My Ex Boyfriend Told Me To Move On… Does He Really Mean It?

I want to show you something that a woman on our private support group posted yesterday,

I underlined the particularly important parts.

Now, as you can imagine for a woman who desperately wants her ex back having that ex tell her that he is moving on and that she should as well can be devastating. Now, the woman who posted this screenshot of his text was very upset.

However, she asked me the inevitable question that almost all women ask,

Should I tell him to go F*ck Himself…

Wait… no that’s not right.

Hmm…

One sec let me consult my notes.

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Ah, here it is.

She asked me,

What does my ex boyfriend really mean when tells me that I should move on?

Well, rather than answering her directly (since it’s going to take me about a week to answer her properly) I decided to do a deep dive and answer her through this article instead!

After all, I am sure there are millions of other women out there that can benefit from learning what the heck your ex boyfriend really means when he says that you should move on.

So, rather than listen to me ramble on let’s just cut right to the chase and answer the burning question that’s probably been plaguing your mind ever since your stupid ex opened his mouth.

(I will always be on your side FYI!)

Does He Really Mean It When He Tells Me To Move On?

Yep, I decided to get right to the heart of the thing that is bugging you.

Now, what I am about to say may be a tad bit controversial so make sure you listen up.

I want to start off by saying that I have some bad news and some good news.

Which would you like to hear first?

The bad news, eh?

Ok, brace yourself because this is probably going to hurt to read but just know that I have some good news (and some hope) that is soon to follow.

Are you ready?

Have you grabbed on to your chair or seat or whatever you are near to get in your bracing position?

The Bad News = Your ex boyfriend absolutely means it…

Ok, now let me quickly jump into the good news.

The Good News = He may have only meant it in that exact moment and it may have no bearing of what he wants in the future…

Let me ask you a question.

Have you ever gotten super angry at someone and said something quite rude to them without actually meaning it?

Yep….

I am pretty sure we have all been there.

It’s entirely possible that your ex got caught up in the heat of the moment from the breakup and said something that he didn’t mean.

Now, for all of you naysayers out there chanting “bullsh*t” let me tell you a little about how we roll here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery.

I usually don’t say something on this site without proof backing it up.

In other words, I would like to show you the real proof I have of this idea of a man saying something in the heat of the moment and not really meaning it.

Meet Sarah,

Now, Sarah was one of the lucky women who got her ex boyfriend back after enrolling in our private support group!

Do you care to take a guess at what Sarah’s ex boyfriend told her when they broke up?

This is it…

We are never getting back together…

You should move on because that’s what I am going to do too…

He said these things during the heat of the breakup and obviously didn’t mean them when he wanted to get back with her later.

Just watch the 35 minute interview I did with her above if you want the rest of the details.

Now, the question you are probably wondering at this point is,

I get it Chris but how the heck am I supposed to know if he really meant it when he told me to move on?

Ah, well a few years ago I would have just told you to wait around and see how things panned out.

Basically the equivalent of one of these,

However, after gaining more experience with men who have said this to their exes and then turned around and came back my team and I have began to notice certain patterns that have been universally exhibited and I am going to let you in on those “patterns” today.

Are you ready to rock?

Patterns Men Exhibit When They Don’t Really Mean To Tell You To Move On

Alright, so I have identified three very distinctive behaviors/patterns that men exhibit when they tell you to “move on” but don’t really mean it.

Those patterns are as follows,

  1. Telling You To Move On And Then Not Leaving You Alone
  2. Making A Romantic Declaration Of Some Sort
  3. Dating Someone New Very Quickly And Then Breaking Up Very Quickly

Of course, me just telling you these patterns aren’t enough.

On the contrary, I have always believed that details are essential if you want to understand what the heck is going on in your ex boyfriends mind.

So, that is what I am going to spend the rest of this article.

Defining exactly what I mean when I list each of these patterns.

Pattern #1: Telling You To Move On And Then Not Leaving You Alone

I have always been of the belief that actions speak louder than words.

This is especially true when you are dealing with someone going through a breakup where emotions run high and they often won’t say what is really on their mind. I learned a long time ago that if you want to get to the bottom of what someone truly feels then you need to study how they act after a breakup.

For example, if your ex boyfriend tells you to move on and he never talks to you again (even after you try to talk to him) then it’s a pretty safe bet that he meant what he said.

In other words, he told you one thing and backed it up with the action of silence which everyone in the “ex recovery” game knows is a bad thing as it relates to your own ex boyfriend.

