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"I Don’t See Us Getting Back Together…" What Does It Mean?

I like writing articles that challenge me intellectually.

This is one of those types of articles.

Most of you are here for a reason.

You want your ex boyfriend back.

Thus, it makes perfect sense that your greatest fear is your ex boyfriend killing any chance you have of a happy reunion.

How can he go about doing this?

Easy, with one simple phrase,

“I don’t see us getting back together”

Hmm… perhaps I wasn’t specific enough for you.

Ok, here is a quick role play in which I am going to act out your greatest fear about your ex boyfriend.

For the purposes of this role play we are going to pretend that I am your ex boyfriend (YAY ME!)

The two of us have been dating for three years and then one day you come home and notice me on the couch with a very depressed look on my face.

What’s wrong?” you ask me.

Sit down… we need to talk” I say to you with the same depressed look on my face.

Over the next hour I tell you that my feelings aren’t what they once were.

Things have gotten stale…

I just need a break from “us…”

In other words, I break up with you on the spot.

Over the next few weeks you slowly but surely work your way back into my life and try to convince me that us getting back together is a good idea.

You are relentless about this. In fact, so relentless that you start to get on my nerves.

Every single day it’s the same old story…

You try to convince me that our relationship is important and that we should get back together.

Unfortunately, after about the tenth day in a row I start to get annoyed with you and that’s when I blurt out,

“Look, I don’t see us getting back together so stop trying to convince me.”

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….

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OUCH!

Well, today we are going to explore what an ex boyfriend means when he says that phrase to you.

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The Way This Page Is Going To Work

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I’m going to be honest with you.

I don’t do this very often.

Usually when I write one of these mammoth guides I like to focus on big picture ideas.

For example, I am sure you are familiar with my guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back or how to ask him to be in a relationship with you. Those are very popular situations and each of those guides cover a wide variety of topics within them.

It’s not often that I write a guide around one specific phrase. However, that is the case with this guide as I am going to be dissecting what a man means when he tells you,

“I don’t see us getting back together…”

So, since this guide is deviating from the normal way I write it should be common sense to assume that the way this is going to work is going to be a bit different than normal.

In other words, I have decided to divide this page up into two sections… or parts… or.. whatever you prefer.

Actually, now that I think about it I think I am going to go with “parts.”

So, there is going to be a part one and a part two.

Now, I know what you are wondering.

“What the heck are these parts?”

Good question, in order for me to explain that I must first explain the two commonly held beliefs that women have when they hear,

“I don’t see us getting back together”

Two Beliefs About “I Don’t See Us Getting Back Together”

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How can I put this…

There are two train of thoughts when it comes to the phrase we are dissecting today.

Thought One- My Ex Doesn’t Want To Be With Me… Right Now

Thought Two- My Ex Doesn’t Want To Be With Me

Now, I am tempted to explain what each of these train of thoughts mean but that’s kind of the point of the whole article here so I am going to hold off on that.

Above I mentioned that I have decided to format this page so that there are two parts to it.

Do you see where these is going?

Part One = My Ex Doesn’t Want To Be With Me… Right Now

Part Two = My Ex Doesn’t Want To Be With Me

Now, since the goal of this guide is to teach you about the mind of a man who says, “I don’t want to be with you right now” I am going to give you my thoughts on what is going on in the mind of a man who says this phrase in each of the parts.

Part of the problem that we are dealing with here is the fact that everything is very situational.

For example, a man who has just gotten cheated on is probably more likely to mean “I don’t want to be with you” than a man who hasn’t.

That’s kind of why instead of giving one set answer to what it means when a man tells you that he doesn’t see the two of you getting back together I am giving you both sides of the coin.

Lets start with part one!

PART ONE: It Means That He Doesn’t Want To Be With You… Right Now

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Like I said above there are two parts to this bad boy.

In this “part” we are going to be focusing on your ex boyfriend meaning he doesn’t want to be with you… right now.

So, for those of you who are confused take a deep breath.

The way this works is pretty simple.

Your ex boyfriend tells you the generic,

“I don’t see us getting back together.”

But what does he really mean?

Well, with this “part” he does mean what he says but only in the current moment.

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The Importance Of “Right Now”

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Take a look at the phrase above..

Hmm.. maybe I should be mores specific.

Ok, take a look at the phrase below,

“It means that he doesn’t want to be with you… right now.”

