When “T” broke up with me, I become the exact woman that I never wanted to be.
I was full of sadness, anxiety, and confusion. I begged for him back and couldn’t understand why he was ending things. After a few weeks of sulking and asking everyone (literally everyone) for their opinions on what went wrong and if I could win him back…I discovered the greatest thing.
The thing that would help me get through this break up and ultimately transform me into the woman that I knew I could be,
Ex Boyfriend Recovery aka EBR
EBR was the best gift I could give myself. I recommend it to my friends all the time!
Once I discovered EBR and read it about 5 times (no joke) and decided to stop being sad and start being strategic!
Now, immediately after my break up with “T” I was impulsive and unfriended him from Facebook.
Which is one thing that this website suggests you NOT do.
So, I immediately got to work constructing the perfect social media pages to get the jealousy wheels in motion and that is where the fun comes in!
I want to share with you ladies the tactics that I’ve been using to make my ex jealous via Facebook that have been working like a charm.
The Tactics I Used To Make My Ex Boyfriend Jealous On Facebook
Facebook is my favorite social media platform.
It allows you to connect with people, check into any place you want around the world, share your life with friends, oh, and also it can be useful in making your ex boyfriend jealous!
And everything starts with building the “Perfect Facebook Profile.””
Does that sound complicated?
Trust me, it’s a lot simplier than you’d think: (I will go individually into more detail):
- Do NOT unfriend your ex (like I did).
- If you have unfriended your ex, set your profile to “Public” immediately!
- Stay friends with his friends (Sphere of Influence). This is explained further in PRO.
- Highlight your best features in your profile picture (my selfie game has greatly improved)
- Choose an interesting cover photo
- Check-ins (even if you have to fake it!)
- Highlight the “Holy Trinity” (your health, wealth, and relationships)
- Share interesting articles or memes that will get you a ton of “likes” or comments
- Create albums of you and your friends having a great time!
- Portray yourself as the “Ungettable Girl“
Now Let Me Break It Down Even Further For You
I want to go a little more in depth on a few of the tactics that I have listed above.
The reason I had unfriended “T” in the first place was because he was posting a lot more on social media than he had when we were together.
The status that still sticks out in my mind and what ultimately made me unfriend him was this:
“I hit the friendship lottery!”
And he proceeded to tag a group of people who didn’t necessarily like that we were dating. Now, in hindsight, he had me right where he wanted me.
After, unfriending him, and cooling off. I realized two can play at this game….and I most certainly can play it better.
Let the games begin…
I immediately set my profile to Public and made sure I didn’t unfriend anyone else.
Even his friends who liked the single version of “T” better. I wanted to keep them around. I made a vow to myself that even if I was dying to….I would NOT check his Facebook.
Instead, I shifted my focus to becoming the best version of myself and adding to my health, wealth, and relationships.
I began working out even more than I was previously, I started reconnecting with friends I had neglected during my relationship, and I threw myself into my work.
Friends, coworkers, strangers, and most importantly….”T”‘s friends started to notice.
Personally, I started reconnecting with my friend Tom.
Now, I got Tom’s permission to include him in This article.
As soon as I was single, Tom was there to help me pick up the pieces and remind me of just how amazing I am.
We started going to the gym together (he tortures me). We not only go to the gym, but we also go to social gatherings together or hiking on the weekend…and I make sure I document all of it.
I check us into the gym or restaurants or even if we are just grabbing coffee.
It even got to a point where people started questioning Tom to see if we were dating….and the girl that broke his heart, suddenly took a liking to looking at my Facebook page.
This was proof that my strategy was working. I genuinely had a great time with Tom and I am very grateful for our friendship.
Here are a few examples of Tom and I’s adventures (warning ladies, he is easy on the eyes!)
These photos not only depict my friendship with Tom, but it also highlights my health.
I’m in the best shape I’ve ever been in and I look and feel better than ever.
Every month to 6 weeks I post a progress picture with a motivational quote. This not only allows everyone to see the progress I’ve made, but it motivates me to keep my routine going.
The Selfie Game
The next thing I’d like to go over is the “selfie.”
I always make sure that I’m flashing a smile or smiling with my eyes. I also highlight or make sure that the central focus captures my best attributes. I have blue eyes, so I make sure they “pop” or I was told by many that I can pull off a red lip. It doesn’t hurt that my ex loved when I wore red lipstick.
Having confidence is key!
That will shine through your selfie the most!
Keep Your Friends Close…But Your Enemies Closer…
Now, I know you might be thinking
“Why would you want to be friends with people who potentially influenced your break up?”
It’s really quite simple.
I don’t necessarily want to be their friend.
I just want to shift the way that they perceive me.
“T”‘s friends, not all of them, but a select few made it known that they didn’t like that I was a priority in his life.
Instead of deleting these individuals, I wanted to portray through social media that his life was actually more fulfilled because I was in it. Its been about 4 months since our break up and through just using the tactics listed above, I am very close with two of my ex’s closest friends.
These guys invite me to their social events (They are trying to start a microbrewery) and they even asked me to promote their latest brew this month.
I’ve declined a few times in the past, knowing my ex would be at these events, but this month I decided I’m going to help these guys out!
They have been nothing but kind to me.
They always send me the event invites and I always check “interested”.
This months invite is getting a “going to” and my ex is playing at this event.
“T” is a musician, by the way.
I’m showing up late and I’m bringing a group of my friends. I’m sure more of his friends will be there and I want to show them how “UG” that I am!
Not just on social media. I not only talk the talk, but I can walk the walk!
You’ve Got It Covered…
Another aspect of my Facebook page that I make sure makes a statement is my cover photo. I either make sure it’s something funny like this: (Because who doesn’t like the Lion King and pizza?!)
Or… I make it a little more sentimental so that if my ex is stalking my Facebook page (which 9 times out of 10) they are…I like to jog his memory and take him back to a moment that we shared together.
This was where I took “T” on our first date.
My favorite place,
Portraying… No, Rather Being The “Ungettable Girl”
Being the “UG” is the most vital thing I have learned from EBR.
I have this new self confidence that I never knew existed within me this whole time.
Over the past four months I have become the absolute best version of myself that I can be! If you’ve just experienced a break up and you come across this article, you too, can gain this power!
You are not alone.
What I really want this article to convey is not exactly making your ex jealous, sure it’s definitely a plus and your chances are high that you will make him jealous….but more importantly, it’s recognizing just how amazing YOU are!
For me, and I hope for you too, that your social media reflects the best possible version of yourself.
Now, if you’re wondering…”T” and I aren’t back together. I’m over the idea of wanting him back….because I’ve realized that as long as I have the best relationship with myself, that’s what really matters.
And my timeline can attest to that!
An Added Bonus
I did a little extra research for you ladies and decided to reach out to an ex of mine who had left me for another woman and ended up marrying her.
Yes. I was devastated.
Now, five years later, he’s divorced and living the bachelor life…..but I was always curious to know if he was checking up on me through my social media. The response I got was shocking!
I’ll refer to him as “N” I asked him if he ever regretted breaking things off with me (we dated for 3 years) and if he ever looked at my Facebook to see what I was up to when he decided to call it quits.
N: “To be honest…more often than not. You really know how to make a person regret. Especially when you would post a picture with a new guy or out having fun with your friends. That’s why at one point I blocked you. I couldn’t look at you having a life without me in it. As weird as that sounds.”
And there you have it. I hope that’s all the proof you need!
(This was a guest post written by Lindsey Houser)