Pull back a little and give him some space if you feel there is tension or bad vibes between you right now. Sometimes we spend too much time together and forget we had our own lives before we met. Give him a chance to miss you a little.

  12. Payaal Somaiya

    November 17, 2020 at 11:50 pm

    my boyfriend keeps breaking up with me because I can’t stay over at his house?
    We are in the middle of a lockdown in the UK…Please help? How do I stop him from breaking up with me

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 18, 2020 at 8:17 pm

      Hi Payaal, so he needs to understand that right now England are not supposed to be mixing, however if he was to have you at his place can you not just stay there for the remainder of lockdown as it is only a short firebreak.

  13. Rebecca

    October 8, 2020 at 10:28 pm

    My boyfriend of 10 months blindsided me saying he wanted to break up. He said he wasn’t happy (couldn’t identify why). He’s been through some work and life stress lately and I’m worried he’s got his feelings confused. He said he loves me so much but not as much as I love him and that makes him feel guilty. He thinks that I’m “there” and he’s not sure if he will ever get “there”. He said I am the perfect girlfriend and nothing is wrong with the relationship – we’ve never had a fight. I tried to validate him, tell him that his love is enough for me and always has been but he wouldn’t accept that and was adamant that we should break up. We are having a talk tomorrow where I am going to tell him that I want to work this out, and I have some questions too. He’s been through some trauma in life, I don’t think he feels worthy of love or knows how to accept it and I’m sure that my love is confronting to him. His last relationship of 6 years ended for the same reason. Do you think he is acting out of fear? Do you think I can help him to work through this?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 21, 2020 at 7:32 pm

      Hi Rebecca, no you cannot help him work through it he needs to get passed his own fears himself. You need to spend some time working and reading through the articles that apply to your situation and use social media to show that you are UG and let him see this.

  14. IM.A

    September 24, 2020 at 9:22 pm

    Hi there, mine is sorta long I’d say and complicated. But I want to see if there’s a way to try to save it. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years and 6 months in a serious relationship. In his family he is the oldest and always has been the type to always look out for his family. I don’t mind it at all but to show how much he has a nephew/godson he is so attached to he treats him like his son and intervenes in raising the him. Yesterday I found out his parents wanted to refinance the house or plan to move out of state. Leaving him with the responsibility of the house. The house that his sister with godson and brother
    live in along with parents. He’s 29 and I’m 27 still living with my mom. She tells me it’s time to start thinking of the future. He told me he doesn’t want to let that house go meaning I’d have to live there if he ever commits. He’s hinted before he wants me to live with him but I want marriage first. And he agreed supposedly he wants a better stable job beforehand And I understand but recently he’s been very distant and thinking a lot becoming quiet. Sometimes results in a fight for being the wrong moment to be quiet. They seem like little misunderstandings but I’m afraid it’s something else and I feel a break up coming. Is the house becoming a sign where not meant to be? I understand it’s family before anything but to what extent. He could also just agree marriage for sex I believe. Which is hard for me to analyze cuz he’s a very undecided person. What should I do

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 12, 2020 at 10:34 am

      Hi IMA, honestly, I would suggest that you consider moving in before getting married, to see if you can live with him full time, before taking that bigger commitment. As for if you are meant to be or not, that is for you to decide but also taking on board that he cares a lot for his nephew and that is going to be a constant in your future. It should not change because of a relationship.

  15. Christine

    September 23, 2020 at 11:00 pm

    If he said that he wants some alone time or some space, is a breakup inevitable?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 25, 2020 at 8:53 pm

      If you allow him that space then maybe not. But them asking for space is showing they are considering a break up yes. Which means you need to be very calm and allow that space between you. Go spend time with family and friends and keep busy.

  16. Shay Delgato

    August 20, 2020 at 11:30 pm

    My boyfriend and I have been together since June 7th, 2019. We live together and have a dog together. I am absolutely in love with him. He is the one i want to spend the rest of my life with. I mean no other guy, besides my bf, is even attractive to me anymore. But heres my problem…My boyfriend has been constantly cheating on me since we got together. I always catch him though. but when i find out and say something to him about it, he breaks into pieces…like i can literally feel that his heart is breaking when he begs me to stay and tells me that he’s sorry..We love eachother so much and we both want to be together… i just don’t understand why im not good enough..& why im not attractive enough for him to not want to have sex with other girls…also, when i send him pictures (like the private ones), he doesnt seem to like them..but he makes sure to tell the girl that sent hem how much he likes them.. i dont know what to do..i want him to think im beautiful and sexy… what do i do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      August 27, 2020 at 1:32 pm

      Hi Shay, I am sorry but your boyfriend does not love you, appreciate you or respect you or the relationship if he is constantly cheating on you! Walk away from him and gain some self respect that you deserve better than someone who is going to treat you this way!

  17. Jacque

    August 16, 2020 at 3:10 pm

    How do i distinguish if he really wants a break up ot just testing me? If a guy is serious for breakup what will he say?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      August 17, 2020 at 10:18 pm

      If he really wants to break up he will tell you that he no longer sees a future with you, he isnt happy, he needs space… There are so many words they can use to tell you they want out of the relationship. However some will stay out of guilt or obligation. If you begged and pleaded then he is staying because he felt bad for you.

