By Chris Seiter

Updated on August 3rd, 2021

When “T” broke up with me, I become the exact woman that I never wanted to be.

I was full of sadness, anxiety, and confusion. I begged for him back and couldn’t understand why he was ending things. After a few weeks of sulking and asking everyone (literally everyone) for their opinions on what went wrong and if I could win him back…I discovered the greatest thing.

The thing that would help me get through this break up and ultimately transform me into the woman that I knew I could be,

Ex Boyfriend Recovery aka EBR

EBR was the best gift I could give myself. I recommend it to my friends all the time!

Once I discovered EBR and read it about 5 times (no joke) and decided to stop being sad and start being strategic!

Now, immediately after my break up with “T” I was impulsive and unfriended him from Facebook.

Which is one thing that this website suggests you NOT do.

I knew social media was one of the best ways to, if not ultimately win him back, make him super jealous!

So, I immediately got to work constructing the perfect social media pages to get the jealousy wheels in motion and that is where the fun comes in!

I want to share with you ladies the tactics that I’ve been using to make my ex jealous via Facebook that have been working like a charm.

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The Tactics I Used To Make My Ex Boyfriend Jealous On Facebook

Facebook is my favorite social media platform.

It allows you to connect with people, check into any place you want around the world, share your life with friends, oh, and also it can be useful in making your ex boyfriend jealous!

And everything starts with building the “Perfect Facebook Profile.”

Does that sound complicated?

Trust me, it’s a lot simplier than you’d think: (I will go individually into more detail):

  • Do NOT unfriend your ex (like I did).
  • If you have unfriended your ex, set your profile to “Public” immediately!
  • Stay friends with his friends (Sphere of Influence). This is explained further in PRO.
  • Highlight your best features in your profile picture (my selfie game has greatly improved)
  • Choose an interesting cover photo
  • Check-ins (even if you have to fake it!)
  • Highlight the “Holy Trinity” (your health, wealth, and relationships)
  • Share interesting articles or memes that will get you a ton of “likes” or comments
  • Create albums of you and your friends having a great time!
  • Portray yourself as the “Ungettable Girl

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Now Let Me Break It Down Even Further For You

I want to go a little more in depth on a few of the tactics that I have listed above.

The reason I had unfriended “T” in the first place was because he was posting a lot more on social media than he had when we were together.

The status that still sticks out in my mind and what ultimately made me unfriend him was this:

“I hit the friendship lottery!”

And he proceeded to tag a group of people who didn’t necessarily like that we were dating. Now, in hindsight, he had me right where he wanted me.


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After, unfriending him, and cooling off. I realized two can play at this game….and I most certainly can play it better.

Let the games begin…

I immediately set my profile to Public and made sure I didn’t unfriend anyone else.

Even his friends who liked the single version of “T” better. I wanted to keep them around. I made a vow to myself that even if I was dying to….I would NOT check his Facebook.

Instead, I shifted my focus to becoming the best version of myself and adding to my health, wealth, and relationships.

I began working out even more than I was previously, I started reconnecting with friends I had neglected during my relationship, and I threw myself into my work.

Friends, coworkers, strangers, and most importantly….”T”‘s friends started to notice.

Personally, I started reconnecting with my friend Tom.

Now, I got Tom’s permission to include him in This article.

As soon as I was single, Tom was there to help me pick up the pieces and remind me of just how amazing I am.

We started going to the gym together (he tortures me). We not only go to the gym, but we also go to social gatherings together or hiking on the weekend…and I make sure I document all of it.

I check us into the gym or restaurants or even if we are just grabbing coffee.

It even got to a point where people started questioning Tom to see if we were dating….and the girl that broke his heart, suddenly took a liking to looking at my Facebook page.

This was proof that my strategy was working. I genuinely had a great time with Tom and I am very grateful for our friendship.

Here are a few examples of Tom and I’s adventures (warning ladies, he is easy on the eyes!)

These photos not only depict my friendship with Tom, but it also highlights my health.

I’m in the best shape I’ve ever been in and I look and feel better than ever.

Every month to 6 weeks I post a progress picture with a motivational quote. This not only allows everyone to see the progress I’ve made, but it motivates me to keep my routine going.

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The Selfie Game

The next thing I’d like to go over is the “selfie.”

I always make sure that I’m flashing a smile or smiling with my eyes. I also highlight or make sure that the central focus captures my best attributes. I have blue eyes, so I make sure they “pop” or I was told by many that I can pull off a red lip. It doesn’t hurt that my ex loved when I wore red lipstick.

