There is a rule when it comes to breakups.

Everyone always chooses a side.

That’s just the way it is.

Your exes friends and family will be on his side and your friends and family will be on your side. Often times your loved ones will give you these patented speeches,

“You are better off without him.”

“I never liked him anyways.”

“Now we can have fun being single.”

It’s funny, I will never forget the time that I went through my very first breakup. My best friend ended up showing up at my house and taking me out for the day to try to make me feel better. He must have given me the speeches above about twenty times. When word finally got around to my parents my dad ended up sitting me down and explaining that I was still young and I was going to find someone better down the road.

(P.S. He was right.)

My mother on the other hand told me that I was the most handsome person she knew and any girl would be lucky to have me….

(P.S. She was right.)

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It was at this moment that I began to realize that troops were beginning to rally around me in order to offer their support.

Who were the troops?

My friends and family!

Of course, I wasn’t the only one who had troops rallying around them. No, my ex did as well.

The point I am trying to make here is pretty simple.

In every single breakup sides are chosen.

Now, this little tidbit of information is kind of what this whole article is going to be about. You see, the troops that rallied around you for support during your breakup with your ex boyfriend will be your greatest asset in overcoming the pain surrounding the breakup.

However, when it comes to getting an ex boyfriend back you may find that they are your greatest liability.

This article is all about how to handle that unfortunate situation.

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How Society Views Exes

Society has a very different view than you do about your ex boyfriend. I mean, this article pretty much assumes that you are trying to win your ex boyfriend back which of course means you view your ex boyfriend as someone you can fall in love with.

So, in order to understand the view that society (including many of your friends and family) takes on your ex boyfriend I want you to take a look at the picture below,

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I picked this picture for a number of reasons.

In general the picture is saying that if you read the same chapter in a book nothing new is ever going to happen. Thus, if we apply this logic to your ex boyfriend we can assume that if you get back with your ex boyfriend history is simply going to repeat itself with another breakup.

You will find that this is mostly societies view of breakups and exes.

You see, most people have a one and done approach.

“If it doesn’t work out with someone once then it can never work out.”

Well, this is simply not the case.

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The Flaw With Societies Logic

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What have we learned so far?

Well, we learned that after every breakup people close to the couple are going to pick sides. Some people will gravitate towards you and some will gravitate towards your ex boyfriend. We also learned that society believes that nothing good can ever come from getting back with an ex.

(Remember, the picture with the book?)

Here is the truth…

Societies logic on this matter is flawed.

I have seen my fair share of breakups through this site and the thing that always amazes me is now how often that people get back together but it’s how often they stay together. Seriously, when I first started this site back in 2012 I knew I had the chops to teach women how to get back with their exes. I mean, come on, I know exactly how men work and what buttons to press to hook them. However, I didn’t really think many of the couples would end up together long term.

I was wrong…

A lot of the women who ended up getting their exes back as a result of this site are still with them to this day. Heck, I have even heard my fair share of proposal and marriage stories from these women too.

This tells me that sometimes an ex boyfriend is worth fighting for and people who tell you,

“Moving on is the best thing for you.”

Can sometimes be flat out wrong.

Speaking of these people…

What Many Of Your Friends And Family Think About You Getting Back With Your Ex Boyfriend

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I have some good news and some bad news.

What would you like to hear first?

The good news?

Your friends and family love you and they usually want the best for you. So, contrary to popular belief they do want to see you happy.

Ok, now it is time for the bad news.

In your friends and families minds they do not think that you can be happy with your ex boyfriend.

Remember what I said above about how society often thinks there is no hope for a couple who has broken up? Well, more often than not your friends and family are going to share that belief. So, it may not be to your advantage to let them in on your plans of getting your ex boyfriend back because they could fill your head up with more questions than answers.

Case Study: A Family Who Wouldn’t Support A Woman Trying To Get Her Ex Boyfriend Back

I am going to let you in on a pretty interesting situation that came to my attention in 2013, two years ago.

If you have ever stumbled across my, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO page you may have noticed a testimonial from a woman named Ashlee that kind of sticks out among the rest.

Why does it stick out?

Well, because this woman not only got her ex boyfriend back but she got him to marry her.