But what if the opposite happens?

What if your ex boyfriend tells you to move on and then proceeds to send you text messages like this over the next few days,

Well, he is saying one thing with his words but his actions are clearly saying another thing, aren’t they?

You know, I’ll never forget one thing I read from renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel when she was interviewing a couple that was trying to rebuild after an affair,

When Debbie brings up the affairs, Marc alternates between justifying and blaming himself.

(source)

It’s almost like this pendulum swinging back and forth where a person can flip/flop their position from one end to the other.

The analogy has always stuck with me because I have experienced this very same phenomenon with the men and women I work with who experience breakups.

One day they can be on top of the world very excited about how things are progressing and the next they swing to the other end of the spectrum cursing me that I am not helping them enough.

Breakups tend to have this spectrum swinging affect on humans and your ex boyfriend is no different.

One minute he can be steadfast in his belief that you should get over him and the next moment he could be having this internal conversation with himself where he is literally thinking,

Why did I tell her that? I don’t want her to be over me…

And that’s where this pattern comes into play.

If you find that your ex can’t seem to stop talking to you after he tells you to “move on” it could be a sign that the pendulum is swinging the other way.

Pattern #2: Making A Romantic Declaration Of Some Sort

Let’s go down this rabbit hole a little bit further.

Now that you have grasped my pendulum analogy you probably have a little insight into why your ex boyfriend may be giving you mixed signals by telling you to move on. Hell, you have probably experienced the pendulum playing with your emotions yourself.

So, I’d like to throw out a hypothetical here for a moment.

Lets pretend that your ex boyfriend told you very specifically that he wants you to move on. However, after the fact you find that he keeps messaging you and talking to you.

Basically he exhibits pattern one in spades.

But this time he takes it a step further and makes a romantic declaration.

Romantic Declaration = Something your ex says to you that can be taken in a romantic way

I feel it’s important to spend some time defining specific romantic declarations your ex is likely to make since I realize I am dealing with women who tend to read into every little action that he does.

Generally the type of romantic declaration I am talking about ISN’T going to be this,

That’s what I would call a “GRAND” romantic declaration.

While it’s not impossible for an ex to suddenly have an epiphany and want to win you back it is unlikely and it would be a waste of your precious time sitting around waiting for it to happen.

Instead, it’s likely that the type of romantic declarations you will receive can go a little like this,

You and your ex are texting at a pretty good clip and all of a sudden he texts you this,

“I really miss you!”

Notice how it’s not overly romantic. It’s almost as if he let his guard down and let you in on the internal conversation going on in his head.

You want to make sure you pay attention to things like this because they are important.

Another popular romantic gesture I see a lot of ex boyfriends making is calling their ex by a “pet name.”

Pet Name: Something he used to call you often instead of your name

For example, my wife will sometimes call me,

“Babe…”

“Hun…”

“Honey…”

“Lovey…”

These are all her little pet names for me.

Now, I know for a fact that it’s meant to be sweet and romantic by nature because she doesn’t call other men in her life by these names. Instead, they are all reserved for me.

(And I suppose we are going to have a major problem if she does start calling other men by these names.)

Here is my point.

If your ex boyfriend begins calling you by your “pet name” then it’s a small little romantic gesture that is giving you insight into his frame of mind.

The pendulum may be swinging back towards hoping you don’t move on.

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Pattern #3: Dating Someone New Very Quickly And Then Breaking Up Very Quickly

I saved the most outrageous pattern for last because it is so counter intuitive.

Before I started Ex Boyfriend Recovery I was under the impression that if you were trying to get an ex boyfriend back it’s never good if that ex boyfriend starts dating a new girl.

And for the most part I still believe that is the case.

HOWEVER!

There is one particular circumstance where the rules slightly change.

Care to take a guess at what that circumstance is?

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Ok, ok… I kind of gave the answer out in the heading but I am trying to keep things exciting for you 🙂 .

The circumstance is if your ex quickly jumps into a relationship with a new girlfriend after your breakup and then quickly breaks up with her.

Remember what we learned from pattern one?

Words don’t matter as much as actions and by dating a new girl your ex boyfriend is clearly taking a bold action.

But what are these actions telling us?

Well, lets study what is actually going on.

Action #1 = Your Ex Boyfriend Quickly Jumping Into A Relationship With Someone New

This action tells us a couple of things.

Firstly, the fact that he was so quick to jump into a new relationship means that he is definitely hurt by his breakup with you.

Now, generally the public believes that moving on this quickly is a negative behavior but what if I were to tell you that it’s not.

