5 Powerful Methods To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Losing You

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Helen

January 9, 2014 at 7:44 pm

Hello Chris!!Happy new year!!I need your advice(again!). We are divided with my ex for 2months.We broke up on a fight.We didn’t have any contact,except of 1st January that he wished me good year on chat.The same day I learned from a mutual friend that my ex told him he wants me back, but he wants to know if I’m still interested.Of course he didn’t answer.It’s been 1 week since then and he did’t do any move.I don’t know how to handle all this.I don’t wanna contact him,it’s the 5th time that he’s doing that.I think he must take his lesson.

admin

January 10, 2014 at 2:26 am

Happy New Year!

Hope things are going great.

Valerie

January 9, 2014 at 4:28 pm

Hey. 🙂 I have to see my ex for an important event a couple of days before my nc ends. What should I be doing? Should I be laughing with friends? Should I be reading my college notes or studying? Do I smile at him if we make eye contact? What do I do? How do I act?

admin

January 11, 2014 at 1:22 am

Well, just be as classy as you can be.

Emily

January 9, 2014 at 2:42 pm

Hey!! Omg dude it’s like you read my mind!! I was thinking oh hey he hasn’t had a post that says this and tadaa! O.O THANKS
Anyway o.o my ex and I are getting on good terms now! But I’m worried about what my next move should be. I don’t want to end up on the friendzone =/ I hear it’s scary.. what do you think? 🙂

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:51 am

Really? Wow this is amazing.

Friendzone is scary but if you play your cards right you won’t be there.

jw

January 9, 2014 at 2:29 pm

would sending a mature moving on message spark his interest?
this is following the completion of NC and after i see that his responses are neutral

before just ignoring him for a month again to spark some interest, should i say what is on my mind if it will also help me move on? also to boost his regret when i enter 30 days of NC again?

what i want to send:
im not good w things like this but it helps to remember you always respond to everything so well
iv been thinking about you lately, and the fun we had together. you were so thoughtful all the time that i enjoyed exactly what we had, and i wish i had communicated that better with you.
everything especially the new job is great so iv finally been able to relax and let everything fall in place. i hope you’re doing well too 🙂

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:51 am

I think it would be ok.

Nic

January 9, 2014 at 12:24 pm

Curious, would this sort of thing work – the getting him to regret letting you go, even if YOU were the one that originally left him? (Taking into account the reason for leaving wasn’t due to lack of feelings anymore, but more his taking you for granted)
Jenna

January 9, 2014 at 11:28 am

So my ex and I broke up back in October because he was “having a hard time due to being attracted to me because I got along so well with his family.” Anyway we had a really amazing relationship and I was the first girl that his family loved. It got to the point where I was hanging with his family more than him so of course the physical relationship had failed. We saw each other last weekend and it was all there. We didn’t kiss. Probably should have, he then sent me a pic of his breakfast the next morning that he use to make me and we texted through the day some. I asked him if he’d like to hang out Saturday when he got off work and his response was I don’t think so. So obviously that hurt. I texted him a long message like just spend time with me etc. You know the crazy girl messages. And no response. I didn’t think he’d respond anyway. So where do I go from here? I know he’s the person for me but now I feel I messed it up.

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:39 am

Did you do the NC yet?
Jenna

January 10, 2014 at 5:12 am

Yep texted him on his bday dec 15th then we stated chatting up a storm then met last Friday.
admin

January 11, 2014 at 1:37 am

Well, I guess that is a positive thing.

anonymous

January 9, 2014 at 8:47 am

“If you reach this point without doing the (available/unavailable) trend that I keep going on and on about you are going to find yourself friend zoned as opposed to being his girlfriend again” i did this mistake 🙁

Its been 2mths plus since i contacted my ex after i did NC. I met him 3times so far (very hard to do since he often cancels on me) But if we do finally meet, he would show signs of wanting me. Touching me, attempting to kiss me etc when he does that, i will pull away. Its weird cause when he sees me, his body language is really positive. But he tends to be cold in his text msgs sometimes not replying me or one word ans.

If i were to do NC time and time again in an attempt to be unavailable to him. Do you think he will feel any regret?

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:29 am

He may feel regret but it’s interesting that he is so cold in messaging you.