Notice the bolded part?

Those two little words, right now, mean A LOT.

They are the difference from your ex boyfriend actually meaning what he says and not meaning what he says.

The best way I can describe this is by taking a look at a workout.

I know that sounds weird but bear with me here.

I really enjoy going for a workout.

Why?

Because I feel like I am accomplishing something and after the workout food tastes like 10 times better.

So, lets say that I go for a really hard workout.

Lets say I do something insane and am in the gym for something crazy like 4 hours and I end up losing 5lbs from that one workout. After I am finished with the workout I think to myself,

“Man, I have nothing left to give.”

If you were to ask me in that moment,

“Hey Chris, would you like to go out for another workout?”

I would definitely say no especially if I felt I had nothing left to give.

However, if you were to ask me the same question a few days later when I am feeling healthy I would definitely say yes.

The two little words,

“Right Now”

Work in this way.

Just because your ex boyfriend is saying something like, “I don’t see us getting back together” to you doesn’t necessarily make it true.

Hmm… perhaps I should expand on this.

Why An Ex Saying “I Don’t See Us Getting Back Together” Doesn’t Make It True 100% Of The Time

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“Two words. Three vowels. Four consonants. Seven letters. It can either cut you open to the core and leave you in ungodly pain or it can free your soul and lift a tremendous weight off you shoulders. The phrase is: It’s over.”

Maggie Richard once said this about breaking up.

I have found that it is very true.

As I am sure you are aware going through a breakup is one of the most painful things that a human being can experience.

I mean, breakups are often associated with,

  • Pain
  • Anger
  • Crying
  • Depression
  • Loss Of Appetite
  • Physical Harm
  • Withdrawl

Last time I checked everything I mentioned above is very negative.

I guess my point is that breakups have a lot of negatives associated with them and a person doesn’t just get over a breakup in a week or two. Heck, I have seen some cases where it takes a person YEARS to finally move on.

So, let me ask you.

When you take an ex boyfriend who is going through a highly emotional time during a breakup and listen to him say,

“I don’t see us getting back together”

How likely is it that you think he actually means what he is saying?

I mean, of course he doesn’t see the two of you getting back together RIGHT NOW because RIGHT NOW his life sucks.

He is going through a breakup after all.

You remember my cool example about the workout above?

Well, I look at an ex boyfriend saying that he doesn’t see the two of you getting back together like you asking him if he wants to run a mile after he has just run a marathon. Of course, the answer is going to be no in the moment.

However, like with most relationships a lot of this all boils down to timing.

If you were to re-approach the situation at a later time and push the right emotional buttons you may find that he has a different outlook.

In other words, “right now” usually means,

“Maybe Later.”

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A Case Study Proving This

Here is something I haven’t done before.

Today we are going to take a real life example and show you how you can’t always take everything your ex boyfriend says “in the moment” so personally.

I want you to meet Sarah.

(That isn’t really her but I figured you would respond better to an image of her so I found this picture to hold as a place holder.)

Sarah is just like you.

Her boyfriend broke up with her citing a bunch of lame reasons (most of which aren’t true.)

Like all women in her position Sarah was faced with a choice.

She could desperately try to win him back or she could give up and move on.

What do you think she chose?

If you guessed “getting him back” then you would be right. Of course, Sarah wasn’t too clever in how she tried to get him back. She made most of the mistakes here and ended up pushing her ex further away.

That’s when something amazing happened.

The heavens parted…

Angels sang…

And God brought her his most powerful ally when it comes to breakups…

ME!

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All kidding aside Sarah ended up finding Ex Boyfriend Recovery and implementing the advice found here.

Slowly but surely the advice started working.

Oh, perhaps I should mention that the two of us communicated for a while through the comments section here. In fact, I believe she even went as far as to buy my PRO system. So, we did have constant contact throughout this hard time in her life.

It might also be relevant to mention that at one point early on her ex boyfriend did mutter a version of,

“I don’t see us getting back together ever…”

What did he say exactly?

To be honest I can’t remember 100% what he said but it was probably something like,

“Look Sarah, I like you a lot but I don’t think we are right together.”

You get the picture.

So, here is the question I submit to you.

Do you think he meant it?

Well, the only sure fire way that Sarah could find out was to try my strategies and see if she could get him back.

