Breakups make people do strange things.

You’re heartbroken and discombobulated. You (or your ex) will question if the right decision was made. The person with whom you have shared so many things was suddenly plucked out of your life.

I’m sure that’s how you feel right now: as though there is a gaping hole in your life the size of a crater when the meteorite that was your breakup hit your life. Punched you in the gut. Slapped you in the face.

You’re in shock.

And guess what?

Chances are, your ex feels that way too, even if he was the one who broke up with you.

Unless your ex was the biggest jerk in existence, in which case you probably should reconsider your attempts to get him back and move on for good, chances are that he is going through the same things that you right now. In fact, he may be experiencing greater pain since breaking up with someone definitely takes courage.

Even if he may not show it or express it, he is probably wondering if he did the right thing.

That being said, it’s normal that after a breakup, you and/or your ex may behave in ways that are different from what you’re familiar with.

And let’s not forget that there are TONS of articles on managing breakups, which can be really baffling if you’re too emotional to process anything rationally. Not only do you have your emotions to deal with, you also have friends, family, and the Internet trying to tell you what to do.

How does that NOT drive anything crazy?!

Before diving into reasons your ex may have unfollowed you on social media, I’d like to point out a few things you shouldn’t post on social media:

  • NO sad posts about broken relationships and breakups
  • NO angry posts about how terrible men are
  • NO pensive posts about love or how ideal relationships should be

You may ask,

“Why not? This is exactly how I feel!”

That may be true, but doing any of those things come across as desperate, which is certainly NOT the position from where you will re-attract your ex! Trust me when I say that even if the quote or picture or song or movie resonated strongly with you, it is important to refrain from posting them on social media.

You want to show your ex that you are “moving on.” Now, if you’re thinking in your head that you DON’T actually want to move on from your ex (that’s why you’re here, isn’t it?), know that some of the best strategies involve the idea of “moving on without moving on.”

Having said that, those angry and sad posts do not paint the picture of someone who has moved on. Rather, they paint the picture of a desperate and heartbroken person who is still hung up over her ex and can’t move on with life.

Unfortunately, even if you really are feeling the desperation of wanting your ex back and the heartache from the breakup, social media is the last place you should vent these feelings.

What, then, should you post?

You should post things that the Ungettable Girl would post.

What’s an Ungettable Girl? Good question.

Alright, now that we have established what you should and should not post, let us jump into why your ex-boyfriend might have unfollowed you on social media.

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Reason 1: It still hurts him to see you (and your photos)

He’s hurt either by you or by having to see your photos.

If you’re being UG, you are probably – and if not, you should – posting pictures of you having fun.

You seem to be moving on just fine without him.

You are trying out and doing cool things without him.

You are making new friends.

In his head, he will also be thinking, “Is she also dating someone new?”

And this thought bothers him, despite the fact that he might have been the one to initiate the breakup instead of you. It bothers him that while he’s still processing the breakup and trying to make sense of his feelings, there you are . . . looking so beautiful and being so amazing.

Guess what?

It hurts.

Since it’s too painful for him to see photos of you or know what you’re doing, he wants to get the image of you out of his head. He believes that since you are moving on, he has to learn to move on as well. And the best way he can do this is by unfollowing you.

It is possible that his friends are telling him to do the same, but remember . . .

Him unfollowing you isn’t about you at all.

It is a reflection of him and where he is at.

Does this mean anything at all?

What it does mean is that you have had a big enough impact on him that he cannot bear to look at your profile because

  • it hurts too much
  • it gets under his skin/annoys him/angers him
  • is obviously hindering him from moving on

In his mind, you have broken up and he has lost you, so the next best thing he can is to try and move on. But, if you keep popping up on his news feed, there’s no way he can move on. Besides, his friends and family are probably telling him the same thing.

Maybe they are even telling him to delete you from social media.

But there’s probably a part of him that isn’t ready to do that just yet.

Your ex is wrestling with his emotions and going through his own weird battle.

In the end, he did the only thing he knew how to, and unfollowed you on social media.