What if I were to tell you that one of the fastest ways to get over a relationship is to actually go on the rebound.

Would you believe me?

Probably not but numerous studies have clearly stated that it is.

Of course, that is probably a nightmare for you to hear as you are probably reading this article to figure out if your ex boyfriend even wants you back, right?

Well, the good news is that we still have another action to explore!

Action #2 = Your Ex Boyfriend Quickly Breaking Up With The New Girl

Have you ever heard of the grass is greener syndrome?

If not then I’d highly recommend you check out this amazing article I wrote on it a few years back.

In it I talk about this idea of an internal rating system that men have when they date someone.

The premise is really simple.

Basically a man keeps this internal rating system (let’s use a 1 – 10 scoring system for the purposes of this example) to measure how satisfied he is with the relationship. Now, most women think that once they get their “grade” it’s set in stone.

For example, they think that if they are given an 8 out of 10 by a man that, that is their grade forever from that particular man.

But that’s not how it works.

On the contrary, the grade a woman is given evolves and changes each and every day depending on his satisfaction with the relationship.

For example, a woman is probably going to get a lot of high scores at the beginning of the relationship (8 – 10’s) as she navigates her way through the honeymoon period.

But that grade is bound to go down as she gets out of the honeymoon period and more fights or arguments accumulate.

Maybe by the time that it’s all said and done he has her rated as a 6.

Now let’s make things really interesting and tie this point system back into action two here.

Let’s say your ex boyfriend rated you as a 7 by the end of your relationship with him and he immediately jumped into a relationship with a new girl. Now, upon entering a new relationship with a new girl he is going to be comparing your score to her new score.

At first her score is probably going to be higher but that’s bound to happen with the excitement of the honeymoon period but that will always wear off and his score for his new girlfriend is going to drop.

Let’s say that it drops to a 5.

So, where you were a 7…

She was a 5…

Do you see where I am going with this?

He is going to break up with her because he will have found out for himself how great he had it with you.

It’s the grass is greener syndrome in a nutshell.

And I can’t tell you how many times I have seen this phenomenon in action.

It’s almost comical but I suppose in a weird way it makes complete sense.

Sometimes men just have to found out how difficult it is to fine an amazing woman like you on their own.

There is no substitute for experience!

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Gia
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Hey me and my boyfriend had been together for 7 months in I’m 4 months pregnant in on Valentine’s Day he broke up with me because we had a little argument because he wants a DNA test in his brother influence him to put in his head that he don’t need to be with me and after my mom boyfriend live with us my boyfriend couldn’t take the fact he couldn’t have power over the house he couldn’t eat me and my mom food up in argue at me so I guess my experience got tired in call quick but… Read more »
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Hi Gia,

don’t put all the blame to yourself.. That’s bad for your baby and wallowing in self pity is not going to help your situation.

Gia
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Hey my boyfriend had broke up with me after Valentine’s Day in had told me he can’t do this because we had got in a big argument because I’m 5 months pregnant in he always get ,,influence from,his older brother when we have our problems so he asked me for a DNA test in yes it hurts me knowing he wanted one because I was loyal in relationship we been together for 7 months I was the longest girl he ever been with I never did anything to hurt him but he did so much to me that hurted me… Read more »
Gia
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Hey me and my boyfriend had been together for 7 months in I’m 4 months pregnant in on Valentine’s Day he broke up with me because we had a little argument because he wants a DNA test in his brother influence him to put in his head that he don’t need to be with me and after my mom boyfriend live with us my boyfriend couldn’t take the fact he couldn’t have power over the house he couldn’t eat me and my mom food up in argue at me so I guess my experience got tired in call quick but… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Gia,

don’t put all the blame to yourself.. That’s bad for your baby and wallowing in self pity is not going to help your situation.

Gia
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Hey my boyfriend had broke up with me after Valentine’s Day in had told me he can’t do this because we had got in a big argument because I’m 5 months pregnant in he always get ,,influence from,his older brother when we have our problems so he asked me for a DNA test in yes it hurts me knowing he wanted one because I was loyal in relationship we been together for 7 months I was the longest girl he ever been with I never did anything to hurt him but he did so much to me that hurted me… Read more »
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My ex boyfriend told me to move on and we’re not getting back together, but I’ve told him that before and he told me before ..

In the article it says he might not mean it if he says it but will still reply to your messages ..

If I text my ex he still replys .. good or bad .
What does that mean ? & what should I do about it ? I’m just confused because we’ve said it to eachother before so I don’t know if he means it ..