Guess what…

SHE DID!

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So, what we have here is a case where an ex boyfriend claims that he is never going to take you back and then his actions suggest otherwise.

Speaking of actions…

Actions Vs. Words Theory

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I am a big believer that actions speak louder than words.

I know…

I know…

It’s not necessarily the most earth shattering insight but it kind of explains the case study above.

For example, Sarah’s boyfriend told her at one point that he didn’t think that they would be together. However, after a few months go by he ends up getting together with her.

Does this make him a liar?

Why yes it does…

Above I explained my theory on why this phenomenon occurs (remember how I said that breakups are extremely emotional and cloud people’s judgement?) Well, I don’t want to spend too much time talking about the lying right now.

What I would like to do is focus in on the actions vs words theory.

What is the actions vs words theory you ask?

Actions Vs. Word’s Theory– Instead of getting hung up on a mans words I want you to take words out of the equation entirely. I want you to take a look at his actions only since they are the true test as to what he is really thinking.

Lets zone in on the situation above with Sarah and her ex.

What was Sarah’s exes words?

“I don’t see us getting back together”

If Sarah was smart (which she was) she would completely disregard this and instead of obsessing about it she would just focus in on his actions AFTER he said it since they are the true test.

Ok, lets do that now.

What was Sarah’s exes actions?

He took her back

So, what we have here is a situation where the actions and words don’t agree. Of course, it just so happens that them not agreeing worked out for Sarah in this case.

What’s the point of me teaching you this theory?

It’s to teach you to not react to him saying “I don’t see us getting back together” immediately.

That’s actually the worst mistake you can make because you’ll be amazed at how many men can change their mind down the road but you can’t right them off right away for that to happen.

Of course, there are always those cases where your exes action may match up with his words.

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PART TWO: It Actually Means He Doesn’t Want To Be With You

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If you recall I have divided this page up into two different “parts.”

These parts are meant to represent the most common train of thoughts that women have when a man tells them “I don’t see us getting back together…”

In part one I talked a lot about the fact that there is a strong chance that your ex boyfriend may not totally mean it when he tells you that you guys aren’t going to end up together. Well, in part two we are going to take the opposite approach.

I am going to list out the warning signs that you need to keep an eye out for if your ex boyfriend actually means what he says.

There is nothing worse than putting your heart and soul into something only to have it not pan out in the end.

That is exactly what I want to help you avoid in this “part.”

Look, I would be doing you a disservice if I sat here and told you that there wasn’t a possibility that your ex could mean what he says when he says the “get back together” line.

There is…

However, I am going to teach you the warning signs that you need to look out for to determine whether or not trying to get him back is a waste of time.

I guess we should start off by talking about a concept that I just talked about.

Actions Vs. Words Matching

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It’s kind of weird.

Usually when we talk about actions and words matching we want them to match.

For example, when you have an ex boyfriend who gives you mixed signals and says something like,

“We will be together later.”

You want his actions to match with his words because it means that eventually you will indeed be together.

Unfortunately, that is not the case in this situation.

If you have an ex boyfriend who tells you that he doesn’t see the two of you getting back together you want his actions to say the opposite.

But what if they match?

What if your ex boyfriend tells you that he doesn’t want to be with you and his actions also point towards that?

Well, in that case things aren’t looking so good for you since it probably points towards the fact that he actually means what he says.

But what are some of the “actions” he can take for him to actually mean his words?

Action #1- He Ignores You Permanently

Lets say that your ex delivers the patented “I don’t see us getting back together line” and you take a very pragmatic approach to receiving the news.

Rather than reacting in the moment like so many other women do you decided to lay back and study his actions.

Your first way of testing the waters is reaching out to him with a friendly text message,

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You wait a few minutes… no response.

You wait an hour… no response.

You wait for a full day… no response.

Hmm… it looks like he isn’t going to respond to me. That’s ok, I will try again at a later date” you think to yourself.

There’s just one problem.

When you do try again at a later date he still ignores you.

In fact, every single time you ever reach out to him he ignores you.

As a general rule no response/attention from an ex is the worst thing that can happen to you.

No, seriously…

I would rather take negative attention over no attention any day when it comes to this game.

Let’s move on to our next “action.”

Action #2- He Is Insisting That You Won’t Get Back Together… A Lot

This isn’t an action per se but if your ex boyfriend is persistent about the fact that the two of you won’t get back together it can turn into an action.