Here is the testimonial in case you are wondering,

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Now, while Ashlee did get a very happy ending to her love story we can’t really learn anything from that so I want to take you back to the time where she and her ex boyfriend were broken up.

You see, Ashlee was absolutely head over heels for this guy and he broke up with her for some weird reason (to be honest I can’t remember because this literally happened like two years ago.) Anyways, what I do remember from the situation was how UN-supportive her family and friends were of her attempt to get back with her ex.

They would tell her things like,

“It will never work out between you two…”

or

“Once an ex, always an ex…”

or

“I really think you should move on…”

Ashlee was very upset with her friends and family for how they were acting and it was starting to get to her. In fact, it was starting to bug her so much that she contemplated just giving up altogether on her ex boyfriend.

She asked me the question that 50% of the women ask me on this site every single day.

“Is it worth it? Do I even have a chance? Should I just give up?”

I spurred her on and gave her a little confidence to keep going forward but as confident as I made her about her ex boyfriend her friends and family were always there to thwart my progress with her. Fortunately, Ashlee was still deeply in love with her ex boyfriend so anything that her friends and family did say to her went in one ear and out the other.

It took her a while but she ended up getting her boyfriend back and then a few months later he proposed. They have now been married since late 2013.

So, what was the point of me telling you this little case study?

Well, even though a lot of people out there (I am looking at you friends and family) believe that exes should stay exes the truth is that a lot of times a relationship is worth fighting for.

This is a prime example of that.

Imagine if Ashlee had listened to her friends who told her to not go after her ex. How about her family who told her that he was not worth it?

Well, if she had done that then she probably wouldn’t be married I can tell you that much.

How To Handle Friends And Family Who Disapprove

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I am going to be bold here for a minute.

If you are trying to get your ex boyfriend back and you make that knowledge available to your inner circle (friends, family, co-workers, etc) there is going to be at least one person that is going to disapprove and try to talk you out of it.

Whether or not you listen to them is entirely up to you. However, since my main function through this site is to help you get your ex boyfriend back I am going to talk a little bit about what you need to do to smooth things over so that you can set yourself up for a successful “get your ex back” campaign.

Should You Tell Anyone That You Are Trying To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?

This is kind of a tough question to answer if I am being completely honest.

Why?

Well, because if you talk to your friends and family about your desire to get your ex boyfriend back and they get on board with you then not only will you have the support of Ex Boyfriend Recovery to fall back on but theirs as well and that can do wonders for your confidence.

However, if they don’t approve…

Well, then things become more complicated and it can put you at odds with them since technically they will be trying to derail your progress by constantly telling you that its not worth it to get your ex back.

So, do you tell people or not?

I think in order to answer this question we should take a look at what women with successful “get your ex back”campaigns have done.

What Successful Women Have Done

I have had some unique experiences interacting with women in this instance.

In fact, I have had some unique experiences interacting with mothers. No seriously, a lot of times I will have moms messaging me and begging me for my advice to help their daughters get their ex boyfriends back. These particular experiences have always stuck out to me.

Why?

Well, firstly it’s because if a mom is going to go to that deep for her daughter to ask a complete stranger (ME) for help then that means that she is most likely the type of person that is going to help and support her daughter in what she wants.

Now, I don’t know about you but if I was trying to get an ex back that is the type of person that I would want in my corner.

So, if you have a member of your family or a friend that is willing to be that type of person for you that they would support you in your attempts to win back your ex then you could probably trust them enough to let them in on what your plans are.

However, if you have friends or family who you are unsure about then I would recommend not letting them in on your plans just yet.

FYI most successful women have one or two people that they can trust enough to tell their ambitions to.

Usually not more though.

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What To Do In A Situation Where Your Network Of Friends And Family Disapproves Of Your Intentions Of Getting Your Ex Back

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Lets assume a worst case scenario here.

Lets say that your friends and family absolutely hate your ex boyfriend and disapprove of your idea of getting him back. Your friends constantly berate you for even wanting to get back with him.

Your family on the other hand, well, they absolutely forbid it.

Of course, you want nothing more than to get your ex boyfriend back so you are really caught between a rock and a hard place.

How do you smooth the situation over with your friends and family so they aren’t impeding your progress?

Well, below I have come up with a couple of methods to prevent any backlash from friends and family about your ex.