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Reason 2: He is trying to get a reaction out of you

Men can be pretty darn immature, and the immaturity can manifest itself pretty strongly in circumstances such as a breakup.

This is why even when it is difficult to do, you should not panic over the things your ex-boyfriend does after breaking up with you, such as dating a new person or doing something you never thought he would do.

When it comes to social media, he may have unfollowed you to:

  • see how fast you notice
  • when you do notice, he wants to see you react

It boils down to how much reactivity they can trigger out of you because reactivity = control.

Some guys will do this even if they start talking to or dating a new girl.

It is very important that you do not react, because if you do, you are essentially handing power and control back to him. You are sending the message, “I am carefully watching you because I am still obsessed over every move you make.”

Ask yourself if you were ever a text GNAT.

Because if you were, freaking out or confronting your ex the moment you found out he unfollowed you on social media can be detrimental to your chances of getting him back. He already experienced you blowing up his phone with endless text messages and phone calls, begging him to get back together. He might have even experienced you showing up at his place.

You were out of control.

You were emotional.

None of those memories were positive, unfortunately.

That is why any negative emotional reaction on your part can ruin your chances of getting him back. If you freaked out and started demanding why he unfollowed you, those negative memories can be triggered. He will be reminded of how you were, and he will think, “She hasn’t changed one bit. Now I remember why we broke up.”

Even if he was being a jerk, and trying to bait you to get a reaction out of you, then I can’t tell you how important it is to hold your ground and lift your head high. Show him that you’re not affected by him unfollowing you on social media. And consider if you even want him back.

After all, do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t value you and only wants to mess with your emotions?

Reason 3: His new girlfriend made him do it

I know that’s not what most women want to hear, especially if they want to get their exes back, but it’s true and it’s very possible that the new woman he’s dating made him do it.

If this is the case, that’s good news.

It means that you’re a threat to her, and she wants to eliminate you.

Maybe she senses that he’s still not over you, and is trying to force that process.

Whatever her reason may be, she is feeling threatened by you. She doesn’t want him to look at your photos and see how amazing you have become. At any rate, there is a high chance that she is a rebound and you have very little to fear. The new relationship, especially if they started dating shortly after your breakup, will go up in flames without you having to lift a finger.

Do you hear the good news?!

When it comes to your ex and his rebound, you don’t have to do anything!

Let things unfold naturally. But this doesn’t mean you get to be complacent.

You should definitely continue posting pictures of your new self on social media, and to the extent which you are comfortable, make your posts public.

He will stalk, even if she made him unfollow you.

Remember, it is mission-critical that you take this time during the No Contact period to be the Ungettable Girl. But being the UG isn’t something that you do only during NC or only until you get your ex back.

You can’t fake it, because trust me, your ex will notice.
To be the UG, you have to truly take the time to work on and transform yourself. It’s not a superficial change; it’s a real change.

To recap, there are several reasons your ex unfollowed you on social media. They are:

  1. He is still hurting and processing the breakup
  2. He is trying to get a reaction out of you
  3. He was forced to do so by his new girlfriend

Reasons #1 and #2 show that you still affect him, and this is precisely what you would hope for.

Even though Reason #3 is unpleasant, chances are that his new relationship is a rebound relationship, and he is trying his best to impress her. With this new girl, he is experiencing the honeymoon stage of the relationship.

During this time, you should definitely channel what I would call your “UG-ness” and subtly remind him through social media that you are a woman of high value and you are currently living this amazing life post-breakup.

You may think, “Wait! But he’s already unfollowed me! How do I use social media to demonstrate my UG-ness?”

As I have mentioned before, he will naturally become curious at some point.

What is she up to? Has she been dating anyone new? Is she doing anything fun?

He will be wondering about these questions, and probably a ton of other questions as well.

This is why it is encouraged that you keep some of your social media posts public. However, you should only do it to the extent which you are comfortable.

If you think there are things that people such as your boss should never see or find out, then put yourself first and keep those posts private!