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Having confidence is key!

That will shine through your selfie the most!

Keep Your Friends Close…But Your Enemies Closer…

Now, I know you might be thinking

“Why would you want to be friends with people who potentially influenced your break up?”

It’s really quite simple.

I don’t necessarily want to be their friend.

I just want to shift the way that they perceive me.

“T”‘s friends, not all of them, but a select few made it known that they didn’t like that I was a priority in his life.

Instead of deleting these individuals, I wanted to portray through social media that his life was actually more fulfilled because I was in it. Its been about 4 months since our break up and through just using the tactics listed above, I am very close with two of my ex’s closest friends.

These guys invite me to their social events (They are trying to start a microbrewery) and they even asked me to promote their latest brew this month.

I’ve declined a few times in the past, knowing my ex would be at these events, but this month I decided I’m going to help these guys out!

They have been nothing but kind to me.

They always send me the event invites and I always check “interested”.

This months invite is getting a “going to” and my ex is playing at this event.

“T” is a musician, by the way.

I’m showing up late and I’m bringing a group of my friends. I’m sure more of his friends will be there and I want to show them how “UG” that I am!

Not just on social media. I not only talk the talk, but I can walk the walk!

You’ve Got It Covered…

Another aspect of my Facebook page that I make sure makes a statement is my cover photo. I either make sure it’s something funny like this: (Because who doesn’t like the Lion King and pizza?!)

Or… I make it a little more sentimental so that if my ex is stalking my Facebook page (which 9 times out of 10) they are…I like to jog his memory and take him back to a moment that we shared together.

This was where I took “T” on our first date.

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Portraying… No, Rather Being The “Ungettable Girl”

Being the “UG” is the most vital thing I have learned from EBR.

I have this new self confidence that I never knew existed within me this whole time.

Over the past four months I have become the absolute best version of myself that I can be! If you’ve just experienced a break up and you come across this article, you too, can gain this power!

You are not alone.

What I really want this article to convey is not exactly making your ex jealous, sure it’s definitely a plus and your chances are high that you will make him jealous….but more importantly, it’s recognizing just how amazing YOU are!

For me, and I hope for you too, that your social media reflects the best possible version of yourself.

Now, if you’re wondering…”T” and I aren’t back together. I’m over the idea of wanting him back….because I’ve realized that as long as I have the best relationship with myself, that’s what really matters.

And my timeline can attest to that!

An Added Bonus

I did a little extra research for you ladies and decided to reach out to an ex of mine who had left me for another woman and ended up marrying her.

Yes. I was devastated.

Now, five years later, he’s divorced and living the bachelor life…..but I was always curious to know if he was checking up on me through my social media. The response I got was shocking!

I’ll refer to him as “N” I asked him if he ever regretted breaking things off with me (we dated for 3 years) and if he ever looked at my Facebook to see what I was up to when he decided to call it quits.

N: “To be honest…more often than not. You really know how to make a person regret. Especially when you would post a picture with a new guy or out having fun with your friends. That’s why at one point I blocked you. I couldn’t look at you having a life without me in it. As weird as that sounds.”

And there you have it. I hope that’s all the proof you need!

(This was a guest post written by Lindsey Houser)

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9 thoughts on “How To Make Your Ex Jealous On Facebook (And Instagram)”

  1. Maho FB

    July 15, 2019 at 5:52 am

    Thank you for the advice!!
    The guy I’ve been dating for 8 months asked me for space about 4 weeks ago, we had been having lots of problems and fighting about everything. We’re both university students and we live in different parts of the country but we go to the same school, so since we’re now on summer break we don’t get to see each other at all, when vacations started we were having regular contact but the we had a big fight and then one night he called me and told me he needed space to think about some conflicts he had with himself thet were affecting our relationship, he assured me that he loves me and that sometimes love has to overcome difficulties and that we’ll talk whe we see each other again, also he said he didn’t want to break up but still he needed time. I accepted his request. At first I was shocked and very depressed, but I also saw it as a chance to work on myself (I got a job and also I’ve been working out a lot) and I also took it as an opportunity to deeply think about our relationship, to think about what was good and what went wrong, also how to make it better. I haven’t contacted him and he hasn’t contacted me either. I don’t know what to do: should I wait until we’re back at university or should I text him before? Do you think he will contact me?