Confusing huh?

Allow me to explain.

Imagine that I was your ex boyfriend and I told you that we weren’t ever going to get back together.

Of course, you being you, you decided to completely disregard what I say and continued to try to win me back.

Now, me being me continued to tell you that you had no chance.

In fact, I must have said this to you over 10 times.

If I am saying something to you that much it becomes an action.

Why?

Because there is a pattern to it and I consciously created that pattern.

In other words, I consciously took the action of building that pattern.

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Action #3- Your Ex Starts Dating Someone Else

Some of you may be shocked that I am even mentioning this since I have put together extensive guides on how to get your ex back if he has a new girlfriend.

So, why would I recommend that women try to win back their ex in that case and not in this one?

Well, this is a little bit of a different situation.

Why?

Because of the fact that your ex warned you ahead of time that he did not see the two of you getting back together in the future… ever.

So, him taking the action of finding someone else is indicative that he might actually mean what he says.

Now, I do have a bit of good news with regards to this particular situation.

There are some very rare cases where he will date a new girl just to spite you.

For example, if I was your ex and was hurt really bad by the breakup and I went out and found the first girl that would date me I would be doing it to spite you. It just so happens that we call this a rebound relationship.

Rebounds are not what I am talking about here.

I am talking about when your ex boyfriend legitimately moves on.

In other words, enough time has passed for him to be over the breakup and be serious about someone new.

I guess what I am trying to say here is that if your ex is in a rebound relationship we aren’t going to count that as an official relationship.

Get it?

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Written by EBR Teamate

Chris Seiter

338 thoughts on “"I Don’t See Us Getting Back Together…" What Does It Mean?”

  1. Heartbroken

    October 24, 2017 at 1:49 pm

    So we dated for 6 years, but we’ve known each other since we were in middle school, and we are both in our mid 30s now. We both have issues that made the relationship rocky at times. He has PTSD, and was an alcoholic. I put him in treatment several times and stuck with him throughout it. We did breakup for a few months, but he kept chasing me and eventually he won and we got back together. He has anger issues from the PTSD and I have insecurity issues and am codependent. A year or so ago I had some traumatic experiences, and I began to cope with them through drinking. I became a heavy drinker, almost full blown alcoholic and at times I would get drunk and text nasty mean things to him. I was definitely struggling and depressed, but didn’t realize how bad off I was at the time. Throughout our relationship he would get angry over things due to the PTSD, and we would break up for a day or two maybe a week, then get back together.

    So when he broke up with me the last time I didn’t really take it seriously at first. But this time he was adamant that he loved me, but didn’t want to be in a relationship with me. He cut contact for 2 weeks, then used a discord group we are both on to locate me and apologize for how he acted, and wanted to be friends, but still felt that we should not be a couple.

    I tried being friends with him over the next month, but it was always me contacting him (1-2 week) to say hi or see if he wanted to do something. We had been best friends and had a very deep emotional connection so to go from that to him being so casual and not contacting at all really hurt. I only heard from him the day his grandmother passed away, so I brought over his favorite brownies and milk and hung with him.

    He would tell me to move on, but then make comments “like who is texting you”, or “who gave you that? ” And then his mood would change to defensive. He changed from I don’t want a relationship with you, to I don’t want one with you right now, and the changes and behavior had me so confused that I kept pushing. He wanted time for us to both work on ourselves and I wanted some sort of hope that we would be together again, and I screwed things all up.

    I ended up telling him that I couldn’t be his friend, and if he wanted me to move on I would have to walk away completely. He was very hurt, but let me walk away. Two days later I woke up in a panic as I do love him completely and don’t want the break up, and I called him and told him that I didn’t want to walk away and I loved him..

    He got angry and said he wasn’t doing the yo-yo bs, he tried to be my friend and that I accused him of not trying hard enough, he didn’t care anymore, it was over and nothing would change his mind. He then said the conversation was over and not to call back. So instead of respecting his need for space I totally went into panic mode and drove to his house and knocked on the door, and when he didn’t answer THEN I tried calling. Yep I went full crazy lady. He blocked my number, and I had already blocked him on FB when he first broke up with me.