If you do not want everyone to see certain posts, then you should definitely keep them private.

But . . . what about that cute picture of you holding a puppy?

Or maybe that picture of you being a real badass at tennis?

Or that post about the super cool promotion you were offered at your job?

It’s about striking a balance, and when you post anything on social media, especially if you are going to make the post public, definitely do a quick check and ask yourself two seemingly simple but considerably important questions:

  • Will this post hurt/harm me in any way? (e.g. Is this something I should keep private so that my employer won’t see?)
  • Is this a UG post?

(This post was written by Carmen Khoo)

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113 thoughts on “Why Did My Ex Boyfriend Unfollow Me On Social Media?”

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    April 29, 2020 at 4:13 am

    Over a week ago, my long distance boyfriend asked for time alone (aka some space). He has a lot of stressful things going on in his life atm. He said he doesn’t want to lose our relationship, he doesn’t want me to forget him, and he isn’t leaving me. He said he still hopes we can meet after coronavirus lockdown is lifted. Moreover, he said that I could still text or call him. Even so, he insisted on a break for his mental well-being because he feels stressed and depressed. He mentioned being scared that things could change for us in the future and end badly, like they did with his ex fiance.
    I agreed to the break, even though it hurts. The following day, I sent him a message to let him know I am here if he wants to talk, but I want him to be well and understand if he needs time. He saw the message, but he didn’t reply. After that, I started the NC. I plan to contact him after 30 days. Am I making a mistake?
    3 days into no contact, I went on Facebook. I was watching a livestream. My boyfriend came online, was online for about an hour, and suddenly unfriended me on Facebook. I did send a friend request, that he ignored, but I didn’t contact him.
    I’m 8 days into no contact and noticed he has now unfriended me on Twitter and Instagram.
    Is he moving on? Should I reach out?
    I am really confused. Please help me. I don’t know what to think or do, and my heart is breaking. Thank you.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 6, 2020 at 9:13 pm

      Hey Emily, I can not tell you if you should move on or not that is up to you. However you are only a few days into No Contact so make sure that you spend this time working on your Holy Trinity and see how you feel nearer the end of your No Contact if you want to get your ex back and reach out or if you want to move on.

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    April 24, 2020 at 2:36 pm

    Hi, so My Ex and I were with each other for 4 years Known each other for about 5, we’ve lived with each other had miscarriage, we’ve had more cons than pros during our relationship. Yet we have always been there for one another no matter what, together or not. We broke up about 5 months ago but we were still doing things couples do yet he was doing him cause I put it in my mind hey we’re both single don’t check him about anything even tho it hurt I was still coming to his moms house to be with them up until a week ago I Texted him and told him if he can’t keep it professional with the women he trains then he has to leave me alone for good because one of the ladies brought it to my attention that he was trying to talk to her so he texted me Back and told me not to text his phone anymore so it’s been a week now no contact from him nothing and I haven’t reached out to him. Me and his sister are really close so she was at her moms house yesterday so I went there to see them and he pulls up we didn’t speak nothing. Later that night I noticed he ended up unfollowing me on Instagram after only 2 weeks of following each other on there. Not sure how to feel I’m hurt because I still love him but I’m so confused

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    April 18, 2020 at 11:20 pm


    I broke up with my ex because I caught him in many lies and stuff with other girls. He messaged me early last week that he was sorry for treating me badly in our relationship and I deserve better than who he is right now. He wanted to keep a line of communication open these days. He told me that he was following me on my calendar to see my progress everyday and that he would change and grow into the man he would be for the both of us. I haven’t replied because I was trying to move on and was in a lot of pain and anger. Today I found out he’s unfollowed me on my calendar and deleted our shared notes on one of his accounts. Previously he’s unfollowed my calendar because he told me he was angry and annoyed (times when he broke up with me unlike this time). Is he angry after seeing my many updates? Should I take it as a sign that he’s trying to move on/give up on changing and his reconciliation efforts?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 25, 2020 at 9:25 am

