5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

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Nadia

April 30, 2017 at 4:35 pm

Me & my ex bf have always been back & forth for 3 & a half years. He’s the kind of man that if he gets upset he ll break it off right that instant. Then later on get back. By just last year after our horrible break up I told myself 2 never chase him again. How I was done & couldn’t take the hurt & pain he kept putting me thru anymore. So I never contacted him. It was 6 months with no contact. Of course I would check his fb & there he was in a relationship one week & another relationship the next month. But never did I once contact him. After 6 months I get a message from him from a dating site we both met on. Telling me how much he missed me & telling me he wanted 2 start over. So being me I gave in. We started dating again & now he broke up with me again last Sunday. Just yesterday I found out he’s back on the dating site “looking for a relationship” He did this every time we would break up. Get back on the site “looking for a relationship” I seriously don’t understand that one bit. Why so fast? We just broke up! Idk if I really want my ex back but apart of me does. I do miss him. But knowing how much emotional hurt he’s put me thru I don’t think my mind would be fully committed 2 getting back again. But we have so much history!
J

April 28, 2017 at 12:30 am

I really don’t understand this, like I get it, and why it works, but not in an applicable way to any situation I’ve been in, mainly the one I’m in now.

My situation is this person really wanted to keep me around as a friend and was scared shitless of losing me, but he lost his attraction to me, and he wanted it back so badly cause he knew he had a good thing. He told me that if I he just did nothing about it, or I stopped contacting him, he would just forget me and move on… (so basically as he was saying, I love you but I’m not in love with you/ I want to be in this relationship, but I don’t want to be your boyfriend) Once again, his inner conflict was that he knew his feelings were stupid cause he was really happy with me. He wanted to wait to see if things would get better but he knew it was unfair to me… (He did just move back in with his parents, and was going to buy a house, no idea on that anymore. I’d say he’s stressed? I don’t know…)

anyway, I respect the advice on this page, and I tried to put it to use, along with other articles written on this site, but… Nothing makes sense… And thats the hard part… to heal… when nothing makes sense… (Trusting someone isn’t easy for me, I have a history of abuse, so when I let someone in… I’ve REALLY thought hard about where its going to go… so its just… so painful when someone leaves me) I wish I had better strategies to deal with this…

I don’t normally post thins… this is actually my first comment I just don’t know what to do anymore…

I’ve been doing no contact for the last week, mainly for myself, but yesterday I just… got overwhelmed by the fear that if I don’t readd him on the platform we speak on… he may change his name and I’ll never see him again. He messaged me right away, and I just said “hey” back to be respectful (we are long distance, but only by 5 hours, we were suppose to see each other this month… this would of been month 7)

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 30, 2017 at 8:22 am

You’re friendzoned.. check this one:
EBR 012: How To Get Out Of The “Friend Zone” With Your Ex Boyfriend

Kate

April 23, 2017 at 10:30 pm

Both 26 years old My boyfriend and I were together for almost 10 months and broke up in February and have a 5 month old son together. He was caught cheating with his 21 year old coworker and was fired from his job and started dating her the next day. I admit I begged and texted him trying to get him back and recently I moved out of state to be with family since we lived together and I had no where to go and was jobless since I stayed home watching our son and his other 2 kids from a previous relationship. I want my little family back but he keeps telling me he doesn’t think it will work and is with the girl he left me for. What can I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 29, 2017 at 8:04 pm

do you want to try the no contact rule? Check this one:
Get Your Boyfriend Back If You Have A Child Together

sarah

April 20, 2017 at 8:44 pm

My ex and I dated for about a year, it was a long distance relationship
it was tough and a very on and off relationship, he hardly used to give me attention because of his work load and when he used to be free he chose to spend time with his guy friends rather than giving me sometime, ending up giving excuses everyday, this used to piss me off alot and i used to end up throwing a tantrum with really long texts, which in return used to annoy him
I became desperate for attention and refused to give him space everytime he asked for, thinking i might lose him.
I used to constantly text and call him after an argument until i felt okay and stopped crying, i also am a patient of anxiety and its very hard to control.
He eventually stopped supporting me stopped contacting me and now he says he doesnt even love me, talking to me annoys him and he doesnt want to talk to me so meeting him is not even an option when he comes back to the country and he wants me to stay away from him as much as possible and not try to contact him at all
We broke up 2 weeks ago
Before that i begged for weeks to him to make things okay and sent excessively long texts and kept him on hour long calls just crying and asking him to work it out with me, which annoyed him even more
My ex has a bad temper and is kind of egoistic too its hard to just convince him for anything
But he is an amazing guy when he’s okay and happy
Pam