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Help
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My ex boyfriend told me to move on and we’re not getting back together, but I’ve told him that before and he told me before ..

In the article it says he might not mean it if he says it but will still reply to your messages ..

If I text my ex he still replys .. good or bad .
What does that mean ? & what should I do about it ? I’m just confused because we’ve said it to eachother before so I don’t know if he means it ..

EBR Team Member: Amor
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My boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago because I read his text messages without his permission. I became insecure after meeting his childhood female friend who actually gave him a book on dating upon first meeting me in person. In his texts she was telling him to break up with me for no good reason. I told him that I read the text and he said that he cannot figure out a logical way that he could ever trust me again but that he still likes me. He cried for 2 hours, gave me a long hug and… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

How long we’re you together?

D
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My boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago because I read his text messages without his permission. I became insecure after meeting his childhood female friend who actually gave him a book on dating upon first meeting me in person. In his texts she was telling him to break up with me for no good reason. I told him that I read the text and he said that he cannot figure out a logical way that he could ever trust me again but that he still likes me. He cried for 2 hours, gave me a long hug and… Read more »
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EBR Team Member: Amor

How long we’re you together?

Hopeless
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Hi Chris & Amor, I broke up with ex boyfriend 3 weeks ago, after a 1,5 year relationship. I really regret it but he thinks I moved on and that I’m back with my ex boyfriend which is absolutely not the case. I really want him back but when we talk, all he says is how much he hates me and that I’m a stranger to him now. He tells me that he doesn’t love me anymore at all and doesn’t care for me. I’d like to believe that he’s saying these things out of anger or hurt but he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

why does he think you’re back with your ex? what did you tell him about that?

Hopeless
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Hi Chris & Amor, I broke up with ex boyfriend 3 weeks ago, after a 1,5 year relationship. I really regret it but he thinks I moved on and that I’m back with my ex boyfriend which is absolutely not the case. I really want him back but when we talk, all he says is how much he hates me and that I’m a stranger to him now. He tells me that he doesn’t love me anymore at all and doesn’t care for me. I’d like to believe that he’s saying these things out of anger or hurt but he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

why does he think you’re back with your ex? what did you tell him about that?

R
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Hi I am new to this but rly hope to get a response… My bf of 2 yrs broke up with my via text yesterday after I said something to upset him the night before. We have a ton going on in our lives right now.. both r single parents, both of our vehicles r broken down & cant afford to get them fixed so have barely seen each other in the past month after usually spending every day together like 1 big happy family.. on top of that I’m going through ovarian cancer…. I haven’t handled not seeing him… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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Hi R,

give it a week..just be silent

R
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Hi I am new to this but rly hope to get a response… My bf of 2 yrs broke up with my via text yesterday after I said something to upset him the night before. We have a ton going on in our lives right now.. both r single parents, both of our vehicles r broken down & cant afford to get them fixed so have barely seen each other in the past month after usually spending every day together like 1 big happy family.. on top of that I’m going through ovarian cancer…. I haven’t handled not seeing him… Read more »
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi R,

give it a week..just be silent

SLA
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Hello, I have an out of the blue question. I know this is ex boyfriend recovery but I am a 25 year old female and I would love to be a part of the Facebook private chat due to my situation. I’ve heard it is very helpful and I could use all of the support I can. My ex is just like a guy when it comes to emotions and personality, but more emotions. I am a tomboy but act with the emotions of a woman lol. I have a huge heart and will do anything to have my ex… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

did you mean you want to know to join the facebook group? if yes, this is the link for it:
Private Facebook Group

SLA
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Hello, I have an out of the blue question. I know this is ex boyfriend recovery but I am a 25 year old female and I would love to be a part of the Facebook private chat due to my situation. I’ve heard it is very helpful and I could use all of the support I can. My ex is just like a guy when it comes to emotions and personality, but more emotions. I am a tomboy but act with the emotions of a woman lol. I have a huge heart and will do anything to have my ex… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

did you mean you want to know to join the facebook group? if yes, this is the link for it:
Private Facebook Group

A
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What should i do if my exbf knows i visit this site?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

what do you mean? did he tell younor you told him?

A
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He told my friend he knew I was visiting this site .. and my friend told me .. this is bad right?

A
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He told my friend he knew I was visiting this site .. and my friend told me .. what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

yup..that means initiating contact after 45 days is very obvious.. you can still improve yourself and be active in posting but for him to think that you’re really moving on, you have to do a very long no contact period.. for it to seem real that you have moved on and you’re just being friendly when you initiate contact..