      Hi Linda, I would have told you to stop him from being able to follow your calendar anyway as you do not want him knowing where and who you are with all the time anyway. You need some mystery! I would follow the rules of NC for 45 days and then from there reach out with a text, the fact he got angry by seeing your progress is more that he is just dealing with his own emotions from the break up and possibly angry that you are doing fine without him. I would say he needs a break and this is where NC is important after a break up

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    April 10, 2020 at 9:06 pm

    This article was very interesting to read! I definitely think my ex is hurt and is trying to get over me. He is the one that broke up with me. After our breakup he wanted to remain friends but it was too hard for me. I needed time to heal. Our whole relationship was great. It was unclear why he broke up with me. We still have lots of love for each other but we are not talking. I don’t know what I can do to let him know I still want to be friends. I still want to be with him but only if this time he commits to me. It’s just strange because there was nothing wrong with our relationship. I think he was just not ready to commit to someone. What do you think? And also I don’t know how to feel about the unfollowing? Does this mean he’s going to move on for good?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 12, 2020 at 7:16 pm

      Hi Lucy, don’t focus on social media movements as this is usually done during emotional times for your ex. So don’t even mention the un-following on SM when you eventually speak with him again. Have you spent any time following the rules of the No Contact? If not then start now 30 days and do not watch any of his SM for now. Work on your Holy Trinity and then when you are at day 31 you can reach out with a text or other type of message you prefer to speak with him, about something you know he is interested in and would have a short positive conversation, making sure you are the one to end the conversation first

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    April 9, 2020 at 1:07 pm

    My ex and I were doing well. We had slept together and been very intimate and loving and she even called me her partner again. The relationship was toxic and she got scared of it repeating itself, so she says, and she backed off. She then hooked up with someone else and proceeded to ask me to start as friends because she didn’t know if she could forgive me. we had a great report until I shared something with her that had a clip of us from the past. She muted me on Instagram and asked me for 3 weeks of space. She seems to be donning well. And is texting and smiling in our online classes. What should I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 9, 2020 at 9:43 pm

      Hi James I would suggest that you complete a NC on her as she is well aware you are waiting for her to come back – I would do a 45 NC and during that time be chatting to other girls so she realises she does not have a hold on you. If the relationship was toxic as you say, I would suggest that you focus on moving on

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    April 3, 2020 at 3:57 pm

    My ex deleted me from everything not sure if he blocked me but we broke up recently when I discovered he was smoking crack cocaine and I left him . I feel very guilty right now bc his condition isn’t well he’s a 53 year old man that I had no idea this was his other side it’s an awful side I have never encountered in my life . I find this very difficult to move on not knowing if he’s okay . Should I contact one of his friends is something I’m contemplating can you please help me work this out on what to do from this point it’s been only four days but I’m feeling helpless I don’t know if he’s blocked me via phone but good chance he will not reply so just as well

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    Natalie Mclean

    March 23, 2020 at 7:44 pm

    My ex and I have been on off for about 7 months but we’re official for a couple of months. He talked about going on holiday with me and the possibility of moving in together. He went away with the boys for a Weekend and as a rule I know I never hear from him, however on one of the nights he was texting me how he misses me and says he can’t wait to be together as a team. I said I missed him too and can’t wait for him to come home and be his partner in crime. The next day he texted to say it was his friend texting me those things and he didn’t know. I was then meant to see him a couple of days later and he said he wanted space. I asked if I had done something and he said no he just wanted his space. I said I respect that and left him be. Two days later after no contact I noticed he deleted me off Facebook. So I said I noticed you’ve deleted me off Facebook I assume you want to break up? His response was leave my stuff outside your door. I asked for an explanation and he said he wasn’t feeling it. However, he still has me on Instagram and watches away at my stories? I don’t really get it? ….