If only you could flip the script on him.

Can your phone send video messages? I love those things b/c it can show the person what they are missing (your face) as opposed to a text and it can do wonders if you are attractive to making them want to see you.
anonymous

January 10, 2014 at 2:14 am

Funny you mentioned that cause i sent him a video msg once. A simple gd morning message. And he agreed to meet me the day after i sent that; when i asked him out for coffee (third meetup after NC) Hahaha. Honestly i never thought of sending videos till i came across your site! So that was the first video i ever sent him.

Yes! Thats what i dont quite understand. He seems neutral almost cold in his text replies. And We dont talk on the phone either. I’d try calling him occasionally. Maybe one or two calls in a day. And he wont ans. Only once i did a complete out of the blue phonecall, he answered. Why is that so i wonder? Its hard to let my emotional connection with him get me a date since his replies are neutral. But when i do get a date, he will really open up to me; telling me of his updates in life. He’d even caress my face and chin, then tried to kiss me on the third meetup. But our meetups are at his convenience. If he happens to be ard my area, he’d catchup with me. Makes me feel i’ve been friendzoned perhaps?
admin

January 11, 2014 at 1:25 am

Videos are awesome!

I am telling you I love them.
anonymous

January 11, 2014 at 5:48 am

He texted me the next morning saying “morning, i want to apologise for yesterday” and i ignored his msg. Slipping into NC again for now. I think sometimes silence speaks louder than words, so its better i ignore him for now. Do you think he’s actually starting to feel regret? Or just saying sorry for the sake of it. I wonder what is going through his head. Sigh.
anonymous

January 13, 2014 at 1:48 am

I’m doing NC again. For the 3rd time. First time i did 30days. Second time i did a wk of NC. I’m tired of having the one to initiate contact etc. Tired of chasing him though its been only 2mths plus since first NC. I feel like i’m inflating his ego each time i try to start a convo with him first.

I have a qns. Do men play hard to get with their exs? Or they just simply cannot be bothered anymore? How can u tell the difference? Doing NC this time, i dont think i will initiate contact anymore. Just going to try my best to “move on”
anonymous

January 10, 2014 at 5:41 pm

Chris, i’m going to go on a bit of a rant here if you would pls excuse me.

I just came back frm a 4th meetup with him. I was all excited thinking since its a 4th meetup, surely he still had feelings for me. I was all set to ask him where this is all going and etc. Esp since the 3rd meetup which was one or two wks ago, went pretty well. Boy, was i so wrong. It was a disaster. So he met me after his soccer game, we had supper and clearly he was very tired. And stubborn me, i asked if he still had feelings for me. He said no. He told me to date other men and move on, dont wait for him. He didn make any physical contact with me. Unlike previous meetups; his body language, everything was negative.

when i asked him where this is all going, he actually said that there are 3-4 other ladies whom are pressurizing him too! He’s dating them. But he claims all of us are just “friends” said he really leaves it to fate if one day he wakes up to decide on marrying who.

What’s worse was how it ended. He waited with me for the bus for almost 45mins. I was upset and didn feel like going home so soon. I told him he could go back if he wanted to. And he did! Just left me there. He didn text or call to check if i was home safe.

Now, i understand i need to slip into NC yet again. But will it even work anymore this time? What if he means what he said? Should i excuse him for it since he was very tired? Is there hope? 🙁

I asked some of my guy friends and they said maybe the only reason why he agreed to meet me for the 4th time was cause he cancelled on me many times before we could finally meet for the 4th time. Once i waited 2hrs and he stood me up. So how do i know if he indeed still has feelings for me? Action speaks louder than words. But now he may just have agreed to meet me out of guilt?

And he made it clear that im friendzoned. What should i be doing now? Nc yet again and again. Sigh. Sorry for the long comment btw.

Andrea

January 9, 2014 at 7:23 am

Hi Chris,

I have bought your E-book and it helps me a lot throughout my 30 days NC. Thank you very much for that! (oh FYI, My ex didnt contact me at all during the NC =.=)

So after my NC, I sent him the 1st text early this week saying I have a confession to make… and he asked “what?”. I mentioned about our favourite TV show and it reminds me of him (I made it short as following your guide ^^).