A
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What should i do if my exbf knows i visit this site?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

what do you mean? did he tell younor you told him?

A
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He told my friend he knew I was visiting this site .. and my friend told me .. this is bad right?

A
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He told my friend he knew I was visiting this site .. and my friend told me .. what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

yup..that means initiating contact after 45 days is very obvious.. you can still improve yourself and be active in posting but for him to think that you’re really moving on, you have to do a very long no contact period.. for it to seem real that you have moved on and you’re just being friendly when you initiate contact..

Kelsey
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After dating for over two year I broke up with my boyfriend. I regret it and I begged to her him back. He started talking to a new girl about two weeks after the break up. He’s has tired to help me with my emotional distress but it hasn’t worked and he only gets frustrated with me. He says he’s not commented on either way on our relationship(meaning he has not committed to getting back together or never getting back together). And he says he doesn’t know what’s gonna happen in the future but his hearts not in it right… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

do at least 30 days of no contact period..be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media

Kelsey
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After dating for over two year I broke up with my boyfriend. I regret it and I begged to her him back. He started talking to a new girl about two weeks after the break up. He’s has tired to help me with my emotional distress but it hasn’t worked and he only gets frustrated with me. He says he’s not commented on either way on our relationship(meaning he has not committed to getting back together or never getting back together). And he says he doesn’t know what’s gonna happen in the future but his hearts not in it right… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

do at least 30 days of no contact period..be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media

Kiko
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Thanks for the reply!

Since it’s the first time meeting up, I don’t want to talk about our relationship/break-up, I just want to have fun, so he gets positive emotions about meeting up, it that a good idea?

Also, should I make plans for another meet-up when I’m with him? How many days/weeks should be between those meet-up’s?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

yup just have fun and leave at high note.. theres no concrete time span on when you should meet up.. if he raises meeting again, good..if not, dont mention it

Kiko
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Thanks for the reply!

Since it’s the first time meeting up, I don’t want to talk about our relationship/break-up, I just want to have fun, so he gets positive emotions about meeting up, it that a good idea?

Also, should I make plans for another meet-up when I’m with him? How many days/weeks should be between those meet-up’s?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

yup just have fun and leave at high note.. theres no concrete time span on when you should meet up.. if he raises meeting again, good..if not, dont mention it

Jessica J
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Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months . (On and off )Broke up the 26th because for 3 weeks before then I’ve been very emotional and confused, I kept breaking up with him every like 4 days and then would come right back the next day .& just kept starting arguments between us , I think it was because I was upset about something I found out and month ago and was holding it in and it finally started bothering me . Finally on that day he said he’s tried of it and it’s annoying and said… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

do no contact to heal and improve.. if after no contact you want to build rapport go ahead while continuing to improve yourself.. if it doesn’t work, move on

Jessica J
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Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months . (On and off )Broke up the 26th because for 3 weeks before then I’ve been very emotional and confused, I kept breaking up with him every like 4 days and then would come right back the next day .& just kept starting arguments between us , I think it was because I was upset about something I found out and month ago and was holding it in and it finally started bothering me . Finally on that day he said he’s tried of it and it’s annoying and said… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

do no contact to heal and improve.. if after no contact you want to build rapport go ahead while continuing to improve yourself.. if it doesn’t work, move on

Jessica J
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Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months . (On and off )Broke up the 26th because for 3 weeks before then I’ve been very emotional and confused, I kept ending it with him every like 4 days and then would come right back the next day .& just kept starting arguments between us , I think it was because I was upset about something I found out and month ago and was holding it in and it finally started bothering me . Finally on that day he said he’s tried of it and it’s annoying and said… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

do no contact to heal and improve.. if after no contact you want to build rapport go ahead while continuing to improve yourself.. if it doesn’t work, move on

Jessica J
Guest
Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months . (On and off )Broke up the 26th because for 3 weeks before then I’ve been very emotional and confused, I kept breaking up with him every like 4 days and then would come right back the next day .& just kept starting arguments between us , I think it was because I was upset about something I found out and month ago and was holding it in and it finally started bothering me . Finally on that day he said he’s tried of it and it’s annoying and said… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

do no contact to heal and improve.. if after no contact you want to build rapport go ahead while continuing to improve yourself.. if it doesn’t work, move on