April 7, 2017 at 11:49 am

We broke up about a month ago. We were together for three years. He said that he didn’t want me to suffer because of him and that he couldn’t take all the fighting anymore. That he loves me and cares for me and thinks it’s the best decision for both of us because we’re too different and would never make each other happy. But that he wants us to be on good terms and that I can contact him whenever. I was hurt and immediately started the no contact. He also never contacted me. I couldn’t take the silence anymore and still wanted some answers so I sent him a few messages. He then explained that he was unhappy for a long time and was going through all that alone (even though I tried to talk and make things better, he was always shooting me down). That he still stands by his decision and that there is no point in crying for what could have been. He wants me to be happy with somebody who will make me happier than he ever could. He seemed very cold and reserved, like he already moved on. I honestly think that we were a really good match, because we are not that different like he thinks, quite the opposite – we were really the best of friends and maybe even a little bit too similar! I think that the problem was that he (well me too) was too young and immature (we were 18 when we started dating and this is for both of us first relationship) and didn’t really know how to behave. He was quite selfish and inconsiderate at times and didn’t know how to communicate often, avoided problems etc. Is there a chance and something I can do to make him realize all that and regret or has he really moved on that quickly?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 9, 2017 at 5:25 pm

do you want to restart nc and follow the advice above?

Nicole

April 5, 2017 at 8:06 pm

I need some advice, please! My live-in ex boyfriend and I were together for 17 months. I’m 28 and he’s 26. We split 2 months ago and while I’m trying my best to move on, not a day goes by that I don’t constantly think about him and miss him! I would consider this to be my first heartbreak as he’s the first person I said “I love you” to. It’s also my longest relationship. I never really had many relationships in my past and I guess you can say I was picky or, because of my dad’s suicide when I was 14, I never wanted anyone to get close in fear of them leaving like he had. When we met, he tried so many different ways of getting my attention and went above and beyond to show his interest which I found charming but thought a relationship with him was out of the question. He seemed like a nice guy and when he asked to hang out and get something to eat, I decided why not, and so I did. It was incredible how quickly we clicked and how comfortable we instantly became with one another. I felt I could actually make myself vulnerable to this guy and so I did. Things moved way too quickly and I moved in with him only after a couple of weeks. At that time, he kind of rescued me from my living situation because it was very unhealthy, but because of that, we also missed out on the whole dating part and getting to know one another slowly and we never really had a chance to “miss” one another besides when we were at work during the day. Towards the last few months, we experienced constant fighting along with toxic behaviors on both our ends. There were times when i would say we needed space and told him I’d go stay with my mom for a few days and he’d beg me not to and begin apologizing and there were times he’d do the same. Finally, I think it just got it got to the point that he couldn’t do it anymore and so he broke up with me. The pain I’ve experienced through all this would be relatable to the same pain I felt from the death of my dad. It may sound crazy but I’m beginning to wonder if it’s not worse. I’ve tried everything I could think of to either “get him back” or “move on.” I’ve also made some mistakes such as breaking down and begging for another shot initially when the split happened, sleeping with him the first month randomly after the split, showing my weakness to him that I am highly depressed and life without him is pointless and stalking him through social media. On the flip side, I’ve tried the no contact rule, used social media only to express positively (nothing about the relationship), and have tried to make some life changes in my own life to get through this. While some days are better than others, every day has been a battle for me. on his end, he’s doing everything that appears to be the correct way of handling the breakup. He’s always going out or doing things with his buddies, not chasing down other women (as far as I know), not getting involved in another relationship, not leading me on (anymore). I think he’s really moved on and it hurts so much to share my life with this man who I finally thought would always be there but now tells me i have to move on and he just wants to “do him” and be single. I am so depressed, I never would have dreamed another man could make me feel this way. My greatest fear of letting my walls down and allowing someone to get close, only for them to leave me, has come true. I’ve been reading article after article and sure, I know with time it’ll get better and I need to focus on myself and do what makes me happy, yadda yadda yadda.. But after two months of trying, it really hasn’t gotten any better and I’m trying to “fake it til I make it” but he consumes my mind to the point I almost feel like giving up. I don’t want to guilt him into coming back to me, I want that to be his choice. I just think he’s really trying to move on and I can’t stand the thought if that. I’m afraid he’s gone for good!