Method One- Nipping It In The Bud Before It Happens

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I have a great relationship with my family.

I would do anything for them and deep down they know that. However, when it came to my love life I never really consulted them as much as other people probably did. In fact, I would make a point to avoid that subject at all costs.

It’s not because I was being secretive or anything like that it was because I really didn’t want their help with my love life.

I always had a strong idea with how I wanted my love life to go and experience taught me from watching others that getting other people involved in your relationship other than the two people inside the relationship isn’t a great idea.

How did I come to this conclusion.

I have my very first girlfriend to thank for that.

Looking back she was a very nice girl but the thing that constantly turned me off about her were her parents. You see, she had the worst type of parents.

They were controlling, prying and essentially made all of her decisions for her.

Yup, oftentimes when we would have an argument over something her parents would find a way to get involved and then not only would I have to cry mercy to her but to her parents as well. In fact, it became so ridiculous at one point that her father actually called me up on the phone one morning and demanded that I drive over to his house and apologize to HIM after his daughter and I got into an argument the night before.

To my great shame… I did it.

Here is the weirdest part though when I asked him what he was angry at me for specifically he wouldn’t tell me.

These type of experiences taught me never to bring these types of outside forces into relationships. More often than not they do more harm than good. So, I recommend that before you attempt to get your ex boyfriend back you don’t let the entire world know.

Don’t let your parents in on your plans (unless you really trust them) and don’t let your friends in either (unless you really trust them.)

Nip it in the bud before it becomes a problem.

Unfortunately, some of you already opened your big mouths and no longer have the “nip it in the bud option.”

If you are one of these people then I would like you to take a look at method two below.

Method Two- Make An Effort To Understand Them And Then Do What You Want

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By nature I am a people pleaser.

That means that if anyone disagrees with me or if someone isn’t going to support me it is going to hit me a little bit harder than the normal type of person out there. Another interesting thing about me is that I absolutely hate conflict.

Seriously, sometimes if I have a conflict with someone I love it affects me so much to where I can’t even do work or concentrate until that conflict is resolved.

What we are dealing with here is a pretty crappy situation in which your friends and family aren’t being supportive of your intentions to try to get your ex boyfriend back. So, lets do a little role playing here so I can illustrate method two properly for you.

Lets say that you tell your best friend that you stumbled across my website, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, and you picked up my E-Book, Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. After reading it’s amazing advice (I am a bit biased) you decide that you want to give a relationship with your ex boyfriend another try.

You go into this little conversation with your best friend with high hopes but they are immediately crushed when she says that your idea is dumb and that he isn’t worth your time.

It is at this point that you reach the proverbial fork in the road where you have two choices.

  1. You can agree with her and give up because you received a little push back
  2. You can ignore her push back and attempt to get your ex boyfriend back.

Now, most women who are set on getting their boyfriends back are going to do what they want and ignore their friends push back. However, the way you ignore that friends push back is very important.

For example, lets say you have an un-supportive friend who tells you that it is a dumb idea to try to get your ex boyfriend back. Well, if you immediately retaliate by saying,

“Well, your dumb for not supporting me.”

then you will be adding fuel to the fire and alienating your friend which will most likely make her not want to support you even more.

What is the proper way to handle this situation.

A famous quote immediately comes to mind here.

The actor, Robert Downey Jr. (AKA Iron Man, Sherlock Holmes and Charlie Chaplin) told an interesting story one time during an interview for a movie promotion.

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He was once faced with a very tough situation. He was acting a scene a certain way and the director didn’t particularly like the way he was doing it. So, the director kept yelling,

“CUT!”

Once the scene was stopped the director walked over to Downey Jr. and gave him advice on how he thought the scene should be acted. It was at this point that Downey Jr. gave one of the most epic quotes of all time,

“Listen, smile, agree and then do whatever you were going to do anyway”

I envision this quote any time I hear about parents or friends giving women a hard time about wanting to get their ex boyfriends back. Sometimes, if you just make an effort to listen, smile, agree and then do whatever you want in the first place the entire situation will be smoothed over with your network.