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 24, 2020 at 12:58 am

      Hi Natalie, so with and on and off again relationship you fall into a pattern every time a problem raises in the relationship. If you want this to change then something has to change about you and your ex. So if he behaves this way he may be the type who just enjoys the “honeymoon” phase of a relationship and when that wears off… he stops “feeling” the relationship. You need work the Ungettable girl information and apply this to your life and stick to a no contact during this time. If he reaches out to you in the next 45 days just ignore him. And then reach out with a text that Chris suggests in his articles and videos

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    January 25, 2020 at 1:29 am

    Hi, I need help please, I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years, during those 3 years we only broke up once, and after that we fell so hard in love we were freaking best friends we shared so much!!! It was like we were freaking soulmates!!!! then last year around October he told me he didn’t feel the same way anymore, i was broken and told him i needed time i told him to give me a month, but after 3 weeks he contacted me and told me he missed me, i fell for it and broke the 30 day no contact, we talked again all normal but he started detaching himself again, then on December 25th he told me he was seeing someone else and that it was getting serious (he told me this through FaceTime) when he said that all i told him was “have a good life” and i hanged up on him i didnt let him say more then, hours later i sent him a “goodbye” text and he never replied to it and it seems hes dating this girl already, i miss him so much i havent contacted him at all! It’s gonna be a month without talking to each other this Saturday the 25th….i want to talk to him and earn him back go back to how we were, i still havent accepted hes moved on! So i have been doing this 30 day no contact rule again, but im worried he’s not going to reach out this time, i unfollowed him that same day he told me that, but he didn’t and he would watch my stories without fail! & today i checked i lost 2 followers And saw it was him from both of his instagram profiles but he still follows my finsta, what do you think chris please help!!!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 25, 2020 at 10:42 pm

      Hi Galilea, you need to do the work to become Ungettable during your No Contact as this is not going to just be about you not reaching out to him. You have to work to become your best self and at the end of your No Contact you reach out with a text that Chris suggests

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    January 20, 2020 at 1:13 pm

    Hi Chris!

    Desperate for some advice, my ex broke up with me about a month and a half ago and we lived in the same flat. We only speak about flat logistics as he is moving out at the end of this month. It has been friendly and respectful, but NC has been difficult because of this. Things have been amicable and the breakup was due to “lack of spark” but after analysing it all, I know it was a mix of him not being able to maturely communicate his feelings and me being fully dependent on him and the relationship. Once he collects his things from the flat, do I start NC from scratch? I won’t be in the country so I am giving him the space to do this himself. Also as I have been focusing on myself I have been posting stories and photos on Instagram of me having fun, enjoying life. He was constantly watching my stories and I did not watch his. After this weekend I went out with some guy friends and had an amazing time, and posted a photo of my guy friends. Sunday, I realised he unfollowed me following the weekend. I’m not sure what this means but I am still looking at improving me, but worry this has hurt my chances of us reconciling. When is it best I reach out, following the finalising of flat logistics or 30-45 days after that? Hope you can help!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 22, 2020 at 3:03 pm

      Hi Lindsay, if you are able to move out sooner, do so so that you can complete a real No Contact. If it is not possible keep to your LNC and spend as much time as you can away from him even if you stay out late with your friends. Allow him some space in that flat to worry why you are not home, who you could be with and when you get home go straight to bed so that he feels that he is losing you slowly.

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    December 31, 2019 at 5:43 am

    My ex and I have been broken up since Dec 4th and i have successfully done no contact since the 5th (setting up a time for him to pick up his things and return my keys). I noticed that he religiously watched my insta stories until a couple of weeks a guy I when it became more sporadic. Now he only seems to watch stories from my business page so I did a quick search and saw he unfollowed my personal page. Do you think this means no contact isnt working? Do I still reach out after 45-60 days?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 3, 2020 at 5:58 am

      Hi Mechelle, usually this is an emotional reaction so he may have seen something that made him struggle to deal with his emotions so not seeing what you are doing is the easier option for him. It is not a bad thing so dont worry. And he is still watching your business page so he is still aware of how well you are doing so make sure you are doing work to be ungettable and use social media to your advantage to show that