Then he replied by asking me :”that’s your confession?”. I found it so cold from him, so I just stopped the conversation by saying I gotta go.

So I decided to wait another week NC before text him again. But I dont know what to text him next? He seems like doesnt want to talk to me. Any advice for me? (We’re in LDR for more than a year)

Thanks.

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:23 am

Hmm.. ok, the confession stuff may not be the best approach moving forward. However, I still think things are in place for you to make progess.
Andrea

January 10, 2014 at 6:36 pm

Thanks Chris, I’ll keep following your guide.

What if he keep answering my next message in that cold manner with short answer, how frequent should I text him back? after few days or tack on another week of NC period?

Sabrina

January 9, 2014 at 7:15 am

Speechless! i love this article :)Thank you chris x

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:21 am

Really?

Aww..

I am so happy to hear that.
Sabrina

January 10, 2014 at 6:27 am

I followed your advised being proactive i started to hit the gym more often, going out with my friends and talking to a guy which i like but my social skills is a bit rusty there because i don’t like guys flirting with me, it feels so awkward! I’m on day 35 of NC 🙂
I hope to read new awesome articles soon!
admin

January 11, 2014 at 1:40 am

Hahaha you don’t like guys flirting with you.

That makes me laugh. All girls love flirting? You are the most unique girl ever if you don’t like it!
Sabrina

January 11, 2014 at 11:19 am

it puts me in a very awkward state chris , where i dunno what would i response if someone flirted with me, And it makes me think maybe he just want to get in my pants, just want to have fun nothing more serious.
admin

January 12, 2014 at 4:56 am

Thats why you don’t sleep with him.
Sabrina

January 15, 2014 at 6:25 am

Hi chris i need more of your guides love reading ’em cant wait to start reading your new one,.. I have a question Why do men to tend to choose a girl who is not right for them?
admin

January 15, 2014 at 7:27 pm

B/c they want the ungettable…
Sabrina

January 11, 2014 at 6:45 am

Yes girls like to be flirted because its fun but sometimes it will leave you crash and burn especially if its a guy you really like.. Maybe thats how flirting works never know where it goes.
admin

January 12, 2014 at 4:48 am

Hahah moment of honesty here. I always feel like I am the one flirting with girls (who flirt back) and I always end up developing a crush and getting burned.

Hahahahahah maybe I am a girl 0_o..
Sabrina

January 12, 2014 at 7:14 am

Thanks for being honest 🙂 I feel your pain, just as things are getting a long fine, that person suddenly drop off from the face of the earth haha..
well your a guy, so i think flirting is mechanism a guy use, to know if they have a chance with someone or if that person likes you aswell.
Sabrina

January 12, 2014 at 1:27 pm

My ex hasn’t contacted me for 37 days of NC, just of today i had anxiety attack of my ex boyfriend, you know the “i got a bad feeling about this” so after an hour his friends came by my place asking how I’ve been that kind of sort of stuff so i played it cool, its been 2 weeks since i last talked to his mom (which he always ask me ) so i guess his reaching out using his friends, is that even possible??
Sabrina

January 10, 2014 at 7:46 am

Yes chris because after we broke up he said he regret breaking up with me and even compared me to his new gf in a very positive way. i still hope he will realized what we used to have is great 🙂
admin

January 11, 2014 at 1:44 am

I am sure he regrets it. I guess I would make it my purpose to make it his greatest regret. I know that sounds kind of mean but if you can become his greatest regret then you are really on to something.
Sabrina

January 11, 2014 at 5:55 am

I was his 1st girlfriend so guess i could say that i set the bar theory a little bit high? because there was no one to compare to until now, and he hooked up someone totally inappropriate and opposite of me which is a bit ok because it takes time to develop the interest compared to what he was already comfortable with and he already saw her flaws.

Sarahll

January 9, 2014 at 5:05 am

Hi Chris! Thanks for your awesome articles!
So I was wondering what if my ex moves on when I m doing NC since I m out of his life completely ? Is he gonna slowly forget about me ?