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190 thoughts on “How To Handle Friends And Family Who Disapprove Of You Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

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    Theresa

    February 19, 2020 at 9:30 pm

    Hi,

    My ex and I have been on and off for 5 years. He has had a bad relationship with drink and drugs and when things get bad he calls things off because he can’t deal with the unhappiness and arguing between us. I always knew he has a problem and I have always wanted to help him. I saw so much potential. About 5 months ago he called things off again as his problems got bad again. But within 4 weeks he comes begging me back.. this time I thought it was really over so I explained the whole situation to all my family and friends. He realised he has an unhealthy problem with alcohol and drugs and has stopped ever since, he wants to change and I beleive him. I know him better than anyone and I know he loves me. I want to give it a few months to be sure he has changed. But I dont think my family or friends would accept him back. I am also worried it will happen again. It’s hard because I love him and have always loved him. I would support him through anything. But has too much damage been done. Will I lose my family and friends? 🙁

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 22, 2020 at 10:47 pm

      Hi Theresa I understand how hard it can be when you love someone but you can not able to have your family and friends support. However this person sounds as if they need time to get clean – properly. So I do suggest that you avoid getting into a relationship again and support them through getting clean.

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    Blossom

    January 23, 2020 at 2:58 pm

    Please help me. This is the second time we broke up and got back together. Both time my family was involved. But this time I have moved totally out of his place but we talked about it and everything is okay between me and him.
    I don’t know to to tell my family that I’m back with him without upsetting them and making my self look stupid.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 24, 2020 at 11:18 am

      Hey Blossom, so I say this to many people and I stand by this. Your family are going to love you if you are with him or with someone else. They just want the best for you. So if you believe this person is going to make you happy then be with them. Your family will accept it if you are happy

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    Nikki

    January 22, 2020 at 4:34 am

    My ex and I dated for 9 months before breaking things off because he didn’t know what he wanted and was confused. We both realized that we had some parts that we need to work on. On the day we broke up, he invited a girl over to his house, but nothing dirty happened (according to him). After a week of separation, my ex realized that his love for me is still there. The thing is that my parents hate him. They didnt appreciate how he hurt me like that. They hate him so much that they made me block him from everything, which I can understand because it’s all about healing. But, they told me that if I even talk to him then they will disown me. They said this because before, I tried running away from my ex because I was sick of the insults my parents would say to me every time I get lectured. I came back because I felt really guilty. I’m going to be moving out of town once I graduate high school and I have been keeping contact with my ex. My ex doesn’t really like my family as well because of the personal stuff I told him as well as his experiences with them. I don’t know what to do. Both sides are against each other and I’m basically in the middle who is in a lose-lose situation. I try to talk to my parents about how I feel wanting to go back, but never mentioned them that I’m still contacting my ex. They don’t support it and they say “once an ex, always an ex” I want to prove them wrong, but I don’t know how. Any advice?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 22, 2020 at 9:14 pm

      Hi Nikki, so as far as advice goes I suggest that you do what is going to make YOU happy, as far as friends and family go they just want the best for you and they see your ex as someone who has hurt you and is going to hurt you again. However if you follow this process properly it takes time to be back with your ex officially but you will have been re building your connection with your ex so that by the time you are back together you would have already met up with your ex a few times and your family will have accepted that this was going to happen by then.

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    Cait

    January 16, 2020 at 6:24 am

    Hi, so I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 months and we broke up because basically it was a Friday night I had work and his best friends dad had pasted away so he and some friends went and had a drink. He ended up getting too drunk and cheated and well for fear of me hating him he broke up with me. We cut contact for two weeks until we ran into each other. He was a total mess and apologized over and over and over to me. After that we started to talk more and more and we have spent some time together. He is trying everything to re prove himself to me and I truly love him and want him in my life. So we are starting slow and everything because again my trust isn’t fully there, but his ability to prove himself has been beyond words. The huge problem is my family absolutely hates him for what happened. And I understand that because we are a very tight close family. But I haven’t said anything to my family about him and I resining comunication and talking again. But I need advice on how to get my family to understand I love him and that we are trying to fix this. Should I wait to talk to them? And how would I even get them to remotely understand? Also my ex-boyfriend wants my parents approval and it means everything to him too. I need help!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 18, 2020 at 6:41 pm

      Hi Cait while you want them on your side remember that they do only want the best for you, but you have to do what makes you happy and if that is being with this person then explain this to your family and that you are sticking to your decision, it takes time for family to forgive someone who hurt us

  5. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

    EBR Team Member: Shaunna

    January 7, 2020 at 10:21 pm

    Hi Gracie, it is difficult as your age you are still under your parents guardian. If your boyfriend/ex boyfriend is willing to be patient and you show he is a good person they may be less against your relationship.