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 7, 2017 at 6:29 pm

Hi Nicole,

how long did you do nc?

lou

March 31, 2017 at 7:05 pm

How can his be applied to a very short relationship (4months) I messed up massively and made him feel like he wasn’t good enough. I think I realised too late and he couldn’t forgive. We aren’t on nasty teres or anything but do not have him on social media….we work in a simliar area and I could bump into hI’m either daily or never depending on our patterns.

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 1, 2017 at 5:45 pm

Hi Lou,

when did you break up and try a 21 day nc.. follow this one:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

hurt

March 30, 2017 at 4:35 am

i am in a relationship with Mr x for 3 and half years. We break up 5 months ago. He left me because of ANOTHER GIRL. i begged him a lot but he just asked me to move on. after a while he texted me saying his new girlfriend could not be like me. and he told me they have some sex. he began to messaging me and we was okay. but they still in relationship. i really loved him a lot. he said he could not break up with her. i fall in sick terribly due to the stress and admitted. i just want him back. he must realize my worth. can anyone help me 🙁
i am too hurt and depressed

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 30, 2017 at 6:30 pm

Hi hurt,

check this one:
My Boyfriend Says He Wants To Date Me and Another Girl

Renee

March 24, 2017 at 12:26 am

Hi, My ex and I broke up almost 3 months ago. He’s constantly changing his mind if there’s a chance of us getting back together or not. I tried not contacting him for 8 days last month and when I did talk to him I asked all I needed to know and he said he still had feelings for me ( it kinda worked). Well it’s a long distance relationship & he told me a few weeks ago when we meet in person that we’d see what happens and then I asked him if there was a chance we could work it out before we met each other in person (I ask him about us getting back together a lot, it’s a bad habit) and he said “no I’m not gonna want a relationship before or after we see each other, i don’t want to have to stress about anyone i wanna live my life” and then i asked again and he said ” i don’t know”. well he didn’t talk to me for 5 days, and then on the 5th day I called him and asked him why he did that since the past 3 weeks we’ve been talking more (thats when he said we’ll see what happens when we meet) and he said it wasn’t a big deal, and then I started with my hundreds of questions about us getting back together. He said he realized he wants to travel, he doesn’t wanna get back together. He said he wants to live his life like a 20 yr old. This is something he’s never said the past almost 3 months we’ve been broken up. But then again he changes his mind all the time, if i ask one week if he likes me sometimes yet, sometimes its “not right now” but he “always will have feelings for me and we have a connection”. well I told him I wanted to talk more, yet again. And he just basically kept saying nothing will change if we meet in person, which is something he’s said before too. But then again, he’s changed his mind 2 weeks ago and said we’ll see what happens. well the next day he didn’t text me until 9pm (the day after he said he doesn’t wanna get back together) I never replied, bc he just went completely against what i said. that i wanna talk more. i don’t want him texting me when its convient for him. well then I ignored him, my therapist told me to text him yesterday & i got no reply. I texted him at 2:30am bc he was online on fb also and he never replied. Today he texts me and says “sorry my phone was on do not disturb and the second text I was already passed out”. I think it’s lies but idk he could be telling the truth. I texted back and said that “no, you were awake bc you were on fb thats why i texted you. ” then he said “whatever think what you want, I’m putting my phone on do not disturb for the rest of the day to watch basketball bye” and then i said “how are you gonna say you’re sleeping but you were online? why even lie to me but go ahead. you’ve been ignoring me the past few days anyway”. PLEASE help. I really wanna get back with him. I know I was rude, but I’m aggravted bc we havent’ been talking the past few days. I hope I get a reply back from someone on here bc I’m not sure what to do at this point!

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 26, 2017 at 9:29 am

Hi Renee,

if you are going to do the no contact rule, stick to at least 30 days and dont ever beg nor chase.. Right now you’re chasing him and he knows you’ll always be there..be an ungettable girl.. build rapport and attraction slowy after nc instead of asking to be back..