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    November 7, 2019 at 6:37 am

    hello me and my ex were together for a year bcz of a lot of problems happened to him he felt pressured and took a decision to break up with me cz he felt it’s the right choice now and he can’t be with someone it’s been 3 months now he didn’t text me even once i always check up on him like around 4 times since the 3 months plus he unfollowed me on social media and i can’t move on i really love him and want him back what should i do plz i need a help and he keep posting like story’s of something not important even he post now something not that important what do u think ? he just being stubborn do u think we had a chance to get back together cz i really miss him i keep thinking of him 24/7 can’t get over himi really need a help

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 8, 2019 at 10:18 pm

      Hi Cila so have you not spoken in the last 3 months? Has it been positive? Have you compelted a full NC yet?

      Complete a full No Contact of 45 days, then you need to reach out to him as a friend, asking for advice or help on a topic that you know he would be interested in or knowledgeable about

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    September 15, 2019 at 8:23 am

    Hi, I’m having the opposite problem. My ex has been storystalking me for 2 years now on snapchat, daily. At first it seems like he couldn’t move on and might come back. This is taking way too long now and it doesn’t let me move on properly.. Should I block him from seeing my stories?

    I think it might be better that if he’s just being curious, he’d just check my public Instagram since I wouldn’t know about it then.. I still feel hope for him coming back but at the same time, it cannot be taking this long, but why would anyone watch their ex daily, even weekly for sooo long.

    I don’t really want to text him about it tbh. It’s so frustrating.


    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 15, 2019 at 1:26 pm

      Hi Kate, if you want him back then no dont block him. Look at the texting information on how to build rapport with him.

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    August 30, 2019 at 9:37 am

    So I’m in no contact with my ex and it’s been only a week, I firstly unfollowed my ex because I wanted to try and stop looking at him. He still followed me. But a ew days later he then unfollowed me? Was it just to get at me? He must of checked to see if I unfollowed him right?
    I just want to know if it’s a good sign or not 🙁


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    August 11, 2019 at 8:54 pm

    Hey I have been in relationship with my ex six months, and our relationship was great but one day he just started to be cold to me it happend litteraly over night ,I tried to speak with him to like see what problem was but he never wanted to speak with me , he ignored me.. I asked few times if he wants brakeup and he said no but one day his best friend came to me and said :”I didnt want to come between you two but it hurts me how he treats you” and he told me my ex told him that he wanted to break up with me because he got bored so I broke up with him after I was sorry i did it because of anger and tried to talk to him to see how he feels but he just kept beeing cold and he was treating me like he hates me i asked him because he doesnt like me anymore to be friends and to say hi when we see each other he agreed but after started doing opposite also he unfollowed me on social media … I really dont know what is he thinking is there chance to be back again because i really love him he is my first true love i think about him every day can you please tell me what to do ??

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    August 7, 2019 at 10:40 pm

    Hi there, my ex and I dated for almost a year. we went backpacking had a wonderful time then hung out the whole week before he ended it. He even had changed when he said I love you every night to “I love you so much.” Then he showed up with my things and said we weren’t compatible and that he didn’t want to live together when he got his new place. That I told him to tell me if he was having doubts to let me know so I didn’t waste my time. (which is true.) he ends it by saying he hopes we can be friends in the future but realizes it will take time. We then proceed to not talk for three weeks (no contact rule). We are still friends on all social media, I do not like or comment on any of his things and vice versa. My birthday happens and he wishes me happy birthday. I just say thank you hope you are having a good time with your friend Andy. (i knew this prior to break up so not creepy stalker info)

    The next day I post on instagram for the first time and he likes the post. The day after liking the post he unfollows me from instagram and snapchat. Still remaining friends on facebook. I became a hot head and unfriended him on facebook. What is happening? Please help me, I miss him so much. I’ve been hiking alone to try and get over him but I’m so miserable. Why did he wait three weeks to unfriend me? Why like a post then unfollow? PLEASE HELP ME!