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    Bailey

    December 4, 2019 at 4:11 am

    Ex boyfriend and I had been dating for 5 months. The second month he broke up with me because he thought he rushed into our relationship. Two weeks later we got back together. We have a spark that i’ve never felt before. I love him and he loves me more than anything. About 2 days ago, we broke up again because he is having family issues and didn’t want to drag me along and end up hurting me. My mom is completely against me getting back with him. I love him and I don’t want my mom to get in the way of my relationship. I’m 17 and he’s 17. But i want to keep my relationship with my parents in good standing. I just want them to understand that me and him are okay. They need to let me grow and decide my future. What do i do? Do i not get back with him due to my moms views or respectively ignore them and be with him?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      December 6, 2019 at 8:52 pm

      Hi Bailey, so if you look at this from your mothers view this guy keeps ending things with you which, keeps hurting you. Along with the fact that there is family problems she is not seeing him in a great light right now. If you and he want to get back together you can do, but you are going to have to stop the childish on and off games, or not tell your mother everything while things are only just back on you need to understand that she is only wanting to protect you, you are her child still. Even when you are 17 or 37 your Mam is always going to want to protect you. I would start up dating him slowly again and if he does mess you around and end things, be done with him because it is not good to be in an on and off again relationship when you are still young enough to go and have fun with your friends and not stress over relationships or guys.

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    Bryan

    November 3, 2019 at 3:48 pm

    My ex broke up with me last week due to me making a suicide attempt. He had been supportive of my mental illness really well before that and I supported him with his. He said he’s concerned I’ll do it again and his sister has made many attempts (most recent was 2 months ago). I’m sure he had a right to be angry. He said right now his emotions are too raw for us to work things out however he still believes I am the one for him. What do I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 9, 2019 at 4:22 pm

      Hi Bryan I am sorry thing are so dark for you right now, I do suggest working through therapy and coming out of your dark place before re entering the relationship as it makes it tougher to work through these things when we have someone else to consider. You need to be selfish right now and how to be happy (single) and that is how your relationship, or any relationship is going to work. Even if your boyfriend / ex boyfriend is supportive this event is proof you need to work on yourself first

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    Megan

    October 13, 2019 at 10:44 am

    Hi! I hope you can help me. I went out with this guy for 7 months. We were good together. But then we we broke up because I called him out on not being open to me enough. His break up line was that he didn’t know why his feelings were not deep enough to label the relationship. I said the same thing. We thought we were better off as friends. Few months in, we both realize that we really do love each other. He wanted to get back together with me by coming clean about his past: He was holding back because he was scared I’d leave him like his exes when they found out he emotionally cheated in his past relationship. That I would never look at him the same way. But my friends said that the way he broke up with me is unfair and that I should ask for space. They also said I shouldn’t give him a chance anymore. But I can’t help but feel that maybe this time we’ll get it right. I dont know what to do. When we broke up, he went out with the girl once but called it off saying that there wasn’t really anything there in the relationship. I don’t know what to do. We’ve been trying to fix for 2 months now but I’m still hung up over the fact that I might not be the girl he really loves and that by ignoring my friends advice, I would lose them if this guy ever break up with me in the future.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 15, 2019 at 8:58 pm

      Hey Megan I think your friends are just worried and looking out for you, but you need to try and work on being happy (single) and see how things develop with your ex slowly. Be cautious and watch his actions not his words when you are building a relationship again and make sure that the other girl who you are worried about is not in the picture