Stella

March 22, 2017 at 12:11 am

After he broke up with me I did the no contact rule for 16 days, then he got in touch. He said he wanted to meet with me. I missed him so much and I thought he wanted to get back together. Then we met. We started the conversation nicely, he said he was sorry for being a dick and that he still loved me but that he still thought he was not ready to be in the relationship at the moment (he is pretty messed up by his emotions and stuff going on in his personal life). It was awful. I got angry and I said a lotta stuff that I thought about him that were not nice at all. We had a weird kind of kiss afterwards (I think he was feeling pitty cos I cried – how stupid I feel now for being so emotional) and then he took off, like a jerk. I don’t know what to do now. I still love him but I think he was an asshole again. I wish he would just realize the nice woman he is letting go, and valued me for everything I did for him. I am actually pretty confused right now. We haven’t spoken since then (it’s been 5 days since this shitty meeting). Do you have any advice for me? Should I keep not contacting him and letting go even though it’s killing me to be rejected?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 25, 2017 at 12:55 pm

Hi Stella,

it would be better to restart no contact and do 30 days than chase him

Kevin

March 20, 2017 at 2:56 am

Hi, I’m currently on my 3rd week of NC, woohoo!

The last time we spoke, he told me to stay away from his life. The only reason I can think of that would make him say this is that I talked to his friends to find some clarity after our break up which was almost 2 months ago. And he probably hates the fact that I talked to his friends and so he told me to stop talking about him and to get out of his life.

I texted him back explaining my perspective of the issue and that all I wanted was to mediate the problem with him. I then wished him the best in life and hoped that we could potentially be on good terms in the future. He never replied after that.

I haven’t heard from him since. He’s blocked me on every social media account too. Although, he did recently like a picture of me that my cousin posted on her Instagram. (Not sure if that would mean anything, but if it were me, I wouldn’t be liking a photo of a person I dislike).

So bottom line is, he pretty much resents me to the max right now, or that’s at least that’s how it seemed 3 weeks ago. Just wondering if I should continue to follow till the 30 day mark or if 45 day would better.

I’m just not sure if he will ever want to talk to me again or get back with me as he is known to hold anger and grudges for a while. But I’ve seen him patch up problems with close friends after a while. He’s a very emotional guy, so yea.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 24, 2017 at 2:51 pm

Hi Kevin,

Stick to at least 30 days..so, that you have a higher chance of him thinking you’re moving and that it’s pointless for him to keep being angry with you.

Harpija

March 12, 2017 at 11:54 pm

Hey, now I’m a bit confused what to do. We broke up 1,5months ago. In this period, for one week I was asking why, he said that he wants to be friends with me, but if I need a help he will always help me because I’m very important for him. I said that we can’t be friends. After one week I met him and took my stuff, then I texted him: “Okay, we can be friends”, but actually I started NC. He started to search for me, I was answering, but with short messages. One time we talked via phone, he didn’t want to hang up and asked why I can’t talk longer. After 3weeks of broke up, I had a birthday and he texted me that I will receive some present from him via post because he wants me to be happy. On my birthday I texted him, that I can’t take these presents. He said that I should keep them, he has as well many presents from me. I explained that is a bit different and with such moves as he does, he takes someone’s else places in my life and my heart. After that message, he didn’t text me at all. After that I really started to move on and on my Facebook and Instagram profile was many photos from trips, clubs, sports achievements and so on and he liked all of them. So, I texted him in 2 weeks twice. Last time (on Thursday) we chatted and we flirted a bit and I said that according to tradition in my country for presents I should invite him for a beer. I gave him 3days when I’m free this month and he chose the furthest one explaining to me that on other days he has plans as class meeting and concert. By the way one of that concert night he liked some more pictures on my profile. Anyway, we agreed on the date of a meeting in April. Today I asked him does he has time to speak with me, that I could practice german (yeah he’s a german and I’m learning german). He said that today no, but maybe tomorrow. I said ok. But I think, tomorrow I’ll text him that I can’t. I find all this situation strange because, before that birthday message about someone’s else places, I texted him once about practising german and he called me in 1hour and he was searching for me. And now it seems to be that he pushes me away, even though he always wanted to keep contact after broke up. What should I do now? I don’t understand what is happening.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 15, 2017 at 10:34 am

Hi Harpija,

the proper way of doing nc is total no contact of at least 21 days but in your case it should be 30 days.. and to be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media.. if you have done that proceed to slowly building rapport through texts firsts and then calls and then meet ups.. follow the link below for your texting guide..
Texting An Ex Boyfriend (The New Rules)

Hope

March 4, 2017 at 6:04 pm

Hi. My ex broke up with me two months ago and I have texted and called him this whole time. So is it too late for me to try the no contact rule since I’ve been annoying him for so long? Additionally, I met up with him last week and we had sex but he still doesn’t want me back, so do you think I have messed up my chances of being ungettable?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 5, 2017 at 7:29 pm

Hi Hope,

it does lessen your chances, but it’s not yet too late. There’s no guarantee that the no contact rule will work. It can only help increase your chances, and to increase your chances, stick to 45 days nc. Be very active in moving on without moving on. Make it look like you understand now that you have to move on through your actions. Be active in improving yourself and in posting your activities in social media whether you’re blocked or not. Make the posts public.

