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1,518 thoughts on “Making Your Ex Boyfriend Speak To You Again”

  1. Emma

    March 7, 2018 at 12:12 pm


    My boyfriend broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. I did no contact for a month. I’ve texted him 3 times after the no contact period (each conversation spaced out by a few days) and I got a very positive response each time. We never discussed the relationship. I just used your text ideas and techniques. I ended the first conversation early but the second and third ones, I tried to keep them going. But he never replied back. I didn’t ask him a question or anything but he could’ve kept it going but didn’t. What can I do so that 1) I’m not always reaching out to him first and 2) he wants to keep the conversation going.

    *We broke up because the long distance wasn’t letting him progress in the relationship, he felt his feelings were stuck there. But I am moving to his city for a job in a few months.* We had been in LDR only the last 5 weeks of our relationship.

    Thank you

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 11, 2018 at 8:44 am

      Hi Emma,

      End the conversation at high note and in cliffhanger style.

  2. julia

    March 4, 2018 at 7:40 am

    Me and my boyfriend were planning to get married. Our parents had been involved. My parents weren’t sure about him. So they were taking some time. My boyfriend ended it saying we shouldn’t hurt our parents. We both love each other a lot but our reason for separation is absolutely unconvincing. He isn’t speaking to me at all. What do I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 6, 2018 at 10:31 pm

      Hi Julia,

      How old are you both? How long was your relationship? Since he’s not speaking to you already,try the nc rule.

  3. Maha

    March 3, 2018 at 2:28 pm

    Well, me and my boyfriend were pretty serious. We had decided to get married to each other. Our parents were involved too. But my parents weren’t sure about him and this led him to believe he wants to end things with me. I have tried to reason with him but in vain. We both love each other a lot and he doesn’t speak to me anymore.
    I have tried all ways, need help really.

  4. Rose

    February 28, 2018 at 1:32 pm

    so me and my ex were totally fine and he seemed loving till the last day before the breakup, until he broke up with me a week ago..
    he said it was never my fault it’s just he feels a little not ready for this
    we were together for only 2 and a half months and in my eyes we were so perfect for eachother, we never had a fight because we got almost everything in common and we were both unerstanding people
    i have to mention that at the same day of the break-up he just got out of an exam in which he did terribley although he studied hard for it for 3 weeks, and now all his exams schedule is messed up and has to stay in university for another year when he was supposed to be done a year and a half ago.
    i know for a fact that he is a nice guy and cheating or being fake was never in his intentions, because my bestfriend is also his bestfriend and i know that my bestfriend wouldn’t be friends with fake people.
    although it sounds like a legitmate reason to break up, i just can’t get convinced that he’s willing to end all the bonding and the really good charm that was between us for something like that, at the same time i can’t force him to love me, i don’t know why is he thinking that way when we didn’t fight even for once or have an argument that could’ve made it bad between us.

  5. Ragini

    February 23, 2018 at 11:37 am

    He wasn’t my boyfriend,we were just close friends but i loved him first of all he used to care about my feelings but now he doesn’t gives it a shit neither makes any efforts to talk to me..i have followed the no communication rule but can’t start the conversation with the confession tactic..coz v were not in a relationship.. what should I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 27, 2018 at 10:30 am

      Hi Ragini,

      choose a different topic and check this one:
      EBR 012: How To Get Out Of The “Friend Zone” With Your Ex Boyfriend

  6. Kelly McCoy

    February 8, 2018 at 8:29 pm

    ok so my ex boyfriend and I have a daughter together. Last week exactly he was texting me about picking up his daughter. I told him i wanted thursdays to be family nights. we dont live together. he said he was not comfortable with that. i was like what are you talking about we are together. he was like we are just frie.nds. i am like we were intimiate a week ago and you wrote i love you unconditionally in my hand. we were exchanging texts back and forth then he said i was too much he said i could not call text or stop at his place and blocked me from his phone. i went over to his place saturday morning to try to talk to him and he called the police on me. The police said i can not contact him i can not text him or call him only if its about our daughter and we can only meet at a public place. I am devastated and don’t even know what i did. Maybe he was feeling pressure that we have to be a family. we have been on/off 8 years and valentine’s day is next week. This man has bipolar and depression and does not take his meds. Do you think I will hear from him again? He has taken a week or teo break from me before. Somehow I feel like this is it and he won’t contact me. What do you think? Please respond by email so i can see your response.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 9, 2018 at 12:48 pm

      Hi Kelly,

      if you’re on and off, then he probably will. When he does, go to couples counseling so that you can both work on your relationship together with a professional..

  7. AG

    February 7, 2018 at 8:46 pm

    Hi there,
    My boyfriend broke up with me five days ago on account of depression—as in “not being able to be his best self” and “needing to work on himself”. I miss him terribly and feel like I had no control in the break-up since I grilled him on it and he insisted that I didn’t do anything wrong! I’m in college and we are in the same math class. We used to sit next to each other and all that, but since then I’ve been hiding from him, but looking over all the time in class. He doesn’t want to talk to me, I just know it, but I really really want to be on speaking terms and friends again. How can I do that sooner rather than later?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 9, 2018 at 11:50 am

      Hi AG,

      do no contact first.. You can follow the advice on this one:
      EBR 009: The No Contact Rule If You Work With Your Ex

  8. Mikk

    February 3, 2018 at 10:51 am

    It’s been around 50days since he broke up with me. We had frequent arguments so we decided to take a break for around 3 months, but after we got back, he decided to break up saying he no longer has feelings for me, I’ve been clingy and needy . I still could not understand why and I’m wondering if I can make him love me again and I want him back. I didn’t contact him after the breakup and even he did not. Is there any chance that I can get him back and how.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 7, 2018 at 12:49 pm

  9. Lucy

    February 3, 2018 at 10:32 am

    It’s been around 20 days since he broke up with me. I had taken a break with him for around 3 months after which he decided to breakup and said that he no longer has feelings for me. The break was mostly because of frequent arguments and misunderstandings. He did not even contact me during the break and that surprised me so much and the breakup which followed. I still could not understand why as we both agreed to get back together after the break which we took. I’m wondering if there is any chance that I can make him love me again and get him back.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 7, 2018 at 12:49 pm

  10. Ashley Lyn

    January 30, 2018 at 9:08 pm

    I purchased you system, read it cover to cover. The ‘ex’ I am trying to allure back works 2 doors down from me in Manhattan. I see him and his coworkers several times a week.