Jessica J
Guest
Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months . (On and off )Broke up the 26th because for 3 weeks before then I’ve been very emotional and confused, I kept breaking up with him every like 4 days and then would come right back the next day .& just kept starting arguments between us , I think it was because I was upset about something I found out and month ago and was holding it in and it finally started bothering me . Finally on that day he said he’s tried of it and it’s annoying and said… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

do no contact to heal and improve.. if after no contact you want to build rapport go ahead while continuing to improve yourself.. if it doesn’t work, move on

Jessica J
Guest
Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months . (On and off )Broke up the 26th because for 3 weeks before then I’ve been very emotional and confused, I kept ending it with him every like 4 days and then would come right back the next day .& just kept starting arguments between us , I think it was because I was upset about something I found out and month ago and was holding it in and it finally started bothering me . Finally on that day he said he’s tried of it and it’s annoying and said… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

do no contact to heal and improve.. if after no contact you want to build rapport go ahead while continuing to improve yourself.. if it doesn’t work, move on

Tess
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Hey , My boyfriend broke up with me almost 6 months Ago after a short term relationship, we saw each other 3 months later, I made the convincing him to be with me mistake after the breakup. The time I saw him he didn’t have feelings anymore he said, then he got angry at me and apologised overreacting and asked to please stay friends. Then he didn’t talk to me at all except for wishing me a happy birthday, so I asked him if he really does want to stay ‘friends’ he said yes but we don’t fit in each… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

you mean you’re in a long distance relationship?

Tess
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Hey amor,

Yes it was a long distance relationship.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

if you didn’t contact him and you know you changed, then initate contact.. if he doesn’t respond well, move on

d
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My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago. We have had the same fight over the entire course of our relationship, about a friend of his who has a thing for him. I felt she was overstepping her boundaries to him, and he also lied to me a couple of times about the situation to “avoid conflict” with me. The funny thing is, i never saw this girl as a threat because i knew he would never be attracted to her, but i still felt threatened by their friendship. she used to sleep at his house when her ex… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it looks like he thought the break up.. but you should just continue in nc.. because he’s not asking for you back..so, for now continue in nc

d
Guest

it looks like he thought the break up..?

d
Guest

“he thought the break up…”? sorry, confused…

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry that was a type.. I mean, he thought about the break up, it crossed his mind if he did the right thing.

Tess
Guest
Hey , My boyfriend broke up with me almost 6 months Ago after a short term relationship, we saw each other 3 months later, I made the convincing him to be with me mistake after the breakup. The time I saw him he didn’t have feelings anymore he said, then he got angry at me and apologised overreacting and asked to please stay friends. Then he didn’t talk to me at all except for wishing me a happy birthday, so I asked him if he really does want to stay ‘friends’ he said yes but we don’t fit in each… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you mean you’re in a long distance relationship?

Tess
Guest

Hey amor,

Yes it was a long distance relationship.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

if you didn’t contact him and you know you changed, then initate contact.. if he doesn’t respond well, move on

d
Guest
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago. We have had the same fight over the entire course of our relationship, about a friend of his who has a thing for him. I felt she was overstepping her boundaries to him, and he also lied to me a couple of times about the situation to “avoid conflict” with me. The funny thing is, i never saw this girl as a threat because i knew he would never be attracted to her, but i still felt threatened by their friendship. she used to sleep at his house when her ex… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it looks like he thought the break up.. but you should just continue in nc.. because he’s not asking for you back..so, for now continue in nc

d
Guest

it looks like he thought the break up..?

d
Guest

“he thought the break up…”? sorry, confused…

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry that was a type.. I mean, he thought about the break up, it crossed his mind if he did the right thing.

Eve
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Hi Amor! I did improve alot! Lost 8kg, new clothes, became more social, faked my confidence so much, that I actually started to feel really confident! I’ve been more active on Facebook than normal, eventough I never post alot during our relationship! However I do know my EX isn’t a big fan of Facebook and can ga days without checking it. I unfollowed him, so I have no idea of he’s posting or online! I did read that atleast 88% of EXES check their EXES Facebook! Still.. I don’t think he’ll miss me soon. I think he needs more time… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

extend to 45 days if you want, and then initiate contact.

Eve
Guest
Hi Amor! I did improve alot! Lost 8kg, new clothes, became more social, faked my confidence so much, that I actually started to feel really confident! I’ve been more active on Facebook than normal, eventough I never post alot during our relationship! However I do know my EX isn’t a big fan of Facebook and can ga days without checking it. I unfollowed him, so I have no idea of he’s posting or online! I did read that atleast 88% of EXES check their EXES Facebook! Still.. I don’t think he’ll miss me soon. I think he needs more time… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

extend to 45 days if you want, and then initiate contact.