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:20 am

No, it would be extremely unlikely that, that would happen.
Sarahll

January 15, 2014 at 7:53 am

OMG!!! Chris I just want to say that you and your articles are AWESOME!!! He skype messages and phone messages me today telling me that he is sorry and he misses me! And I didn’t reply. And he asked me :” you don’t want to talk anymore? ”
Now what do I do? I did NC for 8 days and he called I answered and I started second NC right after, and today is another 8 days. Should I keep ignoring him? But I m afraid too much is gonna back fire on me or he is gonna lose interest and move on. Need help next step help Chris!!!
Ps. He moved to another place right after we broke up so I don’t know if keep doing NC apply in this situation .

Nicole

January 9, 2014 at 4:25 am

I will have to say this page is def what I need to hear now! We didn’t have a good face to face meet so I am doing a 30 day no contact rule thing to let the dust settle and everything you said in here I will be doing it right this time! Hopefully or maybe he can reach out first since I did the first time. You think I should wait for that?

admin

January 10, 2014 at 1:20 am

I am so glad to hear that!

Nicole, are we Facebook friends? You are such a loyal reader I feel I need to give back something to you. Friend me and we will talk more about your situation. I know I am short with you sometimes but that is b/c I feel overwhelmed at times.
Nicole

January 10, 2014 at 7:42 pm

No we are not facebook friends because I dont have one. I see you have Google plus and I do as well. Could I talk to you on that?

I read your pages all the time! They help me when i am confused on what to do or anything to just make me feel calm and things can possibly work out again. Thanks for having this site 🙂

I know you are busy alot and don’t worry, ill always be a loyal reader 🙂 Still waiting for the one you do about a guy wanting space and everything and what you should do if even though you go to him after 30 days he still wants his own space.
Nicole

January 11, 2014 at 3:20 am

Would you be able to talk on google plus?
admin

January 12, 2014 at 3:15 am

I would! Can you add me there?
Nicole

January 12, 2014 at 5:54 am

I just added you! And btw I go on Instagram and I see he likes one of my photos (picture of me tht is pretty good lol) and then I go and see it but his name doesn’t show up on the list but I got the notification on my phone so that means he must be creeping on my stuff? I posted it two days ago. Can that be a good sign?
admin

January 12, 2014 at 6:16 pm

Hahah I just messaged you back!
Nicole

January 13, 2014 at 2:42 pm

I did message you back too! I think it would be easier to explain everything on there more 🙂
Nicole

January 19, 2014 at 3:04 pm

Hey btw so don’t know why guys when you try to talk to them like you said just act mean still towards me. He was okay cuz he called on the phone then just was harsh and wish I left it like that and idk now he thinks I’m some crazy person and like doesn’t remember good times just the bad ones and it sucks how do you even get them too. I text him about a good time we had and he just says he doesn’t want tht, he doesn’t want a relationship and it’s nice being by himself so he doesn’t have to answer to anyone..then says he doesn’t want to be with me cuz how I have acted when he admits he has changed. He judge me by the two times I saw him but I was so emotionally not ready or should have went but it’s been about 4 months now.ans idk if he wants to meet up just cuz last time was bad since he thinks it will happen again. But he keeps blamin me when he was being mean to me and has changed into a horrible person and idk why. I blame myself too about how it all went but I was being mature about texting and he just was a jerk and laughing on whatever I say. Even after 3 years and he says he isn’t hurt anymore he’s fine is that even true? And next month would have been our 3 years exactly 🙁
Nicole

March 12, 2014 at 3:38 am

So update would be I haven’t heard anything from him for over two months and I deleted everyrhing about him on my phone and the social media sites. It has helped a lot but idk if I can let anyone in right now since I like being and living by myself but I miss him a lot. I don’t think I can be the first to reach out cuz I did the last 3 times and it failed. I know he’s still my friend on the social sites but I can’t be you know? My heart still aches and I’m not sure if ill ever hear from him again. Any suggestions???
Nicole

February 7, 2014 at 5:04 am

I’m finding out a lot about myself and I don’t mind being alone and I’m gonna let him come this way to me I already tried twice and failed. Should I give up?
Nicole