    My ‘ex’ ended things and I am 1.5 weeks into NC. My question to you is this……
    Being that I see him/his coworkers throughout the week, do I avoid them? Do I make eye contact? Or do I cross the street to avoid him/them like I have been doing because I just don’t know what to say?

    Things weren’t ended amicably and he told me he never wanted to speak with me again (I cheated). I know that he and I will reconcile eventually, but in the interim, how do I play this?!

    Please help.


    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 31, 2018 at 5:46 pm

  11. Marci Bay

    January 22, 2018 at 9:15 am

    Hi my name is Marci, my boyfriend moved out of my house because we kept arguing. He thought if he moved in with his son 60 miles away it would be better for us, yeah…ok! We spent one day together and the next two times we saw each other he slept in my car while i pet the neighbor hood cat and then the next time broke up with me. He said I love you, I do but I need time to see if this is worth it. He left me in his son’s parking lot crying and was being nasty he wouldn’t come out. Once he used to worry about me driving but not that day. Finally after three weeks I did it, no contact and he told me through text it was over. I begged, I pleaded, I sent loving text, angry text, and it’s been 3 months. No matter what I say or do he won’t respond. He’s blocked all my numbers, and unfriended me on social media. He used to always think about me and my comfort or how my family treated me, he told me I didn’t know my worth. He has waited 25 years for me and now that I’m in a position to be with him openly he won’t even talk to me. I’m lost, please help!!!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 24, 2018 at 1:36 am

      Hi Marci,

      You did nc before breaking up?

  12. Anonymous

    January 7, 2018 at 10:02 am

    How do i get my ex back if he’s too scared to ask me out again? Why do insecure people leave when things get too tough for them?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 9, 2018 at 8:57 pm

      because they’re insecure..check this one:
      EBR 052: Insecure Ex Boyfriends And How To Handle Them

  13. Anni

    December 31, 2017 at 2:32 am


    “I waited the 30 day NC and sent him an intriguing text message. No response. please help me

    EBR Team Member: Amor

    December 27, 2017 at 10:46 pm

    Hi Anni,

    How much did you improve yourself and how active were you in doing posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours?”

    Hi Amor and EBR Team,
    I’m not sure what you meant by “how active were you in doing posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours?”

    As far as how have I been improving myself: I’ve decided to go back to school, start in in a few weeks. I’m making homemade dog treats and selling them, I’ve also been going to the gym and losing weight. We broke up a few months ago so this all didn’t happen in just 30 days. We were talking to each other and then all of a sudden he stopped talking to me. Stopped responding to messages and calls. So I stopped for 30 days and sent him a message “Hey, I know it’s been a while since we’ve talked but I just wanted to share with you some amazing news. I got accepted back into new paltz! 🙂 you were such a big part of finding motivation to do this that I just had to tell you.“ I thought it was intriguing but maybe not enough? I feel like my situation is hopeless.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 31, 2017 at 11:04 pm

      I meant not doing instagram, whatsapp or facebook stories because after 24 hours, those posts disappear. The text isn’t intriguing because it looked like you were asking permission if you could text him and that you just told him that for the sake of thanking him but he doesn’t really need to reply to it.

  14. Lynda

    December 26, 2017 at 10:39 am

    My boy friend says he needs time. What does he means by that . does he mean he broke up with me?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 28, 2017 at 1:02 am

  15. Anni

    December 26, 2017 at 6:11 am

    I waited the 30 day NC and sent him an intriguing text message. No response. 🙁 please help me

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 27, 2017 at 10:46 pm

      Hi Anni,

      How much did you improve yourself and how active were you in doing posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours?

  16. Confused Heartbreakee

    December 24, 2017 at 3:21 am

    He wants to get back together bit logic is holding him back. How do I get him to match his emotions with his reasons?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 25, 2017 at 5:41 pm

      everybody has an ego if he’s angry because of the lies, then the more he gets a boost every time you chase him.. stop chasing him.. improve the health, wealth and relationships aspects of your life.. check this one:
      How to Make a Stubborn Ex Boyfriend Come Running Back

  17. Hannah

    December 21, 2017 at 8:01 pm

    Why do men have big egos even when he dumped me?

  18. Monique

    December 21, 2017 at 5:22 am

    Why is my ex hanging out with people I hate?

  19. Kayla

    December 21, 2017 at 5:20 am

    Because I think he is saying this because he is mad at me. I didnt say anything, my friends just assume and used false rumours to push my ex away from me. I get so nervous around him that he thinks Im hiding something since someone pinned the blame on me and now everyone hates me. I can only really talk to him at work so last friday. Broke up this year.

  20. Kayla

    December 21, 2017 at 5:14 am

    How do I improve myself? How does he have an ego boost if he’s shown to be insecure? How do I get him attracted to me if he doesn’t speak to me?

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