  18. Rileigh

    August 11, 2020 at 4:36 pm

    Hi there, this may be a little long, but I really just need some more specific guidance. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half, and there have been some high high’s and some low low’s. I love him to death, and I know for certain he loves me. That being said, many of our problems are reoccurring, which I have a feeling is leading him up to his breaking point. Right when we started dating, he slept with someone else… I found out months later, but he came completely clean. I made the decision that it was something I could move past. We were long distance when it happened, and had only just started dating, and I won’t lie, my own mind wandered from time to time, I just didn’t act on it. When I found out, our relationship had already come really far. He’d given me a key to his place, and lived across the street, we’d been doing really well. Since then, we’ve moved in together, and are honestly happy together. That all being said, I have really bad anxiety, and sometimes let it get the best of me, causing me to act kind of crazy… Last Saturday, we got into a pretty big fight about him following girls on instagram that have tried to disrespect our relationship in the past. He in turn was upset, feeling like I didn’t trust him, and feeling violated by me watching his instagram followers. We talked about it, and I agreed that my behavior wasn’t showing my trust in him, and that it wouldn’t happen again. However, during this fight, I saw him text his friend stating that he thought he might break up with me when we got home from our vacation, and that he’d in turn need a place to stay for about a week. Last night was our first night home from vacation, and we had a long conversation about what it means to really trust someone, and I accepted my faults. He didn’t break up with me, but I could tell he was really wagering it. Now obviously I know, stalking his social media is NOT OKAY, and exactly what would push him away right now. But what other actions should I be taking to prevent this breakup? I love him, and the life we’ve built together, and he provides me more support than I give him credit for. I’m scared, and want to know that if it ends, I did everything I could to fight for our relationship.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      August 11, 2020 at 9:08 pm

      Hi Rileigh, so I would suggest that you seek some sort of help on how to deal with your anxiety, and work on your self esteem too. Not causing any friction between you and your ex too. Understand that if there is no trust in the relationship – it will not work. You need to remind yourself to relax and not imagine or think the worst. It is hard but you have to learn to control your thoughts and impulses.

  19. Leanne Weinhold

    August 4, 2020 at 7:14 pm

    Hi, I know by the time you even see this it will probably be to late, but I guess it’s worth a shot. I’m pretty sure my boyfriend of almost 5 years is going to break up with me tonight. We have had a really rough week after I had a huge mental breakdown and he dropped of our son at his parents place so we could sit down and talk tonight. I made a mistake that hurt him and I completely understand if he leaves, but I love him, our son and his family so much and I don’t want to lose them. I don’t have the timeline where I can slowly ‘convince’ him to stay. And honestly I am just so scared to lose everything we have, and the life we have built together. He has been understandably distant, won’t let me touch kiss him etc. And I have been giving him his space. He hasn’t said I love you back in person which breaks my heart every time it happens. But he did say it once over text while I was at work and sent him a meaningful message. His response was “I love you too and we’ll chat about it tomorrow dont think on it tonight” I am almost certain he is going to leave me and I am just so broken and helpless I don’t know how to save this relationship. And I know it is something that is DEFINITELY worth fighting for.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      August 4, 2020 at 9:11 pm

      Hi Leanne, the issue is that if you have done something to hurt him so if he does choose to leave, you need to apologise for what you did and explain that this is what he feels is for best then you accept it and let him go calmly. Then you go into an instant Limited no contact where you only speak with him about your son or shared bills. It is a really challenging thing to do but it is important that you show strength when he leaves so that he questions why you are being so calm. This information is based on if he does end things with you, there is still hope in getting him back just understand that you have hurt him so allowing him to step away for some time is a must so that he does not hold onto that pain or anger towards you.

      If you stay together but he is still hurting then you need to be sure that you do nothing to hurt him again and also be calm and understand for some time. But you do not apologise constantly for this issue or it can continue forever, if you do not break up then you need to explain that you want to work on things in a healthy way and even suggest couples counselling if you think he would be open to that

  20. M

    August 2, 2020 at 3:31 pm

    Hi. I’ll be straight up honest and it’s already obvious as to why I’m here. Me and my boyfriend are about to break up and I told him that we will decide tomorrow but I’m not sure myself, you see, we’re in a long distance relationship and we met each other online, I know, crazy right. Based from snapchat, he’s specifically 14, 043 kilometers away from me. We’ve been together for 4 months, turning 5 months at 16th. I don’t even know why we want to break up anymore, both of our lives are fucked up and we can’t decide things on our own because of our family situations and responsibilities. He’s 19, I’m turning 21 soon. We calmed down for a bit an hour ago and I immediately went to search stuffs in google after I gathered my thoughts. He told me that he’s staying but I still want to decide till tomorrow because I really have no idea as to what I really want. I don’t believe on “you have to let them go and set them free” but I’m slowly starting to believe it. It’s going to be hard for us, he’ll be busy at his college, I’ll be busy with my remaining years in med school and I don’t know if he’s even sure of me and maybe I’m just tripping about all of this but either way, I am desperate right now. I just want to give both of us peace and happiness, hopefully, together. That’s all.

    Good day.

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