Jannie moore
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Was in a 6 months relationship with a 27 y/o repressed English gentleman. Over all, our relationship was adventurous and less dramatic. Harmonious relationship as what I can call it. I am the first to actually be his closest friend and lover. He tells me his inner thoughts and issues. It has been couple of weeks since I followed the NO CONTACT rule. He jumped in a plane 3 days after he broke up with me and started a teaching course in Vietnam. Few days ago, he told a friend of mine he misses me and was planning to email… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

he’s friendzoning you, you should the nc immediately..

Jannie moore
Guest
Was in a 6 months relationship with a 27 y/o repressed English gentleman. Over all, our relationship was adventurous and less dramatic. Harmonious relationship as what I can call it. I am the first to actually be his closest friend and lover. He tells me his inner thoughts and issues. It has been couple of weeks since I followed the NO CONTACT rule. He jumped in a plane 3 days after he broke up with me and started a teaching course in Vietnam. Few days ago, he told a friend of mine he misses me and was planning to email… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

he’s friendzoning you, you should the nc immediately..

Kiko
Guest

Meeting me EX this Friday for a casual meet up. (As friends) Kinda nervous! Have any tips and/or articles for me so I can prepare a little?

I have PRO, but I’m still really nervous!
Thank you!

Charlotte
Guest
My boyfriend and I started as friends last summer. There was always a lot of flirtation between us, but we were both very serious about finding someone to spend the rest of our lives with. He isn’t a player at all- he’s only had two girlfriends, including me, and he’s only been intimate with two women (girlfriends). He’s very loyal and I’ve never had any reason to question that loyalty. We started dating on New Years and it all started out great but there was always this weird element to our relationship- we wouldn’t talk everyday, and because we started… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

last summer, as in 2016? Do at least 30 days nc.. take it slow in building rapport after, don’t rush.. I think he felt you’re going too fast..

Charlotte
Guest

Thank you Amor. I’m trying to be regular with working out and socializing, and I post it on snapchat and he watches all of my stories on snapchat and likes all my pictures on facebook and instagram. Should I continue with the posting or should I take it easy a bit so he doesn’t know what I’m up to? Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it’s better to cut back in snap chat because the posts doesnt last

Charlotte
Guest

Thank you Amor! I will cut back. His brother’s girlfriend and I are good friends and she saw him this past weekend and she said that he was watching my stories a few times over and she made a comment saying “oh you must be having a hard time getting over her!” and his other brother laughed and agreed but my ex didn’t say anything. I am seeing him for the first time since the break up (it’ll be 4 weeks) on Saturday at a mutual friend’s graduation party.

Charlotte
Guest
Hi Amor, Saturday went really well with my ex and we had a lot of fun together. Nothing physical went on between us and when I would talk to another guy he would get a little jealous and would follow me around a little bit afterward. Me, him, his sister and her bf went out for drinks after the party and he bought me drinks and we sat next to each other just talking and having fun the entire night. I haven’t heard from him since then though. Honestly the way he was acting on Saturday told me that if… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s a very good sign.. that’s progress..I agree with your plan..are you going to see each other again in person?

Kiko
Guest

Meeting me EX this Friday for a casual meet up. (As friends) Kinda nervous! Have any tips and/or articles for me so I can prepare a little?

I have PRO, but I’m still really nervous!
Thank you!

Charlotte
Guest
My boyfriend and I started as friends last summer. There was always a lot of flirtation between us, but we were both very serious about finding someone to spend the rest of our lives with. He isn’t a player at all- he’s only had two girlfriends, including me, and he’s only been intimate with two women (girlfriends). He’s very loyal and I’ve never had any reason to question that loyalty. We started dating on New Years and it all started out great but there was always this weird element to our relationship- we wouldn’t talk everyday, and because we started… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

last summer, as in 2016? Do at least 30 days nc.. take it slow in building rapport after, don’t rush.. I think he felt you’re going too fast..

Charlotte
Guest

Thank you Amor. I’m trying to be regular with working out and socializing, and I post it on snapchat and he watches all of my stories on snapchat and likes all my pictures on facebook and instagram. Should I continue with the posting or should I take it easy a bit so he doesn’t know what I’m up to? Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it’s better to cut back in snap chat because the posts doesnt last

Charlotte
Guest

Thank you Amor! I will cut back. His brother’s girlfriend and I are good friends and she saw him this past weekend and she said that he was watching my stories a few times over and she made a comment saying “oh you must be having a hard time getting over her!” and his other brother laughed and agreed but my ex didn’t say anything. I am seeing him for the first time since the break up (it’ll be 4 weeks) on Saturday at a mutual friend’s graduation party.