    I haven’t drank since the day we broke up, which is over a month now. I’m in therapy, started a new diet and already lost 7lbs, and quitting smoking is next on my list.
    I know he is going through a lot with the death of his grandmother, and he is studying to get a certification for a new job (been out of work for 2 years) and he is very focused on getting his life to a better place.

    I don’t know if I should unblock him from FB, or what to do next. I’m not planning on trying to contact him, the funeral will be in a month or so, and I figure I will see him then. I still talk to his mom and am fb friends with her, she loves me, and wishes for us to work.

    I am serious about wanting us to work, and I am putting the effort into changing myself so that I don’t keep making the same mistakes, I just don’t know if he really wants nothing to do with me, or if he is just hurt and angry and trying to deal with everything that is going on, or doesn’t believe that I’m serious about not drinking and facing my past traumas. I could use some help on how to proceed.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 24, 2017 at 6:24 pm

      Hi heartbroken,

      Restart nc, do at least 45 days, stop talking to his mom, get a therapist for yourself, be active in improving yourself and in posting and unblock him..

  2. Halei

    September 4, 2017 at 4:38 am

    I am not sure when my ex told me that we aren’t getting back together for right now or for good. He said we will never get back together he is done and we would be nothing more. We were going to talk and I was returning some of his stuff and I mentioned something to him about knowing what he had been doing and that set him off. Before he had said that he told me we needed some time so we can change , I asked a week later when we spoke on the phone and he said for the time being we needed space. He has said this before. We have almost been together 3 years on and off again. I am afraid he does mean it this time I have not contacted him since and he hasn’t . This happened last Tuesday and we have been broken up for 13 days now. I have entered the no contact also. I did snoop and saw he added a girl from far away and liked her pictures and freaked but I was looking too much into it. He isn’t going crazy and adding girls but I am afraid he will forget about me.. he said he’s been more productive since we’ve been apart and said I have also. He was so upset while saying this also. I’m just worried about this and I’m afraid for it being for good. I know he is in lots of stress right now as well.. he said for me to block him on everything and to delete our pictures. I know he was looking at my instgram because his name would pop up on my story so I don’t understand why he is defensive and telling me to leave him alone when he was watching me… is this out of emotion ?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 7, 2017 at 7:39 pm

      Hi Halei,

      yup, it more likely is.

  3. Hayley potter

    August 12, 2017 at 4:22 pm

    My bf and I dated for a year and a half. We lived together. I helped pay bills, cooked, cleaned. We talked a lot about getting engaged and our future. My bf was amazing. He has his own house, is very goal driven, has a wonderful job. My anxiety was very bad and I made him feel like I was controlling. He broke up with me over text while at a bachelor party in Nashville. I had to move out and we’ve been broken up for 2 months now. When we broke up I was devastated. I asked him if we could try again and he said he would always be open to it. He jut asked in return I give him space. I never gave him space and pushed him further away. We had big blow ups and he ever started hanging out with someone else about 3 weeks after we broke up. He was so nice when we first broke up but as time went on he got angry at me for not giving him his space. He told me he doesn’t think I’m the one for Him and that he can do better. I am absolutely devasted once again. Can I ever win this man back or have I pushed him too far?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 13, 2017 at 7:13 pm

  4. Mary

    July 25, 2017 at 1:48 am

    3 years together in a serious relationship with plans to get married within next year. His kids moved in with him recently and I accepted to live all together. He broke up because he says I wouldnt be able to live with them and wanted me to accomodate and live where was more confortable for them without thinking on me and my child. 5 weeks ok NC, and he contacted a few times for business related matters, and just 2 days ago texted for the first time to ask how I was doing and had a brief chat on how the weekend was gong.
    I dont know what he wants because I dont see him making any choices that wouldnt put kids confortable lives first.