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    July 31, 2019 at 5:20 am

    Hi Chris,

    My boyfriend and I were together for about 2 years before breaking up. I initiated the break up, but after thinking it over, I suggested we try couples therapy as the last attempt to try to work on our communication issues. However, he stated he was done, so we ended it. It was pretty bad and he was very cold towards me, which isn’t like him at all. He soon unfollowed me on Instagram and Facebook. Immediately after, I noticed he started following numerous girls. I miss him and think about him everyday. Since he is following girls and liking their pictures on Instagram, should I assume he’s moved on and there’s no hope of rekindling our relationship? We haven’t spoken since our break up 2 months ago. Although we’ve had a few heated arguments, this is our first break up. Please help! Thank you

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    July 13, 2019 at 6:58 pm

    My ex left me for someone else. I immediately inacted no contact. I completed and we started messaging and it’s been positive. He is still with the other woman but he has been staring at me alot in the gym and liking my insta posts again the whole time he was always the first to see my stories. He posted a picture of his dogs on Instagram and I said that they were so cute I miss them. His current girlfriend liked my post then next thing I know he’s unfollowed me on Instagram. I’m thinking his girlfriend told him to do this out of jealousy. Should I go back into no contact?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      July 13, 2019 at 10:06 pm

      Hi Emma…I think returning to NC is a reasonable approach – but be sure to put the emphasis on your own personal recovery and growth as that is important in so many ways for different reasons.

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    July 12, 2019 at 9:06 am

    Hey Chris!
    I really need your help or anyone please. Basically my and my ex split 5 weeks ago. I text him 4 days post breakup asking if we can talk? I then rang him a few times but of course he didn’t answer so I decided to go no contact. I am now on day 28 of no contact and I’ve noticed he deleted me on a game we both play. Me and my ex are both gamers and he doesn’t have social media. Why did he delete me after 28 days? He hasn’t reached out AT ALL during no contact. I read this article but I’m worried none of those reasons apply to me and he’s just moving on 🙁 please help!!
    Thank you.

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    July 7, 2019 at 3:40 am

    Hey there,

    So here is my story. My boyfriend and I had been talking since March and he was kinda distant at first because his ex wife cheated on him twice and he left her in December but we took things slow and he asked me to be his girlfriend the first of June then told me two weeks later that he loved me and that my last ex was my last ex. He always told me how happy I made him and that he hasn’t felt something so genuine and real in a long time and even talked about stuff with our future together. A week after he told me he loved me he broke up with me out of the blue and said that he didn’t think he should’ve gotten into a relationship so soon and he needed more time to figure himself out. Just a few days ago we talked things out and he said he wanted to talk again and I was the one and all he could think about constantly then the next day he said he needed to stick with his original plan to end it right now because talking would get us right back to where we were and he wasn’t ready for that. I have left him alone and implemented no contact but noticed that he has unfollowed and unfriended me on all social media but I still love him and want him back. I don’t know what to do.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      July 7, 2019 at 3:59 pm

      Hi Miranda…so i think no contact is the right path. There are a lot of moving parts to this process so if you have not already, take a look at my Program – “EBR Pro Bundle” as I get into things you can do for your continued healing and growth. Being unfollowed or unfriended is not that unusual. Some guys are just insensitive or impulsive about such things. Believe in the process as it can help you personally and also improve your odds.

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    May 26, 2019 at 2:45 pm

    Hey Chris.
    My ex and I have been NC, implemented by myself now for almost 60 days. About 14 days after NC he messaged me to wish me a happy Easter then proceeded to tell me he thinks of me often. I replied telling him it was hard for me too. When he asked how i told him in a paragraph that because we were friends and lovers so I feel like I’ve lost two people. He responded with an emoji. I didnt reply. He was watching my SC stories as I had blocked him on IG and dont have FB. Yesterday i posted for the first time in two weeks. After watching my story which was just a short video of me by the water he unfriended me on SC. This hit like a dagger. I do have reason to believe based on knowing his patterns that about 3 days after he reached out to me in the early stage of NC that he is seeing someone else. This is the only man I’ve struggled with to let go of. Thoughts?

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