Sonakshi

February 23, 2017 at 7:41 pm

If his birthday is coming up, before the no contact period ends, can I wish him? It will ne awfully mean if I don’t.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 23, 2017 at 9:54 pm

Hi Sonakshi,

check this one:
EBR 057: Birthdays And The No Contact Rule

Joselle Bijlsma

February 19, 2017 at 4:53 pm

My ex boyfriend ad I broke up 8 months ago. We both changed in those 8 months he told me that we should start by getting to know each other because we both changed. We were 1,5 year together he still looks at mij snapchat post and likes my pictures on instagram. The only problem we don’t talk much.. I also don’t want to text him mcuh because It will look like I’m very needy, I’m totally not… He told me that I can always text him. And when we finally talk we text for hours and it feels good . Just like before we had a relationship. He always react happy when I text him I have the feeling that he really enjoys it. But how can I make him text me more?

Thank You.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 20, 2017 at 10:58 pm

HI Joselle,

It’s been 8 months, by this time, you should have moved to being steady at the meet up stage at least..

thara

February 5, 2017 at 12:52 pm

Hi,
I just got broke up with my bf..it was actually an issue that has been solved long ago which he took now and broke up with me..
The issue was I was talking to a guy who is my classmate in whatsapp ..that guy was flirting to me but I didn’t mind it and was texting him..as a friend after a long my bf hacked my account and was scolding me and talked very bad abt me..then I talked with him and we both made a decision to start our life back to normal by forgetting the past.but long after that incident I made sure I’m not making that mistake again by stop talking with my classmates and isolating myself from every one all for him..but now he again sending me the screenshots of those hacked chat history and talking bad abt me and broke up with me..it is a big issue I made it simple and short ..help me out I’m going crazy in a girl who is self esteemed and career focused..but now I’m feeling so bad..is it right if I reunite with him? Give me a suggestion please..

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 5, 2017 at 10:31 pm

Hi Thara,

having a good self esteem, you do know that isolating yourself from other people apart from is not healthy and good right?

Calypso

January 31, 2017 at 6:30 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago over an insignificant argument saying that he has been bottling things up for a while now and thinks we should break up because our basic personalities are different. He had been very loving and understanding right uptil that one argument. He seems very stubborn about the decision that we are not right for each other. It’s a shock for me because I thought we were doing great. He doesn’t want me to contact him till he thinks we have moved on. I hope he is willing to change his mind. Please help.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 1, 2017 at 2:12 pm

Hi Calypso,

do you want to try the advice above?

Sabrina

January 27, 2017 at 3:45 pm

4 yrs together. He was disrespectful to me so I walked away. He knows he was wrong. I’ve been no contact for 60 days. I know he would be so happy to hear from me and wants me in his life but feel that contacting him would make his disrespect and poor behaviour accepted. Do they come back? Is it always up to us to reach out?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 28, 2017 at 6:36 am

Hi Sabrinq,

you dont have to reach out for an initial text about something else but does he know why you broke up wih him? because if he does and he chose not to make up for it, then that means he doesn’t want to.. that will depend on you if you still want to bring that up again to him

Randy

January 25, 2017 at 3:16 pm

So signs showed me that he is lying and still in love with me , like he got jealous when I told him about my guy friend he was jealous and then he acted like he is not، I didn’t asked him to meet I just showed up in his college so he didn’t knew I was coming

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2017 at 4:13 pm

what if he’s just being possesive because he’s not used to you moving on? like ego. Because if he wants you back, he should be more friendly..

Randy

January 24, 2017 at 6:34 pm

Hey, me and my boyfriend broke up about 5 months ago, I have tried the no contact rule for all these months, so last week I went and met him face to face and we talked but he still didn’t miss me or want to get back together,he said everything is over and this stuff,but I think he was lying, I’m so confused please help me and tell me what to do. Should I get over him or what

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2017 at 1:24 pm

Hi Randy,

why do you think he is lying and why would he lie? Was your first contact asking to meet up?

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