February 5, 2014 at 2:04 am

What’s your suggestion I should do?
Nicole

February 4, 2014 at 3:28 am

Yeah sort of? But honestly can you tell me would you think it’s worth it for me trying to reach out again or should I just let it go? I have gotten rid of a lot of things such as all social sites (except yours of course ;)) and it feels good so I don’t see anything. But yes I tried hanging with other guys and even friends but it still gets me especially wed would have been our 3 years 🙁 why honestly would he react mean towards me?
Nicole

February 2, 2014 at 5:46 am

Actually I been thinking idk if I even want to try it all again. I don’t think I’ll feel that trust with him like I did before. Like he crushed me so bad. I still get upset every now and then but honestly I have like no more feelings left. I don’t feel anything towards anyone. It’s been like 4 months and it’s also been 3 weeks since we did last talk but now everytime I have reached out he’s a been a jerk towards me and juat laughs or makes fun of me. I feel like not trying anymore.
admin

February 2, 2014 at 6:47 pm

Do you need help moving on?
Nicole

January 28, 2014 at 10:04 pm

So what should I do?
Nicole

January 24, 2014 at 9:17 pm

I feel like I tried the last few times and want him to come to me this time if it does happen. I just don’t know if he’ll ever talk to me.
Nicole

January 24, 2014 at 2:00 am

You think he’ll talk to me again?
Nicole

January 23, 2014 at 12:38 am

So what should I do about my situation then?
Nicole

January 21, 2014 at 10:21 pm

So what makes you think he’s still hurt from it all?
admin

January 22, 2014 at 5:50 pm

Just the way he is acting.
Nicole

January 21, 2014 at 2:21 pm

So also when I was talking with him he kept saying that he doesn’t want to be with me because of how immature I am (which I am not, he keeps looking back at the two times I did see him but I wasn’t in the right logical state too and since then I am better) I kept telling him it’s not like tht anymore I was really hurt and that now I have things under control then keeps going he doesn’t want a relationship when I would bring up fun things we use to do together and such. It’s like him saying also mean full things just like the other day I was around target where it’s also near his house and I told him I was by the neighborhood and asked how are things and such and he just goes stay away from my house..I told him I wasn’t I was at target which is near mine and his and then he asks if I went to his house to his door cuz his mom told him I guess..(he wasn’t at home he was on a trip with his dad which he told me too) I’m like no? Like why would his mom say something crazy like that. Just like the last time I saw him last month his dad told him I was driving around the house. Like then I didn’t even live there I lived 3 hours away but wtf I would never do that. There is another car in their neighborhood that is just like mine..if like his parents are making it seem I am a bad person. I’m just curious why would he act such a jerk whenever I am trying to be nice and jut talk a bit. He said he’s changed but still that jerk page he def acts like the one who says mean things..why would they do such a thing??
Nicole

January 21, 2014 at 6:49 am

So the way he is acting all mean to me means he’s still inside he just won’t say snything and instead just be mean?
Nicole

January 20, 2014 at 2:26 pm

Don’t worry I forgive you! You have a lot going on. I been on here often since I’m in school.

Well yeah I mean he’s acting mean in a harsh way like your article said about why your ex is acting like a jerk..I would figure he’s hurt but why does he say he isn’t anymore?
admin

January 20, 2014 at 7:50 pm

Hmm… maybe because he is lying to himself about it? His actions basically tell you that he is still hurt over it.
admin

January 20, 2014 at 12:51 am

I have been so tired these last few days. Forgive me for not responding.

He is obviously still hurt.
Kate

January 12, 2014 at 10:05 pm

I’m glad Nicole brought up Instagram! My ex asked for some more time and space before we move forward or try to hang out so I did full NC. And about a week after NC ended (no “first text”) yet, he liked a couple pics on Instagram- one of my new hair cut. Does that mean that he’s ok with being in contact now? Would a first text be good?
Nicole

January 13, 2014 at 10:05 pm

Yeah it’s not like he hasn’t likes one in the last this is the 3rd time during our break up but it’s like I get the notification he likes it but then his name isn’t shown on the picture he did and I mean doing this 3 times is kind of crazy and sort of sending a message to me? I mean we kind of had our first meet up not end well and he pretty much said leave him alone but he didn’t delete me off the social media sites and then likes a photo of me with my new hair cut too. Is that something good?
Nicole

January 12, 2014 at 4:19 am

Yes I will!!

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