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    Brittney

    October 10, 2019 at 3:14 am

    Hello! My ex boyfriend broke up with me abruptly 7 months ago. It’s a long story but it was basically over an issue I had with my house which I had recently purchased. It was an outside environmental issue and he is an engineer so he had a lot of expertise with helping me fix the problem. I feel like I ended up giving up and letting him handle most of the issue. He said it got too stressful to help me and that he knew he was making me feel badly. He also said I should have waited to buy a house so that maybe we could have bought a house together, but we had only been together a few months when I was in escrow. I felt terrible that he basically left me over something that was out of my control and my family and friends were surprised when he broke up with me. Consequently, they absolutely do not like him and have said they never liked him anyways. Although we were apart, we would text each other every now and then. He started texting me more frequently and eventually asked to meet for drinks. Even though I was dating someone else, I agreed and he ended up telling me he was still in love with me. He asked for a second chance and said he has changed and regrets ever doing what he did and that he would never hurt me again. He even showed me a note he prepared to say to my family apologizing. My heart wants to give him another chance, but when I hear my family say I should move on and stay with the person I’m dating, it gives me so much doubt about trying again and shuts me down. It has been multiple times that he has shown up to ask for another chance and I’ve kept saying yes then backing out because of my family’s reaction. After all the rejection and hot/cold reactions from me, he has started dating someone else. He said he hopes I figure things out before it’s too late. Now it feels like an ultimatum and I feel at war with myself. Please help!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 12, 2019 at 8:51 am

      Hi Brittney, so even though friend and family love us, they are not going to be the ones who control your happiness. So if your ex is going to be your person who you are happy and in love with then go for it. Because at the end of the day it’s your life not theirs.

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    Olivia

    September 30, 2019 at 8:41 pm

    Hello. I am in a bit of a pickle here. None of my friends are supportive of me getting back with my ex and have threatened to “shun” me if I do. The thing is, I have reconciled with him and we have been seeing each other for two weeks now. Everyone thinks I’m still single. I just feel like they’re giving me an ultimatum here. They’re trying to make me choose between him and them. My ex and I have been on and off for three years and this is our third go at things. We have been through a lot together and we were each other’s best friend and each other’s worst enemy at the same time. We were both severely depressed and unmotivated but i was the only one that had enough drive to work so the bottom line is that he freeloaded off of me the entire time. We broke up last time because i told him i was going to live with my mother and that we moved in together too young and too soon into our relationship because i felt that he didn’t have the chance to figure out how to adult and be responsible by himself. We were apart for 8 months and he is working and has a house of his own now. I’m living with my mother and i think if he keeps up being independent like that our relationship could work and he could learn to support a family. My friends do not feel the same at all and it’s just like you said. they see a picture but they haven’t read the whole book. All i know is i’ve never felt a love like this before and i know it sounds like a train wreck but it’s my life. Can’t picture myself having a family or wedding in the future where he isn’t in it. Really looking for some advice here. Thank you for this post it’s the only thing on the internet i could find relating to my issue.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 1, 2019 at 8:38 pm

      Hi Olivia, so its a personal experience here. I found Ex Boyfriend Recovery during my break up from my current partner, and my family and friends didn’t want me to go back with him, they couldn’t understand why I would go back to someone who hurt me. But I knew this is the person I wanted to be with so – even though it was awkward and some people were upset with my decision its my life and I do what is best for me.

      As long as he wasn’t mentally or physically abusive in any way and you think this is something worth the backlash then go for it. You have to live your life being happy for yourself not for others. Even though they think they know what is best for you, its YOUR decision.

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    Christina

    September 27, 2019 at 7:57 am

    So I recently broke up with my boyfriend and then we talked out why we were having communication issues. It wasn’t just his phone but his busy schedule with 8 college classes and 2 jobs. He hadn’t talked to anyone outside of school and work except for me in three weeks. We met on discord about 2 years ago and started a long distance relationship and I found out he had someone before he got with me because of his parents and was still with her when I stepped away and then he talked to me and he broke up with her and we got together in December of 2018 and I broke up with him because I asked others for advice on my relationship because I wasn’t getting replies from him not knowing the situation and those people got involved in my love life bc I asked for advice and told me to break up with him which I did and then we worked things out. And relationships are all about breakups and makeups sometimes. I just wanna know how I should tell my friends that I got back together with him bc they say that even before he got two jobs he hardly talked to me but he has a really bad phone. His phone is the only iPhone 6 that freezes and goes crazy and he can’t really afford a new one. He two jobs are just so he can survive. He has 72 hours of school stuff such as classes and homework and then 40 hours is work and then 46 hours is sleep in a span of 7 days.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 29, 2019 at 8:35 pm

      Hi Christina, his schedule is crazy busy, however if you are willing to accept that he doesn’t have that much free time for you that’s your choice, and your friends have to accept that. If you want them to not have an opinion about your relationship this time around I do suggest not complaining to them if things are getting difficult, or if you have one friend who is more of a listening ear than about giving you advice.