Charlotte
Guest
Hi Amor, Saturday went really well with my ex and we had a lot of fun together. Nothing physical went on between us and when I would talk to another guy he would get a little jealous and would follow me around a little bit afterward. Me, him, his sister and her bf went out for drinks after the party and he bought me drinks and we sat next to each other just talking and having fun the entire night. I haven’t heard from him since then though. Honestly the way he was acting on Saturday told me that if… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s a very good sign.. that’s progress..I agree with your plan..are you going to see each other again in person?

Chelly
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Hi! Btw i broke up with my ex 3 months ago. So he contacted me last month and he just asked how i am until he asked me if we can be friends and i agreed. As time goes by, when i was trying to build rapport he’s kinda distant and when he reply its too short that seems like he’s not interested. When we’re not talking i decided to focus on myself. I go out with friends, exercise, focus on myself and even post something nice on instagram because he follows me there. Yesterday, i decided to send a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

he doesn’t want to.. but it’s good that you improved yourself.. it’s like you tried to do the no contact process, just not the right way.. because instead of slowly building rapport while continuing to improve yourself, you confessed your feelings.

Chelly
Guest
I broke up with my LDR ex 3 months ago. I tried to get him back but he became so distant with me. I tried to build rapport but when he answers its too short and there’s no interest to it. I focused on myself and even working out, going out with friends and focus in my studies. And even post nice pictures on instagram that he can see. So yesterday i sent him a very long message for all the things i want to say that I still love him and i miss him everyday and i’ll never forget… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

he doesn’t want to.. but it’s good that you improved yourself.. it’s like you tried to do the no contact process, just not the right way.. because instead of slowly building rapport while continuing to improve yourself, you confessed your feelings.

Chelly
Guest

So what do you think i can do? I’ll just move on or what?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

either you restart it and do at least 3 weeks and do it the right way or move on..

Chelly
Guest
Hi! Btw i broke up with my ex 3 months ago. So he contacted me last month and he just asked how i am until he asked me if we can be friends and i agreed. As time goes by, when i was trying to build rapport he’s kinda distant and when he reply its too short that seems like he’s not interested. When we’re not talking i decided to focus on myself. I go out with friends, exercise, focus on myself and even post something nice on instagram because he follows me there. Yesterday, i decided to send a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

he doesn’t want to.. but it’s good that you improved yourself.. it’s like you tried to do the no contact process, just not the right way.. because instead of slowly building rapport while continuing to improve yourself, you confessed your feelings.

Chelly
Guest
I broke up with my LDR ex 3 months ago. I tried to get him back but he became so distant with me. I tried to build rapport but when he answers its too short and there’s no interest to it. I focused on myself and even working out, going out with friends and focus in my studies. And even post nice pictures on instagram that he can see. So yesterday i sent him a very long message for all the things i want to say that I still love him and i miss him everyday and i’ll never forget… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

he doesn’t want to.. but it’s good that you improved yourself.. it’s like you tried to do the no contact process, just not the right way.. because instead of slowly building rapport while continuing to improve yourself, you confessed your feelings.

Chelly
Guest

So what do you think i can do? I’ll just move on or what?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

either you restart it and do at least 3 weeks and do it the right way or move on..

Eve
Guest

Hi EBR!

I have a question. I honestly think 1 month on NC won’t work on my boyfriend. (We broke up 3 months ago) I did the 30 days NC, but I don’t think he missed me at all. I think it takes longer for him to miss me. Did the first text, he replyed, but I just don’t think he misses me or really noticed me being ‘out’ of his life, since he’s a really busy guy.

Should I do a longer NC, to give him a chance to miss me more?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

how much did you improve during and after nc and were you active in posting?

Eve
Guest

Hi EBR!

I have a question. I honestly think 1 month on NC won’t work on my boyfriend. (We broke up 3 months ago) I did the 30 days NC, but I don’t think he missed me at all. I think it takes longer for him to miss me. Did the first text, he replyed, but I just don’t think he misses me or really noticed me being ‘out’ of his life, since he’s a really busy guy.

Should I do a longer NC, to give him a chance to miss me more?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

how much did you improve during and after nc and were you active in posting?