  2. Arc

    June 4, 2019 at 12:13 am

    Chris, she came to pick up her thing I played it cool and said that I did not want to talk about our relationship she then said why are you putting up a front and I said I am not she then got frustrated and left with her things. Then 10 minutes later she removed our relationship status on Facebook and posted pictures of people saying “you just kicked yourself out of my life” we broke up 10 days ago and I have been doing the no contact rule ever since. When she came to pick her stuff up today she was crying uncontrollably she even asked me if I was seeing someone else. What do I do,??????

    1. Chris Seiter

      June 4, 2019 at 2:15 am

      Probably best to stay the course with your No Contact and let her know thru someone else that you are taking some time and space to get your head together and are NOT seeing anyone else.

  3. Tracy

    November 9, 2018 at 4:43 pm

    Hi, my ex boyfriend and I have been on and off for about 2 and half years and he split up with me 4 weeks ago because he thinks I cheated on him when I went on holiday with my friend (I didn’t) and nothing I say or do can convince him that I haven’t. Before holiday I joined the gym and got a trainer and have lost weight and feeling good. We were getting a lot of attention from men which I think my ex noticed on snapchat. He said he doesn’t trust me or any woman (his ex slept with someone behind his back) and removed me off every social media account. We NEVER had trust issues and I was shocked to hear this and think it may be down to my weight loss and him feeling insecure. I have been in no contact for 4 weeks bar him texting me about my things that he has left in his mums house for me. However I was out at a family event last weekend and changed my WhatsApp and FB profile picture of me from the pics I had taken at it (made it public so he could see) of me looking dolled up, slimmer, and feeling great. I got a lot of likes and comments on my weight loss on FB. That night my ex texted me and sent a cheeky message telling me that “I wont like to hear this but he has moved on that’s why he hasn’t contacted me only to talk about my things he needs to drop to his mums but keeps forgetting”. Now my ex he has dropped a few things over to his mums which I have collected already but he still has other things he keeps saying he’s “forgot”. He has been over in his mums 3 times since sending that message (me and his mum are close and are in contact) and still hasn’t brought them over. I did not react to his message and I said thank you and told him I wished him luck and happiness in life and he told me thank you and at least we didn’t leave things on bad terms.

    My ex is very stubborn and I do want him back, I feel he’s insecure due to my weight loss and is being very hurtful. I have never cheated (in my life) and I am very much attracted to him and want to work things out. Do you think my post made him jealous and he’s saying things to try and hurt me?

    1. Chris Seiter

      November 10, 2018 at 2:03 am

      Hi Tracy!

      Guys can be insecure and then take it out on others. I do think jealousy is in play here.

  4. N

    November 3, 2018 at 7:57 am

    but what if the jealousy game came with the opposite results ? we had a really huge fight because he got jealous after being so nice for a month, what should i do now?

    1. Chris Seiter

      November 4, 2018 at 1:04 am

      You are right….jealousy can be a successful tactic and it can also be the wrong choice. Are you following my eBook program?

  5. Pippa

    February 17, 2018 at 12:43 am

    I’ve just broken up with my boyfriend again for the second time and he’s unfriended but not blocked me on Facebook, but I know from what he told me last time that he’ll be checking out whatever I post. Last time I thought he was done with me completely and I’d never hear from him again, as that was he impression he gave when we split up and I tried to talk him round – I did that before I discovered EBR. I thought he’d be in the 10% of people who don’t stalk ex’s on Facebook but it turned out he was part of the 90% who do check their ex’s Facebook! He told me that he was curious and then jealous of how happy I was and the things I was doing without him and became obsessed with checking my Facebook page – even though he was seeing other women while we were apart, in fact, that only served to elevate me as I was following all the advice I got from EBR on becoming the Ungettable Girl. The only mistake I made was rushing back into a relationship once I’d got him where I wanted him. I won’t make that mistake again. I just want to get past these painful early days (2 days post-breakup) and start to work on improving myself and get back to the stage I got to last summer when I wasn’t bothered if I heard from him or not as I felt good about myself. But once I do that I don’t know yet if I’ll get back with him… Maybe ‘recovery’ isn’t just about recovering a relationship with an ex, like I thought, but is about taking steps to recover from a breakup and then deciding on the future when you’re in a better place.

  6. Fred

    June 14, 2017 at 11:45 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this post. Great job Lindsey. You are an excellent writer and quite talented. Sharing your experiences and insights is truly a selfless act.