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    Lauren Maas

    September 15, 2019 at 6:06 am

    Me and my ex broke up about 4 months ago and my parents absolutely hate him because he wasn’t very nice to them or me but we have resolved our issues and want to get back together soon but my parents threatened to kick me out last time I talked about getting back with him and that’s where I need help. How do I get them to accept him enough so I can keep living at home? I’m only 17

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 15, 2019 at 1:50 pm

      Hey Lauren, that’s a difficult situation to deal with. My best advise is to speak to your parents about how you feel about him and get your guy to apologise to your parents for behaving badly in the past. If you wanted to be treated as an adult be honest. They may not like the face you’re with him but honesty is the best policy

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    Meisy

    May 15, 2019 at 11:26 pm

    My boyfriend and I broke up twice in 2 months after dating for 11months; once because he was worried sick I didn’t tell him I got home safetly one night, and wanted out (no, he didn’t and still doesn’t control me), we talked next morning and I basically calmed him down. But I gave him a warning, that another move like that and I wouldn’t try to fight him. We were done.
    And the second time the next month, he was smelling trouble, and instead of talking to me to fix it or something, he did something similar. He shut himself from me little by little, he pushed me… Till a week he was on call, really stressed out and he decided that he didn’t want to continue. That he was always on a relationships and never alone, and didn’t know if he wanted to continue.
    We lost contact, althought he wasn’t having it and wanted to remain friends; and I asked him to let me be. Before we closed things up, I pointed out (nicely) he needed help, he admited it and said he was going to look for help; and that was it. I didn’t trust it would be true his last statement.
    On what it would have been our aniversary, he contacted me after nearly 4 weeks apart. He asked me for a chat face to face. He apologized, he was still attending the psicologist (I knew it before I accepted to that chat, was the main reason I accepted to meet up) and wanted to fix things, that he regret everything and was going to fight for us; and in a near future, wanted to live together (something he always made little comments such as a tiny flat for both of us to live, like making excuses and I confronted him about that in the end). He said he managed poorly stress and he was sorry for that and was working on it. He wanted to continue going to the psicology because he didn’t want to lose everything.
    I, was beginning to move on and admiting that I couldn’t continue that relationship with that much stupid breaking up.
    Now, we have compromised to take things slow. I still have to break the news to my family (he isn’t close with his) to someone, because I’m afraid of their reactions and to tell them the next day that we are done again.

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    Ali

    January 29, 2019 at 12:59 am

    So I am still in love with my sons father 8 years later. We had him while we were in high school. And since then we have had multiple domestic violence disputes, he has been arrested multiple times for drugs and such, and he even had a child with another woman. I have always forgiven him for everything he has done. And I love his other son like my own. And I have even grown to love his mother in an oddly way we get along very well. But my family despises my sons father. They are big into loyalty and he betrayed me. Now we have both grown up though and I kind of want to give it another shot. So does he…… I think…. unless he is lying which could very much be the case with his track record. Anyway. I am scared to death to tell my family and don’t even know if I should go for it. Like we have a huge past and a child. But I love him.

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    Avery

    October 2, 2018 at 3:15 pm

    I have the opposite problem. My ex broke up with me because I lied. All of my ex’s friends and family loved me, but now they hate me and say terrible things about me since the breakup. What can I do to improve the sphere of influence and give myself a chance to get back together?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 3, 2018 at 1:23 am

      Hi Avery. Everybody lies. You are not a terrible person. Forgive yourself for the mistruth you told and move forward. Acknowledge to your ex you know what you did was wrong. Leave it at that. Then start NC as its a process that provides many benefits. Visit my home page for more information on the resources and tools I provide.

    2. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 3, 2018 at 1:23 am

      Hi Avery. Everybody lies. You are not a terrible person. Forgive yourself for the mistruth you told and move forward. Acknowledge to your ex you know what you did was wrong. Leave it at that. Then start NC as its a process that provides many benefits. Visit my home page for more information on the resources and tools I provide.