  5. lyza

    July 21, 2017 at 10:02 am

    After 3weeks of begging to come back with he said no..and after of 1 month of not contacting my ex boyfriend but we see each other at the office i talk to him my boyfriend doesnt move on and attracted to me. He says he misses our kiss hugs and sex.but he doesnt want to be in a commitment with me.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 25, 2017 at 12:25 pm

      Hi Lyza,

      Did you follow the advice on this one?
      EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

  6. Jess

    June 3, 2017 at 12:46 am

    I’ve been with my. Boyfriend for 2 yrs the first 8 months we were long distance so we decided I should move… he was insecure when I was in my city so we thought it was a good idea…I left my place career and we got a place together..as soon as we moved in he changed sex stopped, affection stop and he became one of those guys that would say negative things to make fun of you instead of sweet things like he used to.. 3 months after moving in he began to say he didn’t want to be together I’d cry the first day then I’d say ok and he’d change his mind we stayed together for one yr of this uncertainty on his part until this Valentine’s Day he decided to finally leave…. he got his own place I got mine.. and even though we broke up we managed to stay in each other’s lives off and on for 2 months.. he’d comeback in my life say I love you ok we can work it out we’d have sex then he’d change again so I’d tell him leave me alone he’ll leave me alone and a few days later come right back.. this went on for 2 months until I found out he was actually seeing someone also in that 2 months.. I spoke with her they were dating and having sex once I found out we were all 3 in a room were he told her he doesn’t want her but he wants and loves me she got upset and left… I decided to forgive and forget because we weren’t really together although he did lie, his excuse for talking to her was he was trying to get over me… so now it’s been 1 month of trying to work things out but he never changed still not the man he used to be, not very sorry at all just expects me to automatically forgive and forget and I’ve tried only wants to see me on his time does call me everyday and we FaceTime at night but the affection isn’t there and sometimes when I’d go in for hugs and kisses he’d reject them with an excuse like when we lived together.. I finally got tired of it and decided to end it 1 week ago he came back via text though and we were talking but he wasn’t being very nice so i asked him why and he said he just doesn’t want to do this, that he can’t do the things I want him to do that he used to treat me like I’m supposed to that he won’t be that guy and we’ll never be together (he’s been a jerk for a while) so I said ok leave me alone forever… it’s been 5 days now he called me twice text me everyday but it’s just to ask how I’m doing I haven’t responded…I do want to get back together but the Text aren’t to reconcile it’s just him asking if I’m ok because I’m in his city alone with no friends or family starting my life over alone.. I guess my question is will he ever come around or will he forget me, will he just throw all this away, im so confused to why he changed I just don’t know there was never anyone else when we were together… I’m confused

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 3, 2017 at 3:53 pm

      Standards are important because we cant expect people to change for us, if they do, it’s mostly because they know they have to because of your standards.. but that doesnt mean you will take the credit for the change.. it’s their decision..

  7. Semira

    May 14, 2017 at 8:17 pm

    My boyfriend broke up with me and he said he doesnt see us getting back together so I gave him space and after three days he called me on video call and I didnt pick up but I returned the call later and he didnt pick up. When I asked if he called he said it was a mistake and I haven’t spoken to him since. Has he moved on? does he mean what he said? pls help!!!!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 15, 2017 at 2:50 pm

      not really, do you want to try the advice above?

  8. Hopeful

    April 17, 2017 at 7:38 pm

    Here’s where I am right now. I’m a week into NC after my other two failed attempts where I caved too soon (9 and 12 days). He replied both times and has only initiated an actual conversation with me once, to ask my why I added a friend of his on Facebook (who’s a girl and in a relationship with another friend of his). Once I realized it made her and my ex uncomfortable, I unfriended her. In hindsight, friending her wasn’t a good idea, because it made me look like I had ulterior motives. However, I didn’t like the way my ex talked to me when he confronted me about it, as he seemed pretty rude, so I’ve been using that along with the fact that he only wanted an answer out of me as motivation to get through NC.

    I’ve also been reading a lot of articles on here to try and gather clarity about my situation. The break up happened a month ago as of Easter. He told me there were better people out there for me after he gave me the main reason for breaking up with me (that there’s too much going on in his life and things weren’t working). However, when I asked if this meant there was no chance of us getting back together in the future, he said something like, “I don’t know how I’ll be feeling when things are better on my end, but I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.”

    I’ve had people tell me I need to give up on him and people tell me it “doesn’t sound like things are over” and “it doesn’t sound like he REALLY wanted to break up with me.” He didn’t ignore either of my attempts at friendly conversation before I re-entered NC, but he has been liking my stuff less than he did when we first broke up. I’m trying to move forward with my life but it’s hard when I don’t know what to make of this. Please help.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 24, 2017 at 6:43 pm

      it’s ok to be afraid, it’s another thing to let it let it get to you.. be realistic.. if you’re more energized in going out alone, do that more and when you go out, be with fellow introverts

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