    3. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 3, 2018 at 1:23 am

      Hi Avery. Everybody lies. You are not a terrible person. Forgive yourself for the mistruth you told and move forward. Acknowledge to your ex you know what you did was wrong. Leave it at that. Then start NC as its a process that provides many benefits. Visit my home page for more information on the resources and tools I provide.

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    Tom

    August 27, 2018 at 2:43 am

    I need help

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    Thompson

    August 27, 2018 at 2:39 am

    Hello, my girlfriend and I broke up about 2 weeks ago, I’m 17 and she’s 16. We were dating for 6 months, and we broke up because I made a terrible mistake. There was one night where a friend of her got on her phone and texted me saying I was a terrible person and boyfriend… I didn’t know it wasn’t her and I was so hurt. That same night I went to hangout with some friends and there was this girl that was there. She moved close to me, I moved away. She did it again and I didn’t pay much attention. I was just to upset to really notice, she then like started moving her hands on my body and then she moved my hands to do the same to her. It happened for maybe 10 minutes and then I stopped it… I should’ve stopped it before it ever happened. I’ve felt awful since, she broke up with me a couple days later after I told her. We have both started talking again and decide we want to give it another try because we want to make this work. The problem is, her parents know about everything and they won’t let her see me whatsoever and tell her we have to be just friends. We want to be more than friends and want to date, and I have done so many things to try and show I am not a terrible person and that I care about their daughter so much. I have tried to talk to them in person and apologize and show how much I care and how I’ll do anything but her mom won’t let me talk to her. I am considering trying to talk to her dad one on one and just really owning up to my mistake but really showing how much I care about their daughter. We want to get back together so bad but her parents are holding us back, what can I do to show them I am not who I made myself seem to be? To show them that I am a good guy who love their daughter as will do anything to make things right and make things absolutely amazing for their daughter. Thank you!

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    Kaddi

    August 8, 2018 at 9:00 pm

    Hi, my boyfriend and I were dating for almost a year. During this time he got really close to me and my family. About one month before our anniversary we got into an argument and during a heated moment he broke up with me. We cut all communication and for exactly one month I there was no contact until out of no where he reached out and apologized and wants to fix the relationship and give it another try. I still love him and have a hard time giving up on what was a great thing up until that argument. So as of now we are taking things slow and are trying to see if the relationship can be saved. The problem is that I am extremely close with my family, specifically my older brother. I discussed that me and my Ex were going to give our relationship another try and my brother is extremely against this and now has a lot of animosity torwards my Ex. I love my brother a lot and he was really there for me when the break up happened. I feel extremely torn between the two of them and really want to ease my brother’s anger but I’m not sure how to do so while still attempting to fix my relationship with my Ex. Please give me any advice you may have. Thank you.

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    Lizzy

    March 18, 2018 at 3:34 am

    My boyfriend and I dated for almost a year and then i broke up with him over small things that i soon realized were stupid. I then went and apologized and in that moment i realized that i had issues to deal with. We in turn got back together and i started going to a psychiatrist. However, i started taking this medicine that made me paranoid and had serious mood swings. Overall, i did not treat him well that month but as soon as i started taking this other medicine and i was feeling so much better, before i could tell him and show him this, he broke up with me. He had had such a stressful week that he couldnt take it anymore. So, i cut off communication with him for about 4 months and we met to exchange stuff. I thought that I was completely over it but seeing him got me thinking about how much I miss it. We met for lunch again after that to talk about things and we were acting like we used to and I was very happy. My parents and my best friend all dislike him. I want him back but I don’t wanna cause any problems. Help please!

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 22, 2018 at 6:16 pm

      Hi Lizzy,

      What did you mean by causing problems? What problems are you avoiding?

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    Alexus

    February 17, 2018 at 1:53 pm

    I am 17 and I’ll be 18 in 6 months me and my ex are taking a break and we’re not seeing anyone else. We wanna improve on our insecurities. How would I Tell my mom who I am pretty sure would disapprove do I hide it for 6 months? Or wait a couple of weeks she said she didn’t want me seeing him until I’m 18 again but 6 months is a long time.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 19, 2018 at 4:53 pm

      Hi Alexus,

      She didn’t know at all that you have a bf? How long have you been together?

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